Women's View Magazine, May 2018

VOLUME 12 MAYISSUE 5 2018 for, by and about local women MAGAZINEamTSbohaomegurieetct'psahllianygmore inside:Local politics: Candy couple:What has Meet the ownersFayetteville’s of Fayetteville'scity council donein its first four 7Rocket Fizz11months?A conversation with20-year-old prize-winning harpist9Morgan Short

D2S0a1at8TveHesESEFEBRUARY 8 • MAY 10 • AUGUST 9 • NOVEMBER 7 Ramada Inn Bordeaux 1707 Owen Dr.Keynote Speaker Suzanne Pennink Owner/Broker • Coldwell Banker Advantage SCHEDULE OF EVENTS: 10:00 am–12:00 noon..............Shopportunity Expo & Wine Tasting open 12:00 noon–2:00 pm................Luncheon, Keynote Speaker, Prizes and More 2:00–3:00 pm...............................Shopportunity Expo & Wine Tasting continues TICKETS: $35.00 (includes the Shopportunity Expo and 1 Luncheon ticket) VENDORS: $75.00 (includes 1 Luncheon ticket) Join us for the with Each luncheon a portion of our profits will be Exclusive Wine Bar & given to the Kidsville News LiteracyMay 10 Shopportunity and Education Foundation. Tasting! Expo Call Paulette with any questions: WWW.FAYETTEVILLELADIESPOWERLUNCH.COM • #FLPL 910-273-2820 MAGAZINE For more details on our WWW.FAYETTEVILLELADIESPOWERLUNCH.COM • #FLPL 2018 events, check out2 MAY 2018

TABLE OF CONTENTS 11PARTNERSHIP FOR CHILDREN We all have a stake••• 12 ••• COVER STORY: PLAY It's serious business 17 BOOK REVIEW: “THE HATE U GIVE”Angie Thomas’ debut novel follows a young protagonist drawn to activism after she witnesses the police shooting of her unarmed friend 19ESSENTIAL OILS CAN ALLEVIATE CHRONIC ILLNESSES One local woman’s journey 21NORTH CAROLINA'S REASONABLE AND PRUDENT PARENT STANDARD Helping children have more normalcy when in the foster care systemBuilding a lifetime of memories, Treat Yourself! One vacation at a time... Explore your surroundings & Shop Local Specializing in cruises, groups, weddings, family, MAY 2018 3 all-inclusives, adventure, Disney.Jill Merrill Owner/Travel Agent/ Hope Mills, N.C.910-423-2088 • FavoriteTravelAgent@gmail.com www.FavoriteTravelAgent.com

VOLUME 12 ISSUE 5 PUBLISHER F & B Publications EDITOR Stephanie Crider stephanie@upandcomingweekly.com ASSISTANT EDITOR Leslie Pyo leslie@upandcomingweekly.comThis month's theme is play. To some, ART DIRECTORthe idea of play may seem a nostalgic Elizabeth Longprivilege of the past; a state that can art@upandcomingweekly.comonly be returned to with a sense ofreverting to childhood. MARKETING REPRESENTATIVE Linda McAlisterBut really, play is more powerful thanwe often realize. It's such a simple linda@upandcomingweekly.comidea, rooted in doing what you want todo in the way you want to do it, with OPERATIONS DIRECTORfreedom. Play is not just having fun, Paulette Naylorit's prioritizing fun. It's choosing to saysome things are worth doing simply accounting@upandcomingweekly.combecause the \"player\" enjoys them. DISTRIBUTION MANAGER/Adults are not excluded from play; if SALES ADMINISTRATORanything, they are more able to fully Laurel Handforthenjoy play than children are. Whenadults choose to engage in play, they laurel@upandcomingweekly.comdo so with years' more experience,mental capacity and ideas about what CONTRIBUTORSthey enjoy than children do. There's a Kyle and Ann Simsrichness and a sweetness and a depthto adult play that yes, does not totally Morgan Shortcarry the \"blank slate\" innocence of LaNatria Ellischildhood – but that's not a bad thing. Sharon Moyer Sherris Johnson April Perton Tiffany Coad Sally Farrington Kia Young Tracey Natale WOMEN’S VIEW MAGAZINE 208 ROWAN STREET FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 28301 PHONE: 910-484-6200 Fax: 910-484-9218Check out the cover story on pages Interested in contributing to Women's12-13 to learn about why play of all View Magazine?kinds is so beneficial to humans. As theweather warms up, engage in physical Email: editor@upandcomingweekly.and mental activities that fit your com or call 910-484-6200unique definition of fun. I wish you aplayful May. Women’s View Magazine is by, for and about women in Is writing a gift you think you can use to impact this Cumberland County. community positively? Are you interested in covering local stories, causes or organizations that matter to Published by F&B Publications in Fayetteville? Consider contributing an article or pitching conjunction with Media Marketing a story idea to Women’s View Magazine. We want to elevate your voices. For more information, email leslie@ Management. upandcomingweekly.com. All Rights Reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or advertisement without permission is strictly prohibited. Various vector source artwork created by © Freepik, © Vecteezy and © Pixabay.4 MAY 2018

