2018 Program Book

When Grandparents Lose A Grandchild: Realities of Out of Sequence LossPresented by Bradley and Bonita Vinson Landmark 3When a child dies, the grandparents experience grief in a profound, indescribable way, so different from any otherrelationship to the child. Some describe the depth of pain and recovery as much more intense than other losses theyhave experienced. Compounding grief and the relationship with the child’s parents, grandparents are tasked withprocessing their own grief while simultaneously assisting their own child with losing a child. This session will engageparticipants by highlighting differences in grief for grandparents, exploring and expanding the grief stages model, andmaking suggestions for the grandparent grief journey as well as the journey of their children and others around themwhen a child has died. Presenters will share their own grief journey truths and engage participants in a lively discussionof tips and truths about grandparent grief that will aid in their recovery. This session will be helpful for anyone elsedesiring to understand the complexities of the grief journey of bereaved grandparents.Sponsored in loving memory of Dale Dullabaun, III by Dale's Mom, Debbie Dullabaun, TCF Board of DirectorsWriting: A Workshop to Reveal and Heal for the Long-Term GrieverPresented by Joanne Buehler Majestic FThe issues affecting the newly bereaved are often very different from those of the long-term griever. As our griefchanges, so too, does our narrative. We are not the same people we were prior to the deaths of our children, nor arewe those people in the throes of raw and intense early grief. Our life plans were altered in the most significant ofways. How do the landscapes of our lives now look? Are you struggling with questions that are impeding your griefwork? Perhaps you are looking to create a piece of writing as a legacy to your child or loved ones. In this workshop, wewill explore writing as a method and a tool to assist in achieving those objectives. This workshop will be interactive inthat it will include writing prompts, discussion, and tips on getting started. Sponsored in loving memory of Kevin Buehler by Joanne and Erica Buehler SESSION 5 SIBLINGS Saturday 10:45 am - 12:00 pmFinding Hope After the Death of a Sibling: Building a Legacy of Love ParkviewHow's Your Mother? BentonIssues and Tissues AubertWhen You Lose a Sibling: Loss, Grief & Forever After Portland#2018TCFConf Saturday 10:45 am - 12:00 pm • Session 5 Workshops |51

Finding Hope After the Death of a Sibling: Building a Legacy of Love Teens/AdultsPresented by Allie Sims Franklin ParkviewAfter Allie's brother died, it felt that hope was a word for the past or for other people, not for her. She has come to learnthat hope comes from allowing yourself to grieve and to receive support from those who understand your loss. Build-ing a legacy can mean different things to different people and at different stages of your grief. This workshop for parents,grandparents and siblings will explore the main issues that siblings face in finding ways to build a legacy of love for oursiblings. We will explore the different ways to find hope and healing in our grief journey. This is an interactive workshopwith some information about how to get started and lots of time to share what has worked for you. Sponsored in loving memory of Paula Rosina Santoro by the Santoro FamilyHow's Your Mother? Teens/AdultsPresented by Jordon Ferber BentonThis question is one that every bereaved sibling has heard. “Oh my God, your sibling died? Your parents must be devas-tated!” The general population doesn’t seem to grasp that we as siblings are also dealing with a level of pain and despairthat we have never known before. By assuming that our parents are the only ones who are deeply affected by the loss,the question “how’s your mother” often can feel dismissive to our own feelings. It is very often the fact that others don’trecognize our grief as legitimate that further isolates us from our extended family and friends at a time when havinga support system amongst loved ones is the most needed. This workshop will attempt to find ways to respond to thesetypes of questions that validate what we are going through as siblings, as well as inform the asker that we are hurting justas much as our parents. They say when you lose your parents, you lose your past. When you lose your spouse, you loseyour present. When you lose your child, you lose your future. When you lose a sibling, you lose all three. Sponsored in honor of surviving siblings everywhere by Trish StoskusIssues and Tissues Teens/AdultsPresented by Katelyn Stoskus and Dylan Stoskus AubertAdolescence is, always has been, and always will be a struggling time. When you add losing your sibling to your forma-tive years, it can create an inner chaos that not many understand. Throughout the workshop, there will be open discus-sions based on topics that most teenagers and young adults will find relatable such as education, forming and maintain-ing relationships, how to move forward without moving on, and the touchy subject of mental health. While sharing isencouraged, it is not necessary. The main goal of the workshop is for individuals to leave with a better grasp of their ownjourney and what may lie ahead. Sponsored in loving memory of Roy and Taylor Davies by Barbara and Roy DaviesWhen You Lose a Sibling: Loss, Grief & Forever After All AgesPresented by Christina G. Hibbert, PsyD Portland\"When you lose a sibling, you lose the past and the future.\" It's true; sibling loss is unique in the sense of having lostthe one you grew up with and thought would always be there. Yet siblings often feel forgotten in the midst of others'grief. What can we expect to feel after a sibling dies, and for how long? How can we grieve and heal? How can survivingsiblings better understand what’s been lost? And what can parents and family do to help with the lifelong grief process?Dr. Christina Hibbert, clinical psychologist and two-time sibling loss survivor explains the nature of sibling loss, howsiblings can grieve, what to expect in the future, and how parents and family can help, forever after. Sponsored in loving memory of David Fisher by Wendy Bates Fisher5 2 | Session 5 Workshops • Saturday 10:45 am - 12:00 pm

SESSION 6 WORKSHOPS Saturday 1:30 - 2:45 pmChildless in Your Later Years, A Panel Landmark 7For Men Only: Women Explaining Women to Men Majestic CHealing Guilt and Regret Landmark 1/2How Shame and Secrecy Complicate a Substance Use Death Landmark 3How to Start a Chapter Majestic A PershingIdentifying as LGBTQ+ and the Emotional Similarities that Grief and Majestic D/ELoss Bring Majestic F Majestic BMoving Forward with Love, Humor and Power GrievingNavigating Life After a Death: 10 Things I've Learned from GrievingParentsPathways to Less Pain and Even Happiness: The WDEP ApproachStepparents and Grief - It's Complicated LindellTen Things You Can Do to Change Your Life! Landmark 5/6Who Am I as a Griever? The Many Faces of Grief Majestic G/HChildless in Your Later Years, A PanelPresented by Rick and Cindy Yotti Landmark 7This workshop/panel may not be helpful for newly bereaved parents. For those parents who have worked their waythrough the many issues of grief, and are ready to look to the future, we will try to address some of the issues our futureshold. Spending our lives without our children has and will always continue to be difficult. The fear of aging and becomingdependent on others and losing our independence becomes complicated without our children. We will miss the comfort,care and attention of family. For many of us there will not be any grandchildren or extended family. How will we handlethe emotional situation? How will we handle the logistics and administrative issues? What are our fears, our plans andour hopes for the future? Like TCF parents have done for almost 50 years, lets share and support each other. Sponsored in loving memory of Christopher and Matthew Yotti by Rick and Cindy Yotti#2018TCFConf Saturday 1:30 - 2:45 pm • Session 6 Workshops |53

For Men Only: Women Explaining Women to MenPresented by Bobbi Milne and Trish Stoskus Majestic CThis workshop is designed to help men understand and cope with their partner while dealing with their grief. Thepresenters will discuss, and answer questions men have about how their wives/partners are grieving, why they actdifferently and how to help them. These women will address such topics as time spent with family, personal and intimaterelations, work, attitude, surviving sibling issues, problems with friends and family. There are certain questions that onlya woman can answer, and the presenters want the men to feel free to ask.Sponsored in loving memory of Dale Dullabaun, III by Dale's Mom, Debbie Dullabaun, TCF Board of DirectorsHealing Guilt and RegretPresented by Alan Pedersen Landmark 1/2Participants will gain an understanding of guilt and regret the bereaved may face in relation to both the life and the deathof their loved one. They will be given many examples of how the bereaved may try to cope with guilt and regret. Alan willshare his personal story of guilt and regret and give examples of some of the common regrets of others. The participantswill be given effective tools to offer the bereaved to help them work through guilt and regret including owning their guilt,accepting their guilt, sharing their guilt and releasing their guilt. With this workshop, they will have an understanding ofsome of the common denominators at work in the lives of the bereaved who successfully move away from their guilt. The5 H’s (hurt, hope, help, honor, and healing) will be shared in detail and practical examples given of each. Sponsored in loving memory of Erika Byrd by Ron and June ByrdHow Shame and Secrecy Complicate a Substance Use DeathPresented by Diana Lynn and Nancy Juracka Landmark 3This workshop will explore the role that shame and stigma played in our children’s addiction and untimely deaths. Wewill discuss the effect this had on our children and their need to live in secrecy causing them to face the burdens of thisdisease alone. Their shame and secrecy often became ours as we found ourselves paralyzed in efforts to obtain helpfor adequate treatment and recovery. Together we will share how helpless we were in our ability to help them throughthe kind of pain that demands to be heard. After, time reserved for open discussion, this workshop will conclude withhandouts and resource materials. Sponsored in loving memory of Josh and Logan by the Lunas and Hansen FamiliesHow to Start a ChapterPresented by Terry Novy Majestic AThis workshop will present the ABC's and 123's of starting a new Chapter. Whether you've been involved in TCF or not,this workshop can help you get going on launching a new Chapter. Bring all your questions, fears, and curiosities thatneed to be addressed. This workshop is for persons thinking about starting a Chapter now and also for those who may beconsidering starting a Chapter in the future. Sponsored in loving memory of their children by TCF of Contra Costa County5 4 | Session 6 Workshops • Saturday 1:30 - 2:45 pm

Identifying as LGBTQ+ and the Emotional Similarities that Grief and Loss BringPresented by Stephen Stott PershingThis workshop is open to any bereaved siblings (and parents and grandparents in Stephen’s other workshop) whoidentifies within the LGBTQ+ community to create a space of inclusivity and a place to feel like you belong, becauseyou do! Drawing on his own experiences of identifying within the LGBTQ+ community, Stephen would like to start adiscussion about the emotional similarities between sexual orientation and/or gender identity, and grief and loss. As aneight-year-old boy, he knew he was different. As an adult now, he can look back at being a child and having what couldbe considered an identity crisis. His world growing up was a world of isolation and confusion. What was this feeling?Why did he not see others like him? Since he did not see others like him, there must be something wrong with him.What did he do to deserve this? These same questions can also be asked by any bereaved individual. Who is he withoutStacy? He felt so alone, like no one will understand him. What did he do to deserve this? Stephen’s sister was the firstperson he came out to when he was 16. Three days later, she died in a car accident which Stephen was also in. Sponsored in loving memory of Stacy Stott by Susan Stott and Taylor MartelMoving Forward with Love, Humor and Power GrievingPresented by Bart Sumner Majestic D/EBart Sumner, author, screenwriter, actor, teacher, director, father, husband and most importantly, David’s dad, willdiscuss how his family survived the loss of David, 10-years-old, and how they clung to each other and made itforward. He’ll discuss a strong mindset, what Bart calls “Power Grieving,” so that you can get your life back on your ownterms, while still honoring the love, loss, and pain that grief delivers. We all must make a choice to battle grief, it’s whywe all come to the conference. Bart will share some of his arsenal to battle grief, why we all need purposeful tears, andwill encourage all to share what works for them, so we all can learn. Grief constantly changes, so our plan to keep it fromdevouring our lives must be ever ready to change as well. Good for all grievers who want to hear and share ways to find anew normal.Sponsored in loving memory of Phillip Dean, Brian Collins and the Fort Worth Chapter's children and siblings by Firemen 5KNavigating Life After a Death: 10 Things I've Learned from Grieving ParentsPresented by Donna Schuurman Majestic FIn over 25 years as the Executive Director of The Dougy Center, the first peer support bereavement program for grievingchildren and families in the U.S., Dr. Schuurman has presented nationally and internationally on the needs and concernsof grieving parents, children, adolescents, and young adults. This workshop ties together research-based evidence withreal world experience to weave a tapestry of navigational tips for ways that support us in grieving healthfully, especiallyin a society that wants us to \"move on\" or \"get over it.\" We all know the basics about exercise and sleep, moderatingalcohol intake, and other behaviors; we'll go beyond these basics to look at the lesser known protective factors for gettingthrough one of the most painful events a parent could ever experience. Sponsored in loving memory of Arielle Lynn Newman by Alice-Lynn and Richard Newman#2018TCFConf Saturday 1:30 - 2:45 pm • Session 6 Workshops |55

