2018 Program Book

Gateway to Hope and Healing 41 TCF National Conference St. Louis, MO ■ July 27-29, 2018 The Compassionate Friends41st Natiojnal Conference July 27-29, 2018 ∙ St. Louis, MO Program Book WRaelmk teomber



Welcome to St. Louis,Welcome to the 41st National Compassionate Friends Conference! I am glad you are here but also saddened that anyof us have a need for this. I vividly remember walking into my first conference, having lost my youngest son, Tony, todrowning. It had been 135 days since “the day.” Oblivious to how I had somehow lived through 19 Wednesdays sincehearing my beloved husband, Mark, struggle to say, “Tony’s gone.” The second of the month had rolled around fourtimes, and each month tears would flow just knowing it was the second of the month, “the day.”I had already learned that my family members were each thinking and grieving differently. I distinctly rememberour first argument after “the day.” It was April 2, 2011. We were driving down the causeway saying little to eachother, as was common early in our journey. I had tears rolling and muttered “I can’t believe it’s been one month.” Hequestioned, “What’s been one month?” Shocked, I shrieked, “Since Tony died!” He curtly replied, “It’s been more thana month, he died on a Wednesday!” I stammered, “But he died on the second!” As odd as it seemed to me, we werenot only grieving differently, we were also counting differently!As I walked in the front doors of the hotel, my breath was nearly taken away. I had not expected to see so many ofus, so many just like me. For the first time in 135 days, I realized I was not as alone on this journey as I first believed.What I learned at this first conference is that there is no right or wrong way to grieve, or even to count. If you wantto count Wednesday’s, count Wednesday’s! If you, instead, want to count the date of the month, count the date of themonth! My wish for you is that you receive as much help as my family did at our first conference and each subsequentconference.I would love for you to meet my Tony. I will be wearing his button proudly. I would love to meet your child,grandchild, brother or sister. Please take the time to really look at all those lovely children pictured or symbolized onthe photo buttons we wear. Pause and ask each other to share a story. Let’s say their names and celebrate their lives, nomatter how short. We are all here in a judgment-free zone that welcomes stories of our loved ones and understandsany tears that may flow.This conference is intended to be YOUR ‘Gateway to Hope and Healing.’ Go to as many workshops and participate inas many events and offerings as you want, or as few as you want. The National Office Staff and the entire ConferenceCommittee has worked long and hard to present you with the best possible experience one can have while carryingsuch a burden. It is your journey, your experience to travel (or count) as is right for you.Tony’s MomDebbie Debbie Rambis Executive Director The Compassionate Friends wishes to thank our Conference Patron Donor Dale and Carol Dullabaun (grandparents) in loving memory of Dale Lee Dullabaun, III#2018TCFConf Welcome | 3

CONTENTS 5 Welcome 28 Sharing Sessions 6 Conference Schedule 30 Session 1 Workshops 8 Conference Information 34 Session 2 Workshops13 Conference Committee 38 Session 3 Workshops 44 Session 4 Workshops14 Siblings 48 Session 5 Workshops15 Donations 53 Session 6 Workshops20 Keynote Speakers 58 Session 7 Workshops22 Special Guests 63 Workshop Presenters23 Award Recipients27 Special Programs d86 Conference Map The Compassionate Friends wishes to thank our Conference Partner4 |Contents

WELCOMETo Our Dear Compassionate Friends,On behalf of the 2018 TCF National Conference Committee and National Office Staff, we welcome you to the city ofSt. Louis, home to the Gateway Arch, and thus our very appropriate theme of “Gateway to Hope and Healing”. This isthe first time that our national conference is in St. Louis, MO, and the committee and National Office staff has beenvery hard at work for the past nine months to bring to you the best national conference possible.Many of you have driven or flew a great distance in search of this safe haven, surrounded by other bereaved parents,siblings and grandparents who, like yourself, understand this most difficult journey as no one else possibly can. Forsome, this is your very first conference and your grief may still be very new, while others have returned every year sincetheir first conference, knowing the value and uniqueness of the national conference experience. You will make newfriends, who even though you may only see once a year at the next national conference, you will pick up right whereyou left off, as if time had never passed. While at the conference, may you lean on and learn from those who have beenon this pathway towards hope and healing for a much longer time. Soak in the light of peace and renewed meaning inlife that they now radiate. May you gain wisdom and tools from the keynote speakers and workshop presenters to helpease your way. Though very sorry for the reason that brought you here, we are very glad that you came.We wholeheartedly and sincerely thank our dedicated and tireless, hard-working conference committee, keynotespeakers, workshop presenters, sharing session facilitators and other volunteers, seen and unseen, who hascontributed to making what we believe will be a memorable and meaningful weekend for all…remembering that lovelives on and with your Compassionate Friends you need not walk alone.Cathy Seehuetter, Nina’s and Chris’ Mom2018 National Conference Chair Cathy’s 15-year-old daughter, Nina Westmoreland, was killed by an alcohol-impaired driver on Cathy’s birthday while her family was vacationing in Orlando, FL in May of 1995. In 2012, her son Chris took his own life. She has been very involved in TCF, first as newsletter editor and then chapter leader for the St. Paul Chapter. She served for six years on the TCF National Board of Directors, serving as secretary and vice president for part of that time, and is Minnesota’s Regional Coordinator. Cathy was the Conference Chair for the TCF national conference in 2011 in Bloomington, MN. She has been published in Chicken Soup for the Christian Family Soul, and other grief publications and newsletters. She is also the TCF Director of Online Services, and the 2018 Conference Chair in St. Louis. Cathy is married, has three surviving children and five grandchildren, all of whom are the loves of her life. The Compassionate Friends wishes to thank our Conference Patron Donor TCF Nashville Chapter#2018TCFConf Welcome| 5

SCHEDULEThursday, July 26 Conference Check-in and On-site Registration Registration Office4:00 - 9:00 pm Board of Directors Meet and Greet Majestic A6:00 - 7:30 pm 7:30 - 8:30 pm Facebook Meet and Greet Landmark 17:30 - 8:30 pm 7:30 - 8:30 pm Grandparent Meet and Greet Landmark 27:30 - 8:30 pm 7:30 - 8:30 pm Sibling Meet and Greet Landmark 37:30 - 8:30 pm 9:00 - 10:00 pm Online Chat Support Meet and Greet Landmark 5 Inclusion and Diversity Commission Meet and Greet Landmark 6 Men's Meet and Greet Landmark 7 Sharing Sessions Page 28Friday, July 276:00 am Structured, but Unstructured Running Group Meet in Hotel Lobby7:00 am - 4:00 pm Conference Check-in and On-site Registration Registration Office7:00 am - 9:00 am Coffee Bar and Breakfast Snacks The Gathering Place in Gateway Foyer8:00 am - 8:45 am Annual Meeting Landmark Ballroom 5-6 8:00 am - 8:45 am First-timers Orientation Majestic Ballroom8:00 am - 8:45 am Sibling Orientation Landmark Ballroom 1-29:00 am - 10:15 am Opening Program Majestic Ballroom10:45 am - 12:00 pm Workshop Session 1 Pages 30-3312:00 pm - 2:00 pm Friday Luncheon Majestic Ballroom2:15 pm - 3:30 pm Workshop Session 2 Pages 34-374:00 pm - 5:15 pm Workshop Session 3 Pages 38-4255:30 pm - 8:00 pm Rolling with the Sibs Sibling Program Flamingo Bowl7:00 pm - 8:15 pm Friday Evening Workshops Page 278:30 pm - 12:30 am A Night at the Museum: Sib Style Sibling Program City Museum 9:00 pm - 10:00 pm Sharing Sessions Page 28-296 | Schedule

Saturday, July 286:00 am Structured, but Unstructured Running Group Meet in Hotel Lobby7:00 am - 9:00 am Coffee Bar and Breakfast Snacks The Gathering Place in Gateway Foyer7:45 am - 8:45 am Sharing Sessions Page 298:00 am - 12:00 pm Conference Check-in and On-site Registration Registration Office9:00 am - 10:15 am Workshop Session 4 Pages 43-4710:45 am - 12:00 pm Workshop Session 5 Pages 48-52 12:00 am - 1:30 pm Lunch on your own12:15 pm - 2:15 pm Regional Coordinator Lunch and Meeting Statler Room1:30 pm - 2:45 pm Workshop Session 6 Pages 53-573:15 pm - 4:30 pm Workshop Session 7 Pages 58-626:30 pm - 9:00 pm Saturday Dinner and Candle Lighting Majestic Ballroom9:30 pm - 10:30 pm Sharing Sessions Page 29Sunday, July 29 Chapel Service Majestic Ballroom A-H7:00 - 7:45 am 7:30 - 9:00 am Walk Registration Statler Ballroom8:30 - 9:30 am Walk to Remember 10:30 am - 11:30 am Closing Program Majestic BallroomPhotography Notice • July 26-29, 2018Please be aware that The Compassionate Friends has designated representatives to photograph and video during the sessions of the 41st NationalConference, dated July 26-29, 2018. As a participant, your likeness and/or voice may be utilized by The Compassionate Friends for informationsharing and outreach purposes. Unless we receive a written request from you to not use your voice or likeness, we will assume that your presence isconsent. Photographs and video from the 41st National Conference may be posted on our website, Facebook page, Twitter page, or YouTube Channel,and your voice or likeness may also appear there. Since this is a public event, media coverage also may occur. This consent will remain in effect untilsuch time as you give written notice of your removal of your release of information to The Compassionate Friends. If you have any questions, contactSara Zeigler, Communications Coordinator, [email protected] or 877.969.0010.#2018TCFConf Schedule | 7

CONFERENCE INFORMATION Conference Check-in and Onsite Registration Visit the Registration Office just outside the Landmark Ballroom to pick up your conference materials or to register onsite if you have not already pre-registered. The Conference Check-in and Onsite Registration area is sponsored in loving memory of their children, grandchildren and siblings gone too soon by The Manhattan Chapter The Conference Bags are sponsored in loving memory of Scott Preston Horsley by Open to Hope Foundation. Sibling Registration Area Siblings, please visit the Sibling Registration Area in the Landmark Ballroom Outer Foyer to pick up materials and find out about all the sibling activities. The Sibling Registration Area is sponsored in loving memory of River Daniel Wheeler and all children gone too soon by River's Rally and in loving memory of Dave Snepp by Karen Snepp. The Sibling Shirts are sponsored in loving memory of Paige Mackenzie Johnson by Kay Turley and Roger Lavallee. Name Badges and Lanyards For security reasons, name badges MUST be worn throughout the Conference. They are your identification and required for admittance to all general sessions, workshops, sharing sessions, opening session, and other functions. They provide recognition to all attendees and hotel security staff. Attendees who are newly bereaved are identified by a heart sticker on their name badges. Those attending a National TCF Conference for the first time are identified with a butterfly sticker on their badges. The lanyards are sponsored in loving memory of Phillip Dean, Brian Collins, and the Fort Worth Chapter’s children and siblings by the Firemen’s 5K Orientation for First-Time Attendees A first-time attendee orientation will be offered prior to the Opening Program on Friday morning at 8:00 am in Majestic Ballroom. If this is the first time you have attended a National TCF Conference, this session will give you tips on getting the most out of the Conference to make it a healing experience. The First-timers Orientation is sponsored in loving memory of Chance Morgan Allison by The Allison Family. Orientation for Siblings All who are participating in the sibling program are invited to attend this session on Friday morning at 8:00 am in Landmark Ballroom 1-2. Learn about the special activities planned for the siblings. The Sibling Orientation is sponsored in loving memory of Christopher Bauer by Maggie Bauer.8 |Conference Information

WorkshopsThere are more than 100 workshops from which to choose during the Conference weekend. Three workshop times areoffered on Friday and four on Saturday, each lasting 75 minutes, with breaks in between sessions. Please review theschedule of workshops to determine those you want to attend, and then acquaint yourself with the workshop locations.You can also download our conference app to help navigate the conference.Sharing SessionsSharing sessions will be held: Thursday evening from 9:00 to 10:00 pm; Friday evening from 9:00 to 10:00 pm; Saturdaymorning 7:45 - 8:45 am, and Saturday evening from 9:30 to 10:30 pm. Many different subjects are covered during thesharing sessions. Please refer to the sharing session list. Separate sharing sessions will be offered for siblings. This is anopportunity to meet and visit with other parents, siblings, and grandparents who share common circumstances. Sharingsessions are very much like a chapter meeting where everyone is invited to participate.Meet and Greet EventsAll Meet and Greet sessions are offered Thursday evening, 7:30 to 8:30 pm. A meet and greet is an opportunity to meetothers in person that you may have only met online or to meet others for the first time. Meet and Greets are organizedfor Facebook, Grandparents, Siblings, Online Chat, Men, Inclusion and Diversity, and the Board of Directors. Review theschedule for locations or download the conference app. The Facebook Meet and Greet is sponsored in loving memory of Justin Love by Myra Rousso. The Grandparent Meet and Greet is sponsored in loving memory of Skylar by Martha Monroe. The Inclusion and Diversity Commission Meet and Greet is sponsored in loving memory of Dale Lee Dullabaun, III by Carol and Dale, Sr. and Debbie and Dale, Jr. Dullabaun. The Sibling Meet and Greet is sponsored in loving memory of Beth Fargey by Maryellen Fargey.Friday Afternoon Luncheon and Saturday Dinner and Candle LightingThe Friday afternoon luncheon and Saturday dinner will be held in the Majestic Ballroom. If you have registered for themeals, your wristband(s) were given to you when you picked up your registration materials. We recommend you slipyour wristbands in the back of your name badge, so they will be handy when you get to the event. Some perimeter seatingwill be available after the meal for those persons who would like to listen to the speaker or participate in the Saturdayevening candle lighting event. The Friday Luncheon is sponsored in loving memory of Justin Lee Clayton by Lynn and Jerry Clayton. The Saturday Evening Dinner and Candle Lighting is sponsored in loving memory of Elsey by Mary Jo Peterson.Butterfly Boutique The Butterfly Boutique is in the Missouri room. The Butterfly Boutique is a sharing, healing, fun place where you can meetnew friends AND find a treasure or two to take home. Every item in our shop has been lovingly hand-crafted and/or donatedin memory of a loved one. Every dollar goes directly to TCF to help bereaved parents, grandparents and siblings. The boutiquewill be open Thursday 6:00 - 9:00 pm; Friday 10:30 am -12:00 pm and 1:00 - 7:00 pm; and Saturday 8:00 am - 5:00 pm. The Butterfly Boutique is sponsored in loving memory of Dave Snepp by Karl Snepp.Silent Auction/Raffle The silent auction and raffle is in the Gateway Ballroom. Browse the many selections of items; there’s sure to besomething that you’d like to bid on! The silent auction and raffle will be open on Friday from 8:00 am to 8:00 pm and onSaturday from 8:00 am to 6:00 pm. Silent Auction and raffle winners will be announced Saturday evening. Items wonmust be picked up by 11:00 pm Saturday night or the next highest bidder will be offered the item.The Silent Auction Raffle is sponsored in loving memory of Nina Westmoreland and Chris Seehuetter by Cathy and Greg Seehuetter.#2018TCFConf Conference Information|9

