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EFRDOMITTOHER ptiMocpyk3s Many of us grow up with the desire to change the How one youngster is world, to do something to banish all the injustices single-handedly making we see, to help the disadvantaged, and to make a an impact difference to society in some meaningful way. And then, when we are at the stage of deciding what Ahmed Al Hajari, a high course to take and which career path to pursue, we find that other school student in Doha, “considerations” come in the way of our decision. Somewhere travelled solo to Nepal, all the fervour to “do good” gets sidelined by such factors as size of the way to make a difference pay packet, perks, comfort of work space, professional growth in the lives of children living path and so on. These are important considerations too, but if you in the village of Bandipur P.14 are one of those who have the passion and the will to tackle the tough problems of society, then perhaps you should look further. Understanding Doing socially meaningful work is not the preserve of social Childhood Eczema workers alone. Every specialisation has some social value, and it is up to the specialist to find a way to put his/her education and Eczema can be frustrating P.41 expertise to work in an area where it can make a difference. All because there is no cure and kinds of training, from technical to humanistic to social science to multiple triggers can set off that pure science, can contribute to developing society in some way. nasty itch. Here’s how parents And at the same time, contribute to personal and professional can cope with it in the best way. development and fulfilment. The neo-traditional marriage And no one is too small to make a difference. Ahmed Al Hajari, a high school student in Doha, proved that just one person can Being a full-time working woman can lead to feelings of guilt and make a meaningful difference to society. While an increasing stress because of divided attention between work and family. The number of tourists flocked to Nepal’s mountain peaks, colourful key is to focus on a plan, get organized, and find the right balance markets and lush national parks, Ahmed decided to make a between profession and parenthood, Adina- Laura Achim writes P.44 difference in the lives of children living in the village of Bandipur. He travelled solo – a journey that took him 3,270 km from home to this small village. In a free-wheeling interview on P.14, Ahmed tells us about his experience working with these children from less privileged background. Moving on to this month’s ‘in life’ article on P.41, Dr Sunaina Hameed gives us an insight into Childhood Eczema. The article urges parents to protect their children from anything that make them itch. Proper skin care is the first step towards this goal, and should be treated as a lifestyle modification rather than a temporary fix. Until next month, Happy reading! Amjad Vanimal Editor [email protected] • ISSUE FEBRUARY 2017 FREE COPY Director- Marketing Contributing Writers Editorial Enquiries James John SPOTLIGHT Editor Dr. Sunaina Hameed Tel: +974 44466413 A YOUNG MAN’S Amjad Vanimal Adina- Laura Achim [email protected] JOURNEY TO NEPAL Features Editor Homayra Billah Dr. Sudip N. Stephanie Hughes Advertising Enquiries February 2017 Copy Editors Sondra Hope Tel: +974 44466620 Fax: +974 44418811 THE HEIGHT OF HIGH TEA TIPS: FINE ART INVESTMENT PREGNANCY & PARENTING IN DOHA Rajith R Rekha Sarma Email: [email protected] Shemna Bijith Mary Jayaweera Steve Joseph Naji Haddad Printed & Published by Advertising Thajilah Olaiya Marketing team Mhairi Murphy Gulf Publishing & Printing Co. W.L.L. Circulation Manager Jamilah Al-Harake Adel Hammam Website : www.society.qa Design & Layout Available at Jiji Yohannan56 SocietyMagazine Society_mag Society Magazine Society Magazine society_magazine society_magazine Society Qatar Society Magazine

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How oneFOCUSyoungster isspotlight single-handedly making an impact Ahmed Al Hajari, Image : Firoz Ahmed a high school student in Doha, travelled solo to Nepal, all the way to make a difference in the lives of children living in the village of Bandipur By Thajilah A. Ali OlaiyaHave you ever travelled to another country by yourself? A country in which you don’thave any family or friends? This canbe a great challenge for many adults,but Ahmed Al Hajari, a high schoolstudent in Doha, made this decisionbecause he wanted to make an impact.A journey that took him 3,270 kmfrom home to a small village in Nepal.Society caught up with Ahmed to dis-cuss the catalyst to this life-changingendeavour. Ahmed Al Hajari 14 Society

Q What are you passionate situations and document it. It is a way take things for granted. If poverty was toabout? for me to document my experience and be fixed, then that would fix all the other share a message. problems we have in the world. Most ofA I’m an art-oriented person. I’m pas- these problems start from the scarcity of Q What concerns you? enough income.sionate about photography, cinematog-raphy, theatre and music. I love anything A Poverty is a big concern for me. This Q Where did you first herethat’s related to art. I’m also very interest- about problems in Nepal?ed in community service and I try to link realization came after visiting Nepal. I’mthose two together. involved in MUN (Model United Nations) A It started from a QLC (Qatar Leader- and throughout the years I’ve alwaysQ How’s art and liked to be in the Human Rights Commit- ship Conference) the year Peter Dalglishphotography a vessel for tee because I feel it is the most interesting. presented about trips to Nepal. I wantedcommunity service? I live in Doha and feel blessed, and then to do it, but I didn’t know a concrete way. there are people who are somewhere else I usually visit family during short schoolA Photography captures a moment that are exactly the same as me, but live breaks. I emailed Peter Dalglish and he with many struggles. It shows me not to sent me to the company that runs the trip.through the lens. I put myself in those www.society.qa 15

Q When did you decide to to charge my phone or my camera; in A I like the community that was there.take action? Nepal they only have electricity for 12 hours a day. I don’t mind leaving the hotel I was working in the Learning CenterA It has always been in the back of my and taking a walk, but the tour guide told and I was interested in teaching film. The me to stay in the hotel while we were in kids would come outside of my room tenmind, but it was about the right timing. It Kathmandu. It was completely silent in minutes before class and ask to go to thewas right after the film festival and I want- the hotel, so I decided to look at the view. Learning Center. They knew my nameed to film this experience. I wanted to do I thought, ‘I’m here in Kathmandu, the by the second day. They would go to thesomething that hadn’t been done before. capital, and I’m bored. What am I going Learning Center in the morning for Eng- to do in the village?’ I started to regret not lish and Mathematics and then they goQ Recount what it was like bringing a friend with me. I began to plan to school and return in the afternoon forwhen you first landed in for my film. help with homework. The best way I sawKathmandu, Nepal that I could help was to completely give Q Why did you choose all that I can in the two hour classes eachA I was waiting in line and gave my Nepal and not somewhere day. Generally, the whole trip was very else? nice and by the end of it I was thinkingpassport [to airport officials] and they about when I was going to come backasked for a visa. At that point my heart A I’ve always cared about poverty again. Two of my friends went to Nepal asstarted beating fast. I did so much to get a result of hearing about my experience.here and now I don’t have a visa. But luck- and I wanted to help, but never actually One of them went to the same village Iily it was possible to get a visa on arrival had a concrete chance to help. This was stayed in and the children were askingso I got the visa. I got my luggage and was a chance for me to physically help and about me. When I was there, they hadexpecting that my tour guide would meet to gather footage to raise awareness computers so I was teaching them how tome outside, but my flight was delayed about this issue. When I told my friends type and we set up emails for them. A lotand no one was there. I didn’t have a local about this they said I was crazy. Even if of them still send emails to me.number and no access to the internet so my friends wanted to come, I probablyI couldn’t contact him. I crossed the road wouldn’t want to go with my friends. It Q How can we eradicateand then I saw my name on a green sign would take away from the experience. poverty?and my tour guide greeted me with a When I was there and took grasp of thingsscarf and took me to the hotel. I thanked God that I came here alone be- A It’s raising awareness about the cause it was the only way I could actuallyQ What challenges did you take full advantage of the trip. issue. If people know about the issue,face in Nepal? then subconsciously they would want to Q What did you do in the help. That was part of the reason I wantedA The biggest challenge was being village of Bandipur? to film this experience because I wanted people to see it and then think aboutcompletely alone. Not having internet helping. People who have power need toconnection and not having electricity put [ending poverty] as a priority. They have power, they have a voice, they have people who follow them. They need to find out ways to solve it. Q What advice would you give to children and young adults who want to make a meaningful difference to society? A A lot of times, throughout my life, I want to do [something] but I think I can’t because that’s something adults do. There’s this barrier between what the youth can do. My advice would be to try. If you have an idea or something you want to do, then just try. People will start to believe in you16 Society

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FOCUS 2P0GE1MI6OVEWPETLMH‘EI1ON0EIspotlight HOPE2F0O17R’From activists to teachers to a high school student who raised $10,000 for feminine Every year this column puts me in care products touch with all sorts of inspiring, world-changing humans, and 2016 for homeless was no exception. I’m profoundly grateful girls, here for the opportunity to learn their stories and share them with you, which inevi- are 10 people tably starts another round of dialogue columnist through your emails, letters and social Heidi Stevens media posts. met in 2016 To those of you who took the time to who give her connect this year: Thank you. And to all of you: A healthy and peaceful 2017. hope for the Here are 10 people I met in 2016 who give year ahead me hope for the year ahead. 18 Society

