New Year. New feel. New breathe. New chances Same dreams, fresh starts. I dare you to Believe in yourself. You deserve all things magic. It is your year… 2022!
The Cover – Shaundra Dineen Inside Covers Shaundra Dineen From the Editors’ Desk – Angela Lewis and Matthew Santana IShine 2022 Resolution Marketing Director – Rhonda Turner Become A Publisher Happy New Year from A & M Happy New Year from the A & M Contributing Writers The Charge Room - Ilyasah Yasah Simpson P’Angela Jones – Just My Type Shaundra Dineen -Goals Denise Henry – Pespective: What do you see? Shaundra Dineen Chanelle Lawson Ph.D. - New Year’s Goal and Intention Setting Jeffrey Releford –Understanding Shifting of mindset… Deborah Cooper – Cheers to a better marriage… IShine Podcast – with Shaundra Dineen Kevette Minor Kane – Creating a Firm Financial Foundation for 2022 Natashah Khan – Setting Healthy Boundaries Jennifer Williams – How to form a business Carolyn Darensbourg - What are your travel goals for 2022? January SPOTLIGHT – SheEO District Honorees * Lakeisha Dixon – SheEO of the Year * Teneshia Murray – Excellence in Business * Monica Gee – Excellence in Social * Dr. Angela Banks – Excellence in Wealth * Dr. Sharon Stewart – Excellence in Mental Health * Karen Campbell – Excellence in Social * Talesha Austin – Excellence in Social * Tee Birdsong – Excellence in Wealth * Dior”Luxe Queen Honeybee” – Excellence in Health * Deliqua Isom – Excellence in Health * Dr. Nicole Garner Scott – Excellence in Wealth * Darbi Alexander – Excellence in Business
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Poem 2022
Rhonda Williams-Turner Marketing Director It’s year 2022 a new you a new brand. As the A & M Marketing Director, it is important that I make you and your business stand out and catch the reader’s eye. You give me your story I create your slogan and design. I believe layout is an important factor in a successful marketing campaign, which is why I send hours evaluating the look for the A & M magazine monthly. It is important to implement changes and make important decisions that will bring life to articles written within the magazine. We communicate a clear benefit to the readers making sure they focus on what the article is telling. The less you say, the more the reader will take away and remember your article. Thank you for supporting A & M iShine Magazine where we make you shine… I shine… then we all will shine.
Do Not Be Afraid! Ilyasah Yasah Simpson
Do Not Be Afraid I created you. I formed you. Do not be afraid. I will set you free. I will send for you by name You belong to me. You will walk through fire, but you will not get burned. The flames will not harm you. I am the Lord God. I am the one who saves you. You are priceless to me. Do not be afraid. I am with you. Isaiah 43 NIRV 1-5 Our shadows may place fear in our minds. Our thoughts may prevent us from moving forward. Our anxiousness may have us in our own way. What we may not have control of my anger us. Are we preventing ourselves from what we desire as a result from being afraid? Do not be afraid. Do not place trust in man. Place trust in God. God has chosen you. God will pour water on thirsty land. God will make streams flow on dry ground. God will pour out his blessings on to your children and your children’s children. Do not be afraid. Take a stance. Choose your lane. Affirm your course of action. Focus. Be driven. Do not take your eyes off your prize. Distractions will come. Do not stray. Do not be weary. Keep walking. God is with you. Continue to walk towards your finish line. There’s a winner in you. Be encouraged. You have the Victory. Go, Fight. Win. Do not be afraid. Ilyasah Yasah Simpson
Just My Type of Topic: Celebrities, Relationships Coaches Darryl and P’Angela Jones
Just My Type: Typcasting & African- American Relationships Just my “type” and not my “type”. These phrases are colorblind and genderless, whether you are Male, Female, Black, White, Asian, Indian, Christian, or Muslim. These 3 words also show no partiality to color, creed, religious or irreligious. The designation of “type” signals that you’re either a winner and you get the grand prize or you’re a loser and you walk away with your head down and downtrodden. Now, although I just stated that these statements don’t see color-they have made a home in the African American Community. Black people love to talk about their “type”. Type·cast represent or regard (a person or their role) as a stereotype. The Media’s Heavy Influence on The Black Community Racial Typecasting has been heavily applied to our community and over-expressed in music, film, education, and the workforce and has become one of the most divisive systems since racism. Just my “type” facilitates colorism, body shame, success shame and really lands a devastating blow to the marriage rate in the African American community. Black men and women sometimes seem like they are at war with each other over this popular and definitive statement. The Black Type Black men are portrayed to only like stripper-shaped women, usually of the lighter skin tone. Black women are shown to only like 6 figure earners, 6 foot in height, 6 pack abs and well-endowed men who are usually of the darker skin tone. Now let me be honest, attraction, success, work ethic, and compatibility should be high on anybody’s checklist. But have we accepted “my type” a blanket statement for outward appearance and material success? Most