Women's View Magazine July 2022

VOLUME 16 | ISSUE 7 JULY | 2022 Inspiring, educating, empowering and celebrating women in our community MAGAZINE More inside: Books for Plating and Water Summer at Meet the Beach Putting Up Aerobics the Shore Kalli Summer Ziegler

Close Letter from the Editor VOLUME 16 ISSUE 7 A re you a girl of summer? PUBLISHER Maybe you are a carefree Bill Bowman, F & B Publications sun-lover who soaks up [email protected] the rays with the warmth of the season. Or, perhaps, outdoor EDITOR enthusiast is more your moniker Crissy Neville — a gardener, naturalist or [email protected] backyard entertainer who takes advantage of summer’s longer PRODUCTION MANAGER/ days and enjoy-me-while-you-can GRAPHIC DESIGNER culture. Are you a goer and doer Courtney Sapp-Scott who plans and looks forward to the family vacations, beach trips, [email protected] campouts and cookouts? With a page turn of the calendar, summer OPERATIONS DIRECTOR arrives, swimming pools open Paulette Naylor and the sweet corn ripens, all on nearly the same day. [email protected] I am a girl of summer. Retired and blueberry pie, freeze and MARKETING REPRESENTATIVE from the classroom three years can, make pickles, fry okra, hang Linda McAlister now, I still have my favorite clothes on the line. And what’s “teacher” pillow on my bedroom more, I celebrate our country’s [email protected] chair. The gift from my mom, who birth, my wedding anniversary — 35 knew me well, reads, “The Three years this August — and savor all DISTRIBUTION DIRECTOR/ Best Things about Teaching: June, the summer I can. Women’s View SALES ADMINISTRATOR July and August.” Magazine July 2022 is a salute to all Laurel Handforth Long ago summer go-tos were the girls of summer, just like me. White Lake, Carolina Beach and [email protected] The Fayetteville Elk’s Lodge. Nowadays, it’s a sailboat on JULY CONTRIBUTORS Kerr Lake. While the vistas have Allison Hurley changed, the rituals have not. Every Kalin Williams summer, without fail, I plant peas Lisa H. Thomas and beans and a garden chock- Mary Miller full of goodness, grow zinnias of Kellie Mennes every color, make peach ice cream Karen Hartman Lynne Smith Are you interested in writing? Consider contributing an article or pitching a story idea to WVM. We want to elevate your voice. For more information, email Caroline Dunham McLeod 2 | J U [email protected]. Be sure to like us and leave comments Taylor Dunham on our Facebook page. Victoria Hardin Kathy Surles Jones 2 | J U LY 2 0 2 2 Cynthia Ross Crissy Neville WOMEN'S VIEW MAGAZINE 208 ROWAN ST. FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 28301 PHONE: 910-484-6200 FAX: 910-484-9218 Women’s View Magazine is for, by and about women in Cumberland County. Published by F&B Publications in conjunction with Media Marketing Management. ©2022 by F&B Publications, Inc. All rights reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or advertisement without permission is strictly prohibited. Various vector sources credited to © Freepik and © Vecteezy. Association of Community Publishers

4 6 InsideJuly 4 READ AND RELAX Get the scoop on some great summer reads in Alison Hurley’s quarterly book review, just in time for your beach vacation. 10 6 FLAVORS TO SAVOR Abundance of Flavor food blogger Kalin Williams takes full advantage of the flavors and foods of the season with this month’s shared recipes. 10 GOT GRANDKIDS? Contributor Mary Miller reflects on the incredible summer memories she and her husband have made by hosting her grandkids to “Granny Camp” each year. 12 12 LAKE LOVERS If you are a fan of fresh water, you will enjoy reading the reflections of two local women whose family lake retreats are steeped in tradition. 15 SUMMERTIME BLUES You may have heard of the wintertime blues, also known as seasonal depression, but the condition affects many in the summer months, too. 15 16 16 A SEASON FOR EVERYTHING Faith-based writer Lynne Smith writes that God has a way of making all things beautiful, in due season. 18 Q&A WITH KALLI ZIEGLER After a successful career in real estate and a life full of adventure, local woman Kalli Ziegler is onto her next challenge: writing her memoirs. 18 20 SACRIFICIAL SUMMERS Linden triplets Caroline, Taylor and Christopher Dunham spent three out of four college summers working in summer missions. The sisters share their “why.” 22 LIFE'S A BEACH Many girls of summer live their best lives beach-bound each year. Two local women give us a peek into their special home-away-from- home havens. 2420 22 GET WET, GET FIT Water aerobics is a fun and cool way to work out, practice wellness and beat the heat in the summertime. 26 PRESERVING THE HARVEST WVM editor Crissy Neville passes on information on how to preserve your garden’s goodness through food preservation methods. 24 26 2 0 2 2 J U LY | 3

Books Beach for the Summer Reads By Alison Hurley \" What makes a book a “beach” read? For me, it’s one that as soon as I start reading, I don’t want to stop. It’s a book \" that makes me justify spending all day immersed in a story and not wanting it to end. I hope you are able to take some summertime to sit back, relax and enjoy a good book — maybe one of my recommended reads! Book Lovers as a shark for her ruthless work by Emily Henry ethic. Her younger sister convinces “That’s life. You’re always making her to take a few weeks of vacation to decisions, taking paths that lead you Sunshine Falls (set here in NC, right away from the rest before you can outside of Asheville) where she keeps see where they end. Maybe that’s why running into a book editor from we as a species love stories so much. the city named Charlie. One of my All those chances for do-overs, favorite parts of the book is the witty opportunities to live the lives we’ll and often sarcastic banter between never have.” the two characters. As a librarian, I love books, especially But there’s much more to this story books about books! I’ve always been than just the small-town trope fascinated by the writing process romance. It’s about self-love, being and how authors come up with true to yourself and having the their ideas and transform them into courage to accept big life changes amazing novels. Nora is a literary and move forward. P.S. If you’re like agent living in New York City, known me, pack a few tissues in your beach bag with this one! Alison Hurley has been an educator for over 18 years, serving as an information specialist, media coordinator, gifted education consultant and regular classroom teacher. A Fayetteville resident, she is married with two children. 4 | J U LY 2 0 2 2