• Arts •Other Events May• May 3-6: “Jane Eyre” presented by Sweet • May 9: Chonda Pierce: Getting •WellnessTea Shakespeare at the 1897 Poe House, Back to Funny Tour at the CrownMuseum of the Cape Fear Historical Complex. Theatre. 7 p.m. $27-$49.50. • Every Saturday in May:A story of love, loss, unrelenting hope and www.crowncomplexnc.com City Market at the Museumundying passion. 7:30 p.m. $8-$20. at the Fayetteville Area Trans-www.sweetteashakespeare.com • May 10: Fayetteville Ladies Power portation and Local History Lunch at the Ramada Plaza. 10 a.m.- Museum. 9 a.m.-1 p.m.• May 5: The Marquis Slam at the Arts 3 p.m. $35. Locally grown produce andCouncil of Fayetteville/Cumberland County. www.fayettevilleladiespowerlunch.com locally made crafts.Features poets from North Carolina and 910-433-1457around the U.S., all competing to qualify in • May 1-13: Fort Bragg Fair at thesuch renowned competitions as Women of the Fort Bragg Fairgrounds. Unlimited • May 5: 18th John E. Nor-World Poetry Slam. 8-11 p.m. $10. carnival rides and live entertainment man Cinco de Mayo 10K &www.facebook.com/TheMarquisSlam are included with admission. 5K Road Race in downtown $7-$19. Free parking. Fayetteville. Race on the fast-• May 17-June 3: “Crowns: A Gospel https://bragg.armymwr.com/ est, flat, certified USA Track &Musical” at Cape Fear Regional Theatre. When calendar/event/fort-bragg- Field courses in the city, pass-Brooklyn-born Yolanda goes down South after fair/1991112/23406 ing by the most famous land-the death of her brother, she finds strength in marks on the way. Cash prizes,the tales of the wise women who surround her • May 29: Fayetteville kids activities, free Mexican– and the powerful rituals connected to their SwampDogs vs. Roanoke at J.P. food. 8 a.m.dazzling hats. 7 p.m. $15-$32. Riddle Stadium. Enjoy family fun and https://runsignup.com/Race/www.cfrt.org food at the ballgame. 7 p.m. $7-$9. NC/Fayetteville/JohnE www.goswampdogs.com NormanCincodeMayoRace• May 20: Fayetteville Symphony YouthOrchestra’s Spring Concert at Methodist • May 19: Lake RimUniversity’s Huff Concert Hall. 4-6 p.m. Kayak Tour at Lake Rimfayettevillesymphony.org/youth-orchestra Park. 2:30-4 p.m. $15 or• May 25-June 25: Public Works at theArts Council of Fayetteville/Cumberland $5 with your own boat.County. More than 200 pieces of workrepresent a cross-section of subjects, styles 910-433-1018and skill levels in our community. Free.www.theartscouncil.com MAY 2018 5

presents Suzanne Pennink ay 10 is the second Fayetteville Pennink speak. “I would love to hear ceeds from each luncheon benefits the Ladies Power Lunch of 2018. It’s how the business world has changed Kidsville News Literacy and Education set to run from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. since she started,” Naylor said. “I am sure Foundation. To register for the luncheonat the Ramada Plaza at 1707 Owen Dr. she has a lot of good advice and inspira- or to learn more, visit www.fayettevillela-This quarterly networking event brings tion that people will find useful.” diespowerlunch.com.together women in the greater Fayette- After the formal portion of the event,ville area to encourage, learn from and there is another chance to have fun. “We Suzanne Penninkcelebrate each other and their successes. try to keep everything the same fromThe doors open at 10 a.m. with a Shop- one event to the next,” said Naylor. “It isportunity Expo with a variety of vendors. a smooth flow from shopping to the lun-Vendors often include businesses rang- cheon speaker – and of course we inviteing from Mary Kay and Pampered Chef you back for shopping after lunch, too.to civic organizations, jewelers, photog- Most of these women are coming outraphers and more, although choices vary to enjoy a day of networking. It is a greatat each event. venue a good way to meet some otherThe lunch portion runs from 11:45 a.m. entrepreneurs within the community.to 2 p.m. and includes a keynote speaker. It’s also an ideal place for sharing storiesThis month, Suzanne Pennink of Cold- and finding a full room of like-mindedwell Banker Advantage will speak. Born business women who are seeking to ful-in Detroit, Michigan, Pennink has been fill their lives in whatever their arena is.”a resident of the Sandhills since 1975 and The next FLPL is set for Aug. 9 and willbrings years of experience and insight to feature Fayetteville Police Chief Ginabusiness women in the community. Hawkins. The Nov. 7 luncheon speakerFLPL board member Paulette Naylor is Lisa Saleeby-Powell.said she’s looking forward to hearing Tickets cost $35. A portion of the pro-6 MAY 2018