TCF Marketplace Be sure to visit the first-ever TCF Marketplace located in the Gateway Ballroom. The marketplace offers products such as books, jewelry, aroma therapy lotions, decorative glass, and many other items. The marketplace will be open Friday 8:00 am – 8:00 pm and Saturday 8:00 am - 6:00 pm. TCF Marketplace is sponsored in loving memory of Dave Snepp by Karl Snepp. Hug Station Visit the Hug Station tenderly created by Janet Ferjo in loving memory of Daniel Paul Rains located in the Landmark Outer Foyer. TCF Volunteers will be giving out free hugs all weekend. Stop by anytime for a free hug! The Hug Station is sponsored in loving memory of the children, siblings and grandchildren of the St. Paul Chapter of TCF by St. Paul Chapter of TCF The Gathering Place The Gathering Place is in the Gateway Foyer, just before the elevators to the guest rooms. Come in and relax and chat with friends old and new, as well as place a pin on the map to show where you came from! There is a secure charging station for your phone available, as well as coffee and breakfast items available for purchase, Friday and Saturday morning from 7:00 to 9:00 am. The Gathering Place will be open until 10:00 pm and will have tables available to display and share Chapter newsletters. A message board is available where you will be able to leave messages for other attendees. The Gathering Place is sponsored in loving memory of River Daniel Wheeler and all children gone too soon by River's Rally. Sibling Hospitality Area The Sibling Hospitality Area is in the Shaw/Lafayette Boardroom. Come in and relax and chat with friends old and new. The sibling hospitality area will be open until 11:00 pm. The Sibling Hospitality Area is sponsored in loving memory of Katrina \"Kara\" Tagget by Sara, David & Blake Tagget. Reflection Room The Reflection Room is in Westmoreland/Kingsbury rooms. Take a moment out of the busy Conference schedule to relax and reflect in the tranquil atmosphere of peace and serenity. The Reflection Room is sponsored in loving memory of all their children by Twin Forks/Hamptons Chapter. Conference Memento Area Visit the Majestic Ballroom Foyer and view the mementos with pictures of children throughout the country who are being remembered during this conference. Be sure to pick up your memento after the candle lighting Saturday evening. The Conference Memento Area is sponsored in loving memory of Phillip and Peter Levine by Marie Levine, TCF Board of Directors. Memorial Book Area Visit the Majestic Ballroom Foyer to view TCF's Memorial Books. These Memorial Books travel to all National Conferences. A submission box is available to add your child's, grandchild's or sibling's name. The Memorial Book Area is sponsored in loving memory of David Michael Copeland by Lois and Jay Copeland. Memory Boards The memory boards are in the Majestic Ballroom Foyer. Please feel free to share your loved one with others by placing a photo or memento on these boards. We ask that your display be no larger than 8” x 10” for everyone to have room. Pushpins will be provided. The Memory Boards are sponsored in loving memory of Mark Edler, Rich Edler, and Roxanne Moore by Kitty Edler.1 0 |Conference Information

Volunteer Information DeskA volunteer desk is in the Landmark Outer Foyer. Our volunteers will be happy to answer your questions. Volunteers canbe identified with bright yellow vests with our TCF logo on the back. Workshop monitors and various other volunteerassignments exist throughout the conference. If you have some extra time and would like to help, stop by the volunteerdesk and let us know. Additionally, a Lost and Found will be located at the volunteer desk. The Volunteer Information Desk is sponsored in loving memory of Justin Lee Clayton by Mark Gedlinske.Picture ButtonsThe Children's Picture Button table is in the Landmark Majestic Outer Foyer. Coupons for the table have been includedin your registration envelope to have a button made using a copy of your child’s, grandchild’s, or sibling’s picture. Colorcopies of your photos can be made near the button table. Special thanks to Kelly Pelster and Mary Seibert for managingthe button table. The Children's Picture Button Table is sponsored in loving memory of Samantha Seibert and Ken Seibert by Mary Seibert and in loving memory of their children, grandchildren and siblings gone too soon by TCF of Rochester MN Area ChapterCrafty CornerAs another expression of healing through creativity, Gail and Kathy will be expanding on their workshop “Bears, Quilts, andProjects in Memory of our Children” to provide a craft room experience for conference attendees. Crafty Corner, locatedin the Washington Room, will be open during the time that the workshops are in session. They will offer (5-6) prepared“Make and Take” crafts that can be completed easily at the conference, as well as examples of crafts that can be completedupon your return home, using your own loved one’s photos and belongings. Gail and Kathy are bereaved parents and havepresented their workshop at TCF National Conferences since 2007. The Crafty Corner is sponsored in loving memory of James Kyle Hubert by Amy and Jeff Hubert.Healing HavenHealing Haven is an area of relaxation, respite, and inner healing located in the Grand Tower on the 21st floor inthe Lucas and Flora rooms. With the chaos of grief, there is a need for us to find greater balance within. During theConference, Healing Haven offers this peaceful area to attendees. There are many options to help bring the body, mind,and spirit into that balance. Healing Haven will offer massage, the energy work of Reiki, a new area-mindfulness, lifecoaching, and meditation as other aspects of healing. Each of the sessions will be 15 to 20 minutes and are providedat no cost. The therapist and practitioners are generously donating their time to provide added healing to Conferenceattendees. Healing Haven will be open from 10:00 am - 5:00 pm both Friday and Saturday. Please sign-up for yourtherapeutic session on the 21st floor in the Grand Tower. The Healing Haven is sponsored in loving memory of Trey Cross by Vic Cross.Structured, but Unstructured Running GroupWelcomes beginners, intermediate, veteran, and running enthusiast. You can join us on Friday, Saturday, or bothmornings for a light stretch, 30 - 45 minute jog/run (whatever feels good on you), with a final stretch and hopefully a hug.Lace up your sneakers, wear flexible light weight/colored clothing, bring a water bottle, and lets hit the streets of St. Louis!The Running Group is sponsored in loving memory of Christopher Meadows by Tim Meadows, TCF Board of Directors.Sibling ArtA special art piece has been commissioned by The Compassionate Friends. The artist, bereaved sibling, Jessica Wilson,will feature cups made of porcelain clay, with a clear gloss glaze on the outside and sepia-toned decal images. The siblingcups will be displayed together, in the shape of a heart, with the red gloss glaze interior visible. Jessica’s sister, DeniseWilson Schaefer, died in 2014 from a rare blood disorder. Stop by to see Jessica’s creation commemorating the lives ofsiblings outside of the Majestic Ballroom.#2018TCFConf Conference Information|11

Inclusion and Diversity Commission The Compassionate Friends Inclusion and Diversity Commission is dedicated to helping TCF become more diverse at every level of our organization. Their hard work and dedication are helping us to expand our reach so that our message and services are available to all communities and cultures. As an opportunity for bereaved families to attend our conferences for the first time, each year the Inclusion and Diversity Commission offers 20 scholarships for qualified family members. With prior approval by the Board of Directors, these scholarships include: registration to over 100 workshops and sharing sessions, a bag with the program book, one lunch, one dinner and a shirt for The Walk to Remember. From its inception, this scholarship program has already made it possible for 60 families who have never attended our conferences to attend. Stop by the Inclusion and Diversity Commission table while at the conference. Open to Hope YouTube Video Booth Isn't it time you shared your story? Share your hope and wisdom with the world! Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley, of the Open to Hope Foundation, are giving you the unique opportunity to make your own free videos. You can also use the opportunity to promote your book, your workshop, or your TCF Chapter. Please stop by The Open to Hope booth, located in the Landmark Inner Foyer, to make your video or just say hello. Let the world know how you not only survived but thrived after loss! A Butterfly's Journey to a New Normal Photos Stop by A Butterfly’s Journey booth, located in the Landmark Inner Foyer. Join us for a free, beautiful experience of expressing your connection to your loved one through photography. Family and friends are photographed with a meaningful phrase written on their skin in washable ink. Photos may be taken alone, as couples, or in whole groups. Participants will have access to receive their photos after the conference. Be part of our free creative photo shoots that are fun, cathartic and open discussion about the difficult topic of grief. abutterflysjourney.org/photo-gallery. Sunday Morning Chapel Service We invite all those who are interested to participate in an interfaith chapel service before the Walk to Remember on Sunday morning at 7:00 am in the Majestic Ballroom. This short ecumenical service is intended as a time for each of us to reflect on what we’ve experienced during the Conference, to help us center and gather our thoughts as we prepare for our walk together, and to strengthen and encourage us as we leave the cocoon of the TCF family to return to our homes across the country. All are welcome. Readings, music, and personal reflection/prayer included in the program. Presented by Dennis Apple. Walk Signs The Walk Signs will be placed at Kiener Plaza, the midpoint of our Walk to Remember. Here, you will be able to enjoy fountains, a lawn area displaying all Walk Signs, a statute of \"The Olympic Runner\", and the iconic St. Louis Gateway Arch in the background. Be sure to bring your camera for this photo opportunity. As you leave Kiener Plaza, feel free to take your sign with you. If signs are not picked up, volunteers will return them to the hotel to be picked up outside the Majestic Ballroom. Too tired to walk back? A shuttle service will be provided by Heart to Heart Transportation, LLC back to the hotel between 9:30 a.m. to 10:30 a.m. A very special thanks to Jeanne and Tom Morse for spending time getting to know our children, grandchildren and siblings as they created each of these signs. The Walk to Remember is sponsored in loving memory of their children, grandchildren and siblings gone too soon by the Nashville Chapter of TCF.1 2 |Conference Information

COMMITTEEThe following people have given of their time, talent, and energy in memory of their children, brothers, sisters, andgrandchildren to make this a memorable Conference for all who attend: Conference Chair • Cathy Seehuetter, Nina's and Chris' Mom Butterfly Boutique Co-Chairs • Roy and Barbara Davies, Roy's and Taylor's Mom and Dad Crafty Corner Co-Chair • Gail Lafferty, Max’s Mom Crafty Corner Co-Chair • Kathy Rambo, Jason’s Mom The Gathering Place Co-Chairs • Susan and Gary Chan, Rachael's Mom and Dad, and TCF Topeka Chapter Healing Haven Co-Chair • Ann Walsh, Erika’s Mom Healing Haven Co-Chair • Pamela Hagens, Samuel's Mom Hug Booth Chair • Janet Ferjo, Danny's Mom Mementos Chair • Tricia Scherer, Donald’s Mom Outreach/Publicity Co-Chair • James Tharp, Brayden's Dad Outreach/Publicity Co-Chair • Olivia Garcia, Lorenzo's Mom Picture Buttons Chair • Kelly Pelster, Erin's Mom and Roger's Brother Reflection Room Co-Chairs • Donna and Ralph Goodrich, Lauren and Garth's Mom and Stepdad Registration Bag Co-Chair • Rita Studzinski, Julie's Mom Registration Bag Co-Chair • Cindy Blankenship Landry, Vaughn's Mom and Ronald's Brother Siblings Program Co-Chair • Cindy Tart, Dennis' Sister Siblings Program Co-Chair • Luci Abrahamson, Tony and Doug's Sister Signs Chair • JSue Williams, Bernard's Mom Silent Auction/Raffle Co-Chair • Theresa Iervolino, Jessica’s Mom TCF Marketplace Co-Chairs • Diane and Larry Gillen, Brendan’s Mom and Dad Volunteer Coordinator Co-Chairs • Gay Kahler and Brian Janes, Laura's Mom and Dad Walk Signs Co-Chairs • Dana and David Penn, JonDavid's Mom and Dad#2018TCFConf Conference Committee|13

SIBLINGS Welcome I would like to take a moment to welcome you to The Compassionate Friends National Conference in St. Louis. If this is your first time in attendance, please do not be nervous if other bereaved siblings introduce themselves just as soon as they see you. This is my favorite part of the conference every year! The feelings and experiences of those who are more newly bereaved have already been felt by some of the seasoned TCF Sibs who attend yearly. This group of seasoned TCF Sibs are filled with compassion, ideas for dealing with this grief journey, and hope. It is my hope that each one of you, no matter if it is your first time in attendance or not will meet someone new this year. We gather here this weekend due to the death of our brothers and sisters, but we leave with a sense of feeling understood and a newfound TCF Sib family. • Cindy Tart, “Big Sisser” to Dennis The Compassionate Friends Sibling Representative on the Board of Directors Rolling with the Sibs • Friday 5:30 - 8:00 pm Ages 9 – 17 for this event. We will be walking to the Flamingo Bowling alley, just around the corner from the hotel. There will be adult “Seasoned TCF Sibs” who will also participate in this event. We will meet in the hotel lobby near the main entrance at 5:30 pm and we will return by 8:00 pm. Dinner will be pizza and soda. There are very few tickets that still remain available at registration, so get yours as soon as you check in! Sponsored in loving of Scott Preston Horsley by Heidi, Gloria and Phil Horsley A Night at the Museum: Sib Style • Friday 8:30 pm - 12:30 am Ages – 18+. This will include finger foods, soda, water, and juices for the first hour. There will be adult beverages for sale to purchase with your own funds during our, “snack and relax” hour. After this, feel free to explore the City Museum and visit the Roof Top Lounge with beautiful views of the city. We will have transportation that will pick us up by 8:30 pm and we will be returned around 12:30 am. Meet in the lobby near the main entrance no later than 8:30 pm. There are very few tickets that remain, if you don’t have one purchase as soon as you check-in to registration. Surviving the Challenges of Life After Sibling Loss • Friday 9:30 - 10:30 pm Facilitated by Kathleen Fargey Sibling Sharing Session. Sponsored in loving of Beth Fargey by Maryellen Fargey1 4 |Siblings

DONATIONS$10,000 + Conference Simon Stephens Founder's CircleDale and Carol Dullabaun (grandparents)in loving memory of Dale Lee Dullabuan, IIINashville Chapterin loving memory of all their children, grandchildren and siblings gone too soonNationwide$5,000 - $9,999 Conference President's CircleAmy and Jeff Hubertin loving memory of James Kyle HubertOpen to Hopein loving memory of Scott Preston Horsley$2,500- $4,999 Conference Circle of LoveLynn and Jerry Claytonin loving memory of Justin Lee ClaytonFiremen's 5Kin loving memory of Phillip Dean, Brian Collins and the Fort Worth Chapter children and siblingsKitty Edlerin loving memory of Mark Edler, Rich Edler, and Roxanne MooreMark Gedlinskein loving memory of Justin Lee ClaytonMary Jo Petersonin loving memory of Elsey#2018TCFConf Donations |15

$1,000 - $2,499 Conference Circle of HopeVic Cross Debbie and Mark Rambisin loving memory of Trey Cross in loving memory of Tony RambisKaren Kerner and Joshua Goodman Cathy and Greg Seehuetterin loving memory of Zachary Goodman in loving memory of Nina Westmoreland and Chris SeehuetterMarie Levinein loving memory of Philip and Peter Levine Karen Snepp in loving memory of Dave Snepp, 1955-88River's Rallyin loving memory of River Daniel Wheeler and all Karl Sneppchildren gone too soon in loving memory of Dave Snepp$500 -$999 Conference Circle of SupportLois and Jay Copeland Sara Taggetin loving memory of David Michael Copeland in loving memory of Katrina \"Kara\" TaggetPeggi and Jeff Johnson Twin Forks Chapterin loving memory of Jordan McLeod Johnson in loving memory of all their children, grandchildren and siblings gone too soonManhattan Chapterin loving memory of all their children, grandchildren Mary Seibertand siblings gone too soon in loving memory of her daughter, Samantha Seibert and her husband, Ken SeibertSt. Paul Chapterin loving memory of all their children, grandchildren Sandy Wernerand siblings forever remembered in loving memory of Matthew J. WernerSpecial ThanksWater for Walk to Remember in loving memory of Philip and Peter Levine donated by Marie LevineHeart to Heart Transportation, LLCCork Angels in loving memory of their children, siblings and grandchildren donated by Harvey Chapter inNewton, KSNote Cards for Registration Bags in loving memory of Jonathan Goff donated by Erica Sivils from Chesapeake, MDPens for Registration Bags in loving memory of JonDavid Penn donated by Dana and David PennHandmade bases for the glass centerpieces in loving memory of their daughter Bethany donated by Kim andMike Mazur from St. Paul ChapterHeart Pins donated by LLOST FoundationConference Bag Tags in loving memory of their children, siblings and grandchildren loved and remembereddonated by St. Paul Chapter of TCFRegistration Bag Items in loving memory of River Daniel Wheeler donated by River's RallyJournals for Registration Bags donated by NationwideBears donated by Build-a-Bear1 6 |Donations

