Women's View Magazine, September 2018

VOLUME 12 SEPTEMBERISSUE 9 2018 for, by and about local women MAGAZINE Goat yoga is coming to FayettevilleTara My journey to 7Herringdine: veganismIanssaidcehomreyogmraipnhder 8 House in the Horseshoe 16

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TABLE OF CONTENTS 7Goat yoga is coming to Fayetteville Animal therapy and wellness at its cutest. 8My journey to veganism It’s different for everyone, and worth thinking about. 11What kind of impact could you make on a child? For those who are considering being foster parents. 12Tara Herringdine: Inside my choreography This local dance studio owner's work was nominated for an Industry Dance Award. COVER STORY 16House in the Horseshoe The small North Carolina house’s story in the fight for American independence. 18Dress from the inside out For every Southern woman who needs a chuckle. 19'Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine' Debut author Gail Honeyman shows loneliness is a most curable disease. 20Cumberland County Guardian ad Litem Vanessa Vonsha Fields Speaking for those who can't. 21Ready for a career re-do? Five tips to reinvent your career at any stage of life.Building a lifetime of memories, Treat Yourself! One vacation at a time... Explore your surroundings & Shop Local Specializing in cruises, groups, weddings, family, SEPTEMBER 2018 3 all-inclusives, adventure, Disney.Jill Merrill Owner/Travel Agent/ Hope Mills, N.C.910-423-2088 • FavoriteTravelAgent@gmail.com www.FavoriteTravelAgent.com

notes from the assistant editor VOLUME 12 ISSUE 9Creativity and vulnerability PUBLISHER F & B Publications ocal dance studio owner Tara This separates creativity from other skill sets we Herringdine, whose choreography learn in life. You as an individual are not an EDITOR titled “The Handmaid’s Tale” was essential ingredient to the use of mathematical Stephanie Crider nominated for an Industry Dance processes. No matter who you are or how you stephanie@upandcomingweekly.com Award, is someone most people think, math equations and formulas will work the would easily call creative. But why same way and produce the same results. And ASSISTANT EDITORis that? What is creativity? What qualities does its the assemblage of an IKEA cabinet, admirable Leslie Pyoprocesses and outcomes have? as that task is, also will not change with theAs a visual artist, writer and dancer, I’ve thought assembler’s personality. leslie@upandcomingweekly.comabout these questions a lot. There are a few things In the use of creativity, however, your uniqueI think most people agree on. Creativity requires selfhood not only affects the process and ART DIRECTORconnecting old things in new ways. Creativity asks outcome, it defines them. Elizabeth Longfor a willingness to buck the status quo. Creativity This means you can’t be sure of what’s going art@upandcomingweekly.comhas outcomes that make people think. One thing to come out. It means you can’t know that theI always arrive at personally is that true creativity, product will be considered good or interesting. It MARKETING REPRESENTATIVEno matter your career or interests, requires means you have to let others see how you really Linda McAlistervulnerability. And that’s because for creativity, think and feel.which Merriam-Webster defines as simply “the Consider that many iconic creators we now hold linda@upandcomingweekly.comability to create,” the essential ingredient is you in high regard went their entire lives not only– the real you. unacknowledged but openly disliked. Vincent OPERATIONS DIRECTOR van Gogh, who sold only one painting in his Paulette Naylor lifetime and struggled with constant poverty and social isolation, wrote, “I want to touch people accounting@upandcomingweekly.com with my art. I want them to say, 'he feels deeply, he feels tenderly.’” DISTRIBUTION MANAGER/ SALES ADMINISTRATOR He chose to be vulnerable – to attempt to express Laurel Handforth himself through his paintings, even though the general population at that time did not like or laurel@upandcomingweekly.com want the product of his process. Today, he is considered one of history’s most influential artists CONTRIBUTORS and a painter who helped lay the foundation of Dr. Marcia Lancaster modern art. Christina Arreola Though van Gogh is a good example, creativity LaNatria Ellis is not inherently tied to art. Its products can look Donna Yalch like marketing strategies just as much as paintings. If people’s true selves are the essential ingredient Tara Herringdine for creation, as I suspect, then that must mean Sherris Johnson each of us has an inherent creative capacity because we each have a self. The question is, are Mindy Love we are willing to bare that self? To insert that self Judy Stapleton into the process? Tiffany Coad Vanessa Vonsha Fields-Thornton Holly Caplan WOMEN’S VIEW MAGAZINE 208 ROWAN STREET FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 28301 PHONE: 910-484-6200 Fax: 910-484-9218 Interested in contributing to Women's View Magazine? Email leslie@upandcomingweekly.com or call 910-484-6200. Women’s View Magazine is by, for and about women in Cumberland County. Published by F&B Publications in conjunction with Media Marketing Management. All Rights Reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or advertisement without permission is strictly prohibited. Various vector source artwork created by © Freepik, © Vecteezy and © Pixabay.4 SEPTEMBER 2018

Community and connection MThisONTH Sept. 1-9 Cumberland County Fair in and around CROWN COMPLEX cumberlandcountyfair.org or 910-438-4100 CUMBERLAND COUNTY The fair celebrates the diversity of local arts and crafts and provides fun, healthy family Arts entertainment featuring music, motorsports, animals and more. Sept. 1-8 Sweet Tea Shakespeare’s “The Comedy of Errors” Sept. 4 What the Truck THE 1897 POE HOUSE FAYETTEVILLE AREA CONVENTION 910-420-4383 or sweetteashakespeare.com AND VISITORS BUREAU Long-lost pairs combine to ignite this high- 11 a.m.-2 p.m. energy experience of shipwrecks, adventure 910-483-5311 and family reunions. Food trucks! Sept. 6 Hope Meals Food Truck Rodeo HOPE MILLS MUNICIPAL PARK 5-8 p.m. 910-426-4103 Bring canned goods and other nonperishables. Donations will benefit the ALMS House.Sept. 7-9 28th Annual Greek Festival Sept. 20- Oct. 7 “Music City”STS. CONSTANTINE ANDHELEN GREEK ORTHODOX CHURCH CAPE FEAR REGIONAL THEATRE910-484-8925 910-323-4233 or cfrt.orgDancing, food, music, art and more. This modern country musical celebrates integrity, service, success and incredibleSept. 8 Festival of Yesteryear country music.MUSEUM OF THE CAPE FEAR10 a.m.-5 p.m.910-500-4240 museumofthecapefear.ncdcr.gov/EventsLearn about life, culture, music and art incolonial North Carolina.Set. 28-30 40th International 25th Anniversary Celebration: Cape Fear Ballroom DancersFolk Festival HIGHLAND COUNTRY CLUBDOWNTOWN FAYETTEVILLE 6:30-10:30 p.m.910-323-1776 or theartscouncil.com capefearballroomdancers.org/calendar.htmlTurn the page to get a sneak peek of one of Dance the night away.Fayetteville’s biggest annual events! SEPTEMBER 2018 5