The Club indulged, all without cell phones and by Ellery Lloyd the prying eyes of the media. “We all have versions of ourselves The owners of Home are wealthy we can bear to look at, versions we brothers Ned and Adam Groome who prepare for the world’s consumption, appear to have it all. As the newest that we hope will make ourselves Home franchise opens in England, loved, allow us to be forgiven. Jess, the new head of housekeeping; Versions of our real selves that allow Nikki, Ned’s personal assistant; us to live with the things we have and Annie, head of membership; done.” narrate the story. I loved the social Centered around an exclusive, commentary of the book as it relates members-only association, The to celebrities and the ways they are Club takes readers into the dark treated and treat others. world of celebrity life and the This is a whodunit with major twists secrets surrounding world-famous and bombshells which made it hard individuals. Home is a members-only to put down! P.S. Ellery Lloyd is a club for the rich and famous, who pseudonym for the spouses writing visit Home franchises all over the team of Collette Lyons and Paul world. There they can indulge and be Vlitos. I hope they keep writing! The Seven Husbands seven times. As Evelyn starts to of Evelyn Hugo reveal her story to Monique, you by Taylor Jenkins Reid learn about each of the husbands, and the secret that Evelyn wants to “When you're given an opportunity reveal to the world. to change your life, be ready to do Many great themes exist in this whatever it takes to make it happen. book — that life isn't perfect, that The world doesn't give things, you people are more than just one thing, take things.” that relationships are complicated, the power of forgiveness and Monique is working for Vivant, reinvention, the idea of family, loss a media company, when she is and accepting the choices of others. requested to interview Evelyn Hugo, a famous movie actress. Evelyn, who (P.S. I went into this book completely has refused to give interviews for blind, and it was so worth it!) years, is famous for many things, including having been married The Maid At this same time, she is beginning to make friends for the first time in her by Nita Prose life. A suspenseful death, unusual new “My truth is not the same as yours friends, cops and interrogation at the because we don’t experience police station begin to change her life. life in the same way.” What, and who is “normal”? How do you Molly is a maid at a luxury hotel, a job interact with someone who is “odd” or she not only loves, but one at which she “different\"? excels. Right from the beginning, it is clear that she is unique and aware that I really loved the character development she does not fit into a “normal” social in this book and the chance to look world. While not formally diagnosed, through the lens of someone so she is on the autistic spectrum. She different than myself. has always lived with her beloved P.S. As someone who has taught many grandmother, and nine months after high-functioning autistic children, it was her grandmother's death, she finds a so interesting to see how they might see body in one of the hotel rooms. the world as an adult. 2 0 2 2 J U LY | 5

The Flavors of Summer By Kalin Williams We love to savor summer and enjoy every minute we can. The sentiment is the same for the flavors of summer — from grilled food favorites to plentiful produce. GRILLED HAWAIIAN Instructions SRIRACHA Instructions CHICKEN KEBABS Preheat the oven to 350 GRILLED Preheat the grill to Serves: 3-4 degrees Fahrenheit. VEGGIE KEBABS medium-high. Heat a saucepan over Brighten up your mood with medium heat. Serves: 4 Chop the red pepper, Grilled Hawaiian Chicken Combine the soy sauce, zucchini and red onion into Kebabs. Pineapple’s bright pineapple juice, sesame Fire up the grill and feast large chunks. Slice large bursts of tropical flavor oil, honey, garlic and red on these Sriracha Grilled mushrooms in half. pair flawlessly with various pepper flakes. Veggie Kebabs! Crisp veggies and marinated Simmer until thick, about 5 vegetables are coated in a Place the vegetables into chicken stacked high on minutes. sriracha-based marinade a plastic storage bag. Pour skewers. Bring the taste of Set aside to cool. that packs a little heat and in sriracha and olive oil and the island to your home with For at least 30 minutes, a lot of incredible flavors, all shake the bag until evenly this easy recipe the entire soak wooden skewers in charred over open flames distributed. Let sit for 30 family will love water (if using) and soak on the grill. minutes to an hour. the chicken in half of the Ingredients sauce. Reserve the other Ingredients Thread the vegetables onto 1/3 cup soy sauce half. 1 red pepper four long, wooden skewers, 1/4 cup pineapple juice Toss the vegetables in 1 zucchini alternating between 1/4 cup honey olive oil. ½ red onion different ingredients. 1 tablespoon sesame oil 8 oz mushrooms Sprinkle with a dash of salt. 3-4 cloves garlic diced small Thread chicken, pineapple, 4 tablespoons sriracha 2 tablespoons red pepper and vegetables on skewers. 4 tablespoons olive oil Cook 2-4 minutes per side flakes Cook for 5 minutes. Dash of salt or until the edges are lightly 2 chicken breasts, cubed Flip, drizzle the reserved charred, rotating to ensure 1-2 bell peppers 1-inch pieces sauce and continue all sides are cooked. Serve 1/2 red onion 1-inch pieces cooking for 5 minutes or immediately. 16-ounces mushrooms (1 until the chicken is cooked package) through and has an 16-ounces pineapple (1/2 internal temperature of 165 fresh pineapple, cut into degrees Fahrenheit. 1-inch pieces) 2 tablespoons olive oil Through her food blog, Abundance of Flavor, Kalin Williams loves encouraging others in the kitchen to step out of their comfort zones and try something new. A Fayetteville native now living in Chapel Hill, she loves trying new restaurants and exploring different cuisines. Connect with her and find recipes and cooking tips at AbundanceofFlavor.com. 6 | J U LY 2 0 2 2

MANGO CHILE CHICKEN 2 garlic cloves dash of salt and pepper Serves: 4 4 chicken breasts Mango Chile Chicken is a Thai- Instructions inspired dish bursting with sweet In a blender, combine all ingredients and tangy flavors. Juicy grilled except the chicken breasts. chicken is first marinated in a chile- lime-and-mango-based sauce that Use half of the mango sauce to cover will have you licking your fingers the chicken breasts and marinate for clean. If you’re looking for a simple at least 1 hour. Reserve the remaining weeknight meal to spice up your mango sauce. routine, look no further. Grill chicken over medium-high Ingredients heat for about 4-5 minutes per side 1 mango, cubed or until the internal temperature ¼ cup orange juice reaches 165 degrees Fahrenheit. ¼ cup lime juice 2 tablespoons sambal oelek Serve over rice and baste with ¼ cup olive oil additional sauce. 2 tablespoon honey MIXED BERRY CAST In a medium-sized cast-iron skillet, IRON COBBLER toss berries with sugar, flour, cornstarch, lemon juice, and salt. Serves: 8 Mixed Berry Cast Iron Cobbler Stir until mixed and spread flat in the deserves a spot on the table at your skillet. Set aside. next cookout! With a homemade lattice crust and an assortment of Lattice Crust ripe berries, this cast iron cobbler is Using a food processor, pulse flour, the picture-perfect dish to show off salt, sugar and cold butter. If the your baking skills. Indulge the whole dough is very dry and crumbly, add family on a hot, summer day with the water and continue pulsing. this dessert that’s sure to please, prepared on the grill or in the oven. Heavily grease two large pieces of wax paper. Place the dough between Ingredients both pieces of wax paper and flatten. Berry Filling 5 cups mixed berries (raspberries, Set on a large plate or baking pan blueberries, blackberries) and let chill in the fridge for 10-15 ½ cup sugar minutes. ⅓ cup flour 1 tablespoon cornstarch Remove from the fridge and flatten 1 tablespoon lemon juice into a large circle with a rolling pin. dash of salt Using a pizza cutter, cut the dough into wide strips. Return to the fridge Lattice Crust for 10 minutes to chill. 1 heaping cup flour ½ teaspoon salt Place the dough strips in a lattice 2 tablespoons sugar pattern across the top of the berry ½ cup butter, cut into 1-inch pieces mixture. Brush the crust with egg (1 stick) wash. 3 tablespoons cold water 1 egg + 1 tbsp water mixed for Cover and cook for 20-30 minutes or egg wash until the crust is cooked through and the filling is bubbling. Serve with ice Instructions cream or whipped cream. Berry Filling Preheat the grill to 350 degrees Fahrenheit. 2 0 2 2 J U LY | 7

