Women's View Magazine, October 2019

VOLUME 13 OCTOBER ISSUE 10 2019 Inspiring, educating, empowering and celebrating women in our community MAGAZINE AirCihs ian nthege Plus: Paint makeovers Savor the for your season furniture with fall fun for Local the whole nonprofits family seek to change lives

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Contents October FILM FOR THOUGHT5 This local film festival provokes thought, deeper conversations and societal change with films that make a difference. A CREATIVE MEDIUM7 Suzanne Frank uses a needle, thread and fabric to tell stories through quilts in an art form called fabric painting. CHANGING LIVES8 Local nonprofits Friendship House Fayetteville, Friendship Community Gardens and Kindred Ministries change lives through community living. HOPE AND HEALING10 A breast cancer survivor describes how her diagnosis altered her life and shares the hope she found through the support of loved ones. DIY DREAMS14 Reinvent furniture into Pinterest-worthy creations with the help of chalk paint. Local crafter Tara Smith shares tips on how to create looks for your furniture. GENERATIONAL SANDWICH17 Find out what is it like to be “sandwiched” between two generations and to be a caregiver for both of them. SOMETHING TO CHEW ON Dog chews made and 20 sourced in the USA from wildlife antlers are a healthy, satisfying and trendy alternative. MUSICAL ASPIRATIONS Madeline Keyes Osbourn writes 22 on realizing and pursuing her dreams to be in the music industry. MEDICAL SCREENINGS While most women are 23 familiar with mammograms, thermography is a lesser-known way to screen for cancer worth considering. THE CHANGE OF SEASON Check out fall fun in 25 Fayetteville with this roundup of local events and seasonal destinations. THRIFTY REFASHIONING Thrifted is the new black. 26 Hannah Hedgepeth writes on how she turned her thrift-shopping hobby into a successful business. PARENTING27 A new mother explains her journey into parenthood and the lessons she has learned along the way. 28 BAKING UP BUSINESS This military spouse who wanted sweet solution: a cookie business. a ready-to-move career found a OCTOBER 2019 3

Close Up VOLUME 13 ISSUE 10 PUBLISHER LETTER FROM THE EDITOR Bill Bowman, F & B Publications Change has [email protected] “done me good” ASSOCIATE PUBLISHER Stephanie Crider after [email protected] before EDITOR Sheryl Crow, sang it best. Back in 1996, sew, travel, dance and … write, again. A Crissy Neville the words to her hit song “A Change distant melody crept into my head and [email protected] Would Do You Good” were just some deafened my ears until this summer I feel-good lyrics I liked to sing out loud finally said, yes, a change would do ASSISTANT EDITOR with the windows down in my Ford me good. Jenna Shackelford Windstar minivan. My daughters, 5-year-old Jessica and 2-year-old Lauren, I retired from teaching in July after 20 [email protected] liked to beep-bop to the music in the years in the classroom in Fayetteville ART DIRECTOR backseat, skinny legs swaying from their and 10 more here and there. I revived the Elizabeth Baker car seats and heads nodding to the roots of journalism I planted long ago beat. Our third daughter, Emily, was not that I nourished in my teens and early [email protected] thought of yet but would appear on the 20s, but let lie dormant for some time OPERATIONS DIRECTOR scene two years later just in time for our since. New growth has blossomed, and I move back home to Cumberland County. am thankful for the fruit of change. Paulette Naylor [email protected] I didn’t like change back then. I didn’t In Women’s View Magazine this month, MARKETING REPRESENTATIVE want to move back home to face old you will read about the changes others demons, find a new job or buy yet in our community have faced from a Linda McAlister another house. This was our seventh breast cancer diagnosis and career [email protected] move in 11 years, and change was transitions to getting into shape and DISTRIBUTION DIRECTOR/ wearing thin. starting a family. With our how-to help, you can change up an old piece SALES ADMINISTRATOR Fast forward 23 years and my gaggle of furniture, your wardrobe or how Laurel Handforth of girls are now all grown. My days of you think after watching some of the bench-warming to watch my daughters’ thought-provoking films at the Indigo [email protected] tennis matches, soccer games and swim Moon Film Festival this month. And, it’s OCTOBER CONTRIBUTORS meets are over. Bittersweet? Maybe, Mary Bunnells but time became my friend again and Crissyfinally fall; what Avery Cameron hobbies filled the void. I began to paint, Becky Rose a nice change. Alison Hurley Prudence Mainor Jessica Smith Hannah Hedgepeth Jan Johnson Pat Wright Skyler Gallagher Susan Herndon Tara Smith Judy Stapleton Madeline Keyes Osbourne LaNatria Ellis Wanda Chavis Mike Karaman Dr. Airaina Griffith-Knight Casey Schaffer WOMEN’S VIEW MAGAZINE 208 ROWAN ST. FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 28301 PHONE: 910-484-6200 FAX: 910-484-9218 Women’s View Magazine is for, by and about women in Cumberland County. Published by F&B Publications in conjunction with Media Marketing Management. ©2019 by F&B Publications, Inc. All rights reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or advertisement without permission is strictly prohibited. Various vector sources credited to © Freepik and © Vecteezy. Are you interested in writing about people, causes and organizations that matter to Cumberland County? Consider contributing an article or pitching a story idea to Women’s View Magazine. We want to elevate your voice. For more information, email [email protected]. 4 OCTOBER 2019

Inspiring change through film Women’s View Magazine recently held a Q&A with local filmmakers and GroundSwell Pictures founders Pat Wright and Jan Johnson to get the scoop on the highly anticipated October film festival. Women’s View Magazine: How did seeing the movie “IT”? Operations Museum Theater. It’s a the Indigo Moon Film Festival start? perfect fit. We also love the “After WVM: What are some featured films 8” evening movies that are edgy, Pat Wright and Jan Johnson: Several about which you are particularly suspenseful and part of our Fright years ago, we received a grant from excited? Night. Some are horror flicks! The Arts Council of Fayetteville/ Cumberland County that allowed us to PW & JJ: There are so many that We have so many amazing narrative submit films and attend film festivals are awesome. We are thrilled to and documentary features and in this region. We found that film is an be the North Carolina premiere for shorts, student films and animated underrepresented art form in our area, “The Dog Doc.” This is one of those films, it’s hard for people to choose, so we formed GroundSwell Pictures, a films that could inspire change in so we created the “Magical Movie 501(c)(3), to change that. The IMFF is its the way people ask for care for their Matchmaker.” On the film page main event of the year. pets. It features a veterinarian who of the IMFF website, click on the combines the use of traditional and matchmaker icon, and you will be WVM: GroundSwell Pictures nontraditional medical therapies, asked to choose an emotion, topic or supports filmmakers who address having remarkable results. It’s a story genre. From those selections, you’ll social issues with their films. Why is we as pet lovers are thrilled to bring to get a group of films that will match this important? our community. your choices. It’s a fun tool to use and makes selecting films during IMFF a PW & JJ: Our mantra is “Film Inspires We are also excited about a breeze. Change.” We can all think of films that documentary with local ties. “Our have inspired change in the world Father’s Brothers” is a feature-length WVM: What are the festival details such as “Blackfish,” “An Inconvenient documentary about a soldier who and how can readers learn more? Truth,” “Supersize Me” and many served in Vietnam. The orders that others. We want to help facilitate he and his band of brothers had to PW & JJ: The festival is Oct. 11-13 in change or get conversations started. follow cost many of them their lives. historic downtown Fayetteville. Visit Of course, we also show films that are A local business owner, Elaine Kelly, IndigoMoonFilmFestival.com and meant merely to entertain, but even is the sister-in-law of the filmmaker. #FilmInspiresChange for more details. those inspire change. Who could ever This film will premiere at our newest There's truly something for everyone. look at a clown the same way after venue partner, the Airborne & Special OCTOBER 2019 5

