Women's View Magazine, July 2019

VOLUME 13 JULY ISSUE 07 2019 Inspiring, educating, empowering and MAGAZINE celebrating women in our community BOX2: Meet Jennifer and Kevin More inside: Meet the sole female beer brewer in Cumberland County Inclusive River feminism: How adventures does the fourth at Spring wave connect to Lake the first? Outpost

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Contents JuLY SUPERHEROES5 In and around the foster care system, real- life superheroes walk among us. FREEDOM, Y'ALL Just Judy is thankful for the freedoms 7 we have in the U.S., including freedom to wear a flamin’ red dress to her wedding. RIVER FUN The Spring Lake Outpost hosts monthly kayaking 8 events on North Carolina’s Little River, plus book- your-own trip options for all levels of adventurers. 10 SKIN SAVVY Checking your sunscreen for harmful ingredients 9 is just as important as wearing it. \"CAN'T\"? Battles with anorexia and an autoimmune disease 10 didn't stop this local choreographer and dance instructor from getting back up. BEER BABE Hope Demetris is the sole female beer brewer in 13 Cumberland County. 14 BOX² Two artists are better than one. Meet Jennifer and Kevin Box, the duo behind Cape Fear Botanical Garden’s fantastical “Origami in the Garden²” exhibit. INCLUSIVE FEMINISM Feminism has a less-than- 18 perfect history, and we're in the fourth wave of it. Here's a recap. PAWS FOR SAFETY Summer is one of the most hazardous 21 seasons for dogs, and most owners are unaware of the dangers. AGRICULTURE Agriculture is all around us in Cumberland 22 County. We have everything we need to help inspire the next generation. CULTURE In its fifth year, the African World Peace Festival in 23 downtown Fayetteville highlights the culture, tastes and rhythms of African culture. SCALP HEALTH Traction alopecia is a hair loss condition 24 that can be extremely embarrassing — but it can also be overcome. SOOTHE25 Learn about natural, alternative medicine practices to soothe pain and inflammation. LIFE ADVICE26 Ellyn Dunford, spouse of Gen. Joe Dunford of the U.S. Marine Corps, shares her wisdom. 30 CUT COSTS29 Keep your home cool while cutting costs this summer. MENTAL HEALTH Steven A. Cohen Military Family Clinics 30 avedtderreasnssbaenhdamvioilriatal rhyefaalmthilciehsa.JJlUUleLLYYng22e00s1199for33

letter from the editor VOLUME 13 ISSUE 07 PUBLISHER Recap Bill Bowman, F & B Publications &Pre view [email protected] The next Fayetteville Ladies ASSOCIATE PUBLISHER Power Lunch is Thursday, Stephanie Crider Aug. 8. It features Fayetteville City Councilwoman Tisha [email protected] Waddell as its keynote speaker. EDITOR Leslie Pyo The Power Lunch is a City Councilwoman Tisha Waddell wonderful opportunity to is the keynote speaker for next [email protected] connect with visionary women month's Power Lunch. ART DIRECTOR in this community. Check Actor David Robbins gave Elizabeth Long out these photos from the everyone a preview of Cape Fear last FLPL, which took place Regional Theatre's \"Memphis.\" [email protected] in May and featured singer- OPERATIONS DIRECTOR songwriter KasCie Page. Paulette Naylor We hope to see you there [email protected] next month! MARKETING REPRESENTATIVE Attendees won door prizes courtesy Linda McAlister local, woman-owned vendors. [email protected] DISTRIBUTION DIRECTOR/ Fellowship and networking opportunities are always a focus. Award-winning singer-songwriter KasCie Page (right) shared her SALES ADMINISTRATOR story and serenaded the crowd. Laurel Handforth [email protected] JULY CONTRIBUTORS Tracey Natale Judy Stapleton Izdihar Eaton Wanda Chavis Chantal High-Santellano LaNatria Ellis Prudence Mainor Jennifer Box Kevin Box Shontae L. Halsey Mike Karaman Lisa Childers Mindy Love Dr. Airaina Griffith-Knight Miki Phillips Ellyn Dunford Casey Schaffer Sheila Weaver WOMEN’S VIEW MAGAZINE 208 ROWAN ST. FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 28301 PHONE: 910-484-6200 FAX: 910-484-9218 Women’s View Magazine is for, by and about women in Cumberland County. Published by F&B Publications in conjunction with Media Marketing Management. ©2019 by F&B Publications, Inc. All rights reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or advertisement without permission is strictly prohibited. Various vector sources credited to © Freepik and © Vecteezy. Are you interested in writing about people, causes and organizations that matter to Cumberland County? Consider contributing an article or pitching a story idea to Women’s View Magazine. We want to elevate your voice. For more information, email [email protected]. 4 JULY 2019

