Encyclopedia Of Unusual Sex Practices

DISCIPLINE 85 DISEAS E S li ke ly to have an orgasm fro m t his infected area. Pathogens such as viruses and encounter. bacteria do not norm ally penetrate through outer skin, but we are more susceptib le to L ight physical punishmen t, if the bottom sexually transmitted diseases because wants any typ e of tactile stimu lation, is used mu cous membranes are involved. Due to with an unlimited amount of threats. Verbal the normal enthusiasm experienced during threats a re the top's best tools if they are sex, genital tissue can easily be abraded or ones that can be enacted . An example to rn. T his is what makes it easier for the would be that of telling a par tner they have pathogens to enter our bodies during sexual until the count of five to orgasm and if they contact. don't succeed the sex act is d iscontinued. Threats to throw a person off a cliff are not Th ere are m any STDs and individuals realistic and would not be perceiv ed as a vary in the types or severity of symptoms danger by the bottom. they will suffer. Any change in the amount, odor , or color of discharge, and inflamma- There are discipline organizations that tion or texture of the skin may indicate an train servants. Ireland has a club for women infection. Physicians recommend that that offers Victorian domestic discipline to people examine themselves thoroughly to maids and school girls. CAUTION: People d etermine a standard or baseline appearance who use humiliation spend a cooling down in tissue an d discha rge. There is a sur- period at the end. For in stance, if one called prising number of small bumps and color their p artner a slut they compliment them variations on the genitals that seem okay on their fidelity, if they said their partner n ow but which can cause sleepless nights if was repulsive they give an honest and flat- a sex partner confides that they have been tering appraisal of the partner's value as a seeing someone else and they don't have person, and so forth . The wise top doesn't this baseline reference. u se an in sult th at comes too close to the truth. (\"Discipline,\" by Peter Fiske, QSM The paramount problem in the transmis- lecture, November 15, 1990) sion of many STDs is that they are asymp- tomatic (the person will have no (S ee also ALGOPHILIA, BLINDFOLDING, symptoms). This is why a sking one's BONDAGE, CHASTITY DEVICES, DEFILE- partner if they are \" clean\" or \"safe\" is not a MENT , DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION, HUMILI- guarantee of safety . T his is also why its ATION, INTERROGATION, PETTICOAT important to notify sex partners that may D ISCIPLINE, PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX, have been exposed to the disease. Most of TORTURE and VICTORIAN LACE) th ese diseases are not fatal to an adult and it is easy to justify avoiding the embarrass- DISEASES A French doctor named ment of calling old lovers; h owever , they Jacques de Bethe n court n amed syphilis can cause sterility and other seriou s compli- \"morbus venereus\" or the sickness of cations. I t is impossible to foresee how Venus, goddess of love. With time the term m any people an ex-lover can expose to the venereal d iseases (VD), came to include all disease. sexually transmitted diseases. Today the term V D has bee n changed to Sexuall y It is everyone 's individual responsibility Transmitted D iseases (STD) to reflect a to practice safe sex if one is sexually active broader scope of transmission. There are outside of a primary relationship. In currently 32 organisms and 26 syndromes working for a national switchboard dealing t11at are thought to b e transmitted sexually. with sexually transmitted d iseases, I discov- ered that the maj ority of people contracted T h e following infor mation is brief these diseases from 'monogamous' partn ers. becau se it is not intended to be used fo r self This is because most people let down their diagnosis. M any other diseases h ave similar guard in what they believe are monogamous symptoms and only a physician is qualified relationships and therefore are at more risk to make a diagnosis. when their partner strays than people who practice safe sex in open relationships. Diseases are tran s mitte d primari ly through a n exchange of b lood, genital secre- tions, and skin to skin contact with an

DISEASES INCUBATION SYMPTOMS COMPLICATIONS AIDS 2 Weeks to Diagnosis is b ased on D es truction IO years positive antibody test of body's and one or more of immune the opportunistic system and diseases as defined death by the Cen ters for Disease Control (CDC) CHLAMYDIA Diffic ul t to Possibly n one Sterility Determine Discharge Infection of Painful urination sex organs F/only) bleeding Tubal pregnancy afte r intercourse Death and pelvic pain GONORRHEA 1-10 Days Possibly none Sterility Discharge Infection of Painful urinat ion sex organs A r t h r itis Endocarditis HERPES 2-20 Days P ainful b listers Blisters may *May take W ill dry up and reoccur years disappear in 5- May be passed to 21 days infant at birth TRICHOMONAS Difficult to Itc hing, discharge Epididymitis D etermine foul odor Prostate problem Recurrent infections VAGINITIS Difficult to Change in Discharge May occur Determine Itching or burning s p o n t a n eo u sly P ainful urination VENEREAL 1-6 lvlonths Caul iflower-like May lead to WARTS painless bumps cervical cancer near genital in female Slight itching or May spread to anus burning Difficult to remove SYPHILIS 10-90 D ays PRIMARY: C hancre at Eventual paralysis, 6-8 Weeks site of contact, heals in 7-21 blindness, insanity, 2-40 Years days, swolle n lymph glands death, transmittable SECONDARY: Lowgrade to fetus if not fever, headache,weight Joss, treated within 12 lymph nodes, hair loss w e e ks in spots,swollen growth r esembling genital warts. P ossible recurance of secondary symptom s for several years. TERTIARY ST AGE: Large ulcers on skin or bone, cardiovascular and CNS di sorders

DISEASES 87 DOM IN AN CE/ S UBMIS S SION Safe sex includes things like massage, after being locked into p lace, are then body rubbing, dry kissing, self masturba- stroked so that the skin is moved back and tion, consensual voyeurism, exhibitionism, forth over the two or anything else where body fluids are not glans. It may not be exchanged. Possible safe sex practices considered docking, but include the u se of condoms, french kissing, a few women have sub- external water sports, and masturbating stituted a dildo for the one's partner (one can check for undetected second penis. cuts by first rubbing peroxide on the skin). The proper use of condoms (refer to section (See also BEE STINGS, on Birth Control-Condoms) cuts down BINDINGS, CASTRA- risks, but only if the condom covers the TION, CHASTITY DEVICES, CIRCUMCISION, in fected area and does not break. COCKRINGS, PEN ILE LIGATION, PENIS Spermicidal foam, cream, or jelly that has MODIFICATION, PHALLOPHILIA, SACO- Nonoxynol 9 listed as an ingredient can FRICOSIS, T ESTICLES and WEIGHT provide additional protection, although it TRAINING) poses a risk for som e women as it can destroy b acteria and cause vaginal yeast DOGGING (Amomaxia-sex in parked infectio ns and it d oes not completely protect car) Dogging is the English term for a sport against the AIDS virus. Minimal precau- where people watch couples having sex in tions such as washing with warm soapy parked cars. The couples in the cars per- water and urinating after sex will reduce the form for those who gather around outside risk of other bacterial infections. Some wash their car. There are specific parking areas a partner's genitals with a warm wash cloth that have become known for this activity after sex as a special way of showing affec- a nd the couples identify themselves as tion. Douches are not recommended for a willing to be watched by turning on a col- prevention for STDs because the water can ored interior light. Much, of the same social push the pathogens farther back into the etiquette applies here as does at group sex vagina. clubs. T ouching of the performing couple is not appreciated without their invitation, as Herpes is often spread during oral sex if is unnecessary noise. Those asked to leave a partner has a history of cold sores or are expected to politely obey. during unprotected genital contact with a person who has h a d outbreaks. The Other couples engage in oral sex or m ajority of diseases are spread by people nudity on t he highway for th e purpose of who are either not aware that they have the attracting attention from truck drivers . disease or by ones who think they are only contagiou s when they have an outbreak. (See also CANDA ULISM, EXHIBITIONISM and GROUP SEX) The National STD Hotline provides operators who are available to answer ques - DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION (Cata- tions and refer p eople to ~linics or physi- philist and Pageism-male submitting to cians. That toll-free number is: female, Passivism-submission, Top/ l-800-227-8922. People w ho have specific Bottom-Dominance/Submission) A role of questions about AIDS may contact opera- dominance or submission is used in sex play tors at: 1-800-342-243 7. to increase the intensity of emotions and bonding of partners. D ominance in any (See also DYSFUNCTIONS, HA NDICAPS arena u sually involves control which is rein- and SAFE SEX) forced by threat of emotional or physical pain. DOCKING Docking is a form of mastur- bation that involves two people, u sually Dominance and submission both seem to men. The foreskin of one partner is pulled fall into a human's need for security. Clans back and th e other's foreskin is stretched of primates or groups of a nimals u sually over the tip of h is penis. The two penises, have a dominant figure who regulates the behavior of others. Nature seems to have designed the brain of most species to pro-