movies, TV shows and music videos portray Black women as seemingly impossible to satisfy due to their extremely high standards. These same films, tv shows and movies portray Black men as incredibly shallow as they only marry certain women of the lighter or fairer complexion while meeting their sexual needs with women of the darker skin tone. “Just my type” became a phrase made more popular by rap songstress Saweetie from her 2019 breakout hit “My Type”. Her desire only for “8 figure ni$$as” draws a clear line in the sand for who deserves women. The comments of troubled rapper “Black Kodak” back in 2017 “I don’t like darker- skinned women” draw a clear line in the sand of the type of women who he believed deserved to be loved. Whether it's the media, on dating apps, college campuses, or on your own television set: you can hear men and women debate about who “their type” is, usually based on our appearance and materialism. Shallow relationships, fickle marriages, and increasing divorce rates follow these conversations. What about the inner man? What about morality? What about a good character? What defines a good man or a good woman that’s right for you?
The Right Perspective Galatians 5:22-23 list a few qualities that individual’s male or female should aspire to possess. These qualities are known as “The Fruits of the Spirit”. Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kind-hearted, Generosity, Faithfulness, Gentleness and Self-control. Now I believe attraction, self-sufficiency, and a strong drive is also necessary when looking for a partner. I’m not for making a “list” of what you have to see in another, however, this would be a great place to start. Relational Typecasting has played a significant role in hookups, one-night stands, children born out of wedlock. I know this might sound crazy, because of course we are born into a corrupt system, construct, racism, classism, and every ism under the sun in this fallen world we live in. Just take a look around and notice all the disruption in our community in the dating scene and you will see the effects of our superficial limitations. We need a new slogan! How about, “give them a chance”. Not desperation or “settling” for just any ole person; No! Let’s just pay more attention to the inner man. The outer will fade, the inner is forever. Some things do last forever, like diamonds. Diamonds go through an extensive process, to become rock solid and shine. Strong inner qualities will continue to be processed to make an amazing outside life. You will find out you desired this “type” of person the whole time. If this article resonated with you or you know someone in an unhealthy relationship and you need or want somebody to talk to, contact Coaches Darryl and P’Angela Jones ICF Accredited & Certified Life and Relationship Coaches www.themorningdo.org Number: 470-839-5915 Email: [email protected]
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Shaundra Dineen Best-selling author, award- winning motivational speaker, and podcast host. Founder of Rubyz Global Coaching and Consulting, LLC.
Perspective: What Do You See? Written By: The way you see life is how you live life. Denise Henry What kind of person are you when it comes to your outlook on life? The glass is half empty or the glass is half full? You may have come across a photo where a number was placed in the middle of two people and were asked to tell what number they see. Person A said, 6 and Person B said 9. The two participants argued over who was seeing the “correct” number, until Person A decided to step across to Person B’s side and realized what they were seeing. For the most part, life perspective is subjective, and rarely about right or wrong. Before digging deeper in perspective let’s define it. Life perspective is the way people see life, including the way they approach life and all there is in their personal experience. Some people see life as “I’m gonna let the wind blow and I land where I land”. While other people see life as “I need a plan and structure to get to where I’m going”. Both of these perspectives are valid and right in their choices and to say either is “WRONG” is taking a stance that cannot be supported. There are billions of people in the world who see things differently. Therein lies a problem at large, we tend to focus on our differences rather than our similarities thus fights and arguments breakout. Making a simple switch and learning to understand another perspective could help settle many problems. Per the definition of life perspective, yours can affect the way you engage in relationships and can make or break those relationships. How? You may have a negative perspective. A negative perspective is filled with complaining, blaming and the inability to accept other’s perspectives. You can also stress heavily and become extremely angry. With a positive perspective, you find yourself having more peaceful and fulfilling relationships because you are open to perspectives other than yours, as well as a greater sense of gratitude and happiness. It is important to remember, your perspective isn’t superior and your willingness to accept another person’s perspective displays maturity and growth. Making the switch isn’t always easy but it is possible…when you DECIDE to. Hugs and Smiles, Denise The HealthyMomLife, LLC ������ Helping everyday moms re-discover their potential and get results in living & managing everyday life.