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Weaving stories PRUDENCE of life into MAINOR works of art Contributing Writer Suzanne Frank does with needle, thread and the paint ran out, then colored Prudence Mainor is fabric what Van Gogh accomplished with paint shredded fabric from old clothes an avid vegetable and canvas. The results are brilliant works or sails was used for collage. of art. Frank’s story quilts are not utilitarian Dumpsters at construction sites gardener and like traditional quilts meant to decorate a bed and to provided metal and wood for longtime advocate keep one warm on a winter’s night. Rather, the North sculptures and printmaking. As for supporting local Carolina artist’s hand-stitched work is reminiscent of fine an art teacher and artist with a farmers and merchants tapestries, the likes of which often hung on castle walls. traditional fine-arts university to create and sustain education, these unusual communities. She lives Frank grew up in Scotland County far away from anything materials and methods inspired in, works in, shops in remotely resembling a castle. She and her husband later me and influenced my work in and tirelessly promotes moved to Florida, a move which influenced her early fibers, painting and clay.” career in a rather unconventional way. Fayetteville and Cumberland County. “As an art educator for children in financially Frank’s time in Pompano struggling Florida public Beach is recaptured in her early schools,” Frank said, “I story quilts. “The work of fabric-painting uses colorful learned the value of creating thread to seam together loose pieces and patterns of life art on a budget with memories,” Frank said. “In these paintings, memories of found objects and other clear blue Florida waters team with colorful nontraditional materials. If sea life.” there was no kiln to fire clay creations, then a trash can These story quilts are brilliantly patterned and colored filled with sawdust, bones, and are truly unique. They are extremely evocative of the banana peels and dried South Florida landscape. seaweed provided a primitive way to fire the pottery. If Her more recent work could be called a search for her roots. It is influenced by the North Carolina environment in which she grew up and to which she and her husband eventually returned, especially by, in her words, “the dark waters of the Cape Fear and Lumber Rivers, hurricane- spawned water rescues and singing native Lumbee women traveling up from the rivers’ shores.” Indeed, one of her largest pieces entitled “Water Rescue” was the centerpiece of her last exhibit as a featured artist at a New Smyrna Beach, Florida., gallery in September. Members of the local artists’ colony remembered her from her earlier work in the area and recommended her for the month-long show. Fayetteville residents were treated to an exhibit of Frank’s Florida-influenced story quilts when City Center Gallery & Books hung her work last year. Hopefully, “Water Recue” will make its way to Fayetteville soon in another public exhibition of Frank’s work. After all, water rescues are a part of our recent history. OCTOBER 2019 7

Embracing change : Discovering where you belong AVERY Change. It never ignite transformation. No out in faith, the beautiful CAMERON seems to happen matter how faithful, the inner space now exists. It is an without struggle. battlefield rumbles. intentional living community Contributing Writer First, there has to be for folks with special needs an acknowledgment of Change happens. and young professionals. Avery Augustine honesty, but once faced, Unpredictable circumstances It provides housing for 18 Cameron and her fear often settles into its manipulate our identities, students/young adults and husband Dr. Scott new home. These soul- having the ability to define six “friend” residents, or folks Cameron are the embedded messages us. I am not old enough or with mild intellectual delays. resident directors over then find themselves wise enough to assume I The residents live together Friendship House misaligned and begin to have the answers, but I am as friends and roommates, Fayetteville and battle. Today’s rejections, no faithful enough to know that not as caretakers, and the the co-founders of matter how subtle, shout circumstantial identity rhythm of community is, Friendship Community the contractions, “can’t,” is empty. “Eat. Pray. Celebrate.” Though Garden and Kindred “shouldn’t” and “won’t,” it is residential life, it is far Ministries. A mother generating the voices of Change happens for a more than that. I think of it as of three, Avery is doubt. However, listening reason. Though often scary, a “grace space.” Throughout currently a fourth- to the counter voices new beginnings offer hope. my experience as a resident grade teacher at as they whisper, “can,” Friendship House Fayetteville director, I have learned that Vanstory Elementary “should” and “would,” are has been that for me. It was to be included you just have the catalysts necessary to a big and scary change for to be in the room, but to School. my husband, my children and me, but by stepping 8 OCTOBER 2019

belong, you have to be missed when Existing where a drug house once that has meetings weekly for the you are not there. I know that this is stood, chickens, crops and flowers sole purpose of building community where I belong. now grow. Several other urban through Christ. Participants consist gardens, including an orchard Friendship House residents and other Change happens for a reason, and raised beds, are now planted interested parties. and through change, beauty is throughout Savoy Heights, an area created. From the steps taken toward that struggles with the ability to Change happens. Change is Friendship House Fayetteville, two break the cycle of poverty. Aiding in inevitable and it happens for a reason. other nonprofits have blossomed: bridging socio-economic gaps, this Living in a community changes lives Friendship Community Gardens mission is intentional. Within both and mine is changed. Change, when and Kindred Ministries. The garden spaces, a third nonprofit moves. It is given the voice of hope, creates ministry is in a second and separate a separate faith-based day program beauty. Be the change. space adjacent to Friendship House. For more information or to become involved, contact: Kindred Ministries: www.kindredministries.org •Friendship Community Gardens: www.fcgfaync.org Friendship House Fayetteville: www.friendshiphousefayetteville.org Fall back in Love with your Skin Detoxifying Aroma Brightening Slimming Body Therapy Vitamin C Massage $60 Facial $65 wrap $70 GIFT CERTIFICATES AVAILABLE ONLINE AND IN SPA Book appointments today! • 910.483.0186 • thesanctuaryatcedarcreek.com 1965 Cedar Creek Rd. Fayetteville, NC 28312 OCTOBER 2019 9