TRACEY NATALE Tracey Natale is the director of foster care for Boys and Girls Homes of NC in Fayetteville and has been employed there for 10 years. She has 20 years of Director of Foster Care, experience being an advocate for children and families. She's a previous social worker Boys and Girls Homes in child welfare at Cumberland Department of Social Services. Natale is involved in of NC her church and loves participating in community events that support breast cancer www.boysandgirlshomes.org awareness and autism awareness. She and her husband are also foster parents. Who are the real superheroes? Children who come into foster care are placed because a report of abuse, neglect or dependency has been investigated and validated. These children have been traumatized in several aspects. They are superheroes because they have to overcome so much. In an era where superhero movies are immensely the burden of adverse trauma from the work they popular and people are constantly rushing to see do daily. the next blockbuster hit, let’s not forgot there are real-life superheroes among us. In the world of foster Foster parents are superheroes because they step care, the superheroes are foster parents, social workers, in to meet the needs of children and pick up the parents, therapists, doctors, lawyers, judges, teachers, pieces when all the children have ever known has law enforcement — and the children. These people been ripped from them. Foster parents take children overcome adversity every day. These are the people on to appointments, attend school meetings, advocate, the front lines in the fight between good and evil. rebuild confidence, share parenting responsibilities Children who come into foster care are placed with birth families, open their home to child welfare because a report of abuse, neglect or dependency visitors, attend court and subject their home and has been investigated and validated. These children parenting style to scrutiny. They also subject their have been traumatized in several aspects. They are families to being judged and being hurt. superheroes because they have to overcome so much. It is amazing how resilient some children are despite Foster parents become attached to the children what they have been through. They fight in a battle placed in their homes and desire that the children’s best every day just to make it through life feeling capable, interests be fulfilled. They love the children, nurture the lovable, worthwhile and responsible. children, kiss their boo-boos, stay up at night with them Social workers are superheroes because they when they are sick or scared, help them with homework, protect these children despite the challenges of being take them to sports or dance practice and protect them. swamped with doing paperwork, managing high They care for them just as though they were their own caseloads, meeting deadlines, dealing with angry children — all while having to keep in the back of their caretakers, making tough decisions, getting children minds that these are not their children. It takes a strong, to appointments and visitations, making referrals for caring person to open their home and heart in this way. services, attending court, attending trainings … and the lists go on and on. Most social workers also carry Are you interested in becoming a real-life superhero? Learn how by calling Boys and Girls Homes of NC. Contact Tracey Natale at 910-977-5894 or Taylor Barber at 910-624-2525. JULY 2019 5

1 cup strawberries (sliced) JUST JUDY'S 1 cup raspberries Red, white and 1 cup blueberries blue berry delight 1 cup blackberries 2 tablespoons freshly squeezed lemon or lime juice 1/4 teaspoon zest of lemon or lime 1 tablespoon honey Wash the fruit and pat it dry. Mix fruits together and set aside. Mix juice, honey and zest together. Pour over fruit, tossing to coat everything. Serve immediately, or cover and chill 1-2 hours. stkanyinothe w We can help you learn what is happening in and around Fayetteville! In print and online! www.upandcomingweekly.com 208 Rowan St. 910.484.6200 6 JULY 2019

Contributing Writer As a senior citizen, mother of two, stepmother of two more, Pop me an email and tell me about grandmother of eight and — holy moly! — two great-grandchildren, the laughter in your life: Judy Stapleton has traveled many miles from her home stompin’ [email protected] grounds of Mississippi. After raising her kids, she spent 29 years working for the federal government before retiring. She now works as a receptionist for F&B Publications in Fayetteville. FREEDOM, Y'ALL Whenever we think about the Fourth of July, most Hard to believe, but that's me in the red dress with my son, of us think of the sacrifices of our military; picnics with Chris. It was a red, white and blue wedding. friends and family; and the colors red, white and blue. I married my second husband on July 4, 1996. Ha! There goes independence. I am still an independent person, but it is nice to have someone I can depend on and who can depend on me, too. When we decided to get married on July 4, it was because we were both off work and figured we would be off for every Fourth of July. Wrong! We spent maybe two anniversaries together, and then I worked for the next 16 years. I sure didn’t plan on a red, white and blue wedding either, but yup, you guessed it ... it happened. I did want to get married in my home, wearing a flamin’ red dress. And my son and daughter had to be there. Why red, you ask? Cause I look darn good in red, at least that’s what I tell myself. So, there we were with an all-out red, white and blue wedding. Flowers, cake, kids and husband were decked out in a combo of these three patriotic colors. Being an American and having an Army-retired husband, as well as a son and grandson on active duty, I look at July Fourth as a celebration of freedom and not something to theme a wedding after. It all just worked out that way. Let’s not forget our military family members and the spouses and kids holding down the homefront while our soldiers are away. I am so thankful to the ones who have served, still serve and those who gave their lives for our freedom. Enjoy our country’s Independence Day, and may God continue to bless America. Oh yeah ... Shout-out to my hubby of 23 years. Happy Anniversary, Darrell. I love you! JULY 2019 7

IZDIHAR EATON Izdihar Eaton holds a double major in international affairs and Arabic from the University of Georgia. In 2012, Eaton began supporting various U.S. government Founder/Owner, agencies, military units and special operations forces in the areas of intelligence and Spring Lake Outpost linguistics, which brought her to Fort Bragg, North Carolina. In 2016, she began President, Spring Lake pursuing the path of entrepreneurship with a mission to build an enclave of veteran- Chamber of Commerce owned small businesses in Spring Lake, North Carolina. She has held various positions, such as co-owner and general manager of Evolution Athletics East; founder and owner of the Spring Lake Outpost, a kayaking and canoe company; founder of The Collective, a health and wellness-based co-working space and community in Spring Lake; and most recently, president of the Spring Lake Chamber of Commerce. Eaton also enjoys assisting her husband and business partner, U.S. Airforce veteran Daniel Skidmore, as an assistant scientific diver with Force Blue and adventure-seeker with GoRuck. Spring Lake T he Spring Lake Outpost was inspired by a kayaking trip that my husband and I Outpost: took down the Broad River in Athens, Georgia, in June of 2017. We brought Community adventures on the Little River our dog and our little girl, my brother and his pregnant wife, and her siblings. We had such a great time hanging out and bonding on the water — no phones, detached from the rest of the world. My husband and I own a commercial property on Bragg Boulevard that sits on North Carolina’s Little River, and after that magical trip in Georgia, we contemplated accessing this river to offer the same family kayaking experience for families in the Fort Bragg Area. Two months of tree-clearing led to the soft opening of SLO on Labor Day weekend of 2017. The mission was to provide affordable adventures for our community and to encourage everyone to get outdoors, step outside comfort zones and maximize life experiences with family and friends. We are family-, kid- and pet-friendly, and we love meeting the new folks that venture into our river. Today, we host monthly kayaking events with food trucks, breweries, live music and field games. We encountered a temporary hiccup in the aftermath of Hurricane Florence, when our commercial building was flooded with 5 1/2 feet of water. We had to completely rebuild the interior, but we accomplished this goal in 40 days. The Little River was also severely affected, and we are conducting daily efforts to restore and improve it. Check out all these www.springlakeoutpost.com events at SLO for the 2019 season! • Red, White, & Boat • Kids kayaking camps on July 4 • Military and corporate • SLO Glow nighttime team-building events kayaking events • Haunted river • Sunset and sunrise paddles Halloween events 8 JULY 2019

