SDA Kinship - CONNECTION - January 2013

The Newsletter of Seventh-day Adventist Kinship International, Inc. Vol. 37, No. 1, January 2013 C C Ca a an n n Y Y Yo o ou u u A A Af f ff f fo o or r rd d d t t to o o B B Be e e U U Un n nf f fo o or r rg g gi i iv v vi i in n ng g g? ? ?     Remembering our friends

c o n n e c t i o n KINSHIP BOARD OF DIRECTORS South Africa: Pierre Matthee & Johann Lubbe, President: Yolanda Elliott [email protected] Vice President: Naveen Jonathan Uganda: Joseph Brown, Treasurer: Brian Durham [email protected] Secretary: Ruben López Venezuela: Carlos Pajuelo, Director of Church Relations: Dave Ferguson [email protected] Director of Women’s Interests: Karen Wetherell Director of Communications: Ashish David OTHER COORDINATORS Director of Youth Interests: Ronoldo Appleton Transgender/Intersex: Twid Widmer, Director of Diversity: (to be determined) [email protected] / [email protected] Directors-at-Large: Ruud Kieboom (Europe) Older Adults: Ren Reynolds, Sharlett Reinke (Parents, Family and Friends) [email protected] Keisha McKenzie (Development) European Young Adults Under 30: Membership Services: Member Services Team Itamar Ahsman, [email protected] Webmaster: Linda Wright, COMMITTEE CHAIRS [email protected] Executive Committee: Yolanda Elliott Finance Committee: Sherri Babcock CHAPLAIN Kampmeeting Committee: Fred Casey & Twid Widmer Marcos Apolonio, [email protected] Communications Committee: Ashish David Governance Committee: Ruben López WHO WE ARE... Int’l Growth and Development Committee: Floyd Pönitz Seventh-day Adventist Kinship International, Inc. is a non- Diversity Committee: (to be determined) profit support organization. We minister to the spiritual, Nominating Committee: (to be determined) emotional, social, and physical well-being of current and former Seventh-day Adventists who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, REGIONAL COORDINATORS‚ USA transgender, and intersex individuals and their families and Region 1 (ME, NH, VT, MA, RI, CT, NY, PA, NJ): David Thaxton, friends. Kinship facilitates and promotes the understanding and Catherine Taylor, [email protected] affirmation of LGBTI Adventists among themselves and within Region 2 (MD, VA, WV, NC, DE, DC): Yolanda Elliott, the Seventh-day Adventist community through education, [email protected] advocacy, and reconciliation. Kinship is a global organization Region 3 (TN, AL, MS, GA, SC, FL): (available) which supports the advance of human rights for all people [email protected] Region 4 (MN, IA, MO, WI, MI, IL, IN, OH, KY): Claire Sommers, worldwide. [email protected] Founded in 1976 the organization was incorporated in 1981 Region 5 (AR, KS, LA, OK, TX): Floyd Pönitz, and is recognized as a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization in the [email protected] United States. Kinship has a board made up of thirteen officers. Region 6 (ND, SD, NE, WY, UT, CO, NM): (available) There are also regional and population coordinators in specific [email protected] areas. The current list of members and friends includes approxi- Region 7 (AK, WA, OR, ID, MT): Stephanie Spencer, mately 1,550 people in more than forty-three countries. [email protected] Seventh-day Adventist Kinship believes the Bible does not Region 8 (NV, HI, CA zip 93600+): Obed Vazquez-Ortiz, condemn or even mention homosexuality as a sexual [email protected] orientation. Ellen G. White does not parallel any of the Bible Region 9 (AZ, CA zip 93599-): Ruben López, texts that are used to condemn homosexuals. Most of the [email protected] anguish imposed upon God’s children who grow up as LGBTI has its roots in the misunderstanding of what the Bible says. INTERNATIONAL COORDINATORS Asia: Adam Lee, SUPPORT KINSHIP [email protected] Seventh-day Adventist Kinship operates primarily on Australia & New Zealand: contributions from its members and friends. Help us reach out to [email protected] more LGBTI Adventists by making a tax-deductible donation to Brazil: Itamar Matos de Souza, Seventh-day Adventist Kinship International. Please send your [email protected] check or money order to the address below or donate securely Canada (east): Jerry McKay, [email protected] online at sdakinship.org. (You can also donate using your Visa Canada (west): Judy Coates, or MasterCard by contacting [email protected]. You will [email protected] be phoned so that you can give your credit card information in a Central & South America: safe manner.) [email protected] Europe: Ruud Kieboom, [email protected] Kenya: Rena Otieno, [email protected] The Netherlands: Ruud Kieboom, PO Box 69, Tillamook, OR 97141, USA [email protected] or visit Kinship’s website at: www.sdakinship.org. 2

