Women's View Magazine May 2022

VOLUME 16 | ISSUE 5 MAY | 2022 Inspiring, educating, empowering and celebrating women in our community Living WellM A G A Z I N E More inside: Wellness and Health Salad Club, Anti-Aging & More Celebrating Educators CCS’ Acclaimed Administrators Books Can Be Your BFF Cumberland County Friends Applause for the Arts Katie Crawford Allen of the Library Putting Faith First A Heart for Foster Parenting Bible Study Fellowship A Local Mother Reflects

Close Letter from the Editor VOLUME 16 ISSUE 5 Are we living well, PUBLISHER Fayetteville? You can Bill Bowman, F & B Publications test the health of a [email protected] pond by several factors: healthy fish, clear water, thriving plants EDITOR and minimal pests such as algae. Crissy Neville One can similarly surmise a well- [email protected] balanced body. PRODUCTION MANAGER/ To be healthy, ponds need fish GRAPHIC DESIGNER and aquatic life, also true vice- Dylan Hooker versa. Likewise, your family and friends, home and office, all need a [email protected] healthy you! OPERATIONS DIRECTOR From consuming the healthiest Did you know that when pond Paulette Naylor foods and beverages, topics plants thrive, they keep the water discussed in the “Dirty Dozen,” alive? For us, passions do the [email protected] “Get the Skinny on Seed Oils” same. For some, like local creative and “Stay Hydrated, My Friends” Katie Crawford Allen, the arts are MARKETING REPRESENTATIVE articles by respective contributors their heart’s desire. For others, Linda McAlister Cameron Sadler, Allison Davis and it’s education, careers, hobbies or Cynthia Ross, to the how-to age something else, all ideas explored [email protected] well subject writer Dinah Goodman in this month’s magazine. Let’s explores, Women’s View Magazine keep the pests —the haters and DISTRIBUTION DIRECTOR/ is here for your health. Wherever hang-ups — at bay, and strive to SALES ADMINISTRATOR you are on this wellness journey Live Well. Laurel Handforth — novice or ninja — celebrate with a great salad using a recipe [email protected] from the Fort Bragg Salad Party group (pages 14-15). A party with a MAY CONTRIBUTORS purpose, for sure! Angela Berry Lewis Cynthia Ross Healthy ponds have clear water. Audrey Hasslocher Are you clear-headed, purposed in Dinah Goodman your pursuits and not restricted by Lynne Smith mental obstacles, job stumbling Bronwen Pence blocks or other junk in your trunk? Allison Davis If this describes you, consider Bonnie Patterson yourself one blessed soul. The Cameron Sadler rest of us can derive inspiration Rebecca Crain, Ph.D. and help from several WVM May Crissy Neville writers: Dr. Rebecca Crain on Kay Frazier eating disorders; Taneshia Kerr on Taneshia Kerr ergonomics and workplace health; Donna Wiggs Lynne Smith on giving our best to the One who made us. Cover photo: Katie Crawford Allen Editor's retraction: In the March 2022 WVM issue, the wrong author's WOMEN'S VIEW MAGAZINE name was attributed to the article, \"A Visit to the Man Cave,\" on pages 208 ROWAN ST. FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 22-23. WVM contributor Mary Miller was the author of that article. 28301 Are you interested in writing? Consider contributing an article or pitching a PHONE: 910-484-6200 2 | M AsYtor2y0id2e2a to WVM. We want to elevate your voice. For more information, email FAX: 910-484-9218 [email protected]. Be sure to like us and leave comments on our Facebook page. Women’s View Magazine is for, by and about women in Cumberland County. 2 | MAY 2022 Published by F&B Publications in conjunction with Media Marketing Management. ©2022 by F&B Publications, Inc. All rights reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or advertisement without permission is strictly prohibited. Various vector sources credited to © Freepik and © Vecteezy. Association of Community Publishers

Inside May 4 6 4 EDUCATOR ALLEY Meet the Cumberland County Schools’ Principal of the Year and Assistant Principal on the Year in a combined Woman’s Spotlight for May. 6 HELP YOURSELF TO H20 Thirsty? Be sure to wet your whistle with water and regular Up & Coming Weekly contributor Cynthia Ross’ WVM debut piece this month. 8 10 8 MEET THE ARTIST Literature meets art in the children’s book by Fayetteville creative Katie Crawford Allen. The multi-talented woman is the first in our Meet the Artist series. 10 LET’S LIVE WELL Regular contributor and Fayetteville fitness guru Dinah Goodman levels advice of the healthiest kind this month related to anti-aging, nutrition and exercise. 1414 SALAD SENSATIONS A group of Fort Bragg military wives gathers every Monday night for an event of the most nutritious and innovative kind. Welcome to Salad Party! 16 GOOD VS BAD DIETARY OILS Unhealthy seed oils, aka vegetable oils, carry an array of not-so-good symptoms. Use multipurpose oils to send such side effects packing. 16 18 WHY I FOSTER Contributor and Fayetteville resident Bonnie Patterson shares her journey to becoming a foster parent in celebration of May, National Foster Care Month. 20 DIRTY DOZEN This is not a movie title but rather a list of the 12 most toxin-laden foods 18 20 to avoid purchasing in conventional grocery store forms. Get the dirt on these foods here. 22 WHEN EATING IS THE ENEMY Eating disorders are real and very prevalent in young women. Psychologist Rebecca Crain helps us recognize and understand these conditions. 2422 24 BOOKS + FRIENDS, A GREAT COMBO The Cumberland County Friends of the Public Library invites you to join to find good books and volunteer with a good cause. 26 WORKPLACE WELLNESS If your job environment has got you down, as in the back, or has become a pain, literally, in the neck, learn about ergonomics in this educational piece. 26 28 28 BIBLE STUDY FELLOWSHIP BSF Teaching Leader Donna Wiggs invites women to “come and see” what this faith-based group is all about, as she did nearly 30 years ago. 2022 MAY | 3

Woman’s Spotlight Women’s View Magazine: When did you begin Educators in Focus your career in education, and what was your path to becoming a principal? By Angela Berry Lewis Joy Williams: My career in education began in 1998 Teacher Appreciation Week is celebrated in the first at Douglas Byrd Middle School. I was a 7th-grade full week of May each year. This month, Women’s ELA (English Language Arts) teacher. I decided to View Magazine salutes two award-winning become an administrator when I began observing administrators who have a heart for the teachers the actions of the leadership in my school. I wanted they lead, and while out of the classroom now, will to be a part of the decision-making processes that always be teachers at heart. Meet Joy Williams, would increase student achievement and foster principal at Luther “Nick” Jeralds Middle School and teacher development like those before me. the Cumberland County School’s Principal of the Year, and Dr. Queesha Tillman, assistant principal WVM: What are some other career highlights that at Loyd E. Auman Elementary School and the make you proud? school system’s Assistant Principal of the Year. WVM contributor Angela Berry Lewis held a Q&A with JW: Increased student achievement each year these rock star leaders to learn more about them of my tenure at our school has been my greatest and their views of education. achievement. I am also proud of the mentoring events for students that allowed them to visit other Joy Williams, Cumberland County states and gain exposure to once-in-a-lifetime Schools Principal of the Year opportunities. WVM: How have you managed work/life balance during COVID? JW: I believe that finding safe methods to socialize with friends and family has helped during COVID as well as \"disconnecting\" from technology from time to time to enjoy the little things. WVM: The country had to change how education was provided to students in a very small window of time during the pandemic. Has that changed any of your philosophies or positions on education? JW: The changes to facilitation showed me that this is an ever-evolving engine in education. We must stay abreast of the best methods for delivering instruction and determine best practices for adapting to our “new normal.” Students needed competent and caring adults to teach and guide them through one of the most significant changes to education that any of us has ever experienced. WVM: What did you learn about yourself and your staff as a result of changing to virtual learning? JW: We learned that we needed to stay connected in any way possible, so we found ways to interact professionally and personally. My administrative staff was enlightened about the home lives of many of our staff members, and when we learned how many people don't have a family or support system nearby, we became a \"surrogate family\" in support of them. Angela Berry Lewis is a Department of the Army civilian. She loves to read and listen to music in her spare time. 4 | MAY 2022