WANDA CHAVIS Wanda Chavis holds a bachelor's in alternative medicine and a master's in public health administration. She's a certified clinical thermographer and a Owner, certified molecular hydration specialist. She has been married 43 years to Rev. Picture of Health & Jeff Chavis, senior pastor at United Pentecostal Church in Spring Lake. Chavis Thermography, LLC homeschooled her three sons, who have given her eight gorgeous grands. They www.phthermography.com love riding with MawMaw in her red convertible. 910-580-2077 Protect It's summertime, and we’re enjoying lazy days in DIY SUNSCREEN + INSECT REPELLANT the skin the pool and at the beach. Picnics and camping you’re in trips put us right there with the insects, too. Your skin is your body’s largest organ, so be careful SPONSORED BY as you slather sunscreen and insect repellant on your babies — and yourself — this summer. Shield your skin from the sun. Skin cancer is uncontrolled growth of abnormal skin cells. Sun exposure is the No. 1 cause of skin cancer. Protect your skin from chemicals. Your skin is porous and immediately absorbs into your bloodstream whatever you put on it. Your skin absorbs 64% of water that touches it as you’re bathing or showering. That percentage jumps to 100% for your underarms and genitalia. Read labels. Choose certified organic and natural products. Steer clear of these harmful ingredients: • Cocoamidopropyl Betaine • Olefin Sulfonate • Sodium Luaroyl Sarcosinate • Potassium Cocoyl Glutamate • Sulfates • Parabens • Phenoxyethanol • 1/2 cup olive oil • 1/4 cup coconut oil • 1/4 cup natural beeswax • 2 tablespoons zinc oxide • 2 tablespoons shea butter • 2 teaspoons eucalyptus essential oil • 2 teaspoons citronella essential oil Using a double boiler, combine all ingredients — except the zinc oxide — in the top of boiler. Stir with a rubber spatula until ingredients are melted and uniform. Add the zinc oxide. Mix well and pour into a glass mason jar. Cool, and use it as sunscreen and insect repellant. Increase or decrease the amount of zinc oxide to provide more or less protection from the sun. JULY 2019 9

CHANTAL HIGH-SANTELLANO Chantal High-Santellano is a choreographer and dance instructor at Cumberland Dance Academy, as well as Choreographer and Dance Instructor, a registered dental hygienist. She is also certified in Cumberland Dance Academy progressive ballet techniques. During the summertime, www.cumberlanddanceacademy.com she travels to different studios and teaches workshops. Why you should never say ‘can’t’ I was not always a dancer. In fact, I didn’t start dancing until I was 15 years old. A few years later, anorexia took over my life — and stayed for four years. Unhealthy food rituals. Obsessive calorie-counting. Excessive daily workouts. The struggle of having the perfect dancer’s body and juggling uncontrollable stresses every day led to my hospitalization in 2004, at the age of 21. The human body is like a machine; it will only work if it is fueled. For four years, my body was overworked and under-fueled, and it finally started shutting down. My kidneys and liver had been declining in functionality for a while, and now my body had started to destroy its own blood cells, too. Doctors deliberated on how to treat this autoimmune disease, hemolytic anemia, that had developed as a result of my anorexia. They finally decided on steroid treatment. During this time, I came to rely on my faith. The ordeal left my muscles weak. I had to relearn motor functions and had no stamina. After a total of seven days on rigorous steroid treatment, my body stopped attacking its own blood cells. I was released 117 pounds heavier than when I arrived at the hospital. From there, it was a long road to recovery, learning to walk and eating a healthy number of calories, with the assistance of counselors and nutritionists. But the battle wasn’t over. Even with treatment, my body slowly continued to break down. Eventually, I had to be readmitted and have my spleen removed. At that point, even though I was already very limited in the area of dance, it had to be completely put on hold. Dance was my passion, so getting back into the studio was a priority. Because of this, I stopped using the word “can’t.” Simple things like standing up and walking were monumental tasks, so dancing would have seemed impossible if I hadn’t stopped using the word “can’t.” Later, when I successfully started teaching again, that mindset stayed with me. “Can’t” has become a curse word in my classes. It is important to me that every dancer understands that hard work and determination can help them achieve their goals, their “can.” 10 JULY 2019

Today, I have been blessed with so many “cans” that should have seemed impossible. I’ve gotten to work as a backup dancer on “The Voice” (2007), as a dancer in an independent film (“White Men Can’t Dance,” 2009) and as a choreographer and backup dancer for a Jasmine Rose concert in downtown Fayetteville’s Festival Park (2011). I’ve also had the opportunity to do lots of dance work in the community, like judging several local talent shows, hip-hop competitions and dance team auditions. I had fun choreographing for the NC Center for Economic Empowerment & Development’s Dancing with the Fayetteville Stars (2014, 2015, 2017); performing with other local dancers for the Fayetteville Heroes indoor football team (2010, 2013) and performing at the 104.5 Music Festival (2013); the International Folk Festival (2006) and the Dogwood Festival (1999, 2006). Finally, I’ve had the chance to continue being a student and take classes f rom inspiring choreographers such as Tessandra Chavez (“World of Dance”), Jamal Sims (“Step Up”), Codie Wiggins (“Pitch Perfect”), NappyTabs (“So You Think You Can Dance”), Martha Nichols (“The Greatest Showman”), Marty Kudelko (Justin Timberlake and NSync), Poppin Pete (The Electric Boogaloos crew), Rhapsody James (Beyoncé), Stacey Tookey (Céline Dion) and many others. My goal in this industry is to influence young kids in a positive, nurturing way by teaching self-confidence, security and life lessons. I also advocate for adopting healthy eating habits and thoroughly training your muscles for this athletic sport we call dance. I really started understanding how the body works and the way muscles work after getting sucked into that dark hole where I was never good enough. But the more I decided to share my skills, the more I started appreciating bodies and everything they can do and endure. I also realized I wasn’t alone and that many people suffered from the same negative mindset as me. I understood that I had a purpose to uplift the people around me. In my job working with young dancers, I get to be God’s hands and feet. JULY 2019 11