DOMIN ANC E/S UBMISSI ON 88 DOMINATRIX, PROFESSIONAL duce a pleasure response to either type of put a dog collar on them feels they are behavior if engaged in by parties who trust expressing love in a way that words never and care for each other. Submission may be will. This is perhaps why submissives can induced primarily by accompanying forms sometimes appear to go to extremes. of stimulus such as a loss, restriction, or humiliation . Laboratory tests on mice D ominant sex p lay is also often engaged revealed that in a fight endorphins (pleasure in as an entertaining way to refine the man- response) are released in the injured mouse agement skills needed in all types of profes- only at the point of submission. Thus sub- sions. mission, rather than pain, was the critical factor in creating a euphoric response. (See (See also ALGOPHILIA, BLIND FOLDING, BONDAGE, CHASTITY DEVICES, COITUS A ALGOPHILIA) CHEVAL, DEFILEMENT, DOMINANCE/SUB- Dominance can produce euphoria MISSION, HUMILIATION, INTERROGATION, PETTICOAT DISCIPLINE, PROFESS IONAL because it is associated with attainment of a DOMINATRIX, T ORTURE and VICTORIAN goal, or an object of security. A person who LACE) loses control over one facet of their life often tries to compensate fo r it by overcon- DOMINATRIX, PROFESSIONAL A trolling in a different area. This behavior professional d o minatri x, or mistre ss, is a may manifest itself in abused children with woman who is paid t o act out an S/M scene something as simple as consistent and com- with a client. It is much less common to find pulsive p lacement of shoes in a closet. women who will play the submissive role as However, in an adult relationship this com- this entails much more risk to her health. pulsive behavior is often acted out through Those who do submit or demands and manipulation of another bottom rarely work alone. person. Here dominance serves to re-estab- Professional dominatrixes are lish a feeling of security or self esteem for not considered prostitutes and the person under stress. remain legal so long as they do not engage in sex. The fee for Sexual dominance and submission ·are a session ranges between $ 100- used to enhance the role of the characters in 150 an hour depending on the fantasy play. Costumes are ofte n used to location, type of equipment, reinforce each role and makes physical or whether photos are taken, and verbal abuse less necessary. Costumes that the d ominatrix' reputation. project power include policemen, military, The woman learns her profes- doctors, and black leather. Accoutrements s ion by either having been used to enforce submission are diapers, involved in S/M previously, feminine lingerie, whips, slave or dog col- having an S/M friend teach h er, or by lar s, and bondage equipment. A dominant beginning work in an established \" dungeon\" who is only experienced in corporal punish- or organized S/M house that hires and trains ment would not be a match for a submissive dominatrixes. T he house gets approximately who follows orders perfectly and is not into half of the fee and the professional domina- pain. Alternately, a submissive who enjoys trix the balance, including tips. One can punishment for misbehaving or verbal war- make a substantial incom e with a full fare is not a match for a dominant who can't schedule, although most see only one or two handle competition for control. clients a day and spend a lot of time waiting on no-shows. A good dominatrix is intelli- The submissive controls the intensity and gent, quick witted, and creative. She has to direction of the game. People often select be good at improvisation to keep clients roles because it provides a change from the aroused, submissive, and entertained for an ordinary. People who have inhibitions or hour. This is much m ore demanding and guilt associated with sexual experimentation difficult than sex . find that this seems to relieve them of per- sonal responsibility for their actions. Total Europe has many attractive, skilled, and sexual submission is used by some as a way well known dominant professionals. The to express love. A person who lets a partner United States seems to have fewer women

DOMINATRIX, PROFESSIONAL 89 DORAPHILIA enter the profession and fe wer still that fabric) Dorap hilia (dora: skin , p hilia: r emain. One reason is that many are unwilling to participate in the variety of attac hment to) is the love of fur or skin. practices for which Europeans are known to engage. There are o nly a few Ameri can This attraction is usually for animal skin or d ominatr ixes that have gained a national r eputation. leather, which has been use d as clothing Mistresses fi nd clients by referrals and throug hout human existence. It is consid- advertising in fetish magazines or newspa- pers. Mistresses as well as clients come from ered a fetis h when it has to be present all social and professional groups. The only prerequisite for the client is that they pay, during sex. Human skin h olds a fascination obey the no sex, drugs, or alcohol rules, and inform the mistress of acts or humiliatio n for some people. The 1950s sex criminal, they d o not find erotic. The d ominatrix should have some knowledge of S/M , Edward Gein, who deri ved pleasure from bondage and discipline, and safety. In addi- tion, a safeword is assigned that will imme- skinning female corpse s h e diately end the game. The dominatrix has to appear or sound authoritative and in control exhumed from local graves ~~QI~ of the submissive client. A professional can and then wearing them like develop such an expertise at dominance and /.J aloofness that often clients complain that .a garment, is reported to she doesn 't seem to enjoy the session. Costumes are important to set the proper have become fas cinated tone. Black leather, latex, or a whip symbol- izes auth ority and restraints placed o n a 0with the idea of changing client ensure submission. It appears that the himself from male to largest percentage of clients engage in bondage, corporeal punishment, anal play, femal e. There have been and cross dressing during the sessions. cases where people have M en who are n ot ab le to visit profes- sional dominatrixes are provided with used h uman ski n to make optional m ethods to experience this type of arousal including audio tapes and personal purses, lamp shades, belts, letter s. Regular phon e sex businesses may have women experienced in domination and and upholstery. T his was apart from similar som e m ay specialize exclusively in these types of fantasies. (Personal communication things done to men vvith tattoos during the with L ady Tanith, Califo rnia, June 8, 199 1.) Holocaust. Captain John Bourke wrote of G ini Graham Scott, P h .D ., a sociologist- anthropologist, documented her study of human flesh b eing used as girdles or mum- dominant women and submissive men in h er book titled Erotic Power, An Exploration mies that were worn by pregnant women to of Dominance & Submission. In this book she interviews professional dominatrixes and assist them in labor. their clients as well as non-professionals who find this lifestyle fascinating. The feel and smell of leather gives many (See also DISCIPLINE, DOMINANCE/SUB - people a feeling of power. Some explain this MISSION and WORSHIP) as subcon sciously taking on the character of DORAPHILIA (Hyphephilia-arousal from t ou c hin g skin , ha ir, le ath er, fur o r the animal with whose skin they cloak them- selves. This was a common belief o f holy men during th eir ancient religious cere- m onies . The Roman emperor Nero dressed in an animal skin and then emulated the beast's ferocious behavior as he sexu all y assaulted the people he had tied to stakes. An explanation for the continued appeal of leather or fu r is that so me people feel secure and nurtured by being wrapped in skin, a sort of surrogate mother effect. Clinical studies showed that rhesus monkeys who had their mothers replaced by inani- mate objects responded better or clung to the on es that were wrapped in some type of fur. M any people who u se leather for erot ic feelings or as a symbol of their sexual power prefer the color black. T he motives behind this preference are not clear. Historical fac ts regarding the color reveal that the ancient Egyptians revered the color as a sign of fer- tility because black was the color of the rich soil along the N ile. This may also be the

