Women's View Magazine January 2018

VOLUME 12 JANUARYISSUE 1 2018 for, by and about Fayetteville women MAGAZINE FOODIE'S EDITIONChefJudy Cage more inside:Meet Fayetteville’sR Burger foundersYou have an advocate:Rape Crisis ofCumberland CountyChristina’s ReadingCorner: “The Sun andHer Flowers”

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TABLE OF CONTENTS 6 Meet Fayetteville’s R Burger founders 8 Coaching principles from the Cumberland County Schools swim coordinator 9 Go Fayetteville: Discovering Cumberland County LOCAL BLOGGER – NEW PAGE! 10 From dropout to teacher12 Chef Judy Cage: “When people eat my food, they can feel the love.” COVER STORY 14 You have an advocate: Rape Crisis of Cumberland County15 Christina’s Reading Corner: “The Sun and Her Flowers” 18 Helping women dream again: Fayetteville Urban Ministry’s ESTEEM program20 Introducing foster children to new and healthy foods JANUARY 2018 3

VOLUME 12 ISSUE 1 PUBLISHER F & B Publications EDITOR Stephanie Crider [email protected] PYO GRANDMA’S ( HALMEONI’S) ASSISTANT EDITOR bASIC dDUK gUK ( ) Leslie Pyo [email protected] ART DIRECTOR Elizabeth Long [email protected] It was fun to • 8 quarts water MARKETING REPRESENTATIVE build loosely • 1 tablespoon salt Linda McAlister around • 1 pound shoulder steak a “food” • I package dduk ( Korean rice [email protected] theme for this cakes) – about 4 cups issue after • 1-1 1/2 tablespoons beef dashida OPERATIONS DIRECTOR securing an ( Korean soup stock powder) Paulette Naylor interview with • 1-1 1/2 tablespoons Korean soup Fayetteville’s soy sauce [email protected] own Food • 1 teaspoon sesame oil Network “Chopped” • 1 clove garlic, crushed DISTRIBUTION MANAGER/ competitor, Chef Judy. • 1 green onion, sliced SALES ADMINISTRATOR Food and the holidays are Laurel Handforth inextricably linked, and I thought 1. In a large pot, add water, salt and beef.I’d share a recipe for a soup my family makes Stir. [email protected] year in keeping with Korean New Year 2. Boil 15 minutes, using a ladle to skim offtradition – Dduk Guk (pronounced “duck the fatty foam that will rise to the top of the CONTRIBUTING WRITERSgook”). The broth is savory, the rice cakes pot as the meat cooks. Mandy McMillanare warm and chewy, and chunks of beef 3. Add dduk. Cook for 11-14 minutes, Jenny Bellmake it hearty. depending on how chewy you want the rice Sara Smith cakes to be. Add all the other ingredients Gabrielle BrownIf you’re not familiar with Korean cuisine, this except green onion, tasting as you go and Christina Arreolasoup is an easy entry point from both a cooking adjusting to preference. Carolann Murrayand tasting point of view. It’s one of the first 4. Top bowls with sliced green onion and LaNatria Ellissoups I learned to make as a 7- or 8-year-old serve hot. Tracey Natale(it’s that easy), and it kept me full and a littleless homesick when I was in college. Though Happy New Year! WOMEN’S VIEW MAGAZINEthere are variations where you can boil the 208 ROWAN STREETbeef longer to create a richer broth, this simpler I hope your month is filled with foods bothrecipe still produces a full-flavored winter meal. old and nostalgic and new and exciting – FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 28301The ingredients can be picked up locally at Sun experiences, too. PHONE: (910) 484-6200Supermarket on Santa Fe Drive. Fax: (910) 484-9218Is writing a gift you think you can use to impact this community positively? Are you interested incovering local stories, causes or organizations that matter to Fayetteville? Consider contributing Interested in contributing to Women'san article or pitching a story idea to Women’s View Magazine. We want to elevate your voices. View Magazine?Email [email protected] for more information.In this spirit, we are thrilled to debut a local blogger page, where each month we will feature a Email: [email protected] who's making her mark online. Check it out on page 9. com or call (910) 484-6200 Women’s View Magazine is by, for and about Fayetteville women. Published by F&B Publications in conjunction with Media Marketing Management. All Rights Reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or advertisement without permission is strictly prohibited. Various vector source artwork created by © Freepik, © Vecteezy and © Pixabay.4 JANUARY 2018

