DECEMBER 2017 Kukui Lamalama pdf

Kukui Lamalama The Magazine of the First Unitarian Church of Honolulu Volume 2017...Number 12...December 2017Memories of Christmas Past Check out pages 4&7 for more photos & this year’s Holiday Celebra- tion

Celebrating Christmas Present Caleb Vierra in front of Aternative Christmas tree On November 25th, our Religious Education Team organized Members & Friends of the Church to create an Alternative Christmas tree. Using hula hoops, poles, netting and amazing imagination, the tree was made. (L to R) Imiloa Borland, Gabe Tio- gangco, Lorraine Fay & Junko Davis play holiday cheer as Friends & Members ate & created. IndexServices Pages 3 to 7 From Members Page 16Notes From Nancy Page 8 Molly’s Memos Page 17OWL Page 9 Jubilee Pages 18 & 19OWL Alums Visit Page 9 C’est Si Bon Pages 20 & 21Council of Chairs Pages 10 & 11 Chalice Circle Pages 22 & 23Magazine’s New Editor Page 12 Book Group Page 23Sherry Stevens Page 12 A.D.O.R.E. Page 24Jonipher’s Poem Page 13 David’s Art Page 24Gloria’s Grant Page 13 Church’s Needs Page 25Decision Together Team Page 14 Michael’s RE Class Page 26Wilma’s Memorial Page 15 Church Calendar Page 26 & 27 Page 2...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Honolulu Campus Church ServicesFirst Unitarian Church of Honolulu Margaret Mann2500 Pali Highwayhttp://www.unitariansofhi.org/ Revs. Kathleen Rolenz and Wayne Arnason Sunday, December 17, 10:00 am Margaret Mann “Resilience” Everyone knows what it means, but no one can actu- ally define it...come find out what Capt'n Jack Sparrow has to say about the subject. Sunday, December 3, 10:00 am Worship Associate: Richard ValasekRevs. Kathleen Rolenz and Wayne Arnason Greeters: TBA Decorator: TBA “The Lost Art of Conversation?” T. J. FitzGeraldIn a world where we have infinitely more capacity thanever before to communicate with one another wherev-er we might live in the world, do we mistake connec-tion for conversation? Ministers-In-Residence Rev.’sWayne Arnason and Kathleen Rolenz, with a little helpfrom a favorite poet of theirs, David Whyte, will inviteus into the question: What does it mean to have a realconversation?Worship Associate: Richard ValasekGreeters: TBADecorator: TBASunday, December 10, 10:00 am Sunday, December 24, 10:00 am T. J. FitzGerald T. J. FitzGerald “Ready for a Miracle” “Tidings of Great Joy”In the not-so-popular movie, “Leap of Faith,” the great This morning we will share the many wonderful andPatti LaBelle asks those gathered to see Steve Mar- varied readings and songs that this season has to of-tin’s character, “Are you ready for a miracle?” But mir- fer. Come ready to hear some of the wisdom of theacles, miraculous events, or even just happy coinci- prophetic voices of this and other generations. Anddences rarely let us know they’re coming. We’ll look come ready to join our voices in songs we know andtogether at what our shared faith can tell us about pre- love...and some songs that might surprise us!paring for the miraculous. Worship Associate: Karen ValasekWorship Associate: TBA Greeters: TBAGreeters: TBA Decorator: TBADecorator: TBA Page 3...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Church Services A UU Pageant, December 24, 2014 Photo by Veronica MorganSunday, December 24 4:00 pm “Pageant for All Ages”Come join in an afternoon of imagining one of our time’s great stories of searching, hoping, and find-ing. We will join together to share in these stories, to light our pathways with shared light, and tosing amid the silence of this night. (See page 7 for more details.) Leeward CampusUnitarian Universalists Leeward Ohanahttp://www.unitariansofhi.org/ Saturday, December 9, 5:00 pm A Christmas Chalice CircleIn January, a new Chalice Circle will start in Mili-lani (check out page 21 for more information). Atthis Service we will demonstrate how a ChaliceCircle works. Our Chalice Circle topic is “WhatIs Your Favorite Holiday Thing To Do?”Join us in Makakilo (at Harmony Bentosino’shome) as we share our memories.As always after the Service, we will have our Fa-mous, Fabulous Pot Luck. All are welcome.For more information, please contact CharlotteMorgan at [email protected]. Page 4...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Church Services...The Big IslandBig Island Services Unitarian Universalists of West Hawaiihttp://hiuu.weebly.com/ Meets every second and fourth Sunday at 4:00 pm in Kailua-KonaHilo Unitarian Roundtable Address: Sadie Seymour GardensMeets every Sunday at 9:30 am in Hilo (Outdoor Circle)Email: [email protected] 76-6280 Kuakini Hwy, Kailua-Kona Facebook: Unitarian UniversalistsUnitarian Universalists of Puna of West HawaiiMeets every Sunday at 10:30 am Phone: 808-640-4485in Hawaiian Paradise ParkAddress: 15-1791 14th Ave., HPP Check out page 6 for moreParadise Dr. off Hwy 130, UU of West Hawaii NewsRight on 14thFacebook: facebook.com/UUPunaPhone: 808-966-7852Website: www.uupuna.com Song of the Month At First Unitarian From our Music Director, Dennis Graue: “We have had a lot of feedback from doing our new parody song ‘Ain’t Nobody Loves Me Better than UU’s Do,’ so that will be ‘Song of the Month,’ for Decem- ber since it mentions our Eight Principles!!! And of course we’ll be doing beautiful Christmas Music too.” Dennis can be contacted at www.dennisgraue.com. Dennis' music is available at: http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/dgraue http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/dgraue2 http:/www.cdbaby.com/cd/dgraue3 Get Ready ForThe No Rehearse Christmas Pageant On Sunday, December 24, 4:00 pm. Rudolph Will Guide You. PS...Bring Cookies To SharePage 5...