DORAPHILIA 90 DRAG QUEENS origin of the black gowns used in witchcraft little as two minutes for sperm to enter the or other ancient religions. The Japanese, cervical canal. CAUTION: Frequent some Egyptians, American Indians, douching is not reco mmended by physi- Christians, and Hindus saw it as a sign of cians as the vagina cleans itself by a natural destruction or death. Europeans dressed in flow of lubricants. The vagina also has a black garments to attend funerals so that regulated amount of bacteria and chemicals they would not be recognized as human and that can be thrown out of balance by sper- harmed by ghosts. Conversely, black m icides, alkaline, and d eodorant douches. Africans dressed in white clothing at Women wea ring an IUD are particularly funerals for the same reason. Today black is discouraged from this practice. Commercial perceived as a symbol of evil, elegance, deodorants and douches have been known authority, and religion (Stories Behind to pre ve nt conception in oth erwise fertile Eve1yday Things, by]. Polley, ed., Reader's women. A more serious risk is that of Digest). having the liquid, under high pressure, enter into the uterus, Fallopian tubes, and eventu- Erotic leather apparel can be purchased ally the peritoneum, where it can cause a t some lingerie and leather shops or serious damage and possibly require ordered from Europe. Leather jock straps surgery. (some with chrome studs), bikini panties with zippered crotches, body suits, bras, (See also BIRTH CONTROL, KLISMA- corsets, dresses, skirts, pants exposing the PHILIA and STUFFING) rear, costumes, and accessories are all avail- able. DRAG QUEENS (Cross-dressing- wearing clothing of the opposite sex or age (See BINDINGS, BULL FIGHTS, FETISHES grou p, Gynemimesis- female imperson- and ZOOPHILIA) ation in male who is unable to become sexu- ally aroused by females) Drag queens vary DOUCHES A douche is a jet of liquid in style and purpose. There are gays who that penetrates into the vagina or rectum. dress as women, male prostitutes who are Douches are used for hygiene, birth control, trying to pass as female, and others who and sex games. find the character change cathartic, chal- lenging, amusing, or entertaining. ANAL Anal enemas are often referred to as douches by gay men. T hese are done for Drag queens who enjoy entertaining fre- hygienic purposes prior to anal intercourse. quen t bars, parades, fairs, or other events This differs from klismaphilia (enemas) where they can perform. One San Francisco which is part of the sex play and is adminis- area drag queen had developed several char- tered by a partner. acters and used them according to which event and statement he wanted to make. H e GOLDEN DOUCHE This is a nother type attended the gays' protest demonstration of douching u sed in sex play. It is the act of against a group of fundamentalists as an urinating directly into the vagina or anus omnisexual that was half feminine and half after ejaculation. The partner has the sen sa- masculine (i.e. corset and jock strap). This tion of being filled with semen for a second was a character that could flirt with any sex tim e. This is mechanically difficult and and did. He attended the Folsom Street Fair something very few men accomplish. CAU- as Mrs. Trauma Flintstone, who being TION: Golden douches are not considered recently divorced from an abusive husband, safe sex. didn 't care at all about sex but loved to sing and perform for the crowd. VAGINAL There are sex games where people insert the top rim of a ch ampagne Male prostitutes who are attracted to het- bottle into a partner's vagina and drain the erosexual men are sometimes successful in contents. The champagne is then sucked hiding their male genitals when they restrict out of the vagina. Vaginal douching is most their activity to fellatio and keep the often used as a method of birth control. partner's hands ou t of tl1eir panties. Drag Th.is is often not effective because it takes as

DRAG QUEENS 91 DYSFUNCTIONS queens have become the rage in Italy, where displays an array of S/M equipment, su ch as heterosexuals prefer their outrageous cos- 11a mask, cane, riding crop, ostrich feather, tumes and the fact that they can have sex with a man without feeling particularly gay candle, lubricant, themselves. Often men who live in countries puppet, mirror, ~Z21 where females are expected to be virgin scarf tie, 4 b ed upon marriage are more tolerant of prosti- 7P tutes and drag queens. A man in these cul- tures is not considered gay unless he takes posts, razor and the receptive role. basin, brush, Gays are divided on whether they want a partner to dress in female attire. A gay male hooks for suspen- in Utah enjoyed preparing candlelit dinners for his date and m eeting him at the door in sion, bridle, slave women's lingerie. His dates had reactions that ranged from pleasure and amusement collar, leash, bull to indifference or disgust. whip, penis whip, (See also TRANSVESTITES) and horse. The DUNGEONS A dungeon is a room that is specially furnished for sexual activity. other dungeon has a wall mirror, hangin g The room is designed to offer complete chair sling, 6\"x6\" beam with chains, and privacy and some have additional sound- proofing. Equipment and toys may or may wrist straps. not be displayed. People decorate their dun- geons to look like medieval torture cham- (See also BONDAGE, FANTASY PLAY, bers, stages, barns, child's rooms, guest FLAGELLATION, GENITAL/ANAL INSERTS, bedrooms, special fantasy scenes, or they KNIVES, MEDICAL SCENES, PROFESSIONAL just take a room and hang a collage of their DOMINATRIX and SWINGS) favorite equipment on the walls. DYSFUNCTIONS Sexual dysfunctions Dungeons may be used exclusively by are either physical or psychological. A few the owners and their guests, rented to are listed as follows: friends, the public, or clubs for play parties and lectures. The basic rental dungeon will AZOOSPERMIA Azoospermia is the partial or total absence of spermatozoa in ejaculate. include hooks and It is caused by a blockage between the testi- chains in the cles and urinary tract or can be caused by ceiling for suspen- testicles that do not produce spermatozoa. sion, a 6\"x6\" Azoospermia sometimes responds to treat- beam for standing ment or surgery. bondage (prob- ably wrapped with CRYPTORCHIDISM Cryptorchidism is the rope for comfort), failure of one or both testicles to descend a mattress, wall after a male is born. If the testicle fails to mirrors, a chair, drop into the scrotum before puberty, it will and bathroom. be sterile and will eventually atroph y. Extra items may include a hanging chair Surgery is usually successful when done swing, rape rack, body harness, cage, box, early. Later, plastic testicles can be surgi- stocks, gynecological exam table, hospital cally implanted into the scrotum for aes- gurney, dental or barber chair, and stereo. thetic purposes. Hitler was though t to have People usually supply their own costumes, had only one descended testicle, although flagellation equipment, or toys. his close friends denied this as propaganda. The two sketches of dungeons show the diverse range of possibilities. One dungeon EPISPADIAS Epispadias occurs if the ure- thra opens up on the upper surface of the penis instead of extending through the center to the tip of the glans penis. T h is condition is called hypospadias when the urethra opens on the underside of the penis. Both conditions c.an be corrected by surgery. FILARIASIS This is commonly referred to as elephantiasis and is an enlarging of an

