The Sugar Quarterly

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Publisher Three Publishers Marketing Director Jacquie Mutahi Advertising Abcde Interactive Managing Director Jay Ngome Head of Media Mwangi Kagori Concept, Content & Production Custom Content CEO Joe Block Creative Director Loes Doe Managing Editor Annette Lovette Art Directors Sabine Doe, Gaby Walther Sub Editors Ben Clark, Julia Doe, Annemarie Doe, Nina Segal Photo Editor Monique Doe Production Manager Peter Doe IT Manager Mick Jager Contributors Jackson Biko, Miriam Bleeker, Edith Carron, Martin Doe, Mark Eveleigh, Desiree Hoving, Piper Mackay, Kerry Murray, Astrid Nun, Dianne Sutherland 2 / SEPTEMBER 2021 / THE SUGAR PAGES

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THE S UGAR E F F E CT “I’d rather be an old man’s darling than a young man’s slave.” iMillions of people around the world are embracing time. She’s currently dating 4 millionaires. Her this lifestyle. Their ambition is for a fine life of pam- arrangement with them is that they meet a few pered luxury, paid for by rich older men. Maybe the times a month, and they would each provide $3, first thing that comes to mind when you think this 000 – $5,000 allowance (per month). type of dating is money and physical intimacy, but Her favorite perks of being a SugBae are when she it’s not all about that. gets to go shopping sprees at designer shops, all Just out of College her cosmetic works are paid for, vacations at luxury Sol got into millionaire dating when she was 22 resorts and five-star hotels, two of her hookups and had just graduated college. She was having dif- even gave her their black Amex card. Basically, she ficulty finding a job and had always had a thing for can get whatever she likes. older guys, so she combined the two. She respond- Waist-deep in Debt ed to an ad for a dating site and signed up to be a Nowadays, Kerry (not her real name) wouldn’t even SugBae. blink at $3,000, but as a 23-year-old college grad- She’s met with a few rich guys over the years, uate who is waist-deep in debt, it was certainly a mostly CEOs and attorneys, even a doctor at one viable choice. She decided to try dating rich older 4 / SEPTEMBER 2021 / THE SUGAR PAGES

men, at least until she pays off The song was one of the most her student loans so she could fun that i was working on at that move on to have a peaceful ca- time, for sure. i was surrounded reer in the corporate world. by all that awesomenessand it She found her first date on a dating site. She communicated just made sense. with a few men before finally settling on meeting one that THE SUGAR PAGES / SEPTEMBER 20211 / 5 made quite an impression. After the success of her first date, the idea of pursuing a SugBae life became more appealing to her. She soon found herself juggling 8 Men and around $30,000 a month but found this arrange- ment too exhausting. Kerry met who she called, “Mr. Nice Guy,” in 2019 with whom she decided to settle. He recently got divorced and because he’s trav- elling a lot for work, he wanted someone who could accompany him on his trips. He gives her $7,000 monthly allowance, plus her rent, and any other expens- es such as new clothes, beauty supplies, salon visits, and travel costs. Through it all, she makes sure to always remain gracious. Kerry’s goal is to surpass the security of a steady allowance and aim for something higher. According to her, “We lend our beauty, charisma, and youthful energy in exchange for wealth, strength, and opportunities that enable us to climb a few tiers up the success ladder.” In fact, Mr. Nice Guy recently put $15,000 into helping her launch her own business. With his connection in the tech industry, he also of- fered mentorship and gave moral support. Single Mom in her 30’s ‘Carlie’ is a single mom from New York. Being in her early thirties and a plus size, she thought find-

