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TEHOLOGY 2 | GROUP 3 “FOR WHERE YOUR TREASURE IS, THERE YOUR HEART WILL BE ALSO” - LUKE 12:34 -

CONT 03 IMMEDIATE ENTS PREPARATION “Marriage preparation has to be seen and put into practice as a gradual and continuous process.” - St. John Paul II words in Familiaris Consortio - Angelika Lao & Danica Omba 01 REMOTE 04 RESPONSIBLE PREPARATION 05 PARENTHOOD What comes to your mind when “Behold, children are a heritage you hear the word “Sexuality”? from the Lord, the fruit of the - Miguel Petalver womb a reward.\" - Psalm 127:3 - Charlize Hernandez 02 PROXIMATE PREPARATION CROSSWORD PUZZLE What is the reality of Dating? - Kathleen Bayon

EGAIRRAM ROF NOITARAPERP ETOMER WHAT COMES TO YOUR MIND WHEN YOU HEAR THE WORD “SEXUALITY” BY MIGUEL PETALVER Sexuality concerns your SEXUALITY IS sexual sensations, beliefs, IMPORTANT IN desires, and behaviors. You RESPONDING TO can find other individuals OUR CALL TO appealing physically, sexually, LOVE AND UNITY. or emotionally, and that's all part of your sexuality. It is diverse and individual and is a key component of who you are. It may be a really freeing, thrilling, and wonderful experience to discover your sexuality. The Bible says that people are \"sexually dimorphic\" and that nature shows that there are distinctions between males and females. Both sexes mirror the image of God at a theological level. And both are needed to reproduce and sustain life at a biological level. And from here, we can see plainly the kindness of God in putting limits to protect ourselves



THE REALITY OF DATING BY KATHLEEN BAYON Arrange what should come first: Courtship, Engagement, Dating 1. ____________ 2. ____________ 3. ____________ FACT CHECK! “There is no one specifically Catholic understanding of dating. Dating is not mentioned in the Bible or in the Catechism of the Catholic Church. Neither the Church Fathers nor recent popes have talked about dating.” - JASON E. KING - ARE YOU CURRENTLY DATING? DO YOU KNOW DO YOU REMEMBER THIS SCENE? WHAT KIND OF DATING RELATIONSHIP YOU'RE IN? CASUAL DATING: - WHERE THE TWO INDIVIDUALS MAY EXPLORE AND INTERACT WITH OTHERS. COMMITTED DATING: - WHERE BOTH INDIVIDUALS ARE NOT SEEING ANYBODY ELSE BUT EACH OTHER AND ARE COMMITTED TO THEIR DATING RELATIONSHIP. IT IS IMPORTANT TO COMMUNICATE AND MAKE YOUR INTENTIONS CLEAR IN ORDER TO AVOID MISUNDERSTANDINGS. AND YES! HE DESERVES AN EXPLANATION! HE DESERVES AN ACCEPTABLE REASON!

EGAIRRAM ROF NOITARAPERP ETAMIXORPI Difference of Dating and Courtship Dating is getting to know each other, while Courtship is a mutual commitment and defined by American Heritage Dictionary as An act of seeking to gain love or affection with a view toward marriage. Three Stages of Courtship: EVERY RELATIONSHIP IS UNIQUE AND HAS ITS OWN STORY, BUT Exploration. This is the stage at BEFORE YOU SAY I DO AND which the two people form a COMMIT TO A RELATIONSHIP, relationship in order to appreciate YOU SHOULD ASK YOURSELF IF IT one other and begin to investigate IS TRULY WHAT YOU WANT AND themselves in order to better WHETHER YOU ARE READY FOR understand their own before IT. IF YOU'RE READY AND BOTH embarking on a prospective YOU AND YOUR PARTNER ARE marriage. Marriage is a possibility, SURE, ENGAGEMENT WILL COME but not a promise at this point. AFTER A SUCCESSFUL COURTSHIP. Confirmation. This is the stage at Engagement: which a couple begins to deepen their interest in one another and The couple envisions their future engage in learning how to maintain together and begins to plan as a unit. a healthy relationship. This is the stage at which they seriously devote their time in actually getting to Pledging. This is the stage at which know their partner and practice things a couple is truly devoted and like solving conflicts before entering considers their partner's sentiments. into marriage to ensure that the path they are about to embark on is right for both of them.

