Women's View Magazine, January 2020

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Contents JANUARY 5 TURNING THE PAGE FROM STEROGRAPHS TO 14 VIRTUAL REALITY Begin the first chapter of 2020 with some book recommendations by Maria Washington. Virtual Reality has been all the rage lately, but the technological advancement comes from humble beginnings. 6 VISION RESOURCES 16 VISIONARY WOMEN Learn about a nonprofit in Cumberland County The Fayetteville Ladies Power Luncheon celebrates the that assists the blind and visually impaired in a women of this community by inviting inspirational and multitude of ways. motivational women to speak. 7 PHYSICAL AND MENTAL VISION 20 LOOKING FRESH Wanda Chavis shares some tips for taking care of These simple eye treatments that you can do at home will your sight and your outlook. have your eyes looking and feeling refreshed. 8 TRENDY TRAVELS 24 FAITH AND FELLOWSHIP Airbnb has grown in popularity, offering affordable The Fayetteville Women’s Connection offers fun and and interesting lodging. See what Airbnb has to community for women in the area. offer locally. 28 REFLECTIONS 12 SWEET TREATS Judy Stapleton reminisces about living in Alaska as a Looking to try some delightful confections? Caroline child and on the last 17 months of writing for Women’s Schafer has some delicious suggestions for you. View Magazine. 22002109 J A N UA RY | 3

Close Letters from the Editors VOLUME 14 ISSUE 1 Happy New Year! With the holidays PUBLISHER behind us, it is time to look ahead Bill Bowman, F & B Publications at what’s in store for 2020. With a [email protected] number like that, who could not help but envision, dream and aspire to have the best ASSOCIATE PUBLISHER year yet? That is if you can get past the Stephanie Crider Orwellian, beam-me-up-Scotty sound of it all. [email protected] I agree hindsight is 2020. If I knew in my past what I know now as a woman of EDITOR 50-something, I would be a lot better off Crissy Neville today. But before I wax poetic, let me say [email protected] that I believe things turned out just as they were meant to be. ASSISTANT EDITOR Jenna Shackelford This issue is about vision ― the physical and the mental. As you read Women’s View [email protected] Magazine this month, you will learn of eye conditions and community resources for eye ART DIRECTOR health, as well as DIY treatments for eye-area Elizabeth Baker skincare and eyecare from the inside out. [email protected] You can read about perspectives on beauty, leadership, spirituality and education. Then, OPERATIONS DIRECTOR sign-off with visions of sugarplums dancing Paulette Naylor in your head. Cheers to the new year! [email protected] A s a recent college graduate in my first career, I am excited to have this MARKETING REPRESENTATIVE opportunity to learn a new job and to Linda McAlister engage the women of this community. What a year of learning 2019 was! Hearing from [email protected] the inspiring, creative and compassionate women in our community through their MARKETING COORDINATOR FOR WOMEN'S contributions to WVM is nothing short of VIEW AND FAYETTEVILLE LADIES motivational. POWER LUNCH Caroline Schafer One striking trend I’ve noticed by reading [email protected] what women like you have written is the choice people make to invest in things that DISTRIBUTION DIRECTOR/ inspire joy. Maybe sharing a personal journey SALES ADMINISTRATOR through a challenging time in life with the Laurel Handforth goal of helping someone else brings you joy. Maybe it’s learning to love and care for your [email protected] hair and skin. Perhaps baking or interior decorating are passions of yours. Or, maybe COVER PHOTO: the most gratifying thing for you is volunteer Fayetteville Ladies Power Luncheon 2020 work and serving people around you. speaker showcase Whatever your story may be, we are grateful that you are sharing it. As we venture on CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHER into 2020, may we all continue to share our Tony Wooten and LPR Media stories, learn from each other and set our sights on great things. Happy New Year! JANUARY CONTRIBUTORS Are you interested in writing? Consider contributing an article or pitching a Maria Washington story idea to WVM. We want to elevate your voice. For more information, email [email protected]. Be sure to like us and leave Dianna Hughes comments on our Facebook page! Dorothy Bullard 4 | JANUARY 2020 Ann Montoya Terri Thomas Candy Underwood Judy Stapleton Dianne Peploe Cameron Snavely Jeremy Derby Jenna Shackelford Caroline Schafer Mindy Love Jennifer Baker Lindsey Rathburn Crissy Neville Dr. Ashley Ballard Kathryn Whisnant Avery Powers Donna Clayton Lloyd Mary Kate Burke Julie Russo Dr. DeSandra Washington Michael Karaman Wanda Chavis Dr. Airaina Griffith-Knight Rodney Sherrill WOMEN’S VIEW MAGAZINE 208 ROWAN ST. FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 28301 PHONE: 910-484-6200 FAX: 910-484-9218 Women’s View Magazine is for, by and about women in Cumberland County. Published by F&B Publications in conjunction with Media Marketing Management. ©2020 by F&B Publications, Inc. All rights reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or advertisement without permission is strictly prohibited. Various vector sources credited to © Freepik and © Vecteezy.

By: Maria Washington welcome, book lovers! We are starting the new year off with some great seasonal book recommendations. Each season this year, we will feature four books chosen from resources such as Goodreads, The New York Times Best Sellers list, Bookish Must-Read Books, Oprah’s Book Club and Reese Weatherspoon’s Book Club. So, cozy up by the fireplace or under a warm blanket with one or all of our winter book selections. Start a conversation on the Women’s View Magazine’s Facebook page by commenting on your favorite or by sharing thoughts or reflections on any of the books. Happy reading! GREER HENDRICKS AND SARAH PEKKANEN | THE WIFE BETWEEN US Grab a cozy blanket and cup of something warm to drink because this one will be hard to put down. This psychological thriller will keep you guessing from beginning to end. The plot may sound familiar: There’s a jealous wife obsessed with her replacement and a younger woman set to marry the man she loves. The wife’s life appears a mess, while the younger woman seems to have it all together. You will make assumptions about this marriage and love triangle. However, this story has twists and turns, so assume nothing and expect the unexpected. DAVID SEDARIS | CALYPSO This nonfiction book contains a collection of 21 essays revolving around David Sedaris’ life. Many of the essays take place on the North Carolina coast, where Sedaris buys a beach house for his family. It’s the perfect setting to help you forget about the frigid cold right outside your door. The essays focus on Sedaris’ observations of middle age, mortality and his past as much as his present. This book will make you laugh out loud but also touch you in ways that you did not quite expect. Calypso is said to be Sedaris’ darkest book thus far but also his warmest. DELIA OWENS | WHERE THE CRAWDADS SING This book was a chart-topper in numerous book clubs as well as on The New York Times Bestselling List this past year. If you have not taken a chance on reading it yet, this winter may be the perfect time to do so. Set on the North Carolina coast, the book intertwines two timelines. One timeline follows the life of a young girl growing up in the marshes of North Carolina. The second timeline follows the murder investigation of a handsome, young local man. This is a coming-of-age story proving that childhood forever shapes the women and men we become. DANI SHAPIRO | INHERITANCE This memoir is about family secrets kept both out of shame and out of love for family. The author, Dani Shapiro, gets her DNA tested to learn about her family history only to discover a devasting family secret. The shock and pain of finding out this news leads her to start investigating her family’s past and researching her own identity. This is the story of a woman’s urgent quest to unlock the story of her own identity ― a truth hidden for more than 50 years. BONUS READ! B.A. PARIS | BEHIND CLOSED DOORS This book came recommended to me by a friend, and I could not stop reading it. Everyone knows a couple who seems to have the perfect marriage. Case in point is Jack and Grace, but are they the perfect couple, or are they living a perfect lie? Get cozy and comfortable on the couch for Behind Closed Doors because the twists and turns will have you guessing to try and uncover the truth to the very end. Maria Washington is a WVM contributor. An avid reader, she is the media specialist, web manager and school grants contact at Raleigh Road Elementary school in Linden. 2020 JANUARY | 5