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01 Shaka Rawls took over as principal of Leo Catholic High School, a 90-year-old all-boys school on the city’s Far South Side, in August and immediately started making plans for a volunteer cleanup day. “We’ve probably got 20-year-old dust in the school,” he said. By the time the day arrived, Rawls had 150 volunteers from corporations and organizations around Chicago, plus money and cleaning products donated from Method, the Chicago Blackhawks and Nuance Solutions. “Everyone is invested in the success of these young men,” he told me after the event. “They feel believed in.”Caroline Boudreaux took a soul-searching triparound the globe and ended up leaving her corporate gig to launcha nonprofit that funds orphanages in India. “The ramifications of 02not having your parents are so vast,” she said. “If you don’t havethat basic thing, this world is just going to eat you up.” The MiracleFoundation provides room and board for Indian women to serveas housemothers and provides food, clean water, health care andscholarships for the orphans. “If you take care of a mom,” Boudreauxtold me, “you really do take care of the children.” 03 Skyler Shrempp is the artistic director at the Viola Project, a nonprofit that brings together girls ages 10-16 and immerses them in Shakespeare as a way of teaching them to find and use their own voices. “We work with girls at a time of their lives when they stop advocating for themselves,” Shrempp said. As 13-year-old Sophie Harris told me the day I observed a class, “It’s kind of saying, ‘In your face, Shakespeare’ because his plays were originally for all boys.”Audrey Peterman is on a mission to make the nation’s 04public lands accessible — and accessed by — more people of colour.She and her husband, Frank, wrote “Legacy on the Land: A BlackCouple Discovers Our National Inheritance and Tells Why EveryAmerican Should Care” (Earthwise Productions), and they tour thecountry speaking about their travels. “We can’t save the world,” shetold me. “The world saves us.” 05 Eric Witherspoon hopped on the morning announcements at Evanston Township High School the morning after Donald Trump was elected and read a message that became a nationwide balm. “You attend a school where we not only respect differences, we embrace our diversity,” he told the 3,300-student school, where he serves as superintendent. His several-minute address was emailed and texted to schools and parents around the country. “This transcends politics,” he told me. “All of us, as Americans, know that’s who we really are, and it’s so important that we don’t lose sight of it.”20 Society

06 Gaylon Alcaraz went from a reluctant exerciser, cursing between labored breaths, to a three-marathon running phenom, thanks to the camaraderie of Black Girls Run and some serious inner strength. She directs that same strength toward her advocacy work, which includes fighting for reproductive rights, affordable housing and more. “When you’re an activist, in some ways you’re always outraged about the world around you. Running helps me feel calm and, honestly, more grateful,” Alcaraz told me. “There are people in this world who are running for their lives. Their houses are being bombed, or they’re trying to escape from war. I’m running because I want to. When I think about that in terms of my work — even with all the things I feel outraged about, I am grateful.”Lily Alter, 15, turned a high school English assignment 07(write a mock grant proposal) into a GoFundMe campaign topurchase feminine care products for homeless girls and women.She’s raised a little more than $10,000 so far, and she partnerswith Breakthrough Urban Ministries in East Garfield Park andMaywood-based Housing Forward, which runs a shelter in Alter’sOak Park church, to distribute the products. “I read once abouthow it’s really hard to be on your period when you’re homeless,”Alter told me. And with that, an idea — and a solution — were born.08 Ruth Evermann is a kindergarten teacher-turned-art therapist at Jose de Diego Elementary Community Academy in Wicker Park. “Their families are working at survival level,” Evermann told me. “Our kids carry an anger with them that takes your breath away.” She teaches them to channel that anger into art, and together she and the students have transformed their building into a stunning, colourful mosaic of art that greets and embraces them each school day.Anita Hollander performed three different roles in 09the Goodman Theatre’s spring production of “The Matchmaker”— her versatility is thanks, in part, to the fact that she lost a legto cancer in her 20s. She has performed at Carnegie Hall, theKennedy Center and the New York Shakespeare Festival. She’sacted in “Cats,” “Ragtime,” “Oklahoma” and more. Along the way,she advocates for greater visibility and inclusion for actors withdisabilities. “We’re 20 percent of this population,” Hollander said,“and we don’t see ourselves.” She’s working to change that.10 Georgy Ann Peluchiwski isco-founderofthe City Chapter of Impact 100 Chicago, an all-volunteer, all-women grant- making organization that awards $100,000 grants to local nonprofits making a difference in one of five areas — education, family, health, culture and sustainability. “Our intention is to help small to midsize nonprofits in the city with really high-quality ideas to create a big impact in the community they serve,” Peluchiwski said. The “American Idol”- style event where the grants are auditioned for and rewarded was one of my favourite events of the year and made me believe better days may truly be ahead for this city I live in and love www.society.qa 21

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Mhairi Murphyreviews the workundertaken byNepal’s non-profitorganisation,Mission HimalayaEco Home & Farm,and discovers whyhome is definitelywhere the heart is How many of us are guilty of perhaps accompany her daughter; upon arrival, she reading, watching or hearing about a was immediately struck by the appalling living tragic situation involving children and conditions, a disheveled bundle of children thinking that we should really do something, were sharing a makeshift bed, with no mattress but then life takes over, everyday pressures or blanket, worse still the children themselves surround us and we move on. were undernourished, neglected and ignored.Mhairi Murphy Charu Chand Thakur, a retired headmistress Charu left that day with a heavy heart and aCreative Director at Alchemy and founder and Vice President of the non-prof- clear vision to create a better place for theseInteriors, has worked in the it organisation Mission Himalaya Eco Home children. A place that they could call home, feelinternational design field for & Farm, had felt this need to act many times safe, be nurtured, receive an education, medi-over 20 years, specialising in during her life, but a shared experience with cal attention, and the practical and social skillsbespoke interior architecture. her eldest daughter, Karishma, inspired and that would enable them to become responsibleOriginally from Scotland, drove her to finally act. Karishma was a regular adults, but most of all a home where they couldshe has been living in Qatar volunteer at a small locally run Nepalese be just children.for 17 years, and in-between orphanage and on this day Charu decided tobalancing her husband,two boys and furry familymembers, she finds time toindulge another creativeelement – writing. www.society.qa 23

Although it is difficult to gather reliable Street Working: Children who Charu Chand Thakurdata, current UNICEF statistics estimatethat as many as 34 per cent of Nepalese spend most of their time working in thechildren are abandoned by their natural streets and markets of cities, but may orparents each year, and currently around may not return home on a regular basis.5,000 children are living/working in thestreets of Nepal. For these children their Street Family: Children who livefuture is bleak, and UNICEF has catego-rised (based on recorded data) these on the streets with their families. Somechildren into three types: street children spend so many years on the street that they start families andStreet Living: Children who sleep bring up the next generation on the street as well.in public spaces without their family.They work, live and sleep in the streets, Charu feels that education is the key, dur-often lacking any contact with their ing her professional tenure she constant-families. These children are at the highest ly strived to give each child in her schoolrisk of murder, constant abuse, human the gift of hope through education. A re-trafficking and inhumane treatment. cent UNESCO report states that only 7 out of 10 children in Nepal enrolled in gradeAt Eco Home,the focus is noton fosteringor securing anadoption for thechildren, but moreto provide familyvalues, a sense ofsupport, a brightfuture and pride inbeing Nepalese. 24 Society

one manage to reach grade To realise her vision Charu’s first task was to The Eco Home works closely with thefive, over half of these children find a location that offered what she felt these village development committee, localleave school before entering children needed, she set her sights on land police and district head office to make surelower secondary school (grade away from the hustle and bustle of Kath- that any child entering the ECO Home areeight) level. mandu, she wanted somewhere that could real orphans, and not “paper orphans” and provide a more serene and healthy environ- only after the necessary official documen- “Education is ment, it was decided that Panauti would be tation has been received do these children the movement that place. The challenges were constant, commence with the process of becoming from darkness Charu said that when she felt at her lowest an ECO Home child. All 25 children staying to light” — ebb, she thought of her own children and at ECO Home come from extremely poor how much she loved, protected and worked economic backgrounds, they are four Allan Bloom to give them a better future; who was going to years old or above and their parents have do this for the children she had seen during been confirmed missing or dead. The that impactful visit to the orphanage with her UN’s child agency, UNICEF after a recent daughter? investigation, discovered the shocking fact that 85 per cent of children in the Nepal The list was endless, financial donors had to orphanages they visited had at least one be found, close ties with local workers and living parent. volunteers had to be forged, staff had to be located, buildings constructed, equipment Recent natural disasters and the devasta- procured, but Charu and her team worked tion left in their wake have also contributed tirelessly and after many years of hard work, to this growing problem, many “orphans” ECO Home finally opened its doors. may not actually be orphans and are sim- ply children who have become separated The first children to enter ECO Home from their families, collected in good faith were three small children from Far by volunteers who want to help but sadly Eastern Nepal. ECO Home now hosts cause more harm in the long run. 25 happy children. Once a child enters ECO Home, their day becomes like that This phenomenon has become known of any other child; as the “rescue” mentality, and even more disturbingly has allowed the practice of • They are woken at 6am, brush teeth, exploitative orphanage operators, who shower and get dressed trade in children under the guise of the money-making business of ‘Voluntourism’. • Tidy their rooms and get their school bags ready At Eco Home, the focus is not on fostering or securing an adoption for the children, • Breakfast is eaten, tiffin boxes but more to provide family values, a sense collected and off to school of support, a bright future and pride in be- (approximately 10 minutes walk ing Nepalese. The knowledge that having away) the security and safety of a family environ- ment is already within reach in their own • School finishes at 4pm, back to home country. Eco Home, wash up, change out of uniform and complete chores Volunteers are encouraged to become ac- tively involved in two ways; either directly • Afternoon lunch and tea is served, with the children as paying volunteers (all games and activity recess (football, proceeds raised go directly to the welfare badminton, chess etc.) of the children staying in ECO Home) or perhaps assisting the Eco team in their • Two hours of tutoring time, each various fund raising and on-going commu- child has individual help with his or nity projects her homework www.society.qa 25 • Dinner is served, and children then relax and can watch TV (allocated timings) • Lights out for at 8:30pm, so that they are bright and eager for the next day • Weekends are free time, involving extra-curricular trips and educational activities

