FUNERAL BROCHURE OF MADAM ESTHER HEAVY NUKPEZAH-AMEGAH

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OFFICIATING CLERGY Rev. Dr. Cyril Fayorse Rev. Dr. Fred Deegbe Rev. G.J.K. Golomeke. Rev. B.K. Mensah Rev. Allan Bossman Seme- Nukpezah Cat. Innocent Gobah Cat. Courage Nutsuakor. SORDER OF ERVICE PART 1 14. Recognitions. 15. Vote of Thanks 1. Call to worship 16. Announcements 17. Hymn 584 1-2 2. Opening Hymn 287 1-3 18. Final Commendation 3. Prayer and Creed 19. Closing Prayer and Benediction 4. Selections 20. Solo 5. Words of welcome 21. Closing Hymn 587 1-3 6. Praises and Ministry of kindness 7. Biography PART 2(GRAVE SIDE) 8. Tributes 9. Hymn 272 1-3 1. Invocation 10. Scripture Reading(s) 2. Hymn 331 1-2 11. Sermon 3. Interment 12. Offertory and Dedication 4. Lord's Prayer and Benediction 13. Presentation of Wreaths 5. Final Hymn 659 1-3 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 3

gBraIOphy A great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul never dies. It brings us together again and again” – Maya Angelou The late Madam Esther Lumorshie Adzo Nukpezah-Amegah was born on 11th August 1930 at Anyako Aborme in the then Volta Region. She was affectionately called Heavy. Her parents were David Semenyonawo Nukpezah and Agnes Nyuiade Ackumey, all of blessed memory. Heavy was the first of six children for the mother and the third of fourteen for the father. She was also the first grand child of the Sorxome generation, comprising Daniel Kuedonawo Ackumey, Yevugbona Ackumey, Robert Mibieku Ackumey, Able Adsorbed, Kwoodzoga and Kwodzovi Klomegah.They were all descendants of the Royal Akaba family of Anyako. HerdirectgrandfatherwasDanielKuedonawo Ackumey. Thus by birth, Heavy was a royalist from the Akaba family of Anyako. Lumorshie was big at birth hence the name Kpekpetor, which was later anglicized to “Heavy”. 4 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

Whiles growing up, Heavy, being the first-born and hardworking, helped her grandmother and mother in their fried fish trading business. She entered this business because she had to drop out of school in a bid to support her siblings. She travelled long distances on foot in the business, as there were scarcely any other means of transportation during the period. The trade took her to Adidome, Battor, Kpedzeglo, Mafi Kumasi, Ho and several other towns. When she was of age, she and her sister Yawa Nukpezah, were sent to Koforidua to learn dressmaking where they stayed with one Peace Ametepee of blessed memory. Heavy was a very hardworking and industrious woman. Her love for business was tremendous. As hardworking as she was, even whilst learning dressmaking, she was also trading alongside. At a point in time, she even joined her sister Charity to trade in clothes. As a devout Christian, Heavy was confirmed together with her sisters Yawa and Charity as members of the Evangelical Presbyterian Church, Anyako, in 1944, and worshipped with them for several years. She also worshipped with the same faith later at Keta. As a christian, she did everything as expected of her, living her religious life with all her heart and soul. She was a very devoted family woman, caring and resourceful to all. She always put family first in whatever she did. Her kindness and fostering of good relationship among family members was first to none. She was an epitome of what Apostle Paul said to the Ephesians, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace – Ephesians 4:2-3.” Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 5

Heavy was a custodian of tradition and a Her customer service was par excellence. fountain of knowledge for the family. She was Though she had good relationship with a strict disciplinarian who ironically, also had her customers, no notorious drunkards were a great sense of humor. All the people who allowed at her bar. She would admonish the passed through her hands will attest to the heavy drinkers with the words: “your money high moral standards she set which at the is not what is keeping my shop running.” She time admittedly seemed a bit farfetched. On never entertained underaged children in her hindsight however, many of the people who pub, neither were skimpy dresses allowed. were privileged to live with her would say You would not dare. She would walk you out. without hesitation that, “Heavy was right.” Her business made friends become family. Family members were always welcome She had a nickname for almost everyone to her home and everyone received the who patronized her bar. needed support on request. Heavy was a mother to all. Her compassion for others is The sudden death of her first-born Alberta, so deep and it is no exaggeration to say that along the way, took a toll on her health but many lives were positively touched by her you will always see her bubbly and smiling. quintessential kindness. In the late nineties, Heavy moved to Accra to take care of her grandchildren. Though Heavy loved not only her family but she frequented Keta and Anyako when the community in general. Her love for the need arose, Accra actually became her community work and culture made her a home till her passing. key member of the drumming and dancing troupe of Anyako and Keta during her active Heavy had numerous accolades such as days. Melody, Kpekpetor, Ngorgbiitor, Number 1, Ebi me, Meyige o, Eno be mouth, among Heavy got married to Mr. Ambrose Yao others. Amegah, also from Anyako. She and her At the ripe age of 92 years, Heavy without husband initially relocated to Ho and later any serious ailment decided to rest from to Keta with their family. Their union was earth’s labour and toils. Her creator called blessed with seven children. However, her home peacefully on that fateful Heavy lost her husband suddenly in March morning of 24th November 2022. 1976 leaving her with the arduous task of singlehandedly bringing up all the young She left us a legacy, one of service and one children. Indeed, the youngest was barely six which exudes hardwork and kindness. months old at the time her beloved husband She left behind children, grandchildren, passed on. Despite the difficult moments family and friends who adore her. and the vacuum created by the loss of her husband, Heavy did not relent on her efforts Heavy, you have fought a good fight you and with a huge sense of purpose, solely have finished the race. took great care of all her children. This she May your soul rest in perfect peace. did by operating and managing efficiently the drinking spot/motel/disco business, the Melody, xede nyuie popular “Melody Café”, which she and the Heavy, na dzudzor le nutifafa me husband opened before his demise. 6 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

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ChildrenTribute by “Until we meet again. ability. She adored family life and would We think about you always ask our friends questions like “Who are We talk about you still .. your parents?” “When was the last time You have never been forgotten you saw them?” and so on. Almost all of our And you never will friends had to have answers ready for our We hold you close within our hearts interrogating mom whenever they were with And there you will remain.. us. We used to think she was bothering us, To walk and guide us through our lives only to discover later that it was her unique Until we meet again” UNKNOWN way of connecting people to their roots. Little did we know that we would encounter You didn’t just pamper us, Dada. You instilled so much difficulty in putting words together in us qualitative discipline and thought us as a tribute to the memory of such a dear person. Our problem is not timeless values. You never gave up a lack of words, but rather deciding the notion of strength in unity. You where to begin. Our mom has were instrumental in keeping us been involved with everything together. We dare to say that your concerning us to the extent that morals and the unquantifiable to single anything out by way of a discipline you instilled in us (even tribute has been a herculean task in the absence of a father figure) for us all. For a mother who had also are what have shaped us into who played the role of a father for most we are today. We hereby promise, parts of our lives (following the dear mom, that your teachings passing of our dad so many years and admonishing have been rolled ago), perhaps we cannot be blamed so much into a perfect mantle that we, your for the difficulty we were confronted with. children, are also passing on to our children. We will make certain that our fond memories Dada, as we affectionately called  her, was of you last forever. a mother who made certain that we never lacked anything as children. Her parental Dada, you have made so many sacrifices for love and care extended beyond her us that we cannot quantify or qualify. We did biological children to all others, particularly what any child would do for a mother, and those who came to our home. Dada made you were always appreciative.  A las! Who are certain that she met everyone’s needs we, mere mortals, to question God’s decision? without discrimination. For a single parent, As much as we adore you, we know the one sometimes wonders how she managed Almighty God adores you even more. Our to do so much for everyone so effortlessly. solace comes from the fact that the good When we say that Dada’s death has created Lord will keep you safe in His bosom until we a great vacuum, we’re not just making meet again after the resurrection. up words. All of our friends and relatives can attest to Dada’s dedication to meeting Dada, dzudzor le nutifafa me! Amen their individual needs to the best of her 8 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

TRIBUTE BY THE BELOVED SON GABBY KWADZO AMEGAH As I sit down to write this tribute Thank you for all of your to you, I'm overwhelmed with sacrifices for me, all of gratitude and love for everything your love, and for being you've done for me. You have the best mother anyone been a constant source of strength, could ask for. support, and guidance throughout my life, and I consider myself extremely small.Youhaveinstilledinmetheimportance fortunate to have you as a mother. of values. You have demonstrated what it means to be a strong, independent woman, You have been there for me since the day I and I am proud to call you my mother. was born, nurturing and caring for me with unconditional love. You always prioritized I understand that being a single mother my needs over yours, sacrificing so much for the majority of my life was not an to ensure that I have the best life possible. easy task, and there were times when I did not make things easy for you. As I grew older, you continued to be But you remained patient, loving, and my rock, offering words of wisdom supportive throughout. Your unwavering and encouragement during difficult commitment to your family is admirable. times and never giving up on me. So, on this day, I'd like to thank you, Dada. I am forever thankful to you for all the lessons Thank you for all of your sacrifices for you have taught me over the years, large and me, all of your love, and for being the best mother anyone could ask for. I adore you more than words can express. Your beloved son Kwadzo Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 9

TRIBUTE BY MRS LENA AMEGAH-AZADAGLI (YOUR DAUGHTER) “When peace like a river attendeth Education was my mother’s main focus and my way, when sorrows like sea everybody around her can testify that you billows roll, whatever my lot, cannot be part of our family and refuse to go Thou has taught me to say, it is to school.“Ne me sukua de ge o la, ke nuka well, it is well with my soul.” woge na la ?”. These were her words. How do I say a final goodbye? Where do I She was a disciplinarian, a hard core woman begin? What words does one use when who did not compromise on anything. You consumed with unbearable grief? couldn’t be faster in thinking or smarter than Dada in any aspect no matter how hard you “A mother’s love…it is far beyond defining; it tried. Everyone under my mother’s roof was defies all explanation. subjected to hard training and a strict upbringing: she did not discriminate I remember my mum as an extremely caring among us: her children, nephews, nieces woman. Though she was a disciplinarian, she and all who were under her covering. cared and protected me to a fault. If I clearly recall the various stages of my life and what I Step out briefly to anywhere in the evening, personally benefited from this lovely woman, and Dada will be widely awake ready to my mother, I can only thank God. see you come back before she goes to bed. Such was the intensity of her love and My mother has done a wonderful tireless job protection. She never hesitated to correct of giving birth to me and taking care of me. me accordingly whenever I went astray and Although Papa left us quite early, Dada always stood for truth. She was the one who quickly stepped into his shoes and doubled held me up and never let me fall, the one who as a father and mother. Over the years, saw me through it all. getting involved; most especially in things pertaining to school. 10 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

When Dada transferred from Keta to my A FAREWELL MESSAGE FROM NICK home for the past twenty-five years, it AMEGAH TO HIS HEROIC BELOVED MUM was for her to have enough time and a comfortable hide-out to rest. However, “When the day arrives that there this turned out to be a blessing as all are no more tomorrows for me, her grandchildren passed through her I want my children to know and hands pleasurably during this period. never forget that they were, are, and always will be deeply loved by me\". Dada took good care of my children, taught Dada, you have indeed lived and exemplified them values and If my children can speak this statement to the fullest without any Ewe today, I owe her priceless gratitude. You equivocation. were proud of your grandchildren and always My mother was far from perfect, she didn't ready to impart whatever you had to them. go to the best schools, dress in finest clothes or have a lot of money in relative terms but Indeed, a great tree has fallen in the forest and when I look back, she had riches that money small things have coiled into can't buy ... a big heart that knew one thing, silence, their senses eroded beyond fear. the profound love for her children, family Ask me about my mentor and I will point at and friends. my mother. Esther Lumorshie Your death impacted me in ways I didn't Nukpezah – Amegah. She was the greatest expect, Dada, but the years we had together woman I have ever known: Her love for impacted me tremendously. You taught me people was bountiful. She treated strangers to be independent, generous, to love and with much affection and what mesmerises cherish my family, to always be humble and me was how she embraced all those she modest, to pursue education to the highest came into contact with. levels, to work hard and be self-sufficient and She was an icon in her family and a unifier. She was a mother to many and I am proud to say that Dada, Heavy, Kpekpetorɔ, Melody Café, you have accomplished your God given assignment completely and you can go take your rest in the bosom of the Creator. My mother my all, I couldn’t ask for a better mother than you. You are all in all. Dada, sleep sound. You are dearly missed. Fare thee well – Dada. Dzudzorɔ le ɳnutifafa me. Hede nyuie-e-e. Mawu nuto na no anyi kpliwo. . Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 11

save for the unknown future, to be content say 'hi' to our lovely Papa for us. Tell 'him' his with little achievements God grants me blessed blood is still irrigating the extension of before pursuing further accomplishments if the family. need be. Aahh, lest I forget! You also impacted Rest well my cherished Heroine and rest me with keeping my environments clean, assured that, your back will always be covered. simple and tidy and also to always sound and look good in my appearance. TRIBUTE BY DORMLEA BRIDGET/ BRIGITA/ DZIDZI My Mum, Lumorshie loved and cherished her culture and traditions and therefore “My mom is a never-ending song in mentored me to be respectful but never my heart of comfort, happiness, feel intimidated, inferior or superior no and being. I may sometimes matter what the circumstance. Your forget the words but I always high handedness, non-discriminatory remember the tune.” Graycie Harmon disciplinarian approach in raising me, has I thought by now I'd be strong enough to indeed manifested as being one of my core accept fate and not be hurt by your death, family values. The cane (Keteku) and electric but it really hurts. The loss of a deeply wires you used in lashing and disciplining admired loved one can be heartbreaking for me has worked perfectly but like I always all because our journey in life involves more jokingly told you, \"you were lucky that Ghana than meets the eye. Police (DOVVSU) didn't exist at the time for Your life was well lived, and you saw beauty you to see your smoothness level for child in everything; you were full of energy and abuse offence\". optimism. Your values and principles have shaped me, and your believe that there is My Mother has seen it all in her over 92 years always room for improvement pushed me to stay on this earth and that death is inevitable and therefore never afraid to die. She lost some of her children, grandchildren, parents, junior siblings, uncles, aunts and best friends but always remained resolute and unshaken. As the first grandchild of your grandparents, you were born a leader and as such exuded a tough character till your demise. Your fearless and tough character enabled you handle with relative ease, the many challenges life and mankind threw at you. We as your children hardly had our way when it comes to pertinent issues between mother and children even till your solemn peaceful departure. Dada, you are the best and always will be. You may be gone from my sight, but you will ALWAYS be in my HEART. Your hard earned legacy will be protected and preserved by your lovely grandchildren and us. Lord, I solemnly pray for the soul of our dear mother and I humbly request you keep her safe in heaven. Mum, if you can hear me, do 12 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

be a better version of myself. Being your last Until we meet again. baby, I was pampered, but your principles We think about you always were not compromised to favor me. Ewor vi We talk about you still .. nam, gake, Eh Heavy fe tome! You have never been forgotten And you never will Your mantra in the face of adversity or We hold you close within our sickness was that \"you did not send for the hearts And there you will sickness and that it will go away on its own; remain.. To walk and guide us if you give it a seat, it will feel welcome\". You through our lives always encouraged us to leave the rest to Until we meet again” God. Your words have become my major life mantra. UNKNOWN My well-being and welfare were amongst Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 13 your top priorities. You always instructed siblings, family, and friends to take special care of me for you. What surprised me the most was the day you told Nutifafa, your grandson, to take care of me as well. We all laughed that day, but looking back, I start realizing how precious a jewel I am to you. Our weekend visits were most cherished and will live on in our memories. \"...Dzidzi it is late, send the children home...\", If you do not hear from us soon after leaving, you would always call “medo afeme kpoa”? Your early morning calls to check on me and the family would be deeply missed. Oh! I wish I can hear for the last…. is “Owner” there; miafofoa de? What of Nyuiade? Egale aba dzi mefor kpoa? Thank you for being my Mother, Father, Teacher, Provider, and most importantly gist mate. Tell my dad about the excellent work you have done, and let your blessing continue to be upon us. Davi Heavy na dzudzor le nutifafa me.

GrandTribcutehbyildren I love it when you meet an angel on Earth and to be responsible children and adults they have no idea that’s what they are; a human angel, an angel covered in skin. They She always took keen interest in our are the best kind of human to know. education and was ever eager and present to As your eyes widen, as you evolve and your join us celebrate the small wins. soul is receptive, you will encounter and She made sure to teach us the ewe language recognize these angels on Earth more and together with various aspects of our culture. more. For the older ones, she could sit us for hours to share history lessons. Melody Ice Dada, we your grandchildren are forever grateful for the indelible influence you’ve had An Angel on earth is exactly what on our lives and we celebrate a life well lived our grandmother was to us and today. many others. Dada , as we all affectionately called her was the We wish you had stayed with us a little longer most benevolent , loving and caring person to celebrate various milestones yet to be to walk this earth. achieved.We wish you had stayed a little She made sure she had a special relationship longer for us to shower you with half of the with each of her grandchildren. She always love and gifts you blessed us with. welcomed us with open arms and a warm We refuse to mourn but rather celebrate your smile. She always showered us with gifts no life because we are comforted in the fact that matter how small. ,though we’ve lost our Angel here on earth, Heaven has gained one more to its host. In our early formative years, we all got scolded every time we did wrong in her We know you will be cheering us on from presence but we grew up to appreciate and above. You’ll forever hold a special place in understand the love and lessons behind our hearts. those thunderous yells. Your legacy will live on. She was a disciplinarian and instilled in us Rest well in the bosom of Our Lord Dada great morals which have helped nurture us We love you. 14 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

Irene Deku-Lumor As I stand here today to bid you Seyram Azadagli farewell, my heart is heavy with sadness and yet filled with gratitude for the love and memories you have left behind. You were always there for me, with your kind words, your gentle touch, and your warm embrace. I will always cherish the times we spent together, the laughter we shared, and the stories you told me about your own life. You lived a long and fruitful life, leaving a legacy that will be remembered for generations to come. As I say goodbye to you today, I take comfort in knowing that you lived a full and meaningful life, and that your love and kindness touched the hearts of so many people. You will always hold a special place in my heart and your memory will live on through me and all those whose lives you touched. Rest in peace, Dada. I love you Dada, Daavi Heavy, Dadascodo, Nobody, No Way! These are some of the ways we address you. You were a peoples person but also held your family values strongly. You played various roles to multiple people effortlessly as a father, mother, Aunty, counselor and many more. Personally, you are the definition of a life well lived. Your values of hardwork, selflessness, kindness and patience are your hallmark. There is no doubt in my mind that you are in a better place. Your legacy lives on. You are the epitome of Greatness. Rest In Peace my beloved grandma. Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 15

Dr.Charles Selikem Azadagli and my feet too numb for me to feel. I asked God for strength to face whatever required “Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be my presence with such urgency. uninformed about those who sleep in death, so I remember very vividly the series of events that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, that dawn as though it happened yesterday. who have no hope. For we believe that Jesus Tears rolling uncontrollably down my died and rose again, and so we believe that cheeks even as I pushed your lifeless body to God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen the morgue. A day that is forever imprinted in asleep in him. According to the Lord’s word, we my memory. tell you that we who are still alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will certainly not ‘Heavy Heavy’, as I affectionately called precede those who have fallen asleep.” you, you’ve left our hearts broken with your peaceful departure but I’m comforted by On the 23rd of November 2022, at the above scripture , knowing that you’re around 10pm , I reluctantly left your in a better place; at rest with the Lord and bedside to go and get some rest watching over us. after much persuasion. Though extremely tired, I lay on my bed unable to Many have a distant relationship with their fall asleep in such pain and sorrow like I had grandparents but that was never my case. never felt before.This had been my default You’ve been around for as long as I’ve lived state the entire period you took ill. I remained and been more than a mother figure in my in this state when a call came through life. from the hospital in the early hours of 24th November, 2022 requesting my presence . You were a great pillar that held the entire family together. You’re the most selfless, My eyes suddenly filled with tears, my heart kindest , strongest and most resilient person racing uncontrollably, my hands grew cold I know till date. The discipline, values and credo you instilled in me have made me the man I am today and I’m forever grateful for your impact in my life. Dada, I miss your absence more and more with each passing day . I yearn for my phone to ring one more time just to hear you complain about how I haven’t called you in days when In reality we probably spoke a few hours ago. Dada you’ve gone to be with your maker now but will never be forgotten . I know you will continue to keep watch over us from above. Till we meet again someday. Rest easy Dada!! Xede Nyuie!! 16 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

Sena Michelle Azadagli If I could describe Dada in one word, it would have to be - selfless. That is who she was, a Ihave tried many times to put pen to selfless person and dare I say caring to a paper, to find the right words to describe fault. Without uttering a word, Olivia always my grandmother but instead end up with knew when there was something wrong tissues and papers soaked with tears. with me and showed great concern even Somewhere within, I long to wake up from a when I asked her not to worry. When dream to hear that Dada is still here with me. I stayed out late, she bombarded me Speaking about Dada using the past tense with calls and would wait until I came seems unreal as I always saw her as immortal, home before she would retire to bed. a person who would remain with me forever. Although warm and jovial, she was a Dada, as we all affectionately called her, disciplinarian who taught me values wore multiple hats and was more than a and never failed to rebuke me when grandmother to me. She was my friend, helper, she thought it necessary. Dada loved and teacher. Many times I forgot the huge age all her grandchildren dearly, but I knew gap that existed between us because of the there was a special bond that we shared. friendly and warm nature of our relationship. She always showered me with gifts and was O, how I will miss the times we would sit willing to give me the last of everything she together and chat for hours as she told stories, had. Sometimes, she was stubborn recounted history, and cracked jokes. We and would only have her meals when I joked and laughed as if we were agemates, coerced her to eat. She was welcoming to and I never got tired of spending time with her, strangers and would instantly strike up a watching tv or dancing on Saturday mornings. conversation with them. It amazed and She was there for me in my lowest moments amused me how Dada was a one-stop and cheered me on in the good times. shop for everything that anyone needed. Losing Dada means losing a big part of me as she was very instrumental through every stage of my life. Dada took good care of me even when she did not have to and thus, I deemed it a privilege when the opportunity arose for me to do the same for her in her last years with us. It seems just like yesterday when during one of our many conversations, she mentioned she had named herself ‘Olivia’ and we had a good laugh about it. I began to call her Olivia and it stuck with her. I am filled with sorrow, with some days worse than others because nothing could have prepared me for this great loss. I feel she ought to have stayed alive a little longer for me to fulfil my promise of making her proud and pampering her. She always spoke about how she never slept at night but alas now she has the rest she so desired. Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 17

‘You can shed tears that she is gone or you ‘Nka avi fam ne le?’ - this would have been can smile because she has lived. the very question you would ask if you were here with me today. You can close your eyes and pray that she’ll come back or you can open your eyes and Therefore, I will wipe my tears, celebrate you, see all she’s left. Your heart can be empty cling to the beautiful memories and continue because you can’t see her or you can be full to make you proud as you join our Heavenly of the love you shared.’ Father. I choose to be grateful for the time I got to You will always be in my heart and forever be spend with Dada. I couldn’t have asked for a my Olivia. better grandmother, friend, confidant, helper and biggest cheerleader. Dzudzor le nutifafa me. Shaun Amegah My earliest memories of Dada would be when I closed from school, and waited at her My sister burst into my room with place for my parents to come for me. tears running down her face. She was always doing her best to make us(her ‘Dada is gone’ were the only words grandchildren) comfortable. She always that managed to come out of her made sure I was never hungry. Whenever mouth. it was time for me to go home, I never went A mixture of pain, grief, shock, anguish……. empty handed: from bread to sweets, clothes words that are not enough to convey my and even foodstuffs even though l am not the feelings at that instant. one to prepare our meals. Now, everytime I think of Dada, I feel a sharp It will interest you to know that, I still sleep pain in my chest. If I think about her demise with the cloth all these years. This cloth has for too long, my eyes start to water. covered me up throughout my Senior High School days and l'm so grateful. The last time I saw Dada, she was in the hospital, unable to move. She heard my name and gave my finger a squeeze. A fleeting memory I will not forget. Dada, I miss you. We all miss you, but we are thankful God allowed you to live a long life. Death is not a pleasant thing at all, but we believe there is a better life after, and one day we shall meet again. Dada, You Can Never Be Forgotten.... Rest In Perfect Peace. 18 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

Edinam Amegah Ihave been thinking about Dada these past few weeks and reminiscing all the good times I spent with her. I miss her dearly. Dada stood up to the task and delivered on parenting me when my parents weren't available. She served as both a mother and father to me. I will never forget you Dada. You will always remain in my heart. Dada, hearing your demise made me go back in mindtothe chair inwhichyoualways satwhen I visited you and I realized, all the smiles are no longer around the chair, all the care is gone, the embrace, and the wild affection of love is gone. I love you so much but I believe God loves you more so I am comforted that you are with Him. Dear Grandma, Our grandmother was a remarkable We know you can’t hear us woman who embodied grace, strength, now, but we wanted to say a and resilience. Her gentle personality few words to remember you by. and warm smile made us feel loved and You always had a smile on your face and appreciated. She had a heart of gold but a hug ready for us. We loved coming to most importantly, we appreciated how your house and playing with you. The you made us feel. We will never forget how biscuits, toffees, drinks and personalized you made us feel loved and cherished. parcels we receive any time we visit We are saddened by your demise, but we you on weekends are so much of what are also grateful. We are grateful for the we look forward to during the week. time we spent with you and the memories we created. We had no idea we wouldn’t see you again after our previous visit to  you. We will miss you so much, yet we will never forget the love you gave us. We can only summarize the rest of our thoughts like David Harkins, We can shed tears that she is gone Or we can smile because she has lived….. We can remember her and only that she is gone Or we can cherish her memory and let it live on We can cry and close our mind, be empty and turn your back Or we can do what she would want: smile, open our eyes, love and go on. Rest in peace, Dada. We love you. By Nunyuieke (Nyuiade, your mum) and Nutifafa (“Owner”, Kwamivi Horsu, your maternal uncle) Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 19

SIBLINGSTRIBUTE BY Revelation 21:4 [4] ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” It is with heavy heart that we pay this With the new age of technology, our elder tribute to the memory of our dear elder sister would always check up on us by calling sister, whom we the siblings called to know how we were faring. or referred to as Daa “Heavy” or Daa Kpekpetor. Daa Kpekpetor, as we could recollect, was always accommodating even if we visited When we heard of the news regarding your her in Keta and Accra unannounced. What death, it came as a surprise and a shock a generous sister we had, who demonstrated to us, though Shakespear said \" Death is a authority and straight to the point personality. necessary end, and it will come when it has to come.\" However, we did not expect it so Our dear sister, we would definitely miss soon. This was because just before your your kindness, your braveness and the short illness, you had spoken with some of willingness to assist in whatever capacity. us and sounded with healthiness, and only complained of your legs. Daa Kpekpetor, as we bid you farewell, your legacy would continue to live in our heart Our dear sister, as we could vividly remember, as a sister who always sought the interest of since our youthful or childhood days to your her siblings first before hers and a sister who death, you played several roles in our lives, cared about our children too. Our dear sister, ranging from being a mother figure, an elder you have paid your dues on this earth and sister, and a kind companion to us all. You God will definitely place you in his heavenly always protected our interests and sought bosom. the best for us all and even our children. You were always ready to assist us in whatever Xede Nyuie, our sister, mother figure and a ways necessary if you have the means; be it companion par excellence! advice, resources and what have you! Rest In Perfect Peace! 20 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

TRIBUTE BY MINA NUKPEZAH He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away. _Revelation 21:4 It is with a heavy heart that I share these few words in memory of my dearest elder sister. Dada, as we called her, was a sister most people would want to have. She was also a mother to us, her siblings. My sister, not a single day has passed, and you reneged to call and check on us. Your love for me, my children, and my grandchildren was beyond measure. You were also generous in giving to my grandchildren in the persons of Jerry, Beaulla, Sedi, and Nyameye (Pope). For instance, anytime I visited you from Tamale, there was always a token gift to be sent to my grandchildren. What a generous sister you were! Dada, you have always been protective of me as your little sister and have always looked out for my well-being, even to the end. A few weeks before this sad day, you told me that you would be Keta- bound and that my grandchildren may come and spend the holidays with you to help them familiarize with our culture and improve their fluency in Ewe. I jokingly replied that I would be coming for the Hogbetsotso festival with them, which we laughed over. Dada, you were a canopy and light who provided shelter, love, and guidance to me, my other siblings, and many who came into contact with you. Dada Keta, you have left an indelible mark of generosity, love, and care in our hearts that no one can ever erase. Myself, Jeremy, Beaulla, Sedi, and Pope, we say fare thee well and rest in perfect peace. Dada! Xede Nyuie Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 21

TRIBUTE BY AKPOBI DEEGBE-AHIAKONU Parting this way, has always been a difficult NUKPEZA ROYAL FAMILY and an unpleasant experience. However, we of the Akpobi Degbee -Nukpeza family, The loss of an accomplished, affable have taken consolation in the fact that and caring senior member of the you have contributed your quota to the family is always a cause for sorrow development and stability of both the and lamentation. However, the paternal and maternal families and have home bound journey of our dear daughter left a legacy of generosity to all manner of whom we proudly called “Heavy” due to her people, assertiveness and selflessness. Your irresistible outlook and stature has not only story will be that of a legend to be told to brought pain but brought also a sense of generations yet unborn. pride, dignity and values. “Heavy”! We need to take measures and institute activities that May your soul, rest in perfect peace. will go a long way to immortalize you for the Heavy! May you rest in eternal peace sterling qualities you exhibited and values you cherished and promoted. TRIBUTE FROM THE ACKUMEY FAMILY It is not an overstatement that her residence With very heavy hearts, we at Keta “Melody Café” was a home for all bemoan the demise of our members of the family. No one passed mother, sister, daughter and through or visited without a sumptuous auntie who passed unto meal or a drink to enjoy. eternity on 24th November, 2022. Simply put: “Ame me dua nu dorme ve ne o” Assertiveness, truthfulness, unity and She was fondly called “Heavy\" by us all . promotion of cultural identity and values The name “Heavy” was a symbolic name were your hallmark. Our dear daughter trusted upon her from childhood due to her and senior member of the Akpobi Degbee- majestic and queenly look from childhood Ahiakonu-Nukpeza family. Your financial and this name over time overshadowed her contributions in support of family activities Christian name Esther. were forth-coming and timely even when we all knew that your health was failing and Heavy was also called Number One, a name you were under the custody and care of your derived from being the first child of the Third children in Accra. generation Ackumey family. Coincidentally, her late mum Nyuiade Ackumey was also In addition, we acknowledge the periodic the first child of the 2nd generation of the phone calls to offer your opinions on the way Ackumey family. forward, check in the extent to which family activities are executed and above all, to “Heavy’s” mother was the late Agnes Nyuiade congratulate the front-liners for a good work Ackumey, the first child of her father Daniel done. Kuedonawo Ackumey of blessed memory. Her father, Semenyonawo Nukpezah was “Never do anything to cause disgrace for the a distant uncle to the mother's father and family. Always uphold and keep the family as such was a product of both paternal and prestige and integrity”. She shared this with maternal families. us on daily basis. “Heavy”, was indeed a repository of knowledge, deep seated love A real bond between both families. A unifier and endurance. A woman of substance and in short a common denominator who who hated discrimination. These qualities was very instrumental in the growth and endeared her to the heart of both paternal, development of both the Ackumey and maternal and allied families at large. Nukpezah families. 22 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

She became a mother to her siblings, and friend, and so shall it be with all other family the Ackumey family at large. A mentor to members whom she was fond of and who all. “Heavy” played a very important role in have been fond of her. the education of the Ackumeys. Most of the family members who attended secondary The Ackumey family is grateful to the Lord schools at Keta, and Anloga were put under for giving us Heavy who sometimes is also her care by their parents and served as their called Daavi Lumorshie. guardian. She is departing the world, having Today, those who passed under her care and contributed immensely to her families tutelage have also become very important especially the Ackumey maternal family in members of the Ackumey family playing which household she lived from birth up to their respective roles in the growth and her death. development of the Ackumey family. Heavy will definitely be remembered as a torch Daavi Lumorshie or Daavi Ketator, we will blazer who led the way. miss you dearly even though departing at a very ripe age. Heavy was an epitome of love and affection. Though the most elderly of her generation, We would have wished you tarry here with she shared great respect to all. us a bit longer. We love you, but the Lord loves you best. He called you to his bosom for a rest Her home, known as Melody Café at because of his appreciation of the great work Abutiakope – Keta was a home to all. All you did here on earth, never wanting you to members of the families, friends and be in suffering and misery. relations will attest to her excellent and cordial hospitality extended to them on their Mia xor desiade kple akpe visits. Heavy, hede nyuie Na dzydzor le nutifafa me. Heavy, we know has been nagged for a long time by her knee ailment which hindered or prevented her from her frequent visits to the Ackumey home at Aborme – Anyako. Due to the knee problem, she has not been seen at home for about a year till her demise. We missed her absence terribly, because she was always the first to arrive at Anyako during any family event or occurrence and the last to leave. She could stay at Anyako for months-keeping company to her Auntie and bosom friend Mama Afornule II, known in private life as Beatrice Afi Ackumey. Mama Afornule II will terribly miss the company of her beloved niece and bosom Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 23

TRIBUTE BY SETH SLATE AKABA “Lord, teach us to number our days very great disciplinarian to those of us that that we may implore our hearts unto went through her mentorship and care. This wisdom” discipline and values is what has made some of us what we are today. As I reflect on life and death with tears, I write these few words in memory of my cousin Even in your death I will continue to express who became a mother to me in a space of my deepest gratitude to you. Our constant time. Death is nature's way of saying “your telephone and video conversations and your table is ready” and I refer to the bible verse in advice will be part of my good memories of PS 23 that says “I prepare a table before you in you. You will never end without saying “nale the presence of your enemies” be na Norvi kple dekakpuiawo.” I salute you today for pouring a lot into my life. Now that I spent most of my formative years under you are gone, the seeds that you planted in the care of Daavi also known as Heavy or me personally will always be a testimony Kpekpetor. A lot went into those times but that will speak a volume of you. in all, the good memories will be with us and time and posterity will be our better judge. You always requested to see me in person Daavi as we affectionately called her was before you passed on but thanks to a woman of dignity, integrity and value. A technology. I had the chance of seeing you on your sick bed and talking to you with the help of Lena. You struggled to open your eyes to say a few words to me before you took your last breath. You fought a good fight and you have finished the race like a warrior. Dada as I bid you farewell, I know and believe we shall meet again in heavenly places. I quote from your favorite Heshinorga Akpalu “Fo vu nam le agbeme, ne edzi dzorm la, matsi tre madu ye. Amekuku meforna le abadzi dua ye oh”. I can never forget your love for Akpalu, Dzenawo and Tugbata fe agohawo. Dada, I will always hear you calling out to me BELIEVE, BELELE, MIDENGBLE. Your voice will always be ringing in my ears even though you are no more here with us. Dada, xede nyuie, do afe dedie, mordzi nakor, dzudzor le nutifafa me. 24 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

BY SLATE BELIEVE AKABA, VINCENT HAMENU KOSI & REV. BR. SAMUEL ELORM DAGADU, SVD Proverbs 22: 6 “Train up the child the way he/ 2. Life at Anyako: Those of us who grew up she should go, even when he/she is old he/ with the mother, Aunty Agnes Nyuiade she will not swerve from it.” Ackummey alias “Danga” know that generosity of Heavy knows no bounds. This verse from the book of Proverbs On festive days She brought with her a lot summarizes the training we received of cookies, biscuits, baby bread sweets- from Daavi Heavy or Nabedada black and white and old clothing etc for as we affectionately called her. the children. If she could not make the trip by herself; she would ask one of us to 1. Number One: She was number one come by boat to collect the wares at her because she was the 1st born of the 2nd base at Melody Café in Keta. Such trips generation of Soxorme descendants, were characterized with joy because a role she played to the admiration you would spend some days with her to of all of us. This number comes enjoy her tenderly motherly loving care- with a lot of responsibilities such as: TMLC. I. Being a mentor: She showed the 3. Life at Keta/Anloga: Those of us who way for us the younger ones to attended secondary schools at Keta and follow, no wonder she was proud Anloga, know her home at Melody Café to be associated with this number. was our 2nd home. Apart from giving you food, know that you would get some II. Being hardworking: She was very provisions and pocket money to take hardworking despite her weight; a along. In case she wouldn’t see one of us value she learnt from the mother; you for a long time, she would send a message would see her moving around the through the others, to come home and house to take care of the household relax, not to bury oneself too much with chores. She did not entertained laziness. the books. In case of any other needs, be it extra school fees, pocket money III. Being disciplinarian: Heavy was or transport fare during the vacation a disciplinarian and by her shout times, our parents would direct us to alone; you should know that what her. We doubt very much if she ever you were doing was not right. Many collected the refunds from our parents. of us who grew under her tutelage gained more maturity from her. Melody Café was the base of many of our teachers. She inquired from them of our IV. Being motherly/sisterly figure: She was a wellbeing. Some of us who were walking motherly/sisterly figure to all of us. She troubles at Keta Secondary school, had was the one who was playing a motherly/ her coming in to mediate on our behalf. sisterly role in our lives by helping her Her relationship with the teachers, aunties and uncles to take care of us and ameliorated the punishment meted imbued in us the values she has acquired to us. Heavy has concerned for all and from them. would sacrifice her resources to make us happy Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 25

4. Thanksgiving: We thank you for all the in this tribute cannot hold all we want sacrifices you made to make us who we to express to you; just to thank you for are today. Thank you for playing all these what you have been to us for which we leadership roles in our lives. It was not say: akpe nawo, Mawu neyra wo! We easy for you to assume all these roles love you but God loves you the most being the number one, but you accepted and have called you to Himself to rest the challenge in good faith to make some peacefully in His bosom. Rest in perfect of us stand tall in our spheres of life. We peace Big Sister, Number One, Dawo, cannot forget how you journeyed with Daavi Heavy, Lumorshie, Dzigodome, us in our adolescent ages in your old Kpekpetor, Nabedada till we meet again age, with your presence at our marriage in that kingdom prepared for you and ceremonies and special anniversaries. the rightful ones! You never stopped imparting to us and our children pieces of advice and words Xede nyuie, Mawu nanor kpluiwo!! Wor luvo of wisdom to mold our lives. The volume ne dzidzor le nutsifafa me!!! Amen. ICynthia Esinam Dagadu thank God for giving you to us for this long. am broken by the thoughts of writing Thanks for all the love, the constant advice this tribute in your memory. l wish it is and encouragement you never ceased to not a tribute but rather something else dish out whenever necessary. You had an but here we are today. Dadaa as we all excellent sense of humor and everyone can affectionately call her was my big cousin, who attest to that. Thanks for being such a strong also doubled up as a mother, a confidante, my pillar in the face of adversity, always checking lawyer, the only one who gives me shoulder on us and our children. to lean on and the one who encourages the ‘can do’ spirit in me. The day you left us The welfare of our families is your was when l realized a big oak tree has fallen responsibility and your pieces of advice as in the Ackumey-Kuedonawo families. I well as word of caution have moulded us this far. We love you and wish you would live longer than this. It saddens my heart that we are mourning you. We will always celebrate and cherish the memories you left with us. You will never be forgotten and many generations to come will know you dearest Dadaa. It is so hard for me to say goodbye Dadaa but I know you have lived a life worthy of your Maker and your rest peacefully in His bosom. May Father Abraham welcome you into his bosom, may Mother Earth be gentle on you, rest well my beloved sister. Who will the boys call and say Dadaa I’m hungry and the response is ‘hungry nyadeke mele afia’. We will miss you so much. Fare thee well Dadaa Hede nyuie Dzudzor le nutifafa me 26 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

TRIBUTE BY PROF. JOHN AHETO Often times,I told my children that if and when I pass on, they should consult you for or nearly thirty years, I simply know guidance and direction as to how my funeral you and refer to you as “Dada” or should be organised. F“My Old Lady”. I never knew that you I never thought I will lose you this early, but are Esther, my mother’s name sake. here I am in tears, deeply broken by your I merely refer to you as “Old Lady”. I found death, still in disbelief and grief. you to be very warm-hearted, friendly, calm, You were a great pillar of support for me and and easy to get along with, in all my dealings my children and you were just a call away in with you since 1998, I feel very comfortable, my difficult moments. at home, and at peace in your company. The calm and very composed manner in which When I lost my house to tidal waves in the you handled an incident that happened at mid 70s in Keta, you made your house a your Restaurant in Keta in 2004, involving home to me and my children, allowing us to a customer from Kumasi, an Election stay as long as we wanted. Observer, and your workers taught me a lot I recall a near-death experience in my life about your level of comportment, maturity, when I suddenly took ill at Anyako and during customer service, patience, self-respect, and one of your regular visits, you were alarmed and dignity. I also remember fondly the day, when had to quickly arrange for me to be taken to Keta my reservation at Keta Beach hotel was given hospital. I was reliably told that for all the four days up to another customer. In the middle of the that I went into coma, you were by my side and night at about 11pm, I had nowhere to go, so knowing your warm heart, you stood by me until I came to your house in Abutiakorpe. You I regained consciousness. You have always taken received me warmly and lovingly. You gave good care of me like a sister would and without me food and accommodated me. These you, I doubt if I would be here writing this tribute things, I shall never forget. Dada and My Old to you. Lady, I will miss you. However, I am assured and know that you will be resting peacefully You particularly had a compassionate affection with your Maker. I know that the lessons I for my children as well. have learnt from you are life-long and will You were that sister with whom I shared my joys continue to guide me in life. May you forever and my sorrows. You remained an inspiration, rest in perfect peace with your Maker till particularly with your comforting words, which we meet again in the resurrection day. God were worth much more than gold. My sister, you be with you till we meet again. DADA, XEDE were a blessing who filled my heart with true love. NYUIE!!! In our old age when we couldn't visit each other Tribute by Madam Vincentia due to our reduced mobility, you constantly called to check on me. GAtsufui Nunekpeku You left when I least expected but I take solace ood people pass away, the godly in the fact that you are resting peacefully in the often die before their time, but no bosom of our Lord. one seems to care or wonder why. Now the time has come for you to rest. So go No one seems to understand that in peace, you have earned your eternal sleep. God is protecting them from the evil to come, My children and myself will forever keep fond for those who follow goldly paths, will Rest In memories of you for the indelible affection and Peace when they die\". -Isaiah 57:1-2 support bestowed on us. Rest well my sister till we meet again. It has been very difficult for me to put words together to express the vacuum you have Xedenyuie nye sister left in the family. We had our plans, which Dzudzor le nutifafa me included a trip to Keta, but little did we know that God was to call you home. Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 27

FAREWELL MESSAGE FROM YOUR In 1987, I vividly remembered that Dada SON, JEROME AWAITEY-SELORM was the one who came for me to start my secondary education at KETASCO. She was so happy when information got to her that I had passed the Common Entrance Examination while in Middle School, form one and being the youngest in the class. Again, I recall being overjoyed when Dada bought me a gift, a pair of blue designer sandals, which I flaunted as a young capo in Anyako on vacation from secondary school. The Psalmists declared in 34:18: In 1990, after the death of my maternal grandmother, Dada took full custody of \"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and me, and I lived with her for the rest of my saves those who are crushed in spirit.\" secondary school education in KETASCO. Our relationship as mother and son grew To many, November 24, 2022, was stronger until her last breath. and will continue to be just another As a teenager then, at Keta Melody Cafe, she day in their lives, but for me, this will would not hesitate to leave the drinking bar never be. That day would remain in she ran in my care while she was away for my memory as the day I lost a special and important events because of the faith she influential mother in my life. had in me. As a kid in Anyako, many years ago, my Even in my adulthood, Dada always called to maternal grandmother, the late Nyuiede find out how I was doing and protected my Ackummey, introduced me to Dada as interests when need be. And should there my senior most auntie. That marked the be any disaster or major incident in Accra, beginning of a very fruitful and special and Dada did not hear from me, she would relationship. Dada, as we all called her, took quickly assign her children to look for me a special interest in me. And every time she and give her feedback if I were safe. Dada returned from Keta, her base, I was overjoyed was always seeking my well-being. However, to see her. This was because her generosity when we were in our own space, one-on-one, and love were always felt when she was on a visit to her, she would not hesitate to \"fire\" around. me and take the necessary steps to amend my life according to how she deemed it fit. As I grew up, I began to know Dada more. She was a disciplinarian and a person who always Dada, I appreciate you for the LOVE you have sought the best for anyone close to her. shown me since I came into contact with you! You were a loving mother who profoundly influenced me, while also being a role model. Sadly, the time has come for me to say a final goodbye to you. You will surely be missed, and you will forever be in my heart. Until we meet again, rest peacefully in your eternal sleep! Xede Nyuie, Dada! 28 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

TRIBUTE BY YOMAWU I’ll miss my parcel, which you presented to me during my visits. I’ll miss the lengthy telephone conversation, the laughter, and the joy in each other’s eyes as we looked at each other. I will always love and care for my siblings. We will remain together in love and unity. Till we meet at Jesus feet. Dada mie lor wo Dzudzor le nutsifafa me. A TRIBUTE BY FLORENCE FOUNDEY ADZO AMEGAH 2 TIMOTHY 4:7-8 Revelation 21:4 I have fought a good fight. I have finished my He will wipe away all tears from their eyes. course; I have kept the faith. There will be no more death, no more grief, crying, or pain. The old things have Hence forth there is laid up for me a disappeared. Amen! crown of righteousness which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give As a child, I stayed with Dada Heavy me at that day and not me only but for some time, and though I wasn't unto all them also that love his appearing. her biological daughter, she took me I’ve often wondered why people praise as one of her own and cared for me their loved ones after they’ve died. Perhaps selflessly. I also adopted her as my mother and I shouldn’t be writing a tribute to Dada dedicated myself to her. Heavy today because God gave us the When she came to Accra, I paid her frequent opportunity to write and read our tribute visits, and she would always share with me to her whilst she was still alive. All through stories from the past, mostly about things that her life, God provided us with countless had happened before we were born. opportunities to love, honor, and care for One very profound thing about Dada is how her. she calls to check up on me when she has not heard from me in a while, to inquire about my Dada, to me, you are more than a well-being and how things are going with me. mother; you are my best friend, my Such calls from her always gave me a reason to confidante, and my rock. You adored visit her regularly and share some good times me and provided me with life lessons. with her. I recall you having such faith in me as a child that you would draw timelines for me and advise me on things I would not have dreamed of at the time. You’ve pushed me to achieve all that you desired for me. Thank you, Dada. I will miss visiting you on Sundays. I will miss hearing about your life and that of your wonderful husband. You often told me stories from before I was born, complete with names and locations; your memory was impeccable until the end. On Sundays, when we sing and dance with Rev. Lawrence Tetteh, I will miss watching him with you. Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 29

She was a woman who was always content with I entered Ketasco. It took me a long time to the little things she had and always ensured we recognize that I am extremely grateful and were welcomed and felt comfortable anytime happy to have had such a cousin as Heavy. I we went to her place. find great solace in the fact we got to exchange abundant pleasantries when we last met in There is so much more to say about Dada that 2019. She still had things for me to achieve in time will not allow. Dada has been an amazing life. She still had that soft heart of love for me. person to each of us. As Paulo Coelho puts it “Never. We never lose Dada, you will be dearly missed because you our loved ones. They accompany us; they have left a permanent spot in our hearts. Dada! don’t disappear from our lives. We are merely Dada! Rest in perfect peace. in different rooms”. My dear sister, and cousin you are forever etched in my heart for all that TRIBUTE FROM VINCENT HAMENU you did to me in my trying times. Rest in perfect KOSI AKA XORGLI AKA MUZENGE peace in harmony with your maker. “I know for certain that we never lose the people TRIBUTE BY FAUSTINA AWO welove,eventodeath.Thecontinuetoparticipate ATIOGBE in every act, thought and decision we make. Their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories.” [Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and —Leo Buscaglia the life. Anyone who believes in me will live, even after dying. Everyone who lives in me and My cousin, I vividly remember believes in me will never ever die”. (John 11:25- meeting you the first time in 1975 26)]“ when I arrived at Keta to begin my educational journey. I do recollect Dada, I'm so nervous and uneasy you laying the ground rules by telling me that about writing this tribute to I am not going to use your place as a refuge. acknowledge that you've truly Little did I know my cousin, the great number passed on. Your life, and especially one was alluding to the bullying I was going to your death, had a profound impact on me. face at Ketascco. When the bullying started the It is obviously impossible to say everything only place, I could run to was her place yet the here. It is much more difficult to summarize gate had been closed with a stern warning. I such a vast episode of life into a few lines. do also remember she collected and kept my pocket money making it extremely difficult for Dada was a very simple and disciplined me to take a bus back to Accra. The only option grandmother. She was strong and left for me was to swim across the lagoon strict, but loving and welcoming. to Anyako, a thought I quickly dismissed from my mind. If not for her sternness, I Dada, I will be eternally grateful to you. I will would have abandoned my education. never forget you. I am truly grateful to God for granting you a good number of years on She had always frowned seeing me at home. this earth as He deems necessary. We are When the frown became deeper, I always knew all confident that He who called you to rest it was time to depart to school. These were also called you into His pleasant bosom. things we did not understand about our dear sister in those days. We only understood her Dada, I will miss you, but I have hope and frowns as meanness instead of our guidance. comfort in the fact that we will meet again Later in life when I engaged her, she was so on that resurrection morning. I know full of laughter and jokes that I wondered you're merely sleeping in the Lord's bosom. why she did this to me. I came to understand her deep desire to make me succeed as I Dada, rest in perfect peace! Dada, hede nyuie!!! did not personally have a good behavior as 30 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

IN-LAWSTRIBUTE BY JUDITH AMEGA‘H DR. SETH KWAME ANANI Dada, my dear mother-in-law, made The life of someone we care about the in-law title so irrelevant to is never lost. It’s legacy lives on me. She was like my own mother, in the lives of everyone it has accepting and treating me as one touched. ~ Christopher Holloway of her own. Thank you for being the most I still hold dear a time, some 16 years ago, incredible mother-in-law a person could ever when I visited your residence at Manet ask for from the beginning till your departure. Court with Kingsley to introduce myself and make known my intention of marrying Dada always made me feel sound and comfortable your daughter and last baby, Aku/Dzidzi whenever l visited her with the children on ,while she was still in abroad. Despite your sundays. Her face always lit up with joy whenever reputation as a strict disciplinarian, I had she welcomed us with her sincere hugs. no idea how profound our relationship would become from that point on. You could tell her joy anytime she was talking and surrounded by her grandchildren. And now with Marriage is said to be a significant decision her demise, so many stories are left untold now. with far-reaching consequences. However, having been welcomed to your home One thing I can never forget about Dada is her following the disclosure of my visit, I must kindness and generosity. You could say gift giving say that my heart was glad and I felt at home. was her love language. She always showered us This was reinforced when you encouraged with clothes, biscuits, foodstuffs, candy , drinks and me to fix my gaze on God, as you put it, so many more. Every Sunday, we always went back “minor Mawusinu kporm,” which is one home with something appreciable from Dada. I of the core attributes  of someone who is still have your cloths packed up in my wardrobe. faithful, virtuous, and worthy of emulation. Dada, I miss you so much. I am grateful to the I have had many profound memories Almighty God for blessing you with many shared with Dada. A few months after my grandchildren and allowing you to see them marriage, and the passing of my late father all. I am truly thankful to Him for allowing you where you played a key role in coordinating to live to your ripe old ageY. ou led a peaceful hospitality. I still recall as clear as a day, the life and have now left to meet our creator. devastation in your eyes, yet the show of courage at the Keta Hospital when you Rest ln Perfect Peace. Dada, dzudzor le nutifafa me; spontaneously gave your wrapper to the eye na hede nyuie!! medical staff for Dzidzi’s thigh after that horrible accident on the Dabala Road. I miss having our exclusive chats whenever we met; they’ll stay with me for a long time. Particularly, on our regular weekend visits which the kids love too. Your prayers, particularly for me to reach the pinnacle of my career during your lifetime, are still alive in my heart. They are seeds that will undoubtedly bear fruit as a testament to your memory. Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah 31

We admired your principled but calm demeanor, your unconditional love for all, and your wonderful sense of humor, which made you a wonderful role model and good company to keep. I hope Nutifafa and Nunyuieke (“Kwamivi Horsu”, your maternal uncle or “Owner,” and “Nyuiade”, your mother as you referred to them) have inherited your qualities of leadership, kindness, and compassion. I am confident that posterity would reveal the seeds sown. Unfortunately, when you told me that evening, which is arguably the last conversation with anyone outside of your house, that “lebenawo nam, megborna morzorge....”take good care of them, I may be traveling,” I had no clue that you were saying goodbye, even though your stress on the word “care” was a bit unusual. At the time, I thought it was about the planned trip to Keta, not knowing it was a goodbye. Hmmmm… Those last words are now ringing in my ears like the words of David Romano: “If tomorrow starts without me and I’m not here to see it, if the sun should rise, you’d find your eyes all filled with tears for me; I wish so much you wouldn’t cry the way you did today, while thinking of the many things we didn’t get to say. I know how much you love me—as much as I love you. And each time that you think of me, I know you’ll miss me too. But when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand that an angel came and called my name and took me by the hand. He said my place in heaven, far above, was ready..….. So when tomorrow starts without me, don’t think we’re far apart; for every time you think of me, I’m right here in your heart.” You are surely right here in our hearts. So long! Goodnight! Dada, you have lived a full life, and we are grateful to have shared a few moments with you. “As is a tale, so is a life: Not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters” ~Seneca Dada, akpe kaka ka! Arigato! 32 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

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Hymns Hymn 584 Hymn 331 1. Míebuna abe ŋdiɣletivi, siwo, 1H. Mymíanka2fu87anyigba kɔkɔe la, Ɣe ƒe keklẽ xea wo keŋ la ene; 1. Wõ, kekle nyui, va klẽ ɖe Anyigba nyui keklẽ kema, ‘Ye míedzona le dɔ siwo míewɔ gbɔ. nye mɔ dzi; Kplɔm mad’a-ƒe. Godoo la wogblɔ eƒe nyonyo; Ke woatsɔ mía ɖo ŋku mía dzii. Zã do eye mele adzɔge ʋiĩ; Ke ale ke wòanɔ ‘fi ma? I: Woaɖo ŋku mía dzi :I Kplɔm mad’a-ƒe. Dze ŋgɔ I: Afi ma! Afi ma! Ke woatsɔ mía dɔwo ɖo ŋku mía dzi. nam be nyemagatra mɔ o; Ale ke wòanɔ afi ma? : ‘Ye míedzona le dɔ, siwo míewɔ gbɔ; Aƒe nyui ma; Fofo, kplɔm 2. Míakafu sikadu kema hã, Ke woatsɔ mía dɔwo ɖo ŋku mía dzii. mad’a-ƒe.. Wotsɔ adzagba tu gli la, 2. Ɖe míabu le afi si amewo le, 2. Viviti sɔŋ do ɖe ny’a-gbemɔ Dzidzɔ manyagblɔ yɔnɛ ɖaa si: Hele nu si míeƒã la ŋem mahã? dzi, Va klẽ nam dzro. Ke ale ke wòanɔ ‘fi ma? Ɛ̃, nuƒãlawo adzo le dɔwo gbɔ; Megbɔdzɔ keŋ, ‘ye mebu I: Afi ma...afi ma? :I Ke woatsɔ mía dɔwo ɖo ŋku mía dzi. mɔkpɔkpɔ, O xɔ nam dzro. 3. Míakafu ŋuifafa kple lɔlɔ,̃ I: Woaɖo ŋku mía dzi :I Wõ manɔme la, matsrɔ̃ ɖe vɔ̃ Awu, si kɔkɔetɔwo do, Ke woatsɔ mía dɔwo ɖo ŋku mía dzi. me. Fofo tsɔe kem, va kplɔm Dziƒoha kɔkɔe, si woadzi la, ‘Ye míedzona le dɔ, siwo míewɔ gbɔ; mayi aƒe. Ke ale ke wòanɔ ‘fi ma? Ke woatsɔ mía dɔwo ɖo ŋku mía dzii. 3. Ne nye nu vɔ̃ zu viviti ƒo I: Afi ma...Afi ma? :I xlãm, Va nãklẽ nam. Wõ Hymn 587 atikplɔ kple wõ atizɔti Nefa ’kɔ Hymn 272 1. Nɔviwo, migatɔ o! nam. Xexe sia me dzidzɔwo 1.Anyigba ‘ɖe la didiƒe, O, mizɔ yi ŋgɔ ko! ava yi, Fofo, va kplɔm yi aƒe ‘Fi si fu mele o; Mikpɔ ale si mía ‘gbe mavɔ la. Amen. Mawudɔlawo le ha dzim Le ʋaʋlam le yiyim. Hymn 659 Xlã ƒom fiazikpui la. Fifia ke yɔdo vĩ la O, dzidzɔ gã ka wòanye ma, Axɔ mía ŋutilã; 1. Mía lɔlɔt̃ ɔ, esia enye Ne míakpɔ mía nɔewo ‘Ya ta gbe la be: egbe I: Lɔlɔ̃ ƒe dzesi nyui, :I Le ŋutikɔkɔeteƒe ma, Milé mɔzɔti la! Si ke nàkpɔ, xɔlɔ̃ vevi, I: Si keli mavɔ le! :I I: Dziƒo ko dzudzɔ le, :I I: Lɔlɔ̃tɔ, hede nyuie! :I 2. Mɔzɔlawo míenye l’a-fi, Dziƒo ko, ɛ̃ dziƒo ko, 2 Mawu yɔ wò: dze ‘yome ko, Mɔzɔɣi hã le kpuie; Ɛ̃ dziƒo ko dzudzɔ le! I: Abe Kristotɔ ‘ne! :I Gake míakpɔ ‘nyigba keklẽ 2. Mía lɔlɔ̃tɔ geɖewo Dze Aƒetɔ Yesu yome, Le bali sia megbe. Yi dziƒo Kanaan la, I: Lɔlɔt̃ ɔ, hede nyuie! :I O, dzidzɔ gã ka wòanye ma, Wokpɔ dziɖuɖu blibo 3. Míaŋlɔ wò be l’a-fi sia o. Ne míakpɔ mía nɔewo Hele dzudzɔm azɔ. I: Mawu nanɔ kpli wò! :I Le ŋutikɔkɔeteƒe ma, Ke, míegale aʋa dzi, Ana míagakpe le dziƒo, I: Si keli mavɔ le! :I Ale si woɖoe ɖi. I: Lɔlɔ̃tɔ, hede nyuie! :I 3. Fiaɖuƒe sia me dzi dahe Míawo hã míaɖu dzi tsã Kpɔa lɔlɔ̃ mavɔ le, To Yesu Kristo me. Yayradu nyui sia me míakpɔ I: Dziƒo ko dzudzɔ le, :I Aƒe mavɔ la le. Dziƒo ko, ɛ̃ dziƒo ko, O, dzidzɔ gã ka wòanye ma, Ɛ̃ dziƒo ko dzudzɔ le! Ne míakpɔ mía nɔewo 3. Míaƒ’a-ƒetɔ kple fia la Le ŋutikɔkɔeteƒe ma, Do ŋgɔ le aʋa me. I: Si keli mavɔ le! :I Akplɔ mí to fuzã me Yi ŋutikɔkɔe me. Mina míasrɔ̃ eyama Kple kokoƒoƒo ɖaa, Va se míaɖu dzi keŋkeŋ Ayi Zion dua me! I: Dziƒo ko dzudzɔ le, :I Dziƒo ko, ɛ̃ dziƒo ko, Ɛ̃ dziƒo ko dzudzɔ le! 38 Madam Esther Heavy Nukpezah-Amegah

IF ROSES GROW IN HEAVEN If roses grow in heaven, Lord, please pick a bunch for me, Place them in my mother’s arms And tell her they’re from me. Tell her I love he r and miss her, And when she turns to smile, Place a kiss upon her cheek And hold her for awhile Because remembering her is easy, I do it every day, But there’s an ache within my heart That will never go away.

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