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Unitarian Universalists of West Hawaii – Dec. 2017 Newsletter A free and responsible search for truth and meaning Change in schedule: No church service on Dec. 24. Add Dec. 31 to your calendar for a 10:30 am Discussion Group. In January we will resume our usual services on the 2nd and 4th Sundays of each month at Kona Educational Center, 76-6280 Kuakini Hwy, K-K www.uuwesthawaii.org P.O. Box 3433, Kailua-Kona 96745 Newsletter Editor: Linda OlsenSUNDAY SERVICES: UUWH Mission Statement We are a welcoming, caring community commit-December 10, 4:00 pm \"Sing we now of Christ- ted to a free and open search for meaning, guid-mas\" presented by Rev. Catherine Ishida. ed by the wisdom of the ages, reason, intuition,Christmas as it is celebrated today, especially in and experience. We work toward a more accept-the United States, is largely a 19th century inven- ing peaceful world with respect for all existence.tion. Who invented it and why? Let’s sing some ofthe season’s favorites songs, explore their past SHARING WITH OTHERS:history, reflect on their present meaning, and im- UUWH’s BI-ANNUAL DRIVE TO HELPagine their place in our future. If you have a fa- SUPPORTvorite song, let us know so we can incorporate it The Food Basket Inc. of Hawaiiinto the service! From Treasurer Gayle Dawrs: “Our relatively small group has just donated $570 in checks &December 24 - No service. A time for quiet re- cash to the Food Basket.” This fall and winterflection or joyful (noisy) companionship, the seasons the needs are particularly great and allBoard wishes you all the best of the season. that we do is much appreciated.December 31, 10:30 am Guest at Your Table is an annual fundraisingDiscussion group - Our group that met in October and education program that supports the UU Ser-agreed to meet again on December 31st. We vice Committee’s (UUSC) human rights work. Wewould like to meet at 10:30 am for brunch and invite everyone to take part. The website atdiscussion. Stay tuned for details of the location. uusc.org/welcome-to-guest-at-your-table tellsLet’s keep the cost low for all! you how to contribute.January 14, 4:00 pm ON GRATITUDE:We welcome the New Year together with a New excerpt from a poem by Joanne Conger:Member Ritual, welcoming 3 new members toUUWH: Cathy Gilham and James & Maria Lift your glasses to this day and to all of us here.Beebe. The service will be presented by Rev. Cat The God lovers and the Atheists. The ne’er-do-Ishida. wells and the heroes. Those who serve us grace andNEXT BOARD MEETING: thoseDec. 5 (rescheduled from Nov. 28), 1:00 p.m. at who lay sadness and confusion at our doorstep.the home of Maiden Temple. All members and Next year, almost guaranteed, we’ll all feel differ-friends are welcome to attend. ently Maybe differently enough we won’t remember what we thought or said, today. So let us remember this: Our lives are measured not in gold, but in grati- tude. Teachers all, I am grateful for the lessons learned that helped me to better see the gratitude I own. The gratitude given and accepted and given, again. Blessings and tidings of joy. Amen to all of us here. “Mele Kalikimaka” Page 6...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Christmas Eve PageantA No Rehearse Christmas Pageant December 24, 2017...4:00 pmThe story of Jesus' birth, as rec- There has been no rehearsal for year. I ask you only to suspendorded in the Book of Luke is this pageant. Instead, as the judgment and resist the tempta-commonly called the “nativity.” story unfolds, that narrator will tion of jumping to conclusions. ask for people (children andOn Sunday, December 24th at adults) to assume roles in the It’s a story about us, after all,4:00 pm, we are not just going story (like starts, shepherds, about hope found in the mostto re-read the story of the nativi- wise people) and help us to see unlikely of places. I’m hoping toty, or re-tell it; we are going to re and experience this familiar, be- see you on Sunday, December-live it. loved tale in a new way, as if we 24 at 4:00 pm!Instead of just hearing or watch- were actually present within the After the pageant, we will have aing the story, we are going to story, as if we never had heard cookie sharing (bring yourget inside it and make it our own this story before. favorites) and hot cider.story as much as possi- I well can appreciate that someble. This, of course, depends Church Members are not com- An RE and Worship Teamentirely on everyone's open- fortable with Christian themes, Collaborationness, good will, and coopera- especially around this time oftion. Eleanor Klieber & Karen Valasek Co- chairs Page 7...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Aloha From Nancy...Our President President Nancy Schildt (center) with Sue Yamane-Carpenter (left) & Jane Raissle (right), our new Kukui Lamalama editor. (Photo by C.B. Morgan)Aloha All,The Council is becoming engaged with making Nancy).goals for our Church based on the aspirations onwhich the Future Shapers Team spent countless The following people were present to work onhours and thought. Please read the attachment Goals: Catherine Graham– Board Vice President,on page x and add comments, possible additional Social Justice; Nancy Schildt- Board President;goals especially that your team can help imple- T. J. FitzGerald - Minister; Rachel Compton - Re-ment, as you are willing and able. These brain- ligious Education Co-chair; Dennis Graue - Mu-storming, goal-setting sessions will continue at sic; Marie Anne - Aesthetics & Hospitality; Jillnext meeting. January 25, 3:00-5:00 pm. Rabinoff- A.D.O.R.E; Dan Carpenter- Building Use & Art Gallery; Al Rowland- Building &Important to note (per Rachel): RE team cannot Grounds.add more to its plate with the loss of Jeff and Lisa Absent: Carla Allison- Chalice Circles; Carmenand with no Director of RE. Also they are need- Golay- Membership; Charlotte Morgan- Maga-ing reliable regular and substitute volunteers up- zine, Martina Queenth- Worship Team; Lorrainestairs on Sundays to assist the teachers. See Faye- Lay Ministers; Sheila O’Keefe- HUUWF;Rachel or Laura, co-chairs. Any multi- Junko Davis- Stewardship; Bill Scarvie -Futuregenerational aspirations/goals cannot fall on Shapers.RE. Upcoming multi-generational events are:January 14, MLK Intergenerational Sunday Mahalo for your caring and leadership efforts,Service and Stone Soup (T. J., Teachers, Nancy Page 8...