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Who wg are, r r ,,;:Editbi:'.'A\"d**:stroqg' .,',.,., .t:t,, .,,,,,,.,,,,,,,,,,,,1,,.' Seventh-day Adventist Kinship Inter- cludes weli over a thousand people in 16 Contibutois: ,fttei,F, Muelt r Bob ;Ue;' national, Inc. is a support group which countries. ministers to the spiritual, emotional, so- Kinship operates solely on contribu- :,:'Jackie.Sum .rter1oni.'Kalie Gurian,tVanessa.';: cial, and physical well being of Seventh- tions from its members and friends.. .,:Hritche4 DaylO,noUggrs, .Ueiai ,lonnson, day Adventist lesbians, gay men, bisexu- SDA Kinship believes the Bible does noa,*stoifeil,graie:A:Sc$tr,,,';:: :: als, and their families and friends. - ,,.: ,...ii.t 1,..:: ..: ,,,,, ,,,.,,,. ,,,,f,,:i,:,,;.i. ..,.. r_;;i.;ii, :. notcondemn, or even mention, homosexu. ffitif.n*i4.,,, , ,,.,.:,',,, SDA Kinship facilitates and promotes : ,. : ,.. ::. '::' ::, .:':' ,:::, ,,: ii ,i , ,: ,,,,1 :, ality as a sexual orientation. Ellen G. ' :: :': :...: ..,' the understanding and affirmation of ho- White does not parallel any of the Bible mosexual and bisexual Adventists among texts, which are often used to condemn 'nesiUent:Dario,O ,.,,,,.. .i,..,:.,. .,.:. themselves and within the Seventh-day homosexuals, to homosexuality. Most of SVeiccreer:y,yP:Frteotsdti+drefl4n,,r.,t,,il.s,,q,,!r!,y:'f:lrg. u.:,:;::: Adventist community through education, :.,.. ,,i the anguish imposed upon God's children :::':' advocacy, and reconciliation. who grow up gay or lesbian has its roots in a misunderstanding of what the Bible says. lTreasUrer:Merlin',Bfown,,,:,;;1.. 1; ,:, : , : Founded in 1976, the organization was , Conniclioq,Niioi: ll,nare*Strong.,,,,,,,,,., incorporated in 1981 and has a board of 14 Seventh-day Adventist Kinship is a ., r: officers and l0 regional coordinators. 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Gay alumni group forming at SDA Church asks Adventist university employees to ignore A gay faculty member at La Sierra Kinship University is forming the school's first gay and lesbian alumni association. The Seventh-day Adventist Church is furthercutting any ties with SDA Founder Blair Bradley,26, said it took Kinship. In a letter dated June 6 from Robert S. Folkenberg, the presidenr him three years to make this decision. ofthe Seventh-day Adventist Church, he announced, \"The General Confer- ence Administrative committee recently voted to ask General conference \"LSU gave me a decent educa- personnel to decline invitations to speak at meetings sponsored by ,Kinship tion,\" Bradley said. He also thinks that International. \"' La Sierra University is ahead of its This letter, which is sent to all SDA pastors, continues, \"This homo- sexual support organization appears to condone a homosexual lifestyle in Adventist counterparts. \"They are the spite of unmistakable, biblical injunctions proscribing such behavior and one Adventist institution that's reach- which undergrid the clear position (stated in the Church Manual) of the ing the twentieth century-now that it' s world-wide Seventh-day Adventist community of believers.\" aimost the twenty-first century,\" he said, chuckling. The exclusion of \"SDA\" before the quotation-marked Kinship Interna- tional is no mistake. Even though the SDA Church lost their court case \"I want to reach Kinship members against Kinship to remove the \"SDA\" from its name, the church still refuses who are or know of LSU alumni,\" Bra- to recognize it as an organization ofgay, lesbian, and bisexual Seventh-day dley said. He is currently the unofficial Adventist Christians. sponsor of the university's gay and les- While Kinship strives for Christlike equality between all Adventists, bian chapter. the officials of the Seventh-day Adventist Church find this pursuit of love and acceptance to \"undergrid the clear position of the world-wide Seventh- Former La Sierra University stu- day Adventist community of believers.\" Enough said. dents, or Kinship members who know former gay students, may contact Blair Bradley at (909) 353-1159, or 5166 Harriett Circle, Riverside, CA 92505. Astute readers may notice that Blair Bradley's father was featured in last month's Connection. Gays mentioned in Review gospel and salvation are therefore avail- Christian life calls for ongoing struggle able to the \"sexually immoral, idolators, against sin,\" he writes. William G. Johnsson, the editor of adulterers, male prostitutes and homo- the Adventist Review, included homo- sexual offenders\" (quoting 1 Corinthians He concludes, saying, the Adven- sexuals in aJune 9 editorial titled \"Letter 6:9-11). tist church is \"a community of the bro- From the Loneliest Man in the World.\" ken. Acommunityof hope. Acommu- Johnsson goes on to state that over- nity of acceptance. Acommunity of the He said that the earthly Jesus accepted coming sin is absolutely important. \"The redeemed. That's my church\" (italics all people. Summarizing Johnsson, the added). The Adventist church is I have not been selected to continue The purpose of the editorial was to demonstrating some more of their answer a letter that Johnsson had re- managing the Connectior? next term ceived from a child-molesting Seventh- caring attitude toward Kinship. As day Adventist. (by all means, go aheadand volunteer), described elsewhere on this page, the United Nations honors SDA I think change is good. The content church president distributed a voted will remain similar, though. Church's family focus decision stating church personnel Because this is the lastissuebefore \"The Seventh-day Adventist should not participate in Kinship- sponsored meetings. Nonetheless, I Kampmeeting, it's time to thank the Church was one of four organizations members and friends who have recognized by the United Nations on dare say we will meet several of them supported Kinship this year. Thank May 26 for its efforts to make a signifi- cant contribution to the building and while attending the New York you, and see page I l. preservation of healthy families,\" read Kampmeeting, bless their hearts. By the way, this month's a June 3 press release. Beware! The next issue of the centerfold is an author index of the This award was apparently pre- last ten issues ofthe Connection. Connectionwill look different. While Connection 3
sented after a three year marketing ploy assume that gay and lesbian Adventists and God,\" by Rosemary Radford by the SDA Church. According to the are not considered a part of the Seventh- press release, the church decided in day Adventist world family. Reuther. 1991 to designate 7994 as the Year of The other two books are \"Queer in the Family for the World Church, to SDA university orders new correspond with the United Nations In- gay books America,\" by Michelangelo Signorile, ternational Year of the Famiiy. The and \"Same-Sex Unions in Premodern church keptthe UN \"regularly informed Andrews University seems to be Europe,\" by John Boswell. about the church's calendar of events open to homosexual literature. A knowl- connected with the Yearof theFamily,\" edgeable source informs us that the \"Queerin America\" describes how and sent several representatives to re- forces in New York City, Washington, port about the church's activities at a university bookstore has three new gay D.C. and Hollywood allow homopho- I-IN conference in Malta last year. books. bia to thrive, and \"Same-Sex Unions in Premodern Europe\" documents the sen- From the continued actions of the In the science section is an sational discovery of same-sex marriage ceremonies that were sanctioned and church against SDA Kinship, it is safe to ecofeminist theology book titled \"Gaia routinely performed by the church. Canadian members Attend get-together before prepare for new year Kampmeeting by Peter F. Mueller If you are planning to be in New Kinship Canada Secretary York early for Kampmeeting, you are As we prepare for the last issue of the Canadian Communique and invited to attend a forum and potluck at Dr. Ron Lawson's home in Ossining, Kampmeeting, there are many exciting things underway here in Kinship New York. A Kampmeeting speaker Canada. We are in the final stages of mapping out an advertising will speak at the 11:00 a.m. forum on campaign to begin in the fall. Preparation of info packages to be sent to July 23. You may contact Ron Lawson selected clergy members of the SDA Church in Canada is under way, along with a letter-writing campaign. at (914) 941-7837. His address is 8 Glendale Road, Ossining, NY 10562. The big change for us north of the U.S. border is the change of our post box. After 11 years of having our post box in Toronto, we have Adventists meet at Andrews moved it to Oshawa. Our new address is P.O. Box 82578, 5 Pts. Mall Postal Outlet, Oshawa, Ontario L1G 7W7. This places our post box in to discuss AIDS the town that headquarters the SDA Church in Canada. Several Kinship members attended Elections are upcoming here in Kinship Canada. Most board \"A Christian's Response to AfDS,\" a members have expressed a willingness to run for their positions for a second year. The position of secretary is open and needs filling, as I am Swallen Lectureship Series at Andrews University. According to the brochure relocating to Massachusetts to go to school. I will miss the personal distributed by the Andrews theological seminary, the May 20-23lectures were contact with my fellow KinCan members. But I have been convinced to \"specifically designed to assist pastors and health care professionals who want help out in an advisory capacity for our advertising and promotion to be part of a Christian response to the activities, and I have agreed to typeset and organize the newsletter for AIDS crisis.\" another year. (A first in KinCan history, having an active member outside Two speakers typified the lecture- of the country.) \"Q. Dear Pastor Karl: I'm I want to encourage KinCan members to get involved and run for 13. Is sex OK? positions on the board, or volunteer for one of our worthwhile projects. My year on the board of Kinship Canada has been very rewarding, and A. Yes. With yourmarriage I have enjoyed working with all of you. partner. Of the opposite sex.\" Just a quick note about our newsletter. We will not be publishing it during the surlmer, so look forward to its return in the fall. Judy Sullivan -Gfruoysm,\" \"Guidelines forGirls and an advice column in the is working on a three part series that looks exciting. It will be with sadness I say good-bye to my KinCan friends. I look SDA young people's magazine forward with anticipation to spending time with new Kinship friends Guide, June 11, 1994,p. 14. south of the border. Connection