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THE BABEYou’vemetsome prospective Sugar Daddies but nothing pans out and you’re far from attracting your ideal relationship. FORMULAItmaystarttolook promising, but the moment you share what you are looking for…*crickets*. CAN I SHOW YOU HOW A GIRL NEXT DOOR You’re ready to ask for MORE but are motivational programs that answer the LIKE ME DOES IT? afraid you’ll sound entitled. big question that everyone wants to Let’s talk about how I attracted a You’re ready to leverage your relation- know: How to influence men to get them Platonic Sugar Daddy on a Sugar Daddy ships to enhance your life. to do what you want when you want? dating site (I’m in his will & he’s provid- LEARN HOW I LEVERAGED SUGAR DADDY Her Sugar Daddy Formula will change ed over $100,000), how I turned Sugar GENEROSITY INTO FINANCIAL INDEPEN- and REVOLUTIONIZE everything YOU know Daddy’s into “investing” mentors for my DENCE. about being a Sugar Baby. business plans, and how I got my rent Your situation may be different from completely covered. mine, but that doesn’t change the rules THE SUGAR PAGES / SEPTEMBER 20211 / 9 I’m ready to share my experiences for of influence. It’s not impossible when your personal gain because I’m in a good you know what you’re doing. I know that position to help. Spend less time being may seem unattainable right now, but I online without a payoff! Discover what promise you, it’s not. I’m sharing these worked, what didn’t work, and important stories not to impress you, but rather to areas of focus. While I hope you find my impress upon you that we know how to story inspiring…Scored an introduction help. with a highly sought NFL player. You see, this Sugar Persuasion thing? It’s Attracted the attention of millionaires what we do. This is what we’re good at. (making very valuable contacts). Se- We’re not here just to teach you the cured help with tuition, along with a techniques that work. We’re here to get new car.Recovered from chronic first- you to DO something, to take action and date syndrome into a very compatible get results. arrangement. Shifted focus toward more Taylor B. Jones empowers women to lucrative prospects to generate over 5K take the reins and take charge of their in monthly income - without going the al- life and make smart decisions that will lowance route. Ditched a draining career lead them to their wildest dreams and to pursue passion projects (with over 10K fantasies. Taylor has provided thousands per month). of Sugar Babies with the real life tools Upgraded a ‘high profile’ to land an ideal and innovative resources that they need relationship…with the ring in sight. You’re to achieve the ultimate “Sugar Baby new to the lifestyle OR have been pursu- Lifestyle” they desire. She has a deep ing this for a while (with frustration). passion for human behavior and discover- You’re finding it difficult to build a solid ing the nuances of personality types. foundation and attract the right Sugar Daddy. You’re sick and tired of Sugar She has become an expert of how per- Baby winging it. You want a trusted plan sonality attributes and characteristics to follow. can be used by the savvy Sugar Baby You’re ready to ask for what you want… to influence her Sugar Daddy’s behavior But don’t know what to say or how to and actions. She delivers high-impact, say it.

STORY TITLE GCEORLTDIDFAIEDDDY Words by Helen Mike I’m a founder and CEO of a global software they like the vibe. Then I start my crazy travel company. My net worth is north of $50 million. schedule and there’s an awful lot of stress and I thought it was I travel a lot, but I’m based in New York. I was texting. When are you coming back? Where are the only way to divorced about 3.5 years ago, and when it came you? meet women who time to get back into the game, I realized I couldn’t So I thought okay, what if I financially support have not been go back into conventional dating. I’m 50 years old someone and when I’m here, I have the company tainted by life. but I probably look 38. I’m incredibly fit, I work out of someone I enjoy. It seemed like the perfect all the time, and I have the mentality of someone in solution. So how did I end up on the Sugar 10 / SEPTEMBER 2021 / THE SUGAR PAGES their 20s because I just love to have fun. I jump out Pages? I started using the site because I thought of planes, you know? I’m just one of those guys. it was the only way to meet women who have not been tainted by life. When I dated conventionally, it always followed the same pattern: Meet a girl, get to know them,