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Religious Education...OWL... Time: After Church, 2 hours. Sunday, March 11: Parent/Child Orienta- tion. Time: After Church, 1.5 hours. Sunday, March 18 - Sunday, May 20: Our Whole Lives program, Sessions 1 - 10. 1.5 hours each. This program can be scheduled for Sunday after- noons, after Church, OR Sunday evenings. Yes, there are TWELVE sessions. Yes, it's long. Yes,Aloha All, it covers social media issues and pornography,I am forwarding the following proposed sched- as well as anatomy, gender issues, decision mak-ule for the Our Whole Lives (OWL) Program for ing, life skills, and much more.4th - 6th Graders for the First Unitarian Church ofHonolulu. The curriculum for 4th - 6th Grade OWL has just been revised, updated, etc. Medically accurate,January 26, 27 & 28, Friday evening - Sunday age appropriate, inclusive, values based sexualityafternoon: Facilitator training for Elementary education for FAMILIES.OWL: Kindergarten-First Grade and 4th - 6thGrade. Training open to those interested in facili- Parents are their children's most important sextating the Elementary OWL programs. Ques- educators.tions, please ask Nan! Parents also need information and skills to carrySunday, March 4: Parent Orientation for the Our out these important tasks.Whole Lives program for 4th - 5th - 6th Graders Hope to see you there!AND their parents. This is an adults only meet- Rachel Comptoning, with child care for children. RE Co-Chair Photo by C.B. Morgan Former Youth Group Members & OWL Alums Visited FUCH in November Ryan Haker (Left) & Jasmine Stiefel (Right) enjoyed a Sunday Service. Both Ryan & Jasmine work on the Mainland. Jasmine, however, was here temporarily performing for the Honolulu Opera Theatre. Nikki (Center) is Ryan’s friend who came to enjoy our wonderful weather. Page 9...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Council of Chairs... Notes fromCouncil of ChairsNovember 4, 2017Present: Catherine Graham–Board Vice President, SocialJustice; Nancy Schildt- BoardPresident; T. J. FitzGerald -Minister; Rachel Compton -Religious Education Co-chair;Dennis Graue - Music; MarieAnne - Aesthetics & Hospitali-ty; Jill Rabinoff- A.D.O.R.E;Dan Carpenter- Building Use& Art Gallery; Al Rowland- Build- within and among groups in the finding others to set goals foring & Grounds. Church for all functions and ac- the different sections of aspira-Absent: Carla Allison- Chalice tivities. tions from the Future ShapersCircles; Carmen Golay- Mem- R– Responsible. Who is re- Report. We mainly tried to workbership; Charlotte Morgan- Mag- sponsible for the activity? on making goals for the first itemazine, Martina Queenth- Wor- A- Accountable. Where does in each category. Bill Scarvieship Team; Lorraine Faye- Lay the buck stop? Only one person will hopefully be at next meetingMinisters; Sheila O’Keefe- or group should have this desig- in January to assist with under-HUUWF; Junko Davis- Steward- nation. It is usually the Minister standing some of the unclearship; Bill Scarvie -Future Shap- or the Board. aspirations.ers. C- Consulted. Who needs to beCatherine Presided. consulted before an action or Summary of CategoriesDuring check-in, it was noted decision is made? & Discussionthat all need to be aware that I - Informed. Who needs to bethe Religious Education Com- informed? Community: a. Goals: Create at least Twomittee cannot take on anything Every Task within the Church,more. Without a Director of RE from planning to marching in a multi-generational events/or Lisa and Jeff, Rachel and parade to planning an intergen- year. What teams to plan this? In future, do another event that might bring in newLaura said additional expecta- erational service etc. would ben- families. (not RE’s responsi-tions or requests cannot be han- efit from knowing how the bility)dled. Their Team needs reliable Board, the Minister, the Staff Do these two well: 1. Annualvolunteers every Sunday to be and relevant Committees are Camp June 7,8,9, Christmaspresent with the 3 paid teachers interconnected. Decoration and Christmas Eve- especially young teen group. service, (Nancy and Eleanor)Hospitality Team is also in need This can prevent lots of prob- In Future - Kids involved inof volunteers. lems with “no one told us.” Or Nu’uanu Interfaith ThanksgivingNote- T. J. said it is not a good “we didn’t know we were re- service (Dennis, Marie)idea to ask new members to do sponsible for that” kind of com- Parades - including sign makingtoo much during the first year of ments. and decorating truck, bikes etc.their membership. FUTURE SHAPERS (Social Justice)Nancy presented the concept of Aspirations to GOALS: b. Other Aspiration questioned:the RACI chart to facilitate com- Council of Chairs is the main (Continued on page 11)munication and understanding entity that will be setting goals or Page 10...