FOCUSPpuurppwoiilstshecoverstory They are only in their early teens. But these youngsters already know what they want to do in life – and the enthusiasm, passion and love with which these youngsters speak of Qatar are undoubtedly inspiring By Mary Jayaweera Qatar is home to myriad expatriate communi- ties. The nation and its people have accepted and accommodated diversity and thereby set an example not only in the Middle East but the world over. Amidst a ‘melting pot’ of sorts, it is inspiring to see the broad mind-set of budding youngsters who belong to the here and the now. They are not enslaved by petty thoughts of racial or social discrimination; they are mature enough so as not to be judgmental about their peers and colleagues. They are certainly a force to be reckoned with. Speaking to several aspiring youngsters, I was fascinat- ed by their sense of optimism, openness and adapt- ability. They described in vivid detail how Qatar has provided them with a solid foundation on which to build their lives. They spoke of their goals in life, their successes and hopes for the future as leaders ready to conquer whatever the future decides to throw at them. 26 Society Sanskriti Tandon and Sandev Ferdinando

Sanskriti Tandon the way for him to make new acquaint- joys the best of two worlds; she is Indi- ances, locally and internationally and he an/Sri Lankan. A student of Stafford SriHailing from India, Sanskriti has been liv- owes the development of his gentle yet Lankan School Doha, Qatar has beening in Qatar since 2009 and she has been laudable personality to these relation- her home since 2009. “What I lovein the hubbub of the constant ‘shifting ships he has made down the years. “Re- about Qatar is that you have so manyand shaping’ of the nation so that it can spect, mutual understanding and a sense people gathered here in this one coun-fulfill the needs and requirements of the of how fortunate I am for being able to try, not just one but different national-people. “I have truly enjoyed living here live here are a few other ways in which ities.” She added that being an expatand it upsets me to know I only have two I’ve developed.” in this country has bestowed her withyears left in this beautiful country before innumerable opportunities to meetI move on to university.” An inspirational In his words, young people in Qatar are of people from diverse cultural back-character, Sanskriti by nature is helpful the opinion that here is a ‘perfect society’ grounds and savour new experiences;and supportive especially if it means which is an untruth that “…hinders the “I’m a member of the multi-culturalbeing able to motivate and inspire peers growth of young people…” However he Doha Youth choir and two years ago Ito acquire leadership. adds that with time and maturity, they be- met this girl who is now one of my best gin to see “…beyond the visage of ultimate friends. We found so many similarities“I have truly enjoyed wealth…” realizing that Qatar too is faced that we did not expect when we firstliving in Qatar and it with numerous and endless challenges met each other because she is reallyupsets me to know I in comparison to most other countries. shy and I’m more outgoing. If I had nothave only two years Sandev appreciates the involvement of come to Qatar, I don’t think I wouldleft in this beautiful schools in creating a plethora of opportu- have met such people.”country before I move nities for students to obtain experienceon to university” working for NGO’s, local charities, enroll- An avid reader, Jeanine noted that ing in volunteer and online programmes the educational opportunities that“This country has not only given me a initiated by renowned universities in are available in Qatar, starting fromhome to live in, it has helped me grow Qatar. A student leader who has carved her current alma mater, are vast andin ways I never thought possible.” She is a niche for himself among peers of invaluable. She has already attendedgrateful to this second home as it helped different communities Sandev notes that a Model United Nations Conferenceher discover her strengths, work on her one should ‘walk in the direction of your and concerts and feels that this nationweaknesses and …”meet people along the fears.’ He believes that everything is tem- gives pride of place to educationway who helped me to grow and become porary including the stay in Qatar howev- which is a precious investment anywho I am today.” er he strongly believes that every day in parent would make. Further explain- this ‘home’ should be made memorable ing her experiences, she stated thatFor this young girl who is at the cusp of as “…you will carry these experiences it is not only attending concerts andwomanhood, life is one big roller-coaster with you for the rest of your life.” sports but also being part of themand she will continue to enjoy every ride that add vibrancy to her life. “Weshe takes. Jeanine Motha considered moving to Australia for a while and I was really upset becauseSandev Ferdinando A 15-year-old girl full of wit and spirit en- I would have to leave all my friends and all the friendships I have grownA senior at Park House English School in these past years. But then when I wasQatar, Sandev is a praise-worthy young- told we are not moving I was reallyster who worked his way up the ladder happy because the friendships youto become an impressive leader among make last for a lifetime and they arepeers. From the island-home of Sri Lanka, closer than the friendships I haveSandev has lived his entire childhood back home which are very few.”and adolescents in Qatar and is fascinat- Amongst the range of opportunitiesed by the fact that people can relate to Jeanine has received, she cherishesand discuss regional and international the day she published her first novel:issues-something that is not offered in my “Two years ago I published a bookhome country. A member of this year’s or- titled The Breakaway Sisters. It was aganizing committee of the largest Model difficult time for me but I overcame theUnited Nations conference in the Middle challenges thanks to my teachers andEast, The Hague International Model UN friends here in Qatar.” For Jeanine it is(THIMUN) Qatar, which had over 2000 all about savouring every moment ofparticipants, he says that Qatar has paved every challenge and so she says to all youngsters, “Go out there and make a difference!” www.society.qa 27

Nada Hassan As a little 9-year old girl coming to Qatar for the first time in 2010, she was fascinat- ed by this new nation and what it could offer her. “My dad got an opportunity here in Qatar and we joined him a year later.” She noted with nostalgia that moving to Qatar was a wise decision at a time when her home-country was politically unstable. Educated at Egyptian Language School, Nada Hassan smiled and said that her dad had described Qatar as ‘beautiful’ to her and that only added to her sense of curiosity. “I really liked Qatar from the first day… I have fun with my friends. I really love most of the places here such as Villaggio where you can do skating and go bowling.”Yusuf Muhundhan “Sometimes I feel like Giyaz Olayiwola this is my home. IBorn in Dubai, 11-year-old Yusuf has don’t feel I can fit-in All the way from Nigeria, Giyaz is prepar-quite a different take on his life in Qatar anywhere as much as I ing for his Advanced Level Examinationswhich has been his home for the past fit-in here. So Qatar is at Stafford Sri Lankan School Doha. Hesix years. He is a student of Stafford Sri obviously my home” first came to Qatar in 2008 and is gratefulLankan School Doha. Speaking about the that his parents have received employ-opportunities he has already received, he Nada finds the people in Qatar warm and ment opportunities that are worthy andnoted “a great school and a lot of activities hospitable; “I feel they care about people, invaluable: “This helped them raise mesuch as sports.” He stated that he finds if I need something they will welcome me up in a proper manner and it is a betterentertainment, in the traditional and and help me.” The recipient of the Bronze environment than where I was before.”cultural events promoted in Qatar and medal for Volleyball, Nada had participat- A sports fanatic, Giyaz eagerly looksmore importantly in the works of art the ed in the School Olympic Tournaments forward to 2022 Football World Cup andcountry celebrates. “I would like to stay in three years in a row. Such opportunities states that he would love to continue toQatar but perhaps go somewhere else too in her opinion are rare and hard to come school in Qatar provided he is able to ob-to get more experience.” by in her home country. tain a scholarship for which he is making an effort.Ethiopian/Sri Lanka by origin, this 6th Determined to enter the field of Medicinegrader, has his goals set high; “I want to professional, Nada strongly feels thatbecome a pilot and I think Qatar will Qatar will be the place where she realiseshelp me achieve my goal.” His words this dream; “They provide training in theof wisdom for youngsters who wish to early stages. For example, being in highmove to Qatar? “Enjoy Qatar, get to know school right now, if I request for a certifica-its culture and don’t judge a book by its tion of me as a trainee they will welcomecover!” the idea.” According to her, individuals employed in Qatar refer to their careers“I want to become a as ‘satisfying’ which runs parallel with thepilot and I hope Qatar Qatar National Vision which focuses onwill help me achieve the social and mental well-being of its cit-my goal” izens. “I feel like my friend are my family. That is awesome!” “Sometimes I feel like this is my home. I don’t feel I can fit-in, in my own country as much as I fit-in here. So it is obviously my home. I’m happy.”28 Society