THIS MONTHin and around Fayetteville Health • Jan. 1 First Day Hikes at Carvers Creek State Park, 10 a.m. Free. Take either a 2-mile nature hike through the Longleaf pine eco- system or a 1-mile, self-guided story walk. Participants will meet at the Welcome Center. Call (910) 436-4681 for more information. • Jan. 6 New Year’s Resolution: Health at Cumberland County Headquarters Library in the Pate room. 2 p.m. • Every Tuesday in January Tai Chi in the Garden at Cape Fear Botanical Garden. 10 a.m. Call (910) 486-0221 to register. Arts • Jan. 6 The Marquis Slam at the Arts Council, 7-11 p.m. $10. This monthly event provides a space for Fayetteville’s slam poets to compete against one another while educating and entertaining audience members with their spoken word pieces. Call (910) 323-1776 or visit www.facebook.com/TheMarquisSlam for details. • Jan. 9 Gallery 208 opening reception: Joseph Begnaud's \"Separate from the Natural World.\" Free. 5:30 p.m. at 208 Rowan St. Call (910) 484-6200 for information. • Jan. 11 Fayetteville Symphony Orchestra presents “The French Connection” at St. John’s Episcopal Church, 7:30 p.m. Visit www.fayettevillesymphony.org for tickets and information. • Jan. 25 Fayetteville Symphony Orchestra presents “Music of the New World” at St. John’s Episcopal Church, 7:30 p.m. Hear works by American composers, including Foster, Gershwin and Bernstein, performed by the FSO Brass and Woodwind Quintets. • Jan. 26 4th Friday in downtown Fayetteville, 6-9 p.m. Visit www.theartscouncil.com for details. Other Events • Jan. 13, 20, 26, 27 Marksmen hockey at the Crown. Support your local team. Learn more at www.marksmenhockey.com. • Jan. 23 Small Business Showcase Expo at the Crown. This expo will feature more than 200 exhibitors and hundreds of door prizes, goody bags and exclusive discounts and deals. 10 a.m.-7 p.m. Free. Call (910) 978-7849 to learn more. JANUARY 2018 5

Rob and Mary’s daughter, Madeline, and Madeline’s Rob and Mary Russellboyfriend, Nick, also work for R Burger. Upper left photo,L to R: Madeline, Nick, Mary, Rob. Rob and Mary Russell own R Burger food truck, which has exploded in popularity since it first hit the streets of downtown Fayetteville in December 2013. The Russells moved to Fayetteville 20 years ago, at which point Rob was serving in the Army. Previous to opening R Burger, Mary worked at Alma Easom Elementary School for 13 years. HE: SHE:How did you two meet? We met while working in a restaurant Ironically, we met when we both were working on Anna Maria Island, Florida. I don’t at a restaurant in Florida. We were a textbook think we initially cared for each other, example of how opposites attract! but here we are. Rob sang and danced in a swing choir while in high school in Wisconsin.What's one thing about She is a big sports fan – not fanatical,your spouse that most but borderline. Rob is best at cooking delicious R Burgers,people don't realize? Mary is a very good cook, but the of course!What dish is your spouse one thing the kids always wanted was I love vegetables and beans, and Rob is neverbest at cooking? lemon-pepper chicken. excited when I add what he thinks are too many in a soup or chili.What's a food you love I don’t think there is any food she can’t Rob definitely has a sweet tooth, so I believe hethat your spouse can't stand. If I had to choose, I would say would be his favorite treat he often begs for: astand? lamb chops. frozen custard hot fudge sundae. A year from now, I hope we both are healthyIf your spouse were Mary would be pot roast. It can be and that R Burger's new venture is off to a verya dish (food), what spicy or plain, but it always makes you successful beginning and a bigger part of “R”would he or she be? feel good. community while staying true to “R” mission: Love people. Serve them tasty food.In one sentence, I hope to be able to take a vacationdescribe where you see after a year of expansion.yourselves as a coupleone year from now.6 JANUARY 2018

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MANDY MCMILLAN FITNESSCoordinator, Cumberland County Schools swimHead coach, Terry Sanford women’s tennisCoaching high school athletes: The Terry Sanford girls’ swim team won the 2016-17 Cape Fear Valley 3-Afour essential components Conference Champion title. L to R: 2016-17 boys’ captain Matt Huffman, asst. coach Akalea McGinty, asst. coach Brant Parker, head coach MandyMandy McMillan is a Career & Technical Education teacher McMillan, 2016-17 girls’ captain Tate Horman.and coach at Terry Sanford High School. She is currently theCumberland County Schools swim coordinator. McMillanis also the head coach of the Terry Sanford women’s tennisteam. She has coached swimming at Pine Forest, Jack Britt andTerry Sanford and men’s tennis at Pine Forest. Mandy was acompetitive swimmer with a year-round team and CumberlandCounty Schools. She is a graduate of Pine Forest HighSchool and has a master’s degree in business administrationfrom Methodist University and a master’s degree in schooladministration from Campbell University.In 10 years of coaching high school athletes, The Terry Sanford women’s tennis team won the 2017 Patriot ConferenceI’ve learned that these components most signifi- Championship title under McMillan’s (back row, third from left) leadership.cantly impact performance: academics, well-be-ing, athletic performance and teamwork.ACADEMICS working together allows for a better Conditioning – workouts that buildTo coach high school athletes, you must understanding of the workouts the athletes endurance and stamina – is also vital forput the emphasis on academics first. You are getting outside of school practices. athletes. This type of workout is outsidemust constantly monitor the success of the It also allows me to know how they of the norm but builds muscle and allowsathlete in the classroom. As a coach, I am are performing in matches/meets with for a break from the everyday techniquein contact with all teachers, ensuring that their other teams. Having all coaches workouts. In my experience, athletesmy athletes are meeting the requirements aware of the athlete’s injuries, difficulties, who do conditioning workouts arefor grades. If one of the team members is successes and obstacles only makes the usually able to outlast their opponentsstruggling or not meeting expectations, path for coaching the athlete smoother. on the tennis courts, and the swimmersI work with the teacher and athlete to Collaboration, or at least a working can step up to longer distances andarrange tutoring or remediation. I also relationship with other coaches, is a key harder events.monitor their discipline at all times. factor in success.Athletes are expected to lead by example. TEAMWORK PEAK ATHLETICHOLISTIC PERFORMANCE Transforming a group of athletes into aWELL-BEING team is the most important thing I canThe athlete’s physical and emotional With so many athletes participating do as a coach. High school teams arewell-being is one of my top concerns. in extra practices, it’s essential to about knowing who your teammatesMany high school athletes have private talk with them about proper nutrition are, wanting your teammates to do well,coaches or participate on year-round and the importance of rest. A young showing good sportsmanship, showingteams in addition to their school team. adult’s body needs the right fuel for it school spirit and cheering on yourPracticing with two teams and maintaining to perform. Game-day snacks with the teammates. It can even mean cheering forgood grades is a lot for a young adult proper sugars, carbs and calories are the other team when they are struggling,to balance. Being in contact with their encouraged. My list of snacks includes when they need support or just becauseother coaches helps, as we can discuss fruits like apples and bananas, granola they are in your conference. Nothingthe athlete’s performance. Coaches bars, whole grain crackers, water makes me prouder than to see my athletes and Gatorade. showing good sportsmanship to others.8 JANUARY 2018 Headshot photo credit to DJT Photography.