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Council of Chairs... hour for the service. (Worship Team) Nan organizes OWL (Our Whole Live Sexuality training). Good way to bring in Families from outside. March, 2018 - Owl class for Gr. 4-6. Sense of Place: Goal: Visitors and Members are welcomed with opportunities to mingle and make connections after the Service. Minister will beTJ: Why reach out to UH and Alliance, Open Table with Don addressing how to be hospita-HPU students? Would they con- Brown’s movie night, Social Jus- ble. Our Members need to learntribute? Generally they don’t tice Committee. how to approach people and nothave the interest or time. Do Join together for social action overwhelm.they stay around and help? Fo- and interfaith connections. Ex. Hospitality teams need expan-cus instead on attracting Young Immigration issues sion.Families. When we have a Minister we Goal: Communicate each Mem-c. Nurture snowbird communi- can get more involved, Ex. Goal ber’s involvement with thety. ?? No one had a goal related to be an obvious presence in the church. Different colored ribbonsto this aspiration. Nu’uanu Thanksgiving Service. with roles in church will be maded. Goal to Create “What does it Music Team especially. to attach to name tags. Actionmean to be UU? class” This is a Idea from Al. UU Flash Mob. Ex. item: Who will do this? Will thisShared ministry activity with Flashmob with a Feminist or re-quire changes in name tagMembership, Minister and ?- other social issue theme. Is this holders?Right now -Every 3rd Sunday a goal to do one a year? Who? Social Justice:after church. Development is Needs Follow up. Goal: Involve the Interfaith Alli-hap-pening on this goal. TJ is Religious Education: ance in our 5th Sunday Socialworking on this. Goal: Parents can attend at Justice Services by inviting themMinistry: Working on Vision to least (two? Or ?) Sunday Ser- to have a workshop after Churchguide all we do. Goal: Have a vices a month. on those days. (Social Justice)New Vision Statement to pre- Explore the option of changing Marie is the Delegate to this.sent before the Congregational kids RE times to before or after ADORE. Yeh! Goal: Continuemeeting in May. Service in the future with child- 4th Sunday activities.TJ: Our presence in the commu- care during service so parents Explain what Public witnessnity is a good model for future. can attend service. Is this a connection means. Maybe vigils,Way we come together and the goal? RE team to discuss. flashmobs? (ask BILL next mtgway we are in the world is a Find more non-parent regular to explain)model for our faith. volunteers. Goal: How many Worship:Public Presence: Goals: needed? Goals: To be explored by TJReestablish connections and Goal to be more conscious of and Worship team in the future.email list with: FACE, Interfaith time and not going past onePage 11...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Welcome Our New Editor The new editor of Kukui Lamalama is Jane Raissle. Starting with the January edition, Jane will be responsible for pro- ducing our Church Magazine. You may see some exciting changes to the maga- zine. Jane is currently a teacher at Assets School and she welcomes the challenge of assuming the editorship of the maga- zine. Jane replaces Charlotte Morgan who has been responsible for the magazine since October 2015. Welcome aboard Jane and thank you for taking on this important volunteer job.Our new editor of the Church Magazine, The deadlineKukui Lamalama is Jane Raissle. for the January, 2018 Kukui Lamalama is Photo by C.B. Morgan Sunday, December 17, at Noon.Sherry Stevens visited Oahu when her ship, the USS Nimitz stopped at PearlHarbor on its way home to Portland. Sherry had been a very active Member ofour Church. It was wonderful seeing Sherry and her friends.(L to R) Sherry, Mary Baldauf (Retired Navy), Veronica Morgan, Mandy Flatin(also on the Nimitz) (Photo by C. B. Morgan) Page 12...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Poetry from Jonifer From ally to advocate Our former Minister, the Rev. Dr. Joni- By Rev. Jonipher Kwong pher Kupono KwongThought I was so smart has one of his po-Till I didn’t know the answer ems published inTo why evil exists in the world “To Wake, To Rise:Thought I was so enlightened Meditations onTill I discovered comfort Justice andIn darkness for a while Resilience,” editedThought I was so liberal by William G. Sink-Till my good intentions ford (SkinnerProduced the opposite results House, 2017).Thought I was colorblind The poem was alsoTill my eyes began to see featured in The UUDifferences that should be hon- WORLD (Winterored 2017, page 21.Thought I was an allyWhen what was called for Good JobWas an advocate instead Jonipher...More Exciting News (L to R) Gloria With daughter, Imiloa and Ka’imi NicholsonGloria Borland was recently awarded a $15,000 grant from the Unitarian Universalist Funding pro-gram to continue her work on the documentary about the early days of President Barack Obama inHawaii.President Obama attended Sunday School here at our Church. Joel Merchant was one of his Reli-gious Education teachers.Thank you Gloria for highlighting our Church’s involvement with the extraordinary President Obama. Page 13...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Congregational MeetingsAnnouncing a Series of Important Special All-Congregation Meetings We initially envision four meetings to achieve this, but this is an open-ended process that will only conclude when we all come to a common decision, a consen- sus. When we arrive atThe Decision Together Team (L to R): David, Mike, Martina & Sue this point we will for- malize our agree-Please join us for a series of At the following meetings we will ment by vote. Thus we can havemeetings important for the future respond to questions that have the unified energy and will as aof our Church starting on come up, and take new ques- group to muster our resourcesSunday, January 14, 2018. tions from the floor. We will also and go forward to accomplishThis Congregation has for the take time to “talk story” about what we decide.last year been involved in the our history and experiences in Though this first meeting is“Future Shapers” process that this Church. We can then begin scheduled on Martin Lutherenabled us to develop to have discussions about our