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Copyright, Legal Notice and Disclaimer:MAMA TOLD ME MY WEDDING D‘E““ “HOULDN T BE BLACK: Heali g You B oke Hea t i 0 Da s - 30Activities to do Post Your BreakupCopyright © 2013 by Thato Gaboitsiwe. All rights reserved.Author: Thato GaboitsiwePublisher: Lulu (http://lulu.com)ISBN: 978-1-304-65614-81. Post breakup activities - Relationships 2. Post Breakup Activities I. Title: Mama told me my weddingd ess should t e la k II. Thato Gaboitsiwe. Healing Your Broken Heart in 30 Days. 30 Activities to doPost Your Breakup. III. Title.Through the payment of the required fees, you have been granted the non-exclusive, non-transferable right to access and readthe contents of this Book. No part of this text may be reproduced, transmitted, downloaded, decompiled, reverse engineered,or stored in or introduced into any information storage and retrieval system, in any form or by any means, whether electronicor mechanical, now known or hereinafter invented, without the express written permission of the author.Simply said, please do not deprive the author and the publisher of the rewards they deserve. Much work and time has been putto i g ou this alua le i fo atio a d o let us e fai a d pa fo the se i e afte all, this is autho s li elihood.Download and use for what you paid for, if friends and/relatives want this book please advise them to purchase it. No purchase,no food for the author.The autho has used thei est effo ts i p epa i g this ook, a d the i fo atio p o ided he ei is p o ided as is. Theauthor and publisher make no representation or warranties with respect to the accuracy or completeness of the contents of thisbook and specifically disclaims any implied warranties of merchantability or fitness for any particular purpose and shall in noevent be liable for any loss of profit or any other commercial damage, including but not limited to special, incidental,consequential, or other damages.Trademarks: This book identifies product names and services known to be trademarks, registered trademarks, or service marksof their respective holders. They are used throughout this book in an editorial fashion only. In addition, terms suspected ofbeing trademarks, registered trademarks, or service marks have been appropriately capitalized, although the author cannotattest to the accuracy of this information. Use of a term in this book should not be regarded as affecting the validity of anytrademark, registered trademark, or service mark. The author is not associated with any product or vendor mentioned in thisbook.Mama told me that my wedding 2 dress shouldn't be black

CONTENTS Dedications 5 Acknowledgement 6 1 Intro 2 On your marks…Day 1 Action: Have your BFF over and Cry, cry, cry 14Day 2 Action: Be by Yourself 15Day 3 Action: Clean Up & Apply the No Contact Rule 16Day 4 Action: Redecorate your House/Apartment 18Day 5 Action: Keep a Journal 19Day 6 Action: Gi ls Night Out 0Day 7 Action: Shake off Toxic Relationships 21Day 8 Action: Have a Pep Talk with the Guy Next Door 22Day 9 Action: Spice up Your Style 23Day 10 Action: Recharge 24 3 Get set…Day 11 Action: Join the Local Gym 26Day 12 Action: Start a Fashion Tips Swop Shop 27Day 13 Action: Go for Cancer Screening 28Day 14 Action: Go Green 29Day 15 Action: Go for Professional Makeup Lessons 30Day 16 Action: Challenge Yourself 31Day 17 Action: Read a book 32Day 18 Action: Adopt-A-Pet 33Day 19 Action: Take a Short Road Trip 34Day 20 Action: Volunteer 35 Mama told me that my wedding 3 dress shouldn't be black

CONTENTS 4 Ready…Day 21 Action: Test Drive your Dream Car 37Day 22 Action: Go Hiking, Backpacking or Camping 38Day 23 Action: Awaken Your Spirit 39Day 24 Action: Do Good to Others 40Day 25 Action: Visit a Zoo, Museum or Aquarium 41Day 26 Action: Spoil Yourself 42Day 27 Action: Be an Advocate for Women 43Day 28 Action: “a CheeseDay 29 Action: Retail Therapy 45Day 30 Action: Throw a Party 46 3 Go! Golden Rules of Breakup 48 Credits 50Mama told me that my wedding 4 dress shouldn't be black

