Women's View Magazine February 2018

VOLUME 12 FEBRUARYISSUE 2 2018 for, by and about local women MAGAZINE more 2018 lineup inside:Local athlete weighsin: Playing tennis at a7collegiate levelThe Marquis Slam: Aninside look at Fayetteville’spoetry hub8Plan a Valentine’s night in11with a lot of local love

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TABLE OF CONTENTSMeet the owners of Book review: Thi Bui’sFayetteville’s Bakery Cake 15“The Best We Could Do”6and Coffee Shop Second Harvest FoodFayetteville Ladies PowerLunch: 2018 lineup 20Bank: Creatively12COVER STORY combatting hungerBuilding a lifetime of memories, One vacation at a time... Specializing in cruises, groups, weddings, family, all-inclusives, adventure, Disney.Jill Merrill Owner/Travel Agent/ Hope Mills, N.C. Treat Yourself!910-423-2088 • [email protected] Explore your surroundings & Shop Local www.FavoriteTravelAgent.com FEBRUARY 2018 3

VOLUME 12 ISSUE 2 PUBLISHER F & B Publications EDITOR Stephanie Crider [email protected] need for specific questions ASSISTANT EDITOR Leslie PyoFebruary is the month of love (or the month of aware of until they’d asked.a totally healthy hatred for Valentine’s Day), [email protected] I wanted to write about one aspect of love Of course, there are many factors besides thethat’s relevant in any relationship. specificity of questions we ask that contribute ART DIRECTOR to a space where real and messy things can Elizabeth LongI’ve been stuck on the idea of specific be shared. Your individual relationship and [email protected] lately. Questions that can create compatibility with the person; the physicalspaces that allow for the MARKETING REPRESENTATIVEsharing of things that feel setting you’re in; and the social Linda McAlistereither too outsized or context in which the conversationtoo minute for everyday is occurring are just three. And [email protected]. For example: sometimes, due to a combination ofIf I’ve had a moderately these factors, those kinds of specific OPERATIONS DIRECTORgood day at work and a questions can be unnecessary, Paulette Naylorfriend asked me, disingenuous or even inappropriate. [email protected]“How was work?” But often, we do long for these questions in our relationships. DISTRIBUTION MANAGER/I’d most likely say, Sometimes consciously. Sometimes SALES ADMINISTRATOR“It was good.” unconsciously. We long to be drawn Laurel Handforth out and asked questions that forceIf they asked, “What us to translate our tangly thoughts [email protected] the best thing that to another person, the thoughts thathappened at work today?” I’d have to think don’t fit anywhere except in spaces CONTRIBUTING WRITERSabout my day and begin to reflect, and I’d those who love you are able to create. Huda McGrawmost likely share something that wouldn’t have Sherris Rochellecome up otherwise. I wonder what questions the four speakers LaNatria Ellis for this year’s Fayetteville Ladies Power Lunch Kia YoungIf they asked, “At what point during work wish they’d be asked. I wonder what question Christina Arreolatoday did you feel most at peace?” the level of would create a space for Carole Boston Julia Moralesreflection required would go even deeper, and Weatherford, author and English professor and Margaret DicksonI’d likely share something that I hadn’t been February’s FLPL speaker, to share something she’s never considered. WOMEN’S VIEW MAGAZINE 208 ROWAN STREET FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 28301 PHONE: (910) 484-6200 Fax: (910) 484-9218 Interested in contributing to Women's View Magazine? Email: editor@upandcomingweekly. com or call (910) 484-6200 Is writing a gift you think Women’s View Magazine is by, for you can use to impact this and about Fayetteville women. community positively? Are Published by F&B Publications in you interested in covering local stories, causes or conjunction with Media Marketing organizations that matter Management. to Fayetteville? Consider contributing an article or All Rights Reserved. Reproduction pitching a story idea to or use of editorial or advertisement Women’s View Magazine. We want to elevate your without permission is strictly voices. Email leslie@ prohibited. upandcomingweekly.com for more information. Various vector source artwork created by © Freepik, © Vecteezy and © Pixabay.4 FEBRUARY 2018