Rocket Fizz co-owners He She Kyle moved to Fayetteville in 1999 for military training and remained Kyle and Ann Sims at Fort Bragg for the next 17 years until he retired. Ann moved to Fayetteville from Stockholm, Sweden, in 2003. In December, 2015, they opened Rocket Fizz, a soda pop and candy shop that draws on the appeal and childlike wonder of decades past. Ann is in charge of daily operations along with co-owner Ineke Morris, and Kyle handles paperwork and helps with events and maintenance. Both Kyle and Ann have coached for local recreational sports teams; Ann was the Swedish women’s national volleyball champion in 1996 and 1997. How does your spouse like to play? It usually involves some By teasing me and making form of poking or pinching, fun of my Viking heritage, usually with the toes. I like to especially our odd call it the “I’m bored and I’m expressions. (Who wouldn’t going to annoy you until you understand what “There’s no play with me” game. She is cow on the ice” means?) the world champion. If your spouse were a flavor of soda you sell at Rocket Fizz, what would he or she be and why? Black licorice, because she loves her Swedish salty black licorice so much I have to hide it from her and ration it out, so she won’t eat it all at once. It’s a toss-up between our Peanut Butter & Jelly Soda and Pickle Juice Soda. Kyle introduced me to PB&J the first time I came to visit. He also always has to eat my pickles whenever they come on my plate. It’s his husbandly duty since I don’t like them.How did you two meet? What is one silly thing you and your spouse fight about? American versus Swedish comforters. Here, we use one big oneHE: SHE: on the bed. In Sweden, they have two smaller ones, one for each person, so you don’t have to worry about anyone stealingI was in Rhodes, I was a high school the blankets or letting cold air inside. I don’t think it's an issueGreece, visiting one of teacher in Stockholm, because I, of course, have perfect comforter etiquette.my childhood friends. Sweden, spending a Driving. I’m an excellent driver and Kyle is … also … but, heAnn was friends with couple of summers in doesn’t plan his driving like I do, and he is more scatterbrainedhis girlfriend at the time, Greece, working for and misses turns. He’s a safe driver, but I’m smarter.and he introduced us on a timeshare company What most excites you as far as recent or upcomingthe Fourth of July, 2001. when I met Kyle in 2001. developments in Fayetteville?After spending a few I joke that I was 31 and The revitalization downtown has been the biggest thing. Thisdays together in Rhodes, desperate, he was young summer, we were at a concert at Festival Park, and the kids werewe kept in touch through and innocent (because playing and having a good time. I took a moment and thoughtphone calls and letters, he was still in his 20s), to myself, if you had told me I would be downtown at a concertspending time together but it turned out to be a with my wife and kids after I got out of the Army in 2000, Iin Sweden and the U.S. perfect match. We had a would have said you’d lost your mind. I never thought that partbetween deployments. long-distance relationship of town would ever become a suitable place to take your family,We joke that when we for two years, then got especially after dark. We love seeing how nice it has become.got married, we had married in flip-flops ononly spent 9 1/2 weeks a beach in Key West, I am excited about the new baseball stadium and what it willtogether over two years. Florida, in 2003. bring to the whole downtown area. We spend a lot of time there and love the small-town feel. I hope more businesses will be drawn to the area and that it will continue to attract more people and events. MAY 2018 7

A conversation with Morgan Short20-year-old harpist • CONCERTO a musical composition for a solo instrument or instruments accompanied by an orchestra, especially one conceived on a plural concerti relatively large scale.• Check out Morgan on YouTube and follow her professional Facebook page: Morgan Short, Harpist. Morgan Short is a prize-winning musician majoring in harp performance at the University of North Carolina School of the Arts. Recently, she performed George Handel’s harp concer- to, “Concerto in B flat Major,” with the Fayetteville Symphony Orchestra as the winner of the Harlan Duenow Young Artist's Award.8 MAY 2018

LOCAL ARTIST WOMEN’S VIEW MAGAZINE: Con- chestra. It is an awesome instrument to gratulations on winning FSO’s presti- behold, and to hear it played excellently, gious Harlan Duenow Young Artist's there is nothing like it. Frankly, I think Award. Do you have any past perfor- it is difficult to make a harp sound bad. mance experience? You might say a harpist is like a dancer in that we gesture gracefully with our arms SHORT: This is my eighth concerto. I for sound production and execute some performed Handel’s “Concerto in B flat fancy footwork beneath our gowns. I Major” with the Roanoke Youth Sym- tune all 47 strings rather quickly with a phony (2015), Liberty University (2016), tuner and change my strings annually. Delta Symphony (2017) and the FSO (2018). Harp transportation generally requires a minivan if you want to include another Additionally, I have performed Mo- person traveling with you. My handy harp zart’s “Flute and Harp Concerto” along- cart maneuvers the harp in and out of side David Cramer, associate principle venues, even taking stairs if need be. flutist of the Philadelphia Orchestra at Skidmore College (2015), and once again WVM: Do you own any other harps? at the Shenandoah Valley Bach Festival SHORT: I have a smaller Salvi lever harp, (2017) alongside Emma Resmini, a stu- which I began playing at age six. At 35 dent from the Curtis Institute of Music. pounds and 36 strings, it is easy to trans- As guest artist at the festival, I was also port and is a fine instrument for music invited to perform in a chamber concert therapy or outside gigs. I hope to obtain series, so I chose another concerto, Rav- a traditional Celtic Harp and Paraguayan el’s “Introduction and Allegro.” Collab- Harp in the near future as I play a lot of orating with six exceptional musicians world music, not just classical and jazz. was exhilarating. WVM: Do you have a favorite harpist Additionally, as recipient of the Ambas- who inspires you? sador Middendorf Award, I performed my SHORT: Catrin Finch from Wales. I met first concerto, the Debussy “Danses,” at her in Caernarfon, Wales, while competing age 17 with the U.S. Navy under the baton in two international harp competitions. of Captain Walden at Towson University. She is an inspirational musician, educator This year I have added two new concertos and composer and is actively mentoring to my repertoire and I am actively com- the next generation of harpists. peting with them as well.Above: Short's Salvi lever harp WVM: You have had many successes at a WVM: Is there anywhere else your harp very young age. How about failures? has taken you? SHORT: I have had too many to count! SHORT: Many places! Since age 12, I Only a month prior to winning the Navy have entered over 70 competitions (solo competition, I competed as a Laureate harp, instrumental, orchestral, concerto, Finalist at Hilton Head Symphony’s chamber and artist management), all of Concerto Competition. Unfortunately, which involved international travel; I’ve due to a newly regulated harp, a pedal been to Hungary, Wales and throughout flipped up, destroying several mea- the U.S. sures. I just had to go with the flow and finish the phrase in the wrong key. I WVM: What is your advice to aspiring felt like a failure, but it was a learning young musicians? experience. SHORT: Beethoven once wrote, “To play a wrong note is insignificant; to play with- WVM: What can you tell readers about out passion is inexcusable.” My advice is your instrument? to love what you do. Be diligent in seek- SHORT: I perform on a Lyon and Healy ing new opportunities, even if that means 85 Concert Grand Pedal Harp. It has 47 blazing a new path you never thought was strings and seven pedals, which change available. Welcome successes and fail- the strings from sharp to flat. It weighs ures equally as opportunities to grow, and about 80 pounds and is 6 feet tall. This is always be humble. Humility is the key to the type of harp you would see in an or- attaining new heights. MAY 2018 9

