Women's View Magazine, June 2019

VOLUME 13 JUNE ISSUE 06 2019 Inspiring, educating, empowering and MAGAZINE celebrating women in our community Body image: Local women share their thoughts More inside: My dad: A Education is the Meet Liz Mileshko, director of the Airborne & Special Operations Museum personal essay great equalizer

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Contents June MY DAD5 A personal essay about Dad, that towering figure (or lack of a figure) in every person's life. 6 ROAD TRIPPIN' Laugh with Just Judy at her road trip woes, then try out her Road Trippin' Chicken and Biscuits for your next adventure. 8 EDUCATION One local grad student shares her perspective: Education is the great equalizer for those who are marginalized. 8 10 MOVING Relocating? Cut down stress by getting a few insurance factors figured out in advance. TRAVEL WITH PETS11 Pets need a travel pack list, too. LAUGHTER13 Laughter has documented medical benefits. Here are a few ideas to bring a little more into your life. BOBDOYDIYMIAMGAEGEESESSASYASYS14 Summer is here! So is the spotlight on women's bodies. Local women share their thoughts. LOCKS21 Who started calling them dreadlocks, or dreads, anyway? MILITARY22 Meet Liz Mileshko, executive director of downtown Fayetteville's Airborne & Special Operations Museum. POTTERS24 Potters have been an important part of North Carolina heritage since the mid-1700s. 26 HOME DÉCOR Try some fun ideas based on the latest trends. Just like a cleanse in diet can help DIGITAL CLEANSE27 reset and maintain healthy systems, so can a digital detox. 24 29 PRODUCTIONS A local woman created and is growing a production company tailored to this community. FREE CONCERTS30 A longstanding local tradition, Fayetteville After 5 brings free concerts to downtown’s Festival Park allJUsuNmE m20e1r9. 3 JUNE 2019 3

letter from the editor VOLUME 13 ISSUE 06 PUBLISHER This month, Women's View Magazine asked for responses from local women on a topic that's Bill Bowman, F & B Publications especially relevant this time of year: body image. [email protected] I've read plenty of think pieces on the For myself, at age 25, I feel I'm just now ASSOCIATE PUBLISHER topic and have my own opinions on it, beginning to understand my body and my Stephanie Crider too. But there's something special about relationship with it. It's such a complex reading a collection of honest thoughts journey to grow up in and then travel [email protected] from women who live in our specific through this world in a woman's body. I'm EDITOR community. You can find these mini- thankful for each piece of that journey, Leslie Pyo essays on pages 14-20. and I'm thankful for opportunities to It's important to note that this collection learn about the journeys of others, too. [email protected] is not all-encompassing or representative Elsewhere in this issue: Dads and stepdads. ART DIRECTOR of everyone who lives here, let alone Education as a tool for fighting injustice. Elizabeth Long women in general. WVM is striving to Locks versus dreadlocks. North Carolina- include more voices in its pages. Feel free born traditional pottery. And more! I hope [email protected] to send your reactions and responses to you enjoy this issue and that you have a OPERATIONS DIRECTOR [email protected]. wonderful start to your summer. Paulette Naylor [email protected] SALES AND MARKETING DIRECTOR Kim Herndon [email protected] MARKETING REPRESENTATIVE Linda McAlister [email protected] DISTRIBUTION DIRECTOR/ SALES ADMINISTRATOR Laurel Handforth [email protected] JUNE CONTRIBUTORS Sherris Johnson Judy Stapleton Shontae L. Halsey Mke Karaman LaNatria Ellis Wanda Chavis Adrienne Trego Prudence Mainor Janet Gibson Shanessa Fenner Zakiyyah Marcell Avery Powers Sarah Lindy Ashanti Bennett Stephanie Crider Mindy Love Dr. Airaina Griffith-Knight Cindy Andress Casey Schaffer Angelicia Hicks WOMEN’S VIEW MAGAZINE 208 ROWAN ST. FAYETTEVILLE, NC, 28301 PHONE: 910-484-6200 FAX: 910-484-9218 Women’s View Magazine is for, by and about women in Cumberland County. Published by F&B Publications in conjunction with Media Marketing Management. ©2019 by F&B Publications, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or advertisement without permission is strictly prohibited. Various vector sources credited to © Freepik and © Vecteezy. Are you interested in writing about people, causes and organizations that matter to Cumberland County? Consider contributing an article or pitching a story idea to Women’s View Magazine. We want to elevate your voice. For more information, email [email protected]. 4 JUNE 2019 4 JUNE 2019