THIS MONTH in and around Fayetteville TuEevsedryay Every2/16Wellness Tai Chi in the Saturday Stars and Constellations City Market at Lake Rim Park. 7-9 p.m. Stargaze Garden at the Fayetteville Area Transportation and learn about the constellations at Cape Fear Botanical and Local History Museum. and other celestial objects and the Garden. 10 a.m. $17. 9 a.m.-1 p.m. Locally grown produce Call 910-486-0221 and locally produced crafts. folklore behind them. Free. to register. Call 910-433-1457 to learn more. Call 910-433-1018 to register. 2/1-24 2/1-25Arts 2/1-9Sweet Tea Shakespeare “It Is Well with My Soul” “Seussical the Musical”presents “Songs for a New World: The Fayetteville Area Transportation and Local at Cape Fear Regional Theatre.A Musical by Jason Robert Brown” History Museum presents an exhibit that examines Features your favorite Dr. Seussat Holy Trinity Episcopal Church the history and artistic form in African-American characters brought to life withFeb. 1-4 and at Cape Fear cemeteries of Cumberland County. On display at the help of 2 Ring Circus. VisitBotanical Garden Feb. 8-9. Learn the Arts Council Fayetteville/Cumberland County, www.cfrt.org for tickets and2/2-17more at sweetteashakespeare.com. 2/3301 Hay St. Free. Call 910-323-1776 for details. 2/10information.“Venus in Fur” The Marquis Slam Fayetteville Symphony Orchestraat Gilbert Theater. A at the Arts Council features poets from North Carolinafunny, mysterious and and around the U.S., all competing to qualify in such presents “1867-2017: A 150-year celebration” at Seabrook Auditorium.erotic journey for the renowned competitions as Women of the Pre-concert talk with the “Music Nerd”whole audience. Call World Poetry Slam. Event runs 8-11 p.m.; at 6:45 p.m. Concert at 7:30 p.m.910-678-7186 for admission is $10. Call 910-323-1776 or visit Learn more attickets and information. www.fayettevillesymphony.org. facebook.com/TheMarquisSlam for details. Other 2/17 Events True to Yourself: A Black History Month Film Talk at J.W. Seabrook Auditorium. 7 p.m. Visit www.theartscouncil.com/true-yourself for tickets and information. 2/23 2/16,17 The 2018 Sandhills TRAXXAS Monster Truck Tour NC Go Red at the Crown. 7:30 p.m. Luncheon 2/25Visit www.crowncomplexnc.com/events for details. at The Metropolitan The Ultimate Bridal Showcase Room, 109 Green St. at Cape Fear Botanical Garden. Focus on the latest 11 a.m.-2 p.m. Go Red For Women advocates trends, find some inspiring ideas and get to know your potential wedding vendors. Noon-4 p.m. for more research Call 910-486-0221 to learn more. and swifter action for women's heart health. 2/8, 10, 22, 23, 24 Call 678-907-9841 to Fayetteville Marksmen hockey at the Crown. Visit www.marksmenhockey.com learn more. for tickets and information. FEBRUARY 2018 5

Oscar was born in Mexico City and has lived in Fayetteville since 2003. He owns a construction company, Arco Renovations.Ana was born in El Salvador and has lived in Fayetteville since 2004. She owns Fayetteville’s Bakery Cake and Coffee Shop and has run the business with Oscar since it opened last October. Oscar and Ana are the proud parents of Oscar Cruz Jr. (1) and Christopher (11).How did you HE: SHE:two meet?If your spouse were I met her in Sanford, North Carolina. I was I (met) him at a Latino night club in Sanford.a baked good or working as a security guard at a night club. I went there with my best friends. He was thedrink, what would She visited the club with a couple of friends, security guard in charge. He was so polite andhe or she be? so I approached her. At the end of the night, I nice to me. The rest is history. escorted her to her car – for her own safety – hahaha. Then I still escorted her … He could be a hot mocha … for dark, sweet She would be a caramel macchiato because and delicious. she is sweet, strong and unique (and hot – hehe).What's the best thing Watching her doing what she loves – greeting I think a business (is a) success if you haveabout running the bakery customers and doing things with passion. I beside you a person with the same passion andwith your spouse? really enjoy that part. love for (doing) what we do – like I do withWhat's one thing that I have jokes for almost anything, so pretty Oscar every day in the bakery.makes your spouse smile much every time that I open my mouth, I make I make him smile every time I let him know thatno matter what? her smile. he is my all, my partner in crime.What's one trait or value I think fairness. Fairness, no doubt.you and your spouse Firm. I'm in love with her because of the way Happy, enjoying our kids and maybehave in common? she is. So, I see us more in love than ever and sponsoring or fundraising something thatDescribe where you see succeeding at this bakery. supports our community/city.yourselves as a coupleone year from now.6 FEBRUARY 2018

HUDA MCGRAW FITNESSCampbell University Above: McGraw (R) and her longtime privatewomen’s tennis team tennis coach, Robbie Felton (L).Playing with a minimum of 12 credit hours per FEBRUARY 2018 7tennis at a semester. By the sophomore year, creditscollegiate must go toward a designated degree,level and by the junior year, a minimum 2.0 GPA is required for eligibility.P laying sports in high school is fairly Another difference between high common, but it's a big decision to school and collegiate tennis relates pursue sports in a university setting. to coaching. In high school, our team Fayetteville native Huda McGraw had only one coach. At Campbell weighs in on the difference between University, we have a head coach playing tennis at a high school versus and two full-time assistant coaches collegiate level. and are hiring a third. This allows for When my parents signed me up for more personalized instruction for all private tennis lessons at age 7, I did players. Also, in high school, we were not realize this sport would become only allowed to practice after school. such an important part of my life. In college, in addition to afternoon Once I began to play competitively and weekend scheduled practices, I in high school and started traveling am able to train with a coach between across the state and Southeastern classes when I have extra time. This U.S. playing United States Tennis helps to accelerate my development. Association tournaments, I decided that I wanted more out of tennis. I As the only American on the women’s knew I wanted to train hard enough to tennis team at Campbell, I have had play at the Division I collegiate level. the incredible opportunity to get to know amazing women from many different cultures. I also realize that competing successfully for athletic scholarships is often the only chance many students have to pursue an education here in the United States. As such, that is something I no longer take for granted.One significant difference between high There are so many benefits to playingschool and Division I college tennis is the tennis in college. Not only do I get torequired level of commitment. Collegiate improve daily, but I have built lifelongtennis has two seasons, fall and spring, friendships with people that I wouldwhile the high school season is only in have never met if I had not madethe fall. In high school, team practices the decision to play. Playing tennisusually lasted an hour-and-a-half, four for Campbell has made my collegedays per week, with no weight training experience exponentially better.and minimal conditioning. In college, we Huda McGraw went to Fayettevillepractice 20 hours a week, not including Academy for 11 years beforematches and travel time. Twice per transferring to Terry Sanford herweek, at 6:30 a.m., our team meets for freshman year of high school. In herstrength training in the weight room. high school tennis career, she wasFour to five days a week, we have 30 named an All-State player in singles inminutes of conditioning, on or off-court, her sophomore, junior and senior yearsdepending on the day. (2013-15). In doubles, she finished 3AWith this time commitment, it is critical State Runner-Up in her junior and seniorto balance tennis and classes. The seasons while playing in the No. 1National Collegiate Athletic Association position for the team. She now playshas strict guidelines for student-athletes tennis at Campbell University, wherein relation to grade point average, she is in her second year of pursuing astudent conduct and meeting major degree in finance.requirements to ensure student success.Each athlete must be a full-time student

