Women's View Magazine, November 2018

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TABLE OF CONTENTS5 Let’s talk turkey 15 Learn about the ALMS House And easy-peasy homemade pecan pie, too. This grassroots organization provides food and clothing to local people in need.6 November is National Novel Writing Month There are also many local opportunities to fire up 18 Local church hosts internationally your writing engine. acclaimed exhibition “Icons in Transformation”8 Meet Mother Goose, Mrs. Clause and Artist Ludmila Pawlowska discusses her Queen Victoria childhood in the former Soviet Union and what When local seamstress Mary Mac Shields was inspires her work today, which can be seen at born, she was given a golden thimble. Holy Trinity Episcopal Church through January.11 Greener gifts: Eco-friendly holiday ideas 20 Understanding hurricane and windstorm Make the ones you love (and Mother Earth) deductibles happy. North Carolina is one of 19 states affected by these deductibles.12 The most wonderful time of the year in 21 Review: “Are You My Mother?” Fayetteville COVER STORY A tragi-comic graphic novel by Alison Bechdel, “A Dickens Holiday” and so much more. namesake of the Bechdel Test.Building a lifetime of memories, NO RADIATION. NO PAIN. TATARIFFIC! BREAST CARE THAT Treat Yourself! One vacation at a time... MAKES SENSE Explore your surroundings & Shop Local Specializing in cruises, Book your appointment today groups, weddings, family, and take care of the \"girls\"! NOVEMBER 2018 3 all-inclusives, adventure, Disney. www.phthermography.comJill Merrill Owner/Travel Agent/ Hope Mills, N.C. 910.580.2077910-423-2088 • [email protected] 117 BROADFOOT AVENUE www.FavoriteTravelAgent.com Suite 201 Haymount Healing & Wellness Building

VOLUME 12 ISSUE 11 PUBLISHER F & B Publications notes from the assistant editor EDITOR Stephanie Crider [email protected] and all it brings ASSISTANT EDITORT his issue includes lots of fun, family-friendly Simultaneously, people on the same end of the Leslie Pyo things to do in our community this time of spectrum, whichever end that may be, lose out year. “A Dickens Holiday” in downtown on the process of refining, testing and defending [email protected] (pg. 12) has become a time-honored their assumptions, perceptions and ideas. Theyclassic, but it’s also in November that we enjoy can find themselves in a feedback loop of ART DIRECTOR“The Heart of Christmas” show (pg. 13), have the positive reinforcement rather than in healthy Elizabeth Longchance to see a world-renowned exhibition (pg. dialogue with people with many perspectives. In [email protected]), honor and celebrate our veterans (pg. 16), turn, opinions become more brittle and extreme.and can join other local writers in penning an MARKETING REPRESENTATIVEentire novel (pg. 6). I don’t know what your situation is with your Linda McAlister family or close friends. I know that for someNovember is also the month of the U.S. midterm people in my life, continuing to discuss politics [email protected]. with loved ones they disagree with is truly too painful or sensitive at this time. I believe them. OPERATIONS DIRECTORFor many families in America, last Thanksgiving But as the holiday season approaches after the Paulette Naylorand the one before that were different. Some election, each of us has an opportunity.decided they could not make their usual trek home [email protected] be with family – but not because of financial- The more we choose to talk with people weor travel-related difficulties. Others went home disagree with, the more we develop our own DISTRIBUTION MANAGER/and regretted it due to tense conversations or understanding of what we believe. In some SALES ADMINISTRATORbitter eruptions around the dinner table. cases, that may look like amending or reversing Laurel Handforth a previously held assumption. In others, that mayIt’s been two years since Donald Trump was look like reinforcing and more fully developing [email protected] president, and the sixth of this month a train of thought by having to explain it tomarks the midterm elections. This year, it seems someone who is starting with a totally different CONTRIBUTORSmany people are simply out of the energy and base set of ideas. Judy Stapletonwillpower it takes to discuss politics, and in some Robin Deffendallcases anything, with their loved ones who voted Talking with people we disagree with also helpsdifferently than themselves. us fight back against a system that’s larger than us. Mary Mac Shields Call it “the media,” “politics in the Trump era” or LaNatria EllisPolarization starts with a healthy element of whatever, but this system is clearly exacerbating Erin Pesutsociety: differing opinions. In a polarized social existing tensions and leading to extreme division. Mindy Loveenvironment, though, the personal thoughts Relationship helps us understand why peoplebehind opinions are not heard out by anyone think what they think, and in some cases, it Delores Schiebeexcept those who already hold the same views. shows us our root motivations are more similar Sade' WilsonPeople begin to withdraw from relationships than our votes would imply. Sometimes, it showswith those who have different opinions than us just how different our motivations are. Tears, Ludmila Pawlowskathemselves. Consequently, people on the other shouting and more will probably accompany Tiffany Coadend of the political spectrum begin to seem more these conversations. Most importantly, though,and more like stereotyped caricatures – a mass relationship reminds us that those we disagree WOMEN’S VIEW MAGAZINEof “them” – rather than individual humans with with are humans full of imperfection, passion, 208 ROWAN STREETindividual motivations and thought processes. In ideas, pain and love, just as we are.today’s era, information about “them” begins to FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 28301primarily come from broad headlines and memes However you vote on the sixth and wherever PHONE: 910-484-6200or quick “facts” on social media. you are for the holidays, I hope you have a November that’s full of growth, hope and love. Fax: 910-484-9218 Interested in contributing to Women's View Magazine? Email [email protected] or call 910-484-6200. Women’s View Magazine is by, for and about women in Cumberland County. Published by F&B Publications in conjunction with Media Marketing Management. All Rights Reserved. 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JUST SAYIN’ … HEEEEEEY!JUDY STAPLETON “Hey, y’all”Contributing WriterPop me an email and tell me about the laughter inyour life: [email protected]’s talk turkeyI am so thankful – I was truly blessed to Just Judy’s make it through that visit from ole nasty girl Hurricane Flo with minimal damage and just NICE ’N EASY PECAN PIEan inconvenient loss of power. My hope isthat you also fared well. Oh, and I gotta know 3 eggs– did you check out that tata-mashin’ machine 1/4 cup real butter, meltedlast month for Breast Cancer Awareness Month? 1/2 cup Karo or other corn syrupDon’t put it off, now. 1 cup sugar 1 cup crushed pecans It is time for cooler weather, layers of warm 1 deep-dish frozen pie crustclothes and good hearty eatin’. It’s OK ’cause Let the pie crust set at roomthose extra layers of pudginess will help keep temperature. Mix ingredientsus warm. I wonder what your grocery list for together and pour into the pie crust.Thanksgiving dinner would look like next Bake at 350 F for one hour.to mine? We all have special traditions and Note: All ovens are different. Check therecipes that have been passed down and are an pie in 50 minutes. If it does not jiggleimportant part of our celebrations. when you shake it, the pie is ready. Be sure to let me know how you like it! Family and friends – and sometimes totalstrangers – come together to eat, reminisce, NOVEMBER 2018 5laugh, watch the game, go huntin’, play games,chase the kids around and eat some more. Whohasn’t heard, “who made the dressin'?” or, “ifAunt Ethel didn’t make it, I ain’t eatin’ it”? Truthbe told, Aunt Ethel hasn’t cooked in years andshe picked up that dressin’ from the Piggly Wigglydown the road. I know ’cause I toted her there. After much planning, shopping, preparing,cleaning, cooking, baking and more cleaning,we thank God, fix our plates, eat it up, then20-30 minutes later, it’s time to clean up! I lookaround. It’s a ghost town in here! Yup, they allscattered to watch that game, go huntin’ or takea nap. Before everyone goes back to their homes,I have cleaned up that kitchen at least twicemore cause ya know someone just had to have acold turkey sandwich or a slice of pie during thecommercials. The day is loud, busy and long, but oh howsweet the lasting memories become for us. I wishyou all such a Thanksgiving – one filled with goodfood, good company, much laughter, leftoversand love. Now THAT is something to be thankful for! When I check in with you again, it will be timefor Christmas. I just can’t keep up anymore. I’m Just Judy sayin’ I’d love to hear from y’all!So send me a note at the email address above.