SHERRIS JOHNSON Sherris Johnson created Our P.L.A.C.E. in 2015, a local, arts-based nonprofit committed to providing opportunity, education, funding and Executive Director, resources to artists to impact the community. She also co-founded The Our P.L.A.C.E. Marquis Slam in 2012. My dad I was the apple of his eye, his would pout about having to share my to take the leap and live my life. Even spitting image, and at one point, day with fathers and the fact that mine when he got sick and was diagnosed the baby girl. People would say I was not around. I had even begun with cancer, he pushed me to follow was his pride and joy. I can recall to come to terms with a fatherless an opportunity that moved me out of the numerous stories of how proud he life — not knowing things would state. That meant more to me than he was when I came into the world. Then soon change. My mom met Frank will ever know. Or maybe he did and life happened. My parents couldn’t Marvin McKoy, the most incredible wanted to ensure I wouldn’t live with make things work, and I became man, provider of renewed hope for a the regret of not knowing. a child of divorce. The moment preteen girl, and most importantly, the divorce was final, so was my my dad! Gentle and kind, he loved us He lost his battle with cancer in 2007, relationship with my biological father. like his own and was the best dad a only seven months after encouraging girl could have. me to move to Virginia. I’ve since I was three when my mom moved lived in multiple areas along the east back home to North Carolina with me Stepfathers tend to get a bad coast and finally made my way back and my older sister in tow. She worked reputation, but my dad was the home to Fayetteville in 2013, where I hard, ensured we had everything we complete opposite of that stereotype. currently work and reside. needed, and made sure we never went He was an active parent. From step without. My childhood was full of team practice to plays and parades, My dad let me know I was special fun and laughter and adventures. In my dad was there for it all. I could and warned me to “never take any my young mind, life was good. There talk to him about everything. I was wooden nickels,” as he would say. He was always a cousin to play with and his baby girl, and he had my back. He helped mend the broken heart left family who supported and loved us. was amazing at being a father and all behind by my biological father and that came along with the title. And replaced it with a heart full of love But something was missing. I longed even though my mom was more of and kindness I share freely with those for my father, who was nowhere to be the disciplinarian, his strong, silent who need it most. found. I felt unwanted by the person demeanor let us know he was dad. who shared my face, helped give I can recall him making me cry only Celebrating Father’s Day in his me life and was once my No. 1 fan. one time in my life, and I think it hurt memory is bittersweet because I’d Fathers are a girl’s first love, but in my him more than it hurt me. love to see him just one more time and case, also my first heartbreak. hear him say, “Babygirl, you’re going My dad was the ultimate encourager. to be okay.” Maybe now he would For the longest time, I hated that my He always supported my dreams and instead say, “Babygirl, you’ve made birthday falls around Father’s Day. I constantly told me I would be OK — me proud like I knew you would.” JUNE 2019 5 JUNE 2019 5

Contributing Writer As a senior citizen, mother of two, stepmother of two more, Pop me an email and tell me about grandmother of eight and — holy moly! — two great-grandchildren, the laughter in your life: Judy Stapleton has traveled many miles from her home stompin’ [email protected] grounds of Mississippi. After raising her kids, she spent 29 years working for the federal government before retiring. She now works as a receptionist for F&B Publications in Fayetteville. SUMMER IS HERE! Road trippin’ It’s flip-flops, tank tops and shorts I started sheddin’ my outer garments as wearin’ weather. I, for one, am so ready quick as a jack rabbit escapin' a fox. I got for a warm sunny day and a road trip to my boots and sweater off while yellin’ for the beach. I don’t even care what beach my daughter to stop the car. I just knew I it is, just as long as it has water, sand and was gonna be sick. She barely got off the seashells. road and I was outta that car in a flash — a hot one at that. Talkin’ bout road trippin’ takes me down memory lane to a trip my daughter and I Remember that Road Runner cartoon, went on to see my son. He was in military when flames come off the road as the training in Winchester, Virginia. He only Road Runner goes by? Well … you get the had a little window of about three hours picture now. of time Friday night and five hours on Saturday before he flew back to Belgium. Soon as I got out, I started feelin’ better right away. My body was coolin’ off. It goes without sayin’ that this mama didn’t care that we would spend more I gotta say, I could not imagine what time drivin’ than actually seein’ him – I the heck was wrong with me. I was cooled was gonna see him. down enough that I thought I could get back in the car when my ever-so-sweet What a fantastic, memory-making daughter says, “Mama, why do you have visit it was … belly achin’ laughter, new the heater on in your seat?” memories for a lifetime, and assurance of love expressed all around. Heater in my seat?!? Well I’ll be darned. I wasn’t sick or dyin’, I was just a hot mess. We said our last goodbyes and headed back home Sunday morning. There was a With my hot pants havin’ to cool down, wobbly smile on my face and maybe a few and not bein’ able to breathe from tears in my eyes. laughing so hard, it took us a bit to get back on the road. Oh well … I’d rather have We had gotten down the road about the laughter we shared over gettin’ home 10 miles, and I thought I was gonna die! a bit earlier any day. The sweat was just a pourin’ off me. Either I was showing symptoms of some All these memories are flooding my rare disease that would put me in the heart, and I’m ready for another road hospital, or the hot flashes of menopause trip. We are planning a trip to Texas this were back. summer. Oh my, I sure hope those seats are air conditioned instead of heated. 6 JUNE 2019 6 JUNE 2019

