Women's View Magazine March 2018

VOLUME 12 MARCHISSUE 3 2018 for, by and about local women MAGAZINE gagrivsdpeernasTieinhtnergidygs, more inside: Gail Ferguson: Working 7with Earth’s natural treasures 15Local politics: It’s time we got involved

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Does your pet not want to be pet? VOLUME 12 ISSUE 3I didn’t grow up interacting with many pets. We briefly had It’s much more fun PUBLISHERGerman dwarf rabbits when I was around 8 or 9 years old. to have a friend F & B PublicationsThey were sweet and shy, and they taught me to approach who happens toanimals with an assumption that trust must be earned. be an animal than EDITORWhen I was in high school, my family had a cat named an animal who is Stephanie CriderTommy. Really, in his heart, he was my sister’s cat. a pet. [email protected] years ago, I went to an animal shelter and found myown cat: Jalapeño. She lives outdoors, and my parents’ Is writing a gift you think ASSISTANT EDITORbackyard was and is her castle, playground and (small bug you can use to impact this Leslie Pyoand butterfly) hunting ground. She, of calico coat, green community positively? Areeyes and stained white paws, changed my life. Through you interested in covering [email protected] to know her, I realized animals are beings with local stories, causes orwhom relationships as meaningful and deep as those organizations that matter ART DIRECTORbetween humans can be formed. to Fayetteville? Consider Elizabeth LongOur relationship began when I first noticed my cat did not contributing an article or [email protected] want to be pet. It hurt my feelings. I thought the pitching a story idea toprimary way to show a pet affection, and they you, was Women’s View Magazine. MARKETING REPRESENTATIVErespectively petting and being pet. But I started thinking We want to elevate your Linda McAlisterabout it, and I started observing her other behaviors. voices. Email leslie@Often, though she clearly rebuffed my attempts to touch her, upandcomingweekly.com [email protected] still wanted to be around me. She’d sit a few feet away for more information.as I read a book on the front porch. She’d trot alongside as OPERATIONS DIRECTORI rambled around the yard, which is hedged in the back by Paulette Naylorwoods. She’d play in the freshly dug dirt as my mom and Iplanted spring seeds nearby. When I’d lean down to sniff a [email protected], her eyes would widen, and she’d hurry over to smellit, too. That led to my current practice of always offering her DISTRIBUTION MANAGER/things to smell that I think she’ll find interesting. SALES ADMINISTRATORI realized how silly it was to assume that Jalapeño's not Laurel Handforthwanting to be pet conveyed rejection of or dislike for me.Instead, I realized, it simply meant she is a dimensional [email protected] who wants to interact with me in multiple ways,depending on her mood and all the other factors that CONTRIBUTING WRITERSmake humans humans – and, I realized, cats cats. And Roger Mercersometimes, she does truly prefer not to be with me. And Ellen Brookssometimes she is grumpy and does not want to play. Andthat, too, is fine and healthy. Linda Sue BarnesToo often, we dismiss animals we meet because they Rebekah Jonesdo not fit our schema of a “pet” – a creature whose sole LaNatria Ellispurpose is to want to hang out with humans (especially Tracey Nataleits owner), be cute, be affectionate and be pet. When wedo so, we miss out on something much better than a 24/7 Cindy Pyosnuggle source. Kia Young4 MARCH 2018 Christina Arreola Sherry Rallis WOMEN’S VIEW MAGAZINE 208 ROWAN STREET FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 28301 PHONE: (910) 484-6200 Fax: (910) 484-9218 Interested in contributing to Women's View Magazine? Email: editor@upandcomingweekly. com or call (910) 484-6200 Women’s View Magazine is by, for and about women in Cumberland County. Published by F&B Publications in conjunction with Media Marketing Management. All Rights Reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or advertisement without permission is strictly prohibited. Various vector source artwork created by © Freepik, © Vecteezy and © Pixabay.