ROBIN DEFFENDALL Librarian, Cumberland County Public Library & Information CenterRobin Deffendall is a librarian at Cumberland County Public Library & O nce upon a time – way back in November 1999Information Center where she coordinates the Write On, Right Now – Chris Baty, a self-described goofball whose solepublic writers' group. She also helped found the Writers Workshop @ Your qualification was a love of books, launched a sleep-Library. She is currently working on two projects: an anthology of short depriving, soul-crushing yet oddly exhilarating endeavor knownstories with the members of her private writers’ group, Off the Page, and as National Novel Writing Month. The goal he set for himselfher own novel, “Rex Appeal.” Her previous published works include a and his 20 friends: write a 50,000-word novel in 30 days.novella, “Offering,” and an anthology, “Dragons in the Attic.” They were all clearly mad.November isNational Novel Today, NaNoWriMo is a multi-continent event fueled byWriting Month vibrant online and in-person communities and gallons of coffee. The nonprofit’s website announced that in 2017, “402,142 participants … started the month as auto-mechanics, out-of- work actors, and middle school English teachers. They walked away novelists.” Some of those more than 400,000 novelists have gone on to revise their novels and sign contracts with major publishers. Noted books in this category include Sara Gruen’s “Water for Elephants,” Erin Morgenstern’s “The Night Circus,” Hugh Howey’s “Wool” and Rainbow Rowell’s “Fangirl.” I have never “won” NaNoWriMo and possibly never will. My writing time is limited to the few hours I can snatch between the end of “The Rachel Maddow Show” and the start of narcolepsy. But I found the benefits of participating were worth the exhaustion. My first year of NaNoWriMo taught me both the value of turning off my filters to just write and the importance of having a plan before you do that. The experience led me to that mystical zone that writers hear so much about: that place where characters take on a life of their own and wonderful, creative things happen without the author’s explicit intention. I still chase that high. It’s what NaNoWriMo is all about – giving up the constraints that hold us back in order to embrace the freedom and joy of creativity. It’s why I’ll be back this year for 30 days of insanity. So how does NaNoWriMo work?6 NOVEMBER 2018 Participants join online at www.NaNoWriMo.org and then connect with local leaders called Municipal Liaisons and online buddies of their choice. Fayetteville’s MLs, Samantha A. Failen of Saint Pauls and Ellice Gullett of Sanford, will organize events and serve as advisers and cheerleaders. Their plans for 2018 include a kickoff at what was, when this was written, an as-yet- to-be-determined Fayetteville location at midnight Oct. 31. For those who prefer to write in their pajamas, a virtual write-in will

take place at the same time. Failen and Gullet will also offer two Communitieswrite-ins each week, one in the Fayetteville area and another in for Writersthe Sanford/Aberdeen area. National Novel Writing MonthWhat if NaNoWriMo isn’t for me? I’ll never be Build support, structure and community through theable to complete 50,000 words. national organization. Start your journey at www.nanowrimo.org.Not everyone works well under the pressure of NaNoWriMo,and in truth, “winning” isn’t really critical to the experience. Since Write On, Right NowI needed less pressure, I chose to modify the program for my own A public writers’ support group based in Westpurposes. NeedToWriteMo, as I call it, asks participants to write Regional Library and led by yours truly. Meets at 6every day, even if it’s for a mere 15 minutes. The only sacrosanct p.m. on the third Thursday of every month. Checkrule is: If you are not making your word count or daily fingers- the library’s Calendar of Events (www.cumberland.on-keyboard objective, you are not allowed to beat yourself up lib.nc.us) for meeting location. Email rdeffend@about it. That’s it. No pressure; no guilt. It works for me. cumberland.lib.nc.us or call 910-487-0440 x1470 for more information.For those who want to write a novel but don’t know where orhow to begin, or for those who desire personal feedback, there Off The Pageis nothing like a live writers’ group. My writers group, Write On, A private group by invitation only that hostsRight Now, regularly offers insight into why parts of members’ intermittent public write-ins. The next public eventstories may not quite work. We have applauded great passages is scheduled for Nov. 10, 9 a.m.- 4 p.m., at Northand laughed in all the right places. We have grieved with an Regional Library, 855 McArthur Rd. Email Robin.author over a favorite character who, for the sake of the story, [email protected] for details.needed to die. The right group is like this – praise measuredby kindly offered criticism and instruction to help you learn Writers Ink Guild of Fayetteville andto be a better writer. It can turn writing into child’s play – that Cumberland Countyis, if children were prone to sitting alone at a computer for Meets at 7 p.m. on the third Tuesday of every monthhundreds of hours, ingesting high-caloric snacks and caffeinated (except July and December) at 2nd & Charles, 1920beverages while pulling out their remaining hair. Skibo Rd. Email Heather Sapp at cake.heather@ gmail.com or visit https://fayettevillewritersinkguild.My private group, Off The Page, offers community support webs.com for more information.through occasional public all-day write-ins that are open toall writers. It’s a great way to schedule an appointment with Writers Helping Writers -your muse while fulfilling the necessity to congregate with Cumberland County, NCother authors. The next OTP write-in is scheduled for Nov. Meets twice monthly for manuscript critique in10. Participants can come for any part of the day and are addition to periodic social gatherings and occasionalencouraged to bring a dish to share so that no one feels required instructional classes. Find more information about theto step away from the keyboard to refuel. group on Meetup.com.A final option for assistance with your writing endeavor is to Novel Ideas of Pinehurstjoin one of countless online communities. An internet search Meets for manuscript critique every second Sundayfor “online writing community” yields more than a billion hits, at 3 p.m. at Hair Loft on Linden, 850 Linden Rd,including many curated lists of recommended groups for various Pinehurst. Find more information on Meetup.com.writing styles and genres. While many online groups are free tojoin, others may charge a membership fee. North Carolina Writers’ Network The statewide writers’ organization boasts regionalSo join a community, grab a laptop or even a pen and paper, subgroups, two annual writers’ conferences,and get that novel started! competitions, periodic workshops and much more. Learn more at www.ncwriters.org. NOVEMBER 2018 7