JUST JUDY’S Road trippin’ chicken and biscuits Spoil your family with old-fashioned, lip smackin’ deliciousness for your next road trip. This can be prepared the night before and refrigerated, but it’s best to make it fresh in the morning. The chicken: Look no further.9FRrBoau2odys0dneH:ent9Bhtayaeke1rasovwDyvii0hgudiianelA-fShmlrslpu4yereLgst,RShr,Gaot8.atSiAsIuIeNlsniMbr0lNoIoNUnD.rraCNcuR-metnyrtGuYGltoY1oLitoidGh2Doenm0slLeOwnllo8tLuTgIc1ow,EigsnbVOfi30,EaOvAthpgesOh1nLewKgye4eeAODmoRdIearAyNctseDunloOCRioktDrildGtgoaVEEfiKusuotVslwolDAEao!nIorEFapNwrNvMnnInaOyNeetGiT.nhdnhtRTfrwhUeehgsablUtwewimfivRoioTSuzotkReihpaOHInyytriFaNbOWhnyroiAUntEOGedsofuS,ughGUDIodor,usSwIU,R’D,sevONLSmtrVmPhYeiielmEnOGlNEaoyealKlbRrLaoDeNWgoLoosobEmerOvFNOsaEEnkevTeuuheEaOtsiknOeiUnTyPhaorewnRDMiKoltu!dRwEdEWhtogcaEAIfCnoArsOisioCuNNyAanksLi,sRafteLkLtU.r-iDrGTohnsDuAlnIiuE,eMblEnoNSrVeIgrhFATIn5kuOtgmeDr’,EuGOhrm5,olsItfBoeNaNsOoIG5eeLRwmrftoTacrLcwtTAurNEy!hbSikaarOulaEUntDeohIeeieAhnSncNsnnuReYsageDmatdiBHgGrOnuoytsnenRhiLLogIytUmlaoldPkooid,EfEiauoEfwDSotfiwn.Auaed!trlaloAyfLigorrsMDrfuIyayoseO,Rsnmltpt.I.oLhshuuSIgVfOMGabwviaoNeSAenIarriOuewtrKNwImmUenilvDuGsoaLNotltDRdeiIathGYsuftOeYnNliwGyehlotCIonTacwrkLygoVOAobG.gniavLaGEgOosEtiuShOsnDeedwfhnK,EnuDIU’oevNFsaLRVDmdIacmynrYeNnOyAOGslEoeCoeRlkbiAoLatdotGNgRlDuLEoOsEhferiuOvDsrotaElwTDeVeeAKaiuo!OTtrFaVznlUhrEnonMIpIanHOKaEyNolRNvWtnhorid.htINnREheedOfGiohNiATwkeeInsrlasTkeUD,i-iDGUwmOTivhgzniUthnSepaVOHRhigNFIakWgRr’,iEOOWmEedsiEFfOnNoILrRUsOrD,grOUtTAu,!hSSh,ROUnDNSIeaNnRWYsEgiGOnuL It’s what I do. 2.5-pound bag of fresh GET TO A BETTER STATE™. chicken wings CALL ME TODAY. 2 eggs, beaten with 1⁄4 cup milk 2 cups self-rising flour Seasonin’ to mix in with flour: salt, pepper, garlic powder to taste 3 cups Crisco Heat a cast iron skillet (cast iron is a must; just sayin’) with the Crisco. It’s hot enough when a sprinkle of flour thrown into the grease sizzles. While the skillet preheats, dip each chicken wing in the egg mixture, then coat it in the flour mixture. Place chicken wings in hot grease and cook for 6-8 minutes on each side. The biscuits: 2 1⁄2 cups self-rising flour 1⁄4 cup room temperature Crisco 1⁄2 cup whole buttermilk Preheat oven to 400 F. Cut Crisco into flour with a fork. Stir in the buttermilk. Knead with hands, then roll lumps of dough into desired size. Place on a greased pan or cookie sheet. Bake 20-25 minutes. Once the chicken and biscuits have cooled, place them in big Ziploc bags, ready for snackin’ on your adventure. Honey in a squeeze bottle to dollop on both is worth the stickiness, too. State Farm Mutual Automobile Insurance Company, State Farm Indemnity Company, State Farm Fire and Casualty Company, 1101201 State Farm General Insurance Company, Bloomington, IL JUNE 2019 7 JUNE 2019 7

SHONTAE L. HALSEY Shontae L. Halsey is pursuing a Master of Arts in sociology at Fayetteville State University and is a graduate assistant. She served in the U.S. Graduate student, Army as an active-duty soldier for more than 14 years before medically Fayetteville State University, retiring. She is involved in many student leadership organizations on the Department of Sociology FSU campus, including Black Feminist Scholars, FSU SPECTRUM, the FSU chapter of the NAACP, FSU’s National Council of Negro Women, FSU’s National Association of Blacks in Criminal Justice, and the North Carolina Consortium for International and Intercultural Education Model United Nations Conference. Her off-campus civic engagement includes the National Organization for Women, Cumberland County Democrat Women, Fayetteville Pride and the Fayetteville chapter of the NAACP. Education isthe great equalizer “B ooks were my pass to personal freedom. I learned to read at age three, and soon I am passionate about human rights for students, discovered there was a whole world to most importantly for underprivileged students conquer that went beyond our farm in Mississippi.” within the inner-city and rural environments. Everyone should have a clear and unobstructed — Oprah Winfrey pathway to quality education beginning in elementary school, elevated throughout middle Emotionally, education has always been a school and fine-tuned in high school. This fundamental necessity and desire for me — so educational path should help equip students for much so that it fell, in my mind, into the category their adult lives, whether that means learning of basic human needs: food, clothing, shelter … a technical skill and trade, preparing to enter and mental edification. Growing up in the inner- military service or the Peace Corps, or moving on city, I realized early on that opportunities were not to higher education. plentiful for those living within my community. Throughout my socialization process as a child, Energetically, I believe education is the great I further learned that I fell into a marginalized equalizer. Marian Wright Anderson posits that economic, racial and gendered category. “Education is for improving the lives of others and for leaving your community and world better Fortunately, I had excellent teachers throughout than you found it.” The role of education is to my K-12 experience. Many of them inspired me broaden our minds so we may achieve our arete to plan for success while pushing me beyond — highest moral virtue. the boundaries of my social identity. Teachers are critical throughout the development of a As backed up by the National Association of child, and they serve as gatekeepers into the Education, equitable education allows students world of endless possibilities. I am grateful to to grow and develop skills needed for their have been shaped by so many inspirational and future careers. If we want to solve the job crisis motivational educators along my path. in the United States, we must first enhance and improve public education on all levels. Every day, I looked forward to attending school. Educational equality in the U.S. is central It was my safe space where I could escape the because it levels the playing field for all children consequences of inner-city life. Even now, as a to compete and thrive within the global society. graduate student at Fayetteville State University, the highlight of my day is going on campus to engage In the political realm, it is crucial for those who academically and civically. For many students like share my educational and leadership philosophy me, school is a refuge. For seekers of knowledge, it to run for public office so that we can advocate serves as a divine balance and motivator between for holistic legislature, improving the state of poverty and survival, acknowledging the fact education in the U.S. and abroad. that we can become something great, surpassing statistics and disrupting predictors. 8 JUNE 2019 8 JUNE 2019