Who’s Got the Summertime Blues? W hen Alan Jackson crooned, “Ain’t No Cure for the A Staff Report Summertime Blues,” little did he know he was or summer, such as a death or traumatic injury, can striking a nerve with approximately one out of trigger feelings of depression and anxiety that counter every 10 people. And, women four times more so the season’s expectations. than men. Understanding that reverse SAD is a real thing and The arrival of autumn and winter can herald a period recognized by those in the mental health profession of reduced feelings of vitality and happiness for some can be a comfort to sufferers who realize it is not just people. Known as seasonal affective disorder, or SAD, their imagination. this condition produces a range of symptoms from SAD is best known as a major depressive disorder depression to anxiety to oversleeping when the cooler affecting about 5% of Americans during the winter temps usher in. However, many may be surprised months. When days are short, nights are long and cold, to know that a similar phenomenon can occur when wet weather keeps people indoors, the body produces people are supposed to be recharged and ready to take less vitamin D, the so-called “sunshine vitamin,” whose on the world. deficiency has been shown to affect metabolism and Data published in Psychology Today reports that many mood. people suffer from something similar to SAD in the Some evidence suggests that too much sunlight in the spring or summer. Those who actually dread the hot, warm months disrupts the body’s circadian rhythms. lazy summertime days may be suffering from the Too much sun can reduce the body’s production of flipside of SAD, dubbed the “summertime blues,” a melatonin, which can wreak havoc on the sleep-wake condition that can lead to restlessness, poor appetite, cycle. irritability and weight loss, among other symptoms. Whether SAD occurs in the winter or summer months, Some doctors think this form of depression can be the depression — which can last for weeks or months a reaction to higher heat and humidity, noting that — typically lifts and sufferers experience normal their patients have benefited from traveling to a cooler moods for the rest of the year. locale when the condition sets in. While even fewer people are thought to be similarly John Sharp, a Harvard psychiatrist and author of depressed in summer, health professionals The Emotional Calendar, has studied the seasons recommend sufferers to be proactive in helping and mental health. He said that, for those who suffer themselves or seeking help. Recommendations for from depression, the expectations of spending treatment include eating well, exercising, connecting time outdoors or resuming social calendars with with friends and others, getting enough sleep and people now that the weather has warmed could be seeking professional help if symptoms persist. challenging. For others, a specific event in the spring 8 | J U LY 2 0 2 2

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Granny freely was great. They spent hours with our hose pipe, Camp which came from a good rock well, in a special place that Papa had designated in his garden in the dirt and OBy Mary Miller mud. The kids were landscapers, dirt bike riders and ne magical week each summer, our home muddy lovers at our home setting. No one told them not in Cedar Creek became a playground for to get dirty; they were allowed. When a light summer grandkids and us, their grandparents. We called shower came, the “grands” always enjoyed running and it Granny Camp even though our grandparent names playing in the rain, also a time when they were allowed are May May and Papa; Granny Camp just seemed to fit. a forbidden luxury. We lived seven hours from our two sons and their Pulled out of storage every year, a blow-up waterslide families in Columbus, Georgia, for 20 years in the filled hours of their play day. It stood about 10-feet tall Cedar Creek Community on Culbreth Road outside of with a ladder and slide to a pool below. It was priceless Fayetteville, NC. Of course, we loved Fayetteville and to me; I had the grandkids every day during the week its people, but we did miss our family during our stay while Dwight was at work. They loved the slide, and it there. We began looking for a way to stay connected wore them out! My eternal thanks go out to Rhonda with our five grandchildren, Anna Paige, Grady, Chloe, Haskins, Dwight’s fellow worker at PWC, who decided Piper and Alee (Boone, the last grandchild, wasn’t here to “pass it on” to us. yet). Some friends in Columbus, Jim and Kay Dowis, had Other back door neighbors, Steven and Georgiann grandkids camp every summer. I thought that was what Lawrence, pulled out all stops to saddle their horses we needed, so we used their experience to springboard and allow the grands to ride or be led around their our tradition. field. Other memorable things at the Lawrences were Granny Camp was a great week of staying up late, paddleboat rides on their lake and even a photography eating and making forbidden, fun foods, playing games, shoot on their beautiful patio taken by Wanda Walters, traveling to local activities and even some overnight another Cedar Creek friend. More great entertainment venues. We discovered that the kids were happiest when came from watching neighbor Curtis Starling bale hay they had our full attention no matter what we did, so in the field next door and playing on the big round outside play was a big part of the action. When they bales afterward. The kids also liked it when his son, Lonnie, came over to play on the water slide. were small, just the idea of playing f Besides our neighbors, our home area also afforded the grands much fun, whether taking supervised horseback rides at the Cedar Creek Stables and Trails or playing on the playground equipment at Seabrook Elementary and Stedman Community Park. Mary Miller is a retired Cumberland County School teacher who loves to travel. She and her husband Dwight, the former Chief Financial Officer at PWC, recently relocated to Georgia to be closer to family. 10 | J U LY 2 0 2 2

As the kids got older, we added some local “outings.” and South Carolina Game Cock bobbleheads. The trip With many free and low-cost local activities, we took to PWC was a high point of the week. advantage of all Fayetteville offered. From our yearly visits to Fascinate-U and library story and craft times Gifts for the grandkids’ parents — our kids — were a to Lego Day at the Stedman Branch Library, each required craft every year. We made everything from experience was met with enthusiasm. toilet paper-carnation arrangements, birdhouses, painted vases and handprint pictures in the early camp The older the children got, we occasionally planned years to wooden boxes and picture frames that we longer day-and-overnight trips, including jaunts to decorated with a wood-burning kit as they got older. N.C. Zoo, North Raleigh Trampoline Park, Tweetsie Railroad and Myrtle Beach to swim or catch a show at Camp wear was another must. When they were diaper Dixie Stampede, Knights of the Round Table, Pirates of babies, they went home with a whole box of diapers the Caribbean and the Alligator Adventure. with May May Camp and the year written on their little bottoms. We then graduated to T-Shirts with May May Granny Camp carried with it some other traditions. Camp and the year with our handprints painted on Mothers and Daddies always met us halfway in Augusta them. In later years, Creative Creations in Stedman at a fast-food restaurant with a playground so we could all eat lunch was my go-to place for Granny together and visit for a little bit. Camp wear: T-Shirts, beach While the kids got the “wiggles out” towels and caps printed with on the playground, we loaded the their name, May May Camp and luggage and all stuffed animals and the year. Special mementos of a “special” blankets and pillows in the special time. car. We all said goodbye and began our adventure while Mamas and Junk food was another Daddies began their week without requirement. We ate pizza, hot kids (a perk that my children told dogs, gummy worms, burritos, me to mention in this article). ring pops, homemade ice cream, An excited carload of kids and brownies, cookies that the kids grandparents left in anticipation, made, little weenies wrapped special bags of things to pass the in dough “blankets,” octopus time away in the car and special weenies and anything we could music from the “Silly Songs” CD in put candy eyes on! We didn’t plan tow. to get sick, so we did have some good vegetable meals. On our trip to NC, we always stopped at JABS Fireworks in Dillon, SC. Papa and the kids would go Every night before we went to bed, we would pile up shopping to pick up their stash of fireworks for our on blankets in the living room, and Papa would read a Friday Night Fireworks show. The kids picked out what Bible story and pray, then off to bed to hear their sweet they liked, and Papa picked out his favorites — bottle individual prayers and tuck them in. rockets, roman candles and the box with the big show in it! Psalm 127:3 reads, “Children are a gift of the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward.” I believe that’s true. Since Dwight was working, the grands and I always Our two boys were a gift from God; their wives were dressed up one day of camp in our “Sunday clothes” answers to our prayers, and their children put a smile and went to eat lunch with him. As PWC employees on our faces and in our hearts. I hope our experiences knew Granny Camp was on, the staff was always in Granny Camp will help inspire moms and dads, gracious to welcome Dwight and the kids and grandmas, grandparents, neighbors and friends to lead them on tour. Learning their way around, the spend quality time with the children in their lives and grandkids would anticipate raiding every desk’s candy make an investment in their futures. jar and playing with Mr. Bevin Grice’s toy equipment 2 0 2 2 J U LY | 11