SUSAN Hope reigns: A breast HERNDON cancer survivor’s story Contributing Writer OCTOBER IS BREAST CANCER AWARENESS MONTH, Susan Herndon grew AN INTERNATIONAL HEALTH CAMPAIGN up in Fayetteville, and I n the United States, an estimated career in Fayetteville and marriage, Mark’s after marrying her 268,600 people are diagnosed with military career took us many places, but husband Mark moved invasive breast cancer per year. After Fayetteville was always home. My parents, around the country as noticing some swelling in my breast Glenn and Hannah Neal, along with my and a biopsy, I received the news of my brothers, moved to Fayetteville in 1963. a military wife. She diagnosis in May 2018 — two days before my enjoyed many years daughter’s high school graduation. After Over the last year, the people from my as a stay-at-home celebrating with our daughter, we jumped home church showered me and my family mother to John and into a year of chemo and radiation, and with so much support. The ladies from my Beth, who are now in I underwent three surgeries, including a mother’s Sunday School class did so much college. Susan enjoys double mastectomy and reconstruction. to help my family during my mother's volunteering, being illness. They also encouraged me in my with her family and Although I was facing this huge challenge, journey while I was in Fayetteville between friends and traveling. life went on all around me. I was trying chemo treatments. My mother went to her to be there for both my mother, who was heavenly home in December, and as we OBRctEoAbSeTr struggling with health issues, and my kids were all extremely sad to lose her, we were CANCER as they entered new stages in their lives. supported by the love we received from our There were days that seemed so dark, but friends. I now see how closely my journey AWARENESS MONTH the support I received was overwhelming. was intertwined with my mother’s final My biggest support was and continues to days on earth. be my husband Mark, who would simply say, “This is what I signed up for.” His I know for sure I made it through this past commitment and love for me is a blessing year by the grace and love of Jesus Christ. I cherish, as well as that from my children, I also hold on to Philippians 4:14, “I can do my church family, friends near and far and all things through Christ who gives me my cancer support group Here for the Girls. strength.” A positive attitude on most days gives me hope for the future. I am also extremely blessed to have my parents, brothers, their families and my My team of doctors and nurses have been husband’s family for support. I not only had wonderful. After chemo and surgery, my the support of my local church family in chances of being cured is now 95%. As of Chesterfield, Virginia, but also the people at now, I have no evidence of disease. I would Cedar Falls Baptist Church in Fayetteville, encourage anyone entering a cancer where I grew up. After college, a teaching diagnosis to allow supportive friends and family to walk with you. As I lean heavily on my faith in Christ, I feel hope and peace to tackle each day as it comes. My life is forever changed as I always have cancer in the back of my mind, but I have hope in knowing there is a reason for everything. It is my desire going forward to encourage others that may need help finding hope. I look forward to the year ahead, living life to the fullest. 10 OCTOBER 2019

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The international teaching ALISON program: Mutually beneficial for all HURLEY The United States is sometimes One-fourth of the Participate Contributing Writer referred to as the great melting pot teachers teach a foreign language Alison Hurley — a nation of diversity comprised of in one of the language immersions is currently the people from all over the world. That schools or in a secondary school. is certainly the case right here in the However, the majority of the information specialist Cumberland County Schools system, international teachers teach all at Kimberly Hampton where 345 teachers come from over content areas across CCS elementary, 15 countries around the world to middle and high schools. Primary School on teach, to grow and to embed global Fort Bragg. She culture into classrooms. Willmark Mariano, a fourth-grade teacher at Howard Hall Elementary previously worked The Visiting International Teaching School, came to Cumberland in Cumberland program, or VIF, as it is more County from the Philippines. commonly known, is “opening According to Mariano, teaching County Schools as a students’ eyes to perspectives is different in the United States classroom teacher, outside of their own,” said because of the focus not only on media coordinator Tonya Page, director of human academics but also on sharing and gifted education resources for Cumberland County life experiences and influencing consultant for 18 Schools. The teachers bring these students in a positive manner. years. She resides in perspectives from as far away as Fayetteville with her Zimbabwe, Africa and Colombia, “It has always been my dream to husband and two South America, and from island widen my horizons as a teacher teenage children. countries like Jamaica and the and be globally equipped with rich United Kingdom. cultural experiences,” said Mariano. 12 OCTOBER 2019 “To be given the chance to teach In recent years, VIF has changed in America under the Participate its branding and is now called program is more than a privilege. Participate Learning. Based in Chapel It has given me lessons that have Hill, the organization’s mission made me a better educator.” since 1987 is to support educators, implement global programs and Melissa Walker is a second-grade improve student achievement. teacher from Jamaica who teaches at Manchester Elementary School. Part of Page’s job is to work with She encourages anyone thinking Participate Learning and a second about becoming an international core agency, Educational Partners teacher to, in her own words, “go for International, to pair international it!” She explained that she decided teachers with vacant teaching to come to the United States to gain positions. Teachers apply directly international experience and also to the companies and must have to be a cultural ambassador for her four years of successful teaching home country. experience to be considered for hire. From there, principals can “The international teachers I have select candidates, conduct Skype on staff are accomplished veteran interviews and hire teachers based teachers,” said Kailey Hill, principal on their needs. Participate and at Manchester Elementary School EPI then assist the teachers in in Spring Lake. “They bring not only getting acclimated to their new their expertise in education and the hometowns and obtaining housing art of teaching but opportunities for and automobiles to ease the many our students to become acquainted changes the teachers first face in with countries and cultures with their host counties. CCS supports the which they are not familiar. In turn, teachers with a weeklong orientation our international teachers gain to introduce them to this county’s experiences in the American culture school policies and procedures. (and) education system, particularly our use of technology to enhance learning. It is truly a mutually beneficial partnership.”

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TARA Chalk it up to creativity: SMITH DIY dreams for your home Contributing Writer Tara Smith is a long-time Fayetteville resident who enjoys cooking, junking and repurposing furniture as well as spending time with family. She and her husband JJ have five children and two grandsons. Adding a fresh coat of paint is one of the easiest down with Dawn dish detergent and some water may be ways to change the mood of a room. It is also one of all you need. Items in need of more cleaning may require a the simplest ways to change the look of furniture. trisodium phosphate cleaner or a similar degreaser to clean Social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram the surface. and Pinterest create do-it-yourself dreams in viewers and users who see a plethora of picture-perfect rooms posted Now, you must decide what brand of chalk paint to use. I every day. Inspired homeowners run headlong to Lowe’s to have used the most expensive brand out there, made my get the necessary provisions in hopes of re-creating those own chalk paint and, most recently, used Dixie Belle paint. I images in their own homes. was very happy with my last choice for its quality, price point and local availability. I still have the first Annie Sloan brushes Are these pipe dreams? Not in the least. But before that I invested in, so quality does matter. Most chalk paints heading out the door, there are steps to follow before advertise that you don’t have to sand or prep the surfaces. It choosing a piece to work on or spending your hard-earned is true that you don’t have to sand, especially to the degree money on supplies. refinishing requires. However, ensuring the surface is ready to accept the paint makes a difference in the final results. So, First, decide what you will be painting. Facebook, Facebook cleaning and sanding in the beginning helps tremendously Marketplace and OfferUp, as well as traditional brick-and- at the end. mortar thrift and antique stores, are full of furniture items in need of the right person to take them home. You may Despite the hype, I have found from experience that you will also already have some wood furniture in need of a little TLC. need a second —or possibly a third — coat of paint. Chalk Look well before choosing. Note that solid wood furniture is paint is a great product in that a little paint goes a long way. the easiest to paint. A single quart of paint can complete a dresser or cabinet and more. Be sure to close the can completely and wash Next, carefully inspect your furniture for any structural your brushes well when finished so they will be ready for defects in need of correction before painting. A simple wipe your next masterpiece. 14 OCTOBER 2019