SHERRIS ROCHELLE Executive director, Our P.L.A.C.E. NPO Cofounder, The Marquis Slam Spoken word artist/poetIt’s 4:45 p.m. on the first Saturday of to put your all into the performance As I'm introduced, the roomthe month, and like clockwork, the and “leave it on the stage” – meaning goes blank. It’s just me and thebutterflies are starting to stir around you should leave all emotions on the microphone. I walk to the stagein my stomach. The Marquis Slam, stage once the performance is done. confidently, center myself and allowa poetry competition, is happening It is a way to free yourself from the the words, my words, to flow freelytonight, and I feel like sharing. As I do weight you may be carrying. Spoken into the mic. Once the first line is out,my hair and prepare my outfit for the word is an escape and safe space. the room becomes visible again. I cannight, I run lines in my head. I want see people drawing in toward me. Myto ensure I know the poem I’m going I make it to the Arts Council of words are impacting this audience,to recite and that my performance Fayetteville/Cumberland County and a rush of excitement fills me.goes flawlessly. where The Marquis Slam is held, At this moment, I am free. Free to and the crowd is beginning to pour express my emotions. Free to tell myPoetry has played a huge part in my in. There’s food and a DJ playing story through spoken word withoutartistic expression. From an early age, a mixture of old- and new-school interruption. Free to be present. FreeI’ve had a love for words and the ability hits. The energy in the room is to be heard. Free to simply be me.to manipulate them to tell a story, electric, and the positive vibesmy story, without hesitation. Poetry flow freely. Poets are added to the As the last word falls from my lips,allows me to express myself in ways competition list, and the month's I exhale. I instantly feel lighter.I can’t comfortably do in my normal, featured poet has the full attention The audience shows its approvalday-to-day life. There are many venues of the audience. through applause and cheers. Thethat provide a platform for spoken judges hold up their scorecards, andword in Fayetteville. I co-created The Once the featured poet is done, the I don’t bother to look. My missionMarquis Slam in September 2012, and host, Enfinite, asks if the audience was to perform my poem flawlessly,since then, it has claimed every first is ready for the slam. They all cheer, and I was successful. No matter theSaturday of my time. and he says first we must have a outcome, I give myself a perfect 10. calibration poet – a sacrifice of sortsA poetry slam is a competition where to test out the judges and get them Every first Saturday, you can find mepoets read or recite their original warmed up for the task at hand. The at The Marquis Slam. Doors open atwork. These performances are then judges at this moment are the kings 7 p.m., with the show starting at 8 p.m.judged on a numerical scale of 1 to and queens of poetry. This is my cue; at the Arts Council of Fayetteville/10 by previously selected members I signed up for that slot tonight, and I Cumberland County, 301 Hay St.of the audience. As a poet, you want am ready.8 FEBRUARY 2018

LOCAL ARTIST Each year, the Marquis Slam team travels around the country to compete at regional and national levels. There have been five diverse teams of poets formed over the past five years, and all have been female-driven. The Marquis Slam team is currently 18th in the nation, making it the highest-ranked team in North Carolina. Once you have competed in one Marquis Slam, you are eligible to compete for a spot on the team. If you are interested in performing or joining the team, email [email protected]. Visit www. facebook.com/TheMarquisSlam or welcome2ourplace.org/all- project-list/marquis-slam/ to learn more.Beautiful's My Name 2015He calls me beautiful as if it's my name Drop my eyes slightly and grin hard to his Late nights followed by early morningsGently strokes my cheek every time he \"there they go agains\" Pillow talkmakes me smile The idea of him trying to keep and JoyDeclares he's gonna figure out how to preserve pieces of me for his raining days And most importantlyput my dimples in his pocket to pull out on confirm that I am more than a look His heartbeattough days I am a feeling My exhale to his inhaleThey please him His reminder of better days He literally takes my breath awaySet off fireworks in his eyes at the first Gentle kisses Allows it to fill his lungs in hope that oursight of them Summer breezes chests will rise and fall in unisonI can't help it and blush Relaxation Somehow merging us into one - Sherris Rochelle Rochelle (wearing white, third from right) poses with other members of last year’s Marquis Slam team. L to R: Ayinde \"A.P.E.\" Simpson, Ashlee Connors, Myra \"ProsperiSoul\" Clark, Kim \"DTermined\" McLean, Sherris Rochelle, Eean \"EnFinite\" Tyson (cofounder and host of the Marquis Slam), LesKisha \"Shaken Not Stirred\" Sandidge.Sherris Rochelle has been writing poetry since the age of 9. In 2011, she began to perform and share her work onstage. She co-foundedThe Marquis Slam in 2012. Her love for the arts led to the 2015 creation of Our P.L.A.C.E., a local, arts-based nonprofit committed toproviding opportunity, education, funding and resources to artists to impact the community. FEBRUARY 2018 9