THINGS TO REMEMBER - PUT GOD AT THE CENTER OF WHATEVER RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE CURRENTLY IN. - RESPECT. YOU ARE NOT TO DO SOMETHING THAT WOULD HARM YOUR RELATIONSHIP IF YOU RESPECT ONE ANOTHER. - ALWAYS COMMUNICATE TO AVOID MISUNDERSTANDINGS. - BE FAITHFUL. - TRUST YOUR PARTNER. EGAIRRAM ROF NOITARAPERP ETAMIXORPI

“MARRIAGE PREPARATION HAS EGAYOV • 3 EGAP TO BE SEEN AND PUT INTO PRACTICE AS A GRADUAL AND CONTINUOUS PROCESS.” - ST. JOHN PAUL II WORDS IN FAMILIARIARIS CONSORTIO BY ANGELIKA LAO & DANICA OMBAO Immediate Preparation Consists of the following components: A synthesis of previous preparation (doctrinal, moral, spiritual) Experiences of prayer (retreats, spiritual exercises) Liturgical preparation with the active participation of the engaged Sacrament of Reconciliation Canonical discussions between the priest and engaged couple Marriage Law in the Philippines is governed by State Laws and Ecclesiastical Laws: Couples who want to get married in the Philippines need to comply with the requirements set forth by the Family Code of the Philippines whether Civil Marriage or religious in nature Definition of Marriage in the Family Code of the Philippines (Article 52) A special contract of permanent union between a man and a woman entered into in accordance with the law for the establishment of conjugal and family life. It is the foundation of the family and an inviolable social institution whose nature, consequences, and incidents are governed by law and not subject to stipulations, (except that marriage settlements may fix the property relations during the marriage within the limits provided by this Code) AS TO MARRIAGE PURPOSES, MARRIAGE MAY NOT NECESSARILY BE FOR PROCREATION OR FOR THE PARTNERS TO HAVE CHILDREN. MARRIAGE MAY ALSO BE ONLY FOR COMPANIONSHIP, AS WHEN THE PARTIES WHO PASS THE AGE OF PROCREATION CAN STILL GET MARRIED. HENCE, THE WORD, FOR THE ESTABLISHMENT OF CONJUGAL AND FAMILY LIFE WAS USED IN STATING THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE. (CF. CAN. 1055)

PAGE 3 • VOYAGE WHAT ARE THE ESSENTIAL REQUISITES FOR MARRIAGE? Legal Capacity • Contracting parties must be at least 18 years of age, male and female, and not under any impediment to marriage. Impediments are mentioned in Art. 37 (incestuous marriage) and Art. 38 (void marriages). If the contracting parties are between the ages of 18 and 21, they must present written consent to the marriage from their father, mother, or legal guardian (Art.14). While any contracting party between the age of 21 and 25 must present written parental advice, i.e., a written indication that the parents are aware of the couple's intent to marry (Art. 15). Art. 2 (FCP, 1987). Consent freely given by the contracting parties in the presence of the solemnizing officer • It is the consent of the two parties themselves, and not coming from parents. The consent must also be one that is real and not vitiated or defective by any of the vices of consent under Articles 45 and 46 of the Family Code of the Philippines. Art. 37 incestuous Marriage 1. Between ascendants and descendants of any degree 2. Between brothers and sisters, whether of the full or half-blood. ART. 38 MARRIAGES AGAINST PUBLIC POLICY 1.Between collateral blood relatives whether legitimate or illegitimate, up to the fourth civil degree; 2. Between step-parents and step-children; 3. Between parents-in-law and children-in-law; 4. Between the adopting parent and the adopted child; 5.Between the surviving spouse of the adopting parent and the adopted child; 6.Between the surviving spouse of the adopted child and the adopter; 7.Between an adopted child and a legitimate child of the adopter; 8.Between adopted children of the same adopter; and 9.Between parties where one, with the intention to marry the other, killed that other person’s spouse, or his or her own spouse. (82) FORMAL REQUISITES 1) Authority of the Solemnizing Officer Any priest, rabbi, imam, or minister of any church or religious sect duly authorized by his church or religious sect and registered with the office of the Civil Registrar General; Any ship captain or airline chief only in cases of Articulo Mortis; Any military commander of a unit in the absence of a chaplain during military operation cases involving in articulo mortis; Any consul-general, consul, or vice-consul in marriages solemnized abroad; mayors of cities and municipalities under the new Local Government Code Art. 3 (FCP, 1987). 2) A Valid Marriage License (Art. 9 of the Family Code) A marriage license shall be issued by the local civil registrar It shall be posted for ten (10) consecutive days outside the office of the civil registrar. A license shall be valid in any part of the Philippines for a period of 120 days and shall be automatically canceled at the end of said period. No valid marriage license, no valid marriage. 3) Marriage Ceremony No particular form of the ceremony is required The marriage shall be solemnized publicly

