Women's View Magazine, February 2020

VOLUME 14 | ISSUE 2 FEBRUARY | 2020 Inspiring, educating, empowering and celebrating women in our community MAGAZINE More Dating Apps Love, Set, Best Team inside: and Date Match: Bonding Night Faves A Tennis Experiences Triumph

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Don't forget about this month's Fayetteville Ladies Power Lunch, Thursday, FEB. 13! It will be held at Cape Fear Botanical Garden. Contents FEBRUARY 6 A PERFECT MATCH 17 LOOKING FOR LOVE? Emma’s Doubles for Diabetes Tennis Tournament allows Explore the world of dating apps and websites as writer Chellie participants to get in the competitive spirit for a good cause. Redinbo looks at the modern ways people form relationships. 10 BIRDS OF A FEATHER 18 WATCH LOVE BLOSSOM Jonelle Kimbrough of Sustainable Sandhills writes about Offering a beautiful, hassle-free experience, the Cape Fear humanity’s relationship with nature, particularly with Botanical Garden’s pop-up weddings are a perfect way to tie endangered species. the knot. 13 STABLE RELATIONSHIPS 20 ROAD RACE RELATIONS The Special Olympics equestrian team offers a meaningful Who knew the happiest place on earth could be even more fun? and impactful experience to special needs youth. Contributor Pam Ellis-Phipps shares about the Walt Disney World Princess half-marathon. 16 DATE NIGHT 22 JUNIOR COTILLION Enjoy a night out on the town with your significant other Learn about cotillion and what it teaches young people about or gal pals at one of these great spots recommended by etiquette in their relationships. contributor Jessica Smith. 2020 FEBRUARY | 3

Close Letter from the Editor VOLUME 14 ISSUE 2 Can we connect? Translated “can This month’s magazine is about how PUBLISHER we talk?” by the late comedienne to make and keep relationships. Looking Bill Bowman, F & B Publications Joan Rivers and “Can We All Get Along” to form new relationships? Try reading [email protected] in country music star Kenny Chesney’s Chellie Redinbo’s article on dating trends. popular song, this phrase means, can Want a spiced-up night with your spouse ASSOCIATE PUBLISHER we relate? Get to know each other? Be or significant other? Writer Jessica Smith Stephanie Crider friends? Check yes. Or no. has great date-night recommendations. Need a girlfriend get-a-way? Pam Ellis- [email protected] With some 210,000 people living in Phipps shares funny stories from her Fayetteville and 7.7 billion in the world, trailblazing treks with besties. There are EDITOR you would think we could find people stories about connecting with youth, Crissy Neville to relate to, but in this technology- family, special populations, teams, wildlife [email protected] laden world, reports show that more and important causes. And since we and more people experience loneliness spend more than a third of our lives ASSISTANT EDITOR and isolation as they spend more time working, can’t we all get along at work, Jenna Shackelford online. Conflicting data, however, point too? Hey, you out there gossiping at the out the connectedness felt by many water cooler ― play nice! [email protected] social-media users. This begs a different question ― not does social media make Check out the pictures on this page ART DIRECTOR you lonely, but rather what do you do of the friends at F&B Publications who Elizabeth Baker with social media? A balance of online just so happen to work together. Enjoy [email protected] chats and face-to-face conversations February, the month of love, connections might be best. and relationships. OPERATIONS DIRECTOR Paulette Naylor Are you interested in writing? Consider contributing an article or pitching a story idea to WVM. We want to elevate your voice. For more information, email womensview@ [email protected] upandcomingweekly.com. Be sure to like us and leave comments on our Facebook page! 4 | FEBRUARY 2020 MARKETING REPRESENTATIVE Linda McAlister [email protected] MARKETING COORDINATOR FOR WOMEN'S VIEW AND FAYETTEVILLE LADIES POWER LUNCH Caroline Schafer [email protected] DISTRIBUTION DIRECTOR/ SALES ADMINISTRATOR Laurel Handforth [email protected] CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHER Fort Bragg Endangered Species Department Cape Fear Botanical Garden FEBRUARY CONTRIBUTORS Crystal Bennett Betsy Abbott Jonelle Kimbrough Chellie Reinbo Pam Ellis-Phipps Jessica Smith Jordan Phillips Bette Scott Olivia Bright Becky Rose Jenna Shackelford Jennifer Fincher Dwight Smith Shelia Hanrick Wanda Chavis Michael Karaman WOMEN’S VIEW MAGAZINE 208 ROWAN ST. FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 28301 PHONE: 910-484-6200 FAX: 910-484-9218 Women’s View Magazine is for, by and about women in Cumberland County. Published by F&B Publications in conjunction with Media Marketing Management. ©2020 by F&B Publications, Inc. All rights reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or advertisement without permission is strictly prohibited. Various vector sources credited to © Freepik and © Vecteezy.

EVENTS PAGE FAYETTEVILLE CAROLINA NORTH SYMPHONY UNCORK'D CAROLINA ORCHESTRA HOME EXPO It’s the most wine-derful time Share a laugh with a friend over of the year! Carolina UnCork’d The Arts Council presents “Shrek: The Musical.” Open Wine, Chocolates, and Crafts the Black History Month through Feb. 16. For details, visit Festival will be at the Crown Exhibition. It will be up through http://www.cfrt.org/ or call on Feb. 15. Must be 21 or older March 14. Call 910-323-1776 for 910-323-4233. to attend. Learn more at http:// more information. www.crowncomplexnc.com/ Celebrate talented women on events/detail/carolina-uncorkd True to Yourself: A Black Feb. 8 with the Fayetteville or by calling 910-438-4100. History Film Talk highlights Symphony Orchestra’s “Music African Americans who She Wrote.” The preconcert Women’s Summit: Rooted. The have greatly influenced the talk begins at 6:45 p.m. and Cape Fear Botanical Garden will entertainment industry on the concert begins at 7:30 p.m. host its first annual women’s Feb. 1 at Seabrook Auditorium. For details, visit http://www. summit Feb. 28-29. For more Visit http://truetoyourselfnc. fayettevillesymphony.org/ or information, visit https://www. com/ or call 910-323-1776 for call 910-433-4690. capefearbg.org/ or call more details. 910-486-0221. As seen on “America’s Got Take a stroll downtown for Talent,” The Texas Tenors will There’s no place like home. The Fourth Friday, hosted by Cool be at the Crown as part of the North Carolina Home Expo Spring Downtown District and Community Concerts series on runs Feb. 21-23 at the Crown. featuring a variety of local shops Feb. 14. For details, visit http:// For more information, visit and galleries. Feb. 28. Call www.crowncomplexnc.com/ www.crowncomplexnc.com/ or 910-223-1089 for details. events/detail/carolina-uncorkd call 910-438 - 4100. or call 910-438-4100. 2020 FEBRUARY | 5 Go, team! The FTCC Trojans womens basketball team plays a home game against Louisburg College Feb. 1 at 1 p.m. at Reid Ross Classical School. FTCC students with current ID and children under 10 get in free. General admission is $5.