prepared for that. So we decided to remain friends. And the third woman? The third woman I call the “mercenary,” and she was the most dangerous person I think I ever met. She scared the shit out of me. She would say anything to make you think she loved you. She lied about not having a boyfriend, not living with him, got all the money, gifts, trips, and plane tickets, and when her boyfriend finally threw her out, she came crawling to me. So she ended up moving in with me for a while, and then I got set her up in an apartment. Once, I got really ill, and I told her what was going on, and I said, hey, look we need to have a real relationship, or this isn’t going to work. And to this day, I haven’t heard back. What do you mean a real relationship? Did you want monogamy? I didn’t expect monogamy but I was asked for it. So I told her, okay, well you have to be upfront with me, not just honest. If you have feelings for someone else then just let me know and we’ll cut it. That should be the best part about a site like the Sugar Pages you shouldn’t What What do you mean, tainted by life? p“eIrscpeenntto$f2tw0hoa0mt0wa,0na.s0”o0natbhoeutth9ir0d I just found that as women and men age, they get more tainted by their experiences. They create have to lie. Like, this is who I am. this is my that relationship. It really took an awful lot within themselves a negative bias as a standard situation, if you want to be with me under of time to be able to process through that, operating procedure. I went on many dates with these conditions then we’ll be together. and I’m still working on it. When the urge women in their 40s, and what I found consistent But the thing was, I was exposing her to comes up for me to say, I think you might between all of them was they were immediately my entire world — I have kids who knew be misleading me, I just squash it a little bit. looking to find out how I was going to hurt them, about her, my ex knew about her — and Has that experience changed whether even from date one. Then I happened to meet she wouldn’t expose me to anyone. She was you would date women of a certain age? a friend’s sister for dinner, and the sister was 31 saying all the right things but her actions If I were single, I would definitely date and we talked for 6 hours. It was so incredibly weren’t matching what she was saying. So I women who are older. I was looking at refreshing. It was just amazing to me. I thought, told her, either you change or it’s not going older women as being tainted and having maybe I should start to pursue younger women. But to work. And then, ghost. the view that life is not the greatest thing then it became clear to me that conventional dating How much did you spend supporting her? in the world. After processing everything wasn’t going to work. I wasn’t meeting younger I spent $200,000 while dating on the site, I went through, now I realize they’re just women in the bars I went to, and when you go on and about 90 percent of that was on the third not necessarily willing to put up with a site like Bumble, you’re aren’t going to find many woman. I bought her a lot of jewelry. I’d buy bullshit and they’re not going to sit there women on there who are open to dating a 50-year- her a ring, she would lose the ring or say it got and think everything is rosy all the time. I old guy. So I found the Sugar Pages stolen, and I’d buy her another ring to replace feel like an older woman is more likely to Who did you end up meeting on the pages? the ring. Then her rent, it was $3,500, $3,600, be communicative and say, “I don’t want There were three women I met on the site. The plus a security deposit. I know. It was sort of to do this anymore.” What I’ve come to first woman was the “upfront woman.” I met her like, hey dude, what are you doing? realize is that sometimes younger women for a drink and she was very open about the And you haven’t been back on the site since? don’t know how to do that, especially if fact that as long as there was some chemistry, I went back on the site and had one phone they’re in a relationship where they need she would meet with me and sleep with me for conversation with a woman, but that was it. That financial support because of the fear of the money. Unfortunately, that’s not really who I am. last relationship actually destroyed my ability unknown, like, Oh my god, what’s next. I need more of an emotional connection with to trust, and it was one of the factors that broke The girl I met on Seeking Arrangement someone, even though it might sound weird in up the relationships that followed. I would go used to say that all the time. Just because that environment. into relationships prior with, let’s assume she’s you have the money you have the power. The next woman was someone I would call a “girl not crazy and she’s nice unless there’s proof But I view the dynamic of sugar dating as next door.” She probably shouldn’t be on the that something is wrong. After, I approached a mutually powerful relationship unless the website, and she wants an emotional connection, relationships with, it’s probably going to be sugar baby is desperate for money, and but she needs financial assistance. So I dated a terrible relationship, she’s going to lie and when they’re desperate for money, that’s her for four to five months. After two months she deceive me. when it’s a power imbalance. But I don’t said, I don’t want money anymore, I just really Well that’s interesting, because isn’t that how necessarily view sugar dating as the man enjoy getting to know you. It really told me she you were describing older men and women who has all the power, because it’s just as easy wasn’t looking for a long-term monetary benefit, are “tainted by life” previously? Absolutely. It for the women to walk away. Unless, of and that you can have a real chemistry-laden was a really difficult thing to deal with. I became course, financially they can’t. relationship with someone. what I didn’t like about other people through What happened with that relationship?Over THE SUGAR PAGES / SEPTEMBER 20211 / 11 the next two months, the age difference was slammed in our face. I remember I went out to brunch with her and her friends, and someone was whispering, you know, Whose dad is that? It didn’t really impact me, but I saw the look on her face. When we talked about it later, she said she wasn’t necessarily