JENNY BELL LOCAL BLOGGER Communications Coordinator, Fayetteville Area Convention & Visitors Bureau Author, Go Fayetteville blogGo Fayetteville: Discovering County Cumberland Discovery is the delight of the traveler. It’s that moment hear directly from the person on the street. The bloggerwhen a person finds something new that grabs their is just that person – someone with hands-on experience,attention and makes them curious. Discovery then leads sharing insider information and guiding the reader toto those magical moments everyone hopes to experience their next discovery.on a trip. For some, that might be stumbling upon asmall-town diner that is reminiscent of days gone by – My son’s first trip to one of Fayetteville’s rock-climbinglike our own Robin’s on Main in Hope Mills. For others, it clubs opened my eyes to the variety of recreation optionsmight be finding a festival such as the Blues-n-Brews Fest, present here, so a recent Go Fayetteville blog featuredwhere North Carolina craft beer is the star. five indoor recreation sites. On a summertime girls’ night out, a friend and I hit every site on downtown’s My first Fayetteville discovery happened 14 years ago, Art Walkabout and discovered just how many of ouron a warm September night at the Greek Fest. As a brand- galleries and businesses showcase incredible artwork.new transplant to North Carolina, I felt I had stepped into When friends want to meet for lunch, my first questionanother world right here in Fayetteville’s cozy Haymount is, “What part of the world do you want to visit today?”District. Friends were always planning weekend trips to Cumberland County’s international food scene hasNorth Carolina’s coast, mountains and bigger cities, but introduced me to everything from Vietnamese toI wanted to know – what do we have going in our own Turkish cuisine. These firsthand experiences continuebackyard? Watching the costumed dancers while feasting to feed my inspiration for Go Fayetteville and provideon dolma and baklava, I decided I could (and should) be a the fresh content that guides our visitors and locals totraveler in my own backyard. making new discoveries here. Today I rely on this and many other backyard “trips” More than ever before, today’s adventurers and travelersI’ve taken around Cumberland County to inform the blog are looking for experiences off the beaten path, in cornersI write for the Fayetteville Area Convention & Visitors they have never explored. Hopefully, Go Fayetteville helpsBureau. In writing Go Fayetteville, the goal is to help our prove that the big-city-only mentality is an outdated wayfuture visitors, and even our locals, get to that place of of thinking. If the blog does nothing else, it should opendiscovery before they leave their homes. When people the reader’s eyes to the realization I had at Greek Fest alltrust a fellow traveler’s review on Trip Advisor more than those years ago: every corner of Cumberland County isa corporation’s website, it’s evident that tourists want to brimming with discoveries to be made.Go Fayetteville asked its followers to share their favorite bakeries. The locals’ top three – as featured on the “How Sweet It Is!” blog – turnedout to be Frostings Cakeshop, Fayetteville Pie Company and Burney’s Sweets & More. Pictured: Frostings Cakeshop. Jenny Bell is a displaced Texan who now proudly calls Fayetteville her “adopted hometown.” As the author of the Go Fayetteville blog, Jenny spends quite a bit of her free time scouting out Cumberland County’s hidden gems, niche events and hole-in- the-wall eateries with her family. The Texan foodie in her especially appreciates those discoveries that involve great barbecue and tacos.9 JANUARY 2018 JANUARY 2018 9