In memory of Emma Dixon The Right Match: Playing Tennis for Pleasure and Purpose By Olivia Bright Tennis is a lifelong sport the age groups of 18+, 40+, and 55+, impacts so many people within the enjoyed worldwide. Players but team members can move up country, state and community. maintain health, fitness, in ratings as they improve. Many strength and agility and also teams have advanced to the state In November 2018, the inaugural reap both social and psychological level of championship play, growing “Emma’s Doubles for Diabetes” was benefits. This sport is one for people together both on and off the court. played at Highland Country Club to of all ages and abilities and can be honor the memory of Emma Dixon, played competitively or for leisure, The community shared by the the daughter of Christopher and year-round. It allows players to get Highland team members is Dawn Dixon, who tragically died out and exercise while building remarkable. Many of the players Sept. 11, 2018, at the age of 12. Before a community of supportive have been through hardships, such her death, Emma found passion on teammates and athletes. as overcoming breast cancer, losing the tennis court. According to her a loved one, and developing brain mother, her coach not only taught The Highland Country Club women’s cancer. The support they receive Emma and her teammates about tennis team is one of several host from each other makes a difference tennis but, even more importantly, sites where the Sandhills United in each team member’s life, and it taught them the value of teamwork States Tennis Association league was no different when teammate and what it means to be a friend plays. The members travel to play at Dawn Dixon lost her young daughter to all. The team honored Emma by Gates Four Golf and Country Club, from complications that accompany displaying hearts on their rackets for Mazerick Park, the Country Club of Type I Diabetes. the remainder of the season. Emma North Carolina and at the Lawn & was loved by all who knew her. Tennis Club of North Carolina. Each According to the American Diabetes team member is assigned a rating Association, nearly 30 million “The race to cure Type 1 Diabetes is by the USTA’s computer rating Americans have Type I diabetes, and very personal to me,” said Catherine system, based on experience and about 1,075,855 of these people live McBrayer, a fellow member of the skill level. Leagues are divided by in North Carolina. This condition women’s tennis team at Highland WVM contributing writer Olivia Bright is a Fayetteville native and a junior at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill studying Human Development & Family Studies. She plans to pursue a bachelor’s degree in Nursing. 6 | FEBRUARY 2020

Country Club. “My 11-year-old abilities participated in an all- “Emma’s Doubles for Diabetes” was daughter, Elizabeth, was diagnosed play-all tennis event, including a huge success. The rain didn’t stop just after her fifth birthday. Between everything from children’s tennis them from raising over $33,000 to pricking her finger, injecting insulin, clinics to competitive play based donate to the Juvenile Diabetes inserting her pump infusion or on ability. Whole families enjoyed Research Foundation, the leading inserting her continuous glucose the day with events such as raffles, global organization funding Type I monitor, she’s probably been stuck games, live music and more. One diabetes research. by a needle over 7,000 times in the tournament favorite was the game last seven years. This is her life until “Hit the Honda,” where participants “It is so touching to watch the we find a cure ― 24/7, 365 days a tried hitting a tennis ball into the tennis community come together year. I am so lucky to be part of the open sunroof of a car. The entire to support a wonderful cause and effort to honor Emma Dixon. The tournament was sponsored and to support our family in honoring tournament committee is bringing supported by local members of the Emma’s legacy.  This means more something good out of something community, local businesses and than anyone could ever imagine. tragic and brings hope for a cure to Highland Country Club. Our tennis family continues to lift everyone living with Type I diabetes.\" our family through their kindness and care,” shared Dixon. On Nov. 23-24 of 2019, the second annual Emma’s Doubles for Tennis is a great way to exercise, Diabetes was held at Highland get outdoors and have spirited Country Club. On Saturday, teams competition with friends. Emma’s played in a World Team Tennis Doubles for Diabetes tournament format. Each team consisted of is an amazing way to honor the 10 players, who jockeyed in and memory and celebrate the life of out throughout each match. On Emma Dixon. What a match!   Sunday, players of all ages and 2020 FEBRUARY | 7

Do –A LifewlointghROelatnioenssehlifp these By Wanda Chavis quotes “To love “Should a drop sound oneself is the in cabin pressure familiar? beginning occur, put your of a lifelong mask on first before romance” assisting others” -Oscar Wilde - Every flight attendant, everywhere Think about it. With These are the instructions each whom else will you be time we fly because it is human from birth to death? nature to help others first. Self-love is an awkward term for change doctors if you feel that you best motivational podcasts to listen some of us. But it is biblical. are not getting optimum attention to in 2020 will get you started: Mark 12:31 instructs us to and advice. love our neighbor as we love Take time to listen. Do you listen ourselves. Self-love is the basis of Take time to laugh. What makes to yourself? Journaling what is neighborly love. you happy? Walking? Reading? bouncing around in your brain can be Here are a few tips to freshen Comedy? Chocolate? Long baths? a positive and therapeutic process. your relationship with yourself this Cuddling with your puppy? Indulge Take 10 minutes in the morning to February and to ensure you are in at least one joyful experience each ask what is making me feel anxious not trying to pour love from an day. Be kind to yourself by being your today? What am I excited about? empty heart. own best friend. Before bedtime, ask what was my Take time to live. Give your best moment today? What surprised body the healthiest food, exercise Take time to learn. Make sure me? Journal at least three things for and sleep you can. Stay hydrated you are reading or listening to self- which you are grateful. and rested. Take charge of your improvement material daily. There health a n d k e e p u p w i t h are hundreds of podcasts, books and Take time to love. You will always m e d i c a l e x a m s . P a y attention mentors available. If you commute to be in your own company, and you are to symptoms that may be pointing work, why not listen to motivational, the only person who can make that a to health issues, and be proactive uplifting content instead of daunting loving, healthy, fun and safe place to in your health care. Listen to your news or sensational radio-talk be. So, take time to love ― you will be instincts. Get a second opinion or shows? This link, https: //www. surrounded by those drawn to your safe developgoodhabits.com/best- place, and you will be a loving, healthy motivational-podcasts/ to 23 of the contributor in those relationships. SPONSORED BY Owner, Picture of Health & Thermography, LLC www.phthermography.com 910-580-2077 Wanda Chavis holds a bachelor's in alternative medicine and a master's in public health administration. She's a certified clinical thermographer and a certified molecular hydration specialist. 8 | FEBRUARY 2020

