Women's View Magazine January 2022

VOLUME 16 | ISSUE 1 JANUARY | 2022 Inspiring, educating, empowering and celebrating women in our community MAGAZINE The Big Chill More inside: Fireside Sips to Savor How to Keep the Home Fires Burning Help for the Common Cold Good Books for Cold Days The Soup’s On at Operation InAsMuch A New Take on New Year’s Resolutions

Close Letter from the Editor VOLUME 16 ISSUE 1 Baby, it’s cold outside. How cold, you ask? Have you heard it's so PUBLISHER Bill Bowman, F & B Publications cold, it's hog killin' weather? Or, cold as all get out. Even as cold as a frog’s [email protected] tail ― I’ll let you look that one up. Moving to the South for our better weather is one thing, but thinking we have a warm winter is a misnomer. EDITOR Crissy Neville Growing up in the 1960s-80s, I had something in my country home [email protected] common then but quite uncommon, if not extinct, in most modern homes today, rural, urban or otherwise. I had what you call a front room. PRODUCTION MANAGER/ Each winter, the front room was shut off, and we family members shut GRAPHIC DESIGNER out from entering, like foreigners in a travel ban. To open the front room Dylan Hooker door was to meet the icy blast of the unheated and unchartered and the even colder treatment of my parents who told my siblings and me to [email protected] tread not. Or else. OPERATIONS DIRECTOR So, we didn’t, staying instead in the back, livable part of the old 1800s Paulette Naylor farmhouse where a coal burning stove simmered and smoldered all winter long, keeping us snug as bugs in a rug. Meanwhile up in the cold- [email protected] as-a-refrigerator front room, my mother stored cakes, eggs and even milk. To be sent on an errand of retrieval required nearly as much clothing as a MARKETING REPRESENTATIVE snow day. Well, almost. But come Linda McAlister warm weather, the doors would open and make our half-way [email protected] house whole. DISTRIBUTION DIRECTOR/ In moving back to my childhood SALES ADMINISTRATOR home, I had a quick reply to what Laurel Handforth to call the room off the porch identified different times as a [email protected] bedroom, courting parlor, living room, den, piano room and most JANUARY CONTRIBUTORS recently, my office. I said, “It’s the Victoria Johnson front room.” No longer Siberia, but Taneisha Kerr a retreat complete with a toasty Alison Hurley fireplace and comfy chairs ― a Allison Davis sanctuary from The Big Chill Bonnie Patterson of winter. Alena Barosa Demetria Davis Are you interested in writing? Consider contributing an article or pitching a Lindsey Lane story idea to WVM. We want to elevate your voice. For more information, email Alexandria Tate 2 | J A NwUomA RenYsvi2ew0@2 2upandcomingweekly.com. Be sure to like us and leave comments Chef James Belton on our Facebook page. Gwen Holtsclaw Lynnie Guzman 2 | JANUARY 2022 Hannah Lee WOMEN'S VIEW MAGAZINE 208 ROWAN ST. FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 28301 PHONE: 910-484-6200 FAX: 910-484-9218 Women’s View Magazine is for, by and about women in Cumberland County. Published by F&B Publications in conjunction with Media Marketing Management. ©2022 by F&B Publications, Inc. All rights reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or advertisement without permission is strictly prohibited. Various vector sources credited to © Freepik and © Vecteezy. Association of Community Publishers

Inside 4 WHO’S THE BOSS? New to WVM this month is Victoria Johnson, aka radio personality “Babydoll” of Beasley Media Group’s Foxy 99. She brings a new quarterly feature; interviewed here first is Beasley’s own Katy Lollis. January 6 RESOLUTION REPRIEVE Baby New Year crawls in with a long list of New Year’s resolutions dragging behind him, and what a drag it is! Taneshia Kerr offers resolution alternatives here. 8 FIRESIDE READS Time to cozy up to the fire with a warm blanket, hot drink and a good book. Contributor Allison Hurley is back with book reviews and recommendations for this winter. 4 6 10 SOUP’S ON Fayetteville Operation InAsMuch staff and volunteers do much good in the community, and they make some good soup, too! A good read and great recipes greet you on pages 10-13. 14 COLD SEASON IS BACK Yes, people still get sick with colds -— and the flu, too. Apple Crate Wellness Manager Allison Davis is here to help you feel better naturally. 178 10 WINTER’S WAR ON YOUR SKIN Old Man Winter puts up a good fight, making our skin dry, flaky, itchy and cracked. Gain ammunition for the attacks in this read. 18 WOMEN OF POWER SOCIETY There’s a burgeoning new opportunity for women getting off the ground 22 in Fayetteville, and its leaders want to spread the word. 20 MORE THAN A SONG ― A MANTRA While “Keep the Home Fires Burning” started as a WWI anthem, it takes on modern meaning when it comes to quality family time. 22 FIRESIDE SIPS Northside businesswoman Gwen Holtsclaw, co-owner of ScrubOaks 18 24 Contemporary American Pub, shares recipes to wet your whistle this winter. 24 NATIONAL HUMAN TRAFFICKING PREVENTION MONTH Start the year off by learning more about this scourge of society, the 26 factors that perpetuate it and aides for prevention. 26 GIRLFRIEND GETAWAY Contributor and free spirit Alena Barosa is back with winter recommendations for places to go with friends, locally and around the state. Photo credit: Todd Bush. 28 28 WHAT’S YOUR SIDE HUSTLE Fayetteville resident Demetria Davis, aka “Chef Dee,” shares her passion for cooking and side-business savvy in this quarter’s WYSH edition. 2022 JANUARY | 3

Woman's Spotlight Who’s The Boss? … Katy Lollis Simple rules to get you ahead in business and life. By Victoria Johnson D uring the pandemic, many of my colleagues in The gregarious leader lives out the proverb, “variety is the broadcasting saw extreme changes in the business spice of life.” When asked about a “normal” workday for her, –– some heartbreaking –– yet life here at the Beasley she responded, “There is no normal day, which is why this Media Group, where I work, kept a comforting, peaceful flow. position is so fulfilling. From meeting with new prospective That has been the result of Katy Lollis and her relentless work clients and assisting our existing customers to helping with a ethic and humble spirit. charity, all the work is rewarding.” Lollis is the assistant market manager and director of sales for Over the last two years, the amount of chaos and confusion Beasley’s entire Fayetteville cluster, which includes the radio instilled in society renders the normalcy maintained at stations WUKS-FM, WFLB-FM, WZFX-FM, WZFX HD2, WAZZ- Beasley Media Group, Fayetteville, even more outstanding. FM and WKML-FM. She’s in charge of running the market Beasley has remained so composed I just had to ask, “How apart from Beasley Media Group Vice President and General have you been able to keep your organization not only Manager Kent Dunn to facilitate operations and sales. She is together but thriving during riots, political confusion and a also responsible for any revenue brought into the company. pandemic?” Born in Sheboygan, Wisconsin, Lollis has lived in many Lollis replied, “Communication has been the key, including places but mostly Sterling Park, Virginia. Having grown up talking to our folks daily about how their day is going. It has as a military child, Lollis finds it no surprise that Fayetteville been most important to let our people know we are here for is a good fit for her to call home. She began her career right them and that we genuinely care.” here in town at Cape Fear Broadcasting. Starting as an account executive and working into management, her career I can attest those are not just words. I don’t feel like just path showed her the bigger picture of how radio stations another number as an employee. I know I’m cared for, and so work. Lollis spent some time working for Cumulus Media is my work family. I’ve seen Katy Lollis make tough calls with and ultimately decided to come on board with Beasley grace, consideration and professionalism. It’s hard to work for her and not admire her. Broadcasting in 2007. Victoria “Babydoll” Johnson is an American Radio Personality born and raised in Eastern North Carolina. She is a graduate of Carolina School of Broadcasting, in Charlotte, North Carolina. Babydoll colloquially delivers compelling content and information. She connects with listeners not only over the airwaves, but also through social media platforms and in their communities where it counts most. 4 | JANUARY 2022