Going Home to the Lake By Kellie Mennes THE LAKE. These two words are spoken often at my inherited as the best of friends. Dutchy upgraded his house and are synonymous with happy memories original log cabin to a cottage with indoor plumbing of special times with family and friends. Forty years in the 1960s, a quaint place for two. My father-in-law ago, during my first visit to this special place with wisely purchased the cottage from The Dutchman, and my boyfriend and future husband’s family, I couldn’t it has progressed to a modern cottage big enough to imagine that it would become the place my family calls accommodate the extended family. HOME. As an Army family moving every two years to a new duty station, only a few constants have been Our children and their cousins, fourth-generation present in our lives, and one of them is THE LAKE. It is lakers, have spent every summer at the lake together. our spiritual home. Our annual activities include boating to the “narrows,” featuring a natural rock diving platform. Traditionally Oak Lake, located in Ontario, Canada, about 110 miles the children bravely unite, hold hands and jump into North East of Toronto, is part of the Kawartha Lakes the cool Canadian shield water in the same order each System. Approximately two miles long and a half-mile year. This annual family tradition started when the across, with around 100 cottages dotting the lakeshore, children were small; it captures the passage of time. the lake is spring-fed with a silky, rocky bottom. Most of the lake’s property is undeveloped Crown Land, My favorite activity is an excursion to “breakfast offering “Lakers” like us picturesque scenery and the island.” This involves loading the boat with all the feel of complete immersion in nature. fixings for an open-fire breakfast cookout. Eggs, pea- meal bacon, toast and preserves, firewood, chairs and My husband’s grandfather, a Dutch immigrant, was of course, towels so that after we overindulge in eating one of the first to settle on Oak Lake in the early ‘30s. the grand-slam breakfast, we can venture into the Dutchy, as he is referred to at the lake and his wife water for a swim. The adventure continues because Bertha, developed a group of special friends whom we walking in on “slippery rock” has made even the most A military spouse of 33 years and mother of three, Kellie Mennes enjoys being stationed for the fourth time at Fort Bragg with her husband. She is a registered dietitian and is currently working in a long-term care facility in a neighboring community. 12 | J U LY 2 0 2 2

stable footed-man stumble. time, our three children are After we depart breakfast scattered across the country. island, we often venture to the Our oldest daughter Ashley is back bay for a “tie-up,” i.e., two newly married and living in to 10 boats anchored and tied Augusta, Georgia, where her together. We visit from boat to husband serves in the Army at boat and share happy hour hors Fort Gordon. Our middle child, d'oeuvres with our lake friends, Haley, lives in Seattle and works eventually jumping into the as an engineer. Our youngest is water to float on noodles while our son Jake, a junior at James visiting and sharing special Madison University studying time with our dear friends to become an engineer. This and family. Before departing summer, like every year, for dinner, plans are made for all three kids arrange their which cottage family will host summer schedules to meet us the nightly bonfire, s’mores, at the lake. corn hole and guitar sing-along for the evening. And the next There is only one bad day at day, it all starts again. Oak Lake — that is the day we close for the summer. But we While my husband Brian and know as it is the only constant I are currently stationed at in our lives, we will return Fort Bragg for the fourth next year. Wonderful White Lake Summer memories, past and present By Karen Hartman We would spend hours in the water playing, floating on our rafts and, of course, those black inner tubes As a native Harnett from a car. These trips were back in the mid to late County girl, most 1960s when the lake still had amusement rides and of my summers as an arcade that was the main attraction at night. a young child in my We would walk a block or two after showering and hometown of Dunn washing off tons of sand from our sunburned skin, involved picking play a game or two, ride the tilt-a-whirl and then and shelling butterbeans or peas, shucking corn or finish off the day with a cone of vanilla soft serve ice sitting on top of an ice cream freezer that my daddy cream or a bag of pink cotton candy. I remember my made while he turned the crank. But one week each mother didn’t like us to get the cotton candy because summer, we would pack up and head to our favorite we’d get the sticky concoction all over us, even in place — White Lake. our hair! If you’ve never been, it’s a natural spring and I was the middle child of three girls, and we were rainwater-fed lake in Bladen County, with the three years apart in age. My oldest sister Pam was the beautiful features of white sand, crystal clear water daredevil. She would try anything, so one summer, and Spanish moss-covered trees. I remember my she made up her mind to learn how to swim while mother and daddy unloading our two small suitcases for a family of five and checking in to Joe’s Motel. 2 0 2 2 J U LY | 13

at the lake. My younger sister Betsy and I could not made up. We’d all lather up with sunscreen, but swim, but I vividly remember one story about my there always seemed to be one or two who would get daddy and the pole! The lake has many “poles,” aka sunburns. Later, when my children were teenagers, buoys, pretty far out from the piers where boats are we moved back to the other side of the lake to rent a not allowed to create a wake. The water is a lot deeper large white house every summer. We invited two other at the poles but not so deep that daddy could not walk families who had children the same age as mine. Many out to them and still have his head above water. One memories come to mind of game nights, eating at day, our daddy decided to take all three girls to the Melvin’s, floating on a raft and allowing time to pass pole. We were so excited! With our inner tubes around slowly — at least for one week. me and Betsy and Pam swimming along with daddy, there we went! We were over halfway there when we One night, the girls got a bright idea to pull a joke heard someone screaming from the pier, you guessed on someone. And that someone was ME! We were all it, our mother! “Burt,” she cried, “Bring those girls playing board games, munching on a ton of snacks back! They’re going to drown!” She was jumping up and just having a good time when I decided I needed a and down, waving her arms, anything to get daddy’s potty break. I headed to the bathroom, and as I started attention. Well, she got it all right! We turned around to sit down, I saw a HUGE dead catfish inside the and came back to shore, and our “adventure” to the toilet staring back at me! Of course, I screamed, and pole was over! all I could hear was an outburst of laughter from the family room! Yes, they got me good! Since the mid-1960s, my family has always taken a week or even just a few days to relax in beautiful Although my children are older, we still reserve the White Lake. In the ‘90s, after my children were same week each year for family time at White Lake. We born, we began renting a lakefront cottage on the believe it’s all about making memories while you can. opposite side of the lake from the arcade pavilion and It’s a tradition I hope lives on with their children and amusement rides. We had many family reunions there, maybe even their grandchildren. which were so much fun, especially seeing all the cousins swimming, shooting water guns and playing Oh, by the way, I finally made it to the pole, but I still Marco Polo or whatever other games they can’t swim. I just grew a little taller! Karen Hartman grew up in Dunn and lived in Fayetteville for many years. She is now retired and lives in Anderson Creek with her husband, Rodney. She enjoys volunteering, boating, fishing and traveling. 14 | J U LY 2 0 2 2

