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November 2022 VOLUME 19 ISSUE 01 GUIDANCE CONNECTION THE OFFICIAL NEWSLETTER OF THE GUIDANCE AND COUNSELING OFFICE GAMEPLAN FOR PARENTING YOUR SCHOOLER SOCIAL INSTINCTS HOW TO BE A GOOD PARENT IN THE ERA OF SOCIAL MEDIA HOW TO PREPARE YOUR CHILD FOR FACE-TO-FACE CLASSES PERSEVERANCE: THE NO. 1 SOFT SKILL THAT PREDICTS KIDS’ SUCCESS MORE THAN IQ POSITIVE PARENTING SUCCESSFUL KIDS BOND NEED THESE 8 CORE ABILITIES ART OF PARENTING THE PARENTING is never about Perfection, it's all about CONNECTION.


Table of Contents 10 WAYS TO CREATE FAMILY BONDING AND ITS IMPORTANCE GAMEPLAN FOR PARENTING YOUR SCHOOLER POSITIVE PARENTING SOCIAL INSTINCTS: HOW TO BE A GOOD PARENT IN THE ERA OF SOCIAL MEDIA PERSEVERANCE: THE NO. 1 SOFT SKILL THAT PREDICTS KIDS’ SUCCESS MORE THAN IQ SUCCESSFUL KIDS NEED THESE 8 CORE ABILITIES GUIDANCE ACTIVITIES HOW TO PREPARE YOUR CHILD FOR FACE-TO-FACE CLASSES COUNSELOR'S CORNER MEET YOUR GUIDANCE FRIENDS CALENDAR OF ACTIVITIES 2


GUIDANCE CONNECTION 10 WAYS TO CREATE FAMILY BONDING AND ITS IMPORTANCE REVIEWED BY SHRESHTHA DHAR, MA, M.PHIL Family bonding time is the quality time that you spend with your family, doing things that you love. It could include doing activities together, going on a picnic, watching a movie together, having meals together, helping each other out, playing a game, and much more. It allows the members of a family to interact with each other, know and understand each other, feel united, and develop a stronger bond. There are myriad ways to create family bonding time. And most activities that you indulge in together won’t cost you a dime and can be done on an everyday basis. Here are a few ways in which you can create quality family bonding time. CREATE FAMILY RITUALS AND HAVE MEALS TOGETHER. DO CHORES TOGETHER. TRADITIONS. VOLUNTEER TOGETHER. DO PROJECTS TOGETHER. GO ON A FAMILY DO HOBBIES OUTING. TOGETHER. VISIT GRANDPARENTS. COOK TOGETHER. SCHEDULE FAMILY GAME NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 NIGHTS. 3


GUIDANCE CONNECTION NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 GAMEPLAN FOR PARENTING YOUR SCHOOLER WWW.AHAPARENTING.COM/RE AD/YOUR-GAMEPLAN Your goal over the next few years is to build a strong relationship with your child, which will provide a counter-balance to peer culture and a solid foundation to get you through the teen years. What does connected parenting look like at this age? STAY CONNECTED. Now she’s so self sufficient, and so peer oriented, it’s possible to go a whole weekend and barely see your nine year old. Resist the impulse to say yes to one more playdate so you can get more done. Instead, spend some downtime just hanging out with your kid, doing nothing. Now is when you lay the foundation for a great relationship once she's a teenager. DEVELOP FAMILY RITUALS THAT FOSTER CONNECTION. Family meetings. Sunday morning brunches. Saturday lunch dates with Dad on the way to weekly grocery shopping. Apple picking trips every September, or making costumes together before Halloween. Whatever works for your family, but make these connection opportunities into routines, so everyone expects them and looks forward to them. TAKE YOUR CUES AB OUT INDEPENDENCE FROM YOUR CHILD. Independence develops at different rates in different kids. Remember that after periods of independence that require \"grown up\" behavior, such as sleepovers, your kid's \"baby self\" will come out for extra attention from you. Don't insist that he be mature all the time. HELP KIDS DEVELOP PROBLEM SOLVING AND NEGOTIATING SKILLS. I know, it's exhausting to negotiate constantly with your children. There are some who believe that the secret of making parenting bearable is to never open that door. But do you want your kids to become people who just follow orders and do what they're told? If so, you leave them open to the pressures of the peer group, as well as to victimization. Not to mention that kids who learn to obey without question become adults who blindly do what they’re told -- which means they can end up committing atrocities because they were just following orders. If you want a child who takes responsibility for their own behavior, they have to learn to think for themselves. 4