King, Jr. Day weekend, we hopeaspirations for our future. way forward. These questions a large number of the Congre-Options for ministry and possi- and discussions will be handled gation can be present, since webilities for the building are two in both small and large groups, need everyone to be informedkey issues expressed in our as- since these are complex, inter- and involved in this process.pirations requiring decision and related, and sometimes emotion We plan to video record this firstaction. The Board has decided laden issues. meeting so that you can see it ifto involve the entire Congrega- Out of this process we envision you cannot attend, and in ordertion in addressing these two key a shared realization developing, to review it to go over the facts ifissues by means of the series of but that will only happen if we... you need to.monthly meetings to begin on We are optimistic that this pro-January 14, 2018, after Church. can be open to the facts, cess will move us forward in aThe January session will be a listen to one another, deliberate, collaborative, andstrictly information only meeting. be creative in our decisive way.It will help us to understand our thinking,financial situation, ministerial & Please mark your calendarsoptions, and possibilities for our maintain our practical and join us.building. Information will be pre- problem-solving intent. The Decision Togethersented by members of the Con- Please leave your preconcep- Teamgregation in as objective a way tions at the door in commitmentas possible. We will invite to the goal of discovering a David Davisemails and written questions for shared desirable and doable Michael Mottlthe next meeting. plan for this Church. Martina Queenth Susan Yamane-CarpenterPage 14...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Aloha Wilma... On Friday, December 8, our Beloved Community said Aloha to Wilma Juanita Oksendahl. Born February 5, 1926, Wilma was a world traveler, a teacher, a fearless ad- venturer who would try anything. She de- cided to skydive when she was 85. Wilma’s niece Julie wrote: “Wilma taught students from New York City to Germa- ny, Afghanistan to Columbia, South America and throughout the Hawaiian Islands, where she retired and lived until 2016. Though she never married, she loved all children. Her family was her church family of the First Unitarian Church of Honolulu.” Wilma died in Southern Pines, North Carolina, July 27, 2017 at the age of 91. At the reception after the Service: (L to R)T. J. Fitzgerald, Nancy Schildt, Uta Hendrick, Harmony Bentosino Wilma skydiving at age 85Wilma was always We are grateful to the following who ready to help. made the Service possible: Carla Allison, Mark Brasher, Ron Brasher, Jim Cooper, Lorraine Fay, T. J. Fitzgerald, Dennis Graue, Charlotte Morgan, Clement Smith & The Worship TeamPage 15...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

From Our Dear Members and the devoted engagement of our Minister, T.J., who inspires and chal- lenges us. Also very gratifying is that in January of 2018 our Board is initiating an important process through a series of Congregation-wide meetings called “Deciding Together” to clarify how we are to go forward regarding our minis- terial needs, our building and our finan- cial status as a community united. I find all this inspiring. I know you value our Church Mission important in your life. I hope you share some of the excitement I do and will(L to R) Junko Daviis, David Davis & Catherine Graham give extra this holiday season to sup-at the Women’s March, January , 2017 (Photo by C.B. Morgan) port our beloved church.Dear Members and Friends, Mahalo and Aloha, Junko DavisAs a member of the Stewardship Team, I havehad the honor of speaking with many Church I will give a year end gift to our Community in ac-Members during the canvas process earlier this knowledgment of the extraordinary events we’veyear. Initially I thought of it as a “task” that I'd brought about this year: from finding and con-been asked to fulfill, but soon I was truly enjoying tracting with T.J. to growing our awareness of ra-meeting and listening to folks express their love cial oppression and of the great richness we canand commitment for our Honolulu UU church. hope for by making our circle wider and our sto-They were thoughtful, caring, concerned, and ries more diverse.committed to our ideal of “compassion, justice, Hope you feel like doing so as well.and joy.” They acted upon this commitment by Carolyn Eatongiving their time, energy, and by sharing of theirfinancial resources.As the end of the year approaches and the sea-son of gratitude and joy arrives, David and I usu-ally pay off this year's pledge. This year, howev-er, we plan to give extra, above and beyond thepledge we made earlier this year. I'll tell you why Iam feeling especially committed and generousthis year.I have seen so many wonderful programs that are (L to R) Molly Rowland, Carolyn Eaton &taking place with participation by many Members Hilkka Easterwood, Christmas Time, 2015and Friends, such as the Chalice Circles, ADORE(A Dialogue On Race and Ethnicity), the Jubilee (Photo by C.B. Morgan)workshop, joyous family camp experiences atMokuleia, parties and fun fundraisers, Memberscommitted and working for social justice issues ofaffordable housing, education, and prison reform, Page 16...