Women's View February 2017

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February Contents Heart Disease: Inspiring, Educating, Empowering Raising Awareness omensviewnc.com Celebrating for Women Fashion View .w page 4 Keri so Very page 6 He Said, She Said Page 7 What is Pure Barre? www page 9 Fashion View page 15 Is a Boudoir Session Right for You ? Building a lifetime of memories, Building a lifetime of memories, One vacation at a time... Thermograms, One vacation at a time... Health Coaching Specializing in cruises, & More Specializing in cruises, groups, weddings, family, Affordable Prevention groups, weddings, family, all-inclusives, adventure, Disney. all-inclusives, adventure, Disney. A Picture of Health Thermograms oers mobile medical thermography to people in the Cape Fear region of North Carolina at doctors’ oces and other medical settings and at 1404 Raeford Rd. Please call for more information 910-527-7733 Jill Merrill Owner/Travel Agent/ Hope Mills, N.C. or email 910-423-2088 • [email protected] [email protected] www.FavoriteTravelAgent.com PictureOfHealthThermograms.com www.jillmerrill.thehealthcoachgroup.com www.womensviewnc.com FEBRUARY 2017 – Page 3

VOLUME 10 ISSUE 2 PUBLISHER F & B Publications EDITOR IN CHIEF Stephanie Crider [email protected] MARKETING & DEVELOPMENT MANAGER Keri Dickson 910.584.4121 [email protected] ART DIRECTOR & GRAPHIC DESIGNER Sara Smith [email protected] MARKETING REPRESENTATIVES Linda McAlister [email protected] OPERATIONS Hello, lovely Women’s View readers. February makes us think of love and Paulette Naylor matters of the heart. In this issue, we focus on what it means to embrace being accounting@upandcomingweekly. a woman and the many ways we express love. There’s no way I could fit all my com opinions about love in this brief section, but I do want a share a few things I’ve DISTRIBUTION MANAGER/ come to believe over the course of my journey. SALES ADMINISTRATOR Laurel Handforth First, and what I feel is most important, is to have healthy relationships we [email protected] must first love ourselves. To love ourselves, we must understand what love is. I’m a firm believer that in order to understand what love is, we should recognize the CONTRIBUTING WRITERS greatest act of true love was the life and death of Jesus Christ. Erinn Crider Secondly, not everyone we love will return the love we give, and that’s okay. Hank and Diane Parfitt Amanda Harrell The key is not to take it personally. Prioritize whom you allow to speak into your Stephanie Crider life, whom you devote time to and whom you love from a distance. If you allow Lanatria Elliss negative people to consume your time and energy, negativity will prevail in your Many Culbertson Bart Palmer life. We can still love these people from a distance. If you spend time with positive Liz Mileshko people who give back the love you give them, positivity will flow. Jessica Seagroves Thirdly, forgiveness is wise. There is a second part to this though, and this was Hayat Hakim Dee Parris something I struggled with for a long time. Forgiving someone is not the same Lily Rodriguez thing as allowing them to continue hurtful behavior. It is possible to forgive someone yet stop allowing them to hurt you. While we can’t control someone Cover Photo Courtesy of Millshots else’s actions, we can control how much we allow it to impact us. Often, it’s best Photography in Hope Mills to forgive them and walk away from the situation so that we no longer allow WOMEN’S VIEW them to hurt us. This is very freeing! 208 ROWAN STREET Last but not least, LOVE!!! Love is a verb, not just a word. Love life. Love FAYETTEVILLE N.C. 28301 PHONE: 910-484-6200 yourself. Love people. Love animals. Love your community. Love your country. Fax: 910-484-9218 Let love shine through the life you live. Happy February, ladies! Interested in contributing to Women's View? Email: editor@upandcomingweekly. Love, com or call 910 584 4121 Women’s View is for Women, About Women, By Women. Published by F&B Publications in conjunction with Media Marketing Management. All Rights Reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or advertisement without permission is strictly prohibited. 910 584 4121 Page 4 – FEBRUARY 2017 www.womensviewnc.com www.womensviewnc.com