“I have a lot of friends not only in school country and I am proud of it.” He instantly now speak English and I am proud of mybut in our Nigerian community here in notes that he does not in any way wish to drawings because in my country I did notQatar. I associate them a lot and I have deny his roots. A sports enthusiast, for JP have a chance to go to art school. Howev-many friends among them. Therefore I Qatar is all about sports; “Qatar is a small er here I have an art teacher who is veryfeel at home.” Not only companionship country but sports are of high quality. talented and is teaching me art.”but Giyaz feels that Qatar has benefitted Qatar has given me a lot of opportunitieshim in widening his horizon too. It has to participate in athletics. I am a member Qatar offered Darya a new lease of life asopened new avenues for him to explore of the Rayyan Sports Club and have been she is now involved in sports and moreand gain knowledge and experience for a student athlete for two years. Previously importantly is able to hone her skills andlife: “My mom found me an opportunity to I was a member of the Qatar Army Club.” innate talent. She calls Qatar, a ‘safe place’,participate in a programme as a volunteer a ‘land of opportunities for everyone’.for the Qatar 2022 event.” Explaining fur- JP is grateful to his alma mater that Adding to this very positive notion of thether Giyaz related that he is a member of provides him with a sound education peninsula, she mentions her happiness isthe school’s Basketball team, Debate team but also for giving him friends; “Friends also owing to the fact that she has friends.and Drama club. In spite of plans to travel are the best part of my life because they Friendship plays a key role in the devel-the world, Giyaz stated with optimism are always going to be there for me. They opment of an adolescent’s life in termsthat he would like to return to Qatar and are like family because my parents are of being accepted by peers and buildingfind employment here as he feels this abroad.” While most children his age self confidence: “I have many friends herecountry would be the best choice for him. would complain about the rules and in the school and I found others who are regulations imposed on young adoles- from my country. Moreover, the events“Qatar is going to be one of the best cents, JP says, that the law that governs like the Spring Festival at Souq Waqif givecountries in the world. Be patient. Don’t the country, though somewhat stringent, us a chance to mingle with others and en-be discouraged just because you do not disciplines young adults. He believes that joy our time here. The National Museumunderstand Arabic and people do not abiding by the law will help make “...us also has interesting activities.”socialize with you much owing to the youngsters better persons and that’s whatlanguage barrier. You will still have fun in we want because we are the future gen- “You have to find a way to do somethingQatar, find friends who can understand eration.” For JP, “Qatar is one of the safest else other than going to school. For exam-you” says this youngster who enjoys his countries in the world” and is second to ple sports and art.” This is the motivatingday everyday! no other. factor that drives forward Darya to enjoy all the benefits Qatar has to offer.John Paul Villanueva Darya Stryuver Johann BambinoAtienza When Darya first came to Qatar from 17 year-old Johann is originally fromAlso known as JP by his friends, he came Russia three years ago, she was skeptical. India. He strikes one as a polite, out-go-to Qatar from the Philippines as a baby Will she fit in? How will she communi- ing and friendly youngster who has aof a few months. He has lived in Qatar for cate? These fears ran wild in her innocent carefree aura about him. During the past16 years and currently attends Stafford mind. However once enrolled at Stafford decade he has been in Qatar, he has ex-Sri Lankan School Doha. “Qatar is part Sri Lankan School Doha, this talented perienced school life first in a prominentof my life. I adapted to its environment artist made it her priority to become Indian school and later joined Mesaieedand sometimes I feel like I am part of this proficient in the English Language; “I can www.society.qa 29

International School, a change he refers In terms of higher education, Toqa be- with people around the world, “...especial-to as ‘significant.’ School for him does lieves that universities in Qatar offer quali- ly here at THIMUN Qatar: I’ve met with sonot mean academia alone but an array ty education. Moreover Qatar as a society many delegates from the USA, Indonesiaof extra-curricular activities offered on a offers professions and opens fields of and Sudan... to collaborate and worksilver platter: “There are many activities work and study that have a wide range. together to solve world problems.” Ansuch as MUN, piano exams which we do A vibrant personality, Toqa has thus far aspiring Medical student, Reem explainsin Qatar, chances we would normally taken part in MUN conferences, Qatarde- how Weill Cornell Qatar offers activitiesnot receive in India mostly because of bates and the STEM competitions: “We such as workshops where they teach highthe high competition there. It is relatively love Qatar…there are fun activities we can school students the basic about medi-easier to be involved in these activities be involved in.” The appreciation Toqa cine. This gives insight to young mindshere in Qatar.” Participating in inter-school displays for this nation is evident in the and becomes a motivating factor in moredebates, road races and competitions twinkle in her eye when she speak about ways than one.Johann has made the most of whatever her home town! “I would not advice youhas come his way thus far. Owing to his to live in Doha because it is a very busy To Reem, Qatar does not only representoptimist nature there is no doubt that he place. Al Wakrah is a nice place to live in a prosperous country with employmenthas already begun his success story. as I have lived most of the years and it is a opportunities but it is also an entertain- comfortable place.” ment hub; “right now, Qatar is preparingHe enjoys diversity among people andfeels that it adds colour to one’s person-ality. He calls Qatar a ‘get-away’ howeverbeautifully describes it as “…living thereforever, you are on vacation but it is anever-ending vacation!” However, Johannsuggests that anyone who comes toQatar especially adolescents should planahead: “Think on your feet and be awareof your surroundings. Obviously the lawis very different here so you must takethat into consideration as well.”Toqa Darwish Reem Al Janahi to stage the CATS musical and they bring in other artistes to the country as well. A lot ofA 16-year-old girl with spunk. When she Speaking with immense pride about Qa- festivals take place especially cultural treatsfirst arrived from Egypt, she was enrolled tar, her home country, Reem Al Janahi of in Souq Waqif where you can learn aboutin numerous schools before entering Me- Qatar Academy Doha stated; “It provides the culture of Qatar.” Qatar is a nation that issaieed International School, her current a lot of high quality services in areas such developing at lightning speed yet it has notalma mater. According to her, she has as education, health and communicating discarded its humble beginnings. In fact theenjoyed every moment of every school with people around the world. The area country and its people celebrate it and as aexperience and it has ensured that she that I would like to focus is very dear to citizen, Reem too feels that everyone whogains for herself a host of friends from a my heart and it is education.” This 9th visits Qatar, regale in its culture and tradi-multitude of cultural backgrounds: “I have grader describes Qatar as a benevolent tions have lesson that they can acquire fora lot of friends in Qatar and I feel very land that is concerned about educating life. When asked what message she wouldcomfortable here. I feel I can fit in with the underprivileged around the world so like to impart, this was her response: “Takethem in the community and society.” that it could take part in creating better every opportunity you are handed. Make societies. She feels that Qatar has a school the most of it, have fun and make friends!” for everyone depending on what is of- fered and this allows youngsters to work30 Society

critical city FREQUENT critical city CHoaupnptyriesNaji Joseph Haddad By Naji Joseph Haddadis a multilingual, multicultural There are around 195 countries in the world today. If you had the chance, which one would youand multidisciplinary choose to reside? From the smallest Vatican to the largest Russia, which is your dream countrySwedish-Lebanese educator, where you picture yourself living in for the rest of your life?corporate trainer, linguist,industrial engineer, and Regardless the conditions that people seek to fulfill their needs and aspirations, whether they arefreelance writer. He economically, socially, politically, or emotionally, at the end of the day each and everyone wants to livegraduated from Stockholm happily. The World Economic Forum ranks Sweden as the happiest country in the world followed byUniversity and the Royal Australia, New Zealand, Netherlands, Canada, Finland, Norway, Iceland, Switzerland, and Denmark. TheUniversity of Technology list above is a result of broad researches and calculations that include numerous parameters, but it can bewith two majors in Industrial simplified into a simple formula:Business Administrationand English language; in The happiest countries are those where people live long and happy lives at little cost to the environmentaddition to being authorizedinterpreter, quality auditor, The Forum’s calculations sound reasonable and fair, but they should only be considered as generic; theyCELTA certified English cannot possibly estimate an individual’s happiness; after all, the study involves emotions and feelings thatlanguage teacher, and School can be difficult to measure; moreover, people have different interpretations of the state of being ‘happy’.debate adjudicator. As you have probably noticed, most of the happiest countries listed above are from Scandinavia. Talking from personal experience, many residents in Scandinavia seek to emigrate to other countries! Not for the sake of a better social security, safety or economy, but simply in pursuit of happiness. Obviously, eventhough these countries provide a generous welfare and the best amenities, this does not mean that people are necessarily happy. They also aspire to a warmer climate, less taxes, and more importantly, a fulfilling social life; after all, the major cause behind the desolation of Scandinavians is the lack of human contact, emptiness, and solitude. Even the other countries listed above cannot possibly guarantee a fulfilled life. Many immigrants who live in diaspora yearn to move back to their homelands. Eventhough they enjoy the dream they had before they left their homelands, their numerous postings of social media are often soaked with longing, nostalgia, and sentimentality. Whether they failed, or refused, to adapt and integrate into new communities, the fact remains that they are not completely happy, if not at all. Expatiates in the Gulf countries are no exception. For decades, Saudi Arabia, Kuwait, Qatar and the United Arab Emirates tuned into a magnet for workers from all over the world. They are seeking job opportunities for a better economy knowing that this is merely a station. It is hardly any secret that they did not move to the Arab Peninsula to enjoy the heat, humidity or sandstorms of the desert. What makes them stay is the satisfaction that that one day they will return home with enough money to sustain a decent life. Their pursuit for happiness goes along with their pursuit for wealth (or the other way around). Immigrants or emigrants aspire to move to happier countries for different reasons, but for the same purpose: a better life. Being happy in a country with a high rate of suicidal individuals is hardly a piece of evidence, and living in a country that suffers from poverty, war and unemployment is definitely not an attractive option either. Analogically, watching poor children laughing and playing joyfully in slums and ghettos is a better indicator of a happy country than children who glued to their Smartphones in isolation. With an introspective, in many cases people are happy in their homelands, but they do not know it… It is just that, for some, it takes a journey which might last a life time to realize that www.society.qa 31

