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Peace is not the absence of conflict but the presence of creative alternatives for responding to conflict - alternatives to passive or aggressive responses, alternatives to violence. —Dorothy Thompson Conflict Resolution: Restorative Questions At Home ResourcesBig Ideas For This Lesson Level: Upper Elementary (3-5) Concepts: • Active Listening • Conflict Resolution • Restorative ApproachesRestorative Approaches (RA) is a conflict resolution style that is used widely in schools, justice systems,and many cultures worldwide. If you are unfamiliar with Restorative Approaches, the concept is fairlysimple: identify the harm that has been done and then establish a way to repair this harm.Conflict resolution focuses on methods and processes to facilitate the peaceful ending of conflict. Whilesimilar to conflict resolution, restorative approaches go further than just ending the conflict and givespriority to repairing the harm done.Restorative approaches, then, provide a framework for making, maintaining, and repairing relationshipswhile fostering a sense of social responsibility and shared accountability by way of asking restorativequestions.The Restorative Questions are:1. What actually happened?2. Who has been harmed?3. Who is responsible for what?4. How can we fix it? Essential VocabularyConflict: Any situation in which there is no clear solution. A disagreement or argument.Consequences: The result(s), or outcome, of an action, thought, or event. Consequences maybe easy (agreeable outcome), hard (disagreeable outcome), or neutral (neither agreeable nordisagreeable outcome).Harm: Damage resulting from a conflict. Harm can take many forms, including, but not limited to: emotional, physical,monetary, social, and academic.© 2018 Empowering Education, Inc. PAGE 1 of 2 All rights reserved.

CONFLICT RESOLUTION | GRADES 3-5 PracticeUse the restorative questions to resolve a simple conflict. Focus on question four: How can we fix it? Try tocome up with at least three solutions that everyone can agree on and record your answers.1. What actually happened?2. Who has been harmed?3. Who is responsible for what?4. How can we fix it? Student Resources• Peace Begins with You (Picture Book)• The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflict (Learning Link) by Naomi Drew, M.A.• The Big Book for Peace by Ann Durell and Marilyn Sachs (Grades 2 – 6)• The Big Orange Splot by D. Manus Pinkwater and Daniel Manus Pinkwater (Grades K – 3)• The Butter Battle Book by Dr. Seuss (Grades K – 4)• One Thousand Paper Cranes: The Story of Sadako and the Children’s Peace Statue by Ishii Takayuki• Paths to Peace: People Who Changed the World by Jane Breskin Zalben (Grades 4 – 8)• The Children’s Peace Book: Children Around the World Share Their Dreams of Peace in Words and Pictures by Jolene DeLisa (Grades 3 – 6) Adult Resources• Nine Ways to Help Siblings Get Along Better (Blog) by Hank Pellissier• Communication and Conflict: Promoting Mindful Communication Growth Through Conflict (Website) Resources• The Little Book of Restorative Justice: Revised and Updated (Justice and Peacebuilding) (Book) by Howard Zehr• Communication and Conflict: Promoting Mindful Communication Growth Through Conflict (Website) Resources• A Leader’s Guide to The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts (Book) by Naomi Drew (Grades 5+)© 2018 Empowering Education, Inc. PAGE 2 of 2 All rights reserved.