Key acts: f l kTHE ARTS COUNCIL’S ANNUAL CELEBRATING 40 YEARSTerrance Simien & The MélisandeWITH OUR VANGUARD SPONSOR [électrotrad] Here's the Canadian musicians'Zydeco Experience recipe for success in their oPRwEnSEwNoTrEdDs:B“YPour equal parts The Grammy-winning of centuries-old traditionalgroup will bring New Orelans Québécois songs, state-of-the-to Fayetteville. Simien is art electronic instruments anda vocalist, songwriter and relentless drums, add an ounceself-taught accordion player. of fiery fiddle, peaty flute andHe and his band have toured hypnotic jaw harp, a dash of tangyinternationally, and Simien banjo and a hint of full-bodiedhas shared the studio or stage bass. Shake vigorously, garnish with a sparkling singer and serve on stage!”with Paul Simon, Dr. John,The Meters, Marcia Ball, Dave Williamsburg Salsa OrchestraMatthews, Stevie Wonder,Robert Palmer and the roots This 11-piece Salsa grouprockers Los Lobos. hails from Brooklyn, New York, and is known for covering Indie Rolling Stone calls Simien rock tunes with incrediblea “Zydeco Master.” The Los horn arrangements, pulsatingAngeles Times describes percussion and sultry vocals.Terrance Simien & The ZydecoExperience as “more than just Their evolving set list includesa one-dimensional party band songs by Arcade Fire, TV On Thewhose soulful ballads could Radio, Spoon, M83, the Yeah Yeahhold their own against Aaron Yeahs, The Black Keys and more.Neville and Sam Cooke.” WSO is led by percussionist/Schedule: arranger Gianni Mano (from the Latin-funk legends Radio Mundial) and Argentinian chanteuse Solange Prat.Friday, Sept. 28 Saturday, Sept. 29 Sunday, Sept. 30:7-9 p.m.: Terrance Simien & The Zydeco Experience 10:30 a.m. Parade of Nations oTnHHEaAyRSTtSreCeOtU N CFIeLs’ StiAvNaNlUPALark Stage:f l kOLD FAVORITES THROUGHOUTSATURDAY AND SUNDAY:The International Café,f l kstorytellers, a mime, a juggler,open the festival onstage at Hay and Ray Streets in the middle Local people proudly represent more than 30 1:30 p.m.:of downtown, during the Arts Council’s Bon Temps Ball, a countries or cultures Mélisande [électrotrad]street dance and celebration in the spirit of Mardi Gras. T H E A R T S C O U N C I L’ S ANNUAL Festival Park Stage: NEW THIS YEAR: 1:15 p.m.: Terrance Simien & The Zydeco Experience • Rickshaws for transporting 2:30 p.m.: Mélisande [électrotrad] festival attendees, sponsored 3:45 p.m.: Terrence Simien & The Zydeco Experience by Coldwell Banker 5 p.m.: Mélisande [électrotradC]ELEBRATING 40 YEARS 6:30 p.m.: Williamsburg SalWsIaTHOOrUcRhVeAsNtGrUaARD SPONSORmusicians and various dancers, Advantagemore than 50 arts and crafts • Fireworks sponsored by 8:20 p.m. (estimated): Immediately after WSO performs, avendors Hale Artificier CEfLiErBeRwAToINrGk4s0 YfiEnARaSle WITH OUR VANGUARD SPONSOR PRESENpTreEDseBnYted by with our6 SEPTEMBER 2018 vanguard sponsor PRESENTED BY

Goat yoga is coming to Fayetteville a conversation with Dr. Marcia Lancaster WITH LOVELY GOATS OREO & COCO Search “Chiromassage of Fayetteville” on Facebook or call 910-987-6004 to learn moreThe daughter of two Fayetteville natives, Dr. Marcia Lancaster (pictured below, center and far right) spent her youth traveling to various militarybases, where her father served in the U.S. Air Force. She graduated from East Carolina University in 1982 and Life Chiropractic College in Marietta,Georgia, in 1987. She has been a practicing chiropractor and massage therapist for 30 years. She spent eight years of her practice in NewMexico, where she first studied yoga, returning to North Carolina in 2000. She currently works at Cumberland Massage Therapy Center at 5780Ramsey St. in Fayetteville. Starting Sept. 15, Dr. Lancaster will bring a new form of animal therapy to nearby Harnett County – goat yoga. Women’s View Magazine: What is goat yoga? career military officer. Every uncle I have has served in Lancaster: You perform normal yoga poses the military. Fayetteville is very connected economically in the physical presence of the goats, in this and socially to Fort Bragg. As a result of that, we have a case two small ones named Coco and Oreo. large population of soldiers, both active and retired, with During the process, you come in physical post-traumatic stress disorder. The relaxation offered from contact with the goats, with them nuzzling practicing yoga gains a boost when you add goats to the up to you or possibly standing on you in equation, much like the results seen when those who suffer certain poses. Goat yoga is affordable, from PTSD become involved with a therapy pet. accessible, available animal therapy. It shows people how easy yoga can be. Exercising with a goat isn’t the same as having a dog atWVM: Who is goat yoga targeted toward? your side, but there are still some of the same therapeuticLancaster: We have classes targeted to families, families benefits of petting or being near the goats that helpwho just want to bring their children, and anybody produce a relaxing response. It’s really hard to get into awho’s interested in yoga. (It's also for) anybody who yoga pose and be nuzzled by a goat and be stressed out atknowingly or suspects they may suffer from PTSD. We the same time.have connections with Wounded Warriors because wewant to reach out to veterans. Children with autism is People with PTSD can come to goat yoga and try out yoga.another group that is a good fit for goat yoga. We already They don’t have to tell anybody they have PTSD, and theyhave connections with Cumberland County, Harnett can have more fun than a day at the petting zoo.County and Sampson County schools. They’ll bringchildren to the farm, and we’ll bring the farm to the WVM: Where and when will goat yoga be offered, and howchildren. The goats are very portable, and we’re going to do you sign up?be conducting classes with special needs children.WVM: Why are you bringing goat yoga to Fayetteville? Lancaster: The farm where the classes will be held is onLancaster: I’m an uber patriot. My father is a retired Old Stage Road in Erwin, North Carolina. The classes will be on Saturdays and Sundays beginning Sept. 15. Go to the Facebook page “Chiromassage of Fayetteville,” which will link to Eventbrite, where you can make reservations for classes. Chiromassage of Fayetteville is the sponsor that’s helping bring goat yoga to this area. SEPTEMBER 2018 7