Making Connections, One Client at a Time Connections of Cumberland County By Crystal Bennett Self-determination, collaboration and support can quickly turn situations around for women and children at Connections’ Day Resource Center. These same assets, put into action, helped Connections open in the first place. Research on the basic needs of local women and children, conducted by the Women's Giving Circle of Cumberland County, led to the development of the Connections of Cumberland County. Several circle members could not ignore the alarming number of children experiencing homelessness and took the lead in the community to identify gaps in service. After years of researching, planning and establishing connections with other service providers to reduce duplication, Cumberland County’s only walk-in DRC with case management opened July, 2014, credited for helping hundreds of women and children in its tenure. Connections offers four levels of service programs to meet the needs of clients. DAY RESOURCE CENTER Since inception, 11,264 face-to-face she continued to struggle. She was accepted into contacts occurred here for case management, supportive the C2R Program and assigned a team that included services and in the Fayetteville Technical Community a volunteer coach to work closely with her on her College on-site career exploration lab. To date, 1,309 women journey toward self-reliance. Candace was a great fit for and 1,740 children have been served at the DRC. volunteerism with the C2E Program as a skill-building gap- CONNECT 2 RE-DIRECT Case managers refer clients to filler while she sought full-time employment.  participate in this more intensive case management program. This program provides a foundation of After months devoted to job-seeking and volunteerism, accountability and housing opportunities for single Candace found full-time employment. The Connections mothers if approved for admission. volunteer coordinator helped her engage in FTCC's career CONNECT 2 INTERNSHIPS Social work interns work at exploration lab on-site at the DRC to update her resume the DRC, allowing them the opportunity to experience and North Carolina Works profile with the skills she learned real-life cases and build skills. To date, 77 students from in the For Goodness Sake, SHOP! Candace submitted 23 university partners, both locally and nationwide, have the refined resume with applications to job openings, to contributed 20,000-plus hours served in case management, include a local manufacturing company. A few days later, a savings of more than $360,000 in staffing costs. Candace secured an interview with the manufacturing CONNECT 2 ENTERPRISE This social enterprise empowers company and was hired on the spot. She now works closely women through coaching and training, improving with a supervisor to learn managerial skills.  client marketability in the workforce. For Goodness Sake, SHOP! online store is the first initiative operated by Candace shared, \"Getting the job had to be due to my the C2E program. Visit the store at www.ebay.com/str/ volunteer experience at Connections. The interviewer asked forgoodnesssakeshop to find great deals. me specifically about my computer skills. None of my other jobs had (afforded me) computer skills. It had to be that.\"  This client success story gives credence to the value of Connections of Beautiful transformation can occur when those in crisis Cumberland County. reach out to grasp a loving hand up. To learn more about Connections, go to www.connectionsofcc.org. Facing homelessness, Candace and her children came Connections await. to Connections' DRC in May 2019. She was assigned a case manager through the C2I Program and began stabilization planning. The team assisted her with establishing safe housing, but with part-time employment, A Women’s View Magazine contributing writer, Crystal Bennett is the Executive Director of Connections of Cumberland County, a nonprofit Day Resource Center in Downtown Fayetteville. She has been a dedicated human service professional for over 23 years. 2020 FEBRUARY | 9

The Fragile Relationship of Man and Nature A BALANCE WORTH PROTECTING By Jonelle Kimbrough Adam and Eve. Antony and Cleopatra. Romeo and Juliet. wTlohoenrogedledpa-ecfcopkcienkreaa.dned dthe A bird and a tree may not immediately come to mind when one considers famous couples, but in the Sandhills of North Carolina, these ecological partners are undeniably fabled. Our unique landscape thrives on a delicate balance between the woodpeckers, longleaf pines and fires, and now, more than ever, the people with whom they share their world. Red-cockaded woodpeckers are devoted but difficult companions. They construct their nests, called cavities, only in old-growth, fire-dependent longleaf pines. While the birds and the trees are faithful to each other, their relationship has been threatened by a formidable force: humans. At one time, longleaf pine forests covered 90 million acres of land in the southeastern United States. These forests are one of the most biologically diverse ecosystems in the world — second only to tropical rainforests. Their bountiful natural resources were instrumental to the settlement of the Cape Fear River area of North Carolina, but indiscriminate timber harvests, agricultural pursuits, urban development and fire suppression have decimated a habitat that now rests on only three million acres across the entire nation. Red-cockaded woodpeckers were once quite common in the South, too. They are a vital keystone species in their domains because other creatures in the longleaf pine forest benefit from their unusual nesting customs. Unfortunately, their populations have steadily declined as the woodlands have disappeared. The United States Fish and Wildlife Service declared them to be endangered in 1970. Jonelle Kimbrough, a WVM contributor, is the executive director of Sustainable Sandhills, a nonprofit organization creating resilient environmental, economic and social resources for current and future generations in the Sandhills of North Carolina. She worked in the Department of Defense sustainability programs for 10 years before joining Sustainable Sandhills in 2019. 10 | F E B R UA RY 2 0 2 0

The Sandhills are home to one of the last Join Us tracts of viable real estate for the fastidious red-cockaded woodpeckers. Now, our region and 2020 its residents are charged with the restoration Gallery Events and preservation of this vanishing habitat, as well as its most important avian. April 7 June 23 Fort Bragg famously faced that charge in 1990. October 6 The USFWS issued a damaging biological opinion against the post for failure to defend its longleaf pine-laden lands. The opinion all but crippled training missions at the world’s largest military installation and mandated programs to recover local populations of red-cockaded woodpeckers. Since then, Fort Bragg and partners, including Sustainable Sandhills, Sandhills Area Land Trust, North Carolina Forest Service, North Carolina Wildlife Resources Commission and The Nature Conservancy, have become the woodpecker’s most passionate advocates. These agencies protect public lands and longleaf pine forests. Their species monitoring and habitat management initiatives — especially prescribed fires — are now models of conservation. In the budding months of spring, longleaf pine forests in the Sandhills are often ablaze with rivers of flames, where foresters conduct controlled burns. Prescribed fires are essential for the health of the habitat. Fire opens the canopy, enhances seed establishment and controls “duff,” or the brush that provides fuel for destructive wildfires. As a result of these efforts, local populations of red-cockaded woodpeckers have rebounded. Fort Bragg lifted training restrictions in woodpecker habitats in 2012, and the soldiers and the birds have learned to live in harmony. Yet, contrary to popular belief, red-cockaded woodpeckers are still endangered, and the long- term wellness of our longleaf pine forests is still a concern. The people of the Sandhills will be instrumental in the future of our region’s inimitable environment. We can all strive to protect our forests from development and support the prescribed burning of public and private lands. With a bit of care from both Mother Nature and our community, the red-cockaded woodpecker and the longleaf pine will be together forever. 2 0 2 0 F E B R UA RY | 11