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Summertime, Summertime By Lynne Smith 16 | J U LY 2 0 2 2

S chools out. Days last longer. Ballparks are full, the grill before it is even on our radar. As a young woman, I remember is fired up and beach bags are packed. Who doesn’t wanting the seasons to pass quickly. I wanted to be on the love summer? Like fall, winter and spring, summer fast track with my career and make a name for myself. brings its distinct personality, such as more sunlight, warmer Enter marriage and motherhood, and both my scenery temperatures and lots of humidity. For many, summer is just and priorities shifted. Those early years of being a stay-at- another part of the year where they get to play a little longer. home mom were emotionally and physically exhausting. I But in reality, all seasons result from Earth’s orbit around the remember being in a season of constant comparison to other sun. According to The Farmer’s Almanac, seasons are cyclical women and feeling that I always fell short. But then came and somewhat predictable, so we know what to expect and the season of having God draw my heart to Himself. As a how to prepare. But what about the seasons of life? young, hungry child of God, those years were spent in sweet fellowship with the Lord and getting to know Him through King Solomon, the one who had it all, known as the wisest the Bible. I’ll never regret the time I have spent pouring the man in the world, had something to say about the seasons truths of God into my heart and the hearts of my children. of life. He addressed it in the third chapter of the book titled That is a season I will never repeat, so thank you, Lord, for Ecclesiastes found in The Holy Bible. In these verses, we learn enabling me to use it wisely. that God is at work in the seasons and lives of people, and that nothing is left to chance or happenstance. God has great And now, onto the season of being a grandmother. God does purpose and intention in all that He does and allows. Every save the best for last. Watching one’s children grow up and season is preparation for the next, and it is God alone who have families of their own is humbling. To look back on life, determines when seasons begin and end. although not lived perfectly, and be filled with such gratitude knowing that I could never earn, nor do I deserve, how God The Bible tells us, “To everything, there is a season, and a has blessed me so richly — looking forward to what God has time to every purpose under the heaven.” (Ecclesiastes 3:1) planned, the unknown seasons and trusting that He will Like seasons change on Earth, stages of our provide whatever strength needed, exactly lives shift, perfectly arranged by God. Knowing when it is required. this should bring peace and assurance as we “It’s summertime, live out God’s plan for our lives. According to sum…sum… King Solomon had it right; there is an ebb and Bible commentator Warren Wiersbe, “From summertime!” flow of life, both good and bad, that we cannot our birth to the moment of our death, God anticipate. But when we trust that God is the is accomplishing his divine purposes, even author of all our days, we can accept each though we don’t always understand what he is doing.” season as it comes to us, regardless of how difficult it may be. We can remember the faithfulness of God in the past. We Whether it is the sunny days of summer or the long dreary can look back upon the fruit that has come out of challenging days of winter, we can learn much in every God-appointed seasons, eternal fruit we could not discern at the time. We season — if we are willing. Yes, you can expect crying can learn to appreciate and accept God’s perfect timing, balanced by laughter. Sorrow offset by joy. There will be and we can choose and determine what path our focus will things that need to be brought to an end, but there will be gravitate toward in the future. things to hold onto. War and peace, births and burials. But through it, all God does not forsake us. He never leaves us to Like that late afternoon thunderstorm in summer that ourselves. refreshes the hard, dry ground, our seasons in life can be a mixed bag of blessings and trials, each to be lived out. I’ve heard it said that seasons are like the steppingstones of Difficult seasons looked at alone may not make sense or life. We have to leave one and go on to the next to get to our be satisfying. After all, who wants to be stuck inside on a final destination. And that end, for the One Who orchestrates summer afternoon? But when that unwelcomed rain is every day, is to make us like Jesus. God loves us too much to followed by the sun and quite possibly a rainbow, when our leave us as we are. He will do and use whatever it takes to seasons are properly balanced by the hand of Providence, draw us closer to Him, where we finally surrender to His best what a beautiful sight they produce. plans for our lives. My unexpected seasons of life are no mystery to God. He Our response to the changing of life’s seasons greatly sends what is needed, whether a storm or sunshine, wind depends upon where we are in our life’s journey and how or rain. He is God, and I am not. He has a way of making all much we trust the One Who knows the storm is coming things beautiful in due season. Lynne Smith is a Fayetteville native who worships with her family at Snyder Memorial Baptist Church. She has a hard-working husband of 37 years, two sons who aim to be just like their dad, two God-given beautiful daughters and two very well-loved grandsons. She is in her seventh year serving as a Snyder MOPS mentor. 2 0 2 2 J U LY | 17

Woman's Kalli Ziegler is a self- Spotlight described “Tigger” of a woman. She is the rare Kalli Ziegler kind, “full of life and laughter,” who always seeks the silver lining in a cloud-filled sky. By Crissy Neville No matter life’s course, Kalli optimistically keeps her head held high, refusing to “take on life as an Eeyore” with an “Oh Bother!” attitude. This can-do mantra has also led her to accomplish much in life, personally and professionally. The stories of struggle and success are hers to tell in the Fayetteville real estate agent turned-writer’s newest project in progress, a memoir titled, Barrett to Barrett. A Navy “Brat,” military spouse, 20x surgical the middle of, what else, a huge smack of jellyfish! patient and cancer survivor, Kalli is not defined Cringe at her fearless stand in a New Zealand by the transitions and challenges that have often grocery store parking lot just as a bubbling come her way, but by her sensibilities to serve cauldron of volcanic mud appeared from an and give unselfishly, learn and live voraciously. opening in the asphalt. Yikes! In stand-alone stories of a life well lived, Kalli’s While filled with humorous stories from unlikely narrative — a work in progress — paints the full circumstances the world over, the kind you just picture of her life, one filled with mishap and can’t make up, Barrett to Barrett also reveals adventure, humor and charity, love of community Kalli’s determination to achieve a semblance and learning. of “normal” as she sought recovery from over 20 surgeries and subsequent complications. Barrett to Barrett is Kalli’s story. It begins with Among other facets of what she calls her complex Kalli’s grandparents, William and Elizabeth medical history include a pituitary adenoma Barrett, and progresses to the birth of their diagnosis in 1978, a lumpectomy and surgery namesake Barrett Gould, Kalli and her husband for an ovarian tumor in 1983. Her most unusual Drew Ziegler’s grandson, four generations later. surgery was bilateral jaw replacement, though Travel adventures on six continents — her goal is she jokes about the titanium placed in her jaw. to reach all seven — will make readers laugh and Without this cheerful outlook, she said, “I would encourage others to walk confidently through still be in a hospital bed or a prisoner in a body their own circumstances. that has broken parts. For example: When my jaws were replaced with titanium, I changed Read about Kalli’s scare in Egypt when a Bedouin my profile picture on Facebook to a sketch of chased her on a white donkey, thrill in Germany the Tin Man. A friend sent an industrial roll of of a cross-country Autobahn race to catch a Paris-bound bus and surprise when she heard her name being called across crowds of tourists while touring Notre Dame. Laugh at her icy slide on her way to the Great Wall of China and one memorable mountain-sledding soirée — in her Mercedes! Appreciate Kalli’s attempt in Australia to overcome her fear of snorkeling — smack-dab in Crissy Neville is the editor of Women’s View Magazine and Kidsville News at F&B Publications. A fourth- generation farm owner, retired teacher and mother of three daughters, she lives in Linden with her husband, Thomas, and a menagerie of livestock and pets, gardens and crops. 18 | J U LY 2 0 2 2