Meet When Mary Mac Shields was born in Miami, Florida, a friend of her grandmother gave her aMary Mac golden thimble. Both of her grandmothers sewed,Shields and young Mary began sewing at the age of five. She's now a prolific costumer who's lived inFayetteville's Mother Fayetteville for 35 plus years.Goose, Mrs. Clara Claus She's created beautiful costumes for events like \"Aand Queen Victoria Dickens Holiday,\" Cape Fear Regional Theatre, Sweet Tea Shakespeare, Campbell UniversityWOMEN’S VIEW MAGAZINE: MRS. CLAUS: Sugar plums (that Players, and the People You Know Players at HolyWhat do you love about children? dance in your head). Trinity Episcopal Church. She is a retired media coordinator for John Griffin Middle School, whereMOTHER GOOSE: I love the QUEEN VICTORIA: Marzipan many local students met her in the library. Today,exuberance of children as they candy. It was a favorite of my she serves as an intern at St. Joseph’s Episcopaldiscover new things and find husband’s. Church on Ramsey Street and is in the process oftheir own interest in life. becoming a deacon in the Diocese of East Carolina. WVM: What's your advice for Perhaps most recognizably, though, Shields hasMRS. CLAUS: Santa and I never good behavior on Thanksgiving? a habit of embodying three iconic female figureshad children of our own, so we wrapped up in myth and storytelling: Mothersee all the children of the world as MOTHER GOOSE: Don’t let the Goose, Mrs. Claus and Queen Victoria. Each ofour family. Children bring a sense dish run away with the spoon. these ladies were kind enough to sit down withof wonder to all they do. They are Women's View Magazine and answer some of ourfilled with hope and love. MRS. CLAUS: Remember to be burning questions. thankful every day, not just onQUEEN VICTORIA: Thanksgiving Day. Mother GooseNo comment. Where she's appeared: QUEEN VICTORIA: The British John Griffin Middle School, Lillian Black ElementaryWVM: What do children love don't celebrate Thanksgiving. School, Cape Fear Regional Theatre, Cape Fear Memorialabout you? After all, the Pilgrims hosted Hospital, Holy Trinity Preschool, St. John’s Preschool. the first Thanksgiving dinnerMOTHER GOOSE: Children of after their successful exit from Her motto in one sentence:all ages like my rhymes and find England. Fiddle–de–Deethem fun to recite and act out thestories. I encourage everyone to WVM: What's on your wishlistalways remember how to skip. for Christmas?MRS. CLAUS: I have MOTHER GOOSE: Mittens forunconditional love for them, and the kittens that lost theirs.I think they recognize that my giftis just being able to be with them.QUEEN VICTORIA: MRS. CLAUS: That Santa has aAgain, no comment. safe trip around the world on Christmas Eve.WVM: What's your favorite edibleholiday treat, and why? QUEEN VICTORIA: I would like to give the royal guardsMOTHER GOOSE: The Queen of permission to smile onHeart’s tarts. Christmas Day.88 NNOOVVEEMMBBEERR 2018

Mrs. Clara Claus Lisa Powell Where she's appeared:Down Syndrome Children's Group, Cape Fear Hospital, Owner/Franchiseethe Cancer Center, Special Populations Christmas Party, McDonald’s Restaurants Autumn Care of Fayetteville, Village Green. Fayetteville Ladies Her motto in one sentence: Power Lunch I do not keep the list of who is naughty or nice. Nov. 7 | www.fayettevilleladiespowerlunch.com QUEEN VICTORIA Where she's appeared: F o u r times a year,the Fayetteville Ladies Power Lunch brings local \"A Dickens Holiday\" in downtown Fayetteville women together to inspire, educate and empower every November since 2015. one another. Wednesday, Nov. 7, is the final power Her motto in one sentence: lunch of the year, featuring keynote speaker Lisa We are not amused! Saleeby-Powell. Now the president of Future Unlimited, Inc., Saleeby-Powell started working at the business’s first McDonald’s franchise restaurant in 1982 when her parents switched from building restaurants to owning one. After attending a meeting and seeing the energy in a room filled with entrepreneurs, she decided she wanted to own a McDonald's and worked toward that goal for 10 years. Now the company owns six McDonalds restaurants here in Cumberland County and employs more than 300 people. Lisa has won several civic and business awards as well as the Outstanding Woman Entrepreneur of the Year from Methodist University's Reeves School of Business. She serves on the board of a number of local organizations and is involved with numerous charitable organizations. The power lunch starts at 10 a.m. with a shopportunity, which includes vendors as well as a wine bar and tasting. The luncheon and Saleeby-Powell’s talk follow from 11:45 a.m. to 2 p.m. After the meal, attendees are invited to stay and shop until 3 p.m. A portion of the proceeds from the event will be donated to the Kidsville News Literacy and Education Foundation. The Kidsville News Literacy and Education Foundation is a 501c3 nonprofit organization that offers funding assistance for reading and educational resources that are provided at no charge to children grades K-6. Since 1998, Kidsville News! has been distributed to all elementary school children in Cumberland and Hoke Counties. The luncheon takes place at the Ramada Plaza at Bordeaux. Visit www.fayettevilleladiespowerlunch.com or call 910-273-2820 to make your reservation. Tickets cost $35. NOVEMBER 2018 9