Pathways to Less Pain and Even Happiness: The WDEP ApproachPresented by Dr. Robert Wubbolding, EdD and Lindsay Bibler, MD Majestic BThis presentation focuses on specific steps aimed at personally addressing loss. It includes practical and usable ideas fordealing with feelings such as the pain of grief, anger, loneliness, guilt, shame, fear, hopelessness, confusion, isolation,aimlessness and others. This session will also present usable ideas for dealing with self-talk and questions such as,“Why”,” If only”, “I should have”, etc. The presenters will identify possible responses to well-meaning friends who in anattempt to provide support, often state, “I know how you feel,” or “Your child is in a better place”, and other statementsthat may seem offensive, hurtful, or poorly timed. The presenters will suggest ways to find temporary, perhaps evenmomentary relief, or lessening of regret, downheartedness, and the pain of loss. They will stress that the pain canbecome less and that it need not be an insurmountable barrier to healthy choices and a satisfying life. The WDEP systemused in counseling, parenting, and family relationships provides a practical method for improving our lives. Not a cure-all, but a proven system for helping its users achieve a better emotional and mental life. Sponsored in loving memory of Nick by Becky and Tom OgrenStepparents and Grief - It's ComplicatedPresented by Barbara and Roy Davies LindellThis interactive workshop is focused on the unique situations and feelings that step-parents face following the death ofa child. Do we have a right to be grieving? Do we have to take a back seat to the biological parent? People ask how myspouse is doing but seem to assume I am OK. How should I respond to that? How can I help my spouse when my lifehas been turned upside down? Does it make a difference if I am a step-mom vs. a step-dad? The discussion will cover asmany different situations as time allows. Group participation is encouraged. Both step-parents and biological parents arewelcome to join us.Sponsored in loving memory of Roy and Taylor Davies by Barbara and Roy DaviesTen Things You Can Do to Change Your Life!Presented by Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley Landmark 5/6Are you further down the road in your grief journey? If so, you may be ready to change the way you feel. This interactiveworkshop is for those who are ready to transform their losses and find hope, healing, and joy again. You will learn 10tools and techniques for reducing bereavement stress and will develop skills for healing after loss. Specific tips willbe shared that have been used in Gloria, and her daughter Heidi’s own lives, and with their Open to Hope radio andtelevision guests. Participants have reported that they have left this workshop feeling more hopeful and energized, andlearned techniques that could be used at home. Sponsored in loving memory of Kelsey Marie Roberts by Steve RobertsWho Am I as a Griever? The Many Faces of GriefPresented by Mitch Carmody Majestic G/HThis workshop will help you discover who you are as a griever and assist you with finding tools that work uniquely foryou. Each loss, each journey, each person processes their loss differently; different circumstances, different demographics,different strengths, different weakness. This session includes use of the Twenty Faces of Grief© series of hand-drawnpencil portraits used interactively with participants to help identify their grief emotions. Grievers will also be introducedto “Grief in the 100 Acre Wood” where attendees can identify their grieving style with one of the characters of Milne’sclassic Winnie the Pooh. Many circumstances can complicate, delay and exacerbate the journey. Discovering what yourgrieving style is and identifying personal challenges aids in building a restorative resilience for the journey and for lifeitself. Sponsored in loving memory of Victor Zenoff by Nisha Zenoff5 6 | Session 6 Workshops • Saturday 1:30 - 2:45 pm

SESSION 6 SIBLINGS Saturday 1:30 - 2:45 pmSibling Panel for Siblings Benton AubertUnderstanding Why People Cope Differently and Learning How to ParkviewLive TogetherVoices of TCF Sibs Practice SessionSibling Panel for Siblings All AgesPresented by Keith Singer BentonA panel of siblings that come from different and unique situations of loss and grief come together to talk among theirpeers about their parents, their friends as well as many other challenges they may be facing. We will discuss questionssuch as: What do I do now that my sibling has died? How am I supposed to help my parents when my grief is so strong?Death is so real now, who's next? What can I do to handle these feelings of anger, loneliness and guilt? How do I dealwith parents now that they have become smothering and over protective? What about me? I am still alive.... Is it wrong tobe upset that it feels like the world now revolves around my Brother/Sister? Everyone always asks about my parents, doesanyone wonder/care how I am doing? Sponsored in loving memory of Scott Preston Horsley by Heidi Horsley, TCF Board of DirectorsUnderstanding Why People Cope Differently and Learning How to Live Together Teens/AdultsPresented by Allie Sims Franklin AubertEvery person grieves in a unique way. This can become very complicated in families where the grieving styles of eachmember seem to clash. Come spend some time exploring the ways in which children, adolescents and adults grievedifferently. We will discuss how the factors of personality, temperament and character traits affect grieving styles. This isa fun workshop for all ages to come and learn about ways to honor your own coping style, while learning to cherish thedifferent styles within a family. When families, couples, people, learn to support one another in the way that best suitstheir unique perspective, healing can begin. Sponsored in loving memory of their beautiful sister Andrea by Stephanie and Elizabeth Thomsen#2018TCFConf Saturday 1:30 - 2:45 pm • Session 6 Workshops |57

SESSION 7 WORKSHOPS Saturday 3:15 - 4:30 pmBreaking the Silence of Suicide: Family Survivors, Grief, and How to Majestic D/EHeal Majestic CFor Women Only: Men Explaining Men to Women, A Panel Majestic B Landmark 1/2The Healing Power of Creating a Memorial Fund Landmark 3 Majestic G/HIntimacy and Grief Landmark 7Long-Term Survival When You Can't See Past Today: A Mother- Majestic ADaughter Perspective LindellLiving Their Legacy - Reminding the World, They Lived Pershing Landmark 5/6Loss Due to Homicide, A PanelMen Grieve Too, Just DifferentMilitary Loss: Supporting and Loving Us in Our Differences andSimilaritiesNuestros Hijos e Hijas por Siempre en Nuestros CorazonesSigns from HeavenBreaking the Silence of Suicide: Family Survivors, Grief, and How to HealPresented by Christina G. Hibbert Majestic D/EDeath is difficult enough for family members, but death by suicide can make grief and healing all the more complicated.The truth is we cannot heal, or help others heal, until we start talking about suicide. How can we understand death bysuicide, when it's so un-understandable? What can we do to help ourselves and our family members heal after suicide?Dr. Christina Hibbert, clinical psychologist, bestselling author, two-time sibling loss, and three-time suicide loss survivor,explains the unique nature of grief after suicide, and the facts and research on how to move forward amid the questionsof \"why,\" how to grieve this kind of loss, and most importantly, how families can, and will, eventually heal.Sponsored in loving memory of Trevor Tervo by Rebecca Tervo Coaching5 8 | Session 7 Workshops • Saturday 3:15 - 4:30 pm

For Women Only: Men Explaining Men to Women, A PanelPresented by Glen Lord Majestic CWe all hear that men and women grieve \"differently,\" but is that true? Is the grief experience really so different for aDad than it is for a Mom? This interactive question and answer format is designed to help women understand the griefexperiences of male partners and if \"gender grief \" truly exists. The goal is honest conversation about the grieving malemindset, how male partners grieve, why they might be acting differently; to discuss openly how men communicate(or not), and how to better support their wife, as well as fielding honest questions on how women can best supporttheir husband. No sincerely questioned topic is taboo. Each participant will be encouraged to anonymously write theirconcerns and placed in a “fishbowl” for open candid discussion. Direct questions from “the floor” will also be welcomed. Sponsored in loving memory of Vaughn Landry and Ronald Blankenship by Cindy LandryThe Healing Power of Creating a Memorial FundPresented by Tim Meadows Majestic BWhen a child dies some of us have a lot of pent-up energy that needs to be channeled. This workshop is designed to openyour eyes to the positive power of creating a memorial fund for a child who has passed on. Not only can such a fund keepyour child's memory alive in the community, it can be emotionally satisfying and rewarding (sometimes in unexpectedways) to the family that administers the fund. Memorial fund administrators will share their personal experiences on how ithas made a difference in their lives. The workshop will also detail the necessary ingredients of a successful memorial fund.Sponsored in loving memory of their children, grandchildren and siblings by the Pomona - San Gabriel Valley TCF ChapterIntimacy and GriefPresented by Bob Baugher, PhD Landmark 1/2A person you love very much died—your child, grandchild or sibling. And, some of the intimacy may have gone out ofyour life. In this workshop we will discuss six ways to increase intimacy with your partner: (1) Understand individualdifferences in grieving, (2) Increase your awareness of important issues in couple communication, (3) Examineexpectations of your partner, (4) Learn Chapman’s Five Love Languages, (5) Discuss difficult grief issues, and (6) Reviewfactors in sexual intimacy. Sponsored in loving memory of Tony Rambis by the Mark and Debbie Rambis FamilyLong-Term Survival When You Can't See Past Today: A Mother-Daughter PerspectivePresented by Dawn Morville Johnson and Judi Morville Landmark 3This mother-daughter team will discuss how they initially coped with the sudden death of their son-brother. They willoffer the perspective of how they each viewed their own grief versus the grief of the other, and how they have survivedover the years as their grief has matured and changed through life experiences. This will be an interactive workshop withaudience participation exploring topics such as: • Life has no meaning or purpose, not caring if you live or die. • Peoplewanting to cheer you up or try to help you when you just want to be left alone. • Dwelling on the death. • Relationshipswith surviving children. • Thinking more about the child who died than the one who is living. • Siblings feeling left outor unimportant. • Siblings feeling more responsibility/taking over parent role. • Parent’s grief vs. sibling’s grief. • How dosiblings handle grief. • Keeping your child/ sibling’s memory alive. • Will you always feel this way. • What makes it better/can anything make it better. This workshop will touch on subjects such as grief in the beginning and further down theroad, creativity in keeping memories alive, finding hope and healing, and new meaning in life, handling holidays andsignificant days, and others. This workshop is designed for bereaved parents and bereaved adult siblings. Sponsored in loving memory of Sara Schwarzauer by Lynn and Jerry Schwarzauer#2018TCFConf Saturday 3:15 - 4:30 pm • Session 7 Workshops |59