CHRISTINA ARREOLA ith the new wave of Instagram health bloggers and releases of documentary after documentary, Contributing Writer veganism is a hot topic. Veganism, unlike the more straightforward vegetarianism (which eliminatesMy journey meat from the diet) dictates a diet that includesto veganism no animal products at all, including dairy. With access to information easier now than it has ever been, people are8 SEPTEMBER 2018 taking it upon themselves to dig deeper into eating and lifestyle philosophies. The journey to veganism is different for everyone, as is the reasoning behind the switch. My journey started approximately one-and-a-half years ago. I was fortunate enough to intern for a documentary film festival, Full Frame, in Durham, North Carolina, where I was able to view films in between my work responsibilities. One specifically stood out to me. “The Last Pig,” a 2017 documentary by filmmaker Alison Argo, centers around a new pig farmer who wants to be a source of clean pork. With no prior experience, he raises and slaughters his pigs on his own. This film follows him as he questions the sanctity of life, the equality of animals and humans and the power he has as a sentient creature to kill. He ultimately decides the year the film began will be his last as a pig farmer. The film follows him to his last slaughtered pig. It’s a haunting documentary full of self-reflection. That film followed me long after the festival. It made me dive deep into research. As someone who tries to be as environmentally conscious as I can, I learned, from the Food and Agricultural Organization of the United Nations, that livestock (cows, chickens and pigs) produce up 18 percent of the world’s greenhouse emissions. According to the same studies done by the FAO, greenhouse emissions are a primary contributor to the growing issue of climate change. Furthermore, 64 percent of the world’s ammonia emissions, which heavily contribute to acid rain, is traced back to livestock. With large quantities of meat produced for the country’s growing population, large plots of land are needed, which has increased deforestation. Additionally, meat production takes a lot of water. It takes 4,000 gallons of water to produce two pounds of beef and more than 1,000 gallons to produce the same amount of chicken meat, according to the Water Footprint Network. Comparably, it takes 25 gallons to produce a pound of wheat. Knowing I can impact the environment just by reducing my meat intake was enough to inspire me to make a change. Everything else fell into place. It is no secret that there are health benefits from lowering the amount of meat in one’s diet. Processed forms like bacon and sausage have been associated with an increase in cancer risk, cardiovascular disease and Type 2 diabetes. Red meats are also associated with an increase in cancer risk, all according to studies found in the U.S. National Library of Medicine. Also, switching to veganism and eating plenty of fruits and vegetables can lead to weight loss. Several randomized controlled studies, the gold standard of scientific research, from reliable sources like The Journal of Nutritional Research, the public Health Research Center of the University of South Carolina, and the Department of Medicine of George Washington University, show that a vegan diet is effective for dropping pounds. Adjusting to a plant-based diet naturally causes a reduction in calorie intake, and according to those studies, even when

LOCAL BWLOELGLNGEESRScompared to those who follow a calorie- much I eat. Looking at pictures from a year department has now extended to an entirerestricted diet, vegans who eat until they’re ago, including the headshot accompanied section of soy-based burgers, “chicken” infull have lost more weight. Maintaining a with my byline, makes me see the change. all forms (tenders, nuggets, drumsticks, etc.),healthy diet is still just as important with the While it wasn’t the reason I started my switch, fake sausages and bacon in the freezerswitch. Veganism leaves room for making it’s nice to see those results, knowing I’m still aisle. Some products that were only foundpoor eating choices, so eating lots of fruits being healthy and eating what I want. in southern California can now be found inand vegetables, just like with any diet, can Oftentimes, it is argued that taking meat my neighborhood grocer in North Carolina.lead to weight loss. out of your diet means losing certain types More and more restaurants are rolling outWhile it’s difficult for me to notice any change of nutrients. A vegan diet done right is quite vegan-friendly options. The impact of goingin my cancer risks, I can attest that I have nutritious. Removing meat often leads to an meatless, no matter your reasons behind it,lost weight since my journey began. I went increased intake of nuts, grains, fruits and is not going to happen overnight. But it willdown three pant sizes without adjusting my vegetables and beans. This provides more happen. And it matters.physical routines or being strict about how fiber and antioxidants. The diet also becomes I’m not here to convince you to become richer in potassium, magnesium and vitamins vegan. I’m writing to hopefully inspire A, C and E, according to studies found in the you to do research of your own. To make National Library of Medicine. decisions that you believe in wholeheartedly. And, of course, there are the moral reasons. Everyone’s journey is different. Only you can decide if eating animals is If you do decide to try veganism, don’t expect okay. We have the technology now to not to do it cold turkey. Start slow if that’s what rely on animals as a main source of food. works best. Don’t get angry if you slip up. I I do recognize that I come from a place admit, I relapsed a couple of times, for lack of of privilege by saying that. However, I do a better term. Just know that jackfruit will be believe that supply meets demand. The your lifesaver, tofu isn’t a scary sponge and organic trend has already made waves in cereal with coconut/almond/soy milk is just grocery stores. Veganism is similarly causing as good. Plus, cooking and experimenting in its own waves. What was once just a small the kitchen becomes more fun. How will your falafel and tofu section in the produce journey go? SEPTEMBER 2018 9