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FASHION with LaNatria Ellis All dressed down! Dress — Zimmermann Shoes — Zara Bag — Etienne Aigner (vintage) Photographer — Timothy Ellis Shot at Turner Lane in downtown Fayetteville, North Carolina Follow LaNatria on Instagram: @caribbean_cowgirl 12 JUNE 2019 12 JUNE 2019

WANDA CHAVIS Wanda Chavis is a motivational speaker, author, SPONSORED BY musician and singer-songwriter. She has been Owner, married 43 years to Rev. Jeff Chavis, senior pastor Picture of Health & at United Pentecostal Church in Spring Lake. Thermography, LLC Wanda homeschooled her three sons, who have www.phthermography.com given her eight gorgeous grands. They love riding 910-580-2077 with MawMaw in her red convertible. Laugh more, live better Laughter is good medicine. and grass stains on your clothes. Ride a merry-go-round Proverbs 17:22 in the God’s Word Translation of the and swing as high as your legs can pump. Dig for roly Bible is interesting: “A joyful heart is good medicine, but polies and chase butterflies. Eat Popsicles and watermelon depression drains one’s strength.” — barefoot. According to MedicalNewsToday.com, depression has Host a different kind of happy hour. been linked to inflammation and may impair the immune Invite friends over for a spaghetti dinner. Set the table with response and slow the healing process. Depression is a fine china and crystal. Provide bibs and wet wipes. Omit medical malady, with more than 16 million Americans eating utensils. Watching adults eat spaghetti with their being treated for it with prescription medications. These hands creates as much laughter and entertainment as one medications come with side effects such as anxiety, night can contain. For dessert, serve Jell-O for more finger- suicidal thoughts, psychotic episodes, personality changes food hilarity. and even sudden death — all printed microscopically on the prescription insert. In our society, we all want to be our own boss, make our own decisions and take charge. So, I challenge you: Choose On the bright side, laughter can rejuvenate the spirit and to be joyful. Be the boss of your happy. Take charge of your help dissolve depression. A doctor from India, Dr. Kataria, face and smile. Laugh till you snort. You will be healthier, even created a program incorporating yoga and laughter. and you just might live longer. But what if we are having trouble finding fun and mirth in life? Here are some suggestions: Hang out with a child. An average 4-year-old laughs 300 times a day. An average 40-year-old laughs four times a day. The conclusion is simple: Play with kids! Allow them to suck you into their imagination. Don’t be afraid to be silly, get dirt in your hair The physiological effects of a single bout of JUNE 2019 13 laughter can last 24 hours. JUNE 2019 13 Laughter: • Lowers blood pressure • Increases blood flow and oxygenation of the blood • Provides a workout for the diaphragm, abdominal, respiratory, facial, leg and back muscles • Reduces the stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline • Boosts response of anti-tumor and disease- fighting defenses • Increases the immunoglobulin in saliva that protects from colds and infections • Improves memory, comprehension, alertness and creativity

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BODY IMAGE Summer is here! So is the spotlight on women's bodies. We’ve all felt it, whether it’s a simple joke about getting your “beach body” ready or it’s being told not to wear a certain top because it’s “unflattering” or “offensive” on you. Local women responded to a basic prompt asking for their thoughts on body image as the warm months arrive. Here’s what they had to say. P.S.WteowleaanrwtntroaitbhinoeguatrtosyuoWbuomr mvioteticinne’gs, tVostioeo.wrTyuMirdnaebgaaasczokinrteoo.rpigaingeal4 JUNE 2019 15 JUNE 2019 15

F A T ISN’T A DIRTY WORD Fat isn’t a dirty word. Throughout my life, my weight has fluctuated, as it does for many women with polycystic ovarian syndrome. It has only been in the past few years that I have truly embraced that being fat has nothing to do with my value as a person, and this is liberating. Activist and author Roxane Gay says, “Fat is not an insult. It is a descriptor. And when you interpret it as an insult, you reveal yourself and what you fear most.” The body positivity movement has reminded me that my worthiness as a person has nothing to do with my weight. This doesn’t mean I don’t struggle with insecurities, and it doesn’t mean I don’t desire to lose weight — it simply means that I don’t derive my own sense of self-worth based on my weight. And for those who continue to fat-shame, or have issues with the body positivity movement because they feel it “celebrates being unhealthy,” fat does not always equal an absence of healthy living. And furthermore, having to even approach anyone with this argument is almost equally problematic. It perpetuates abuse against larger bodies and the mindset that we owe it to the general public to fit into someone else’s image of what is acceptable. The body positive movement doesn’t exist to “celebrate obesity” or even to combat ideas about what is and isn’t healthy, it exists to remind people that all of us, regardless of size, are worthy of respect, love and visibility. — Adrienne Trego, 33, Artist and Arts Administrator Body image. I doubt there’s a woman alive who isn’t aware of hers. From Rubens’ amply fleshed nudes to Twiggy, who looked like a walking stick, to today’s impossibly white teeth and gym-toned abs … who sets these ever-shifting standards of perfection? “Don’t you ever just want to let go?” my sister asked me not too long ago, “to forget about the mirror and eat whatever you want?” Truth be told, I have been pining for that day. But, thanks to that hot babe octogenarian Jane Fonda, I find myself in the seventh decade of my life still acutely embarrassed by my muffin top and locked in a love/ hate relationship with dessert. Such is the current unrelenting critical scrutiny of women’s bodies that I will probably go to my grave bitterly regretting that I passed on the key lime pie. — Prudence Mainor, Semi-retired Sometimes I think it’s either a mad obsession or maybe just a unique talent. I can look at any photo ever taken of me and tell you exactly how much I weighed at the time. Through thick and thin (and everything in the middle), I have too often allowed my emotions to be ruled by a damn number. The one on the scale. The digital variety is always the scariest — because those numbers scream in lights. As if to say, “Ha! So that intermittent fasting thing didn’t work out for ya, did it?! Ditto for Keto! Consumed too many calories, huh, broad? Overdid it on the sodium, too. Get your sweet hiney back to the gym, y1o6uJUslNuEg!2Y0O19U DESERVE A SCARY NUMBER.” 16 JUNE 2019