Nature https://cumberland.ces. This 2013 Pulitzer Prize- ncsu.edu/2018/01/2018- winning play by Ayad• March 3-4 The 72nd extension-master-gardener- Akhtar took Broadway byAnnual Fayetteville spring-symposium storm when it debutedCamellia Show 910-321-6860 in 2012. CFRT brings thepresented by the conversation-starter toFayetteville Camellia Arts Fayetteville. $15-$32.Club at Ramada www.cfrt.orgPlaza. 1-4 p.m. Free. • March 1-April 6 Marc 910-323-4233Exhibitors from across Chagall: The Story ofthe Southeastern U.S. the Exodus at Methodist • March 15 Friendswill exhibit hundreds University’s David of Music Guest Artistof blooms of many McCune International Series: Jeffrey Jonesvarieties, judged by Art Gallery. Series of & Philip Powell atthe American Camellia famed lithographs. Methodist University’sSociety. There will This is the first time the Hensdale Chapel.also be exhibits, exhibit has traveled to 7:30 p.m. Jones,such as “History of the U.S. from a private baritone vocalist, will beTea,” a Q&A session collection in Italy. Free. accompanied by Powellwith Roger Mercer, a www.davidmccunegallery.org on piano. Free.Japanese tea station and 910-425-5379 910-630-7100Camellia air-layeringdemonstrations. Free. • March 6 Imani • March 23-May 12www.fayettevillecamelliaclub.org Winds at Fayetteville “Impressions: More State University’s J.W. than Skin Deep” at the• March 22 Spring Seabrook Auditorium. Arts Council Fayetteville/Wildflower Walk at Lake 7 p.m. This Grammy- Cumberland County.Rim Park. 5-6 p.m. A park nominated woodwind Celebrates artists whoranger will identify the quintet features a work in the tattoowildflowers in bloom on clarinet, flute, oboe, industry. Free.this guided hike. Free. bassoon and a French 910-323-1776Call to register. horn. The group has910-433-1018 bridged American, Other Events European, Latin• March 23-24 The 4th and African styles • March 15 CelticAnnual Power and and is known for its Woman: HomecomingWater Conservation collaborations with other Live at the Crown.Expo at SkyView on artists and groups. $10 or 7 p.m. A live musical actHay. Free. Learn ways free for FSU students. celebrating the timelessto save on your energy http://fsuarts.com emotion of Ireland’sand water bills. Pick up 910-672-2143 centuries-old heritage.conservation items like $42 and up.LED bulbs, tree seedlings • March 10 Fayetteville www.crowncomplexnc.comand fat trappers. Symphony Orchestra 910-438-4100www.faypwc.com/pwcexpo presents “Americana” at910-483-1382 Methodist University’s • March 10, 11, 16, Huff Hall. Features the 17, 23, 24, 29, 30• March 24 Master Fayetteville Symphony Fayetteville MarksmenGardeners Spring Youth Orchestra as well. hockey at the Crown.Symposium at the Pre-concert talk with $12 and up.Cumberland County the “Music Nerd” at 6:45 www.marksmenhockey.comCooperative Extension p.m. Concert at 7:30 p.m. 910-321-0123Center. 8 a.m.-3 p.m. $11-$27.Featured speaker is www.fayettevillesymphony.org • March 25 – Allseventh-generation 910-433-4690 American Marathonfarmer, author and beginning at Festival • March 15-25 Park at 7 a.m. $20-$90.TV/radio host Felder “Disgraced” at Cape www.allamericanmarathon.comRushing. $50. Fear Regional Theatre. 910-907-3616 MARCH 2018 5

HeSheRight: Roger and Roger and Maureen MercerMaureen kiss and sonFrank Davis serves as Roger, Fayetteville's \"Daylilly Guru,\" helped create the Cape Fear Botanical Garden. He loves his wife,ring bearer as pastor gardening, learning, music and writing about gardening. He also plays saxophone in the local rockNeil Smith conducts band Almost Tomorrow. Maureen recently retired after 26 years as a Public Health nurse with thethe couple’s wedding Cumberland County Department of Public Health. She is the field trip coordinator for the Cape Fearin their backyard in Mineral & Gem Society, where she sets up trips to quarries for rock and fossil collecting. She is also theJune 1991. coordinator for the Lafayette Doll & Toy Club.Photo credit: SteveAldridge. HE: SHE:What first drew Her incredible courage. She is undaunted I met my spouse at a Lawn & Garden Showyou to your in the face of great adversity. An example: in the Agri Expo Center. My former mother-spouse? When she had to sell her house and move, in-law told me he was available so I should she rented a big truck with hopes of help. check him out. Although his picture in theWhat's your When the help fell through, all she had newspaper made him look like a bookworm, Ispouse's favorite was her furniture, packed boxes and was attracted to his broad shoulders and chestthing about spring? determination. She got the move done and when I met him.If your spouse were a returned the truck the next day on time. Roger is an avid gardener and loves the springplant, what would they She loves to pull weeds and visit quarries. flowers and loves creating a beautiful garden.be, and why? We have a greenhouse where he plants seedsDescribe a moment when She would be a big shade tree spreading for different flowers, plants and vegetables.your partner recently her limbs to shade and protect people He would be a daylily, of course, since hesurprised you with their around her. Her wood could make houses grows 250,000 of them. He would want to beactions. and heat them. She would make many a blue daylily since that is the one color a lot people’s lives better. She is very active in of breeders are trying to achieve. helping people with their needs. She bought me a Water Pik. I had mentioned Roger’s best surprise occurred when he still in passing that I would enjoy having one. worked nights. He woke me up at around 1 a.m. and told me he brought a puppy homeHave you changed as a I have changed a lot. Maureen has taught me for me. Of course, I had to get out of bedresult of being with your that I can be more resourceful and inventive immediately to see the puppy. I opened thepartner? in achieving my goals. And she has taught front door and was surprised not by a little me to pursue new goals with passion. I puppy but a large Rhodesian ridgeback. make beautiful jewelry nowadays because My bed was taken up by this dog, which we Maureen asked me to go to a professional named Rusty, and I was glad he got along with class with her. I would never have believed the other dogs we had. The most recent was a that I could enjoy making remarkable jewelry. stuffed tiger for my birthday/Christmas. I went to many more classes with her. I learned to trust again and developed a self- confidence I lacked for years.What does it mean To love her is to defend and protect her, to Loving him has been a joy. I hope to growto you to love your believe in her, to help her, to listen, to older with him, which may be longer than whenpartner? share our goals and passions, to hug he smoked three packs a day. I was so proud6 MARCH 2018 and hold often. of him when he quit in 1998.