February Feb. 4 Popovich Comedy Pet Theater at the Crown. www.community-concerts.com Feb. 12 NEWSBOYS Love Riot Tour at the Crown. Feb. 4 www.crowncomplexnc.com Meet and Greet with Myrna Colley-Lee at the Arts Council of Fayetteville/Cumberland County 11 a.m. to noon. Call 910.323.1776 for information. Feb. 14 Tai Chi in the Garden at Cape Fear Botanical Garden. 10 a.m. Call 910.486.0221 for information. Feb. 7 Wood, Wine and Whimsy at The Re-Store Warehouse. Tickets $25 Call 910.321.0780 to register. Feb. 17-18 Ladies Shop ‘Til You Drop Expo http://ladiesshoptilyoudrop.com Feb. 9 Fayetteville Ladies Power Lunch from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. http://www.fayettevilleladiespowerlunch.com Feb. 21 Brain Candy Live! at the Crown. 7:30 p.m www.braincandylive.com Through Feb. 12 August: Osage County at Gilbert Theater. http://www.gilberttheater.com Feb. 3,4,10,11,17,28 or call 910.678.7186 Fayetteville FireAntz at the Crown. 7:30 p.m. www.crowncomplexnc.com www.womensviewnc.com FEBRUARY 2017 – Page 5

YOU LOVE LOVE UR YOU MINE FIRST KISS Meet Hank and Diane Parfitt In a few sentences, tell us a little bit about yourself. Also, how long have you been married/together? Hank and I have been married 46 years. I am a former nurse and he recently retired from his medical practice. We met in college. Actually, he was still in school and I had just graduated from the University of Virginia and was working at the hospital. We ended up living next door to each other in an apartment building, and I went over to borrow something from the “cute guys” next door. After I left, he came over What's your favorite thing your bride does to and asked me out on a date. let you know she loves you? When she says “I am so glad I am married to you.” It is just the way she says it. What's your favorite thing your husband does to we are asked to consider for author events and book When/how did you know she was the one? let you know he loves you? signings. He was an English major in college, so he’s very I can’t remember the exact moment, but it was As a nurse, I know how busy doctors are at work. I good at recognizing a well-written book. I know what probably in my 4th year at University of Virginia never called him when he was working just to talk. So he our customers are looking for in books, so I am always when we began dating again after we had broken knew that when I called it was something important and looking for the ones they would like. When we are doing it off for about 6 months. At some point, I realized he always made me feel like it was the most important art installations for businesses, I usually work out the that she had a lot of personal strength and indepen- thing in the world to talk to me. I have always known details of the art to use and he is the muscles when it dence. I figured it would be easier to get through that I can count on him when I need him. comes to installing. And even though he is very busy life if we did it together, fighting our battles back- with his volunteer work, I know I can always count on to-back, instead of me having to carry the full load. When/how did you know he was the one? him. So it really does work out pretty well. We broke up for awhile after we first started dating. When you disagree ... is it better to walk He wanted to play the field. So I started dating other What's the one thing he does that always makes away and cool off before you solve the prob- people, and one night I had another date when Hank you smile (or makes your crazy)? lem or to never go to bed angry? came over to my apartment and rode his bicycle through The first thing I learned in nursing school is “a good Oh, cool off! Absolutely! the living room! That ended my date with the other guy nurse is always 5 minutes early.” Doctors did not learn and even though Hank and I took a little longer to get that and Hank is no exception. We have a sculpture of What are some challenges to being married back together, I knew he had a thing for me. We have a woman sitting on a chair looking forlorn – it’s titled to your business partner? been together ever since. “Woman Waiting for Her Man.” We have had it for about Just having to be careful not to step on each 40 years and it is still true to this day. The only difference other toes. An agreed-upon “division of labor” When you disagree ... is it better to walk away and is a bit has rubbed off on me and sometimes I’m a little works well. cool off before you solve the problem or to never late too, but it still drives me crazy. go to bed angry? He makes me smile almost every day when he asks for What's the one thing she does that always When we were first married, I was the one who felt my opinion or advice and then I hear him say to someone makes you smile(or makes your crazy)? like you could not go to bed unless you resolved the “My wife, Diane…” and he says something nice. Diane is a true political junkie and just can’t problem. Hank could just roll over and go to sleep and I stay away from the constant political news on TV. would be lying awake worried about the problem. How Tell us something cool/fun about being in a Even though we share the same liberal political could you sleep when you had to solve the problems of relationship that you never expected. viewpoint, the TV news and opinion shows are just the world? Or at least the problem of our little world? When we were first married I woke up one night from too much for me at times. Over the years I have learned that there are no problems a dream where I had married an old boyfriend instead of that we cannot solve. And sometimes a little space Hank. I reached over to touch him to make sure it really Tell us something cool/fun about being in a allows both of us to put aside the emotions and deal was him. To this day if I wake up at night with him next relationship that you never expected. with the issues. It works much better. to me, I smile and thank my lucky stars I married the Grandkids. I never imagined anything like it! right one! What are some challenges to being married to your business partner? Most of the time it is just great. We have different talents that totally complement each other so we work well together. He’s the one who reviews books that Page 6 – FEBRUARY 2017 www.womensviewnc.com