FASHION I am still bumping along and looking forward to delivery and Valentine’s Day. Baby bump style tip: Wear a wrap dress with a great pair of pants. Dress – Shein Pants – Zara Shoes – No. 21 Earrings – H&M Bag – Gucci Photographer – Tim Ellis Follow LaNatria: Instagram: @Caribbean_cowgirl w w w.c a ri b b ea n c owg i r l .we e b l y.c o m10 FEBRUARY 2018

KIA YOUNG LOCAL BLOGGER livingrichblog.com Co-founder and author, Living Rich blog livingrichblog.com FLOWERS A bouquet of flowers isValentine’s night in nice – but also expected.with a lot of local love Consider non-traditional flowers, like those found inThe standard Valentine’s Day usually consists of tea. Winterbloom Tea is a gemflowers, candy, dinner and a movie. Sounds romantic of a tea shop, and it’s also in– until you consider that that the flowers will die, the downtown Fayetteville. Thecandy purchase only helped big retailers and all the owner, Josh, has extensiverestaurants and theaters will be overflowing with long knowledge and offers a widelines. You get where I'm going here. variety of teas from which toSo, what’s the solution? Create an incredibly romantic choose. For Valentine’s Day,Valentine’s night in. By staying home, you can focus he recommends pepperminton quality time and support local businesses. Added rose, serenity and staminabonus: parents will save money by not hiring a sitter. (no explanation needed).Here are my favorite ideas to add a healthy dose of#LoveLocal to your Valentine’s night in. UP THE ROMANCE FACTOR If you’d like to try a different kindDINNER of wine, stop by The Wine CaféValentine’s Day falls mid-week this year, so take a break on Hay Street. While you’re there,from cooking. You can still get a sit-down dinner experience hop next door to City Centerby ordering a Valentine’s Day meal prepared by celebrity Gallery & Books. CCGB has a greatChef Judy, owner of Let Me Cater To You. Chef Judy’s food is collection of classic literature andknown for being a local treasure of southern comfort. poetry, if that’s your thing.She hasn’t set her February 2018 Valentine’s Day menuyet, but she has confirmed she’ll be offering Valentine’s For unique gift ideas, stop byDay carry-out meals. Watch her Facebook page (www. LeClair’s General Store on Fortfacebook.com/LetMeCaterToYou/) closely for details. Bragg Road. My favorite gift pickSET THE MOOD in LeClair’s is the coffee mugs.You can’t have a romantic You can purchase one for onlydinner without candles. $15, but the best part is you leaveSouthern Elegance Candles are your mug on the wall. Your namehandcrafted soy candles created is written on your mug, andby a local military spouse. You it's there waiting for you whencan find them at Pressed - A you come back. This gift is likeCreative Space in downtown giving lots of coffee dates to yourFayetteville. Each candle pays significant other.homage to prominent cities inthe South, using familiar scents People have strong opinions about Valentine’s Day – someassociated with each region. love it, some hate it. When you focus on using that day toWhile you’re there, grab a really connect with the people you love, whether spouse,Valentine’s Day card. Pressed children or your best friends, it’s hard to not love it.has some of the funniest and Adding in a local flair just makes the occasion evensassiest cards around! more special.URL Links:Let Me Cater To You: www.letmecatertoyou.net Kia Young is probably at this very moment driving one of her threePressed - A Creative Space: http://pressednc.com kids to school, an appointment, sports or some other social activity.Winterbloom Tea: https://winterbloomtea.wixsite.com/website In between being a professional chauffeur that gets paid in kisses,The Wine Café: www.thewinecafeus.com hugs and good grades, she’s a military spouse, freelance writerCity Center Gallery & Books: www.citycentergallery.com and small-business owner.LeClair's General Store: www.leclairsgeneralstore.com She is also one half of the BFF dynamic duo behind the Living Rich blog. Along with Kelly Lewis, who is also a military spouse and lives in the Hampton Roads area, Young writes about being rich where it counts: family, relationships and small things that bring great joy. FEBRUARY 2018 11