Living Their Legacy - Reminding the World, They LivedPresented by Pamela Bradley Smith Majestic G/HIn the natural order of life, parents precede their children and designate inheritance, leave personal belongings, or haveconversations about carrying on their wishes. Parents, Grandparents and even Siblings are offered perspective as to\"what do I do now\" what it means to live amidst this unnatural order. Discussion will focus on ways to continue to giverelevance, love and longevity to being their child, children’s or sibling's legacy. This will be an interactive workshop withopportunity to create and come away with a \"hands on\" personalized, Legacy Testimony. Surviving parents of only andall children are encouraged to attend.Sponsored in loving memory of Adam Davis Galleher by Debbie and Mike GalleherLoss Due to Homicide, A PanelPresented by JSue Williams Landmark 7When a loved one dies from homicide, grief can be complicated by societal stigma and ignorance. Participation in legalproceedings often further complicates grief for survivors. This panel of homicide survivors will discuss issues that areunique to loss to homicide such as the police investigation, attention from the media, and the judicial process. Usingan interactive format, the panelists will respond to questions from the moderator about their personal experiences. Theaudience will also be given the opportunity to ask question of the panelists. Sponsored in loving memory of Bernard Williams by the Williams Family of Pontiac, MichiganMen Grieve Too, Just DifferentPresented by Bradley Vinson Majestic AIt has been proven that after loss men experience more changes in mood than women and suffer more physical healthissues. However, when men don’t display “typical” grief symptoms; sadness, crying, and a depressed mood, it is easyto label them as not grieving properly or ‘enough’. With the hope of building an understanding while contrasting theuniqueness of male grief to that of women, this presentation is designed to help both men and the women that care forthem deal with their grief in a healthy way and without the stigmas created by gender definitions of what grief shouldbe. This session will be helpful for both men and women. Sponsored in loving memory of Michael G. Horeth by Mike and Karen HorethMilitary Loss: Supporting and Loving Us in Our Differences and SimilaritiesPresented by Zaneta Gileno and Stephen Stott Majestic AHave you wondered what might be different for grievers of military loss or how you can better support them? Thisworkshop will lean on the shared experiences of thousands of military loss survivors and give you framework andpractical ways you can support those who sacrificed a loved one for our freedoms and help us all better walk the journeytogether.Sponsored in loving memory of Tony Rambis by the Mark and Debbie Rambis Family6 0 | Session 7 Workshops • Saturday 3:15 - 4:30 pm

Nuestros Hijos e Hijas por Siempre en Nuestros CorazonesPresented by Nivia Vázquez KingsburyEste es un taller diseñado para incluir el proceso del duelo y la pena luego de la muerte de un hijo o una hija, el aspectocultural, diversidad con la comunidad Latina, cómo estos padres y madres en duelo se sienten cuando no tienen a susfamiliares a su lado en el momento de la pérdida, la importancia de los hijos e hijas sobrevivientes y su proceso de duelo,la pareja y la importancia de la comunicación y comprensión de la individualidad en sus procesos de duelo. El ambienteestará lleno de canciones, poesías y de imágenes.This is a workshop in Spanish designed to include the grief and bereavement process after the loss of a child, culturalaspects, diversity with the Latino community, how these bereaved parents feel when they are not surrounded by theirfamilies at the moment of their loss, the importance of the surviving siblings and their bereavement process, couples´grief, the importance of communication and understanding of their individual grieving process. The atmosphere will befilled with songs, poems and imagery.A la memoria de nuestros hijos, hijas, hermanos, hermanas y nietos auspiciado por Los Amigos Compasivos de Puerto Rico Sponsored in loving memory of their children, grandchildren and siblings gone too soon by Los Amigos Compisivos, San Juan, Puerto RicoSigns from HeavenPresented by Christine Duminiak Landmark 5/6After the heart-breaking loss of a loved one, one of the most comforting experiences can be to receive a sign fromthem. Because signs are often subtle, it is not unusual to overlook signs you may be receiving. To help you recognizemore signs, attendees will learn: 1) 20 Signs from Heaven; 2) Tips for Receiving A Sign; 3) Grief Healing Techniques; 4)Participate in a Sharing Session; 5) a Q&A, and 6) a Healing Guided Meditation. This workshop will be helpful to all whoare grieving.Sponsored in loving memory of Shelby Wayne and John Langley by Sandie and Johnny Sharp and Charlene Langley SESSION 7 SIBLINGS Saturday 3:15 - 4:30 pmHealing Through Connections BentonPerspectives on the Sibling Relationship in Life and Death AubertRemembering Our Sibling Through Crafts PortlandVoices of TCF Sibs Practice Session Parkview#2018TCFConf Saturday 3:15 - 4:30 pm • Session 7 Workshops |61

Healing Through Connections Teens/AdultsPresented by Sarah Hartranft and Cortney Parker BentonIt's really important to know that you're not fighting this battle alone. Connecting with others who have lost a sibling andsharing experiences can lead to making friendships for life. In this workshop we will discuss how helpful it can be to findothers who were/are in similar life situations before and after the loss of their siblings and also finding others who havelost their siblings in similar ways. There's no manual on how to get through loss, but by sharing our stories with others,we can learn from each other and get helpful advice that might make our battles a little easier. Sponsored in loving memory of Ryan Hartranft by Jeff and Dodie PhillipsPerspectives on the Sibling Relationship in Life and Death All AgesPresented by Mary Jane Gandour, PhD & Molly Gandour, MFA Candidate AubertSixteen years after the death of her only sibling, Molly proposed intensive therapeutic work for her family on the loss ofher sister. Aimee died of Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia at age 14 after living with cancer for over eight years. Molly wasten when her sister died. Long silent about her sibling grief, she developed an urgent need to revisit this loss in her mid-20’s. She said that sibling loss was unacknowledged and little researched; that bereaved siblings also lost their family andparents as they had known them; and that siblings lived the longest with the loss of a child in the family. Her family setaside six weeks for intensive family therapy, nightly dinner discussions, interviews with each other, a visit to the medicalcenter where Aimee had been treated, and time to look at scrapbooks and art work. Molly, a filmmaker, asked if camerascould be present for this work, and her parents consented. Several years afterward, she created a documentary film, andher mother wrote a memoir about her family’s experience. This presentation explores aspects of the sibling relationshiprelated to the grief process (e.g., sibling roles played for each other, the changes in sibling relationships across develop-ment). Participants will have more vocabulary and perspective for considering sibling grief issues. This presentation isfor parents, grandparents, adolescent and adult bereaved siblings, and professionals. Audience input and observations areencouraged.Sponsored in loving memory of Tony Rambis by his siblings, Andy Rambis and Billie RichardsonRemembering Our Sibling Through Crafts Teens/AdultsPresented by Cindy Tart PortlandIf you are between the ages of 9 and 13, and you are a bereaved sibling plan on attending this workshop. There will bedifferent ways you can remember your sibling that died. You will be able to take all of the crafts with you. They will all bejust the right size to take home on the airplane too! Sponsored in loving memory of Roy and Taylor Davies by Barbara and Roy Davies6 2 | Session 7 Workshops • Saturday 3:15 - 4:30 pm

WORKSHOP PRESENTERSLuci Luci is little sister to Doug and Tony Gratton, who died in 1990 and 2009 respectively. Luci has been an active TCF member for many years having presented several different workshops forAbrahamson siblings at the national conferences. She has appeared on the \"Where's the Grief \" podcast, been a speaker at her local chapter meeting, and is one of the administrators for TCF SIBS FacebookMarcia F. group. Luci is a registered nurse from Colorado who loves to give hugs and show all people love in memory of her brothers who were both caring, generous souls. • Mourning the Sibling youAlig, MA Didn't Know or Don't Remember • A New Normal: “Adulting” After the Loss of a SiblingBarbara Marcia's son, Daniel, died in an accident. She helped found the TCF Mercer Area (NJ) Chapter, chaired the 3rd Eastern Regional Conference, served as the TCF Special Projects Coordinator,Allen Development Coordinator of TCF national and as coordinator of Chapter Leadership Training Programs, and has presented numerous workshops at regional and national conferences.#2018TCFConf Marcia was the 2006 recipient of the TCF Recognition Award. She served two terms on the National Board of Directors. During her tenure, she held the offices of Secretary, Vice President and was the first woman President. Her articles and poetry have appeared in many newsletters throughout the country. • Death of the Difficult or Troubled Child Barbara’s son, brother and niece died from substance related causes. She and husband, Tom, found TCF when her son, Jim, died in 2003. Finding hope from her grief within TCF, Barbara began researching the disease of addiction from new perspectives. Today she is an advocate for change at the state and national levels, collaborating with parents and agencies across the U.S. Barbara and Tom’s non-profit, James’ Place Inc. provides education, advocacy and scholarships for recovery services for those suffering this disease. A former Regional Coordinator and member of TCF’s Board of Directors, she currently serves as a Chapter leader. Barbara distributes the popular wristbands No Shame or Blame ~ Just Love®. • Beyond Losing a Loved One to a Substance Related Cause Workshop Presenters|63

Dennis is a recently retired pastor, having served at the College Church in Olathe, KS since 1987. Dennis and his wife Buelah are bereaved parents, suddenly losing their 18-year-old son, Denny, in 1991 to complications due to Mono. Since the death of their son, Dennis and his wife have led support groups and counseled hundreds of bereaved couples. Their son, Andrew, lives in Alaska with his wife, Amber. Dennis is author of two books, Life After the Death of My Son… What I’m learning and a novel, Runaway Griever. Their story was featured on National Public Radio Story Corporation (NPR.ORG). • Struggling to Reclaim My Faith • Dealing with Grief BulliesDennisAppleJohn John, and his wife Joann, were caregivers for their youngest son Johnny for over 28 years. Johnny was born with multiple unique malformations and endured over 40 surgeries. DuringAshley the last two years of his life, Johnny was on kidney dialysis three times a week. Since their son’s death, John and Joann have authored the book entitled, In Spite Of, The Johnny Ashley Story. The book is a frank description of the trials and the triumphs that they, along with their other two sons, experienced through the years of caring for Johnny. John and Joann now travel and share their son’s story, and the life’s lessons that they have learned through the privilege of being Johnny’s parents. John, a former pastor, speaks candidly about the challenges to his faith, and the grace and strength that the family received through the most difficult of times. John also gives a voice to the disabled, caregivers, and those in grief, as he speaks. • When Caregiving Comes to an End, Facing Our New IdentityMaggie Maggie’s beloved brother Chris died from suicide in August of 2012. Chris was Maggie’s older brother and only sibling. After the shock, numbness then intense pain decreased. MaggieBauer moved back home to Minnesota where she found more resources including the Grief Recovery Institute® and became a Grief Recovery Specialist ®. Her local chapter of The Compassionate Friends has been an extremely valuable resource for her. Maggie attended the Minneapolis Chapter of The Compassionate Friends for four years and is now on the steering committee and the sibling loss facilitator. In the almost six years since her brother’s death Maggie has spoken to hundreds of people about the loss of a sibling and general grief. Her goal is to help people get a grip on their own grief, so they can live a full life again. • Getting a Grip on Grief Dr. Bob Baugher is a Psychology Instructor at Highline College in Des Moines, Washington where he teaches courses in Psychology and Death Education. As a trainer for LivingWorks he has trained more than 1,500 people in suicide intervention. Dr. Baugher has written several books and articles on grief and loss. He has been invited to give workshops at TCF national conferences for the past 20 years and has been the professional adviser to parents and siblings of the South King County (Seattle) Chapter of The Compassionate Friends for 30 years. • How Do I Know I’m Getting Better? • Intimacy and Grief • It Doesn't Hurt as Much Anymore- Now What Do I Do?BobBaugher, PhD6 4 |Workshop Presenters