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The Ladies Shop ‘til You Drop Expo is scheduled for the Classroom and the Kidsville News Literacy and Education Feb 17-18 at the Crown Expo Center. The event is about Foundation. “We want to make a difference in the community shopping, entertainment and fun. “We’ve worked hard to put and this seemed like a great way to have a lot of fun while sup- together an event that offers a variety shopping opportunities porting great causes,” said Rudolph. as well as fun entertainment that will keep everyone smiling Another bonus for attendees is the Swag Bags that will be throughout the day,” said co-organizer Marie Rudolph. “We handed out to the first 100 attendees each day. Rudolph said she have exciting acts scheduled to entertain everyone. From fash- is excited about the bags because “people don’t want to take home ion shows to dance routines to music, there will be a lot going bags filled with literature,” she said. “They want fun things they on throughout the weekend.\" can use. Things that will make them smile — and that is what we There are also fun giveaways, door prizes and more planned. plan to do.” On Friday night, get your Sparkle on! Wear any type of Tiara for The Ladies Shop ‘til You Drop Expo opens at 10 a.m. and runs a discount off your entry. While the event is fun and entertain- through 8 p.m. on Feb. 17 and 10 a.m. through 6 p.m. on Feb. 18. ing, it is also for a good cause. Rudolph and co-organizer Donna Find out more at http://ladiesshoptilyoudrop.com. Meixsell plan to donate a portion of the proceeds to Cash for FAYETTEVILLE LADIES POWER LUNCH Save THESE Dates 2017 FEBRUARY 9 • MAY 11 • AUGUST 10 • NOVEMBER 9 Shopping • Networking Friendships • Food • Wine Keynote Speaker Sandhya Thomas-Montilus, M.D. Ramada Inn Owner of, Bordeaux Serenity Integrated Medical Spa 1707 Owen Dr. SCHEDULE OF EVENTS: 10:00 AM - 12:00 NOON Shopportunity Expo & Wine Tasting open 12:00 NOON - 2:00 PM Luncheon, Keynote Speaker, Prizes and More 2:00 - 3:00 PM Shopportunity Expo & Wine Tasting continues TICKETS: $35.00 (includes the Shopportunity Expo and 1 Luncheon ticket) VENDORS: $75.00 (includes 1 Luncheon ticket) Each luncheon a portion of our profits will be given to the for the Kidsville News Literacy and Education Foundation. Join us Exclusive with February 9 Shopportunity Wine Bar & Call Keri Dickson with any questions. Expo Tasting! 910-584-4121 WWW.FAYETTEVILLELADIESPOWERLUNCH.COM • #FLPL Page 8 – FEBRUARY 2017 www.womensviewnc.com

Fashion It's officially winter here in the Carolinas. As the temperatures finally drop, it’s time to toss the short sleeves and opt for a more cozy look. Inspired by my love of all things French and all temperatures below 50 degrees, I compiled this charming look. From berets, pearls and feminine prints, this look has all you need to battle the chill of a Carolina winter with feminine flair. Beret and socks: Forever21 Dress: www.IncantareBoutique.com Shoes, bag and necklace: www.Romwe.com Find out more about Lanatria Ellis and her love of fashion at http://caribbeancowgirl.weebly.com www.womensviewnc.com FEBRUARY 2017 – Page 9

Near Valentine’s Day Carriage Rides Downtown Valentine’s Day is a special time. Cuddle up with your honey, or spend the day enjoying being on your own. Whether you are looking for something to do locally or plan to get out of town, there are plenty of choices. Horse drawn carriage rides through downtown Fayetteville have been a tradition for several years. You don’t have to go far to have a romantic Valentine’s Day date with your loved one (they are fun solo, too). The rides depart from 222 Hay Street and last around 20 minutes. They are available from 1 – 8 p.m. on Feb. 14. Tickets are $15 per person. Tickets for children under 10 cost $10. Private carriage rides for two can be purchased for $60. Prior reservations are highly recommended. For reservations, visit City Center Gallery & Books, which is located at 112 Hay Street, or call 910.678.8899. Kingsley Okoroafor, M.D. Excellence In Board Certified Internal Medicine Cardiac Care: Board Certified Cardiology WE OFFER COMPREHENSIVE EVALUATION OF: • Chest Pain • Shortness of Breath • Dizziness and Rapid Heartbeat • • Pacemaker/Debrillator Placement • • Congestive Heart Failure and Hypertension • • Pulmonary Hypertension • Peripheral Arterial Disease • ALSO PROVIDING: • Echocardiography • Nuclear Stress Test • Holter Monitor • Carotid Ultrasound • • Consultative Cardiology, Cardiac Catheterization and Evaluation for Stent • CALL TODAY! (910) 703-8718 1207 Walter Reed Rd., Fayetteville, NC 28314 www.premiercardiocenter.com Page 10 – FEBRUARY 2017 www.womensviewnc.com