LESLIE PYO Assistant Editor 2018 lineupThe Fayetteville Ladies Power Lunch is a quarterly Seating begins at 11:45 a.m. At noon, opening remarks arenetworking event where women in Fayetteville learn from, followed by lunch and the keynote speech. At 1:45 p.m.,empower and celebrate each other. Each lunch's keynote there are door prizes courtesy of every vendor, a 50-50speaker is a local woman who is making a difference in this raffle and closing remarks. The formal portion of thecommunity. The 2018 series kicks of Thursday, Feb. 8. The event concludes at 2 p.m., leaving an hour for continuedother 2018 lunches are May 10, Aug. 9 and Nov. 7. networking and conversation before the Power Lunch officially concludes at 3 p.m.Each Power Lunch opens at 10 a.m. with registration and Each FLPL takes place at the Ramada Plaza, 1707-Aan exclusive Shopportunity expo, featuring dozens of Owen Dr. Registration costs $35. Vendor tables andlocal vendors representing women-owned businesses. sponsorships are also available. To learn more or to register, visit www.FayettevilleLadiesPowerLunch.com Carole Boston Weatherford Leontyne Price, Dorothea Holiday;” “Voice of Freedom: was a publicist for the National Lange, Oprah Winfrey, Fannie Fannie Lou Hamer, Spirit of the Bar Association and corporate Lou Hamer, Harriet Tubman and Civil Rights Movement” and “The clients before her first book Michelle Obama. Her books Legendary Miss Lena Horne.” debuted in 1995. One of the have received three Caldecott Weatherford holds a master's leading poets and biographers Honors, two NAACP Image degree in publications writing for young people Awards, multiple Coretta Scott design from the University of today, Weatherford is the King Honors and the Boston Greensboro and a Master of New York Times best-selling Globe/Horn Book Honor. Fine Arts in creative writing author of more than 50 books. Her publication credits include from the University of North Many celebrate extraordinary “Moses: When Harriet Tubman Carolina, Greensboro. A Led Her People to Freedom;” Baltimore native, she has taught women such “You Can Fly: The Tuskegee English at Fayetteville State as Billie Airmen;” “Becoming Billie University since 2002. Holiday, Lena Horne, Pennink was born in Detroit, Design in 1974, she worked offices from Raleigh to Myrtle Michigan. Her father was for Smithboro Furniture before Beach. She also, with Huff and in the military, and she lived deciding to combine her design additional partners, owns NC in Kentucky, Oklahoma, work with a real estate career. HomeFront Mortgage and Key Japan and Germany before She opened Suzanne Barlow Title. Coldwell has been the arriving at Fort Bragg Realtors in 1975. In 2000, No. 1 office for its size in North in 1960. She’s lived in she merged her business with America four years running. Fayetteville ever since. Coldwell Banker Advantage. She has been married to Dr. After graduating She is currently a partner/owner Menno Pennink for 36 years. from The New York with Ralph Huff at Coldwell She has three children and School of Interior Banker Advantage, with three grandchildren.12 FEBRUARY 2018

COVER STORYChief Gina V. Hawkins was and went on to assist the newly Hawkins holds a Bachelorborn in Columbus, Ohio. Her formed police department in the of Science in criminal justicekeynote topic for the FLPL will city of Sandy Springs, Georgia, from Georgia State Universitybe “Stay true to yourself and as a commander. and a Master of Scienceyour purpose.” In 2013, Hawkins joined in management from JohnsHawkins joined the Fayetteville the Clayton County Police Hopkins University. She is aPolice Department in August Department as a deputy chief graduate of the FBI National2017 after nearly 29 years of of police where she presided Academy Associates Classexperience in law enforcement. at different times over both the 252 and was chosen to be aShe started her career in Operational Command and delegate in the prestigious 23rd1988 with the Atlanta Police the Support Service Command Georgia International Law of the department. This Enforcement Exchange, through Department in Georgia. provided her the experience of which she traveled to Israel She left her job as commanding every aspect of with other law enforcement APD’s assistant zone the CCPD. executives to study and evaluate commander in 2006 the Israeli police force.Now the president of Future Now, the company owns six She has also won OutstandingUnlimited Inc., Lisa Saleeby- McDonald’s restaurants, all in Woman Entrepreneur of thePowell started working at the Cumberland County, employing year from Methodist University’sbusiness’s first McDonald’s more than 300 people. She Reeves School of Business.franchise restaurant in 1982, is joined by her husband, Jon,when her parents switched and sons David and Colt, who In this community, she serves onfrom building restaurants to both plan to be third generation Methodist University’s Board ofowning one. After attending McDonald’s owners/operators. Visitors and is involved with manya meeting and seeing the organizations, including Ronaldenergy in a room filled with Saleeby-Powell has won several McDonald House Charities,entrepreneurs, she decided civic and business awards, Hope Mills Kiwanis Club, The including the Regional People Bike Man Charity, Patriot Hunts, she wanted to own Award from McDonald’s OperationInAsMuch, Village a McDonald’s and for “developing people and Baptist Church and Village worked toward that leveraging their strengths.” Christian Academy. goal for 10 years.The FLPL is run by an advisory board consisting of local Premier Cardiovascular Center; and Joan Richter, J&Jbusinesswomen: Jessie Cook, New Horizons of Carolinas; Desktop Publishing.Cely Graham, BizCard Xpress; Alison Green, Alison GreenAccounting & Taxation, LLC; Peggy Manning, Jewels by \"Each of our speakers this year offer a unique voice andPark Lane; Linda McAlister, Up & Coming Weekly; Jill story about her female drive and perseverance in acquiringMerrill and Wanda Chavis, Picture of Health Thermograms; her dreams,” Naylor said. “Each exemplifies what thisPaulette Naylor, F&B Publications; Chi Chi Okoroafor, organization is all about.\" FEBRUARY 2018 13