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Not Another One Alternatives to New Year Resolutions and Vision Boards By Taneisha Kerr E ven though we're not likely focus on what you want to be this Do An Annual Challenge to stick to any promises year rather than what you'd like we make to ourselves on to stop doing. With that in mind, Every year, CEO and Chairman January 1, we still greet each new here are a few ideas to try. Mark Zuckerberg of Meta, the year with hopeful resolutions and new parent company name lofty visions. Maybe 2022 is the Write a Press Release for Facebook, gives himself a year we will get our act together, personal challenge. He picks an lose weight, save money and Instead of listing all the things endeavor and works at it for one finally go after our dreams! We you want to avoid doing this year, entire year. Past challenges have know the resolutions won't stick, write a press release introducing included learning Mandarin, and the vision boards will gather the new and improved you to building an AI to run his home dust, but, we make them anyway, the world. Visualize how proud and not eating any meat he year after year. you will feel once you've achieved hadn't personally harvested. your goal and capture all that Others have followed this trend Unfortunately, no life hacks will excitement in your press release. and done challenges to read increase your likelihood of sticking Mention the challenges you faced one book per month, save $25 with your new year commitments. during the year and the strategies per week or walk 50,000 steps According to a 2016 report by you used to overcome them. Be every week. IFL Science, only 10% of us will sure to include why achieving stay committed for more than your goal was so important to you New Year Theme a few months. A 2020 study of ― this will be your key motivator 1,066 persons conducted by all year long. While intended for Pick a word that will guide you Oscarsson, et al. at the University your eyes only, the report can through the year instead of of Stockholm, Sweden, found that be pitched to Women’s View making a list of goals, dos and we are far more likely to stick with Magazine or another outlet for don'ts. Summarizing everything approach-oriented goals versus possible publication. Everyone can you want to be in a single word avoidance-oriented goals. In short, use inspiration! gives you focus and clarity. Your Taneshia Kerr is an author, speaker, licensed counselor and member of the Forbes Business Council. She is a DSWA-certified business leader with nearly 20 years of experience in marketing and communication. She is currently pursuing a Ph.D. in Clinical Christian Counseling. 6 | JANUARY 2022

comment will also serve as Sacred Anchors of the idea of writing a list of an anchoring mantra, cutting things you'd like to do before you through indecision, distractions One of the keys to the success “kick the bucket.” Write a list of and fear. When in doubt, of a vision board is displaying it things you'd like to do before the remember your word. To find your prominently as a reminder of end of this year. The idea is not a term, think through everything your goal. This keeps you focused long-term, lifelong wish list but you want for the new year, then and leads to autosuggestion, instead the things you want to do look for patterns and themes according to some studies. You or experience over the next 365 that emerge. Choose the word can achieve the same effect with days. For example, finish a book that resonates with you and another object that serves the in one sitting, register to vote, do a encapsulates your vision for the same purpose. For example, a professional photo shoot, attend a year. Examples include the terms friend promised that she would wine tasting or travel outside the joy, peace, fun, move and flourish. purchase her first luxury car after country. completing a Ph.D. program. To Year of Yes maintain her focus, she bought a Do a 365-day Project keychain with the logo of the car Write and producer Shonda she intended to gift herself. Your Pick something you intend to Rhimes committed an entire year anchor could be a photograph, do every single day for the next to say \"yes\" to anything, even if a pendant or a paperweight. 365 days. For example, take a she didn't want to. In her book The key is to ensure the item photograph every day, wake up Year of Yes, she details how this summarizes your goal and is at the same time every day of challenge pulled her from her meaningful to you. the year or read a short story natural introversion and changed every day. her life. Most importantly, saying Create a Bucket List yes reignited her passion, helped Reset Every Three Months her face her fears and helped her A bucket list is a to love herself. You, too, can variation People typically combine a challenge and underestimate how much a theme for the year. Face they can achieve in a year your fears by accepting but overestimate how invitations as they come much can be accomplished and saying yes. Would in a single day. Brian Moran you like to play, can we and Michael Lennington meet for coffee, will you be maximize this idea in their our guest speaker ― (no, book The 12 Week Year. By no, no) Yes! shortening your execution cycle from Year of No 12 months to 12 weeks, If the idea you capitalize of saying yes on the burst to anything is a of motivation no-brainer because that comes at the you already say yes to start of a new goal. You everything, maybe 2022 also avoid the lulls and is the year you challenge yourself to say \"no.\" Many pitfalls that emerge when a people have been socialized deadline is too far away. Break to play nice and say yes. The your year into 12-week blocks result is that everyone tramples and set your goals accordingly. on our boundaries, and we are Take a 1-week break at the end left feeling overwhelmed. It's easy to get caught up doing of each cycle to recalibrate the things you have to do, with before going again. A little or no time left to do the reengagement planner like things you want to do. So, make this the year you hold Goal Reset – Reflect Refine your boundaries and say no. Relaunch, available for free Remember, you say I love at www.taneshiakerr.com you to yourself every time you have your limits. or on Kindle, will help you reimagine each quarter, analyze what worked before and find what needs tweaking. 2022 JANUARY | 7

Fireside Reads By Alison Hurley Idiscover new reads by reading books by authors I've enjoyed in the past. These books I am recommending this winter are alike in that they have complex, flawed, \"real\" women as the main characters that I, as a reader, can relate to. So, build a fire, cuddle up and prepare to escape with these fireside reads. The Whisper Network woman set to receive a promotion, a new mother struggling with the by Chandler Baker life-work balance, the most recent \"Still, a job was supposed to pay young hire who will do seemingly an employee, not cost her.\" anything to hold on to her job and The Whisper Network centers a cleaner, a single mom with a around a \"bad man\" list circulating young son. the working women in Dallas, Texas. Enter four co-workers in the Baker, a lawyer herself, weaves a legal department of a high-profile realistic story that many working company, and the man in power women can identify with: sexual set to take over their company harassment, career vs. motherhood –– unless he is exposed for the and female solidarity. Part thriller rumors that have surrounded and part social commentary, this him for years. Intertwined are the book shows what can happen private lives of the women that when women stop being quiet –– inevitably influence their working and why they are quiet, to relationships: an established begin with. *Also recommended by the same author: The Husbands Alison Hurley has been an educator for over 18 years, serving as an information specialist, media coordinator, gifted education consultant and regular classroom teacher. A Fayetteville resident, she is married with two children. 8 | JANUARY 2022