GUIDANCE CONNECTION TEACH HEALTHY FOOD HABITS. Now is when they should learn to internalize their own food monitoring: Have I had enough protein today? Calcium? All seven servings of vegetables and fruits? Most of all, set a good example. Read labels. Eat healthy. Don't diet. Don't even talk about dieting (it doesn't work, and it sets up a pattern of deprivation followed by over-eating). Throw out your scale. Have healthy snacks around -- a bowl of carrot sticks, or cut up apples and cheese. Milk or plain yogurt makes a great filling snack with a banana. Early food habits become entrenched for life. RESIST THE IMPULSE TO OVER-SCHEDULE. Yesterday was Sunday. My husband had to work. I felt vaguely guilty when he asked me what the kids and I planned to do. I had no plans. I was really looking forward to a day without soccer games or music lessons. Of course, NYC is on my doorstep, with literally thousands of wonderful, edifying options. But -- and I know this is an excuse -- it was raining and by the time we walked the ten minutes to the subway we would have been soaked. So while I picked up the house, my kids (ages 5 and 9 when this was written) spent the morning turning our family room into a rain forest, full of cut-out trees and vines and stuffed animals. After lunch, he did homework while she did a book of mazes. Then she and I read together while he designed a roller coaster at the kitchen table. A cozy, quiet, peaceful, fun day with zero electronics. An oasis in our jam-packed week. Every kid deserves days like these every single week. Some people call them \"Slow family living.\" I just call them essential. LIMIT ELECTRONICS. This is when the habit of reading takes hold, and it can't compete with the lure of electronics. Besides, unlimited computer use creates an addiction that will be virtually impossible to break later. Of course your child will use the computer, for homework, and increasingly, for fun. But unlimited use isn't any bwehtetenrtfhoeryt'hreemsixttheaenn,soitrtdin ogyionufwroannttotfhaemTVtaollbdeaiyn. Do you really want them to be computer junkies the school play, building their science fair project, reading Hemingway, dancing, organizing their friends to make pies for the local soup kitchen? What about cell phones? Unless your child is walking to school alone without a trusted adult (or in some other situation where they need to reach you), wait. There's no reason a nine year old who is always with a trusted adult needs a cell phone. It poses problems and exposes your child to situations that your child doesn't yet have the brain development to manage. MAKE SURE YOUR CHILD'S PEERS VALUE NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 ACADEMICS. By the time kids are in fourth grade their attitudes toward schoolwork are influenced greatly by their peers. How much effort they put into schoolwork and how well they do in school will be very similar to how their immediate peer group approaches schoolwork. If you want your child to do well academically, be sure he or she is in a peer situation with kids who value learning. To me, this is so important that I would move my child into a new school to give him a peer group that prioritized academics. But most of the time, the parents set the tone at home and the child seeks out peers who come from families who also value learning. 5