WVM: What have you been doing for yourself to WVM: What are some other proud moments of stay positive? your career? JW: Exercising and learning new crafts QT: I am very proud to currently serve as North like sublimation printing and vinyl pressing have Carolina's representative for the National Association been exciting over this time as well as my favorite of Elementary School Principals' National hobby, reading. Outstanding Assistant Principal of the Year program. This national program recognizes elementary WVM: What advice would you give to someone and middle school assistant principals who have who wants to become a principal? demonstrated success in leadership, curriculum and personalization. JW: I would tell anyone interested in administration to find as many ways as possible to show his or her WVM: What superpower have you used to help leadership skills in the building. Take on new tasks you navigate the last two years during COVID? and begin to reflect on the type of leader that he or she wants to become. QT: Servant leadership is truly at the heart of my leadership style and my superpower. I completely Dr. Queesha Tillman, Cumberland County agree with these words quoted from Principal Schools Assistant Principal of the Year Kafele’s (2019), The Aspiring Principal 50, “When it becomes about you, everyone loses. Always keep in the forefront of your mind and in your planning that you are there to serve.” WVM: What challenges are schools facing as we’re getting closer to being post-COVID? How can schools overcome them? QT: The most important challenges we are facing are learning recovery and acceleration, and mental health disparities. Many of our scholars are demonstrating one or two grade-level deficiencies in reading and math. With the impact of the pandemic on education, our schools are continuing to locate effective means of decreasing the growing achievement gaps through the provision of district and school-based programs. Women’s View Magazine: What led you to a A rise in mental health disorders such as depression, career in education? anxiety and behavioral disorders among school-aged children is also of great concern. Mentally healthy students are more likely to go to school ready to learn. We are fortunate to have district and school- based programs and systems in place in CCS to help navigate and combat these issues. WVM: How do you stay encouraged? Dr. Queesha Tillman: One of the foremost reasons QT: I constantly stress the importance of embracing why I became an educator, specifically in special routines and practices of self-care and self- education, was to positively impact the lives of compassion. I recently held a “Reflective Friday” with children with disabilities. As my oldest son was staff. The goal was to do a check-in with them due diagnosed with Autism spectrum disorder around to the changes and adaptations required of county the age of 22 months, becoming a licensed teachers. The consensus was that tasks and duties exceptional children’s teacher allowed me to learn were overwhelming. I implemented a few measures how to help him and other children. I previously such as “Reflective Fridays” and “Mindful Meditation.” worked as a qualified mental health professional, Seeing the success of such efforts of encouragement assisting adults and children in various Sandhills and to stay the course also encourages me. North Carolina Piedmont communities. 2022 MAY | 5

Stay Hydrated, My Friends By Cynthia Ross W ater is essential for UTI infections, but lack Water sources do not liquid. Juice, sports drinks for the earth of water remains one primarily come in the and broth also count in and all living of the primary causes. form of H20. Vegetables terms of daily hydration, creatures to flourish. It Dehydration can be a and fruit can add to and you can lower the does not take long to feel health concern in older that daily intake of sugar content by diluting the effects of not having adults, especially for nourishment. Fruit high in with water. water. Our bodies consist adults in the range of 80 water content ranging up of about 60% water, and years. The sensation of to 90% are watermelon, Drinking water can survival without it can thirst diminishes as we strawberries, peaches, evolve into a habit — a range from two days to age, and with that comes Asian pears, blackberries, viable goal for everyone a week. Our response the lack of nourishment papayas, pineapple and regardless of age. Ways to to lack of hydration can for our bodies to function oranges. Cucumbers, improve water intake are vary with age, medical properly. A decrease in celery, zucchini, Portobello drinking before and with conditions, medications, water intake for older mushrooms, cauliflower, a meal, during exercise, activity levels and heat. adults can result in turnips, tomatoes and bell consuming smaller the kidneys being less peppers are some of the quantities more often, If you wait until you are effective at concentrating next vegetables on the adding lemon or orange thirsty to drink, chances urine, leading to excess next rung of the water- for flavor and keeping are you are already slightly water loss. Medications content ladder. your bottle visible. dehydrated. Think about can also be a factor in how long a plant takes dehydration. Significant Coffee and tea can cause Drinking water is like to replenish from the dehydration can also a mild diuretic effect but showering your insides. lack of water, and we are cause confusion and not to the extreme, and Stay hydrated, my friends, not any different. Water damage to our organs. your body still absorbs a and grab a bottle or glass is magic to our bodies substantial portion of the of H20. and regulates our body Let’s face it, drinking temperature, lubricates water is not a habit for and cushions joints, aids most because of the lack in eliminating waste and of flavor, but I think that lubricates the spinal cord. bottled water and flavors It also nourishes skin, hair for enhancement have and nails, aids in weight increased awareness. loss, boosts metabolism This is evident with the and suppresses appetite. number of people you Our blood is more than see carrying a water 90% water and carries bottle. The amount of oxygen to our body parts water intake for adults which helps to maintain can depend on various our blood pressure. factors, including present health, climate Former President Bill and activity level. The Clinton was in the hospital suggested guideline for for a UTI infection not water intake is about long ago. In older adults’, fifteen cups for men infections are often due and eleven cups for to inadequate hydration. women. Seventy percent This type of infection of adults report no daily causes at least eight consumption, 36% one million visits yearly to the to three cups, 35% four doctor or emergency to seven cups and 22% room. Other reasons exist eight cups. Cynthia Ross is an ACE certified personal trainer and group fitness instructor at The Spa Fitness and Wellness Center in Fayetteville. She teaches senior fitness, barre, balance, strength and flexibility, with personal training concentrations in senior fitness and functional training. Visit her on Facebook @Ross Fitness. 6 | MAY 2022

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Art, Inspiration and the Little Things Katie Crawford Allen Article and photos by Audrey Hasslocher A Virginia native, military Allen’s art prints and sculptures Drawing a line between her spouse and now twice- — wool, wire armatures not to book’s plot and that of her life, resident of Fayetteville, be confused with toys or stuffed she said, “I think the theme of Katie Crawford Allen is perhaps animals — at Leclair’s General a journey that doesn’t go as most known as one of the city’s Store in Haymount. planned resonates with a lot most current creatives. A self- of people. And while I didn’t taught illustrator and professional Allen’s formal journey began with consciously draw from my life artist who specializes in narrative her educational background as a military spouse, a lot of the watercolor, mixed media painting at James Madison University themes ring true. So, I guess the and 3D needle-felted sculptures, where she earned degrees in book is mildly autobiographical she added writing to this list with anthropology and art history and contains a lot of the lessons the 2021 publication of her first — domains that connected her I have learned or at least tried to book, What the Map Left Out. interest in human behavior with learn along the way.” her love of art, a lifelong passion. Her authored-and-illustrated Her latest works are adorable children’s book is the story of a Her experiences as a military although realistic creatures that frog and his animal friends whose spouse and understanding of the act like tiny humans. Bringing map-guided adventure leads difficulties that come with this these critters to life in mixed them on a whimsical journey. role also factor into her artistry. media, Allen said, “I like to tell Her love of nature and wildlife She describes art as an outlet human stories with animal coupled with a desire to promote for the regular uprooting and characters. So, each piece I create friendship and imagination in moving that fosters a deep drive has a story within it. But it’s not readers of all ages inspired the to connect and build community. always the whole story. I like tale. In poetic rhythm, each She also uses art as a tool for to include a little mystery and page reveals a playful take on relating with others, whether wonder within each piece as well.” how to endure life’s unexpected through a shared love of fantasy twists and turns yet appreciate or in connecting a bit of herself the journey. You can find What through her characters, she said. the Map Left Out along with Audrey Hasslocher is a Coast Guard veteran, Army wife, girl mom of three, MBA graduate and entrepreneur. Her start-up, Freebird Communications, www.freebirdcommunications.com, is a local marketing and public relations agency that helps market and design brands to soar in the digital world. Connect with Audrey on social media @freebirdcommunications. 8 | MAY 2022