Silent Auction Donations Trip for two to New York, New YorkHandmade quilt donated by Barbara Lopez San Diego Chapter in Trip for two to the 2018 ESPY Awards Show in Los Angeles,loving memory of Gary and Vince Lopez CaliforniaTwo autographed collection of books, DVD’s and autographed A cruise vacation for two aboard Royal Caribbean International tophoto by world renowned medium James Van Praagh AlaskaOne-week stay in Edelweiss, a private home at the Nantahala Outdoor Trip for two to Hilton Head, South CarolinaCenter in the mountains of North Carolina donated by Victoria Lane,former Orlando Chapter leader in loving memory of Brett A NASCAR driving experience for one personSeasons of Hope handmade quilt donated by Sara and Don Lein in Trip for two to a NASCAR Sprint Cup Raceloving memory of Emily Anne Lein Race on Over to Charlotte, North Carolina, including Richard Petty27\" x 33\" Oil Painting called Butterfly painted specifically for TCF driving experience and entrance to the NASCAR Hall of Fame®by Marilyn Sunderman, now deceased, a local Iowa artist in lovingmemory of David Starr Trip for two to the 2019 Indianapolis 500Vegas Golden Knights Package donated by Gary McPheters in Trip for two to a MLB Spring training gameloving memory of all the children of the Henderson, NV Chapterwho died too soon A Trip for two to Chicago's classic Wrigley Field rooftop seats and dining experience for two-days and one-night (Land Only)Two handmade quilts donated by Jan Johnson in loving memory ofNiece Amy Ballentine and Cousin, Bobby Lane Fairmont Sonoma Mission Inn & Spa in a Junior Suite for two, including a private winery tour in a chauffeured limousineLadies Raymond Weil Parsifal wristwatch donated by Treiber andStraub and Deb Neuroth in loving memory of Joshua Erb Escape to the unspoiled natural beauty of Kenya, AfricaHandmade quilt donated by Amy Hubert in loving memory of Carriage ride through the historic streets during trip for two toJames Kyle Hubert Charleston, South CarolinaLas Vegas Southpoint Casino Package including hotel stay, dinner, Explore the great outdoors and go on a wildlife adventure inand show donated by Gary McPheters of the Henderson NV Jackson Hole, WyomingChapter in loving memory of all the children of the Henderson, NVChapter who died too soon See San Francisco's skyline shine under the moonlight on your Getaway to San Francisco, CaliforniaSterling silver Tiffany-inspired bracelet and necklace donated byMarie Levine of the Manhattan and East Quogue Chapter in loving Autographed Dave DeBusschere New York Knicks 8\" x 10\" photomemory of Peter Adam Levine with certificate of authenticityVintage alligator purse donated by Marie Levine of the Manhattan Autographed David Cone New York Mets white pinstripe majesticand East Quogue Chapters in loving memory of Peter Adam Levine throwback jerseyAutographed baseball signed by Middle Reliever Jeff Reardon of the Whitey Ford Autographed Official Major League BaseballMinnesota Twins World Series Champs donated by Phebe and JeffReardon NPB FL Chapter in loving memory of Shane Reardon Whitey Ford New York Yankees Autographed Gray Majestic JerseyAutographed framed photo of New York Yankee Jim Leyritz hitting Ronald Glen Fingers Autographed Official Major League Baseballhome run against Atlanta Braves and won the 1996 world seriesdonated by Jimmy Rose of Lighthouse Insurance in loving memory Autographed Paul Hornung Green Bay Packers Throwback Greenof Jessica Marie JerseyAngel figurines donated by Susan Chan of the Topeka KS Chapter Autographed Roger Staubach Dallas Cowboys 8\"x 10\" photoin loving memory of Rachael Reneé Chan Rod Carew California Angels autographed white Majestic JerseyKnitted kisses and hugs blanket donated by Virginia Iervolino in with certificate of authenticityloving memory of Jessica Marie Jerry West autographed indoor/outdoor basketball with certificateExcite your senses with a variety of wines in Sonoma, California of authenticity Autographed Gale Sayers Bears throwback blue jersey with certificate of authenticity Raffle Donations Metal & Capizzi Golden butterfly w/stand and Starbucks gift card donated by Lee Ann Meiborg of the Fox Valley IL Chapter in lovingTwo tickets to the St, Louis Cardinals game donated by The St, Louis memory of Amanda L. MeiborgCardinals Org in memory of all the lost children of TCFButterfly Basket donated by Karen of the Cincinnati North Chapter Indiana basket donated by Sharon Brockhaus in loving memory ofin memory of all our children our children of the Columbus City IN ChapterHooded children’s bath towel by Robin Correll of the SouthernHumboldt California Chapter in memory of Jake Correll Women’s golf basket donated by Linda Wallace in loving memory of our loved ones gone too soon of the Southwest FL Chapter#2018TCFConf Donations| 17

Golf basket with four rounds of golf at the Lexington Country Club Limited edition candle holder donated by local Long Island Businessdonated by Linda Wallace in memory of our loved ones gone toosoon of the Southwest FL Chapter Gold framed Lily prints donated by Two Times the CharmBreast Cancer basket donated by Rebecca Tardieu in loving memory Seasonal necklaces with jewelry box donated by Two Times theof Jessica Marie CharmSpa box donated by Patrick Dineen in loving memory of Jessica Marie Jewelry Basket donated by TapestryBook, A Father’s Journey autographed by the author, Mike Fedel Earring Basket donated by Tapestrydonated by Mike Fedel of the Ann Arbor MI Chapter in lovingmemory of Amy Fedel Three summer tote bags donated by POSHPrayer shawl donated by the Stuart FL Chapter in loving memory of Wine Basket donated by Theresa Iervolino in loving memory ofChristopher Jessica MariePrayer shawl donated by the Stuart FL Chapter in loving memory of Craft basket donated by The North Shore Chapter of Long Island inNephew Patrick loving memory of all our childrenButterfly’s are Free basket donated by Summer and Kenny Moore in Wreath donated by Barbara and Roy Davies in loving memory ofloving memory of Joshua Moore Roy and Taylor DaviesBoy and girl teddy bears donated by Kathy Rambo of the Livonia, Colorful beaded earrings donated by Monroe & Main to TCFMI Chapter in loving memory of Jason Rambo Alabama basket donated by the Auburn/ Opelika Chapter in lovingCrafty Corner basket donated by Kathy Rambo and Gail Lafferty in memory of all their childrenloving memory of Jason Rambo and Max Lafferty Little girls baby doll, knitted baby blankets, feeding items,Black and silver jewelry box donated by The Vintage Store, NYC accessories, baby bag, bottles, rattles and baby basket donated by Virginia Iervolino in loving memory of Jessica MarieBook Angel Catcher a journal of love and remembrance donatedby Bev Miller of the Vermont Chapter in memory of Nicholas Minnesota basket donated by Cathy Plumb Seehuetter in lovingMattingley memory of Nina and ChrisChildren in Flight - cookbook written by family and friends of Justin Butterfly pillow cases and butterfly blanket donated by BarbaraMahaffey and picnic items donated by Dana Lewis of the Louisville, Caligari in loving memory of Brendan CaligariKY Chapter in loving memory of Justin Brandon Mahaffey Collection of designer bags donated by Two times the CharmCast iron skillet donated by William Sonoma 32 Inch Toshiba TV donated by Best BuySinger Pixie Plus sewing machine donated by Joyce Drew in lovingmemory of Jessica Marie Vera Bradley tote bag set donated by Marie Levine of the Manhattan and East Quogue Chapter in loving memory of Peter$50.00 Gift Certificate from Discovery Toys PLUS 5% on all future Adam Levinepurchases going directly to TCF for 6 months donated by JackiDelaney of Discovery Toys Two Disney passes donated by Mary and Bob Lane of the Space Coast Chapter in loving memory of Amanda Lane GasserSports Bose headset for iPhone donated by Dennis Gravelle NorthCentral Mass Chapter in loving memory of Jacob J. Gravelle Kansas basket donated by Susan Chan of the Topeka KS Chapter in loving in memory of the children, grandchildren, and siblings of theBose headset donated by North Central Mass Chapter in loving Topeka, KS TCF Chapter.memory of all our children Basket of Avon products donated by local representative of AvonCeramic glazed sled with two children and two separate ceramicglazed ice skating children from Italy donated from the Iervolino/ Children’s Craft basket donated by Theresa Iervolino in lovingBifulco family in loving memory of their cousin Jessica Marie memory of Jessica MarieAuthentic tan pashmina sent from India donated by Malini Rao in “Love Necklace & Bracelet” donated by Linda Paige Tarwicki of theloving memory of Jessica Marie Ocala FL Chapter in loving Memory of AndyCrystal necklace donated by Swarovski Brighton butterfly necklace with crystals around wings donated by BrightonCrystal dish with sterling silver band donated by Stella RoseBoutique Brighton butterfly necklace with crystals in outline of butterfly donated by BrightonBox of seven Geneva watches donated by Tapestry Large Cedar live edge cutting board - the cedar is from KansasMother and child on carved wood tree stump donated by Virginia in - cheese knives - 2 KC Royals 2015 World series wine glasses - 2loving memory of Jessica Marie bottles of Kansas wine from local field vineyard donated by Gay Kahler and Brian Janes in loving memory of Laura Michelle JanesBag of Card, Dreamcatcher and Mickey Pillows donated by TwoTimes the Charm St. Louis Cardinal summer basket donated by Kari Jo Hamme in loving memory of son Nickolas Allan Hamme and sister Jodi AnnThomas Kincaid lighted Christmas house donated by Thomas Kelly LanglinaisKincaid Inc.1 8 |Donations

Shadow boxes donated by Kari Jo Hamme in loving memory of son Oklahoma basket donated to by Sharon Sosnakot-Elligton of theNickolas Allan Hamme & sister Jodi Ann Kelly Langlinais OKC Chapter in loving memory of all the lost children of the OKC ChapterDisney Tinker Bell lamp donated by The Disney Store in NYC Louisiana basket donated to by Jan Dutlah of the New OrleansSkin Care basket donated by Dr. Greenberg, plastic surgeon in Chapter in loving memory of all the lost children of the Newmemory of Jessica Marie Orleans ChapterTwo snowman family kits donated by Sabrina Majka in memory of Knitted scarf donated by Lindsey Bibler in loving memory of AlexJessica Marie and Tracey3 Gift Certificates for Lasik Surgery donated by Dr. Ming Wang Vintage butterfly mirror donated by Gay Kahler and Brian Janes ofof Nashville, KY and Pamela Hagens of the Nashville, Chapter in the Kansas Chapter in loving memory of Laura Michelle Janesloving memory of Samuel Sibling basket donated by Kari Jo Hamme in loving memory of sonDog and love keyring plaque donated by Something Special Nickolas Allan Hamme and sister Jodi Ann Kelly LanglinaisNew York Italian delicacy basket donated by Tuscany Market Virginia basket donated by the Roanoke VA Chapter In loving memory of Christopher Brunert, Kevin Butler, Andy Cameron,6-port universal multi-charger donated by Best Buy Leslie Crawford, Tia Gardner, Marissa Handy, Jeffrey Stiff and Dan SwestynSmall heart necklace donated by Jan Johnson in loving memory ofthe children lost in all the school shootings Thomas Kincaid lighthouse picture donated by Summer and Kenny Moore in memory of Joshua MooreLarge heart necklace donated by Jan Johnson in loving memory ofthe children lost in all the school shootings Thomas Kincaid woven place mats and table runner donated by Summer and Kenny Moore in memory of Joshua MooreKnitted shawl donated by Jan Johnson for all the Mom’s andGrandmothers who have comforted surviving family members Arizona basket donated by the Tucson AZ, Chapter in loving memory of Jessica Rose Russell - Alex Mendoza. Mauricio B.Chocolate, chocolate, chocolate basket donated by Summer and Salazar - Peter James Farrell - Chance Morgan AllisonKenny Moore in loving memory of Joshua Moore Michigan basket donated by the Livonia, MI Chapter in lovingThomas Kincaid book and devotional journal donated by Summer memory of all our children who died to soonand Kenny Moore in loving memory of Joshua Moore Breast Cancer basket donated by Kari Jo Hamme in loving memoryChapter Fundraising basket donated by Kim Own Mazur in loving of son Nickolas Allan Hamme and sister Jodi Ann Kelly Langlinaismemory of Bethany Lynn Mazur St. Louis Cardinals basket donated by Kari Jo Hamme in lovingCupcake basket donated by Kari Jo Hamme in loving memory of memory of son Nickolas Allan Hamme and sister Jodi Ann Kellyson Nickolas Allan Hamme and sister Jodi Ann Kelly Langlinais LanglinaisFishing baskets donated by Kari Jo Hamme in loving memory of Pamper Yourself basket donated by Kari Jo Hamme in lovingson Nickolas Allan Hamme and sister Jodi Ann Kelly Langlinais memory of son Nickolas Allan Hamme and sister Jodi Ann Kelly LanglinaisBear Hugs basket donated by Kari Jo Hamme in loving memory ofson Nickolas Allan Hamme and sister Jodi Ann Kelly Langlinais Love Lives Here basket donated by Kari Jo Hamme in loving memory of son Nickolas Allan Hamme and sister Jodi Ann KellyPeace, Love & Serenity basket donated by Kari Jo Hamme in loving Langlinaismemory of son Nickolas Allan Hamme and sister Jodi Ann KellyLanglinais Knitted Baby Hats donated by Maria Elena Iervolino in loving memory of JessicaButterfly Kisses basket donated by Kari Jo Hamme in lovingmemory of son Nickolas Allan Hamme and sister Jodi Ann Kelly Amazon gift & journal basket for the Soul donated by Helen Frost ofLanglinais the North Shore, LI Chapter in loving memory of James FarrellAngel bracelet and necklace donated by Linda’s Angels Personalized show charms donated by Pamela Hagens of the Nashville Chapter in loving memory of SamuelKitchen basket donated by Kari Jo Hamme in loving memory of sonNickolas Allan Hamme and sister Jodi Ann Kelly LanglinaisWork-out basket donated to by Michelle Ann Petry in lovingmemory of Jessica MarieMany, many thanks for all of the wonderful donations received before and during the TCF St. Louis Conference! Any/all donated items that were received after the printing of this book were also greatly appreciated.#2018TCFConf Donations| 19