DYSFUN C TIONS 92 DYSMORPHOPHILIA arm, leg, or scrotum caused by a prolonged th e bladde r instead of our of the urethra. It obstruction of circulation in the lymphatic occurs when the internal b ladder sphin cter vessels by fil arial worms. It is common in opens and the external urethral sphincter tropical countries and is carried b y closes, caus ing the semen to enter the bladder. T his condition may be ca used by m osquitoes. The scrotum of injury, diabetes, u se of some tranquilizers, some me n becomes so large or prostate surgery. For couples wishing to that they have to be carried in have children it is possible for a physician to wheel barrows. imme diately remove semen from the bladd er with a tube and insert it into the GYNECOMASTIA is the cond i- female partn er's vagina. tio n w here a male w ill have enlarged breasts. It is caused SIAMESE DEFORMITIES Daniel P. by fa tty deposits and can occur Man nix, in his book, FREAKS: We Who are in e u n u chs o r m en being Nol as Others, mentions a man named Frank treat ed with female ho rmon es L entini who had two complete sets of geni- to arrest prostate ca ncer. T his condition is tal s. L en tini was also common in boys during puberty but born in I 889 as a wi ll usua ll y di sappear itse lf with in a few partial siamese months. Ivlale hormo ne treatm ents are avail- triplet. T he onl y able for those who become concerned with portions of the par- the ir co ndition . asitic brothers that attached themselves PENIS DEVIATIONS T his deviation refers to Lentini w ere a £..--~\")) specifically to b e n t pen ises . One may b e set of genitals, a born with this or it can be caused later du e leg, and two feet. to a n injury. It can be sustained duri ng sex L entini joined the c ircu s at a you ng age and by the penis being bent into a crooked posi- earned a fortune with his performances. tion , occur as a result of natural hardening There is no information as to whether bod1 of the corpora cavernosa when a man grows p enises we re fun c ti onal, however, he did older, or d ue to an illness such as Peyronie's marry and father four children. di sease . Most d ev ia ti ng penises curve toward the body when erect but a small per- SPERM DEFECTS Sperm itself can be cent c urve forward, sometim es making defec tive an d not capable of fertilization. entry and thrusting painful for a partner. T h ey can beco m e two-headed, ta ill ess, The direction a penis curves in this case small or la rge headed. None of th ese cond i- m ay simply be du e to the position the m an tions faci li tate the rapid movement neces- kept his p enis in as a child . For example, a sary to enter and reach a waiting egg. The forward curving penis can sometimes be mu cosa! plug tha t blocks the entrance of the caused by a boy tuc king his penis back cervix likewise acts as a screening m echa- between his legs. A urologist can be con- nism, allowing onl y healthy and well formed sulted if the bend seems abnormal. spe rm to ente r. ( Ho w to Get Pregnant by PRIAPISM Priapism is the condition wh ere Sherman J. Silber, M .D.) the penis stays erect. This is ofte n painful and can be caused by acute cases of gonor- (See also DISEASES and HAN DICAPS) rhea, le ukemia, prostate proble ms, spinal injuri es, or an overd ose of drugs that treat DYSMORPHOPHILIA (M orp ho- impotence. At one time leeches were used to philia-arousal fro m person with a different suck out the blood. Today common treat- ph ys iqu e) D ysmo rphoph il ia (dys : ab nor- ments include wrapping with elastic ban- m al, m orphe: form, philia : attach m ent to) dages, cold baths, and som eti mes surgery. refe rs to those who are sexually arou sed by de formiti es in their partn er s. These m ay RETROGRADE EJACULATION Th is is an include th ings such as club feet, scars, ejaculation where the sperm is pushed into dwa rfs, mastectomies, hunchbacks, etc.

DYSMORPHOPHILIA 93 ELECTRIC SHOCK There are bordellos that cater to these tastes arousal. Others feel emotionally secure or in and recently a London fashion magazine control when their partner does not have featured photos of m odels with long fake the perceived abil ity to leave them fo r noses or ears. someone else. Others need to nurture or rescue a sex partner to feel love or bonding The attraction to people who possess and some are simply attracted by novelty. these features is similar to the attraction of those who find amputees appea li ng. For (See also ACROTOMOPHILIA, APOTEM- some the strong sense of compassion or fear NOPHILIA, CASTRATION, CHUBBY CHAS- may condition them to overreact later and ER, HERMAPHRODITE, PARAPHILIAS, possibly confuse this excitement with sexual PODOPHILIA and TRANSSEXUALS) E ECOUTEURISM Ecouteurism is similar and a partner's physical safety is essential. to acousticophilia in that sounds arouse the Many scientists have accidently been exe- person. However, ecouterism is nonconsen- cuted while experimenting with electricity. sual and the stimulus comes more from this Benjamin Franklin was probably the first to fact rather than from what is heard. This is deliberately use it similar to the kleptophile who is aroused by to take life as he the danger and courage involved in stealing experimented with rather than by the object they steal. This is animals . A century also true of a peeping Tom, exhibitionist, or later, in 1886, a o bscene phone caller. Similarly, an ecou- scientist employed teurist will use the stimulus from eavesdrop- at Edison's labora- ping as an aid for masturbation. tory patented the electric chair. After Sexual ecouteurism involves intentionally demonstrating the listening to someone else's personal conver- chair to a government commission by elec- satio ns or sexual exploits through doors , trocuting a cow and a horse, he took this act walls, telephone lines, and with special elec- on the road to entertain crowds throughout tro nic li stening devices. Some of these the United States. devices look somewhat like a megaphone and are capabl e of picking up low level This contraption was endorsed by the noise from JOO feet away. An ecouteurist government and prisoners began being exe- may be a voyeur as well, but the two d o not cuted in this manner, soon rendering hang- always occur simultaneously. ings obsolete. Humans electrocuted in these chairs were given 1,700 volts of alternating Many people are aroused unintentionally current for 30 seconds. Unconsciousness by overhearing a couple engaging in sex was almost immediate and death came in 2- from an adjoining bedroom or when 3 seconds. The approach was merciful attending a group sex function. Thi s is a when the system functioned correctly; of normal reaction for most people. course, there were prisoners that had to be electrocuted twice. (See also CANDAULISM, COPROLALIA, JACTITATION and VOYEURISM) Shock as a form of sex play is a modified and safe version of the types of electrical ELECTRIC SHOCK (Electrophilia- shock government officials used in different arousa l fro m electricity)Electric shock is countries to interrogate political prisoners used as a form of titillation or light torture and by American prison guards to control depending on the amount of voltage chosen their prisoners. by the recipient. This type of sex play always elicits some type of excitement; how- M ost devices used in sex play are incon- ever, technical knowledge of the apparatus sequential by comparison. They are small