PAGE 3 • VOYAGE 1. CANONICAL DESCRIPTION OF MARRIAGE GOD, HIMSELF, IS THE AUTHOR OF MARRIAGE. THE CATHOLIC CHURCH ECCLESIAL BELIEVES THAT MARRIAGE IS: LAWS - CHARACTERIZED BY UNITY AND INDISSOLUBILITY. BETWEEN ONE MAN AND ONE WOMAN, WHO PROMISE TO BE FAITHFUL TO EACH OTHER. - A PARTNERSHIP FOR THE GOOD OF THE SPOUSES, WHO ARE OPEN TO THE PROCREATION AND EDUCATION OF CHILDREN. - A PARTNERSHIP OF LIFE AND LOVE IN WHICH A MAN AND A WOMAN MUTUALLY AND FREELY ACCEPT EACH OTHER AND BESTOW ON EACH OTHER THE VERY GIFT OF THEMSELVES. (CF. CAN. 1055; CAN. 1057) Canon 1055, 1 CONDITION The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman Canon 1102 establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, is §1. A marriage subject to a condition about the future cannot be contracted validly. by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the §2. A marriage entered into subject to a condition about the past or the present is procreation and education of offspring; this covenant between valid or not insofar as that which is subject to the condition exists or not. baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity §3. The condition mentioned in §2, however, cannot be placed licitly without the of a sacrament. written permission of the local ordinary. Canon 1056 FORCE/ FEAR The essential properties of marriage are unity and indissolubility; Canon 1103 in Christian marriage they acquire a distinctive firmness by reason A marriage is invalid if entered into because of force or grave fear from without, of the sacrament. even if unintentionally inflicted, so that a person is compelled to choose marriage in order to be free from it. Canon 1057,1 PROXY MARRIAGE A marriage is brought into being by the lawfully manifested Canon 1104 consent of persons who are legally capable. This consent cannot §1. To contract a marriage validly the contracting parties must be present together, be supplied by any human power. either in person or by proxy. §2. Those being married are to express matrimonial consent in words or, if they Canon 1057, 2 cannot speak, through equivalent signs. Matrimonial consent is an act of will by which a man and a woman by an irrevocable covenant mutually give and accept one 3. CANONICAL FORM another for the purpose of establishing a marriage. Constitutive procedure for the celebration of marriage as stipulated by Church law 2. TRIPOD OF MARRIAGE VALIDITY (3 CS): 7 Canonical Forms: .1. CAPACITY/LEGAL CAPACITY TO MARRY Freedom from any and all matrimonial diriment impediments Minister Canon 1108 §2. Canon 1073 “The person who assists at a marriage is understood to be only that person who is “A diriment impediment renders a person unqualified to contract present, asks for the manifestation of the consent of the contracting parties, and marriage validly”. receives it in the name of the Church.” 2. CONSENT Ordained Official Witness Free (elicited), true and deliberate option for marriage Canon 1108 §1. Canon 1057 §1. “Only those marriages are valid which are contracted before the local ordinary, “The consent of the parties, legitimately manifested between persons pastor, or a priest or deacon delegated by either of them, who assist, and before two qualified by law, makes marriage; no human power is able to supply witnesses according to the rules expressed in the following canons and without this consent”. prejudice to the exceptions mentioned in cann. 144, 1112, §1, 1116, and 1127, §§1-2”. Canon 1057 §2. “Matrimonial consent is an act of the will by which a man and a woman mutually give and accept each other through an Lay Official Church Witness irrevocable covenant in order to establish marriage”. Canon 1112 9 Grounds of Defective Consent §1. Where there is a lack of priests and deacons, the diocesan bishop can delegate lay persons to assist at marriages, with the previous favorable vote of the conference 1.Consensual Incapacity: natural capacity to elicit consent. of bishops and after he has obtained