GUIDANCE CONNECTION PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR CHILD'S PEER RELATIONS. Your child's peers will become increasingly important as he gets older, and will impact tremendously who he becomes as an adult. Kids who are rejected or ridiculed by the other neighborhood kids can develop an inferiority complex that plagues them throughout life. Kids who find themselves a specific role -- the class clown, or the brain -- often turn it into a lifelong way of being, which eventually begins to limit them. Make sure your child has plenty of opportunities to be with other kids and to learn how to function well in groups. While you don't want to compromise your family's values -- you may not watch TV in your family, or let your nine year old daughter dress like a pop star -- notice when the peer group makes your child feel different, and make adjustments as necessary so that she can fit in. START FAMILY MEE TINGS. Continue (or start) family meetings. Held regularly at a mutually agreed upon time, family meetings provide a forum for discussing triumphs, grievances, sibling disagreements, schedules, any topic of concern to a family member. They help kids feel like their family cares, and their opinions matter. Ground rules help. Everyone gets a chance to talk; one person talks at a time without interruption (pass a \"Talking Stick\" if you want); everyone listens, and only positive, constructive feedback is allowed. To get resistant kids to join in, combine the get-together with incentives such as pizza, or assign them important roles such as recording secretary or rule enforcer. FOCUS ON VALUES. Values in most families are never directly discussed, which means we don't get the chance to counter the values our kids are learning from the culture. Now is the time to consciously consider what our values are, and to find ways in daily life to discuss -- and live -- them with our children. MOVE BEYOND DISCIPLINE. NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 Are you inadvertently developing your child's contrary side by using power-based discipline methods? Yes, your child needs to learn to make repairs when he inadvertently damages a relationship or breaks something. But most important, you want him to WANT to be the kind of person who tries to do the right thing. That means more connection and less control. 6


GUIDANCE CONNECTION POSITIVE PARENTING HERE ARE FIVE (5) WAYS TO PRACTICE POSITIVE PARENTING: 1. Spend one-on-one time together 4. Say yes to appropriate consequences NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 Spending regular quality time with your When a child starts acting up, enforcing kids and modeling good behavior is by far the natural consequences can turn poor choices best thing you can do to help them develop into learning opportunities. Just make sure that: self-confidence and healthy relationships. The child is actually capable of the 2. Set ‘when-then’ rules expected behavior Setting clear expectations is a core aspect The consequence is fair and respectful You introduce the consequence in advance of positive parenting. I recommend using the so the child has the power to make the “when-then” method to encourage better choice (this makes it feel like less of a behavior during the most challenging times of punishment) your child’s day. 5. Focus on what you can control 3. Say no to rewards You can’t always control your child’s Studies have found that kids who are behavior, but you can control your responses. rewarded often are likely to lose interest in the This mindset can help kids take on activity they’re being rewarded for, whether it’s responsibilities that you’d otherwise have nag music practice or playing nicely with a sibling. them about, like cleaning out their lunchbox. They become more interested in the rewards, You can say, for example: “I’m happy to pack meaning you may have to keep up the your school lunch, as long as your lunchbox rewards to maintain the same quality of has been emptied and cleaned.” Then help behavior. Using encouragement is a better them find ways to remember their responsibility way to bring out the best in your kids. But and follow through — perhaps with visual cues avoid phrases that point to their character or like a Sticky Note or a spot in the kitchen personality, such as “You’re the best player on designated for their lunchbox. the team!” or “You’re so smart!” Instead, encourage the specific act. If your kid shows And, if your child has to throw together concern for someone who seems sad. their own lunch, it will be a wonderful learning opportunity. https://www.cnbc.com/2021/12/04/why-psychologists-say-positive-parenting-is-the-best-style-for-raising-confident-successful-kids.html 7


GUIDANCE CONNECTION SOCIAL INSTINCTS: HOW TO BE A GOOD PARENT IN THE ERA OF SOCIAL MEDIA WWW.PSYCHOLOGYTODAY.COM/US/BLOG/SOCIAL- INSTINCTS/202208/HOW-BE-GOOD-PARENT-IN-THE- ERA-SOCIAL-MEDIA PARENTS CAN HELP REDU CE ADOLESCENT ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION RESULTING FROM SOCIAL MEDIA OVERCONSUMPTION. PARENTS SHOULD FAMILIARIZE THEMSELVES NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 WITH THE DIFFERENT TYPES OF SOCIAL MEDIA PARENTING. A. Autonomy-supportive This approach provides a developmentally appropriate rationale for social media rules and takes adolescents’ perspectives seriously. B. Autonomy-restrictive This approach provides rules in a strict and harsh way, without much respect for adolescents’ perspectives. C. Inconsistent This strategy, or lack thereof, occurs when parents randomly vary in their restrictions, regulations, or discussions of social media. D. Permissive This approach avoids guidance and discussion and provides limited restrictions or rules STRICTER APPROACHES MAY BE BETTER, AND PARENTS SHOULD STAY INFORMED AS SOCIAL MEDIA EVOLVES. 8