Denis Henry When you realize That by changing your perspective big things can be seen as little things, it becomes much harder to worry about anything.
\"It will happen when the time is right.\" I have heard this saying for a long time. Usually, as an attempt to console me after a disappointment or unfavorable outcome. It didn't help because in my mind, it was the right time. It was my time. If it didn't happen this time, then when? Well, \"IT\" finally happened, but it happened when I was least expecting it to. \"IT\" finally happened, but it came with a painful entry, one that challenged everything I took great pride in accomplishing. \"IT\" finally happen when I was no longer watching what others were receiving and asking \"why them and not me\" (comparison is the thief of all joy). \"IT\" finally happened when I started spending intentional time with God to get answers to hard questions. \"IT\" finally happened when I started looking inwardly instead of giving all of my attention to others. \"IT\" finally happened... Consider this..... A watched pot never boils. Spend your time focusing on the things that will prepare you for \"IT\"... That's when the time will be right. What are you doing while you are waiting for \"IT\" to happen\" #Fearless #FearlessAudacity #DoItAfraid #BeBold #BeBrave #BeCourageous Isaiah 60:22- \"When the time is right, I, the Lord will make it happen.\" Shaundran Dineen
By now the clock has struck midnight and the ball has dropped. Vision board parties have been attended and the calendar has turned to a new year. The new year is a time to reset and refocus. It brings with it a fresh and new perspective. Every day is a new day to do a new thing, but the new year is a clean slate and a place to reset. First, it is important to get organized. As you declutter your physical space, you should also declutter your mental space. You must purge negative thoughts and cleanse your mind the same way you purge and cleanse your physical living space. This is a great time to organize and prioritize what is important to you and for you. After getting organized, you must get intentional. Be intentional about your goals for the new year and how you plan to accomplish them. Map out each step you will take to get there to include connections and resources needed to accomplish your goals. Finally, write the vision and make it plain. Writing out your goals and how you plan to accomplish them reinforces your vision. It is also helpful to provide small rewards to yourself when you accomplish the goals you set. This can serve as reinforcement and provide encouragement to continue meeting your goals. So go ahead and give yourself small pats on the back for a job well done. You will soon start looking forward to putting in the work to accomplish your goals and receiving these little treats. Know that a setback is not a defeat. You may experience minor setbacks when setting out to accomplish your new year’s goals. And guess what? It’s ok! Use this time to re-evaluate, refocus, and readjust. Our pathway to goal accomplishment is not always linear. It can look like a road to nowhere, but you will end up on the path you are destined to be on. When you do hit stumbling blocks and bumps in the road, encourage yourself to stay the path. Be your own biggest cheerleader! Take some time to practice self-care and stay the course to accomplish your goals.