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Memos From Molly... Work Party News You can help preserve our beloved Church home. Come to the Work Party in January.At our October 28 Work Party, the number of vol- (This drawing of our Church was done byunteers was small, but the quality was outstand- Clement Smith)ing.Thanks to Dan Curran, Dan Carpenter, Pierre Call Dan Curran (391-7984) orKleiber, Jim Skouge, Al Rowland and Molly Row- Al Rowland (988-4426)landf for showing up and working hard at paintingkitchen shelves, cleaning the playground and the if you have questions or suggestions.wall of the porte cochere, scrubbing the kitchenfloor, repairing lightbulbs, and beginning repairwork on the front door and the tool shed.Sound like fun? Then come join us at our first Work Party of 2018, Saturday, January 20 from one to five pm or any portion of that time.Even though we hire yard and cleaning services,there are always other things to do to keep ourChurch home clean and in good repair.Volunteer help is needed and welcome. NO ‘Ohana Pot Luck and Games in December The regular Pot Luck and Games Event will take a holiday in December, but we will met again in January on the third Wednesday as usual. We gather in the Gallery at 6:00 pm for a shared meal and then play a word game that is fun and good for the mind. Everyone is welcome. Please join us on January 17, 2018. Call Molly Rowland at 988-4426 if you have questions.Page 17...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Jubilee...A Wonderful Success “White people must itage. It must stop.” said T. J. FitzGerald, Minister speak up, at the First Unitarian Church of Honolulu and Ju- take part, bilee participant. The trainees were guided by experienced trainers and take action Pat Callair and Jyaphia Christos-Rodgers in their to affect real change journey toward making a stand against racism. in hearts, in homes, in Together participants developed a shared analy-streets, and in these lands.” sis of racism and its individual, institutional, and Rev. T. J. Fitzgerald cultural manifestations. There were many individ- ual breakthroughs and growing awareness of how to apply this common understanding to the history, culture, and institutional structure of our society, and to envision the next action steps.For Immediate Release “White people must speak up, take part, and takeContact Information: action to affect real change in hearts, in homes,Allison Jacobs and Jill Rabinov in streets, and in these lands. It is unconsciona-(808) 260-3843 [email protected] ble to expect people of color to do this workExploration of Racism in Hawaii Gathers Momen- alone. And this weekend was an important steptum toward claiming and living an anti-racist personal and cultural identity,” said Rev. FitzGerald.HONOLULU, HI. - Nov. 12, 2017- Over forty peo-ple gathered to examine the impact of racism in National anti-racism leader and founder ofHawaii and on the mainland. This was the first A.D.O.R.E., Paula Cole Jones, has been workingtime the intensive 2 ½ day Jubilee Anti-Racism with the First Unitarian Church of Honolulu forTraining was delivered at the First Unitarian over two years. At the annual meeting in JuneChurch of Honolulu. A.D.O.R.E. (A Dialogue on 2017, the church resolved to work towards dis-Race and Ethnicity) Hawaii chapter produced this mantling individual and institutional racism.fully-booked event. Interest is developing in thenext Jubilee training.Community leaders, educators, church membersand friends grappled with the insidious, systemiceffects of racism. Jubilee training includespresentations, discussions, videos, and smallgroup work. The work focuses on the history ofracism, resistance to racism in the Americas, thelook of racism in Hawaii (i.e. colonialism, theMassie trial, waves of immigration), the effects ofracism on people of color and on white people,and the process of dismantling racism.“So much in our community is so beautiful. Yet (L to R) Lutricia (Pat) Callair & Jyaphiathe history of these lands, including the history Christos-Rodgers, two of our excellentwritten even today, is a history of deadly, trauma- trainers.tizing, and systematically oppressive mecha- ( Photo by David Friedman)nisms that work to dehumanize and disenfran-chise our sisters and brothers of color, includingparticularly those persons of native Hawaiian her- Page 18...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

More On Jubilee... (L to R) Allison Jacobs & Jill Rabinov, the Chairs of the A.D.O.R.E. group. (Photo by David Friedman)Paula Cole Jones preaching at First Unitarian. (Photo by David Friedman) Some of the participants at Jubilee: (L to R) David Friedman, Joan Schumacher, Deborah Bond-Upson, Jim Skouge. (Photo by Nancy Young)(L to R) Rev. Mike Young & Catherine (L to R) Karen Valasek & Paula Cole Jones discuss Graham enjoy the lunch break. Jubilee. (Photo by Nancy Young) (Photo by C.B. Morgan)Page 19...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

What A Party!!!!On December first, our Beloved Community cele-brated the life of Margaret Mann.Margaret’s friends, family and fans were invited toa French bistro-themed evening, entitled C’est SiBon where we enjoyed dinner, music and storiesabout Margaret’s wonderful life.We came in costumes. We laughed and wereamazed by all that Margaret has accomplished inher life.Sue Greene, the prime mover and organizer for theevening reports that the evening netted $697.00.“Margaret has not decided exactly where shewants the money to go, but she told me last Sun-day she would like to set up an endowment to as-sist in sending our members to mainland UUevents, such as UUMN for our music team, or asfunding assistance for people wishing to go toGA.”Thank you Margaret for all you have done. Veronica Morgan & Kathy Kaknes greet the party goers. Page 20 ...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