ROGER MERCER, ELLEN BROOKS LOCAL ARTISTAND LINDA SUE BARNESGail Ferguson:Working with Earth’s natural treasures Gail Ferguson says great art teachers Ferguson said. “I could turn the taught Southwest-style jewelry, whichgive others pathways to joy. Sometimes beauty I found in nature into jewelry is Ferguson’s favorite style, and histhey help rescue people from life’s that was even more beautiful. I could wife, Dawn, taught her more about wiretragedies. “Teachers have done both turn quartz into birds or flowers or wrapping. “Because of the guidancefor me,” Ferguson said. “Now, I try to even rainbows and make something I of these special artists, stonecuttingdo the same for my students.” could wear.” and silversmithing became the central artistic passion of my life after I was The oldest of four daughters, In 1982, Ferguson was injured in the disabled,” she said.Ferguson was born in Logansport, service and sent home with a medicalIndiana, and raised on a farm. She says discharge for traumatic arthritis. As She wants to help her students learnshe got her mechanical ability to work an active woman, she admits, she to focus on the beauty they can create.with machines honestly. Her father struggled to adjust to life without She says this will help them overcomewas a railroad engineer and her mother the joys of some of her recreational life’s hardships and ugliness. “I knowwas a housewife. When she was just a pastimes such as spelunking in caves from experience this works,” shegirl, she was a rock hound, bringing and caverns. says. “Silversmithing and lapidaryhome quartz and other rocks and (stonecutting) were great stressminerals. In high school, she won an One day, a friend took her to the relievers; as the counseling job took itsinternational science fair with a project Ohio Caves. Though she couldn’t crawl toll, I sought refuge and creativity in aabout how changing the environment through the caverns, she could look at jewelry-making life.”changes crystal shapes. the beautiful crystals in the gallery, and she found a spiritual connection she Ferguson is an award-winning artist, Just out of college, she fell in love with was looking to restore, she said. having won first place in professional-caving. “In love,” she says, “is the right level jewelry competitions in Indianaphrase. I was spellbound, swept away.” Today, she is still profoundly affected and North Carolina. “Winning awardsShe didn’t mind scrambling through by the beauty of nature. “My art is a encouraged me to share my love ofthe dark passageways. She knew that reflection of all the spirituality that lapidary and silversmithing with othersnature gives birth to unimaginable surrounds us every day – I am merely in a more tangible way; I began by team-beauties hidden deep in the earth. All the creator who works the gifts of rocks teaching with Mac Thornton at Williamshe had to do was make the effort to go and minerals into a form, into jewelry,” Holland. A few years later, I beganthere, deep in those caves, and collect she said. teaching beginning, intermediate andthe beauties that took millions of years advanced levels of silversmithing, glassto create. They would last forever, and Ferguson’s professional career fusing and stonecutting at Fayettevillethey were free. began when she met an artist named Technical Community College. Ralph Geilds who taught channel set Teaching the art of jewelry creation Later, during military service inlay with sterling silver. Her love for has now become a constant in my lifein the Chaplain’s Corps and as making intricately designed pendants and allows me to share my love foran aircraft mechanic, she learned began with studying under Geilds. and spiritual connection to the naturalthat base recreation shops offered She then explored wire wrapping in world with my students.”jewelry-making classes and access Nashville, Indiana. She furthered herto equipment. training under Mac Thornton and his Ferguson’s work may be viewed and wife, Dawn, at the William Holland purchased at Cape Fear Studios. “This provided me a spiritual leap,” Lapidary School of Art in Georgia. Mac MARCH 2018 7

REBEKAH JONESCertified beekeeper Rebekah Jones is a certified Albert Einstein once remarked, honey produced and the more beekeeper, grocery manager at the “mankind will not survive the than $70 million contributed to honeybee’s disappearance for the agricultural economy in our Apple Crate Natural Market more than five years.” At the time, state. The honey bee is the front- and wife of Kenny Jones, president of this somber statement may have line pollinator of many of our the Cumberland County Beekeeper’s been taken a little less seriously crops such as cucumbers, squash, than it is today. It is estimated that melons, apples, peaches and berry Association. bees pollinate around a third of the varieties. Pollinating also supports food that we eat, but hive survival forage crops including alfalfa, “Newbee” Resources is on the decline. Today, more than cotton, peanuts and soybeans. ever, their existence depends on Honey bees are one of the most Websites human intervention. studied and observed insects in www.ncbeekeepers.org The past few decades have seen the world, as bee enthusiasts and a rise in various threats to the researchers attempt to prevent www.ncbeekeepers.org/chapter/ honey bee. Beekeepers have or reverse many of the calamities cumberland-county-beekeepers found themselves faced with the they are facing. A growing challenge of keeping their colonies movement is underway. For years, www.facebook.com/ alive and thriving. A few of the American beekeeping has been a CumberlandCountyBeekeepers main issues at hand that can wipe practice primarily utilized by rural out an entire colony are pests like farmers. These days, catching a Books the varroa mite; a lack of food glimpse of a beehive or two in a “The Hive and the Honey Bee” by Joe sources, i.e. floral diversity; and backyard on a city street is not a pesticide contamination. rare occurrence. People of all ages Graham (2015) North Carolina leads the way and backgrounds are stepping up \"The Beekeeper's Handbook 4th in the management and care of to carefully maintain and protect Edition\" by Diana Sammataro and one of the state’s most valuable one of our most important and resources. Beekeeping is essential beloved pollinators. Alphonse Avitabile (2011) for the 5 to 6 million pounds of Perhaps you have considered \"Honey Bee Biology and Beekeeping\" by Dewey Caron (1999) Magazines American Bee Journal Bee Culture8 MARCH 2018