ship. Gilbert Burnham, a professor of Lawson. He was recently awarded Lawson plans to use the time to finish international health and medicine at teacher of the year, with a monetary writing his book about the Seventh-day Johns Hopkins University and Harvey AdventistChurch and its gay members. Elder, a professor of medicine at Loma acknowledgment of 95000, from Queens Linda University and the chief of the College, New York. Member visits college staff infectious diseases section. Lawson also received a grant from Larry Hallock visited informally Burnham covered the AIDS basics Eli Lilley, a drug manufacturer. The with individual staffmembers at South- and discussed its implications to third grant will allow Lawson to take ayear- world countries like Africa, where he long sabbatical from Queens College. lived for many years. An attending In memoriam Kinship member said the speaker' s view- Witfiam Doug fos .Bi[[' lPearson point was \"AIDS, its spreading, and its people.\" Requiem aeternam dona eis, Domine. Eternal rest grant them, oh Lord. Elderexplainedhow to be a Chris- tian in the era of AIDS. \"Whether you Eternal rest grant to a tormented man. Eternal rest grant from a life of like it or not,\" he said, \"we helped cause suppressed but tumultuous feelings. Rest from a life of apprehension, this epidemic. We helped cause this intense feelings of guilt, and terror from fear of eternal punishment. epidemic not only within our own, but in the community as well because we Apprehension that began in adolescence when he realized that he was did not love unconditionally.\" \"different\" from most otherpeople, or so he thought. Apprehension because the family might find out. Apprehension because the people ar the church Elder compared Christ's actions to and in the neighborhood might notice. Apprehension because of the fear the actions of Seventh-day Adventists. \"Jesus told the lame man and the pros- that the teachers, other students, or school officials, and later college titute, 'You are forgiven. Go and sin no administrators, might find out. This apprehension turned out to have some more.' Yet, we tell others to stop sin- foundation, for after twenty-seven years of faithful and competent service to the denomination, he was summarily dismissed from employment ning and then you'll be forgiven,\" he without even thepretense of dueprocess orright of appeal when conference officials \"heard\" the unsubstantiated rumor that he was '.different.,, The said. benefits that legally accrue from service of that length were later denied. Elder filled the atrendees with en- Faithfulness: He worked for the Adventist denomination from the time he received his graduate degree from an Adventist college. thusiasm. The audience was very verbal, exclaiming \"amens\" and \"hallelujahs\" Competence: Attested to by many former students who say that he was frequently, reported a Kinship member. one of the best teachers they ever had. The Andrews University campus Evidenced by having pulled the academies that he administered out of was filled with mixed emotions after the red ink and operating them in the black, as well as raising the standards the series concluded, but the series did of faculty and curricula. open up discussion about Kinship. A Kinship source said many people on Terror: Because he firmly believed the Apocryphal stories of a campus are adamantly opposed to Kin- ship because they see it as an organiza- sadistic savage in outer space who was going to catch him on judgement day tion that supports a promiscuous lifes- and perform barbarous, Dantean tortures on him and then cast him into the tyie. Nevertheless, people have talked lake of fire. about displaying Kinship's AIDS quilt on campus, which apparently could be Guilt: Because he believed he was a sinner for being homosexual, and done if the quilt was somehow disasso- that any homosexual act was a sin. Guilt because he succumbed to family ciated with Kinship. Several other uni- versity officials are reported to be inter- and church pressure to marry; thereby, complicating the lives of a lovely ested in forming an AIDS support group woman and their children. Guilt, intense guilt, for leaving them after many years, even though the children were adults. Guilt about every aspect of his if it could, in the words of one faculty life associated with being homosexual. member, not be \"tainted with Kinship.\" Several years of therapydid subdue andcalmthesefeelings of guiltand The overall effect of the series is terror, but only death brought true respite and peace. good because the Adventists at Andrews Requiescat in pace. are talking, and open communication is May he rest in peace. the first step in gaining acceptance. Lawson receives awards Double congratulations to Kinship's Church Liaison Dr. Ron Connection
ern College and Oakwood College dur- Hallock also attended his 30th philandering U.S. SenatorCharles S. Robb ing a June trip to the South for a family anniversary class reunion at Enter- (D-Va.) to Colin Cook. reunion in Nashville, Tennessee. prise Academy, KS, earlier this year, where he came out to classmates. According to a memo written by The Straight 101 test in the April Con- nection was adapted from a series of One for the foot-in-the- Robb's press secretary, and quoted in the mouth department questions titled \"Homosexual Question- May 1l Washington Post, \"Robb did naire,\" by Martin Rochlin, Ph.D., West Region 2 coordinator Heidi Hollywood, California. Another adapta- engage in sexual relations, or oral sex, tion ofthis questionnaire appeared in the Johnson sent us a letter that Iikens June, 1986, Connection. with at least half-a-dozen women. Robb said, 'I haven't done anything that I re- gard as unfaithful to my wife.\"' Colin Cook would agree, Heidi John- son concludes. What's cooking at Kamp ofthe area, courtesy oflocal Kinship members. After sundown a review '94 (and it's not broccoli) of the week will be presented through a multi-media presentation. This An overview of what is happening, who will be there, will be followed by the annual dance. and what the absentees will miss! Among the workshops sched- It's almost time to pack your tendees will travel to New York City uled for Kampmeeting are medita- to enjoy and experience the sights. A bags, kiss the pets good-bye and tion workshops, massage workshops sight-seeing packet of New York andhealth workshops. A well-known leave for a great Kampmeeting! City will be provided at registration Kampmeeting 1994 begins Adventist will be directing two in- on Sunday. luly 24 at the Holiday Hills Con- teractivereader's workshops center- ference Center in Pawling, New Severalmore speakers will share ing on the \"Images of God.\" York. After arriving in Stewartson with attendees on Thursday morn- Airport, you may begin checking ing. Thursday evening is the annual Invited Kampmeeting speakers in at the center at 4:00 p.m. Upon \"Nearly Talent Show.\" Along with include select faculty from several the entertaining skits and plays per- Adventist colleges-some from col- checking in, you will receive a formed by Kinship members, at- leges that have never been repre- tendees will be treated to the talents Kampmeeting packet containing sented by non-gay Adventists. all of the activities and events for of Grammy Award-winning opera Other invited speakers have at- the week, and you will be escorted singer Faith Esham. Esham is an to your room. That evening, you tended past Kampmeetings and, to internationally-acclaimed soprano. many of us, they are dear friends. can meet old and new friends at an Kampmeeting coordinator John S am, Several members from the Ad- ice cream get-together. who delighted Kinshippers at last ventist Forum, a scholarly organiza- Personal stories will be shared year's Kampmeeting by wearing a on Monday morning. This is the red, Goodwill-purchased dress, tion of highly literary Adventists, annual experience when new at- will also be present to confidentially tendees are given the opportunity promises to sport a new dress that is to introduce themselves and share \"designed and tailored to my speci- observe the week's events. fications.\" some of their experiences, and regu- An Adventist counselor who has The traditional communion ser- Iar attendees introduce themselves had experience counseling gay vice and the AIDS memorial for couples will be available for one-on- and tell their stories. Monday Kinship members and Adventists who have died from the disease will one or group counseling. evening is the hysterically funny officiate on Friday evening. For the benefit of the Kinship \"Newly Wed Game.\" If you've On Saturday morning, a music night owls, gay movies will be shown festival will befollowedby thechurch at l0:00 p.m. every evening. never watched or participated in this laughfest, you are in for a treat. service and the Kampmeeting group The week is jam-packed with portrait. After lunch, attendees who many more fun activities that you'll Tuesday morning, attendees aren't taking their Sabbath aftemoon justhaveto be thereto hear about! (If will meet for presentations by naps are invited to enjoy guidedtours you're not planning on attending, clergy, followed by several work- take alook atpage seven.) See you shops. soon. Wednesday is a free day. At- John Sam needs six people to take pictures during Kamp for the Satur- day evening presentation. Please call him at (718) 856-9773 to volunteer. Connection
Kampmeeting'94-lf you'll be there, great! lf you,re not planning to be, What's getting in yourway? At each year's Kampmeeting, sev- atalent show that will amuse and amaze ence with Kinship folk is that we are you! eral people say, \"I'm so glad I came, but very accepting of differences-and very tr The program is too secular. I almost didn't because _.\" If warm and caring. Some of us have been It' s true that Kinship Kampmeeting pro- you have been hesitating todecide, read away from the church for many years grams have more variety than traditional on and see if your concern is one of the Adventist campmeetings. However, and our habits and lifestyles are re- the quality and content of the spiritual following. moved from what they may have been segments are first rate. And remember, D Iwon'tknowanyone. Maybe years ago. Forexample, each yearthere the sermons you' ll be hearing will be for and maybe not. You may be surprised you as a lesbian or a gay man, not are several attendees who gather out- something you'll need to adapt or trans- to meet a classmate from academy days, late to have meaning for your life. The side aftermeetings andmeals to smoke morning worships and the traditional or perhaps even your favorite teacher. Friday evening communion service are a cigarette. If that's your problem, it's spiritual highlights of the week for many On the other hand, if you don't know attendees. The communion service will guaranteed not to be a problem! be unlike any other you have ever expe- anyone when you arrive, you soon will. tr I have difliculty in meeting rienced. Not everyone chooses to Kinship members are friendly. The new people. I have the feeling that I am participate, but many who have other- group is relatively small (probably not _ (older/less attractive/more shy/ wise avoided communion services have over 100men and women). Think of the found it to be an enjoyable and moving not that much \"Adventist\" anymore/or experience at Kinship Kampmeeting. others who'll be there as family mem- thanmostof thepeople who'll be tr I need a vacation. So, what's bers you haven't met yet. -Ka)tatemnpdminege.tiAngll kinds of people come to stopping you? Kampmeeting can be and all are welcome and tr Imightmeetsomeonelknow. your vacation. No meals to prepare for Possibly you will. However, all visiting a week (they are all included in the very cared about. Everyone is drawn into the speakers are pledged to maintain confi- reasonable fee!). Recreation and social circle of Kinship's family. dentiality. Likewise, members are urged activities. A chance to meet new and tr I can't stand the thought of to respect the privacy of attendees who interestingpeople. And, sight-seeing in eating vegetarian food for a whole New York City is superb. wish to use apseudonym. Alsoremem- week. Who said you have to? Each tr It's too expensive. A few ber, the person you meet may well have year, several people have \"Big Mac years ago an attendee from Australia the same concerns and need to protect attacks\" and venture into town for a sold everything he owned topay forthe privacy that you have. We know of no trip. At the week's end he declared the change of pace. This year, you can experience was worth the cost. For a one who has ever had a problem be- few, it really is a sacrifice to come up choose on the registration form to eat with the cost of Kampmeeting. How- cause the privacy of their situation was non-vegetarian meals. ever, where else can you get three daily compromised as a result of being at a meals, suites with televisions and pri- tr Community bathrooms and Kinship Kampmeeting. vate baths, tennis courts and apool plus multiple roommates do not appeal to B There will he too many ser- an interesting and exciting program for me. Hello! Where have you been? less than $70 a day? Subtract what mons. Of course there will be some you'd spend if you traveled elsewhere, Community bathrooms and multiple sernons-good ones, too. The pastors and the cost is really not that great. roofirmates are a thing of Kampmeet- we invite to speak to us are the best. D I'll feel uncomfortable. ings past. If the threat of one roommate They are interesting, dynamic speakers That's pretty vague. But let's try a in your room and in your bath is a possibility: Perhaps you're feeling that who will have something to say that most of the attendees will be fairly problem, you may reserve a private straight-laced, traditional Adventists. relates to you and your concerns. How- room for a reasonable additional cost. Some are and some are not. The differ- ever, the programs at Kinship Ka- tr It's probable that I can't be mpmeetings are filled with variety. there for the entire week. Maximum There will be workshops and seminars enjoyment and benefi tcome from spend- covering health, relationships, and many ing the entire time; however, even one other topics. Every evening, except day is better than missing the whole Friday, there will be a social activity experience. Bonding among the Kin- following the evening service--every- ship family seems to grow throughout thing from the Newly Wed Game to an the time together, so you'll want to be ice cream social and, on Thursday night, there'for as long as possible. See you Did you find yourconcern? there! lf you didn't, write orcallus. Adapted from the same-natned article by lze Stanfo r d that app e are d in the J u ly, I 9 8 5, Kins hip Connection. Connection