Never be a robot. That’s my mantra. Never let anyone tell you what to do or change who you are. BY SARA SMITH Advertising & Graphic Design Instructor, FTCC Freelance Graphic Deisigner | http://smith738.wixsite.com/updateAt age 13, I immigrated to the U.S. bringing awareness to important helped me through some difficultfrom England with my parents. I issues like child abuse, promoting times, not necessarily by talking toattended school until my junior year local events and historical occasions me but by caring about me in a moreof high school and left for reasons that for our community and creating artistic way – his way. I will alwayswere not the wisest decisions I have large-format graphics for military remember his kindness and try toever made. contractors to help build training sce- bring that into the classroom. We areI began my design career at age narios for soldiers before deployment. all artists at heart. As a teacher, I hope16, creating hand-drawn posters for Designing is my way of interpreting to inspire self-expression, contempla-local apartment complexes offer- ideas in a visual way, which in turn tion and authentic ideas.ing specials on draws the eye in and pos-their rentals. sibly brings more aware- Music, design and people give oneI then created ness to the situation. a certain appreciation for life. I useadvertisements Whether creating music to set the mood for a project,for local enter- I have always believed that large- format graphics for whether it be classical for a museum exhibit or head-banging for a rocktainment at the in my professional life, I’m military training facili- band poster. It all depends on whatbars where my ties around the country, needs to be said. Sharing and expos-mother worked. I the master of my destiny. connecting with the local ing students to the beautiful worlddeveloped a love Drawing, designing, visual community when I worked of music and what it encompassesfor the Art Deco thinking – all of these with Up & Coming Weekly, can greatly influence their designstyle of Aubrey skills are learnable, and Kidsville News and Wom- awareness.Beardsley, the Art willpower paired with en’s View Magazine orNouveau style of persistence can make promoting local business- As I look back at my life and its struggles, I am thankful for each one.Gustav Klimt, the up for a lack of talent. es to help them succeed, I I try to live each day with compassion, and I hope that is reflected in mypostimpression- value my connection with work. Teaching and design are bothist style of Vin- the community. jobs I love. Impacting others in a pos- Christoph Niemann itive way is one of the most rewarding experiences of my life.cent van Gogh Sunday Sketching Working with Women’sand the abstract View Magazine broughtexpressionism of me some of my mostJackson Pollock. rewarding work. My firstAnd I was fasci- issue was published Aprilnated with MC Esher’s modern art. 2015 and focused on domestic abuseThese are all styles I hope to capture – something I, unfortunately, amwith my own flair in some way. familiar with. I spent many hours onAt age 26, I decided to get my GED. the layout of this impactful issue toI had been a stay-at-home mom for make sure it brought the resourcesseveral years and felt the need to and attention its content deserved tobegin my own development at that the public.point. At age 36, I received my associ- Designing for others makes meate's degree in advertising and graph- happy inside.ic design from Fayetteville Technical As I continue to grow and learn, ICommunity College. This is where I am thankful to have an opportunityfound my niche, my passion. to do that in a classroom setting.As a designer, I have had so many Becoming a teacher was somethingopportunities to make a difference I aspired to since taking art classes infor causes I care about. This includes high school. My teacher, Mr. Kruger,10 JANUARY 2018

LOCAL ARTIST (left) Wall mural created as a parting gift for my former boss, Jared Ostendorf of International Minute Press NOVEMBER 2 - 9 , 2016 VOLUME 21 ISSUE 42 Henry V Local news Karl Merritt Fayetteville Ladies Out of Sign Dining at CFRT with Book Signing Power Lunch jeff thompson (above) Cover designs for F&B Publications(above) Tri-fold brochure for niece, Sarah Baldwin (above) Logo creation(above) Creative process in the works (above) Custom, high-definition, large-scale graphics replicating areas of military with my vision board conflict. The site-specific designs were used for U.S. troops in military immersive training environments prior to deployment. JANUARY 2018 11

STEPHANIE CRIDER Editor “When people eat my foodt,hteheloy vcean.”feel12 JANUARY 2018 Judith Cage is passionate about food and about people. She always has been. Maybe you saw her on Food Network’s “Chopped” in 2013. Perhaps you’ve eaten at one of her four local eateries or been to an event she’s catered or a speech she’s given. Maybe you’ll see her in the screen credits of a movie due to be released this year. When opportunity knocks, she flings the door open and pounces. As a young girl in Chicago, when Cage cooked dinner for her younger siblings, she knew she enjoyed it, but she never dreamed she’d build a successful career centered around nourishing others. Today, that’s exactly what she does. She owns four restaurants and a catering company and has no plans to slow down. In fact, she is just getting started. When Cage, a.k.a. Chef Judy, was 16, she told her mom she wanted to join the military as a cook. It took some convincing, but her mom agreed, and just after graduation, at the tender age of 17, Cage joined the Army. Her first duty station was Fort Drum, New York. “I went in with so much energy,” Cage said. “They had to send someone to compete with the U.S. Army team at the Olympics of cooking. They sent me.” Because she was so young – just 18 – she trained under another chef in the entrée round. “We won second place,” Cage recalled. “I still have the medal.” Years later when she came to Fayetteville, Cage took a catering chef job at Fayetteville State University where she flourished and was promoted to production manager. “But I knew there was more,” Cage said. So, she started her own catering business – Let Me Cater to You. That was nine years ago. It was a little crazy at first – okay, a lot – but there was no turning back. “I didn’t have the facilities I needed, so I rented them. I worked out of church kitchens and rec. centers,” she said. “And when I saved up

“I speak life throughfood. T here is so much of my personality in my dishes\".enough money, I got a small building and worked out ofthat. I have four locations now.”Johnston Community College in Smithfield is home toChef Judy’s Jaguar Grill. On Fort Bragg at Pope ArmyAirfield is another of Cage’s establishments. She also hasa Spring Lake location. Her newest endeavor is at StrykerGolf Course on Bragg Boulevard. Cage and a staff of 14serve up delicious fare and handle catering clients andpersonal chef bookings as well.Cage serves several signature items. “My favorite meal they really loved our food,” Cage said.” A lot of their guestsis spinach and cheese ravioli with chicken in a butter wanted to know how I could make it taste good withoutsupreme sauce. It is our most popular dish,” she said. meat; they put the pressure on me! It was colorful, it was“When I have time, I can play in the kitchen, but a lot of tasty, and they were pleased. When the film comes out, wetimes our clients want our signature dishes like herbed will be in the credits. That was pretty cool, and it was ourbaked chicken or sliced roast beef with gravy.” first time being a part of something like that.”It’s Cage’s love for cooking that drives her, but her love It wasn’t her first time behind the camera, though. In 2013,for people comes in at a close second. “I still cook almost Cage was on The Food Network’s “Chopped.” “Right beforeevery day,” Cage said. “When I first started, I never knew that, I auditioned for ‘Hell’s Kitchen,’” Cage said. “I thinkthis much was possible. I just knew I loved to cook. I knew I they were looking for bad girls, and I wasn’t really a good fit.”loved people. I could not have dreamed of having all this.\" Cage like “Chopped” because, she said, “You really don’tCage credits her success to God and hard work. “If all you know what is going to go on. It was what I expectedhave is a dream, focus on God, hold on tight, and push. because I did not expect to know what was in the basket …You’ve got to hold on tight and push through it when and I did not. It was so much fun. I am always up for a goodthings get hard. That is important because some days you competition, and when you put food in it, I just can’t resist.”don’t feel like working, but you’ve got to push through it.It’s so worth it in the end.” Although her plate is admittedly quite full, Cage is pushing forward. Her next project is a show of herHer thriving businesses keep Cage busy, but she’s not own. “I speak life through food. There is so much of mydone yet. Fresh off a movie shoot – not only did she cater personality in my dishes – I love to have fun and laughthe set for the last part of filming for “The Game Changers,” and make people feel good. When people eat my food,produced by James Cameron of “Ghost” and “The Titanic” they can feel the love,” she said.fame – her food was featured in the movie as well. “‘TheGame Changers’ will introduce the world to elite athletes, She said the show will be about food and much more.special ops soldiers, visionary scientists, cultural icons and It will be about life and pursuing your dreams. “I loveeveryday heroes. Each on a mission to create a seismic shift to encourage people. Hopefully the show is in the nearin the way we eat and live,” according to IMDb. future … I would love to get it going on YouTube first. I have a pretty good following. They think I am funny andThe film required her to create a vegetarian menu. “I was crazy, and I keep people laughing.” hvery open and honest that I am not vegetarian or vegan.I love meat – but I can make good food without it – and JANUARY 2018 13

GABRIELLE BROWN You have an advocate: cold case victim’s advocate, RCCC Rape Crisis of Cumberland County RCCC provides core services that include 24/7 Emergency Room response, a 24/7 crisis line, support groups, courtroom advocacy and other services. Visit www.rapecrisisonline.org to learn more.Gabrielle Brown is a cold case victim’s advocate at Rape Crisis of Cumberland County. Her job consists primarily of working with victimswith cases from years ago. “The case can be from 10 years ago or two years ago,” she said. “There is no time limit for the victims wehelp.” She has been working at RCCC for more than a year. Visit www.rapecrisisonline.org to learn more.Women's View Magazine: Why did but you do not have to go through it alone perpetrators responsible for their actions.you first choose to do this job? Have those – there are advocates waiting to help Editor's note: Read more about rapereasons changed at all? you. Lastly, know that healing takes time. prevention at www.rapecrisisonline.org/ Healing is about taking necessary steps for get/reduce -risk.BROWN: I first showed interest in this YOU and you alone.job because I have a passion for helping WVM: How can readers contribute to thepeople. I was not sure where that passion WVM: What advice would you give to a work RCCC does? What would you tellwould take me, but when I interviewed for reader who wants to talk to or help a friend someone who is considering working atthis position, I realized this was something who may have experienced sexual assault? or volunteering with RCCC?I really wanted to do. In the time I haveworked here, my reasons have not so BROWN: It is important that you BROWN: Our organization needsmuch changed as they have become more understand your friend just went through volunteers. We have the “Walk Awhilesincere. I still want to help people, but now it a very traumatic assault. It is possible that in Her Shoes” fundraiser this March.goes deeper than just helping. Victims need they do not understand how they feel or We need volunteers to help make thean advocate who believes in them and will know what to do. Because of that, it is even fundraiser possible – you can sign up tobe there to help them as they try and figure more important for you to be patient and be a sponsor or to help with setup andout what they are feeling and support them available for them. Try and find resources teardown. We have opportunities forwhile they work through their emotions. I available for your friend so once they are volunteers to go to different fairs aroundhave been able to help, and the more I help, ready to talk to someone they can have a the community. We also have a 20-hour,the more it becomes less about the act of trained advocate ready to speak with them. state-mandated class for our volunteers tohelping and more about the victim. go through. WVM: What are everyday waysWVM: What advice would you give to a someone can help prevent rape and If you are considering becoming aperson who has experienced sexual assault? sexual assault? volunteer at RCCC, I would tell you that it is not easy. However, if you want to getBROWN: First and foremost, know that BROWN: Parents can teach their sons involved with helping victims of sexualour 24/7 crisis line is always available about consent. Parents can teach their assault, consider signing up for the class.with a trained advocate ready to speak sons that NO means NO, no exceptions. If you have any questions regarding wayswith you at (910) 485-7273. Know that We can stop acting like rape doesn’t to get involved with our organization or ifthere are services readily available for you. happen or never happens to someone you need to speak with an advocate, callThe journey to recovery is hard and long, we know. The justice system should hold us at (910) 485-7273.14 JANUARY 2018