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PRUDENCE MAINOR Contributing Writer BEER BABE Hope Demetris, the sole female garage. From there, the company facility changed all that. “We were beer brewer in Cumberland expanded to a warehouse behind limited to 10 taps at Legion Road,” County, was a walk-on. Fascinated a body shop on Legion Road. The said Demetris. “We have 25 taps at with the brewing process and warehouse was a brewpub on the Corporation Drive.” absorbing it by osmosis from weekends and a brewery the rest spending time with her beer brewing of the week. Recently, the entire In addition to her work at DBA, grandfather, Demetris approached operation moved to a much larger Demetris finds online groups helpful award-winning master brewer facility on Corporation Drive in for continuing education as she hones Tito Simmons-Valenzuela about Hope Mills, incorporating the her brewing skills. She belongs to the an apprenticeship. Valenzuela is a brewery, an expanded taproom and Pink Boots Society, which provides founding partner of Dirtbag Ales a farmers market. educational scholarships to women Brewing Company in Hope Mills. entering traditionally male-dominated “Tito is very generous,” said “Before we moved to our new fields — like craft beer brewing. Demetris. “He is always eager to location,” Demetris said, “we had to Today’s craft beers appeal even to teach and share, so people are always re-arrange the taproom back into those who think they don’t like beer, approaching him about working at a brewery every Monday morning. women chief among them. A craft brew Dirtbag. But people don’t realize that Everything that had been dismantled such as DBA’s Brewmosa combines brewing beer is dirty work. It’s very and stacked or stored away to make beer, fruit juices and sparkling wine for physical with lots of hard labor. So room for the large weekend crowds a delicious brunch beverage every bit people show up, but not many of them in our taproom had to be pulled as appealing as a traditional mimosa. stick it out.” Demetris is proud of the out and set up and sanitized again “At DBA,” Demetris said, “There’s a fact that she is one of those who did. to brew beer.” Moving to the larger beer for everyone.” Since April 2017, under Simmons- Valenzuela’s tutelage, Demetris has received in-depth on-the-job training. “Beer brewing is the perfect mix between art and science in choosing ingredients,” Demetris said. “There’s the exact science of beer brewing combined with the artistic mix of various ingredients to create new and unique brews. We’re always experimenting. That’s what I like best about this job.” Dirtbag Ales began in Simmons- Valenzuela’s home kitchen and WEDNESDAY, JULY 17 | 6p.m. Sample Demetris’ brews and other crafted concoctions while learning self-defense techniques at Dirtbag Ales' Thugs & Mugs Self Defense Class. Martial Arts of NC offers the class at DBA every third Wednesday this summer. Call 910-426-2537 for more infoJUrmLYa2ti0o1n9. 13 JULY 2019 13

H4apptohyf July Box2: We Print, ANYTHING!Pack & Ship! Print/Sign Shop Signs • Banners • Business Cards Jenniferand • Digital & Wide Format Printing Kevin • Graphic Design Jennifer and Kevin Box are the • Copies/Prints artistic couple behind “Origami in • Binding/Laminating the Garden²,” an exhibition of giant • Notary Services metal sculptures on display at Cape • Direct Mail Solutions Fear Botanical Garden through • UPS/USPS/DHL Shipping Sept. 8. • Packaging Material/Supplies • Document Shredding Kevin is the sculptor, and Jennifer is the • Mailbox Solutions creative administrator. They live on a 35- • Freight Services acre property surrounded by unique rock formations in Santa Fe, New Mexico, where Steve Milburn, Owner they designed and built a custom home and studio. Their front yard consists of a 5-acre Fort Bragg: Fort Bragg Mini-Mall sculpture garden that’s open to the public 910.436.7877 | theupsstorelocal.com/4787 seasonally and that employs people in what the Boxes call “an economy of peace.” The Westwood: 439 Westwood Shopping Center Boxes chose not to have children and so 910.860.1220 | theupsstorelocal.com/2974 practice a lifestyle of investing in and helping care for all the other children in the world. LOCAL VETERAN OWNED BUSINESS 14 JULY 2019

COVER STORY Women’s View Magazine: Describe married to your spouse influenced and to stop teaching and even dancing your art practice? for myself, due to old injuries. Now, your first impression of your spouse in I practice yoga and have taken up five words. Jennifer: My art practice was dance drawing and painting. While we travel, I enjoy drawing, and at home I can Jennifer: Talkative, spiritual, kind, and dance education until the age of paint as a creative release. 36. Three years after being married, curious and artistic. I left my job as the associate artistic Yoga helps me quiet my mind while director of the National Dance Institute still being a mover. I’ve learned when it Kevin: Short, smart, spark of life! of New Mexico to work for Kevin. For a is appropriate to push myself or when couple of years, I tried to keep dance in it is time to give into the pose and feel WVM: How has knowing and being my life. But as we grew Kevin’s career, the rest and repair in the moment. It I decided to dedicate my efforts to that has been a challenge for me to not JULY 2019 15