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SHARON MOYER LOCAL NONPROFIT Community Engagement Administrator Partnership for ChildrenSharon Moyer is a nativeof Muskegon, Michigan,who moved to Fayettevillein 1987. Since joining thecommunity, she’s beeninvolved with communityorganizations andinitiatives that revolvearound the arts and childwelfare issues. She hasbeen involved with thePartnership for Childrensince it began – first asa clinic administratorPartnership for Children:ataSmartStartdirectservice provider, then as We all have a stakea committee member andboard member, and nowas a staff member.“Children are like sponges, soaking up everything around them.” his is a phrase we hear often, Cumberland County was selected as Beyond the accolades, awards and but what does it really mean? It one of 12 pioneer partnerships, and the numbers, PFC looks to the importance means that early childhood ex- Partnership for Children was founded in of the individuals impacted. In a con-periences literally shape the structure 1993. Since that time, PFC has matured versation one of our staff members hadof the brain, affecting its development into a respected and valuable organiza- during a routine dental cleaning, the hy-and providing the foundation for all tion providing clear visionary leadership gienist, who we will call Jane, asked thefuture learning, behavior and health. and a successful, proven track record. staff member where she worked. SheTo build a healthy future for our chil- Since its inception, the organization told her the Partnership for Children,dren and ourselves, we all have a stake has more than tripled in capacity and and Jane said it was because of the PFCin making sure children have the op- provides all facets of support/program- that she had her job. Jane was a singleportunities and experiences they need ing for early care and education for our mom having trouble making ends meetto thrive. youngest children, ages birth through and wanting to do better for her daugh-In the early 1990s, educators were re- five. Examples include NC pre-K, qual- ter. She wanted to enroll in the dentalporting a widespread problem: chil- ity initiatives and technical assistance hygiene program but didn’t have a waydren were starting kindergarten unpre- to support child care programs, child to pay for child care. Through the sub-pared to learn. Legislators recognized care subsidy, scholarships and profes- sidy program at the PFC, Jane was ablethat the economic future and well-be- sional development for early childhood to place her daughter in a high-qualitying of our state depended on prepar- educators, child care resource and re- child care center while she attendeding children for school. So, in 1993, ferral services, literacy programs, early school. Today, Jane and her daughterlawmakers authorized legislation and screenings for developmental concerns are doing well, and Jane is not only ablenamed this program “Smart Start,” to for children, parenting education, to provide for her daughter but was alsoreflect that all young children can ben- support groups for families and Kind- able to have her in an environment thatefit from, and should have access to, ermusik. In the past year, over 23,000 prepared her for kindergarten.high-quality early childhood education children and families benefitted from To learn more about the PFC, its ser-and development services. these services. vices or how you might become in- volved, visit www.ccpfc.orgCHECK IT OUT May 11 (Mother’s Day Theme) and May 25 from 10:30-11:30 a.m., the PFC will host Story and Art Time at the Eva L. Hansen Lending Library. The program is geared toward children birth to 5 years old. Free, but space is limited. Call 910-826-3044 or email bcapps@cpfc.org to register. MAY 2018 11