Pets in the Home and Office By Michael Karaman Imagine wanting a dog but not a study that showed pet-friendly being able to have one because renting to tenants with animals is companies are more likely to attract, the home or apartment you rent too costly and problem-ridden to engage and retain employees. Results does not allow pets –– a sad reality justify. The results of this research revealed that 90% of employees in for thousands of people nationwide study demonstrated that for most pet-friendly workplaces feel highly and an issue that the Pet Leadership landlords, offering pet-friendly rentals connected to their company’s mission, Council and the Human Animal Bond is not only economically viable but fully engaged with their work and are Research Institute are working to can increase their bottom-line profits. willing to recommend their employer address. This situation is especially Accommodating pets can attract a to others. In contrast, less than 65% true of the largest pet-owning large group of potential renters while of employees in nonpet-friendly demographic ― millennials ― many also bringing positive attention to workplaces made the same claims. of whom rent. A recent study from the developers and landlords. In contrast, Additionally, more than three times website www.realtor.com found that the lack of pet-friendly housing as many employees at pet-friendly a whopping 75% of pet owners would is also one of the leading reasons workplaces report a positive working pass up on an otherwise perfect home contributing to people surrendering relationship with their boss and co- if it didn't meet their pet’s needs. their pets to shelters. workers, significantly more than those Younger buyers, of which 79% of those in nonpet-friendly environments. surveyed were between the ages of While the availability of pet-friendly Moreover, these employees are 18 and 34, were even more likely to housing is critical to keeping pets more likely to stay with a company say no to a home if it didn't meet the and their owners healthy and happy long-term. The findings held true needs of their pet. together, a rising demand for and even among nonpet owners in both interest in pet-friendly offices also pet-friendly and nonpet-friendly Another study from The Foundation exists. This point is again pertinent as workplaces. for Interdisciplinary Research and employers are working hard to attract Education Promoting Animal and retain a millennial workforce. Just think ― when developers, Welfare, or FIREPAW, Inc., sought to Much like those in the housing landlords, property management determine the factors influencing industry, employers have a great companies and employers adopt good the availability of pet-friendly rental opportunity to benefit from pet- policies that welcome pets, more units. One key hypothesis was that inclusive policies. people and pets will reap the benefits the current shortage of pet-friendly from healthy, strong human-animal rentals comes from a misperception One of the largest insurance bonds. And strong and healthy are by rental property owners that companies in the world, Nationwide, great attributes, any way you cut it. in partnership with HABRI, conducted 90% 79%Younger buyers, of which 65% 90% of employees in pet-friendly workplaces feel were surveyed between the highly connected to their company’s mission, ages of 18 and 34, were even fully engaged with their work and are willing to more likely to say no to a recommend their employer to others. In contrast, home if it didn't meet the less than 65% of employees in nonpet-friendly needs of their pet. workplaces made the same claims. 12 | F E B R UA RY 2 0 2 0

Making Friends Along the Trail The Cumberland County Special Olympics Equestrian Team: A Coach’s Perspective By Bette Scott S ome 25 years ago, I of the athletes currently on the team and it has been wonderful to was looking for a way have been riding with us for over 10 see their progress.  Being able to become involved in years. Many are now adults whom we to ride a horse is beneficial my community. I grew watched grow up. We loved seeing emotionally, physically and up in Fayetteville and the special athletes become more mentally. It is also fun! attended college in Georgia, comfortable around the horses and where I stayed and worked for improve their skills each year. We feel We take our Cumberland 10 years after graduation.  I very close to them all; it has been a County Special Olympics moved back to Fayetteville pleasure and a gift to be a part of this equestrian team to the in 1992.  I was single, had Special Olympics family. statewide equestrian a horse, loved horseback competition held in Raleigh riding and had been Most of the athletes had never each year. The weekend-long involved briefly in Special been around horses before they show is a wonderful experience Olympic competitions came to ride on the team and were for the athletes socially and in Georgia. afraid. But, thanks to the efforts emotionally. I sense that being of skilled and patient coaches part of the team is gratifying for I contacted the and volunteers, and because of the athletes, as they have fun and Cumberland County Special the special horses we use for the learn valuable sportsmanship Olympics to inquire about program, the athletes have been skills. It is also a rewarding volunteer opportunities and, able to overcome their fears and ride and fun time for the coaches, much to my delight, discovered with confidence, season after season. volunteers and family they offered an equestrian Some even ride independently now, members of the athletes program.  I was so excited to be a n d i s a s p e c i a l culmination able to use my knowledge of of many hours of hard work for horses, my horseback riding everyone involved. experience and my horse for such a good cause that I became Special Olympics has a involved as a volunteer. I took large presence in our state. my horse to practices and eventually In 1968,    Eunice Kennedy became a certified equestrian Shriver founded Special Olympics coach with Special Olympics of with a vision that individuals with North Carolina. intellectual disabilities were far more capable in sports and physical activity After a few years, I met my husband, than ever believed possible. Nearly and being an equestrian himself, 40,000 children and adults with he became involved with Special intellectual disabilities participate in Olympics, too. We began hosting Special Olympics North Carolina. Here practices at our barn for the local at home, the Cumberland County team after the person who had Special Olympics offers a large range been the coordinator stepped down. of sports and programs, yet remains a Our daughter, now 19, also became close and welcoming family. involved as soon as she was old enough to help. If you desire to build authentic, We have become lifelong friends genuine and long-lasting with many athletes, their parents and other family members, their relationships while helping caregivers, other volunteers, coaches and horse owners over the others, I encourage you to become years. While some come and go, many a part of Special Olympic sports. Learn more at https://sonc.net/local- programs/cumberland- county/. Come out oand join us! Bette Scott, a WVM contributor, grew up in Fayetteville and now lives in Erwin with her husband and daughter.  She has been the equestrian coordinator for Cumberland County Special Olympics for 25 years; her entire family has owned and ridden horses all their lives. 2 0 2 0 F E B R UA RY | 13