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DONNA YALCHVice President ofCommunity-Based ServicesBoys and Girls Homes of NC910-646-2236www.boysandgirlshomes.orgWhat kind of impactcould you make on a child? eing a social worker is never boring. I know of a child who lived with his foster family. He would Tiring, yes. Boring, no. For the last 17 not make eye contact with anyone. It was not because he years, I have worked in the nonprofit was being disrespectful – he just could not do it. Then, after field with foster parents and adoptive he had been in the home for a few months, he was meeting parents. One of the greatest challenges some new people and the foster mom was watching.I have faced is recruiting foster parents. When talking to He held out his hand and shook the hand of a man andprospective foster parents, the greatest concerns I hear introduced himself while looking him in the eye. That isare, “I just couldn’t let them go,” and, “My heart would when you know that you have made a difference.break.” These are true statements. It is hard for fosterparents to bond with a child or children and then let them “It’s just a handshake,” you say. But that handshake willgo back home or to another family member. help him get his first job, help him when he meets his girlfriend’s dad. It will help him become a manager andMy response is, “I wonder what kind of impact you could supervise other people. That handshake will help himhave made on a child.” graduate high school and become a productive member of society. Sure, those things could have happened withoutWhether you have a child for a week, a month or a year, living with the foster parents, but maybe not.the impact you have on the child – and you will have an Being a foster parent is hard work, but the rewards areimpact – could belife-changing for you amazing. Being aboth. Maybe the child foster parent willwho lives with you make you cry, butfor a month never the laughter youattended church or experience is beyondheard about Jesus. words. Being a fosterMaybe that child never sat at the table and had a family parent can be adinner. Maybe that child never slept on a bed with clean thankless job, but you will see the appreciation in a child’ssheets or never took a bath with hot water. Maybe that eyes when you put a homemade dinner in front of them.child was never taught to say grace or say a prayer beforethey went to sleep. Maybe that child has never seen a Sometimes being a foster parent, you feel all alone, butmom and dad not hit each other. Maybe that child has then you receive a call from your foster care consultantnever known what it is to feel safe and cared for. Of course, thanking you for helping a child’s attitude change becauseyou as an adult might take all these things for granted and you helped that child feel safe.so might your children. Being a foster parent is a way to make a difference in society.The children that come into a foster home do not always When you open your heart and home to a child, you aresay, “Thank you for allowing me to live in your home,” or, touching that child’s life and every life he or she touches.“Thank you for a bed.” You will probably hear them saythat they want to go home, or that they miss their family. Please call us if you have ever thought about being a fosterWe all would feel the same way if we were in their shoes. parent. The staff will tell you the good and bad about beingBut you look for the thank you in other ways. a foster parent, but I can promise you this – the good shall outweigh the bad by leaps and bounds.Editor’s note: This article originally appeared on the Boys and Girls Homes of NC’s blog and is being reprinted with minor revisions with permission. SEPTEMBER 2018 11

Tara has been a choreographer TARA HERRINGDINEfor 27 years – since she was 17.Her choreography for her dance Owner and Director,piece titled “The Handmaid’s Cumberland Dance AcademyTale” was nominated for BestLyrical/Modern/Contemporary Inside my mind asPerformance for the Industry Dance a choreographerAwards and Cancer Benefit Show,which is held at the Avalon Theatre he technical definition while watching the hit HBO seriesin Hollywood, California, and took of choreography is “Shameless,” I was struck by aplace Aug. 15. Though her piece managing movements, song in the show called “The Cold”did not win, nomination for this show steps and patterns of by Exitmusic. It was explosive andis still one of the highest honors in dancers to produce heartfelt.the dance industry. IDA is an annual a dance piece. But really, good Years later, I binge-watched the entireevent that brings the global dance choreography is much more than that. first season of “The Handmaid’s Tale,”community together in celebration With dance becoming so mainstream which is based on the 1985 novel of theof creativity, industry innovation and due to current hit TV shows such as same name by Margaret Atwood. Thethe fight against cancer. “So You Think You Can Dance,” show takes place in a dystopian presentTara’s “The Handmaid’s “World of Dance,” and “Dance day; women have been stripped awayTale” can be viewed at Moms,” almost anyone can point out from their careers, jobs and families.industrydanceawards. a well-choreographed piece. When America has become the Republic ofcom/2018/nominees. I choreograph, I strive to bring the Gilead and has subjected all fertile audience inside the performance women into becoming child-bearing1122 SSEEPPTTEEMMBBEERR22001188 and inside my mind. To hold the servants. In “The Handmaid’s Tale,” audience’s attention, it takes a variety women like myself who built their own of movements and textures in the dance careers had to leave their jobs. Their pieces, and smooth transitions. The bank accounts and assets were frozen. choreographer must also know his or The government took everything away her dancers. from these women. It left me feeling Ideas for choreography often come bitter and offended, and I felt sorrow randomly. A few years ago, while for the women in the show. in line at Abercrombie and Fitch, I told myself, “I have to choreograph something across the store caught my something about this.” I knew it was eye. Hanging on the rack were the going to be a challenge. I was taking a cutest, most all-American sailor dresses big chance because I knew that if people I’d seen. My immediate thought was, “I in the audience had watched the show, have to have these! All of them!” After then they’d be able to relate to it and I purchased every single sailor dress on probably love the dance. But if they the rack, I called my friend and told him were unaware of the show, they may I needed him to build me a boat. That be confused about the entire concept. shopping trip spurred choreography Therefore, I had to portray this dance that turned out to be one of the best and these characters so that the audience dances I’ve ever created, a dance would understand the dance piece with called “Sail Away.” or without having watched the show. My choreography that was recently nominated for an IDA award started with falling in love with a beautiful song in 2014. One day,

COVER STORYRylie Parker, Caroline Combs, Alise Knight, Tara Herringdine,Abygayle Leggett, Elena SchmidtFor a concept that evoked such extreme Abby, being the littlest, got thrown in the beautiful extension – the ability toemotions, I needed to find the right song, effortlessly raise the leg in the air. Herthe right dancers and the right costumes air the most and dropped backwards from ballet lines, the outlined shapes of herto characterize the handmaids and their 10 feet in the air. complete body while performing, arebond with one another in a factual and beautiful, and she can turn like a top.honest way. I then realized I already had Alise, with her tireless and robustthe perfect song – “The Cold,” the one I’d All these dancers dove right in andtucked away years earlier. This song was strength, assisted with most of the lifts immediately poured themselves into theirperfect because it was dark and cold, and provided a strong base that took the characters. The result was the 3-minute piecejust like the feeling I got when watching dance to a whole new level of tricks. “The Handmaid’s Tale,” which we performedthe show. The music is almost operatic at Groove Dance Competition in High Point,with complete desperation and blaring, Elena’s movement is like watching North Carolina, in March 2018. It won a first-uncontrollable agony. place platinum award and first overall Teen liquid pouring from a fountain. She has Small Groups and has now been nominatedFinding the right dancers was a bit more amazingly smooth transitions that make for an IDA award. The dancers took what Iinvolved. I needed dancers who were not for a seamless, peaceful feeling. gave them and made it genuine and honest,afraid of being athletes. I needed dancers and the audience believed and felt it.who would open their minds and wrap their Rylie equals legs and feet! Her toesheads around a present-day world being If I had to put what I do as a choreographertorn apart by the government, a world almost touch the bottom of her heel into one statement, I would say I am creatingwhere women were slaves to men just for when she points her foot, which in the art. It may not be on paper or on a canvas, butreproduction. Trying to get teenagers to dance world is a good thing. Rylie also it is art infused into a dancer’s soul and broughtportray women who are mistreated, violated has amazing ballet technique and long to life by their ability to move their body. I’mand ripped from their previous lives to serve dancer legs that she can lift in the air right grateful to live in a country that values andin a totalitarian state was no easy task. beside her face and hold there for as long recognizes the arts with events like the IDA. as you will let her.I did find those dancers, though: Abby, SEPTEMBER 2018 13Alise, Elena (who were all 16 at the time), Caroline has a little bit of everything.Rylie and Caroline (who were 15). She has a perfectly arched foot and