\"There are no pity-parties in our house. Like representative and graduate of the REALTORS® a Phoenix, I rise to the challenges God has Institute, in addition to being a notary, broker associate and past owner of Kalli Ziegler Property set before me.” Management, which she sold this past winter. She received the North Carolina REALTORS® bubble wrap via UPS after I had a fall while on a Association Ben Ball Community Service Award run. Drew helped wrap me in the bubble wrap. in 2012. A Suma Cum Laude graduate in business I put on my bike helmet, knee and elbow pads administration from Methodist University, she and safety glasses and posted a video of me received the Alumni of the Year award in 2013 running down the street! Twice I have run races and has begun work on a Master of Business in a body brace after back surgery\". Continuing, Administration at Liberty University. she explained, “Unless you are told the medical In the community, she currently serves as facts, you would not suspect that anything could treasurer on the Police Foundation Board and as challenge my energy, mobility or confidence a member of the Care Clinic Financial Committee in life.” and Womack Army Medical Center Patient/Family Faith is important to both Kalli and her husband, Advisory Council. Her past affiliations and civic Drew. They are members of Village Baptist duties are too numerous to list. Church in Fayetteville, which is recent years Kalli’s honors include the Fayetteville has become known as “The Village.” Drew is the Cumberland County Chamber of Commerce lead for the military ministry at Village Baptist Athena Leadership Award in 2011; The Old North Church, and she is the wife behind the scenes State, presented by Governor Easley in 2009 lending support and ideas, she said. She has to recognize “dedication and service beyond also served as a Bible study leader and as a guest expectation and excellence to the Great State of speaker for the Protestant Women of The Chapel North Carolina” and memberships in the Alpha on Fort Bragg. Chi-National Scholarship Society, Omicron Delta The child of a military family, Kalli grew up in Kappa-National Leadership Honors Society Jacksonville, Florida. After marrying, Fort Bragg and Tau Beta Sigma awarded at Florida State was her and Drew’s first duty station in 1975; they University where she was a hospitality business purchased their first home here and became major. involved in youth ministry for the Main Post In her free time, she loves to run and compete Chapel. Their first daughter was born at Womack in races, with numerous 5Ks and several “100 Army Medical Center in 1976. They returned to miles in a month challenges” under her belt, Fort Bragg in 1991, following the first Gulf War, ballroom dance, travel and host friends in her and moved back into their first home. A year later home. A multi-tasker by nature, Kalli’s attention in 1992, they moved into their current home. The now turns to her work on Barrett to Barrett, from Zieglers have two daughters, two sons-in-law which Women’s View Magazine will feature short and three grandchildren. stories and excerpts, starting next month. The After 23 years in the service, Drew and Kalli book jacket introduction for this burgeoning chose Fayetteville as their retirement home for author reads, “Known for her contagious laugh two primary reasons. “First,” she said, “we have and sharing jokes with perfect strangers, meeting heart friends here, and we look forward to aging new people and a willingness to find out more with those friends. The second reason is the about them makes a first encounter with Kalli opportunities to give back to those serving our memorable.” If you have not met Kalli Ziegler nation in this tumultuous world we live in. We are until now, consider yourself introduced, and here to paraclete and minister to our military and come back to WVM in August and beyond to get their families.” to know her better. A REALTOR® since 1987, Kalli has had over “I often tell people, ‘I wasn’t born 28 outstanding, star-spangled years in the here but I got here as fast as real estate profession as a nationally certified I could.’\" residential specialist, an accredited buyers’ 2 0 2 2 J U LY | 19

Girls of SummerFun and Faith at Beautiful Fort Caswell By Taylor Dunham and Carolina Dunham McLeod Throughout our undergraduate Baptist State Convention of North summer with our youth group at careers at the University of North Carolina purchased the property Caswell. We always stayed in the Carolina at Chapel Hill, we spent from the federal government and barracks, which meant little sleep our summers together working transformed the site into a place and lots of laughter. We spent at the eastern edge of the state. of peace where churches and time in worship and Bible study We cherish and often relive the other groups gather for retreats with a thousand other teenagers countless memories we made as and camps year-round. in Hatch Auditorium; in those members of the summer staff at Today, the Convention still uses moments, our faith matured the N.C. Baptist Assembly at Fort the military facilities, such as the into something deeper and more Caswell the summers from 2015 barracks, captain’s houses, former meaningful. Caswell was our to 2017. This land of sunshine and infirmary, chapel, horse barn and most favorite place in the world, ocean breezes also speaks to us of other such structures, to house and summer just wasn’t summer God’s radiant love and peace. and entertain guests. The area unless we went to Caswell. For Located at the confluence of the holds a special place in our hearts these reasons, we both felt called Cape Fear River and the Atlantic because we grew up vacationing to work there as summer staffers Ocean on Oak Island, Fort Caswell on Oak Island each summer with during our college years. was first established as a military our family — the two of us, our fortress in 1836. During the Civil brother Christopher and our As members of Fort Caswell’s War, Fort Caswell protected the mom and dad. We spent long summer staff, we worked as port of Wilmington until nearby summer afternoons jumping housekeepers for 10 weeks each Fort Fisher’s demise in 1865. The waves on the beach and riding our summer as church youth groups site was used as a training facility bikes around town, and evenings from around the state flocked to during World War I and a patrol grabbing ice cream from the local Caswell to attend summer youth station for enemy submarines Dairy Queen. Once we were old camps. Christopher served as a during World War II. In 1949, the enough, we spent a week each lifeguard at the camp pool. As part Sisters and University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill graduates, Taylor Dunham and Caroline Dunham McLeod are originally from Linden. Living and working in Chapel Hill, Taylor Dunham is a special education resource teacher. Raleigh resident Caroline Dunham McLeod is a registered dental hygienist and value-based solutions manager for a national oral health non-profit. 20 | J U LY 2 0 2 2

of our housekeeping the staff in various work areas duties, we were each in and guided spiritual growth charge of cleaning and through Bible study, worship, maintaining our own staff events and discipleship. “houses” during the week. Working and living with over Formerly military officer’s 50 other staffers each summer houses, these two-story led to one of the most enjoyable homes house church youth things about the experience — groups each week of camp. the establishment of deep and We also worked together lifelong relationships rooted with other housekeepers in Jesus. In fact, we are still to clean the auditorium close friends with many of the individuals with whom before worship began for we served. campers each morning and helped in the As summer staffers, our cafeteria during meals. We favorite memory was welcomed church groups worshiping together as a staff into our homes on Monday each Sunday evening atop Fort afternoons, cleaned up Caswell. Known as Vespers, after them during the which is Latin for “evening,” week and flipped the we sang songs of worship as buildings on Saturdays to we overlooked the splendor prepare for the next group of God’s creation — pelicans of campers. swooping over the waves, tiny Housekeeping work is not blanket flowers bending in the for the squeamish; we breeze, the sunset casting a scrubbed toilets, cleaned golden hue over the landscape. showers, wiped down In those holy moments, one can furniture, scoured trash see God everywhere. cans and picked sandspurs Something special exists at out of carpets. Once, Caswell, a tangible feeling of Taylor even mopped her God’s Holy Spirit. It’s the way porch. Nothing brings the sun sets over the boat basin people together quite like each evening, the glimmer of “cleaning toilets for Jesus,” the sunshine sparkling on the as we housekeepers used ocean waves or even just the to say. During our last exuberant joy of campers and summer on staff, Caroline staffers alike coming together had the pleasure of serving to worship and serve God. No on the Servant Leadership better place exists to spend a Team, where she helped summer (or three), and we are forever grateful that Caswell is part of our story. 2 0 2 2 J U LY | 21