Furniture refinishing and photography featured above and left by Tara Smith. All others by Becky King of Lillington Depending on the brand of chalk paint you select, your final step will be to distress and seal the piece with the corresponding product. I like a slightly distressed and waxed finish. The beauty of chalk paint is that it is very forgiving of mistakes and does not require an artist for use. You can choose light or dark waxes, metallic waxes and polyacrylic. Again, there many choices to be made based on individual tastes. To recap, follow these steps to ensure success in your furniture-painting project: • Choose a project such as a table, dresser, buffet, etc. • Inspect and clean the treasure well. • Take time to prep the surface for painting. • Buy quality brushes and paint. • Review some videos or read articles before beginning. • Paint and then finish with a topcoat wax, polyacrylic or other chosen product. Have fun with your chosen article of furniture. Be proud of the new look and new life you have given your project piece with chalk paint. You may uncover a new way to decorate on a budget, a new hobby to relax with and if inclined, a new avenue for making money if you choose to flip furniture for profit. OCTOBER 2019 15

How much life insurance do I need? From your income to your children’s future education, here’s what to consider when you buy life insurance. GETTING THE RIGHT PROTECTION coverage for some of your bigger to see if they’re even in the ballpark. FOR YOUR LIFE assets. You might also be thinking For some people, it is enough, but for about protecting your children’s many people I’ve talked to, they find How much life insurance do I need? future education needs. they need more.” Is the life insurance I have through work enough? I bought life insurance If you’re going through a divorce, WHAT IF I CAN’T AFFORD IT? a long time ago, do I need more there are several factors to consider, now? These are common questions especially if you have children. So, what if you’ve done an analysis people have about life insurance, of your needs, only to find out the and the answers are different for If you’re nearing retirement, you may premium isn’t something you’re able everyone. As an individual, you have start thinking about what your spouse to afford right now? Lee describes your own unique needs and dreams would need to live comfortably if they it as a balance and an ever-evolving for the future, and you have your own live longer than you. conversation. unique family situation. Helen Lee, State Farm® agent in Buena Park, Lee helps customers look at all of “When we calculate proper coverage, California, helps a lot of people with these factors and more. “We look we balance their budget with their these kinds of questions, and she’s at their income, their family size, needs. Budget is very important, here to offer some good insights into their home’s value, their debt, their so we start with helping customers how to figure out your unique life business if they own one. If they have find a solution that makes the most insurance needs. children, we factor in everything from sense for them based on what they basic costs like food and clothes, to feel they can afford, while still feeling WHAT TO LOOK AT future costs like a college education. secure in their protection. We look It comes down to how much your at term versus whole life, things like Figuring out how much life insurance family might need, and for how long, that.” you might need starts with looking at to continue to live comfortably, if you what and who you want to protect, were no longer there to help support “Then,” he said, continuing, “as their and that often depends on what life them.” income and liability grow over time, stage you’re in. they have more to protect but also IS MY CURRENT COVERAGE ability to afford more coverage. My If you’re newly married or a young ENOUGH? team and I follow up with these parent, your income may be what customers on a regular basis so we you primarily need to protect. So, if Many people who have life insurance can help them stay updated.” something happened to you, you through work assume that will be could leave enough behind to help plenty for their family to live on. But LEARN MORE your spouse or family replace the lost as Lee put it, “Many people don’t income for a certain amount of time. do a needs analysis with their work For help figuring out your own life If your family is growing and you’ve coverage. They see the number and insurance needs and to talk through purchased or upgraded your home, feel secure with it, but they’ve never your options, talk to your local State you may need to add additional sat down and looked at the numbers Farm agent today. AGENT RODNEY SHERRILL SPONSORED BY 16 OCTOBER 2019 Rodney Sherrill

The sandwich generation: Thriving, not just surviving Growing up, a sandwich to social workers and sure that you are BECKY me meant a PBJ or BLT. hospice organizations, adding relief to your ROSE Today, when someone the Cumberland County sandwich situation by mentions a sandwich, it reminds me Council on Older Adults remembering these tips: Contributing Writer of the period of my life when I felt and support programs “sandwiched” as a mother nurturing offered through churches Practice self-care—You Becky Vohoska Rose teenagers who were getting ready and nursing homes, and must be healthy to take is a Nebraska native to fly out of the nest and as a many wine nights with care of others properly. who has called North caregiver to elderly parents. caring friends. I also Make time to exercise, eat Carolina home since My situation was not easy, but briefly contracted with properly and get enough 1987. She currently looking back I feel blessed to have Home Instead, which is a sleep. Check in regularly resides in Linden with played such an important role in for-profit agency with a with your physician, and her husband Gordon taking care of our beloved mothers franchise in Cumberland don’t forget to schedule and two daughters. at the end of their lives just as they County. This organization necessary medical exams. When she is not selling had taken care of my husband, provides caregivers, for Share the load—Delegate life safety equipment siblings and me for many years. a fee, who are trained household chores to with Gill Security, she It allowed me to model to my to assist with senior children and spouses. enjoys hiking, biking daughters how caretaking is an act care. Aging resources Ask siblings, if applicable, and beach walking. of love. I witnessed their selfless acts available from the to assist in elder care in of spending precious school break CCCOOA include national, different ways. time with their grandmothers who state and local agencies. Communicate—Start were in declining health mentally Visit ccccooa.org to a group text or email and physically. learn about local senior or use a phone app At times I felt pulled between programs, Meals on to give updates to being there for important Wheels and workshops all family members. moments, such as counseling that include help with Encourage everyone to a college daughter through a Medicare and care-giving participate and share key meltdown about freshman exams support groups. information gained from and sorority rush, while tending any doctor appointments to a hospitalized adult. I can only Just as a good or conversations from imagine the stress of the “club sandwich is improved hired caregivers. sandwich” generation – those with additional who are helping to care for three ingredients, make generations: their parents, their children and their grandchildren. Fortunately, there are many resources nationally and in Cumberland County to help the sandwich generation before they become toast from burning out from all their varied responsibilities in addition to caregiving. These can include employment, volunteering, being a loving spouse and remembering to practice self-care. Early on in my journey, I found online communities via Facebook that could be accessed 24/7; it helped me to have a resource for advice from people who truly understood. There are also books and podcasts that can easily be found by searching keywords like “empty nest” or “sandwich generation” on the internet Locally, the primary resources I found useful (and free) were hospital OCTOBER 2019 17