STEPHANIE CRIDEREditor 01. Studies show that make-believe games help kids learn to self-regulate their emotions. laying is fun. Our brains thrive on it with blocks helps preschoolers engage in than 6,000 case studies that followed art- and our bodies were built for it. Ba- math-related activities like comparing siz- ists, business people, prisoners and evenbies use play to explore their world and es and counting. Talking, singing, reading Noble Prize winners, Brown found thatengage the people around them. Young and playing stimulate brain development “lack of play was just as important as oth-children learn through play, physically, so- in children. Play reduces stress. Make-be- er factors in predicting criminal behaviorcially and intellectually. Study after study lieve games help children self-regulate among murderers in Texas prisons. He alsoshows that play is critical to healthy devel- their emotions. Children who have 15 found that playing together helped couplesopment in children. minutes or more of recess a day are more rekindle their relationship and explore other well-behaved in school. forms of emotional intimacy.”The Genius of Play is a website that stud-ies play and how important it is for chil- But playing isn’t just for children. Adults In his 2008 Ted Talk about play, Brown dis-dren. Its findings are backed by studies need to play, too. Stuart Brown, M.D., cussed several benefits, saying that hands-that show the importance and benefits of wrote an entire book about it. It’s called on play fosters problem-solving skills. Brownplay. For example, children who pretend “Play: How it Shapes the Brain, Opens also noted that play comes in many forms:to read to stuffed animals have better the Imagination, and Invigorates the body play, object play, curious play, sociallanguage skills when they enter kinder- Soul.” He’s spent decades studying how play, rough-and-tumble play, spectatorgarten. Imaginative play fosters creativi- play affects people. An article titled “The play, imaginative play, each productivety and problem-solving skills in children. Importance of Play for Adults” by Mar- and with great benefit to mind and body.Even something as simple as playing garita Tartakovsky noted that with more Sources: www.nifplay.org • www.alz.org/living_with_alzheimers_101_activities.asp • psychcentral.com/blog/the-importance-of-play-for-adults/12 MAY 2018

COVER STORY 02. Talking, singing, reading and playing are the best ways to stimulate children's brain development. 03. Studies say that kids with higher levels of fitness score better on standardized tests - especially in math and reading. 04. Children as young as 3 learn to under- stand the real world through realistic pretend play. 05. Evidence shows that active children are more likely to stay active as adults, de- creasing risk of heart disease.“Nothing lights up the brain like play,” Brown involved in the project have written numer- when-pretend-play-is-real-for-alzheimers-said. “Three-dimensional play fires up the ous abstracts documenting their findings: patients/.cerebellum, puts impulses into the frontal https://www.lumosity.com/hcp/research/lobe, helps contextual memory be devel- completed. The site has free games designed The benefits of physical play are undeniableoped” and more. to boost your brainpower and track your as well. It relieves stress, improves brain func- progress as you improve. tion, lowers blood pressure, keeps your heartPlay impacts almost every area of our lives: healthy and muscles strong and can help youpersonal health, relationships and educa- Even in illness, play has value. The Alzheim- live longer.tion all benefit from play. Even as we age, er’s Association has a list of 101 activitiesplay has a role in keeping us cognizant and that families can do with a loved one with While there is still more to learn, the existingengaged. Reading, doing puzzles, playing Alzheimer’s. It includes tossing a ball, listen- science is sound, and the fundamental truth iscards and memory games are all ways to ing to music, coloring, playing cards and oth- there – playing is serious business. We werekeep the brain young. er play-related activities. made to play. We need to play to be healthy.Lumosity.com funded a Human Cognition Some Alzheimer’s patients also benefit from Give yourself permission – get outside, readProject with independent scientists from pretend play, using dolls to bring a sense of a book instead of watching TV, daydream,more than 40 universities. The study is on- calm and purpose to those with Alzheimer’s. doodle, dance, go for a run. Whatever yourgoing, but the findings are clear that cogni- Kaiser Health News published an article version of play is, make it happen. You willtive play is good for the brain. Researchers about it in 2016: https://khn.org/news/ be better for it. www.thegeniusofplay.org/TGOP/Benefits_of_Play/Play_Facts/Facts_Benefits.aspxkhn.org/news/when-pretend-play-is-real-for-alzheimers-patients/•www.ted.com/talks/stuart_brown_says_play_is_more_than_fun_it_s_vital/up-next MAY 2018 13

SHERRIS JOHNSON WHAT ISNEAR US Executive director, Our P.L.A.C.E. NPO YOU ARE HERE Festival Park Cofounder, The Marquis Slam JUNE 8 - Slippery When Wet ayetteville After 5 kicks off its (Bon Jovi tribute) 2018 Summer Concert Series May 11 in Fayetteville’s premiere slipperywhenwetband.com concert destination, Festival JULY 13 - On the Border Park. Grab a few friends or family members, a lawn chair or blanket, (Eagles tribute) and relax while taking in some free entertainment. Enjoy refreshing www.ultimateeaglestribute.com beverages and an array of food trucks AUGUST 10 - Heart Breaker for the entire family to enjoy. (Heart tribute) Fayetteville After 5 is held every second Friday, May–August. This month, get ready for the sounds of the season as the bands 120 Minute and Bad Inc. turn Festival Park into the go-to place for date night. The park gates open at 5 p.m. with live music beginning around 7 or 7:30 p.m. The sounds of summer last until around 11 p.m. The 2018 Summer Concert Series Scheduled Line Up is: MAY 11 - 120 Minutes ('90s variety band) / Bad Inc. (Bad Company tribute) www.120minutesband.com www.weareheartbreaker.com This event is presented in partnership with R.A. Jeffreys, local distributer of Budweiser products. No outside food or beverages are allowed within the park. For more information, visit www.faydogwoodfestival.com.14 MAY 2018