The Maidens Mariana Andros is a therapist by Alex Michaelides obsessed with solving the murder of a secretive, cult-like Cambridge \"That was the horror of it. We group called The Maidens. She all secretly hope that tragedy will believes she knows the murderer: only ever happen to other people; sooner or later, it happens to you.\" Edward Fosca, leader/mentor to Warning: this author is the master the group and Greek tragedies of short chapters full of big drama professor. Grieving over her and suspense. It's easy to keep husband's death and concerned reading and find that you have with her niece Zoe's safety, Mariana lost many hours deep in the world becomes determined to expose of academia and Greek mythology. Edward as the murderer. Tying in the story of Persephone and other The story is told in chronological literary references, this modern- order, unlike many thrillers written day Greek tragedy will keep you today, making it easy to justify guessing until the very end. just one more chapter because *Also recommended by the same you need to find out what author: The Silent Patient happens next. Tell Me Lies begins that will last for years to by Carola Leverig come. Stephen is infatuated with \"It's funny — when you get what Lucy ― until he's not. This tale is you want, it almost automatically not a classic love story. This story decreases in value.\" of a toxic relationship shows how We all have that one person: the women can lose themselves in one that got away. The what-if pursuit of a happily ever after. person. The one that in your mind We get a look inside the head of you know is wrong, but the one Stephen, a narcissist and sociopath that still haunts your heart. who continues to infiltrate Lucy's No matter what stage of life you life even when she, her friends and are in, you probably remember that family know it's a bad idea. We hear person who gave you butterflies Lucy justify her relationship and all and made you the happiest you've that she sacrifices for Stephen. ever been while simultaneously This is a compelling story of how breaking your heart. So is the story this relationship can either break a of Lucy, a New York native coming woman or make her stronger. of age during her college years at a small California university. Also recommended by the same When she meets Stephen, a cycle author: Too Good to Be True Apples Never Fall into Stan and Joy's history; and by Liane Moriarty into tennis and past grievances that changed the course of their \"That was the secret of a careers. Also lingering in the happy marriage. Step away background is the question of from the rage.\" who Savannah really is. Stan and Joy Delaney are in Joy's disappearance isn't the real their golden years. After 50 years story here; it's what happened in of marriage, they've sold their this real and dysfunctional family successful tennis school and are over the years. In true Moriarty figuring out what to do with fashion, she peels back the layers themselves. All that changes when of family dynamics and shares all Savannah, a stranger in distress, of the Delaney secrets. As a bonus, knocks on their door late one night. I learned more about tennis and When Joy disappears one night, how Australia influenced the sport Stan is naturally the prime suspect. as we know it today. The readers take a deep dive into Also recommended by the same past and present: into the four author: The Husband's Secret grown Delaney children's demons; 2022 JANUARY | 9

Soup’s On painting, opportunities that allow Savor, Enjoy and the family to paint the offered Support a Good Cause bowls. Subsequently, the bowls are fired at Greg’s Pottery and are By Alexandria Tate began the Able-Life program, next offered for sale at the event. a transformational, phase-by- phase program for homeless men Another blessing to Bread ‘n’ wanting to get back on their feet. Bowls has been Tim McMillan of Green Springs Pottery, who joined When the weather gets Sue Byrd, the FAOIAM founder, several years ago. His donation of colder and colder, and all quickly realized in 2006 FAOIAM bowls and silent auction pieces you want is a big would need a unique fundraiser has added so much. bowl of soup or chili, Fayetteville — something completely different Area Operation Inasmuch from other local nonprofits. Sue All sales help FAOIAM overall. (FAOIAM) can help. Every winter, asked her friend Kim Kincer, the However, two years ago, the FAOIAM hosts a welcomed Women’s Golf Coach at Methodist nonprofit began to designate fundraiser called Bread ‘n’ Bowls, University, if she had any ideas. sales to The Lodge and Breakfast an event which entails different Kim shared that her home state Program. Sue exclaimed, “This has soups or stews along with bread of Kentucky has an annual event made a difference for eternity!” and dessert on the side. called “Empty Bowls,” which sparked an idea Sue’s brain. Bread Last year, due to the pandemic, Founded in 2006, FAOIAM is a ‘n’ Bowls was born! The first event FAOIAM held the first “drive-thru” 501 (c)(3) nonprofit that serves was held in October 2006. Bread ‘n’ Bowls, complete with Fayetteville’s homeless and an online silent auction and vulnerable population. Our Various local churches have online prizes. founding and guiding mission hosted Bread ‘n’ Bowls, including statement is one most people Snyder Memorial Baptist, Hay Sue stepped back and officially have heard before, words of Street United Methodist Church retired in 2017. The new executive Jesus Christ recorded in the and Haymount United Methodist director, Craig Morrison, took over New Testament. Church. Sue explained, “The April 1, 2020, right on the brink of committee over these years has COVID-19. Craig has been a joy Inasmuchasyoudid been unbelievable. Faces change, and a humble director in his time itforoneoftheleastof but the commitment to hard at FAOIAM, and we are thrilled to these,youdiditforme. work never has. These men and be a part of his leadership. women truly know their efforts We offer a free, nutritious can change lives, so nothing is too A bowl of hearty chili. Steamy breakfast Monday-Friday at 7:30 hard for them.” chicken noodle soup. Savory, a.m. while also providing other warm cheesy potato soup. You resources: showers, laundry, case Along with delicious food, Bread know you want to take part in this management, sick call, mail ‘n’ Bowls has offered a live experience. See you at the 2022 service and more. In 2017, we silent auction, camaraderie and Bread ‘n’ Bowls. community. Furthermore, the program provides the FAOIAM Save the Date for our 15th breakfast family, whom we serve, Bread ‘n Bowls a chance to be involved. FAOIAM Friday, February 25, 2022 has coordinated with Greg 11 a.m.¬–2 p.m. Hathaway and his daughter Kelly, Snyder Memorial Baptist from Greg’s Pottery and pottery Church Get your meal and either sit down or drive-thru to get soup to go. For more info, find us on Facebook @FAYOIAM or online at www.faoiam.org. Alexandria Tate is the communications manager at the FAOIAM located at 531 Hillsboro Street in Fayetteville. She is also in charge of sharing on social media, taking pictures, sending out our monthly e-newsletters and more. 10 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 2

Fayetteville Area Operation Inasmuch Bread ‘n’ Bowls Recipes By Chef James Belton BLACK BEAN SOUP Ingredients ◀ 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil ◀ 1 medium red onion, finely chopped ◀ 1 jalapeño, minced ◀ 2 cloves garlic, minced ◀ 1 tablespoon tomato paste ◀ 1/2 teaspoon ground cumin ◀ 1 teaspoon chili powder ◀ 3 cans of 15-ounce black beans, drained ◀ 3 cups low-sodium chicken or vegetable broth, plus more as needed ◀ 1 bay leaf ◀ Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper, to taste ◀ Optional garnish: sour cream, sliced avocado, chopped fresh cilantro, lime wedges Directions • In a large pot, heat the oil over medium heat. • Add onion and cook until soft and translucent, about 5 minutes. • Add jalapeño and garlic and cook until fragrant, about 2 minutes. • Add tomato paste, stir to coat vegetables, and cook about a minute more. • Season with cumin and chili powder. Add salt and pepper to taste. Stir to coat. • Add black beans and broth. • Stir soup, add bay leaf and bring to a full boil. • Immediately reduce to a simmer and let simmer until slightly reduced and thickened, 15 to 20 minutes. If a thinner soup is desired, add more broth as needed. • Remove bay leaf and let cool slightly. • Using an immersion blender or food processor, blend the soup to desired consistency. • Serve with a dollop of sour cream, sliced avocado and cilantro. Chef James Belton, the FAOIAM kitchen manager, is a veteran originally from Louisiana. He works part- time Mon.-Fri. mornings with all-volunteer crew members that rotate on a daily basis. The chef loves to have fun and enjoys cooking. The FAOIAM staff state they loves his food, especially the shrimp & grits! 2 0 2 2 J A N UA RY | 11