DR. July 2017 Breakage or Loss AIRAINA July 2018 GRIFFITH- The average body sheds hair at a rate of 75 KNIGHT to 125 strands daily. Shedding is part of the body’s natural cycle of the omission Owner, of keratin. Hair is manufactured in the NUWBNS bloodstream and goes through a cycle of growth, Natural Hair falling out and replacement. Scientifically the phases are called anagen, catagen and telogen. Gallery, During the anagen phase, hair grows and forms The Lock House, through the process of mitosis. If the body is off- hAirlooms Natural balanced in any way, it affects the manufacturing Hair-Braiding of the hair. It is important to have a well-balanced diet, exercise and refrain from a stressful life. Academy Medication and drugs affect your hair, as well. CEO, NUWBNS, Let’s dig a little deeper. Hair is what we see. It is a pure protein called keratin. Biologically, Inc. keratin is made of five minerals: sulfur, nitrogen, 910-868-5891or oxygen, carbon and hydrogen. These minerals nuwbnshairclinic@ are responsible for the look and feel of hair. If you are experiencing excessive shedding, it will be gmail.com characterized by thinning; the hair in the scalp Dr. Airaina Griffith- area will feel thin. If you begin to see long strands Knight is an expert in of hair shedding, see a medical doctor and have the field of natural hair your blood checked. care for multicultural, Breakage, on the other hand, is completely different. As with hair loss , breakage could be transcontinental the sign of body failure, but often, it is related to people. She bad grooming tools, poor product selection or bad hair management. Breakage occurs when developed a natural a hair strand breaks. It can become dry and hair care curriculum, break when you touch or comb it. If you have not Cosmetagriculture, trimmed your hair in a while, you may suffer from currently taught at a condition called trichoptolosis, also known as hAirlooms Natural split ends. Another condition that may cause breakage Hair-Braiding is trichorexus nodosa, which is knots in the hair. Academy and the It breaks at the weak areas along the shaft. Ever North Carolina wonder why your hair appears to stay at the State Beauticians same length and not grow? It’s because you are & Cosmetology afraid to trim it. Trimming is vital. Hair tends to Association. It was the break when it is not trimmed because the longer first curriculum of its strands — the strands that make it seem like your kind in North Carolina. hair is longer than it really is— get tangled in the shorter strands, the true hair stream. 18 OCTOBER 2019 Once you remove those bad strands, your “power” hair will be revealed. Your professional cosmetologist will be able to conduct a white- paper test in which a plain sheet of white paper will be held against the hair to reveal where the hair is broken. The area where you cannot see the paper through the hair is the power hair. Power hair is the most healthy hair, with the most strands of unbroken length. Remember, your hair can’t stay strong always, but it helps to trim. For comments, questions or concerns, contact 910-868-5891 or [email protected]. October is breast cancer awareness month, and we will issue a complimentary scalp analysis for the first five breast cancer survivors.

Namaste! A few not-so-short years ago, I experienced MARY some of my darkest days. After a time BUNNELLS Navigating involving a massive layoff and a cancer atnhdrwomeulegldnhietysaostigoan diagnosis, I was kept on with my company but Contributing Writer with more work and less support. I was also Mary Bunnells is a at this time a single mother with a 9-year-old single mother and daughter. In between juggling my new work a multipassionate environment and home life, my mental and entrepreneur who emotional health began to fail me. I realized, slowly and painfully that it was time for understands the change. I had been diagnosed with general importance of taking anxiety disorder and was beginning to suffer time for yourself and from depression. having balance in your life. She is North My mental health professional recommended Carolina real estate meditation as an aide for my issues. This was broker with Century to be a time for me to be still and practice 21 Liberty and owner calming my mind. I was also directed to wake up 10 minutes earlier each morning of MJ Fitness. Her and stretch. I soon started to feel lighter both company focuses on mentally and physically, drawing me to the balance, women’s arts of yoga and meditation. Working on my kickboxing classes, practice each morning and for 30 minutes self-defense seminars, each night before bed had an incredible yoga and meditation. impact on my anxiety level. Combined, Find her on Facebook yoga and meditation transferred me from a place of multiple anxiety attacks each week, to learn more. sometimes even multiple times daily, to a mindset of calming peace. OCTOBER 2019 19 My physical body also benefited. I had been an athlete for many years, one not always gentle on the body. Sitting at a desk for over a decade certainly compounded my physical problems. I saw results from yoga here as well. My neck, upper back and shoulders began to release years of built-up tension, and my core strengthened, resulting in less lower- back pain. Knee and hip pain decreased, too. I would recommend yoga for even the strongest of athletes for achieving strength, flexibility and relaxation. Even if you are not suffering from a mental health illness, I feel safe to bet that you are still, like me, struggling to find a balance in life, rarely taking time for self-care. Then when we do take time, the guilt sets in and our minds begin to wander to the eternal to-do list. This is why I fell in love with yoga and meditation; these practices are easy to start, requiring minimal experience and equipment. Yoga and meditation have truly been a life- changing experience for me. Slowing down and focusing on myself, for a change, has been the most beautiful journey. Now, I find I am a better mother, kinder to the world and able to cope with the stress that daily life throws my way. I am grateful to be in a place as a certified yoga instructor to share my story and the practice with others, hoping my story helps someone else. Namaste!

Aadonngdtlceohrtshewers Here’s some wildlife trivia facts courtesy of the National Park Service, U.S. Department of the Interior: Antlers, on members of the deer family, are grown as an extension of the animal’s skull; they are true bone, shed and regrown each year; and the new set is generally larger than the previous year’s rack. Antlers are also a big trend now in dog chews. Consumers looking for long- lasting chews for aggressive chewers often look to deer, elk or moose antlers. Meanwhile, other chews are also gaining popularity as dog owners seek items that are flavorful, natural, USA-made and entertaining for the pup. If the chews perform some important dental functions and do not smell bad, that’s even better. Antlers check many boxes for dog price point than other chews and dogs’ teeth clean and gums healthy. parents looking for healthy, natural and treats, but they are often the longest- The rawhide alternative segment is safe chews. Antlers are rich in essential lasting all-natural chew on the also thriving in the chews category. vitamins and nutrients like calcium, zinc market, so they are a better value for Earth Animal makes No-Hide Dog and iron. Antlers are normally in their the dollar. Chews and Stix, which are easily- natural state when inspected for overall digestible, healthy and nutritious safety and quality. Dog chew companies Other Chews treats available in chicken, beef, then leave them as nature grew venison, peanut butter and more. them— without additives, preservatives, Dogs need to chew, so chewing is chemicals, fillers or artificial colors. not a trend. What is trending now, Nearly all compressed rawhide however, is conscientious pet owners chews currently available on the Solid antlers are durable, so they showing concern for what their market are produced in China. So, are great for power chewers. Antlers dogs are chewing on and for the when purchasing a chew, or any pet are also low in calories, so dogs can ingredients in those chews. product, check the country of origin enjoy chewing on them without information, and look for USA-made pet parents worrying about weight Rawhide chews, when made and USA-sourced chews and treats. management. They are also renewable correctly with USA-sourced If you are unsure of what you are and biodegradable, two features that ingredients, are a safe, rewarding and looking for, ask the store employee, consumers pay attention to, and they do long-lasting treat for dogs. There’s and become a bit more educated on not produce stains, odors or a mess. solid veterinary research that shows what you are feeding your pet. rawhide does an excellent job of The main benefit of antlers is that they keeping dogs’ teeth clean and gums last a long time and come in many sizes healthy. A chew made from one ... small, medium, large, jumbo and piece of rawhide, has an extended monster. Antlers may have a higher chew time, and is designed to keep 20 OCTOBER 2019 Picture from WikiMedia via Randi Hausken from Bærum, Norway