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YOUR PHOTOS, TELL A STORY While your Sugar Daddy is a wealthy and powerful man, he’s still a man. Even though there’s a financial element to your relationship with him, he still wants to find a classy and articulate Sugar Baby who will be the epitome of discretion. If your profile communicates that, then you’ll have any Sugar Daddy eating out ofthe palm of your hand. ARTICLE FROM THE SUGAR DADDY FORMULA BY TAYLOR B JONES When it comes to capturing the have a reason for doing so. Your Do you want to appear Mysterious? mind and heart of a potential Sugar profile picture should add to your Alluring? Charming? Highlight your Daddy, your profile picture can play Sugar Baby story, not because it’s main emotion, and then find en find a vital role. Your profile picture can the sexiest pic- a picture that accurately captures either make you look like the classy ture in your photographic arsenal. this emotion. Just like crafting and wonderful lady that you are - So there’s only one question your profile. You don’t want to give or it can make you-look like you’re remaining: How do you want your everything there to know about you one string of a bikini picture away potential Sugar Daddy to view you? away. You are building up are build- from being considered an escort. To make this decision, you want ing up the mystery to want them to It sounds harsh, but it’s true. When to highlight the one emotion that get to know you more you pick your Sugar Baby profile you want to display to your Sugar If you dont have a picture that picture, you want to make sure you Daddy. 14 / SEPTEMBER 2021 / THE SUGAR PAGES

does that, consider taking some the most important part of your “Photosfsually”a mouth pictures taken of you profession- profile. The rest of your profile ally. If that is not in your budget is important but a great pho- THE SUGAR PAGES / SEPTEMBER 20211 / 15 place an ad on Craigslist.com or to is the thing that gets your find a photography school and profile viewed and your emails find a student that is willing to answered better than any one do it for little to nothing that will other area take a photo for If you are getting very few Con- you to capture the look you want tacts or limited responses ro the to represent you. emails you send you probably You can also upload a photo of want to start thinking about how yourself doing something that good your dating profile photo is. you love. For example, you could Many people tell me that their show a photo of you rock-climb- dating profile photo is “fine” but ing, or taking a luxurious sip of fine is the last thing you want! A wine at an outdoor winery. Sugar fine photo is one that will cause Daddies love enthusiastic and you to blend in with all the other active Sugar Babies, which will fine photos! The real problem draw these men to you. with most photos used on online And whatever you do, don’t dating sites is that everyone is upload bikini photos and overly doing the same thing. They’re sexy modeling shots, no matter either holding a camera out in how slamming our body may front of themselves or using be. This screams “escort”- and photos that were never intended if you’re poking for high-quality to be Sugar Daddies, that’s not the used as a profile photo. Normally, End of message you want to these photos aren’t bad at all... send.In a perfect world each part they just don’t stand out. They of your profile would be mea- are not the type of representa- sured equally but unfortunately tion that convinces other singles it isn’t perfect uorld. In the real that you are the person they world, your profile photos are should be dating.

A professionally taken photo, on the other hand, will make you stand out in the right way. If you are not get- ting many contacts or if you are not getting many responses to the emails I would recommend considering a service like that. Even if you decide you don’t want a professional photo taken at least take your profile photo seriously. In online dating, fine photos aren’t much better aren’t much better than bad photos. Im not going to lie here. You could have the best Sugar Baby profile in the world- but if your picture lets you down, then there’s just no way you’Il be be attracting the quality Sug- ar Daddies you’re after.. 16 / SEPTEMBER 2021 / THE SUGAR PAGES

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ChHruigs hesSTORYTITLE Anonymity is key for sugar babies and sugar daddies — I created an alter ego just for my online sugaring pres- Words by ence stacy Jerome Six months ago, I decided to become a Do you want a cash allowance, and do you sugar baby. have a set amount in mind? Is it certain My reasoning was simple. I’d grown bills you want covered? Do you want gifts, frustrated with dating men in my city — shopping, and travel? Having a clear idea of maybe I’d just had one too many Tinder what kind of “sugar,” or exchange, you want dates end in mediocre conversation. for the relationship is key. My day job offers me control over my How about the actual dating part — do you schedule, since I don’t work a traditional like dating older men? Because sugar daddies nine-to-five. I wanted to supplement my tend to be older than the women they date. income and have some fun doing it, so I How much time do you want to spend with decided to try finding a sugar daddy. your sugar daddy? And does your current Whether it was exhaustion of lifestyle give you the freedom to do so? In the millennial swiping, or maybe the thrill six months since I became a sugar baby, I’ve of experiencing life outside my usual started relationships with men who pay me means, I found myself creating a profile $500 a date and have purchased me shoes on the primary website for sugaring and outfits from designers I could never afford connections, thesugarpages.In the half- on my own. I dined at restaurants where the year since then, I’ve met some highly bill was $400, and we’d still leave hungry. interesting people — not to mention I spent weekends tucked away in five-star I’ve received thousands of dollars in hotels, lazily ordering room service with cash, trips across the country, access cringeworthy markups. to five-star hotels and restaurants, and expensive gifts like shoes and clothing I While I enjoy expensive dinners and staying never could have ordinarily afforded. in fancy hotels, ultimately I was searching for Read on for a firsthand look at what a friendly relationship that provides a cash it’s really like to be a sugar baby. As allowance. with regular dating, if you dive into the sugaring lifestyle without an idea of what you want, you’re likely to be disappointed. “cIotm’sewaorsuthganrotbinabgyyojuustshfoorultdhenemvoenrebye”- 18 / SEPTEMBER 2021 / THE SUGAR PAGES