c o n n e c t i o n F F Fr r ro o om m m Editor’s note: December was a particularly busy month for t t th h he e e E E Ed d di i it t to o or r r Kinship. We got many articles that we want you to have a chance to read. Some of them did not make it into the last issue. We're glad you I've been thinking a lot about Goshen can have access to them now. these days. I am not ruminating about Goshen, Massachusetts, sitting delicately on one of the hills introducing us to the Berkshire Moun- tains; nor the school district in New York or the town just south of Benton Harbor, near Elkhart, Indiana. I am thinking of the original Goshen, tucked into the green pastures of the Nile Valley; a sanctuary for Se- mitic shepherds and neighbor to a series of the most famous plagues of the ancient world. It's not that Goshen escaped all the plagues. They had to put up with the bloody Nile, teeming frogs, dusty gnats, and swarming flies. From what I read of the Biblical text their infestation stopped there. He- brew livestock survived. Hebrew skin did not have to recover from boils. Hebrew land appears to have avoided hail that was “the worst storm since Egypt became a nation.” Hebrew grains do not seem to have been touched by locusts. Hebrew firstborn chil- dren survived. (Any of you who read this differently than I are most welcome to write and tell me.) In the midst of unthinkable calamity Goshen became a place of safely and light. I think there are some lessons Kampmeeting 2013 there for us. Few of us have lived our lives without some “plagues.” We have experienced the normal vicissi- Save the Date! tudes of difficult parents, frustrating education, moves that take us away from our friends, deaths The U.S. Kinship Kampmeeting 2013 is scheduled that steal people close to our heart. Many of us have for July 2-7, 2013, at the Asilomar Conference Center also endured the plague of injustice, bigotry, hazing, in Pacific Grove, California. You won’t want to miss the harassment, job or housing loss - all because we have opportunity to vacation and fellowship on the beautiful a race or orientation not accepted by our family or Pacific Coast, so start planning now by blocking this community, or because we are allies of marginalized week off on your 2013 calendar. people. Kampmeeting is a time for Kinship members to cele- I think it is these very experiences that allow us to brate and embrace other members from a broad range understand the value of a Goshen, a place of safety of spiritual and social experiences. If you haven’t yet and light, and give us the opportunity to build the attended a Kampmeeting, 2013 will be a good year to skills to create Goshens for others. We need to learn discover Kinship through our biggest annual event. If to be just when it is not easy, fair as we cry out you have been to a Kampmeeting in the past, you al- against bigotry, gentle when dealing with wounded ready know what a diverse and fulfilling experience souls, honest when it would be easy to dissemble, Kampmeeting can be—music, friends, family, network- and welcoming even to those we may not understand. ing, sharing, absorbing, laughter, fun, learning, grow- We need to strengthen our courage and patience. ing, celebrating, and oh, did I mention music! —it’s all Every single one of us knows people who need a found at Kampmeeting! Goshen. Every single one of us has the opportunity to Watch for pricing and travel information. And re- make the space around us a safe place. I think our member, Women and Children First weekend will pre- experiences call out for us to do so. And here is the cede Kampmeeting. last lesson: if we are to create safe zones for others Fred Casey and Twid Widmer, Co-coordinators we need to build them for ourselves. And this is why I always say, take good care of yourself, for you are It's never the end of the world. infinitely valuable. It's already tomorrow in Australia. C C Ca a at t th h he e er r ri i in n ne e e -Charles M. Schultz 3

c o n n e c t i o n Remembering our friends (in December) Rolf Each year since 1988, December 1 has been observed as World AIDS Day. As an organization, SDA Kin- ship did not host events, but several individual members spent some time that day and through the month sharing links and reflections on HIV and AIDS, remembering friends who had passed away from AIDS-related illnesses, or explaining what being sero-positive has meant for their lives. Here are some stories from these members. “I shook United States Air Force service record. Matlovich’s tomb- Navy, had a great tenor voice, and Sergeant Leonard Matlovich's hand stone in the Congressional Ceme- was very kind to people. He had a at the MCC in Washington DC in the tery, Washington DC, doesn’t in- magnetic personality, was a body late 1970s. He was the first openly clude his name but does bear the builder, played football, was always gay person to appear on the cover inscription: “When I was in the a smart, fashionable dresser… He of a major news magazine. He died military, they gave me a medal for had many, many girlfriends. They of AIDS during the height of the epi- killing two men, and a discharge for felt at ease with him because there demic in 1986 at the age of 44 as loving one.” The tombstone is a were no sexual expectations. so many of our early heroes did and memorial for all LGBT veterans. “Seventh-day Adventist pastors so many of our early Kinship mem- “I am in a deep, reflective mood preached, when Rolf was dying, that bers. I cried for ten years from because I am thinking about the God sent AIDS to wipe out gay men, 1982-1992 watching 350 young 106 young men that I personally like He did with Sodom and Gomor- men I knew leave this world.” knew who died of AIDS from 1983- rah. All the Seventh-day Adventist —R. Londis 1996. Church members must have be- Sgt. Matlovich served in the Unit- “The picture is my friend Rolf. He lieved these lies and accepted these ed States Air Force during the Viet- was the first Seventh-day Adventist prejudices, because nobody stood nam War and fought to stay in the person in Victoria, Australia, to die up to advocate for Rolf and his fam- military after he came out as gay in of AIDS in 1984. Rolf was a beauti- ily—not one Adventist Christian… 1974. He was discharged the follow- ful person all-round: intelligent, he Only one other disfellowshipped gay ing year despite having a flawless had been a chef in the Australian Adventist man and his friends cared 4