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Singing a new song now: Turning dreams into reality MADELINE When I tell fans at shows I’m formerly an opera HOME OF THE 30 KEYES singer and a college music-major dropout, MINUTE WORKOUT. they usually do one of two things. They laugh OSBOURN or say they don’t believe me at all, but regardless, the CLASSES reaction is priceless. Contributing writer Monday - Thursday: Madeline Keyes In my younger years, I took to show tunes and classical 5:30am/6:15am/8am music. I was incredibly eager to do anything I could 4:30pm/5:30pm/6:15pm Osbourn is a 23-year- to perform, from piano lessons starting at age five to old singer-songwriter choir participation on up through graduation. I never Friday: had a plan for my future, but I knew that it had to 5:30am/6:15am/8am from Fayetteville involve music. who is passionate Saturday: about writing, music, I decided to go to college at UNCP and study music. 8am/8:40am cosmetics, human rights My audition piece for application to the school of and animal activism. music was “Sally’s Song” from “The Nightmare Before DINAH Christmas.” The instructors in the room were confused GOODMAN 22 OCTOBER 2019 by my choice but had nothing but positive feedback for me. I was accepted and began attending in the fall Master Coach of 2015. Personal Trainer The first red flag was being the only classical vocalist in 3039 Boone Trail Ext. a sea of jazz musicians within my declared major. We 910-889-1155 had meetings where former students would come and speak to us about how to make it in the industry, but www.facebook.com/FitBodyBooneTrail/ it was almost exclusively for the jazz musicians, leaving little guidance for me. Feeling discouraged, I would write my own music and share it with a few trusted people within the music department, but received less than enthusiastic responses. I finished my first year of college feeling very discouraged and decided not to go back. Soon afterward, while attending cosmetology school and working four jobs, I began writing music nonstop. I was putting original videos on Instagram, but nothing much came of those efforts. Still, I continued writing. After graduation, I was gifted the chance to record one of my songs in a studio. I took my demos and ideas to Greensboro where Fayetteville-born Wes Lauterbach and Zane Frye helped bring my vision to light. That was the first time anyone told me that my music was powerful and needed to be heard. It was also the first time that I believed I had a future in this industry. From that, KEYSE was born. I spent the next year of my life recording songs. I eventually met Grant Garner and Preston Hilliard of The Sherman Neckties who became the official band members of KEYSE. We’ve now played a handful of shows locally and have been booked to play with national touring acts Pros & iCons, Tilian Pearson, Landon Tewers and Social Repose. This journey has been nothing short of trying, but absolutely worth every penny and minute spent. If I could go back and do it all again, I wouldn’t change a thing about my decision to chase my dream, no matter what.

Does thermography WANDA replace mammography? CHAVIS A good question for October, Owner, Picture of Health & BREAST CANCER AWARENESS MONTH Thermography, LLC This question is similar to asking if an echocardiogram can replace www. an electrocardiogram. Both tests work together to determine heart phthermography. health and each has its place in preventative care. Thermography is a radiation-free, compression-free adjunct breast screening. Neither com test prevents cancer, but when an additional layer of monitoring is 910-580-2077 needed, thermography is worth considering. Often used by patients Wanda Chavis who need frequent monitoring, thermography uses no radiation. holds a bachelor's in alternative medicine Can thermography detect cancer? and a master's in public health According to research findings, living cells generate heat as they go administration. She's about their metabolic processes and activities. The infrared thermal a certified clinical scans can detect vascular activity and changes of pulse distribution thermographer and around a cancerous area compared to the rate of metabolism in a certified molecular general tissue. This results in higher temperature readings on the hydration specialist. skin’s surface. These changes, especially when monitored over time, She has been married can detect breast disease before it forms into a tumor. With this 43 years to Rev. information, a breast specialist can pinpoint the area of concern and Jeff Chavis, senior quickly layout a strategic evaluation for diagnosis. pastor at United Pentecostal Church in Is thermography successful with dense breasts or implants? Spring Lake. Chavis homeschooled her Since dense tissue shows up white on a mammogram, three sons, who thermography is ideal for younger women who want to start have given her eight keeping an eye on their breast health. Scar tissue from breast gorgeous grands. surgery, augmentation or mastectomies can feel suspicious, and a They love riding with thermogram can put a woman’s mind at ease. Because there is no MawMaw in her red compression, thermography is a great breast care choice for those who have had previous breast surgeries or tenderness. convertible. Is thermography recommended for all women? SPONSORED BY It is hard to establish a baseline OCTOBER 2019 23 if a woman is lactating. However, thermography is safe for nursing mothers, should a concern arise. Hormonal or menstrual changes do not affect the readings. Where can I get a thermogram done? Right here in Fayetteville! Picture of Health & Thermography, LLC is located in Suite 201 at 117 Broadfoot Ave. in the Haymount Healing and Wellness building. Check us out on the web at phthermography.com and use code WOMENSVIEW for a 10% discount on the online appointment link, or call during business hours and mention this article for the same deal.