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STORY TITLE INSIDE THE SUGARBABY SCHOOL OF TIC TOK “I think people have this idea with any type of sex work that you do it because you’re a broken person. But it’s the opposite. It did wonders for my self-esteem.” “I told him my price just to meet me for dinner and he literally Eva*, 23, started posting on TikTok last year under the user- laughed and doubled it,” says Candis, 20, an Atlanta-based sugar name @chillfeline after she saw another woman glamorising the baby and TikTok creator. “That’s when I realised I can charge lifestyle on the app without offering any safety tips or advice people exactly what I think I’m worth.” to newcomers. With the aim of spreading awareness about the Last September, following her best friend’s advice, Candis signed realities of sugar dating, she now provides her 60,000 followers up to the sugar dating website The Sugar Pages – a new platform with all the guidance she considers necessary. for those looking for mutually beneficial relationships. She now As for Candis, who has a little over 10,000 followers, her exper- juggles eight sugar daddies in all corners of the United States, tise primarily resides in using sugar dating websites as smartly who finance her luxurious lifestyle in exchange for her company as possible – including which photos to upload, what to include – which, Candis clarifies, never involves sex. in your bio and how to speak to prospective sugar daddies. She One morning in December 2020, only a few months after she also created and moderates two different group chats – with 600 started sugar dating, Candis woke up with the sudden urge to members in total – where both experienced and novice sugar share her journey online. Under the username @candiserianna, babies can learn from each other. she carved a space for herself on Sugar Baby TikTok, a niche on the platform dedicated to content around the alluring yet often From helping viewers craft the best possible profile on a sugar misunderstood world of sugaring. At the time of writing, the dating platform to teaching them the dos and don’ts of meeting a hashtag #sugarbabies boasts over 530 million views, #sugarba- sugar daddy for the first time, Sugar Baby TikTok offers a com- by over 490 million, and #sugarbabiecheck close to 67 million. plete syllabus on how to successfully – and safely – get into rich While some of the videos posted under those hashtags consist of men’s hearts and wallets. sugar babies excitedly displaying their latest Prada bags without By providing an insight into a lifestyle which is shrouded in really explaining how to obtain them, Sugar Baby TikTok also has mystique, Sugar Baby TikTok creators also attempt to erase the a growing educational division. The Sugar Baby School of TikTok stigma and debunk the myths surrounding sugar dating. “I think is here not only to flex but to teach as well. people have this idea with any type of sex work that you do it “By becoming more mainstream, sugar dating has at- tracted a lot of unscrupulous men and, as a result, safety hazards.” THE SUGAR PAGES / SEPTEMBER 20211 / 23

