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Physiology of Interpersonal Relationships Individual Assignment FACULTY OF SOCIAL SCIENCE ARTS AND HUMANITIES ASSIGNMENT COVER PAGE Please fill in all the required details for your assignment to be accepted. Student’s Name Fathima shameema jowhersha Student’s Matric No AC/0001254 Year/Semester 1st year 1st semester Program Bachelor of Early Childhood Education Subject Name / Psychology of Interpersonal Relationships Subject Code Lecturer’s Name Ms Dakshina de silva Assignment Title Rejection No. of Page 11 (excluding this page) Required words 2000 Actual # of words 1635 Soft copy included Yes Yes / No DECLARATION BY STUDENTS: I certify that this assignment is my own work in my own words. All resources have been acknowledged and the content has not been previously submitted for assessment to LINCOLN or elsewhere. I also confirm that I have kept a copy of this assignment. Signed: shameema jowhersha Date: 01/06/2021 1

Physiology of Interpersonal Relationships Individual Assignment Name: Fathima Shameema Jowhersha 2 Course: Bachelor in Early Childhood Education Batch: 05 Module: Psychology in interpersonal relationships Assignment topic: Rejection Lecture in charge: Ms Dakshina de Silva

Physiology of Interpersonal Relationships Individual Assignment Acknowledgment I would like to express my sincere gratitude to my lecturer for guiding me on this path to write the report in the correct format. I also like to thank my friends for supporting me to do prepare the report. 3

Physiology of Interpersonal Relationships Individual Assignment Abstract The article discusses the rejection deeply. It discusses the scientific reason and how it happens. The essay starts with an introduction where it defines the rejection. Then the article discusses the pain felt by the people who experienced rejection. It also discusses the types of rejections and provides the solution to overcome the problems caused by the rejection mentality. 4

Physiology of Interpersonal Relationships Individual Assignment Table of Contents Acknowledgment ............................................................................................................................ 3 Abstract ........................................................................................................................................... 4 Introduction..................................................................................................................................... 6 Body................................................................................................................................................ 6 Signs of rejection ............................................................................................................................ 8 Different types of rejection ............................................................................................................. 9 How to deal with rejection............................................................................................................ 10 Conclusion .................................................................................................................................... 10 References..................................................................................................................................... 11 5

Physiology of Interpersonal Relationships Individual Assignment Introduction As a human, we all might have faced rejections in various situations of our life. Before moving further, let us discuss what an emotional rejection means. Emotional rejection is the feeling a person experiences when disappointed about not achieving something desired. It is commonly experienced in a quest of emotional relations, such as among romantic couples, in social and group settings, or in the professional world in relation to advancement (Berger, 2005). Body Why do people feel rejected and how it actually feels? As humans, we all might have gone through the feeling of rejection or got rejected. If there is anyone who did not face rejection may be a lucky charm or maybe not. You might be wondering when saying someone who did not handle rejection may not be a lucky charm. Yes, sometimes rejection molds people and makes them strong. The article will be discussing this topic later. Now let us come back to the very same heading of why people feel rejected. Sheri Jacobson says that the feeling of being rejected occurs in their brain when people's brains wired to combine all their experiences as they either got rejected or have accepted. People do not understand that these experiences are part of life and frequently occur where people hang out with their peer groups, and sometimes that will not go as expected. This is why people feel rejected (Jacobsan, 2016). One experiment has got conducted to understand the anatomical reactions that take place when people feel rejected. Researchers who had an interest in understanding the physical change that happens during rejection conducted an experiment. Actually, they have used a real scenario that happened. A researcher called William used his own experience in this experiment. William usually plays frisbee with his colleagues. Suddenly one day, he was rejected by his colleagues to play frisbee with them. This incident has got used by William as an experiment. Three people have got taken to play cyber ball. It is a cyber game where players throw the ball at each other all the players have to catch the ball and have to throw at the other player. Among those three, two players 6

Physiology of Interpersonal Relationships Individual Assignment suddenly dropped the third player, and those two players continued playing. According to the research result, the fMRI scanner showed increased activity (Weir, 2020) in the anterior insula (Weir, 2020) and in the dorsal anterior cingulate areas (Weir, 2020). The research concluded that the regions that experienced that increased activity as a response to bodily pain. Researchers said if the brain cares about the rejection, it is similar to the pain of a broken arm (Weir, 2020). A study (Rajchert, 2019) says that the feelings may differ among individuals according to their perception of rejection, and it depends on the way they handle it. The finding (Rajchert, 2019) also says that the people who have got neglected or excluded feel aggression, and this aggression level varies according to the closeness they maintain. If people got rejected by someone or group with whom they keep a close relationship will bring more aggression or depression. When it comes to a stranger, if people have got rejected by an unknown person or group, rejected, or excluded people do not really care. Their depression and aggression level are low when comparing with their aggression and depression level with the close people while feeling rejection (Rajchert, 2019). People who undergo rejections experience heavy stress, depression, a sad mentality, anger, loneliness, and mental pain. These issues bring more problems to both children and adults. People who often face rejection get affected by highly intense distress. These psychological issues sometimes mislead people to take drugs. By facing continuous rejections, rejected people's mentality will change, and they will be needful to be liked (Morin, 2021) by others. So neglected people put extra effort to make them get liked by those who neglected them. According to a study conducted by the Journal of personality and social psychology (Morin, 2021), men are getting more affected by rejection than women. The study also says men are more affected than women when it comes to rejection (Morin, 2021). Men take more effort than women to get themselves loved. Men are even ready to spend more money on the group of people who rejected them. But when it comes to women, they are concerned about marriage rejections or alliance rejections. Women are ready to spend money to show their worth, but women put effort only into this aspect. When it comes to men, they put the effort in every aspect to get them loved (Morin, 2021). The people who are constantly thinking about rejection or rejection sensitive person faces difficulty in making new relationships or connections with other people. The problem here is, even though they build a new relationship, the rejection-sensitive people will constantly be accusing the 7