CHRISTINA ARREOLAContributing WriterIn 2014, Rupi Kaur took the world by storm script, a Sikh script, follows the same style. with her self-published poetry book “Milk Kaur also accompanies many of her poems and Honey.” Now, she is back with her with drawings; her book is illustrated cover much-anticipated second book, “The Sun and to cover. Her Flowers,” just in time for the new year. “The Sun and Her Flowers” explores themes Kaur was born in India in 1992 and of loss, trauma, healing, womanhood, immigrated to Canada when she was 4 migration and revolution. Much of the years old. She recalls using poetry and art book is a direct response to current events throughout her childhood to cope with the in the years since her last release; two differences she faced with her new Canadian of the poems were written following the peers. While she was in high school she inauguration of President Donald Trump. would anonymously share her work. In Kaur’s smart, poised and down-to-earth 2013, she began to post her work under her writing oozes inspiration and self-reflection. name on Tumblr, a popular social media site. She eventually began posting her poetry, The chapter “rooting” may be the most accompanied with drawings, on Instagram, powerful and relevant of the entire book. garnering a large following. In 2014, she Here, Kaur explores her family life, a officially introduced herself to the world by welcomed theme different from her previous self-publishing “Milk and Honey.” The book book. She speaks of her parents' life in was picked up for a second release by a Punjab, India, where they struggled to provide publishing company. From there, “Milk and for Kaur and her sibling, leading to their Honey” became a bestseller on Amazon, both decision to immigrate. She talks about the in Canadian literature and in poetry. The book long-distance relationship her parents had became a No.1 New York Times bestseller and to maintain for years, the bricks her father remained on the list for 77 consecutive weeks. had to carry to provide for his own and the It has sold 2.5 million copies and has been suffocation her mother felt in a world so far translated into 25 languages. and different from her home.In October 2017, Kaur released her second She reflects on her parents’ broken English, Kaur’s writing and fan-baseanthology, “The Sun and Her Flowers.” telling her audience not to be ashamed if have faced criticism from moreThe book is split into five sections: wilting, their parents have the same difficulty – that established literary circles.falling, rooting, rising and blooming. Her their broken English is a small thing on the Often, writing that is largelypoems celebrate all forms of love and female larger scale of sacrifices that they have accepted by younger, minorityempowerment, comparing the life of a flower made for their family. It’s something many women is deemed somewhatwith the experiences in a human life. The children of immigrants can understand. Kaur unsophisticated and lesser-book is written the same way as her previous explains how immigrants never really leave than. However, the pain, desirecollection. All her work is written exclusively behind their country, for they “(search) for it/ and strength that radiates offin lowercase and with only a period as in foreign films/and the international food the pages in her new workpunctuation, a writing decision she said she aisle(.)” This may be one of the best lines in prove that Kaur, though young,made to honor her culture – the Gurmakhi one of the best poems in the book. can have a strong voice in the poetry world and that the voices of her audience are not to be ignored. JANUARY 2018 15

LESLIE PYO NWEHAART'S US?Assistant EditorParaclete XP Indoor Skydiving in RaefordIndoor skydiving utilizes massive fans that blowupward in a vertical chamber so “all you have to dois lean into the airflow and take flight,” according tothe Paraclete XP website. At an easy 15- to 30-minutedrive from Fayetteville, depending on where you live,Paraclete XP Indoor Skydiving in Raeford provides afun opportunity to try something out-of-the-box forthe new year.With one of the largest wind tunnels in the worldand the largest in North Carolina, Paraclete XP offersworld-class fun starting at $64 for first-time flyers. In-door skydiving offers more accessibility than tradition-al skydiving. To jump out of an airplane, an individualmust be at least 18 years old. Paraclete XP, on theother hand, regularly hosts family outings that include3-year-old children and 93-year-old grandparents.The facility is open Sunday through Thursday from9 a.m. to 7 p.m. and Friday and Saturday from 9 a.m. to9 p.m. Visit www.paracletexp.com or call (910) 848-2600 to make a reservation.Photos credit: www.paracletexp.com16 JANUARY 2018

WHAT'S FAR Do you have room inFROM US? your heart and homeWilderness at the Smokies Waterpark Resort to become a foster parent? We look for foster parents who are dedicated to giving children -- ages infant through teen -- the love, support and commitment they need to grow into healthy, successful adults. Community-Based Contact us at Services 1-877-211-5322 Foster Care & Adoption making futures brighter since 1954 Fayetteville Office 910-703-8777 boysandgirlshomes.org/ Services/Community-Based Follow Us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ bghnc.cbs/There’s something immensely satisfying about theidea of splashing around in a balmy 84-degree wa-terpark while the icy wind howls outside. Sevierville,Tennessee, is about a six-hour drive from Fayettevilleand is home to a paradise where such a thing is possi-ble – Tennessee’s largest indoor waterpark. At 66,000square-feet, the park features a translucent roof thatlets visitors tan year-round, a huge tornado funnelride, and the Wild Vortex – a slide that reaches speedsup to 40 mph and includes a vertical free fall. Thereare, of course, tamer attractions, including a wavepool, lazy river and a family raft ride.The waterpark is only open to hotel guests, but thatjust creates an excuse to book an overnight stay andmake a real mini-vacation out of it. Plus, once you’rein, you’ll also enjoy access to Adventure Forest, anindoor dry park that includes a ropes course, laser tag,mini golf and a climbing wall.Visit www.wildernessatthesmokies.com or call (877)325-WILD for reservations.Photos credit: www.wildernessatthesmokies.com JANUARY 2018 17