iImgpsi“evoleTrl thyiaseontutmoraosndesevtlvfiecre short” because you’re a broken person. But it’s the By destigmatising sugar dating, being stigma and debunk the myths surrounding opposite. It did wonders for my self-es- transparent about what those relationships sugar dating. “I think people have this idea teem,” says Wendi, 39, known on TikTok actually entail and giving tips on how to get with any type of sex work that you do it as @thehelpfulho. Wendi is also adamant started, Sugar Baby TikTok creators are because you’re a broken person. But it’s the that sugar dating goes far beyond – and making the lifestyle seem like a desirable opposite. It did wonders for my self-es- sometimes doesn’t even include – physi- option to many viewers. “My TikToks teem,” says Wendi, 39, known on TikTok cal intimacy. “Sugar daddies are not just have definitely inspired a plethora of sugar as @thehelpfulho. Wendi is also adamant after sex, they want companionship,” she babies to get started and I’ve received so that sugar dating goes far beyond – and explains. many DMs asking for advice! The response sometimes doesn’t even include – physi- At almost 40, around 15 to 20 years has been overwhelming,” Eva says.From cal intimacy. “Sugar daddies are not just older than the average sugar baby, Wendi helping viewers craft the best possible pro- after sex, they want companionship,” she describes herself as a “sugar granny”. She file on a sugar dating platform to teaching explains. happily takes on this role as a shrewd, them the dos and don’ts of meeting a sugar eccentric elder on TikTok, sharing her daddy for the first time, Sugar Baby TikTok wisdom with her 55,000 followers. An offers a complete syllabus on how to suc- important part of what she does is trying cessfully – and safely – get into rich men’s to normalise the transactional and com- hearts and wallets. partmentalised nature of sugaring – where By providing an insight into a lifestyle emotional connection can exist indepen- which is shrouded in mystique, Sugar Baby dent of traditional commitment. TikTok creators also attempt to erase the “ TikTok have laid out all the guidelines to ensure that for those who idnogttrhye, twhoinrglds ogfossumgoaortinhgly,”. By demystify- 24 / SEPTEMBER 2021 / THE SUGAR PAGES

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As tuition rates continue to rise, col- lege students are increasingly turning to wealthy sugar daddies to fund their life- style until graduation, CBS reports. “I like men in the higher caliber, so I look for that,” Carrie Owens, a 21-year-old Se- nior from the University of Florida who’s used the Sugar Pages dating service for more than two years, 26 / SEPTEMBER 2021 / THE SUGAR PAGES

COAWRERNIES MORE THAN JUST A PRETTY DRESS It is no secret that going to the college in the US is expensive. So expensive, in fact, that some stu- dents are resorting to “sugar daddy” websites to help them pay for their education. You can find Carrie on the Sugar Pages if educa- tional excellence is in your buget. THE SUGAR PAGES / SEPTEMBER 20211 / 27

OAfSPernisdee Words by Mark Hughes As a Sugar Baby, you are not participating in anything that is immoral or illegal. I can’t tell you how many “Babies” I hear or see misusing the site by behaving like escorts. RRegardless of the happy to provide mentorship and shows I’ve watched, the apartment narrative the media tries to guidance. For example, I have an I’m able to afford… all a result of perpetuate, there is nothing idea for a startup but no clue how to meeting my Sugar Daddy. He’s wrong with being a Sugar run a business. My Sugar Daddy, the introduced me to things and shown Baby. There will always CEO of a booming tech company, my places I never would’ve gone be naysayers or people who judge has knowledge and experience I can or seen on my own. I created this without knowing, but I don’t want easily tap into. I know lots of Sugar opportunity. the community to feel shunned or go Babies who have similar goals in mind What’s the reason you’re proud underground as a result. We may not and a few who have even launched to be a Sugar Baby?Regardless all have the platform or opportunity their own businesses after receiving of the narrative the media tries to to share our experiences with the investments from their Daddies. perpetuate, there is nothing wrong lifestyle, but I want to encourage Sugar Babies are truly trying to with being a Sugar Baby. There will those that do, to act and speak up. better themselves in all aspects of life. always be naysayers or people who You should be proud to be a Sugar judge without knowing, but I don’t Baby. Here are the reasons why. YOU ARE TAKING CONTROL want the community to feel shunned Which leads me to my final point. or go underground as a result. We YOU ARE NOT AN ESCORT As a Sugar Baby, you are taking may not all have the platform or First and foremost, you are not control of your life; your finances, opportunity to share our experiences breaking any laws. As a Sugar Baby, your future, your education, your with the lifestyle, but I want to you are not participating in anything career goals. We understand we don’t encourage those that do, to act and that is immoral or illegal. I can’t tell necessarily have the tools to propel speak up. You should be proud to be you how many “Babies” I hear or ourselves to the next level, but we a Sugar Baby. Here are the reasons see misusing the site by behaving know where to start. why. Regardless of the narrative like escorts or abusing the trust of the media tries to perpetuate, Daddies. A Sugar Baby is in the Bowl YOU ARE CREATING there is nothing wrong with being to learn and be spoiled. You are not OPPORTUNITIES a Sugar Baby. There will always paid by the hour and you do not There is no way I would have ever be naysayers or people who judge demand a dollar amount for your met my Sugar Daddy in real life. We without knowing, but I don’t want time. There are scammers who pose hung out in different parts of town, the community to feel shunned or go as members of the community, but worked in different industries, and did underground as a result. We may not thankfully, these people are quickly not have many similar interests where all have the platform or opportunity found out and removed from the site. we would’ve bumped into each other. to share our experiences with the By joining SeekingArrangement and lifestyle, but I want to encourage YOU HAVE GOALS becoming a Sugar Baby, I created those that do, to act and speak up. Sugar Babies are utilizing their the opportunity to meet my SD. The You should be proud to be a Sugar resources. We have the opportunity trips to foreign countries, the dinners Baby. Here are the reasons why. to connect with wealthy, successful at places I can’t pronounce, the live Regardless of the narrative the media businessmen who are more than tries to perpetuate, there is nothing wrong with being a Sugar Baby. 28 / SEPTEMBER 2021 / THE SUGAR PAGES There will always be naysayers or people who judge without knowing,