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Cover Story Dr. Sandhya Thomas-Montilus Internist and Integrated Medicine Practitioner Feb. 9 Speaker Inspiring. Educating. Empowering. Celebrating. On May 1, Cape Fear Regional Theatre’s founding These are all good things. Things we all need. Artistic Director, Bo Thorp, is scheduled to speak. In Fayetteville has an organization that was created just 1962, Thorp along with a small group of local thespians, for that. It’s the Fayetteville Ladies Power Lunch, a performed two shows: A Christmas Carol and The quarterly event designed for just for women. Night of January 16. From this modest first season the The 2017 lunches are scheduled for Feb. 9, May 11, Fayetteville Little Theater was born. Later, the group August 10 and Nov. 9. Each event opens at 10 a.m. changed its name to Cape Fear Regional Theatre. Thorp with a shopportunity and wine tasting featuring has been honored for her work with several awards a variety of vendors. The lunch portion starts at including the North Carolina Award, which is the 11:45 a.m. and runs until 2 p.m. and includes a highest honor the governor can bestow on a civilian. keynote speaker along with prizes and networking opportunities. The shopportunity ends at 3 p.m. Fayetteville native Melody Chalmers has come The Fayetteville Ladies Power Lunch is run by an full circle in her career. She is scheduled to speak at advisory board that collectively works to make each the August luncheon. Chalmers graduated from E.E. power lunch interesting and purposeful — and fun. Smith High School and was a North Carolina Fellows The board consists of local businesswomen Keri Scholarship recipient. She received a degree in English Dickson, Peggy Manning, Chi Chi Okoroafor, Jill Merrill, Education from North Carolina A&T State University. Cely Graham, Belinda Wilkerson, Dr. Mary Kansora Chalmers returned to E.E. Smith as an English teacher in and Joan Richter. “We want everyone who comes to 1998. She earned a master’s degree, served as principal the Fayetteville Ladies Power Lunch to leave feeling of Cross Creek Early College High School and is now empowered and inspired. We try to bring in speakers the principal of E.E. High School, In 2016, Chalmers was from different backgrounds and professions to share their insights with the group.” named the Wells Fargo N.C. Principal of the Year. Dr. Sandhya Thomas-Montilus M.D. is the first speaker Colonel Marsha Lundt will speak at the November of the year. She’s lived in North Carolina since 1997 Power Lunch. She served in the U.S. Army Medical and practices internal medicine in Lumberton and Corps for 30 years before transitioning to serve as Fayetteville. Montilus practices integrated medicine, the Emergency Manager for Womack Army Medical which treats the cause of an illness not just the Center for 15 years. Since she joined the military, symptoms. She also practices pain management and she has succeeded in the high pressure, high addiction medicine. profile, male-dominated profession accomplishing Page 12 – FEBRUARY 2017 www.womensviewnc.com