COVER STORY: CONTINUED The scale is a cold, cold monster. Yet, I always keep trying. Recently, my goal was to lose (I’m not even going to insert the number of pounds here) by my birthday, April 7. Guess what? I gained weight instead. The stupid scale doesn’t lie, I’m telling you! (No wonder my lovely, feisty German Mama tossed her scale out the window, for real, when she was about the age I am now, but that’s another story.) Body image is a crazy thing. I look back at photos of when I thought I was fat, only to realize I was one semi-hot and skinny chick. Life goes on. My only strategy for summer is to eat healthy 80 percent of the time, drink more water, get my sweet hiney back to the gym, enjoy life, and stay off the scale. If I don’t toss it out the window first. — Janet Gibson, Marketing and Communications Specialist It is very important for us to love the skin that we are in. Everyone has something about their body that they don’t like or wish was different. Every stretch mark, dimple, or added amount of thickness is where it is supposed to be. Love yourself unconditionally and eat every crumb of that piece of chocolate cake with ice cream on top! ­— Shanessa Fenner, Elementary School Principal Morning dew, plump, vibrant wiggles Evening past, slender, statuesque, bold Then by night, plundering, wondering where the day went. — Zakiyyah Marcell, Ph.D., 49, Educator I’ve never thought of myself as someone who struggles with insecurity. Growing up, whatever efforts I did undertake to improve my appearance looked more like challenges to me than battles already lost. Every summer was an opportunity to grow out my hair, improve my wardrobe, better my makeup skills, so that I could properly shock all my schoolmates the following semester. While no one was ever shocked, per se, I regret to mention that I never fully grasped my personalized ideal until one fateful summer in high school. After that, whether by pride or a shift of values (I preferred the latter), I began to neglect my efforts at self-improvement. Subconsciously, however, I reveled in my appearance, and increasingly frequent compliments fell on my newfound confidence like water on a parched garden-bed. It wasn’t until a few months ago that I realized the repercussions of this confidence. I had learned to identify myself with my appearance, and the realization that these features would eventually change terrified me. Someday, my young skin could be riddled with wrinkles? My dark hair streaked with gray? No, thank you! My pride began to haunt me day after day. I have found that, since youth is fleeting and looks are ever-changing, confidence in these things is, at best, a disappointment. I’m in the process of learning how to maintain a positive self-image without idolizing it, and I hope my future self will thank me. — Avery Powers, 20, College s2t0u19de1n7t JUNE JUNE 2019 17

\"Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy W H AV Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God I with your bodies.\" — 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 HI The temple (which represented the earthly dwelling place of AN Christ) was holy and to be cared for. Since Jesus left his Holy Spirit within us before he ascended into heaven, we are the THI earthly dwelling places of Jesus as we represent him. For the THIG sake of keeping up with trends of society, many women have forgotten their worth, value or respect and feel the need to HAS NEVER B show off their bodies. FOR PERSON Women were also created to be a \"helper\" for men (Genesis 2:18), and as women we have the blessing and responsibility to help our brothers in Christ by dressing with dignity. Many men struggle with sexual immorality — lust, pornography, marital affairs — and I do not think we, as women, objectifying ourselves and putting ourselves on display is helping them. Satan is aware of this struggle (1 Peter 5:8) and is using this to destroy the family. I believe our sex-driven, self-pleasing society has only brought trouble and heartache. In regards to body image issues, many women struggle with comparing themselves to others externally. God does not make mistakes, and our bodies are beautiful in the eyes of our creator, the only person whose opinion really matters and is the source of our self-value. I believe women need to take care of their bodies — eating right, exercising, getting sufficient rest, etc. If we are doing that, it is really not important if we are thick, thin, short or tall. Different body types is an example of the creativity of God's hand. Personally, I used to desire being fuller or not as thin, but I am now so thankful for the body God has given me and aim to glorify him rather than draw attention to myself with my body. Ladies, you are very special. Know your worth! — Sarah Lindy, Elementary School Teacher I was raised in a culture of body positivity. Plus size, queen size, voluptuous, fat. Whatever you want to call it, having wide hips and thick thighs has never been a cause for personal lament. I am a black woman. Our bodies were seemingly designed to withstand the weighty endeavor of moving through the world not only as women, but as melanated beings. Pun intended. My body is strong. I have not borne children, but I have borne other circumstances that cause me to praise and honor the body that has carried me through. My body is built for hugs. As a child, and to this day, I associate comfort with soft, warm, all-encompassing embraces that I can sink into, and I love that I can share that comfort. My body is not public property. Consent, health care options, the bathing suit that I wear — these are my choices to make, not a p18oliJtUicNaEl t2a0l1k9ing point or public opinion free-for-all. 18 JUNE 2019