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SwLeifeet There was only Ovitatustium is earum quat ut que quam, officii scilignatius simusandemos min nos et vollupt ateceptate lanis id ulluptatur aut reperat ecupta venia con rectus. M Words by Megan Foxx Claudia was quite young when she started ia Dio is an American social dating Luis. Most ladies at her age would media star who gained fame for posting have aspired to enjoy life a bit more before story time videos on her self-titled YouTube getting into a serious relationship with the channel. Mia has currently amassed over hope of starting a family. However, Claudia 27K subscribers on the channel, which she had her sights set on being a mom and occasionally populates with vlogs, make-up raising kids. She settled down with Luis, tutorials, challenges, and true crime stories. and after a while, the couple welcomed their first child. Unfortunately, Claudia and Luis fell out and separated.sDuring a modelling Dio is very successful on TikTok, with 1.4 gig, Claudia met a charismatic Chilean man, million followers and over 26 million likes on who she eventually started dating. After her videos. Mia wasn’t famous for producing spending some time with her Chilean lover, funny content before TikTok, but the lip- Claudia realized that she’d abandoned syncing app has brought out her comedic the family values that she held most dear. side. The self-confessed Russian sugar baby Therefore, she ended the relationship and is quite a creative comedian, and it’s unlikely reached out to Luis to try and work things that you’ll find her content anywhere else. out. Mia explained in a video posted on 28th December 2017: This piece will look at Mia’s family, the result “My older brother said something that woke of her traumatizing high school experience, her up, ‘Mom, why aren’t you with my dad?’ and her parents. She realized how much she valued family – how important family was. She said I need to MMia Dio was born on 14th May 2001 to stop being so distant. I need to reconnect. I Claudia and Luis Dio in Miami, Florida. She need to work things out. I as a mother want grew up alongside four brothers and one to work things out for my older son, which, to sister. Growing up, Mia knew that she had this day, I respect her so much for.” three half-siblings because Luis had three kids before he started his relationship with Claudia was already pregnant with Mia when Claudia. she reconnected with Luis. Nevertheless, Luis welcomed her back and chose to raise “I was 15 when my mom revealed that my father who raised me wasn’t my biological father”30 / SEPTEMBER 2021 / THE SUGAR PAGES

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Mia as his daughter. Mia recognized from a young age that school. The counselor told Mia that she her parents to let her have the bump she resembled her mom, and she shared similarities with her had to complete her studies within the removed, but they consistently turned siblings, but in the back of her mind, she knew that something stipulated time. Unsatisfied with that her down. She covered it up with was off. Everything made sense when her mom told her the answer, Mia took matters into her own makeup when she could, but as her nose story of her conception.aMia understood why her parents hands. She wrote a letter to the principal got larger, it became harder to hide it. held out so long so long before telling her the truth. “The stating that she needed to graduate by Eventually, her parents agreed to let her reason that my dad didn’t want to tell me that I wasn’t quite the end of the year or she wouldn’t make undergo surgery. She stated in a June his daughter was because he was afraid that I was going to it past high school. 2018 video: grow up and think I was different,” she said. “He wanted me to be like that’s the man that’s there for me, that’s the man who Dio pointed to her rising anxiety levels “Although I consistently preach about raised me, that’s the man who loves me, that’s my father.” as the reason why she had to finish self-love, this was always one thing school earlier. In the video, Mia feels that tormented me. I love myself as a KEEPING ON MOVING like she could have gotten through high person, but just that one feature stared school regardless, but she had to give at me in the face and reminded me that “I was in high school and I absolutely hated it. I hated high early graduation a shot. Eventually, the I’m not nearly as pretty as I wish that I school – I hated that I had a YouTube channel in high school administration worked out a way for Mia was.”“I’m not going to lie, I didn’t really because people would literally crucify me for that channel. to complete her studies earlier and move think that college was challenging in They would make fun of me so hard. Even though on the straight into college. “I decided to be a the time that I have been in college. outside I would be like, ‘F them, I’m cool.’ Deep inside, I was dramatic bitch, and it worked,” she said. I just think that if you can apply screaming. I was in a lot of emotional pain.” yourself decently because I am still a One of the side-effects of Mia’s soccer procrastinator, you’ll still be able to get Mia asked one of the counselors that she was close to playing days was that they left her with the grades that you want. whether there was a way to accelerate her way out of her a bump on her nose that she didn’t like. The bump emerged after a broken nose she’d suffered healed. Mia pressured “I’mwnaostcghoailnlegntgoinlgiei,nIctdohiledlentgi’mte.re”etahlalyt tIhhianvketbhaetencoinllege 32 / SEPTEMBER 2021 / THE SUGAR PAGES

