VOLUME 11                             NOVEMBERISSUE 11                                  2017for, by and about Fayetteville women                                      MAGAZINE                                                   GAME-CHANGERS EDITIONTheImportanceof NutritionThree WaysFemaleDirectors areChangingLeadership            p.10Jill Palmer:\"Be the change you wish to       see in the world.\"                      —Gandhi
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THIS MONTH'S THEME: GAME-CHANGERS                                        TABLE OF CONTENTSHe Said,                                                                       Jill Palmer:She Said:                                                                 \"Be the changeA Dickens                                                                 you wish to seeHoliday TagTeam                                                                       in the world.\"                                                                                 —GandhiThree WaysFemale                                                                                                      COVER STORYDirectors areChanging                                                                                                           Christina’sLeadership                                                                                                  Reading Corner:                                                                                                            Zadie Smith and                                                                                                               “White Teeth”                                                                          Spending the                                                                            Holidays in                                                                          Their Forever                                                                                   HomeBuilding a lifetime of memories,                    Thermograms,   One vacation at a time...                       Health Coaching        Specializing in cruises,                         & More      groups, weddings, family, all-inclusives, adventure, Disney.                Affordable PreventionJill Merrill Owner/Travel Agent/ Hope Mills, N.C.  A Picture of Health Thermograms o ers mobile medical     Treat Yourself!910-423-2088 • [email protected]       thermography to people in the Cape Fear region of North                                                                                                             Explore your surroundings & Shop Local            www.FavoriteTravelAgent.com              Carolina at doctors’ o ces and other medical settings                                                                        and at 1404 Raeford Rd.                                       NOVEMBER 2017 3                                                              Please call for more information                                                             910-527-7733                                                                              or email                                                       [email protected]                                                   PictureOfHealthThermograms.com                                                   www.jillmerrill.thehealthcoachgroup.com
What Can I Give?                                                                                           VOLUME 11 ISSUE 11The average person has            passions. We can do our          about, gifted in and given                      PUBLISHERnever before been so              research to see what ways we     access to theater and film,                  F & B Publicationseasily informed (and              can employ these things we       she’ll make a necessarymisinformed) about                have to offer most effectively.  difference in that world that               EDITOR IN CHIEFdomestic and international        And we can determine in our      many others couldn’t even                    Stephanie Criderhumanitarian crises of all        hearts to consider our literal   if they wanted to.                [email protected] of severity. All it takes  and figurative neighborsis one visit to Facebook or       above ourselves.                 April Fischer recently                    ASSISTANT EDITORTwitter, and you’ll see video                                      adopted two children                             Leslie Pyoclips, first-hand accounts        This month’s issue features      through the Boys and Girlsand opinion pieces on             several game-changers –          Homes of NC. Fischer’s act          [email protected] in your state            women who have made              is different from Palmer’s orand across the world that         a positive impact in an          Klein’s, and it’s a way of doing             ART DIRECTORyou probably would not            area that employs their          good that only someone with                   Elizabeth Longhave known about in such          unique skills and passions.      a heart for it can do.               [email protected] intimate way had they          Jill Palmer, director of theoccurred 10 years ago.            Steven A. Cohen military         People need each other.            MARKETING REPRESENTATIVE                                  family clinic, doesn’t run       No individual can solve the                   Linda McAlisterI have started to freeze up       a clinic that serves all         world’s problems, but weand feel helpless in the          people with medical needs        can commit to using what            [email protected] of so many needs,            everywhere; she runs a           we’ve been given for morewhether thinking about            practice that specifically       than our own benefit. We               OPERATIONS DIRECTORFayetteville’s homeless           meets the needs of military,     can choose to do our part                     Paulette Naylorpopulation in the                 National Guard and Reserve       with the tools we have.coming winter months or           families in Fayetteville. As                                       [email protected] the life-changing           the daughter of a Vietnam        Is writing a gift you thinkdevastation Hurricane             veteran who struggled with       you can use to impact this           DISTRIBUTION MANAGER/Maria inflicted on those          PTSD and as a Navy veteran       community positively? Are              SALES ADMINISTRATORwho live in Puerto Rico.          herself, she's specially         you interested in covering                   Laurel Handforth                                  qualified to meet the needs      local stories, causes orHowever, this freezing up         of this demographic.             organizations that matter           [email protected] to stop. It's important,                                     to Fayetteville? Considerif cliched, to remember           Talya Klein, director            contributing an article or            CONTRIBUTING WRITERSthat no one person can be         of Cape Fear Regional            pitching a story idea to                        Leslie Jonesresponsible for or effective      Theatre’s “Wait Until Dark,”     Women’s View Magazine.                         LaNatria Ellisin solving every problem at       has chosen to use her time       We want to elevate your                         Talya Kleinevery level of society. What      blazing a new pathway in a       voices. Email leslie@we can do is assess our           male-dominated industry.         upandcomingweekly.com                        Megan Maxwellstock of resources, gifts and     Because she’s passionate         for more information.                        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THIS MONTHin and around Fayetteville           Holly Day Fair                   21st Annual Fort Bragg 10-miler           \"Cirque Dreams Holidaze\" atThe largest holiday gift and craft show     at the corner of Longstreet Reilly       Givens Performing Arts Center,in Eastern North Carolina returns to the                   Roads,                       7:30 p.m. Ticket available at                                                           8 a.m.                                  tickets.com.Crown. Super Shopper tickets cost $15;        bragg.armymwr.com/calendar/     general admission costs $10.           event/fort-bragg-10-miler/1442534         www.hollydayfair.com         “Wait Until Dark”                  Fayetteville Marksmen hockey at          Fayetteville Ladies Power Lunch at  at Cape Fear Regional Theatre                          the Crown                        Ramada Plaza Bordeaux, Desperate to reclaim a mysterious doll                                                 10 a.m.-3p.m. Celebrating the                                                 www.marksmenhockey.com                  lionesses in our community. $35.stuffed with illegal drugs, a con man lays                                                                                     www.fayettevilleladiespowerlunch.com   a trap to ensnare a blind woman.     www.cfrt.org or 910-323-4233  Community Concerts presents                Vision Resource Center’s Out of         \"It’s a Wonderful Life\" at Gilbert          \"Dirty Dancing,\"                   Sight Blindfolded Dining Event at                      Theaterthe classic story, onstage at the Crown.          the Hellenic Center. 5 p.m.                www.gilberttheater.com    www.community-concerts.com                  www.visionresourcecentercc.org                                                                                     \"The Heart of Christmas Show\" at          WKML presents                     When Pigs Fly All-American BBQ                        the Crown         \"Stars & Guitars,\"                       Festival in Festival Park,                                                         Noon-6 p.m.                       www.crowncomplexnc.com                 featuring                         www.cisofcumberland.org/    Big & Rich, Drake White, Scotty                        when-pigs-fly McCreery, Lindsay Ell, Carly Pearce,Cannan Smith, Dylan Scott and Frankie       \"A Dickens Holiday\" in downtown  Ballard at the Crown. 6:30 p.m.                   Fayetteville, 1-9 p.m.      www.crowncomplexnc.com                Free to attend. www.theartscouncil.com/                                                 things-to-do/a-dickens-holiday                                                                                     NOVEMBER 2017 5