Lindsay Lindsay’s son, Alex, died in 2009 of influenza related cardiomyopathy at the age of 21. (Her daughter Tracey died in 1987, two days after birth.) After Alex’s death, she found her local TCFBibler, MD chapter. She thinks it saved her life. Five years later she became Co-leader of the Cincinnati East Chapter. A retired physician, she finds that caregiving is in her nature. She wants to help othersJoanne as she has been helped by TCF. • Pathways to Less Pain and Even Happiness: The WDEP Approach (presenting with Robert Wubbolding, Ed.D)Buehler Joanne's son, Kevin, died from kidney disease after a two-year battle that he had fought fromMitch birth. In the years following Kevin's death, Joanne returned to school and earned her Bachelor's Degree in English. During that time, she developed an interest in writing which she continuesCarmody to foster by participating in writing courses and workshops. She has been a bereaved parent for 19 years, and it is her hope to help others to use writing as one method to work through someSusan Toler of their grief. • Writing: A Workshop to Reveal and Heal for the Long-Term GrieverCarr Mitch Carmody (Kelly’s dad) GSP, CCP is a long time TCF presenter and author of “Letters to My Son, Turning Loss to Legacy.” He is the prognosticator of Proactive Grieving® seminars that#2018TCFConf features the S.T.A.I.R.S.™ model of grief processing. Mitch is the host of his own radio show “Grief Chat” and created the YouTube channel MrHeartlight which supports grievers around the world. He uses an organic wholistic approach in processing grief with a focus on balancing the mind, body, soul, and spirit to reduce anxiety and build resilience when challenged with trauma and loss. • Who Am I As A Griever? The Many Faces of Grief Susan and her husband, Darrell, lost their only child Justin at sixteen. He died suddenly from an undiagnosed heart condition during swim practice in 2013. Justin loved the arts, was a Junior Olympic butterfly swimmer and wanted world peace. Susan previously managed design/ construction projects for Walt Disney Imagineering, Universal Studios and the University of Southern California (USC). She now works hard rebuilding lives and changing the conversation and responses to grief and loss. She conducts workshops in the U.S. and Canada, spearheads grief; loss and recovery support groups and provides non-therapeutic tools for how to live when facing grief and loss. Susan’s a Certified Grief Recovery Method® Specialist, an Independent College Counselor and Co-Founder of the Justin Carr Wants World Peace Foundation (http://www. justincarrwantsworldpeace.org). • Good Grief: Learn Tools to Navigate through Grief and Loss Workshop Presenters|65

Stephanie's third child Andre, died unexpectedly in his sleep at the age of two years and this had a major effect on the family; Stephanie and her husband had divorced when Andre was a few months old, and her parents tried to support her as she was overseas with the children without other help. She believes Andre's death contributed to her parents' early deaths not long afterwards, and she is a great advocate that a support system is essential to all affected by the loss of a child. Stephanie is currently pursuing graduate study of Industrial & Organizational Psychology in Florida and is a keen painter in her free time. • How to Manage Your Grief in the WorkplaceStephanie J.ChampionSusan Susan became a bereaved parent following the death in 1992 of her 18-year-old daughter Rachael in a motorcycle/deer accident. She and her husband Gary have been co-leaders of theChan Topeka KS TCF Chapter since 1993, and Susan served six years on the national TCF Board of Directors. Besides being the Topeka Chapter's Facilitator, Susan also edits the Chapter newsletter. She has been a workshop presenter at numerous past regional and national TCF conferences, presenting workshops on The Healing Power of Ritual, Death of a Teenage Child, Handling the Holidays, You're Not Crazy, You're Grieving, The Importance of Chapter Communication, and Making Your Chapter More Inclusive. She is retired after working for 31 years as an editor for a non-profit organization. She and her husband have a surviving son, Jeffrey. • Handling the Holidays and Special DaysCathy In honor of her sons, Cathy became an author, speaker, and the founder of the “Master Grief Coach” training program with a certification option. She has diverse education fromCheshire traditional and progressive professionals with varied grief expertise including the areas of thought, emotion, mindfulness and resilience. Cathy received her BS degree from Arizona State University. Her book is titled, Thriving After the Death of a Child. One reader commented, “This is such a powerful book.” Follow her at CathyCheshire.com, which includes the training module “Understanding Grief and Healing,” her blog, interviews, and other resources. She has been thriving for years, is happily married, and lives with her husband near Cleveland, Ohio. They are animal lovers and have two rescued dogs named Benji and Petey. They enjoy spending time with loved ones, traveling, boating, snow skiing, and sightseeing on their motorcycle. • Extraordinary Lessons Learned After the Loss of All Children Lisa became a bereaved sibling when her sister Shari died unexpectedly from an adverse reaction to her medication in November of 1997. Lisa started attending TCF meetings that December and is still actively involved as a sibling liaison and chapter contact for the Abington, PA chapter. She has presented sibling workshops and sharing sessions at several regional conferences in Valley Forge and has attended many of the National Conferences since 2001. • Am I Still a Sibling? • For Siblings Who Are Parents: The Fears of Losing a Child After Losing a Sibling (presenting w/Andrea Keller)LisaCohen6 6 |Workshop Presenters

Barbara & Roy After losing their 20-year-old son, Roy James, to an undiagnosed heart disorder in 2008, Roy and Barbara eventually found hope with the help of other bereaved parents. In 2012, their 15-year-oldDavies son, Taylor Martin, died suddenly from an undiagnosed blood disorder. The Compassionate Friends were standing by for support. Roy is learning to focus on the many years he had with the boys rather than the two terrible days that they died. He finds that helping is healing as he lends support to other bereaved parents. Barbara is now focusing on the unique grief situations that step parents encounter while trying to deal with their own grief. Roy and Barbara are chapter leaders of the Nashville chapter of TCF and are spreading the word about the hope that TCF can bring. Roy currently serves on the TCF Board of Directors. They recently chaired a Regional Conference in Nashville, TN. Roy and Barbara are also chairing the Butterfly Boutique for the 2018 TCF National Conference, Gateway to Hope and Healing. • Stepparents – It’s Complicated Sandy Dillon is a licensed clinical social worker in the state of Missouri and currently works at BJC Hospice as a bereavement specialist. She has worked in grief and loss for six years and currently runs their community camps and retreats alongside her colleague Andrea Tritinger. It is at these events that she utilizes numerous expressive arts to help the kids and parents cope with the loss of losing a loved one or child. She also facilitates two support groups for people who have lost a spouse or partner. • Coping with Loss: Explore Different Ways to Express and Cope with Your Grief (presenting with Andrea Tritinger)SandyDillon, MSW, LCSW Christine has lost her parents, in-laws, and a pregnancy. She was skeptical about Signs from Heaven until she personally experienced an amazing one-hour visitation from her departed in-laws in 1998. Because of her wondrous spiritual experience, she became a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, an author of five books on afterlife signs, and the Founder of Prayer Wave for After-Death Communication which is a non-denominational internet grief support and prayer group whose mission is to pray for others longing for a personal and direct sign. • Signs from HeavenChristineDuminiak Jacquie's and her husband, John’s two wonderful, brilliant and loving sons, Kareem, 15, and Kevin, 12, died while the family was vacationing in Williamsburg, Virginia in the summer of 1994. They accidentally drowned in the hotel swimming pool there. Jacquie and John have a surviving son Kristopher who was also present at the time but was unharmed. He was five years old at the time of this brother's death. Jacquie was Chapter leader of the Manhattan Chapter for three years, as well as a Regional Coordinator for the state of New York for 14 years, and is presently a member of the national board of directors in the position of Treasurer for the past year. • Multiple Loss - A PanelJacquie Workshop Presenters|67Edwards-Mitchell#2018TCFConf

Jordon Jordon is a stand-up comedian and a bereaved sibling. Two years into his burgeoning comedy career, Jordon’s brother Russell, 21, was killed in a car accident in July 2002. Since then, JordonFerber has facilitated the TCF Manhattan Siblings group. Jordon is a unique public speaker having performed at the sibling banquet during the 2010 TCF conference in Virginia, and at the TCF Regional conference in PA in October 2015. Most recently, he received the Karen Snepp Sibling Leadership Award at the 2016 conference in Arizona. Jordon is the producer of “Where’s the Grief?” a podcast in which he interviews other comedians who have experienced tragic loss. He and his family run The Russell Ferber Foundation, which provides scholarships to the Culinary Institute of America. • How's Your Mother? • Suddenly Alone • Seasoned Sibs - The Initial Shock Has Worn Off, Why Am I Still Crazy? (presenting with Cindy Tart)Joanne Joanne knows first-hand the pain of loss. In 2011 her life forever changed when her husband of 29 years died unexpectedly of a heart attack, just two days before their son’s 12th birthday.Fink Joanne began journaling as a way of getting through her loss, and continues to journal daily as part of her personal spiritual practice. In 2009, Joanne founded Zenspirations®, a company dedicated to inspiring people to use their creative talents to make a difference in the world. A best-selling author with over one million books in print, Joanne’s newest title, My Prayer Journal, helps others find connection by putting pen to paper. Joanne is devoted to changing the culture of grief support, and recently launched a website, www.whenyoulosesomeone.com, as a companion to her illustrated memoir, When You Lose Someone You Love. • Color, Creativity, Grief and GratitudeAllie Sims Allie is a bereaved sibling, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and a grief management specialist. Her younger brother and only sibling, Austin, died when she was four years old. She is the author of AmFranklin, LICSW I Still A Sister? and a contributing author in Sibling Loss Across the Lifespan, Dear Parents and The Dying and Bereaved Teenager. She co-authored A Place for Me: A Healing Journey for Grieving Kids, Footsteps Through Grief, The Other Side of Grief and Finding Your Way Through Grief with Darcie D. Sims, Ph.D. In addition to her work in the field of grief and bereavement, Allie has worked in the field of Behavioral Health for the past 23 years. She is the Executive Director of the Crisis Clinic in Seattle, WA, a non-profit organization that provides support and resources to people, families and professionals who are facing crisis. Allie currently serves as the President of the Board of Directors of The Compassionate Friends. • Finding Hope After the Death of a Sibling: Building a Legacy of Love • Understanding Why People Cope Differently and Learning How to Live Together Mary Jane has lived in a number of locations in the USA but also in Japan, Thailand, and Hong Kong. She lost her first-born daughter in 1994 and then her brother, father and mother in the years afterward. She was a secondary teacher early in her adult life and then practiced as a psychologist for 25 years in the Lafayette, Indiana, area. She often gave talks on mental health issues in the community and was interviewed by local media. In recent years, she and her family have been exploring sibling grief and articulating their findings in film, writing and the spoken word. • Perspectives on the Sibling Relationship in Life and DeathMary JaneGandour, PhD6 8 |Workshop Presenters