SHERRIS JOHNSON WHAT ISNEAR US 614 Oakridge Ave.Executive director, Our P.L.A.C.E. YOU ARE HERE Hellenic CenterSherris Johnson created Our P.L.A.C.E. (Passion Lives and Creative Sept. 7-9Experiences) in 2015, a local, arts-based nonprofit committed toproviding opportunity, education, funding and resources to artists toimpact the community. She also co-founded The Marquis Slam in 2012.28th Annual Greek Festival HELLENIC CENTER | 614 OAKRIDGE AVE., FAYETTEVILLE mmerse yourself in Greek culture for this at this year’s festival. The church’s Hellenic dance troupes spectacular three-day event hosted by Sts. will dance throughout the festival, wearing traditional Constantine and Helen Greek Orthodox Church. costumes, both in performances and in educational This family-friendly festival draws thousands of demonstrations. Vendors from all over the city will set up visitors each year. From mouthwatering Greek an “agora,” a Greek marketplace where you can purchase cuisine and homemade pastries to traditional Greek jewelry, leather, embroideries, rugs, clothing, folk artGreek dancing, there is something for everyone to enjoy. and icons. Also, children’s activities will run all three days of the festival in the large field in front of the food tent.The food is always a big draw for festival-goers. There is adelicious assortment of gyros, lamb shank, Greek salads, Every year, one lucky attendee wins either $2,000 cash or“spanakopita” (spinach pie) “pastichio” (Greek lasagna), two round-trip airfares to Athens, Greece. Raffle tickets“souvlaki” (skewered meat and vegetables) and more. The only cost $5 each or five for $20. Guests who purchasefood also brings Fayetteville’s Greek community together raffle tickets are also automatically entered into funin an astonishing way, and it’s an avenue for the church hourly drawings.to invite others to share in and learn about Greek culture. This is a free community event. For more information, visitThere will be plenty of music, dancing, shopping and fun www.stsch.nc.goarch.org/greek-festival.com.Photo via www.stsch.nc.goarch.org/greek-festival.com14 SEPTEMBER 2018

WHAT IS FAR FROM US Join Us Asheville, NC FonreOxtur Gallery Now through Oct. 7 Event“Chihuly at Biltmore” on 1-800-411-3812 or visit October 9th www.biltmore.com. SEPTEMBER 2018 15 ravel to the beautiful, mountainous area of Asheville for “Chihuly at Biltmore,” the first art exhibition in Biltmore’s historic gardens. Dale Chihuly is a world- renowned American artist, and the show represents the first garden exhibition of his works in North Carolina. Now through Oct. 7, you can view his jaw-droppingly beautiful, large-scale glass sculptures either during the daytime or in the evening. Included with daytime admission, “Chihuly at Biltmore” showcases the artist’s sculptures in an idyllic, elegant setting: the historic gardens of The Biltmore Estate, “America’s Largest Home.” Chihuly’s sculptures are distinguished by vibrant colors and organic shapes, complementing the Biltmore’s artfully designed landscapes. While dazzling in daylight, the exhibition takes on a new dimension when viewed after nightfall. While requiring an evening admission, “Chihuly Nights at Biltmore” is an enchanting opportunity to witness the effects of atmospheric nighttime lighting upon the luminous colors and graceful forms of the glass installations. You’ll also enjoy watching the sunset over the majestic Blue Ridge Mountains, live music in the gardens and a wine bar. You can embark on the adventure through the gardens on Thursday- Sunday evening by reservation only. Elevate your experience with a luxurious overnight stay at The Inn on Biltmore Estate that allows you to enjoy the attention to detail and level of service for which the Vanderbilts were renowned. Or, you can kick back and relax in the comfortable, charming designs of the estate’s farmhouses and cottages at The Village Hotel on Biltmore Estates. There are special packages designed to make this Blue Ridge Mountain visit one you’ll never forget. Photo via www.chihuly.com/work

MINDY LOVE House in the Horseshoe State Historic Site • Tuesday-Saturday, 9 a.m.-5 p.m. 288 Alston House Rd. • Sanford, NC 27330Creator/blogger, Sweet Tea and Pasta 910-947-2051 • www.nchistoricsites.org/horsesho/www.sweetteaandpasta.comMindy Love is a full-time environmental program manager with the U.S. Army Reserve Command and creator of theblog Sweet Tea and Pasta. She’s lived in North Carolina for over 20 years and started her blog to share her Southernexperiences with others. When she’s not assisting the military in saving the earth, she’s eating her way around the South,meeting new people and looking for new small towns to explore. House in the Horseshoe The small North Carolina house’s story in the fight for American independence A few months before the Continental Congress voted on the Declaration of Independenceon July 2, 1776, North Carolina passed the Halifax Resolves. This was the first official actionagainst Great Britain in the colonies, which paved the way for colonists to declare theirindependence and launch the American Revolution. This declaration was not taken lightly,and in response, the mighty army of Great Britain waged a fierce war against the uprising. Often, American children are taught about this pivotal time in our nation’s history from theperspective of the great battles fought in the northern colonies. Rarely are they taught aboutthe British “Southern strategy” led by British General Lord Charles Cornwallis. This Southernstrategy employed by the British was designed to garner support from Southerners loyal to theBritish crown. This Southern campaign ranged from Virginia to Georgia during the secondhalf of the American Revolution.16 SEPTEMBER 2018