c o n n e c t i o n 3) for Rolf tenderly, lovingly, as Christ act differently, to act with compas- trials. We keep up the hope for a would have. The early Kinship mem- sion, to defy the expected norms at medical solution, and in the bers all became AIDS buddies be- the time. Pastor Torres also attend- meantime support each other in cause we all knew darn well that no ed Kampmeeting in 1984 and it was other ways. love or support could be expected a 'wow' experience on so many lev- “Yesterday at a potluck at an HIV from the Church at the time. Rolf els. We taped his sessions and oth- housing project, some were sitting died peacefully, aged 24. ers at that Kampmeeting...(cassette around talking to some of the new “The gay community drew to- tapes, which I still have) and the residents. Two were telling the oth- gether, an amazing army of love messages were for their time, but ers what the housing project looked and practical help, and in total soli- still so relevant. He was hurting like 15 years ago compared to how darity we were fighting for our very also. So many deaths and we did nice it is now. Then they began survival. For 20 years, we acted up, not know how to mourn the devas- naming names, like one does at a fought for affordable drugs, top tation. It was hard then, and still high school reunion, of those who quality medical treatment, made difficult today to think of our lost.” they knew that had died. It was lists of gay-friendly doctors and —O. Vasquez kind of sad. Some of the ones who hospitals, organised the AIDS buddy “Pastor Torres was the minister died I have known over the past six system, and even had bakeries and at my church, Garden Grove...and years of association through the kitchens to ensure only the best for every week he preached grace. Episcopal Church. The housing proj- people living with AIDS. Christ More importantly, he lives grace, ect is one of the church’s communi- would have been very proud of the calling the church to live in grace. ty service projects.” gay community then. He would He has stood against the church —S. Marlow most definitely have been extremely leadership, because he saw each ashamed of His remnant church. person, gay or straight, as a child of As Kinship’s Communications “I had just returned from the God, adopted thru Christ for love Director, Ashish David pointed out 1983 SDA Kinship Kampmeeting in and compassion. I'm so grateful to that the Adventist Disaster Relief San Diego County, California. It was have learned from him. I'm new to Agency (ADRA) also commemorates at that Kampmeeting that I first Kinship and appreciate you sharing World AIDS Day each year and heard of the dreaded “gay disease” about our history in the '80s and hosts some informational resources (it had no name yet) and the notion ‘90s. We must not forget...” on its website, including a poster, a 4) of practicing safe sex. This might —S.S. video, and bulletin inserts. Every have saved my life. World AIDS Day 2012 was ob- opportunity to raise awareness and “Things have changed a lot in the served under the slogan “Getting to help to support people affected by Seventh-day Adventist Church over zero: zero new HIV infections, zero HIV or AIDS is valuable. We’re all the decades, thanks to all the work discrimination, zero AIDS related family, regardless of our status. done by Kinship in advocating, deaths.” This is a high-stretch tar- As ADRA’s recommended pulpit teaching, and lisising; making a pre- get because there is still no vaccine announcement for December 1 said, sence; and rattling the gates! Kin- for this disease. In 2011, 2.5 million even if we are not doctors our- ship leaders have forged many al- people worldwide were newly infect- selves, there is plenty that any of us lies. An example of this is the mag- ed with HIV, and 34.2 million people can do to help: nificent movie Seventh-Gay Advent- were living with the virus, including “Together, we can bring aware- ists. Facebook and social media are about 2.5 million children younger ness by communicating the risks, powerful tools of communication, than 15 years old. In the United educating those around us on pre- 1) and I love the Kinship virtual com- States, men who sleep with men re- vention, and bringing an end to this munity. Thank you, thank you, Kin- present 61% of new infections, and deadly disease. I pray that you will ship. I love you all unconditionally.” more Black women are affected by start today.” —K. Paulusse HIV and AIDS than any other demo- —ADRA 2) Some members also remem- graphic. Around the world, hetero- If you are a Kinship member and bered ministers who’d grieved with sexual women are most likely to missed these and other conversa- them during that period: contract the virus. Despite these tions in December, send an email to “That kind of rejection prompted sobering figures, there have been [email protected] and ask to join Pastor Rudy Torres and others to reports this year of “promising re- the members-only Kinship Facebook sults” from ongoing vaccination group.  1) Christina Zaiback, “ADRA Joins Commemoration of World AIDS Day.” Retrieved on December 1, 2012, from http://news.adventist.org/en/archive/articles/2011/11/29/adra-joins-commemoration-of-world-aids-day 2) Center for American Progress, “HIV/AIDS Inequality: Structural Barriers to Prevention, Treatment, and Care in Communities of Color.” Retrieved on December 10, 2012, from http://www.americanprogress.org/wp-content/uploads/issues/2012/07/pdf/hiv_community_of_color.pdf 3) Matt Schafer, “HIV Vaccine Studies Show Promising Results.” Retrieved on November 23, 2012, from http://www.thegavoice.com/news/national-news/5490-hiv-vaccine-studies-show-promising-results 4) Adventist Disaster Relief Agency [ADRA]. Retrieved on December 10, 2012, from http://www.adra.org/site/PageNavigator/work/special/the_hiv_and_aids_crisis/aids_resources 5

c o n n e c t i o n Can You Afford to Be Unforgiving? ©Arlene R. Taylor PhD One of the secret causes of stress plaguing millions of people is unforgiveness. —Don Colbert, M.D. T he woman made her way slowly and painfully across my office and into a chair. Her name was Jaylee. Attractive, in her early forties, mahogany hair pulled back in a low ponytail, obviously in great discomfort. As she began her story, silent tears coursed down her face and fell onto hands clasped tightly in her lap, hands that were beginning to show signs of arthritic disfigurement. Several years before, Jaylee had returned home ear- ly from a meeting to discover her husband in bed with the babysitter. “I’ve tried to get over it,” she said. “We got a new bed and redecorated the room. We went to counseling. I’ve tried everything, I really have, but nothing has worked. Every time I look at him all I can see in my mind’s eye is the two of them in our bed amidst rumpled sheets. And to add insult to injury, a few weeks ago my doctor told me I had an autoimmune disease. I’m always in pain. Everything about my body aches.” “Have you tried changing the picture in your mind’s eye?” I asked. “Every time that old picture pops up, have you purposefully envisioned a new replacement picture?” She shook her head. “That psychological stuff doesn’t work with me.” I smiled. “It’s brain-function stuff.” She rolled her eyes and continued. “As I said, I have tried everything, but nothing has helped. Finally I told pas,” I said. him to move out.” “Faux pas!” Jaylee fairly screamed. “Are you kidding “And how is that working?” I asked. Silence and me? What he did was absolutely unforgivable. It ruined more tears. my life. Faux pas indeed!” “It appears that you are still sad,” I said. “It’s been I squelched a smile. My French heritage had bubbled five years since the incident. What are you still sad up before I’d had time to consider that blunder would about?” have been a more fortunate word choice. “You could In a nanosecond her entire demeanor changed. Her still forgive him,” I said. “It’s never too late. The person black eyes blazed fire and indignation. “What do you could have died, and you could still forgive.” think I’m sad about?” she shouted. “Are you a complete Some definitions for forgiveness focus on reducing moron? He ruined my life. That’s what I’m sad about!” unforgiveness. Many acts have the potential to reduce It also appeared that sadness was the least of it. For unforgiveness and are thus often confused with forgive- several minutes the woman raged about the injustice of ness. As one researcher put it, successful vengeance life. After all, she had been a good wife and mother and will eliminate unforgiveness, but no one would confuse didn’t deserve this. Repeat did not deserve this. Finally vengeance with forgiveness. she wound down, took a deep breath, and sighed. “Forgiveness does not mean that you deny the “Have you tried forgiving him?” I asked. other’s responsibility for injuring or hurting you, con- Shaking her head, Jaylee replied, “He asked me done bad behavior, minimize and justify the wrong, or many times to forgive him but it was all just too egre- excuse the act,” I explained. “And it certainly doesn’t gious. Now it’s too late. He remarried last month. Be- mean that you choose to reconcile or remain in an abu- sides, why should I forgive him? He doesn’t deserve to sive relationship or environment or that you waive your be forgiven.” right to justice and appropriate compensation.” Jaylee “None of us deserves to be forgiven for our faux sat motionless, glowering at me. 6