ELECTR I C SHOCK 94 EROTI C BALLS battery operated gadgets that resemble a 1962) CAUTION: People have died from flashli ght. Other devices, su ch as the tito- miscalculating voltage and time restrictions lator, two-celled cattle prods, used m edical while masturbating alone. (\"Electrical machines, and telephone magnetos (which Applications,\" by J. Bruce, QSM lecture, are u sed to make shock units that feature a December 2, 1990) hand crank and wire contact) can be pur- chased or modified. The lubricant or solu- (See also AL GOPHILIA, GENITAL/ANAL tion used on the electrodes that touch the INSERTS, INTERRO GATION, POW ER body have a salt content; some simply add TOOLS, SAFE SEX, SENSORY ENHANCE- salt to KY-gel or aloe vera. MENT and TORTURE) It is dangerous to p lace the electrical con- EMETOPHILIA (Roman shower) tacts above the waist. The reason for this is Emetophilia (emein: to vomit; philia: attach- that electric current travels from one contact ment to) refers to those who are aroused by point directly to t h e other. Therefore, t o vomit or vomiting. These people usually avoid the risk of the current passing near or ingest wine or urine and then vomit it out; through the heart the contacts are never sometimes onto their p artner. A few men placed on the chest, arms, or nipples. Both have deliberately encouraged their date to people take time before the shock treatment overeat and drink. Afterward, u sing this to make a final safety check fo r liquids or condition to stimulate vomiting by u sing metal objects that could be touching their their penis during fellati o to start a gag bodies. reflex in their p artner. H ouse current with isolation or GFI (See also SHOWERS) (ground fault interrupters) a nd transformers are m andatory. DC batteries are safer b ut ENDYTOPHILIA (Endytolagnia) many complain that they create skin burns Endytophilia refers to people who prefer and the person u sually only feels the power their sex partners to be dressed rather th an com e on and go off. Human tissue varies in naked. (See CHEMISE CAGOUL E, FETISHES the a mount of resistance (m easured in ohms) it gives to electrical c urrent; there- and T RANSVESTITES) fo re, what is safe for one person may cause injury to others. Some tops prefer to g ive ENEMAS See KLISMAPHJLIA the control of the rheostat to the bottom. This makes the person responsible for their EROTIC BALLS T here are several own decisions (\"The shocking art of elec- world renowned erotic balls. The San trical torm en t\" by F ledermaus, Dungeon Francisco Exotic Erotic Ball is held ever y Master No. 8, January 1981, p. 18). year for Halloween and New Year's Eve. Thousands of people with exotic costumes The Japanese use a special battery oper- crowd into large warehouses near the wharf. ated d evice to indu ce orgasm in men. This Const ance Enterprises hosts an annual Fall box has two wires with electrodes, one is fetish costume ball and fashion show in attach ed to the end of the penis and the N ew York. The author of The Safer Sex other is inserted into the rectum. The man !vianiac's Bible, Miss Tuppy Owens, sp on- then regulates th e current with a rh eostat sors a n annual Sex Maniac's Ball in L ondon until orgasm . This device is used by physi- as a fund-raiser for people with disabilities. cians to eject sperm from impotent men to G uests wear costumes from their favorite use for artificial insemination a nd similarly fantasies. The Eccentric Fashi on Show b y vete rin a ri ans for b r eeding li vestoc k. attracts people to Switzerland every year Am erican inventors sold an electrical device and Melbourne Australia hosts an ann u al in the early 20th century making b oasts, Hookers and D eviants Ball. backed by a guarantee, that it not only cured impotency and noctu rnal emissions, Many of the sex oriented symposiums but could increase the size of men's organs such as Li fest yles a nd th e Nat io n al as well. (EROS, b y R. Ginzburg, Spring, Sexuality Symposium have a Saturday evening erotic ball for attendees .

EROTIC BALLS 95 EROTOMANIA The San Francisco Exotic Erotic Ball has belief,\" that someone with whom he or she been compared to an indoor Rio Carnival; has little or no actual contact is deeply in however, the L atin s wear more revealing love with him or her (\"De Clerambault's costumes. Attendance at this Halloween ball Syndrome,\" by Joyce L. Dunlop, MA, MB, begins with waiting in line outside the BCh. BAO, MRCPsych, DObst. RCOG, building for up to an hour. At least, unlike British Journal of Sexual M edicine, August theatre lines, this one is quite entertaining- 1989, pp. 306-7). This person's love objects or enough so that crowds of spectators are often prominent figures who are not gather around all evening to catch glimpses even conscious of their existence other than of what p eople are wearing under their the fan's repeated letters and appearance at trench coats. P eople finally enter the stage doors waiting for autographs or sou- gigantic rooms already filled with thousands venirs. Some may throw underwear at their of excited voices and music from live bands. love object as they perform on stage. Gloria Most people either take photos or model. Estefan is said to have at least twelve pairs Photographers often convince women to of men's underwear thrown at her feet per pose in an erotic fashion for them or with performance. (Of course, not everyone them. People wear costumes of vegetables, throwing underwear at a performer has the vampires, witches, monsters, cave men, half delusion that the performer returns their naked brides, human dildos, robots, doc- admiration.) P . Ellis and G. Mellsop listed tors , and priests. The SIM and leather eight criteria for this syndrome: people attend in their regular playwear. One year a dominatrix gave a whipping and delusions of amorous communication fisting demonstration with her slave, but this which have not been initiated by the is a rare event. Ordinarily the most one sees patient is an occasional couple discreetly engaging in fellatio or lap dancing. The crowd begins higher rank of love object as perceived to thin at midnight and those remaining are by the patient often inebriated. per ceived approach by the other (See also SEX CLUBS, SEX CONFERENCES, person SEX HOTELS and SEX SHOWS) sudden onset EROTICA Erotica is a term that currently refers to literature or photography that single unchanged object depicts sex in a more subtle or socially redeeming manner than does pornography. explanations of paradoxical behavior given by the patient (See also PORNOGRAPHY) chronic course EROTOGRAPHOMANIA Erotograph- omania refers to a strong desire to write love absence of hallucinations letters or poems. This was more common before the invention of the telephone. (\"De Clerambault's Syndrome-A Noso- logical Entity?\"; by Ellis P ., Mellsop G., Br (See also COPROGRAPHY, COURTSHIP, JACTITATION, OBSCENE PHONE CALLS and J Psych) 1985; 146: 90-93). PHONE SEX) People who suffer from erotomania have EROTOMANIA (De Clerambault's syn- a similar background to those who are drome, Groupies, Old Maid's Insanity, attached to fetishes. They generally experi- Psychose passionelle) ence some type of isolation or emotional distancing from parents while young. A Erotomania (abnormally strong sexual normal relationship is difficult and each has desire) is a term that has come to refer to replaced their need for love with a fantasy someone who develops an \"overwhelming o b ject. conviction, amounting to a delusional Problems not only arise from the fan's efforts to spend time with the celebrity but also when the fan's love turns to revenge