Please…FOCUSjust onecoverstory more biteSondra Hope Read on to learnis a Qatar-based international how to positivelycertified fitness and health influence yourcoach, specialising in personal, children’ssports and child nutrition. eating habitsShe is the founder of HopeFit, by creating awhich specialises in online and positive eatingpersonal training and nutrition environmentcoaching. In her spare time, and being ashe also does motivational good role modelspeaking, spends time withher other passion, Pixal8 By Sondra HopePhotography, as a professionalphotographer, and dabbles inpainting and fine art.While peer pressure and TV commercials for junk food can make getting kids to eat well seem impossible, there are steps that you as parents can take to instillhealthy eating habits without turning mealtimes into a battle zone.By providing nutritious food for your kids and being a positive rolemodel, you can make a huge impact on their lifelong relationshipwith food and give them the best opportunity to grow into healthy,confident adults.Encourage healthy eating habitsChildren develop a natural preference for the foods they enjoythe most, so the challenge is to make healthy choices appealing.Focus on overall diet rather than specific foods. Kids should beeating whole, minimally processed food—food that is as close to itsnatural form as possible. 32 Society

Be a role model. The childhood impulse to imitate isstrong so don’t ask your child to eat vegetables whileyou gorge on potato chips.Cook more meals at home. Restaurant and takeoutmeals have more added sugar and unhealthy fat socooking at home can have a huge impact on your kids’health. If you make large batches, cooking just a fewtimes can be enough to feed your family for the wholeweek.Get kids involved in shopping for groceries andpreparing meals. You can teach them about differentfoods and how to read food labels.Make healthy snacks available. Keep plenty of fruit,vegetables, and healthy beverages (water, milk, purefruit juice) to hand so kids avoid unhealthy snacks likesoda, chips, and cookies.Limit portion sizes. Don’t insist your child cleans theplate, and never use food as a reward or bribe.Make mealtimes about morethan just foodMaking time to sit down as a family to eat a home-cooked meal not only sets a great example for kidsabout the importance of healthy food, it can bring afamily together—even moody teenagers love to eattasty, home-cooked meals!Regular family meals provide comfort. Knowing thewhole family will sit down to eat dinner (or breakfast)together at approximately the same time every daycan be very comforting for kids and enhance appetite.Family meals offer opportunity to catch up on yourkids’ daily lives. Gathering the family around a tablefor a meal is an ideal opportunity to talk and listen toyour kids without the distraction of TV, phones, orcomputers.Social interaction is vital for your child. The simpleact of talking to a parent over the dinner table abouthow they feel can play a big role in relieving stress andboosting your child’s mood and self-esteem. And itgives you chance to identify problems in your child’slife and deal with them early.Mealtimes enable you to “teach by example.” Eating to-gether lets your kids see you eating healthy food whilekeeping your portions in check and limiting junk food.Refrain from obsessive calorie counting or comment-ing on your own weight, though, so that your kids don’tadopt negative associations with food.Mealtimes let you monitor your kids’ eating habits.This can be important for older kids and teens who www.society.qa 33

Addressing weight Eating breakfastproblems in high in qualitychildren requires a protein—fromcoordinated plan enriched cereal,of physical activity yoghurt, milk,and healthy cheese, eggs,nutrition meat, or fish—can help overweight teenagers eat fewer calories throughout the rest of the day and lose weight sleep apnea, poor self-esteem, and long-term health problems in adulthood. Addressing weight problems in children requires a coordinated plan of physical activity and healthy nutrition.spend a lot of time eating at school or taste just as good with less sugar. Treatment for childhood obesity is to slowfriends’ houses. If your teen’s choices or halt weight gain (unless directed by yourare less than ideal, the best way to make Avoid sugary drinks. Instead, try adding child’s doctor), thereby allowing your childchanges is to emphasize short-term con- a splash of fruit juice to sparkling water to grow into his or her ideal weight.sequences of a poor diet, such as physical or blending whole milk with a banana orappearance or athletic ability. These are berries for a delicious smoothie. Eating a breakfast high in qualitymore important to teens than long-term protein—from enriched cereal, yoghurt,health. For example, “Calcium will help Don’t replace healthy sources of saturat- milk, cheese, eggs, meat, or fish—can helpyou grow taller.” “Iron will help you do ed fat with refined carbs or sugary snacks. overweight teenagers eat fewer caloriesbetter on tests.” It’s a mistake many of us make. Instead of throughout the rest of the day and lose letting our kids eat whole-fat yoghurt, for weight.Limit sugar in your child’s example, we offer them low-fat versions,diet not realizing they’re often packed with Encourage exercise added sugar to make up for the loss ofA child’s body gets all the sugar it needs taste. Or we swap breakfast eggs for a The benefits of lifelong exercise arefrom that naturally occurring in food. pastry or muffin. abundant and regular exercise can evenAdded sugar just means a lot of empty help motivate your kids to make healthycalories that contribute to hyperactivity, Create your own popsicles and frozen food choices.mood disorders, and increase the risk for treats. Freeze 100% fruit juice in an ice-obesity, type 2 diabetes, and even suicidal cube tray with plastic spoons as Popsicle Play with your kids. Throw around abehaviours in teenagers. The American handles. Or make frozen fruit kabobs football; go cycling, skating, or swimming;Heart Association recommends that using pineapple chunks, bananas, grapes, take family walks and hikes.sugar intake for children is limited to 3 and berries.teaspoons (12 grams) a day. Help your kids find activities they enjoy Don’t ignore weight by showing them different possibilities.Don’t ban sweets entirely. Having a no problemssweets rule is an invitation for cravings and The bottom lineoverindulging when given the chance. Children who are substantially over- weight are at greater risk for cardiovas- As a parent, you have an important roleGive recipes a makeover. Many recipes cular disease, bone and joint problems, in shaping your children’s eating habits. By creating a positive eating environment and being a good role model, you can help your children develop healthy eat- ing habits that can make a lasting impact on their health34 Society

FOCUSParenting Struggling to Learn- Part 3NeurobiologicalDevelopmentalDisordersHomayra Billah The word ‘Neurobiological disorder’ sounds only mild impairments, while others have moreOriginally from Austral- very serious to any parent I’m sure. And obstacles to overcome. However, every child onia, Homayra Billah is the whilst these disorders can affect the the autism spectrum has problems, at least tofounder and managing quality of life in children and adults, they are also some degree, in the following three areas:partner of Kanga’s very manageable and more widely recognised.Pouch Nursery in Qatar. Disorders like Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) Communicating verbally and non-verballyA teacher and busy and Asperger’s Syndrome (AS) are two such com-mum of two, she is pas- monly recognised disorders in young children. Relating to others and the world around themsionate about providingpositive nurturing envi- Just like in my previous two articles, I’m always Thinking and behaving flexiblyronments for children really pleased to say that awareness of theseto grow and develop. topics is so much greater than it was even as early There are different opinions among doctors,She began her Qatari as twenty years ago. Societies are more at ease to parents, and experts about what causes autismadventure in 2008 hav- offer recognition and support to families facing and how best to treat it. There is one fact, howev-ing taught in Australia developmental disorders. Children with low func- er, that everyone agrees on: early and intensivefor 5 years. Since being tioning forms of Autism can also enrol comforta- intervention helps. For children at risk andin Doha, Homayra has bly in main stream schools, as can children with children who show early signs, it can make all thetaught at nursery level ADHD. So, what are these disorders? And what do difference.for 18 months and a they mean?well-known British What does it mean to have ASD?school for almost 4 What is Autism Spectrumyears before establish- Disorder? Each child with autism is unique. Many of thoseing Kanga’s Pouch. on the autism spectrum have exceptional Autism is a spectrum of closely related disor- abilities in skills like maths, visual arts. About 40 ders with a shared core of symptoms. Autism percent have average to above average intellec- spectrum disorder appears in infancy and early tual abilities. Others with autism have significant childhood, causing delays in many basic areas of disability and are unable to live independently. development, such as learning to talk, play, and About one third of people with ASD are nonver- interact with others. bal but can learn to communicate using other means. For some, this means the development The signs and symptoms of autism vary widely, and delivery of more effective treatments that as do its effects. Some children with autism have can address significant challenges in communi- www.society.qa 35