Fayetteville’s Neighborhood Pet Store Roundup of October Full-Service Grooming happenings: Self-Wash Room Our musts from many offerings Healthy Pet Foods • Gourmet Treats Toys • Collars & Leashes CAPE FEAR BOTANICAL GARDEN and Much More! 1216 Fort Bragg Rd The garden, located at 536 N. Eastern Blvd. in Fayetteville, is teeming with fall fun. First up, celebrate the coming of (910) 860-1200 autumn with the annual Heritage Festival, dubbed this year Heritage, Harvest & Hops, Oct. 5 from 9 a.m.-2 p.m., in @WoofGangFay the Heritage Garden Complex. More fun is brewing with Wizardry in the Garden, a night evocative of Harry Potter and Hogwarts, Oct. 18 from 6-11 p.m., for adults 21 and older Look no further.r9RFBoau2odys0dneH:ent9Bhtayaeke1rasovwDyvii0hgudiianelA-fShmlrslpu4yereLgst,RShr,Gaot8.atSiAsIuIeNlsniMbr0lNoIoNUnD.rraCNcuR-metnyrtGuYGltoY1oLitoidGh2Doenm0slLeOwnllo8tLuTgIc1ow,EigsnbVOfi30,EaOvAthpgesOh1nLGewKgye4eeAODmoRdIearAyENctseDunloOCRioktDrildGtgoaVTEEfiKusuotVslwolDAEao!nIorEFapNwrNvMTnnInaOyNeetGiCT.nhdOnhtRTfrwhUeehgsaAblUItwewimfitvRoioTSuzotkARe’iLhpaOHInyystriFaNbOWhnyroiALUntEOGedsofuS,ughGUBwDIodor,usSwIU,R’D,sevONLSmMtrVmPhEYeiielmEnOhGlNEaoyealKlbRrLaoDeTENWgoLoosobEmaerOvFNOsaEEnkevTeuuheTEatOtsTiknOeiUnTyPhaorewnRDMiEKolItu!dROwEdEWhtogcaEAIfCnoArsOisRidoCuNNyAanksLi,sRDafteLkLtU.r-iDrGTohnsoDuAlnIiuE,eMblEnAoNSSrVeIgrhFATIn5.kuOtgmeDr’,EuYGOhrm5,olsTItfBoeNaNsOoIG5eeLR.wmrftAoTacrLcwtTAurNEy!hbSikaarOulaEUntDeohTIeeieAhnSncNsnnuReYsageDmaEtdiBHgGrOnuoytsnenRhiLLogI™ytUmlaoldPkooid,EfEiauoEfwDSo.tfiwn.Auaed!trlaloAyfLigorrsMDrfuIyayoseO,Rsnmltpt.I.oLhshuuSIgVfOMGabwviaoNeSAenIarriOuewtrKNwImmUenilvDuGsoaLNotltDRdeiIathGYsuftOeYnNliwGyehlotCIonTacwrkLygoVOAobG.gniavLaGEgOosEtiuShOsnDeedwfhnK,EnuDIU’oevNFsaLRVDmdIacmynrYeNnOyAOGslEoeCoeRlkbiAoLatdotGNgRlDuLEoOsEhferiuOvDsrotaElwTDeVeeAKaiuo!OTtrFaVznlUhrEnonMIpIanHOKaEyNolRNvWtnhorid.htINnREheedOfGiohNiATwkeeInsrlasTkeUD,i-iDGUwmOTivhgzniUthnSepaVOHRhigNFIakWgRr’,iEOOWmEedsiEFfOFchoMfHioTH1mTvc“TDTnNoILrRUstOor9ID,grOUihahhtTAaHHunfan.O,!hSgaiSh,Rur.OUnusDNSpIyetieeyalEEvRlNWnnltRyWsYhYlsEetsdgreoiooGO.nieurCeieoetdGDPfrNdLkgiwyUrHtuetciueAu,EifeOieSeiTt1ockanmaelnm9ePrbvOEag-ral’cgs,8seEilobelWlowonasl7nHCrrgceeFo—wnfd-toNtaOEovPt.t’pAohceothrednAmToUFerhlcreederaohgRAeheSaoycnepeywYeaaEtmacHfHF.nliaoivEeS1npnkTnaEIjo5tepArTxSoprteglentualoTtTmTlyiwfhr,emahjrnsewOEoFihiteithoeTassaVeylReinfsalpnrrHanaOoIs”BI.eyhLaCnowlFulEtdufrlcOLoi-rdaActivtsitiEdhtfestMdysOeat.Lpeanhteoshe2clttsUi-.CisHuart3eirtgttaoiSht.Oaii-rtAghaealhv2neEasnMMldnovafeht5.ldUpeioMillvddcuPlaywMpflw/avieweyrLsutteOlolireeEvhaissiinogOimGscteu'wXdieeetnhshtFnjamumenn.uaooa6trsm2dsldsusnRe–lg5to.yto1letde-esaa0,wtf2nv.hamanf7lwnpeotovFeidhsl.teirtfciimsntopnrreLsa:anaogwld.oNl.atcemfCVhcnacitshfdgaiaoievsrssi6ehloprosOitt-Hs–ttmteropapo9ciywiTtuitsrhoeelFop.itswTlaoaaoeul.feh1mnvrkwoaar7r’deeyyssstrr-.. weave legendary tales while leading you through the maze of tombstones at Cross Creek Cemetery for the annual Historic Hauntings. Tickets must be purchased in advance as spaces are limited. For more details on both, see www. State Farm Mutual Automobile Insurance Company, thedogwoodfestival.com/fall-festival. State Farm Indemnity Company, State Farm Fire and Casualty Company, A zombie invasion is coming with the annual Zombie Walk State Farm General Insurance Company, Bloomington, IL Oct. 25 from 4–10 p.m. Starting outside the headquarters 1101201 24 OCTOBER 2019

Picture via Twin Lakes State Park Haunting on the Lake 2014 via Flickr library at 300 Maiden Ln., activities include a preparty, the zombie walk through downtown, live music and the Zombie Prom. Facebook.com/FayettevilleZombieWalk/ has more spooky specifics. METHODIST UNIVERSITY Methodist University recently received a Project Support grant from the Arts Council of Fayetteville/Cumberland County for the 11th annual Friends of Music Guest Artist Series. Performing Oct. 25, at 7:30 p.m., is flutist Krizstina Der, an award-winning musician, music teacher and current member of the Fayetteville Symphony Orchestra. Methodist University is located at 5400 Ramsey St. in Fayetteville. Check out www.methodist.edu for the concert series dates and details. FALL FUN ALL SEASON Check out local venues for some downhome fun on the farm this season. Gillis Hill Farm is a local favorite. Gillis Hill offers homemade ice cream and self-guided farm tours through the end of October. Visit gillishillfarm.com or drive out to see it at 2701 Gillis Hill Rd. in west Fayetteville. Neighboring locale Gillis Hill Produce is a great place to stock up on fall décor items like mums, gourds, pumpkins, cornstalks and wheat straw as well as fall fruits and veggies like apples, sweet potatoes and kale. Kids can pick pumpkins from the farm patch or take a hayride on any Saturday in October. They will like Gillis’ menagerie of farm animals and featured “Get Lost” corn maze, too. Find it at 2899 Gillis Hill Road or online at facebook.com/gillishillroadproduce. Gallberry Corn Maze in Hope Mills is open through early November with six acres of corn mazes and a fairy-tale- themed maze for younger children. Bring the whole family out to select pumpkins, visit the farm animals and eat fair- food favorites. Make a s’more at the campfire pit, enjoy a hay or barrel train ride, and take a turn on the jumping pillow or tube slide. Go to http://gallberrycornmaze.com/ for more details on Gallberry’s seasonal smorgasbord. OCTOBER 2019 25

HANNAH When playing dress up 1. Go through everything in the HEDGEPETH thrift store. If you skip any GROWS UP sections, you could be skipping Contributing writer cool items. Good items are often A thrift store venture hidden deep in the racks. Hannah Hedgepeth is a recent graduate E ver since I was a little girl, 2. Arrive when the store opens, and from North Carolina I have been fascinated go often. Thrift stores often put State University with a by fashion. My interest out inventory at night so early Bachelor of Science was first sparked by the reality tv show arrivers have first pick. Go often to in fashion and textile “Project Runway.” For my 12th birthday see what’s new. management with party, I convinced my mom to take me a concentration in shopping at local thrift stores so my 3. Don’t skip the men’s section. The brand management friends and I could create a “Project men’s section is where I find over Runway” of our own. We enjoyed 80% of my clothes. The sweater/ and marketing. reconstructing the clothes to resemble sweatshirt section is perfect for She is currently what they created on the show. Although oversized clothes. in the graduate the outfits were nothing close to the school program of show’s, my love for fashion and thrifted 4. Buy anything that has potential. Global Luxury and clothing blossomed. Some items may not be cute in Management. the store, but if you buy them Thrifting is a great way to find some and add your own touch, you can unique pieces that you won't be able to create something trendy. find in stores. At the beginning of this year, I was going to thrift stores up to 5. Be on the lookout for sales. Many three times a week to try and find trendy thrift stores have certain sales on and vintage clothing for half the price of different days of the week. Be on the big retailers. I was so successful that the lookout for sale signs that day I was buying more clothes than I had to get a better deal. room for in my closet. To still buy clothes, I decided I would share my finds with others, so I created an Instagram thrift account, @fivestarthrifts. I sell trendy vintage finds from thrift stores all over North Carolina that I simply didn't have room to keep for myself. For each piece, I add a twist such as cropping T-shirts and sweaters, distressing jeans or making them into shorts for buying appeal. 26 OCTOBER 2019 Thrifting is not only a great way to buy clothes for cheap, but it’s also a great way to help the environment. Over 14 million tons of clothing go to landfills each year, so each recycled piece of clothing helps lower that amount. Many items that go to thrift stores have great potential to become something new and cute, you just have to know what to look for. Below I have included a short list of some tips that might be useful if you decide you want to try thrifting out yourself.