KinNet discusses gay role models and maffiage Gays need more role models angels' message), but it is also run here on earth by humans who err, and who, for the most part, mean well but may be way To: KinNet members off base. I have taken my eyes off them, and look only to Jesus From: Floyd Poenitz, Texas as my example and strength. I still attend church every In previous posts from some of you, especially those just Sabbath, partly because that is the way I was raised (the Bible coming out, I have heard a cornmon \"complaint\": The says thatJesus was in the synagogue on the Sabbath as was His problem with coming out to the \"gay life\" is that there are no custom), but mostly because I have a need to be with like roiemodels available. Forheterosexual counterparts growing believers on Sabbath-aneed thataMCC or othergay Sunday up, we have lots of role models to look at. But who do we turn to and look at when we discover we are gay? Some of us are church will never fulfill. I firmly believe that I am Christian lucky enough to have supportive friends and to have other Kinship members around to help us during this time, but for first (this is a choice) and gay second (something I don't have the mostpart we are on our own. The dilemma is that we are a choice ofor control over). gay Seventh-day Adventist Christians, with a set of do's and I didn't mean to have this turn into a sernon, but I would don'ts. Then we discover we are a part of what is considered be interested in hearing your thoughts on this. a \"don't.\" At that point, many leave the church and model Did any of you have had any of these same feelings and thoughts? How did you handle them? How do you think we themselves after the gay community they are close to, or they move to a big city and immerse themselves in it there. can develop role models to help both current and future When I finally admitted that I fit the definition gay and Kinshippers deal with this? I mean, there is no \"Guide to it wasn't going to go away, I sought out other gay people. Coming Out for the Gay Seventh-day Adventist.\" Is there Many times (in my case) this leads to public bathrooms and anything Kinship could put together to give helpful hints? parks to mingle with people engaging in gay sex. Little did I know that wasn't a true depiction of what homosexuality is Looking for more gay SDA role models, Floyd Poenitz all about. I ran into many men who were married, or in Married men should not sneak around relationships, who just wanted quick sex. Remember I was married during this time, so whatever I did, I had to \"sneak.\" To: KinNet members From: Scott, Tennessee I also drove to local gay bars and sat in the parking lots I agree. There aren't enough role models in the gay to see what kinds of people frequented those places. I didn't dare go in to the bar-the devil was in there <g>. I think I did community. I want so much to get married (to a guy), have walk through one back then at about 5 p.m. Hardly anyone 2.4 children and a white picket fence. But I look around at the was there. I just wanted to see what other gay people looked like. Were they freaks or normal people? I can remember older gay generation and all I see is single men and women getting the Connection way back then, and I would \"devour\" the pictures in there-these were people who were not only who have had oneor two long-term, meaningful relationships. homosexual, but also SDA! I was desperately seeking role models, but never really found anyone that I could aspire to. This really scares me because I just ended my first, and I'm I somehow put all my experiences together and decided just 19. As forthe sex thing, I don't know of anyone who has that I could still be the same SDA Christian I always was and \"saved\" themselves for a man. They've either met peopie in still be gay. The same morals in the Bible that apply to the \"straights\" should still apply to me. Being gay is not an excuse purely sexual situations or \"messed\" around with friends. I I can hide behind in order to have free reign of whatever feels look forward for the day when gay people can be comfortable good. I think that if E. G. White were here, she would attend with themselves and be able to choose to save themselves for our Kampmeetings and encourage us to be all we can be, to their wedding night. love and trust God to lead us, and to be true to ourselves and our convictions. I still think the SDA Church is the only one I, too, fell victim to anonymous sex. It happened when that has the truth (doctrines-Sabbath, state of the dead, three I was 15, in a mall, and I didn't know the guy's name. Three years later at school, my friend started talking to a guy I thought I didn't know. It turned out he was the guy I lost it to, and I didn't even remember what he looked like! I don't remember a lot of what happened, and especially with who (not that any name exchanges were real; mine Connection
weren' t). My experiences went on for three years after the frst \"l ran into many married men in time. It has been very hard to deal with this in my life. the malls. No offense, but in my Anytime something goes wrong, I feel like going out and \"tricking.\" Not that I do ! ! ! ! I haven't in almost two years. I many encounters I was always very do believe in monogamous relationships. Lately, I feel that angry when I found out. I feel that if if someone approached me, I would decline--despite being single. you know what you want, and it ain't what you're with, you shouldn't There aren't gay or gay-friendly SDA role models in my sneak around.\" -Scott area, so I didn't talk to anyone in the church till I contacted Kinship. I have a hard time with a lot of the gay community. wants to be \"the other woman.\" It is for this reason that I don't agree with a lot of what it says is acceptable. I ran into sometimes gay, heterosexually-married men will form rela- many married men in the malls. No offense, but in my many tionships with others in the same circumstances, as they will encounters I was always very angry when I found out. I feel understand the limitations of the situation. I'm still working that if you know what you want, and it ain't what you're with, on this, and certainly don't know all the answers, but I would you shouldn't sneak around. urge walking in the other man's shoes before judging him. I also still have ffouble with what the Bible says on the Have a happy Sabbath, Jack subject of gays. I know in my heart that it wasn' t a choice, but I still have a hard time feeling that that is enough, or that the What are the responsibilities of married Bible texts really say something different. I guess it will take partners? time and study. I've been taught by the church certain things To: KinNet members for so long that it will take time for me to be able to feel better From: Marcus Stringer, Washington about my life. I guess that is guilt. I don't know. I decided to join Kinship to get a better unbiased look at the subject. It' s First, I want to thank Scott for opening up to KinNet with really weird sometimes. I feel I could go out in the streets and his very personal experiences. You've made yourself vulner- march and shout for my rights, and the next minute I feel like able to us. Having almost gone where Jack is (heterosexual I've made a mistake. Was there a choice involved? I guess marriage), I can imperfectly empathize with him and others I missed that day when the orientation fairy came to town. I who have been married. This is a serious issue which is don't know. Well, I'm starting to confuse myself, so I should repeatedly used to show that homosexuality is destroying shut up now. families and \"traditional family values.\" Scott We need to at least talk about this honestly-whatever way we feel. So, let' s: 1. be honest, 2. work so that \"the things Gay, married men are in a ditficult position I do or believe, that you don't like, won't rupture our basic Christ-centered connection,\" 3. decide that if we must agree To: KinNet members to disagree, try if at all possible to disagree respectfully, not From: Jack, Midwest tearing away at a person's identity or self-worth. Scott wrote: \"I ran into many married men in the malls. Questions: What are the underlying issues here for a person who agrees with extra-marital involvement? For the No offense, but in my many encounters I was always very person who disagrees with extra-marital involvement (\"mari- tal\" should include lesbian and gay unions)? angry when I found out. I feel that if you know what you want, and it ain't what you're with, you shouldn't sneak around.\" Should heterosexual and homosexual marriage adhere to different expectations? What are they? Are there any? As a gay, married man, I would like to respond to this. Unfortunately, life is not as simple as you portray it. I think Is the traditional Christian interpretation of marriage and it's great that you are coming to terms with your sexuality properpremarital, marital, and extra-marital activity the only while you're young (although you appear to have a great deal option? What is our guide in making expectations? Is of guilt). For a variety of reasons (including denial and guilt) not all of us did that. Sooner or later (sometimes as part of the guidance needed? middle-age crisis), though, we have to deal with these parts of Note: These are real issues that I'm still dealing with in our persona. By that time, however, we may have other my life, so I'm not coming from an \"I've arrived\" point of responsibilities (family, profession, etc.) that limit our de- grees of freedom. In a way, we're having to go back to an view. adolescent stage. I hope you can have some sympathy for what we go through in our \"sneaking around.\" It usually Marcus involves being less than totally open with a spouse, but does not necessarily mean that this must be so with our same- gender friends. In fact, I think it would be best to be open about it with them. No person who wants a long-term relationship Connection