Zaneta Zaneta began her social work career as a professional in the child welfare system. Her efforts to reunite families and empower parents helped shape her as a practitioner. A graduate ofGileno, LMSW, CT Columbia University School of Social Work, Zaneta now serves as Director, Community Based Care for the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS). As a grief professional and Certified Thanatologist, she offers direct survivor support, ensures the TAPS community of survivors is connected to grief counseling and support groups, as well as intensive trauma treatment. In addition, she oversees internal professional development, supports TAPS professional education offerings, the TAPS Board of Advisors, and is the liaison for research done on behalf of the organization. • Military Loss: Supporting and Loving Us in Our Differences and Similarities with Stephen StottLarry & Diane Diane and Larry Gillen are bereaved parents who lost Diane’s son, Brendan, in January of 2010. Their first experience with TCF, before even attending a local chapter meeting, was theGillen 2011 Minneapolis/St. Paul, Minnesota TCF National Conference. They found it to be such a rewarding and healing experience that they have continued to attend as many conferences asDonna their schedule has allowed. Diane and Larry are also very active volunteers with the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Diane serves on the AFSP Board of Directors for GeorgiaGoodrich and is also on AFSP’s National Loss and Healing Council. Serving on the conference committee for TCF’s 41st National Conference, Diane and Larry are responsible for coordinating the 1st TCF Marketplace and hope to make it an important part of the healing opportunities that the conference offers to its participants each year. • Survivor of Suicide Loss 101 - Moving from Surviving to Thriving Donna has lost two children, Garth an identical twin at birth, and her only daughter, Lauren, when she was 17 years old. Donna found TCF six months after Lauren’s death and says they saved her life. Her goal since has been to pay that help forward by holding many positions in TCF: chapter leader, newsletter editor, chartering a Chapter in Charlotte, NC with husband, Ralph, and they are currently Co-Regional Coordinators for North and South Carolina. They have presented nine Chapter Leadership Training Programs in North and South Carolina and in Yorktown, VA. They were both members of the 2010 National Conference planning committee and are also on the 2018 National Conference Planning Committee. Donna is currently a moderator for the closed Facebook group, Loss of a Child. • The Gifts of GriefPamela Pamela, her husband Christopher of 28 years, and their two sons and granddaughter, live in Nolensville, TN. On July 5, 2013, their eldest son-19-year-old Samuel Christopher transitioned. TheHagens sudden, tragic accident of Samuel’s passing was overwhelming - life was complicated. Two months later Pamela attended her first TCF meeting in Nashville, and one year later the family attended the#2018TCFConf first of five TCF National Conferences. They have found encouragement and hope while walking alongside other bereaved families. Pamela currently serves on TCF Nashville Chapter Leadership Team. She says that when you find community; grief is not as lonely, the silence of grief is not as loud, and the paralysis of grief is not as long. She is quick to share; that strength, support and stability are just a few of the ‘jewels’ found in TCF Family. Pamela is a running enthusiast, group fitness instructor, an avid reader, writer, and ‘FOREVER’ Samuel’s Mom. • Get the Grief Moving Exercise Class • Unstructured, but Organized Running Club • Deep Breathing, Gentle Stretching Workshop Presenters|69

Sue Sue found her only son, Russ Hamby, murdered in 2013 and began her grief journey. At the time of his death, she was writing her third book, Turning Your Scars into Stars, and had justHamby, PhD started writing on the Scars of Grief. Sue began searching for answers by reading over 50 books on grief and then began to realize that although some of the books were helpful, she needed to start building bridges of hope in order to survive. She will share her strategies for turning her scars into stars and her mourning into joy. Sue is the author of three books and received her PhD from Texas A&M University. • Building Bridges of Hope Sarah's only brother Ryan died from a heroin overdose at the age of 21, in 2014. Sarah attended her first National Conference in 2015, after much persuading by her parents. Upon arrival she immediately found comfort from the other bereaved siblings. This is her 4th National Conference and second year presenting workshops. Sarah finds comfort in being able to help other bereaved siblings through their grief journeys. • Healing Through Connections • Sibling Loss to a Substance Related CauseSarah Dr. Sally O. Hastings is a bereaved parent and an Associate Professor of Communication at the University of Central Florida. Her primary research area is communication andHartranft bereavement. She had a sabbatical in the Spring of 2018 to work on gathering data on a research project focusing on communication after a stigmatized loss. The aim of the research project isSally O. to break some stereotypes about certain kinds of loss and provide the bereaved some practical communication strategies. In memory of her son Evan, she is grateful to research and presentHastings workshops. Evan died just over twenty years ago. To newly bereaved parents reading this biographical note she wants to say: It does get better. • Communication After Stigmatized LossesChristina G. Christina is the bestselling author of the award-winning memoir, This Is How We Grow, Who Am I Without You?, and 8 Keys to Mental Health Through Exercise. A clinical psychologist specializingHibbert, PsyD in grief/loss/trauma, motherhood, parenting, pregnancy/postpartum, self-worth, and personal growth, she is also host of the weekly radio show, Motherhood. She is a popular speaker, creator7 0 |Workshop Presenters of the Motherhood Essentials team with doTERRA, and is currently completing her fourth book, Mastery of Motherhood (www.MasteryOfMotherhood.com). Mostly, though, “Christi” is a wife and full-time mother of six, and was recently named Mother of The Year, AZ 2018. Years after losing her youngest sister to cancer at age eight, Christina and her husband inherited her two nephews, after her closest sister and brother-in-law both died only two months apart. Visit her blog: www.DrChristinaHibbert.com • When You Lose a Sibling: Loss, Grief & Forever After • Breaking the Silence of Suicide: Family Survivors, Grief, & How to Heal

Dr. Gloria Gloria Horsley, PhD, MS, CNS, is a bereaved parent and internationally recognized grief expert, licensed marriage and family therapist, clinical nurse specialist, and bereaved parent. She is theHorsley president and cofounder of the Open to Hope Foundation and co-hosts the award-winning “Open to Hope” cable TV and Internet podcast. She is a former faculty member for the University ofDr. Heidi Rochester School of Nursing and the Academy of Intuition Medicine. An award-winning author, Dr. Gloria has coauthored numerous books, book chapters, and articles and has been interviewed onHorsley many radio and TV shows, including “The Today Show.” She is a member of the Forbes Nonprofit Council and serves on the advisory boards for the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS)Bill and the Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Foundation. Find more at www.opentohope.com. • Help! I'm Worried About My Surviving Teen or Young Adult Child (presenting with Heidi Horsley) • TenJenkins Things You Can Do to Change Your Life! (presenting with Heidi Horsley)Dawn Morville Dr. Heidi Horsley is a licensed psychologist, social worker and bereaved sibling. She is Executive Director for the Open to Hope Foundation and co-hosts the award-winning cable televisionJohnson and radio show, \"Open to Hope.\" She is an Adjunct Professor at Columbia University, and an award-winning author, and has co-authored eight books. She serves on the Board of Directors#2018TCFConf for The Compassionate Friends, and the Advisory Boards for the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors of Military Loss, the Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Foundation, and the Children’s Brain Tumor Foundation. For ten years, Dr. Heidi worked on a Columbia University longitudinal study, with firefighter families who lost a firefighter in the Sept. 11th attacks. • Sibling Loss Sucks! • Help! I'm Worried About My Surviving Teen or Young Adult Child (presenting with Gloria Horsley) • Ten Things You Can Do to Change Your Life! (presenting with Gloria Horsley) After his 16-year-old son, William, was murdered in 1997 Bill Jenkins authored What to do When the Police Leave: A Guide to the First Days of Traumatic Loss. This landmark book on grief and bereavement has become an important resource for families dealing with the sudden or traumatic death of a loved one and the caregivers who work with them. In addition to being a professor at Dominican University near Chicago, he frequently speaks at national and regional conferences throughout the US and Canada teaching and training crime victims and those who work with them. • Do No Harm Strategies for Grieving Families Dawn and her only sibling, Jerry, were 15 months apart in age and were just beginning to establish their relationship as adult siblings when Jerry died at age 21 from injuries sustained in a pickup truck accident. Several years later, she read about a TCF chapter in a nearby town in Illinois. She thought her mother, Judi Morville, needed help so they began attending meetings. Dawn then realized she also needed help with her grief. Eventually, she started and facilitated a sibling group for the chapter. Dawn is a former sibling representative on the national TCF Board of Directors and has presented at TCF conferences. A former newspaper reporter, she is a lawyer in St. Louis, Missouri, a second career that was motivated by her experience with the criminal justice system after her brother’s death. • Long-Term Survival When You Can't See Past Today: A Mother-Daughter Perspective (presenting with Judi Morville) Workshop Presenters|71

Peggi After adopting two children, Peggi resigned from a corporate career in telecommunications to devote herself to full time motherhood. When her son, Jordan, died nine years ago by suicide atJohnson the age of 19, Peggi, her husband Jeff, and her daughter Claire were devastated. They joined the Arlington, VA chapter of TCF and Peggi edited the newsletter for six chapters in the DC areasNancy for two years. After her husband’s retirement, they relocated to Charlottesville, VA where they joined the Piedmont, VA TCF chapter. Peggi serves as chapter co-leader and newsletter editor.Juracka She writes articles for TCF and enjoys encouraging other grief writers. She also volunteers for hospice. This is the ninth national conference Peggi has attended and her sixth appearance as a workshop presenter and as a sharing session facilitator. • Healing When Faith is Not an Option Nancy’s adult son, Lance died from the disease of addiction. Finding a Compassionate Friends group helped her survive and gave her a purpose to go on. The parents that were a little further down the road gave her hope and she felt it was very important to pay it forward. She became a Chapter Leader and now is the Regional Coordinator for Northern California. One of the goals that she achieved to honor her son, Lance, was to complete the final editing of a short film that he produced, directed, and wrote, titled, Time’s Up. The film depicts the struggles of two families from different generations as they deal with the disease of alcoholism. The film made its debut last year at “The Reel Recovery Film Festival” in New York City and Los Angeles. It can be viewed on YouTube and Vimeo. She is Outreach Coordinator for her local community for the National Coalition Against Prescription Drug Abuse. • Death from The Disease of Addiction - A Panel • How Shame & Secrecy Complicate A Substance Use Death (presenting with Diana Lynn) After Andrea's younger and only sibling, Jon, died from an accidental heroin overdose nine years ago, she jump-started her local TCF sibling group and continues to lead her monthly group meetings. She also is the co-Moderator of two Facebook groups dealing with Sibling Loss: the MD/DC/VA Adult Sibling Loss Support Group and TCF – Sibling Loss to Substance Related Causes. Andrea is also a member of TCF Stigmatized Loss Advisory Commission. • For Siblings Who Are Parents: The Fear of Losing a Child After Losing a SiblingAndreaKeller Ever since Ann’s beloved five-year-old daughter, Priya, died after being hit by a car, Ann has been deeply committed to TCF. She went to her first TCF meeting just weeks after Priya’s death. She later became Chapter Leader and facilitator, and has presented at numerous TCF conferences. Ann went back to college after this horrific tragedy and obtained her Masters in Counseling. She is a retired Social Worker and currently serves on TCF Board of Directors as secretary. • Sudden Death Vehicular, A PanelAnnKhadalia7 2 |Workshop Presenters