How do you envision your new year? What are you leaving behind in 2021 and what are your goals for 2022? Did you start the year by setting short term goals for yourself or did you go for the long haul with longer termed goals? What are your steps towards achieving your goals? Breaking down larger goals into smaller ones can lead to more successful outcomes and reduce the likelihood of abandoning your new year’s resolutions. Consider what goals you would like to achieve in the first week, first 30 days, the first three months, and so on. Remember to be intentional and mindful with the goals that you set for yourself. Most importantly be realistic and fair. Set goals for yourself that are measurable and attainable. Also ensure you have the connections, resources, and means to accomplish them. The most important thing to remember while you are crushing your goals is to extend grace to yourself because you are stretching yourself to do something you have never done before. You’ve got this! Chanelle Lawson, Ph.D. Counselor, Coach, Author www.offerahandup.com Link to the My Evolution 30 Day Journal:
Goal Setting 2022
Do It Afraid Podcast Shaundra Dineen
Shaundra Dineen Shaundra Dineen is a best-selling author, award-winning motivational speaker, podcast host, and founder of Rubyz Global Coaching and Consulting, LLC. Armed with her relentless motivation and her inspiring commitment to empowering women of all backgrounds to dream big and triumph over adversity, Shaundra’s authentic, dynamic speaking style has led her to become an internationally acclaimed speaker for conferences and corporate events. With her life-changing approach to personal development, she’s on a mission to help women succeed in every stage of their lives – whether they’re top-level business executives, corporate professionals, or college grads fresh out of school. As the founder of the Do It Afraid Podcast and the co-author of the hit faith-based book Pray, Pursue, Persist: Testimonies of Women Who Soar Through the Power of Prayer, Shaundra is passionate about energizing women to help them reach their full potential by taking charge, overcoming fear, and finding the courage to live their best lives. Shaundra’s coaching skills have helped hundreds of women transform their situations and move from pain to power. Shaundra lives by the mantra “Do It Afraid” – and she’s determined to help other women live by it too. When not working, she enjoys spending time with her family and practicing her faith. To learn more about Shaundra and her work, visit her website at www.lifecoachshaund.com or email [email protected]
Understanding shifting of mindset and adapting to change!!! Jeffrey Releford
Jeffrey Releford One of the hardest things that we will ever have Well Coach how do I figure this out? I’m glad to face mentally is starting a new task or having you asked. One way is to Start paying to try a new concept or idea. Both can be trying attention your emotions. Our thoughts mentally. Today you will hear about some control if we are happy, sad, moody, or just concepts and practices that will help you better plain angry. Emotions also can be monitored yourself in shifting your mindset and adapting by noticing your triggers. Triggers are the to change. You must first and foremost things that set you off in a good or bad way. understand that that your thoughts shape For example, you can be triggered in a good everything that you do in your life. Ask yourself way if someone does something good for what am I thinking about most of the time? It others. You can be triggered by wanting to may sound silly in the beginning, but this is do good for others. Seeing something positive definitely a good way become self-aware of allowed a positive response. The same can be your thoughts as you see them manifest said for negative triggers. Negative triggers through your actions. If you think positive are those actions that lead down a path of thoughts all the time, chances are that you may negativity due to your own negative response be a positive person. If you have a tendency to to an action or information. Understanding go to the negative automatically ask yourself, how your mind reacts to these triggers forces why do I go this particular route? Am I nervous you to analyze your thoughts so that you can about rejection or failure? Those are serious learn how to process them different or adapt. perspectives to think about. We as people are Adapting is the name of the game. Your often ashamed to embrace our faults that have absolute and main goal should be to get to a a possibility to lead to change. Never be too point to where you notice your triggers good prideful for change especially when it can mean and bad. The keys always to a better you is a better outcome for yourself. Knowing your always to learn one’s self. If you spend more thought process and understanding why you time focusing on your inner standing you will think the way you do requires a level of then gain great understanding. accountability and change.
Cheers to a Better Marriage this Year! \"10 New Year’s Resolutions for a Better Marriage\" Deborah Cooper
This is my favorite time of year: the time between Christmas and New Year’s Day. It’s a perfect blend of the rest of and reassurance of Advent and the anticipation of a New Start. We can reflect on the past year and be refreshed as we prepare for the next. It’s a time to feel ambitious. Some start new diets or exercise regimes; others make career and financial goals. In all cases, we commit to change – to do new things in the name of self- betterment and life improvement. This year, I would like to encourage you to make goals for one of the most important aspects of your life: Your Marriage. This concept may not be intuitive, so I hope to provide some ideas and encouragement to help you and your spouse make this year the best year in your marriage!