Allen in her Fayetteville studio Allen writes, draws, paints and creates whimsical needle-felted sculptures like these. When viewing her work, it is and they remind me that even the periods of creative dormancy — easy to see a creative energy and tiniest of lives can have meaning knowing and accepting that this human-centric nature in her and purpose.” is only a season.” happy and inquisitive animals, When asked what piece of which of late have been some advice she would like to leave The industrious artist is in another pretty interesting insects. with Women’s View Magazine season of creativity now with readers, Allen said, “I have been a new project underway. She In her whimsical children’s book, finding comfort in the thought elaborated, \"It is a whimsical field the characters, many of them guide of local flora and fauna insects, show a simple side of of living seasonally. Embracing inspired during COVID when I humanity, whether it is a ladybug the differences that each season spent extended time outdoors. walking upright with a hat and brings. Both the literal seasons My husband and I spent a lot of staff or a red moth picking red and the seasons of life. My favorite time going to local parks during flowers in a field. Her character part of seasons is that they 2020-2021. So, I began to look for repertoire includes Lucky Bee, change. Personally, this is really and learn about the wonderful Little Ant, Mel, the needle-felted important when I am having plants and animals here in North butterfly, and more. Carolina. We have a unique state with many different ecosystems While she does not always draw that support all kinds of life.” or make insects, her portfolio includes an array of animals. When not in her Fayetteville Allen shared she has been drawn studio, Allen can be found to these smallest living things supporting the local arts in this season of her life. Art, community by serving on Inspiration and the little things the board of trustees for The is the mantra for her business Arts Council of Fayetteville/ brand, Katie Crawford Art, a Cumberland County, among slogan that echoes this fondness. other endeavors. To find her works, including prints, notecards, “So currently I am creating bugs,” select originals and felties, shop she said. “I love using these small online at www.etsy.com/shop/ creatures to tell epic stories. I love katiecrawfordart or in person that I can use these small, typically locally at Leclair’s. Other than ignored, if not maligned creatures retailers, galleries in North in my work. I also love that their Carolina, California and Virginia, anatomy can be simplified and as well as private collections yet be very emotive. The past year throughout the world, showcase has also had quite a few struggles, her work. 2022 MAY | 9

Youthenasia The Anti-Aging Boom of Nutrition and Lifestyle Secrets By Dinah Goodman W hen we think of the articles/PMC3583891/#R1), Research reveals that vitamin Fountain of Youth, two separate processes are A, C, D and E, coupled with our minds may involved in skin aging, which carotenoids, tocopherols, conjure school-day memories affects the way we look. These flavonoids and water intake, in history class with thick books, processes are independent of promote skin health and beauty. studying the Spanish explorer one another; the first concerns For the purposes of this article, we Ponce de Leon and his search for the intrinsic or internal process will consider the value of vitamins the mysterious mecca, which he of biological aging and the and water. supposedly discovered in Florida second, the extrinsic or external many moons ago in the 1500s. factors impacting our skin. The Vitamin A Leafy greens, yellow Likewise, throughout history, intrinsic process is chronological, and orange veggies such as people have searched for ways to affecting the skin the same way carrots and squash, eggs, milk, stay young and virile for as long as that it does bodily organs. The liver, red bell peppers, fish oils — possible, indulging in everything extrinsic process is synonymous all the stuff your mother made from potions and supplements to with environmental impact, i.e., you eat when you were a kid — procedures and rituals to preserve whether we smoke, drink, have contain vitamin A. The essential youth and longevity. too much sun exposure, get element also has many other enough sleep and, you guessed it, benefits, including stimulating Despite our efforts for the magic eat right. white blood cells, promoting eye anti-aging pill that simply health and regulating cell growth. does not exist, prolonging and So, what can we eat to help us Read about vitamin A in the improving life as we age is well stay younger looking? We already Harvard Public Health Journals within our reach. Although some know we cannot stop the clock, (https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/ things are beyond our control, but we can make it our friend. nutritionsource/vitamin-a/). science has proven that regular Consuming a diet rich in foods exercise and proper nutrition are that complements our bodies’ Vitamin C When you want key to prolonging and improving natural processes, delivers life as we age if we are willing to balanced nutrition and contains vitamin C-rich foods, think bell put in the work to get there. Are antioxidants is good for starters. peppers, strawberries, white you willing? To further tame time, practice potatoes, Brussel sprouts, prevention, lead a low-stress life citrus, tomatoes and more. Good nutrition is the and stay active, and you will be Notice the pattern here? All are cornerstone well on your way. nonprocessed and nonsynthetic foods grown in nature. Try organic Everything we consume influences our health. Some foods can age us prematurely such as alcohol and food loaded in sugar or fats, while other foods, such as veggies full of Vitamin C and other antioxidants can help us look and feel younger. According to an article published in the PubMed Central journal Dermato-Endocrinology (https:// www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/ Dinah Goodman is a fitness professional and the Owner of Boone Trail Fit Body Boot Camp. She is a nutritionist, advanced personal trainer and group exercise instructor as well as former bodybuilder and powerlifter. 10 | M AY 2 0 2 2

if possible and as chemical-free promote healing and protect which involves a sustained period. as you can get it. Vitamin C is a again viruses and bacteria, but So, what are the benefits of powerful antioxidant that helps it also helps us look younger anaerobic activity for anti-aging? with healing and collagen- and vibrant. It increases stamina, strengthens making. We all know the word, the bones, builds muscle and collagen, which promotes According to the Oxford burns fat. This is good news, elasticity of the skin and skin Academic Journals of considering we lose both muscle cell renewal. Gerontology (2006), a study of 59 tissue and mobility with age. By older people who were healthy doing regular resistance training, Vitamin D When it comes to but sedentary found that those we can counter the effects of age vitamin D foods, the world is that engaged in aerobic activity on our skeletal muscles and loss your oyster — literally. Seafood and training for six months of movement. and seafood byproducts such showed significant increases as oysters, sardines, tuna fish, in their brain volume, in both Time to eat and move salmon, crayfish and cod liver oil the gray and the white matter are rich sources of calciferol. Not regions, suggesting that cardio Armed with this knowledge, a seafood fan? Other examples activity spares brain tissue. Cardio it is now time to start eating include egg yolks, red bell initiates brain blood flow and can healthy and get moving in the peppers, almonds, sunflower lead to higher brain function and gym or outdoors. Keep foods seeds and peanut butter. Vitamin new capillaries in the brain, which simple and fresh, unobstructed D is a nutrient your body needs for leads to a better-interconnected by factory processing. Stick building and maintaining healthy brain that is on its toes, too. to what is natural. Seek High bones. That's because your body Intensity Interval Training (HIIT) to can only absorb calcium, the Not to be outdone, anaerobic maximize cardio and resistance primary component of bone, exercise such as weightlifting training and take nature walks when vitamin D is present. It also and other forms of resistance and jogs to get fresh air. Do regulates many other cellular training has its own list of anti- weight training at least two to functions in your body. aging benefits. Anaerobic exercise three times a week. The aging involves short bursts of energy process does not have to lead Sticking to healthy, nonprocessed, such as resistance training to a drastic decline if we invest preferably organic food sources and jumps, sprinting fast and in our health. While we cannot grown in nature will provide weightlifting. It is more of a short- counter every aspect of life, we adequate amounts of nutrients term blast, as opposed to cardio, can certainly control how we treat needed for good health and our bodies and minds. promote a more youthful, healthy, glowing body and skin. Water Do not forget to drink water to flush out toxins and clean out your system as well as hydrating the organs. How much water? To help you establish a baseline, you can use the rule-of- thumb equation described in U.S. News & World Report which says to take half your body weight and drink that amount in ounces of water. This calculation works if you are not doing anything strenuous. If you're working out, hiking, at a high altitude or outdoors a great deal and the like, you're going to need more. The magic of exercise for 2 0 2 2 M AY | 11 aging well Exercise and remaining active has long since been a primary component in anti-aging and keeping a youthful appearance and a more youthful brain. Not only does exercise circulate the blood and white blood cells that