c o n n e c t i o n I explained that at least two types of forgiveness pop On the flip side, studies have revealed the power of up in the literature: decisional forgiveness and emotion- forgiveness which can include these benefits: al forgiveness. • Healthier relationships • Decisional forgiveness is a behavioral intention to • Greater mental, physical, spiritual health resist an unforgiving stance and to respond differently • Less anxiety, stress, and hostility toward a transgressor. • Lower blood pressure • Emotional forgiveness is the replacement of negative • Fewer symptoms of depression unforgiving emotions with positive other-oriented • Lower risk of alcohol/substance abuse emotions. Emotional forgiveness, which involves • Making room for compassion, kindness, and peace psychophysiological changes, has more direct health Unforgiveness may underlie many of the problems and well-being consequences. individuals grapple with in life. According to one cleric, Jaylee could begin with decisional forgiveness and, his belief at time of ordination was that about half of all hopefully, move on to emotional forgiveness. “The problems were due (at least in part) to unforgiveness. bottom line,” I said, “is that forgiveness and forgiving Ten years later, he estimated that at least three quar- appear to be crucial to healthy living.” As Doctors Ar- ters of all health, marital, family, and financial problems nold and Barry Fox put it, when you say “I forgive you,” stem from unforgiveness. After more than twenty years you’re also saying “I want to be healthy.” The act of in ministry, he concluded that over 90 percent of all forgiving allows the body to turn down the manufacture problems are rooted in issues related to unforgiveness. of catabolic chemicals, and instructs the subconscious n fact,” I explained, “it appears that the one who to banish negative feelings from the mind. “Forgiveness “I forgives tends to benefit more than the one who is has less to do with others,” I said, “and everything to forgiven. Who knew?” do with the forgiver. In this case, that would be you.” Jaylee would have none of it. Rising from the chair, Silence. she painfully made her way toward the door. “I’ll think “Think of it this way,” I continued. “Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself, a way to stop harboring des- about it and let you know,” were her parting words. Several days passed. The weekend came and went tructive feelings that sap health and happiness. A way of helping yourself to feel better. Forgiveness can im- and was followed by another. Then one morning the call light on my office phone was blinking. Picking up the re- prove your health. If you choose not to forgive, you will ceiver I dialed into voicemail. The words “I’ve decided” likely be the one who pays most dearly. I once heard it put this way: A person living in unforgiveness, all the came to my ear. “And I won’t do it,” the voice said. “I’ve decided I’ll die first!” while wishing that the other person would die, is the I replaced the receiver, regretfully. Jaylee probably one actually drinking the deadly poison. I know that would die first—a devastation that might have been you’re accustomed to holding a grudge, but there is another way.” avoided. Do you need to forgive yourself for something? Is A there anybody in your life you need to forgive? How ccording to internationally renowned cardiologist Herbert Benson, there is something called the phy- healthy do you want to be? siology of forgiveness. Being unable to forgive another Forgiveness is a choice, a gift you give yourself. person’s faults is harmful to your health. As recently as Choose it today!  a few years ago, it would have been difficult to find much information on the physiology of forgiveness. Few people realized that forgiveness research even existed. Although the field is admittedly new, it has grown expo- nentially over the past decade with more than 1,200 published studies (up from 58 as recently as 1997). Studies have shown that there is not just a psycholo- gy underlying forgiveness but a physiology as well. An inability or unwillingness to forgive has been linked with a variety of health hazards and negative consequences, including the following: • Increased stress levels and muscle tension • Increased blood pressure and heart rate • Increased levels of adrenaline and cortisol • Suppressed immune function • Increased risk for depression, heart disease, stroke, and cancer • Decreased neurological function and memory • Impaired relationships at home and at work 7

c o n n e c t i o n new endorsements page dents just wanted to discuss the D D ear friends, (http://www.sgamovie.com/endorse film. – The woman who said her ments). ear friends, The Babcocks, who are featured mother, a 'die-hard' Adventist who had a lot of trouble with her son W W hat a year 2012 gunpoint) after our two Benton Har- coming out but who came to a in the film and were mugged (at has been for the screening and talked about the film bor screenings near Andrews Uni- Seventh-Gay Advent- ists film and movement. Not only versity. Their grace and witness un- all the way home. In her words, 'It have you been part of the audiences der extreme pressure is an absolute was a huge gift to our family.' and incredible conversations, but testimony to the people they are! – The gay man, known in his your grassroots support is what's (See their account of the evening on community for his thoughtful activ- made this all possible. Thank you the next pages.) ism around this topic, who said he for believing in this project and this has felt a noticeably positive change vision as we continue to do screen- in the way he is received in local ings and move into the DVD produc- congregations since we had a large tion phase so you all can share the screening in his hometown. film in your communities. Here are – The young father who drove just a few highlights of this year as three hours with his wife and 2- we pause to appreciate what 2012 year-old to come to a screening (at has been: his wife's prompting, he admitted). This year there have been 42 He spoke up afterwards when a screenings at festivals, churches, non-Adventist asked if a film like theaters, and community spaces all this makes a difference when Ad- over the U.S. (and a few ventists see it. He described himself internationally as well) with over as a very conservative Adventist 8,000 people in attendance. And we who has always taken a 'love the S just got word of another film festival S tory after story from you all sinner, but hate the sin” approach. about the continuing impact of acceptance (this one in Melbourne the film and starting this conversa- He said that he was walking out of in March). the theater feeling much more open Almost every screening has been tion in your community and family. to gays in his church—he really beyond capacity with a wait list, A few favorites include: identified with one of the film sub- which just underscores what an ap- – The woman who said her mom jects and wouldn't want to be a bar- petite there is to have this conver- changed her mind and came to her rier to anyone's relationship with sation about faith, identity, belong- wedding after seeing the film. God or their faith. He thanked us ing, and what it means to be in a – The man who said he went to a and the film participants for getting church family together. As a com- Christmas concert with his family at him to wrestle with this topic. ment on our Facebook page recently church for the first time in years af- – The church leader who has to said, 'A beautiful, hopeful film. This ter seeing the film because seeing be a quiet supporter “inside the is a present opportunity to have a the film helped him believe that he building” due to his job who said he meaningful discussion about what it could be a person of faith still. felt like he knew God better after means to love each other in the Ad- – The LGBT students and allies watching the film. ventist denomination of Christiani- group on the Andrews campus who – The minister who described the ty.' hosted their own (well-attended) film and discussion as 'a mighty act Overwhelmingly positive feed- discussion after a hugely successful of justice' in the church community back to the screening and conversa- local screening to talk about how and pledged to keep the conversa- tion from a smaller crowd of 100 in they are navigating this intersection tion going. Keene to a huge crowd of 1,000 and of faith and identity in their lives. – This is how change happens, a standing ovation at the La Sierra – The professor at a major Ad- bit by bit, story by story. And it's University Church where we all ventist university who said the day not about all agreeing with each learned more about the sacred act after our screening in the area that other or pretending there aren't still of listening. Check out a selection of she had to scrap her lesson plans big questions to wrestle with. But it endorsements and feedback on our for the day because all of her stu- is about more grace, more compas- 8