Did you know? Though certain elements of modern-day Valentine’s Day celebrations can be traced back to the 14th century, chocolate is not one of them. In his 1382 poem “Parlement of Foules,” English poet Geoffrey Chaucer became the first to connect romance with St. Valentine’s Day. Over the next several centuries, the day’s connection to romance only grew stronger, and by the Victorian era in England, it was not uncommon for lovers to profess their affections through songs, poetry and even the giving of roses as gifts. During the Victorian era, British chocolate manufacturer Richard Cadbury began searching for ways to use the cocoa butter his company was extracting during the production of their drinking chocolate. In 1861, Cadbury decided to produce edible chocolates, which he even sold and marketed in heart-shaped boxes decorated with images of Cupid and rosebuds. It would be a few more decades before edible chocolates caught on in the United States, where they remain a must-have item for many Valentine’s Day celebrants more than 150 years after Cadbury first began selling them.14 FEBRUARY 2018

CHRISTINA ARREOLA Contributing Writer the gap between herself shows him feeling trapped and her parents by better in their home. However, understanding their when Bui flips back in time, stories and where her we see the trials her father family comes from. She faced. He barely missed distills years of history execution at the hands and emotion into small of General Nguyễn Ngọc illustrated panels across Loan, the same general more than 300 pages, each from the infamous “Saigon one powerful and detailed. Execution” photograph. We The Bui family’s journey learn of her father rescuing is the lens of distillation, a boat of refugees while starting with Bui’s parents' crossing the ocean. He lives in pre-war Vietnam. slowly is portrayed as more It continues into the long, empathetic in the end – aIt took Thi Bui, a former destructive Vietnam War conscious decision made by high school teacher, 12 that pitted individuals and Bui, who wanted to show the years to get the story she villages against each other sides of her father that may and brought horrific losses not have disappeared hadwanted to tell where it needed from French and American he not faced the obstaclesto be. At 42, she’s published involvement, and finally into he did. her family’s life as refugeesher first graphic novel,“The Best We Could Do.” It in Malaysia and in the Told against the backdropillustrates her family’s life, United States as everyone of an often-disregarded sidetheir refugee journey to the truly did the best they of the Vietnam War, “TheUnited States after the fall of could do to forge new lives Best We Could Do” givesSouth Vietnam in the 1970s, and raise a family against five names and faces – Thiand her present life as she difficult odds. Bui, her parents and herbuilds her own Vietnamese- siblings – to the thousands ofAmerican family. At first glance, the gentle refugees that sought asylum illustrations show an in neighboring countries.Before she began her overwhelmed mother It’s difficult to ignore thememoir, Bui had zero working a $3-an-hour obvious consequences ofexperience as a comic artist. assembly-line job and an war and how much of whatInterested in compiling the unemployed father, angry she describes mirrors the and grumpy. Bui, however, Syrian refugee crisis of today.oral history she grew uphearing, the project began as takes time to detail thea collection for her master’s larger picture of her parents' “The Best We Could Do”thesis. The novel delves into past, revealing a well- was a Goodreads Choicethe relationships between educated, French-speaking Award Nominee for Graphicparents and children, across mother who wanted to be a Novels and Comics and aborders and generations. doctor and a father who was Reading Women Award for abandoned by his parents. Nonfiction. Readers will beJumping between the www.thibui.com Bui shows two people who educated and enlightened as FEBRUARY 2018 15past and present – Bui iscurrently pregnant with her witnessed executions and they take in each page. violent uprisings as warson – she illustrates and unfolded around them.narrates the continuouseffects war can have onfamilies, even years after the Bui’s father is one of thefact. She relays these stories more complex charactersin order of how she received in this memoir. Bui seeks tothem instead of the order in explore him as the person he was and had becomewhich they happened. and not just the father sheIn this work, as Bui embarks remembered growing up – a father, she says, who was aon her own journey of scared man. She paints himmotherhood for the first as cold and hardened. Shetime, she seeks to close

STEPHANIE CRIDER NWEHAART'S US? EditorChagall exhibit at Methodist University’sDavid McCune International Art GalleryFirst-class art exhibits are not rare in Fayetteville – if you know where to look. Opening Feb. 8 at Methodist world-renowned museums and churches, including the “Palais University’s David McCune International Art Gallery, Garnier” (the Opera of Paris); the Art Institute of Chicago; “Chagall: The Story of Exodus” is on display through April 21. Chase Tower Plaza of downtown Chicago; the Metropoli- The exhibit features lithographs by Marc Chagall that tell the tan Opera; the Metz Cathedral; Notre-Dame de Reims; the story of Exodus. Fraumünsterabbey in Zürich, Switzerland; the Church of St. Stephan in Mainz, Germany; and the Biblical Message Museum Marc Zakharovich Chagall, born Moishe Zakharovich Shagal, in Nice, France, which Chagall helped to design, among others. combined elements of cubism, symbolism and fauvism, leading to surrealism. Chagall is identified with the cubism-expressionism There will be an opening reception at the David McCune movement. He was born in July of 1887 in present-day Belarus, International Art Gallery Feb. 8 from 6:30-8:30 p.m. Gallery which was part of the Russian Empire at the time. As an artist, hours are Tuesday-Friday, 11 a.m.-5 p.m., and Saturday, Chagall worked in many formats and mediums, including paint- noon-4 p.m. Docent tours are also available and must be ing, illustrating, stained glass, stage sets, tapestries and prints. scheduled a week in advance. To schedule a docent tour, call 910-630-7107.Chagall was influenced by his Russian and French upbring- Learn more about the David McCune Gallery ating and his Jewish heritage. His works are on display in many www.davidmccunegallery.org.16 FEBRUARY 2018