Tight as Glue Team Bonding Activities to Build Better Relationships By Becky Rose TEAM R elationship building better. They realize they are a part members from different teams or team bonding of a team with unique gifts and within an organization to work is essential for any talents, which results in improved together to find solutions that spill company or organization; working relationships. By design, over into the office. The result is however,  this essential element is team-building exercises entertain connection and improved morale. often overlooked or skipped due and engage participants. to the cost and the time it takes Businesses in Fayetteville away from the office. Bosses often Unusual experiences create have found success with a variety of discount the fact that the pros of team-building experiences. The forming coworker connections \"Unusual experiences owner of Gill Security, Dick Gill, refers outweigh any cons of how the create laughter and to his organization as a three-legged relationships were achieved. The shared memories...\" step stool — one leg is the company’s long-term benefits of team bonding technicians, another, sales and the in the workplace include building laughter and shared memories, third, administration. All three legs trust, improving communication while risk-taking adventures are needed for the stool to stand and increasing company morale. reveal leadership tendencies and properly. In recent months, Gill emphasize the need to encourage hosted two appreciation events for When team members work each other.  Competitions require his staff of 32. During the first outing together on a project outside to Segra Stadium, the employees the scope of their normal duties, pulled together as cheerleaders they relax and relate to each other for the Woodpeckers, while at the Becky Vohoska Rose is a contributing writer for WVM. A Nebraska native who has called North Carolina home since 1987, Becky is married with two daughters and employed by Gill Security. 14 | F E B R UA RY 2 0 2 0

second, they came together as woodchoppers in the GREATER FAYETTEVILLE AREA friendly ax-throwing competition via a mobile unit set up remotely at the Gill offices. Team Bonding Gill commented on the value of these activities. Options “We were all surprised what we could learn about one another when we started throwing axes Axes and X’s features mobile units to bring ax-throwing instead of grinding axes.” ranges to your site for teambuilding. http://www.axesandxs.com/corporate-team-building/ In addition to the plethora of bonding activities available in the community, there are Battle House Laser Combat invites you to get out of the a variety of internal activities that build morale office and work together via elite tactical training exercises. and communication. Examples of interoff ice https://battlehouselasercombat.com/fayetteville/corporate- e n g a gem ent include coworkers dressing up outings for Halloween during the workday and carving pumpkins together for departmental contests and Black Ops Paintball customizes morale builders and training business owners providing service opportunities events for organizations and provides a unique experience. for employees to host a family, sponsor an Angel https://www.blackopspaintball.org/locations/north-carolina/ Tree or work side-by-side at a soup kitchen over the holidays. The holidays especially provide fodder Camp Rockfish is a full-service retreat and conference for fun; who hasn’t participated in an office Secret center with overnight and dining facilities and a wide array of Santa or Dirty Santa exchange? activities for team bonding. https://www.camprockfish.org/ Another example of an internal bonding The Climbing Place provides an indoor facility and all experience is the “secret f riend” program equipment. It can also bring a mobile climbing wall to your that teachers at the First Presbyterian Church business. https://www.theclimbingplace.com/ preschool, First School, have participated in Defy Fayetteville offers an unforgettable team-building \"...while risk-taking event with an ultimate extreme air experience that adventures reveal encourages thinking outside the box. https://www.defyfayetteville.com/ leadership...\" Escape Room Fayetteville promotes a team-building for almost three decades.  They draw names at experience where, regardless of your group’s size, age or the beginning of the year among the dozen or physical ability, you’ll work together to solve fun, challenging so teachers and hide little gifts throughout the clues and puzzles to escape before time runs out.  year for the recipient. At the end of the year, https://www.escaperoomfayettevillenc.com/ the secret friends reveal their identities to one another at a party. Greg’s Pottery, downtown, and Just Claying Around across from Westwood Shopping Center, offer group outings to “It gives you a chance to get to know someone else paint and create. Find these stores on Facebook. that you are working with,” commented teacher Hallie Hill, a 25-year veteran of the school.  “You Paraclete Indoor Skydiving gives teams a boost in morale learn about your secret friend’s hobbies, likes and without the awkward trust-falls and oversharing. Take that dislikes. You even learn what your secret friend’s team-building get-together to the world of indoor skydiving favorite beverage is so you can surprise him or her for an unforgettable experience. https://paracletexp.com/ with a spiced latte or Diet Coke®.” indoor-skydiving/corporate-team-building/ Leadership Fayetteville is a Greater Fayetteville Segra Stadium, home of the Woodpeckers, offers special Chamber-sponsored program with a mission to group packages designed to get your team cheering together produce community leaders. Its yearlong education for our hometown team. https://www.milb.com/fayetteville and training program kicks off with a retreat that includes a mix of bonding activities. The events allow Wine and Design provides an inspiring space to collaborate participants to learn more about each other so as to and create a masterpiece in an energetic environment. work better together for the remainder of the year. https://wineanddesign.com/what-we-offer/team-building/ fayetteville Some business leaders shudder at the thought of team building, but according to Forbes, they Zipquest Waterfall and Treetop Adventure Park is located in may need to think twice. A Forbes report found north Fayetteville and is a premier zipline adventure facility that “effective team building means more engaged and can offer corporate retreats. https://www.zipquest.com/ employees” ― a conclusion good both for company culture and the oh-so-important bottom line. 2 0 2 0 F E B R UA RY | 15

NFoigrhDtaFtuen, Fayetteville Delivers By Jessica Smith FEBRUARY ― the the grill and greeting customers with Across the street at Latitude 35 Bar month a huge smile on his face. and Grill, enjoy a tropical-themed menu and delicious cocktails. Weekends at of love and all things spontaneous Fayetteville’s energetic downtown Latitude deliver a scrumptious brunch vibes offer eclectic options for its menu of note. Located right next door and romantic. The Fayetteville area citizens and visitors. Circa 1800 and to Cape Fear Regional Theatre, Latitude Antonella’s Italian Ristorante are hot is a nice starter while CFRT and its great is certainly not in short supply. From spots for delicious food, drinks and live theater is the perfect finisher to a overall atmosphere. Within walking fun night. the vibrant downtown scene and distance is Fayetteville’s own Cameo Art House Theatre, where you can Also located in Haymount is the new mall area to the north side of town enjoy a one-of-a-kind experience in Under Par Golf Club. This establishment the quaint theater as you watch a is Fayetteville’s first premier indoor or Hope Mills, you are sure to find film. To end the night, try a trip to golfing club and sports bar, offering 18 4th Course Wine & Dessert for good holes of golf simulation from one of 65 an abundance of activities, food and company and tasty treats. courses, including Pebble Beach and St. Andrews Golf Course in Scotland. Now entertaining date night options for Haymount is another great place you can play golf no matter the weather to venture out with your significant outside. Under Par is great for friendly the love month and more. other for dining and entertainment. couple competitions or as a group date Located in the shopping center at activity for up to four people per booth. If live music is what you’re after, the 1200 block of Fort Bragg Road is Leclair’s General Store, a unique Traveling south to Hope Mills, check out Scrub Oaks Contemporary place to grab a cup of coffee or you will find Dirtbag Ales Brewery a glass of wine and enjoy quality and Taproom. Offering craft beers, American Pub. Its live music and time with your special someone. frequent food truck events, live Leclair’s offers a backdrop of unique music nights, a farmers market and Tuesday trivia nights offer a fun, and vintage wares such as local art, outdoor ax-throwing fun, Dirtbag collectible records and handmade has something for everyone to enjoy. light-hearted way to relax with your items that spark fun conversations and fabulous finds. Store owner With all of these amazing Fayetteville loved one. Patrick Leclair also brings a full options, you will be hard-pressed to fit lineup of events to Haymount, such them all into your schedule. Lucky for Closer into town, Luigi's Italian as Wine & Bites, Food Truck events you, 2020 is a leap year, so enjoy this and Yoga & Wine. February’s extra day to live it up with Chophouse and Bar offers the best of your loved one. both worlds. With a live band in the bar area Friday and Saturday nights and a quiet, more romantic experience in the dining room, it is sure to meet all of your tastes. The venue also offers fun, free wine tastings every Thursday night that you won’t want to miss. Another fine dining option that comes highly recommended is Chris’s Steak & Seafood House. Its hand-cut steaks, fresh seafood and friendly waitstaff raise the bar when it comes to fine dining. The inviting owner, Greg Kalevas, can often be seen working WVM Contributor Jessica Smith is a 27-year-old Fayetteville native. She is a former third-grade teacher at Long Hill Elementary School. Jessica is married to Kenneth Smith Jr. and is the mother of Kenneth Wayne “KW” Smith III. 16 | F E B R UA RY 2 0 2 0