The Vision Resource Center fills a necessary niche in Cumberland County By Ann Montoya and Terri Thomas The Vision Resource Center is a degeneration is the leading levels result in too much 501c3 that provides opportunities cause of blindness among blood sugar accumulating in and resources that improve seniors over the age of 65. organs such as the eyes. the quality of life of adults • STARGARDT DISEASE. • GLAUCOMA. This is an and children who are blind or Known as juvenile macular umbrella term for the visually impaired. Consistently degeneration, Stargardt’s is common disorders that serving this population since an inherited condition and cause optic nerve damage. 1939, VRC stands out as the only progressive eye condition that • PERIPHERAL VISION nonprofit organization of its kind leads to macular degeneration. IMPAIRMENT. This creates in southeastern North Carolina • CATARACTS. This causes the sensation of seeing that incorporates socialization cloudy, poor night vision, through a narrow tube — a programming into its services. light sensitivity and blurred or condition commonly referred VRC offers ongoing health and double vision in a single eye. If to as \"tunnel vision.\" recreational programming for its this common condition is left members to reduce isolation, untreated, blindness can occur. New for 2020 gain independent-living skills • CMV RETINITIS. This eye The preschool program is and learn how to use technology disease, caused by an infection designed to provide information to assist with daily tasks. that attacks the retina's light- and support to parents of young sensing cells, can lead to children who are blind or have The center moved to a new site blindness if not treated properly an eye disease causing visual in May 2019 at 2736 Cedar Creek and right away. impairments. Some, but not Rd. With 2,800 square feet of • DIABETIC RETINOPATHY. The all, blind and visually impaired space, the VCR serves more condition occurs when high toddlers and children ages three than 250 adults and children or unregulated blood sugar to five attend day care, nursery who have experienced vision and preschool programs where loss. There are 676 registered they receive specialized services. adults and children with visual The VRC program fills this gap impairment in Cumberland by welcoming all young children, County alone. regardless of school enrollment, including their parents or caregivers. Some VCR provides Starting in 2020, VRC will host an • Mail and bill reading. activity called Play Date. Young pre-K • Application assistance. children will play in a safe place with • Outings to places such as fun educational toys and enjoy story Cape Fear Regional Theatre, time with braille books. Concurrently, concerts, rock climbing, parents will hear about resources shopping, farmers markets, and services available at the VRC. It bowling, fitness classes, line is an opportunity for parents to gain dance classes, summer camps, information in a nontherapeutic the movies and more. support group. • Skill classes for independent living, group meetings, lunch The VRC will continue to assist in and learns and relocation closing some of the gaps that state assistance for moves. agencies cannot provide. The center • Transportation to and from aims to eliminate significant barriers the participant's homes and to and provides opportunities, that medical appointments. most other citizens have no trouble accessing, to the blind. All adult and Eye conditions among VCR youth programs operate year-round participants with special camps offered during the summer and spring break for school- • AGE-RELATED MACULAR age members. DEGENERATION. Age- regulated macular Learn more at https://www.visionresourcecentercc.org/. Ann Montoya is the participant services coordinator at the VRC, a volunteer and the parent of a visually impaired son. Terri Thomas is the executive director of the Vision Resource Center. Both are WVM cobtributors. 6 | JANUARY 2020

A Healthy Perspectivefor the New Year By Wanda Chavis PHYSICAL VISION BLEAK OUTLOOK Fun Fact: Though carrots are high in Physical sight is a precious gift Vitamin A, you can also get what you we often take for granted. Are you Do faraway objects look blurry need for your vision from milk, cheese, keeping your peepers healthy? because your present situation is Mom used to tell us to eat our so chaotic? If you suffer from this egg yolks and even liver! carrots. It turns out ― she was right! condition, you may have no clear Vitamin A is crucial for eye health. direction, purpose or goals; feel SPONSORED BY Also, goji berries, which contain life is full of distraction, drama and zeaxanthin, have crazy-high levels disappointment and decide there is of antioxidants good for protecting nothing to look forward to. Depression against age-related eye diseases is imminent with this outlook. Find a and damage from ultraviolet light. mentor to help improve your attitude. Fill your plate with the goodness of Set a short-term goal. You’ll feel salmon and other oily fish; green amazing when you accomplish it. leafy veggies; eggs, nuts, beans or other nonmeat proteins; oysters DISTORTED VISION and pork; and citrus fruits. Pack in the omega-3 fatty acids, zinc, lutein, Feeling frustrated and hoping for and vitamins C and E. Keeping a better days? While a positive step, this well-balanced diet also protects perspective can become distorted. against type 2 diabetes ― the This brand of hyperopia can cause you leading cause of blindness. to think negatively about the current situation, causing you to wish the Eye-friendly health tips days away. Instead, try being thankful and present in each moment of life, • Quit smoking. focusing on the goodness all-around. • Wear sunglasses that block Start a “grateful” journal. List five things each day you are grateful for and look 99% of harmful sunlight, for positive changes in 30 days. both ultraviolet A and shortwave ultraviolet B. FIDGETY FOCUS • Use protective eyewear during sports or hazardous Sometimes farsightedness is a side work environments. effect of growing older. Aging can • Give your eyes a break. Look cause a loss of elasticity in vision. It is away from the computer necessary to incorporate planning for screen every 20 minutes such transitional times. Try not to lose and never work more vision and momentum but rather be than two hours without a productive and effective in all seasons 15-minute break. of life. MENTAL VISION POLLUTED POINT-OF-VIEW Just as care for physical eyesight through examination, The shape of current circumstances corrective lenses and even surgery can cause blurred vision. Refusing is important, it is a must to also to let light, hope and joy in pollutes intentionally assess personal vision perspective. Try not to allow busy ― your attitude, dreams, aspirations schedules and overloaded calendars and goals ―regularly. Do you suffer to misalign your view of the beauty all- from any of the following “personal around. This view will rob you of vision vision” disorders? for the future. Let’s go for 20/20 vision this year. Be intentional. Be grateful. Be-YOU-tiful. Owner, Picture of Health & Thermography, LLC www.phthermography.com 910-580-2077 Wanda Chavis holds a bachelor's in alternative medicine and a master's in public health administration. She's a certified clinical thermographer and a certified molecular hydration specialist. 2020 JANUARY | 7

Some people have great vision By Crissy Neville as the steady stream of business and for home décor and interior pleasure travelers. design. Others are gifted in With Scott Rathburn’s Army architecture, design and home transfer to Fort Bragg, the Rathburn’s “Fayetteville is a good stopping construction. Still more maneuver vision for their Airbnb enterprise point for many people on road trips to moves and relocations with the greatest started with finding the right house. Florida, Georgia, Washington D.C., and of ease, finding perfect locations with This wasn’t their first rodeo, though, New York,” Rathburn said. “Many are apt regard for real estate. Such savvy as the native Oregonians were prior also discovering downtown.” homebuyers and homemakers often investors in and owners of rental and not only have a tasteful touch but also commercial properties. More and more, travelers choose a trendy take on home ownership. Risk Airbnbs over hotels for the space and takers and visionaries at heart, many “When we first moved here, comfort of a home and economics of such persons participate in property we lived in an apartment until we a kitchen, as well as for the adventure management, house flipping or try found a home that could eventually of alternative accommodations. Pet their hand at starting an Airbnb. be a great rental property,” Lindsey owners also find more flexibility in Rathburn explained. “At first, we were traveling with pets in tow when renting Scott and Lindsey Rathburn are looking for a townhome, duplex or properties like that of the Rathburns. a local military couple who pair well even a small apartment complex. The with Airbnb. Like wine and cheese, the 15th house we looked at stopped us Flexibility and the opportunity for two are a natural fit for this alternative dead in our tracks.” what Rathburn calls “passive income” and creative income model. Owning is enticing to Airbnb owners. “I love two rental properties in the downtown That early find led the Rathburns real estate for many reasons,” she said. Haymount district, the Rathburns’ to purchase and work on the property “First, the flexibility makes my life so vision for combining career and home themselves to create a beautiful home much easier as a military spouse and serves not only their family but the for their young family and Super Host stay-at-home mom to two young sons. community and local economy, too. Airbnb sites of two accompanying We could move at any time and not all structures. Their Airbnb is unique in careers can transfer from place to place Airbnb, Inc. is an online marketplace that they live in the house portion like real estate can. I enjoy the creative for arranging or offering lodging, and lease out a basement apartment and social side of the industry, too.” primarily homestays or tourism dubbed “The Bunker” and a detached experiences. There are more than 7 guest house, aka “The Hideaway.” The Looking for a staycation or a million Airbnb listings in over 100,000 couple earned their Super Host ranking visitor villa for out of town guests? cities and 191 countries and regions due to being experienced hosts who Check out https://www.airbnb.com/s/ worldwide. If you can find it on a map, consistently provide safe, trustworthy Fayetteville/homes to learn about you can probably locate an Airbnb and high-quality experiences. They find the more than 300 Airbnb sites there, too. Fayetteville great for Airbnb ownership right here in Fayetteville. due to the year-round traffic of military families visiting loved ones here as well Crissy Neville is the editor of both Women’s View Magazine and Kidsville News at F&B Publications. Pictures top: The Hideaway (left), The Bunker (center and right) 8 | JANUARY 2020