c o n n e c t i o n sion, more just showing up to listen our film explores. We've found a committed to renting books for a to each other's hearts and witness second family with Kinship (and semester to save funds and contri- each other's spiritual journeys. their 'Kampmeetings' are the only buted the rest to the film. Then she Adventist camp meetings that Lily added, 'I'm sitting here feeling so F F or those of you looking for has ever been to). Please do sup- proud because I helped birth this film. I was part of this.' port their work (and all donations a worthy cause to give a year-end tax-deductible contribution are tax-deductible). I hope everyone of you, audience to, please know that we still need ** Church 1.0: For those of you member and contributor alike, know and appreciate your support both who have seen the film, you'll re- that you have been part of this sto- for continued screenings and as we member that the third act includes ry in a very profound way. Thank move into the DVD production the return to ministry by one of the you. It's been a very good year. phase. main film subjects after the wel- (http://www.sgamovie.com/donate) coming church he'd been attending W W e’ve got more screen- closed. Pastor Marcos has been ings in the new year e also want to highlight leading Church 1.0 (the name refers that we're looking forward to W W two other really great to early Christian churches that (Seattle on Feb. 9th, Hollywood on causes that could really use your were small and not institutionalized) Feb. 16th, San Diego on Feb 21st, generous support. Please: if every- for a year and three months now. Glendale on Feb. 23rd, and many one on this list just gave these two They are a small group and could more in the works). Watch the organizations $5, it would make a use some 'angel investing.' ;-) screenings page for details. tremendous difference! With much gratitude and good A woman who came to our last wishes for the new year, ** SDA Kinship International: Kin- screening of the year in NYC com- ship has been supporting and advo- mented during the discussion. She S St te ep ph he en n & & D Da an ne ee en n cating for LGBTI Adventists (current talked about how she had contri- and former) for more than 30 years. buted to the film early on even http://www.facebook.com/sgamovie They are entirely volunteer run, and though she was a full-time student http://www.sgamovie.com/donate offer vital support for Adventists and didn't have much money. She navigating exactly the issues that P.S. Please do check out the new endorsements page. Here are just a few new favorites: “This film is a ministering film. Having watched it cause of the way it engages with those of devout faith. four times now, at four locations, I am deeply im- Although it's set in the context of Seventh-day Advent- pressed each time by how, rather than creating conten- ism, anyone who has felt that their faith and sexuality tion, it creates an atmosphere of concern and a spirit of are in conflict will instantly get this film.' community in a way very like what we try to foster at —Sharon Groves, director, religion and faith program, our church…In small and large ways, this film, and the Human Rights Campaign sacred listening spaces that have accompanied its view- 'The film is just beautiful. My students didn't want to ing, bear tangible witness to the God of the outcast.” do anything but talk about the film in class today!' —Jared Wright, pastor, Azure Hills Seventh-day —Adventist university professor (the day after we had a Adventist Church screening in the area filled with local Adventist students 'WOW. What a beautiful film! Thanks to those fea- and faculty) tured in the film for being so vulnerable and real - it 'The film is superb--a poignant and profound expe- took great courage to tell your stories the way you did, rience beyond any I've seen on the subject.' and we were humbled and deeply touched by your wit- —Chris Blake, author and professor of English, Union ness. I can't imagine anyone seeing this and not being College profoundly moved by it. And thanks to La Sierra Univer- sity Church for being brave enough to host this event. 'Thank you for telling our story! I walked out of the It was an awesome, spirit-filled experience!' screening feeling respect and love in a way I've never —Lorelei Cress experienced before. The space you nurtured and protect could only be created by allies like you. Please keep up 'This is a beautiful and compelling film that speaks the good work! Your work has the potential to save for many within the Seventh-day Adventist and larger many lives, families, and communities.' Christian community. It has the potential to do much —Freddy Lee  good, particularly among religious conservatives be- 9

c o n n e c t i o n Mugging at Midnight By Fern Gibson Babcock This took place November 15, 2012. O closer about his neck and shivering obviously, he point- n a frosty Michigan night in November, George ed to the golden arches half a mile down the road. and I were in Benton Harbor, for the showing of the privately produced film Seventh-Gay Advent- guy. I just need a ride.” ists, a documentary highlighting the dilemma of gay When we hesitated he added, “Don’t worry. I’m a good and lesbian Seventh-day Adventists who love their I gave George a questioning look and he shrugged. church. Our daughter Sherri, whose family is featured Then I turned to Sherri in the seat behind me and said, in the film, drove up from Ohio for the screening and “Do you mind having this guy sitting by you?” panel discussion afterward and shared our hotel room. She shook her head. “No, he looks cold, and it’s just At the theater we found dozens of interested persons, a little ways.” So George told him to get in. as well as students and faculty from Andrews Universi- We left the lot and had gone only a block when our ty, eagerly awaiting the film. So many wanted to see hitchhiker exclaimed, “Oh, no! My bad! Take a left here. the film that the producers had to schedule a second Then a right at the stop sign. I can walk to the motel showing, and due to the after-film discussions the event from there—in front of Meijer.” ended after midnight. We headed out the door, leaving Confused, George asked, “Where? Where?” a faculty member, a couple of students, and the hus- “There’s a road in front of Meijer,” he replied, point- band-and-wife team who had spent over three years ing. “Right over there.” producing the compelling film—Stephen Eyer and Da- Obediently George drove to the road bordering neen Akers. Meijer’s deserted parking lot. We were all puzzled and George had parked our Highlander in a handicapped alarmed by then. Suddenly the man demanded, “Stop parking spot directly in front of the theater, and he and the car. Right here.” Sherri and I hurried to get out of the cold. Just as we George stopped. Without further ado, our passenger started up the car, a young man waving his hand ran pulled out a pistol, waved it around, and announced, toward us from the theater entrance. We stopped, “This is a holdup. I want your money.” thinking it was one of the Andrews’ students, and I turned in my seat so I could see him right behind George rolled down his window. George. “What?” I asked. “What do you want?” “I was here at the movie and my friends drove off “This is a holdup,” he said again. and left me,” he said. “Could you give me a ride just to Sherri put out her hand and patted his right arm that McDonalds over there? I’m staying at the Motel 6 since the gun in his left hand was now drilling into and can get there from McDonalds.” Pulling his scarf George’s left shoulder which rose above the car seat. 10