EROTOMANIA 96 EUNUCHS because of perceived rejection . Several There are several men who have gained movie stars have been assaulted and some noto riety for their belief in eugenics. A murdered due to this psychosis. The eroto- respected lawyer in ancient Greece, maniac does not always return the affection Lycurgus, favored preconception selection they think the other person gives them. and encouraged weak or old men to let Jo nathan H. Sega l, M.D. included an younger men impregnate their wives in example of one of these cases in the order to improve the race. Much later, John October 1989 issue of American Journal of Noy.es, founder of the late 19th ce ntury Psychiat1y 146: 10: C?ne1da Community, implemented the prac- uce of propagation by scientific selection. A Ms. B, a 65-year-old retired clerk, was limited number of healthy men in this com- admitted for psychiatric treatment fallowing munity were allowed to impregnate women, her attack on an elderly bank manager who altho~gh all were allowed to perform a type lived in her apartment building. She claimed of coitus reservatus with consenting women. that although he had never spoken to her out Conjugation could last an hour with the loud, he had been contacting her telepathically purpose of letting the woman have as many for months with romantic messages; she 'hinted' orgasms as possible during this period of that these messages contained sexual overtones. time. H owever, the man himself was not She said that she could tell he was interested in allowed to ejaculate even after withdrawal her by the way he looked at her. After she and masturbation was forbidden. accosted him several times 10 protest, he denied any interest in her and obtained a restraining The Nobel Sperm Bank was founded in order barring any contact between them. 1980 by Robert Graham in Escondido Unable to restrain her indignation, she followed California. Graham believed that for a him to his office, leaped at him across his desk, Nobel winner or other notable achiever to and allegedly tried to strangle him. Later, how- die with only a few heirs, or perhaps none, ever, she admitted only to having touched his was a sad waste of genes. tie... (Erotomania Revisited: From Kraepelin to DSM-!II-R, p. 1264). There is controversy about whether intel- ligence and achievement is genetic and con- (See also FETISHES, LOVE, LOVE ADDI- ce~n over the pressure some parents put on TION and PARAPHILIAS) children who are conceived for this purpose. ESSAYEURS Essayeurs were men whose (See also BIRTH CONTROL, CUCKOLDRY, services were retained by Parisian brothels. LESBIANS and SPERM BANKS) I~ was their responsibility to fondle the pros- Ututes and engage in overt sexual behavior EUNUCHS A eunuch is a man who does in front of timid male clients. This relaxed not have functioning testicles, or whose tes- the clients enough for them to participate ticles and/or penis have been removed. themselves. This is the same psychology used by some casinos when they employ The worshipers of Aphrodite, the shills to encourage others to gamble. Goddess of Love, had an annual ceremony where a young priest was sacrificed and in (See also BORDELLOS, CANDAULISM, the ensuing frenzy other men would cut off PIMPS and PROSTITUTION) their penises and splatter the blood on her statue as their EUGENICS Eugenics refers to the phi- personal sacrifi cial offering. losophy that offspring should be controlled Those survivi n g then jo in ed for genetic purity. This has been attempted her service as eunuch priests. throughout history by several methods. Nature usually destroys its weak or diseased The eunuch priests of by spontaneous abortion or miscarriage. Cybele conducted similar rites, Deformed infants who escaped nature's offering their severed penises selection p rocess were often disposed of o n her a lta r a nd afterwa rd after birth. adopting women's clothing, and dedicating themselves to temple service which often included prostitution. The Catholic Church

EUNUCHS 97 EXECUTIONS has a law that no pope may rule who has This was said to work much more efficiently been castrated or whose genitals are other- than wine. wise deformed. Cardinals at one time acted as inspectors and would walk past the pope, The Romans m ixed violence and lust at who sat in a special chair exposing his geni- their Theatre on a much grander scale. The tals, confirming their approval by chanting games involved rape of children by men and \" testiculos habet et bene pendentes.\" beasts, followed by mutilation and murder. Even the Empresses Messalina and It became common for slave traders to Theodora masturbated and had sex in the castrate male slaves. These were then sold stands while watching the events. Daniel throughout the Middle East as guards, ser- Mannix, in his book Those About to Die, told vants, and managers. The orient commonly of young boys who learned to position used castrated m en as servants, cooks, themselves next to unescorted women and musicians, guards, executioners, and tor- when they became overly ecstatic at the turers. The use of slaves in harems began in sight in the arena the boy seized the oppor- the 7th century and still exists in parts of tunity to grab and fondle them. Prostitutes Africa and Saudi Arabia. worked below the stands and lined the roads leading out of the arena to service the Middle Eastern eunuchs were able to numerous men who as yet had not relieved gain political power within the confines of themselves. The Romans were not all mere the harem and many acquired great wealth spectators; there were those who enjoyed and status. A black Turkish eunuch, Kislar molesting and taunting prisoners as they Agha, came to exercise supreme power and were marched into the arena to face death. when he died, left a sum of 30,000,000 Mannix, in addition to describing the piasters along with many other riches. He Roman lust for executions, cited an example had been purchased for 30 piasters. Other during the 20th century of the wife of an eunuchs led revolutions, deposed sultans, or officer at Buchenwald, who would in a sim- were given respectable titles and very high ilar fas hion fondle prisoners on their way to ranks. As late as 1877 a head eunuch, Hafiz the gas chamber. Beheram, was said to have more power than the Grand Vizier or Prime Minister. The Castrations, tortures, and hangings were hiring of eunuchs in the Church was finally public spectacles in the States until quite forbidden by Leo XIII in 1878; primarily to recently. In 1936 20,000 people gathered to end the misuse of castrati. watch the hanging of a 22 year old who had murdered an elderl y woman in Kentucky. (Refer also to CASTRATION, CELIBACY and Once \"pronounced dead, souvenir hunters HAREMS) fought over the hood that covered his head, ripped off pieces of his clothing and even EXECUTIONS Some people experience tried to cut chunks of flesh from his hanging vicariou s stimulation through watching body\" (The Encyclopedia of American Crime, others face death by execution. Once a p. 241). R.E.L. Masters and Allen pers on becomes anxious it is possible to Edwardes, in their book Perverse Crimes in transpose any of the basic emotions caused H is101y, wrote of the Arab-Israeli conflict by the fight, flight, sex response. The spec- when scor es of stripp ed and castrated tators at a p ublic execution who might have Haganah men were photographed by been angered by the crime of the victim Muslims. These photos of dead and muti- may also feel avenged by the death; sym- lated Jews were reproduced and sold. The pathy is absent. public purchased them \"like hotcakes.\" Casanova and Hirschfeld were only two Military leaders were u sually aware of the who wrote about women who masturbated death/sex phenomenon among soldiers in while viewing or waiting for the finale of an action and provided prostitutes, permitted execution and the orgies that followed. rape, slavery, and marriage of the con- Englishmen knew that to break down a quered. At other times military leaders, woman's resistance or scrupl es he simply influenced by religious zealots or Victorian had to get her to attend a public execution.