lwould not become involved with any keep my mouth shut, I think. After all, don't even begin to judge a man until you walk a mile in his shoes, eh? married person Hope you're having a good weekend and all! To: KinNet members Ricky From: Ricky, Michigan Love is the essence of gayness Marcus said: \"We need to at least talk about this hon- estly-whateverwaywefeel. So, let's: 1. behonest,2. work To: KinNet members so that 'the things I do or believe, that you don't like, won't From: Walt Elias, California rupture our basic Christ-centered connection,' 3. decide that if we must agree to disagree, try if at a1l possible to disagree My background: GWM, single, never married, neu' at respectfuliy, not tearing away at a person's identity or self- accepting gayness. This is a complex issue. I can't contribute from experience, but my \"heart\" or \"intuition\" does have worth.\" some things to say. I agree with this very much! Well said! When we speak 1. Gay married men are probably trapped in something of things that are controversial, if we are careful to use \"I\" statements (like,I feel that, orI believe thatforme) things will that, in a way, was not their fault. It's something societl' go better, and hopefully, feelings won't be hurt. (This is my expectedthemtodo, andbeing goodcitizens, they went along. professional prescription :-> VBG) Only later, perhaps, did they fully realize that society had \"What are the undedying issues here for a person who prevented them from fully recognizing and being their true agrees with extra-marital involvement? For the person who disagrees with extra-marital involvement ('marital' should selves. include lesbian and gay unions)?\" 2. Being gay can be a very important part of one's life' I suppose that the issues in my mind are really for those It certainly is to me. It's part of who I am, and I am important who agree to get involved with someone who is in a marriage \"Gay married men are ProbablY situation. In my mind (specifically for me), to get invoived trapped in something that, in a waY, with someone in a marriage situation would be an infraction of the values I hold in high regard for families. Each situation was not their fault. lt's something is certainly different, with different situational parts. In some cases it might work. But I personally am not open to getting society expected them to do, and involved with someone in a marriage relationship. I person- being good citizens, theY went aliy do not believe in getting involved with someone who is along. Only later, perhaps, did theY married heterosexually, or involved in a long term commit- fully realize that society had pre- vented them from fully recognizing ment with a gay partner. This is my personal value, and I wouid not impose it on anyone else-though I may feel that and being their true selves.\" -Walt the relationship is potentially destructive. to me. It is, likewise, just as important a part of a married man. Given the society that we have lived in, and the societal Itmustbe apieceofhimself thatvery much needsrecognition. norms that many of our more mature brothers and sisters grew 3. In order to fully understand one's self, one must at up and married in, we know that things were far from easy, and often marriage was used as a deterrent of suspicion of homo- times get out there and check some things out. I doubt there is any other way to be really true to yourself' As long as the sexuality. Marriage was \"proof' that someone wasn't gay. married person is honest with other gays, I think a married man And then there are those who \"realize\" their sexual should be given the chance to explore that part of himself, to share his gayness with another gay man. orientation later in life, or have done such a good job at 4. How that man deals with his married/gay life is repressing it, that they don't know they are gay until later in something he will have to sort out in time. I don't think it is life. So, it is important that we are understanding and fair to deny him the right to express his true gay self. Yes, I know there are problems. But, one has to be true supportive. \"should heterosexual and homosexual marriage adhere to one's serf rhat' in part' to different expectations? What are they? Are there any?\" :HJ:iiiTJl:i,\"H:,, In my mind, no they shouldn't. The expectations should be the same. Marriage is marriage, and the commitment should stick. If it doesn' t fit, then I would try to find a way out of the situation. Of course, I know things are more compli- cated than that and kids may be involved. It is a very difficult situation to be a part ol and it is not one that I would like to be in. Having had the good fortune to have dealt with it early, I really have a problem making a value j udgement on someone else. I know how I feel and all, but I am not in the situation' Since I cannot speak from experience, well, Ijust have to 10 Connection
Kampmeeting approaches, so it is time to say \"thank you\" to... Gerdd Alex for sharing your time and knowledge wi*r the Connection md me. Kampmeeting, and then sharing the experience with Kinship members through the James T, Arnold for your splendid and witty musical insights. Pastor Ron Astorley for speaking up on behalfof gay Adventists, and for sharing with Connection. Kinship your dogged deteminarion for chmge_ Doug Morgan for speakingat lastyear's Kampmeeting and writing youressay on paul's Sherri Babcock for sharing with us your painfirl story, and for your board meeting inclusive communiry for the Connection. wisdom. PeterF. Mueller foryourhumor, wit and patience. Who else would still write ..Our lady Mr. Bear for those lively discussions, and for your generous, behind-the-scenes input. of Oshawa\" after all the daggers that were thrown by fellow gay Adventists? you're also Kip Beardsley for keeping Region 7 acrive ard exciting. the only person who made sure I had your scheduled articles on my desk two months before they were due. Jon and Mabel Norcross for supponing the parents and families of gay Seventh-day Adventists. You're reaching a special community. Bob Bouchard for things I can't put in print. James O'Gradyforassuming command of Kinship's minority affairs duringthe middle ofthe year, and for doing such a greatjob in the Spanish-speakiog deparrmenr. Bruce Boyd for keeping Region 9 so energized and, of course, for you generous Darin Olson for being one of the hardesFworking presidents of any corporation. Under comrnents about the Connection. your leadership, Kinship's three year deciine of membersfup has stopped. Not only do we seem to have stabilizrd, but wehaveabout4O more members thal when vou assumd Merlin Brown for keeping the Connection on schedule through your promptness. commaod. Errol Chamness for sharing your priceless photos fiom the first Kinship Kampmeeting. Ben Pickell,Jr. for taking time to retell the origins ofKinship for the Conn ectiondning several leogthy phone inrcruiews. Scott Congo for your hmor, your fax, and for compiling the mariage,/role model Floyd Poenitz for beginning KinNet and rhereby creating a med.ium for daily Kinsfup discussions into a highly readable format. contact-plus a dependable source for interesting Connection mateial. Walt Elias for writing the book review on Adventists and homosexuality. Terre Price for heading Region 6, and sharing your wicked sense of humor. Lin Ennis for initiating me into the real-life world of editing. I appreciae it. David Rodgers foryourinsighrful bits ofnews and gossip, notto mendon yourworkwith campus outreach and the 800 number. It's a proximity thing. Brad Foster for financially carrying the Connection through the first four issues. John Sam for all of your work for Kampmeeting '94, and for getting me a job at pon Donald J. Freeman for detailing yourquest fromthepulpit, to Colin Cook, to acceptance. Authority. Michael Gonzalez for speaking your mind on behalf of Our Lady and for acceptatrce Craig A, Scott for your tremendous enthusiasm and supportofthe Connecrion through within Kinship. numerous articles and updates. Russ Grrggson for your letters of support, and the story about your rejection from the J. Vicki Shelton for writing to the Connection. Hearing from the foffit Connection church. editor, who many people have told me is the epitome of all editors, rnade my day. Katie Gurian for you concern and love in binding the Kinship community, md your article about child sexual abuse and the SDA Church. Darnell Sherrod for writing your very personal story for the Connectiou, and for faithfully sewing as the Kinship secretary for three years. I miss our Chrcago visis. Larry Hallock for representing Kinship at the UFMCC conference, and then writing an account of the proceedings. Marlene Short for graciously drawing from your vast pool of counselor-induced knowledge and sharing with Kinship advice about loving survivors of sexual abuse. Juliana Harvard for you enthusiasm and contributions to the Connection througlt Gary Stebbeds for your encouragenrent and patience. KinNet. Marcus Strhger for being the \"lone voice crying in the wildemess,' on behalf of gay Vanessa Hatcherforsharing inthe Connectionhowyotmetyourpartner, and yourwork AdveDtists to the SDA Church. as Womyn's Coordinator. Judy Sullivan for sharing your longings and hopes for acceptance from the church. Bud Hinkle for writing your poignant story about living with AIDS in the Adventist church. Jackie Summerton for a bunch of gay movie reviews, and serving as vice president_ Hal Jobe for your volunteer work as the Kinship office coordinator. T. Taylor for you words of wisdom, and for sharing the love of a cenain Eastern town. Heidi Johnson for yourfrequent contributions and suppon $tJlle Connection. your wry David Yeldes for your wise and inspirational poetry. comments are priceless. Obed Vazquez for leafing through tons of files to wite an introduction about KinNet. Bruce Keelan for miting, and for showing me that chocolate has so much potential. Dr, Norman Wendth for inspiring us at Kampmeedng last year, and then inspiring us Ron Lawson for contributing two ofthe most significantarticles Ihaveread: .,The cring again by writing about Christ's mystic blessings in the Connection. church?\" and \"Trouble in an ex-gay minisry.\" your tireless efforts as church liaison don't pass by unnoticed, either. Mike Wheelerfortaking the time to share yourheartfelt storyitthe Connectian, for your Bob Lee for dependable articles about HIV and AIDS-not to mention your work with cheery phone calls, md for entghtening nr on the joys of childbirth. the HMAIDS ministry. David Lemon for leading Region 8 in monthly meetings. John Wieland for Connectionlabels, ard for helping set up thejournal in St. Louis. Erik Mann forcoordinating Region 3, and taking time to talkto the surge ofnew members Reggie Williams fortaking overpublicrelations in the middle of the yeu, md forgening in your region. Kinship advenisements placed in Adventist college newspapers. MikeMclaughlinforthe newsand gossip, andforyourleadershipin Kinship,s finmces. C. David Wingate for inspiring us with your poetry. Henry and Sarah Mcwilliams for abandoning your stereotyps, attending last year's Dr, Jeremy Young for teliing us what's in our genes. Connection 11