ING E COVER STORY: CONTINUED D My body and I don’t always get along, especially as I creep PS toward becoming a lady of a certain age. But we have been through a lot together, and I will always protect and care for her. ND And I will always champion other women to do the same. ICK — Ashanti Bennett, Arts Administrator, 39 GHS I am always amazed when I hear my besties talk about how they EEN A CAUSE feel about their bodies. Mostly because I never see the things NAL LAMENT they claim to hate most about themselves. When I was in middle school, one of my closest friends had the thickest, waviest, most luxurious red hair. Her eyes were bright blue and sparkled when she was excited or happy. Her smile was amazing. Her laugh, infectious. I would have given anything to experience that kind of exotic beauty. What she saw, though, was her freckles. She hated them. She said they made her feel ugly and ridiculous. I’d never noticed them until she pointed them out. Even then, I thought they were charming and just a part of who she was. They never seemed ugly to me or worth a second thought. She didn't feel that way. We lived in Georgia, and even in the summer, she wore long pants and long-sleeved shirts. That’s how much she hated her freckles. My college friend played most every sport and placed in just about every tournament and race she entered. She was healthy, fit and beautiful. One of her breasts was smaller than the other. She obsessed about how to dress so no one would be able to tell. I knew her for almost two years before she pointed it out. I’d honestly never noticed. And when I told her that, she accused me of trying to make her feel better about being a freak. But I honestly had never noticed. One of my first neighbors as an army wife had alopecia. She did not have a single hair on her head. She had an impressive wig collection and always looked amazing in public. It took about a year before she felt comfortable enough around me to let me see her without a wig on. She was always engaging and fun to talk to, but in the comfort of her own home, when she was in her element, she was a different person. Without her wig, she was carefree, relaxed and funny. And so beautiful. But it took her all that time to let me see her true self. And I am thankful she did. My hangup is my facial hair. I have polycystic ovary syndrome. One of the side effects is excessive hair growth — not on top of my head, unfortunately, but on my face. Left untended, I could probably join the circus as a bearded lady. I've spent a lot of time and money getting my face plucked, waxed and lasered. Part of my morning routine involves a magnifying mirror and a pair of tweezers. It should not be a challenge to love the body I live in — but sometimes it is. We have been together almost 50 years, she and I. I went through puberty, pregnancies, childbirth and now middle age in this body, and she has never let me down. That’s what I need to remember when I look in the mirror. — Stephanie Crider, 49, Publisher and Editor JUNE 2019 19 JUNE 2019 19

MINDY LOVE Mindy Love is a full-time environmental program manager with the U.S. Army Reserve Command and creator of the blog Sweet Tea and Pasta. She’s lived in North Carolina Creator/blogger, for more than 20 years and started her blog to share her Southern experiences with Sweet Tea and Pasta others. When she’s not assisting the military in saving the earth, she’s eating her way www.sweetteaandpasta.com around the South, meeting new people and looking for new small towns to explore. Se ven ways to invest in posi ti ve body image There is no magic list of things to do that will make you with my thick thighs are a formidable power plant have a positive body image, but here are the things I try when I ride my bike. I started cycling again recently, to remind myself to keep the negativity at bay. and I’m looking forward to riding 20 miles or more. 1. Don’t compare yourself to others. For me, this 5. Make time for pampering. Whether it’s an is one of the most difficult things in the universe. indulgent massage, a bubble bath or curling up I continually size myself up against people I see, with a good book, I adore treating myself. I always particularly on social media, whether it’s because feel best after I’ve taken time to give my body and I’m not as tall, as thin, as beautiful or as athletic. I’ve mind a little extra TLC. been working on telling myself that social media is curated so you only see the what others think you 6. Positivity breeds positivity. Having a supportive, want to see. It’s not that it’s fake, but it’s not exactly positive network of friends goes a long way in mak- real, either. That internal reinforcement goes a long ing me feel better about myself. It’s like having my way in helping me stop the negative comparisons. own personal cheerleading squad to cheer me on and celebrate my accomplishments or lend an ear 2. You are strong. Strength comes in many forms. when I’m down. It’s also rewarding to do the same What makes one person strong is not what makes for my friends. me strong, but that doesn’t matter. I am a strong woman who has come through some life challenges 7. Tell the nagging little voice in your head to go away. bruised but not beaten. Many times, that little voice in my head sabotages my positive vibes. Rather than give in, I like to shut that 3. Beauty really is skin deep. I’m not a “10,” or even voice down before the whispers take root and cloud close, but I am a good person. And I’m funny and my thinking. I keep snapshots of quotes and photos caring. There are some physically beautiful people that make me feel strong, loving, courageous, pretty in this world who are ugly on the inside. Eventually, or funny so I can refer to them when that negative their beauty will fade and nothing will remain. Be voice makes an appearance. Reading positive confident in the person you are and others will be affirmations or seeing photos of myself having fun drawn to your inner and outer beauty. and laughing keep the negativity away. 4. You are more than an assemblage of body parts. One of my favorite quotes, by Ziad K. Abdelnour, is this: Sure, I could pick apart several different body parts “Life is like a camera. Just focus on what is important. on cue. My nose is too big. I’m overweight. My Capture the good times. Develop from the negatives. And if things don’t work out … just take another shot.” 20 JdUeNrErie2r0e19is plump. Yet that same derriere combined 20 JUNE 2019

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CINDY ANDRESS Cindy Andress is the mother of six adult children and proud “Nana” of 12 grandchildren. She retired in 2016 after 30 years in the Contributing Writer paralegal field. She volunteers with Hope House/Love Lunches in Hope Mills, serving those without food in the community. MEET LMIIZL E S H K O L iz Mileshko began her new position as executive director Mileshko’s new ideas for ASOM do not focus on the of the Airborne & Special Operations Museum in technology or history showcased there, but rather on December 2018. At under 30 years old, she brings a wealth how the museum can impact and interact with the of experience for someone so young — the youngest to ever hold community. She noted that Fayetteville is a unique this position — as well as a lot of energy and new ideas. place — a large city with a hometown feeling and a strong military presence. She’s discovered that the Mileshko is not just the youngest person to hold this things Fayetteville businesses find important are prestigious position, she’s also only the second woman often different than what one would expect. to work in this role in 19 years. As a millennial with a self- described “old soul,” she brings a perspective of what's Perhaps most surprisingly, Mileshko said, she’s interesting and important to the younger generation and has a found that businesses here are not concerned so passion for the community as a whole. much with seeing their names in lights as they are with being known to support the community. With She feels a strong connection to the military. Almost everyone in that in mind, she has learned how to navigate the her family, including her dad and husband, serve or have served. fundraising aspect of her job by showing businesses She said she values the fact that her position at ASOM offers her a how they can do the most with their sponsorships, way to honor America’s heroes and help tell their stories. assets and donations. A graduate of the University of Alabama, Liz has been in The biggest challenge Mileshko has encountered in Fayetteville for five years, working with several nonprofit her months as executive director is getting the word organizations before accepting her new position. She's a out about the museum, which she describes as being team captain for the Fayetteville Walk to End Alzheimer's a pinnacle of the community since it first opened and an ambassador for the Fayetteville Regional Chamber. in August 2000. As the only Airborne & Special Before joining ASOM, she was director of development for Operations museum in the world, Mileshko thinks the American Heart Association. She called herself a “lifelong worldwide recognition of it is an obtainable goal. volunteer” and feels her years of volunteerism and working in She said she’s working to help reintroduce ASOM the nonprofit sector prepared her for this new role. 22 JUNE 2019 22 JUNE 2019