hosting a hive in your backyard. Join UsBefore ordering your firstpackage of bees and donning 2018that protective hat and veil, Gallerylearn about this insect by Eventstaking a beginner’s beekeepingcourse. In Cumberland County, April 10thagricultural extension agent and July 10thmaster beekeeper Kenny Bailey October 9thteaches a beginning beekeepingclass. It includes six weeks ofclassroom instruction, free ofcharge, followed by six weeks ofhands-on training at a local beeyard. Students provide their hiveequipment and bee protection.Another way to get involved in thelocal beekeeping community is toattend the monthly CumberlandCounty Beekeeper’s meetingsat 301 E. Mountain Dr. See theorganization's web address under\"Newbee Resources\" at left.Meetings are held the last Tuesdayof every month, except December,at 7 p.m. Bee enthusiasts andkeepers of all skill levels arewelcome to attend. It is a time oflearning and camaraderie. MARCH 2018 9

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TRACEY NATALEDirector of Foster CareBoys and Girls Homes of NCFostering hope and healing with a new foundationThe basic steps of building a house other people are involved in Foster and adoptive parents are specialare breaking ground, excavating, helping, such as therapists, people with big hearts and a calling tolaying the foundation, framing, teachers, social workers, birth help people. They sacrifice their livesroofing, installing electrical/plumbing family and the court system. to help improve the lives of childrensystems, insulation, drywall, siding, Insulation - Trust builds, and a who have been abused or neglected.flooring and painting, and making child begins to feel safe. They take a 40-hour training coursemodifications. Then comes the long- over a period of about six weeks toawaited move-in day. These same Drywall – The inside shell begins learn how to help children who havebasic principles apply to becoming a transforming as new, healthy been traumatized by various events.foster parent. walls are built. They learn to work with professionals and birth families to help children stay Breaking ground – Foster Siding, flooring and painting connected to where they come from. parents go through the necessary – The outward shell begins They open their homes for others to training and licensing process to transforming, and new self- criticize or offer opinions or expertise on have a child in foster care placed esteem and character become how to parent a child in foster care. They in their home. evident as the child’s needs are extend support and love to the children’s met and as their insides heal. birth families. But most importantly, Excavation – A child is placed in A child may begin to recognize they love these children and put their thehome,andallthefears,trauma, healthy boundaries on their own well-being and best interests at the likes and dislikes are revealed or and learn how to verbalize and forefront to foster hope and healing for “dug up.” protect one’s self. the children and their families. Boys and Girls Homes of NC is a foster- Laying the foundation – Foster Modifications – These are to-adopt agency. In 2017, 16 children parents attempt to build a ongoing and will change were adopted by its licensed foster-to- foundation by teaching rules, throughout life as healing and adopt families, and 20 adoptions are boundaries, self-worth, lovability hope continue to manifest. expected to be completed in 2018. Boys and responsibility. and Girls Homes offers training courses Move-in – A child can overcome in the Fayetteville area to become Framing and roofing – A child the obstacles of the hurt and foster-to-adopt parents. Classes are is protected and begins to adapt pain that brought them into scheduled for this spring, summer and and feel more comfortable in a foster care. They accept their fall. Contact Tracey Natale at 910-977- new but safe environment. past hurts and disappointments 5894 or Taylor Barber at 910-918-9701 and settle into the person they to learn more about becoming a foster- Electrical/plumbing – Other will become. to-adopt parent. services are put in place, and MARCH 2018 11

CINDY PYO Contributing Writer t’s that time of year again, three times its size in depth. Check called the first “true leaf” set. When as the first hint of spring seed packets for how deep to plant plants have their true leaves, they are teases us. What’s coming and how far apart to place each seed. ready to go outside. up in your garden this Cover the seed and press down to firm Before being transplanted from in- year? Many people head the soil. Gently water. The packets also doors to the outdoor garden, seed- to the plant nurseries to tell how long it takes before you can lings must be “hardened off.” Thisbuy tomato plants. That’s easy and expect the seed to come up and how means they have to get used to thefine. But it is even more satisfying to long before you can expect to start har- direct sun and wind and temperaturegrow plants from seed. The selection vesting the goodies. extremes. For about a week, put themof possibilities is vast, and the cost is Some seeds do better started indoors outside, but in a sheltered spot withmuch less, too. Let’s explore planting first. Small seeds can be started in Jiffy only half a day of sun. They must bevegetables from seed, both indoors pellets, available at big box stores, lo- sheltered from strong winds or freez-and out. cal nurseries or online. They look like ing temperatures.The joy of seed gardening starts in late a thin mesh disk. Put the pellets in a You can make a cheap frame withwinter when new seed catalogs come shallow, flat container, and then slowly concrete blocks on the outside andin the mail. Search seed catalogs on- pour hot water on the pellets. They will old windows on top for the hardeningline to get on their mailing lists for swell up to 2 inches high. Then plant off period. This structure lets a littlefree. You can also go to their websites one seed per pellet. Larger plants like breeze and some sun in, but not tooto order directly. Seeds usually come eggplants, peppers and tomatoes will much. Be sure the hot season cropswithin a week or two of ordering, so do better in a larger 3- or 5-inch peat are never exposed to freezing temper-there’s still plenty of time this growing pot filled with seed starting mix as they atures during this hardening off stage.season. Some great seed catalogs to try will need longer to grow indoors be- Bring them back indoors overnight if aare Seeds’n’Such, Jungs, Twilleys, Total- fore setting out. frost threatens.ly Tomatoes, Territorial Seeds, Johnnys, Keep the seeds moist, either with a After a week, the seedlings are readyPinetree (many rare and unusual va- plastic cover from a kit or plastic pack- to transplant into the ground. Peatrieties) and Kitazawa (specializing in ing bubble wrap over the seed tray, pellets and peat pots can be put di-Asian seeds). Order online, by phone while waiting for them to come up. Use rectly in the ground as they will rotor by mail. a spray bottle to mist the pellets every into the soil. Keep the plant levelVegetables fall into two categories – day or two to keep them moist until with the soil, not deeper or with anycool season and warm season. Cool the seedlings emerge. Once the seeds roots exposed. The exception is to-season crops like lettuce need to be are up, remove the plastic cover and matoes, which can actually be plant-sown in early spring or late summer, add water to the bottom of the tray as ed deeply, all the way up to the firstas they will fizzle out when it gets hot. needed. Stop misting at this point. leaves. They will grow new roots allOn the other hand, hot season crops Bright light is the key to successful in- along their buried stem. If a reallyshould not be planted before April 15 door seed-starting. Buy a 4-foot fluo- severe late frost hits, cover the plantsin Fayetteville or they will die with the rescent shop light (available at big box overnight with a light blanket, andslightest late freeze. stores for about $13). Prop it on boxes then remove in the morning. or books so it stays about 1 inch above This summer as you share your amaz-Also, some seeds do better sown di- the top of the seedlings. This keeps the ing, delicious bounty with family andrectly into the ground, while others do plants from stretching too much and friends, they may well ask where youbetter when they are started early in- flopping over on their weak stems. got such amazing food. That’s whendoors and then transplanted later. Once the seed comes up, the first you can have the sweet satisfaction ofDirect sowing means the seeds should pair of leaves looks different from replying, “Oh, I grew these from seed.”be planted directly in the ground. A the second pair. This second pair is Happy gardening!general rule is to cover the seed to12 MARCH 2018