What Is a Well-Lived Life? By Lynne Smith D o you ever wonder what will be said at your sport professionally and then return to his family’s funeral? Do you wish you could write your home in London where he would embrace a life own eulogy? Jim Dotson, a preacher in of luxury. But not this man, who, during his college Mansfield, Ohio, did indeed preach his own years, purposed in his heart not to live for self and to funeral. Dying of cancer, he prepared in advance by instead live in faithful obedience to Jesus Christ. As a videotaping his funeral sermon which was played at result, his life, as well as the lives of many others, was his service. That may have worked for Jim Dotson, forever changed. but most of us will have little control over what is said about us once we are gone. That is unless we To Studd, living well was not embracing a life of live life in such a way that our legacy continues. The self-interests, affluence and popularity, but rather pastor at my church would often speak of a life well laying down one’s life for others. Studd became a lived at funeral services. He would remind those missionary in India, Africa and China. Any wealth in attendance that we do indeed preach our own that he obtained, including his family’s vast fortune, funerals by the way we live. he gave all away. Just like others who have lived well, who So, what does living well look like in the eyes of have fixed their eyes not the One Who created me? When I think of living on what is seen, but on well in the eyes of God, I think of living in a way in what is unseen, Studd which I fully embrace God’s highest purpose for found the secret. In my life. Living in His will versus living for self. What the words of Jim greater reward would you wish to have than to know Elliott, another faithful everything that God had purposed you to do on this missionary, Charles earth, you had finished it. You had left nothing on Studd discovered, the table, nothing unaccomplished. To have those “He is no fool who that knew you best look back on your life with a gives what he cannot sense of gratitude because your sacrificial living had keep, to gain what he served as a wonderful Christlike example of what cannot lose.” they would like their lives to be. In the life of a child of A life well-lived is a life well spent — not wasted in God, it’s not enough vain or shallow pursuits. One such man, Charles to live well; we aim to Thomas Studd (1860-1931), truly made the most of live and to give our best. his life. Born into great wealth in England, Studd A scene from Rocky II asks a could have spent his life pursuing the things he piercing question. Rocky had gone the distance in desired. He was quite the athlete at Cambridge; the ring with his opponent, Apollo, only to lose in one author suggested that Studd was the Michael a split decision. Afterward both Rocky and Apollo Jordan of the game of cricket in his day. Many of his find themselves just a few rooms apart in the same friends and colleagues expected him to play the hospital. One day Rocky rolls his wheelchair over Lynne Smith is a Fayetteville native who worships with her family at Snyder Memorial Baptist Church. She has a hard-working husband of 37 years, two sons who aim to be just like their dad, two God-given beautiful daughters and two very well-loved grandsons. She is in her seventh year serving as a Snyder MOPS mentor. 12 | M AY 2 0 2 2

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Salad and Friends, A Beautiful Mixture By Bronwen Pence Hints of red. Accents of pages on Etsy dedicated to these feed your belly and make your orange. Mounds of brown and white. They all nestle salad sensations. taste buds happy. together in beautiful harmony against the green foliage above. Each member of the group signs The Fort Bragg group has some What forest is this you might up for two items on the list of informal rules that make hosting ask? It isn’t — it’s a salad. Each ingredients. The host creates a simple: Don’t expect a clean Monday, a group of military space for the dressing and items house, come as you are, only take spouses gather for the weekly to be assembled, starting with what you need and don’t linger meeting of the Fort Bragg Salad the dressing. The dressing and too long. For some, “no sharing Club and create this harmony of items are normally multiplied with family” also applies. Truly color with the perk of nutrition in for eight people to fill two jars though, anything goes. their own take-home mason jars. of each salad. Items are then assembled with harder items first For those who do share with Two members, Bronwen Pence — i.e., cherry tomatoes, walnuts, family, the colorful presentation and Danielle Boateng, had carrots — followed by softer items has swayed even the most previous experience with such like cheese for layering near the staunchly defiant-of-salad family clubs in different Army posts top. Finally, the romaine, spinach, members. Candice Ferris said her and planted the seeds for Fort spring mix or whatever salad son refused to eat salads and one Bragg’s own version. Salad clubs greens for which the recipe calls day miraculously announced, are unique in bringing together top off each jar. “Mom, don’t eat that salad! I want good ingredients, good people that one. The salads you bring and healthy meals. The results are four ready-to-go home are good.” meals that can last up to a week The format is simple: Each week in the refrigerator. Per the layering Her response: “It’s a miracle — and a different host/hostess picks two method, all one needs to do all from a mason jar!” unique salads to share with the is turn the mason jar upside group. The internet and books down to enjoy a creative and Some members’ favorite salad is provide a playground of options nutritious salad! the notorious “fifth jar.” Getting to choose from; there’s even the right amount of dressing The contents will fill your bowl, and ingredients takes a little A military spouse of 19 years, Bronwen Pence lives on post at Fort Bragg with her active-duty husband and two teenage daughters. She is a certified yoga instructor, group exercise instructor and personal trainer and has worked at all six of the military posts on which the family has lived. 14 | M AY 2 0 2 2

with ingredients organized from hard to soft. • Direct members to fill jars with dressing first, then harder ingredients, followed by proteins, grains, lighter ingredients and greens at the very top. Many charts on Pinterest or other sites show the recommended technique. Fort Bragg Group Salad Party favorites *Note, in our group, the host prepares the dressing, enough for each member. Attendees prepare and bring all ingredients, enough for the number of members. The ingredients are listed below in fill order. Southwestern Chopped Salad with Cilantro-Lime Dressing Dressing 1 cup cilantro, stems removed 1/2 avocado 2 tablespoons fresh lime juice 1-2 cloves of garlic 3 tablespoons olive oil 1 1/2 teaspoons white wine vinegar bit of practice, but once the which, as salad containers, 1/8 teaspoons salt measurements are right and will keep contents fresh in the Ingredients there are leftover ingredients, the fifth jars come out. Kris Brown fridge for up to a week. black beans says, “The fifth jar is usually my favorite salad, the one I eat first!!” • Establish an event planning corn process. The Fort Bragg group shredded chicken Given that members of a salad uses Facebook. You could diced red or orange bell pepper group only buy two ingredients, also use event websites like halved cherry or grape tomatoes which normally cost around $10, Evite or Punchbowl if not all avocados it’s an economical way to create members are on Facebook. chopped green onions four healthy, delicious meals. romaine lettuce • Post the event five-six days sunflower seeds As for us, Fort Bragg Salad Club prior. The host chooses salad Thai Peanut Sauce Salad members share food, costs and types and maintains the event Dressing most importantly, smiles and a page as members sign up for 1/4 cup peanut butter few hearty laughs. ingredients. The ladies of the 2 tablespoons brown sugar Fort Bragg Salad Club use 2-3 cloves of garlic Intrigued? Keep reading to start Pinterest for finding recipes. 1 1/2 tablespoons rice wine vinegar your own club or to savor a few of You can also search “Salad in a 3 tablespoons sesame oil our group’s favorite recipes. Jar Recipes” on the internet. 3 tablespoons lime juice How to Host a Salad Club • Ask members to purchase dash of sriracha • Find a group of eight or nine ingredients the day before Ingredients the event and prep to the shredded cabbage health-conscious friends specifications in the recipe. shredded carrots interested in having ready- broccoli florets made healthy meals in the • Prepare the event table with diced bell pepper fridge without a lot of work. labels to show where each chopped green onion ingredient is to go. The salad cooked and shelled edamame • Ask members to buy five assembly line should run shrimp and/or shredded chicken Wide Mouth 20 oz. Mason Jars, down the length of the table, lettuce or spinach 2 0 2 2 M AY | 15