Adrienne Trego is the Education and Outreach director for the Arts Council Fayetteville/Cumberland County. She and her husband, DanielDiMaria, have helped with the Arts Council’s popular November event ADickens Holiday for the past four years. DiMaria is an associate attorney                                                             for the Charleston Group.                                The 18th annual A Dickens Holiday will be held Friday,                                      Nov. 24, from 1-9 p.m. in downtown Fayetteville.       Visit www.theartscouncil.com/things-to-do/a-dickens-holiday to learn more.HE:                                                            SHE:How did         We met at my high school job, (which               Dan and I met when we were just 18 years old while heyou two         was) managing a full-service gas station.          was working at a gas station in his hometown of Forty Fort,meet?           I was wearing cowboy boots; she was                Pennsylvania. I used to drive by his workplace and gawk at himAfter getting   driving a Volkswagen.                              a little before we ever met. I later found out we had a mutualmarried,        That when she was a kid, she had                   friend. That friend eventually introduced us.what's the      a pizza party with Newt Gingrich                   We were together for a long time before we got married, so Ifirst new       (Adrienne’s childhood friend is                    think we both knew what we were getting into. But a great bonusthing you       his niece).                                        to being married to Dan is that he is an excellent baker – cakes,learned                                                            bread, cookies – you name it, he can bake it. Lawyer by day,about your                                                         baker by night.spouse?                                                                   I know it is probably most people’s favorite part of Dickens, butWhat's your     My favorite part of A Dickens Holiday              the candlelight procession is truly magical. Seeing members offavorite part   is the immediate sense of community                our community together, walking through our beautiful downtownof A Dickens    and togetherness at the opening of the             all bathed in candlelight – it’s a beautiful visual, and it makes youHoliday         candlelight procession.                            feel so connected to our community.every year?                                                                   There is a fabulous photo of Dan lying on the ground on theDo you have     I don't have a singular anecdote to                sidewalk at the end of the night. It is such a wonderful event toa weird/        describe the extent of the fun of Dickens.         work and volunteer for, but it is a long and exhausting day, andfunny story     Let's just say you meet a lot of interestingfrom your time  folks when you're dressed as the                                            that photo reflected how all of us felt.participating   Ghost of Christmasin A Dickens    Future.Holiday?What's the      Definitely Robo Dinosaur. It's a robot – and a   For my 19th birthday, Dan bought me a banjo, which I alwaysbest present    dinosaur.                                       wanted to learn to play. It was a very exciting gift, but I’m(Christmas or                                                   embarrassed to admit that nearly 13 years later, I still haven’tother) you've                                                   learned to play it. One day I will, I swear!ever received                                                   Dan has a talent for being able to mimic other people’s voicesfrom your                                                       and accents. He does a Mickey Mouse voice that always makesspouse?                                                         me laugh. He’s found that if I am ever mad at him, he can use the                                                                voice to end any argument. It’s hard to be mad at someone whoWhat            I laugh with joy every day for her just being   sounds like Mickey Mouse.does your       herself. She's hilarious!spouse dothat makesyou laugh?6 NOVEMBER 2017
LESLIE JONES                                                                          FITNESSPersonal trainer, body builder andspecialist in fitness nutrition  My background in athletics started         and avoiding the fat gain that often     and are important for hormones,with cheerleading and gymnastics and         comes with aging is to get enough        which are necessary for recovery andveered into an '80s aerobics phase and       protein, something many people           play a role in lean muscle gains.a little bit of softball before arriving at  lack in their daily diets. Proteinmy mecca: competitive bodybuilding.          is a filling macronutrient used to         And last, but certainly not                                             build and repair tissue, and it helps    least, drink water. Water is  In the beginning, I knew about             maintain strong bones. It also assists   hugely important in promotingcompetitions, but quite frankly,             in maintaining and losing weight         weight loss, flushing toxins andI was intimidated. After seeing              and preserving muscle mass through       increasing energy. Water willmy first show, the North Carolina            protein synthesis, the process by        also help maximize your physicalState Championships in High Point            which cells use protein to build         performance. If you are not hydrated,in 2009, I knew I wanted to do               muscle. Eating fruit and yogurt for      physical performance can suffer andwhat they were doing. I watched              breakfast is great, but adding protein   fatigue will increase, making exercisenow-International Federation of              stabilizes your blood sugar levels       feel more difficult.Bodybuilding and Fitness pro Sherri          and will reduce “brain fog.” It willGray, who first inspired me, compete         also boost your energy. Eggs, meat,        Athletic competition is notas a female bodybuilder – and win.           fish and Greek yogurt are all great      for everyone, but everyone canShe not only looked amazing but              sources of protein.                      benefit from even the simplestgenuinely seemed like she was                                                         implementations of exercise andhaving the best time. I was amazed             Carbohydrates are important            better nutrition. As I’ve increasedat her conditioning and knew I could         for energy and a healthy digestive       my fitness, what has been mostchallenge myself to do the same.             system. Eating the right type of         beneficial to me is the improvementSeven weeks later, I was onstage as          carbohydrates provides dietary           in confidence. How you feela bodybuilder.                               fiber and helps keep cholesterol in      about yourself affects all areas of                                             check. Starchy vegetables, fruits and    life, including your job and your  Proper nutrition is what ultimately        grains are much better choices than      relationships. Feeling confidentchanged my physique. It was a matter         processed carbs. They digest slower      makes me want to make others feelof managing the big three: protein,          and tend to be higher in fiber.          the same way.carbohydrates and healthy fats.                                               Include plenty of healthy fats in        Leslie Jones is sponsored by Bill Porter  Protein plays a vital role in not          your diet, especially unrefined fats –   of MaxMuscle in Fayetteville. She writesonly lifting weights but in trimming         think fat from fish, avocados, olives    about her bodybuilding, food and otheryour waistline. Recent studies               and nuts. These will assist in fat loss  aspects of her life on her blog,show the secret to staying young                                                      www.consistentfitnesslife.com.                                                                                                                   NOVEMBER 2017 7