WHAT'S FARFROM US?Whales & Join UsWildlife toursin Virginia Beach 2018 GalleryLooking to enjoy some wildlife this winter? The Events Virginia Aquarium offers whale and dolphin tours every week, Wednesday-Sunday, through April 10thMarch 4. Visitors get more than a peek at nature’s most July 10thmajestic mammals, though. Each tour is a learning ex- October 9thperience as well as an information-gathering journey. FEBRUARY 2018 17Tours last between 2 and 2 1/2 hours. Humpbackwhales, bottlenose dolphins, seals, fin whales, minkewhales, harbor porpoises and harbor seals, as wellas seabirds and waterfowl, are common sights onthese tours.Responsible viewing, research and conservation cometogether with each tour, showcasing the wonders ofnature and the wealth of information gathered overdecades of research. Visitors will learn about the ma-rine environment and animal behaviors.The trips depart from the Virginia Aquarium’s privatedock. A portion of the ticket proceeds goes to conser-vation initiatives like rescue and rehabilitation efforts.For more information and to purchase tickets, visitwww.virginiaaquarium.com/learn/boat-trips.

APRIL'S KITCHEN APRIL PERTONOwner of GRACE ENTERPRISEFind more delicious recipes atcooking4fitness.com. Ingredients: Directions: • 1 pound Italian sausage, rolled into 3/4- 1. In a large skillet, brown the mini sausage balls teaspoon-sized balls until cooked through, 5-7 minutes. Drain off the • 1 tablespoon olive oil grease and place the sausage balls on a plate • 1 small onion, diced lined with paper towels. • 3 cloves garlic, minced 2. In a large pot, heat the olive oil over medium- • 2 red bell peppers, diced high heat. Add the onion and cook until tender, • 1 bay leaf 3-4 minutes. Stir in the garlic and cook for • 1/8 teaspoon red pepper flakes 2 minutes. Stir in the bell peppers, bay leaf and • 8 cups vegetable or chicken broth red pepper flakes. Cook until peppers are soft, • 2 (15-ounce) cans diced tomatoes about 3 minutes. • 1 1/2 cups chopped kale 3. Stir in the broth, tomatoes and kale. Add the • 2 cups cheese tortellini (fresh or frozen) cheese tortellini and cook until the pasta is • 1/4 cup chopped fresh basil tender, 7-8 minutes. Stir in the fresh basil and • Salt and black pepper to taste season with salt and pepper to taste. Stir in the mini sausage balls and heat until warm. Remove18 FEBRUARY 2018 the bay leaf and serve. You can make this soup vegetarian by using vegetable broth and omitting the sausage.

Love is at the For centuries, poets have forefront of couples’ espoused the virtues of love, while minds during the songwriters often look to love and month of February, heartache as their subject matter. thanks in large part It’s easy to overlook that the heart Valentine’s Day. and the brain are parts of the body when considering the effects of being in love. While a large part of the reactions that occur are emotional in nature, being in love also has a profound physical effect on the body. Scientists have studied chemicals that flood the brain when love is in the air, noting that some can affect personal attachment, pleasure and well-being. There are reasons why pulses race and palms sweat when people are in love. Here are some chemical players in the love equation.D o p a m i n e : Dopamine is the brain’s pleasure Ox y t o c i n : kissing, further revving up chemical and is released during intimate feelings. pleasurable activities. When one falls in love, he or Oxytocin is known as the “love hormone,” according she feels elated and energetic because of the release of to University of Birmingham researchers. Oxytocin, dopamine. Biological anthropologists say the release of researchers found, produces some of the same dopamine can lead to intense focus on the object of one’s symptoms of indulging in alcohol. These include desire and influence goal-oriented behavior. feeling less inhibited, an increased willingness to take risks and calmness. Oxytocin also helps couplesAdrenaline & These chemical bond by promoting intimacy, according to research messengers cause associates at Rutgers University.norepinephrine: anxiety to rise and the P h e ro m o n e s : Although they are only fight or flight response believed, and not proven, to play a part in romantic attraction, pheromones do garnerto kick in. These substances also contribute to a racing significant attention. Some theorize these chemical messengers can change body chemistry so that those inheart and sweaty hands. Butterflies in the stomach love can actually smell their romantic partners. It may help explain why women may wear their partner’s shirt toand nervousness are subtle clues that there is genuine bed or a man may hold on to a scarf or a pillow his lover has used.attraction for a person. FEBRUARY 2018 19Te s t o s t e ro n e : Testosterone is largely considered a male hormone, but it is present in females as well. Testosterone rises during romantic love, and it can increase sexual desire in a partner. Research suggests that testosterone may be present in male saliva and transferred to a partner through