COVER STORYA military chaplain'swife, Cindy has livedin Fayetteville offand on for 8 years.She bought her homehere intending toretire on its 3 acresand grow vegetables,flowers and fruit toher heart's content.When not gardening,she plays piano forMain Post Chapeland is involvedwith a women'sBible study on FortBragg. She has beengardening since shewas a young girl.Here are my top picks for taste, productivity and healthy plants for the Fayetteville area.Eggplant Carrot Broccoli Cantaloupe Burpless Cucumber Fond May Sugarsnax Blue Wind Sarah's Choice Sweet SliceHot Pepper Regular Pea Kohlrabi Black-eyed Pea PumpkinRed Flame Lincoln Azure Star Top Pick Pink-eye New England CheeseCherry Tomato Maestro Lettuce Soy Bean Pole Bean Nature Bites Sugar Pea Simpson Elite Midori Giant MalibuBig Tomato Super Sugar Snap Buttercrunch Okra Butternut SquashBig Beef Spinach Onion from seed Clemson Spineless FriscoBetter Boy Palco Zoey Bush Green Bean Zucchini Leek Provider Tigress Megaton Jade II Crookneck Squash Kale Pickling Cucumber Gentry Dwarf Blue Curled VlasstarCheck out the chart below to see what to start when, and whether to start it directly in the ground or indoors first. Start indoors in larger Start indoors in Cool Season Crops Start indoors in peat Warm Season Cropspeat pots Feb. 15-Mar. 1, peat pellets March Direct sow pellets March 15-30, Direct sow April 15th 1-15, transplant transplant out April transplant out after out after April 15 March 1-15 in spring or later April 15 or August 15-30 in fall 1-15 arugula, beans, black- Herbs such as basil, eyed peas, borage corn, eggplant, peppers oregano, thyme, beets, carrots, chervil, cilantro, broccoli, cabbage, kale, dill, melons, squash, tomatoes rosemary collards (fall only), garlic (fall kohlrabi, leeks, sweet potato (slips), only), onions (sets), peas, lettuce, onion (seeds), cucumber, okra potatoes (spring only), radish, radish MARCH 2018 13 rutabagas, spinach