One portrayal of this British offensive strategy is conveyed in LOCAL BLOGGERthe movie “The Patriot,” which focuses on the Southern campaignand the patriots’ fight for freedom. Although the movie is not SEPTEMSBEPETRE2M01B8ER 127018 17entirely historically accurate, it does portray a storyline basedon actual events and introduces a cast of characters built on thefoundation of real people like Lord Cornwallis, Banastre Tarleton,and a four-in-one portrayal of Francis Marion, Daniel Morgan,Andrew Pickens and Thomas Sumter in the main character ofBenjamin Martin. The movie highlights the fighting spirit of thepatriots and their resolve to break from the tyranny of England. North Carolina in particular served as a hotbed of guerrillafighting, and the patriots fiercely antagonized the British acrossthe Southern countryside. Patriots fought against those loyal tothe British crown in skirmishes in rural areas and small townsthat dotted the landscape from 1778 to 1781. These dust-upsbetween the loyalists and the patriots, such as the one thatoccurred at the House in the Horseshoe, eventually led to theBritish surrender in 1781 in Virginia. The House in the Horseshoe, also known as the Alston House,is located on the early colonial frontier in what is present-day Sanford, North Carolina. Aptly named, the House in theHorseshoe is nestled at the top of a hill in the horseshoe bend onthe Deep River. David Fanning, a notable North Carolina loyalist, participatedin the war loyal to his king from the early days of the war untilthe end. In 1781, Fanning and his large loyalist militia led raidingparties from Georgia to North Carolina, stealing goods, capturingpatriots and wreaking havoc along the way. In the summer of 1781, Fanning brought the war to PhilipAlston’s front door and a small battle raged on for many hours atthe House in the Horseshoe. Alston and his small contingencyof Patriot militia were camping at the farm when Fanning andhis band of loyalist raiders rode up to the house and initiatedtheir attack. Alston was in the house with his wife, Temperance, andchildren while his men camped out on the grounds when theywere attacked by Fanning and his men. As the patriots volleyedshots with Fanning’s men, Alston’s wife and children hid in thefireplace. Bullet holes from the fight in 1781 are found throughoutthe home’s wooden siding and are still evident today. Although a small skirmish, it resulted in the capture of Alstonand his men. As the loyalists pushed a burning cart toward thehouse, intending to burn it down, Mrs. Alston waved her whitehandkerchief, stepped out on the front lawn and negotiated atruce and the terms of her husband’s surrender. As any motherwould do, Mrs. Alston boldly fought to save the lives of herchildren and her home, as well as the lives of her husband andhis men. The House in the Horseshoe is a North Carolina State HistoricSite and is a short drive from Fayetteville and the surroundingarea. Last month, the House in the Horseshoe hosted its annualreenactment of the battle, which it always performs the firstweekend of August. A fantastic, family-friendly event, thereenactment includes, along with the battle reenactment, acolonial camp, cannon and musket demonstrations, tomahawkthrowing and an overview of colonial life, including cooking,weaving and gardening. In addition to the annual battle reenactment, the House in theHorseshoe hosts the Fall Muster, Colonial Christmas and manyother special events. It’s open Tuesday through Saturday year-round as well.

JUDY STAPLETON JUST SAYIN’ Contributing Writer Pop me an email and tell me about the laughter in your life: justsayin@upandcomingweekly.com.DRESS FROM THE OUT INSIDE Heeeeey! I am sure ya’ll will understand came back out, just a glidin’ through theSweet what I’m talkin’ bout … You know, when parking lot. you meet a woman, and you have an immediate connection that makes you Bein’ the lady that I am, I scooted out want to spend more time with her and be of my seat and hustled over to her as her best friend? quick as Arthur Itis (you met him in my last column) would allow. Well, last weekend I met one of these women. I said, “Ma’am, I do apologize if I seem forward, but may I just peek at I went to town with my husband, and your lovely dress?” he wanted to stop at the craft store to pick up ONE item. I knew if I went inside She said, “Sure.” with him it would become a 3-hour So, I peeked around the back of her treasure hunt through the whole store. neck real quick like and said, “Yup, I And of course, I would find stuff I needed was afraid of that. Sweetie, your dress is to buy – even though I have projects at inside out.” home that I need to finish first. You know Bein’ the kinda lady I want to be what I’m talkin’ bout, ladies! best buds with – she promptly burst out laughin’. I don’t mean little ladylike So, I kept my butt in the car! laughter. I mean roll-on-the-floor and Good thing, too, as I was able to have pee-your-pants laughter! that connection with a lovely, graceful I joined in, and we had a laugh fest lady that I saw get out of her car and go right there in that parking lot. inside. As she glided past me, I admired Every time I think about it, I can’t keep her lovely dress flowing in the breeze. a smile from spreading across my face. Something on her dress caught my eye Maybe one day I’ll tell you about my as she went by … it was a white tag own story about the time I got in my car sticking out of the side and then another in my slip to leave for work, completely one at the top by the base of her neck. forgetting to put my dress on over it. I thought … Weeeell, bless her heart, I know from experience life holds much she has her dress on inside out! more joy when you can laugh at yourself. My husband came back ready to Ladies, look out for each other. go, and I said, “Honey, wait a minute, We all do some silly stuff, it’s what keeps please.” And then that lovely woman us humble, so let’s laugh about it together. with her dress blowin’ in the breeze I’m Just Judy, keepin’ it real ’til next time … sun tea8 teabags (per gallon of water)Sugar to taste (1-2 cups per gallon of water)Place tea bags and sugar in Remove Note: Add fruit ora gallon container. Shake to teabags and aromatics for variation.dissolve the sugar. Set in the serve over ice. Lemons, peaches orsun for 3-5 hours, depending mint all add a nice flavor.on desired strength of tea. This recipe also works well with flavored teas.18 SEPTEMBER 2018