KEYNOTE SPEAKERS Nisha Zenoff PhD, LMFT • Opening Program Nisha Zenoff PhD, LMFT has counseled bereaved individuals and families for over 35 years. Her dissertation was “The Mother’s Experience after the Sudden Death of a Child: Personal & Transpersonal Perspectives.” Nisha has presented a workshop at the national conference for The Compassionate Friends, the largest grief support organization in the US for bereaved families, the Bereaved Parents USA national gathering, and has been interviewed on radio and TV by the Open to Hope Foundation and NPR affiliates. She has led workshops at John F. Kennedy University, New School for Social Research, Esalen Institute, Naropa University & internationally, including England, Switzerland, Israel & Africa. Nisha is the co-facilitator and co-leader for the Marin California chapter of The Compassionate Friends. She is the author of The Unspeakable Loss: How Do You Live After a Child Dies? The book includes her personal story after the death of her 17-year-old son and her insight as a grief counselor and psychotherapist, and offers support, guidance and wisdom from others who have experienced the death of a child. The audio version of her book is narrated by Nisha. The book, published by DaCapo/Lifelong Press and Hachette Book Group, and the audio version were simultaneously released November 7, 2017. The Opening Program is sponsored in loving memory of Justin Lee Clayton by Mark Gedlinske. Stéphane Gerson • Friday Luncheon One summer, the Gerson family joins a group on a guided white-water rafting trip on a part of the Green River that runs near the border between Utah and Colorado. On that fateful July 27, 2008, Gerson’s 8-year-old son, Owen, drowned. Stéphane Gerson is a writer whose memoir Disaster Falls: A Family History (Crown, 2017) explores the death of his son Owen and its impact within his family. As Stéphane navigates his grief, the memoir expands to explore how society reacts to the death of a child. Gerson is a cultural historian and a professor of French studies at New York University. He has won several awards, including the Jacques Barzun Prize in Cultural History and the Laurence Wylie Prize in French Cultural Studies. He lives in Manhattan and Woodstock, New York, with his wife, Alison and two sons, Elliot and Julian. The Friday Luncheon is sponsored in loving memory of Justin Lee Clayton by Lynn and Jerry Clayton.2 0 |Keynote Speakers

Basia Mosinski • Saturday Evening Dinner and Candle Lighting In 1993, Basia’s stepson Logan died in a head-on train collision in the Midwest. The shock of his death moved through their family like a tsunami. In the wake of that disaster, compounded losses mounted. Logan’s death, along with 911, led Basia to become a psychotherapist and develop a thriving practice in New York City. In 2014, she decided to leave NY for Southern California to live near her son Richard. Tragically, he died suddenly nine months later of a pulmonary embolism on an airplane. Her life stopped. Basia currently is the founder & CEO of OneLife.Coach - Mind, Body, & Spiritual Alignment Coach. Healthy Lifestyle Specialist - 30-day Nutritional Reset. Finding purpose, meaning and wellness after major change. Grief, loss, and trauma specialist. TCF Newport Beach Chapter founder and chapter leader. Leader of ‘Open to Our Angels’ online group. Writer for Open to Hope ‘Loss of a Child’. Contact: www.onelife.coach The Saturday Evening Dinner and Candle Lighting is sponsored in loving memory of Elsey by Mary Jo PetersonChris Lourenco • Closing Program On July 4, 2003, Chris was only nine-years-old when a sailboat ride with his dad and two brothers turned from joy to horror as their sailboat struck low lying power lines. His older brothers, Zachary 17 and Alexander 14, were electrocuted in front of Chris’ eyes. This experience turned Chris’ world upside down, and he didn’t know what to do or where to turn. As the only surviving sibling, he felt that no-one understood what he was going through. Chris attended his first TCF national conference in Boston in 2005 and met other siblings. Since then, Chris has attended multiple TCF conferences and contributed a chapter in the book Sibling Loss Across the Lifespan. Over the years, Chris has strived to learn how to live with his grief, not let it define him. Chris holds a BS in industrial engineering from Clemson University and is currently completing his third year of graduate school at Texas A&M University where he is pursuing his PhD in industrial engineering and operations research. The Closing Program is sponsored in loving memory of Justin Lee Clayton by Lynn and Jerry Clayton.#2018TCFConf Keynote Speakers|21

SPECIAL GUESTSGary Blackburn Gary Blackburn, singer/songwriter/guitarist, is the father of 12 ½ year old son, Alex, who died in August of 2001. He later found TCF and attended meetings to help him with his deep grief. For the past three years, Gary has put on a benefit performance for TCF of Santa Cruz as his way of giving back for the support that he was given after the death of his son. He has recorded a song, “What’s It Gonna Take”, dedicated to Alex and to the TCF community, He also recently performed at the benefit for the victims of the Santa Fe High School shooting. Gary is originally from the San Joaquin Valley in central California, later moving to Santa Cruz to further his musical career.Denise Ganulin Denise performed at last year’s 40th national conference in Orlando for the first time in front of a crowd that large. Denise’s daughter, Holland, died in 2013. Previously, Denise had been a writer but never a singer. Since last year’s conference, she wrote a song for veterans who lost their lives called “Thank You, Soldier” and sang it on Veterans Day at the World War II Memorial and Korean War Memorial in Washington, D.C. She also sang her song “Don’t Know When” at the Bobby Resciniti Healing Hearts Foundation Angel Walk held in Parkland, Florida for those who were affected by the school shooting at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School at their “Day of Hope”. Denise says that since singing at last year’s TCF National Conference she has met so many amazing people and now sees that she is “truly not alone and never will be.”Sharon Ellington and Michelle Kott Sharon Ellington and Michelle Kott became members of The Compassionate Friends on Sept. 30th, 2007. Their 22-year-old son and brother, Robert Kenneth Kott, was struck head on by an impaired driver going the wrong way on the road with no headlights on. Sharon and Michelle walked through the doors of their first Compassionate Friends' meeting on Oct 11th, 2007. Since their music and singing has been an integral part of Sharon and Michelle’s lives, they could not give up that part of their lives. They have sung with church and community choirs. Michelle has also been a member of the Eric Whitacre Virtual Choirs for five events thus far. They are both honored to present the National Anthem for the Opening program.2 2 |Special Guests

AWARD RECIPIENTSMarcia Alig • Simon Stephens Award The recipient of this award shall have made significant contributions that have fostered and furthered the philosophy of TCF by practicing or promoting its mission and goals. Following the sudden death of her son Daniel in a school bus accident, Marcia Alig was desperate for help. She was greatly comforted when she discovered The Compassionate Friends and soon helped found the Mercer Area (NJ) Chapter. She subsequently served as Chapter Leader for several years. Within TCF she chaired the 3rd Eastern Regional Conference, served as the TCF Special Projects Coordinator, the Development Coordinator of TCF National, as coordinator of Chapter Leadership Training Programs, and presented numerous workshops at regional and national conferences. Many readers have found comfort, solace and guidance from her articles and poetry printed in various newsletters throughout the country.In the community, Marcia presents adult education classes concerning grief. She once helped a church establish its owngrief response team and sessions. She also served on the New Jersey Governor’s Task Force to create procedures fordeath notification and release of property following an unattended death. This was the first actual protocol in the nationand has since been established in most of the other states.For five years Marcia represented TCF at the National Funeral Directors’ Convention. Her presence helped to broadenthe recognition of TCF within that organization, as well as increase TCF awareness of many of the funeral directors inattendance. Many of the funeral directors she spoke to have referred grieving parents and families to TCF. Marcia wasthe 2006 recipient of the TCF Recognition Award. She served two terms on the National Board of Directors. Duringher tenure, she held the offices of Secretary, Vice President and became the first woman President.Married to Roger Alig for more than 54 years, Marcia is the mother of Daniel, Paul, Graham and Heidi and thegrandmother of Sophie, Zoe, Bruce, Cainen and Quenton. She lives in New Jersey and winters in Las Vegas.Beth Crocker • The Compassionate Service Award#2018TCFConf With the help of the Jersey Village High School TV department, just outside of Houston, TX, Beth Crocker created public service announcement and then donated this to the library of The Compassionate Friends for online access. She filmed a mock meeting of members of the Houston Northwest Chapter, which has been led by Chapter Leader David Hendricks since 2000. The short video shares bereaved parents sharing their advice to each other. Beth suffered the death of two daughters, now more than a decade ago. When first bereaved, she found the TCF online library filled with articles she was able to share with her friends and employer so they would have a better understanding of what she was going through. Per Beth, this was her chance to educate the world about child loss. Award Recipients|23

Barbara Starr • Recognition Award The recipient of this award shall be a bereaved parent, grandparent, or sibling who has contributed outstanding service to TCF at a national level over a period of years. Barbara became involved in TCF following the death of her son, David. David was a sophomore at Missouri University, when, while driving to the college bookstore, his car was struck broadside. He died the next day, on January 26, 1991. At the time of his death, David became an organ and tissue donor. Since that time, Barbara has been active with the Midwest Transplant Network, serving on their speaker’s bureau. She has spoken to churches, civic groups, schools and hospitals about the great need for donors and the comfort that can come from being able to have your loved one give life to another person. She is very involved with the Transplant Games of America. By profession, Barbara is a nurse in a Kansas City hospital, and extends her expertise as chairman of the hospital’s Donation and Transplantation Advisory Council and is also responsible for their Infant Loss Support Team. In her involvement with TCF, Barbara has been the facilitator of the Independence Chapter of TCF since 1992 and became Chapter Leader in 1999. In 2002, she took over for the former Regional Coordinator (RC), Glenda Tollivar, as a co-RC for Kansas City, Kansas and the State of Missouri with co-RC, Gay Kahler. Mitch Carmody • Recognition Award The recipient of this award shall be a bereaved parent, grandparent, or sibling who has contributed outstanding service to TCF at a national level over a period of years. Mitch Carmody’s son Kelly died of a brain tumor in 1987. Two years earlier, his twin sister Sandy and her two young sons were killed in an auto accident. Mitch turned his loss to legacy in 2002 when he published his book, Letters to My Son. Mitch has been heavily involved with The Compassionate Friends. His workshop “Whispers of Love” has been one of the highest-attended workshops in TCF conference history. Mitch also provides a wide variety of other compelling workshops on Proactive Grieving® at TCF national conferences and has spoken and presented workshops for hundreds of local chapters across the nation over the past 15 years. Mitch has served on the TCF national board; he has worked on conference planning committees, written articles for the TCF magazine, We Need Not Walk Alone, and for many chapter newsletters. For TCF conferences, he has keynoted, served on panels, performed interpretive sign, worked with Sibling Sunday presentations, provided massage at Healing Haven, and hosted historical sharing sessions that went late into the night. He is the creator of the innovative 20 Faces of Grief therapy cards and the S.T.A.I.R.S model of grief processing. Mitch has a YouTube channel for grievers called “Mr. Heartlight” and hosts his own radio show “Grief Chat” for over five years. Most recently, Mitch created the Day of Healing for Parkland, Florida this last May. Mitch married his childhood sweetheart Barb and they had two children, Kelly and Meagan, and are grandparents to Kinsey and Olivia.2 4 |Award Recipients

Cecile Buonocore • Memoriam Award Ceil Buonocore, a longtime resident of Wilmington, Delaware, became a part of The Compassionate Friends (TCF) after the loss of her son, John III, in a Rome airport terrorist attack in December of 1985. A people-oriented person, Ceil found her calling helping people with their grief after losing a loved one. She went on to lead the Brandywine Hundred Chapter of TCF for many years. She served on the TCF National Board of Directors from 1998 to 2004 and was vice-president for three of those six years. As a TCF friend wrote, “She epitomized dedication to TCF’s Mission and vision, fearlessly pursuing what is needed to get the job done, whether it was funds or favors.” One of Ceil’s favorite phrases was “No money, no mission.” Her willingness to take on huge tasks showed clearly when midstream she assumed the fundraising responsibilities for the 2005 national conference, producing a best-ever result, 350 miles from home. Selfless in all that she did; she recruited people to take on responsibilities, then publicly recognizedthem for their accomplishments. She instigated the past Compassionate Employer Recognition program. Ceil alsoreceived a Jefferson Award for her extensive volunteer service. The Jefferson Awards are given at both national and locallevels. Local winners are ordinary people who do extraordinary things without expectation of recognition. As anotherTCF friend stated, “There is no doubt that Ceil made significant contributions that had fostered and furthered thephilosophy of TCF by practicing or promoting its mission and goals.”Sue Snepp • Memoriam Award (Karl, Karen and Sue pictured here with TCF founder, Reverend Simon Stephens. The following bio was lovingly written by Sue’s husband Karl and their daughter Karen, “The Difference One Person Can Make”) Sue Snepp and her husband Karl started attending Valley Forge, PA TCF chapter meetings in 1988, a few months following the cancer death of their 32-year-old son Dave. The 1990 TCF national conference was in Philadelphia, and the local chapters were called on to provide volunteers for the conference. Anxious to use their cool Apple II computer and its dot-matrix printer, she worked with Karl to produce and distribute/update workshop room signs. This introduction to the national scope of TCF set the tone for Sue’s TCF future.After Karl retired, the Snepp’s moved to Tucson, and Sue was part of a core group of members that rejuvenated theTucson TCF chapter. During the Tucson years, Sue served as co-chapter leader and co-regional coordinator and chairedtwo regional conferences.If you ever visited their house in Tucson, you were likely to be put to work by Sue. There was the year of the bags ofTCF Worldwide Candle Lighting buttons being sent to each chapter, followed by the year of updated chapter leadermanuals going out to each chapter. Sue was a woman of action in support of TCF, and her dining room table oftenserved as the TCF distribution center.After TCF secured its largest grant to date in 1996 to develop and implement the Chapter Leadership Training Program,Sue served on the CLTP committee, helping to develop the program’s seven modules and deliver CLTP to over 500members of chapter leadership in 19 locations coast-to-coast, from the program’s 1997 introduction through 2002.Instrumental in the establishment of TCF Foundation, founded in 2000 to build and manage an endowment fund insupport of TCF, Sue served as its President from 2002-04. She also chaired its 2007 endowment campaign, raising morethan the $250,000 needed to secure a full match, and resulting in $514,000 raised for the Foundation endowment.Sue never stopped thinking about how to make TCF better for families, or how to best secure the future of TCF throughthe Foundation. Whenever she attended a national conference, including her final conference in Phoenix in 2016, shecould be found talking strategy with a TCF Foundation trustee or a TCF Board member.#2018TCFConf Award Recipients|25

Stephen Stott • Karen Snepp Outstanding Sibling Award The recipient of this award has made significant contributions that have fostered and furthered the philosophy of The Compassionate Friends sibling program, by practicing or promoting its mission and goals. Stephen is a gay bereaved sibling. His first encounter with grief and loss came about when he was 8-years-old, and he knew he felt different but did not know why. Fast forward 8 years, his sister, Stacy, was the first person he had told that he liked boys. Three day later, she died in a car accident he was also in. August 25, 2018 will mark 16 years that Stacy has not physically been on this earth and Stephen has lived 16 years with her alive and 16 years since her death. He has always been more comfortable being unnoticed by staying in the background and not making too much noise. Hindsight is 20/20 because we can sometimes understand something better as we get older and can look back to our past. As a child/teen, Stephen’s thoughts were not to stay hidden, but it was part instinct and part observation of see- ing how others were treated, even on tv programs. Who wants to be that one thing or one person that everyone hates, is talked negatively about, or is judged because of who they are? The same could be said about those who are bereaved. How many bereaved individuals like to be asked, why aren’t you over it? Why do you always talk about it? Why do you cry all the time? Why can’t you just be the person you were before? When we get these questions/judgments, we start to hide and withdraw. These are traits Stephen learned well before Stacy died. He felt lost, alone, hated, and was scared that someone would find out, so he did not talk about it. Stacy’s death could almost be a mask for him to not need to interact with others because as we all know, death makes people uncomfortable. If they know you are bereaved, people tend to avoid you all together. Sometimes when they know you are LGBTQ+, they avoid you simply because they are uncomfortable. Without TCF, Stephen does not know where he would be. Through attending the National Conferences, he has met countless siblings and made long lasting friendships. Ohana means family and family means that nobody gets left behind or forgotten. Mark and Stella Scafidi • Chapter Leadership Award The recipient of this award shall have made significant contributions that have fostered and furthered the philosophy of TCF by practicing or promoting its mission and goals. Stella and Mark Scafidi are on the Steering Committee of the Contra Costa Chapter in Walnut Creek, CA. Stella has been helping with the Chapter for over 15 years and at one time was Assistant Chapter Leader. Her husband, Mark, joined her in helping shortly after they married. They do this in honor of Stella’s son, Kevin, who died just before his 16th birthday in 1996. Kevin was on a Boy Scout outing when suddenly he collapsed. It was determined that he died from a twisted intestine. Mark never knew Kevin but got to know him by putting together a video presentation for Kevin’s 20-year anniversary. Mark talks about what a labor of love it was to do this for Stella and, at the same time, get to view Kevin’s beautiful spirit. Considered the “backbone” of their group, they are always there for their Chapter members, doing most of the tasks. They are the main support for the Contra Costa’s yearly events, including the Candle Lighting, special remembrance program and yearly picnic. For their potluck Holiday dinner, Mark even cooks the ham! As a Chapter member wrote, “Absolutely kind, special people that it is an honor to know and so deserving of the TCF Chapter Leadership Award for their many years of service.”2 6 |Award Recipients