FASHION with LaNatria Ellis StormCenturyTheof the Hurricane Florence ravaged our whole state. But we came together and fought back against the storm. Here's to the end of another Hurricane Season! Shot behind my Glasses – Zero UV house in Garland, Bag – Gucci North Carolina Coat – Vintage Etienne Aigner Boots – Public Desire1100 NNOOVVEEMMBBEERR 2018 Photographer – Tim Ellis Follow LaNatria: Instagram: @Caribbean_cowgirl www.caribbeancowgirl.weebly.com

ERIN PESUT Erin Pesut is currently serving as the interim executive director at Sustainable Sandhills. In addition to being a health advocate with Beautycounter, educating people about theInterim Executive Director, importance of choosing safer products, she works as a professional writer, editor and contentSustainable Sandhills strategist. When not reading or writing, she enjoys growing flowers and food at home.Greener gifts:Eco-friendly holiday ideasS ustainability doesn’t have to end with your recycling bin at the end of the driveway or your compost pile in the backyard. This year, extend your consideration for people and the planet in the way you celebrate the season ofgiving. Consider these eco-friendly ideas to go greener for the holidays.START WITH YOUR GIFT LIST. Going green can mean a few things: buying fewergifts, seeking sustainable alternatives (like buying Fair Trade-certified items,using recycled paper, choosing local and/or organic ingredients) or supporting anenvironmental nonprofit directly.GIVE THE GIFT OF TIME. Not every gift comes wrapped in paper. Instead of sharingpresents with everyone you’re grateful for, share your time with them instead. A longwalk, a holiday show, a special night out or a uniquely planned afternoon is a one-of-a-kind way to make memories.DISRUPT TRADITION AND FILL STOCKINGS WITH HANDWRITTENNOTES. If your family hangs stockings, consider forgoing trinkets, toys and treatsand instead write each other heartfelt notes. Seal the notes in envelopes so there’sno peeking ahead of time. If the whole family gets involved, each family member willhave a memento that will last way longer than a chocolate bar.REDUCE. REUSE. REGIFT. There’s no hard feelings in regifting a present that youwon’t put to good use. Honestly. Gifts that keep on giving are way better than giftsthat end up in a landfill.GIVE A GIFT DIRECTLY TO MOTHER EARTH. Consider making a donation toCarbonFund.org to offset your carbon footprint. Each year, the average American’scarbon footprint is a whopping 50,000 pounds. These carbon emissions add up fromyour home, car, air travel and everything in between. A gift within a gift, purchasingcarbon offsets for your friends, family members or your own business is one wayto work toward being carbon neutral. If you’re looking for a local carbon offsetprogram, consider supporting Sustainable Sandhill’s Carbon Bank, which is the firstCarbon Tree Bank in Cumberland County. For more information, visitwww.sustainablesandhills.org/carbon-tree-bank1.There are hundreds of other ways to change the commerce of the holiday season.This year, how will you effect change? This year, how will you put the planet first? NOVEMBER 2018 11

MINDY LOVE Mindy Love is a full-time environmental program manager with the U.S. Army Reserve Command and creator of the blog Sweet Tea and Pasta. She’sCreator/blogger, Sweet Tea and Pasta lived in North Carolina for over 20 years and started her blog to share herwww.sweetteaandpasta.com Southern experiences with others. When she’s not assisting the military in saving the earth, she’s eating her way around the South, meeting new people and looking for new small towns to explore.DA hioclkiednaYs The most Wonderful time of the year in FayettevilleT he day after Thanksgiving is the official start of the Christmas holiday season. And, to me, it’s the most wonderful day of the year in Fayetteville. Andy Williams couldn’t have sung it better. In its 19th year, the annual \"ADicken's Holiday\" transports revelers to Victorian England in hopes of catchinga glimpse of Tiny Tim, Ebenezer Scrooge, Jacob Marley and other belovedcharacters from Charles Dickens’ “A Christmas Carol.”If I’m not traveling to Pennsylvania to see my family, I look forward to attendingthis festival, which runs from 1-9 p.m. every year. Downtown Fayetteville isdecorated with holiday greenery and ribbons. Festivalgoers leisurely stroll thestreets, visiting merchants while sipping hot cider or hot chocolate. Children,excited to see Father Christmas, run to meet the jolly, white-bearded man sittingin his colorfully adorned sleigh. Parents snap photos and take videos.It’s the best of Victorian times, and merrymakers wish each other good cheerwhile listening to carolers sing favorite songs of the holidays. The Arts Councilbuilding is transformed into “Annie’s Alehouse,” a pub where revelers can warmtheir hands and fire up their innards while pub tunes play in the gallery. I lovenothing more than to listen to holiday songs while humming along with a hotchocolate in hand to keep me warm.Horse-drawn carriages rhythmically clip-clop down the street. Rides are a sweetway for a romantic mini-getaway with your beloved. Drivers dressed in Victoriangarb take riders through the streets of downtown in an elegant carriage.The historic Fayetteville Market House is the symbol of downtown, and during\"A Dicken's Holiday,\" the second floor is opened for the Victorian Life exhibit.Local history is on display, including an interactive area for visitors. Learn aboutthe area, view the decorated Christmas tree and identify obsolete household12 NOVEMBER 2018

items from Victorian times. I visit each year, but my COVER STORYmain motivation is taking in the view of the bustlingstreet below. NNOOVVEEMMBBEERR 22001188 1133Throughout the day, “Marvelous Mauve,” the rovingphotographer dressed in mauve, of course, roams thestreets snapping photos of people dressed in Victorianattire for the Virtual Costume Contest. Winners receivegift cards to local stores or eateries. Marvelous Mauve willalso be at the Rainbow Room from 2-3 p.m. and 4-5 p.m.for photos.This year, the Fayetteville Area Habitat for Humanity ishosting the Gingerbread House Community of Hopeduring the festivities. Gingerbread houses are a holidaytradition for many, and locals are invited to constructtheir most creative gingerbread houses for display atSkyView on Hay. There is no fee to enter a confectionarycreation, but an entrance form is needed and may bepicked up at the Habitat ReStore at 3833 Bragg Blvd.Perhaps the best part about \"A Dicken's Holiday\" is theanticipation of the candlelight procession. As the sun fallsbelow the horizon, the crowds begin gathering in front ofthe Arts Council and along Hay Street with their candlesin hand. My first time was the most memorable. My friendand I had our candles ready and waited to see how thingswould unfold. One by one, each person shared theirflame with each other until all of Hay Street from the ArtsCouncil to the Market House was aglow with the warmthof candlelight.Regally tucked in her carriage, Queen Victoria, in a\"surprise\" visit to Fayetteville, will wave to onlookers fromher carriage as Hay Street becomes aglow with thousandsof candles. Bagpipers announce her procession whilespectators hum along. You can see the excitement inthe faces of the crowd as they strain to catch a glimpse ofthe queen.After much fanfare and cheers from the crowd, the eveningculminates in a chorus of oohs and aahs as a burst of colorfulfireworks frame the Market House and the downtownholiday lights are lit for the season. \"A Dicken's Holiday\"brings out the best of Fayetteville in one enchantingevening. The night doesn’t end after the fireworks, though.You can see the charming affair for yourself on the Fridayafter Thanksgiving, Nov. 23, from 1-9 p.m. To turn yourexperience up a notch, consider dressing Victorian-style!The Arts Council has a handy “How to Dress Dickens Style”guide available here: www.theartscouncil.com/sites/default/files/HowToDressR_links-compressed.pdf.To learn more, visit www.theartscouncil.com/things-to-do/a-dickens-holiday. photo courtesy of Wick Smith