Like Sands Through the Hourglass Oak Island Summers By Kathy Surles Jones “I SEE THE BRIDGE!!!” Memorable experiences enriched our childhood on Oak Island. From the time we could hold a rod, my siblings Our car would erupt with this cry as we approached the and I fished. When the spots were running in the fall, Intracoastal Waterway bridge to Oak Island, home to we could catch two at a time as soon as we dropped our Caswell, Yaupon, and Long Beaches. hooks. Our father had a long net he would set beyond the surf, and it was always interesting to see what we pulled On a two-hour trip from Fayetteville, our parents kept in. On one memorable night, the ropes and netting were us occupied with family sing-along songs and sights covered with starfish. Large oysters were prolific in along the way. The real highlight, a competition our the creeks and waterway, just waiting to be steamed or mother devised to spark anticipation and ease boredom, turned into stew. Flounders could be seen sunning on was jockeying for a seat position to be the first to see the shallow edge of a sandbar. Before the beach became the narrow metal swing bridge that would take us to the so developed, large beautiful shells were prolific. A island we have loved for decades. seahorse would wrap its tail around one of our fingers in the tidal pools if we were lucky. Sand dollars, coquina, Our family beach house was built in 1960, just as the fiddler crabs and other sea life were abundant at low tide. island was recovering from the 1954 devastation of Hurricane Hazel. In those years, the island’s beauty was Family Easter egg hunts with our cousins in the island breathtaking. Long stretches of natural sand dunes, sea dunes were a special treat. Ending a day on a deserted oats and windswept trees occupied the ocean side of the beach, looking at nighttime stars and learning to identify land. The remainder of the island was thickly covered in constellations was beautiful — and much easier — pine, oak and yaupon, with towering dunes on the west without light pollution. end. Some early businesses included the Red and White grocery store, a marina on the waterway and a couple of The years have brought many changes to this island. In real-estate offices. Flanked by the small island post office 1971, a barge destroyed the swing bridge, but a higher, and Helm’s Seafood Market with locally caught fish was wider bridge replaced it, so vehicles were no longer Dan Shannon’s gas station and store, the place to fill up stopped for boat traffic. The bridge’s pinnacle gives a your car and catch up on the latest news. beautiful view of the Oak Island Light House with its four flashes of light and historic Fort Caswell. The island now has two bridges from the mainland, where beautiful Kathy Surles Jones lives in Linden with her husband, Paul, and calls her family’s Oak Island beach cottage their home away from home. She cherishes the special memories made there, past and present, with her parents, siblings, children, grandchildren and extended family. 22 | J U LY 2 0 2 2

sunrises and sunsets can be seen over Crossing the bridge brings a feeling this 12-mile east-to-west stretch of of peace. Family activities include sand. Long Beach and Yaupon Beach bodysurfing the waves, building merged into the Town of Oak Island sandcastles, collecting shells, flying with many thriving restaurants, stunt kites, playing at the splash shops and businesses. In keeping pad and park, attending concerts with commercial trends, even a new and craft markets and meeting brewery is being built on the island. new acquaintances while sharing a Large beach houses have been built, cooler of lunch on the beach under overshadowing the smaller, older a Shibumi Shade. We enjoy watching family cottages and golf carts are shrimp boats hauling in their catch at now popular transportation on island our oceanfront cottage and flocks of roads. Visitors can use 65 public beach seagulls hovering overhead, hoping accesses with parking across the to score a delicious meal. It is always length of the island. exciting to see pods of dolphin swimming by with adults surrounding The volunteer Oak Island Sea and protecting the young ones. Turtle Protection Program does a Kayaking in the ocean and creek is phenomenal job patrolling the beach both exhilarating and peaceful. and protecting turtles and their habitat. Nest parents are assigned As day turns to night, more memories to each nest to protect and facilitate are made. Sitting in a rocking chair on the hatchlings’ journey to the sea. the deck with a grandchild snuggled Fox hunts that occurred decades ago on a lap, viewing a beautiful sunset as no longer exist, but foxes and their the pelicans fly in their V formation to footprints can still be seen in the sand. an evening roost and watching flashes Heavy gauged wire over fragile turtle of light over the nearby pier from the nests thwarts a fox’s hunger for fresh distant lighthouse as the planets and turtle eggs. stars begin to sparkle in the sky is the perfect way to end a perfect day at the With younger generations, our family beach on Oak Island. continues to make beach memories, and the island’s call is still strong. 2 0 2 2 J U LY | 23

Calming and Sweet — I don't think my husband and I said a word after the realtor let us in. We didn't need to. MERMAID MANOR We both knew. There was no stopping me from my chance to By Victoria Hardin have my old school dream house. We wrote an offer that evening, and I hardly slept. I have always wanted a perfect pink house. My My mind was racing with my plans. It had to be definition of perfection didn't mean \"flawless\" pink and have a white picket fence. The next but instead more like idyllic — specifically, a pink morning, we were on our way to becoming the coquina shell-block home. Although I didn't have second owners of a 1950s-built, former flat-top- a specific location in mind for my pink fantasy construction cottage. Note: The no-pitch roof was world, I suppose that in my dreams, it would replaced before our ownership. ideally be situated on a barrier island overlooking The white picket fence was the easy part. the Gulf of Mexico, somewhere in Florida. But Choosing the name — Mermaid Manor — was that was before I was married and before I came also a breeze. to love the wide beaches of North Myrtle. No Coming up with the ideal shade of pink was a matter what, the vision of pink, block and at the challenge. I don't know how many pots of paint beach was sacrosanct. colors I tried, but there were a lot. I attempted Mermaid Manor is my sanctuary. to explain what appeared to be madness to my It was a Sunday afternoon in 2014. My husband husband. I frequently defended my madness by and I were riding home from the beach. On reminding him that I started college as a fine arts the corner of Ocean Boulevard at North Myrtle major, as if it would give me some level Beach sat a sad and lonely cinderblock cottage. It of credibility. couldn't have been a more depressing color, Through trial and error, I carefully compared \"disagreeable\" gray, accented with an even darker shades of rose ranging from Pepto-Bismol (too \"disagreeable\" gray — something you would blue), Barbie pink (too red) and carnation pink expect to see in a prison cafeteria. I saw the (too white) until finally, the fluffiest cotton candy sign and jumped before the golf cart came to a color was before me. complete stop. Pink wasn't the only color I needed. It had to be a The cottage was for sale and vacant, and best cottage worthy of a mermaid. So again, I fixated of all, across the street from the ocean. Only 88 steps until my toes touched the sand. I counted the steps, and the rest was a blur. Victoria Hardin is an experienced family law attorney with offices in Fayetteville and Carthage. She is married with one son. 24 | J U LY 2 0 2 2