EXECUTIONS 98 EXHIBITIONISM physicians, imposed severe penalties for ceived ego boost, novelty, embarrassment, those who engaged in any form of defilement, or other discomfort to produce immorality or sex. the high level of stimuli needed to create the physical sensations necessary fo r orgasm. If (See also BULL FIGHTS, LUST MURDER, the disp lay or act does not produce the MORTALITY, NEC ROPHILIA and PARA- amount of adrenalin and hormones needed PHILIAS) for a psychic or genital orgasm, the indi- vidual will supplement with masturbation, EXHIBITIONISM (Peodeiktophilia- sex with a partner, or end the experience arousal from shocking others with exposure with whatever level of arousal was pro- of genitals) An exhibitionist or scopophile is duced. one who derives erotic pleasure from the display of genitals or other body parts that A certain amount of preliminary anxiety are normally considered taboo. or arousal is present with exhibition, as with Exhibitionism is co mmon among primates many other forms of anticipated sex. An and humans as foreplay. The exhibitionists, exhibitionist will become stimulated as they however, u sually expose themselves without plan what to wear, where to flash, and to the consent of their audience or the intent of whom or what type of person they want to consummating the act. flash. Coordin atin g the right sequence of events and location can add to the tension. Historically exhibitionism has been an The exhibiti onist will get some level of essential part of certain fertility rites or wor- excitement from th e experience whether ship service to gods who the m selves were they are successful in exposing themselves represented with exposed organs . Fertility or not. Some men walk around with their gods are still worshiped in parts of the penis protruding from th eir zipper b u t world. East Indian priests during the early hidden beneath an overcoat. 20th century would walk through the streets naked ringing bells to call out female devo- Most exhibitionists feel at some level that tees from their homes. The women would t he stimulation is mu tual. It is an adult then pay reverence to the priest's reproduc- game of \"I'll show you mine, if you show tive organ by embracing it. Women, in a me yours.\" The fact that they generally few societies, use the exposure of their geni- select the young indicates that they may be tals to catch the eye of a favored male. Ford fixated on a childhood experience. This and Beach wrote of the West African type of voye ur/exh ibition ist is generall y Dahomean women u sing this method. found on jogging trails, around swimming Those belonging to a serpent cult wore a pools, or ladies restrooms. The exhibitionist short shirt and would drop it to expose their sometimes feels their exposure is reciprocal genitals to any man catching their eye. due to either the revealing swimsuit of th e Blackwood d escribes a method u sed by victim or to the previous type of genital females of the Kurtatchi [Solomon Islands]: activity in which the women engaged while in the toilet. A woman desiring sexual intercourse with a man who does not make advances to Other exhibitionists derive pleasure from her will, when opportunity arises, lie down assumed defilement of the religious or inno- in his presence with her legs apart, a posi- cent. This type would not be stimulated or tion otherwise regarded as indecent.... If a risk exposing themself to anyone who might woman exposes her genitals, even unwit- give any response other than horror. This tingly, as in sleep, the situation is liable to be exhibitionist chooses to expose themselves taken advantage of by any man whose pas- at churches, in school yards, and to children sions may thereby be aroused (Both Sides of from inside their cars. Buka Passage, by B. Blackwood, p. 125) . Comedian exhibitio nists love the shock There are many degrees of exhibitionism effect. This is probably the only type who and reasons or benefits obtained therefrom. doesn ' t mind laughter. This group usually The act may be consensual or nonconsen- \" moon,\" or expose naked buttocks to vic- sual; however, it must provide enough per- tims of their own age group and because the

EXHIBITIONISM 99 EXHIBITIONISM excitement comes from shock rather than other men during excursion s. They may sexual fantasy. Their victims can be of also be requested to undress in a place either sex. An example of this type of exhi- where there is a risk of discovery. bitionism taken from another culture is that of th e Egyptians in Portside City. Ships, Women rarely get accused of exhibi- after the end of World War II ( 1948), tionism even when they wear short skirts would travel along the Suez Canal and as and no underwear. A man, on the other they passed a desolate area as many as 20 hand, is judged much m ore harshly and no naked native men would line up along the place is found in a formal social gathering shore. Each man had a drum that he would for revealing and seductive attire. One of thump with their erect penises in rhythm to the reasons for this is that of im plied con- a song that sounded much like: \" Hubba sent and power. Men are much more willing Hubba - thump thump - Hubba Hubba - to give consent to a display of nudity by a thum p thump .\" (Personal communication.) woman (other than their wife or daughter) than to one by a man. A woman almos t The exhibitionist does not always have to always feels threatened by the difference in be present to experience the thrill; some physical strength and potential aggress ion men mail nude photos to women they between the sexes. A woman does not con- assume will be sh ocked. This practice is sider herself capable of stopping a man who common among people responding to per- might decide to extend this type of teasing sonal ads. Swinger magazines that allow foreplay into a nonconsensual sex a ct . photos to accompany personal ads seem to Women are socialized to be prudish an d are afford exhibitionists the opportunity of con- offended more by the nudity; however, sensually exposing themselves to hundreds when the threat of aggression a nd social of readers. Some of these people, including mores are lifted women have the capacity of couples, eventually mail each other photos becoming overtly aggressive . Women who on a regular basis. The common stereotype attend professional male strip shows often is that of a stalking male in an overcoat; unleash their passion because they feel they however, m any couples participate in this are in a safe environment. form of excitement by having sex in public where there is a risk of discovery. This is Women engage in partial exhibitionism done at nudist camps, in cars, parks, eleva- in the form of revealing clothing. This tors, backs of theaters, hot tubs, swimming began in America pools, or in a guest bedroom during a party. when arranged mar- Some hosts are aware of this proclivity and riages became obsolete provide a bedroom for this purpose by and women were placing a sign on the door that identifies its thrown into competi- inevitable function, such as: \"For tion with each other Participants Only,\" \"Voyeurs Permitted,'' for suitable mates . or \"By Invitation Only.\" Personal appearance in both sexes gained Some people get excited by exposing significance. The ads their intentions to others, as in the case of that previously d isplayed women as those who purchase magazines or books matronly and dowdy now exhibited young, with explicit sexual photos or titles when pretty, and fashionably dressed wom en. there is a person at the register to whom Women began selecting their own mates; it they are sexually attracted, hoping that was no longer an arrangement made person will initiate a conversation with between the father and future husband. The them. courtship period gave many women power over men for the first time, power bein g in Exhibitionists also consist of those who the hands of the possessor of something don't expose themselves but rather get a someone else wants. Th erefore, a woman vicarious thrill from having their partner do who was attractive and/or exposed herself it. Women are encouraged to go without just enough to titillate a man without sacri- underwear and to expose their genitals to