Dedications To all women who have gone through the painful breakups May your heart find a new leap in life Open your heart again for the prosperity of loveTo my daughter, Ame, I hope one day you find that one true love and when you do, do not let it go but for now just be my little baby girl - MomMama told me that my wedding 5 dress shouldn't be black

AcknowledgementTo all my sisters who came to me and asked for relationship advices, I hope my advices were of good use to you and helped in you taking noble decisionsregarding your relationships. I hope you found that one person who makes you giggle… Edmore I salute you for believing in me. Pulane You are the best friend a girl can asks for. Diphetogo Love ya gal… y high school E glish teacher s gonna ha g e for this Sholanglish Sholanglish: shorten English mixed with slangMama told me that my wedding 6 dress shouldn't be black

THATO GABOITSIWEImage - Rosevita from morguefile.com: For a garden of flowers toblossom and show off its variety of colours it needs to be taken careof just like a woman.“ A well loved woman is like a well-watered rose - she blossoms in time. ” - Edmore Mushure Mama told me that my wedding 7 dress shouldn't be black

Oh, Beautiful WomanI eautiful i all aspe tsI a o a of i teg itI deserved to be loved and respectedI ot the se o d est and I ill e e settle fo less tha hat I o thI as o to e he ished a d that s the a it ill eAfte all, a a told e that eddi g d ess should t e la k To all the girls in the world - with love… http://xcluzve.blogspot.com Mama told me that my wedding 8 dress shouldn't be black

IntroductionYou met through a relative or in the subway or maybe you have grown uptogether. It was love at first sight or you took your time to make sure that it wasfo eal . You e e s itte ith ea h othe , ou ould ot sta a a f o ea hother and when you did you could not wait to be with each other – you couldsee your story along the Cinderella themes or even much better, you could notwait to tell your great-grandchildren how you met. You were well-matched andeveryone said so and then the impossible happened – he told you that he wasbreaking up with you. You world Shatters!In the next days, weeks, months or even years (now you need to move on) youcrave and grieve for that relationship – you are lovesick.You feel like picking up the phone for that awkward and regrettable phone call,drinking too much and weeping like there is no tomorrow, you do not listen tothe advice of your close friends after all, what do they know about true love. Heis the one that got away, right? Maybe. You will never find someone like him,right? Right. Nobody in life is supposed to be a substitute for another person,yes nobody. You will never find him in the next guy and if you keep on trying todo that, you are depriving not only the poor guy but yourself too of thepossibility of the love you could ever get.Or maybe, it was a simple breakup; you both knew it was coming and hadprepared for it or you decided to end things as it was not working for you. Firstof all the e is othi g si ple a out a eakup e ause it i di ates the deathof something that you have invested your time in and secondly the expectationsthat you entered the relationship with are thrown out of the window.Mama told me that my wedding 9 dress shouldn't be black

Breakups can sometimes be messy and at other times be inevitable, but one thingcertain about most breakups, is that they cause pain if not numbness followed byache even if the end of relationship was to be expected. It is usually hard to pickup the pieces of a broken heart (note the word hard) but with time, all the piecesif worked on with patience can fall into place. Even if you have initiated the move,it does not make the stab of the breakup ache any less, just knowing he simplywould not be there for a chat, a rushed cup of tea or the occasional sexya gu e ts it s a t i ulatio o its o . Afte the eakup, ou a e pe ie eroller coaster of emotions which include pain, anger and sadness and this isnormal but it does not mean that you should wallow in them.No one ever said that relationships are perfect for if they were, then we will all beliving in fairytales. If you get into a romantic relationship, then expect that it willcome with the good and the bad but if you believe that the relationship is of greatvalue to the both of you then it is important to work more on the good thanfocusing on the bad.Sometimes people throw in the towel in a valuable and significant relationship e ause the had te ded to put a fo al poi t o ea h othe s fla s. Liste , o o eis pe fe t a d to tell ou the t uth, the pe fe t ou ill defi itel d i e ostpeople to insanity, so just be you and try to enjoy your relationship as best as youcan. Then again, we are not saying show off your repellent behaviour such aspi ki g ou ose a d sa that s ou ei g ou self – hey, some things you have tokeep them between your eyes and brain. Gross!No let sa ha e, eithe ei g ou hoi e o so eo e else s fault , oufind yourself in the singledom paradise or doom , depends on how you see it, thenthe previous two passages are of no use to you I mean really, relationship advice he ou hea t is al ead i pie es? U less ou a e pla i g to go i fo e ecelibacy or you truly have sworn yourself off romantic relationships then you aregoi g to eed those ad i es i futu e. No let s ot e too ha sh he e, afte all,this book has been written for the darlings that has just either decided to endtheir relationships or someone who does not deserve them had their heart brokeninto pieces.Mama told me that my wedding 10 dress shouldn't be black