C’est Si Bon... Dennis Graue & Leslie Horn Leanne Macintire & delighted the party goers with her brie creations. Cole Porter selections.The Pink Poodle (Janice Davis) & The Mime (Stephanie Teraoka) are part of the Paris scene.. Volunteers Deborah Flynn & A very French gathering Clement Smith are all An enormous thanks goes to the many volunteers about pastry.who made this event special. Veronica Morgan Sangeet Mike Mottl Nancy Schildt Carla Allison Jim Skouge Marie Anne Nancy Mower Sharon Skouge Kay Armstrong Rick Mower Clement Smith Deborah Bond-Upson Jim Mullen Hardy Spoehr Dan Carpenter Norma Nichols Suzette Tom Judith Clark Sheila O’Keefe Jim Cooper Susan Palmore Ian Valasek Dan Curran Jill Rabinov Karen Valasek Lee Curran Cathy Rolph Richard Valasek David Davis John Rolph Sue Yamane- Janice Davis Al Rowland Junko Davis Molly Rowland Carpenter Hilkka Easterwood Carolyn Eaton Deborah Flynn Dennis Graue Sue Greene Leslie Horn Doris Justis Kathy Kaknes Eleanor Kleiber Nan Kleiber Martina Queenth Leanne Macintire Charlotte MorganPage 21...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Chalice Circles Are Busy...Chalice Circle ServiceHawaii Kai Chalice Circle Member Leslie Horn started her Dream Job, Special Ed Teacher at Waiki-ki Elementary School, only to discover supply funds lacking. Monetary donations and shopping ac-tivities by Leslie’s Chalice Circle ‘Ohana happily filled the void. A card of thanks, full of Leslie’s chil-dren’s handprints, is a reminder of the joy of giving and community service. (Photo by Carla Allison)(Left Photo) Back Row, L to R: Leslie Horn, Judith Clark, Jim Mullen. Front Row, L to R: Helen Slaughter, Jytte Hendrick, Lee Curran. Not pictured, Photographer, Carla Allison. Kailua Covenant Group Enjoys Fresh Produce Thanks to Laurel Zeri’s green thumb, Kailua’s covenant group enjoyed fresh wa- termelon at their recent gathering. The group meets monthly on the fourth Thursday of each month from 10:00 am- 12:00 noon and is open to new members. Contact Facilitator Laurel Zeri [email protected] for details.Left to Right: Grace Malakoff, Kay Armstrong, Janice For Even More Davis, Jill Rabinov, Laurel Zeri. Information on Chalice Circles, Not pictured, Photographer Nancy Schildt. Check Out Page 23.Page 22...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

A New Chalice CircleChalice Circles Continue Questions? Interested in participating? to Expand Don’t see a location or timing that works for you?New Addition: Mililani, 1st & 3rd Mondays, 6:00- Need location details?8:00pm starting January 2018. Contact Carla AllisonIf you are ready to experience being listened to [email protected], 396--1488.and connecting with others in a way you may yetto have experienced in your life, join a Chalice Locations, Dates & Times:Circle. Hawaii Kai: 2nd & 4th MondaysAll groups have openings for new members.Chalice Circles are 5-12 people who meet twice a @ 6:30 - 8:30 pmmonth for two hours to explore preselected topics Nu’uanu: 2nd & 4th Tuesdaysusing the deep listening/deep sharing format. @ 10:00 am - 12:00 pmCome to: Kailua: 2nd & 4th Saturdays @ 3:00 - 5:00 pm Kaka’ako: 2nd & 4th Mondays @ 6:30 -- 8:30 pmConnect with others Lower Manoa: 1st & 3rd MondaysExperience and develop deep sharing/deep @ 6:30 -- 8:30 pmlistening skills Mililani: 1st & 3rd MondaysBenefit from being part of a caring community @ 6:00 – 8:00pm The Book Group Wednesday Wednesday December 6, 2017, 7:00 pm January 3, 2018, 7:00 pm Fred Harper Room Fred Harper Room We will discuss The Remains We will discuss A Man Called of the Day by Kazuo Ishiguro. Ove by Fredrik Backman. This is a novel about a ‘perfect’ English butler named StevensThis book is about a man who is who tries to give his life mean-angry at the world and everyone ing through the selfless naturein it and is not afraid to tell them of his profession. In a careerwhy. It is also a story of tragedy, that spans the second Worldregret, love, and Ove’s struggle War, Stevens is oblivious of theto accept friendship from an un- real life that goes on aroundlikely source. Throughout the him. The subtle character stud-book Ove also speaks to his de- ies are sophisticated and theceased wife, complaining about plot development is a joy to fol-the neighbors, the rule breakers, low. Ishiguro manages to con-and how much he misses her. vey sadness, happiness, andDuring the interludes within the criticism of the English cast sys-narrative, we also learn about tem, all at the same time.how Ove became Ove. Page 23...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

A.D.O.R.E.The next A.D.O.R.E. (A Dia- and discuss the beautifullogue On Race and Ethnici- movie, \"Belle,\" which isty) meeting will be held on based on a true story thatSunday, January 21st, start- took place during the perioding at 11:30am in the First when Britain was inching to-Unitarian Church of Honolulu ward outlawing the Africansanctuary. We will watch slave trade. All are welcome! David Friedman’s Showing at the Multi-Media Miniature Show At Koa Gallery Kapiolani Community College Runs Through December 16 Page 24...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Our Church NeedsYou... Put Our Church want to retain and attract a full-time minister this On Your number would be higher. Church Maintenance - including insurance, is Shopping List approximately $40,000. To break that amount down a little - Religious Education expenses are approx. $260/Sunday and a Sunday Worship Service is approx. $800+/Sunday. If each of us for example, supported only one RE (religious education) teacher/yr, we would need to pledge at least $3000/yr. Thankfully, some pledge more, but many unfortunately pledge much less.Aloha Kakou, The Board presented a balanced budget that in-Most people give financially to those who ask ra- cluded $162,000 to be raised in pledges. Ourther than to their values. Well, we are asking to Congregation approved this at the Annual Meet-give to your values and your community here at ing in May. Thanks to the reorganization of thethe First Unitarian Church of Honolulu. Consider Religious Education team who has hired teachersnot giving what you have left in your charity budg- rather than a Religious Education Director