cation and physical health. For others, it A child who can’t point or wave goodbye, someone is hurt yourself or experiencingmeans increasing acceptance, respect or use other gestures to communicate. discomfort.and support. In toddlers, there are some A child who struggles to make noises to getsigns to look out for which, if recognised, your attention. These symptoms are just some of manyare not a diagnosis on its own. However, and they do not define the spectrumthese symptoms should help parents rec- A child who can’t initiate or respond to alone. So, I cannot stress enough that anyognise the need to seek further support: cuddling or reach out to be picked up. one symptom does not mean a child will A child who struggles to imitate move- most likely be diagnosed with ASD.A child who struggles to make eye contact, ments and facial expressions.e.g. when being fed or being smiled at. Note that some children with autism A child who struggles socially – to play spectrum disorder start to developA child who doesn’t respond to his or her with other people or share interest and communication skills and then regress,name, or to the sound of a familiar voice. enjoyment. usually between 12 and 24 months. ForA child who can’t follow objects visually or example, a child who was communicat-follow gestures when things are pointed out. A child who doesn’t notice or react if ing with words such as “mummy” or “up”36 Society

may stop using language entirely, or a have differently in different situations and rological Disorders and Stroke (NINDS),child may stop playing social games he every individual has a range of strengths children with Asperger Syndrome findor she used to enjoy such as peek-a-boo, and challenges. it difficult to identify and express theirpatty cake, or waving “bye-bye.” Any loss feelings, just like those with high func-of speech, babbling, gestures, or social Asperger Syndrome (AS) tioning autism. They find it challenging toskills should be taken very seriously, as connect with others, often don’t hold eyeregression is a major red flag for autism. Asperger Syndrome and high functioning contact and have trouble reading other autism (HFA) are often referred to as the people’s faces and gestures. Many chil-High functioning and low same diagnosis. While they currently dren with AS flap their hands, a behav-functioning Autism exist as two separate diagnoses, there is iour often associated with classic autism; an ongoing debate about whether that is speak without much emotion (or havePeople with autism are often described necessary. It is possible that, in the future, otherwise unusual speech patterns),as being “high functioning” or “low func- they may be combined into one category. need to follow schedules rigidly, and aretioning.” But there is actually no such Individuals with high functioning autism intensely, even obsessively, interested indiagnoses in the diagnostic manual. In and Asperger’s have average or above av- one specific subject, so much that theygeneral, the terms are used by people erage intelligence but may struggle with become veritable experts in that field.who are not autistic. And they are used issues related to social interaction and They also exhibit sensitivities to variousto describe the degree to which some- communication. The diagnosis of either stimuli, from sounds to clothing to foodone on the spectrum is (or appears to High Functioning Autism or Asperger items.be) and how much support they need. Syndrome can oftentimes feel frustratingIn other words, autistic people who are to a parent and the child as it may seem Support for ASD and ASor appear to be closer to “normal” are that the terms are not clearly defined. It isconsidered to be high functioning and essential to remember that both AS and There are countless ways to support aless likely to require constant support. HFA do present themselves largely the child who falls into the Autism spectrum same way, and as a result may be treated or has Asperger syndrome. Based onHigh functioning people use spoken lan- in a similar way. The primary difference is the areas in which they struggle, thereguage to communicate. Low functioning that a diagnosis of HFA requires that, early are strategies that parents, teachers andpeople are more likely to use technology in development, the child had delayed practitioners can apply to support themor picture boards, and may have limited language whereas in AS, the child did better and help them function moreor no spoken language. not show a significant delay in language independently in society. Whether it development. is by using visual aids in classroomsHigh functioning people are more likely or comic strip conversations to teachto be able to manage the expectations of What does it mean to have social skills, offering weighted blanketsan academic setting and are usually more Asperger’s? for children who struggle to stay still oraware of social conventions. For example, using sand timers for an autistic child tothey are more likely to use tools and uten- Like other autism profiles, Asperger comprehend the start and finish times ofsils typically, greet others appropriately, etc. syndrome is a lifelong developmental dis- a particular activity, there are countless ability that affects how people perceive techniques and strategies available toLow functioning people generally look the world and interact with others. adults working with autistic childrenand sound very different from their typi- based on their particular need and areacal peers. In other words, their disability is People with Asperger syndrome see, hear of weakness.more visually and aurally obvious to the and feel the world differently to othercasual observer. High functioning people people. It is a lifelong condition and it is Applied Behavioural Analysis (ABA)are more likely to appear typical (until not an illness or disease and cannot be Therapy is often recommended forsome event or conversation makes their ‘cured’. Often people feel that Asperger children on the spectrum or with Asperg-autism more obvious). syndrome is a fundamental aspect of er’s. ABA is a scientific based learning their identity. program, which teaches a learner to learnLow functioning people are less likely to through repetition and reward. When abe included in typical classes or activities, People with Asperger syndrome are of behaviour is rewarded through praise,and are more likely to be in a “substan- average or above average intelligence. added attention or something tangible,tially separate” academic settings. High They do not usually have the learning the learner will associate that behaviourfunctioning people are more likely to be disabilities that many autistic people with something good, causing learner toincluded – with or without support – in have, but they may have specific learning want to repeat that learned behaviourgeneral classrooms and out-of-school difficulties. They have fewer problems more frequently. Speech therapy is oftenprograms. with speech but may still have difficul- recommended too along with physical ties with understanding and processing therapy in some cases. All these therapiesThese distinctions, however, are artificial language. are great for children that are closer to theand they are by no means absolute. That’s low functioning end of the spectrum.because autistic children and adults be- According to the National Institute of Neu- www.society.qa 37

FLAIR Connectingscope experts with expat and local parents Pregnancy is a When it comes to the birth clinics employ pediatricians, midwives, wonderful and of a child, all parents feel doulas, and maternal or pediatric nurses exciting time excitement, anticipation, to answer questions, allay fears and sup- in any woman’s trepidation, and every other emotion one port mothers through the first year with life, whether it can imagine, especially if it is their first the baby and help manage her expec- is planned or baby. At such a special time in a couple’s tations. There are not enough of these unexpected. journey, equipping them with relevant support platforms in Doha and, if they However, living information and resources is critical. In do exist at all, they are not well known. in a foreign Qatar, it is of particular relevance to the Babies don’t come with a manual, so country can vast expatriate population. Not only must parents really need information and be one of the these parents cope with the process and education. most stressful dynamics of the pregnancy, but they have times of your to do it in a foreign country. This means As part of its corporate social responsi- life, especially navigating a “new” health care system bility, Starfish Lane Kids, Doha’s biggest if you are far and searching for support (informational, nursery group, has taken the initiative from your medical, social, psychological, pre and of bringing experts in pregnancy and in- social support post-natal care) while dealing with vast fancy together at a one day Pregnancy & network cultural differences from their home Parenting workshop, to be held in March. country. Add to that the absence of family Starfish Lane Kids has brought onboard38 Society and trusted friends, familiar medical eight highly qualified professionals to networks and recognizable cultural prac- share their knowledge with expectant tices and resources, and many expectant and new parents. Starfish Lane CEO, mothers in Doha lack a sense of security. Kimberley Sheedy, explains, “Our goal is to connect the experts with the local and While Qatar has made huge strides in expat parenting community in Doha. We developing healthcare and wellness pro- hope to provide a platform of support, grams, many people feel there is a need maternal services and information to for more support as expectant parents help these parents as they raise their embark on the journey of pregnancy and infants in a foreign land, with all the parenting. In Western or European coun- inherent challenges and rewards.” tries, hospitals, community education centers, well-baby clinics and places of Guest speaker at the event, Dr Renu worship offer baby care classes covering Angwin, a UK trained consultant such basics as diapering, feeding, and paediatrician and neonatologist at The bathing a newborn. Specialized baby International Medical Centre in Duhail,