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KIA YOUNG LOCAL POLITICSCo-founder and author, Living Rich bloglivingrichblog.com Most of us have a good idea of what’s WHERE TO START: ACTION STEPS:happening on the national political The city of Fayetteville’s website, • Find out which district you live in andlandscape at any given moment.With 24-hour news cycles and social www.fayettevillenc.gov/home, is a who your elected officials on the citymedia, it’s almost impossible to escape wonderful resource. There, you can and county level are: fayettevillenc.the inundation that is our national find everything you need to know gov/government/city-council/government. about Fayetteville, including district district-finder. maps, current members of city • Follow the city of Fayetteville, But things are different when you council, upcoming meetings and the city council members, board oflook at issues closer to home. Despite accompanying agendas. education, Cumberland Countyhaving record voter turnout for the board of commissioners and other2016 mayoral election, local politics City council meetings are held the departments on social media andis often overlooked by many people in second and fourth Monday of every ensure that you set your notificationsthis community. Yet local issues have a month. If you can’t make it in person, to receive updates.much larger impact on our daily lives they’re also shown on the city’s • Watch or attend the city, county andthan politics on a national scale. Government Access Channel, FayTV7 school board meetings. Whether you on Spectrum Cable and streamed on have children or not, your taxes go Why are we ignoring the very area the city of Fayetteville’s website. toward public schools.in politics where our voices have the • Stay up to date on the agendas ofbest chance of being heard? Why is it Cumberland County’s website, your government; research how theythat most of us can tell you what the www.co.cumberland.nc.us/home, impact your community and sharepresident just tweeted but are unsure gives much of the same information that information with others.of what district we’re zoned in and our regarding the county’s board of • Volunteer.city council representative’s name? commissioners. The Cumberland Getting involved in local government County Board of Commissioners will be how we build communities that This must change. meets the first and third Monday are a source of pride. Neighborhood by No matter your political affiliation, of each month with the meetings neighborhood and city by city will bebeing aware of and involved in the broadcast on Fayetteville/ how we heal our torn nation. “It startsoperations of the city of Fayetteville is Cumberland Educational TV at home” isn’t only true with parenting;a right and a necessity. We can’t wish (FCETV), Spectrum Channel 5. it’s true in politics. If we aren’t involvedfor change at the top and hope that it in what’s happening in our home,will roll down to us at the local level. Cumberland County School Board we can’t expect outside influencesInstead, the work we do in our own city meetings are held the second Tuesday to work.government can spread its way out and of each month and are open to theup – from city to county to state and public. Find out more about them atnational levels. ccs.k12.nc.us/board-of-education. Kia Young's naturally curious personality has helped shape her into a self- proclaimed \"localist.\" The military spouse, mom of three, blogger and freelance copywriter loves everything about Fayetteville and the surrounding area.Photo credit: www.fayettevillenc.gov/home MARCH 2018 15

STEPHANIE CRIDER NEAR USEditor Located in Lillington, it’s an easy drive and the perfect Image taken by Blippermanplace for a day spent outdoors. Once the hunting grounds for the Siouan and Tuscaroratribes, the land was used for stores, mills and quarriesand was harvested for timber once European settlersarrived in the 1700s. Locks and dams were installed,and Raven Rock became a landmark for river pilots. Ahurricane in 1859 destroyed the locks and dams, andRaven Rock became a recreation destination. Today, the park consists of more than 4,600 acresperfect for hiking, biking, horseback riding, camping,fishing, picnicking and more. Its river-centric locationmakes it an ideal place to kayak or canoe, offering rapidsat Lanier Falls and the Fish Traps on the piece of CapeFear Canoe Trail that flows through the park. The picnic area includes 27 tables, eight grills anda picnic shelter shaded by oak and hickory trees.Restrooms and drinking water and a vending machineoffering drinks are nearby. The walking and riding trails travel through a scenichardwood forest with access to the river bluff and RavenRock. A stone balcony offers a stunning view of the riverand floodplains. The Fish Traps and the mouth of Campbell Creek arethe perfect locations for fishing for largemouth bass,warmouth, bluegill, catfish and green sunfish. Otherinteresting species are longnose gar, American eel, chub,shiners, darters and pirate perch. Be sure to bring yourstate fishing license. North Carolina Wildlife ResourcesCommission regulations are enforced. The park rangers routinely host interactive andeducational programs about Raven Rock State Park,and, with some preplanning, are available for specialexploration tours as well. The park has developededucational materials that coordinate with the NorthCarolina school system curriculum for students ingrades 5-8. March through May, the park’s hours are 7 a.m.-9 p.m. Visit www.ncparks.gov/raven-rock-state-park tolearn more.16 MARCH 2018

FAR FROM US If you are a fan of all things natural and B.U.G.S. organic and are looking for an outdoor Between Us Girlsadventure off the beaten path, Happy Hills Alpaca Farm offers plenty to see and do. A Professional Business Networking Organization for Women Happy Hills Alpaca Farm is morethan a place to visit charming and Join Us!adorable alpacas – although thatis one of the things you can do Meets Every Tuesday 8:30 - 9:30AMhere. The farm specializes in fiber www.facebook.com/BUGSNCanimals – think wool for felting, for more information.yarn-making, etc. – along with microgreens, mushrooms, kombucha and MARCH 2018 17dried herbs. Home to alpacas and sheep,the farm prides itself on how wellit treats the animals. It’s a no-slaughter farm, and the livestockdines on fresh hay and top-of-the-line grain. They also, importantly,receive plenty of attention andtender loving care. As a result, theanimals are happy and friendly,making it a great option for aninteractive day trip. While you are there, take a yarn-spinning, knitting or felting classusing alpaca and mohair fiber fromthe farm animals. If you appreciate handmadethings but aren’t inclined to take aclass, the farm offers several alpacaproducts, including socks, hats,yarn, felted dryer balls, hand-feltedtoys, jewelry, baby clothes andhandwoven shawls. The farm grows Shiitake andChanterelles mushrooms on-siteas well as radish, cress, turnip,buckwheat and other micro greens.Call 704-684-7618 for informationabout price and availability. Organicspices and kombucha tea are alsoavailable for purchase. Visit the website atwww.happyhillsalpacafarm.comto learn more about Happy HillsAlpaca Farm and all it has to offer.