CAROLANN MURRAY Coordinator, Fayetteville Urban Ministry Adult Literacy and Education Center Helping womendream again: ESTEEMCarolann Murray joined the Fayetteville Urban Ministryteam earlier this year. In June 2018, she will receive amaster’s degree in nonprofit management from Uni-versity of Maryland University College. She is a retiredveteran of the U.S. Army and has been in and out ofFayetteville since 1993. Photo: Carolann (left) with Sherita (right).For more than 40 years, FUM implemented the Sherita joined the ESTEEM to learn English so she canthe mission of Fayetteville ESTEEM program to assure program this September become a pharmacy techni-Urban Ministry, Inc. – women that they are not with a goal to obtain an cian. She has completed theFUM – has been to show alone during times of associate degree in busi- BB&T training for financialGod’s compassion for our crisis. However, you do not ness administration and to management and budgeting.neighbors in need and have to be in the middle gain full-time employment. Cynthia is highly motivatedthus build our community. of a crisis to benefit from Sherita received services and attends the Adult Litera-FUM has four programs the program. The criteria that included child care, cy Program on a regular basis.that support its mission to enroll and become an financial counseling andand goals: the Emergency ESTEEM member is that help in setting educational Maria enrolled in the pro-Assistance program; the you are a single mother and goals. Sherita also received gram this past August. SheAdult Literacy and Educa- can present birth certifi- emergency assistance that received emergency assis-tion Center; the Nehemiah cates for your children, a provided food and clothing tance for food and clothingProject; and the Find-A- valid form of identifica- for her family and a referral for her family and gainedFriend youth program. tion, a lease agreement, a to legal aid for assistance full-time employment utility bill and verification with legal matters. She this past October. Maria isAs the coordinator for of income. The program is currently enrolled at enrolled in ESL, and herFUM’s Adult Literacy and offers food assistance, fi- Fayetteville Technical long-term goal is to earn anEducation Center, I am nancial training assistance, Community College, taking associate degree.responsible for and have tutoring to improve liter- 17 credit hours toward heroversight of the Emergen- acy, weekly job coaching, associate's degree. She has FUM always embracescy Support to Empower clothing for interviews and completed BB&T training the volunteer support ofEconomic Management bus passes. Women must in financial management others. If you would like to– ESTEEM – program. be an ESTEEM member for and budgeting. join its volunteer staff forThe ESTEEM program is a minimum of six weeks job coaching and tutoringdesigned to help single before being eligible for Cynthia also enrolled in in the Adult Literacy andmothers in crisis develop financial assistance. the ESTEEM program this Education Center, call FUMvision and personal moti- past September. She is now at (910) 483-5944. If youvation. With the generosity Many single mothers who employed full time and is believe you are eligible forand sponsorship of the enrolled in ESTEEM are receiving English as a Second the ESTEEM program orWomen’s Giving Circle of now working full time or Language services, counsel- would like to learn more,Cumberland County, FUM part time. Many are also ing, and emergency assis- call the FUM number andprovides this assistance to excelling in their educa- tance for food and clothing. dial extension 209 to reachsingle mothers. tional endeavors. Cynthia’s long-term goals are me directly.18 JANUARY 2018

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TRACEY NATALE Introducing foster children to healthy and new foods Director of Foster Care, Boys and Girls Homes of Larry Hopkins’ Strawberry Pudding North Carolina Ingredients: Children come into foster care for various 4 cups heavy creamreasons that all fall under the criteria of abuse, 1/2 cup powdered sugarneglect or dependency. Neglect can be when the 2 teaspoons pure vanilla extractessentials for survival are not being maintained; 1 ½ boxes Nilla wafersthis includes things like a lack of proper shelter, 1 pint thinly sliced strawberrieslack of food/water, lack of proper clothing Directions:and lack of routine medical care. Often when 1. In a large bowl, use a hand mixer to beatchildren enter foster care, it is evident that propernutrition and diet were not the priority when heavy cream, powdered sugar and vanilla untilliving with their birth families. Children placed medium peaks form.into foster care due to lack of food may exhibit 2. In a 9 x 13-inch pan, spread a thin layer ofbehaviors like food hoarding or binge eating. the whipped cream mixture. Top with a layerThey may be underweight or overweight due to of Nilla wafers, and spread another thickerthe home environment from which they come, layer of whipped cream on top. Top with aso it becomes highly important for a foster parent layer of strawberries. Repeat two times, endingto learn creative ways to get a child to adapt to a with strawberries. Sprinkle with crushed Nillahealthy eating routine. It can be a challenge for wafers.a foster family to help guide a child into healthy 3. Refrigerate until Nilla wafers are totally soft, 3eating habits or get them comfortable with eating hours or overnight.different kinds of foods. 4. Sprinkle with more powdered sugar. Foster parent Lee Frazier loves to bringchildren into her home and introduce themto foods that come from her Asian culture. Achild may need to try her food a few times, buteventually they learn to love the Asian cuisineshe prepares, which includes a lot of vegetablesand fruits. Frazier said, “The kids really seem toenjoy beef or chicken bulgogi with fried rice anda cabbage dish as a side.” She added that shealways asks the children who get placed into herhome to at least try a new food. If they do not likeit, she will make them a more common food likechicken nuggets or mac-n-cheese. Foster parent Larry Hopkins does most ofthe cooking at his home. He prepares whathe describes as “soul food.” He and his wifeCassandra have been foster parents for severalyears and have adopted three children from thefoster care system. His specialty is cooking friedchicken, collard greens, cornbread and rice withgravy. When asked how he helps children tobecome comfortable with his style of cooking,he said, “If they are not used to a certain type offood, I just ask that they taste it first. If they don’tlike it, then they don’t have to eat it. I know I canmake something that they are going to like. I havenever had a child in my home that didn’t like myfried chicken and rice with gravy.” He added thathe has found the winner dessert with the childrenis his strawberry pudding, which is made just likebanana pudding – but with strawberries.20 JANUARY 2018