Dr Renu Angwin “Sadly, I believe many mothers don’t feel confident about their mothering skills, so they don’t relax and actually enjoy their babies. Being away from family and friends, and with husbands who work all day, makes it more challenging to raise babies in Doha”will present “Understanding the Science of your ‘stupid’, or thinking their concerns are trivial, so AkanshaBaby’s Sleep,” as this is a key survival skill for resort to posting their questions on social media Trigunayatparents of newborns. She believes that mothers forums. These forums are great for communityof young babies need greater access to accurate spirit or the sense that ‘we are all in the same “We are all motivatedpre- and post-natal information and support. boat’ despite our different backgrounds.” to help parents. But we are limitedDr Renu says, “Sadly, I believe many mothers Dr Renu adds, “Mothers in these groups can give in what we can dodon’t feel confident about their mothering skills, good advice based on their personal experienc- alone. If we areso they don’t relax and actually enjoy their es, but sometimes they can misinform others able to participatebabies. Being away from family and friends, and about best practice. Mums here need access in initiatives likewith husbands who work all day, makes it more to good information to prepare for childbirth, ‘Pregnancy andchallenging to raise babies in Doha”. Dr Renu breastfeeding and infant care to lessen anxiety Parenting’, whichcontinues, “In other countries, mothers would and build confidence. I am happy to be partic- work towards aseek parenting advice from other healthcare ipating in this Pregnancy & Parenting event to common goal ofprofessionals which are not readily available inform and provide advice to parents.” greater access andhere. In Qatar they may only have access to improved quality oftheir paediatrician. Some moms feel too shy to Carole McGuiness, Head of Early Intervention services across allask their doctor for advice, for fear of appearing at the Child Development Center (CDC) in Doha areas that impact health and education, it drives progress and growth at a far greater level” www.society.qa 39

will offer pertinent information to parents in Doha. Her goal is to connect with new regarding the expected developmental parents and hopefully empower them to milestones their child should achieve in have a more joyful journey into parent- their early years. hood and beyond.Amber Smith CDC Director of Operations, Akansha “In a high turnover place like Qatar with Trigunayat says, “This Pregnancy & so many different cultures and national-“I have grown up to understand Parenting initiative is a wonderful way ities working and living together, it’s verythat it is important to connect of bringing together an entire suite of easy to feel isolated and new parentswith the community. Volunteering services and information to help expect- tend to feel it the most. When I work withgives a deeper, more meaningful ing parents. In addition to supporting a a mother and I support her in buildingaddition to one’s life. Investing family’s learning process about their baby, herself together and feeling empoweredin your community just seems our area of work also focuses on identifi- and in control I feel an enormous sense ofto reap many benefits for all. It cation of any red flags parents must look satisfaction. My “why” is precisely to ignitemakes you feel good and you meet out for in the first twelve months in order Women’s Empowerment to change themany good friends along the way” to seek early intervention should any world and nothing helps more than doing discrepancies be observed.” so by supporting mothers.” says Anahi.Anahi Brown She believes we need a more honest and University of Calgary’s Amber Smith, Pae- open conversation around the realities“We need a more honest and open diatric nursing instructor with a Masters of parenting and family life, especially asconversation around the realities in Nursing, is a guest speaker at the work- expats. “We need more truth and supportof parenting and family life, shop. Her presentation will help parents platforms from a place of vulnerability.”especially as expats. And we need understand “why is my baby crying?”.more truth and support platforms She says, “I have grown up to understand Akansha Trigunayat says, “We are allfrom a place of vulnerability” that it is important to connect with the motivated to help parents. But we are community. Volunteering gives a deeper, limited in what we can do alone. Generat-Kimberley Sheedy more meaningful addition to one’s life.” ing awareness, spreading knowledge and Amber believes it’s important to share her sharing information within the commu-“Whether you are expecting expertise with others. “As parents,” she nity is part of our mission at CDC. If weyour first baby, expecting again notes, “we all want to do better and give are able to participate in initiatives likeor expecting multiple babies, the best possible start to our children. I this, which work towards a common goalhaving knowledge will equip and believe when you know better, you do of greater access and improved qualityfacilitate your experience and better. This event is an opportunity to of services across all areas that impactgive you greater enjoyment of work with others around a shared interest health and education, it drives progressyour children” to help families be better informed so and growth at a far greater level. It is a they can make better decisions when it mammoth task to bring about reforms, 40 Society comes to childbearing and childrearing. policies and awareness. Working together Investing in your community just seems with our collaborators in the community to reap many benefits for all. It makes is one step in bringing about this change. you feel good and you meet many good Qatar has made tremendous progress friends along the way.” in establishing health and educational reforms. However, there is always more Anahi Brown, Holistic Wellness Coach, is work to be done!” the local coordinator in Qatar of a support group for mothers struggling with antena- Starfish Lane Kid’s Sheedy believes parent tal and postnatal depression called “Out education workshops provide an essential of the Blues.” This group has won several foundation for expectant parents and po- awards in the UAE for the work done to sitions new families for success. “Whether support mothers and families and help you are expecting a first baby, expecting them recover. In 2015, Anahi won an again or expecting multiple babies, having “Ooredoo Shero” award for her service knowledge will equip and facilitate your ex- to the community. Anahi jumped at the perience and give you greater enjoyment chance to speak at the Pregnancy & Par- of your children. We are very excited about enting workshop. She stated that events this non-profit event coming in March. We like these are needed in Doha as a way to are extremely grateful to the speakers and connect parents and practitioners and to to Pampers for their sponsorship, both create a supportive community that can without which this event would not have help families grow and develop happily been possible.”

FLAIR in lifeEczemaUCnhdielrdsthanodoindg Upto 20 per cent of all children suffer from By Dr Sunaina Hameed, MD, Dip.ABLS (USA) “the itch that rashes”. Eczema can be particularlyDr Sunaina Hameed, MD frustrating because thereis a consultant is no cure and multipledermatologist and writer triggers can set off thatbased in Bangalore, India. nasty itch. Here’s howTo know more about her, parents can cope with it invisit: www.drsunaina.com the best wayEczema is a broad term that encompasses a wide range of skin rashes that leave the skin red, itchy and irritated. In the early stages,there may be tiny fluid-filled blisters which leavethe rash moist and oozy. As the days progress andthe rash is left untreated, the moist red skin turnspink and scaly. As the child continues to itch andscratch for weeks or months, the skin starts to turnthick and dark like the bark of a tree. www.society.qa 41

Who develops Eczema? that itches. An itch leads to scratching. Food allergens have also found to play a Scratching leads to the appearance of role. Dairy, poultry, gluten, seafood, soyAbout 65 per cent of kids with Eczema rash. The rashes make the skin itchier. and nuts are amongst the most commonhave developed the problem by age 1, and This leads to the vicious itch-scratch-itch culprits. Staying away from the offending90 per cent of kids affected by Eczema cycle. food can keep the itch under control.develop the symptoms before their 5th However, parents may find it hard to iden-birthday. Potentially everything under the sun, tify food allergies if the child is allergic to including the sun, can cause your child’s multiple food items, or itchy on a daily ba-What does Eczema look skin to itch! Dryness of the skin in winter sis due to other irritants like soap or fabric.like? can lead to itching. Prickly heat in sum- mer can lead to itching. These children Your child’s skin might also be sensitive toIn infancy, Eczema appears as red dry are particularly sensitive to mosquito dust, pollen, mold, animal hair and smokescaly rash on the head, scalp, neck and bites, artificial jewellery and fragranced (from tobacco or burning wood).diaper area, with perhaps a few scattered cosmetics/toiletries. Some of these chil-rashes over the back or abdomen. As the dren may be sensitive to their own sweat, Stress and emotional distress do notchild grows and begins to crawl, the rash- and excessive sweating itself can lead to cause Eczema, but can definitely worsenes begin appearing over the forearms and itching and rash. Rough clothing like wool it. A caretaker (like a beloved grandpar-shins. During the toddler and pre-teenyears, the rash is generally worst In children with severe ent) moving away, first day aton the body folds - like the inside Eczema, blood allergy school, a strict parent/teacher orof the elbows, the armpits and the testing can help in exam woes – parents will notice aback of the knees. In severe cases, identifying allergy to link between emotional distressthe rash may spread to involve dust, pollen, animal and itch. Older children mightlarge parts of the body. During the hair or food. The test even itch to seek attention.teen years, most children begin to is highly sensitive andoutgrow their Eczema. However, can help parents take Is Eczema asome may continue to have flare care of their child by modern-day disease?ups during winters or periods of avoiding or eliminatingemotional distress. Some may the offending allergen Eczemas have always existed butcontinue to have dry itchy rashes modernization has definitely ledon their hands for several years, and denim can irritate the skin. Clothes to an increase in all kinds of allergy.along with a general tendency for washed in harsh laundry detergent can Breastfeeding has been found toskin sensitivity. also irritate the skin. protect children from Eczema. Over-sanitization, indiscriminateWhat puts my child Children with Eczema are particularly use of vaccines and antibiotics,at higher risk for prone to developing skin infections. This is and living in air-conditioned andEczema? because healthy skin forms a natural barri- carpeted homes and offices have er against the entry of germs and infection. played a role in the increasingEczema often runs in the family. “Atopy” is But eczematous skin is weak and broken incidence of allergies.a condition of increased risk for skin, res- and cannot resist pathogenic invasion. Cer-piratory and eye allergies. Most kids with tain skin infections like herpes, fungal rash Playing in the mud, having a pet from aEczema come from families with “atopic and Scabies are naturally itchy. The itching young age, and the occasional intestinalindividuals”. This means, people in this induced by these infections can also flare worm infestation can help in maturingfamily have a tendency for Eczema, Asth- up your child’s Eczema. your child’s immune system.ma, Hay Fever and allergic eye itching. Infact, a lot of kids who suffer from Eczema Are there supplements ormay also have Asthma or Hay Fever. herbs that can help?What triggers Eczema? If your child suffers from dry skin, then oral intake of omega-3 and omega-6 fattyThe main problem with this condition is acids can help. Dietary sources includeitching. This is why Eczema is known as oily fish like cod, egg yolk, olives, almonds,the “itch that rashes” rather than the rash walnuts, tofu and flaxseed.Some studies have found Vitamin D supplementation to be helpful in combating Eczema. Probiotics have also been prescribed withsome benefit. Increasing fish and probiotic intake during pregnancy can protect your child from Eczema. Probiotics can be found infermented food like yoghurt, yeast and sauerkraut. Lactobacillus rhamnosus and Bifidobacteria are most commonly prescribed inAtopic children. Indiscriminate use of probiotics however could leave to bowel dysregulation.42 Society