Transitioning to JESSICA SMITH mMothyerhjoood:urney Contributing Writer April 10, 2019 Jessica Smith is a 27-year-old — the best day of my life. Fayetteville native. She is a former third-grade teacher at Long Hill Elementary School. Jessica is married to Kenneth Smith Jr. and is the mother of Kenneth Wayne “KW” Smith III. This was the day my son Kenneth law checked in with us daily and supported New parents Kenneth Wayne “KW” Smith III was born, and us in any and every way we needed. I can only and Jessica Smith along with him, a new life for both hope to be as wonderful of a mom to KW as my husband and me. As a former third- these two women are to me. with their son, Kenneth grade teacher at Long Hill Elementary Wayne “KW” Smith III School, I have “parented” many children. My During my first month with KW, my biggest OCTOBER 2019 27 students became my children the moment struggle, as I’m sure every new mom would they stepped foot in my classroom. After agree, was major sleep deprivation. I soon having taught over a hundred students, or learned through all of the literature I could “Smith Smarties” as they called themselves, get my hands on, that babies, like third-grade it was a tough decision to leave the teaching students, thrive on schedules. Having a type, profession to become a stay-at-home mom. A personality, this was music to my ears. However, it was one of the best decisions, After reading “Moms on Call” and watching apart from placing my faith in Christ, that numerous “Taking Cara Babies” videos, I soon I’ve ever made. Choosing to focus solely on found my son thriving and sleeping through raising my son has given me the most joy. the night. This was a great victory in the Of course, with that joy also comes many Smith household. Parenting this 7-pound, hard lessons to be learned. The long and 7-ounce child was new territory for the both seemingly endless nights, the infinite of us. However, with love and prayer and only number of diapers that needed changing after giving grace to one another, we became and the many hours spent breastfeeding a force to be reckoned with. are sure to humble a girl quickly. Every new mom needs a support system and I am lucky In addition to my husband, I have found enough to have an amazing one. A meal an amazing group of new moms that offer train was created by my dearest friends who me support. This summer, I was invited to had already gone through the season of life join Mothers of Preschoolers, an organization I found myself in. My saint of a mother, who of women that listen, offer advice and basically lived on our couch for two-and-a- support one another along the journey of half weeks to help us with her first grandchild, motherhood. I look forward to being a part of was a gift I can never repay. You truly don’t this Christian-based organization this fall at know how much you need your mom until Snyder Memorial Baptist Church. you have a child of your own. In addition to my own mother, my wonderful mother-in- What they say, “it takes a village to raise a child,” is so true. I am so blessed and eternally grateful to have such a strong village supporting me and my new family.

SKYLAR Living the sweet life: GALLAGHER A military wife creates her Contributing writer Skylar Gallagher lives own from-scratch career in Fayetteville and is the Isn’t it so funny when someone asks owner of Cookie Cutter you to tell them a little about yourself alike. I used to be a beauty queen turned Cookies. She enjoys that you get flustered and can’t seem cosmetologist, business owner, wife and to have any thoughts on who you mother, and now I’m a cookie baker. walking, jogging, are? Or is that just me? I just think, “I’m a movies and visiting mom, I’m a military spouse, I’m a friend When I made the decision to marry a Winterbloom Tea in and I bake cookies. I have no hobbies and military man, I knew that I would have to downtown Fayetteville. am always frazzled!” While that is all true, it give up my thriving cosmetology career She blogs at Cookie doesn’t sound polished. I used to be so put to be with him. My family would have to together; those days seem long gone. find new playgroups, friends, schools and Cutter Life. homes, too. I thought I would always be Pictures taken by As we get older, it’s only natural that we all OK with these facts, but as I moved to various photographers: change. Whether it’s your tastes, passions Fayetteville, I became a little resentful. Bri Stidham:,headshot & or job that changes, it’s all inevitable. I call it After my son was born, I knew I had to family portrait; growth, and it applies to men and women do something for myself. I like to work, Melissa Cattani, and that part of me is a fixture, but I also header; knew I wanted to raise my child. I needed Page 29 from top something flexible to do that would allow down: Kate Rangel me to be with my son Aiden during the day (top and third), MeiLani yet still have my own career. Then the idea (second), and Lex Tols came to me: I could make and sell fancy sugar cookies. (fourth) Being a creative person, baking and 28 OCTOBER 2019 decorating seemed like a natural fit for me. It took quite a long time to perfect my sugar cookie recipe, but once I did, I moved on to decorating. It has taken me a lot of practice to get to the skill level I am at now, and I am still learning and evolving. I have had the pleasure of baking cookies for the family of the Chief of Staff of the U.S. Army as well as for birthdays, baby showers, homecomings, promotions, businesses and other celebrations. I am humbled to be part of these special events and to bring some smiles to people I have never met. In the meantime, you can find me teaching cookie decorating classes downtown, making do-it-yourself holiday cookie decorating kits, shopping and eating my way through Fayetteville’s downtown, chasing around my rambunctious child, cooking and of course, baking these loveable cookies.

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JUDY Fall is in the air, and the rustling of the leaves, birds HOMEMADE STAPLETON squirrels are hustling and squirrels. I get deep into POTATO to get their nests ready for my thoughts about those SOUP Contributing writer the colder months that are beautiful smells and sounds Pop me an email coming. I enjoy the changing and realize it’s time for a Preparation and and share some colors of the leaves and coffee refill. cooking time: of your childhood breathing that fresh cool air. 1.5 Hours stories: justsayin@ When I walk out of the house It’s funny, the older I get, upandcomingweekly. in the mornings, I whisper, the more I appreciate the Ingredients “Thank you, God, for a new smaller things in my life. 6 cups of diced, com. day and season.” Give me simple anytime; I precooked potatoes We all know we’ve had a will gladly leave the busy 1 can cream of As a senior citizen, mother hot, sticky, sweaty summer, chaos to others. Just like the of two, stepmother of two and most of us have said to weather, the older we get, chicken soup more, grandmother of eight one another that we can’t the more our bodies change. ½ cup butter and — holy moly! — two wait for the cooler weather. Arms, legs and hips that 2 cups chicken broth great-grandchildren, Judy Truth be known, it won’t once were strong and young salt and pepper Stapleton has traveled many be long till we start gripin’ now just don’t want to do miles from her home stompin’ about how cold we are and what my brain tells them to. to taste sayin’ we can’t wait for it to Change is not always good grounds of Mississippi. be warm again. Most older but can end up being what is Place all together in Retired from the federal folks ain’t never happy. As best if we give it time. Ahhhh, a crock-pot on low; government, she now works for me, I am just thankful to there it is again … time. Try cook 1.5 hours or as a receptionist for F&B be able to get out of bed in to embrace those changes until ready to serve Publications in Fayetteville. the mornings. I have to say and do what you can to I truly enjoy gettin’ up early, appreciate and enjoy each Extras: Cheese, sittin’ on the back porch with new day and the challenges green onions, bacon, my coffee, my husband and it can bring to your life. the dogs, watchin’ the sun croutons or your come up, feeling the chill in Speakin’ of change, don’t favorite topping. the air and listening to the let breast cancer change Don’t forget a your life. Ladies, get those brotchen roll or your tatas checked. favorite bread! 30 OCTOBER 2019 30 OCTOBER 2019

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