Relationships tend to occupy most of our time and once they are over, you mayseem to have more time in your hands than when you still had someone to makeappointments to go to the movies with, favourite restaurant to eat out or justtaking a walk in the park. This may bring back the haunting memories of your ex,so this is where this book comes in. This book is dedicated to help you as you dealwith the grief or bitterness you might currently be experiencing. Accept thesadness and act on it – do not deny it as this will not only delay your heart fromhealing but it might affect your future relationships and we do not want that or dowe? Avoid isolating yourself and keep in mind that the pain will go away slowly buteventually.Some breakups can be traumatizing, more especially the unexpected ones. Yourshields are down; both your body and emotions experience grief and may showsigns such as insomnia, weight loss or gain, devastating fatigue but if you learn tocontrol your emotions immediately after the breakup you can manage the impactthe breakup has on your body.Grief is a normal part of the process to healing but depression is not. Depression isan extreme level of grief where the victim feels emptiness and sadness. It is alwaysgood to express how you feel and avoid repressing it as this might backfire.Remember, the breakup does not define you so do not give up on the prosperity ofloving again in future. Do not try and reconstruct your past relationship with yourcurrent or potential relationships as this will frustrate you and hold you back. It isimportant to move on otherwise you would get stuck in the past with life passingyou by and if you ever wake from the self-condemnation you might live in regret ofthe time you have wasted which you will never get back.As much as we try by all means to avoid breakups, it is of uttermost importance toknow when to walk away if the relationship is exposing either you or your partnerto danger. Abuse in intimate relationships is real and must never be covered up asit can have devastating outcomes. Abuse comes in different forms such as physical,emotional and financial abuse.Mama told me that my wedding 11 dress shouldn't be black

Emotional abuse is hard to detect and difficult to link to other types of abuse. Thistype of abuse is usually present with all types of abuse, such as physical and sexualabuse. It involves the perpetrator demeaning the victim therefore crashing themfrom within or isolating them by preventing them from seeing their loved ones.Sometimes close relatives and/or friends may notice emotional abuse before thevictim even realizes that what they are going through is not acceptable and isimproper.Other types of abuse include: physical, economical, verbal, mental and sexualabuses:• Physical abuse: shoving you around, punching, slapping, pushing you.• Economical abuse: withholding money from you, forbidding you to work, pressuring you to quit your job.• Verbal abuse: yelling, shouting, mocking and swearing at you, talking over you, calling you names.• Mental abuse: twisting things around and always finding fault with everything you do, talking negatively about you, blaming and/or belittling you in public, playing mind games with you, blaming you for his blunders.• Sexual abuse: rape, making vulgar and sexual demeaning comments, sexting, unwanted sexual contacts, pressurising you to have sex either with him or other people, forcing you to get pregnant or to commit abortion.• Emotional abuse: ill-treating, humiliating you in public, threatening and bullying you, isolating you from loved one.Emotional, mental and verbal abuses if left to prolong can escalate to sexual,physical and economic abuses. Seek help from organisations that deal withassisting the victims and/or the perpetrators but above all make sure you are safefrom the harm the abuser can inflict on you. Never ever put superficial, jovial andwell-adjusted front and continue to suffer behind closed doors - know when it istime to walk away. Good Luck!Mama told me that my wedding 12 dress shouldn't be black