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LVoisvieolninseosfs It’s not about Perfection By Jennifer Baker B eauty does not meet one agent is to help instill confidence or her beauty ideals, but a lesson to universal standard; it is in and leadership skills through proper take from the modeling playbook is the eye of the beholder. The training in the talent they represent. that if you believe in yourself, others are modeling industry is a perfect example An agency’s vision must always be much more likely to believe in you as of this. While one model may stand 5 to develop healthy talent, inside and well. Self-confidence is a combination feet, 9 inches tall and wear a size 1 dress out, and give them a fair shake in the of things, including being able to peer but also be entirely too afraid to even industry. Once the talent is comfortable into the mirror and understand that think about getting on the catwalk, onstage or introducing themselves at a what reflects is not the total of your another could be 5 feet, 4 inches tall and casting — whether it’s in New York City self-worth — it’s only a fraction of who a size 16, but if her confidence comes or a local car dealership — an agent you are. When you are passionate and through with every step, she’ll have a knows that their vision has come to life, feel great about yourself, it’s going to leg up on the competition. The talent even if the model never books a single make all the difference when it comes industry is largely to how others see you. It will make all visual, but the way a job. That's success! the difference in the world. person feels about When booking a job, himself or herself is what shines through most talented models will in print and especially hear “no” many times, but onscreen. No matter they know they cannot how perfect a model’s stop until they get hair and makeup may that first, second and look, the images a 3 3 rd “ ye s .” Competition photographer takes in the talent industry of her won’t speak to is stiff, so models and an audience unless actors must be prepared she exudes a sense of self-assuredness. to enter any room and When a potential model walks own it, regardless of through the doors of any agency, what size he or she wears or what the No. 1 goal of an agent is to screen imperfections they may have. the talent. Often, the talent has “the Through this, talent says to the world, look” but doesn’t have the skills or the “I’m not perfect, but I’m having fun, confidence needed to make it in the and you can, too.” This mantra is not talent industry. The goal of a responsible only true in the modeling world, but the real world, everyday. Everyone has unique tastes and his Jennifer Baker is a contributor for Women’s View Magazine and the owner of MetroFaces International modeling and talent agency in Fayetteville. Connect with her at https://www.metrofacesinternational.com/. 2 0 2 0 J A N UA RY | 11

Visions of Sugarplums Still Dance in My Head By Caroline Schafer CHRISTMAS may be over, your sweet tooth, giving your taste sodas from Melba’s Fixins and more. but my sweet tooth is still buds a dance party that doesn’t The shop offers foreign candies, going strong. I know, I make you sweat as much as a saltwater taffy, chocolates, gift know. January is the month Zumba class will. baskets and even gag gifts. to go on a diet or head back to the gym, but the saying, “everything in Have a craving for candy, but For more choices, the Sweet moderation,” can be put to good not your typical everyday kind? Tooth Candy Shop operates at 4011 use here. With this mantra in check, Check out Rocket Fizz Soda Pop & Sycamore Dairy Rd., #102, in the we can savor sweet delicacies Candy Shop located at 1916 Skibo Sycamore Station shopping mall. without interfering with any New Rd. in the Market Fair Mall. This The store creates candy bouquets, Year’s resolution we might have. shop transports visitors back to a cakes, cupcakes, personalized Fayetteville just so happens to have time with nostalgic candies like arrangements and an assortment of some places to visit that will satisfy Pop Rocks, Mary Janes and Tootsie baked goods, ice cream, coffee and Pops, plus old-fashioned bottled expressos. Make sure and stop by Caroline Schafer is the marketing coordinator for WVM and The FLPL Luncheon. Originally from Oklahoma, she credits the military for calling the Fayetteville area her current home. Come in from the cold and let Harmony take care of your needs ... from chef inspired dining to assistance with daily activities ... living in Harmony allows you to kick up your feet and enjoy the season. ASSISTED LIVING | SECURED ASSISTED LIVING 7051 Rockfish Road | Fayetteville | 910.635.0555 www.HarmonyAtHopeMills.com 12 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 0

nearby HotSugarPop, too, located there’s goodness in every bite. Try a confectionary cocktail from the full at 419 Cross Creek Mall, Space 25, specialty dessert apple: Heath Bar, bar. However, upon walking into for a bag of one of many varieties of Reese’s, Almond Joy, Cheesecake, this elegant establishment, the first sweet or savory popcorn, including Dark Chocolate Granola or S’mores, thing that meets is the eye is the Lemon Cake, Unicorn Cotton Candy to name a few of the 20 different shop’s large variety of truffles ― rows or Spicy Cheddar. varieties of apples on the menu. and rows of truffles. They have other Or try a dipped strawberry or artisan chocolate candies, along with The saying, “an apple a day something from the full range of cheesecake and specialty desserts, keeps the doctor away,” comes lunch and catering offerings. all homemade and hand-crafted. to mind when getting an apple from New Deli, a local café at 2153 If you prefer to drink your dessert, These are a few of the places in Valleygate Drive, #1. OK, maybe the check out Caruso Confections and around Fayetteville to satisfy apple is covered in caramel, white located at 106 Person St., for a your sweet tooth. Have the sweet chocolate or milk chocolate, but chocolate martini or another life, right here at home. 2 0 2 0 J A N UA RY | 13

THE Vision tools VIRTUAL REALITY HEADSET ppreassetannd t has been the technological talk of the town for the last few years. From boxes you From View-Master® can connect to your phone to virtual reality apps to to virtual reality hands-free VR sets, users become immersed in a three-dimensional world. This new technology, though, By Jeremy Derby and comes from humble beginnings. Jenna Shackelford THE STORY BEGAN IN 1838. Charles Wheatstone learned that if you viewed two of the same picture at the same time with a minute difference in angle for each eye, the arrangement would create an optical illusion to make the images appear 3-D. He used this knowledge to make an invention called the stereograph to share the illusion with the world. HIS INVENTION INCLUDED a set of lenses to look through, reminiscent of the shape of binoculars, with a long pole at the end that held an image with two identical pictures. The contraption would angle the images in such a way that the viewers' eyes would see it as one three-dimensional image. He intentionally didn’t patent his invention, so companies in the United States churned out massive amounts of stereographs for viewing scenic sites, advancing in scientific fields, teaching and more. To experience a stereograph for yourself, the 1897 Poe House, part of the Museum of the Cape Fear Historical Complex, has one on display. AS A CHILD, PERHAPS YOU HAD A VIEW-MASTER, which was a more compact version of the stereograph invented by William Gruber. In 1938, the toy was Jenna Shackelford, an avid View-Master collector, is the assistant editor of both Women’s View Magazine and Up & Coming Weekly. 14 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 0