GUIDANCE CONNECTION PERSERVERANCE: THE NO. 1 SOFT SKILL THAT PREDICTS KIDS’ SUCCESS MORE THAN IQ—AND HOW TO TEACH IT BY: MICHELE BORBA Kids who have perseverance don’t give up in the face of setbacks. They believe their efforts will pay off, so they stay motivated to work hard and finish what they start, despite any barriers that arise. Here are nine (9) ways parents can help kids build perseverance: 1. Fight the factors that discourage kids. 5. Stretch their focus. The first step is to fight the four factors that If your child wants to give up on an derail perseverance. assignment, put a timer on their desk and set it for an appropriate length of time, 2. Teach that mistakes are growth tailored to their attention span. opportunities. 6. Correct “stumblers.” Remind your kids that mistakes can be a When kids give up, it might be because positive thing, even if a situation doesn’t turn out they way they expected. Accept their they can’t see their way out of a challenge. errors and tell them: “It’s okay to mess up. Start by acknowledging their frustration and What matters is that you tried.” express that it’s a normal feeling. Try doing a breathing exercise or taking a break. 3. “Chunk” tasks. Teaching your kids to divide big tasks into 7. Praise effort. Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck smaller, more manageable chunks will help them feel more confident about completing discovered that when kids are praised for things over time. their intelligence (e.g., “You’re so smart!”), they are less likely to persevere. 4. Celebrate small wins. Repeated failure can destroy perseverance, 8. Come up with “stick-to-it” statements. but the smallest success can encourage a child to keep going, so help them identify their Negative self-talk like “I can’t do it” or “I’m little wins. not smart enough” derails perseverance. Help your child choose a short, positive statement to say to themselves when things get tough. 9. Step back and let them figure it out. NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 One of my top parenting rules is: Never do something for your children that they can do on their own. Each time you fix your child’s errors or do something for them, they increasingly learn to depend on you. There goes the opportunity to develop perseverance. HTTPS://WWW.CNBC.COM/2022/10/22/CHILD-PSYCHOLOGIST-SHARES-SOFT-SKILL-THAT-SETS-SUCCESSFUL-KIDS-APART-FROM-THOSE-WHO-GIVE-UP-EASILY. 9


GUIDANCE CONNECTION Successful Kids Need 8 Core Abilities: How to Parent With Purpose BY MARILYN PRICE-MITCHELL, PHD www.rootsofaction.com/successful-kids/ Successful kids get excellent grades, right? They play at least one sport very well. Successful kids do regular community service and, of course, take Advanced Placement courses. They attend the best colleges and attain great-paying jobs. Wait. If you’ve ever envisioned this fairy-tale definition of kids’ success, it’s time to look beyond external measurements to the internal abilities that help children and teens learn to successfully pilot their own healthy and productive lives — today and as future adults. THE COMPASS ADVANTAGE: A TOOL FOR RAISING GENUINELY SUCCESSFUL KIDS 8 PATHWAYS TO EVERY CHILD'S Price-Mitchell created The Compass Advantage SUCCESS framework as a visual, research-based, and engaging way for families, schools, and communities to apply the principles of positive youth development in the Digital Age. It’s a tool for understanding why successful kids need eight interconnected abilities and how those abilities are nurtured in different contexts like home, school, sports, hobbies, and out- of-school activities of all kinds.body text The Compass Advantage framework, about how parents can intentionally foster these internal abilities at home. Possession of these eight core abilities are considered by many researchers to NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 be hallmarks of truly successful kids. Most experts agree these abilities are also at the root of great leadership! At Roots of Action, you will find free resources that use the compass framework, including “My Parenting Promise,” a frame-ready document that can be downloaded to remind you of the kind of values and habits of thinking that nurture successful kids. The eight core abilities that all kids need to be healthy, productive, and successful in life are outlined below. When we intentionally parent with these abilities in mind, our children and teens grow to become the pilots of their own lives rather than a life someone else charted for them. 10