Cover Story Bo Thorp Melody Chalmers Colonel Marsha Lundt Co-founder, Cape Fear 2016 Principal of the Year Emergency Manager Regional Theatre August 10 Speaker Womack Army Med Ctr May 11 Speaker November 9 Speaker many “firsts.” Although this is admirable, her role as People with high blood pressure didn’t suddenly, or a mentor to other women in the military is one she even eventually, ask to be taken off their meds. In fact, finds the most rewarding. once people started taking pills, Montilus often found herself writing prescriptions to manage the side effects of some of the original medications. It just stopped Tickets to the Fayetteville Ladies Power Lunch cost $35. making sense. “The current paradigm is to treat the Register at www.fayettevilleladiespowerlunch.com. symptom, and that is madness,” she said. “I had so Dr. Sandhya Thomas-Montilus has never been many patients that would take their prescriptions, do what I told them to do and still they felt bad and even a typical doctor. The 10-minute-per-patient visit died of the diseases they came to me to treat.” most doctors adhere to was never a model she was Now, she treats the entire person. “I take an inte- comfortable with. Sure, some visits only require 10 grative medical approach. I believe in treating the minutes, but if it takes longer than that, Montilus cause, not the symptom,” said Montilus. While that gives her patients more time. “We learned in medical sounds nice, it is not always easy to hear as a patient. school that 60 percent of the treatment protocol “Ninety-five percent of illness starts between the you will give as a doctor comes from listening to your lips. If you look at someone’s diet and give it thought patient. Twenty percent comes from the exam and 20 and analyze it, I guarantee you can cure most of their percent from any tests you run. How can you get all the illnesses. All that takes time, though.” And personal information you need to make an effective treatment responsibility, which is easier said than done in an age protocol in 10 minutes? Sometimes you can’t.” of instant gratification. While she has always insisted on putting patients Along with an integral approach, Montilus em- first, Montilus spent more than two decades practicing braces other tools that might seem unconventional conventional medicine. People would come in with to some. She does not accept insurance but offers symptoms, and she prescribed medicines to manage a pay-per-visit option for care. Or patients can pay a those symptoms. “I wrote so many scripts. I was the monthly fee for more regular access to Montilus. This highest ranked writer in the area for some of the phar- includes using an online hippa-approved program maceutical companies,\" she said. to connect virtually for a meaningful conversation in But as time passed, she watched patients under her addition to office visits. care struggle and eventually die from the very illness- For this doctor, thinking outside the box is an ap- es she was giving them medications to treat. No one proach that works for her and her patients. with diabetes ever took the medication and recovered. www.womensviewnc.com FEBRUARY 2017 – Page 13

January 10 Gallery 208 Opening Recep- tion featuring the works of Michelle Bir Sophia, Alexis, Alana & Livia Soni Martin, Grace McGrath Kenneth and Michelle Bir Debbie Best, Christian Bendana Leslie & Justin Pearson Rob & Mary Russell, LaVar Wright, Lexi Hasapis Sharon Moyer, Bill Bowman Kristoff Thomas, Christen Miller, Myron Pitts, Keith Gardiner Leslie Miklosy Samod Wilson Joe Cardoso, Marshall Pampkin Chris Richardson Anita & Patrick Allen Page 14 – FEBRUARY 2017 www.womensviewnc.com

Boudoir photography is a photogenic Is a “We believe style featuring intimate, romantic images of its subjects. Many women shy away that every from boudoir sessions saying, “I’m not Boudoir By XXXXX sure how to be sexy,” or “I would like woman to lose weight first,” or even “I’m not Session photogenic enough.” And maybe these deserves to photo sessions aren’t for everyone. That’s okay. Or maybe it is an idea worth Right for exploring. celebrate Mandy Culbertson and Bart Palmer at Millshots Photography specialize in You ? who they are, boudoir sessions, working with women of all shapes and sizes. So if a boudoir exactly as session is something you’ve been thinking about doing or want to know more about, they are and here’s what you need to know. Finding the right photographer is key. to remind With the right photographer, women don’t have to worry about how to pose for themselves a camera. The photographer will pose you to flatter the shape of your body. They can give advice about everything from how of the beauty to pose your hands to how you tilt your head or point your feet. Proper posing and they hold.” lighting by a professional photographer have a big impact on the end result. Some people claim they are not photogenic. That doesn’t mean they don’t photograph well. It usually means they are not comfortable in front of the camera. That’s why it is important to work with Mandy Culbertson a professional photographer who can and Bart Palmer, make you feel comfortable and at ease and Millshots Photography. help your personality shine through in photographs. Boudoir is often misinterpreted to be about sex and to be shameful. This is a misconception and couldn’t be further from the truth, according to Culbertson, who says boudoir should be about finding and embracing one’s inner beauty and self-confidence. “We believe that every woman deserves to celebrate who they are, exactly as they are and to remind themselves of the beauty they hold,” said Culbertson. “These images are memories that will last forever, memories you can look back on and say ‘wow!’ The sessions are focused on flattering and tasteful poses that highlight the client’s best qualities … being sexy isn’t about wearing fancy lingerie. It’s about being you and redefining sexy. There is nothing shameful about looking good and feeling beautiful. After walking away from a boudoir session with a professional, you will find yourself amazed, proud and confident.” And ladies, that’s what it is all about! Mandy Culbertson and Bart Palmer, Millshots Photography. www.womensviewnc.com FEBRUARY 2017 – Page 15