Get the Skinny on Seed Oils By Allison Davis Joint pain? Inflammation? lead to increased inflammation oils pose the same health risks Brain fog? Moody? in the body and potentially because they are naturally rich contribute to disease. in polyunsaturated fats (PUFAs). How about mental exhaustion The molecular structure of PUFAs during the day, even if you’ve had While many people eliminate makes them very unstable enough sleep? Or crankiness or gluten, sugar or other problematic in the human body, where poor functioning before lunch or ingredients from their diets to they generate a tremendous mid-afternoon? improve their health, they’re amount of free radicals — missing a basic step. Cutting chaotic reactions that damage If any of these ailments plaque out vegetable oils is the most cells. PUFAs are inflammatory you, it might be the oil you’re effective dietary change you can and damage the lining of consuming. make. A high intake of trans fats is blood vessels, affecting overall associated with chronic diseases, circulation and blood flow to the The above symptoms are just including heart disease, obesity, brain and increasing the risk for a few of those related to eating cancer and diabetes. heart disease and diabetes. unhealthy seed oils, also known as vegetable oils. Other side effects Harmful Seed Oils Free radicals are a normal of such fats can include weight Eight widely used unhealthy fats byproduct of metabolism that our gain, anxiety, mood problems, are available on the market. bodies are equipped to handle, migraines and other headaches. but only up to a point. Seed oils • Canola oil produce an onslaught that far Seed oils are the most common • Corn oil exceeds our innate capacity. What fats found in packaged foods and • Cottonseed oil exactly are free radicals, though? on restaurant menus, and they • Grapeseed oil These pesky atoms or molecules make up the largest share of fat • Rice bran oil with an odd (unpaired) number of in the typical American diet. But • Safflower oil electrons can form when oxygen this certainly doesn’t make them • Soy oil and interacts with certain molecules. healthy. Some vegetable oils • Sunflower oil Many free radicals are necessary are high in omega-6 fatty acids. for life and are used by our body’s Scientists have hypothesized that Although they’re usually cells to kill invading bacteria. But eating too much omega-6 can refined, even unrefined and as with most things, free radicals cold-pressed versions of these have a downside, too. Allison Davis is the wellness manager at Apple Crate Naturals. Working in the natural industry for 11 years, she loves bringing the newest and best products to Fayetteville. 16 | M AY 2 0 2 2

“Excessive amounts can lead to The good news is that it’s relatively avoid these oils altogether. When cell injury and contribute to many easy to upgrade your oils with shopping for healthier upgrades, diseases, including coronary artery healthier options full of good- keep in mind that refining turns disease and cancer,” explains for-you fats. Ten top choices of good oils bad — healthy fats UCLA Distinguished Professor multipurpose oils that can be degrade when refined and can Emeritus R. James Barnard, Ph.D., eaten cold and used for all types of go rancid during shipping or who has published more than cooking are the following. storage. Look for fresh, unrefined, 200 studies over the past three cold-pressed products to get the decades on the relationship • Almond oil health benefits you want. between lifestyle and disease. • Avocado oil • Butter According to a review published • Cocoa butter in Mayo Clinic Proceedings, the • Coconut oil health hazards of eating too many • Ghee of these oils include a suppressed • Macadamia nut oil immune system; lower “good” • Olive oil HDL cholesterol; a more • Peanut oil dangerous, oxidized form of “bad” • Tallow and lard LDL cholesterol; and increased risk for prostate, pancreatic, colon and In addition to the above oils, breast cancers. culinary hemp oil can be eaten cold or used for low-heat cooking. Benefits of Eliminating Flax and walnut oils are healthy Seed Oils fats that shouldn’t be exposed Many people report having more to heat and are best used for energy and clearer thinking after dressings and dips. they stop eating seed oils. Other benefits include unlocking the Shopping Tips ability to burn body fat, fewer Organic versions of harmful headaches, a better mood, less seed oils are becoming more anxiety and enhanced mental popular in packaged foods. performance. Organic standards help to reduce toxins from chemicals used in Less craving for sugar is another agriculture and refining, but perk, so these oils are often the they don’t change the molecular gateway drug to sugar addiction. structure of PUFAs. That means When consumed, the resulting that the organic versions of combination of locked-up body unhealthy seed oils will produce fat and depleted mental energy the same harmful reactions in the makes you reach for junk food, like human body as regular versions. the sugary or starchy ones. The key to better health is to 2 0 2 2 M AY | 17

Foster Parenting: HTiimghess,iLnoBwestwanedenall the By Bonnie Patterson Editor’s note: May is National Foster Care Month, a time to recognize that we can each play a part in enhancing the lives of children and youth in foster care. WVM contributing writer Bonnie Patterson is a foster parent and shares her journey with us this month. M y heart melted when I met our first foster We were part of this before we became foster child, a darling boy with curls and a wide parents ourselves. grin. “Thor” as we nicknamed him, loved hugs, tickles and cuddles. He was an angel for the Fast forward seven years later, and many people first few days. I could hardly believe what the social approach us with questions about foster parenting. workers told me about his aggression toward his This brings me great joy, as I love to encourage sister and daycare expulsion due to spitting, hitting others who want to help these hurting kids. and kicking. But when told “no,” the purple minion came out. The biggest surprise happened after his I share information with those who ask, such birth mom visited. I was trying to change his diaper, facts as it takes about 6-12 months to become a which he absolutely abhorred, and he turned around foster parent. I tell them that the Department of and punched me in the face! I had to take a parental Social Services and private agencies such as Firm timeout to calm down and honestly ask myself if this Foundation screen and train foster parents, perform was a job I could keep doing. background checks, home visits and interviews and offer foster parenting classes. I am happy to share Early in our relationship, Anthony and I realized we with interested parties that their preferences matter both had a heart for adoption and children in need. to these agencies, whether it pertains to the number After we married, we adopted our first two children of siblings, their gender or the age of the children from China in 2015. We had started thinking about coming into the home. foster parenting years before, but we weren’t ready emotionally. So, we waited for the right time. Why is foster parenting different from regular parenting? The whole story of the child’s Our first step in becoming foster parents was to raise background of abuse and neglect is rarely known a support system. We knew we needed a network when they come into care. As the child becomes of people who understand the challenges of raising comfortable and feels safe, they will act out their pain neglected or traumatized children. To this end, we and grief. Why does this happen? Because when ran a support group connected to Promise686, an children experience scary life-threatening situations, organization dedicated to fulfilling God’s promise they produce large amounts of cortisol in their brains in Psalm 68:6 “to set the lonely in families.” The that affect their whole body and brain. Cortisol is group works toward this goal by mobilizing church communities to care for vulnerable children. We led one of those communities in our own church. In the support group, we talked with, prayed for and encouraged other adoptive and foster parents. We trained volunteers, set up a weekly meal drop off and babysat for foster families. These comfort measures helped burnt-out parents get a break and feel loved. We also directed couples who were looking into fostering or adoption to resources and agencies. Bonnie Patterson worked as a registered nurse for 10 years and has been a military wife for 15 years. In the past three years, she has enjoyed living in Fayetteville as a mother of two, church volunteer and worship leader. 18 | M AY 2 0 2 2