WHAT IS FAR FROM USYOU SHOULD GO HERE Maine (Road trip!) pring time is the perfect time to visit national Join Us parks. Put Acadia National Park on your radar for a weekend adventure. Nestled next to Bar Harbor, 2018Maine, this recreation park is known for its landscape of Gallerywoodlands, rocky beaches and glacier-scoured granite Eventspeaks. It is also the home of Cadillac Mountain, thehighest point on the East Coast. From there, you can see July 10thviews of the Frenchman Bay and the Cranberry Islands. October 9thAcadia National Park provides several choices andchallenges with various hiking trails all across the park. MAY 2018 15There are even pet-friendly trails if you are traveling withyour furry, four-legged, family members. You can enjoy100 miles of hiking trails and 45 miles of carriage roadsin the park’s pet-friendly areas. Leashed pets can alsoenjoy a two-hour cruise along the Frenchman Bay, whichincludes full of picturesque views of the coastline.There is a plethora of diverse and amazing wildlife inthe park as well. From eagles and puffins to black bearsand muskrats, the inland region is bursting with life. Justoffshore, the coastal waters include a variety of whales,seals and dolphins. There are ranger-led tours to helpyou safely experience all the park has to offer.There are several options for lodging near Acadia NationalPark. From bed and breakfasts to hotels, cottages andcampgrounds, you can pick the perfect place for you andfamily. Filled with restaurants and shops, it’s a populargetaway.Find out more at www.nps.gov/acad/index.htm. Photo via Craig Stanfill on flickr

RECIPE Grilled veggie APRIL'S Owner of Grace Enterprise tostadas KITCHEN Find more delicious recipes at APRIL PERTON cooking4fitness.com 1/4 cup extra-virgin olive oil, plus more for brushing tortillas 2 teaspoons chili powder 4 cloves garlic, finely chopped 2 green, red or yellow bell peppers, seeded and cut into thick strips 2 yellow squash, cut lengthwise into 1/4- inch thick slices 2 zucchinis, cut length- wise into 1/4-inch thick slices 1 large yellow or red onion, thickly sliced 6 (6-inch) whole wheat tortillas Lime wedges, for garnish Black beans, mashed Season and grill vegetables to taste. Spread beans on bot- tom of tortillas and top with grilled veggies.16 MAY 2018

TIFFANY COAD Tiffany Coad is a property manager at United Management II by day and an avid reader and writer after business hours. She believes writing, as allContributing writer art, should reflect our world back to us and reveal areas where we must change and share in each other’s joy, pain, love and life. within these communities. As Starr Thomas concludes that it is our job, the explores what these expectations collective Us, to always remember the mean, tragedy strikes Garden Heights. injustice we see, hear and experience, and never keep quiet about it. She calls Starr reconnects with a childhood the reader to have compassion and friend, Khalil, as she attends a party fight against apathy and fear, as that that goes awry. Khalil offers Starr a ride is the only way to protect our posterity home, but before they arrive, the car is and change as a neighborhood, pulled over by the police. community, state, nation and world. Starr’s internal dialogue is heart- Published just a little over one year ago, rending as she recalls what her parents “The Hate U Give” has won the William told her during their talk about what C. Morris Award, is on the National to do if ever Starr was pulled over by Book Award Longlist, is a Printz Honor an officer: “Do whatever they tell you. Book, a Coretta Scott King Honor Book Keep your hands visible. Don’t make and a No. 1 New York Times Bestseller. any sudden moves. Only speak when they speak to you.” It’s in the midst of this that Starr realizes Khalil must never have received this talk. He turns to Starr to ask if she is okay, without permission from the officer. It is then that Starr witnesses her second friend, at only 16, shot three times in the back and killed by an officer of the law.Written by up-and-coming author The gravity of situations such asAngie Thomas, “The Hate U Give” is these seem incomprehensible, buta fictional yet candid coming-of-age the author makes it clear that this isstory about Starr Carter. The story a reality for many mothers, fathers,recounts Starr’s struggles attending sisters, brothers and friends. Thomasa primarily white, upper-middle- articulates this issue further by weavingclass private school, Williamson Prep, a colorful picture of how Starr andwhile simultaneously living in Garden many members of both communitiesHeights – two communities so vastly rally together to fight the injusticedifferent she feels as though there against minorities as Officer Cruise,are two Starrs: Williamson Starr and the man who shot and killed Khalil, isGarden Heights Starr. investigated by the district attorney.As a young black high school student, Transitioning from a young womanStarr is intimately acquainted with the who never spoke out against thedifferent expectations set upon her wrongs she saw to a vocal powerhouse of strength and wisdom beyond her years, Starr confronts the injustice of a not-guilty verdict against Officer Cruise head-on. Angie Thomas MAY 2018 17

SALLY FARRINGTON Sally Farrington is the founder of Chronically Amazing. She has successfully learned to manage her rheumatoid arthritis and works with others whofounder, Chronically Amazingwww.chronicallyamazing.net have chronic illnesses, educating on the use of doTERRA essential oils and supplements along with diet and exercise to feel amazing again. It may be surprising, but life with About three years from the time of volleyball coach for the Fayetteville chronic illness can be still be my diagnosis, I had cycled through HomeSchool Crusaders for five years, amazing. I was diagnosed with a variety of treatment options, and it felt like life was over.rheumatoid arthritis in 2010, and life I was still struggling. I went throughcame to a grinding halt. Rheumatoid various DMARDS (Disease-modifying In July of 2013, a friend introduced me toarthritis is a chronic disease that antirheumatic drugs), steroids and doTERRA essential oils. I’m an extremecauses inflammation in the joints and biologics. Each brought its own set skeptic, but after some research, Isome organs and can result in painful of risks and issues – digestive upsets, learned there is solid science behinddeformities as well as immobility. It exhaustion, difficulty focusing, those “voo-doo” oils. And now, almostcan progress quickly, as it did in my increased risk of infections and even 5 years, later, I’m an active runner, I amcase. Within just a few weeks, it was cancer. When death is listed as a back to coaching volleyball at Bereandifficult to walk up the stairs, turn my potential side effect, you know they’ve Baptist Academy, and I have a newfoundhead or even hold a pen. Not only can brought out the big guns. And yet I love of yoga. And, I’ve become anthe disease be devastating, but most of was still in constant pain, had extreme essential oils educator and owner of athe commonly used medications come fatigue and dealt with brain fog on wellness business, Chronically Amazing,with side effects that can feel nearly as a daily basis. After being an active helping people with chronic illness findbad as the symptoms of disease. homeschool mom as well as the varsity their path to feeling great again.18 MAY 2018