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addicted to TRAVEL not sex “I don’t see it as such a big deal to have sex with married men. If they’re married and looking somewhere else, they’re not happy. Words by Megan Foxx Meet the glamorous woman who jets all over Instead, she says: “If we connect, things the world on travel dates happen. But if we don’t connect then we just with married men and have fun on the trip or I just come back. other total strangers, but insists she is not a gold digger. “I would love to find the one, but right now I just want to travel and see the world. Heidy Pandora, 24, who is currently “So (dating married men is) an advantage unemployed and describes herself as a in a way that they will not get emotionally “full-time traveler,” has visited more than 20 connected to me. And they will not want to countries during her three years on dating pursue anything.” site Miss Travel. She added: “I don’t pay for anything. You can Former masseuse Heidy, who lives in Orlando, do half and half but I prefer not to. Florida, told Sun Online: “Some of the guys “I’m saving more for my own future. So I on the site are married. don’t want to spend money on travel because “I don’t see it as such a big deal to have it’s really expensive. sex with married men. If they’re married “I’ve traveled with different types of guys, and looking somewhere else, they’re not but I didn’t have sexual relations with all of happy. Some of them don’t have any sexual them.” relationship with their wives anymore.” Heidy, who says travel dating saved her life, But Heidy — who has visited glamorous added: “I suffered from depression for two what would I want to do?’ My dream was to travel but I could never afford locations including Dubai, Morocco, Hawaii, years straight and I got to the point where I it. It’s too expensive. Aruba and Thailand with wealthy men she’s didn’t want to live anymore. Heidy, who was 21 at the time, had just $2,500 in the bank. She added: “My met on the site — claims she never feels first trip by myself was to Mexico. pressured into sex. “As soon as I saw the blue water, the depression went away. After that I “So I told myself, ‘If today was my last day, wanted to travel more, but I didn’t know how to. “Most people don’t have the courage to do what I do, traveling with strangers. “Then I came across Miss Travel and I kind of became addicted to it. It keeps It’s basically like a blind date.” 34 / SEPTEMBER 2021 / THE SUGAR PAGES

STORY TITLE me going in life. I still suffer from depression but Facebook account, but not all the reactions have world. I’m not there to look for a sugar daddy. it’s not as severe and traveling keeps me alive.” been positive. “So if anybody wants to call me a bad name, I don’t take that because I know I’m not there for Heidy, who lived in El Salvador as a child, added: She said: “I do not care about anybody’s that reason.” “I just came back from Dublin, Ireland, and I’m opinion. Who doesn’t want to see the world? Despite claiming she doesn’t ask for money, already working on another trip to Nepal. Heidy has been given gifts of up to $1,700 after “The people that probably judge me have her trips. “All my family know I do this. My mom is maybe envy and jealousy. actually really happy for me because she’s THE SUGAR PAGES / SEPTEMBER 20211 / 35 always wanted to see the world. “I have been called bad names before like a gold digger. But I don’t feel that way and when I’m on “Most people don’t have the courage to do what these trips, I do not ask for money. I do, traveling with strangers. It’s basically like a blind date.” “I’m only on the website to travel and see the Heidy has hundreds of followers on her

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