SPECIAL PROGRAMSColor, Creativity, Grief and Gratitude • Friday 7:00 - 9:00 pmPresented by Joanne Fink Landmark 6/7Everyone’s grief journey is different—and expressing yourself through art and journaling can be extremely healing. In thishands-on workshop, participants will learn Zenspirations® meditative patterning techniques, and then use them to create aunique personalized design in memory of their loved one. Joanne Fink, author of When You Lose Someone You Love, will leadthe event and be available afterwards to answer questions.Supplies will be provided, but if you like to craft or color, you are welcome to bring your own tools. No artistic ability orexperience needed. Sponsored in loving memory of their children, grandchildren and siblings by St. Paul Chapter of TCFMore Than Words Can Say • Friday 7:00 - 8:15 pmPresented by Nate McClendon Majestic D/E“Music became a healer for me. And I learned to listen with all my being. I found that it could wipe away all the emotions offear and confusion relating to my family.” – Eric Clapton. The grief associated with losing a child, grandchild, or sibling isunparalleled. We are forced to adapt to a new life in which we may struggle to understand and express what it is we areexperiencing. Music can be a vessel through which we can explore our grief, store and experience our memories, and find aplace of peace. Music has also been biologically proven to reduce stress and anxiety, promoting mental and emotional healing.In this way, it can aid in our personal journey of grief and all of its transitions. While all types of music can be helpful, thissession will focus on instrumental music as a means of moving past the logic of language into the abstract freedom of sound.This session will also feature live musical performances and demonstrations by Nate McClendon (presenter, saxophone),Nathan McClendon (cello), Grace Gauthier (piano).Sponsored in loving memory of all children living in our hearts forever by Mesa-Tempe (AZ) Chapter of the Compassionate FriendsA Songwriter's Journey • Friday 7:00 - 8:15 pmPresented by Alan Pedersen Landmark 1/2Join award winning songwriter Alan Pedersen as he shares some of his most popular songs about love and life and the storybehind the music. Alan will share songs from each of his 4 CD’s recorded after the death of his 18-year-old daughter Ashley inan automobile accident in 2001. The evening will be uplifting and healing. Those who attend will feel wrapped in a beautifulblanket made of loving memories of their children, grandchildren and siblings.Sponsored in loving memory of Shelby Wayne Langley by Sandie and Johnny Sharp and Charlene Langley#2018TCFConf Special Programs |27

SHARING SESSIONS Sharing Sessions • Thursday 9:00 - 10:00 pmEarly Grief • facilitated by Dennis Apple • Landmark 2 Sponsored in loving memory of their sons, Dylan and Gavin, by Lora and David KrumGrieving as a Couple • facilitated by Lora and David Krum • Landmark 7 Sponsored in loving memory of their sons, Dylan and Gavin, by Lora and David KrumLoss Further Down the Road 5 Years and Beyond • facilitated by Barbara Reboratti • Majestic C Sponsored in loving memory of Jennifer Williams by Deborah and Ed WilliamsLoss of an Only Child/All Children • facilitated by Marie Levine • Landmark 5 Sponsored in loving memory of Samuel Katz remembered by Walter and Maxine KatzLoss to Homicide • facilitated by Steve Roberts • Majestic B Sponsored in loving memory of Bernard Williams by The Williams FamilyLoss to Substance Related Causes • facilitated by Barbara Allen • Landmark 3 Sponsored in loving memory of Tony Rambis by the Mark and Debbie Rambis FamilyReading Your Way Through Grief • facilitated by Ron Gallacher • Landmark 1 Sponsored in loving memory of Miss Lily by Ron and Alex GallacherSudden Death Vehicular • facilitated by Ann Khadalia • Majestic A Sponsored in loving memory of Austin Pittock by Rena and Richard MitchellToddler Loss • facilitated by Dana Penn • Landmark 6 Sponsored in loving memory of Skylar by Heather Monroe Sharing Sessions • Friday 9:00 - 10:00 pmDaughterless Mothers • facilitated by Donna Goodrich • Lindell Sponsored in loving memory of Lauren Marshall by Donna and Ralph GoodrichEarly Grief • facilitated by Ghislaine Thomsen • Landmark 3 Sponsored in loving memory of their beautiful Angel Andrea Mary by Henrik and Ghislaine ThomsenFriends of Bill • Pershing Healing When Faith is Not an Option • facilitated by Peggi Johnson • Landmark 1/2 Sponsored in loving memory of Brian McWilliams by Dianne McWilliams Humor in Grief • facilitated by Bob Baugher • Majestic H Sponsored in loving memory of Vinnie Simons by Lori JonesLoss of a Child 12 and Under • facilitated by Maria Perez Medina and Brian Medina • Majestic C Sponsored in loving memory of Brianna Medina by Maria Perez Medina and Brian MedinaLoss of an Only Child/All Your Children • facilitated by Joannie Kemling • Majestic F Sponsored in loving memory of their children, grandchildren and siblings by TCF St. Paul Chapter2 8 |Sharing Sessions

Loss to Substance Related Causes • facilitated by Nancy Juracka • Landmark 5 Sponsored in loving memory of Tony Rambis by the Mark and Debbie Rambis Family Loss to Suicide • facilitated by Leanna Leyes • Majestic B Sponsored in loving memory of their children by Loss to Suicide Facebook ModeratorsSudden Death Non-Vehicular • facilitated by Sarita Cunningham • Majestic A Sponsored in loving memory of Matthew Cvijanovich by Sheryl Cvijanovich Sharing Sessions • Saturday 7:45 - 8:45 amCoping with Celebrations After the Loss of a Twin • facilitated by Betty Koczan • Landmark 7 Sponsored in loving memory of John Anthony Koczan by Betty and Stephan KoczanDeath After Long-term Illness • facilitated by Patricia Timpanaro • Majestic A Sponsored in loving memory of Jeff Timpanaro by Pat TimpanaroDeath of an Adult Child - Married with Children • facilitated by Cathy Kelly • Landmark 1 Sponsored in loving memory of Joshua Erb by Deb and Jim Neuroth Faith and Grief • facilitated by Dennis and Buelah Apple • Landmark 3 Sponsored in loving memory of Nathan Young by Dana YoungFriends of Bill • Landmark 5 Loss to Cancer • facilitated by Rita Studzinski • Majestic C Sponsored in loving memory of Vaughn Landry by Cindy LandryMiscarriage and Stillbirth • facilitated by Andrew and Kelly Kittel • Pershing Sponsored in loving memory of Joshua Perkins by Rebecca and Jim PerkinsMultiple Loss • facilitated by Linda Wallace • Majestic B Sponsored in loving memory of Joshua Darrel Dziedzic by Paul and Barb DziedzicStabilize Energy During and After Grief • facilitated by Basia Mosinski • Majestic F Sponsored in loving memory of Sophia Ann West by Julia West Sharing Sessions • Saturday 9:30 - 10:30 pmGrandparents with Visitation Issues • facilitated by Katherine Bloom • Lindell Sponsored in loving memory of Kira Bloom by Katherine BloomInfant Loss - Losing Our Little Ones Before Life Barely Begins • facilitated by Sean and Christina Monaghan • Pershing Sponsored in loving memory of River Wheeler and all children gone too soon by River's RallyLoss of an Adopted Child • facilitated by Jeff and Peggi Johnson • Landmark 1 Sponsored in loving memory of Nina Westmoreland by Cathy and Greg Seehuetter Loss to Suicide • facilitated by Barb and Dave Bauer • Landmark 2 Sponsored in loving memory of Chris Seehuetter by Cathy and Greg SeehuetterMemorial Tattoos • facilitated by Julia West • Landmark 6 Sponsored in loving memory of River Wheeler and all children gone too soon by River's RallyMen Only • facilitated by Ron Gallacher • Landmark 3 Sponsored in loving memory of Miss Lily by Ron and Alex GallacherSpanish Speaking • facilitated by Nivia Vázquez • Landmark 7 Sponsored in loving memory of José Francisco \"Yoito\" Barreto by Nivia VázquezWomen Only • facilitated by Theresa Iervolino and Kit Danaher • Landmark 5 Sponsored in loving memory of Nina Westmoreland by Cathy and Greg Seehuetter#2018TCFConf Sharing Sessions|29

SESSION 1 WORKSHOPS Friday 10:45 am - 12:00 pmBeyond Losing a Loved One to a Substance Related Cause Landmark 6Death of the Difficult or Troubled Child PershingGood Grief: Learn Tools to Navigate Through Grief and Loss Landmark 2Handling the Holidays and Special Days Landmark 3How to Deal with Grief Bullies Landmark 1How to Get Back to Life After Your Child's Suicide Landmark 7It's Our Choice ... It's How We Survive! Landmark 5When Caregiving Comes to an End for a Special Needs Child LindellBeyond Losing a Loved One to a Substance Related CausePresented by Barbara Allen Landmark 6A child, grandchild or sibling’s death from any cause is a profound loss. When substances such as alcohol and/or drugsare involved, grief is often complicated by stigma and shame. Any indication of substances as a contributor to deathcomplicates our grief journey beyond the loss itself. Substance related deaths continue to skyrocket in every area of ourcountry with opioids (prescription drugs) and heroin the leading causes today. Moving from the outdated moral modelof ignorance to the medical model of disease, combining science with compassion, we find hope. Understanding thecomplexity of substance related issues, we erase stigma and discover a future. Together we learn to cope with anger, guiltand depression finding a new purpose beyond loss. No Shame or Blame ~ Just Love®. Sponsored in loving memory of Lance John Juracka by Nancy JurackaDeath of the Difficult or Troubled ChildPresented by Marcia Alig PershingThe isolation and loneliness experienced upon the death of a child, sibling or grandchild may be intensified by the waythe child lived. It is hard to talk about a difficult or troubled child to others who had “perfect” children. It was hardenough to talk about that child’s behavior or troubles when he/she was alive. This workshop provides a safe place todiscuss your difficult or troubled child, sibling or grandchild and the impact that that child has had upon your family,both before and after the child’s death. It may be your first opportunity to really tell your story. Extreme confidentialitywill be maintained. Sponsored in loving memory of Daniel Alig by Marcia and Roger Alig3 0 | Session 1 Workshops • Friday 10:45 am - 12:00 pm

Good Grief: Learn Tools to Navigate Through Grief and LossPresented by Susan Toler Carr Landmark 2A death not only affects families but also friends, peers, teachers, co-workers, community members and even strangers to thesituation. The onset of being faced with grief and loss can affect one’s ability to engage with others. Many people of all agescontinue to live with untold hardships and hidden traumas tucked away in their backpacks. The goals of this no-nonsensepresentation are to educate and provide some much-needed honesty and candor about a topic that everyone else is afraid todiscuss or bring out into the open. This session will offer effective methods for dealing with loss and sadness. Attendees will learnthe right things to say and the wrong things not to say when dealing with grief or loss. It will include visual presentations, quickgroup discussions and role-play activities. Attendees will be learning how they can positively navigate life after loss and helpothers deal with changes in their lives in a positive way. This session will educate parents, family members, and grandparents byproviding “Good Grief” educational guidelines that can help them acquire lifelong healthy responses for coping with situationsif they arise. Sponsored in loving memory of Roberta Louise Happe by Edie and Pete HappeHandling the Holidays and Special DaysPresented by Susan Chan Landmark 3Holidays and special days throughout the year can be very difficult for bereaved parents, especially those who are verynew in their grief. Because most holidays are so centered around family, they prove especially difficult for those whohave a \"missing chair at the table.\" This workshop will explore ways in which we can plan ahead for holidays, look foralternative ways in which to observe some holidays, and find meaningful ways to include our deceased love ones inthose special days. We will discuss coping strategies for helping the bereaved survive the holiday seasons. We will alsolook at special ways to honor birthdays and death anniversaries. Participants will be encouraged to share how they havesuccessfully integrated the holidays into their grief journey. Sponsored in loving memory of Rachel Reneé Chan by Susan and Gary ChanHow to Deal with Grief BulliesPresented by Dennis Apple Landmark 1Grief Bullies seem to be everywhere. They are the people in our lives who wish we would, “buck up and get over it.”They may be friends, co-workers, family members, clergy, and even well-intentioned counselors. This workshop willpoint out some of the tactics used by grief bullies. Also, information will be given on ways in which a bereaved parentcan push back and protect their own grief journey. Adequate time will be given to share ideas and suggestions as weseek to support and encourage one another. Bereaved parents, grandparents and siblings are welcome. Sponsored in loving memory of Ray Johnson, Jr. by Ruthie JohnsonHow to Get Back to Life After Your Child's SuicidePresented by Rebecca Tervo Landmark 7How is it possible to find hope after your child dies by suicide? Is it possible to find peace around their death? Whatabout happiness and joy? These are questions that haunt those of us that are left behind after our child leaves our worldin an unimaginable way. We are left with feelings like regret, guilt, shame, blame, anxiety and depression. It’s hard toimagine why this experience had to take place in our lives. It seems that no one else around us understands what weare facing or what we are going through. This workshop will help parents find hope and see the possibilities for theirfuture. Rebecca shares practical tools she used in her personal healing after her 17-year-old son Trevor’s suicide in 2012.Whether you are a parent who experienced a suicide death, or a family member or friend of a parent that is grieving asuicide loss, please join us and find inspiration to get you on the next step back to life. This workshop is designed forthose who are beyond their first year of grief, but all are welcome.#2018TCFConf Sponsored in loving memory of Jodi Ann \"Kelly\" Langlinais by Kari Hamme Friday 10:45 am - 12:00 pm • Session 1 Workshops |31