Spicy braised Wash chicken, cut into pieces, and pat chicken dry with a paper towel. Serves 4-6 Slice and dice potatoes and mushrooms into small pieces. 8 chicken thighs, boneless and skinless (or meat of choice) Preheat skillet to approximately 3 potatoes, cut into chunks 450 F. While preheating, mix chicken 2 cups mushrooms, diced and veggies with the pepper paste marinade. Marinade 2 tablespoons cayenne pepper Put marinated chicken and chopped 1 tablespoon hot pepper paste potatoes in skillet; top with mushrooms. 4 tablespoons soy sauce 1 tablespoon sugar Cook to brown chicken and potatoes; 1 tablespoon crushed garlic then reduce temperature to 250 F and 1 tablespoon ginger cook for 20 minutes or until chicken is 1 tablespoon sesame oil thoroughly cooked. 2 hot peppers (optional) Garnish with spring onions, and serve 1 spring onion (chopped) with rice. Calories: 208 Fat: 9g Protein: 23g Carbs: 16g APRIL'S Owner of GRACE ENTERPRISE KITCHEN Find more delicious recipes at cooking4fitness.com.APRIL PERTONDid you know? Many people enjoy indulging in While corned beef is often linked Others suggest the corned beef ofcorned beef on St. Patrick's Day, to St. Patrick's Day and easy to find modern St. Patrick's Day celebrationsbut few may know exactly what at restaurants come March, a debate is more closely connected to Irishthey're eating. Corned beef is a way exists as to whether or not corned immigrants of the 19th and 20thto prepare a cut of beef, typically the beef as it is known today can be centuries. Upon arriving in Newbrisket. When making corned beef, linked to Ireland. In his book \"Salt: York City during this time, manythe beef is cured in a brine solution. A World History,\" author Mark Irish immigrants purchased a salt-Corned beef gets its name because Kurlansky noted that a dish of salted cured meat made from beef brisketthe meat used to prepare the dish is beef was produced in Ireland during from Jewish butchers. This meattreated with large grained rock salt, the Middle Ages. This dish might ultimately became synonymous withwhich are also referred to as \"corns\" have been a precursor to today's St. Patrick's Day, a day to celebrate St.of salt. corned beef. Patrick, the patron saint of Ireland.18 MARCH 2018

CHRISTINA ARREOLAContributing WriterMohsin Hamid is the modern literary education, a wealthy and corrupt lying to herself about how she feels.voice of Pakistan, shining light on father and a beautiful wife, Mumtaz, Mumtaz calls herself a monster, hatingthe country that is now overrun by who leads a secret double life as an how she doesn’t feel the way she isgun-running, drug-trafficking, large- investigative journalist. supposed to toward her son. Her voicescale industrialism, commercial We are introduced to Daru at the is a powerful piece of the puzzle thatentrepreneurship, tourism, new beginning of the story. He is charming, is this novel. She describes how hermoney and nightclubs. Hamid exposes sweet and attractive even though he relationship with Ozi broke away bit bythat world in a way similar to the way is impulsive and confusing at times. bit, her struggle with motherhood andScott Fitzgerald exposed the parties Throughout the story, his character self-acceptance and her complicatedand drugs in 1920s America. Hamid develops into something darker and relationship with Daru.graduated from Princeton University more unstable that resembles thewhere he began to work on his first Pakistan society in which he lives. By Ozi’s contribution to the narrativenovel for a fiction workshop. He then showing the extreme differences of creates endless contradictions. Hegraduated from Harvard Law and status between Daru and his spoiled rich continuously goes against the words ofworked as a management consultant friend Ozi and the upper-class people he Daru. He does this so well, manipulatesto pay off his student loans, taking off hangs out with, Hamid cleverly points the reader so expertly, that we becomethree months each year to work on out the impossibility of changing the comfortable with his words. By thehis novel. This novel became “Moth fortune of one’s fate via social status. end of it all, his version of the group’sSmoke,” a seductive, detailed and Like the moths of the title, Daru has an growing years is such a stark contrastmysterious piece of work. appetite for self-destruction. Against a to Daru’s that we begin to questionMoths get confused by artificial sources backdrop of escalating nuclear tensions the two narratives, suspecting that theof light. While trying to correct their between India and Pakistan, his social truth is wrapped up in both, and it isflight trajectory, they end up spiraling and financial positions crumble as his our job to decipher it. At the beginningcloser and closer to the artificial light drug habit and obsession with Mumtaz of the novel, we know a crime has beensource, eventually bringing their spiral out of control, after she and Daru committed by Daru. Slowly, as eachdownfall upon themselves. This is a begin a disastrous affair. piece of evidence is presented, wemetaphor that ripples throughout Mumtaz is clear-sighted and learn that someone has been killed.the novel with the narrative spiraling courageous, willing to state things The book plays out like a trial, witharound a center that we know is there as they are. Through her words, we each piece of narration acting like anbut haven’t yet touched. learn of her lack of affection toward added testimony told to the jury.Set over one sweltering summer in her son and motherhood. Hamid usesLahore, Pakistan, “Moth Smoke” traces her character to explore the idea of “Moth Smoke” is one of the firstthe disintegration of Daru Shezad, maternity that society seems to thrust pictures of the new world that is nowa junior banker with a fondness for on women and how this can make Pakistan, with Daru being a producthash and wisecracks. His insecurity is women feel like social misfits when of the system. The attention to detailheightened by the return from the U.S. they cannot conform or are unable to throughout the novel is impactful,of a childhood friend and rival. Ozi has fall easily into the role. We are brought with each narrator unafraid to go to theeverything Daru doesn't: a Mitsubishi into her journey, first of denial and deepest depths of their thoughts. “MothPajero car, a well-paying job, a foreign Smoke” won the Betty Trask Award for first novel and was a Hemingway Foundation Award nominee. MARCH 2018 19