An Artistic Through Feb. 12 Disney’s The Little Mermaid at Cape Fear Regional Theater. Visit www.cfrt.org for details. Through March 4 Reflections: African-American Life from the Myrna Colley-Lee Collection at the Arts Council Fayetteville/Cumberland County. Call 910 323-1776 for details. Feb. 3 Write On, Write Now. All writers welcome. Meets at Panera Bread. 6 p.m. Feb. 7 MoonShadow Film Society presents A Light Beneath Their Feet. http://www.groundswellpictures.com/show-films Feb. 10 Nephew Tommy & Friends at the Crown. http://www.crowncomplexnc.com Feb. 16-18 The Great American Trailer Park Musical at Methodist University. Brahttp://www.methodist.edu Feb. 24 “You Can Fly Reading” and Discussion at the Arts Council. 7-9 p.m. Hear the story of the Tuskegee Airmen. Free. Call 323-1776 for information. Feb. 25 The Wild, Wild, West with the Fayetteville Symphony Orchestra at Huff Concert Hall, Methodist University. 7:30 p.m. Cal 433-4690 for information. Feb. 25 Foreigner at the Crown. www.community- concerts.com. For more exhibits and activities, visit www. theartscouncil.com See this artwork and more at Reflections, which is organized by International Arts & Artists in collaboration with Myrna Colley-Lee. Reflections runs Feb. 3 - March 4 at the Arts Council Fayetteville/Cumberland County. Eudroa Welty, Window Shopping, 1930, gelatin silver print. Page 16 – FEBRUARY 2017 www.womensviewnc.com

Heart Disease: Raising Awareness for Women LIZ MILESHKO Director of Development, Fayetteville, NC American Heart Association [email protected] Every minute, one woman will die from heart disease. number and friends’ phone numbers at the drop of a That’s right, heart disease takes the life of one woman hat. But, do you know the most critical numbers for you every minute of every day. That equates to 1,440 deaths heart health? per day, 10,080 in a week and 525,600 deaths a year. Take the time to learn your personal health numbers. That makes heart disease the #1 killer of women. There These include blood pressure, cholesterol, blood sugar are many misconceptions about heart disease in wom- and body mass index. Using these numbers and your en, and they could be putting you at risk. For this very family history, asses your risk of heart disease with your reason, the American Heart Association’s Go Red for doctor and take the proper action moving forward. Women platform advocates for more research and swift- Memorizing these critical numbers can help save your er action for women’s heart health. life. After all, your heart depends on it! One of the best weapons against cardiovascular disease is to get to it before it gets to you. Early detection can Community Awareness make all the difference in a successful battle against the The more a woman knows about heart disease, the #1 killer of women. Knowing the proper steps to take to better chance she has of beating it! The Go Red for prevent heart disease is key to maintaining a healthy life. Women campaign was developed by the American Heart Association to raise awareness about heart dis- Heart Disease in Women ease in women. Our focus is to inspire lifestyle chang- The signs and symptoms of heart disease in women es, mobilize communities and shape policies that save can be different than those in men. Typically, a heart lives. In Fayetteville, the population of women exceeds attack is associated with chest pain and discomfort in 105,000. That’s 105,000 lives that we can save by the left arm. That may be the case for men, but signs educating women on the risk factors of heart disease. and symptoms in women can be completely different. As a united front, we as women have the ability make Did you know that jaw pain and sweating can indicate a a difference! heart attack in women? Even sudden shortness of breath can be a signal that a heart attack about to take place. For women, education is key. Knowing the proper steps to take in preventing heart disease could save your life. • Schedule a Well-Woman Visit with Your Doctor A well-woman visit is an annual physical accompa- nied with a discussion about your health. All women should do this to help identify serious health concerns such as heart disease and stroke before they become life threatening. Your well-woman visit should be tailored to accommodate your family history, age and past health screenings. This appointment is a great opportunity for women and their doctors to get on the same page with their cardiovascular Fayetteville, NC Go Red for Women Luncheon: • May, 4 2017 at the Metropolitan Room health and plan. • Tickets can be purchased at http://goredsandhillsnc.heart. • Know Your Numbers org As women, we know countless numbers by heart. For more information on Heart Disease awareness, please On a day-to-day basis, we are capable of spouting visit www.heart.org. off family birthdays, our spouse’s social security www.womensviewnc.com FEBRUARY 2017 – Page 17

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