It's Our Choice ... It's How We Survive!Presented by Lora and Dave Krum Landmark 5Being intentional about keeping the memory of our children alive in our world. It wasn’t our choice to live the rest of ourlives this way (with emptiness, grief, sorrow, longing, etc.) since the death of our children, but we CAN choose the waysthat help us survive. For us, intentionally including remembrances of our children is what helps us survive. Our hope is,for those who may experience resistance from friends, family, co-workers and others, when they talk about or remembertheir children in some way, that they can feel encouraged and confident that it’s okay to do what feels right for them. Ifwe can help each other know it’s not “crazy” to mention and remember them, we can feel more confident in doing sowhen others think we shouldn’t. Hopefully, positive actions and approaches with others can help create awareness (andpossibly squelch cultural myths) in our society for the needs of grieving parents and families. Sponsored in loving memory of Mack by the Brady FamilyWhen Caregiving Comes to an End for a Special Needs ChildPresented by John Ashley LindellCaring for a child with disabilities is an all-consuming labor of love. Much of our identity is wrapped up in our specialneeds child. When they are gone, we lose that part of our being. We also lose part of who people perceive us to be, andwho we perceive ourselves to be. The guilt associated with feeling a sense of new found freedom, and not needing to beconnected to a hospital, therapy clinic, or even the pharmacy, can be paralyzing at times. We don’t go forward becausewe have spent so much time caring for our child, that we find a certain comfort in the “Non-stop” stress. We can learn togo forward with our lives without carrying a load of guilt. Our lives have been different for so long, we have a hard timeadjusting to the, so called, “new normal.” As any parent that has lost a child can tell you, there is nothing normal abouta life without your child. In this workshop we will explore how to find our place in this world again, deal with the guiltfeelings we have, and gain an understanding that we began grieving long before our child died. Sponsored in loving memory of Ryan K. Carpenter by Paulette and John Carpenter SESSION 1 SIBLINGS Friday 10:45 am - 12:00 pmAm I Still a Sibling PortlandA New Normal: \"Adulting\" After the Loss of a Sibling ParkviewParents Being Parents: A Panel BentonSuddenly Alone Aubert3 2 | Session 1 Workshops • Friday 10:45 am - 12:00 pm

Am I Still a Sibling Teens/AdultsPresented by Lisa Cohen PortlandWhen our brother or sister dies, our roles in the family change. For some of us, we become an only child, and for othersit is a change in position, such as now becoming the oldest or youngest child in the family. Many of us struggle withthese changes, along with the responsibilities that may come along with this new role. We can never replace our siblingwho has died, but we may need to take over some of their tasks in the family. We may ask ourselves things like - doestaking on this new role mean our sibling doesn’t “count” anymore, or how many siblings do I say I have now? Join fellowbereaved siblings in sharing these questions, and many others, with a goal of finding a way to answer them together. Andin a way that helps us move along in our journeys. Sponsored in loving memory of Tony and Doug Gratton by Gina RossiA New Normal: \"Adulting\" After the Loss of a Sibling Ages 18+Presented by Luciana Abrahamson ParkviewEven with our siblings gone, our lives move on and we day by day acclimate to our new normal. In this workshop we willhave a panel of adult siblings available to share their stories about how they “adult” as a bereaved siblings and handle dayto day life as well as different milestones. We will be available for questions and highly encourage participation. Sponsored in loving memory of Tony Rambis by his brother, Andy RambisParents Being Parents: A Panel Teens/AdultsPresented by Trish Stoskus BentonThis is a question and answer workshop for bereaved siblings (teens and up in age). The panel is made up of bereavedparents discussing why parents act the way they do whether or not we have suffered the death of a child or not. Sponsored in loving memory of their beloved siblings by St. Paul Chapter of TCFSuddenly Alone Teens/AdultsPresented by Jordon Ferber AubertThis workshop is for siblings who have become only children quite suddenly, whether by overdose, suicide, auto accident,heart attack or any other sudden loss. The sibling relationship is supposed to be the longest of our lives, so it’s not withoutits share of ups and downs. It is often a relationship that one can alternatively count on and take for granted. Becomingan only child after having had a sibling for most of or all of your life can bring many issues to a head, including dealingwith one’s parents by themselves (the pressure of creating grandchildren, etc.), unresolved sibling rivalries (survivorsguilt) as well as feelings of identity loss (who am I without my sibling?). This workshop will intend to make sense of thesefeelings while striving to incorporate them into our new lives as only children. Sponsored in loving memory of Julie Less by her loving sister, Susan Less#2018TCFConf Friday 10:45 am - 12:00 pm • Session 1 Workshops |33

SESSION 2 WORKSHOPS Friday 2:15 - 3:30 pmA Flower Picked Too Soon: Loss of a Child 12 and Under, A Panel Landmark 5How to Manage Your Grief in the Workplace PershingLoss of an Infant or Toddler, A Husband and Wife Present LindellLove Endures: Rituals Landmark 6 Landmark 3The Many Paths to Hope Following the Loss Due to a Medical Error,A PanelNavigating Life - It's a Journey Landmark 1Sibling Panel for Parents Landmark 7Survival Tips for the Newly Bereaved Landmark 2A Flower Picked Too Soon: Loss of a Child 12 and Under, A PanelPresented by Maria Perez Medina and Brian Medina Landmark 5Those of us who have lost a younger child are often a minority at TCF chapter meetings. However, we have many uniqueconcerns since our children were still in their formative years. For many parents, the death of a young child signifies the lossof one’s future, of hopes and dreams, of the multitude of milestones and the life moments that will never come to be. There isan overwhelming sense that “We never got to parent our children into teen and adulthood.” This panel workshop will featurebereaved parents who have traveled this journey before us. Ultimately, the journey may become one of hope again where westrive to let our child’s life, no matter how short, be seen as a gift to us and to others. We parents of “flowers picked too soon” seekto find ways to continue to love, honor, and value the lives of our children, and to make our child’s presence known and felt inthe lives of family and friends. This workshop will provide various opportunities to ask questions and share your stories as well.Sponsored in loving memory of Brianna Medina by Maria Perez Medina and Brian MedinaHow to Manage Your Grief in the WorkplacePresented by Stephanie Champion PershingThe largely ignored subject of parental (familial) grief in the workplace is examined in a way relevant to all stages ofbereavement. Topics include how parents struggle \"at work\" during the ordinary days as well as holidays, anniversaries orspecial times. We will discuss how and when problems may arise and how to find much needed support that can give asense of order and well-being. This workshop will help parents (families) gain clarity, knowledge and confidence to builda plan to face these challenges. The aim is for parents (families) to be empowered to cope with their grief at work.Sponsored in loving memory of Nickolas Allan Hamme by Kari Hamme3 4 | Session 2 Workshops • Friday 2:15 - 3:30 pm

Loss of an Infant or Toddler, A Husband and Wife PresentPresented by Kelly and Andrew Kittel LindellThere are many issues specific to the death of an infant and/or toddler and dealing with them can be very different formen and women. The Kittels will share the lessons they've learned and the unexpected gifts they've received in the 21years since Noah's death. They'll discuss difficult topics such as answering the question of how many children you have,how to parent surviving children, how to handle guilt, blame, anger and how to rediscover hopes and dreams again. Theywill leave ample time for questions and discussion. Sponsored in loving memory of Lorenzo B. Garcia by his loving parents, Olivia and Ruben GarciaLove Endures: RitualsPresented by Kathleen Hathaway Mitchel Landmark 6The death of a child, grandchild, or sibling at any age leaves us with intense and overwhelming emotions; wonderinghow we will survive. When our loved ones die, our love for them continues. Love is eternal. We are left with a sense ofhopelessness. We must learn how to live without them here. It takes hard work and time to feel as though we will survive.Rituals help us move forward. They help us regain some control over our lives. They help us as we find our way throughthe tears to peace and healing. As a group, we will share rituals that have been beneficial in our own lives. A handoutwith a list of rituals will be provided. Everyone will have the opportunity to reflect and write recollections of their child,grandchild, or sibling to create a unique “memory ornament” which can be taken home and displayed all year long. Sponsored in loving memory of Kelly Elizabeth Baker by Ancient Order of Hibernians, Fr. William Corby Division, Fairfax Station, VirginiaThe Many Paths to Hope Following the Loss Due to a Medical Error, A PanelPresented by Julia West Landmark 3When someone we love dies following a medical error our grief is accompanied by complicated feelings of helplessness,anger, guilt, betrayal, desire for justice and changes. This session will feature a panel of bereaved parents who will explorethe different options they pursued and how they began to find hope after the loss of a child due to medical error. Comeprepared to share your questions and your journey and together we will help each other find our unique paths. Sponsored in loving memory of Dustin Edward Mercer by Debbie and Bill MercerNavigating Life - It's a Journey and You're NOT Alone!Presented by Kelly and Jay Kovaleski Landmark 1The death of a child, grandchild or sibling is a catastrophic loss. Life is no longer what you thought it was. The past,present and future have been decimated yet somehow you are still breathing and are trying to get out of bed everyday. Navigating Life is about learning how to reframe your life. It may be loud and messy or quiet and neat; reframingyour life will be uniquely personal and will act as a guide to help you move forward while continuing to support therelationship you have with your child, grandchild or sibling. Using the cardinal directions of a compass, we help showparticipants how to create order within the chaos of grief and life after loss. In learning to navigate through life yourexclusive journey is honored and respected. No matter how long someone has been on their grief journey, the goal inNavigating Life is to help others find healing, hope and purpose. Life is a journey and you are not alone. Sponsored in loving memory of Nicholas Kovaleski by The Kovaleski FamilySibling Panel for ParentsPresented by Keith Singer Landmark 7This workshop has drawn a lot of attention over the years since many believe it to be the most beneficial to both parentsand siblings. There will be a panel of five to six siblings who will share their feelings and answer questions in a quest tohelp parents and siblings reopen the door to communication. Parents and grandparents will be able to ask questions thatthey only wish they could ask their surviving child(ren). Listening to a panel of siblings gives parents an inside look atwhat their surviving child(ren) may be thinking and feeling.#2018TCFConf Sponsored in loving memory of John Anthony Koczan by Betty and Stephan Koczan Friday 2:15 - 3:30 pm • Session 2 Workshops |35

Survival Tips for the Newly BereavedPresented by Betty Valentine and Linda Simione Landmark 2Newly bereaved parent, grandparent or sibling and struggling with the aftershock…anger, pain, and grief from the lossof your loved one? The Survival Guide for the Newly Bereaved will offer you tools to help you move from the darkness ofthe valley of grief to the New Horizon as a survivor. You can learn some of the triggers of your grief and how to prepareand brace for those special dates and ease the anxiety. Learn to baby step to your new normal and be a survivor. We canwalk you through some of the ways to handle the emotional roller coasters you may encounter on your grief journey. Wewill help you to attain the patience and serenity, as it is a long journey, but eventually putting laughter and joy back inyour life. There is hope and we want to help you to be a survivor. Sponsored in loving memory of Bernard Williams by the Williams Family SESSION 2 SIBLINGS Friday 2:15 - 3:30 pmIdentifying as LGBTQ+ and the Emotional Similarities that Grief & BentonLoss Bring Parkview AubertMourning the Sibling You Didn't Know or Don't Remember PortlandSeasoned Sibs - The Initial Shock Has Worn Off, Why Am I StillCrazy?Sibling Loss Sucks!Identifying as LGBTQ+ and the Emotional Similarities that Grief & Loss Bring All AgesPresented by Stephen Stott BentonThis workshop is open to any bereaved siblings (and parents and grandparents in Stephen’s other workshop) whoidentifies within the LGBTQ+ community to create a space of inclusivity and a place to feel like you belong, becauseyou do! Drawing on his own experiences of identifying within the LGBTQ+ community, Stephen would like to start adiscussion about the emotional similarities between sexual orientation and/or gender identity, and grief and loss. As aneight-year-old boy, he knew he was different. As an adult now, he can look back at being a child and having what couldbe considered an identity crisis. His world growing up was a world of isolation and confusion. What was this feeling?Why did he not see others like him? Since he did not see others like him, there must be something wrong with him.What did he do to deserve this? These same questions can also be asked by any bereaved individual. Who is he withoutStacy? He felt so alone, like no one will understand him. What did he do to deserve this? Stephen’s sister was the firstperson he came out to when he was 16. Three days later, she died in a car accident which Stephen was also in. Sponsored in loving memory of Stacy Stott by Susan Stott and Taylor Martel3 6 | Session 2 Workshops • Friday 2:15 - 3:30 pm

Mourning the Sibling You Didn't Know or Don't Remember All AgesPresented by Luciana Abrahamson ParkviewSome of us lost an older brother or sister before we were born or when we were very young. Some lost siblings soon afterbirth so we didn’t have much time with them. We are the outliers of our sibling group, not being able to share storiesor have as many pictures. In this workshop, come meet other siblings who have similar losses. Feel free to share yourexperiences and frustrations regarding your loss and hear how other siblings have coped. Questions, comments, and allparticipation encouraged. Sponsored in loving memory of Doug and Tony Gratton-Rossi by the Rossi FamilySeasoned Sibs - The Initial Shock Has Worn Off, Why Am I Still Crazy? Teens/AdultsPresented by Jordon Ferber and Cindy Tart AubertAfter you have been on this grief journey for more than 5 years, according to some that you know you should be overthis. Something those people have that you don’t is their sibling! Yes, you can have bad moments and moments whereyou miss your sibling immensely. That is the thing, as time goes on you may have bad moments and not bad days orweeks. Crazy is not a label I would use for seasoned siblings, it can be called a new normal. This is the new life withoutyour sibling physically being by your side. Jordan and Cindy are both many years down the road into sibling grief andcan offer help and hope if you are too. Sponsored in honor of Becky, Rachel and James Fisher by Wendy Bates FisherSibling Loss Sucks! Ages 18+Presented by Dr. Heidi Horsley PortlandAfter her 17-year-old brother Scott died, the most comforting words that anyone said to her was that sibling loss sucks!Losing her brother was the worst thing that ever happened to her; it turned her world upside down. Heidi has workedwith and interviewed hundreds of bereaved siblings, and many wonder how they will survive after a sibling loss. Theyquestion who they are without their sibling, and they worry about their parents. In this interactive workshop, Heidi willopenly discuss what helped her, after the death of her sibling, and what has helped the siblings she has worked with. Shewill also address the unique aspects and challenges of sibling death and get feedback from participants about issues theyare struggling with, and how they have found hope without their brother or sister.Sponsored in loving memory of Benjamin and Michael Wallace by Ben, Linda, Amanda and Annie Wallace#2018TCFConf Friday 2:15 - 3:30 pm • Session 2 Workshops |37

SESSION 3 WORKSHOPS Friday 4:00 - 5:15 pmBuilding Bridges of Hope Landmark 2Communication After Stigmatized Losses Majestic CDo No Harm Strategies for Grieving Families Landmark 3Extraordinary Lessons Learned After the Loss of All Children PershingFog Brain, Grief Attacks, and Tsunami Days Majestic BGetting and Choosing a Memorial Tattoo Majestic FHealing Improv Majestic G/HKeeping Their Memory Alive Majestic ALoss of a Child to Miscarriage/Stillbirth: Shattering the Silence! LindellLoss of an Infant or Toddler, A Panel Landmark 5The Sole/Soul Journey in Grief and Beyond Landmark 6Strong in the Broken Places Landmark 1Writing a Memoir of Your Child's Life Landmark 7Building Bridges of HopePresented by Sue Hamby Landmark 2Hope is necessary for one to not only survive but thrive in life. After losing a child, you not only lose hope but also loseyour will to live. Because of your loss, you must cross over the many rivers of despair and learn how to surf the waves ofgrief. The presenter will discuss the ways she was able to build a bridge to hope after finding her only child murdered. Shewill also discuss the scars of unforgiveness, bitterness, discouragement, and grief and how these scars can be transformedso you can not only start living again but enjoying life to the fullest even though you still miss your loved one. Sponsored in loving memory of Lauren Marshall by Donna and Ralph Goodrich3 8 | Session 3 Workshops • Friday 4:00 - 5:15 pm