EXHIBITIONISM 100 FAINTING ficing her reputation created an advantage Nudist colonies, group sex houses, and in marriage negotiations fo r herself. SIM play parties allow people to indulge in Conversely, men during this time lost the legal nudity or exhibitionism. Many people power they previously enjoyed. They could no longer barter for a wife, they had to win find exhibitionism to be arousing, whether her heart by showing compassion, respect, the excitement comes from strutting one's charm, bravery, social status, and so forth. physique, defying taboos, being placed in Letters written betv,reen betrothed couples changed in content from a discussion of bondage and put on display, teasing or friends, relatives, and marriage arrange- seducing a potential partner, or having sex ments to love, affection, grief due to separa- with a partner while others watch. tion, and sex. Many men felt frustrated, inept, and sometimes resentful over this A person who uses nonconsensual and new role reversal. For the first time in illegal exhibition as their primary sexual American history, they began to use whistling, cat calls, or verbal propositions to outlet would benefit from professional assis- humiliate attractive women on the street. For some this was a way of venting anger tance and support. CAUTION: Police and for the power women now had over their psychologists consider exhibitionists to be egos. Other men, similar to the exhibi- relatively harmless. In any case, it is poten- tionist, used these verbal insults and com - tially dangerous for a woman to go near a pliments as a way of saying: \"Look at me, aren't I desirable, aren't I worth your atten- man in an isolated area, whether he is tion \" (Intimate Matt ers, A History of exposing himself or not. Sexuality in America, by John D 'Emilio and Estelle B. Freedman). (See also AGORAPHILIA, AGREXOPHILIA, BOD Y PAIN TING, BONDAGE, CAN- DAULISM, DOGGING, DRAG QUEENS, ENDYTOPHILIA, EROTIC BALLS, ERO- TOGRAPHOMANIA, ESSAYE URS, GROUP SEX, HANDKERCH IEF CODES, HOMILO- PHILIA, JACTITATION, NUDITY, PHOTOG- RAPHY, SACOFRICOSlS, SEX SHOWS and S TR I P P I N G) F FAINTING Hyperventilation is a Fainting can be caused by an injury that common cause of dizziness and fainti ng occasionally results from suspension, or during sex. People, as they become overly blood sports; this requires immediate atten- excited, bre athe quickly, lowerin g the tion. The person's pulse and breathing is carbon dioxide in the blood and changing monitored for a couple of m.inutes and they its acidity. Breathing into a paper bag can are not moved unless they aren't breathing stop hyperventila tion. If a person faints they in w hich case it is necessary to open an will return to consciousness without an y airway or to give CPR. A person gaining assistance; this is n ot usually considered a consciousness may be dizzy and in need of medical emergency. assistance. A person may experience headaches for up to a week after a head There are also other reasons people pass injury. An ambulance is called for m ajor out. People who get involved in sex play bleeding wounds, after having a clean com- learn their partner's medical history in order press held against them. The exception to to determine whether they fainted out of this is a wound caused by sharp foreign ecstasy, a pacemaker quit, insulin shock, a objects (broken glass) that may still be in seizure, new medication, or haven't slept for the skin. This will require pressure on ves- three days . If a person has a medical condi- sels around the wound if the am ount of tion that may cause them to pass out, the blood loss demands it. Embarrassing sex exact procedure and who needs to be called equipment is not moved from the room is written out for their partner ahead of because the emergency crew needs to get a time.

FAINTING 101 FANTASY visual impression of how far the person fell, by a string connected to two sticks pierced what they m ay have fa llen onto, whether the through th e pec to ral mu scles), g enital marks on their body were due to th e fall or encasements, tattooing, encumberm ents, flagellation. A person who gets injured often pinching ordeals, wearing weight s hung on goes into shock and therefore many auto- hooks, corsetting, gilding, hangin g his whole matically treat them fo r shoc k. Symptom s of body from fl esh hoo ks, lying on a b ed of sh ock ap p ear as a feeling o f weakness, nails, lying on the edge s of a group of six nausea, thirst, d izz in es s, coolness, trem- razor sharp knife blades, as well as enduring bling, weak and rapid pulse, shallow breath, numerous Eastern Indian K avand i bearing pale moist cool ski n, sweating, or dilated c ere mo ni es where a c age is for m ed fro m pupils. A p erso n is m ade to lie d own, with sharp spears sticking into th e chest and the feet sl ightly e levated (excep tio n is when shaman dances as th ey dig deeper into his there is severe bleedin g above the hips) . body. Their clothes are loosened to make it easy fo r the m to b reathe. T hey a re covered with Fakir lectures, conducts intern ation al a blanket if th ey feel cool bu t not if it is h ot. workshops, a nd private sessions to edu ca te The pe rson is also calmed and made to feel others on t he val ue and beau ty of a dying safe. If a p e rso n ca n wa lk, and is n o t spiritual trad ition. H e has recently d evel- actively bleedi ng, weak, d izzy, or short of oped a line of quality pierced bod y jewelry brea th , it is o fte n a p propri a t e t o simply an d a School of Branding and Piercing for drive the person to an emerge ncy room. professionals and has published m agazines with photos of his rituals. (See also ORGASMS and SAFE SEX) (See also AUTOMASOCH ISM, BRANDI NG FAKIR MUSAFAR Faki r Musafa r is the and PIERCING) pseudonym of a genteel and quite amiable San Francisco advertising executive who FANS Fans were used by many I 7th and ventured on a path of ritu- 18th ce ntury ladies of Europe. T his instru- alisti calIy prob in g a n d ment proved invaluable in the art of flirting. expand ing t h e co n fi n es of It was used as a shield to avoid recognition the physical bo d y with or to end a conversa tio n, it covered b lush ing techn iques u sed b y c heeks or th e lack the reo f, it served as a sham a n s an d other early weapon against roving hands, it could cover twentieth century primitive a low necklin e or be lowered to expose t ribes w hile still a c h ild . enou gh breas t to tease a suitor, and of Faki r la beled hi mse lf a course fanning circulated the air. modern primitive but kept his expe rim enta tio n s secret until h is early F an dances wer e popular fo r centu r ies fifties. H e has gone p ublic with h is a mazing among oriental dancers who used them to feat s of enduranc e in order to bring the long shield their nu d e bod ies w hil e on stage . forgo tten mystical en tity b ack into the lives They were introduced into America during of a stoic and undiscip lined cult ure. Fakir the I930's. quickly gained the awe and respect of even the m ost accomplish ed sadomasochists . It is (See also MASKS) do ub tfu l that any huma n in history bas per- sonall y experienced all the cross-cultural rit- FANTASY (Sexautism; Gendoloma- uals of p assage and shama n istic ordeal s. fantasizing d uring sex to hasten orgasm, T her e are p ro bab ly v ery fe w if an y H emerotism- fantasizing abo u t sex or C hristia n m ystics w ho have ha d as many nudity, Oneiropornism-fantasizing about out-of-body sp iritual experiences. sex o r prostitutes) Fakir has engaged in p rimitive piercings, Sexual fa ntasies ar e illusions or day - stretch in g s, bindings, bandings, