Steve Jobs

Isaacson ing in France, maybe settling down, ger, butJobs didn't want to. He was reflection ofwhat I do,\" he told her. n a poignant email she sent to him hadgone their separate ways but re he summer of 1985. It was overcast. ne rail and stared at the green water leaved andthen it paused, waiting to ou chose next. I wanted to run away ed to convince you to begin a new former selves and let something else o crawl through that black chasm of nonymous and new, in simple lives ners andwe could be together every game with no purpose save the game red it before you laughed and said elf unemployable.\" I like to thinkthat e our bold futures reclaimed us, we eway intoourpeaceful oldages, with us on a farm in the south of France, m and complete like loaves of fresh he aroma of patience and familiarity. nd down for five years. Redse hated oodside house. Jobs had hired a hip ed at Chez Panisse, as housekeepers made her feel like an interloper. She napartment ofher own in Palo Alto, ial arguments with Jobs. \"Neglect is ed on the wallof the hallway to their him, but she was also baffled by how later recall how incredibly painful it o self-centered. Caring deeplyabout

A Regula someone who seemed incapable of c that shewouldn't wish on anyone, sh They were different in so many w kind, theyare close to the opposite po kindness was manifest inways large a to street people, she volunteered to were afflicted with mental illness, a and even Chrisann feel comfortable helped persuade Jobs to spend more Jobs's ambition and drive. The ethere spiritual toJobs also made it hard for length. \"Their relationship was incre feld. \"Because ofbothoftheir charact of fights.\" They also had a basic philosophic thetic tastes were fundamentally indi versal and could be taught, as Jobs be too influenced by the Bauhaus move job to teach people aesthetics, to teac she recalled. \"I don't share that persp deeply, both within ourselves and to what's innate and true to emerge.\" When they were together for a lo out well. But when they were apart, Jo the summer of 1989, he asked her to would drive her crazy, she told friend household, and her relationship with to that environment. Theywere oppo the combination was too combustible wife to 'Steve Jobs,' theicon,\" she later at it on many levels. In our personal unkindness. I didn't want tohurt him, watch him hurt other people either. I After they broke up, Redse help health resource network in California

ar Guy 265 caring was a particular kindof hell he said. ways. \"On the spectrum ofcruel to oles,\" Hertzfeld latersaid. Redse's and small; she always gave money help those who (like her father) and she took care to make Lisa with her. More than anyone, she e time with Lisa. But she lacked eal quality that made her seem so r them to stay on the same wave edibly tempestuous,\" said Hertz cters, they would have lots andlots cal difference about whether aes ividual, as Redse believed, or uni elieved. She accused him ofbeing ement. \"Steve believed it was our ch people what they should like,\" pective. I believe when we listen o each other, we are able to allow long stretch, things did not work obs would pine for her. Finally, in o marry him. She couldn't do it. It ds. She had grown up in a volatile h Jobs bore too many similarities osites who attracted, she said, but e. \"I could not have been a good er explained. \"Iwould have sucked interactions, I couldn't abide his , yet I didn't want tostand by and It was painful and exhausting.\" ped found OpenMind, a mental a. She happened to read in a psy-

266 Walter chiatric manual about Narcissistic that Jobs perfecdy met the criteri much of what we had struggled w be nicer or less self-centered was she said. \"It also explained some daughter Lisa at that time. I think for empathy is lacking.\" Redse later married, had two now and thenJobs would openly pily married. And when he began touch again to give support. She b recalled their relationship. \"Thou impossible for us to have the relati me,\"the care and love I feltfor him larly, Jobs suddenly started to cry room reminiscing about her. \"She w known,\" he said, tears rolling dow spiritual about herand spiritual ab he always regretted that they could shehad such regrets as well. But i both agreed.

Isaacson c Personality Disorder and decided ia. \"It fits so well and explained so with, that I realized expecting him to like expecting a blind man to see,\" of the choices he'd made about his kthe issue is empathy—the capacity children, and then divorced. Every pine for her, even after he was hap an his batde with cancer, she got in became very emotional whenever she ugh our values clashed and made it ionship we once hoped for,\" she told m decades ago has continued.\" Simi one afternoon as he sat in his living was oneofthe purest people I'veever wn his cheeks. \"Therewas something bout theconnection we had.\" He said d not make it work, andhe knew that it was not meant to be. On that they

CHAPTER TW FAMILY At Home with th With Laurene Powell 1991 Laurene Powell By this point, based on his dating hi put together a composite sketch of t for Jobs. Smart, yet unpretentious. To yet Zen-like enough to rise above dependent, yet ready to make accom ily. Down-to-earth, butwith a touch know how to manage him, but secur 267

WENTY-ONE Y MAN he Jobs Clan istory, a matchmaker could have the woman who would be right ough enough to stand up to him, turmoil. Well-educated and in mmodations for him and a fam ofthe ethereal. Savvy enough to re enough to not always need to.

268 Walter And it wouldn't hurt to be a beaut sense of humor who liked organic after his splitwithTina Redse, jus More specifically, just such a Jobs had agreed to give one ofthe Stanford Business School oneThu a new graduate student at the bus talked her into going to the lectur were taken, so theysatin the aisle. to move, Powell took her friend d deered two of the reserved seats th her when he arrived. \"I looked to girl there, so we started chatting w Jobs recalled. Theybantered a bit, ting there because she hadwon a to take her to dinner. \"He was so a Afterthe speechJobs hungaro with students. He watched Powel theedge ofthecrowd, then leave a ingpast thedean, who was trying catching up with her in the park there something about a raffle you to dinner?\" Shelaughed. \"How ab and wrote down her number. Jobs Thomas Fogarty winery in the S side, where the NeXT education s he suddenly stopped and turned have dinnerwith her than the edu and said 'How about dinner tonig fall evening, and theywalked into taurant, St.Michael's Alley, ande \"We've been together ever since,\" Avie Tevanian was sitting at the rest of the NeXT education g able, but when I talked to him I come up,\" he said. As soon as Po

Isaacson tiful,lanky blonde with an easygoing c vegetarian food. In October 1989, st such a woman walked into his life. woman walked into his classroom. e\"View from theTop\" lectures at the ursdayevening. Laurene Powell was siness school, and a guy in her class re. They arrived late and all the seats . When an usher told them theyhad down to the front row and comman here. Jobs was led to the one next to o my right, and there was a beautifid while I was waiting to beintroduced,\" , andLaurene jokedthat shewas sit a raffle, and the prize was that he got adorable,\" she later said. ound ontheedge ofthe stage chatting ll leave, then come back and stand at again. He bolted outafter her, brush to grab him for a conversation. After king lot, he said, \"Excuse me, wasn't u won, that I'm supposed to take you bout Saturday?\" he asked. Sheagreed s headed to his car to drive up to the Santa Cruz mountains above Wood- sales group was holding a dinner. But around. \"I thought, wow, I'd rather ucation group, so I ran backto her car ght? \" She said yes. It was a beautifid o Palo Alto to a funky vegetarian res ended up staying there for four hours. \" he said. the winery restaurant waiting with group. \"Steve was sometimes unreli I realized that something special had Powell got home, after midnight, she

Family called herclose friend Kathryn (Kat left a message on her machine. \"Yo pened to me!\" it said. \"You will not back the next morning and heard Steve, and he was a person of intere students,\" she recalled. Andy Hertzfeld and a few other been scheming to meetJobs. \"Laure ing, andI think she targeted himfro \"Her college roommate told me tha Steve andvowed shewas going to m manipulated, there is a fair amount insisted that this wasn't the case. S wanted to go, and she was slighdy co to see. \"I knew that Steve Jobs was t ofwas thatofBill Gates,\" she recalle 1989. He was working at NeXT, an me. I wasn't that enthused, but myfr \"There were only two women i with, Tina and Laurene,\" Jobs later Joan Baez, but I really just liked he Laurene.\" Laurene Powell hadbeen born in Ne self-sufficient atan early age. Herfat died a hero in a crash in Santa Ana, crippled plane infor alanding, and w to avoid a residential area rather tha Her mother's second marriage turne butshe felt she couldn't leave because large family. For ten years Laurene an in a tense household, keeping agood izing problems. She did well. \"The always wanted tobe self-sufficient,\" relationship with money is that it's a not something that is part of who I a

y Man 269 t) Smith, who was at Berkeley, and ou will not believe what just hap t believe who I met!\" Smith called d the tale. \"We had known about estto us, because we were business rs later speculated that Powell had ene is nice, but she can be calculat om the beginning,\" Hertzfeld said. atLaurene had magazine covers of meet him. If it's true that Steve was t of irony there.\" But Powell later She went only because her friend onfused as to who they were going the speaker, but the face I thought ed. \"Ihad them mixed up. This was nd he was not that big of a deal to friend was, sowewent.\" in my life that I was truly in love said. \"I thought I was in love with er a lot. It was justTina and then ewJersey in 1963 andlearned to be ther was aMarine Corps pilot who , California; he had been leading a when it hithis plane he kept flying an ejecting in time to save his life. ned out to be a horrible situation, e she had no means to support her nd her threebrothers had to suffer d demeanor while compartmental lesson I learned was clear, that I she said. \"Itook pride in that. My a tool to be self-sufficient, but it's am.\"