LOCAL HEALTH ssential oils are made up Once in the brain, frankincense Copaiba essential oil, distilled from of a variety of chemical stimulates the limbic system the resin of Brazil’s Copaiba tree, is compounds that give each oil of the brain. The limbic system another extremely versatile oil thatits specific therapeutic benefits. Oils integrates with the immune can soothe discomfort and supporthigh in linalool like lavender and system, the autonomic nervous healthy immune function. I startpettigrain tend to be calming and system and the function of my day with a drop of copaiba andsettling. Limonene, found in citrus internal organs. Sesquiterpenes a drop of frankincense sublinguallyoils, has been shown to support a also improve cellular health, (beneath the tongue).healthy metabolism and a healthyimmune response. ank inc en Copaiba is also powerful to use ND L ES topically because of its effects onFrankincense is the essential f the endocannabinoid system. Thisoil that had the most impact on se system helps the body managemy return to a normal life. It has anxiety, inflammation and itsthe ability to improve energy S immune response. Copaiba isand chase away brain fog. It also high in the compound Beta-helps support proper immune cre CaryoPhyllene. This compoundfunction, directly addressing the directly affects CB2 receptorsoveractive immune system caused ar (endocannabinoid receptors) in theby rheumatoid arthritis. These Fr body. These receptors are foundbenefits stem from the chemical in the immune system; they affectcompound sesquiterpene, which E inflammation levels and aid in theis found in high concentration in s soothing of discomfort in musclesfrankincense. This compound can and joints.cross the blood-brain barrier. es The use of these oils, and manyThe blood-brain barrier is the most in others, have quite literally changedsecure tissue barrier in the body in a u my life. Essential oils alone cannotorder to protect the central nervous cure chronic illnesses, but bysystem. Only compounds crucial to o t iv e r es combining their use with dietarybrain function are allowed through. mat ic changes, exercise and appropriateResearch has demonstrated that supplements in consultation withcertain sesquiterpene constituents something essential for those your doctor, it’s possible to build afound in essential oils can directly with chronic illnesses. A 2017 more solid foundation of wellnesscross the blood-brain barrier study showed that frankincense and live an amazing life.because of their small molecular affected many important signalingsize. pathways that are closely related to inflammation, immune response and tissue remodeling. Sources www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3159017/ www.doterra.com/US/en/blog/science-research-news-constituent-spotlight-limonene www.doterra.com/US/en/blog/science-safety-physiology-bioactivity-essential-oils www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5801908/www.doterra.com/US/en/blog/science-safety-physiology-endocannabinoids-explained MAY 2018 19

KIA YOUNG LOCAL POLITICS Co-founder and author, Living Rich blog photo credit source: https://fayettevillenc.gov livingrichblog.comWhat has Fayetteville’s city council done in its first four months?On Dec. 4, 2017, Fayetteville’s current city council was inaugurated. Since that time, there has been much discussion about thebig picture of what’s happening in local politics. For instance, the baseball stadium has practically dominated local headlines.With the end of the first quarter passing, it’s a great time to look back at what this newly elected council has accomplished on behalf of Fayetteville in its first several months.THE BASEBALL STADIUM is a community initiative aimed at funds and put the money towardIt’s almost impossible to check any reducing poverty by focusing on the construction of seven newlocal news platform without seeing the key areas of K-12 education, homes on B Street, which is a partdiscussion of the stadium. With a pre-K education, workforce and of the Targeted Area Revitalizationprojected finish of the 2019 season industry alignment, affordable Program.opening, locals are anxious to see housing, and parent life skills andif it lives up to the hype. Bringing in mentoring. Each of those areas ADDRESSING OPIATEtourists and increasing revenue are have work groups that are outlining DRUG ISSUESideas that have been touted since the action plan. In February, the city councilthe project gained steam in 2016. While this initiative began in adopted a resolution thatPATHWAYS FOR PROSPERITY January 2017, led by former city supports legal action againstAfter two reports were released councilman Kirk deViere, the those responsible for wrongfulthat put Fayetteville’s poverty risk in current council has taken steps distribution of prescription opiates.perspective, Pathways to Prosperity toward combining the objectives With this new resolution, the citywas formed to “create community and strategies from each work has the potential to recoup someconversation and action to address group into a community of the financial burden caused byeconomic mobility and drive action plan. addressing opiates abuse.change in economic outcomes B STREET REVITALIZATION According to a 2016 study byfor Fayetteville and Cumberland On Jan. 22, city council approved Castlight Health Inc., FayettevilleCounty Residents,” according to an amendment for the local ranks 15th in the country in opioidthe organization’s website. Habitat for Humanity to reallocate abuse and 18th overall whenSimply put, Pathways for Prosperity including heroin.These accomplishments are only the tip of History Center, working out effective committed to sharing information aboutthe iceberg. solutions for panhandlers and the community directly to local residents. much more. Between meetings that are open toThere’s been much work in the ways of the public, live television broadcastswatershed studies to address drainage City council meets every second and and social media, our community hasproblems in the city, ordinances to fourth Monday each month in addition a greater opportunity than ever to beaddress safety at intersections, funding to a monthly work session on the first involved and aware where local politicsfor the Civil War and Reconstruction Monday. The meetings are broadcast are concerned. on FayTV, a local 24-hour news channel20 MAY 2018