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TALYA KLEIN                                       Three                                                                 Ways               Freelance director and producer                                                                 Female                                                                 Directors                                                                       are                                                                                  Changing                                                                                  the Way We                                                                                  ApproachRight: Klein (foreground, holding a                                               Leadershipwater bottle) and her team film herdebut film project, \"Brokers,\" in 2016.Photo courtesy of Geoffrey Olson. A year ago I was                          According to a study conducted by      but also in the collaborative process.directing my very                        San Diego State’s Center for the Study   It becomes a self-perpetuating cyclefirst film project, a                    of Women in Film and Television,         where men hire other men who wantweb series called                        for the the top 250 domestic grossing    to tell stories about men.“Brokers.”                               films in 2016, only 7 percent of them                                         were directed by women. While              However, I believe the things                                         these numbers are depressing, I          that have marginalized women can                                         believe that we are on the precipice     actually be transformed into strengths                                                                                  or even superpowers. I can’t speak                                         of a female leadership revolution in     for all women, but I know that being                                                                                  excluded and silenced from popularIt was day five of a six-day shoot.      the entertainment industry and that      narratives has only made me more                                                                                  sensitive to and aware of otherWe had just finished shooting            female directors are quickly changing    marginalized narratives.an actor’s final scene, and, as is       the way we look at leadership. Here        As a result, more and more, female                                                                                  directors are seeking out the storiescustomary in the film world, the         are three reasons why.                   that are unique and often overlooked.                                                                                  Films and plays with female directorscast and crew gave her a round of                                                 are more likely to have other femalesapplause after her final take.                                                    working with them. Directors like  As the crew moved to set up the next          Women understand                  Patty Jenkins, Ava DuVernay and Jill                                                the need to listen to             Soloway are not only paving the way1shot, she approached me and pulled             marginalized voices.              for more female narratives but forme in for a big hug. “Thank you,” she                                             other female artists as well.said. “I’ve been on a ton of film sets,  I’ve seen and experienced firsthand        And women are showing up                                                                                  to see these movies and plays inbut this is the most females in charge the common misconception that              record numbers: Patty Jenkins’                                                                                  recent film, “Wonder Woman,”I’ve ever experienced. Believe me, it stories by and about women are              broke box office records to becomemakes a huge difference.”                optional. In film and theater,I knew what she meant. While 2016 women’s stories have traditionallywas my first time behind the camera, been pushed aside and minimized,I am no stranger to a film set. I acted even though women make up atall through my teens and 20s, and I least half of the audience for thesesaw it firsthand: film has always been stories. It’s not just in narrative wherea boys’ club.                            women’s voices have been silenced,10 NOVEMBER 2017
Photo: Madeleine                                                                                                Talya Klein is an award-winningLambert as the                                                                                                  director, writer, producer and visualPilot in Klein’s                                                                                                artist. She is the director of Cape2014 production                                                                                                 Fear Regional Theatre’s “Wait Untilof \"Grounded\"                                                                                                   Dark,” which opened Oct. 26 and runsby George Brant                                                                                                 through Nov. 12. She has directedat Manbites Dog                                                                                                 over 40 theatrical productions in theTheater in Durham.                                                                                              U.S. and abroad and is the producing                                                                                                                artistic director of The Here & Now,                                                                                                                a company that produces one-off,                                                                                                                site-specific work. She has a Bachelor                                                                                                                of Arts in Theater and Social Struggle                                                                                                                from Duke University and a Master                                                                                                                of Fine Arts in directing from Brown                                                                                                                University. She is the executive                                                                                                                producer and director of the series                                                                                                                “Brokers” (www.brokerswebshow.                                                                                                                com) now streaming online. A native                                                                                                                New Yorker, Klein now lives in                                                                                                                Durham, North Carolina.the fifth highest-grossing superhero                about women fighting back and                               of damage to men, not just women.movie of all time.                                  using their own strengths to                                  When I’m directing, one of my                                                    their advantage.2WWe uenudnedresrtsatnadndthe                                                                                   favorite tools is harnessing what I        imthpelicimatpiolincsatoifovnisoolefnce in     Susy, the main character, uses                           like to call “the group genius.” Even        ouvriowleonrkce. in our work.               her blindness – traditionally seen                          though I am in charge and make the                                                    as a disability – to her advantage                          final call, I know the good ideas won’t   Female directors are not only                    and uses it to defeat the men who                           come from me all the time. I havesensitive to marginalized narratives,               are terrorizing her. Between myself,                        learned that if you populate the roombut also to the implications of the                 Artistic Director Mary Kate Burke and                       with smart, passionate people andsex and violence portrayed in those                 fight choreographer Jill Carlson (yes,                      then give them room to contribute,narratives. According to statistics                 we’re all women), we are creating the                       you will end up with a product that isfrom the Rape, Abuse & Incest                       space for the actors and audience to                        much greater than anything you canNational Network, one in six women                  feel taken care of even as we explore                       make on your own.will be the victim of an attempted                  some pretty rough and violentor completed rape in their lifetime.                