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Day 1 Action: Have your BFF over and Cry, cry, cryDeal Breaker A close friend that you trust is there for you to laugh with in good times and there for you to cry with in awful times. The He dumped me on first day is the best day to call a close girlfriend and confide in Christmas eve then the her. You do not have to go out rather, stay-in and rent out a following day, I saw him chick flick movie and do not forget popcorns. Talk to your friend about everything including the silly things that he used ith eigh ou s to do that made you smile then gradually move to the reasonsdaughter - young enough why you are better off without him. Do not hold anything back, to be his daughter. e as selfish as ou a e afte all, ou a t to ash hi out of your head. - Gail Remember you are in mourning, a breakup means the end or simply the death of something of value so allow yourself to cry so as to let the pain out. Crying does not change anything nor does it put a k the pie es togethe ut it s a good sta t to healing a broken heart. You may need lots of tissues. Do not forget to indulge yourself – eat lot and lot of chocolate, forget about counting the calories after all, you deserve to spoil your precious heart. A blessed thing it is for any man or woman to have a friend, one human soul whom we can trust utterly, who knows the best and worst of us, and who loves us in spite of all our faults. Charles Kingsley Mama told me that my wedding 14 dress shouldn't be black

Deal Breaker Day 2 I walked on him naked Action: Be by Yourself with another girl after Now that you have cried your heart out, it is time to move to he told me that he the next step which is being by yourself. After my extrovert and ould t ake it to outgoing cousin broke up with her boyfriend whom she birthday party early thought as the o e , I suggested to he to just spe d a little that day as he had to bit of time by herself. At first she was skeptical about my advice but after a couple of weeks she called and told me that the go and see his time she spent alone allowed her to reflect on many things and stepfather who was she realised that she eall ould li e ithout the gu . involved in a car Listen, I am not suggesting that you cut everyone off – at thisaccident. As a matter of time in point, you need every close friend and relative that you can count on, but you need a time by yourself to find your feet. fact, there was no You need to know that you can count on yourself to hold on accident. even when things do not fall into your well-laid plan; sometimes you have to cross the river on your own. - Angel On this day, do not invite anyone over, take a long bubble bath or a walk if you cannot stand sitting on an empty house or listen to music . I love and I mean LOVE the song By your side by Sade but I will definitely not listen to it at this time. Do not be judgmental of yourself; try to focus on the positive and not the negative. When one door closes, another opens. 15 But often we look so long, so regretfully, upon the closed door, that we fail to see the one that is opened for us. Helen Keller Mama told me that my wedding dress shouldn't be black

Day 3Deal Breaker Action: Clean Up & Apply the No Contact RuleHe made a resolution for It is time to get rid of old stuff more especially the ones that the New Year, he was e i d ou of hi . Let s e p a ti al he e, I a ot talki g a out making a lot of changes only changing the sheets on the bed (yes buy new bedding andin his life and apparently get rid of that sheet he loved so much), I am talking big timeI was one of the changes. clean up: Relationship Spring Cleanup!- Thuto Get rid of anything that might remind you of him, toss away his toothbrush. Clean the closet and get rid of that tie he was looking for but you had unintentionally thrown inside with your clothes and it had since been hiding in the dark corner. This will help to clear the negative energy in the bedroom and create space for new things. Now you do not want to know his every move or to be one of the first people to know that he has changed his status to “i gle o that he is i elatio ship a d guess hat, ot ith ou but someone else. Apart from this being a blow to your ego it is also a self-torture which is uncalled for; unfriend and unfollow him on social networks. Block him on Facebook in the privacy settings so that you do not keep o seei g ou f ie ds photos ith hi tagged i the . Delete his photos from your computer, phone and even your social network profiles. Mama told me that my wedding 16 dress shouldn't be black