CHILI Ingredients ◀ 1 tablespoon olive oil ◀ 1 medium yellow onion, diced ◀ 1 pound 90% lean ground beef ◀ 2 1/2 tablespoons chili powder ◀ 2 tablespoons ground cumin ◀ 2 tablespoons granulated sugar ◀ 2 tablespoons tomato paste ◀ 1 tablespoon garlic powder ◀ 1 1/2 teaspoons salt ◀ 1/2 teaspoon ground black pepper ◀ 1 1/2 cups beef broth ◀ 1 can of 15-ounce petite diced tomatoes ◀ 1 can of 16-ounce red kidney beans, drained and rinsed ◀ 1 can of 8-ounce tomato sauce ◀ Optional: 1/4 teaspoon ground cayenne pepper Directions • Add the olive oil to a large soup pot and place it over medium-high heat for two minutes. • Add the onion. Cook for 5 minutes, stirring occasionally. • Add the ground beef to the pot. Break it apart with a wooden spoon. Cook for 6-7 minutes, until the beef is browned, stirring occasionally. • Add the chili powder, cumin, sugar, tomato paste, garlic powder, salt, pepper and optional cayenne. Stir until well combined. • Add the broth, diced tomatoes, with their juice, drained beans and tomato sauce. Stir well. • Bring the liquid to a low boil. Reduce the heat to • Remove the pot from the heat. Let the chili rest medium-low and simmer the chili, uncovered, for for 5-10 minutes before serving. 20-25 minutes, and stir occasionally. Creamy Potato Soup • Remove bacon pieces and set aside, leaving the Ingredients fat in the pot. ◀ 6 strips uncooked bacon cut into small pieces • Add butter and chopped onion and cook over medium heat until onions are tender, ◀ 3 tablespoons butter, unsalted or salted 3-5 minutes. ◀ 1 medium yellow onion chopped to equal about • Add garlic and cook until fragrant, about 1 1/2 cups 30 seconds. ◀ 3 large garlic cloves, minced • Sprinkle the flour over the ingredients in the pot ◀ ⅓ cup all-purpose flour and stir until smooth; use a whisk if needed. ◀ 2 ½ pounds gold potatoes peeled and diced • Add diced potatoes to the pot along with into pieces no larger than one inch chicken broth, milk, heavy cream, salt, pepper ◀ 4 cups chicken broth and ancho chili powder. ◀ 2 cups milk • Stir well. ◀ ⅔ cup heavy cream • Bring to a boil and cook until potatoes are ◀ 1 ½ teaspoon* salt ◀ 1 teaspoon ground pepper tender when pierced with a fork, about 10 ◀ ¼ - ½ teaspoon ancho chili powder** minutes. ◀ ⅔ cup sour cream • Reduce heat to simmer and remove ◀ Optional garnish: shredded cheddar cheese, approximately half of the soup to a blender chives and additional sour cream and bacon ― be careful, it will be hot ― and puree for topping until smooth. Alternatively, you can use an Directions immersion blender. • Return the pureed soup to the pot and add • Place bacon pieces in a large Dutch oven or sour cream and reserved bacon pieces; stir well. soup pot over medium heat. Cook until bacon is • Allow soup to simmer for 15 minutes before crisp and browned. serving. Enjoy! 12 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 2

Creamy Wild Rice Mushroom Soup mushrooms begin to burn. Ingredients • Add garlic and season with salt, then continue ◀ 1/4 cup butter, divided to sauté until the mushrooms are deep golden ◀ 1 pound mushrooms, thinly sliced (cremini/baby brown and become dry/tacky, 7-8 more minutes. • Scoop into a bowl or plate, then set aside. Bellas preferred) • Turn heat down to medium, and then melt the ◀ 3 cloves garlic, pressed or minced remaining 2 tablespoons butter in a pot. ◀ salt and pepper • Add carrots, celery and shallot/onion. Stir to coat ◀ 2 small carrots, finely chopped to equal 1 cup in butter and season with salt and pepper. ◀ 2 celery stalks, thinly sliced • Sauté until tender, 8-10 minutes, placing a lid on ◀ 1 large shallot or small onion, chopped top of the pot to speed up the softening process ◀ 1/2 teaspoon dried thyme if the vegetables take a long time to cook. ◀ 1 cup wild -brown rice blend (Lundberg Farms is • Add dried thyme; sauté for 1 more minute. • Add rice, chicken stock and cooked mushrooms a good option) into the pot; stir to combine. ◀ 6 cups vegetable or chicken stock • Turn the heat up to high to bring the mixture ◀ 3 tablespoons all-purpose or gluten-free flour to a boil, place a lid on top, turn the heat down ◀ 1 cup milk, any kind to low and simmer until rice is tender, 45-60 minutes, depending on the brand you use, Directions stirring occasionally. • In a small dish, whisk together flour and 1/4 cup • Heat a large soup pot or Dutch oven over milk until smooth. Add remaining 3/4 cup milk; medium-high heat. stir to combine and then stream mixture into soup. Stir well. • Once hot, add 2 tablespoons of butter and allow • Simmer, uncovered, for 10 more minutes. to melt. Remove pot from heat; let sit and thicken for 20 minutes. Taste and add salt and pepper to taste. • Add mushrooms, then stir to coat in butter and • Scoop into bowls and serve. sauté until the mushrooms release their liquid, the liquid cooks off, and they begin to turn 2 0 2 2 J A N UA RY | 13 golden brown, 8-10 minutes. • Stir often and turn the heat down slightly if the

Six Supplements to Boost Your Immune System By Allison Davis A s the cold season continues N-acetylcysteine (NAC) Chinese into the new year, it's N-Acetylcysteine is the Astragalus important to remember that supplement form of Root This certain nutrients offer a powerful Cysteine, an amino traditional Chinese protective measure against colds, acid. Amino acids immunity supplement flu and even more powerful form the building has been used for centuries viral invaders. The following are blocks of proteins in to treat infections. Clinical studies among the favorite but lesser- the body. Cysteine have shown it to be effective in known immunity supplements is also important preventing upper respiratory for bolstering the body's defenses for the production tract infections. It has also been and staying well all winter — and of glutathione, the found to reduce the duration all year — long. body's most powerful and severity of symptoms of the antioxidant. Glutathione common cold and raise white Quercetin While quercetin may is our body's antioxidant blood cell counts in people with not be quite as well-known as powerhouse. NAC can relieve chronic low levels of WBCs. other immune-strengthening symptoms of respiratory ingredients, it has quickly risen conditions by acting as an Selenium is a mineral that affects in popularity over the past year antioxidant and expectorant, all immune system components, with new research on its viral loosening mucus in your including the development protection. Previously, quercetin air passageways. NAC also and expression of white blood has been most popular for its helps in your lungs to reduce cells. Selenium deficiency has allergy-fighting properties, but inflammation in your bronchial been shown to inhibit resistance plenty of research backs up tubes and lung tissue. In a one- to infection due to impaired quercetin as a natural medicine year study, 600 mg of NAC twice white blood cell and thymus for fighting viral infections. a day significantly improved lung function. In contrast, selenium function and symptoms in those supplementation of 200 mcg Scientific studies show that with stable COPD. Those with daily stimulates white blood cells pretreatment with quercetin is chronic bronchitis can also benefit and thymus function. the best way to stop viruses from from NAC. replicating, effectively blocking H1N1 ― the swine flu ― within 48 Andrographis may not be well hours. Other in vitro work found known to some. Still, this herb has that quercetin inhibited rhinovirus been widely used in Ayurvedic replication, the virus responsible medicine in India since ancient for the common cold, within 24 times. It is known as the \"King hours. Laboratory research shows of Bitters\" because of its bitter that quercetin reduces bronchial taste in traditional preparations. inflammation and moderates Andrographis is probably best the immune response to prevent known in the West as a botanical it from going into overdrive. that boosts your immune system's Researchers in Italy have ability to defend you from viruses proposed that both quercetin and and bacteria. And no wonder ― vitamin C be used as synergistic Andrographis helps you get over nutrients for preventing and colds and flu faster and reduces treating COVID-19. the intensity of symptoms without causing side effects. Allison Davis is the wellness manager at Apple Crate Naturals. Working in the natural industry for 11 years, she loves bringing the newest and best products to Fayetteville. 14 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 2