Kelly & Andy Together, Andrew and Kelly Kittel have had 13 pregnancies but only have 5 living children. They are the bereaved parents of Noah, their fourth child who was run over 21 years agoKittel when he was 15 months old, and Jonah, their fifth, who was stillborn nine months later due to medical error. In addition, they’ve suffered many miscarriages. Andrew is the COO of aKelly & Jay communications company and Kelly is an author (www.kellykittel.com). Both have given speeches and presented workshops in the past and Kelly gave a TEDx talk called “Why WeKovaleski Should Share Our Stories.” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1oA3w7JcTg. • Loss of an Infant or Toddler, A Husband and Wife Present • Loss of a Child to Miscarriage/Stillbirth:Lora & Dave Shattering the Silence!Krum When Jay and Kelly’s son, Nicholas died in 2011 they found themselves catapulted into an unknown wilderness. In order to navigate through their son’s death, they needed to learn toMarie grieve separately and together. Using the phrase ~Live with Purpose® the two have created their “new normal.” Presently they seek to help others struggling with life’s devastating challengesLevine and changes; theirs is a mission of hope and healing. • Navigating Life - It's a Journey and You're NOT Alone!#2018TCFConf Dave and Lora Krum are the proud and loving parents of their two sons, Dylan and Gavin, and continue to step into each new day of survival without their children by living for them, boldly saying their names and keeping the memories of their two teenage sons alive in all they do. The Krums value the experiences and relationships that happen through attending TCF and other conferences for grieving parents and are grateful for the loving and supportive community they share with others who walk this difficult grief journey. They believe in the philosophy of helping others while being helped. In honor of Dylan and Gavin, they are the co-leaders of the Carbon County (PA) chapter of TCF and serve on the steering committee of the Poconos (PA) TCF chapter. They are also the co-presidents of Dylan and Gavin's Rainbow Ministry, which is a 501(c)3 organization which reaches out to families in their local area. • It's Our Choice...It's How We Survive! Marie and Phil Levine's only child, Peter, was killed while being driven home by a college friend who had been drinking. She has been Chapter Leader in Manhattan, NY for many years and also serves as leader of the Twin Forks/ Hamptons chapter, which she founded 10 years ago. In addition, she is Newsletter Editor of both chapters. Recently, Marie was appointed to the TCF national board of directors. She was awarded the TCF Chapter Leadership Award in 2012. She presented the \"Now Childless\" webinar currently available on the TCF website. She has been a frequent workshop presenter and is the author of First You Die: Learn to Live After the Death of Your Child and The Tincture of Time for those further along in their grief journey. • Am I Still A Parent: Becoming Childless Workshop Presenters|73

Carl & Judy Judy and Carl lost their 18-year-old son, Eric, in August of 2013 from a seizure disorder (SUDEP). Five weeks after Eric’s death, they attended their first TCF meeting in RochesterLevy NY. They credit TCF for helping them immensely with their grief journey. Early in their grief journey, the differences in how they were grieving were making them feel distant from eachCarla other. A grief counselor which they were seeing gave them an article on the ways men and women tend to grieve differently. This information helped them to understand each other’sLinn grieving process and enabled them to become closer and better able to support each other. Judy and Carl currently reside in Sarasota, Florida and became the Chapter Leaders of the SarasotaGlen TCF Chapter in 2017. They have continued to research the gender differences in grieving and have been sharing this information with their chapter members and other grieving couples. •Lord Grieving for Couples - How Men and Women Grieve Differently When Carla’s 22-year-old daughter, Laura, died suddenly in 2008, Carla retreated into the past and relived their time together through flashbacks she documented in a journal and in nightly letters she wrote to Laura. Later she realized she wanted to create a permanent memorial to Laura by writing a book about her. Carla was already the author of a book about dogs. It was published in 2006, by the publishers of the Chicken Soup for the Soul books and was meant to be the first in a new series. When Laura died, she was in the middle of the second book, but she was unable to continue due to her grief. When she began working on the memoir of Laura’s life, she discovered that writing about dogs had not prepared her. It was a labor of love, with no time limit or goal except to honor her daughter. Today she informally tutors other bereaved parents who wish to honor their children in the same way. Carla was a member of the Writers Panel at last year’s TCF National Conference. She is currently working on a book about how she survived the loss of her only child. • Writing a Memoir of Your Child's Life With the death of his son, Noah, in 1999 everything changed, as Glen sought a new path, and he realized that there was a need for genuine, accurate grief information. This realization, fueled the founding of The Grief Toolbox and creation of the Walking Through Grief® program; both offer a community of grief resources around the world. Glen is past president of the National Board of Directors of TCF. He is a sought-after keynote, presenter and workshop leader. In 2017, grief touched Glen's life again with the death of his sister Heather and his father only one week apart. Glen is now Co-Founder and CEO of the International Grief Institute, which provides a variety of grief educational opportunities including Grief in the Workplace, and recently a managing partner of JOURNEYS OF HOPE, HEALING, AND HEALTH, LLC. • For Women Only: Men Explaining Men to Women, A PanelTanya When tragedy strikes an individual, it is common for the impact to be life altering. It was for Tanya, a special education teacher turned stay at home mom when her son, Noah, hadLord PhD, MPH a devastating healthcare experience. This fired her desire to improve patient safety, quality and the patient experience. Combining her expertise in Quality Improvement and a passion7 4 |Workshop Presenters for including all healthcare stakeholders, Tanya works locally and nationally improving care through better patient and family engagement. Following Noah’s death, Tanya further found her poetic voice. Her writings illustrate the power of love’s connection to overcome even the deepest separation. As the primary contributor to and co-founder of The Grief Toolbox, Tanya’s expressive poetry speaks directly to the aching heart of those who have been touched by loss. In gratitude to TCF she serves as the RC for ME, VT, and NH. • Being a Compassionate Friend to Ourselves

Chris In 2003, Chris Lourenco was only nine years old when a day out with his dad, Manny, and two brothers, Zach and Alex, turned joy into horror. The sailboat they were on struck low-lyingLourenco power lines, taking the lives of his brothers and turned his whole world upside down. Since 2005, Chris has been an active participant in The Compassionate Friends’ Sibling Program. TheDenise relationships he has forged have helped him learn to live with his grief, not be defined by it. Chris holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Industrial Engineering and is currently pursuing hisLourenco Ph.D. • SUDDEN Loss, Resulting Differing Perspectives of a PARENT and Child (presenting with Denise Lourenco)Diana Denise’s world forever changed when two of her three sons, Zach 17 and Alex 14, were killed inLynn a sailboat accident in 2003. She and her husband, Manny, did not know how to help themselves nor their nine-year-old son, Chris, who had witnessed the accident when someone told themNate about The Compassionate Friends (TCF). For her, TCF is the one place she feels unconditional love and hope. She and Manny were the newsletter editors for the Kinston, NC chapter and laterMcClendon the Waccamaw, SC chapter. Denise holds a Bachelor of Social Work degree from East Carolina University. • SUDDEN Loss, Resulting Differing Perspectives of a PARENT and Child (presenting#2018TCFConf with Chris Lourenco) Diana is a mother of four, who became a bereaved parent when her eldest child died from an overdose at 27. Her experience with the disease of substance use disorder (SUD) did not end there. For six years following this loss, her youngest son self-medicated through his emotional pain and sadly also succumbed to an opioid overdose passing at age 22. Her sons both died following months of residential treatment and sobriety. As an ambassador for Shatterproof, Inc. she has worked toward ending shame and stigma for those afflicted by this disease. Diana served on the FedUp! Rally steering committee in Washington, D.C., supporting its efforts to demand a federal response to the opioid epidemic. In the California delegation to Capitol Hill, she solicited support for legislation to fund equal protections and support for addiction treatment. She is a chapter leader who has served as TCF conference workshop presenter, panelist and committee member for conference programs related to loss from substance use. • How Shame & Secrecy Complicate A Substance Use Death (w/Nancy Juracka) In 2014, Nate’s life was altered when his daughter, Naomi, died from an accidental fall from a 10-story building while a freshman at Arizona State University. Nate, wife Judy, and son Nathan (who was 16-years-old at the time) found respite at TCF conferences. Stemming from their experience with grieving publicly because they are high school teachers, Nate and Judy are implementing “Project Compassion,” which aims at creating a culture where students and teachers engage in understanding stressors such as grief, depression, and anxiety. In addition to directing the school orchestra, Nate, a saxophonist, plays jazz and popular music in Kansas City. He and Nathan, also a musician, provide music for the “Blue Christmas” TCF Candlelight service in Manhattan, Kansas. Naomi was also a talented musician, and just as it played an important part of her life, music has been an ongoing force and integral part of Nate’s grieving process. • More Than Words Can Say Workshop Presenters|75

Tim’s son, Chris, an aspiring paramedic, died at age 24 in an on-duty accident in May, 2009. Since that time Tim has spent the bulk of his time and emotional energy as administrator for the Christopher Meadows Memorial EMS Education Fund. The fund awards paramedic and EMT scholarships annually to Central California students pursuing careers in emergency medicine. To date, 39 scholarships have been given in Chris’s memory. Tim strives to follow his son’s credo, “Never Say ‘Why Didn’t I…’” Tim is also a member of The Compassionate Friends Board of Directors and a Trustee for The Compassionate Friends Foundation. • The Healing Power of Creating a Memorial FundTimMeadowsBrian & Maria Perez The Medinas found TCF soon after the death of daughter, Brianna Alexandra in May 2014. After six months of battling restrictive cardiomyopathy (RCM) and waiting for a heart transplant while inMedina intensive care at UF Health Shands, Brianna’s heart and body could take no more. Heartbroken and devastated, Brian and Maria attended their first TCF national conference in Chicago. The experience was “Grief-Changing!” Since then, they have remained very involved with TCF at both national and local levels. In memory and honor of Brianna, Maria and Brian established Brianna’s Forever 8 Foundation and Brianna’s HOPE Fund in support of the UF Health Shands Arts in Medicine Program (AIM). Most recently they helped launch the first ever children’s album titled after Brianna’s original song \"Thankful for Love\" led by Artist in Residence, Ricky Kendall. • A Flower Picked Too Soon: Panel Discussion on Loss of a Child Twelve and Under Dr. Janice Bell Meisenhelder is a bereaved mother of Melissa, who succumbed to cancer at the age of 19 in 2004. Since then, Dr. Meisenhelder has assisted many bereaved parents as a volunteer peer counselor and small group leader. As a nurse and Professor at Emmanuel College, Boston, Dr. Meisenhelder understands symptom relief and has published guidelines for nurse practitioners working with bereaved parents. Her latest book is a practical, gentle guide for grieving parents: Surviving the Unthinkable: The Loss of a Child, recommended by several TCF chapter leaders in Amazon reviews. • Fog Brain, Grief Attacks, and Tsunami Days: Comfort Measures for the Symptoms of GriefJanice BellMeisenhelder After Bobbi's 10-year-old son Andrew was killed in a skateboarding accident, she immediately became a member of her local TCF Chapter. She then started attending national conferences with her daughter, Tracy. Bobbi strongly believes in bridging the gap between spouses, as well as parents and surviving siblings in their grief. She is the regional coordinator of the Eastern PA region for TCF. Bobbi has been presenting workshops at the national conferences for the last ten years on various grief related topics. BBobbi has always been involved in the TCF Sibling Program, and even more so with the recent death of her only sister, Auntie Gail, in July, 2016. • For Men Only: Women Explaining Women to Men • Losing a Sibling Late in LifeBobbiMilne7 6 |Workshop Presenters