c o n n e c t i o n “Oh, no, no, no,” she never do it again,” he said. protested. “You’re not going “I’m having a hard time. My to do this. “ mother and my grandmoth- “This is a real holdup,” er died in the last 3 months, he insisted, “and this is a and I’ve got 3 kids to care real gun. I need your for. You look a lot like my money. You can get more, grandmother,” he said nod- but I can’t.” ding at me. (I hoped he Sherri kept patting his liked his grandmother!) arm and talking. “I under- I faced the mugger and stand that you have a real repeated my request. gun, and we will give you “Okay. As soon as you some money. But what’s get out of the car, I’ll give really going on in your life you the money.” that you have to go to this “No, you won’t,” he said. extent to get some money?” “You’ll drive off fast and leave me. You’ll call the cops This holdup wasn’t going at all as the young man had and they’ll catch me. Give me the money and I’ll get planned. We didn’t seem scared, we seemed to want to out, I promise. I could have taken your purse and wal- help him, and this young woman kept patting his arm. let, but I can see you’re good people. Just give me the Frantic, he began cussing loudly and pointing the gun at money and I’ll go and we’ll pretend this never hap- each of us in turn. pened.” I asked George for his wallet, extracted the three When he said he could take my purse, I got mad. 20s from it, and began talking to the gunman again. Exactly one week earlier my purse had been stolen from “How much do you need?” I asked. a cart in the Walmart parking lot, and I’d spent all week “$200!” he answered. trying to cancel cards and get replacements and a new “We don’t have that much,” I told him, “but here’s driver’s license! The idea of losing THIS purse was too $60. Now would you please get out of the car, and I’ll much! hand it to you?” I faced him with determined eyes. “YOU promise? He shook his head. “I need at least $20 more.” We can’t trust your promise! You have done nothing but “I don’t have that,” I said. “But here’s $60. Take it lie to us ever since before you got into our car. But I and go.” haven’t lied to you! I DO NOT LIE! Get out of the car. “Don’t be messing with me!” he snapped. “I have Here’s $20. My husband will hand you the other $40 your license number and I have friends in high places when you’re outside. See? He’s holding it out the win- and I can find out where you live and come after you. Is dow. Just go get it.” your money worth more than your life?” He looked confused. When he’d announced the hold- Sherri was still talking a blue streak.”You don’t want up, he’d pulled his scarf up over his face. When he was to do this. This isn’t the way to solve your problems… crying on Sherri’s shoulder, it was down. Now it was up You aren’t going to hurt us because this car is full of again. angels and God’s presence.” “Okay. I’ll get out.” He opened the door, the light He countered with, ”GET YOUR HANDS OFF ME!” went on, and he panicked. “Turn off the light! Turn off I looked him square in the face and said, “May I pray the light!” for you?” Sherri reached up and turned off the light. He paled and stammered, “What? What?” Again he opened the door and put one foot on the I persisted. “May I pray for you? I’m GOING to pray ground. for you. Bow your head.” “Okay. I’ve got one foot out. Now give me the I bowed mine and began to pray, asking God to help money.” this young man whatever his situation was. I have no I shook my head. “Not till you are all out and shut idea what I said, but it seemed like a lengthy prayer. the door.” As soon as I began to pray, the mugger took the gun “You’ll floor it and take off! You’ll call the cops!” from George’s shoulder—we don’t know if it went back I shook my head again and leaned forward. “You for- in his pocket or where— threw both arms around Sherri got. WE DON”T LIE! And we won’t call the cops. But and began sobbing on her shoulder. there’s one thing you’re going to have to watch out for. “This is unbelievable. I’m supposed to be in charge We turned you over to God tonight. He’s going to be here! I can’t believe this. What’s happening?” Sob, sob, after you until he catches you. He loves you and wants sob. you in heaven. He’s better than cops.” Sherri was patting his leg and whispering, “It’s okay. Leaning toward him as he half-exited the car, Sherri It’s okay. You’re going to be all right.” chimed in. When I said “Amen,” he sat up, wiped his eyes, and “Yeah, God’s going to do something in your life. spoke. Watch for it THIS WEEK. He’ll intervene in your life “This is only the second time I’ve done this, and I’ll somehow. You’re going to be all right.”  11

c o n n e c t i o n  He sighed, and leaped out of the car. form the theater manager that someone had been George held the money out the window at arm’s mugged, and he should request police protection for his length. patrons after midnight. He hesitated, shut the door, snatched the money and Back at the hotel, we read Psalm 91 and thanked then grabbed George’s hand and uncovered his face. God for guardian angels. In trying to process the whole “I’m sorry,” he blurted, “and I’ll try to make restitu- thing, we puzzled over why all three of us felt we tion somehow. I promise I won’t do this again. You’re should pick up this fellow—although it was 12:45 in the good people.” morning in a notoriously high-crime town. And with that, he turned and ran back up the access “I think God struck us stupid,” Sherri concluded. “He road—we think. None of us looked to see where he’d wanted to intervene in that young man’s life and pro- gone! We just drove off. tect the movie money. It’s kind of like the $60 he took W was insurance on the $980! If you’d told him no when e hadn’t gone two blocks before Sherri said, “Oh he asked for a ride, he’d either have pulled the gun on no! Daneen and Stephen might still be at the theater. He might get back there and hold them up— us then, or robbed Stephen and Daneen when they came out a few minutes later. They were young and fit and they have the offering from both showings in a big and more of a threat, and if he had overheard the popcorn bucket. I have to warn them!” She dialed amount of money they had the stakes would have been Daneen’s number. We had all been so calm during the higher, and they could have been hurt badly.” holdup, but now Sherri’s hand shook so hard she could “Two old people and a woman had looked like an barely hold the phone to her ear. To her relief, Daneen easy mark. He just hadn’t counted on a car full of an- reported that they were in the car on their way home. gels! As soon as he told us to turn away from Sherri told her what had just happened. McDonalds, I made a plan. I thought if he did anything “No!”Daneen exclaimed. “We came out of the theater strange, I’d throw out my left arm and karate chop him right after you. It’s a good thing he wasn’t standing across the face and follow it with a right punch. But there then because someone asked how much we’d got- when he said it was a holdup, God just filled me with ten in offerings, and a student called out, “$980! Isn’t love for the guy. We’d been talking all evening about that great?” After Stephen and I said good night, we God loving everyone, and I guess God gave me a made our way to the rental car which we’d parked on glimpse of what it’s like to look through His eyes.” the far edge of the lot in the dark. If that guy hadn’t Since then we’ve been praying for the young robber, gone with you, we’d have lost all the offering! I’m so asking God to turn his life around. We can hardly wait thankful you weren’t hurt. This is terrible! “ for heaven to hear the rest of the story.  True to our promise, we didn’t call the police. But the faculty member who had rented the viewing site did in- Memory of EKM-Holiday – September 2012 – Odenwald, Germany 12