weet, but setting a priority to serve our UU (Unitarian were able to present, we thought, an achievableUniversalist) keiki, our UU kupuna, and our liberal budget. Additional monies come from Churchreligious future. rentals, and fundraisers. So far our pledges haveWe need to look into our hearts to support our UU run short. What to do?home and our aspirations. Next January, as noted by the new “Decisions Together” team led by Dave Davis, others andWe need to boldly grow compassion, justice the Board, will start looking at our future in termsand joy. of our financial situation and our options and pri-Volunteering is one thing, but the reality of finan- orities. Our Future Shapers gathered our collec-cial support is what will ultimately hold us togeth- tive aspirations. This included a desire for a min-er. One of the “12 Steps to Spiritual ister to be a UU voice/presence in the larger com-Health” (David Usher’s book title) is to give 10%, munity (sorely needed), increase pastoral care,of income to charity. Generosity is a very positive and of course guide our spiritual, intellectual andfeeling. I like to see that I have contributed $$$$ even emotional growth. Yes emotional, as we trythat supports personal growth and justice and all to move from my Church and my individual needsEight UU principals. Giving up some spending for to our needs as a community within and outsidethe greater good is a spiritual practice. My family our walls.gives 4% to our Church and 6% to Doctors With- Please be generous to build a stable and strongout Borders, friends in need, Civil Beat etc. Unitarian Universalist Church presence. ConsiderSome members give all 10% or more to our a special donation or even better, increase yourChurch. pledge.What does it cost to run a church? We are counting on each other to help.Here are our main expenses: May it be so.Salaries (music director, secretary, buildingmaintenance staff, webmaster, AV tech, and part- Nancy Schildttime minister, no RE director at the moment). Board PresidentThese salary items are close to $120,000. If we Page 25...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Church Calendar...2017Michael Gurney and the 2nd to 5th Grade Religious Education class celebrate the holidays with a tree of love.Sunday, November 26 Friday, December 1 Sunday, December 39:00 am Band Rehearsal 6:00 pm C'est Si Bon; Margaret 9:00 am Band Rehearsal (Sanctuary) Mann’s Party (Sanctuary)10:00 am RE Program for (Sanctuary, Gallery, 9:00 am RE Team (MR#1) Kitchen) 10:00 am RE Program for Children (Upstairs) Saturday, December 210:00 am RE Teen Group 9:00 am Sof Ma'arav Children (Upstairs) (Downstairs) 10:00 am RE Teen Group (FHR) 1:00 pm Sof Ma'arav (FHR,10:00 am Sunday Service Sanctuary) (FHR) 4:00 pm Art Exhibit Reception 10:00 am Sunday Service (Sanctuary) (Gallery)Monday, November 27 (Sanctuary)All day Church (and Grounds) 12:30 pm Association of HawaiiClosed MondaysTuesday, November 28 Archivists Social6:30 pm All Believers Network (Gallery, Kitchen) Monday, December 4 (Sanctuary) All day Church (and Grounds)Thursday, November 30 Closed Mondays2:00 pm Beginning Hawaiian Wednesday, December 6 6:00 pm Worship Team Language (Gallery) (Gallery)7:00 pm Band Sunday 7:00 pm Book Discussion Group (FHR) Rehearsal (Sanctuary)Page 26...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

Church Calendar...2017Thursday, December 7 Sunday, December 17 Tuesday, December 262:00 pm Beginning Hawaiian 9:00 am Band Rehearsal 6:30 pm All Believers Network (Sanctuary) (Sanctuary) Language (Gallery) 10:00 am RE Program for7:00 pm Band Sunday Children (Upstairs) Wednesday, December 27 6:30 pm Board Meeting Rehearsal (Sanctuary) 10:00 am RE Teen GroupFriday, December 8 (FHR) (Gallery)5:00 pm Wilma Family Style Thursday, December 28 10:00 am Sunday Service 6:15 pm Feminist Thealogy Memorial (Sanctuary, (Sanctuary) Gallery, Kitchen) (FHR)Saturday, December 9 12:00 pm Monthly Magazine 7:00 pm Band Sunday9:00 am Sof Ma'arav Submission Deadline (Downstairs) Rehearsal (Sanctuary)1:00 pm Sof Ma'arav (FHR, Monday, December 18 Saturday, December 30 Sanctuary) All day Church (and Grounds) 9:00 am Sof Ma'arav5:00 pm UU Leeward Ohana Closed MondaysSunday, December 10 Tuesday, December 19 (Downstairs)9:00 am Band Rehearsal 6:30 pm Gallery Team (Gallery) 1:00 pm Sof Ma'arav (FHR, (Sanctuary)10:00 am RE Program for Wednesday, December 20 Sanctuary) 5:30 pm Young Family Ohana Children (Upstairs) 6:30 pm Chalice Circle Covenant Group (MR 1,10:00 am RE Teen Group Facilitator Session 5, FHR, Gallery) (FHR) (FHR) Sunday, December 3110:00 am Sunday Service Thursday, December 21 9:00 am Band Rehearsal 7:00 pm Band Sunday (Sanctuary) (Sanctuary) Rehearsal (Sanctuary) 10:00 am RE Program forMonday, December 11 Children (Upstairs)All day Church (and Grounds) Friday, December 22 10:00 am RE Teen Group (FHR) 6:30 pm ONO - Opera Night Out 10:00 am Sunday Service Closed MondaysWednesday, December 13 (Sanctuary) (Sanctuary)6:30 pm Social Justice Council Saturday, December 23 3:00 pm RE New Year's Eve 9:00 am Sof Ma'arav (Gallery) Party (Sanctuary,7:00 pm Building Team (FHR) (Downstairs) Gallery, Kitchen)Thursday, December 14 1:00 pm Sof Ma'arav (FHR,2:00 pm Beginning Hawaiian Sanctuary) Language (Gallery) Sunday, December 246:15 pm Feminist Thealogy 9:00 am Band Rehearsal (FHR) (Sanctuary)7:00 pm Band Sunday 10:00 am RE Program for Rehearsal (Sanctuary) Children (Upstairs)Saturday, December 16 10:00 am RE Teen Group (FHR)9:00 am Sof Ma'arav 10:00 am Sunday Service (Downstairs) (Sanctuary)1:00 pm Sof Ma'arav (FHR, Monday, December 25 Sanctuary) All day Christmas Day Holiday5:30 pm Y/F Ohana Covenant All day Church (and Grounds) Closed Mondays Group (MR1, 5, FHR, Gallery if possible)Page 27...December 2017...Kukui Lamalama

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