... andMoReNovember is a busy month in Fayetteville; as the holidays approach, festivities ensue. “ADickens Holiday” is not alone, not by a long shot. Here are some of the highlights to check out.“Peter and the Starcatcher” at Fayetteville Symphony Orchestra’sCape Fear Regional Theatre “Royal Court of Brandenburg”through Nov. 11 Nov. 15www.cfrt.org www.fayettevillesymphony.org/2018-2019-concerts“Peter and the Starcatcher” imagines the backstory of Featuring the works of beloved masters J.S. Bach andthe boy who never wants to grow up – Peter Pan. Captain Antonio Vivaldi, the FSO presents an evening of BaroqueHook and other iconic characters are featured in this music. Bach’s six “Brandenburg Concertos” were a royal giftstory that explores friendship, duty and love. to the court of Brandenburg in 1721. They have remained some of the greatest and most beloved compositions ofMarksmen Hockey games the Baroque era. FSO musicians and Music Director StefanNov. 2, 3, 16, 17, 24, 30 Sanders will perform the third and fourth “Brandenburgwww.marksmenhockey.com Concertos” along with portions from Bach’s “Orchestral Suite No. 2 in B minor.” Also on the program is the brightThe Fayetteville Marksmen are back for their second and lively \"Concerto for Two Trumpets\" by Antonio Vivaldi.season! Don’t miss the excitement and fun that comeswith supporting your local hockey team. From themed The Magical World of Wizardrygame nights to championing local causes, the Marksmen Nov. 16-17are about more than just hockey. Search the event on Facebook Harry Potter fans will love the Horcrux hunt, Sorting Hat ceremony, costume contests, butter beer tastings and more that are part of this celebration of magic. Come in costume and enjoy the fun.The Original Harlem Globetrotters “The Heart of Christmas Show”Nov. 3 Nov. 24-25 www.crowncomplexnc.com/events www.heartofchristmasshow.comWith a star-stuffed roster including Big Easy Lofton, A must-see, “The Heart of Christmas Show” has spent twoHi-Lite Bruton, Ant Atkinson, and Hammer Harrison, as decades making the holidays special. The Broadway-stylewell as fan favorites Firefly Fisher, Bull Bullard, Thunder romp features a cast of local youth performing belovedLaw and Cheese Chisholm, the team brings antics and seasonal favorites and celebrating the true meaning oflaughs to the court. The Harlem Globetrotters have been Christmas. The show has raised $750,000 to date to helpentertaining fans for 92 years. Stay after the game and children in need.meet the players.Fayetteville Baseball Launch Party Michael McDonaldNov. 4 “Season of Peace Holiday and Hits Tour”www.facebook.com/fayastros Nov. 27 www.community-concerts.comRescheduled because of Hurricane Florence, theFayetteville Baseball Launch Party will be at Festival Community Concerts presents Michael McDonald.Park from 4-9 p.m. Come join the celebration and see The Grammy Award-winning crooner has been a popthe unveiling of the name for the Houston Astros new music mainstay since his days with the Doobie Brothers.affiliate team. McDonald has performed with a who’s-who of critically acclaimed artists across a number of genres, including Ray14 NOVEMBER 2018 Charles, Aretha Franklin, Elton John, Joni Mitchell, Vince Gill and Grizzly Bear.

DELORES SCHIEBE since the organization’s beginning, serving both as a volunteer and vacation relief director. She and her family have lived in the Hope Mills area since 1967. Schiebe Director, ALMS HOUSE and her husband have two daughters and four grandsons, all living in Cumberland Delores Schiebe has served as County. Schiebe is a member of the Kiwanis Club of Hope Mills and is currently director of ALMS HOUSE since serving as advisor for the Jack Britt Key Club and Baldwin Elementary K Kids. The 2006 but has been actively Schiebes are active members of St. James Lutheran Church. involved in varying capacities The ALMS HOUSE:Deuteronomy 15:7-8 “If there is among you a poorman of your brethren, within any of the gates in your Associated Local Ministries in Service Helping Others inland which the Lord your God is giving you, you shall Unfortunate Situations and Experiencesnot harden your heart nor shut your hand from yourpoor brother, but you shall open your hand wide The ALMS HOUSE was incorporated in 1984 by 12 local churches.to him and willingly lend him sufficient for his need, Currently, many churches representing several denominations arewhatever he needs. actively involved. The board of directors is made up of pastors and members of the churches. ALMS HOUSE is an IRS-recognized nonprofit organization that is funded through the generosity of partnering churches as well as businesses and individuals within the community. This ministry is made possible by a small staff of dedicated volunteers, the director and the gracious support of the local community. Our programs include a food pantry and a clothing closet that has household items like small appliances, dishes, linens and more. The clothing closet also serves as a thrift store with all proceeds going directly back into the program. Bibles are available and given to anyone who would like to have one. Job listings are provided from the Department of Social Services and change daily. Meals are prepared by the Salvation Army. Volunteers deliver and serve meals at our Ellison Street (Hope House) location Monday through Friday at noon and 5 p.m. On Saturday and Sunday, meals are prepared and served by volunteers from churches as well as various groups and individuals and are served Saturday at noon and Sunday at 5 p.m. Each month, the ALMS HOUSE serves on average 1,400-1,600 individuals. Volunteers are always needed to assist in the pantry and thrift store and to pick up and serve meals. The ALMS HOUSE’s current focus is KAP, the Kid’s Assistance Program, which provides weekly bags of nutritious food to school children in 11 local schools. We have supplied up to 500 bags per week, at an average cost of $5 per bag, for children who may not have food for the weekend – as determined by the school social workers. The numbers fluctuate as the need changes when children are moved about. Each child receives one bag; however, they often request and receive an additional bag for a sibling at home. Since this is a local, grassroots effort with minimal operating expenses, tax- deductible donations stay in the community and are used to assist local people in need. Financial donations may be made to the ALMS HOUSE, P.O. Box 65, Hope Mills, NC 28348 or at our Ellison Street location. Visit www.almshousehopemills.com to learn more. NNOOVVEEMMBBEERR 22001188 1155