c o n n e c t i o n New Year’s Resolutions from the Bible proved unto God, a worker who is can never hope to attain this side of not ashamed.” The Bible has been Heaven. so often used as a club that we can I resolve: forget the value and guidance it gives us. “All scripture is God- Find joy. Rejoice! breathed and is useful for teaching, Rejoice in hope. Rejoicing is get- rebuking, correcting, and training in ting up in the morning, looking out righteousness.” Keep reading and the window, and thanking God that By Naomi O’Grady you will find nuggets that make you you have another day to love your I resolve: say, ”Oh, I didn’t know that was in family, go to work, buy groceries, Worry less. the Bible.” I found in Nahum 1:3, see friends, and smile! A smile can The Sermon on the Mount calls “In whirlwind and in storm is His make a difference even to a stran- us to worry less about our life, what way, and clouds are the dust ger in the office or the store. We beneath His feet.” I think of that we will eat or drink, or about what cannot know why someone looks we will wear. The birds do not sow verse every time I fly. When we get sad or grumpy, but a smile can’t or reap or store up in barns, yet above the clouds, I like to think I help but bring some measure of God feeds them. You are ever so am at the feet of God. happiness to others. Rejoice in the much more valuable. The beauty of I resolve: good fortune of others. There is a lilies takes our breath away, but Don’t be judgmental. generosity in that act that can they are transitory. You are more change families and communities. valuable. The Lord gives strength to Matt.7:l, “Do not judge or you, I resolve: His people (Psalm 29:11). This too, will be judged. For in the same Take better care of my body. means you. God will keep us “in way you judge others you will be perfect peace whose hearts are fo- judged.” Deut. 32:36 says, “The I know, I know, this is one many cused on Him” (Isaiah 26, heavily Lord will judge His people and have of us commit to every year; it is a paraphrased). compassion on His servants when difficult one to keep. With the film He sees their strength is gone.” How Forks over Knives I learned how I resolve: many of us connect judgment with much difference a plant-based diet Show mercy. compassion? with proper preparation can make in There was a man who traveled Most of us like to express our all aspects of our health. It wouldn’t from Jerusalem to Jericho. He was opinions; hopefully, they are not the hurt any of us to strive for discipline robbed. He was beaten. You know same as judgments. Opinions are in our eating. Our body and our about using “I” statements. “I don’t the story. The priest didn’t stop. The spirit are God’s. He created us and Levite had more important things to like that shade of green.” It is my He redeemed us at a great cost. We opinion that black cars show dirt too do. A despised and marginalized should value that gift each day and Samaritan pulled his donkey over, easily. Should the government out- ask Him to restore in us the desire law black cars? No, it is only an risked his safety, spent his money, to serve him rightly with a healthy used his supplies, paid the inn keep- opinion. It doesn’t rise to the level body and a clear mind. er, and probably saved the life of a of judgment. We know that juries Jeremiah wrote, “‘I know the make fallible and sometimes fatal man who, in other circumstances, plans that I have for you,’ declares may have spit on him. Two thou- misjudgments. the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not The standards in the Bible are sand years later, the Good Samari- for calamity. I give you a future and tan Law reminds us to protect those there for us to measure ourselves, a hope. Then you will call upon Me not others. We cannot read who stop to save. Mercy, in this sto- and come and pray to Me. And I will ry, is a difficult calling. Will we show thoughts. We cannot know motive. listen to you. You will seek Me and We don’t know the makeup of an- mercy to those who might not do find Me when you search for Me the same? Mercy can be lifesaving. other. There are standards in the with all your heart.’” That is really Bible that we follow to guide our Mercy can be a cup of cold water. what these resolutions boil down to. Mercy can be a random act of kind- actions and set our moral compass. God has plans for us and they are ness. They are written for our edification hopeful. I resolve to find that hope. and as a means to continually  I resolve: measure ourselves. God’s judg- Naomi O'Grady is the pseudonym ments are made with a degree of for a woman church elder in the US. Study and pray. “Study to show yourself ap- kindness and compassion that we 13