the permission of the Holy See. §2. A suitable lay person is to be selected, who is capable of giving instruction to Canon 1095 those preparing to be married and able to perform the matrimonial liturgy properly. The following are incapable of contracting marriage: Two Common Witnesses Those who lack the sufficient use of reason Those who suffer from a grave defect of discretion of judgment Canon 1108 concerning the essential matrimonial rights and duties mutually §1. Only those marriages are valid which are contracted before the local ordinary, to be handed over and accepted; pastor, or a priest or deacon delegated by either of them, who assist, and before two witnesses according to the rules expressed in the following canons and without Those who are not able to assume the essential obligations of prejudice to the exceptions mentioned in cann. 144, 1112, §1, 1116, and 1127, §§1-2. marriage for causes of a psychic nature. §2. The person who assists at a marriage is understood to be only that person who is present, asks for the manifestation of the consent of the contracting parties, and 1.Ignorance: lack of knowledge receives it in the name of the Church. Canon 1096 §1. For matrimonial consent to exist, the contracting parties must be Extraordinary Form at least not ignorant that marriage is a permanent partnership Canon 1116 between a man and a woman ordered to the procreation of offspring §1. If a person competent to assist according to the norm of law cannot be present by means of some sexual cooperation. or approached without grave inconvenience, those who intend to enter into a true §2. This ignorance is not presumed after puberty. marriage can contract it validly and licitly before witnesses only: 1.Error: involves false judgment in danger of death; Canon 1097 outside the danger of death provided that it is prudently foreseen that the §1. Error concerning the person renders a marriage invalid. situation will continue for a month. §2. Error concerning a quality of the person does not render a §2. In either case, if some other priest or deacon who can be present is available, he marriage invalid even if it is the cause for the contract, unless this must be called and be present at the celebration of the marriage together with the quality is directly and principally intended. witnesses, without prejudice to the validity of the marriage before witnesses only. Fraud 6. Binding Force Canon 1098 Canon 1117 A person contracts invalidly who enters into a marriage deceived by The form prescribed above must be observed if at least one of the parties malice, perpetrated to obtain consent, concerning some quality of contracting the marriage was baptized in the Catholic Church or received into it, the other partner which by its very nature can gravely disturb the without prejudice to the provisions of can. 1127 § 2. partnership of conjugal life. 7. Dispensation from Canonical Form Error Canon 1118 Canon 1099 §1. A marriage between Catholics or between a Catholic party and a non-Catholic Error concerning the unity or indissolubility or sacramental dignity of baptized party is to be celebrated in a parish church. It can be celebrated in marriage does not vitiate matrimonial consent provided that it does another church or oratory with the permission of the local ordinary or pastor. not determine the will. §2. The local ordinary can permit a marriage to be celebrated in another suitable place. SIMULATION or EXCLUSION §3. A marriage between a Catholic party and a non-baptized party can be celebrated Canon 1101 in a church or in another suitable place. §1. The internal consent of the mind is presumed to conform to the words and signs used in celebrating the marriage. §2. If, however, either or both of the parties by a positive act of the will exclude marriage itself, some essential element of marriage, or some essential property of marriage, the party contracts invalidly.

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