SADE' WILSON Sade' Wilson received her bachelor's WHAT ISNEAR US degree in journalism from the UniversityContributing Writer of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. Downtown Fayetteville Currently, she serves as the Experience College Internship Coordinator at Manna Church. When she's not working, she's either reading, running or busy planning for her next Tori Kelly concert.Veterans Day Parade SATURDAY, NOV. 10, AT FESTIVAL PARKNov. 11, 2018, marks the 100th anniversary of Armistice and veterans’ organizations and high school and university Day – the day World War I ended. That date will also marching bands. mark the annually celebrated, nationwide holiday Veterans Day. Armistice Day was celebrated in the United This year’s parade theme is “A Centennial of Service,” reflecting States until 1954, when it was officially deemed Veterans Day the 100 years of military service between 1918 and 2018. With – a day that honors all American military service members Fort Bragg being the largest Army base in the United States, actively serving or who served in the past – by President Fayetteville is known as the All-American City. Because of its Dwight D. Eisenhower. Fayetteville will celebrate and honor populous military community and ties, here in Fayetteville, every veterans with its annual Veterans Day parade Saturday, day is Veterans Day. Nov. 10, at 10 a.m. Immediately following the parade, the city of Fayetteville will Beginning on Hay Street at the Airborne & Special Operations host the Veterans Day Proclamation. Veterans of Fayetteville Museum, more than 100 parade participants will walk through and of North Carolina will be honored in a ceremony in the the streets of historic downtown Fayetteville and showcase North Carolina Veterans Park right off of Bragg Boulevard. In patriotic pride for those who have served our nation over the addition to these events, there will be several others happening years. Participants in the parade include cadets from various throughout Cumberland County for Heroes Homecoming IV. high school JROTC programs and Fayetteville State University’s For more information about this event and others, visit www. Army ROTC program, representatives from active duty units fayveteransdayparade.com or www.heroeshomecoming.com.16 NOVEMBER 2018 www.fayveteransdayparade.com

WHAT IS FAR FROM US Durham, NC AT THEDURHAM PERFORMING ARTS CENTERWWW.DPACNC.COM/EVENTS/DETAIL/HAMILTONW hile “Hamilton” is based on true historic Thank You moments of one man’s life, the musical itself is a history maker. Created by Lin-Manuel Miranda our gallery events inand debuting on Broadway in 2016, the record-setting 2018 were successfulhit that depicts the story of Alexander Hamilton wasnominated for a total of 16 Tony Awards and came out with because of you.11 wins to include Best Musical. It also won the GrammyAward for Best Musical Theater Album, a Billboard Music 2019 events to be announced soonAward for Top Soundtrack/Cast Album and a PulitzerPrize for Best Drama. The national tour production of NOVEMBER 2018 17“Hamilton” is coming to the Durham Performing ArtsCenter from Tuesday, Nov. 6, to Sunday, Dec. 2. It featuresan all new cast but reflects the same talent and quality asthe Broadway production.Tickets to see this critically acclaimed masterpiece onBroadway were so in demand at one point that it wasimpossible to purchase a ticket to see the show.In an article published in the Huffington Post, Mirandastated, “The reason ‘Hamilton’ works is because there isno distance between that story that happened 200-some-odd years ago and now because it looks like America now.It helps create a connection that wouldn't have been thereif it was 20 white guys on stage.”The show's testament to diversity is portrayed in everyscene and every song, showcasing today’s America. Evenin its soundtrack, artists across all genres – from KellyClarkson to Miguel to Regina Spektor to Busta Rhymes andmore – come together to present history in an energeticand spirited way. “Hamilton” is, according to Miranda,“the story of America then, told by America now.”The Durham Performing Arts Center is located at 123Vivian St. in Durham. To view showtimes, purchase ticketsand plan your trip, visit www.dpacnc.com/events/detail.To read FAQs, visit www.dpacnc.com/home/hamilton-dpac-complete-faq.

'Icons in Transformation' Meet the artist, Ludmila PawlowskaI was born in exile in 1964 in Karaganda, in the formerSoviet Union, in what is today Kazakhstan.I live now in Sweden, in the countryside, together with two Moscow to study at an art academy. Socialist realism was thedaughters and my husband, Jan Lech. party-enforced painting style of the day, but the academies were good, and my passion for art never flagged. I met JanWhen Joseph Stalin took power in the Soviet Union in the Lech – an early-music specialist and lutenist who had moved1920s, he started pushing troublesome people – teachers, into the business side of the arts – and we started dreamingartists, intellectuals, ethnic groups – far away from the of a rural life together in Sweden. We wanted to start a centercountry’s center of power. Everyone knows about the where artists and art-lovers could come together, and Jangulags in Siberia, but that wasn’t the only place of exile knew an area in Sweden that would be perfect.in the Soviet Union. Kazakhstan, the biggest and mostremote of the “stans,” was another. In 1993, I left Russia. For the first time, I was free to become the artist I was born to be. My early work in Sweden wasThe city of Karaganda was hundreds of miles from any all about the natural beauty I saw around me: florals andother urban area. It was a mid-sized city – about a million landscapes – somewhere between realistic and abstract –in population today – and it was full of culture, good influenced by my work in textiles.schools and highly educated exiles. Teachers spotted meearly as a born artist. After a few years, in 1997, my mother was able to come for an extended visit. A few months into the visit, she had aMy family had been shattered by the revolution; my massive stroke and died. My life changed overnight. In mygrandfather was deported to Siberia in 1936, when my heart and in my painting, I began a spiritual journey.father was 2 years old. My uncles were taken by the state,separated and scattered across the nation to homes for MY ARTchildren of state enemies. The Stalin era ended when he Since my mother’s sudden death, I have been able to workdied in 1953. through sorrow with the help of my painting. The short step between life and death sharpened my awareness ofSoon, Nikita Kruschev opened the gulags, and my the existential issues of life, and my subjects took on angrandfather was free – but not free to leave Siberia. My ethereal aspect inspired by the Russian icon tradition.father was a dissident, too – always limited by his refusal tojoin the Communist Party. My father and I weren't close, My heart was moved to seek new direction becausebut my mother was my soul mate. And art was my refuge. my mother´s guidance was taken from me. I needed to look forward, yet I was caught between the space of lifeAt age 14, in 1978, I left my beloved mother and went to and death. The icon became a source of inspiration, of18 NOVEMBER 2018