on shades of blues and greens until I discovered husband and I spend the day hunting for sharks' the frothiest sea-foam turquoise hue. I was teeth with our young son. We track sand in the unable to negotiate a sunshine yellow screened house. We sit in damp swimsuits, and our dogs door successfully. come and go. We have built memories at this While others may prefer a towering, multistory beach home for many years now. Our son learned beach home, a level of comfort exists in knowing to ride his bike at the beach. Until a few years ago, this house has been around a long time. Mermaid his birthdays were always celebrated at the beach Manor has withstood many storms. My knees will with his papa, who lives just up the road at North likely thank me for the tiny one-story setup when Myrtle full time. I'm older. Though we get calls frequently from those You can smell the original heart pine paneling interested in buying Mermaid Manor, and it's when you first open the door. I keep saying that tempting considering these uncertain times, I'm I will redo the interior one day, but there is sticking with my dream home. My standing joke something very special and nostalgic about the for many years has been that should anything cottage \"as is.\" Many folks have stopped by to happen, everything will be sold before share memories of staying in our home when they Mermaid Manor. were children; I love listening to their stories. Staying at Mermaid Manor is what a beach trip is supposed to be. It's easy. It's not fussy. My Turn Your Yard into a Vacation-Worthy Oasis A Staff Report Warm weather means more time to relax outdoors. For those homeowners lucky enough to have outdoor entertaining spaces, spring and summer provide many opportunities to enjoy fresh air under the sun or stars.Large or small, here are ways to make an outdoor oasis at home. Create living privacy Vertical gardening, which trains easy-care vines like English ivy, Clematis or various climbing roses to grow on trellis or fencing, adds greenery and privacy. Hedges and fast-growing shrubs also can be used for natural barriers. Install a pool entertaining areas more comfortable and add Pools are the ultimate spots to cool off on hot usable space to the home. Pair the area with days. An elaborately shaped inground pool can weatherproof patio furniture, such as sofas, blend with the landscape and offer the ultimate loungers and tables, to fulfill your hang-out zone. However, above-ground pools also entertaining desires. work and are more budget-friendly. Stock tank Hang a hammock pools, traditionally used for watering livestock, are Few things evoke feelings of relaxation better than inexpensive and great for small spaces. a hammock. Fitted between two trees or two posts Provide outdoor atmosphere if trees are sparse, a hammock is an ideal place to Create a bespoke bistro vibe by using freestanding grab a nap or read a book. planters and posts along with hanging lights to Additional oasis-inspired ideas include outdoor make an intimate outdoor hangout spot at night. kitchens, hanging lanterns, cascading water For those with permanent structures, like a deck features and bird feeders to attract the sounds or a gazebo, lights can be strung across the area of nature. or on railings or edging. Extend the living space 2 0 2 2 J U LY | 25 Decks and patios can help make outdoor

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Presevrveignggiefrseasnhdsfurumitms er By Crissy Neville A fter making summer good to go for years to come. squash into casseroles, Your efforts will be in good soups, gratins and fritters, company with people from on the heels of it being fried, cultures worldwide and from the grilled, steamed and baked, earliest times. what's one to do with this Here are a few popular ways prolific performer? Preserve to perpetuate your favorite it, of course, for fall and winter produce. days when summer’s bounty Home canning is the heat- is gone like last year’s low gas processing of food in glass prices. jars for preservation. There Food preservation is a way are two processes: water-bath to save the goodness of your canning and pressure canning. favorite seasonal fare to stock Water-bath canning is done in up, prevent food from spoilage a large stockpot with high-acid and keep it for future use. foods such as fruits, tomatoes, Suppose you are accustomed jams and jellies, pickles and to paying a pretty penny for relishes. The second way to fresh and organically sourced can foods requires a pressure foods at your local farmers’ canner, which processes foods market or grocer. In that case, using high temperature and preservation can save you high-pressure steam. Pressure money, whether growing your canning is used with less produce or buying fresh in bulk. acidic foods such as beans, However, perhaps the best case carrots, corn, meats, soups made for preservation is that and sauces. Beware that unsafe store-bought canned and boxed canning practices can lead to foods pale in comparison to the botulism poisoning, so follow all flavor and nutritional value of directions with care. the fresh-to-the-table, whether Freezing typically produces it’s enjoyed now or later. You flavors and textures most also will know where your food similar to fresh and requires is coming from and exactly what little specialized equipment. Do is in it. make sure to buy freezer-ready Preservation techniques include plastic bags. Most vegetables canning, drying, dehydrating, require blanching, a boiling freeze-drying, smoking, time of three minutes before pickling, fermenting, etc. freezing. Fruits can be frozen Each method has its unique as they are or with sugars or an equipment, ingredients and antioxidant such as Fruit Fresh vocabulary, but once you have to extend storage life and slow what you need and learn the the discoloration process. If tricks of the trade, you will be Crissy Neville is the editor of Women’s View Magazine and Kidsville News at F&B Publications. A fourth- generation farm owner, retired teacher and mother of three daughters, she lives in Linden with her husband, Thomas, and a menagerie of livestock and pets, gardens and crops. 28 | J U LY 2 0 2 2

preferred, use vacuum seal Here's a seasonal bags to extend the storage favorite I make every year life of frozen foods three to to get you started in Food five times longer. Preservation 101: Jelly making is a good way to preserve fruit Crissy’s farm-fresh flavors, too. Fruit jelly or hot pepper jelly jam is an easy-to-prepare product for the beginning - canner, requiring little -2 medium red bell special equipment or skill. peppers, seeded, finely Ingredients essential for chopped, about 1 1/2 cups fruit jelly are fruit, pectin, - 2 medium green bell sugar, vinegar and water. peppers, seeded, finely Pickling is defined as chopped, about 1 1/2 cups preserving food by either - 10 large jalapeño anaerobic fermentation peppers, seeded, finely in brine or immersion chopped, about 1 cup in vinegar, which results - 1 cup apple cider vinegar in making a pickle or - 1 box packaged powder pickled food. Different pectin variations exist for the - 1/2 teaspoon butter or process — quick, salt- margarine brined, vinegar-brined - 5 cups sugar, measured and fermented — and into a separate bowl the pickled product — cucumbers, okra, squash, Bring boiling-water watermelon rind, onions, canner, half-full with peppers, etc. — but water, to simmer. the outcome is always Meanwhile, wash jars and delicious! screw-bands in hot, soapy Other food preservation water; rinse with warm methods are also fun water. Pour boiling water and useful. Take a class, over flat lids in a saucepan research recipes or ask a off the heat. Let stand in more experienced friend hot water until ready to or local professional for use. Drain before using. help. The Cumberland County Cooperative Place peppers in a six- to Extension is Fayetteville’s eight-quart saucepot. Add source for use with vinegar. Stir in pectin. all-things agriculture. Add butter to reduce Check out their Better foaming. Bring mixture to Living Series for food a full rolling boil on high preservation classes and heat, stirring constantly. more. Find out more at Stir in sugar. Return to a https://cumberland.ces. full rolling boil and boil ncsu.edu/. for exactly one minute, stirring constantly. Remove from heat. Skim off any foam. Ladle immediately into prepared jars, filling to within 1/4 inch of tops. Wipe jar rims and threads. Cover with two-piece lids. Screw bands tightly. Place jars on rack in canner. Lower rack into canner. Water must cover jars by 1 to 2 inches. Add boiling water, if necessary. Cover; bring water to a gentle boil — process for 10 minutes. Remove jars. Pepper jelly may take a week to set completely. Enjoy with cream cheese and crackers! 2 0 2 2 J U LY | 29

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