the stress hormone that causes the fight or flight Live well, reaction. Instead of using the logic and reasoning of learn plenty, the frontal cortex, foster children get stuck in fight or laugh often, flight mode, their brains bathed in cortisol. Behaviors love much of grief may surface as anger and aggression. -Ralph Waldo Imagine if everyone and everything you love Emmerson disappears, and you enter a “jail,” without a say in it. That is what these children feel has happened 2 0 2 2 M AY | 19 to them. Sometimes regression occurs, which is when the child acts at a younger age. This is what is happening when a five-year-old crawls on the ground and acts like a baby or a teen plays with dolls and cuddles a teddy bear. Toileting, bowel and bladder problems may occur, a sign of sexual abuse. Attention deficit disorders and learning disorders can surface, often the result of both nature and nurture complications, i.e., prenatal drug use, sporadic school attendance and more. Foster children may need frequent appointments for occupational or speech therapy, counseling and tutoring. The children may have court- mandated visits with the birth parents virtually or physically every other week. All of these things can occur in the life of a foster child, but underneath it all, they are hurting children in need of help, extra love and attention. My biggest high in my new job of fostering is seeing this little guy grow and learn every day. I use all my skills as a nurse to help him in speech therapy and occupational therapy. When I hear him say a new word and expand his fine and gross motor skills from the fun games we play, I beam with pride. I love all his hugs, kisses and “Mommy this, and Mommy that” verbiage. My lowest low is when, as an active young boy, he falls and hurts himself accidentally. Not only do I feel bad for his boo-boo, but I also have to email an incident report to the social worker. Such incidents make me feel like a bad parent, but I also know that being human means making mistakes and learning from them. “Thor” falls often, but with determination, he gets back up each time. He doesn’t let anyone, or anything, deter him from a goal. Parents teach, but children are also great teachers. Even if I am not a perfect foster parent and make mistakes, I will not let anything stop me from accomplishing my goal of helping these children. My love for “Thor” helps me see past the bad behaviors, tantrums and lows to the hurting baby needing a mother’s love. If you are interested in becoming a foster parent, a good information source is https://www.ncdhhs. gov/divisions/social-services/child-welfare-services/ adoption-and-foster-care. Not everyone is cut out to become a foster parent. If you want to help kids in the foster care system in other ways, discover how at www.promise686.org.

Dirty Dozen™ Clean 15™ 1. Strawberries 1. Avocados 2. Spinach 2. Sweet corn 3. Kale 3. Pineapples 4. Nectarines 4. Frozen sweet peas 5. Apples 5. Onions 6. Grapes 6. Papayas 7. Peaches 7. Eggplants 8. Cherries 8. Asparagus 9. Pears 9. Kiwis 10. Tomatoes 10. Cabbages 11. Celery 11. Cauliflower 12. Potatoes 12. Cantaloupes 13. Broccoli The Dirty Dozen 14. Mushrooms 15. Honeydew Melons What is it, and why does it matter? By Cameron Sadler in and on our food, among other organic when purchasing the things. Learn more and get the items on the elusive dirty list, W hat’s all this about a dirty 2022 list when released at https:// but we all know organic comes dozen? A dozen what? www.ewg.org/. You can even with a price tag. You can also The Dirty Dozen is a list download an app to help you purchase nonorganic on the of conventionally grown fruits and when you shop. Clean Fifteen, listed above, which vegetables with the highest levels are the EWG’s lowest-ranked of pesticide residues. Pesticides EWG ranks the pesticide items. You might ask, what if I are substances commonly used in contamination of 46 popular wash or peel my produce? When agriculture to protect crops from fruits and vegetables. According EWG tests to determine pesticide damage caused by insects, weed to the organization’s website, contamination, it tests on produce pressure and diseases. rankings are “based on more that is prepared as it would be in than 46,000 samples of produce a home, so it has been washed Knowing about The Dirty Dozen is tested by the Department of or peeled before being tested important because getting Agriculture and the Food and and ranked. the dirt on these 12 foods Drug Administration. Numerous may prompt you to think peer-reviewed scientific studies Fruits and vegetables are critical more about your purchases have shown that consuming components of a healthy diet. and consumption — and help produce high in pesticide residue, However, many crops contain you to reduce your family’s like the items on our Dirty Dozen, potentially harmful pesticides, exposure to toxic pesticides. increases the risk of certain even after washing, peeling or negative health impacts.” scrubbing. This point is true for The Environmental Working their conventional and frozen Group, a nonprofit, nonpartisan Here are the Dirty Dozen. forms. So, know the Dirty Dozen organization dedicated to and the Clean 15, and consider protecting human health and What’s the next list, this Clean your choices to make a positive the environment, produces 15? Among others, it’s one way impact on the health of your the annual list. EWG scientists you can help the ones you love loved ones. conduct safety research on our and care for avoid the negative tap water, cosmetics, genetically health impacts. Ideally, you buy Source: https://www.ewg.org/ modified organisms (GMO/GE) and the amounts of pesticides Southern Pines resident Cameron Sadler is a retired food-industry professional who stays informed on wellness and health topics pertinent to her family. Among other efforts, she raises chickens, keeps bees, raises and cooks fresh vegetables and avoids pesticides and toxins whenever possible. 20 | M AY 2 0 2 2

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Food Fight When eating is a struggle By Rebecca Crain, Ph. D. Her story, related and shared here from Common traits among all types www.psychiatry.org/ is similar to that of so many others. Does the account sound familiar? Some common features across all eating disorders exist. The first is an intense fear of gaining weight Helena was a 16-year-old girl who lived at home coupled with a with her parents and younger sister. Throughout preoccupation with her teenage years, she had been a normal weight checking weight or but she worried a great deal about her body appearance in the weight and shape. She often compared her body mirror. A second weight with that of other girls and women she met commonality is or saw — and then judged herself as too heavy. a restriction of food, binging Often, Helena checked her body weight by looking and purging, in the mirror. She would pinch the skin on her sides which leads to and notice that her thighs touched each other. At significantly low about age 14 she began to diet, first off and on, and body weight. A then all the time. At 15, she decided to become a final common vegetarian and began to cut out many foods from feature of eating her diet. She was 5’6” and weighed 125 pounds at disorders is a age 15, but by her 16th birthday, she had dropped negative and to 110 pounds. unrealistic appraisal of Rather than being relieved by this weight loss, one’s weight or she kept seeing herself as too heavy. She weighed appearance. herself throughout the day. She spent most of her time worrying about her weight. Time spent on her The onset of eating weight concerns took the place of other activities disorders typically she used to enjoy, such as school work and having occurs during fun with friends. She became more alone. And she adolescence to kept losing weight. early adulthood and following a Eating disorders defined stressful or traumatic event. Eating disorders Eating disorders are a silent and serious danger often co-occur with predominantly affecting women. Disordered other mental health eating refers to a persistent disturbance of issues such as mood eating or eating-related behaviors — binging, disorders, anxiety disorders purging, regurgitating, etc. — that result in and neurodevelopmental the altered consumption or absorption of food disorders. Recognizing the and significantly impairs physical health or hallmark symptoms of an psychosocial functioning. Clinically, the term eating disorder like avoidance disordered eating is useful in identifying this of food, fear of weight gain constellation of symptoms with diagnoses and unrealistic, negative including Anorexia Nervosa, Bulimia Nervosa and self-appraisal, is essential to Binge-eating disorder, among others, allowing taking action. Eating disorders a standardized way to assess symptoms and present with the highest determine the appropriate course of treatment. mortality rate of any mental health issue and are 10 times Rebecca Crain, Ph.D., PLLC, is a licensed psychologist serving military children and families. 22 | M AY 2 0 2 2