SHERRY RALLIS Executive director, YMCA of the Sandhills – Fayetteville Branch Rallis is California Federation of Republican Women’s’s 2014 California Left: Sally Flowers Woman of the Year. She has a Masters of Business Administration from Biola (standing center) talks University California. She an Army wife and the mother of five children. about the reason for each movement and how it relates to every part of the body while instructing the chair yoga class. Much more than a gym, offers a 24-hour access card plus a gym, basketball court,the YMCA is a cause-driven so members can work out any sauna and steam room.organization delivering time. Hope Mills serves itscommunity engagement family-oriented community Because the Y is known asthrough youth development, with a preschool program so much more than a gym,healthy living and social and many activities like women build community,responsibility. With one Trunk or Treat for the whole experience accountability,membership, each of the town. The main branch on share knowledge, enjoythree locations offers unique Fort Bragg Road features a connection to resources andopportunities plus the pool for swimming lessons offer each other inspiration.routine of fitness classes, for all ages, lap swimmingtrainers and equipment. and aqua aerobics of high, Finding that resource you low and medium impact, didn’t even know you were The Ramsey Street branch looking for happens every day at the Y. Left: After a 2-hour Bottom: As one of the aqua aerobics workout, Wellness Coordinators, Mabel’s friends continue Michelle Rowell provides the party with a surprise her favorite health and round of “Happy fitness facts through bulletin Birthday” and a gathering boards, prizes and websites. in the locker room. “Sometimes, what seems like a trivia question can save a life,” she said.20 MARCH 2018 Right: Senior Wellness & Aquatics Training ladies dominate the aqua fitness classes with water weights and lots of laughs.

Young women like Jayla and during the work week with Brittany (pictured below in homework finished, a healthy maroon), who are high school snack, exercise, devotion and students, lead activities, play social fun all complete. games, build confidence and offer motivation and direction Parents, grandparents about finishing homework for and guardians can enjoy a K through fifth-grade students daily workout while their in the AfterSchool Program. children enjoy free childcare in Childwatch. Every third All three branches host Saturday, the Fayetteville AfterSchool Care and Branch hosts Kids Night Out transportation from 19 with pool, pizza and play for Cumberland County Schools. children. June-August, the Moms and families love to Y offers 10 weeks of summer pick up their kids from the Y camps. GIRLS ON THE RUN of Talk Matters, Untangling Our North Carolina (pictured Emotions, Healthy Habits of upper left and below) is a Life, Attitude of Gratitude and YMCA collaborative for girls Let’s Cooperate. The 10-week in third through fifth grades, program runs February to providing an experience- May and includes life-skills as based curriculum that well as running. The program creatively integrates running ends with a celebratory 5K with a goal of seeing every Fun Run. girl activate her limitless potential and boldly pursue Check out the Y’s her dreams. The curriculum website to learn more includes topics entitled Self- about all of its resources at YMCAofthesandhills.org.Main Branch: 2717 Fort Bragg Rd.Hope Mills Branch: 3910 Ellison St.North Branch: 3725 Ramsey St.910-426-9962 option 4 = Main Branch,option 5 = Hope Mills, option 6 = North Branch MARCH 2018 21

STEPHANIE CRIDER LAST VIEW Editor y neighbor died back door would yield instant unexpectedly perspective and clarity about yesterday. He was how to prioritize better and young and fit and live my best life. Instead, I am healthy. He was driven and affable crushed and conflicted. My and kind. He leaves behind a heart breaks for this young warm-hearted, charming widow family. This father can no longer and two very young, very sweet laugh and play with his children. children. I was complaining to He doesn’t get any more chances my husband about something to make memories or jokes mundane when I found out. or mistakes. Dirty dishes, I think. Or the shoes I feel frantic to squeeze every last scattered by the front door. drop of gusto from each second, Like gravity, oxygen and the wrapping myself around each changing seasons, death is a part tick of the clock like a screaming, of life. An obvious statement, I tear-streaked, red-faced toddler know. It’s easy to forget, though, clinging to its mother as it’s and then one day, while you are unwillingly dropped off at raging about the insignificant, daycare. I don’t know how many it’s there – the stark reality that hours or days or years I have left. there are no guarantees about I don’t want to. Yet I fear wasting anything. even a single grain of sand that While dishes do need washing, falls from the hourglass. laundry needs folding and shoes The secret formula for balancing need putting away, life is meant the need for clean socks and to be lived. There are babies and fresh toilet paper with the long puppies to snuggle, children to list of beautiful experiences I raise, friends to laugh (and cry) seek to share with those I love with, lovers to embrace. There still eludes me. are wildflowers to pick, songs to This, I know. When my time sing, art to experience, wrongs to comes, I pray my friends and right and causes to support. And family tell funny stories about so, so much more. me and that they understand These things that move the soul just how much I love them. In – this is what gives life meaning. the meantime, I am thankful It makes the grind worth it. Yet, for another day and another somehow, again and again, the opportunity to count my ever-present responsibilities of blessings and do what I can to American adulthood overtake bring goodness and levity to my us. Work. Chores. Errands. little corner of the world. Bills. These rise to the top of our As Mother Nature breathes new to-do lists, leaving the things life into the earth this spring, we care most about in second, it's the perfect reminder to third or even fourth place in savor each moment and make our lives. the most of each opportunity, It seems this catastrophe no matter where we are in the unfolding just outside my circle of life.22 MARCH 2018

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