GUIDANCE CONNECTION The Eight (8) Core Abilities BY MARILYN PRICE-MITCHELL, PHD CURIOSITY THE HEART OF LIFELONG LEARNING RESILIENCE SOCIABILITY THE CAPACITY TO GROW FROM THE CORE OF SOCIAL LEARNING AND ADVERSITY WELLBEING EMPATHY Successful CREATIVITY Individual THE EPICENTER OF THE ROOT OF CARING AND EXPLORATION AND DISCOVERY ENGAGED CITIZENSHIP RESOURCEFULNESS INTEGRITY THE POWER TO SHAPE THE FUTURE SELF-AWARENESS THE BASIS OF SOCIAL HARMONY THE SOURCE OF MEANING AND PURPOSE AND ACTION Through The Compass Advantage framework, NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 parenting, education, and child development are viewed as integrated processes nurtured through the 11 collaborative efforts of parents, teachers, and out-of- school programs. When we attend to the development of these eight abilities, the results are transformative for kids. Not only do children become lifelong learners, they become self-sufficient navigators of their own lives.


GUIDANCE CONNECTION NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 GUIDANCE ACTIVITIES MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS CAMPAIGN 2022 resiliency TRAINING FOR NEW STUDENTS 12


GUIDANCE CONNECTION NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 PUSOTIBONG bEDISTA : Self-care reminders BIFOCALS:Snapshot for a healthy mind and capturing extraordinary Bedan moments 13


GUIDANCE CONNECTION NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 beda-best: A Showcase of Inspirational Videos KA-akap bedista: Sharing of Positive Quotes 14


GUIDANCE CONNECTION NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 instru-mental: An online showcase of talents for the Bedan community 15


GUIDANCE CONNECTION HOW TO PREPARE YOUR CHILD FOR C FACE-TO-FACE CLASSES HTTPS://THEPINOYPARENT.COM/HOW-TO-PREPARE-YOUR-CHILD-FOR-FACE-TO-FACE-CLASSES/ OVID-19 has resulted in a drastic change in the Philippine educational system. Traditional face-to-face classes pivoted to distance learning modes. Now, children are heading back to school and making their way to classrooms once again. Some kids are excited to get back to school, while others may need some time to adjust. It’s important for parents to provide provide support during this transition. Here are some advice to make the transition smooth: 1. ESTABLISH NEW 2. ENCOURAGE BEDTIME AND MORNING INTERACTION WITH ROUTINES OTHER CHILDREN In home-based online Because the pandemic schooling, morning routines are more relaxed. It took less time adversely affected social to get ready when school happened at home. Face-to- interactions, your children may not face classes mean your child needs to sleep early, get up always know how to make friends. early, get dressed, and be out of the house on time. You can help them by arranging Implementing a few routines in the days before school starts safe play dates with other children will help your kids get ready to return to old bedtimes and who live nearby. Tina Zamora, wake-up calls. family life and child development specialist, says that with social skills “the connection with other children is the same as the NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 connection with adults in their homes.” Having a regular conversations with your children will make them more at ease in connecting with other kids when they go out. 16