Are there any tests to diagnose Eczema? 2 Repeat Open Application TestThere are some basic tests which parents can do from home If your child is allergic to various soaps or moisturizers, this is a useful test to carry out before trying any new1 Elimination diet tests cosmetic. Apply the said cream or toiletry, twice a day Eliminating one food item/group from the diet. For to the inner elbow for a week. If your child develops instance, dairy or poultry. It is recommended to redness, rash or itch, he is most likely allergic to the eliminate the said food item for at least a week to said product. interpret the results. If the itching subsides, it indicates a possible allergy to that particular food item.Consult your Dermatologist or Allergologist regarding clinical blood tests (like the RAST test) or skin tests, namely ‘Prick Testing’ and‘Patch Testing’. Your doctor will choose the test depending upon your child’s history and symptoms.How can I manage my child crawl or sit on carpets and rugs. 11 Dust and pollen is all around us. Ifchild’s Eczema? your child has tested positive for 05 Use fragrance-free liquid detergents dust or pollen allergy, then consultProtect your child from anything that to wash your child’s clothes and bed an Allergologist for advice on howmakes her itch. Skin care and clothing linen. Make sure to rinse off the de- to reduce dust and pollen in yourcare is the first step towards this goal, and tergent thoroughly before use. Using environment. Simple measures likeshould be treated as a lifestyle modifica- an unscented fabric softener can be dust-mite pillow covers, vacuuming,tion rather than a temporary fix. helpful. air filters and humidifiers can help.01 Bathe your child not more than once 06 Wet wraps are helpful in soothing 12 Avoid hand sanitizers. Let your child a day with lukewarm water. Give him/ itchy skin and can help seal-in the carry Cetaphil cleansing lotion to her a quick bath with a mild soap-free moisture after applying emollients. school instead. Most schools now cleanser like Cetaphil cleansing lo- avoid carpets and soft toys as a lot tion. Prefer Syndets over Soaps. Avoid 07 Keep your child’s nails short and of kids suffer from Eczema and res- bubble baths , fragranced toiletries, filed. Put mittens on while your child piratory allergies. Inform your child’s massage oils and long showers. Di- sleeps, to prevent him from scratch- teachers about any food allergies. luted bleach baths are very helpful if ing. Leave some emergency cortisone your child suffers from repeated skin cream or Cetrizine syrup with the infections secondary to the Eczema. 08 Saliva is a known cause of Eczema school nurse. Pat dry after a bath. Vigorous rubbing around the mouth. Avoid using wet can trigger the itch. wipes. If your baby tends to drool, 13 If your child needs sunscreen, select use petroleum jelly on your baby’s a plain Zinc Oxide based sunscreen02 Use bland moisturizing creams all over cheeks and chin before meal time which is hypoallergenic. the body within minutes of towel-dry- and nap time. ing. It may take some trial-and-error to 14 Good sleep can help soothing the find the right emollient. Creams work 09 Skip “herbal” remedies like neem oil, symptoms of Eczema. However better than lotions. Seek your dermatol- eucalyptus oil and other essential chronic and severe itching can ruin ogist’s opinion on brands. oils like lavender or chamomile. Kids your child’s sleep. Sedative antihis- with Eczema cannot tolerate several tamines like Cetrizine are helpful in03 Protect your child from insect bites. herbal formulations. providing itch relief and a good night’s sleep. Eczema has been associated04 Keep your child’s skin well covered 10 Treat skin infections promptly with- with co-morbidities like depression, with soft garments. Avoid wool, silks out resorting to over-enthusiastic use attention deficit hyperactivity disor- and denim. Avoid fabrics that leech of oral antibiotics. Prolonged itching der, epilepsy and heart disease. These colour. Pre-wash all new clothes and from Scabies or a fungal infection can may be caused by accumulated lack bed linen before use. Do not let your lead to secondary Eczema. of sleep over the years www.society.qa 43

The neo-traditional Being a full- time working FLAIR woman can lead to feelings ofmarriagerelationship guilt and stress because ofOver the past decade the classical ical correctness is rarely applied when divided attention gender roles which see men it comes to our endless duties, and the between work and as breadwinner and women equal sharing of tasks is more of a fantasy. family. The key isas homemakers have been challenged. Additionally, we have to endure the emo- to focus on a plan,Women have taken far more responsi- tional weight of the relationship. get organized,bilities in their professions, embracing and find the rightthe mantra of career women even if this Traditionally, women were bearing the balance betweencame at the expense of their private emotional weight of the relationship profession andlives. Indeed women worked even in the and this hasn’t changed much over the parenthood,1950s and 1960s but back then, with the years. It is still expected that we open the Adina- Lauraexception of some trailblazers, women dialogue in uncomfortable situations, Achim writesrespected an unspoken code which pri- solve emotional issues, understand theoritized family at the expense of personal unspoken needs of our partner and success that these women have; none-ambitions. assume the entire emotional labor as our theless, once married, some of these own obligation. women scale down their ambitionsThe shift in gender roles has brought and retreat to the homemaker role. Thewith it challenges and outcomes widely All these endless tasks are required to be “power couple” is replaced with some-debated, and while most agree that there pursued with enthusiasm and energy, as thing which reminds us of the 1950sare significant benefits associated with modern women don’t enjoy the luxury traditional model, where the female ismodern marriage, some wonder if gen- of meltdowns. Yes, working women still barely a support to male ambitions.der-specific roles aren’t today altogether do housework while looking composed The details of this arrangement areoutdated and discourteous. and glamorous, as society expects us different from the 1950s model as the to be the walking image of modern woman is educated and professionallyIn our home, my husband is the main womanhood. established. Unlike the baby boomersbreadwinner but that doesn’t imply that The increased number of duties generation when women settled intoI’m satisfied with being placed in the have brought a different altera- a traditional role due to cultural normshomemaker category. My career still tion, which can be interpreted and skill shortage, these young womenremains a top priority and I don’t see as a return to more tradition-myself settling into a “housewife” position al values. The developedany time soon (or ever); nevertheless, this world is faced with thedoesn’t imply that I’m excused from the challenge of losing welltraditional domestic duties. educated, highly-skilled women to traditionalAs most women know, the fact that we’ve roles.been empowered to have a career andpursue our passions doesn’t imply dis- Well-bred, collegemissing our domestic duties. Women are educated womenstill expected to take care of household are more likely toresponsibilities and the child’s education. wed powerful maleUnfortunately, the unspoken rule that partners, who aresees women as caretakers, cleaners, partly attractedmothers, chefs or psychologists to their to the personalhusbands is still very well in place. Polit- and professional44 Society

grew up in a world where gender equality step towards defining a neo-traditional does the laundry, occasionally evenbecame more than a stretched concept marriage. A full return to a 1950s tradi- cooks- basically, he’s of great support andsketched on paper. tional model is impossible even thanks this assures our marital success despite to our new set of freedoms but that of the dual-career model and the householdBalancing a successful career and the course doesn’t imply that the number of duties. We don’t have a clear delimita-traditional household responsibilities is a high-power women who decide to leave tion of tasks, nonetheless that doesn’tchallenge. While the process is still man- their careers will decrease too soon. Bal- imply that one of us is more challengedageable when the family comprises only ancing work and family won’t get easier or “abused” than the other. If there’s onetwo people, as soon as children arrive, the in our fast-paced world and our tasks aspect that I’ve learned in our shortlogic is challenged even by some modern won’t decrease miraculously overnight, marriage is that his ongoing support (andfeminists. In many cases, children are consequently, men are required to pick love) are essential for the success of ourthe ones tipping the balance and pulling up the slack and embrace a more active marriage and I couldn’t be more thankfulwomen back, towards traditional roles. role when it comes to household chores. for having someone as mature and loving My husband is exceptionally helpful and as he is by my sideUnderstanding that there’s no universal his participation in household activitiesmodel which fits every mould is the first is remarkable. He does grocery shopping, www.society.qa 45

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