Kathy’s daughter and first-born child, Danielle, was stillborn. Her son, Steven, died after a two-year battle with leukemia. Her brother, Jeff, took his own life. Kathy began attending TCF meetings after her son’s death in 2003. She is a single mom and TCF provided much needed support. She has experienced multiple losses and has an insightful perspective on grief. Kathy has written a book, Treasures in Tragedy: A Journey Through Grief, in which she shares her path through suffering from tears to soaring. She is a retired teacher and currently speaks at schools, helping faculty and staff to understand the grief process and offering suggestions for helping coworkers and students who are mourning. • Love Endures: Rituals Keep Us ConnectedKathleen HathawayMitchelJudi Judi’s 21-year-old son, Jerry, was looking forward to getting married to his fiancée, DeeDee. He had a chow dog named Tank, a little house and a dream of opening his own automotiveMorville shop. But, that all ended the night he was the middle passenger in a pickup driven by a friend who had been drinking. The driver was going over 100 mph when he missed a curve and Jerry was thrown through the windshield. He died several hours later from massive internal injuries which would have left him a quadriplegic. Judi thought life had no meaning after that, even though she still had her daughter, Dawn. Judi found TCF several years later when her only surviving child read a story about TCF and convinced her to attend a meeting. That was when the healing process began. Eventually, Judi became the chapter leader, leading the group for many years. • Long-Term Survival When You Can't See Past Today: A Mother-Daughter Perspective (presenting with Dawn Morville Johnson) Terry has worked at the National Office for over 22 years. For the past 15 years, Terry has worked as the Director of Chapter Services, managing nearly 700 TCF Chapters, and works directly with bereaved parents, adult siblings, and grandparents who are interested in forming a Chapter. She also coordinates TCF’s Chapter Development Training Programs and Regional Chapter Development Training Programs throughout the year and at the National Conference In addition to these responsibilities, she spends much of her time working with existing Chapters to encourage, advise, and problem-solve. Terry also supervises the Year End Report process with Chapter leadership throughout the country. • How to Start a ChapterTerryNovy Cortney is Colton's sister and she lost her brother to a bad car accident in 2007. She found The Compassionate Friends Siblings in 2011 when her parents lied to her about going to the conference. It turned out to be the best lie they ever told! She is presenting her first workshop this year with Sarah Hartranft. • Healing Through Connections (presenting with Sarah Hartranft)Cortney Workshop Presenters|77Parker#2018TCFConf

Steve Steve got a job in a gym and later used personal training to help himself and others look and feel better physically and emotionally. He applied those lessons again after his daughter AlyssaParker died in 1997 to help him on his grief journey. This session is about helping others find a way to get a little relief from the grief they carry, whether they are someone who has never exercised or want to continue at their level or beyond. Steve found himself running his first marathon in memory of Alyssa, though was never a distance runner. He found thousands of others doing the same. Steve plans to share examples and ideas to be of help, not only physically but emotionally. This will be an interactive session. • Fitness & Grief - Taking Care of Yourself Mentally and Physically Is the Key!Alan In August of 2001, Alan’s world changed forever when his 18-year-old daughter Ashley was killed in an automobile accident. An award-winning singer, songwriter and recording artist,Pedersen Alan began writing songs about the experience of love, loss and trying to find life again after the death of a child. For ten years, Alan traveled to more than 1000 cities across the United States and Canada sharing his music and story, as well as offering support and hope to others in grief. He was awarded the TCF Professional Award by The Compassionate Friends and the Humanitarian of The Year by the Healing Hearts Foundation. Alan served as Executive Director of TCF from December 2013 to September 2017. • Healing Guilt and Regret • A Songwriter's Journey Mark and Debbie Rambis are the parents of Tony, their youngest son, who drowned in 2011. They honor Tony's memory by giving back through The Compassionate Friends. Mark and Debbie are successful, experienced leaders for TCF of The Woodlands, Texas chapter. Debbie is the Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, and Mark is the regional coordinator for Southern Texas. They are also TCF Facebook moderators and draw on their backgrounds to help others. Mark is a 22-year U.S. Army officer and retired high school teacher. Debbie retired from the government after 32 years of service. • Meeting Ideas and ActivitiesMark & DebbieRambisPam & Barry This couple lost their only child, their daughter Melanie Paige to Ewing's Sarcoma in August 2016 after two and half years of battle. Pam has been getting tattoos since the age of 19 andRonner worked in tattoo shops. She has many memorial tattoos paying homage to her daughter, but even with her experience, choosing the right tattoo required long, hard thinking. Barry has7 8 |Workshop Presenters one tattoo-the ONLY one-paying tribute to Melanie. Many people like Barry who have never wanted a tattoo decided to in order to remember their child, but are lost on how to go about it. Barry's decision on what to get-for him-was a no-brainer, as it is something that not only represents Melanie, but a memory of a time they spent together on a trip. They hope to inspire others through their story and education on this permanent memorial process. • Getting and Choosing a Memorial Tattoo

Sara As the mother of a healthy and happy teenager, Sara’s life was forever changed with the sudden death of her only child, Scott. Sara’s grief journey and her continuing relationship with ScottRuble have opened her up to the knowing there is much more to life and death…and the afterlife. As presenter, Sara has shared her grief, knowledge, and wisdom at The Compassionate Friends National Conferences (2010-2018), In Loving Memory Conferences (Now-Childless), Bereaved Parents of the USA National Gatherings, the 2018 Helping Parents Heal Conference, and other notable organizations. Sara’s blog, Death Teaches, is her inspiring journey and the development of a beautiful spiritual relationship with Scott. She and Scott have now come together to share in their profound new blog, Spirit Teaches, for even deep spiritual awareness. Both blogs can be found at her website Spirit Teaches at www.spiritteaches.org. • The Sole/Soul Journey in Grief and BeyondVicki Vicki is the Manager of Family and Community Education Programs for Rainbow Hospice and Palliative Care, Mt. Prospect, IL. Vicki began working and journeying with bereaved childrenScalzitti and their families in 1991, a year and a half after the death of her precious five-year-old son Joey in an accidental drowning. For 26 years, Vicki has organized and facilitated support services for grieving families, including groups, family camps, and memorial events. She is an accredited school specialist in trauma response. Vicki regularly presents at local TCF Chapters and national conferences and speaks on children and family grief. She is the author of The Road to Good Mourning: Growing Resilient Children through the Grief Experience and the co-author of 10 Steps for Parenting Your Grieving Children. • Strong in the Broken PlacesFT Donna Donna is the Sr. Director of Advocacy and Training at The Dougy Center for Grieving Children and Families in Portland, Oregon, where she has served in various roles since 1986, includingSchuurman, EdD 25 years as Executive Director. She writes and trains internationally on bereavement issues, and has authored numerous articles, book chapter, and the book, Never the Same: Coming to Terms with the Death of a Parent. Donna served as President of the Board of Directors for the Association for Death Education and Counseling, and received their Annual Service Award in 2003 and their Clinical Practice Award in 2013. She is a member of the International Work Group on Death, Dying, and Bereavement, and a founding board member of The National Alliance for Grieving Children. She serves as a national trainer for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention and is a member of the Board of Directors of TCF. • Navigating Life After a Death: 10 Things I've Learned from Grieving ParentsLinda Linda, a Certified Laughter Yoga Leader, shares the power of laughter to promote physical and emotional health and well-being, especially for those who are grieving. Linda raised herShively only child Jessica who had a progressive neuromuscular disorder, Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA), Type I, for almost four years before watching her die in 2005. Linda is passionate about#2018TCFConf inspiring people to move forward after grief and rediscover joy. Holding a B.S. in psychobiology from UCLA and certification as a Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Practitioner, Linda has spent years studying how the brain and mind function. A certified master life and executive coach, she helps people get unstuck from grief and loss, so they can live the lives they are meant to live. Through speaking, coaching, and service, Linda has touched the lives of thousands of individuals, families, and organizations. Since 2010, she co-leads TCF of Santa Clara County Chapter. • Laugh Your Way to Joy: Learning to Laugh after Loss Workshop Presenters|79

Linda Linda’s daughter Kimberly was killed as a passenger in a car accident in June 2009. Linda has searched for any ideas and help she could find to piece her life back together after tragicallySimione losing Kim. Linda’s husband and Dad passed away in 2012. Linda is a co-chapter leader. She is also a facilitator of Grief Share. Linda takes pride in caring for pets and their parents at her jobKeith and has even started a Pet Loss group. Linda has grown to learn all she can about all grief. Her passion is to help others to not just cope but to be a survivor. Linda does her best to support herSinger surviving daughter, Kristi with her grief of being an often-forgotten griever “A Sibling” and her Mom as a bereaved Grandmother. Early grief is very difficult, but Linda can show you the way back to a full life. • Survival Tips for the Newly Bereaved (presenting with Betty Valentine) Keith's sister, Lori, died in an automobile accident in 1998 while she was serving active duty in the United States Navy. Keith was 21 at the time and away at college when Lori died. Keith attended TCF functions because his mom asked him to and he believed it would make her happy. When Keith talked with other bereaved siblings, he came to realize that sharing his thoughts and experiences around dealing with the death of his sister helped him and others as well. He facilitates sibling meetings for his local sibling chapter and has been presenting workshops at the national conference for the past 11 years. • Sibling Panel for Parents • Sibling Panel for Siblings • How to Start a Sibling Group In August of 2016, Hollie’s only sister stopped to help a wrecked vehicle and was struck by another vehicle. She found TCF from a friend’s recommendation soon after the accident. After finding strength and comfort from other bereaved siblings; Hollie began sharing her ideas of how to keep memories alive with others. Together with her parents, Hollie started the Kaylee Hamilton Helping Hands scholarship program. Hollie continues to be an advocate for siblings no matter where they are in the grieving process and encourages everyone to use their “helping hands” to spread kindness and help others in need. • Keeping Their Memory AliveHollieSkinnerPamela Bradley Pamela Bradley Smith begins every Nashville Chapter meeting by introducing herself simply as “Justin’s Mom.” Pam and her husband Terry began attending TCF in 2001, following theSmith sudden loss of their son and only child at age 18. She is a frequent facilitator during chapter meetings and speaks annually on the topic: Handling the Holidays. Pam was a presenter8 0 |Workshop Presenters when TCF Nashville hosted the Memories of Love/ Melodies of Hope Regional Conference in October 2017. She was a workshop panelist when Nashville hosted the National Conference in 2008. Pam earned an M.Ed. in Counseling and applies her experience of more than 30 years to walking the journey of bereaved parents. • Living Their Legacy - Reminding the World, They Lived

Dylan’s sister died in an accident caused by a drunk driver while she was away at her freshman year in college. He has been attending national conferences since Nashville in 2007. This is his 11th national conference, tenth year sitting on panels, and ninth year running workshops. • Got Ink? A Sharing Session (presenting with Katelyn Stoskus) • Issues and Tissues (presenting with Katelyn Stoskus)Dylan Katelyn has been a bereaved sibling since 2005 when her sister Paige was killed during her freshman year of college and has been attending TCF National Conferences since Nashville inStoskus 2007. This will be her eleventh National Conference, her seventh year presenting a workshop, and her ninth year sitting on various panels. While she has no titles or degrees regarding griefKatelyn and loss, she does have over a decade of experience being a 'kid' and young adult as well as a bereaved sibling. • Got Ink? A Sharing Session (presenting with Dylan Stoskus) • Issues andStoskus Tissues (presenting with Dylan Stoskus)Trish Trish became a bereaved parent after her oldest daughter, Paige, was hit by an impaired/ distracted driver while in a crosswalk during her freshman year of college. The hospital treatingStoskus her injuries ignored her complaints of head pain and after 27 hours, Paige died from a TBI. Trish became involved in her local TCF Chapter after a few months and became involved atStephen the national level in 2007. This is her eleventh conference. Trish has two wonderful surviving children. • Parents Being Parents: A Panel • For Men Only: Women Explaining Women toStott Men, a Panel#2018TCFConf Stephen’s sister Stacy died August 25, 2002 in a car accident he was also in. Three days prior, she was the first person he came out to and the first time he said out loud that he was gay. He knows that there was a loss of identity that happened the day Stacy died. He is also aware that a loss of identity is something people in the LGBTQ+ community face. He questioned who he was, was there anyone out there like him, and he lived in fear if anyone ever found out. It wasn’t until his first TCF National Conference where he began to find himself as bereaved sibling. He serves on the Inclusion and Diversity Commission and is an advocate for the LGBTQ+ community, wanting to create a safe space for his fellow LGBTQ+ bereaved siblings. • Identifying as LGBTQ+ and the Emotional Similarities that Grief & Loss Bring • Military Loss: Supporting and Loving Us in Our Differences and Similarities (presenting with Zaneta Gileno) Workshop Presenters|81