To learn more about the Boxes and their practice, visit outsidetheboxstudio.com. judge my drawings and paintings and inform my work until Jennifer and Jennifer: Simply put — exposure to simply enjoy the act of creating. But I started working together full-time yoga and painting have taught me to more than 10 years ago. As an artist, to the arts, in all forms if possible. not be so self-judgmental and to enjoy I would not likely be as prolific or While getting my master’s degree being in the moment. successful without her help. I studied in education and administration with a few successful artists who had from New York University, I wrote a People who knew me as a dancer ask this dynamic of a spouse, sibling or paper about who works for nonprofit if it was hard giving up my passion relative working with them in the arts organizations. I interviewed to work for Kevin. I believe it was a business of art. It’s not a small task administrators in children’s art natural progression because my body being an artist, especially being a programs for music, dance and was no longer enjoying dance, and I sculptor, and with every creative museums. It was interesting to learn would never have picked up a paint object there is as much creative that the administrator was always brush unless Kevin bought me my first administration. At first Jennifer wasn’t someone who was inspired by the paint, brushes and easel. I am thankful sure I could pay her — now we get to arts at a very young age. Whether the to have found another avenue to attain live, work and travel together for our person went to a musical, saw fine art my joy through the arts. art, and she gets paid very well. It’s a exhibitions in museums or went to dream come true. We are a dynamic concerts a lot as a youngster, this made Kevin: It’s one of my goals to love team. I knew we could be when I them aware of the world of arts. And met her, and that is why I wanted to when it came time for them to find a Jennifer and cherish her for the rest marry her. I had no idea what it would career, sometimes even after going to of our lives, but that race isn’t done become, but I am in love with her and college for another degree, they turned yet, so I don’t take anything for our life together. to something they thought would granted. We have created a number of bring them and others joy by working collaborative pieces together that we WVM: What's one avenue you’re in the arts. sign Box². To us, it symbolizes the way we magnify one another. passionate about exploring regarding The exhibition “OrigamiintheGarden” the way art can impact communities? fills my cup when it comes to I didn’t know how much the subject introducing all kinds of people of every matter of couples and friends would age to experience art. I hope we inspire 16 JULY 2019

COVER STORY: CONTINUED the next generation of art enthusiasts, capacity to move people, but it is also music loud. I like to read out loud and garden lovers and possibly more folks the most fragile and fleeting. This is know that no one can hear me. I stop willing to work in such organizations. why I sculpt in durable, museum- and sing and have a quick dance party quality metals, because I want it to for one, thanks to my standing desk, Kevin: I want my work to connect, connect and move people that are then jump back into the paperwork. yet to be born. Who’s to say if I will be I still listen to rap of the ’80s and ’90s, inspire and uplift people. I always successful 1,000 years from now, but I hip-hop, and Mary J. Blige reminding wanted to make art in public places am making every effort to inspire and me I found my “Real Love” and to “Be but found it was limiting. We found enlighten someone I may never meet. Happy” with “No More Drama.” this niche with botanical gardens It’s my goal to entice them visually, where we can reach a much broader engage them mentally and hold their Kevin: Just start. And a little music may audience, in a beautiful setting, with attention long enough for them to more support from an educational feel something and get something help. As James Brown said, “Get up standpoint than I ever could with a out of the encounter to take with off that thang! Dance and you’ll feel monument on a street corner. them. Artists do that — they succeed better!” Making anything happen is in interpreting life and feelings in best achieved with a little music and I truly believe in the power of art. meaningful ways. It helps us get the laws of physics: Once an object is It has been the most important through life, good times and bad. in motion, it tends to stay in motion. conversation between generations of Somebody’s gotta do it. I think James would agree. Once I humans for more than 30,000 years. have carved out the time and the It has the durability to endure time, WVM: What's your favorite simple place, starting the creative process of war, prosperity and adversity. The making always leads down the path conversations that artists have left kickstart for creativity? of enlightenment and excitement. It’s behind in stone, paper, metal and always in the process that the light more continue to educate, inform Jennifer: When I have to tackle a bulbs go off and things start coming and inspire us about ourselves in so together; so the best way to get there many ways. contract or gather information for is to put some music on and start. The taxes or put the final touches on a next important task is to finish it! But I think music has the most powerful proposal, I like to be alone with the that’s another question. JULY 2019 17

SHONTAE L. HALSEY Shontae L. Halsey is pursuing a Master of Arts in sociology at Fayetteville State University and is a graduate assistant. She served in the U.S. Graduate student, Army as an active-duty soldier for more than 14 years before medically Fayetteville State University, retiring. She is involved in many student leadership organizations on the Department of Sociology FSU campus, including Black Feminist Scholars, FSU SPECTRUM, the FSU chapter of the NAACP, FSU’s National Council of Negro Women, FSU’s National Association of Blacks in Criminal Justice, and the North Carolina Consortium for International and Intercultural Education Model United Nations Conference. Her off-campus civic engagement includes the National Organization for Women, Cumberland County Democrat Women, Fayetteville Pride and the Fayetteville chapter of the NAACP. Feminism is for ALL 1840S 186 SOJOURNER “When feminism does not explicitly TRUTH oppose racism, and when anti-racism does not incorporate opposition to ELIZABETH patriarch, race and gender politics CADY often end up being antagonistic to each other and both interests lose.” – STANTON Dr. Kimberlé Crenshaw As I reflect on the many contributions women feminism, championed by women such as Rosa Parks. have made to society, it is obvious that the fight Second-wave feminism (1950s-1980s) demonstrated for equality continues. Historically, women of all that women refused to sit idly by as physical and sexual colors, classes and cultural backgrounds have abuse ran rampant in households and on American risked their lives to ensure a more equitable existence for streets. Second-wave feminism also included protesting us all. the Vietnam War, emphasizing access to employment The first wave of feminism (1848-1920s) occurred as a opportunities for women with equal pay, fighting gender result of chattel slavery, women being deemed as property and racial discrimination, and working toward more civil and women’s desire to exercise their political voices rights attainment for women. Rosa Parks unwaveringly through voting. It is important to note that the feminist spoke out against the rape of black women in the deep movement was created by wealthy white women in the South by white men while demonstrating that she would United States, such as Elizabeth Cady Stanton — and not give up her seat on the bus. This action shaped that it excluded marginalized women of color. African second-wave feminism for both white and black women, American activist and educator Ida B. Wells, who spoke modifying the narrative of feminism with a focus on social out against lynching, was kept out of the women’s suffrage justice activism. movement because others felt her message would pollute Another champion during this wave was Fannie Lou the original intent. Consequently, black women such as Hamer, who was forcibly sterilized under the U.S. Sojourner Truth and Mary McCleod Bethune participated eugenics movement. She also testified before the in the women’s liberation movement alongside their white Democratic National Convention about the horrors female counterparts but were invisible as newly freed in her hometown of Mississippi. Her case displayed slaves in the Jim Crow Era. the intersectionalities of oppression concerning race, In contrast to their white counterparts who gained class and gender. Her famous quote, “I am sick and the right to vote with the ratification of the Nineteenth tired of being sick and tired,” heralded the third wave Amendment in 1920, women of color ultimately did not of feminism, which focused on coalition, solidarity, gain access to voter participation until 1965 through visibility, inclusion and individual identities. the Voting Rights Act. This led into the second wave of 18 JULY 2019