introduced at New York’s World Fair. It came in different Save the Date: colors, and users would insert a reel in the top, look into February 28-29 the lenses, click down on the little handle on the side and watch a story unfold or an array of beautiful pictures Leap into Spring with pass by as the disk rotated. health, beauty, home, fashion and fun at CFBG. HOWEVER, thanks to some nifty technological advancements, gone are the days of the View-Masters Enjoy food, shopping, we grew up with. Now we can experience the world in sipping on beverages a way we have never been able to before. and our relaxing ORIGINALLY RELEGATED AS SCIENCE FICTION, environtment. virtual reality or VR is now a trending technology. VR is a simulated experience that can be similar to or 2 0 2 0 J A N UA RY | 15 completely different from the real world. VR is used in many different areas, from education and medicine to science and entertainment. VR technology also includes augmented reality and mixed reality. WHEN IT COMES TO EDUCATING YOUNG MINDS, or even mature ones, VR is a cost-effective means to facilitate class field trips to places students would not have access to otherwise. In classes traditionally perceived as less interesting to learners, such as history, VR brings excitement and life to the topics taught and studied. A VR FIELD TRIP, FOR EXAMPLE, MIGHT BE A TRIP into space or even to another country to learn geography, customs and culture. Through VR, students can travel through history to see the great pyramids of Egypt, the delivery of the Gettysburg Address or Washington’s crossing of the Delaware River. Educators report that students get far more out of the lesson in the VR environment than by the traditional text reading or film watching. EVEN IN THE AREAS OF MEDICINE or engineering sciences, VR is a training tool for these highly skilled individuals but also a real-world implement to provide simulations of how to perform surgeries, assemble a rocket, mix chemicals and more. One example of this is the Osso VR surgical training and assessment platform that allows surgeons to train and assess using advanced virtual reality. Expertise and guidance for some of the rarest surgeries are now a reality. A POPULAR USE OF VR IS IN VIDEO GAMING. Statistics from the U.S. gaming industry at https://www.statista. com/ show the gender split among U.S. computer and video gamers from 2006 to 2019. In 2019, women accounted for nearly 46% of all gamers in the United States, a small increase over the previous year. Adventure, action and simulation games are top picks. Your favorite ride or attraction at Disney or another theme park is most likely equipped with VR. THERE ARE MANY OTHER USES FOR VR. It has applications in home decorating, personal fitness and family video conferencing, just to name a few. The best part about VR is that there are seemingly no limits to this wide-open technology. Jeremy Derby is a WVM contributor. An instructor at Fayetteville Technical Community College in the department of systems security and analysis, he is the program coordinator of intelligence studies.

FAYETTEVILLE LADIES POWER LUNCH T H E FAYETTEVILLE LADIES POWER LUNCH is a I graduated from Fayetteville High School, attended East quarterly networking event held at Cape Fear Carolina University and further studied at Fayetteville Botanical Garden focused on inspiring and Technical Community College. Professionally, among empowering the women in our community. other roles, I served as the director of public relations and marketing for Putt-Putt Golf and Games International. Each event opens with an exclusive Shopportunity Expo In 2000, I became a realtor and founded Star Staging Solutions, a home staging company, with partner Jamie with local vendors and a wine tasting event at 10 a.m. Britt Strout. It was my privilege to serve as a dean for the North Carolina Real Estate Foundation and the board for The catered luncheon with entertainment, a keynote the NC State Council of Certified Real Estate Specialists. speaker and raffle take place f rom 11:45 a.m.-2 p.m., and To be chosen as a speaker for the 2020 FLPL, I face a perfect opportunity to live out my life mission of telling lastly, the Shopportunity Expo continues with more door the stories from my life and lessons learned that I hope will inspire, educate and celebrate women as other prizes f rom 2-3 p.m. The dates for the 2020 FLPL events women and leaders have done for me. I believe in passing on every secret to success and acknowledging are Feb. 13, May 14, Aug.13 and Nov. 12. The FLPL keynote the lessons learned from the broken places. With God's help and that of others, I want to be a part of the team of speakers for 2020 are Donna Clayton Lloyd, Mary Kate women that spreads that word. Burke, Julie Russo and Dr. DeSandra Washington, respectively. In this Women’s View Magazine Q&A, we asked the featured speakers to share about their personal and professional backgrounds and how their philosophy and personal goals line up with the mission of FLPL to inspire, educate, empower and celebrate local women. CLDLLOOANYYNTDAONFEBRUARY 13 SPEAKER MARYMAY 14 FLPL SPEAKER KBAUTREKE Realtor and Broker in Charge of ANYTHING REAL ESTATE Artistic Director of Cape Fear An affiliate of Townsend Real Regional Theatre Estate in Fayetteville I'm originally from Fairfield, I am blessed to be native of Connecticut. I went to high Fayetteville, which my father school with some pretty cool always fondly referred to as the and accomplished kids and, \"center of the universe.” My dad after that, went to Southern was often asked why he kept the Methodist University in Dallas, headquarters and home office Texas. After that, I made my for his international franchise way back to the northeast and company, Putt-Putt Golf, here in lived in New York for almost Fayetteville. He would always tout 20 years, where I worked Fayetteville's benefits, and I inherited that perspective. for a nine-time Tony award- Today, my family includes two sons, two “daughters-in- winning producer. I directed off-Broadway and regionally, love” and four amazing grandchildren. They are such and I assisted for Arthur Penn, director of the Bonnie and inspiration to my life, and my faith in God is my absolute Clyde and The Miracle Worker films, on Broadway. Most life’s foundation. recently, I directed a national tour for Nickelodeon, Nick Jr. Live! Move to the Music, that is touring all over the U.S. Avery Powers is a second-year English major at Liberty University. Born and raised in Fayetteville, she has enjoyed interning at the Fayetteville Dream Center, volunteering at Manna Church and reading “Harry Potter.” She aspires to become a professional writer and editor. Pictures courtesy of Tony Wooten of LRP Media 16 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 0

2020 LINEUP ByAvery Powers and is set to play Madison Square Garden in April. In my NDWOVERMAB.ERSD12 SHPEEAIKSNERAGNTDORNA limited spare time, I love to run, spend time with my adorable Morkie, read and drink good red wine. Associate Vice President for Academic Support at Fayetteville Technical Community College At CFRT, 86% of our mainstage directors are women. The national average is closer to 35%. The incredible Bo Thorp As a native of Fayetteville, I did not realize how much my founded CFRT. For 53 out of its 59 years, the theater has community impacted all aspects of my life. As a proud been woman-led. It is important to create opportunities graduate of E.E. Smith High School, I love to brag about for other deserving women and to mentor them. At walking to school with my classmates, teachers, principals CFRT, we make it easy for people to have a family and still and the school superintendent. Along with my loving work, which is rare in this field. Small accommodations and supportive parents, these amazing people helped and flexibility allow us to retain incredible employees and mold me into the woman I am now. I earned a doctorate provides them a better quality of life. in Educational Leadership from Fayetteville State University, a Master of Arts degree in School Personnel JULIE RUSSOAUGUST 13 SPEAKER and a Bachelor of Arts degree in Criminal Justice from North Carolina Central University. I am also a graduate of Director at McKee Homes, LLC the North Carolina Community College Leadership Program In 2012, I left the teaching profession to help my husband and the Executive Leadership Pat with the day-to-day management of our home building Program at North Carolina State University. company, McKee Homes. One of my responsibilities and I enjoy spending time with my passions at McKee Homes family, traveling, exercising, is overseeing the Joe McKee mentoring and volunteering. Memorial Alzheimer’s Fund. I am an active member of Our office, design center and The Household of Faith World apartment are on Hay Street in Outreach Center. Other downtown Fayetteville. interests include being a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha During my high school years, I Sorority, Incorporated, the lived in a rural part of Upstate Greater Spring Lake Chamber New York. My sisters and I of CommerceI and The Links, enjoyed exploring the woods Incorporated, an international surrounding our home on women’s community service dirt bikes and four wheelers. organization committed to I earned my teaching degree enriching, sustaining and f rom State University College ensuring the culture and at Oneonta and soon after economic survival of those of accepted a third-grade African ancestry and African American citizens. teaching position in Rocky Mount, North Carolina. My As a young girl growing up in Fayetteville, I had the honor, career took me down several privilege, and blessing to have mentors that encouraged paths, but I ultimately found and motivated me to excel in life. These phenomenal a passion for elementary math education. I still enjoy women molded me into the God-fearing, driven, service- being a guest lecturer in undergraduate classes at North oriented woman I am today. It was a given that I would Carolina State University. continue the legacy to inspire, educate, empower and celebrate our local women. One of the ways I hope to inspire women is by helping them connect with other women. The hardest thing about Learn more from these visionary women in this year's trying or learning something new is the initial discomfort 2020 quarterly FLPL series. associated with it. I encourage all women to embrace that discomfort because there is no such thing as a wasted 2 0 2 0 J A N UA RY | 17 education. I like to celebrate the unique talents women bring to the workforce while supporting their efforts to find work-life balance is vital to our success.