-_Roy Adams answers pear in the next Connection. tionship between themselves and thek member's letter Maker, not between themselves and V their choice of church. June 14, 1994 Astorley's article hits home V Dear Brother Stringer: I am in receipt of your letter dated I thought Pastor Ron Astorley's Articles could melt'phobes April 8. Pardon my delay in respond- article in the Connectionwas excellent. Dear Editor, Compliments are due you on the ing. He analyzes the situation with the church I regret you did not see eye to eye general excellence of the Connection well. I particularly liked this comment: with in regard to the editorial \"The Final since you became editor of the publica- \"The heart of the Seventh-day Adven- Days-Abominations.\" I tried to fol- tion. The selection of subject matter tist message is not fundamentalist. low the argument you built against the with a general theme for each issue has Unfortunately, its culture and traditions brought a coherent totality and an inter- case I made, but wasn't quite sure I est-holding quality to each issue. The are.\" This is why I can still love the followed everything. It was difficult, level of literary excellence has been for example, to understand how you \"message\"-it's really a beautiful mes- amazing. I know that you did not write could explain away what happened down sage. It's the package that's flawed! the articles, but your selection and edit- ing has to havebeen amajor contributing there in Sodom that night. If questions Like the Jews of Jesus' time, the church of hospitality were involved, clearly in factor in this high level of organiza- was in addition to the main event. has placed its human culture and tradi- tional journalism. Strange as it may seem, my edito- tion above God's message of love and It is the May-June double issue that rial was not on homosexuality, as such. It was, rather, part of series dealing with reconciliation. As God's children, we inspired and prompted my outpouring the kind of things the Bible indicates of compliments. This issue represents would characterize the last days. Ho- are to be \"ambassadors, reconciling the mosexuality just happened to be one of S.D.A. Kinship's mission, to rescue world to God and to each other\" (my those things, together with violence, those many troubled souls persecuted ilrogance, and normalcy. If you feel paraphrase of Paul). by the Adventist Church's representa- like yanking the passages I used from the Scriptures, that's up to you. But, in Astorley presents some pretty radi- tion of homosexuality as the all fairness and integrity, the passages cal (I like radical) views of severing all unforgivable sin, and to help those souls were there, and I had to use them. It was not, however, in an effort to hurt any- ties with the church. I don't know that find a fulfilling and satisfying life. This issue presents that objective in a super- one. The truth is there, and must be I completely agree, though there cer- Iative manner. spoken. I don't think we should deal tainly is alot of truth in it. I mean, why lightly with a behavior that has, as I There were two articles that I indicated in the editorial, exposed an stay where you are not wanted? My entire civilization to deadly peril. thought were the most notable examples. only answer is that the church isn't Sorry you did not take the issue as going to change from the outside, and I \"Quit Kicking Against the Pricks\" by seriously as I do. But thanks, anyway, Pastor Ron Astorley is both scholarly for taking the time to write. I genuinely love the message too much to allow the and intense in feeling and tone. appreciate it. church to destroy it. It probably does \"An Open Letter...\" by \"Joanne Most cordially, Sulliere\" expressed the longings of Roy Adams take abit of martyrdom to stay in, which Adventist or other religious homosexual Associate Editor isn't everyone's cup of tea, but some- people probably as well as it is possible to express them. Her article is a summa- Editor's note: This letter, theresponse one has to do it. tion of the fears, seekings, confusion, to the letter which appeared in the \"Let- and complex of longings that we Kin- ters\" section of last month's Connec- I can't say that I want to do it ship hotline and telephone counselors have heard expressed numerous times tion, is reprinted verbatim. All punc- forever, though. Astorley's advice for tuation is the responsibility of its au- through the wires by the fearful and those who stay in to seek others sources thor. Marcus Stringer has written back stressed-out callers. She described her' s to Roy Adams, and that reply will ap- of spiritual nourishment sounds like and their apprehensions, longings, and good advice-I've been considering quests vividly. Her article is a master- doing so. My longtime companion and piece. I get some support at our church, but The totality ofthe articles creates a who knows about the future. I feel mood that could melt the most stony- hearted homophobe. Even Lou Sheldon limited in making friendships, particu- larly with people our age (30s) who are all heterosexually-married with chil- dren. Sometimes I get discouraged and want to just chuck the church out the door. w. B. Editor's note: I agree. No Christian will experience true spiritual satisfac- tion until they develop a mutual rela- 12 Connection
might$e softened by it if he could be can do about it. True, the reality of v induced to read it. Even he probably eternal death goes against everything What do WWC people think about homosexuality? could not resist its poignancy. we've been brought up to believe- Again, my compliments. we're supposed to be the remanent Dear Editor, Bruce Boyd California people. But once you accept the reality, Three cheers to Walla Walla you'Il have more time to enjoy the few V years oflife that you have on this earth. College' s Ca lle gianfor theirfrank, open The alternative-alifetime of guilt and forums on homosexuality and the Ad- A note from the author of agony-is not worth the pain, when you last month's \"An open letter won't live beyond the grave anyway. ventist church ! Thank you for printing to the members of the I don't want to sound harsh or un- the articles. Adventist church\" kind, but wake up and smell the Bible! I was wondering, what response This article was written during the s. D. early days of mycomingout, withinand Missouri did the Walla Walla College student without. That was a mere five months V body, faculty andotherarea SDAs make, ago, but during that short time I have if any, towardthe articles? I'msurethat First Kampmeeting some people didn't sit around on their begun to use my real name in connec- kiesters. tion with any writings I do on the subject. remembered New York I am fortunate that I have received Dear Editor, I got the latest SDA Kinship Con- Andrew Strong replies: You're right. incredible support in my coming out Pro- and anti-gay Adventists came out nection (the double issue). of their church-induced comas to write process from family, afew close friends, letters to the Collegian La Sierra Uni- an SDA pastor, and a wonderful group I remember my first Kampmeet- versity residents also had a battle in of co-workers. The initial purpose of their school newspaper over gay issues this article was to attempt to open the ing. I was working in South Carolina, during this last school year. eyes of people within the SDA Church enjoying the great outdoors. But that to the reality and humanity of SDA gays year I was going to do something dar- We hope to print a summary of the and lesbians. Unfortunately, nojournal ing. Having made arrangements for it in WWC reactions, as well as anoverview has chosen to print it... yet. But there's my work contract, I was going to slip of what is happening at LSU, in the next always hope. away from camp counselor world for a issue of the Connection. week and fly to Portland, Oregon for Pressing forward in Christ, Kampmeeting'89. The hitch was that v Judy Sullivan no one outside of Kinship was to know Definition of liberalism and Canada my real whereabouts. The camp knew conservatism is questioned V only that I had committed to a pre- Dear Editor: Homosexuals have one planned event. As a starving student In Pastor Ron Astorley's article (things haven't drastically changed), option: hell someone had donated money to a schol- \"Liberalism vs. Conservatism: Should arship fund forpoorkids and adults like you be liberal or conservative?\" [VoI. Dear Editor, me who didn't have the luxury of flying 18, No. 4l he seems to define conserva- all over the place and staying in fancy tism as principles, values, morals, church In response to the letter \"What retreat centers. doctrine (Truth) and cold rules. And he comforting words do you have fora gay So I'm off to Portland, playing Hook up to KinNet! pastor?\" on page 28 of the May/June volleyball on the lawn, swimming in the Participate in the electronic 1994 Connection, I know what that pool, and enjoying the awesome coun- chapter of Kinship. KinNet brings Kinship members in daily contact pastor is going through. I have felt, like try. I was also meeting friends and him, \"convincedthat [my gay] lifestyle with each other through the is a sin.\" having crushes. But most of all, I was Internet and other e-mail services. becoming rooted and grounded in being To join, contact Floyd Poenitz via The author asked for suggestions fully who I feltl was: a gay Seventh-day on what to say to the pastor. The only Adventist Christian. It was great, and I [email protected] began dear friendships that have lasted suggestion I have is accept your des- over time. tiny. I' m going to hell, and you're going Consider itl to hell. And there isn't a damn thing we Marcus Springer Washington Connection t3
seems to defineliberalism as an attitude that has rejected me. The Connection als-SDA or otherwise-while in high toward others---compassion, tolerant, has also documented the true nature of merciful, nonjudgmental, open, accept- Kinship-not only through the news school and college. ing and loving. Whathe calls extremism seems really not a matter of degree but and features, but through the arguments When I learned of Kinship, I imme- the possession of one without the other. diately sent in my application. Maybe and debates over writers like Our Lady he re I can find true friendsfr rp, I thought I believe that conservatism and lib- of Oshawa. The author of the advice to myself. I have met many nice people eralism are both value systems which through regional meetings, Kampmeet- are basically opposed. Conservatism is column had the guts to stick out the ings, and the Connection,but I still feel the valuation of the preservation of the controversy. I am glad that in the end status quo. It values tradition (which alone. requires hierarchy) and demands con- the author came out a winner. formity. Liberalism is the valuation of You see, I love boys. The church being discriminatingly open to change. The verbal discrimination in the which cannot tolerate gays, and mem- It values individual (human) rights, dig- Connection reminded me of my pre- bers who do not pay tithe, can't be nity and democracy. carious position among non-gay expected to reach out to \"my kind.\" The Adventists in the church. It hurts so secular world shuns \"those types,\" and I'd like to hear others' opinions on much to know that at any moment I Kinship seems to be filled with many this. I'd like to ask Pastor Astorley, or anyone else, what is \"worldly confor- could be rejected from the religion that straighterJaced conservatives who con- I love so much. demn crossdressers, campy individuals mity\"? Is a \"conservative lifestyle\" and smokers-apparently everyone who I am not a loner within the church. otherworldly conformity? doesn't fit their stereotypical molds. Nontraditionally, I play an active role in church leader- Heidi Johnson ship. As with many of my fellow No doubt the members would not ac- Maryland Kinshippers, I am orhavebeen an elder, cept me, either. V a deacon, a Sabbath School teacher, a I have tried to maintain relation- You are not alone leader of personal ministries, a Path- ships with women and men. I lived with Dear Editor, a partner for many years. None of the Thank you for the informative and finder counselor, and a public relations chair. One Christmas, my church gave relationships were satisfying. I felt interesting Connections. They have helped me better understand a church me a huge card, signed by every mem- alone. Then I was befriended by ayoung- C onn e ction welcomes mail from ber-from the oldest, a 96-year-old its readers. Unless permission is woman, to a four-year-old boy-and ster who looked up to me, believed in specifically given to do otherwise, me, and loved me. For the first time in they filled the card with many compli- my life I did not feel alone. It was then full names of letter-writers will ments. \"Thank you for your friendship,\" read one message. \"You're the great- I knew I was a boy-lover. But, it was not be printed. Letters will be iden- est!