TIFFANY COAD Tiffany Coad is a property manager at United Local Management II by day and an avid reader and writer after ReadingContributing Writer business hours. She believes writing, as all art, should reflect our world back to us and reveal areas where we must Corner change and share in each other’s joy, pain, love and lives.\"Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine\" Debut author Gail Honeyman shows loneliness is a most curable disease n author Gail Honeyman’s debut novel, we material. Honeyman brings the reality of navigating are swept into the droll life of an eccentric girl adulthood to the page with glinting clarity. Eleanor named Eleanor Oliphant. With her dry wit and Oliphant’s honest relationship with the troubles and inability to be anyone but herself, Eleanor finds frustrations and annoyances in the world around her build her life comfortably lonely. Rarely stepping a foundation of trust between her character and the reader. outside her strict schedule and particularity, This nuanced relationship further deepens as you realizewe follow her as she learns to open her heart to unlikely along the way that, as with every person, emotion colorsfriends, including the rarely hygienic, reliably patient, and shifts perception of reality. The mantra from the pagesequally peculiar IT technician, Raymond. of the story breathes a message of, “It’s never too late.” As Eleanor cautiously fumbles through life, the feeling of hopeAs the story meanders through each day with Eleanor, for the future grows assuredly right beneath the surface,there is plentiful solitary drinking (only on weekends), spreading roots and waiting to spring forth.Wednesday night conversations with Mummy, internalprofessions of passionate love for a man Eleanor has Similarly, author Gail Honeyman lived out the book’sonly ever seen on a stage (or on a twitter feed), persistent message in her journey. In 2014, she submitted threepersuasions to interact with and assist Raymond, and an chapters of the then-titled \"Eleanor Oliphant\" to aelderly man named Sammy. competition for unpublished fiction run by the Lucy Cavendish College. After making the shortlist of theThen suddenly, as often happens, Eleanor begins to grow competition, Honeyman, at the age of 40, was discovered,and change. Do not be fooled by the sarcasm, banter published, and began living out her dream of writing fulland plentiful laughs in this story; “Eleanor Oliphant Is time. Her writing success fluidly moved from passionCompletely Fine” is not exclusively a comedic ride. There is project to notoriety and writing as a career.a beating heart behind our unreliable narrator, which leadsthe reader by the hand through her foibles and trials. Honeyman’s novel is a No. 1 New York Times bestseller and a Reese Witherspoon Book Club pick. It was recentlyThe complexity of an unreliable narrator denotes a level optioned to become a film produced by Witherspoon inof true humanity that supersedes the fiction of the source the coming years.19 SEPTEMBER 2018 SEPTEMBER 2018 19

VANESSA VONSHA FIELDS-THORNTONGuardian ad Litem, Cumberland CountyI’m originally from Pompano Beach, Florida. I joined the military in high school. I’m now a retired veteran who served26 years active duty in the U.S. Army. I’m a divorced mother of six children, three girls and three boys, and I have onegrandchild. I currently work part time as a senior caregiver, and I also attend Methodist University at night for eveningclasses. My study is social work.The Honorable Edward A. Pone, District Court Judge, swore in Vanessa Thornton as a Guardien ad Litem on March 30, 2015. Volunteer spotlight: Vanessa Vonsha Fields-Thornton GUARDIAN AD LITEM (N): A PERSON THE COURT APPOINTS TO INVESTIGATE WHAT SOLUTIONS WOULD BE IN THE BEST INTERESTS OF A CHILD n my lifetime, I’ve seen many abused children, must all be treated with dignity and respect, regardless of to include myself. I know how it feels to have their personal opinions. no advocate, and I don’t want any child to go through what I went through. Not everyone One of the things I enjoy about being a GAL is getting to dares to stand up for themselves, especially a know the children. When I visit the children on my cases, child, but I have the drive to be the one to speak they make my heart pitter-patter. I get a lot of hugs and for others. That drive led me to the Cumberland smiles – even though some of them are still trying to openCounty Guardian ad Litem program, and seven months up. I've had a few tell me that they love talking to me andbefore retiring from the Army in 2015, I was sworn in to be a that they like me. After all they've gone through, that meansGAL. It is such an honor. a lot to me. Although this isn't an easy job for everyone, it's Being a GAL, you must be dedicated entirely to the children something I wouldn't second-guess myself about because Iwhose cases you manage. Sometimes the GAL is the only love being a part of it.stability a child has. This is a volunteer job. It takes heartto visit children who live with relatives who have a negative As long as I can be that one stable element in a child’s life,vibe toward the program and are often uneasy about the put a smile on a child’s face or just make them feel goodreasons a child lives with them. Some children reside with about themselves, I will continue to be an advocate. Servingfoster parents. No matter the living arrangements, the children who are in need of voices is my calling. Beingchildren on these cases and their placement guardians a child advocate has been a highlight in my life, and I’m grateful for this opportunity. I will perform my duties to the best of my abilities.The Cumberland County Guardian ad Litem program currently serves over 800 abused and neglected children who are in the custody of theDepartment of Social Services and find themselves in the court system through no fault of their own. GAL child advocates are the voices of thechildren; they are trained and then appointed to serve by a district court judge. They visit the children in various settings, build trusting relationshipswhile identifying their needs, and make recommendations to the court, all in an effort to find a permanent home for the children as quickly as possible.GAL is a volunteer-driven program, and more volunteers are needed to serve. To learn more and to apply to become a Guardian ad Litem, visit WWW.VOLUNTEERFORGAL.ORG20 SEPTEMBER 2018