“Icons in Transformation” is an LOCAL EXHIBITIONinternationally renowned exhibitionwith pieces that have been shownin over 100 museums, churches andcathedrals in the United States andEurope. Cumberland County residentshave the chance to view Russian-born artist Ludmila Pawlowska’sabstract-expressionist work by visitingHoly Trinity Episcopal Church nowthrough Jan. 11. Admission is free,and guided tours run throughoutthe months in addition to severalother special events connected to theexhibition.For more information, visitwww.holytrinityfay.org/icons-page.unconditional love. It was a new way of seeing the the opposite meaning and symbolize evil. Gold is thedivine. Faith is an integral part of my being. It’s a link divine light – not regarded as a color but as a formwith my culture and my heritage and is a guide to a of light.new direction in my creative process. “Icons in Transformation” reflects the language ofMy works are basically pictorial reliefs. I see them the divine. It is a contemporary approach to the samemore as painting-sculptures, and they are meant to be message of the traditional icon. It is not about icons,viewed as such. By using wood panels, I gain endless but rather shows traditional icons as the source ofopportunities to scrape and form the painting into new work.different shapes or to create openings. Also, in a pieceof wood with grain, there is already something to What fascinates me most in the art of icons is the deepwork with – either with or against. My material has an sensitivity they radiate. When I am looking at an icon,identity already. I am irresistibly attracted to it. Looking into the eyes of Maria's icon feels like an encounter with the unknownMy work starts with a process of painting layer upon and boundless deep. Something awakens inside melayer on a wooden panel. This is a technique that is – I can just be quiet, just lose myself in its depth, justsimilar to a thousand years of traditional icon painting. listen. An unexpected insight can flow through me – anMy paint application is enormously lavish and varied. impulse, a god's presence is there. Quiet but present.Brush loads, direct squeezing from the tube, stuccoing,dollops, palette-knife spreads and pastry cream curls Today, we dare to approach holiness in a completelyof color interweave and overlap until a ground of paint different way. Religion is more open to personalis built up, some parts more than a few centimeters interpretation. Even though the motive, form andthick. Inevitably, many stalagmites and wisps of paint composition in my work depart from (or violate)project beyond the edge of the wood panel. tradition, tradition is the point from which I begin to push the boundaries. The icon has a spiritual powerI use the symbolism of colors common to Russian that comes from the icon itself, a kind of light. Toiconography. Blue, as the color of the sky, represents create and capture a light has always been the greatestthe mystery of divine life. Red is firstly the symbol of challenge to artists through the centuries.life – the life that Christ gave humanity through theshedding of his blood. Sometimes, red can also have This exhibition is my attempt to capture light in my own way. NNOOVVEEMMBBEERR 22001188 1199

Understanding hurricane and windstorm deductibles by Nick DiUlioNorth Carolina is one of 19 states affected by these deductibles. Editor’s note: This is an edited and How hurricane you should bear a greater share condensed version of an article that deductibles work of the risk, but I don’t see these originally ran on insuranceQuotes. deductibles as a fair way of doing com. It is being reprinted here Some specifics will vary that,” said Amy Bach, executive with permission. depending on the state you director of United Policyholders, a call home, but Barry says most San Francisco-based nonprofit that A fter the two back-to-back hurricane deductibles function the advocates for insurance consumers storms of Florence and same way. in all 50 states. “Homeowners in Michael, residents in North these coastal areas are already Carolina and along the East Coast If your policy has a hurricane paying higher insurance rates for have been assessing damage to deductible and a named storm living there, which means hurricane property and determining their best makes landfall in (and sometimes deductibles are like a double path toward recovery. That path often around) your state, you will have penalty.” involves reaching out to their insurer. to pay anywhere between 1 and 5 percent of your home’s insured Know your storm History of hurricane and value before coverage for any deductible and be prepared windstorm deductibles damage kicks in. This is more costly than a standard $500 or $1,000 It’s important to know the “Hurricane deductibles help homeowners’ deductible, which specifics of your hurricane lower the cost of what people pay kicks in for all other property losses. deductible and understand the for property insurance on a year- financial implications of filing a to-year basis because they assume For example, if your home is claim should a storm hit. more of the risk,” said Lynne insured for $300,000 with a 2 McChristian, Florida representative percent hurricane deductible, The good news is that in most and catastrophe response director you’d be responsible for the first states it’s easy to find out if you have for the nonprofit Insurance $6,000 in repair costs for any a hurricane deductible and how Information Institute, or III. “In other damage caused by the storm. it might be applied. For instance, words, you pay less today but more insurers in Delaware are required in out-of-pocket costs if a hurricane It’s important to note, Barry to provide “clear and prominent hits (your property).” said, that a hurricane deductible notice concerning all hurricane and can only take effect if the home’s wind/hail deductibles and must The origins of hurricane deductibles damage results from a storm include information on the trigger, can be traced back to Hurricane officially named by the National how the deductible is applied and Andrew, which ravaged southern Weather Service. if it is stated as a percentage or Florida in 1992 and left $15.5 billion dollar amount.” in losses in its wake. It was the costliest “The criteria for triggering a hurricane in U.S. history until 2005, hurricane deductible is pretty Once you determine if the when Hurricane Katrina hit several specific,” Barry said. “So they don’t deductible applies to your home, Gulf States and cost insurers more come into play all that often.” McChristian suggests making a than $41 billion in losses. financial plan well in advance of a Also, whether or not you’ll have potentially devastating storm. “Insured claims were so to pay a hurricane deductible after significant after Andrew that it a devastating storm is going to “Don’t be caught off guard. prompted property insurers in depend largely on the state you People should take this hurricane coastal states to reassess how call home and the specific policy season to understand the specific much damage a serious hurricane terms of your insurer. dollar amount of their deductible could actually do to their books if they ever file a claim after a of business,” said III spokesman Are hurricane hurricane,” McChristian said. Michael Barry. “It became clear deductibles fair? “They’re saving money on their that property owners had to premium every year, so take those assume more of the risk.” While the insurance industry savings and set some money aside touts hurricane deductibles as a in a deductible fund that you can As a result, hurricane deductibles financial necessity for policies tap into if need be.” are now written into many coastal written in hurricane-prone regions, homeowner policies in 19 states, some consumer advocates say the Image © www.iii.org including North Carolina and practice is unfair. South Carolina.20 NOVEMBER 2018 “Insurers will say that you’re living closer to harm’s way and therefore