Skincare from the Inside Out By Diane Peploe WRINKLES. Crow’s-feet. Bags. Puffiness. Fine lines. Dark circles. Unfortunately, a lot of people have used one or all circulation and blood coagulation. Dark circles can be of these words to describe their eyes. Fortunately, a result of poor circulation around the eyes, so eating there’s good news on how you can help keep your ample K-f riendly foods may help to lighten and eyes looking and feeling their best. Influenced by reduce the dark circles. intrinsic factors ― diet, sleep, metabolic processes, water retention, dehydration, hormones and • Add vitamin E to your diet through plant-based oils genetics ― and extrinsic factors ― ultraviolet rays, like coconut oil, olive oil and sunflower oil, along with smoke, environmental pollutants, f ree radicals and sunflower seeds, almonds, avocados and peanuts. skin products ― thinning skin around the eyes, This vitamin helps reduce wrinkles and photodamage fine lines, crow’s feet, bags and puffiness all are of while enhancing skin texture. consequence. Here’s a word to the wise; it is much easier to prevent versus treat any skin or health • Enjoy Vitamin C rich foods like sweet red peppers, concern. Prevention has two paths — internal by what green peppers, bilberry also called huckleberries, you put in your body and external by what you put on blueberries, naseberries, raspberries, acai berries, the skin around your eyes. broccoli, tropical fruits and citrus fruit as an abundant and excellent source of vitamin C. Mostly Eye skincare from the inside all foods that contain vitamin C also contain bioflavonoids, sometimes called vitamin P. These Most are aware that what you eat impacts your work in conjunction to increase collagen production, largest organ, your skin. A proper diet rich in vitamins, assist in diminishing wrinkles, fade fine lines, aid minerals and nutrients, proper water intake and in UV protection, regulate melanin production and getting seven to eight hours of sleep each night are strengthen capillaries. all key in protecting the skin, especially the delicate skin around the eye area. Beta-carotene, a type of Eye skincare from the outside vitamin A, vitamin K, vitamin E and vitamin C are the primary antioxidants that work to assist in keeping The skin around the eye area is extremely delicate, the peepers in youthful shape. Adding vitamin-rich requiring different treatment than the rest of the foods to your diet is easy with these methods. face. Any product placed on the eye area should be with the ring finger to avoid further damaging this • Eat orange-colored vegetables like carrots, sweet delicate area. Using organic skincare products and potatoes, wild yams, pumpkins and butternut squash paying attention to labels is highly recommended. as sources of beta carotene. This vitamin K derivative speeds up skin cell turnover, stimulates collagen and elastin production and neutralizes free radicals. • Try green leafy vegetables, broccoli, spinach and Brussels sprouts to gain vitamin K, an asset for Diana Peploe is a WVM contributor and a licensed esthetician, nail technician and a massage therapist at The Venetian European Spa & Salon, https://venetianspanc.com/. The single mother of two loves yoga, the outdoors and music. 18 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 0

An important f irst step is to make • Mushroom additives in products NEW YEAR sure to gently cleanse the eye area promote healing, cell regeneration every day before putting products and water retention to protect the NEW YOU CHALLENGE on the skin. Coconut oil and other skin’s barrier function. Look for the -STARTS IN- oils rich in vitamin E help remove reishi mushroom or super hydrating makeup while nourishing the skin. snow mushroom on labels. JAN 2020 Coconut oil is also a great lash and brow conditioner, keeping lashes • Coconut water aids in HOME OF THE and brows soft and shiny. moisturization and pH balancing, 30-MINUTE WORKOUT. Secondly, sunscreen is a must while toning and infusing the skin when it comes to combating the with strengthening electrolytes. CLASSES signs of aging around the eyes. Find a sunscreen that is at least • Wild plum, a source of iron, Monday - Thursday: an SPF of 30 and has broad- reduces the look of dark circles 5:30am/6:15am/8am/10:30am spectrum sun protection. There around the eye area, brightening are several foundations on the and reenergizing the skin. 4:30pm/5:30pm/6:15pm market that contain sunscreen for Friday: those that like to take care of two Remember to avoid products with steps at once. harmful or questionable properties, 5:30am/6:15am/8am/10:30am such as mineral oil, which can Saturday: Look for these additionally helpful clog pores, and parabens, shelf-life 8am/8:40am ingredients to have in your eye prolongers with plausible links to skincare arsenal. cancer and hormone functioning DINAH disruption. Note that the USDA GOODMAN • Neroli oil that is known for does not regulate the ingredients in its regenerating benefits and cosmetics or skin care products. Master Coach refreshing and hydrating qualities. Personal Trainer To see improved eye skincare • Natural retinol alternatives, like health, try these helpful hints or see 3039 Boone Trail Ext. chicory root and Tara tree gum, are a licensed esthetician to customize 910-889-1155 great for boosting collagen and and implement an organic skincare firming as well as combating UV routine. To live your best life this www.facebook.com/FitBodyBooneTrail/ damage and reduce fine lines. new year, the eyes have it. 2 0 2 0 J A N UA RY | 19

DIY eye POTATO EYE MASK TEABAG masks for THERAPY amazing • Blend a bit of raw potato into a paste • Steep two teabags for tea eyes using a food processor or high-powered making. Drinking the tea is blender. optional. By Cameron Snavely • Apply the paste under your eyes and • Squeeze out excessive allow to sit for 20 minutes before rinsing liquid from the bags. With the holidays behind with water. • Use the bags while they us, many of us could are warm, or chill hot bags use a little help to This next mask is hydrating and helps in the refrigerator for 10-20 look well-rested after stressful with dark circles as well. If you are a baker, minutes. holiday planning and late nights. you’re likely to have some sweet almond • Apply to closed eyelids for You might notice some dark oil in your cabinets; if not, check your local 15-30 minutes. circles that persist throughout grocery store baking aisle. Pick some up for the day or be plagued with this mask and use the rest for tasty treats When selecting a tea for a puffy eyes in the mornings. In warm tea compress, chose a addition to trying to get enough HONEY & ALMOND dark tea with high caffeine sleep, drinking enough water OIL MASK content; the caffeine and and eating a healthy balanced antioxidants in the tea will diet, what supports your skin, • Mix 1 teaspoon sweet almond oil with 1 leave your eyes looking and specifically that pesky eye area? teaspoon honey. feeling amazing. Here are a few eye masks that are • Apply for 20 or more minutes and easy to make and apply at home then rinse. With these tricks, you will with easily accessible ingredients be the image of health found in most kitchens. Alternatively, replace the sweet almond and restfulness. Don’t be oil in this recipe with a teaspoon of ground surprised when people ask The first mask is perfect for dark coffee for a caffeine-packed boost that will you how you manage to do circles and puffiness, a favorite for combat puffiness and tired-looking eyes. it all and look good, too. its single-ingredient simplicity. if it feels like there just isn’t enough time in the day to blend potatoes or mess up your kitchen, there is still have another option: the time-tested teabag trick. Cameron Snavley, a Fayetteville native, works as a massage therapist at a luxury spa. She enjoys vegetarian cuisine, going out with friends and spending time spent with her boyfriend and pets. 20 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 0