PRESENT DAY 60S 1950S 2000S ROSA PARKS MARIELLE FRANCO Feminism in the third wave (1990s-early 2000s) proved the global stage demanding human rights in large numbers. there was still much more work to do. There was a deep Socio-political activists — such as Marielle Franco of Brazil, disconnect between women of various cultures demanding who was assassinated on March 14, 2018, for speaking representation, in conjunction with disagreement about against this long narrative of racial and feminine injustice past radical feminist movements. Police brutality as seen — sparked a global debate. Franco said: “My name is with the Rodney King case, sexual assault and harassment Marielle Franco. I am a woman, I am black, I am a mother, in the workplace as seen with the Anita Hill hearings, and I am a child of the Mare favela” (Mahoney, 2018). She and the need for inclusion of the LGBTQ community risked her life to end the discrimination of poor people of while battling the AIDS/HIV epidemic were key issues. color living in favelas (urban ghettos), speaking on police Dr. Kimberlé Williams Crenshaw coined the term violence that disproportionately affected both males and intersectionality. She understood that multiple factors, females on the basis of skin color. like racism, classism, sexism, ageism and homophobia, for Additionally, in the #MeToo movement, we have seen that example, can impact an individual at the same time. brave women who come forward to share their stories of Also within the framework of third-wave feminism, the sexual assault, regardless of integrity and validation, often ideas of post-racialism and colorblindness were born see no justice because the patriarchal power structure under the presidency of Barack Obama. Dr. Patricia Hill- refuses to level the playing field. This year, we have also Collins posits that although we elected our first black seen large movements to end women’s reproductive health president, there were underpinnings of society refusing rights through introducing harmful legislation in Alabama to address inequalities on a large scale. Political debates and Georgia. and laws that minimized the importance of basic human We exist in a culture of dehumanization and patriarchal rights revealed that our system has not changed much domination, resulting in the need for a continuous fight but has broadened systemic racism and discrimination for social justice and equal rights for all marginalized with a twist. communities. Today’s generation embraces feminism Currently, we are living in the fourth wave of feminism because they are a continuum of the many feminine (2010-beyond), which is defined as not only women and leaders who refused to sit on the back of the bus, and the men in the U.S. decrying social justice, but also women on marathon continues. JULY 2019 19 JULY 2019 19

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LISA CHILDERS Lisa Childers is the county extension director with NC Cooperative Extension in Cumberland County and has been employed there for over 20 years. She’s a County Extension Director, member of the Kiwanis Club of Fayetteville in addition to serving on the Partnership NC Cooperative Extension for Children board of directors and a variety of agricultural committees and boards. cumberland.ces.ncsu.edu Childers is married to Jason Childers. They have two daughters, Anna and Emersyn, and a goldendoodle named Ruby Sue. Growing a love of agriculture in children Raising two daughters, I find but there are still lots of ways an authentic farm experience, myself reflecting on my own parents can encourage kids to visit some of our local farms childhood and how their get outside and connect with that offer \"u-picks.\" Places like experiences are so different from the nature that surrounds them. Gillis Hill Road Produce, Canady mine. I can remember my uncle Living in Cumberland County, Farms, Bunce Brothers Farms, taking me to pick blueberries we are blessed with places like and Carter Blueberry Farm love and my father and me planting Clark Park Nature Center, Carvers to have families visit. There are a small garden in our backyard. Creek State Park and Cape Fear also several small-scale farmers My summers were spent outside Botanical Garden. You can also markets around town. making mud pies, playing in the take a short drive up the road to dirt and making sun tea, which find fun adventures at Aloha Zoo It is easy to take these was a real treat. These are all and Raven Rock State Park. agricultural experiences for memories I will never forget. granted because we've done Many parents are interested in them ourselves. However, more While I want to give my children growing a vegetable garden at often than not, kids these these same experiences, busy home with their children. This days have never shucked an schedules often get in the way. is a great way to spend time ear of corn, fed hay to cows or Recently, I came home from work outdoors with your family. A driven a tractor across a field. and my kids were all on their iPads. home garden can sometimes be It is in these moments where As a parent, I want to embrace a bit overwhelming, so I would a love of agriculture is formed. technology — but balanced encourage you to start small. I see that love in the face of a with real-life, hands-in-the-dirt Find a local garden center and farmer picking the best corn experiences. I am constantly choose a few containers, some crop of his life or a veterinarian looking for opportunities to get my potting mix and vegetable plants who just delivered a newborn kids outside, immersed in nature of your choice — then plant calf. Agriculture is happening or to a farm. away! Cherry or grape tomatoes all around us, and we have are an easy option, along with everything we need to help Strawberry season is coming to squash, cucumber or okra. If inspire the next generation. a close in Cumberland County, you want to give your children 22 JULY 2019 JULY 2019 22