Zinc is another mineral that plays demonstrated many immune- cells, which protect your body a vital role in many immune stimulating effects, and numerous from disease. Keep your body system reactions. In particular, studies support the use of vitamin well hydrated by consuming it inhibits the growth of several C in treating infectious conditions 8-10 glasses of water daily. Water viruses, including common cold and possibly even cancer at performs two important functions viruses and the herpes simplex very high intravenous dosages. in your body: carrying oxygen to virus. Throat lozenges containing Vitamin C levels are quickly cells and flushing bacteria and zinc have become popular in depleted during the stress of infection-causing toxins away. treating colds for a good reason infection and in chronic disease. ― they work. But regular zinc Taking vitamin C with flavonoids Before adding any herb to your supplements are effective, too. is useful, raising vitamin C wellness routine, make sure it concentration in some tissues and works with your lifestyle and does Vitamin D This key vitamin has potentiating its effects. not interfere with any medications been shown to produce a wide you are taking. If you take range of immune-enhancing If you want your immune system prescription medication, speak effects, including protection running on all cylinders, ramp up with your doctor or pharmacist against the development of your self-care routine to include about your drug and supplement autoimmune diseases, e.g., preventative lifestyle habits. Get programs. They will let you know if Crohn's and multiple sclerosis, and enough rest to keep your immune specific concerns exist. reducing the frequency of viral system strong and healthy. upper respiratory infections. The Regardless of medication status, sunshine vitamin appears to be Since your body regenerates I always recommend noting especially important in protection when you sleep, aim for at least how new foods and herbs make against viral or bacterial upper seven to eight hours of shuteye you feel. Try consuming a new respiratory infections. a night and follow good sleep herb on its own and notice hygiene, including keeping blue any signs of allergic reaction Vitamins A & C Vitamin A is a light-emitting devices out of — skin rash, itching, tingling or key immunity supplement that the bedroom. And, don't forget digestive discomfort. Even slight has been shown to stimulate and how important exercise is for occurrences of these symptoms enhance numerous immune your immune system; try to might mean that this herb is not processes. Also, vitamin A get at least 30 minutes a day of right for your unique constitution. deficiency may predispose an moderate exercise, like walking, Stay healthy and happy in the individual to have an infection, hiking or yoga. Boosting your new year. during which vitamin A stores blood flow actively encourages typically plummet. Vitamin C has the production of white blood 2 0 2 2 J A N UA RY | 15

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Prepare Now to Avoid Dry, Cracked Winter Skin A staff report As fall transitions to winter, many changes take place. In addition to changing landscapes, women may need to adapt their health and wellness habits to ensure that they stay healthy and happy. Part of that daily regimen includes how to care for skin as the seasons change. Just as skin requires certain protection from the sun and heat in the summer, skin has special needs in the fall and winter. Winter is especially characterized by cold, dry weather, which can make these times of year particularly challenging for people with dry or sensitive skin. Being proactive is the first step in protection. These tips can help maintain your skin's appearance and health. Start exfoliating. A buildup of dead skin cells can dull the skin’s radiance. Regular exfoliation one to three times per week can assist with the removal of dead skin cells. Ridding the outer layer of skin of unnecessary debris can also help skincare products penetrate more readily. Choose a thick moisturizer. Invest in a hydrator. According Wear gloves to protect Ramp up moisturizing products to the experts at Glo Skin Beauty, your hands. Frequent hand to combat dry, winter air. Look for hydrators are lighter than washing and exposure to cold products that contain shea butter, moisturizers, allowing them to temperatures can impact the olive oil, jojoba oil or cocoa butter penetrate further into the skin. skin on the hands. Protect them to retain moisture and protect the with warm gloves and generously skin against the wind and cold. Use sunscreen. Do not deviate apply moisturizer. from daily sunscreen use. Even Turn down the heat. While it’s though conditions seem less Run the humidifier. Use a important to stay warm, bundle sunny, skin still needs to be humidifier at night to keep skin up rather than cranking the heat. protected from harmful UV supple and improve the health of Avoid especially hot water in the rays. If you are in a snowy area, nasal passages. shower as well. Hot water can strip remember the sun can reflect off the skin of its natural moisture. snow and ice. Ski burn is a real Winter weather can be tough on Take warm showers instead of thing; use sunscreen and lip balm the skin. Prepare in advance to boiling ones. to protect skin and lips. head off dry skin problems. 2 0 2 2 J A N UA RY | 17

Brunch, Building Connections, Bolstering Business The Newly Founded Women of Power Society of North Carolina Packs a Triple Punch By Lynnie Guzman and Hannah Lee A brunch for women Fayetteville store An Affair to difference in the local community. leaders by women Remember Prom, Pageant During the program, Jensen leaders. The Women's & Formal Wear and CEED. revealed her desire to recognize Business Center of Fayetteville, Attendees connected with other remarkable women in the part of the Center for Economic women in the community and community, a brainchild dating Empowerment & Development walked away feeling inspired by to 2017. Having built a business also known as CEED, hosted a the words shared by community around helping girls, young ladies networking event this fall that leaders, including CEED Executive and women to look and feel their focuses on connecting women Director Suzy Hrabovsky; Dr. best, she knew what to do. In 2018, entrepreneurs with each other. LaShanda Shaw, Lashanda she added a \"Women of Power\" The theme for the first annual Shaw Realty owner and event segment to her annual fashion Women of Power Brunch was the speaker; and Kathy Keefe Jensen, extravaganza. The segment \"State of Women in Business.\" AATR owner and operator and highlights outstanding women Fayetteville Mayor Pro Tem. and connects with local young On Monday, Oct. 25, 2021, women participating in the more than 140 women of all This event also launched the popular show. ages gathered at the Cape partnership between AART Fear Botanical Garden for the and the WBC of Fayetteville to After this year's show, Jensen inaugural Women of Power celebrate and acknowledge and CEED's Hrabovsky ― a brunch presented by the North female leaders making a 2021 Woman of Power alum ― (L) Lynnie Guzman is a sales and marketing professional who relocated to Fayetteville in 2017 with her husband and daughter. (R) Hannah Lee is the assistant editor of Up & Coming Weekly. 18 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 2

decided to join forces and create entrepreneurship. She is among dialogue of what is going on The Women of Power Society of the women who own businesses, with women in business, and North Carolina. The new nonprofit and she works, along with CEED, what is going on with women will help fund an endowment to grow these ranks. According in leadership in Fayetteville,\" at CEED, allowing even more to the U.S. Census, women- Chastain said. \"We want to women to become empowered owned enterprises make up little start recognizing women and reach their full potential. more than 41% of all businesses entrepreneurs and women in in Cumberland County. In business in our city who are In revealing the theme for the Fayetteville, that number rises often overlooked.\" AATR 2022 Fashion Show, \"I'm to at least 43%, thanks in part Unstoppable,\" to be held Jan. 22 to community resources like Another goal of the networking at the Crown Coliseum, Jensen The Women's Business Center brunch and nonprofit is to create stepped away from the podium of Fayetteville, a program of mentorships for younger women to walk among the tables to CEED funded in part through a and women who are new to the share stories of how other women cooperative agreement with the area, including military wives. have inspired her. She paused Small Business Administration. at Victoria Huggins to ask her to Chastain hopes women left the share how many times she had From the initial start in 1990, CEED event with a sense of motivation, competed for Miss North Carolina. has grown to become a nonprofit inspiration and an understanding The answer was five times, with organization with three programs: and awareness of how they can 2017 being the year the crown the CEED Business Center; the better themselves, which in turn was hers. So many of the women New Choices Program; and the can then better the community. in the room that day had stories Training Station. All the programs They ― and you ― can stay like Huggins' where they did within CEED serve as a regional tuned for more to come from not give up, which inspired the resource and advocacy center for The Women of Power Society \"I'm Unstoppable\" show theme. women and families, promoting of North Carolina. Jensen feels that women, economic empowerment and especially when joined together, development. The agency's Follow AAFT on social media @ are truly unstoppable. mission is to help women and lifeisanaffair to learn more about families help themselves and find the \"I'm Unstoppable\" fashion Another thing Jensen is their strength to sucCEED. show and Women of Power. passionate about is female Nominate the 2022 women of Caitlin Chastain, the Business power class at the AAFT website Consultant for the Women's https://www.aatrnc.com/t7493/ Business Center of Fayetteville, fashion-show2.h0t2m2l.JA N UA RY | 19 shared, \"We want to create a