Communication After Stigmatized LossesPresented by Sally O. Hastings Majestic CFor some bereaved parents, “How did your child die?” is a particularly painful question. Some bereaved parents canfind it difficult to communicate with other people; even other bereaved parents. Children die under circumstances thatcan trigger negative reactions and even judgments from others. This workshop begins by reviewing stigma from anacademic perspective, then turns to explore how communication is affected due to the unique nature of a stigmatizeddeath. We will then explore how to overcome some of the communication barriers associated with a stigmatized loss.The goal will be to comfort the grievers, regardless of the child’s cause of death.Sponsored in loving memory of Phillip Dean, Brian Collins and the Fort Worth Chapter children and siblings by Firemen's 5KDo No Harm Strategies for Grieving FamiliesPresented by Bill Jenkins Landmark 3Bill Jenkins, father of a murdered son and author of What to Do When the Police Leave: A Guide to the First Days ofTraumatic Loss has developed a series of neurologically sound “Do No Harm Strategies” for use by victims of traumaand those who work with them to augment other therapeutic efforts as well as for self-help. Expectations for bestoutcomes will be discussed as well as how these strategies can be implemented as lifestyle changes to achieve thesegoals. Using the latest research in the field, many long-held myths about grief and bereavement will also be challenged.Sponsored in loving memory of Phillip Dean, Brian Collins and the Fort Worth Chapter children and siblings by Firemen's 5KExtraordinary Lessons Learned After the Loss of All ChildrenPresented by Cathy Cheshire PershingWhen Cathy Cheshire’s one son died, she knew nothing about grief and did not want to go on until implementing a plan to im-prove all the areas of her life. She discovered the more she focuses on what she values, the less negative emotions are triggered.She passionately studied the work of traditional and progressive professionals with varied grief expertise. When her other sondied, the pain was the same, but she readily embraced her grief. Continuing to cultivate her life, her lessons became extraor-dinary. In honor of her sons, Cathy left a business career in healthcare and became an author, speaker, and the founder of theCertified Master Grief Coach program. This workshop is for adults and the objective is to provide hope and inspire attendeesto think about how they may thrive after loss. You will learn: 1) How to design and implement a life action plan; 2) How tobe resilient by using mindfulness to manage the connection between thought, emotion, and the body 3) How to experiencesadness and joy when grieving; 4) How focusing on the present moment sharpens intuition and inspiration to make heartfeltdecisions; and 5) How improving the body’s energy flow supports healing. *Worksheets will be provided. Q&A Sponsored in loving memory of Kelly Elizabeth Baker by Ancient Order of Hibernians, Fr. William Corby Division, Fairfax Station, VirginiaFog Brain, Grief Attacks, and Tsunami DaysPresented by Janice Bell Meisenheld Majestic BThe intensity of parental grief can be so overwhelming that parents commonly wonder, “Am I the only one who feels thisway?” With a wide variety of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms, such grieving can be confusing, distressing, anddysfunctional. This workshop offers reassurance of the multi-dimensional and individual manifestations of loss, as wellas the common trigger factors. The presenter will outline some common aspects and experiences reported by parents inthe science literature and offer strategies about ways to positively cope with such symptoms, including physical, cognitiveand emotional manifestations of grief. Participants will be invited to share their own experiences and methods for copingwith their own signs of distress, providing for learning from each other. At the end of this workshop, the participant willbe able to: 1) identify common experiences of grief relevant to their situation, and 2) list ways to address the symptomswhich most concern them. This workshop may be especially helpful to newly bereaved but applies to anyone strugglingwith grief and longing for reassurance, ways to manage, and comfort.Sponsored in loving memory of Phillip Dean, Brian Collins and the Fort Worth Chapter children and siblings by Firemen's 5K#2018TCFConf Friday 4:00 - 5:15 pm • Session 3 Workshops |39

Getting and Choosing a Memorial TattooPresented by Pam and Barry Ronner Majestic FFor the non-experienced or even the experienced tattoo wearer, the process of choosing the right tattoo to pay honorto a child passed can be a difficult and emotional one. \"What should I get?\" being the most common question, but also\"how do I choose an artist?\" In this group we will discuss both of those questions as well as safety (\"is the shop clean?\"),location (\"where should I place it?\"), size (\"how large should I go?\"), as well as other concerns (i.e. pain, healing, healthissues). Also, there will be explanations of different tattoo styles and options for thinking \"out of the box\" to makethe tattoo more personal and unique. At the end there will be a \"show and tell\" by people who have already gottenmemorial tattoos, and a Q&A for those still in process. Tattooed and non-tattooed people welcome: all ages or yearssince child passed. It's never too late to remember your child in this way. Sponsored in loving memory of Tony Rambis by the Mark and Debbie Rambis FamilyHealing ImprovPresented by Bart Sumner Majestic G/HHealing Improv is an interactive workshop where participants play improv games together to find the way back to laughter.After the death of his 10-year-old son David, Bart discovered it was his life’s work in improv comedy that helped himfind a way forward. Bart will lead the group in funny interactive games to increase communications, relieve stress, andmost importantly, give the participants the tools to give themselves permission to laugh and find joy again in their lives. Allthis in a safe environment of group love and support. Good for all grievers who feel ready to find some laughter again. Sponsored in loving memory of David Sumner by Healing ImprovKeeping Their Memory AlivePresented by Hollie Skinner Majestic ANo one wants their loved ones to be forgotten. We all want their lives to be remembered and celebrated for years tocome. Often, we want to do things in remembrance but don’t have any idea where to start! This workshop will cover amultitude of topics to ensure your loved one’s memory will live on. Hollie will provide a creative list of ideas for parents,grandparents and siblings to take home and implement in their lives and communities. A few topics include: how to starta scholarship fund, how to host a walk/5K, and sewing projects with their clothing. There will also be a time to discussother ideas those in attendance may have! Together we will all learn new and exciting ways to Keep Their Memory Alive.Sponsored in loving memory of children lost to parents of St. Mary of Sorrows Catholic Church by Knights of Columbus, Council 8600, Fairfax Station,VirginiaLoss of a Child to Miscarriage/Stillbirth: Shattering the Silence!Presented by Kelly Kittel LindellAll too often, the loss of a baby in utero is not talked about or, even worse, not even acknowledged. But for parents,grandparents, and siblings this loss is all too real and forever remains part of who we are. In this session we'll discuss theunique aspects of losing a baby to miscarriage or stillbirth. Whether your loss is recent or was decades ago, we’re happythat you’ve joined us to hear our stories and maybe share yours. Together, we can shatter the silence. Sponsored in loving memory of Remi June Bleiler by TCF of The WoodlandsLoss of an Infant or Toddler, A PanelPresented by Julia West Landmark 5There are so many issues specific to the death of an infant and/or toddler that will be addressed. The panel will introducethemselves and discuss topics/issues such as: Grieving with living children, future children, keeping memories alive,the loss of hopes, dreams and milestones, handling family/friends children growing/pregnancy announcements anddreaded questions, “How many children do you have?” The workshop participants will be encouraged to share their ownexperiences and ask questions.Sponsored in loving memory of River Wheeler and all children gone too soon by River's Rally4 0 | Session 3 Workshops • Friday 4:00 - 5:15 pm

The Sole/Soul Journey in Grief and BeyondPresented by Sara Ruble Landmark 6As we travel this grief journey we are really taking two journeys in one. The Sole Journey is the hard work that only wecan do…must do. Searching for meaning and answers to the toughest questions, we must also take care of ourselves,our families, our jobs, and even listen to our bodies as we are impacted physically. All this as we seek balance, peace,meaning, and understanding. No one else can do this work for us…it is our important work. The Soul Journey is the deepinternal heartfelt spiritual work of going beyond what we’ve known…to a deeper place of questioning and finding whattruths work for us, spiritually seeking the afterlife connection with our children, and discovering a deeper meaning in lifeand death and beyond. This interactive workshop is for those ready for greater spiritual meaning and awareness. Sponsored in loving memory of Scott Michael Jessie by Sara RubleStrong in the Broken PlacesPresented by Vicki Scalzitti Landmark 1Bereaved parents often feel exhausted and empty, wondering what to rely on in the darkest times. To steal fromShakespeare, “The [answer] lies not in the stars, but in ourselves…” Join us for an exploration of how our own uniqueselves – our talents, creativity, and strengths – can bring us safely through to a new appreciation of our own resilience inthe face of overwhelming grief. We’ll discover how the best things about us can get us through the worst of times.Sponsored in loving memory of Phillip Dean, Brian Collins and the Fort Worth Chapter children and siblings by Firemen's 5KWriting a Memoir of Your Child's LifePresented by Carla Linn Landmark 7The death of a child is the worst thing that can happen to a parent. You lose a big part of your future. What you don’t want tolose is the part of your life that you shared with your child. It is well known that keeping your child’s memory alive, saying yourchild’s name, and telling your child’s story are important to the grieving process and to the new life you did not choose. It is alsoknown that grief can affect your memory. Writing a memoir focuses your attention on capturing precious memories that canotherwise be lost. It is also a mechanism for filling in parts of your child’s life that were unknown to you: that are shared by friendsand acquaintances, or that come from your child in the form of mementos saved and journals and other writings left behind.Accumulating, organizing, and communicating those memories is a process that results in a written portrait of your child that canbe shared with friends and family, or published for a wider audience. It is a loving tribute to your child that will live on after you.Sponsored in loving memory of the children, grandchildren and siblings of the Ft. Worth Chapter by TCF Ft. Worth Chapter SESSION 3 SIBLINGS Friday 4:00 - 5:15 pmFor Siblings Who Are Parents: The Fears of Losing a Child After Losing a Sibling PortlandGetting a Grip on Grief ParkviewHow to Start a Sibling Group AubertMemories Last a Lifetime and Our Siblings Will Always Be Remembered Benton#2018TCFConf Friday 4:00 - 5:15 pm • Session 3 Workshops |41

For Siblings Who Are Parents: The Fears of Losing a Child After Losing a Sibling Ages 18+Presented by Andrea Keller and Lisa Cohen PortlandAre you a parent who has also lost a sibling? Losing a sibling sometimes brings the added fear of losing your child(ren)after losing a sibling. In this workshop, siblings will get together and discuss the additional levels of fear when raisingyour child(ren) and how to work thru the fears and gain ways to keep those thoughts at bay. Also, we will discuss theadded layer of taking care of our parents when we are raising kids, whether you are now an only child.Sponsored in loving memory of Nina Westmoreland and Chris Seehuetter by siblings Lisa Denninger, Amy Donovan and Dan SeehuetterGetting a Grip on Grief Teens/AdultsPresented by Maggie Bauer ParkviewGrief is an extremely hard concept to understand, yet it is something everyone will experience in their lifetime. Whensomeone better understands what it means and feels like to be in the depths of grief they are better able to care forthemselves. During this workshop definitions of grief will be shared along with the possible feelings grief invokes. Mythsabout grief will also be addressed. Lastly, healthy ways to deal with grief will be discussed.Sponsored in loving memory of Sara Schwarzauer by Lynne and Jerry SchwarzauerHow to Start a Sibling Group Ages 18+Presented by Keith Singer AubertAre you thinking about starting a TCF Sibling group? Are you interested in finding out what is involved? Maybe you arealready a chapter facilitator or part of a Sibling group and just looking for ideas on how to grow your group? This work-shop will provide clear steps you can follow to begin building a TCF Sibling group. It will also include general informa-tion about the expectations of being a chapter facilitator and basic information on how to facilitate an effective chaptermeeting. This will be an interactive workshop that will provide the information and confidence necessary to start a TCFSibling group.Sponsored in loving memory of their children and siblings lost by TCF Minneapolis Chapter #1301Memories Last a Lifetime and Our Siblings Will Always Be Remembered All AgesPresented by Kayla Thomas BentonLosing a sibling at any age can leave you feeling heart broken, empty, and lonely with the lingering question “what wouldmy sibling be like today?” Your sibling could have been your best friend or the only sibling you had, either way they werea huge part in your life. Everyone will experience days that will be easier than others but our sibling's memory will alwaysbe part of our daily routine in life. It is important to remember all the memories you and your sibling shared together.Being able to express your feelings and talk about these memories to other siblings that truly understand is a great feel-ing. Do you have a special way you remember your sibling daily? In this workshop you will be able to share with othersiblings one of your favorite memories of your beloved sibling and create a keepsake box to put whatever you would likein it to help you remember your sibling and the special memories you shared daily. Please feel free to bring pictures or anitem that represent your special memories with your sibling that you can put in the box. Sponsored in loving memory of Brian McWilliams by Dianne McWilliams4 2 | Session 3 Workshops • Friday 4:00 - 5:15 pm

SESSION 4 WORKSHOPS Saturday 9:00 - 10:15 amChapter Meeting Idea and Activities Majestic G/HCoping with Loss: Explore Different Ways to Express and Cope With Landmark 7Your GriefDeath to the Disease of Addiction, A Panel Landmark 5/6Fitness and Grief - Taking Care of Yourself Mentally and Physically Is Majestic Fthe Key!Grieving for Couples - How Men and Women Grieve Differently Landmark 2How Do I Know I'm Getting Better? Majestic ALaugh Your Way to Joy: Learning to Laugh After Loss Majestic BLoss Following a Long-Term Illness PershingStruggling to Reclaim My Faith Landmark 1Sudden Death Vehicular, A Panel Majestic DSurvivor of Suicide Loss 101 - Moving from Surviving to Thriving Landmark 3Chapter Meeting Ideas and ActivitiesPresented by Debbie and Mark Rambis Majestic G/HThis workshop is for anyone interested in facilitating a Compassionate Friends meeting or helping to plan activities. Thisinteractive workshop will provide ideas to re-focus the traditional sharing-only-meeting to focus on the child’s life inunusual ways. This is a place also to share your best ideas for successful meetings. The workshop will provide you with atake home of the purpose, materials needed and directions for each of the meeting ideas. Sponsored in loving memory of Sara Schwarzauer by Lynne and Jerry Schwarzauer#2018TCFConf Saturday 9:00 - 10:15 am • Session 4 Workshops |43

Coping with Loss: Explore Different Ways to Express and Cope with Your GriefPresented by Andrea Tritinger and Sandy Dillon Landmark 7Therapeutic art making helps us access the unconscious mind. Come join us as we explore different ways to express yourgrief. We will provide opportunities for therapeutic healing while tapping into the “right brain,” allowing creativity toflow. The focus will be on the process of creating, not the final result.Sponsored in loving memory of and in our honor of our loved ones by TCF Houston Inner LoopDeath to the Disease of Addiction, A PanelPresented by Nancy Juracka Landmark 5/6This panel will consist of parents from different walks of life that have had a child die from substance abuse. Whether they dealtwith the disease for many years or it was a sudden unexpected death, they will bring their own unique perspective of the effectson themselves and their family. Losing a child from addiction can be a very stigmatized loss and the parents on the panel willdiscuss how they were able to cope with this and many other issues unique to this type of loss. There will be time at the end forquestions and answers with the panel. Parents, grandparents, and siblings can benefit from this workshop.Sponsored in loving memory of their children and siblings lost by TCF Minneapolis Chapter #1301Fitness and Grief - Taking Care of Yourself Mentally and Physically Is the Key!Presented by Steve Parker Majestic FPhysical fitness can help you cope in the grief process. Our physical health helps our mental health. It is not the only solution,but can be an important part of the healing process. Exercise brings a sense of purpose and focus to an out-of-controlsituation with seemingly no hope. Exercise triggers the release of neurotransmitters such as endorphins, serotonin, dopamine,glutamate, and GABA, which are well-known for mood control. To even just get off the couch and walk, hike, swim, bike, ordance can be a big help. Grieving is unique for everyone! You have to walk before you run... literally and figuratively! Exercisecan be a diversion and give you back the sense of control that you lost on this journey. In this session, Steve will give ideas andsimple ways to get started and/or enhance what you are already doing so you can help yourself move in the right direction.You will understand how exercise benefits each person and how to start the process of making an individual plan. Sponsored in loving memory of Briellynn by Trey and Laura BullardGrieving for Couples - How Men and Women Grieve DifferentlyPresented by Carl and Judy Levy Landmark 2Men and women usually handle their emotions quite differently, including how they grieve. The death of a child has ahuge impact on a couple’s relationship. The biggest mistake that couples can make is to assume that because they sufferedthe same loss that they will grieve similarly. The gender differences in grief can cause confusion and misunderstandingfor couples. This can make it difficult for them to know how to best support each other during the grief and bereavementprocess. These differences and the best ways couples can support one another will be discussed in detail in this workshop.Sponsored in loving memory of Jessica Marie by Theresa Iervolino, TCF Board of DirectorsHow Do I Know I'm Getting Better?Presented by Bob Baugher, PhD Majestic AWhen your child, grandchild or sibling died, your world ended. Despite this, you went on to live a new life—a life in whichyou thought you would always feel the same. However, you’ve come to realize that, while the pain is still there, things havechanged. Join us as we discuss more than 50 responses of people like you who were asked, “As time went on, what were somemarkers that indicated you were getting better?” Note that this workshop is not about “getting over it” but rather a look at themany indicators that say, “I still miss my loved one every day, but perhaps there are some signs that I am getting a little better.” Sponsored in loving memory of Dustin Edward Mercer by Debbie and Bill Mercer4 4 | Session 4 Workshops • Saturday 9:00 - 10:15 am