subject matter.                                               I had no sense of this as aFemale directors don’t have the                                                                                 young director. The old system ofluxury of ignoring the current culture              3WcotWeolleaacbroaeorlnlera’nabtt’aoet f.rarafartiead.idto  leadership, which I observed in myof sexual violence and therefore are                                                                            20s, considers not having all themore likely to prioritize safety on set                Women striving for leadership                            answers to be a huge weakness. Itand in the rehearsal room.                          positions have often been called                            wasn’t until I was in my 30s and no                                                    “bossy” and “aggressive” when                               longer a novice that I realized there   LA Weekly recently published an                  they are simply being direct and                            is a tremendous amount of power inarticle by April Wolfe about Hollywood              decisive, which can be incredibly                           not having all the answers: it keepsviolence choreographer Deven                        discouraging. But as long as we                             you curious and open to new ideasMacNair. The article explores how                   don’t confuse that opinion with                             and surprising solutions.female directors are taking seriously               truth, a real advantage begins tothe safety and mental health of their               emerge: we can actually tell that                             It is this curiosity that leads toactors and the way that rape and                    there is a difference between true                          every great innovation. And whileviolence towards women are being                    power and tyranny.                                          there are many male leaders whoportrayed and discussed in their work.                                                                          have defied the system and workedOne of the reasons I was interested                    The patriarchal model for                                in that mindset, women are uniquelyin directing “Wait Until Dark”                      leadership, which considers                                 poised in this moment not just tothis season at Cape Fear Regional                   anything less than omniscience a                            defy the system but to break it apartTheatre is that I think it’s important              weakness, actually does a great deal                        and recreate it. So many of us havefor women to direct more stories                                                                                grown up without a model for female                                                                                                                leadership, which means we are free                                                                                                                to create our own.                                                                                                                                            NOVEMBER 2017 11
STEPHANIE CRIDER                      Editor in Chief         Jill PalmerBe the changeyou wish to see in the world.                       —Gandhi Jill Palmer was diagnosed with dyslexia and a processing disorder when she was in elementary school. This disorder made learning difficult, but with the love and support of her family and community, she overcame these challenges. She credits her upbringing with setting her up for success. “I grew up with a sense of safety and community and the mentality that if you work hard, you can achieve goals and solve problems,” Palmer said. And that's what she did. Today, neither of these issues impacts her. She's a Navy veteran and a doctoral candidate at the University of Tennessee, where she is focusing on evidence-based practices, leadership and research. And, as of this summer, she’s the director of the Steven A. Cohen Military Family Clinic at Cape Fear Valley. It wasn't until she attended college that Palmer realized how lucky she was. “I met a bunch of people who had different backgrounds and upbringings,” Palmer said. “I remember going to New York City with a friend and seeing a skyscraper living complex and thinking to myself that more people lived there than in the five towns near where I grew up in Randolph, Vermont. And it hit me – no wonder there's so much struggle and poverty in this world. It helped me see that the world was not perfect. I struggled within a supportive community, but not everyone has that. I saw then that I needed to go into social work because it would give me options to work with all kinds of people.”1212NONVOEVMEBMEBRE2R0217017
Palmer has dedicated her career to helping others. She                    COVER STORYspent six years in the Navy and more than 12 years providingsocial work services to at-risk youth and domestic violence       While the focus is on post-9/11 veterans, Palmer saidsurvivors. She’s also directed a children's bereavement camp    the clinic is committed to helping all veterans findat Hospice of Northeast Florida, conducted mental health        the care they need. “We work with Veterans Affairsevaluations and psychiatric social work in the emergency        to connect Vietnam vets and others with the rightdepartment and inpatient unit at Baptist Medical Center in      resources. Our Cape Fear Valley Health partnershipJacksonville, Florida, and directed a boys’ juvenile justice    helps us connect with hospitals or outpatient services,program. And now, she’s landed in Fayetteville.                 so it's a warm handoff to other services when needed.”  When she read the job description for the Steven A.             Palmer noted that many female veterans are also oftenCohen Military Family Clinic at Cape Fear Valley, Palmer        the family’s main earner, primary child care provider andsaid she felt as if the position was created just for her, and  home manager while carrying the weight of serving theirshe said so at her interview. Three weeks later, she moved to   country. Unfortunately, these can be barriers to gettingFayetteville to take the job.                                   care. “The VA hasn't caught up in meeting the needs of                                                                women. They're trying, but they're still far behind.”The Clinic                                                                  The clinic is designed to be a part of the solution.  The Steven A. Cohen Military Family Clinic at Cape Fear       Palmer added that they accommodate female clientsValley opened July 25 and is already impacting lives.           with things like separate waiting rooms and entries                                                                and exits, evening hours and child care. Soon, Palmer  This facility fills a significant gap in the care available   hopes to see teleservices increase as well. “If talkingto veterans and their families by offering services with        with your health care provider while you are waiting inlittle or no wait – regardless of insurance or a person’s       the carpool line after school or while you are watchingability to pay. The clinic treats a variety of mental health    soccer practice is the only time you have to talk withissues, including depression, anxiety, post-traumatic           your counselor, we want to be available,” she said.stress, adjustment issues, anger, grief and loss, familyissues, transition challenges, relationship problems and          Palmer's passion for helping veterans runs deep. Herchildren’s behavioral problems.                                 dad was a Vietnam veteran. \"I was in my 20s before I                                                                understood what that meant ... my dad suffered from  As of this writing, Palmer said the clinic has received       PTSD. He never told anyone about it until the years of164 referrals. A referral is when someone calls and             nightly nightmares, strong startle response, flashbacksis scheduled for an intake, which allows the clinic             and avoidance symptoms landed him in the hospital forstaff to explore the person’s needs and evaluate the            a alcohol-induced suicide attempt at age 62.