1: More Bible Reading 6: Less Television This is first for a reason. Nothing will transform This can be such a time waster. How would your you like immersing yourselves in God’s Word. life be different if you removed television from The more you read, the greater your appetite and your daily routine? At least consider limiting the more you’re filled with truth. Read the Bible your TV time this year and replace it with more for yourself and watch as God renews your mind. intentional activities that build your life and It will have an unprecedented effect on your marriage. marriage. 7: Less social media 2: More Prayer Social media isn’t bad, but it can be a time Pray alone, pray with your spouse, be intentional. waster. We can also fall into the trap of Set aside time to pray and keep yourself in an comparing ourselves to others in unhealthy ways, attitude of prayer throughout the day. Nothing especially since you only see a glimpse of the replaces prayer… nothing. best moments in your friends lives. Consider limiting your time on Facebook, Instagram and 3: More Encouragement spend more time with each other. Make it a goal this year to intentionally encourage each other. Set reminders to help you 8: Less Work remember, then watch the habit of encouragement take over. Some ideas: My husband is 62, and I am 58. We have been • Send an encouraging text message daily marriage 39 years. You’ll cherish the moments • Send a letter in the mail… to your own you shared with the ones you love. Work is good, but it’s not meant to be your entire life. house, addressed to your spouse If you must work extra-long hours to afford your • Give each other gifts just because lifestyle, perhaps it’s time to reevaluate your • Live out the 5 love languages- Words of financial commitments? This year, resolve to strike a healthy balance with your job, and do Affirmations/ Physical Touch, Receiving whatever is necessary to make it possible. This giving of gifts/Quality Time/ Acts of way you can spend more time with your Spouse. Service 9: Less Complaining 4: More Quality Time Love is Patient, Kind, Humble, Selfless, Nothing replaces quality time with your husband Forgiving, & Trustworthy-Love never Fails or wife. There are no shortcuts, and no Complaining starts when we forget all that God substitutes. We all know this, but the busyness of has done for us. A complaining attitude stems life can make it difficult. Make this a priority by from an attitude of ungratefulness. Learn how to setting aside time to be together now, when the communicate with each other in LOVE! year is young. 10: Less Unhealthy Arguing 5: More Godly Community Couples argue; it’s part of marriage. Healthy Your marriage is your ministry, but you also need couples still argue, they just do it in a way that friends who are alongside you and helping you builds their marriage up instead of tearing it grow. Be intentional about your friendships, by down. Use language that is constructive, and try nurturing a good blend of “input” friendships not to let emotions (anger, frustration) dictate (those who help you grow and encourage). how you speak to your spouse. Tip -Argue Naked.
Cheers to a better marriage this year! I encourage you to set a time with your spouse to intentionally discuss how you can make this year your best yet. Write down your goals and talk about a plan to tackle them. Make them personal. If you can, make them measurable – so you can see how you’re doing. As you start a new year get closer to Jesus and closer to your spouse more than ever. May you start the next year with eager anticipation for what God is going to do in and through your marriage! My Prayer to you! Father, we ask that you pour out your Spirit on the couples reading this. Fill them with hope and joy in what you have done in them, and that you’re still alive and working through them. Give them a hunger for your Word, and an unquenchable thirst for your presence in their lives. May you convict us in ways we can improve, and by your grace may we be sanctified this year. In your precious name, Amen. May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope. Deborah Cooper A Woman after Gods Heart!
Shaundra Dineen
Creating a Firm Financial Foundation for 2022 Now is your time to thrive. There is no more waiting for rescue but rather taking full responsibility for where we are, where we’ve been and where we’re going. You’ve already made it through some of the toughest years this world has ever seen. But don’t get stuck in survival mode Sis. You deserve better. So how do you flip that switch from surviving to thriving? There are three simple steps in this process. Creating them is the easy part. It’s doing the work that will require a bit of self-firstness. That’s right, you heard me Sis. I created a whole new word for what we’ve got to accomplish in 2022 because we’ve never been to this place before. So, now let me just lay the rebar and pour the concrete so we have a solid foundation to build upon. The simple definition for Self-Firstness is when you ensure that you are fully conscious and well cared for as you prepare to move through the process of serving others. As women, we are either natural caretakers or charged with the responsibility whether or not it comes to us naturally. Considering this perspective for the majority of the global population of about 3.9 billion women we must outline a process that we can all participate in and maintain as a good habit going forward.