Laugh Your Way to Joy: Learning to Laugh After LossPresented by Linda Shively Majestic BAfter a loss it may be difficult to find reasons to laugh. Laughter, like crying, can be a very healing emotional release. Thisinteractive workshop will demonstrate that you do not need humor or comedy to laugh. Thankfully, the body receives thesame physical and emotional benefits from simulated and real laughter. Together, we will use laughter as exercise combinedwith yoga breathing. Playful movements along with eye contact may turn simulated laughter into real laughter. You willlearn techniques to bring laughter into your everyday life. Come ready to move and laugh (all exercises can be adapted tovarious physical abilities). No prior yoga experience required. Wear regular clothes as long as you can move and breatheeasily. We will end with a meditation to center ourselves after the laughter. Attendees loved this workshop last year! Sponsored in honor of the 2018 Conference Committee by Cathy SeehuetterLoss Following a Long-Term IllnessPresented by Pat Timpanaro PershingWhen a family loses a child after a long-term illness, physical and emotional exhaustion are piled on top of grief. Pat, anexperienced R.N., felt all of this after losing her son, Jeff, to a 16-year battle with an auto-immune disease. Pat found comfortprimarily in her faith, but gradually also found comfort by reflecting on the words of others. Through poetry, essays,memoirs, and her own journal writing, she found consolation. She believes that sadness will always be present in her heart,but that she needs to make room for joy and other positive emotions. One way to do this is to reflect on the insights of otherswho have experienced a similar loss. Pat will provide handouts on excerpts of writing that she found helpful during themost difficult times, and participants will have the option of reflecting on these writings. Pat hopes these writings will resonatewith participants and they will encourage memories that comfort rather than torment. This session will be helpful for parents,grandparents, and siblings in the early stage of grief (less than 5 years) who find comfort in words and enjoy reading. Sponsored in loving memory of Rich by Donna FlynnStruggling to Reclaim My FaithPresented by Dennis Apple Landmark 1When Dennis discovered his eighteen-year old son, Denny, had died suddenly during the night on February 6, 1991, hescreamed, “Oh God, this isn’t supposed to happen to me.” For many years Dennis served as pastor and prayed every day for hisfamily. He lived under the assumption he was divinely protected from disasters experienced by others. After the shock of losinghis precious son, Denny, to “Mono,” he struggled many years, trying to find faith once again. This workshop will focus onsome of the ways the loss of a child affects a bereaved parent’s faith. Also, Dennis will share lessons he learned as a clergyman,struggling to find his way back. Anyone, regardless of faith, belief, or spiritual practice is invited to also share their journey as weseek to learn from and support one another. Bereaved parents, grandparents and siblings are welcome. Sponsored in loving memory of Jordan McLeod Johnson by Peggi and Jeff JohnsonSudden Death Vehicular, A PanelPresented by Ann Khadalia Majestic D/EThough any death of a child, sibling, or grandchild is a tragedy, no matter the cause, vehicular death has its own set of distinctdifferences with which one must deal. This workshop will include panel members who have lost their loved ones due toa vehicular accident in a variety of circumstances. Sensitive topics may be involved since often these subjects are difficult todiscuss with others who have not been in a similar situation. There will be ample time for discussion and questions for thepanel. Sponsored in loving memory of Jeremy by Master Grief Coach Cathy Cheshire#2018TCFConf Saturday 9:00 - 10:15 am • Session 4 Workshops |45

Survivor of Suicide Loss 101 - Moving from Surviving to ThrivingPresented by Diane and Larry Gillen Landmark 3The grief process following the death of a loved one is always difficult but a loss through suicide is like no other, andgrieving can be especially complex and traumatic. People coping with this kind of loss often need more support thanothers, but may get less. The intent of this workshop is to introduce participants to a variety of resources that areespecially developed for those who are grieving the loss of someone to suicide. Another focus will be on volunteeringopportunities and programs that are available for survivors of suicide loss. Participants will leave the workshop witha “toolkit” of sorts which will not only help with their healing but potentially make a difference in the lives of others.*This workshop is best suited for parents, grandparents and siblings who are at least two years out from their loss. Sponsored in loving memory of Brian E. Brenckman by Joy and Neil Brenckman SESSION 4 SIBLINGS Saturday 9:00 - 10:15 amFaith Shattered, Building the Pieces PortlandGot Ink? A Sharing Session BentonLosing a Sibling Late in Life ParkviewSibling Loss to a Substance Related Cause AubertFaith Shattered, Building the Pieces Teens/AdultsPresented by Cindy Tart PortlandThe day he died, all faith in God and Heaven was shattered. He was young, he still had prom, graduation, college,marriage, to become a dad and so much more! How could God allow this to happen? Where was God? Why didn’t hestop it? If you are a bereaved sibling ages 18 and above and have had similar thoughts, come and be a part of building thepieces, and finding hope and faith again.Sponsored in honor of all the TCF seasoned sibs by Cindy Tart, TCF Board of DirectorsGot Ink? A Sharing Session Teens/AdultsPresented by Katelyn Stoskus and Dylan Stoskus BentonThis sharing session is open to all grandparents, parents, and siblings alike. With the addition of the Memorial Tattooboard at a previous national conference, we realized just how many of us have commemorated our loved ones with ink inour skin and what amazing conversation pieces they are (within the conference). But outside of the conference, it can bedifficult to discuss the meaning behind the ink. Whether you are covered head to toe, have small hidden treasures meantonly for you, or are thinking of getting your first tattoo, this sharing session could be of help. This session can preparehow you answer the questions of “What’s that tattoo?”, “Why’d you get that?”, and “What does it mean?” Sponsored in loving memory of Tony Rambis by his sister, Billie Richardson4 6 | Session 4 Workshops • Saturday 9:00 - 10:15 am

Losing a Sibling Late in Life Ages 18+Presented by Bobbi Milne ParkviewYour sibling has been by your side for twenty plus years and/or more, and now suddenly they are no longer here. Thisworkshop, will be given by Bobbi Milne (age 70), whose sister, Auntie Gail, died at the age of 58. We will focus on theemotions one faces and the type of grief you experience, when a sibling dies later in your life. We will discuss questionssuch as: I was older, they were younger, why not me? Did I do everything I could for them? Did they know how much Ireally loved them? If your parents are still alive, do they still love me or miss my sibling more? These are just a few of theareas, as this workshop will definitely be open for discussion and other questions from attendees. Sponsored in loving memory of Clayton Andrew Glick by his parents, Cindy Grinstead-GlickSibling Loss to a Substance Related Cause Ages 18+Presented by Sarah Hartranft AubertAny sibling's death from any cause is a profound loss. When substances such as alcohol and/or drugs are involved, griefis often complicated by stigma and shame. Together we learn to cope with anger, guilt, and depression finding a newpurpose beyond loss. Sponsored in loving memory of Robert Dower by Barbara Dower#2018TCFConf Saturday 9:00 - 10:15 am • Session 4 Workshops |47

SESSION 5 WORKSHOPS Saturday 10:45 am - 12:00 pmAm I Still a Parent? Becoming Childless Majestic ABeing a Compassionate Friend to Ourselves Landmark 5/6Diversity and Grief PershingThe Gifts of Grief Landmark 7Grieving a Stigmatized Loss: How Parents and Siblings Heal, A Panel Majestic BHealing When Faith is Not an Option Landmark 1Help! I'm Worried About My Surviving Teen or Young Adult Child Landmark 2It Doesn't Hurt as Much Anymore - Now What Do I Do? Majestic D/EMultiple Loss, A Panel Majestic CSudden Loss, Resulting Differing Perspectives of a Parent and Child Majestic G/H Landmark 3When Grandparents Lose A Grandchild: Realities of Out of Se- Majestic Fquence LossWriting: A Workshop to Reveal and Heal for the Long-Term GrieverAm I Still a Parent? Becoming ChildlessPresented by Marie Levine Majestic AThis workshop covers not only the loss of a child (or all children) but the singular grief and additional questions thatcome with becoming suddenly childless. \"Am I still a parent?\", \"How do I answer the question 'do you have children'?\",“Who will care for me in my old age?\" and many more. Becoming childless presents a unique set of challenges. In thisworkshop, we will attempt to touch on many of the issues \"now childless\" parents may be reluctant to discuss.Sponsored in loving memory of Philip and Peter Levine by TCF Manhattan Chapter4 8 | Session 5 Workshops • Saturday 10:45 am - 12:00 pm

Being a Compassionate Friend to OurselvesPresented by Tanya Lord Landmark 5/6As Compassionate Friends we understand what it means to be compassionate to others, even when we ourselves arehurting. There can be a lot of healing in reaching out to others who hurt the way we do. However, how often do wefeel compassion towards ourselves? Do you find yourself being critical or judgmental with your own grief journey? Doyou use negative self-talk when you are struggling with life issues? Do you question and criticize yourself when youdo not live up to the standards you or others have set? This session will introduce the concepts and practices of Self-Compassion. Together we will explore how we can be a Compassionate Friend to ourselves. Sponsored in loving memory of Zack by the Leyes FamilyDiversity and Grief PershingPresented by Inclusion and Diversity Commission An open dialogue to understand the different facets of diversity and grief Sponsored in loving memory of David Michael Copeland by Lois and Jay CopelandThe Gifts of GriefPresented by Donna Goodrich Landmark 7This workshop is best suited for those who are not newly bereaved but are further along in their grief. This workshop willprovide hope to those bereaved who do not believe they will ever find anything positive in life again. We will help themrecognize the gifts or positives that they may have received following the death of their child, sibling or grandchild. Wewould give anything to have them alive again; however, since we know that cannot happen, we will open their hearts andminds to the gifts they may have received but did not realize them as such. These “gifts” can come in a number of ways,i.e., gifts we give ourselves (hope, courage), gifts given to us (kindness, compassion, understanding), and gifts that evolvewith our “new normal” life (personality changes, awareness of nature, compassion, and friendships that are so verypriceless). These are positives/gifts we would not have acquired without this loss in our life. Sponsored in loving memory of Kelly Elizabeth Baker by Ancient Order of Hibernians, Fr. William Corby Division, Fairfax Station, VirginiaGrieving a Stigmatized Loss: How Parents and Siblings Heal, A PanelPresented by Sara Tagget Majestic BA child’s death from any cause is devastating, but when their death is from suicide, homicide, disease of addiction,unknown cause, or other stigmatized manner, the grief of the surviving loved ones is often complicated by stigma andshame. How does one cope with all the feelings of complicated grief such as anger, guilt, betrayal, and depression whenoften no one wants to talk openly about the loss? A panel of individuals with varied types of stigmatized loss will sharetheir own grief experiences and coping strategies useful in dealing with their loss to not only survive but to thrive.Attendees of this workshop should expect open discussions in a supportive environment Sponsored in loving memory of Katrina \"Kara\" Tagget by Sara, David, and Blake Tagget#2018TCFConf Saturday 10:45 am - 12:00 pm • Session 5 Workshops |49

Healing When Faith is Not an OptionPresented by Peggi Johnson Landmark 1Many bereaved parents, grandparents, and siblings derive strength and solace from their religious beliefs. For thosegrievers who never embraced a religious view, or those grievers who have rejected their former beliefs in the wake oftheir loss, this workshop provides support, validation, and encouragement without reference to an afterlife, heaven, an-gels, reunification, or signs and messages. This workshop does not denigrate any religious belief, but it will provide a safehaven for those enduring their loss without a belief in any sort of higher power or supernatural phenomena. Since thenonreligious (or non-spiritual) are a minority, grievers with such world views can sometimes feel maligned, isolated, andmarginalized. The presenter will tell the story of the evolution of her beliefs and her story of loss. Stories of other non-believing grievers, including a parent, grandparent, and sibling, will be presented. Time will be allowed for commentsand sharing by participants. References and resources will be provided.Sponsored in loving memory of David Michael Copeland by Lois and Jay CopelandHelp! I'm Worried About My Surviving Teen or Young Adult ChildPresented by Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley Landmark 2Being a teenager or young adult can be stressful, even in the best of times. This makes dealing with the death of a siblingespecially difficult. Bereaved siblings often feel like their loss is overlooked and minimized. This mother/daughter team willtalk candidly about their own experiences from a parent and sibling perspective. They will focus on the “dos” and “don’ts”when dealing with teen and young adult grief. Lastly, important issues specific to parenting teens and young adults after thedeath of a sibling will be discussed. Bring your questions and concerns, we will have plenty of time for Q and A.Sponsored in loving memory of Big A by Allie Sims Franklin, TCF Board of DirectorsIt Doesn't Hurt as Much Anymore - Now What Do I Do?Presented by Bob Baugher, PhD Majestic D/EYou've experienced the most intense pain of your life. But, as you're beginning to feel better, you wonder what else youshould be doing with your life. In this workshop (not for the newly bereaved) we will explore where you are now in yourlife journey and where you might wish to go. Come prepared to do some writing and small-group sharing with otherparents and siblings.Sponsored in loving memory of the children, grandchildren and siblings of the Ft. Worth Chapter by TCF Ft. Worth ChapterMultiple Loss, A PanelPresented by Jacquie Edwards-Mitchell Majestic CThis workshop is for parents, grandparents and siblings, that have experienced the loss of more than one child, siblingor grandchild, either simultaneously or at different times. With open discussion on how to cope with two or morebirthdays as well as death dates.Sponsored in loving memory of Kareem and Kevin by Jacquie Edwards-Mitchell, TCF Board of DirectorsSudden Loss, Resulting Differing Perspectives of a Parent and ChildPresented by Denise Lourenco and Chris Lourenco Majestic G/HThis workshop is geared to both siblings and parents. Discussions will include surviving a catastrophic loss throughthe perspective of both a mother and surviving MALE sibling. Topics include, changes in family dynamics throughthe years, unilateral decision making, the different perspectives of grief, and coping methods resulting in frustrationsbetween mother and son. This will be an interactive workshop; audience participation and questions will be encouraged. Sponsored in loving memory of Michael G Horeth by Mike and Karen Horeth5 0 | Session 5 Workshops • Saturday 10:45 am - 12:00 pm