\" This wasappropriateness for the clinical services. All 164 have been    after a 25-year career in the Vermont State Police.offered support or resource connections if they needed it,including therapy services at the clinic. Since July 25, the      He was finally enrolled in the VA and offered services,clinic has helped 75 clients. Those clients are receiving       \"but for my father, it was too little too late,\" Palmerevidenced-based therapeutic services. “I am honored and         said. \"In 2015, my father died from his untreated,excited to be leading this wonderful clinic and offering        unsuccessful attempts to address his PTSD andthe amazing services to our veterans and their families,”       alcoholism. His death is one of the reasons I believe inPalmer said.                                                    the Cohen Veterans Network. I believe if we can provide                                                                timely, high-quality, effective mental health care, then  The clinic serves post-9/11 veterans and anyone who           we can save lives and, in-turn, save a generation ofhas served in the United States Armed Forces, including         children from suffering from unhealthy family systems.\"the National Guard and Reserves, regardless of dischargestatus, role while in uniform or combat experience. This        Find out more about the Steven A. Cohen Military Family Clinic atgroup includes family members of and caregivers for             Cape Fear Valley: www.cohenveteransnetwork.orgveterans and active-duty service members, National              or (910) 615-3737.Guardsmen and Reservists.                                                                Jill Palmer with her father                                                                            and mother.                                                                NNOOVVEEMMBBEERR 22001177 1133
MEGAN MAXWELL                      Create a Victorian                                   Christmas Theme at HomeEducation and Events Coordinator,1897 Poe House  Creating a traditional          tabletop arrangements and       available at many retailers,      rian Christmas décor. ToursVictorian-themed Christmas        pictures or artwork hanging     but traditional white lights      are provided Tuesday-Fri-in your home is relatively        on your walls.                  work fine as well. A scrap        day at 11 a.m., 1 and 3 p.m.;simple. Victorians in south-                                      angel usually adorned the top     Saturday on the hour fromern North Carolina decorated        In many homes during the      of the tree, but stars or tinsel  10 a.m.-4 p.m. and Sundaywith greenery such as holly,      1890s, the Victorian tree was   flags were also common in         on the hour from 1-4 p.m.magnolia, ivy, mistletoe,         the focal point of the Christ-  the Victorian era.                Admission is free.nandina and pyracantha. It        mas décor. In the Museumwas common to hang pine           of the Cape Fear’s 1897 Poe       For a festive Christmas           Celebrate the Christmasgarland along porch railings      House, we trim the tree with    dinner, trim the dining           season at the annual Holidayand to hang wreaths and           Victorian scrap ornaments       table with red satin ribbon,      Jubilee, Dec. 3, at the 1897 Poedrape garland over the front      made from bits of scrap fab-    draping it across in a T-shape.   House. This free event featuresdoor. Smaller wreaths and         ric, tinsel and paper as well   Ribbons can also be draped        a concert by Fayetteville’s ownsprays decorated secondary        as many reproduction glass      from a central light fixture to   Coventry Carolers. The carol-entrances. You can add a          ornaments. Scrap ornaments      the four corners of the table.    ers will perform on the frontmodern splash of color with       are fun to make at home         Faux magnolia leaves can          porch of the Poe House at 1:30,holly berries, bows or poin-      using decorative Victorian      be placed in a circle under-      2:30 and 3:30 p.m.settia stems. If you want to be   scrapbook paper or recycled     neath chargers and stationaryhistorically accurate, red satin  holiday cards. Cut images       arrangements. Trim napkin           The house will be decorat-ribbons would have been           out and glue them to a sturdy   rings with holly. Decorative      ed for a Victorian Christmas,used at the time, but modern      cardboard base, then trim       centerpieces called epergnes      providing a beautiful back-wired ribbon gives bows a         with tinsel scraps, paper or    were common in the Victori-       drop for this festive event,more structured look.             ribbon. You can find repro-     an period. These decorative       and will be open between the                                  duction Victorian-style glass   bowls were filled with holiday    caroling performances.  Pine garland can also be        ornaments at many local craft   flowers or greenery and weredraped over interior doors,       and Christmas stores. Tiny      usually flanked by candles.         The Poe House kitchenmantles and stair railings        white candles clipped to the    Poe House Holiday Décor           will be alive with the smellsto create a festive welcome       branches would have been                                          of Christmas goodies cook-for guests. Simple magnolia,      used to illuminate the tree     and “Holiday Jubilee”             ing on the museum's 1902holly or pine wreaths can be      in the days before electric       Visit the 1897 Poe House at     Glenwood stove. Santa Claushung indoors as well. Use         lights. Today, Christmas                                          will also be in attendance andmagnolia and holly to accent      lights shaped as candles are    the Museum of the Cape Fear       available for pictures through-                                                                  Historical Complex from Nov.      out the event. Santa photos                                                                  24-Jan. 7 to view the Victo-      and admission are free.Maxwell received a BA in History from UNC-Pembroke and an MA in Public History from N.C. State University. She worked for the NCDepartment of Natural and Cultural Resources for nine years, serving as an interpreter at Brunswick Town/Fort Anderson State Historic Site andas the programs coordinator for Bentonville Battlefield State Historic Site. She has been in her current position as the 1897 Poe House Educationand Events Coordinator for the Museum of the Cape Fear Historical Complex in Fayetteville for five years. Maxwell is currently vice-chair of theFayetteville Historic Resources Commission and secretary for the North Carolina Museum Council Board of Directors.14 NOVEMBER 2017
CHRISTINA ARREOLAContributing WriterBorn in London to an English father and a Jamaican mother,               abandoned her faith toZadie Smith writes novels that include themes of identity, religion,     be with the rebelliousrace and class with inspiration drawn from her own life. After five      Ryan Topps. She is leftnovels, and a highly-anticipated sixth to come in 2019, Smith            alone when he becomeshas established her name among top-ranked novelists. She was             a Jehovah’s Witnessincluded on Time magazine’s 100 best English-language novels             himself. Desperate forpublished from 1923 to 2005. She was also included in the                anything, she marriesliterary magazine, Granta’s, list of Best Young British Novelists        Archie, who is more than twice her age.both in 2003 and 2013. Smith received the Welt-Literaturepreisaward in 2016 and the Langston Hughes Medal in 2017.                     Samad, meanwhile, is in an arranged marriage and faces                                                                         difficulty living as a follower of Islam in an English world,While studying at Cambridge, where Smith graduated in 1998,              despite living in the melting pot of London. Many of his mistakes,she published a collection of short stories in The Mays Anthology.       including an affair, Samad blames on the torment and temptationThis anthology showcased new student writing and garnered Smith          of Western culture. As a way to make up for his shortfalls as aattention from publishers. After being offered a contract for her first  Muslim, he sends his son Magid to Bangladesh so the boy cannovel, she decided to hire a literary agent. In 1997, Smith released     properly learn the practice of Islam. His other son, Millat, remainsa partial manuscript, which would become her debut novel                 in London, which leads to the children growing up to lead very“White Teeth,” to be auctioned off for publishing rights. During         different lives. Magid ironically becomes an atheist who devotesher final year at Cambridge, “White Teeth” was completed and             his life to science, and Millat follows a more rebellious path,subsequently published in 2000, when Smith was just 24.                  joining a militant Muslim organization after being angry at how                                                                         marginalized his people are in English society.