c o n n e c t i o n Seventh-day Adventist Kinship International Responds to Ruguri Statement Dear Elder Wilson and Elder Caldwell: International Religious Liberty Association, but his re- cent statement does not express care for the many East-Central African Division President Pastor Blasious Ruguri recently made the following statement Adventist members in Uganda and Africa who aren’t heterosexual or respect for their religious liberty or hu- against Ugandan homosexuals at a public meeting at man rights. Through Pastor Ruguri’s statements and the Mbarara SDA Church, Southwestern Uganda Field: Adventist church’s continued membership in the Inter- “Our stand is ‘zero tolerance’ to this vice and to western influence on this crucial issue because God Religious Council of Uganda, the church is now justify- ing the prosecution, imprisonment, and potential exe- says no to it. We are together with the President and cution of Ugandan LGBT people and their families. the Speaker and we fully support the Anti-Homosexuali- As Adventists, and regardless of the church’s state- ty Bill. I call upon all religious ministers, all Ugandans, ments on human sexuality, we believe that the Sev- and all Africans to say no to Homosexuality. Let us enth-day Adventist church should never stand for the stand for our sovereignty as Ugandans and as God fear- violation of basic human rights. The recent End It Now 1) ing people even [though] the heavens fall .” campaign is just the latest example of our church’s Seventh-day Adventist Kinship International is ap- track record of standing against violence and abuse. Be- palled by the pastor’s use of Ellen White to appeal to cause of that track record, we do not accept that one of common anti-gay and xenophobic sentiment, especially the church’s top-ranking leaders can support legalized because of the hostile climate Ugandan politicians and violence against a minority group or use the pulpits and allied church leaders have been stoking across the authority of the worldwide church to do so. country. This fall, Ugandan lawmakers reintroduced the On its own website, the church affirms the United “Anti-Homosexuality Bill” first proposed in 2009. This Nations’ Universal Declaration of Human Rights and its law uses the force of the state to undermine the free- firm stand “for human dignity, liberty, equality, and dom of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender Ugan- non-discrimination of minorities .” The Seventh-day 3) dans, those “suspected” of being LGBT, their family Adventist church has an obligation to strongly and members, and any educators thought to be “promoting” clearly state that it does not support the rhetoric or lob- the equality of LGBT people. bying of anyone who has promoted putting the lives of We’re disappointed that the church’s discussion of compassion at Annual Council this October did not con- hundreds, if not thousands of members, in jeopardy. Our members in Uganda and other parts of the world strain the division leader as he spoke to the Mbarara now look to you to respond in a Christlike way to these congregation, regional politicians, and members of par- threats to their life, liberty, and security of person, giv- liament. Pastor Ruguri attended Annual Council this en Pastor Ruguri’s recent statements in the church’s year and so heard the church accepting its Christ-given name. responsibility to offer “caring ministry and words of solace” because “all people, regardless of their sexual Sincerely, 2) orientation, are loved by God .” Yolanda Elliott, President Pastor Ruguri is also a board member of the church’s Seventh-day Adventist Kinship International  1. Ellen White. (1952). Education, p. 57. | Fred Turyakira. (December 17, 2012). Uganda: Church Speaks Out on Anti- Homosexuality Bill. Retrieved December 18, 2012, from http://www.allafrica.com/stories/201212172222.html 2. Edwin Manuel Garcia / ANN. (October 17, 2012). Church’s view on gays, lesbians adjusted to emphasize “compassion.” Retrieved December 19, 2012, from http://news.adventist.org/archive/articles/2012/10/17/churchs- view-on-homosexuality-adjusted-to-include-compassion 3. General Conference Administrative Committee. (November 17, 1998). Statement on the 50th Anniversary of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. Retrieved December 19, 2012, from http://adventist.org/beliefs/statements/main-stat39.html Full text of UN Declaration: http://www.un.org/en/documents/udhr/ M Memories of Kampmeeting – Me e m mo or ri ie es s o of f K Ka am mp pm me ee et ti in ng g – – J J Ju u ul l ly y y 2 2 20 0 01 1 12 2 2 – – – L L Le e ee e es s sb b bu u ur r rg g g V V VA A A, , , U U US S SA A A 14

c o n n e c t i o n The Newsletter of Seventh-day Adventist T To o S Sl le ee ep p o or r N No ot t t to o S Sl le ee ep p Kinship International, Inc. In a new study, researchers found that people who don’t have regularly scheduled times for waking up, getting dressed, Editor : Catherine Taylor eating meals, and being active are more likely to have trouble Circulation : Floyd Pönitz falling asleep and staying asleep than those who do have a European Editor : Ruud Kieboom schedule. Not only does insomnia make you cranky, it also Photography : Karen Wetherell, Pearl increases your risk for weight gain, diabetes, heart disease, Pangkey, Ivan van Putten depression, and fuzzy thinking. Regular daylight exposure Production : Ruud Kieboom helps set your body clock. And just following a routine helps Proofing : Jacquie Hegarty, program your mind and body to know that when the lights go Floyd Pönitz, Carrol Grady out, it’s time to wind down. Yolanda Elliott But you don't have to give up your spontaneous zing to get Printing : Doolittle's PrintServe your ZZZs. Once you've set firm go-to-bed and get-up times (it’s okay to deviate by an hour on weekends or after an The Connection is published by Seventh-day occasional late night), go ahead and live large. Just skip sti- Adventist Kinship International, Inc. PO Box 69, mulants like exercise and caffeine anywhere near bedtime. Tillamook, OR 97141 USA. Submissions are Also, give your bedroom a no-stress makeover: Banish welcome and may be directed to the editor at computers, TVs (people without TVs in the bedroom have twice [email protected] or mailed to as much sex, which helps you sleep, too), stacks of bills, even the principal office address above. Include your the newspaper. Replace them with soft music and favorite name as you want it published along with your reading material. Outfit your bed in a cozy comforter and address and telephone number(s). soothing sheets and blankets, and then reserve it for sleep and If an item is to be acknowledged or returned, intimate fun. Who said hitting the hay was dull? please include a self-addressed stamped The meal you choose tonight could mean the difference envelope. Some Connection contributors have between counting sheep and getting some serious shut-eye. In chosen to remain anonymous or use pseudo- her new book, Eat Your Way to Happiness, Elizabeth Somer, nyms. RD, explains how nutrients in salmon, as well as in beans, The Connection reserves the right to edit manu- yogurt, and spinach, could help make you a more satisfied scripts for length, syntax, grammar, and clarity. sleeper. The healthy fats in salmon (namely docosahexaenoic The mention or appearance of any names, acid, or DHA for short) may boost levels of the sleep-regulating organizations, or photographs in this publication hormone melatonin. Beans and other legumes provide a nice is not meant to imply a fact or statement about sampling of B vitamins, including B6, B12, and folic acid, all of sexual orientation or activity. which help the body regulate sleep cycles and produce relaxing Subscription requests or address changes may serotonin. In fact, studies have shown that boosting B vitamins be sent to Subscriptions, PO Box 69, Tillamook, may help people with insomnia. Yogurt is a good source of calcium and magnesium—two important sleep-supporting OR 97141 USA or emailed to minerals that together help you fall asleep faster and ratchet [email protected]. up your deep-sleep time. And skimping on both may lead to Members may also update their contact infor- muscle cramps, higher stress levels, and worse sleep. mation online. The Kinship mailing list is confi- Dark leafy greens are a great source of iron—a nutrient that dential and used only by Kinship officers. The may help protect against the sleep robber known as restless mailing list is not sold, rented, or exchanged for any purpose. legs syndrome.  © 2013 Seventh-day Adventist Kinship International, Inc. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part without permission is prohibited. Opinions expressed herein are not necessarily those of Seventh-day Adventist Kinship Int’l, Inc. Member of the Gay and Lesbian Press Association. 15

c o n n e c t i o n M Memories of Kampmeeting – July 2012 – Leesburg VA, USA Me e m mo or ri ie es s o of f K Ka am mp pm me ee et ti in ng g – – J Ju ul ly y 2 20 01 12 2 – – L Le ee es sb bu ur rg g V VA A, , U US SA A 16