Servant leadership and community A VISION FOR COLLABORATION By Mindy Love Mindy Love, fifth from right in front, is a graduate of the Institute for Community Leadership in Cumberland County. I a m an Army civilian graduate This course challenges students to neighbors, the city and county of The Civilian Education think carefully and slowly to ensure government, schools, businesses and System Intermediate Course at assumptions do not cloud or taint the military to make Cumberland Fort Leaven-worth, Kansas, and the personal viewpoints. County a better place for all to live. Institute for Community Leadership program in Fayetteville. These are my The course emphasizes that There are two opportunities for reflections on the skills and lessons the key to good leadership is self- leadership training in Cumberland I learned about leadership and its awareness. It is also one of the County and Fayetteville. One is impact on the community. Many of hardest concepts for most individuals Leadership Fayetteville, hosted by the tools gleaned in such courses to implement, as often it is hard the Greater Fayetteville Chamber make for a pretty hefty toolbox to to see yourself as others see you. of Commerce. The goal of this utilize in numerous life situations. The course focuses on the need for program is to “cultivate leaders There are many leadership leaders to practice self-awareness to while igniting the advancement courses available to those seeking improve effectiveness. of the Fayetteville/Cumberland to better themselves and develop County/Fort Bragg area.” Find out new skills. One such program, Finally, the course discusses two more at www.faybiz.com/pages/ The Civilian Education System types of leaders: authentic leaders LeadershipFayetteville1. Intermediate Course, stresses and servant leaders. While every principles of leadership essential community requires both types of The second is the Institute for for personal development as well as leaders, servant leaders are those Community Leadership program. for the workplace and community. that align themselves with making The program is a free, seven-month The course focuses on these the community a better place to joint program for Cumberland themes: self-awareness, team live. Why? Because while authentic County and Fayetteville residents. development and a third aimed at leader traits include honesty, Each month, the citizen trainees accomplishing missions and making transparency, consistency, fairness focus on community service and improvements in organizations. and commitment, servant leaders are issues in the sectors of nonprofits, Often people mistake leadership servants first. Servant leaders seek local government, arts and cultural as a person in charge, when in the greater good over their wants. organizations, and schools and fact, leadership is the process of colleges. Students learn about influencing people by providing How do these principles relate volunteer opportunities and are purpose, direction and motivation to to our community vision? Both expected to officially volunteer with accomplish a task. Cumberland County and the city one of the agencies or organizations Leaders utilize tools taught in of Fayetteville seek economic at the end of the course. Those the course as a means for building development, jobs, increased interested in participating can find effective teams. Effective teams work commerce and diverse culture. out more at the program website toward a common vision by working These entities share a common http://www.leadership4us.org/. The together, analyzing information, vision of community participation program is a fantastic way to meet thinking critically and making through citizen leadership. others in the community and serve decisions that benefit the whole. the community to bring the vision for Community servant leaders Fayetteville and Cumberland County tackle the problems or concerns in to life. the community and work to find solutions. They work with their Mindy Love is a contributing writer for WVM. She is a full-time environmental program manager with the U.S. Army Reserve Command and creator of the blog Sweet Tea and Pasta. She’s lived in North Carolina for more than 20 years and started her blog to share her Southern experiences with others. 2 0 2 0 J A N UA RY | 21

Be a As you make your 2020 resolutions, remember to Responsible include goals for how to better take care of your pet Pet Owner and practice responsible pet ownership in the new year. Your pet is dependent on you, afterall. By Mike Karaman Commit — Avoid impulsive decisions when selecting a pet. Select a pet that's suited to your home and lifestyle. Consider your living area. Does your house have a yard? If so, is it fenced, and how large is the space? Does your apartment have a walking area or a dog run? A townhouse or condo may have little or no outside area. Keep only the type and number of pets for which you can provide appropriate food, water, shelter, health care and companionship. There may also be local regulations as to how many and what type of animals you can keep on your property. The city or county may have limits on the allowances for the number of cats or dogs or types of pets, permitted in one structure. If you are not a homeowner, there may be limits by your landlord, also. Commit to the relationship for the life of your pet or pets. Provide appropriate exercise and mental stimulation. Properly socialize and train your pet. Invest — Recognize that pet ownership requires an investment of time and money. Make sure your pet receives preventive health care through vaccinations, parasite control and the like, as well as care for any illnesses or injuries. Budget for these routine services as well as potential emergencies, because they will happen. Don’t let vaccinations expire, especially not rabies. Rabies is active in this area. Obey — Clean up after your pet, inside or out. When walking your pet, keep a waste bag tied to your leash. Keep extra bags in your car or near the door of your home. Obey all local ordinances, including licensing, leash requirements and noise control. Don't allow your pet to stray or become feral in the out of doors. Identify — Make sure your pet is properly identified and keep its registration up to date. Identification methods can be a personalized tag, microchip or even a tattoo. Register your pet’s microchip, so if it is needed one day to have them returned to you, the authorities have your contact information. Limit — Don't contribute to our nation's pet overpopulation problem: Limit your pet's reproduction through spay/neuter, containment or managed breeding. When you adopt a pet, most shelters include basic services such as shots, microchipping and spaying/neutering as part of the adoption package. Prepare — Prepare for an emergency by assembling an evacuation kit. Pets need food, water and medicines, too. Make alternate arrangements if you can no longer provide care for your pet. Recognize any decline in your pet's quality of life and make timely decisions in consultation with your regular veterinarian. In short, don’t make an impulsive decision to bring a pet into your home. You must be prepared to be a responsible pet parent and to give them love and attention, not just have them contained in your home. Your reward will be the comfort, companionship and unconditional love that comes from a well-cared-for pet. 22 | J A N UA RY 2 0 1290

What winter weather means for driving Use the forecast to adjust your driving strategy and help you stay safe. Being a better driver means giving your vehicle the tender loving care it needs ― regular oil changes and thorough cleaning, for example. But learning a little bit more about the weather can also make an impact on your daily driving habits and how you respond to conditions on the road. Unpredictable weather ― especially between winter and spring ― can pose plenty of driving challenges. Here’s what you need to know about the weather and your drive. RAIN + FREEZING TEMPS = SLICK ROADS This combination can transform roads from dry to slippery in just minutes. Bridges and overpasses may present dangers. DRIVING STRATEGY: If it starts to drizzle during your drive, take precautions. Turn on headlights to increase visibility and increase your driving distance between cars to six seconds rather than three. Avoid sudden braking to prevent skids. Avoid slamming on the brakes or abruptly correcting your steering. If your vehicle begins to hydroplane, ease off the gas pedal and steer straight until you regain control. WARM DAYS + OVERNIGHT FREEZING = BLACK ICE When snow melts during a warm winter day but freezes again overnight, something termed black ice can form. It’s not black ― just a very thin, shiny-looking sheet of ice that’s difficult to detect on the black roadtops. DRIVING STRATEGY: If possible, delay driving until temperatures warm. Otherwise, drive at slower-than-posted speeds and increase your following distance. GUSTY WINDS + TEMPERATURE DROP = ROAD INSTABILITY As cold fronts move in, winds often pick up speed. Strong gusts can affect how your car handles, even if you’re driving at normal speeds. Especially after a snowfall, blustery conditions can result in fallen branches, poor visibility and downed power lines. DRIVING STRATEGY: Slow down, so it’s easier to brake and handle your car. Also, choose parking spots away from potential hazards. MOISTURE THAT’S LOW IN THE ATMOSPHERE + A COLD GROUND = DENSE FOG In near-freezing temps, the moisture from dense fog can create slick spots on the road and bring visibility to zero. DRIVING STRATEGY: Glare f rom high beams and other lights on the road can make it difficult to spot dangers on the road. Switch on your low-beam or fog headlights to make your vehicle more visible. Drive slowly and pay attention to make sure you’re driving in one lane. RECENT OR ONGOING SNOW + HEAVY TRAFFIC = SLICK ROADS Lots of traffic can turn roads slick, especially if road crews haven’t yet cleared or deiced surfaces. Sharp turns, over correcting and slamming on the brakes may all lead to skidding or swerving on the road. DRIVING STRATEGY: Increase the distance between you and other drivers, particularly on hills. Allow more time to stop at intersections. Never pass snowplows or sand trucks. Tip: Skip the cruise control during difficult weather conditions so you can respond more quickly to changing road conditions. SPONSORED BY AGENT RODNEY SHERRILL 2 0 2 0 J A N UA RY | 23 Rodney Sherrill