GUIDANCE CONNECTION 4. REASSURE YOUR CHILD 3. LESSEN YOUR ANXIETY Talk to your child. Discuss Children are very sensitive with them exactly what to expect in school. Provide positive energy to the energy they get from without sugar coating. “Reassure their parents. Anxiety issues them that it’s not going to be easy will rub off on them, so and there’s going to be difficulties parents dealing with these along the way,” says Lei Almeda, need to step back. If a homeschooling mother of three. “Huminga muna kayo and “But reassure them that they can balance the risk,” Zamora always talk to you and to their advises. “Lessen your anxiety teacher while they’re at school. first so that the children will They have to believe that their also have less anxiety.” teacher is on their side when Talking to the school about mom and dad are not around.” the SOPs and protocols will help. COUNSELOR'S CORNER aTWWfrshitaeuseoicscgnuaiulgl,elriedetwse.asyeKtttlooo'oidsGonuruSykdullibosiikliHnkydoujetegearAestctnfethadtoRcoonsameeredtsEco-wxGiCcorgtlYtiaUanhnnoeanIrtOeaknDnrdrtsnAdrtGiUe,beieiNncaudtuvcCRlinoetticdGEepeisoaoiASwuinlcnnftNlivTasdooctDii,baersthOtCtoasnehoaiOrutRctmuenaieUleoerd.Yt?NunsciupnSC,!otpcEgouooLocrnIwuomNysnemiGoeitvsnulhiTeeongElnrtgyiAnoooMgur!. htmFtinapempkesPu:leWo/ltfes/irhmatbteWisiecpinefenchry#atatoluEeceaIouvBrirtrfslWelmieEto.etucmsiDracesoitettlAsGmyieknonsowunN/ragtiuniGosigdlo ralTweatuirnnhahniydTdcewnictsoallsOeuihphucnwiC seisrkccuesHeahewslfutrerCuEhe.alaveeleAoyre.sdantWllorwRiincncneyeeolkeFofcuvsRurtnyeaiosoorllOmiueunvkel1eeoMfsitryotybouQaooeYunnrusrdOdt. ?U!NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 17


GUIDANCE CONNECTION IBED GUIDANCE AND COUNSELING TEAM Mr. Benjamin P. Coloma III, MAEd., LPT, RGC Ms. Eloisa C. Cesumission MAEd., RGC, LPT Ms. Triana Maye Z. Jamias Head, IBED Guidance and Counseling Office Kinder, Grade 1 & 6 Guidance Counselor Grades 3 & 5 Guidance Facilitator [email protected] [email protected] [email protected] Mr. Norman B. Antonil, RGC Ms. Alyssa Jania M. Marilla Ms. Ma. Triza B. Mannag,RGC Grades 2 & 4 Guidance Counselor Grade 7 Guidance Facilitator Grade 8 Guidance Counselor [email protected] [email protected] [email protected] Ms. Charizza Casas-Datu, MA, RGC Ms. Carla Bianca C. Sison Ms. Ela D. Deniega, RGC Grade 9 Guidance Counselor Grade 10 Guidance Facilitator Grade 11 Guidance Counselor-Rizal [email protected] [email protected] [email protected] Ms. Joy R. Ignacio, MAEd, RGC Ms. Maricel O. Sabordo Ms. Lizbeth Vanessa B. Mendoza,RGC Grade 12 Guidance Counselor-Rizal Grade 11 Guidance Facilitator-Manila Grade 12 Guidance Counselor-Manila [email protected] [email protected] [email protected] Ms. Mary Louvette K. Yee, RPm Ms. Leah Angeli F. Molina Ms. Stephanie Claire B. Cadavez NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 Guidance Facilitator Guidance Facilitator Guidance Secretary Testing, Research and Evaluation Testing, Research and Evaluation [email protected] [email protected] [email protected] #IBEDGuidanceCares 18


REMINDERS: NOVEMBER 2022 | ISSUE 01 - A gentle reminder from your Friends in the Guidance and Counseling Office. 19


GUIDANCE CONNECTION CALENDAR OF ACTIVITIES Routine Interview (On-going in Routine Interview (On-going Routine Interview (On-going All levels) in All levels) in All levels) On-going follow-up to Students On-going follow-up to On-going follow-up to Growth in Christian Personhood Students Students Classes (On-going in all levels) Growth in Christian Growth in Christian First Quarter Examination Personhood Classes (On- Personhood Classes (On- Start of the 3-2 schedule ( 2 going in all levels) going in all levels) days online and 3 days onsite) Homeroom officers Pista ng Sto.Niño Homeroom officers leadership leadership training seminar Peer Facilitators group training seminar (SH) (grade 4- 10) training for JH Panunuluyan & Simbang Guidance Webinar on Gabi Career Exploration (PATHS) for grade 9


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