LOG ON AND MEET UP How to Navigate Online Dating I s it any wonder in this digital By Chellie Redinbo The League requires users to age that online dating has apply for membership on become a huge industry? Bumble caters to more confident their site, providing job title, Numerous sites available women as it asks women college information and now cater to each person’s to message men first. A LinkedIn profile. needs ― everything from a long-term man only has 24 hours to relationship or marriage to a date night respond to contact or lose the Her, formerly Dattch, is an or just-for-fun encounter. potential date. app geared toward LGTBQ According to a study published earlier women. this year from Stanford University Tinder is a site known for hooking and the University of Mexico, 39% of up, although it can establish Clover is a mobile dating app for heterosexual couples and 60% of same- friendships and long-term ordering a date in the way you sex couples met online. Meanwhile, the relationships. Reviews state would a pizza, stating likes same study found that heterosexual it is the world’s most used and dislikes. It connects with couples’ traditional methods of entering dating app. a user's Facebook account or a relationship — through family, the email address. neighborhood and church, for example OKCupid asks multiple- — have declined over nearly eight choice questions to find Plenty of Fish started in 2003 decades. compatibility among users. and has a reputation for housing fake profiles or bots According to http://www.cnet.com, the Hinge uses connections to on the site, but it is one of top 12 dating sites and apps of 2020 Facebook friends to facilitate the few dating apps allowing are Bumble, Tinder, OKCupid, Hinge, connections. contact with a fellow member Coffee Meets Bagel, Happn, The League, without subscribing. Her, Clover, Plenty of Fish, Match and Coffee Meets Bagel suggests eHarmony. Here is a summary of what a person’s current matches Match has great reviews but each has to offer. or bagels every day at noon, comes with a cost. There and it suggests different is a free version, but the T hese online dating platforms have icebreakers to use as paid program is more their pros and cons. Online dating conversation starters when comprehensive. may provide a better chance meeting. of connecting people looking for the The long-standing eHarmony same things than frequenting a bar will. Happn matches people who are site uses a test to find 29 Dating sites take away the initial fear in similar locations, showing dimensions of compatibility of approaching someone and facing potential matches for those and interests between users. rejection. Of course, the online dating who have crossed paths process comes with a downside. already without even realizing it. One caveat is safety. A common ploy is to “catfish” others by creating a profile with a false picture and identity. Another issue is fees. Sometimes a site shows matches, but next prompts users to spend more money to speak to potential dates. Of course, not every site requires payment, but the ones that do have created a lucrative industry out of people looking for a meaningful connection. The popularity of dating sites is steadily growing and will most likely continue as people spend more and more time online in the upcoming years. Chellie Redinbo is a contributing writer to WVM. She is a Fayetteville native who enjoys being in nature, playing volleyball and being around close friends and family. 2 0 2 0 F E B R UA RY | 17

By Sheila Hanrick February brings the season of love and romance. Naturally, with spring on the coattails of this otherwise cold month, warmer weather soon ushers in another season — that of weddings. As is commonly known, couples wishing to forgo the traditional march down the aisle can opt for a “courthouse” wedding at the Register of Deeds office in downtown Fayetteville. Marriages are also performed by the Magistrate at the Cumberland County Detention Center, hence providing a “jailhouse” wedding instead. Cape Fear Botanical Garden offers another, and perhaps better, choice for couples looking to make their special day short and sweet. This choice is a new take on the wedding scene: pop-up favor bubbles and a small cake in the base package. After wedding days in the Garden. Providing an opportunity for picking from the various choices and making decisions, couples who don’t want the legal location or the stress the couple just shows up on the wedding day with their or cost of a traditional wedding, CFBG offers a beautiful license in hand; the CFBG staff handles the rest. venue for a different option. Pop-up weddings are legal, complete weddings, but on a much smaller scale in an Pop-up weddings at the Garden are all about couples and intimate setting. They are the perfect choice for a couple the love they share. With the endless natural landscape that wants all the beauty and details of a wedding but for a backdrop, the pair take their vows before witnesses doesn’t want the large guest list, huge budget, months of and up to 30 of their family and friends, and ta-da, they’re planning — or the wait. Pop-up weddings work extremely married. It’s a sweet and genuine moment. well for the military couple preparing for deployment. Since the first pop-up wedding day, 13 couples have Since Feb. 6, 2019, Cape Fear Botanical Garden has taken advantage of this unique program. So, to the hosted three pop-up wedding days. The third pop-up couples who became engaged over the holidays and day had the best response to date, with seven couples would rather save money for the honeymoon, the tying the knot. To start the process, an event coordinator next pop-up wedding day is March 21. The goal is for 15 from the Garden meets with the couple to discuss the couples to tie the knot on this early spring day. If March details of the day. Couples choose between three Garden 21 is not ideal, the Garden also provides ceremony-only locations for the ceremony: the Great Lawn, the Pond packages throughout the year. Skip the long guest list, Lawn or the Orangery. Local vendors help make the months of planning and large price tag to enjoy the day special. Weddings take place every 90 minutes and details, beauty and intimate memories of a pop-up include the location, an officiant, chairs, decor in neutral wedding at CFBG. Find out more at www.capefearbg.org. tones by Debbie Bender Designs and options for flowers, photography, a ceremony director, Champagne, party Sheila Hanrick is a WVM contributor and the director of events and marketing at Cape Fear Botanical Garden in Fayetteville. 18 | F E B R UA RY 2 0 2 0