APRIL'S KITCHEN APRIL PERTON Owner of GRACE ENTERPRISE Find more delicious recipes at cooking4fitness.com.Chicken and Wild Rice Place chicken broth in Saladmaster several drops of water sprinkled in skillet 3 cups chicken broth, fat-free, sodium-free MP5 or slow cooker. Add rice. Cover skitter and dissipate, place chicken 1/2 cup wild rice and cook on high – standard slow breasts in skillet. Place cover on skillet 1/2 cup brown rice, long-grained cookers will go up to 2 hours. slightly ajar. After about 5 minutes, 1 cup onion, strung when chicken browns and loosens from 1/2 cup celery, shredded With 15 minutes remaining on the timer, skillet, turn and brown other side for 2 ounces dried figs, chopped stir in onions, celery, figs, prosciutto, approximately 5 minutes. Fluids should 2 ounces prosciutto or ham, thinly sliced thyme, salt, pepper and paprika. run clear and chicken should not be 3/4 teaspoon thyme pink inside. 1/2 teaspoon salt Blend well and cover. Once the 1/2 teaspoon black pepper Saladmaster MP5 or slow cooker has Spoon wild rice pilaf onto plates. Slice 1/2 teaspoon paprika completed the cycle, keep warm. chicken breasts in half lengthwise and 16 ounces chicken breast, boned place on top of pilaf. Garnish with Preheat skillet over medium heat. When thyme sprigs and sprinkle with chopped and skinned nuts if desired. thyme sprigs; walnuts, toasted and chopped Did you know? Although full moons occur roughly every 29.5 days, blue moons are much more rare. According to Space.com, a blue moon happens on average once every 2.7 years. A blue moon has nothing to do with the color of this celestial orb, but rather it refers to when there are four full moons in a season of three months instead of three full moons. The fourth moon is referred to as the blue moon. Occasionally, two full moons appear during the same month. This will next happen in January 2018. January 1st will feature the full Wolf moon. At the end of the month, on January 31, sky-gazers can view the second full moon, or the blue moon. JANUARY 2018 21

STEPHANIE CRIDER LAST VIEWEditorMy wish for you (and me)I recently attended a Christmas tour of homes. The is a green brocade stocking with sparkles and anotherorganizers did a wonderful job making sure there were crocheted by an elderly loved one but with a misspelleda variety of houses on display. Each stop was a beautiful name in it. Each is a visual representation of the owner’sreflection of the host family and all they hold dear. From the personality, and each has a story behind it – a story thatcolorfully painted walls, pristine floors and varied decorative makes it worthy of hanging on the mantle in shameless,countertops, backsplashes and bathrooms to the art, family mismatched glory.photos and Christmas decorations, no two homes or hostswere even close in personality – and that is what I loved The 70s-era ceramic tree gifted to me by an aunt upon mymost about it. Visitors got the see the best version of the grandmother's death this past summer twinkled. The colorfulstructures and their inhabitants – and in a festive way. Noel candy dish, a gift from our landlady in Germany, was chipped and overflowing. The crudely painted Santa, a giftWe meet people all the time and make assumptions about from a friend, grinned playfully at me. None of these gothem, but there is little more revealing of a person’s heart together in any way other than they tell the story of my family.than what is showcased in the space in which they dwell. I’d come home determined to find a visual theme orReturning home from the tour tired and filled with good redecorate to create one if needed, but it was already there.memories with sweet friends, I took in my surroundings. Crider – that’s the theme. It’s eclectic, a hodge-podge ofNothing matched. There was no apparent theme. Our experiences and memories. It’s mismatched and colorful.freshly cut tree with ornaments telling tales of our travels, It’s likely never to be invited to participate in a tour ofrecounting memories with our dearest friends and family homes, but it’s who we are, and I love it.and documenting the elementary school years of eachof our children was not nearly as sophisticated or put There is something to be said for being comfortable intogether as what I’d seen just hours ago. your own home, in your own skin, in your own heart and mind. Being unabashedly you – a beautifully unique entityOur mismatched stockings hung from disparate stocking in a diverse and sometimes intimidating world – can beholders on the mantle. There is a felt one with a snowman challenging when you compare yourself to others and howon it; one is burlap with a deer on it; and another is made they present themselves to the world. But that is my wishof red velvet and trimmed with white faux fur. There for you (and me) this year.22 JANUARY 2018

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