Keep the Home Fires Burning By Bonnie Patterson B eing indoors through winter or just quarantine item you would like to eat for dinner?\" Taking can be stressful for everyone in the family. Here others' input will help increase their chance of liking are some tips for weeding out bad attitudes and their dinner, and you will appreciate compliments keeping boredom at bay. instead of complaints. If they want a certain meal, you can ask them to help cook it. Men and boys will Be a good communicator. Use the \"I feel\" statement talk more when they are doing things beside each and not \"you do or you say\" terminology. It is healthy other such as cooking. Sometimes you may find to let others know your feelings, opinions and yourself ordering more take-out because you don't perceptions in a nonthreatening way. Instead of know what to cook anymore. Try a service like Blue saying, \"I am angry because you never help around Ribbon or HelloFresh to cut down on shopping and the house,\" your family may be more understanding spending and increase your fun factor. if you said, \"I feel hurt when I ask you to do chores, and you refuse or ignore my requests for help. I feel Think activity, not entertainment. Try to find taken advantage of when I work a full-time job, and interactive things like puzzles, new sports or craft then I find myself doing all the cleaning at home.\" activities you can do together. Board games where you guess song lyrics, play phone karaoke and Be a good listener and ask specific questions. If hold dance-offs can be hilarious memories ― and you ask, \"How was your day?\" most likely, you will make great blackmail later! Go into a fantasy world get \"fine\" or \"good\" as an answer. Try asking, \"What together by reading the same book and discussing was your favorite part of your day?” or \"Did you have it with your spouse or mom. Try fantasy role play or a any frustrating things happen at work?\" Try not to competitive game on the Xbox or Switch with your ask questions which can be answered with a yes or children. Even if it is not your thing, you may surprise no. Play \"table games\" if you don't know what to talk yourself with how much fun you can have. It shows about, found at Target, Walmart or via the internet how much you love the other person if you try their with a search for ice breaker games. favorite activity, even just for a few minutes a week. Gather around a kitchen table and not a screen. Teamwork makes the dream work. Have a family Ask everyone at the beginning of the week before meeting and list all the daily and weekly chores you go grocery shopping, \"What is one meal or that need to be accomplished. No one wants to Bonnie Patterson worked as a registered nurse for 10 years and has been a military wife for 15 years. In the past three years, she has enjoyed living in Fayetteville as a mother of two, church volunteer and worship leader. 20 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 2

do chores, but if they could each avoid their least favorite one, that would be a win. Many hands make light work. This endeavor can feel more like bonding time if you do chores together in the same room, such as one person clearing the table, another loading the dishwasher and someone else putting away dinner. Add in a favorite song, impromptu dance moves and karaoke may ensue. Physical touch is important to everyone, especially in times of stress. Holding hands, hugs, kisses and cuddles are important in every family relationship. Even teens can enjoy sitting close to you during a movie. Girls may let their mom do their nails, brush or braid their hair or do facials. Moms may even be brave enough to let their daughter give them a makeover. The male version of touch is fist bumps, wrestling, tickling, nudges and hair tousling. Just don't expect them to let you be affectionate around their friends. Intimacy is important in every marriage. Our bodies and minds crave the cuddle hormone oxytocin and endorphins that happen with intimacy. Every relationship is different, but men generally will say they want sex every other day. If you as a woman don't have time or libido for that frequency, consider a compromise. What is it you want more than intimacy with your partner? You have a right to make your desires known. You want a 15 to 30-minute massage, and he wants sex, compromise, and everyone feels loved and appreciated. Maybe you would feel happy if he did X, Y and Z chores, so you feel happier and have more free time for sex. You will be surprised how fast those chores will get done. Touch or sex can release endorphins and serotonin to relieve pain, stress and increase sleep quality. Everyone needs a timeout, even adults. During COVID times, being cooped up together can cause tempers to flare ― even more so in small spaces. A great verse from the Bible states: “Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger.\" Taking deep breaths and counting to 10 before you answer may prevent a large fight where you say words you can't take back. When you feel yourself getting hot under the collar, step away. Say, \"I need 15-30 minutes alone. Mommy needs a break. After that, we can watch your favorite show and cuddle or read a book together.\" This action gives you an out to cool down and think about how to respond better. The other person has confidence you still love and want to be with them. Think about 20 years from now; what would you regret you didn't do more frequently? Prioritize what is important such as relationships, versus giving someone a piece of your mind or finishing your checklist. This realization will ultimately bring you and your family more joy and strengthen your relationships to last a lifetime. 2 0 2 2 J A N UA RY | 21

Warm Up Winter with Fireside Sips By Gwen Holtsclaw, ScrubOaks Restaurant cocktails with an unexpected flavor punch to our list It’s just impossible not to relax in front of a blazing of winter favorites, designed for you to try at home. fire. What watching ocean waves is to summer, The key? Easy preparation and creative mixology. watching flickering flames is to winter. We take a For preparation ease, we recommend using quality deep breath, and we know that, for a little while, all is pods in a Keurig or Nepresso, although you are right in our world. welcome to use your favorite homemade recipe for hot chocolate, espresso or chai. Sipping on a warm cocktail while sitting by a roaring fire on a cold winter evening is the definition of From a spicy and spiked Chai Latte to a Cozy the good life. Winter calls for the warmth of brandy Cranberry Shot, these drinks are exactly what you and whiskey and rum, as well as intense liqueurs. want fireside. Enjoy the recipes, friends! The Bar at ScrubOaks has created several fireside WINTER SPIKED CHAI SPIKED BUTTERSCOTCH HOT CHOCOLATE 1 pod chai latte 6 ounces hot water 1 pod hot chocolate/hot cocoa 1 ½ ounces Butter Pecan Moonshine 8 ounces hot water 1 ounce Godiva Chocolate Liqueur 2 ounces Salted Caramel Whiskey ½ ounce Grand Marnier 2 ounces Buttershots Liqueur 2 ounces Kahlua Prepare chai latte in a large mug. Mix Butter Pecan Moonshine, Godiva Liqueur and Grand Marnier Prepare recipe in a large mug. Mix whiskey and together while chai is brewing. Add liqueur mixture liqueurs while Hot Chocolate is brewing. Stir liqueur to hot chai latte. Stir and garnish with a cinnamon mixture into Hot Chocolate and garnish with stick and a sprinkle of nutmeg. Serve steaming HOT. marshmallows and a drizzle of caramel. HOT AS FIREBALL TODDY Long applauded for its ability to knock out a cold or defeat the flu, the hot toddy just got hotter with the addition of Fireball Whiskey. 4 ounces hot water 2 ounces Fireball Whiskey 5 ounces ginger beer or apple cider 1 tablespoon honey Pour Fireball Whiskey, ginger beer or cider and honey into mug and stir. Add steaming hot water. Garnish with a lemon wheel and candied ginger and stir with a cinnamon stick. Note: White apple cider is a great partner to the Fireball; the ScrubOaks bartenders are partial to using Saranac Ginger Beer for a terrific new flavor blend. Try both! Gwen Holtsclaw and her husband Tim own several local businesses, including ScrubOaks Contemporary American Pub. The Northside resident is a graduate of Methodist University and founded Cheer Ltd. in 1988, which she ran until 2018. Currently, Gwen handles marketing and menu design for ScrubOaks. 22 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 2