TIFFANY COAD Tiffany Coad is a property manager at United Local Management II by day and an avid reader and writer Reading Contributing Writer after business hours. She believes writing, as all art, should reflect our world back to us and reveal areas Corner where we must change and share in each other’s joy, pain, love and lives.'Are You My Mother?' FA tragi-comic graphic novel, by the namesake ofFAIL the Bechdel testPASSFAPILASS PASRules of the Bechdel test: PASDoes the work … Include at least two womenPAFSASILFAIL Whotalktoeachother FA About something other than a man?PFAASILSPASSIt is said that roughly 50 percent of films pass the Bechdel test. PThe Bechdel test inspired a continued series of tests used in holding mediaPASS FAILaccountable for equally representing people of color and the LGBTQ+ community. lison Bechdel is a widely lauded writer, cartoonist everyday musings to get her mother “out of her head,” or and trailblazer of equality in media. She is the rather out of the way of her creative consciousness.A namesake of the Bechdel test, sometimes referredto as the Bechdel-Wallace test. This test, first introduced “Are You My Mother?” explores the complexities of love, loss,in one of Bechdel’s comic strips in 1985, is a basic gauge to trauma and everything in between. Every moment is honestlyevaluate the representation of women in works of fiction, depicted with comics on each page. Particularly relatableusually film. and an ongoing element in every season of Bechdel’s life are interactions between Bechdel and her therapists. They pose“Are You My Mother?” provides a look inside Bechdel’s insightful questions, observations and challenges galore.psyche as she navigates relationships with the mostimportant women in her life: her lovers, her mother and Heavily carrying the essence of the story are the phoneherself. As a graphic novel, the story is accompanied conversations between Bechdel and her mother, beginningby poignant visual art that aids in expressing the often with Bechdel initiating every call, her mother consistentlyexistential thoughts and issues in Bechdel’s narrative. dominating the dialogue between the two, and often concluding with Bechdel transcribing their conversationsAfter the success of her previous graphic novel “Fun for further insights. It is within these ordinary moments thatHome,” which is centered around her father, his suicide the reader begins to form conclusions regarding Bechdel’sand Bechdel’s homelife as a child, she concluded there mother-daughter dynamic. The classic roles of parent andwas another fundamental portion of her story that ought child are often blurred at best, if not completely reversed.to be told. The goal of the book is to sort through the trauma given,Early in the novel, Bechdel sets the tone for her story. received and shared by Bechdel and her mother. As theShe writes, \"In the same way Virginia Woolf distinguishes book nears its close, Bechdel comments, “At last, I havebetween 'life' and 'the soul' in her diary, she distinguishes destroyed my mother, and she has survived my destruction.”between 'two kinds of truth' in writing biography. ‘Let the This resolution begs the question, what must I destroy,biographer print fully, completely, accurately, the known sacrifice or kill to make way for new life? The candor offacts without comment; then let him write the life as fiction.’” Bechdel’s plight as she searches for emotional freedom invites the reader into deep reflection. Leading by example,It is with this in mind that Bechdel weaves in and out of “Are You My Mother?” bears another piece of Bechdel’s soul,memories, moments in the present, significant dreams and challenging every reader to do the same.comic Image of Alison Bechdel © dykestowatchoutfor.com NOVEMBER 2018 21

STEPHANIE CRIDER LAST VIEWEditorThankfulness around the worldI t’s November, and you know a ritual to give thanks after the first rice Erntedankfest Image © J. Strauß, Sukkot image © Ziv Pugatch, Têt-Trung-Thu image © Donald Trung ERNTEDANKFEST what that means – time to get harvest of the season. your thankfulness on. Get out your SUKKOT stretchy pants and let the eating and South Koreans celebrate Chuseok TÊT-TRUNG-THU the gratitude begin. Day. It is a day to spend time with family and remember ancestors while Americans don’t own the market when enjoying food like stuffed rice cakes, it comes to gratitude, though. Canada, bulgogi, persimmons and chestnuts. China, Germany, Grenada, Japan, Norfolk Island, South Korea, Liberia In Vietnam, they celebrate Têt-Trung- and Vietnam are some other countries Thu Festival or the Children’s Festival. that have official holidays centered Folklore says this celebration started as a around giving thanks. And when you way for parents who were busy with the think about it, as a planet, a little more harvest to make it up to their children. gratitude could go a long way. In Rome, celebrations honor Ceres, As much as the Pilgrims seemed the goddess of corn, with dances to us like trendsetters of their day, parades, sports and feasts. Romans they weren’t the first to have official are said to have introduced one of celebrations centered around gratitude Thanksgiving’s most iconic symbols – and a successful harvest when they the cornucopia. held their inaugural Thanksgiving feast in 1621. China’s been celebrating South India gives thanks over harvests and giving thanks for more four days during Pongal, the harvest than 2,500 years. Instead of turkey festival. Each day is significant in and pumpkin pie for dessert, it's moon relation to a different aspect of life. cake – a yummy pastry filled with sesame seeds, ground lotus seeds and In Israel, Sukkot – the Feast of duck eggs. Booths or Feast of the Tabernacles, commemorates the 40 years the Canada’s Thanksgiving looks Israelites spent in the desert as they much like America’s, most likely escaped the Egyptians. because we are neighbors and have similar cultures. The first Canadian Germans celebrate Erntedankfest Thanksgiving dates back to 1578. and give thanks with a parade, dancing and feasts followed by a Liberia, which was founded by freed lantern parade and fireworks. Then American slaves in 1847, celebrates leftovers are given to the needy. Thanksgiving much like America. It is said that an American trader brought These are just some of the other countries the tradition to Norfolk Island, east of that consciously stop and spend a day Australia, and it spread from there. (or a few) being thankful. Whether is it over turkey and mashed potatoes, moon Japan celebrates Kinrō Kansha cake or just a simple cup of coffee, I no Hi, or Labor Thanksgiving Day. It hope you find plenty in your life to be started more than 2,000 years ago as thankful for this Thanksgiving.22 NOVEMBER 2018

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