Three Steps to Self-Firstness 1. Daily Routine At the start of your day, there must be a ritual or process that you use to prepare yourself through mind, body, and spirit. There are four steps recommended by MarimorLife Mindset & Money Management that will lead you into each day refreshed and motivated to handle the tasks and overcome the challenges that may come up in the day: read, write, exercise, and meditate. 2. Weekly Routine At the start of each week, you want to recalibrate your mindset by understanding your bank balances. Taking a few minutes to check your account balance and glance over the spending from the previous week will allow you to determine whether you stayed on budget. Having a surplus is certainly something to celebrate but finding a deficit will support you in making the necessary adjustment to prevent any deep financial damage from occurring through needless spending or unexpected expenses. 3. Monthly Routine At the start of each month, you want to review all activity from the previous month, record transactions to your personal online ledger and set goals for the month ahead. When you track your money then you can control it, which means you are able to keep more. By implementing these three major steps into your life habits you will lay a firm foundation for your financial future. You see, it’s not how much money you make that determines your wealth but rather the money you keep that creates a lifestyle for your future self and a legacy for future generations. What are your goals for 2022? How will you accomplish them? Share your thoughts or find the support you need for accountability and consistency at MarimorLife Mindset & Money Management. Kevette Minor Kane Financial Liberation Expert MarimorLife Mindset & Money Management www.marimorlife.com Social: @marimorlife
Setting Healthy Boundaries in Relationships with Others!
Why Setting Healthy Boundaries is Important for Us and Our Relationships! We must first ask ourselves WHY should we set healthy boundaries in relationships with others? WHO should we be setting boundaries with? WHAT do boundaries look like? WHEN or WHERE should we set boundaries? In this article I will answer these 4 questions while providing you with guidelines that will empower you and allow for you to establish and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships with others. WHY? Why should we set boundaries with others? Setting boundaries gives us the freedom to be ourselves and not allow others to disrespect us, mistreat us and most importantly, we learn not to sacrifice ourselves and empower our voices to speak up and communicate with others what we want and need emotionally, physically, spiritually etc... Healthy boundaries are necessary components for self-care. ... Whether it's in work or in our personal relationships, poor boundaries may lead to resentment, hurt, anger, and burnout. Healthy Boundaries help us take care of ourselves by giving us permission to say NO to things, to not take everything on and believe we must be everything to everyone. Personal Boundaries are important because they set the basic guidelines of how you want to be treated. Boundaries are basic guidelines that people create to establish how others are able to behave around them. ... Setting boundaries can ensure that relationships can be mutually respectful, appropriate, and caring; we no longer have to tolerate poor behavior and or sacrifice our self-worth. We Teach People How to Treat us- “Setting Boundaries is my way of caring for myself, it signifies that I matter, and I care about me; it doesn’t make me mean, self-centered just because I choose to not do things your way”. WHO? Who should we be setting healthy boundaries with or for? Ourselves and EVERYONE we are in a relationship with (self, family, friends, partner, spouse, significant other, work, community)-Personal boundaries help to define an individual by outlining their likes and dislikes; also setting the distance, one allows others to approach; to ensure that others don’t cross the line, to be taken advantage of and or taken for granted by the people we love and care about. I learned in my journey in recovery, after years of being a “people pleaser” that the word “No,” is a complete sentence. The art of saying “no” is a hard skill to acquire. I was a people pleaser for many years, because I thought in order to have friends or to be liked by others, I needed to say “YES” or “Agree” to keep them happy, despite the emotional and psychological harm it was doing to me. I said “yes” to taking on more responsibility even though I knew I didn’t have the time needed to do the task properly. I said “yes”, to giving more of myself to someone who did not deserve any more of me due to their unhealthy behaviors toward me. We all do it at some point in our lives and often, lack understanding of why we become someone else’s “doormat”. I’ve learned that the answer to establishing healthy boundaries is to forgive myself and learn how to communicate effectively and assertively say “NO” without feelings of guilt/shame or fear.
WHAT? What do Boundaries look like? My Personal Boundaries- Personal boundaries are the physical, emotional and psychological limits we establish to protect ourselves from being manipulated, used, or violated by others. Boundaries allow us to separate who we are, what we think and feel from the thoughts and feelings of others. A person with healthy boundaries understands that it's unreasonable to expect two people to accommodate each other and meet their every need at 100%. A person with strong boundaries understands that they may hurt someone's feelings sometimes but ultimately, they can’t determine or control how other people feel. Remember, Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do. WHEN or WHERE? ALL the time in Every situation where we feel harmed or where our needs aren’t being met. It is our right to speak up and assert ourselves and learn how to validate ourselves without depending on others for validation. There are 7 types of boundaries to consider when in relationship with others: • Physical Boundaries (Be mindful and respectful of personal space) • Sexual Boundaries • Financial Boundaries • Intellectual Boundaries • Emotional Boundaries (mindful of your emotions and emotions of others) • Time Boundaries (mange time, respect your time and others time) • Expectation Boundaries (manage expectations) Boundary Setting is designed for the individual to learn on how to practice self-love and self-respect. The more you love and respect yourself the less you will allow for others to disrespect you, mistreat you and or take advantage of you. If you want to learn more about boundary setting, or how you came to be a person who lacks boundaries necessary to have a healthy relationship, you can contact me via email: [email protected] If you’re in need of counseling or relationship coaching because you’re “stuck or lost”, in a toxic relationship, check out my website: https://www.collaborativehealingpartners.com for more information and let’s get connected TODAY! So that you can begin to establish healthy relationships, let go of toxic ones and begin living the life you’ve always wanted to live.
Jennifer Williams How to Form a Business
First steps to Getting Started with forming a Business 1. Create a unique business name 2. Incorporate your business or form an LLC (Limited Liability company) 3. Apply for a federal Employer Identification Number, which is a nine-digit number the IRS uses to identify businesses for tax purposes. Think of it as your company’s Social Security number. 4. Open a business bank account in your legal business name. 5.Set up a dedicated phone line in your business name and make sure it is listed. 6. Register with Dun & Bradstreet to get your D-U-N-S Number, which is short for Data Universal Numbering System. It establishes your company’s D&B credit file and serves as a business identifier. 7. Register with 411 8. Get a business website 9. List on google, Bing, yelp, Facebook business page, and Instagram business page Once you’re all set up with a registered business, you can start building your credit score. Call Us to help you get started!! All In One Tax Services has business packages and we can also customize a package for your business needs. We have available appointments this week. Call us to book your appointment (219)206-2415.
WWhhaattAArreeYYoouurrTTrraavveellGGooaallssffoorr22002222?? I hope that each of you had a good and joyous Carolyn holiday. Happy New Year to you all. What are Darensbourg your 2022 travel goals? Let me be the one to answer this question first. I plan on going to 1. Man In The Mirror –Michael Jackson Greece, Grand Canyon and Mexico. My 2. Survivor—Destiny’s Child husband is planning a train ride cross country. 3. I Will Survive—Gloria Gaynor There will weekend get a way. I want to look 4. The Greatest Love of All—Whitney better, feel better and travel better. By the way I can help you with all three. To travel Houston most of us especially women and some men 5. I Was Here—Beyonce’ have a routine. We go out and buy that special 6. We Are The Champions—Queen outfit, get a manicure, pedicure, facial and we 7. Beautiful—Christina Aquilera lose weight. Why do we do that because it 8. Conqueror—Estelle & Jussie Smollett makes us feel so good. Feeling good and 9. Girl On Fire—Alicia Keys looking good are crucial in making memories 10.Sky Scraper—Demi Lovato while we travel and spend time with friends and loved ones. It doesn’t matter if you are Baby its cold outside. During this time of the going for that interview, getting married, year make sure you are hydrating, exfoliating, going to a reunion, or going on a girl’s trip, you and moisturizing when you are traveling or at want to look good and feel good. What we put home. These products are a must have and they in our bodies and on our bodies are so contain minerals from the Dead Sea. For you important. Let’s be truthful do you want to married couples this is a must have and if you look your worst, feel your worst so that you are single love on yourself or with your boo. can travel, or go to any important event. No These are a must have for your travel needs. of course not. As we prepare for 2022, please Use these with the salt and oil scrub to exfoliate take better care of yourselves by looking, and seal it with a kiss with this body butter. It is feeling and traveling better so that you can available in Milk and Honey and Ocean Mist. experience the good life. You know the drill! What is your favorite empowerment, goal setting feel good songs? Music is food for the soul. It reaches the deepest places in your heart. We use music to relax, to celebrate, to express our love, to get our travel, look good and feel good on. Here are some of my favorite songs to listen to.
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