COZY CRANBERRY SHOOTER IRISH MOONSHINE COFFEE 1 ounce Maker’s Mark Bourbon 1 pod dark roast coffee 1 ounce Amaretto 8 ounces hot water 2 ounces Cranberry Juice 2 ounces Jameson Whiskey 2 ounces Butter Pecan Moonshine Place liquors and juice in a cocktail shaker with ice. 1 ounce Bailey’s Irish Cream Shake well and strain the mixture into two shot glasses. Serve while chilled. It will warm you up from Prepare coffee in a large mug. Mix whiskey and the inside out. liqueurs while hot chocolate is brewing. Stir liqueur mixture into hot coffee and garnish with a dollop of whipped cream. Creating mocktails The great thing about these fireside cocktails is that any drink can be converted to a mocktail with the substitution of flavored creamers. Also note a cinnamon simple syrup substitutes well for Fireball Whiskey. Check out these Starbucks and Coffe- Mate Creamers to make the most of your winter mocktails. For Buttershots Liqueur, use Starbucks® Toffeenut Flavored Creamer. For Salted Caramel Whiskey, use Coffee-Mate® Italian Sweet Crème. For Kahlua, use Coffee-mate® Unlocked Italian Espresso Roast Liquid Coffee Creamer. For Butter Pecan Moonshine, use Coffee-Mate® Creme Brulee Liquid Coffee Creamer. For Amaretto, use Coffee-Mate® Amaretto Liquid Coffee Creamer. For Godiva Chocolate Liqueur, use Coffee-mate® Chocolate Creme Powder Coffee Creamer. Here’s to warm winter drinks, a nice fire and good times with great friends. SLOW COOKER WHITE SPICED WINE 2 rosemary sprigs 1 cup white cranberry juice, divided 1 orange or tangerine 1 bottle dry white wine 1 cup fresh cranberries 5 whole cloves 2 cinnamon sticks 1 anise pod ¼ cup light rum Put rosemary sprig in a large saucepan with ½ of the cranberry juice. Boil for 3 minutes and strain into a slow cooker. Discard rosemary. Carefully peel orange/ tangerine with a potato peeler without getting any pith. Add peel to slow cooker with remaining ingredients. Cook on low for 1 hour. When warm, stir in rum. Serve garnished with rosemary, cranberries and cinnamon sticks. 2 0 2 2 J A N UA RY | 23

January is Human Trafficking Awareness Month Shedding Light on this Dark Industry, Providing Help and Hope for Victims By Lindsey Lane In conjunction with The Child Advocacy Center of Fayetteville/Cumberland County Disclaimer: The name and Jane was trafficked for two more she escaped from him. What years after the incident at the she explained to the jury was a specific identifiers have been hotel. She said that story to the world that most, much like that changed to protect the identity jury as she testified against her officer in the hotel room, could of the victim. trafficker in court nearly four not imagine or believe existed years later. “At that moment, in our community. Almost a The hotel room was flooded with I felt that everything that my decade later, we now know police. “Jane” stood in the corner trafficker had told me was true,” what human trafficking looks watching as officers bagged the she stated. “I was a heroin- like for victims like Jane, and we heroin and cocaine in evidence addicted prostitute. No one continue to fight to combat it in bags. “There’s a handgun in the would ever believe me if I went Cumberland County. bathroom,” she whispered. She to the police and told them what led an officer to the spot where he was doing to me.” Often, people misunderstand the gun was hidden. “These what human trafficking is. It aren’t my drugs, and that’s not Jane met her trafficker at a rarely, if ever, involves children my gun. They’re all his. I don’t local nightclub, where he later being kidnapped or women want to do this. I just can’t get introduced her to heroin. Within being chained to a hotel room. away from him,” she said. The three days, she was addicted, In reality, the ties that bind officer pulled his handcuffs and her trafficker was forcing victims of human trafficking are from his belt. “That’s what they her to engage in prostitution often unseen, formed when a all say,” he replied, as he placed to pay off her drug debt. He trafficker recognizes vulnerability the handcuffs around her wrists. withheld heroin or beat her if she in a victim and then uses that “You’re a drug addict, and you’re refused, and on three separate vulnerability to manipulate and prostituting, and now you’re occasions, kidnapped her after control them. Traffickers prey going to jail.” Lindsey Lane is the senior legal counsel for the Human Trafficking Institute in Fairfax, Virginia, an anti-human trafficking agency that works to decimate modern slavery at its source by empowering police and prosecutors to stop traffickers. Previously, she served as an assistant district attorney in Fayetteville, as the human trafficking prosecutor. 24 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 2

on vulnerable populations, like victim receives enough heroin prostitution, one of which runaways or drug addicts. They to keep them from going involved a child. establish a relationship with into withdrawals. them, sometimes separating Cumberland County’s continued the victim from their family A dark, endless success in combatting human members or loved ones. Once cycle ensues for the trafficking comes from the they have established that trust, victims who, as Jane tremendous efforts of the they exploit them. Cumberland County Sheriff’s described, see no Office Human Trafficking For many victims in Cumberland avenue for escape. Unit, which includes the city County, that vulnerability is and county law enforcement an opioid addiction that leads Fortunately, Cumberland County agencies, the Office of the them into a dark work of the continues to lead the state to District Attorney and countless commercial sex industry. Long combat human trafficking and service providers who serve gone are the days of sex workers find and serve victims like Jane. victims of human trafficking walking the streets to advertise She experienced the devastating in the Fayetteville area. Their prostitution. Now, traffickers physical, mental and emotional efforts in educating and training use the Internet and any of the abuse that victims endure. the community in recognizing, hundreds of websites available According to statistics provided identifying and reporting to advertise their victims to through the State of North suspected victims of human potential buyers. Traffickers Carolina Court Information trafficking continue to shed light often negotiate and arrange System, in 2020 alone, 17 criminal on the dark world of the industry. the date, setting locations charges of trafficking were filed Together, the community can and prices, and then keep the in Fayetteville. Three of those be the light for victims who, like money the victim received for charges involved the trafficking Jane, needed hope. themselves. In return, the of children; 36 other charges related to promoting or soliciting Common Human Trafficking Indicators • appears coached by an ambiguous “other” person on what to say; Information from the Cumberland County Sheriff’s Office Human Trafficking Unit from • is often disoriented and confused with signs of https://ccsonc.org/human-trafficking/ mental and physical abuse; According to the CCSO Office Human Trafficking • has bruises in various healing stages and Unit, a person may be a victim of trafficking if she shows signs of denial of food/water/sleep/ or he: medical attention; • seems disconnected from family, friends • lives in unsuitable conditions; seems to have and community; an unstable living situation; • stops attending school or has sudden/ • lacks identification/driver’s license/passport, dramatic change in behavior; possessions, clothes, shoes; • has an older boyfriend/girlfriend; seems to • lacks freedom and has unreasonable have a new friend network; security measures; • appears fearful/timid/submissive and • is engaged in commercial sex acts or in is always around someone to whom perpetual work outside lawful statutes; he/she defers; • carries multiple cell phones and hotel room keys and has unexplained gifts or wealth; • and/or has frequent use of or dependency on drugs and alcohol. How to Get Help or report 910-433-1869. Human Trafficking • For all other HT tips and HT issues outside • For all emergencies, call 911. of Cumberland County, call National HT • For anonymous tips in Cumberland County, Trafficking, Polaris Project, Hotline – 888-373-7888. call Crime Stoppers 910-483-TIPS (8477) or submit info at P3Tips. Please provide all relevant info –– license plate(s), • For HT tips in Cumberland County, call HT Unit names and descriptions of people, phone – 910-677-5514. numbers, addresses, etc. Leave a message if • For HT tips in Fayetteville, call Fay PD HT Unit – no answer. 2 0 2 2 J A N UA RY | 25