JULIA MORALES Program coordinator, Second Harvest Food BankSFEOCOONDD HBAARVNESKTSoutheast North CarolinaThe goal of Second Harvest Food year evaluation, many participating Pantry team. My \"pantry family,\" DrewBank’s Mobile Pantry is to provide a teachers and parents reported that Daniels and Darryl Monroe, serve vitalsource of monthly food and nutrition this supplemental food source made roles in our success. Driving, loading,to the families of school-aged children a huge difference in the recipient stocking, distributing, being first-most in need. It’s our team’s quest to families’ day-to-day lives by relieving responders and everything in betweencreatively combat hunger. With the stress, increasing parent participation – they cover it all.help of school officials, we get the and providing access to healthy,word out to families that may have nutritious foods. The Mobile Pantry distribution is madeto choose between buying food and possible by support from the Women’spaying their rent or utilities. The In a program evaluation, school Giving Circle of Cumberland County,Mobile Pantry helps us eliminate the officials reported that parent a division of Cumberland Communitytransportation barriers families face involvement has improved since Foundation, Inc. The combinedby going into to the community and Mobile Pantry distributions began donations have fueled the funding formeeting families where they are, may and that the opportunity to interface this initiative for the 2016-17 schoolit be schools, churches or parking lots. with parents creates a win-win year. SHFB also received a second fund situation. Many times, parents ask allocation for the 2017-18 school year.To maximize its reach, SHFB how they can help and what othercustomizes unique schedules for each services are available. SHFB is dedicated to the fight toschool so that its services are available end hunger. For a tour of SHFB oron Parent-Teacher Nights and at after- I am fortunate to be part of an volunteer information, email me atschool programs. Based on an end-of- energized and passionate Mobile [email protected] FEBRUARY 2018

B.U.G.S. Between Us Girls A Professional Business Networking Organization for WomenSECOND HARVEST FOOD BANK Join Us!406 Deep Creek Rd., Fayetteville, North Carolina910-485-6923 Meets Every Tuesday 8:30 - 9:30AM www.facebook.com/BUGSNCSecond Harvest Food Bank of Southeast North Carolina, for more information.a division of Action Pathways, Inc., is a nonprofit fooddistribution center committed to helping charitable FEBRUARY 2018 21agencies and faith-based organizations provide emergencyfood assistance to the hungry and underserved in southeastNorth Carolina. It was founded in 1985. Morales is in hersixth year of working with SHFB and oversees its MobilePantry, volunteer and Back Pack programs.

MARGARET DICKSON LAST VIEW Contributing writer The Year of WomenL to R: Ilhan Omar, America’s first Somali-American Muslim woman legislator; Kathy Tran, the first Asian-American woman elected to the Virginia House ofDelegates; Vi Lyles, the first African-American woman mayor of Charlotte, North Carolina. These women are just a few of many who are changing hundreds ofyears of the male-dominated status quo in America. More than a few Americans and people elsewhere in the world is also fueled by the election of a president who braggedexpected 2017 to be the Year of the Woman, or more specifically, openly about groping women, which in turn led to the #MeToothe Year of One Particular Woman – Hillary Clinton. That did not movement. Famous and powerful women, and others whohappen, as we all know, proving that America is not quite ready lead more private lives, have stepped forward to report sexualfor a woman president. We are apparently ready, though, for harassment and abuse, some of it criminal, toppling men fromwomen leaders in other high places. Writing for The Washington high places in politics, media, business, and even restaurantPost, Petula Dvorak pointed to three new women U.S. senators, kitchens. At times, it has felt like a tsunami of men tumbling headthe first woman to head a major Unified Combatant Command, over heels, a phenomenon political commentator and humoristthe first woman NFL coach, and the first woman depicted on U.S. Celia Rivenbark describes as “raining men.”currency, all of which came to fruition in 2017. It is true that the women energized to run for elective office So, there is progress. and even the millions of women marching last year are but a What is more, 2018 is shaping up not as the Year of the small fraction of the 154 million plus women in the United States.Woman, but the Year of Women. The Women’s March a year Most women have done neither of those things, but make noago in Washington, D.C., and other cities across the nation mistake. Women are watching the actions and achievementsbrought millions of women together to mourn a loss and to of their sisters, and they are nursing their own stories of gendercelebrate what will surely come in future years. It was a historical inequities and worse. They are watching and cheering,moment filled with hope and energy. It was also a moment that sometimes silently, advances they see that will benefit themselves,cannot be duplicated, though women’s marches around the their daughters and others in general.country occurred again this January. That was then, though, and this is now, and the difference is a It shocks me every time I think about it to realize that my ownyear in which women of all partisan stripes declared they were mother was born into a country, the United States, that did notrunning for public offices, from the U.S. Senate and governorships yet allow women to vote. That baby girl grew into a woman whodown to local school boards. Some of those women were elected voted at every opportunity, as do her two daughters. Hillaryin 2017, and some will be on ballots in 2018. Clinton did not become president for many reasons – not only What we are seeing is women demanding seats at decision- her gender – but almost a century after American women got themaking tables and voters deciding women candidates are often vote, Clinton did run on a major party ticket and came close tomore trustworthy than men who have jealously guarded the becoming the leader of the free world.status quo for not just decades but centuries. Women make up51 percent of the American population, and millions of those The bottom line here is that some women are more capablewomen have decided we do not like the way we have been than men in almost every field or endeavor, and some are not.treated in oh-so-many ways. Women are tired of being shut out, yes, but feminine activism What the Year of Women is about is leveling the field so that the most capable person rises to the top and so that power in public and in private is not used selectively based on gender. If nothing else, 2018 is going to be an interesting, energizing and profoundly hopeful time to be an American woman.This editorial was originally published in the Jan. 10, 2018, issue of Up & Coming Weekly.22 FEBRUARY 2018

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