“White Teeth” made a name for Smith, winning her multipleawards. As of 2002, it had sold 42,000 hardback copies and               Smith plays with multiple narrators and timelines, jumping from800,000 paperbacks; the average first book sells less than               the past to the present, bringing into question whether everything40,000 copies overall. The novel encompasses the complicated,            is connected or is all by chance. Many of the characters incharismatic and sometimes chaotic voice of London, focusing              “White Teeth” are intertwined and dealing with major internalon two wartime friends – Bangladeshi Samad Iqbal and                     conflict – all set against the background of a London thatEnglishman Archie Jones – and the people in their lives. Their           appears to be a bustling melting pot but is brimming with politicalaccidental friendship begins after they serve in the same tank           turmoil, racism and a constant conversation about immigrationcrew during the final days of World War II. They both missed out         and assimilation.on much of the action of the war. Archie has failed at marriageand even failed a suicide attempt. Samad is an old, unexcited            Although published in 2000 and set in London, the novel is stillman who is now a waiter at a curry house.                                relevant. It is easy to see how America mirrors many of its strong                                                                         themes. “White Teeth” has won the Guardian First Book Award,Eventually, Archie remarries. His bride is a Jamaican teenager,          the Whitbread First Novel Award, the James Tait Black MemorialClara. Clara was once a Jehovah’s Witness but quickly                    Prize and the Commonwealth Writer’s First Book Award.15 NOVEMBER 2017                                                         NOVEMBER 2017 15
Since 1993,             WVM: How                  area coordinator. I lead    like a stuffed animal or       participation in it that you   Operation Christmas     many years have           a team of year-round        soccer ball — something as     would like to share?   Child has delivered     you participated in       volunteers who serve        the focal piece of the box.   more than 146 million   Operation Christmas       on a variety of teams.      Then we ask that each area     NELSON: This program   shoebox gifts to        Child and in what         (Examples include)          is supplied for — school       has not only impacted   children in more than   capacities?               drop-off location team      supplies and hygiene           the children who receive   160 countries and                                 leaders, church relations,  items. Most children will      these gifts but also every   territories, including  NELSON: I have            community relations and     say that their favorite item,  person involved in the   about 11.5 million      been packing boxes        media relations.            however, is a picture of       ministry — the packer, the   last year alone. To     for over a decade. I                                  the family that packed the     church, the processing   learn where you can     started serving in the    WVM: What are the           box and a letter. The box      center and volunteers,   drop off a shoebox      processing center in      most popular/most           represents three things —      the loaders, truck drivers,   in Cumberland           Charlotte five years      needed items to pack in a   the love of Christ, the love   airport personnel, pilots   County and to           ago where I learned of    box for this year?          of a stranger (the packer of   and then the receiving   learn more about        the year-round service                                the box) and a tangible gift   countries and their teams   the organization,       opportunities. I became   NELSON: We                  for them to have.              of people bringing the   visit www.              the area coordinator      encourage every box to be                                  good news to these   samaritanspurse.org/    shortly after and have    packed with a “wow item”    WVM: Are there any             children — and then to   operation-christmas-    been serving for four                                 other thoughts about           their families and villages.   child. Drop-off runs    years year-round now.                                 the program or your   Nov. 13-20.                           WVM: How are                                          (Left) Alex Nsengimana fled his home during   Nicole Nelson           you participating in                                  a period of extreme tribal unrest in his native   is originally from      Operation Christmas                                   country, Rwanda. He found refuge in an   Chicago, Illinois,      Child this year?                                      orphanage. He received a shoebox from   and is a former         NELSON: This year I                                   Operation Christmas Child one year later.   Army officer. She is    am the Eastern Sandhills                              Nsengimana now serves with OCC.   married and has two   sons, 6 years and 6   months old. She has   been attending and   serving at Village   Baptist Church in   Fayetteville for the   past 10 years.16 NOVEMBER 2017
TRACEY NATALEDirector of Foster CareBoys and Girls Homes of NCAPRIL FISCHERFoster and adoptive parentThanksgiving and Christmas are           I celebrated the last two Christmas                                 An Angel Tree putsupposed to be the most wonderful        seasons with two little boys that I                                 up by Boys and Girlstimes of the year – and for many         desperately wanted to adopt. Well,                                  Homes of NC fosterthis is true. But for children in        my wish became a reality, and this                                  children that wasfoster care, the holiday season can      Christmas will be extra special                                     sponsored by thebe emotionally traumatic. When           since the adoption was finalized                                    staff and patientsyou have foster families who are         earlier this year. I was blessed to                                 of Stout and Boothcommitted to providing a safe, loving    adopt my two little boys and give                                   Orthodontics inand nurturing home, it can make          them their forever home and my                                      Fayetteville last year.the experience a little less traumatic.  last name.April Fischer, a foster and adoptive                                             L to R, back to front: Grandma Dee, Aprilparent, shared her thoughts on this      This year, my sons will only receive    Fischer, Papa and the boys. Editor’s note: Fulltopic in her own words:                  presents from me (aka Santa) and        names have not been used for the privacy and                                         my family. I told my boys that Santa    safety of the family.I absolutely LOVE Christmastime! I am    will be putting fewer gifts under the   Boys and Girls Homes of NC is a nonprofita Christmas junkie when it comes to      Christmas tree this year because of     foster care and adoption agency. It placesdecorating, singing Christmas songs      helping other little boys and girls     children who are in the legal custody ofand watching everything Christmas        who are not in their forever home       county department of social services agencieson TV as well as wishing for snow on     this holiday season.                    into licensed foster homes in the state of NorthChristmas Eve, and most importantly,                                             Carolina. If you would like to know how youspending time with loved ones.           I don’t think they understood what      can help sponsor a foster child this Christmas                                         I was saying, but they will see a big   season or would like more information aboutI became a foster parent with Boys       difference under the tree this year     becoming a foster parent, call the toll-freeand Girls Homes of NC in 2012. I         on Christmas morning for sure. I        number 1-877-211-5322.quickly became accustomed to how         am trying to find the perfect threemagical celebrating the Christmas        presents for my boys this holiday                                      NOVEMBER 2017 17season would be with a foster child      season. Each one will receiveas well as with my own family. The       something they want; somethingChristmas presents that the foster       they need; and something that willchildren received from the community     surprise the heck out of them.were unlike anything I had ever seenbefore. It looked like the North Pole    It is not about how much money Ihad exploded in my living room on        spend on the presents but the qualityChristmas morning. The children all      and thought that goes into finding thereceived presents every year from        perfect gifts that I, as their mommy,numerous agencies in the community       know they will love and cherish forand from me and my family.               months to come.