more prevalent in women that are loving and Daily self-care checklist and girls. self-promoting and • Start your day with gratitude. eliminates behaviors • Take 5 deep breaths and In these next few paragraphs, I that are unhealthy or hope to offer practical guidance unkind. In terms of be present. on what you can do if you or one’s dietary habits, this • Practice affirmations. a loved one has or is at risk of can mean eating too • Connect with and nourish developing an eating disorder. I little or too much. So, begin this conversation couched self-esteem is a realistic your body. in the language of “Taking Care acceptance of one’s • Be kind to yourself. of Yourself.” own worth and also the • Take time to do something process of growing into Taking care of yourself one’s potential. you love. • Reflect on your day. Self-care hinges on the three Mother Teresa was a Self-care experiments foundational principles of self- spokesperson for the • Do something you’ve esteem, worth and growth. Self- value of life. She shared esteem is a realistic, appreciative her views on how all never done before. Create opinion of oneself. Realistic humans need love and a new memory. means honest and accurate. are worthy of love. She • Dance! Appreciative implies positive was right. Your body • Mirror work: Stand in the feelings and liking of oneself. does not define your mirror and express 10 things worth. When you fixate about yourself that you love. Two factors that are essential to on the most negative • Write a love letter to yourself. building self-esteem are worth parts of your body, you • Take a few minutes to stretch and growth. Worth refers to self- might look in the mirror when you wake up. worth, acknowledging yourself and only see flaws. You • Take time for prayer as an important, unique and may develop a generally or meditation. precious person. Growth occurs negative attitude about • Reward your body for all the when one chooses behaviors your body as a whole. hard work it does for you daily. A massage or relaxing bath is Conversations about a great place to start. self-care are rooted in developing • Find activities or hobbies healthy coping skills. In practice, you enjoy and make time coping skills are the habits we for them. engage in to promote wellness • Stop hitting snooze and in body, mind and soul. These create an empowering look different for everyone. When morning ritual. broaching the topic with a loved • Make time for movement that one, try to discuss any concerns feels good! Not every workout free of judgment. Expressing care has to be hard and intense; do and providing encouragement what feels right. Your body will should take the shape of asking thank you for it. what strategies might work best • Let yourself sleep in and take rather than telling someone what some time off for yourself. they need to do. • Say no to commitments that don’t serve you. Mother Teresa said, • Say no to people that don’t “Each individual has lift you up. been created to love • Say yes to activities, people and be loved. There is a and events that add light to hunger greater than the your life. hunger for bread…the For expert advice and information hunger for love.” related to eating disorders, contact the specialist at Next are daily rituals and Carolina House Eating Disorder experiments to help you and Treatment Center, https://www. those you love to practice carolinaeatingdisorders.com. For self-care. helpful books, read the personal memoir of author Jenni Schaefer, Life without ED or the parenting resource written by Ellyn Satter, Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense. 2 0 2 2 M AY | 23

Books and Friends A Partnership for Everyone By Kay Frazier W alt Disney said, “There is normal governmental budget only book sales, two days more treasure in books and sponsors projects such as dedicated to FOL members than in all the pirate’s loot book sales, discussion groups, before public sales. lectures, exhibits, book talks, • Early email notices of quarterly on Treasure Island.” This quote by author visits and youth events. book sales. The FOL executive board the imaginer of the happiest place consists of four officers and a Comments made by book sale representative for each library shoppers sum up the group’s on Earth reflects the many books branch, committees for books success. “The organization and sales and membership and neatness of every book sale I’ve available to the public at quarterly numerous dedicated volunteers. attended have been amazing,” shared a regular attendee. Friends of the Library book sales in Membership is available to everyone at various levels. To join, “All the books are in great Fayetteville, a sure bet for building select a membership level and condition; some look brand new,” click the “join now” button on said another. up your own literary treasury. the FOL website, found at https:// cumberlandcountylibraryfriends. “I always walk out with more Friends of the Library (FOL) book com/. Or visit a Cumberland than one bag of books,” reflected sales are what I call “the hidden County library branch or FOL one sale goer. Such remarks are treasure in the basement.” quarterly book sale in person and only a sampling from many Occurring February, May, sign up! Annual membership great reviews. August and November in the per individual is $15.00 and runs lower level of the Headquarters from January through December. Most people are impressed by Library at 300 Maiden Lane in Memberships are also available the book sale room’s organization downtown Fayetteville, the events at the Sponsor ($50), Patron ($75), and neatness. No disordered are wonderful opportunities Benefactor ($100) and Corporate and scattered piles of books on to purchase books and other ($250) levels. tables to rummage through materials for all ages. here, but instead shelved and Members receive these benefits. categorized titles from countless The Friends of the Cumberland • Admission to members- literary genres, from mysteries County Public Library, Inc., is a 501(C)3 non-profit organization that enhances library services for Cumberland County residents. The organization secures materials, resources and equipment beyond the Kay Frazier is a retired elementary-school-level media specialist. She calls Virginia Beach home but has lived in Fayetteville all her adult life. She loves reading, gardening, puzzling and being a grandma. 24 | M AY 2 0 2 2

and classics to self-help and how- to types. The book sale room is a completely dedicated room where committed volunteers go through boxes of donations and library discards, price and shelve items and get things ready for the next sale. “Our dedicated volunteers spend three months between sales sorting, pricing and shelving. They work hard for this,” said FOL Book Sales Co-Chair Rudy Clark. Prices for books for all ages, child through adult, range from 50 cents to $1.00, though some books published within the last three years, book sets and select materials may be priced slightly higher. FOL accepts cash, credit/ debit cards and checks for payment. Teacher and educational included — to find specific titles my element and look forward to resources, CDs, DVDs, vinyl and load newly bought treasures working each time I go. records and books galore fill the into our cars, a much-needed entirety of the book sale room service when bringing home In the words of author Stephen and each quarter, await a new several boxes of books. People King, “Books are a uniquely home. Bargain boxes, “mystery” know a good deal when they portable magic.” You are invited boxes of books of the same genre find one! to become a Friends member, or author and other bargain volunteer and/or attend a FOL selections are also available for I knew from the minute I retired book sale to bring pieces of the a low price. as an elementary school media magic home with you. specialist in June 2019 that I The Friends organization accepts wanted to sign up as a book sale For more information, visit the public donations of clean, like- volunteer. Former Book Sale FOL website, join the Friends new and in-good-condition books. Chair Barbara Kiser, a volunteer of the Library Fayetteville NC Small quantities of books, i.e., for 25+ years and a recent retiree, Facebook group or call Friends paper grocery-bag size, can be welcomed me and assigned of the Library Liaison Marili dropped off at any library branch. me a work area. I love being a Melchionne at 910-483-7727, Larger, boxed donations must be Friends volunteer; I feel right in ext.1304. taken to the Headquarters Library. Acceptable items include books, 2 0 2 2 M AY | 25 hardcover or paperback, DVDs, CDs, vinyl records, audiobooks on CD, children’s books and magazines. The Friends do not accept encyclopedia sets, foreign language materials — except for dictionaries and juvenile titles — Reader’s Digest condensed books or magazines, books from other libraries, VHS or cassette tapes. During my first Friends shopping experience, I was amazed at the products being sold, the volunteers and the helpful and shopper-friendly atmosphere. I appreciated how the workers assisted shoppers — myself