Physiology of Interpersonal Relationships Individual Assignment other one in the relationship, and they will get frustrated or angered when they did not get immediate replies to the messages. These issues make the other person or force the other person to end the relationship. Knowingly or unknowingly rejection-sensitive people make themselves also a reason for getting rejected (Morin, 2021). People who have already faced rejections will be aware of being rejected. Their romantic relationship is also not exceptional. These people will always look for the point of rejection. Even they are not facing that moment. They will be ready for that. Their partner's small mistake will make them think unwanted things. It will lead the rejection-sensitive people to make cruel decisions. This mentality will not let them lead a happy life (Morin, 2021). There are some other problems that arise when a person continuously feels rejected. When rejected, the past experiences that made the person helpless or sad or unsolved problems due to rejections may appear in mind again. This issue is called Childhood trauma (Jacobsan, 2016). This problem will make the person suspect their abilities and willpower. When it comes to children, when they face rejections, they might think that the world or that particular place they live is not good, and those kids will always see pain and fear. Kids ‘perception of life will change, and those kids will face troubles in becoming healthy adults both physically and mentally (Jacobsan, 2016). Signs of rejection Nicole Forrester says three signs of being rejected in a relationship (Forrester, 2011). The first sign is the person or group of people will not allocate time for that rejected person. Even though people are busy and have no time to talk, somehow, they allocate time to talk to their loved ones or to the one whom they give importance to. If someone says that he or she is busy with their work and has no time, that is a symptom of rejection (Forrester, 2011). If a person gets rejected or feels rejected by someone else, that person will take steps to get back their relationship. As an immediate step, the person will call or text the one who initiated rejecting. But there will be no answer from the other end. It is the second sign of rejection (Forrester, 2011). The rejected person will not be able to contact the person who rejected them. 8

Physiology of Interpersonal Relationships Individual Assignment When the rejected person tries to meet the people in person, they will avoid the person. They will be saying that they have a plan to go somewhere out, or they have some work. Their ultimate intention is to avoid the meeting since they are not interested in a personal gathering. It is the third sign of being rejected (Forrester, 2011). Different types of rejection When it comes to different types of rejections, there are four types. • Facing rejection from the family: In this case, the one who has got abandoned by the family will get no love and affection from family members. Since that person did not receive parental care and love, their future life will not be easy (Rejection, 2019). • Social rejection: This rejection can happen to anyone without an age barrier. If society thinks someone is abnormal and does not belong to that society, that person will get rejected (Rejection, 2019). • Rejection in a relationship: No invitation will be there for that rejected person. Even if invited, that person will get treated as someone else. These things give the feel of rejection when that person has got treated well before. • Romantic rejection: Is the last type of rejection that people usually face. It happens when someone rejects the person's proposal for a date or denies a marriage proposal to be in love or wedding life (Rejection, 2019). 9

Physiology of Interpersonal Relationships Individual Assignment How to deal with rejection Here are some measures that can help to overcome the problems related to rejection. The first thing is to admit that the rejection happened and realizing. It is necessary to understand that it is usual. When you are ready to accept rejection, you are halfway there in the healing progress (Overcoming Rejection, 2019). When feeling depressed because of rejection, it is advisable to stay with someone ready to listen. With that person, having conservation will help to understand why the rejection happened. If the problem was found, we do not have to face another rejection (Overcoming Rejection, 2019). The best thing is focusing on physical activities that can make the mind peaceful and pleasant. For example, playing outdoor games, practicing yoga, and Weight training will help to come out of rejection depression (Overcoming Rejection, 2019). Conclusion Rejection is an emotional break that might bring mental issues. Rejection has four types. They are rejections from family, society, relations, and romantic relationship partners. There are signs to show whether someone is in a rejection phase. Though it is painful, it does not mean that unhealable. Anyone can come out of it when they understand and take steps to come out of it. 10

Physiology of Interpersonal Relationships Individual Assignment References Berger, V. (2005). Rejection. Retrieved from Psychologist anywhere anytime: https://www.psychologistanywhereanytime.com/relationships_psychologist/psychologist_rejecti on.htm Forrester, N. (2011, December 13). 5 Signs You Are Being Rejected. Retrieved from HUFFPOST: https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/nicole-forrester/dating-advice_b_1002829.html Jacobsan, S. (2016, october 11). The Pain of Rejection – Why Does it Keep Happening To You? Retrieved from Harley Therapy - counselling blog: https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/the-private-hell-of-rejection-why-does-it-keep- happening-to- you.htm#:~:text=Strong%20feelings%20of%20rejection%20can,just%20doesn't%20work%20ou t. Morin, A. (2021, February 11). What Is Rejection Sensitivity. Retrieved from Very Well mind: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-rejection-sensitivity-4682652#impact-of-rejection- sensitivity Overcoming Rejection. (2019, july 3). Retrieved from Good Therapy: https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/rejection/overcome Rajchert, J. (2019). Effects of Rejection by a Friend for Someone Else on Emotions and Behavior. frontiers in psychology. Rejection. (2019, July 3). Retrieved from Good Therapy: https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn- about-therapy/issues/rejection Weir, K. (2020, January). The pain of social rejection. Retrieved from American Psychological Association: https://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/04/rejection#:~:text=Social%20rejection%20increases%20an ger%2C%20anxiety,in%20Psychological%20Science%2C%202011). 11