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Girlfriends Doing Disney A Half-Marathon Race and Friendship Rite of Passage By Pam Ellis-Phipps O ur relationships def ine our lives. Girlfriends love going on trips to Disney World. My husband provides comfort and companionship. My children give me a deep sense of purpose and pride. My family loves me unconditionally; where they are is where I call home. I cherish these relationships, but my circle of girlf riends keeps me sane. In 2015, I decided that I wanted to do the Disney Princess half-marathon. Was I a runner? Nope. I was your standard couch potato, but that didn’t stop me from signing up and dragging my sister along with me. The Disney Princess half-marathon occurs in February, but sign-up happens the July prior. It typically sells out within a few hours. For the 2016 race, my sister, who lives in Florida, and I were able to snag two spots and happily started training. RunDisney provides a training schedule to all who sign up. On the morning of the race, we started the race together, but I insisted Tina go ahead after about a mile. Disney puts on an entertaining race with bands and princes and princesses lining the course, so there is plenty to distract yourself from the fact that you are trying to complete 13.1 miles. Tina finished the race, but I was “swept” after 9.5 miles. Much of the course is on the interstate, so participants in RunDisney races must maintain a 16-minute mile. I was so proud of my sister and had so much fun that the disappointment I felt lasted less time than the sore muscles. I also found that my friendship with my sister strengthened through this experience. Pam Ellis-Phipps is a WVM contributing writer and the executive assistant to the Provost at Methodist University. She, her sister Tina and friends run, walk and travel together often. 20 | F E B R UA RY 2 0 2 0

F ast forward to July 2016, and I knew I wanted to try again. This time I roped my friends Kimberly and Patty into going with me. We secured three spots. It was a first attempt at a half-marathon for both f riends. Although we all live in Fayetteville, we mostly trained separately. Kimberly was already a runner and Patty, like my sister, could walk a much faster pace than me. The date for the 2017 race arrived, and off we went to Orlando. We were staying again at the Shades of Green resort. When we arrived, we found that our reservation had been made for the day before and we didn’t have a room. You can imagine the stress that followed! To utilize the busses to the start line, participants must stay at a Disney property. We had people back home searching for hotel rooms and calling Shades of Green to try to fix the problem. In the end, we talked our way into a room at Shades and collapsed onto couches and beds once we were in. In addition to transportation to the race, Disney properties provide a bus to Disney Springs, which we took advantage of several times. We shopped, ate and laughed together. This trip was an experience from beginning to the end which had results similar to 2016. Kimberly and Patty finished, and I was swept before the end of the race. I still had so much fun with my friends that I cannot regret the experience, and come July 2017, I signed up yet again. Tina and Patty signed up for the 2018 race, both finished, and I was swept for the third time. Although I have never completed the Disney Princess half-marathon, who knows? I may still sign up at some point and try again. The Princess Half is still on my bucket list. I can’t recommend race vacations with girlfriends highly enough as a way to connect and bond. From the Ribbon Walk for Cancer done with friends in memory of a precious friend we lost to cancer and the hilly Run the Bluegrass in my home state of Kentucky to the daunting Disney Princess Half, I’ve discovered a fun way to bond with my girlfriends, exercise and vacation, too! I’m still not a runner. I have walked all my races. If you’re a slow walker like me, it’s still possible to enjoy these kinds of trips. Grab your girlfriends and hit the road! I promise you won’t regret it. 2 0 2 0 F E B R UA RY | 21

The Junior Cotillion: Tutelage in Thoughtful Living for Today’s Young TeensE- pBlyeaBseetsuyseHhoelamdsehsoAt babnodtatny pictures from the file Long white dresses. from Cotillion,” a Christmas and Short white gloves. holiday cards drive for hospitalized Black tie tuxedo. veterans at the Veterans Affairs A Taylor Swift song ― Medical Center. These projects stress playing in the ballroom. how even a small gesture can build a A gentleman escorting a lady to and relationship and a feeling of goodwill. from her seat in the dance circle. Two by two, the students pair up on And, participants learn to dance! the dance floor. Dances taught include the box step, beach shag, cha-cha-cha These are the sights and sounds and waltz. Everyone participates! of the National League of Junior Everyone dances! Cotillion’s Grand Spring Ball to celebrate the finale of the cotillion Each August, nominated students season. By the way, these Junior Co- receive invitations. Anyone interested tillion students are in middle school. can submit nomination information And, Fayetteville is their home. ― the student name, parent name, complete mailing address, parent The mission statement of the NLJC is contact email/phone, student grade “To act and learn to treat others with and school ― for the invitation list honor, dignity and respect for better via the organization website, by relationships with family, friends, and phone or United States Postal Service business associates later in life, and to mail. Students in grades six and up learn and practice ballroom dance.” may participate in Junior Cotillion. In a time when an overwhelming A parents’ reception is held in majority of interactions are via text September to familiarize parents with messages, email and voicemail, the the curriculum, student dress code Junior Cotillion students learn and and special events.  Held once per practice manners ― face-to-face ― month from October through March, during a six-month program.  classes meet at two Cumberland County locations and end with the Learning how to greet people and big finale — the Grand Spring Ball. shake hands, make an introduction, assist with doors and coats, write a Parents participate, too. Parents thank-you note, set a basic table and attend one dance class to ready know its elements, pay and receive themselves for the last dance of compliments, RSVP to a formal the ball ― the parent-child waltz. invitation ― these, and more, are What a beautiful moment and all skills taught in Junior Cotillion. memory to cherish. In return, the young participants gain confidence in interacting Relationships. Whether we interact thoughtfully with others, building with family, friends, people we strong relationships with people. know, acquaintances in the community or total strangers, The NLJC program maintains a all have an opportunity to build strong presence in Cumberland relationships through polite and County, even in changing times thoughtful behavior. What better with a focus on technology, because time to learn such wisdom and parents want their children to display actions than when young? good manners and be able to go beyond the basic, “please, thank you, For more information on the NLJC- yes ma’am and no sir.” Cumberland Chapter that meets in central Fayetteville, go to www.nljc. The Cotillion students also participate com/chapter/cumberlandnc or to in two community outreach projects: learn about the NLJC-Cumberland “Crayons from Cotillion,” a crayon Chapter North that meets in north drive for Friends of Children at Cape Fayetteville, see www.nljc.com/ Fear Valley Medical Center, and “Cards chapter/cumberlandnorth. Betsy Holmes Abbott, a WVM contributor, has been the Director of the National League of Junior Cotillions, Cumberland Chapter since 2005 and the Director of the Cumberland Chapter North since 2008. Reach her at [email protected] for NLJC information. 22 | F E B R UA RY 2 0 2 0