Girlfriend Getaway - Winter Edition By Alena Barosa Winter is here now ― and here to stay for a bit. The days are colder and shorter, and so many individuals retreat to the indoors. A great adventure can bring comfort and even much-needed excitement to a frosty day or weekend. Sometimes all a woman needs is a group of like-minded girlfriends ready for a fun outing! For a quick pick me up, venture to downtown Fayetteville. A jaunt to Rude Awakening coffee house brings the joy of delightful hot cocoa and aromatic cider mixes. Winterbloom Café enthuses visitors with a large selection of teas and masterfully crafted cocktails. And Lake Gaston brewery brings the cheer of year-round lavender beer, while the neighboring Pressed boutique levels the amusement of retail therapy. Local businesses are waiting for you and your friends to make it a day! Mountain momentum neighboring Banner Elk offer ski you to the top of the mountain. Right resorts — Sugar Mountain, for one — after you take in the incredible view, If you are up for a drive, plenty to see tubing and an alpine coaster. What’s jump onto that donut-shaped tube in the rest of the state awaits as well. an alpine coaster, you ask? Imagine and rush down the mountain like a kid Beech Mountain cabin rental offers yourself being a part of the bobsleigh on a snow day. picturesque views from your very team, rushing down the rails as your own chalet, cabin or yurt. And in life flashes by, the bellows of laughter Drama queens January, you may even luck out from your girlfriends behind you, with the surrounding sight of frozen awkward pictures afterward. That is A theater buff in your group may enjoy waterfalls! A girlfriends’ getaway the experience of a lifetime brought the opportunities afforded by any among the snow-covered trees, to you by the Wilderness Run Alpine one of the stellar productions around complete silence induced by Mother Coaster in Banner Elk. It can be yours the state. Elizabeth City’s MUSIC off Nature, fireplace, drinks and a few embellished in the magic of snow. MAIN offers a unique adaptation of adventure stories to share might be “Alice, an Operatic Wonderland” in what is needed to turn your winter Skiing and snowboarding are not your January. Boone’s Appalachian Theatre into a complete wonderland. things? Take on tubing. If you are a fan of the High Country is showing “The of donuts, imagine riding one. How fun Great Gatsby” in February. Richmond If your group of girlfriends is up for would that be? A ski lift can swoosh Community College in Hamlet is adventure, Beech Mountain and featuring CATAPULT 2022 “Magic Alena Barosa is in the second year of a Ph.D. program studying behavior analysis. She works at Autism Therapeutic Services and has an 8-year-old son. Together they have two cats, one small pup, five chickens and a few foster cats waiting for their forever home. 26 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 2

Shadows” in March. Fayetteville’s own complement any girlfriends’ getaway! and calming your tired nerves. theaters can charm you with their This local family farm is the amazing selections as well. Consider visiting producer of muscadine wines like Old Another place to achieve tranquility is Gilbert Theater or Cape Fear Regional Cumberland, Taylor Divine, Bladen the Spa at Pinehurst in neighboring Theatre following a scrumptious Blush, Harmony Hall, Cape Owen Red, Moore County. This gem is snuggled dinner at a local establishment. Sir Walter Raleigh, Red and White among many charming spots in Sangrias and a few seasonal favorites. the land of pines. It offers complete Live it up locally packages for a day of facials, massages Do everyday stressors keep you on and other incredibly relaxing spa A wine connoisseur in your group edge? Invite your girlfriends to get services. Settle in for the day, wrap of girlfriends can appreciate a local together for a day at the spa. The yourself in complete tranquility and vineyard, Lu Mil, located in the locally owned Cave Halotherapy and soothe your mind, body and soul. bordering Bladen County town of Spa located in Hope Mills offers a Elizabethtown. Beautiful vineyard relaxing experience similar to that of It might take all of the experiences cabins complete with a heart-shaped a day at the beach, minus the sand all mentioned above or only one small hot tub nestled among the sleepy over your car and the crashing waves adventure to energize you for weeks grapevines from the prior season and casually swiping you off your feet. and months ahead. So, grab your paired with the abundant selection of Halotherapy? What’s that, you say? girlfriends, learn a new skill or sharpen wines beckon you and your besties. It is also known as salt therapy. The an old one, find your moment of Muscadine grapes ripen in fall only benefits of salt therapy are boundless: peace and explore this magical world to be turned into tasteful desserts balancing your body’s natural state, around you. and delightful wines. Jellies, jams, relaxing those hard-working muscles ciders and dry and sweet wines can 2 0 2 2 J A N UA RY | 27

What’s Your Side Hustle? \"Chef Dee\" Chef and Caterer A staff report Meet Demetria Davis, a local woman who is a full-time health care worker, wife, mom and former sports star who has a passion for plating up fabulous meals. With boundless energy and creative confidence, Chef Dee, as she is fondly known, may be new to the Fayetteville food scene, but her penchant for cooking and pleasing palates is decades old. Women’s View Magazine Editor Crissy Neville recently held a Q&A with the chef to learn more about her burgeoning side business, Dee’s Champion Cuisine. Stay tuned to WVM in 2022 to find Demetria’s recipes throughout the year. Please tell our readers a little about yourself, your family and full-time employment. Hi, everyone. I am Demetria Davis, a native of Fayetteville. I have been married to retired Army Captain and current City of Fayetteville Councilman Christopher Davis for 12 years; we have five children and one granddaughter. My primary source of employment, for now, is working from home for a healthcare company. Please tell our readers about your educational background and the careers you have held. I graduated from Terry Sanford High School and attended The University of South Carolina on a full track and field scholarship. I graduated with a bachelor's of science in Exercise Science. I also obtained an M.Ed. in teaching and curriculum online from Liberty University. My first job was that of a professional athlete endorsed by NIKE, where I traveled the world competing and representing the United States of America. My greatest accomplishment during that time was winning a gold medal in the 2003 World Championships in Paris, France. What is your side job? Tell our amazing meals for people via their kitchen while readers a little about it. I serve them and catering events of 50 people or less. The typical time on the job can range from My side job is that of a private chef and caterer. 3-5 hours, depending on the occasion ― but time My services span that of a traveling chef, private flies fast when you are working in your passion and chef, catering and baking. I enjoy preparing having fun. 28 | J A N UA RY 2 0 2 2

make their experience one they will never forget. What skills do you have that make this job possible, and how did you obtain those skills? Elaborate on your background in this skillset. The skills I have honestly are a gift from God. I have been cooking since I was 8 years old ― it just comes naturally. I research and I pray, and God provides the ideas and the passion. I am continually learning and perfecting my craft, open to suggestions and ready to take on the next job. Do you plan to continue your second hustle well into the future or just for the interim? From what does this side employment stem, I plan to continue my a passion or skill, a desire for side income or culinary craft as long as something else? possible and as long as My side employment comes from my passion for God provides the open cooking and baking. I love to make others happy doors. I have been professionally doing this job for with my food. It's a lifestyle. only a year, but my experience with cooking spans 30 years. What makes your side job exciting and fun? What do you like most about it? How much time do you spend on your side job, and when? The fun part about this job is food brings us all together, and food is love. I love the challenge of I carve out at least 3 weekends per month for my trying different things, and I absolutely love to side business, but the time spent depends on the hear the oohs and aahs when clients are eating. holidays and special occasions throughout the year. My passion for cooking reminds me of running Most of my services occur in the evenings, Thursday- track. Crafting food gives me the same adrenaline Sunday, with the occasional few during the week. rush. I prepare for the meet, but rather than run, I cook and get in the zone to deliver the best Can you share any stories or highlights from experience possible. your side hustle, standout experiences or points of pride? What are the pros and cons of the job? One of my favorite experiences was being asked I really cannot think of any cons. It's a passion, and I to cook for the late, honorable City of Fayetteville love every minute of it. The pros are that I am doing Councilman William \"Bill\" Crisp. He hired me to something I enjoy, and I get to serve others and prepare lamb chops and lobster tails, and afterward, he called my husband to tell him that the meal was one of the best he had ever had. 2 0 2 2 J A N UA RY | 29

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