STEPHANIE CRIDER                        NEAREditor in ChiefThe Heart of   Show                                 enjoy to Fayetteville. Locally written,   well as many others. Since its first                                        directed and produced by founder          performance in 1999, The Heart ofFor many, one of the most               Laura Stevens, this year’s show           Christmas Show has raised more than       treasured aspects of the         contains many new skits and dances        $700,000 for local charities.       Christmas season is seeing the   that are sure to please the audiences. A  Tickets cost $15. Find out more atjoy on the faces of children as they    9-year-old Elvis on a Harley, a snow-     www.heartofchristmasshow.com.experience the wonders this special     filled scene, delightful costumes andtime of year offers. The Heart of       choreography and even a song about        W hile North Carolina’sChristmas Show gives voice to local     a puppy are just a few of the things in               Biltmore Estate is a trueyouth as they celebrate everything      the many heartwarming vignettes that                  sight to behold during thegood and exciting about the season. It  await.                                    holidays, it is not the only historicalconsists of award-winning Christian                                               establishment to go all-out this time ofvocal group Voices of the Heart           “The Heart of Christmas Show            year. If you are looking for an adventureand a cast of 32 local singers and      demonstrates the fun and childlike        a bit farther from home, considerdancers, all between the ages of 6 and  anticipation of Christmas in the          George Washington’s Mount Vernon.19. Saturday, Nov. 25, and Sunday,      first half, then, it progresses into the  Christmas at Mount Vernon runs Nov.Nov. 26, over the course of three       Christmas story portrayed through         24–Jan. 6 and offers a peek into the livesperformances, these youngsters will     beautifully choreographed songs           of George and Martha Washingtonmake audiences laugh, reflect and       combined with the amazing singing         and their holiday traditions. Several ofeven cry.                               talents of Voices of the Heart,” the      the holiday events are scheduled for                                        website boasts. “Our audiences            weekends only.   The production has three goals: It   experience the true meaning of            •	 The Holiday Dinner for theseeks to help local sick and abused     Christmas!”children by donating proceeds from                                                     Washington’s Tour is anthe show to local charities; it gives     Touted as a Christmas show                   hourlong tour that includes avoice to talented children in the area  “equivalent to those seen at Myrtle            visit to the mansion basement.and a chance to grow as performers;     Beach, South Carolina, and Branson,            The focus is on food andand it brings a quality New-York-style  Missouri,” the Heart of Christmas              dining in the 18th century asChristmas show that everyone will       Show is a longstanding local tradition.        well as George and Martha                                        In the true spirit of Christmas, the           Washington’s impeccably                                        proceeds benefit local charities               generous hospitality.                                        that help sick and abused children,       •	 There are chocolate-making                                        including Friends of Children                  demonstrations daily in the                                        and the Child Advocacy Center as18 NOVEMBER 2017
FAR     Vaughan Lobby. Dressed in period costumes,                 H DA     presenters explain the chocolate-making process,     including the preparation of Mount Vernon’s delicious      Book your Good Eats while you can for the Summer!     hot chocolate and chocolate tea. There is a tasting and     a toast at 3:30 p.m. each day that includes a Washington                     WITH GRACE ENTERPRISE A     family favorite: an 18th-century style chocolate drink.                     SALADMASTER DISTRIBUTOR•	 Music is a big part of the holidays for many, and at     Mount Vernon the resident fifer performs Tuesday                            In the comfort &     through Saturday on the Bowling Green. The                                   convenience of     performance includes 18th-century holiday music                            your own home or     followed by a discussion.                                                    in our beautiful•	 In the greenhouse, actors in period costumes share                           downtown kitchen     stories of Christmas at Mount Vernon and the                                  studio. Enjoy     traditions practiced there. This takes place each day                      dinner again & let’s     at 2 and 3 p.m.                                                              keep it healthy!•	 Perhaps one of the most unique attractions at     Washington’s home during the holidays is the camel.        BOOK YOUR FREE LUNCH OR DINNER SHOW     Washington loved exotic animals and often went out                 BY CONTACTING APRIL OR LYNN     of his way to see them. That happened the Christmas     of 1787 when he paid 18 shillings to bring a camel to      (706) 393-5289  • FITNESS •     the holiday festivities to entertain his guests. Visitors     in 2017 can see Aladdin the camel on the premises.         [email protected] • COOKING ••	 The weekends of Nov. 24-25, Dec. 1-2, Dec. 8-9,              130 Bow St., Fayetteville, NC 28301 • OPPORTUNITY •     and Dec. 17-18, from 5-8 p.m., guests can enjoy     a candlelit tour guided by characters in period            Bringing Food & Fun Back Into The Kitchen!     costume sharing about the holiday traditions in     Virginia during Washington’s lifetime.    Find out more at www.mountvernon.org.                                                                                Grace Enterprises® is a direct dealer of SaladMaster.                                                                                    NOVEMBER 2017 19
Mark Your Calendar:                  Fayetteville Ladies Power LunchNov. 9, join the women of          an exclusive Shopportunity     This year, the Power Lunch hasFayetteville for the FayettevilleLadies Power Lunch, and            Expo featuring dozens of local chosen education as its charity ofcelebrate the lioness within. Thekeynote speaker for the day is     vendors. It also includes a wine choice platform. A portion of theretired U.S. Army Col. MarshaLunt. She served in the U.S.       bar and wine-tasting. Network, luncheon proceeds will benefitArmy Medical Corps for 30 yearsbefore transitioning to serve      build relationships with other the Kidsville News Literacyas the emergency manager forWomack Army Medical Center         successful women and enjoy     and Education Foundation, afor 15 years. Since joining themilitary, Lunt has succeeded in    shopping. At 11:45 a.m., seating 501c3 nonprofit organizationthe high-pressure, high-profile,male-dominated profession,         for lunch begins. At noon,     that provides funding assistanceaccomplishing many firsts. Herrole as a mentor, though, is what  there will be opening remarks for reading and educationalshe finds most rewarding.                                   followed by lunch, entertainment resources to school children inThe Power Lunch opens at10 a.m. with registration and      and the keynote speaker. At    Cumberland and Hoke Counties.                                   1:45 p.m., there will be door                                   prizes, a 50-50 raffle and closing The Fayetteville Ladies Power                                   remarks. The formal portion of Lunch takes place at the Ramada                                   the event concludes at 2 p.m. at Bordeaux and costs $35 to                                   That still leaves an hour for  register. Vendor tables and                                   more networking, shopping and sponsorships are available.                                   wine-tasting. The Power Lunch                                   officially concludes at 3 p.m. Find out more or register:                                                                  www.fayettevilleladiespowerlunch.com20 NOVEMBER 2017