\" read another. \"I'm glad that your tified by initials and state. also then that I knew I would always be teaching our (nine and 1 2-year-old sons) Opinions expressed in the letter alone. column do not necessarily reflect in Sabbath School,\" read a third. I S.D.A. Kinship positions. attend their parties and celebrations. I Last Friday evening I watched the pray with them and wash their feet sun slowly sink in the west. Beautiful Letters may be edited for length colors streaked the sky, and I thought or clarity. during communion. Yet among these friends, I feel alone. about how peaceful and serene nature Say what's on yourmind! Write seemed. Crickets began chirping to Connection, P.O. Box 68, Leba- My secular iife is not empty. I hold each other, and on a distant road, pass- non, Illinois 62254 USA. You may a leading position in a major corpora- also e-mail your messageto Con- ing cars hummed soft tones. A nection through CompuServe at tion. I earn enough money to never 7 27 22, 1 44 1 or through Internet at deep-pitted loneliness began throbbing 7 27 22.1 441 @ compuserve. com. worry aboutbeingin wantof any physi- in my throat. It spread throughout my 14 Connection cal needs. I participate in several body until it reached my soul. With tears flowing down my face and unbear- international organizations-one of which I am president. Associates con- able pain pressing against my heart, I tinually invite me to dinner parties and turned to God and cried with anguish, weekend outings. I entertain clients and \"Will You hold me? Will You love me?\" And I felt no reply. guests on a weekly basis. Yet I feel Editor'snote: Yourletterreallytouches alone. me. Unfortunately I do not know your narne or address, so I cannot write you I felt an attraction to the same sex a personal reply. several years before my tenth birthday. The only Kinship policy I know is love, and an important part of love is My parents punished me many times acceptance. Feel free to write me any- after being caught engaged in sexual time. activities with playmates. I ignored the pain and continued to seek play-parr ners. I experienced much of the typical teen-age angst felt by o'ther homosexu-
Off-84/0d,frrn ffiru. r/u//r/d. rufmnrurfu fu lrbyrufuru * nry\" Darling Possums, academy; we don't take attendance. comes off the top! This is true for cats You go to the ones that you want, and both north and south of the equator. Here we are at the last Connection leave the rest. You'll find that you will before Kampmeeting. This year has get out of Kampmeeting what you put Besides, whenit comes offthe back,you gone racing by, working on deadlines can bend afingernail bach,sards while and answering your letters and ques- into it. Don't worry about being ner- tions. This year, though controversy, trying to get at the end of it. The we learned about the Kinship sensibil- vous. Justcome. I can assure you it will ity, and hopefully we all learned a little be one of the best weeks in your life! problem at our house is more mystical about acceptance of those who at first than argumentative. Why is the empD' glance may seem different. Dear l^ady, roll stood up on the sink like a troph) Each year that I've attended Ka- instead of being tossed in the wastebas- This year, I have been blessed by ket? mpmeeting, I have taken it upon myself shared laughter, and deeply touched by to put the \"kamp\" into Kampmeeting. Kat & Kitten Britches shared tears as the long distance bills This year, as I have observed the con- P. S. We love your advice. troversy over Our Lady of Oshawa and rang up. It's been a real honor to write camp humor in the Connection, I have Darling Britches, this column each month foryour enjoy- beenwondeing if there is going to be a Thank you for the darling picture ment. With the amount of mail that is placefor campy outgoing types such as coming in,I can see that this column has myself? To me, there seems to be a and the compliment. I've made a note been enjoyed. I am looking forward to backlash against such behavior. ShouW of the effect cats have on toilet paper, seeing you all at Kamp. I tone it down for Kamp? and I'm mailing it off to the Center for Scientific Research. See ya there, Outnumbered in Ohio Dear Lady, Our Lady of Oshawa Darling Outnumbered, I' m glad that it was decided to ke ep Should you tone it down? Nol We Dear l^ady, your column in the Connection I re- need people to put the \"kamp\" in Ka- This year will be the first time I mpmeeting. Without it, we would be ceived my first issue afew months ago attend a Kinship Kampmeeting. I have too much like those other campmeetings. and immediately saw the humor in it. I to confess that I am feeling nervous At Kampmeetings past, I have sat and missed your picture in the last few is- because I don't know what to expect. I laughed with clergy and Kinship mem- SUCS. am afraid that I will end up alone in a bers alike through carnpy moments. Sometimes, in an effortto bepolitically Iaughing in lnma Linda corner, as most of you longtime Kinship correct, we lose sight of the fact that members already know each other and Dear Laughing, will be sp ending time with your friends. people-gay, straight, clergy, who- ever-are people. We all enjoy a good My, myl I don't know what to say. I also don't know if I can handle all Thank you for the compliments. Iaugh. those meetings. As formypicture, General Confer- Come to Kamp and be yourself. ence President Robert Folkenberg saw Troubled in Toronto Put the kamp in Kampmeeting. There it in the January issue and immediately are many of us depending on your hu- Dear Troubled, asked for a copy. Having only one mor to remind us that there are things to First off, possum, being nervous laugh about in this all+o-serious world photograph, I forced the Connection in which we are forced to live. about your first Kampmeeting is some- editor to turn over the picture to thing that many Kinship members can Dear l,ady, relate to. Yes, Kampmeeting is aplace Folkenberg. I have since been informed for many of us to reunite ourselves with In your scientific research [Vol. that my picture has been blown up into friends who we may only get to see once 18, No. 41, you failed to consider cats a 40 x 50 foot poster, framed, and hung a year. But we are a friendly bunch! on the wall behind Folkenberg's desk. The only way thar you'll end up sitting and kittens! Any cat knows it can have more fun with toilet paper if the paper P. S. Itis not difficult ro guess who alone in a corner is if you want to. must be my number one fan. As for the meetings, possum, I've Our Lady of Oshawawelcomes your letters. Write found them to be great. This is not to Our Lady at: Our Lady of Oshawa, c/o Connection, P.O. Box68, Lcbanon, IL 62254. Connection 15
Being involved with I'm glad many of you have commented, it helps us keep married partners community (without me hogging up the net-waves-which I frompage l0 don't want to do. Ijust love discussing and sharing). For the record, because of my view of covenant relation- 5. There are no rules to follow for being gay. The straight guidelines just don't apply directly, although underlying ships, I'll say that I can't agree with extra-marital or covenant principles probably do, if you can pin down what they are. relationships. I imagine a special and spiritual value in So each person must decide in his/trer own heart what is right. And I still stand by the notion that love is what being marriage/covenants. Some people view marriage or cov- gay is all about. Since God is equated with love, well, what can I say? enants differently or less importantly. It must be very difficult to be heterosexually married and Walt Elias finally accept a part of yourself that you were taught to hate P. S. My apologies to the women in this group. My or reject. I'll never know how tough it is to tell a husband or tendency is not to write gender neutral, as I cannot speak for the other half. I have a hard enough time writing for my own wife that you are gay or lesbian, knowing the difference that half right now. it might make with your spouse, children, relatives, church and associates. That person risks having their whole life lalmost married for lack of role models turned upside-down, or ravaged by fearful and ignorant, or To: KinNet members confident and cunningly wise people. I'm not ready to From: Obed Yazquez, Rhode Island blanketly say that they should either give this \"security\" up, I still remember theexcruciating experience of having to decide to trymarriage out with the one andonly womanlhave or that they should cling to it at all costs. We only see the really loved and risking losing all of it later (I already knew I was gay), or opting for not marrying, walking out on that part outside; God sees the heart. of life and just trying to be normal me as a homosexual. It was frightening, and it took a period of isolation for me to become As sisters and brothers who believe in some sort of convinced that it was okay. It might have a lot to do with the fact that I, too, did not have any role models who would help spiritual faith, we can encourage each other to act in faith, love making a decision any easier. I only knew of one gay couple in the Berrien Springs area who had their own home, but they and truthfulness as (for Christians) Jesus wants us-first to did not seem like role models to me (details given only under extreme extortion). God and second to humans. Interpreting and applying this to our lives is problematic when authorities outside of tradition I did not marry, and I thank God for that. At the same time, it was not easy for her or me. I never did tell her why I could and ourselves are major role-players. More and more, I believe that God is working on me just not marry her, although I wanted to and I proposed after a series of events (lots of details here, but not for public as much (in situations where I don't agree with what someone revelation). else is doing), whetherornotthatperson's actions are actually I am not sure to this day if she ever found out. We went outside of God's plan for them. our separate ways, and I have not seen her since. I cannot Remembering that some people don't believe in God, imagine how difficult it must be to have to make the decision some key questions might be: 1. How truthful are we with after marriage. God as gay Christians? (Obviously, truth or falsehood is for In Kinship cheer! Obed our benefit and understanding since God knows everything.) 2. Do we have a living relationship with God? 3. Who or what Are gay people being honest with God? is \"god\" in our lives? To: KinNet members Again, these are issues that I struggle with daily, and I am From: Marcus Stringer, Washington not coming from an \"I've arrived'point of view. Concerning married, gay men: Concerning role models: I've read some good responses to this very tough issue. We need role models. I realized this more when I visited 16 Connection one black SDA church in town. The \"house\" was terribly weighted on the side of women and older women. I'm not saying that being female or older is bad, just that there were two (2!) guys there my age and several young adult women. There were many children, however. Some kind of intellec- tual, relational and spiritual void in teens and early adults isn't being filled. How can SDA Kinship be dedicated to change this? Should we be dedicated to change? It this something that needs changing? Are discussion $oups and information lists a good start? Now that KinNet has closer contact than many Kinship chapters, how can we share what we have with non- KinNetted SDA gays? Marcus Scott Congo worked vigorously to compile these selected messages fromKinNet. (<g> means grin. :-> means smile. VBG meansvery big grin.)