Loving Your Neighbor By Dorothy Bullard and Myrt Spencer According to Pew Research, fewer than young woman and others to a local 50% of American adults know most of restaurant to discuss and find answers to their neighbors. Women's Connection, an their spiritual questions. The conversation outreach affiliate of Stonecroft Ministries, spawned the creation of 24 prayer groups intends to change that. Stonecroft and the founding of Stonecroft Ministries. is a 501(c)(3) nondenominational, Soon after, this extended to the women’s nonprofit organization and a member fellowships that have grown nationally and of the Evangelical Council for Financial internationally for the last 80 years. Accountability. Stonecroft programs aim to educate, equip and encourage women FWC is made up of volunteers and to know God and each other at home and participants who share faith and fellowship around the world. through local events and small groups. The organization hosts an outreach The Fayetteville Women's Connection dinner party every month at Morgan’s is one of more than 600 such programs Chop House in McPherson Square. across the nation. The flagship ministry of Dinner meetings occur on the third Women’s Connection serves more women Thursday monthly, except in December than any other S when the event falls on the second tonecroft outreach. Thursday. Highlights FWC provides global include a delicious meal, leadership in women's musical entertainment ministry and welcomes and a fun and informative women of all ages special feature. Finally, and stages of life in an inspirational speaker a nonmembership shares a personal story each environment. It is a month that is enlightening Christian organization with and heartwarming. a heart for women, and through encouragement, FWC forms weekly hope and the Gospel, FWC Bible studies where small strives to meet \"women groups meet to participate where they are as they are.\" in specific studies. One such study is “Loving Your Helen Duff Baugh founded Stonecroft Neighbor,” but many others are available Ministries in 1938 in San Jose, California, upon request. In addition to these groups, but her ministry story began in 1912 at the FWC hosts another monthly program young age of 5. Her father left in 1910 to called “Prayer Connection,” where women emigrate to America from Ireland. It took meet to pray. Volunteering time, providing two years for him to save enough money resources for community events and to buy voyage to America for Helen, her training women in leadership roles is mother and siblings. He booked passage also among the various ways this group on the Titanic’s famous inaugural trip. extends its outreach into the community. However, his wife, Baugh’s mother, desired FWC has been a part of Fayetteville, for her family to unite sooner, leading her Cumberland County and Fort Bragg to exchange their tickets for a ship that for over 45 years. You may recognize would leave two weeks earlier. As a result some of FWC’s previous names ― The of this decision to change passage from Fayetteville Christian's Club, The After Five the Titanic, many women's lives have been Women's Club and the Christian Women's and will be changed forever. Professional Club. The heart of Fayetteville Women's Connection beats to intersect Years later, while living in California the story of redemption and the story of and comforting a grieving friend, Baugh life. To see lives changed and step into experienced another life-altering event. something bigger, call 910-818-1047 or The friend’s decision to seek her Christian email [email protected]. counsel inspired Baugh to invite this Dorothy Bullard (left) and Myrt Spencer (right) are both Cumberland County retired educators and have been a part of FWC for over 51 combined years. Currently, they co-chair as area representatives for Stonecroft Ministries-Fayetteville Women’s Connection. 24 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 0

A comb-free New Year By Dr. Airaina Griffith-Knight H appy New Year! Make a brand-new start today as you begin your journey into 12 months without a comb. Do you see where you can be in just 11 more months? This is a great vision and a great new horizon to aspire to reach. Greatness is where you want to be. Don’t wait ― start today on your path to hair freedom, one month at a time. Going natural takes time. It is a journey that you can embark on today ― watching the entire evolution of thinking about having healthy, natural hair to the actualization of a head full of curls that occur. However, this process takes patience. Hair locking is another journey you may decide to begin where a comb is also not needed or used. Patience, understanding, wisdom, tolerance and determination are all tools you will need to achieve your goal and be the “naturalista” you endeavor to be. Your hair is a very important part of how you see yourself, and it is one of first things people see when they look at you. You can live your best life now. Now is the best time to pursue the dream of 12 months without a comb, getting to the root of natural hair. Dr. Airaina Griffith-Knight, DPC, NCLC, NCLCI, CHLS is a cosmetologist psychologist and practicing trichologist. She is the owner and CEO of NUWBNS, Inc. Natural Hair Gallery, The Lock House, hAirlooms Natural Hair-Braiding Academy. Contact her at 910-257-8055 or [email protected]. 2 0 2 0 J A N UA RY | 25

Visual Learners keeping their eye on the ball and more By Kathryn Whisnant It’s been said that “a picture is learners when they can “see” their option. Visual learners can be easily worth a thousand words,” and day or when they see the big picture distracted, so sitting near the front when it comes to education, before diving into the details. There of the classroom to assist their sight that sentiment is true for many is no such thing as too much color or and focus can help. students. Most educators and too many lists for visual learners. professionals agree that there At home, parents can encourage are three learning modalities: Visual learners are doing better their children who are visual visual, auditory and kinesthetic. in the modern classroom setting. learners to draw pictures and Each of these learners has unique There are tons of visual cues and color code their notes. Provide characteristics, along with different posters in classrooms. SMART Boards note cards, colored pens/pencils strengths and weaknesses. Most now allow students to move and and blank graphic organizers to use of us can switch between these organize information. Google Slides during notetaking or study sessions. learning modalities and benefit from feature colored text and allow the Note that visual learners tend to receiving instructions or cues in a easy addition of photos, charts and have good long-term memory but variety of ways. In today’s information videos to presentations and are the struggle with short-term memory, so technology age, approximately 65% new way of note taking. The wide memorizing multiplication facts and of the population are visual learners. range of webpages and web tools spelling words can be challenging Referred to as visual or spatial utilized in the education setting are for them. Try visual aids and visual learners, these individuals learn and visually appealing and use images media to assist their learning. remember best through means of to assist in teaching concepts. The visual communication. shift away from the lecture and Numerous free and paid resources educational “sit and get” benefit are available online to assist visual There are sure signs to indicate if visual learners. learners with a variety of topics. A you, your child or those around you quick internet search of right-brained are visual learners. Visual learners Because visual learners think fractions, multiplication with pictures tend to have well-organized spaces, in images, it sometimes takes and sight-word picture cards yields doodle during lectures and make them a little longer to verbalize some of the many online resources. detailed outlines to help remember or write down their thoughts. Some sites allow individuals to information. Color coding, strategic They benefit from wait time and complete an inventory of learning piles, graphic organizers and lists are self-paced activities, which affords styles. Such inventories can help a visual person’s go-to when tackling them extra moments to build their students of all ages understand how their day. These are your adult friends mental pictures and connect details. they learn best. Knowing more about who have big nice planners with Many websites and web tools, like your own or your child’s learning highlighted words and cute stickers. EdPuzzle and PearDeck, are great preferences can be extremely Life feels more together for visual resources because of the self-paced beneficial in school and life. Kathryn Whisnant is a WVM contributing writer. A Christian, wife and mother of two boys, Kathryn is an Academically and Intellectually Gifted specialist in Cumberland County Schools with 25 years of educational experience. 26 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 0

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Photo by Sarah Cady Just Sayin' By Judy Stapleton H appy New Year, y’all! After the Thanksgiving feast, h o l i day p a r t i e s , C h r i s t m a s Eve, Christmas and of course, New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day meals, if you are anything like me, you feel like the poppin’ f resh dough man. Wow, I’m not giggling. I’m just lookin’ ahead to see what’s up for 2020. I know we ain’t promised another day, but it don’t hurt to try and make plans for more than just a day. I’d like to go to visit family and friends in Mississippi, Alabama, Texas or Tennessee. Maybe, even take a two-hour ride to one of our local beaches. But my biggest thing to do in 2020 is take Judy Stapleton is a WVM contributing writer, retired federal employee and the receptionist for F&B Publications in Fayetteville. As a senior citizen, mother, grandmother and great-grandmother, she has traveled many miles from her home stompin’ grounds of Mississippi. Carolina Spring Show March 14, 2020 | Crown Complex | Fayetteville, NC Enjoy Shopping with the Best of Fayetteville! Plus, we’re Bringing the Best to Fayetteville all conveniently in one place from 10AM - 4PM! Also featuring the Miss Carolina Spring Pageant! Sponsored by: Fundraiser for Fisher House Foundation Now accepting vendors and pageant applications. For more information: WWW.DREAMGIRLEVENTS.COM 28 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 0