DINNER  StroganoffBeef or Eggplant                                                              APRIL PERTON                                                                                           Owner of GRACE     +  ++                                                                                                 ENTERPRISE                                                                                                         APRIL'S                                                                                                        KITCHEN                                                                                                               Find more                                                                                                 delicious recipes at                                                                                                cooking4fitness.com1 1/2 pounds cubed round steak or eggplant, cut    1. Sprinkle the steak strips with salt  4. Put the steak/eggplant back                                                   and pepper, and dust with flour.        into the pan with the onion andinto thin strips                                   2. In a large skillet, heat the         mushrooms. Add the mushroom                                                   butter and olive oil and quickly        soup and broth. Cover andAll-purpose flour                                  brown the steaks/eggplant on            cook over low heat for about2 tablespoons olive oil                            both sides. Remove the steaks/          30 minutes.2 tablespoons butter                               eggplant from the pan.                  5. Add salt and pepper as1 medium onion, sliced                             3. Add onion slices and                 needed. Stir in the sour cream8 ounces fresh mushrooms, sliced                   mushrooms to the pan drippings.         just before serving. Serve over1 (10 3/4-ounce) can beef broth or vegetable both  Sauté for a few minutes, until the      cooked egg noodles.1 (10 3/4-ounce) can cream of mushroom soup        onion is tender. Sprinkle with 1Salt and black pepper                              teaspoon of flour.1 cup sour creamCooked egg noodlesChocolateQ-uiSck atndrDaeliciwous berry Pie                                                DESSERT                                                   1 pint fresh strawberries, washed, trimmed and halved                                                   1 store-bought (or homemade) chocolate cookie pie crust                                                   2⁄3 cup sugar                                                   1⁄4 cup cornstarch                                                   2 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder                                                   1⁄4 teaspoon minced crystallized ginger                                                   1⁄8 teaspoon ground nutmeg                                                   Pinch of kosher or sea salt                                                   6 large egg yolks                                                   2 1⁄2 cups half-and-half                                                   6 ounces bittersweet or semisweet chocolate, chopped                                                   1⁄2 tablespoon rum extract                                                   1 teaspoon vanilla extract                                                   Additional strawberries for garnish (optional)        1. Place the strawberry halves in a single layer     4. Add the chocolate and whisk until combined.        in the bottom of the pie crust.                      Add the rum and vanilla extracts. Cool the        2. In a medium saucepan, whisk together the          mixture for 4 minutes.        sugar, cornstarch, cocoa powder, ginger,             5. Pour the filling over the strawberries and up        nutmeg and salt over medium heat.                    to the top of the crust. Chill the pie for 2 hours        3. Whisk in the egg yolks to create a thick paste.   or until set.        Gradually whisk in the half-and-half until the       6. Garnish with additional strawberries.        mixture thickens, about 5 minutes. Bring to a boil;        cook for 1 minute. Remove from heat.                                                                                           NOVEMBER 2017 21
STEPHANIE CRIDER                                                                 LAST VIEWEditor in ChiefDoes She Remember Me?  This month’s cover girl, Jill Palmer,  She was beautiful. The girl seemed      — it all came together like a rock inmakes a living helping others. Have      to be 8 or 9 years old. She wore jeans  the pit of my stomach. I took a step.you ever wanted to help someone          and a T-shirt and had long black        He lurched, stamping his foot at me.but you just couldn’t?                   hair. She looked bored, too. I sat on                                         the steps at the end of the room, my      I’ve relived this moment  When I was (very) pregnant with        two sweaty and exhausted children       countless times throughout themy third child, we visited the Doge’s    by my side.                             years. What happened next stillPalace in Venice, Italy. My husband                                              breaks my heart and makes mywas in heaven, reading every plaque,       I made eye contact with the           cheeks burn with shame, althoughexamining every inch of every room.      girl. She nodded back and smiled.       I am not sure I could chooseMy children, 2 and 6 at the time,        Before she could look away, the         differently given the chance. Iand I were not. It was hot. They         man snarled at her and kicked her       scooted my children out of thewere bored. I was tired. So tired. We    in the behind so hard she stumbled      room and went for help. It took onlywandered aimlessly through the           forward a step. I jumped. The           a moment to find an employee, butechoing halls, stopping for them to      woman winced and turned away.           when we returned, they were gone.climb on stairs, look out windows,       The girl fought to hold back tearscount floor tiles and whatever else we   and stared hard at the ground. I          It’s been almost 17 years sincecould find to pass the time.             stood to confront the man, one arm      it happened and I still cannot                                         around my swollen belly, the other      reconcile that moment. I’m thankful  Amid the beautiful art and             around my children. He hissed at me     for the many opportunities sincecenturies of history, we came upon       in a language I didn’t understand       then to reach out and make awhat looked like a happy family.         and took a step in our direction.       difference, but that little girl in theThe man was stout with olive skin,                                               cavernous hall of the Doge’s Palacegraying hair and a bushy mustache.         The adrenaline, the heartache         is forever in my heart. The one IHe wore a suit and pointy dress          for the girl, the fierce rage toward    could not/did not help.shoes, looking crisp and professional    the man, the pity for the woman,despite the oppressive heat. The         the need to protect my family, my         The girl would be well into herwoman was covered in a bright and        unborn baby suddenly squirming          20s by now. I often wonder howcolorful sari. She wore a vibrant red    uncomfortably in my belly, the sheer    she is doing. Does she rememberBindi in the center of her forehead.     unbelievability of what was unfolding   me? Could she ever understand my                                                                                 decision? Would she forgive me?22 NOVEMBER 2017
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