Designing Your Workspace with intentionality to create the for Success and Wellness ideal work environment, defined as ergonomics, here are some insights to keep in mind for maximum success and wellness. By Taneshia Kerr Proper lighting One of the most important factors for a great workspace design is lighting. Poor lighting can lead to eyestrain, fatigue, headache and irritability. Darker office spaces have also been associated with low energy and depression. If you work from home, make sure you open windows and doors to let in natural light, and use lamps when it is dark or cloudy. In a corporate office, you may consider adding a light therapy device or natural- light bulbs. They are often inexpensive and easily accessible online. T he workplace has a huge easily and work seamlessly. In Mindful room colors impact on our ability to stay the ideal workspace, you will focused and productive. feel comfortable, confident and The colors that surround you Whether you work from home motivated to achieve your highest every day have an impact on or in a corporate setting, the levels of success. mood and brain function. Since design of your office can mean color can trigger physiological the difference between being A study by Gensler Research and as well as emotional responses highly productive and having Insights found that our physical that affect productivity, we a stream of lazy days. By some work environment affects our should be mindful in choosing estimates, we spend a third of ability stay focused, and a well- the right workspace tones. For our lives at work. To maximize designed office can increase an example, blue is thought to productivity and reduce productivity by more than 20%. stimulate productivity, but too downtime, it is imperative that we With so much at stake, a well- much of it or too dark a tone can work in an environment where designed workspace is essential. be overwhelming and zap your we can think clearly, collaborate As we apply design thinking energy. Likewise, white walls are uninspiring while splashes of bright spring tones can be energizing. Quality desk and chair The quality of your office chair and desk can significantly affect productivity. If you find yourself constantly adjusting, moving or stretching in your chair, you may need major adjustments. Be sure your default sitting position keeps your eyes about 30 inches from the computer screen, your chair supports your posture to reduce pressure on your spine, your arms rest at a comfortable 90-degree Taneshia Kerr is a marketing communicator, licensed counselor and member of the Forbes Business Council. With 18 years of experience in the direct selling industry, she has mentored more than 500 distributors. 26 | M AY 2 0 2 2

angle, your wrists are straight suffer with popsicle fingers and explores work as worship invites and supported, and your feet can frozen feet! us to intentionally transform our rest comfortably on the floor. It workspace into a zone of peace sounds like a lot to consider, but Declutter your space and rejuvenation. This means the general rule is to be both pulling into your workspace items comfortable and supported at A clean workspace makes that anchor you in the vision of your desk. everything, including your your ideal self and who you are thoughts, feel organized. To becoming. Adjusting room declutter your workspace, spend temperature 10 minutes every evening or To borrow from Marie Kondo, the morning putting things away, idea is to surround yourself with The temperature of your work organizing, filing and getting items that “spark joy.” These items area has an often understated ready to work again. If you are could be family photos, an item impact on mood and productivity. working from home, be sure to that represents your career goal, Cool temperatures help us to have a dedicated work area that pictures of your dream vacation relax. Dropping the temperature you can step into when it’s time to or a token of spiritual significance. a few degrees before bed is work and step away when you’re These items will serve to remind great to help you fall asleep. done. In the same vein, take time you of who you are outside of However, a cool, relaxed state at to organize your thoughts and work and inspire positive energy work is counterproductive. On plan your day before diving in. when work grows stressful. the other end of the spectrum, This is an easy hack to reduce if the room is too warm, it can the possibility of your day being Additional tips leave you feeling uncomfortable hijacked by low-priority tasks. and irritable. Finding your happy When designing your workspace, medium will help you to focus Consider sacred wellness think beyond just the physical and be productive without and consider how you feel when realizing it. When we think about wellness, working in that space. With we consider the body and the mindful intentionality, you can If it is cool outside, an open mind. But, given how much time personalize your work area to be window with free-flowing fresh we spend at work, we should a place where fresh air and fresh air can do wonders for your mood also consider the impact of the ideas flow freely, where positive and energy. If you’re the person work environment on wellness energy and productivity are the in the office who is always cold, as well. From toxic colleagues to norm and where your work is the consider using a space heater, a hostile culture, you could find thing you do, but not the entirety dressing in layers or bringing a yourself immersed in a space that of who you are. Happy designing, sweater. Your work will certainly drains productivity, confidence friends! and creativity. One theory that 2 0 2 2 M AY | 27

BCibolemSetuadynFdellSowsehei…p By Donna Wiggs See, I am doing a new thing! Now Well, it wasn’t long before that explanation of the passage it springs up; do you not perceive sweet invitation found me! A by Theologians and BSF it? I am making a way in the long-time family friend invited headquarters staff. wilderness and streams in the me to a coffee to come and wasteland. Isaiah 43:19 see Bible Study Fellowship, BSF’s approach appeared also known as BSF. While her thorough and hands-on. Even It all started with a simple, invitation seemed out of the though I had attended church all handwritten invitation. blue, it would become apparent my life and occasionally a Bible that God had been doing His study along the way, I had never My husband and I had just moved own looking, His own planning. heard of or been a part of a Bible back to Fayetteville, where we I replied “Yes” and found myself study like this. I sensed that it had both grown up. It was June sitting in a neighbor’s living room, would meet a need deep in my 1995, and Fayetteville was ablaze hearing all about it a week later. heart and remember feeling it with summer. The moving truck couldn’t start soon enough. I backed up the driveway and I was immediately drawn to remember, too, the impact of the unloaded all our belongings. the structure of BSF’s four-fold BSF leaders I met at the coffee. Fayetteville was home, again! approach. They were confident, prepared My husband was beginning his • Questions for Personal Study women who seemed to have a career, and I was able to transfer genuine love for God and a real with my company. We knew — the daily study of a passage connection with each other. That the community, had our careers designed as preparation was appealing, and I hoped to ahead of us and a plan to start our for discussion. find my place among women family, yet I wondered, “What will • Discussion — small group, with those attributes. life look like here and now?” So, I conversational discussion began studying Fayetteville anew of passage facilitated by a Needless to say, what I heard and looking for my place to get trained leader. drew me in. Adding to my involved and make a difference • Lecture — expository lecture excitement, I learned that BSF in my community. What would I on passage prepared by a was launching a pilot study as find? trained Teaching Leader (TL) a forerunner to a brand-new or Substitute TL. evening class in Fayetteville. • Lesson Notes — written Married with two children, Donna Wiggs is a native of Fayetteville. She serves as the Teaching Leader of the Fayetteville Day Women’s Bible Study Fellowship class held at Snyder Memorial Baptist Church. 28 | M AY 2 0 2 2

The opportunity to be a part year. Most of us did not know of that intriguing bond I observed at of something in its beginning the events going on that day until the coffee. stages appealed to me, not to after our class. At the end of her • Small groups that create and mention that it had a provision for lecture that day, when class was working women like me. God was essentially over, our Teaching protect a safe place to dive indeed doing a new thing in BSF Leader very calmly told us that deep into God’s Word, where and Fayetteville. Could it be He there had been an attack on the people are valued for diversity was doing a new thing in my life United States, and she asked us and encouraged in our as well? Could it be the invitation to pray. The way she chose to application of lessons learned. that came by way of a friend was • The opportunity to pray for ultimately from God? His timing present God and His Word first others and the assurance that couldn’t have been more perfect. and then tell us about the attacks others are praying for me, My response was: Sign me up! illustrates a Biblical worldview. week after week. Many people We understand life best when we in this world don’t have Fast forward to 2022 — nearly look at the world through the lens someone who prays for them three decades later — BSF is still of God’s Word rather than looking regularly. The faithfulness of a significant part of my life. It has at God’s Word through the lens of my fellow “BSF’ers” has been been a place to grow and serve as the world! life-changing; I don’t know a member and as a leader. God of an experience that yields a uses the BSF lessons to layer on One of the joys of participating deeper connection in life. an understanding of key Biblical in BSF has been the opportunity • The evidence of God doing truths through personal study to study and serve alongside so what only God can do in our and preparation. He humbles many godly women. It is as if lives and the growth that me by His supernatural strength God pulled back the curtain accompanies that. and equipping in my service. to let me see what was behind As a result, I’ve learned what it So, what about you? Could this be means to walk daily with God, depending on Him. And in full the next new thing God is doing disclosure, part of that learning has come through times of not in your life? Would you like to depending on Him. As I reflect on my time in BSF, one day stands make real connections with real out in particular, a day you will recognize: September 11, 2001. It people? A place awaits you here. was the first-class day of our BSF It’s my pleasure to invite you to register now for next year’s study beginning September 13, 2022 — Kingdom Divided. Come and See. . . BSF, Come and See. . . God! 2 0 2 2 M AY | 29

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