Adams, Roy - \"Roy Adams answers member's letter,\" ktters, Vol. 18, No. 6, July 1994, p.12. Albertsen, DMaavyi/dJu-ne \"Walla Walla College newspaper tackles homosexuality in a three-part series: The Caring Student: An Introduction,\" Feature,Yol. 18, No.5, 1994, p. 18, 19. Albertsen, David - \"Walla Walla College newspaper tackles homosexuality in a tlree-part series: Us vs. Them,\" Fedture, Vol. 18, No. 5, May/June 1994, p.20. Allen, Woody - \"Quotes,\" lztters, YoL.18, No. 3, March 1994, p. 12. Anonymous - \"A child is hwt,\" Sidebar, Vol. 17, No. 9, Nov. 1993, p. 12. ACnaornin5grmCohuusrc-h \"Children of God or sinners for hell: A collection of letters written by heterosexual Seventh-day Adventists about their gay counterparts,\" II, Vol. 18, No.2, Feb. 1994, p. 10, 11. Anonymous - \"On the road again,\" Colin Cook2, Yol. 18, No. 4, April 1994, p. 15. Arnold, James T. - \"'Hunt' to set the mood,\" Music review, YoL. 17, No. 9, Nov. 1993, p. 13, gx. Arnold, JamesT.-\"'Hymns'areforyou,\" Musicreview, Vol. 17, No.8, Oct. 1993,p.14+, gx. Arnold,JamesT.-\"TheTwelveDiscsof Christmas,\" Musicreview, Vol. 17, No. 10, Dec. 1993, p. 15, gx. Astorley,Ronald-\"Beinggayis...\" CaringChurchfeature, Yol.18, No. 1, Jan. 1994, p. 11. Astorley,Ronald-\"Thebottomline: Thouarenotwelcomel\" CaringChurchfeature, Vol. 18, No. 1, Jan. 1994, pp. 10-12, gx. Astorley, Ronald - \"Liberalism vs. Conservatism,\" Inspiratiotwl, Vol. 18, No. 4, April 1994, p.4+. Astorley,Ronald-\"QuitKickingAgainstthePricks!,\" Feature, Vol. 18, No.5, May/June 1994, pp.7-10. Babcoclr,Sherri-\"...therebirthoflife: AKinshipleadersharesthestoryofherabuseandthehealingprocesswhichfollowed,\" Sexualabusefeature, Vol. 17, No.9, Nov. 1993, p. 8,9. B18o,bsNt-oM.c5K, aMya, y/RJuannedy1-994\",Wpa.l1la9,W20a.lla College newspaper tackles homosexuality in a three-part series: Memories of the Great Depression,\" Feature,Yol Boyd, Bruce - \"Article would melt 'phobes,\" Leaers,Yol.18, No. 6, July 1994, p. 12. Boyd, Bruce - \"In memoriam: William Douglas 'Bill' Pearson,\" News and gossip, Vol. 18, No.6, July 1994, p.5. Congo, Scott * \"KinNet discusses gay role models and marriage,\" Feature, Vol. 18, No. 6, July 1994, p. 8+. VCooml.1e7r ,StNonoe.1C0o,nDneecct.i1o9ns93-, \"SDA kids should love everyone: Teen lesson study addresses dealing with AlDS-infected Adventists,\" News and gossip, p.6,7. Eagan, Margery - Quotes, Vol. 18, No. 5, May/June 1994, p.27. Elias, Walt - \"Acclaimed Adventist chaplain discusses Kinship and homosexuality in new book,\" Book review, Vol. 18, No. 3, March 1994, p.4+. Example author title section II I Morgan, Douglas -da\"pt3egl'5 gospel of inclusive community,\" Kampmeetingfeature, p?ge graphic photo$aph issue Vol. 17, No.8, Oct. 1993, pp.7-9, Bx, px.
Fox, Jerry - \"Jerry and Lee: A match made in heaven,\" ln our midst, Vol. 18, No. 2, Feb. 1994, p. 18, 19. Freeman, Donald J. - \"Pastor seeks deliverance,\" lztters, Yol.18, No. 4, April 1994, p. 17. Gide, Andre - \"Quotes,\" Iztters, Yol. 18, No. 2, Feb. 1994, p. 20. Gonzalez, Michael - \"Love your famity,\" I*tters, \\lol. 18, No. 4, April 1994, p. 18. Greggson, Russ - \"Who cares rrow?\" My story, Vol. 18, No. 1, Jan. 1994, p. 14. Gurian, Katie - \"Contest contest contest,\" News aad gossip, Vol. 18, No. 3, March 1994, p. 3. Gurian,Katie-\"DearMomandDad: ReflectionsfromKamp'93,\" Katie'sKomments, Vol. 17, No.8, Oct. 1993, p.12, Cx. Gurian,Katie-\"Finalthoughtsonname-calling,\" Katie'sKomments, Vol. 18, No.3, March1994, p. 11. Gurian, Katie - \"Karie Gurian, Member-at-Large: Community Building,\" Feature, Vol. 17, No. 7, Aug./Sept. 1993, p. 14,15. Gurian, Katie - \"One in two/one in seven,\" Sexual abuse feature, YoL17, No. 9, Nov. 1993, p. 12. Hallock, Larry - \"Kinship supports UFMCC quest for membership in National Council of Churches,\" News and gossip, Vol. 18, No. 2, Feb. 1994, p.3. Harvard, Juliana - \"Call for women computer buffs,\" Lefters, Vol. 18, No. 5, May/June 1994, p.28. Hatcher, Vanessa - \"Vanessa Hatcher, Womyn's Coordinator,\" Feature, Vol. 17, No. 7, Aug./Sept. 1993, p. 10, px. Hatcher,Yanessa-\"VanessaSpeaks,\" Regularfeature, Vol. 17, No.8, Oct. 1993, p. 14, px. HinkleBud-\"ChurchhonorsAIDSvolunteer,\" Newsandgossip, Vol. 17, No. 10, Dec. 1993, p.3, px. Hinkle,Bud-\"TherestofBud'sstory,\" Mystory, Vol. 17, No. 10, Dec. 1993, p. 16, gx. Jobe, Ilarold - \"Kinship opens new address,\" News and gossip, Vol. 18, No. 4, April 1994, p.3, px. Johannsen, Ian-\"Thedeathofher...: Oneman'saccountofhisrecoveryafterbeingsexuallyabused,\" Sexualabusefeature,Yol. 17, No.9, Nov. 1993, p.6,7. Johnson, Heidi - \"Call for boy scouts,\" lztters, Yol.18, No. l, Jan. 1994, p. 13. Johnson,Ileidi-\"Definitionofliberalismandconservatismquestioned,\"krrers,Vol.lS, No.6,July1994,p.13. Johnson, Heidi - \"Librarians support gays,\" Letters, Yol.18, No. 2, Feb. 1994, p. 20. Lawson,Ronald-\"Thecaringchurch?Part1,\" Caringchurchfeature, Vol.18, No.1, Jan.1994, pp.5-9. Lawson, Ronald - \"The caring church? Part2,\" Caring Church II, Vol. 18, No. 2, Feb. 1994, pp. 6-9. Lawson, Ronald - \"Fundamentals ofHeterosexuality,\" Vol. 18, No. 4, April 1994, p. 16, gx. Lawson,Ronald-\"PictorialLookattheFkstKampmeeting,\" Kinshipfeature, Vol. 17, No. 10, Dec. 1993, pp. 10-14, px. Lawson, Ronald - \"Ron Lawson, Church Liaison,\" Feature, Vol. 17, No. 7, Aug./Sept. 1993, p. 11, px. Lawson, 3R, oMnaarldch- \"Trouble in an ex-gay ministry part 1: Study of the Quest Learning Center and Homosexuals Anonymous,\" Colin Cook Part I , Yol. 18, No. 1994, pp.5-7. Lawson,Ronald-\"Troubleinanex-gayministrypart2: StudyofColinCook'sministryattheQuestLearningCenter,\" ColinCook2, Vol. 18, No.4, April 1994, pp.6-14. px. Lee, Bob - \"After the test: Deaiing with reality,\" In our midst, Vol. 17, No. 9, Nov. 1993, p. 5+. Lee, Bob - \"Being tested: Does it matter?\" In our midst, Vol. 17, No. 8, Oct. 1993, p. 5+. Lee, Bob - \"Bob Lee, HIV/AIDS Ministry,\" Feature, Vol. 17, No. 7, Aug.iSept. 1993, p. 12, 13, px. Lee, Bob - \"Members meet for second annual HIV/AIDS retreat,\" News and gossip, Vol. 18, No. 5, May/June 1994, p. 3, px. Lee, Bob - \"Testing negative is not the end ofthe story,\" In our midst, Vol. 17, No. 10, Dec. 1993, p. 7+, cha(.