Bart Bart is the founder of Healing Improv, a 501(c)(3) providing no-cost comedy improv grief workshops. Bart is a professional actor, screenwriter, and improv performer/teacher/guru for 30Sumner years. He has appeared on stage, in comedy clubs, on television and in movies, as well as written for the stage, TV and film. In 2009, he lost his 10-year-old son David to a traumatic brain injury. Healing Improv uses group improv games to open lines of communication, relieve stress, and allow participants to give themselves “permission” to laugh again. Bart works with TCF, Bereaved Parents of the USA, as well as Hospice of Michigan and Gilda’s Club, traveling the country presenting workshops. Bart is the author of Healing Improv: A Journey Through Grief to Laughter, and writes for Open to Hope, The Grief Toolbox, Plan B and others. He serves on the Inclusion and Diversity Commission of TCF.  • Moving Forward with Love, Laughter, and \"Power Grieving\" • Healing Improv - Comedy Improv Grief Workshop Sara is a bereaved parent and a bereaved sibling. Sara’s 21-year-old daughter, Katrina aka Kara died by suicide and her brother James died suddenly shortly after her daughter’s death from an undiagnosed heart condition. Sara and her family founded the Katrina Tagget Memorial Foundation to raise awareness and education for mental illness and suicide prevention. Their wristbands, Your Life Matters are to remind all of us there is hope and help to live life. Sara came to TCF in 2012 with her son Blake and together they have been involved at both the national level and with their local TCF Patapsco Valley Chapter. • Grieving a Stigmatized Loss: How Parents and Siblings Heal - A PanelSaraTaggetCindy Her favorite title is, Big “Sisser” to Dennis. Cindy has presented numerous workshops at the local, regional, and national levels with The Compassionate Friends for bereaved siblings.Tart Through attending many workshops early on in her grief, she decided that helping others along their own grief journey was what she wanted to do. Her favorite part of every national conference is meeting newly bereaved siblings who are nervous and scared to be here and to share. By the end of the conference the newly bereaved siblings are making plans to attend the next one. Cindy is also the Chapter leader for her local TCF chapter in Fayetteville, NC and is the Sibling Representative on the Board of Directors. • Faith Shattered, Building the Pieces • Seasoned Sibs - The Initial Shock Has Worn Off, Why Am I Still Crazy? (presenting with Jordon Ferber) • Remembering Our Sibling Through CraftsRebecca Rebecca had been living a “normal” middle class life with her husband and four children in a small town in Upper Michigan when her 17-year-old son, Trevor, died very unexpectedly byTervo suicide in 2012. Her life took a major, unhealthy turn in the years following his death. In 2016, she finally chose to come back to life and took the time to figure out what her purpose was. As8 2 |Workshop Presenters part of her healing, she left a 20+ year accounting career, lost over 35 pounds, started a coaching business, and became outspoken about suicide and depression awareness in teenagers. Today she has authored two books and has a coaching business where she helps other Moms who have faced a suicide loss to experience more peace, purpose and happiness. You can reach Rebecca at her website at RebeccaTervo.com or on Facebook at rebeccalynntervo. • How to Get Back to Life After Your Child’s Suicide

Kayla Kayla’s only sibling (brother Justin) died from an unexpected illness when he was two and Kayla was four. Kayla‘s family built a playground called “Justin Thomas Memorial Park” in memoryThomas of her brother Justin. Kayla found her hope by attending The Compassionate Friends group in her home town monthly and by meeting other siblings at The Compassionate Friends National Conferences yearly. Kayla has her bachelor’s degree in psychology and is a therapeutic case manager for children in her community that have experienced trauma and loss at an early age. Kayla has given educational talks and shared her personal story at colleges in New Hampshire and Vermont. Kayla also is a dance teacher and enjoys expressing her emotions through dance. The Compassionate Friends National Conferences has helped Kayla make friends and bond with other siblings that truly understand her feelings and story. • Memories Last a Lifetime and Our Siblings Will Always Be RememberedPatricia Pat Timpanaro, R.N., M.N. is a retired nurse educator. After 16 years of fighting the autoimmune disease of lupus, her son, Jeffrey, died in 2016. Jeff was a highly respected andTimpanaro beloved Spanish teacher and tennis coach at a Christian high school. He left a wife and five children. Pat and her husband, Ron, are committed to helping their daughter-in-law raise their school-age grandchildren. Pat is a spiritual director and pastoral care minister for her church. Although relatively new to Compassionate Friends, she is a long-time believer in the community provided by support groups. Over the years, she has led many faith sharing groups and cancer support groups. Pat resides in Houston and recently facilitated a group for survivors of hurricane Harvey. She enjoys reading and writing poetry and playing tennis. • Loss After a Long-Term Illness: Reflecting on Voices of Comfort Andrea Tritinger is a licensed clinical social worker and she has worked in grief and loss for almost 10 years. She currently works at BJC Hospice as the supervisor of grief support services, music therapy, expressive therapy, and volunteer services. During her time at hospice, she has worked with grieving children, teens, and parents at various camp and retreat events which often include multiple expressive therapy activities. She has also presented at conferences about the use of expressive therapy and bibliotherapy with grieving individuals, families, and groups. • Coping with Loss: Explore Different Ways to Express and Cope with Your Grief (presenting with Sandy Dillon)AndreaTritinger, MSW, CSWBetty Betty lost her daughter Kara Lyn in 2011 from a Sepsis infection and Pneumonia. Kara was 35 years old. Recently she lost her mother and her brother just two weeks apart. Betty beganValentine her grief journey shortly after losing her daughter….kicking and screaming in grief pain as she found her way to her first TCF meeting. A few years later she became the co-chapter#2018TCFConf leader of the Brandywine Hundreds Chapter of The Compassionate Friends. Her goal is to help anyone struggling with the pain of the loss of a child, grandchild or sibling. Although her focus is helping others find their new normal after the trauma of such loss, she is very active in all aspects of leadership and helping wherever needed on the chapter level, Regional or at the National Conference. Betty credits her survival to The Compassionate Friends and her becoming a better person in honor of her beloved daughter Kara. Betty is a survivor. • Survival Tips for the Newly Bereaved (presenting with Linda Simione) Workshop Presenters|83

Nivia Nivia is the bereaved mother of José Francisco “Yoito” Barreto Vázquez and the bereaved sibling of Teresita and Miguel. Yoito died in a car accident in 1993. His surviving brother is RobertoVázquez José. She became involved with The Compassionate Friends after attending an International Conference in 1995, and in 2000 she and five other bereaved parents chartered Los AmigosBradley & Bonita Compasivos in San Juan, Puerto Rico. She has been Chapter leader for 16 years, is a professional bilingual legal secretary, translator and a professional/personal/spiritual coach. She is currentlyVinson serving as the chair of TCF's Diversity Commission. She served on TCF's Board of Directors and served on several Board committees. • Nuestros Hijos e Hijas por Siempre en NuestrosJulia CorazonesWest On May 11, 2016, Bradley and Bonita’s only grandprincess, Alanna (4), died in a tragic accident. They entered an unexpected grief journey. Searching for resources to help, Bonita discovered The Compassionate Friends and they both became members of TCF-Loss of a Grandchild Facebook group. Bonita continues on her grief journey offering encouragement to other grieving grandmothers. Bradley additionally became a member of TCF-Men in Grief Facebook group. He now works with caregiver and service associations providing them tools to prevent compassion fatigue and burnout through self-care and allowing them to continue to serve well. He serves grievers directly, inspiring them with his message of Hope and Healing, and how to return to the ‘world’ (family, friends, work, etc.) and remain productive in their post-grief-event state. The Vinsons are now raising Alanna’s brothers who also experience the loss of their sister. • Men Grieve Too, Just Different • When Grandparents Lose A Grandchild: Realities of Out of Sequence Loss Julia West, from St. Paul Minnesota, is a bereaved mother to daughter Sophia Ann. Sophia was her first child and was born at 23 weeks in 2012, weighing 1lb 1oz and 10.5 inches long. Due to extreme prematurity and medical complications after nine hours, Sophia was removed from ventilation and passed away. This will be Julia’s 4th National Conference and first time presenting workshops. Julia will be presenting “Loss of Infant and Toddler, A Panel” and “The Many Paths to Hope Following the Loss Due to a Medical Error, A Panel.” Julia is a moderator for TCF closed Facebook page Infant and Toddler Loss. • Loss of Infant and Toddler, A Panel • The Many Paths to Hope Following the Loss Due to a Medical Error, A PanelJSue JSue’s 20-year-old son Bernard Calvin Williams was murdered on December 30, 2005 while on Christmas vacation in Pontiac, Michigan. She has been very involved inWilliams TCF (2006) local chapter as the meeting facilitator, then becoming chapter co-leader in 2009 of Montgomery. In 2015, she became the Regional Coordinator for Alabama. She continues to8 4 |Workshop Presenters serve her local chapter and the state of Alabama with passion and desire to help newly bereaved parents, grandparents, and siblings. She does this work to help others and keep her son Bernard’s memory alive. In addition to her work with TCF, she, along with family, gives book scholarships to college students in memory of her son. JSue is single, has one surviving son Jalen, and a granddaughter. • Loss Due to Homicide - A Panel

Bob is a frequent presenter at local meetings of Compassionate Friends. He stresses that mourning and grieving is a necessary and normal process and expresses itself in an unlimited number of ways. As a professional person, he has worked with individuals who have lost members of their families and are at various stages in their journeys. He has taught the WDEP system in many countries, in schools, in agencies, and in businesses. Professionally he is a psychologist, counselor and director of the Center for Reality Therapy in Cincinnati. • Pathways to Less Pain and Even Happiness: The WDEP Approach (presenting with Lindsay Bibler, MD)RobertWubbolding, EdDRick & Cindy Cindy’s and Rick’s two sons Christopher and Matthew died from a genetic disease, Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA). Their sons were born in 1972 and 1973 and died in 1983 and 1984.Yotti They found TCF in 1988 in Livonia, Michigan. They were active with that chapter and later formed an informal chapter in Paris, France, they also were active with their local chapter in Williamsburg, Virginia and they organized a Midwest Regional Conference. Cindy has served as a regional coordinator, Rick has been a member of the Board of Directors of TCF, National Treasurer, National President, CLTP coordinator, and is currently President of TCF Foundation. They also founded a nonprofit in Michigan named Volunteers Assisting the Disabled for neuromuscular patients. The organization has operated a week-long live-in summer camp for 27 years. • Childless in Your Later Years, A Panel#2018TCFConf Workshop Presenters|85

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