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PRUDENCE MAINOR Prudence Mainor is an avid vegetable gardener and longtime advocate for supporting local farmers and merchants to create and sustain communities. Contributing Writer She lives in, works in, shops in and tirelessly promotes Fayetteville and Cumberland County. POTTERY: North Carolina’s homegrown craft Potters have been an important part of North In the heart of Fayetteville’s downtown historic district, at Carolina heritage since the mid-1700s. Utilitarian Cape Fear Studios, local potters carry on this proud tradition. pottery was essential to the early settlers, who had The studios are light, airy and open to the public. Greenware to be self-sufficient. They had no easy access to utensils — unfired and unglazed pieces — line the shelves. Time in made of tin or blown glass like those imported from the electric kilns and glazes will transform the greenware England or the northern colonies. Fortunately, localized into finished pieces to be displayed in the retail gallery. clay deposits provided the raw material that these early artisans turned into useful household items such as jugs, Pottery on display and for sale at CFS is both beautiful and bowls, mugs and pie plates. Glazes made of natural local functional. Each piece is signed by the artisan who created materials, often discovered through trial and error, made it. Dinnerware and serving pieces from the potters are the pottery watertight. Embellishments and decoration crafted for years of service at family meals and can then be wasted precious time and materials so they were rarely passed down through generations as treasured heirlooms. added — hence the designation “utilitarian.” According to CFS’ application process, before being Over the years, the craft survived near-extinction from accepted as an exhibiting member, potters must factoryware competition. Today, traditionally made submit representations of their work to an independent utilitarian North Carolina pottery represents a distinct jury consisting of arts professionals. All work must be style prized for both its beauty and its ability to withstand handcrafted and without technical faults, must demonstrate generations of daily use. In the North Carolina cities of an understanding of the elements and principles of design Seagrove and Jugtown, direct descendants of those early and should show “imagination and the mark of the (potter’s) potters with names such as Cole, Chrisco, Owen and individuality.” Potters can then rent studio space from CFS T2e4agJUuNeEco2n01t9inue throwing pots. and pay a commission on each piece sold. 24 JUNE 2019

CFS provides potters wheels and kiln space. The potters, Fayetteville’s Neighborhood Pet Store as well as all artisans who are exhibiting members of CFS, commit to working a set number of hours staffing the Full-Service Grooming retail desk in the gallery to facilitate members’ sales. Self-Wash Room CFS, located at 148 Maxwell St., is open Tuesday-Friday, Healthy Pet Foods • Gourmet Treats 11 a.m.-5 p.m., and Saturday, 10 a.m.-4 p.m. For further Toys • Collars & Leashes information, visit www.capefearstudios.com. and Much More! Check out the following books to read more 1216 Fort Bragg Rd about North Carolina pottery: (910) 860-1200 @WoofGangFay • “Turners and Burners: the Folk Potters of North Carolina” by Charles G. Zug III (1986) JUNE 2019 25 JUNE 2019 25 • “The Traditional Potters of Seagrove, North Carolina” by Robert C. Lock (1994) • “Red Brick, Black Mountain, White Clay: Reflections on Art, Family and Survival” by Christopher Benfey (2012)

CASEY SCHAFFER Casey Schaffer lives in Hope Mills and is the marketing SPONSORED director for Cape Fear Flooring & Restoration. She currently BY Marketing Director, serves on the boards of the Hope Mills Chamber of Cape Fear Flooring & Commerce and The Fayetteville Ladies Power Lunch, and Restoration she’s on the fundraising committee for the Salvation Army. Home décor The color of the year The Pantone color of the year for 2019 decor is Living Coral. This is a bright, fun color that can be used in a multitude of ways. Accent walls, accessories, art, area rugs … it brings a pop to any space. Not only that, but it works well in most rooms and pairs nicely with a plethora of other color palettes. Boldly patterned backsplashes Simple kitchens are a thing of the past. People are incorporating bolder color choices and graphic tile designs into this space. What better way to add your own touch than with a bright backsplash? Stand out and make an impact without creating an overly busy look by incorporating a tile backsplash into your design. Backsplashes are easy to have installed, add value to your home and, best of all, don’t require any major overhaul. Open shelving Instead of hiding your flatware, dishes, ingredients and cookbooks away, it’s now a trend to purposefully display these types of items. For example, in the kitchen, invest in some glass jars of varying heights for pasta, oats, dried fruit and more. The open shelving concept helps keep the kitchen open and bright. Paired with a colorful backsplash or some cute crockery, this trend can bring a personal feel to your home. Matte black kitchens and baths Last year saw a huge focus on making bathroom spaces spa-like and relaxing. This year, that trend continues. It’s all about bold, dark, sultry bathroom designs that evoke an indulgent high-end experience, and nothing creates a sense of drama better than black. Light wood floors Dark, rustic floors may have been all the rage in the past, but this year, paler- hued floors are making a comeback. Homeowners have a growing desire for more open, light spaces. Birch and oak are two top-selling floor options. They reflect more light and create a casual or luxurious feel in any space. 26 JUNE 2019 26 JUNE 2019