MINDY LOVE Mindy Love is a full-time environmental program manager with the U.S. Army Reserve Command and creator of the blog Sweet Tea and Pasta. She’s lived in Creator/blogger, North Carolina for more than 20 years and started her blog to share her Southern Sweet Tea and Pasta experiences with others. When she’s not assisting the military in saving the earth, www.sweetteaandpasta.com she’s eating her way around the South, meeting new people and looking for new small towns to explore. 5K Run/Walk Follow the sound of the Designing Station supports low- July 12-14, 2019 drums beating beautiful income individuals and families rhythms to the 5th transitioning from homelessness www.africanpeacefestival.org Annual African World Peace and fleeing domestic violence Festival. Since the inaugural in Cumberland and Robeson African World Peace Festival counties. To learn more in 2015, the Fayetteville about these organizations, community has experienced the visit their websites at culture, tastes and rhythms of sweetkidswithdiabetes.com and Africa right here in downtown designingstation.org. Fayetteville. This year’s festival is July 12-14. Festivalgoers can try authentic The festival is a fundraising cuisine unique to various parts event for Loving Hands of Africa, dance to the beat International and the Cultural & of African rhythms and share Heritage Alliance, two nonprofits camaraderie with fellow citizens. that focus on the needs of the poor in Ghana and West Africa as Opening night will feature live well as needs in the Fayetteville music and takes place July 12 and Fort Bragg area. The goal from 6-11 p.m. in the Cool Spring this year is to raise $30,000 to Downtown District. purchase 20 computers and materials for the Anani Memorial Beginning at 11 a.m. on International School in Ghana, Saturday the 13th, cultural Africa. In addition, a book drive dancers and performers will will be held for the school. The showcase traditional African books collected will be given dance, highlighting the different to the school during a Loving fashions, music and drum beats Hands International mission trip found across the continent. to Ghana. There will be arts and crafts Locally, the event supports displays along with storytelling the Cape Fear Valley Sweet and a kids zone. Kids Camp and Designing Station. With the help of The festival closes Sunday, festivalgoers, the organization July 14, with the African Gospel aims to sponsor five children Concert from noon-8 p.m. The from low-income families to streets will re-open for regular attend the Sweet Kids Camp usage at 11 p.m. and to separately donate $1,000 to the Designing Station. The This family-oriented festival and educational event is free to the public and welcomes all ages. ALSO CHECK OUT: • At Headquarters Library, the exhibit “African Rhythms: Drumming & Art” will be on display daily July 8- 11, opening at 2 p.m. each day. Contact program coordinator Julie MacLean at 414-759-8244 or [email protected] to find out about African Rhythms Workshops from July 8-11 as well. • Registration for the African World Peace Festival’s 5th Annual 5K Run/Walk begins July 13 at 7 a.m. at Taste of West Africa, 116 Person St. The event starts at 8 a.m. and will be followed by free health screenings starting at 9 a.m., courtesy Cape Fear Take Charge of Your Health, the Community Health Intervention and Sickle Cell Agency, and the Fayetteville Community Lions Club Vision Screening. To learn more, search the event on JULY 2019 23 JULY 2019 23

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STEPHANIE CRIDER Stephanie Crider has been part of the F&B Publications family since 2006. She loves sharing stories that make a difference. When she's not working, Associate Publisher, she is likely having fun with her friends, ballroom dancing with her husband Women’s View Magazine or planning adventures with her family. life Advice from Isat across the table from And in this season of your life, “Mentoring and role modeling is a Ellyn Dunford, spouse of success might mean volunteering, two-way street,” Dunford said. Gen. Joe Dunford of the learning a new skill, focusing on U.S. Marine Corps, waiting your health, building friendships, As you learn and grow, look for getting a job, investing in your opportunities to help people who for her to make the first move, to set education, starting a business or a are where you were just a short the tone for the informal lunch she host of other things. time ago. Just like you watched/ was attending with a small group of learned/asked, chances are someone military spouses. “If you put some thought into it is watching and learning from you. and define what success means to What are you teaching them by I’d prepared for a business you, it’s a lot easier to stay focused, the way you speak and act? Will boardroom demeanor. What we got track your progress and celebrate you be receptive if they ask for was next-door neighbor casual — the benchmarks on your journey,” your guidance? What experiences, lively, heartfelt and sincere — with Dunford said. information or wisdom can you plenty of humor and just enough share that will help them? sass to let us know she’s walked the And when you have a goal or a same path many military spouses plan, there is less time to listen Expectation management are traveling. She’s a mom of three to naysayers, get caught up in and flexibility: “Sometimes and has been a military wife for 34 unhealthy drama or doubt the years, managing her own career as a validity of your actions. no matter how much research physical therapist for 30 years. you do or how much you prepare,” Mentors and role models: Dunford said, “things don’t go While the conversation focused according to plan.” primarily on issues surrounding Some mentors and role models military families and spouses, come into our lives organically — our That’s when being flexible and her message fits most any teachers, supervisors and peers. In managing expectations can make demographic. Below are some of the those cases, make the most of it. a big difference — for you and the topics that came up that day. Ask questions, foster relationships, people around you. And of course, think about how you can apply their it’s usually easier said than done. Success: Define your own philosophies and systems in your life Keeping your cool and adapting to to reach your goals. everchanging circumstances is a success and do what is right for you. life skill that will come in handy not Sometimes a successful day might “Mentors and role models come just as a military spouse but for a mean that the kids are fed and in in many varieties and show up in lifetime. And it’s a mindset that can bed at a reasonable-ish hour — but all kinds of circumstances,” Dun- take practice to master. maybe the house is a wreck or some ford noted. errands got put off for another time. Advocacy: We all face Sometimes success can be that you Be aware of what is going took a shower, got dressed and got on around you and look for challenges, and as military families, out of the house. opportunities to learn and to many of them are unique to this connect with others. Does your lifestyle, but just because something Other times, though, you may feel neighbor have a particular way is frustrating doesn’t mean it cannot inspired to define success by the of dealing with her children that change. Don’t be afraid to work mark you leave on your community. resonates with you? Watch her. toward solutions. In the long run, Learn from her. Emulate her. they may help generations of military “And keep in mind, you get to define families who come behind you. your community,” Dunford said. Sometimes people around us also “Maybe it’s your neighborhood, your teach us what not to do. That friend “There are so many programs church family, your child’s school, who isn’t so great with money? The that exist today because families your friends, the town you live in, coworker with bad manners? Watch years ago worked to solve issues,” an organization you volunteer for or them and learn from them, too. said Dunford. “Programs like y2o6urJUwLYor2k0p19lace.” the Exceptional Family Member 26 JULY 2019