TRACEY NATALEDirector of Foster CareBoys and Girls Homes of North CarolinaIt is all work and some play when it in extracurricular activities and allow of school and weekend breaks by takingcomes to being a foster parent. Being overnight stays with the child’s friends. children jumping at a trampoline park,a foster parent entails all the same roller skating, horseback riding andparenting responsibilities as being a birth The foster parents licensed with Boys fishing.parent. Foster parents are responsible and Girls Homes of North Carolina havefor meeting a child’s basic needs like been able to put into action the standards The “Reasonable and prudent parentingfood, clothing, shelter and emotional of the “Reasonable and prudent parent standard” relieves a lot of stress frombelonging. They are also responsible for standard” since it was passed into law. departments of social services havingsetting boundaries, applying appropriate to make all the decisions while helpingdiscipline and ensuring they are Mike and Nicole Barton are foster these children live a somewhat normalproviding the same life opportunities parents to a set of twin toddlers. As most life. Now, foster parents are expectedand activities as children who are not in little girls at some point or another do, to treat the children in their care as iffoster care. the twins became obsessed with Disney they were making reasonable decisions princesses. The Bartons said, “Our home as they would for their own childrenIn 2015, the state of North Carolina became filled with all the princesses. to participate in activities. There arepassed general statute law 131D-10.2A, The Disney princesses were talked about still a few activities for which local DSSthe “Reasonable and prudent parent daily. We started talking about spring agencies have to give permission, butstandard.” This standard is characterized break plans and where we would like for the most part, children in fosterby careful and sensible parental to go. We decided to plan a trip to Walt care are now given the same treatmentdecisions that are intended to maintain Disney World and surprise the girls. We as any other child. This minimizes thethe health, safety and best interests of the spent four magical days in Walt Disney embarrassment and stigma children inchild while at the same time encouraging World. The girls’ huge smiles as they foster care sometimes feel.the emotional and developmental were able to meet all the princesses thatgrowth of the child. A caregiver is to use they spent the past few months talking For more information on becoming a fosterthis standard when determining whether about and playing with made the whole parent with BGHNC or for information onto allow a child in foster care under the trip worth it. We all enjoyed ourselves so howyoucanhelp,calltheFayettevilleofficeatresponsibility of the state to participate much that we planned another trip and 910-703-8777 or the toll-free numberin extracurricular, enrichment, cultural took the girls back over the summer. We at 1-877-211-5322.and social activities. have pictures and memories that will last a lifetime!” For more information onThis standard allows foster parents the becoming a foster parent withability to make decisions to help children Other foster parents with BGHNC enjoyhave more normalcy when in the foster having their foster children participate BGHNC or for informationcare system. Using this standard, foster in recreational sports such as soccer, on how you can help, call theparents can decide to take a child on basketball, baseball, dance, gymnasticsfamily trips, allow them to participate and cheerleading. Some take advantage Fayetteville office at 910-703-8777 or the toll-free number at 1-877-211-5322. MAY 2018 21

STEPHANIE CRIDER LAST VIEW Editor OH, MAMA. I love my mama. She’s funny and quirky and a bit sassy sometimes. You never have to guess what she is thinking. And when it comes to family, you’ve never met a more generous soul. She’s had my back my whole life. When I was four, she went and got my big wheel back from the punk down the street who stole it. The first thing she taught me how to cook was macaroni and cheese with peas and spam. I was so proud serving that up for dinner for my dad and brother when she had to work late. That meal may well have kept me from starving in college. Later, she showed me how to make more respectable meals like chicken potpie and pasta with homemade marinara sauce. She taught me how to iron, which I never do, but could if I needed to, thanks to her. When I broke her favorite ceramic Santa in a pillow fight with my brother and clumsily glued it back together, she acted like she didn’t notice even though it probably broke her heart a little. She called me on my bad choices in high school, always pushing me to do better, to be better. My mom saw goodness in me I didn’t know I had and possibilities for me that I never could have imagined. When I had babies of my own, she came each time (she literally flew halfway around the world once to welcome a grandbaby into the world) and taught me the business of being a mom. She’s cried with me and prayed over my children with me through the years. As I navigate the season of sending my children into the world as young adults, I don’t know how she did it with such confidence in an era with no cellphones, facetime or location-sharing technology. But if she was scared or worried, I never knew it. It’s taken me this long to truly appreciate her mom super powers and the battles she fought on behalf of me and my brother. We put her through the wringer with crazy shenanigans to the point I’m sure she wonders how we lived to see adulthood. Now watching my mama as she putters around the house and relaxes among the flowers on her porch, her Goldendoodle at her side and the soft tinkle of windchimes on the breeze, I am happy for her. And so thankful. To moms everywhere – Happy Mother’s Day.22 MAY 2018

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