Try a digital detox “Cleanse” diets are — or at other times — can boost it can overwhelm the frontal cortex and designed to help people meaningful conversations and increase mistakes. Trying to multitask clear their bodies of more. One study, “Can you connect on vacation can lead to stressful foods that might have an adverse with me now? How the presence of feelings and not being fully immersed effect on their health. Many people mobile communication technology in the experience. find such diets effective, prompting influences face-to-face conversation others to wonder if a digital cleanse, quality,” indicates devices can Being connected while on vacation particularly while on vacation, might negatively impact closeness, may leave a person dealing with produce equally beneficial results. connection and conversation stresses they normally would avoid Advances in technology make it quality, essentially interfering with until returning home. A study possible for people to essentially be on- human relationships. published in the journal Applied call 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Research in Quality of Life indicates Free Wi-Fi is available at restaurants, Phones and other digital devices that stress accrued on vacation can rest stops and hotels, beckoning people also force people to multitask. cause people to feel like they had to stay connected. In fact, according Evidence suggests that multitasking lower energy at work after returning to Hotels.com, free hotel Wi-Fi has isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, leading from a relaxing vacation. become the most sought after amenity to preventable errors and actually at resorts and places to stay. But is there delaying the completion of tasks. A Taking a step back from their a price to pay by remaining so available 2010 study from researchers in France phones, tablets and laptops while to work and other outside influences found that the human brain can vacationing can help people make the while traveling for recreation? handle two complicated tasks relatively most of their getaways. Such a break Studies have shown that easily because it has two lobes that can can promote mindfulness, encourage unplugging while on vacation divide responsibility equally between people to try new things and lead to the two. Add a third task, however, and more meaningful conversations with travel companions. JUNE 2019 27 JUNE 2019 27

Did you know? Working out close to bedtime may not be as detrimental to sleep as previously thought. In fact, some sleep experts are now saying that workout sessions — including those that occur late in the day — can be mutually beneficial for improving sleep duration and quality. In the past, researchers believed that exercise in the evening could increase heart rate, raise core body temperature and send stimulating hormones, such as cortisol and adrenaline, through the body, which could adversely affect sleep. However, recent findings say it’s not all that troublesome. A study in the Journal of Sleep Research found that people who exercised vigorously for 35 minutes before bed slept as well as they did on nights when they did not exercise. The National Sleep Foundation’s 2013 Sleep in America poll also showed that people who exercised reported they snoozed better than those who didn’t work out, and exercising closer to bedtime did not affect sleep quality. Dr. Stuart Quan, a professor of sleep medicine at Harvard Medical School, says the best workout time generally varies from person to person. Those who want to exercise at night can see how it impacts their sleep. If no problems occur, then nighttime workouts can continue. It’s also notable to point out that adrenaline and cortisol only take an hour to regulate and return to normal levels after vigorous activity. So slipping under the sheets an hour or two after a workout may be the best advice for nocturnal fitness fans. 28 JUNE 2019 JUNE 2019 28

ANGELICIA HICKS Angelicia Hicks is the CEO and director of Angelyric Productions, a local production company that offers world-class, family-friendly stage productions, CEO and Director, interactive shows, jingle-writing and much more. From large playhouse venues Angelyric Productions to intimate dinner theaters, our audiences experience the ultimate in thought- 910-447-2775 provoking, awe-inspiring performances. AP’s mission is to combine the essence of human nature with naked emotion to produce compelling characters and life stories that entertain, move and inspire, bringing truth to the stage. Get to know Angelyric Productions stage production, “Estelle,” to a sold-out crowd of 1,300 people here in Fayetteville. For more information or tickets, Feedback from viewers, sponsors and audiences call 910-447-2775 or text inspired me to dig deeper for truths. I wanted to shed APLNO to 71441. light on health issues that were directly impacting our community as a whole. I created productions centered Iwrote, directed and produced my first stage play in around breast cancer awareness (\"I Too Survived,\" 1999, at the age of 16, at my home church in Hope October 2016) and how it impacts our lives. It was told Mills. Focusing on salvation and redemption, the from the male perspective as the caretaker and showed play was called \"It’s time to make a change\" and saw at Methodist University Reeves auditorium. Another an audience of 300 people. After directing a cast of 12 production was about lupus awareness. It was titled adults and having a successful show, I knew this was my “Purple Passion\" and showed at Fayetteville State passion — and I wanted more. University’s Seabrook Auditorium in May 2019. I have two more community-centered productions in the While attending North Carolina State University, I works for fall 2019 and spring 2020. continued to be active in theater, starring in stage plays and joining the campus Black Reptoire theater I was also compelled to create a series of shows for group. After college, I continued to write and began to women, about women and with women. The vision pursue a career in acting, traveling and touring with was to bring women together in one room in the midst theater companies. of actors spread throughout the room portraying characters that would bring out truths we face as In the summer of 2014, I had arrived at a vision of women. Thus, “Ladies Night Out” was conceived in creating a production company that told truths about October 2018. The first show of this series was put on life, our world and ourselves as humans. I wanted to in January 2019, and the series has continued monthly change mindsets and touch hearts through the art of at 4th Fridays at the Rainbow Room in downtown acting. That October, I founded Angelyric Productions Fayetteville. It allows audiences to take a look into the and went on to write, direct and produce my first major lives of six women from different backgrounds dealing with issues every woman can relate to. 29 JUNE 2019 The season thus far has been overwhelming and exciting, with sold-out shows every month. Ladies Night Out will end the season with a full stage production Friday, June 14, at Haymount United Methodist Church. JUNE 2019 29

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