Little Richard - \"Points of view,\" Vot. 18, No. 2, Feb. 1994, p. 15. MNocW.8,illiOamct.s'19H9e3n,rpy.1-0,\"1In1s,ppirxa.tion at Kampmeeting: A visiting straight couple relate their Kampmeeting experience,\" Katnpmeeting feature, Vol. 17, VMoclW. 1il7li,aNmog.8S,aOracht.E1l9iz9:3b,epth.1-0,1\"1In,sppxir.uion at Kampmeeting: A visiting straight couple relate their Kampmeeting experience,\" Kampmeeting featwe, Morgan, Douglas - \"Paul's gospel of inclusive community,\" Kampmeetingfeature, Vol. 17, No. 8, Oct. 1993, pp. 7-9, gx, px. Mueller, Peter F, - \"Canadian members prepare for new yew,\" News and gossip, vol. 18, No. 6, July 1994, p.4. Mueller, Peter F. - \"Kinship Canada Update,\" News and gossrp, Vol. 18, No. 3, March 1994, p. 4. t Mueller, Peter F. - \"Lady speaks back, Mac,\" btters, Yol.17, No. 10, Dec. 1993, p. 17, px. I Mueller, Peter F. - \"Members party in Canada,\" News and gossip, Vol. 18, No. 2, Feb. 1994, p. 5, px. Mueller, Peter F. - \"Our Lady Of Oshawa: Advice, answers, and comments to the questions in all of us,\" Advice, Yol.18, No. 3, March 1994, p. 15. Mueller,PeterF.-\"OurLadyof Oshawa: Advice,answers,andcommentstothequestionsiaallof us,\" Advice, Yol.l8, No.4, April 1994, p. 19. Mueller,PeterF.-\"OurLadyof Oshawa: Advice,answers,andcommentstothequestionsinallof us,\" Advice, Yol.18, No.5, May/June 1994, p.31. MuellerrPeterF.-\"OurLadyof Oshawa: Advice,answers,andcommentstothequestionsinallof us,\"Advice,VoI. 18, No.6, July 1994, p. 15. Mueller, Peter F. - \"Our Lady of Oshawa: Advice, comments, and answers to the questions in all of us,\" Advice, Yol. 17, No. 8, Oct. 1993, p. 15, px. Mueller, Peter F. - \"Our Lady of Oshawa: Advice, comments, and answers to the questions in all of us,\" Advice, Yo1.1?, No. 9, Nov. 1993, p. 14+, px. Mueller,PeterF.-\"OurLadyof Oshawa: Advice,comments,andanswerstothequestionsinallofus,\" Advice, Yol.17, No. 10, Dec. 1993, p. 18+, px. Mueller,PeterF.-\"OurLadyof Oshawa: Advice,comments,andanswerstothequestionsinallof us,\" Advice, Yol.18, No. 1, lan. 1994, p. 15, px. Mueller,PeterF.-\"OurLadyof Oshawa: Advice,comments,andanswerstothequestionsinallofus,\" Advice, Yol.l8, No.2, Feb. 1994, p.23. Mueller,PeterF.-\"QuestRevisited,\" ColinCookPart 1, Vol. 18, No.3, March 1994, pp.8-11,gx, px Mueller, Peter F. - \"Region 10 is alive!\" News and gossip, Vol. 17, No. 10, Dec. 1993, p. 5. Norcross, Jon - \"Update from Adventist support group,\" News and gossip, Vol. 18, No. 1, Jan. 1994, p.3. Norcross,Mabel-\"UpdatefromAdventistsupportgroup,\" Newsandgossip, Vol.18, No.1, Jan.1994, p.3. Olson, Darin - \"Darin Olson, President,\" Feature, Vol. 17, No. 7, Aug./Sept. 1993, p. 6, px. PDiecck.e1ll,99B3e,npJ.r8.,-9, \"Kinship's Konception: Andrew Strong speaks with the founder of SDA Kinship, Ben Pickell,\" Kampmeeting feature, Yol.17, No. 10, px. Phillips, Tim - \"Why I don't believe Romans I is talking about homosexuality,\" Feature, Vol. 18, No. 5, May/June 1994, p. 12,13. Poenitz, Floyd - \"How did you first hear about Kinship?: He thought Kinship consisted of dirty old men,\" Feature, Vol. 18, No. 5, May/June 1994, p. 11 'r1, Poenitz,Floyd-\"ReminderforallyouTexanfans,\" Nepsandgossip, Vol. 18, No.3, March1994,p.3,4. Reuben, Steven Carr- Quote,Yol. l8, No. 5, May/June 1994, p.28. Schell, Agnes - \"Cook made me nothing,\" I*tters, Yol.18, No. 4, April 1994, p. 17, 18. FSecbo.t1t 9C9r4a,igppA..1-2-1\"6A. re gay Adventist youth expendable?: Steven's story shows a record of indifference and abuse,\" Caring Church II, Vol. 18, No. 2, Scot! Craig A. - \"Mother fights back,\" News and gossip, Vol. 18, No. 2, Feb. 1994, p.4. Scot! Craig A, - \"Thou Art Welcome Herel\" Feature, Vol. 18, No. 5, May/June 1994, p.l1+. Shelton, J. Vicki - \"Beloved former Connection editor sends greetings,\" ktters, Yol.l8, No. 3, March 1994, p. 12.
Sherrod, Darnell - \"Darnell Sherrod, Secretary,\" My story, Vol. 17, No. 8, Oct. 1993, p. 13, px. Sp.h1o0r,!1M1,ardleranwein-g. \"Hope for precious victims: Advice for victims of sexual abuse and their friends,\" Sexual abuse feature, Yol.17, No. 9, Nov. 1993' Springer, Marcus - \"First Kampmeeting remembered,\" Lctters, Vol. 18, No. 6, July 1994, p. 13. Springer, Marcus - \"Pretexting is an abomination,\" lztters, Vol. 18, No.5, May/June 1994, p.27. Stanford, Lee p-.1.\"Kampmeeting '94 -If you'll be there, $eat! If you're not planning to be, what's getting in your way?,\" News and gossip, Vol' 18, No. 6, Juty1994, Strong,Andrew-\"AndrewStrong,Editor,\" Feature, Vol. 17, No.7, Aug'/Sept. 1993, p.8,9' px. Strong, Andrew - \"Kinship board wordsearch,\" Koolq Korner, \\o1.17, No. 7, Aug./Sept. 1993' p.16, gx. Strong, Andrew - \"Lesbians are unfit parents: lmplications of the Sharcn Bottoms custody case,\" Special news editorial, Vol. 17, No. 7, Aug./Sept. 1993, p.5. Strong, Andrew - \"An overview of Colin Cook's pamplet 'Homosexuality and the Peopie of God,\"' Final thought, Vol. 18, No. 5, May/June 1994, p. 32. Strong, Andrew - \"Search for logo continues,\" News and gossip, Vol. 17, No. 10, Dec. 1993' p. 5' gx. 18, No.6' Sulliere,Joanne-\"AnopenlettertothemembersoftheAdventistchurch,\" Feature,Vol. 18,No.5,May/June7994,pp.21+. Sullivan,Judy-\"Anotefromtheauthoroflastmonth's'AnopenlettertothemembersoftiemembersoftheAdventistchurch,\"'l*tters,Yol. July 1994, p. 13. SummertonrJackie-\"Familyvaluesingaymovies,\" Moviereview, Vol, 18, No l'lut. 1994, p. 16' px. summerton,Jackie-\"Jackie Summerton, vicePresident,\" Feature, Vol. 17, No.7, Aug./Sept. 1993, p.7, px. Summerton, Jackie - \"Jackie ties the knot,\" News and gossip, Vol. 17' No. 9, Nov. 1993, p. 3, px. Summerton, Jackie - \"Jackie's guide to gay-themed movies available through Blockbuster Video,\" Movie review, Vol 18, No. 2, Feb. 1994' p.24, gx. Summerton, Jackie - \"Oranges and Wilde,\" Movie review, Vol. 17, No. 10, Dec. 1993, p.19' 20' px. Summerton, Jackie - \"Trilogy is personal best,\" Movie review, Yol.17, No. 9, Nov. 1993, p. 16, px. Taylor, T, - \"How did you flrst hear about Kinship?: Member joins Kinship after ten year hiatus,\" Fed.ture, Vol. 18, No. 5, May/June 1994, p.22,23' Texas Lesbian- \"Stay with helpful,\" Lctters, Yol. 18, No. 4, April 1994, p. 18. Thompson,Mark-\"Pointsof view,\" Vol. 18, No.2, Feb. 1994' p'15. Unknown - \"Autobiography in Five Short Chapters,\" Sidebar, Vol. 17, No. 7, Aug./Sept. 1993, p. 15. Unknown-\"Kids'Rights,\" Sidebar, Vol. 17, No.9, Nov. 1993' p.6, px. Valdes, David - \"Halfway,\" My story, Vol. 18, No. 2, Feb. 1994' p. 17, gx. Valdes, David - \"Test,\" In our midst, Vol. 18, No. 5, May/June 1994' p.26. Vazquez, Obed - \"How did you fust hear about Kinship?: 197'l The Advocate ad leads member to Kinship,\" Feature, Vol. 18, No. 5, May/June 1994, p.22,23. Vazquez, Obed - \"KinNet,\" News and gossip, Vol. 18, No.4, April 1994, p.5+, gx, px. Wendth, Norman - \"Mystic blessings,\" Kampmeeting feature, Yol. 17, No. 8' Oct. 1993' p. 6. Wheeler, Mike - \"This Special Friendship: A member's story about coming to terms with his sexuality,\" My story, Vol. 18, No' 5, May/June 1994, p' 24,25. Wingate, C. David - \"I will be prepared,\" Sidebar, Vol. 18, No. 2' Feb.1994, p.13. Young, Jeremy, M.D. -'Hi There! What's That in Your Genes'!\" Feature, Vol. 18, No. 5, May/June 1994, pp. 14-17.
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