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Building Alliances with Youth Through the Arts By Dwight Smith T he Ellington-White Community dignity, health and productivity artwork, a pirate map, was selected Development Corporation within a community. Therefore, the as the featured artwork in that year’s of Fayetteville works to build DTA program is accessible to the program promotional. The FSO gave relationships with local youth by entire community. Low-income and tickets to DTA students to attend the presenting a free program of visual underserved students attend free pirate-themed concert. and performing arts classes each of charge. summer known as Discovering the Collaborating with other community Arts. This structured curriculum of Additionally, the DTA program serves agencies is key to the program’s visual and performing arts classes as an intervention tool for the high- success. Partnering relationships allows young artists or regular risk behaviors of some students. Last expand the audience base and help students to step into the role of year, over 237 young people from reach program goals. These agencies an artist. Fayetteville’s ethnically diverse provide program space, staff support community participated in DTA. and sometimes supplies or materials. They may be learners new to the arts Collaboration with partnering agencies The Ellington-White CDC has held or ones with limited art exposure; all makes this participation possible. after-school and summer-arts camps levels learn and benefit from the arts. on the campus of Fayetteville State Funded in part by a Cumberland University, at Saint Anne Catholic For over 10 years, students of DTA have Community Foundation, Inc,. Church, at The Salvation Army, as learned that art can affect their lives in Summertime Kids Grant, DTA is for part of the Great Oaks program for positive ways, whether in discovering young people ages 10-18. When the young men and at the Ellington-White a new talent or finding a creative program is fully funded, DTA is both Contemporary art gallery. approach to problem-solving. The an after-school and summer program program impacts visual arts learning, where participants experience the full In partnership with the Fayetteville critical thinking, group collaboration range of art-making processes and State University Department of and decision-making skills. To achieve mediums as well as dance, theater and Performing and Fine Arts Art this goal, the Ellington-White CDC music disciplines. Professional working education department, participants recruits a diverse group of artists artists, dancers, musicians and art come from the university’s Upward and arts educators to be intimately educators provide positive role model Bound precollege summer program. involved in the program. instruction, mentoring and a view of This camp provides visual arts alternative life solutions and outcomes exposure to some 40 potentially The mission of the Ellington-White through art. college-bound students. DTA summer CDC is to promote the arts, culture camps reach CommuniCare, Inc., and civic engagement. With a vision The program is made whole through T-MAC program’s group home to enhance the quality of life for area collaboration. During one such participants, The Vision Resource residents and visitors by generating example of collaboration in the Center and The Fayetteville and supporting high-quality, diverse summer of 2018 with The Fayetteville Metropolitan Housing Authority, cultural experiences in all the arts Symphony Orchestra, DTA participants among other deserving agencies. and arts-related disciplines, we at created pirate-themed artworks for Ellington-White believe that arts- exhibition in the concert hall lobby at Young people connect and relate centered activity contributes to the Methodist University, a performance in many ways these days; why not sustained advancement of human venue of the FSO. One student’s through the arts? Dwight Smith is a WVM contributing writer and the program director at the Ellington-White Community Development Corporation. Photos from left to right: DTA After-school Program CommuniCare, Inc., DTA Summer Drawing Class FSU, DTA Summer Program at FSU 24 | F E B R UA RY 2 0 2 0

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Navigating Senior Adult Care with a Power of Attorney Relationship By Jennifer K. Fincher Have you reached the age to manage their finances and perhaps receives a diagnosis where conversations with make healthcare decisions of dementia means that he friends seem to include for them.  After all, no one may not have the capacity to fewer stories about what you knows what tomorrow may execute a power of attorney are doing on the weekend bring, and planning for the validly. Your only option at that and more about taking unexpected is important for point may be to apply to the care of your parents? If you anyone over the age of 18. court for a conservatorship or have not yet, you will. Aging guardianship, which can be bodies require more medical So why not wait until costly and time-consuming. attention. Moms and dads, there’s a dire issue? One of whom you once believed to the biggest misconceptions It can also be hard for have superhuman strength, is that you can sign a power aging parents to deal with now rely more heavily on you of attorney at any time these changes.  Many feel to take care of things they and in any mental state. that they are “giving up aren’t physically or mentally Someone cannot appoint a control.” Horror stories are out capable of handling. It’s hard power of attorney — or sign there about appointees not to think about — they’re the any legal document for that acting in the best interest of parents, right? But thinking matter — if they are mentally the person who appointed about it is vital, and sooner incapacitated or deemed them. However, the person rather than later, to ensure legally incompetent. Waiting appointed, or agent, under that you have the tools needed until dad is having difficulty a power of attorney, has a taking care of those things or fiduciary obligation to make EVERYONE HAS A STORY... LET US HELP HER REMEMBER Becoming a friend is often the best approach to connecting ALL-INCLUSIVE with a loved one living with dementia and that’s what we do PRICING FOR at Harmony. Let us guide you through our Best Friends™ Approach and how we can help you find the best care for MEMORY CARE your loved one and peace of mind for you. Includes: Schedule Your Personal Tour • Specialized Dementia Training for All Staff 910.635.0555 • Medication Management • Continence Management ASSISTED LIVING | SECURED ASSISTED LIVING • 24-Hour Nursing Care 7051 Rockfish Road | Fayetteville | www.HarmonyAtHopeMills.com • 3 Delicious and Nutritious meals per day 26 | F E B R UA RY 2 0 2 0 • Social and Recreational Activities & Outings • No Buy-In Fee • No Long-Term Leases

financial decisions in the best limited or special, and health next of kin may be asked by medical interest of the person, or principal, care. A general power of attorney professionals to make medical naming them. A power of attorney governs actions an agent may take treatment decisions in situations does not mean that the agent has for financial or legal affairs. When where a patient cannot make unlimited authority to act. Actions we desire an agent to have the those for him or herself, situations taken outside of that authority may authority to take those actions after may arise, such as when next of kin be challenged. It is important, that mental incapacitation, a power do not agree on a course of action, the principal appoint someone he of attorney must be durable. A resulting in time in court and more or she trusts to manage his or her limited or special power of attorney suffering for the principal. affairs, particularly if a power of grants authority only for a specific attorney is going to be valid beyond transaction or authority to act. It is important to discuss the mental incapacity. power of attorney relationships A healthcare power of attorney with loved ones. Take the time to Also important to note are is the only document that allows meet with a trusted attorney to the different types of powers of an agent to make healthcare ensure you have these important attorney, namely general, durable, decisions for the principal. While documents in place. Jennifer Fincher is a WVM contributing writer and the sole practitioner of Jennifer Kirby Fincher, PLLC. She specializes in residential and commercial real estate and also has years of experience in contracts, business law, estate planning and administration. Carolina Spring Show March 14, 2020 | Crown Complex | Fayetteville, NC Enjoy Shopping with the Best of Fayetteville! Plus, we’re Bringing the Best to Fayetteville all conveniently in one place from 10AM - 4PM! Also featuring the Miss Carolina Spring Pageant! Sponsored by: Fundraiser for Fisher House Foundation Now accepting vendors and pageant applications. For more information: WWW.DREAMGIRLEVENTS.COM 2 0 2 0 F E B R UA RY | 27

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