Ellyn Dunford Program and the school liaison advocate for military families for program and on-post child care nearly 50 years and offers a variety centers are all here thanks to the of resources as well. These are just a efforts of military families who few of the organizations that serve worked to solve problems and military members and their families. change policies.” Sure, there are challenges — lots And now, the entire force benefits of them — that come with being a from their efforts. military spouse, but you don’t have to go it alone. It’s easy to get caught up in the details of our daily lives, but Dunford Editor’s note: The views expressed noted that taking a broader view are the author's and do not can spark motivation. “If your son necessarily represent the views of or daughter joins the military, what DoD or its components. kinds of systems and programs do you want in place for them and for your grandchildren?” Resources: One of the best ways to be effective is to be informed, and Dunford noted that there are many resources both in and out of the Department of Defense that serve military families. Fort Bragg offers a wealth of information through Army Community Services; Morale, Welfare and Recreation; the chapel system; The Armed Forces YMCA; several local nonprofits; and more. Reach out and see what is available for you. Many offer free resources as well as training and volunteer opportunities. On a larger scale, there are JULY 2019 27 organizations that look for ways to JULY 2019 27 serve, listen to and inform military families and give voice to issues they face. The USO (www.uso.org) conducts a survey each year and supports service members and their families year-round. Purdue University hosts a Military Family Research Institute (www.mf ri. purdue.edu) that participates in research and offers resources to military families. The National Military Family Association (www. militaryfamily.org) has been an

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SHEILA WEAVER Sheila Weaver is the director of the Steven A. Cohen Military Family Clinic at Cape Fear Valley Medical Center in Fayetteville. She is married with three grown children Director, and four grandchildren. She received her undergraduate degree in human services Steven A. Cohen Military from Upper Iowa University, her master’s in social work from Syracuse University, Family Clinic at Cape Fear and is currently a doctoral candidate in clinical social work at Walden University. Valley Medical Center military.capefearvalley.com STEVEN A . COHEN MILITARY FAMILY CLINIC: Meeting the needs of behavioral health challenges for veterans and military families Imet my husband in 2005 while he was serving at Fort Drum, by the National Guard through the The Steven A. Cohen Military New York. I had been a child of Department of Military Affairs for Family Clinic at Cape Fear Valley is at-risk youth. I was there to manage a low- to no-cost behavioral health military parents, had grown up in a the counseling department for clinic that serves post-9/11 veterans military town and had a sibling who adolescents but found myself working and their families. This location served, but being a military spouse with the staff as well. It was there I truly opened in July 2017 and is the only was a new experience entirely. I was got to hear what service members Cohen Clinic in North Carolina. active in the officers' spouses' club, went through while deployed, and There are currently 10 other clinics the family readiness groups and the what they brought home with them. across the country in places like care team program. I learned about Dallas, Texas; Clarksville, Tennessee; My husband retired from military the hardships faced by spouses whose service in 2017, and we settled in and Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. soldiers deployed every other year. Fayetteville. It was then that I first We offer behavioral health care and I heard stories of obstacles faced learned about the Steven A. Cohen case management to help connect in reintegration following a year of Military Family Clinics. The Cohen veterans and their families with separation and the heartbreak of the Clinics are a nationwide network of resources to meet other needs they soldier once again leaving after taking nonprofit behavioral health clinics may have. I work with a team that truly a rest and recuperation leave during that focus on serving post-9/11 believes in the mission to improve deployment. I saw my husband's veterans and their families. The clinics veterans’ and their families’ lives by friends come back from deployments are funded by Steven A. Cohen, who providing high-quality, accessible changed in many ways — some started Cohen Veterans Network to and integrated mental health care. changes subtle, some not so subtle. I help veterans and their families. When Importantly, the Cohen Clinics allow knew I wanted to do more to help. I read about a position as clinical the veteran to decide who qualifies I wanted to help military families coordinator at the clinic through as family. This can include parents, process the challenges they faced. I Cape Fear Valley Health Systems, I siblings, spouses, children, partners, returned to school and completed knew this was what I wanted to do. I caretakers and others. We also provide my master’s in social work. I attended had found the program that had the care regardless of discharge status. many briefings over the years about same mission I did — to help military It is here I have found a way to help how to support our soldiers, but families and veterans with behavioral military veterans and their families no one was talking about how to health challenges. I joined the team “get back to better.” support the families. Following a in August of 2018 and was promoted To learn more or to schedule an permanent change of station move to director in 2019. In this role, I am appointment, visit http://military. to Norfolk Naval Base in Virginia, I fulfilling my lifelong goal of helping capefearvalley.com/about-us.html or worked for a residential program run military veterans and their families. call 910-615-3737. 30 JULY 2019

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