HOLLY CAPLAN Holly Caplan is a workplace issues expert, career coach and author of “Surviving the Dick Clique: A Girl's Guide to Surviving the Male Dominated Corporate World.”Contributing writer Connect with her on Twitter, @hollymcaplan.www.hollycaplan.comReady for a redo?Five tips to reinvent your career at any stage of life recently made the choice to quit my corporate job. writing, producing and acting. It meant enough to her to write a After putting up with the same negativity and toxic screenplay, audition for roles and start her own production compa- work environment for years, I decided it was time to ny – all the while keeping her day job. Her creative core has led her go. When I made the exit, it was on my terms and to this second career. Her advice to others is, “Follow your intuition, based on my principles. I finally felt I was in charge do what you love, and you will make your heart sing.” of my destiny. I basked in this moment for, oh, aboutfour days. And then arrived the holy crap moment of – what now? I Realize your prioritiesrealized I wasn’t sure of what I actually wanted to do next. Despite Identify your top priorities in the next phase of your life. Writemy outward courage and good intentions, I was terrified at the core. down what you really want. Is it having a certain job? Is it havingI knew I could survive financially for a while, but didn’t want to sit still financial stability? Is it having more time with your family? From here,at the same time. you can shape the center of your reinvention plans around your In this self-reflection period, I realized I could take this time to wants and needs. Stan Dietz, a Portland, Oregon, based marketingreinvent myself. I had known I wanted to reinvent myself for some executive, said that he made this list and it has helped him createtime – the thought of leaving corporate America and doing my own certain financial, career and family goals for himself. Dietz said hething felt like a dream for years. Now I really had the opportunity. then took it a step further. “I asked myself several questions. As I look If you are in this position now, or know you will be in the near at the larger question of what do I want to do, the answer is in gen-future, take a deep breath, and consider the gift of freedom, but eral terms of the impact I want to achieve: I want to have a positiveremove the big red bow of fear. You can find a path that is right for impact on others around me. I also want to continue to be successful.you, it will just take time and effort. Here are five tips to help you Success in this case relates to my cornerstone of the ability to takealong as you reinvent yourself: care of my family.” Not only was his process revealing, but he was also able to generate new ideas and interests.Skill set transfer Consider your history and think about what you are good at. Practice patience with yourselfMaybe it is accounting or sales, but know what your niche is and This is the hard part. Learn to have patience with you. If you don’tat what skill you are the most confident. Stick with that skill and have the answers to your big questions immediately, sit with them.your transition to renewal will provide confidence and give you This did not occur to me initially, as I am one impatient person. Aa foundation. Steve Adams, an Austin, Texas, based insurance longtime friend of mine had to bring it to my attention. By practicingfranchise owner, realized his abilities were best used when it came patience, I took immense pressure off myself. Having patience alsoto customer service. “During my previous career in big corporate freed up my mind, and more ideas surfaced as a result.America, I was great at building and keeping relationships. I knewthat these skills would transfer when I was ready to open my own Be list-lessbusiness, and it has worked well for me.” Adams found that focus- Don’t rely on your “list.” All too often we portray ourselves to oneing on his strengths led him to finding a business where he found another as a list. We list our accomplishments, degrees, employersfulfillment and personal growth. and a bunch of other jargon that people tune out. We think this act of “listing” will help others understand who we are and validate ourFocus on your core existence. Newsflash, no one cares. Everyone has a list. Let go of Although your years may have been spent in marketing, has it the list, especially while reinventing yourself. This will get you closerbeen satisfying? Meaning, did you love the actual task of being a to renewal and realizing your true definition. It’s not that you weremarketer, or perhaps it was the ability to tap into your creative sens- an executive of a company for 12 years and were promoted to VP,es that brought gratification. The point here is to connect with what it is that you led people and helped them achieve their goals – thatinspires you at the core of your being. Mary Griffitts, an attorney is your specialty. How you impact others is what really defines youfrom Dallas, Texas, has owned her jury consulting business for 15 and is how you make your mark. Explore this thought for your rein-years. Along the way, she realized she had a passion for screen- vention and you will thrive.Editor’s note: An expanded version of this article originally ran on Caplan's website. This condensed version has been reprinted with permission. SEPTEMBER 2018 21

STEPHANIE CRIDER LAST VIEWEditor Man, I love the South. Sometime around my junior year, my best friend, Ricky – am not from the South, although I do love it. also a non-Southerner – stood in his driveway holding a Until high school, I thought it was a direction, small, mysterious package, looking fearful. He asked me if I’d not a place. ever had a boiled peanut. His backyard neighbor had given Ricky some to try. We spent a good 10 minutes wondering When I was 14, we moved from Germany to if this was a prank and imagining what ills might befall us Georgia. The first thing I noticed was, dang! if we ate one. Would our tongues swell? Would we collapse It’s hot down here, ya’ll! And muggy. I barely in agony? Curiosity got the better of us, and on the countset foot outside that summer. I did consider venturing out of three, together we experienced the delicious saltiness ofto flirt with the neighbor boy, Robbie, who was a fabulous boiled peanuts. We vowed then and there to never questionbasketball player – at least as far as I could tell from our backyard neighbor’s integrity ever again.dining room window – but as soon as I opened the doorone late July afternoon, my hair exploded into a big frizzy I made it to college before an accounting teacher declaredmess, and that was that. By the time I met him face-to- “Oh, honey…” and patted my hand. That is a column forface, it was October and I had given my heart to David, another day. Let me just say, the intricacies of businessthe soft-spoken red-head from French class. I am sureDavid would have no idea what to do with auditing did not come naturally to me.a basketball, but he had amazing hair and awonderful faux-French accent with a lovely I was in my 20s and working for the collegeGeorgia twang. And the way he tilted his head foundation when a colleague brought inwhen he smiled made me swoon. It is a skill pimiento cheese sandwiches. It was herSouthern gentlemen seem to be born with. grandmama’s recipe. Ya’ll! Getting her to share that is still one of my proudestI snickered the first time I heard the word conquests.“ya’ll,” ruining my chances of being a coolkid when Sherry, head mean girl in charge, I was well into my 30s when my family cameintroduced herself to my little brother at the to North Carolina and nearly 40 before Iskating rink. And I was surprised by how right laid eyes on the Outer Banks and her wildit felt the first time the word slipped from my horses and majestic lighthouses. The rolling waves andlips a few months later. sublime sunrises stilled my soul. That same year, we took in the grandeur of Biltmore and explored the waterfalls of theMy first glass of sweet iced tea was at a Labor Day picnic Carolina mountains. The Blue Ridge Parkway was set ablazethe summer we moved to the states. It was a blissfully in color; the fall foliage was magnificent. The landscape wasrefreshing elixir, countering any ill feelings I had about breathtaking.the heat – all was forgiven. How did this deliciousnessnever make it out of this region? Nearly a year later, my Maybe you’ve heard the saying, “There are two types ofmama mastered the art of sun tea. It was pure magic. I people in the world – Southerners, and those who wishtried to impress my neighbor, JoyLynne, with a glass, but they were.” There is no telling how long it will take or howapparently, it was her mama who taught mine the secret many memories I’ll get to make here before I will pass as arecipe. She was a fifth-generation Southerner and hard to Southerner. Maybe that will never happen. I do know this,impress. She was a sassy one, that JoyLynne. we’ve left and returned to the South time and again. Each adventure somewhere new is exciting, but returning alwaysI was in ninth grade the first time someone blessed feels like home.my heart – to my face, at least. It was well deserved – amisunderstanding about parachute pants. It was the ’80s.Don’t judge.2222 SSEEPPTTEEMMBBEERR 22001188 Image © katorisi

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