a trip to Alaska. Yep, that’s a my mom packed her f ried lot different from those other chicken in this pan and the places I have mentioned, but potatoes in a brown bag. I do I figure if you’re gonna dream know now about that pan. It and work, then make it worth kept the chicken warm, and dreaming and working for. the bag kept those potatoes I was in Alaska from ages warm. Oh, and let’s not forget three to six, so here I am 60 to give thanks. years later, with a grandson in the military stationed in Speakin’ of thanks, I want Alaska. What better time or to say thank you to my family, reason to visit? friends and faithful readers that have supported me for The biggest thing I the past 17 months. I hope remember about Alaska was you have enjoyed all the crazy f ishing. You could f ish with laughter that I have tried to a fly pole or a huge net. share with you, not only bein’ a mature lady, but also a senior Of course, the net is citizen in my golden years. memorable, due to havin’ to Keep up the laughter and be scooped out of ice-cold every chance you get, share water with a net when I went your laughter with others. in … headf irst! Picnics in the spring were always nice. No Just sayin’ ― take care and fast food, just home-cookin'. I goodbye for now. never could understand why Writer Judy Stapleton reminisces about home-cooked chicken and potatoes made by her mom and fishing trips in Alaska in this month's Just Sayin'. Look no further. HealtThFoyuylPls-SeSe•telFfCr-ovWooicldaleassrh•Gs GR&roooLoouemmramisnehgteTsreatsFayetteville’sBFR9roau2odys0dneH:ent9Bhtayaeke1rasovwDyvii0hgudiianelA-fShmlrslpu4yereLgst,RShr,Gaot8.atSiAsIuIeNlsniMbr0lNoIoNUnD.rraCNcuR-metnyrtGuYGltoY1oLitoidGh2Doenm0slLeOwnllo8tLuTgIc1ow,EigsnbVOfi30,EaOvAthpgesOh1nLewKgye4eeAODmoRdIearAyNctseDunloOCRioktDrildGtgoaVEEfiKusuotVslwolDAEao!nIorEFapNwrNvMnnInaOyNeetGiT.nhdnhtRTfrwhUeehgsablUtwewimfivRoioTSuzotkReihpaOHInyytriFaNbOWhnyroiAUntEOGedsofuS,ughGUDIodor,usSwIU,R’D,sevONLSmtrVmPhYeiielmEnOGlNEaoyealKlbRrLaoDeNWgoLoosobEmerOvFNOsaEEnkevTeuuheaEOtsiknOeiUnTyPhaorewnRDMiKoltu!dRwEdEWhtogcaEAIfCnoArsOisioCuNNyAanksLi,sRafteLkLtU.r-iDrGTohnsDuAlnIiuE,eMblEnoNSrVeIgrhFATIn5kuOtgmeDr’,EuGOhrm5,olsItfBoeNaNsOoIG5eeLRwmrftoTacrLcwtTAurNEy!hbSikaarOulaEUntDeohIeeieAhnSncNsnnuReYsageDmatdiBHgGrOnuoytsnenRhiLLogIytUmlaoldPkooid,EfEiauoEfwDSotfiwn.Auaed!trlaloAyfLigorrsMDrfuIyayoseO,Rsnmltpt.I.oLhshuuSIgVfOMGabwviaoNeSAenIarriOuewtrKNwImmUenilvDuGsoaLNotltDRdeiIathGYsuftOeYnNliwGyehlotCIonTacwrkLygoVOAobG.gniavLaGEgOosEtiuShOsnDeedwfhnK,EnuDIU’oevNFsaLRVDmdIacmynrYeNnOyAOGslEoeCoeRlkbiAoLatdotGNgRlDuLEoOsEhferiuOvDsrotaElwTDeVeeAKaiuo!OTtrFaVznlUhrEnonMIpIanHOKaEyNolRNvWtnhorid.htINnREheedOfGiohNiATwkeeInsrlasTkeUD,i-iDGUwmOTivhgzniUthnSepaVOHRhigNFIakWgRr’,iEOOWmEedsiEFfOnNoILrRUsOrD,grOUtTAu,!hSSh,ROUnDNSIeaNnRWYsEgiGOnuLgyUi,EfS Neighborhood Pet Store and Much More!It’s what I do. GET TO A BETTER STATE™. CALL ME TODAY. 1216 Fort Bragg Rd (910) 860-1200 State Farm Mutual Automobile Insurance Company, @WoofGangFay State Farm Indemnity Company, State Farm Fire and Casualty Company, State Farm General Insurance Company, Bloomington, IL 1101201 2 0 2 0 J A N UA RY | 29

A vision for better living with Cumberland County Cooperative Extension By Candy Underwood Nothing is more rewarding than one of the most popular services planting food and watching it offered by Cumberland County grow from seed to harvest. Cooperative Extension — the testing of soil or soil sampling. Many people today are interested A behind the scenes tour of the in learning how to properly North Carolina Department grow, preserve and prepare of Agriculture soil analysis lab, healthy food. These skills are often offered in the Better Living best acquired through a hands- Series, affords interested citizens on approach. Due to limited a chance to see where the actual opportunities for citizens to learn soil testing takes place. this information or skills, many will turn to the internet. This can Another regular tour offering be problematic because the web is a trip to the Spice Bouquet does not always provide research- in Kinston, where attendees based information. enjoy a demonstration-style cooking class and learn to There is a local solution. use herbs, spices, rubs and Cumberland County Cooperative seasoning blends for recipe Extension provides the Better variety. Those in attendance last Living Series, a variety of research- year commented on plans to based workshops, programs experiment more with spices to and tours, which supply citizens enhance their culinary skills. with information on gardening, healthy food preparation and The extension staff has an home-food preservation. The exciting lineup for 2020 Better classes range in topics from Living Series. There are new and hydroponic gardening and food exciting educational tours and preservation to homemade yogurt beneficial hands-on workshops. and bread making. The extension The schedule for the 2020 Better staff conducts classes in the Living Series classes is available demonstration kitchen, giving on the Cumberland County participants guidance and step-by- Cooperative Extensions webpage: step instructions. At the end of each http://wwwcumberland.ces. workshop, attendees are proud to ncsu.edu. Obtain a hard copy take home the finished product. by visiting the extension office In addition, the cooperative at 301 East Mountain Drive in extension staff offers a diverse Fayetteville. You may also call the selection of educational tours extension office at 910-321-6405 each year through the Better and request a copy to be mailed Living Series. One of the tours is to you. to the Randleigh Dairy Heritage Museum in Raleigh. On this Participants love to learn by unique fieldtrip, participants learn doing and the Cumberland how milk travels from the farm County Cooperative Extension’s to the table while enjoying some Better Living Series provides an North Carolina State Howling Cow excellent opportunity to learn new ice cream. Another tour relates to skills and talents. Come join us! Candy Underwood is a WVM contributor and the Family and Consumer Sciences Extension Agent at the North Carolina Cooperative Extension Cumberland County Center. 30 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 0

January Junctures CABIN FEVER ART EXHIBIT “IF IT AIN'T BAROQUE...” “SHREK: THE MUSICAL” Cape Fear Studios, Inc., located at performance Cape Fear Regional Theater, located 148 Maxwell St. Fayetteville Symphony Orchestra at 1209 Hay St. Enjoy the third annual St. John's Episcopal Church, located Special events include a PJ party, multimedia exhibition swamp soiree, dance and military at 302 Green St. and teacher appreciation nights. of original art. Jan. 16, 7:30 p.m. Jan. 10-Feb. 25 Jan. 23-Feb. 16. • 910-323-4234 910-433-4690 www.cf rt.org/project/shrek-the- 910-672-1724 http://www.fayettevillesymphony.org/ www.theartscouncil.com musical/#about-the-show PROM RUNWAY 26TH ANNUAL DR. MARTIN THE HEART AND SOUL OF MAGIC EXTRAVAGANZA LUTHER KING JR. PRAYER Seabrook Auditorium on the campus By: An Affair to Remember: Prom, Pageant and Formal Wear BREAKFAST of Fayetteville State University The Crown Expo Center The Crown Expo Center Show features Ran D Shine, Jamal Jan. 11, 7 p.m. Jan. 21, 8 a.m. Keyes and Kid Ace. 910-438-4100 910-438-4100 Jan. 25, 7 p.m. https://www.aatrnc.com/t8/ http://www.crowncomplexnc. 910-672-1724 events.html com/events/ www.uncfsu.edu JOHN BIGGERS: THE LASTING LEGACY “RUINS” Opening reception at The Gilbert Theater, located at Gallery 208, located at 208 Rowan St. 116 Green St. Jan. 14, 5:30-7 p.m. Jan. 24-Feb. 9 910-484-6200 910-678-7186 www.gilberttheater.com 2 0 2 0 J A N UA RY | 31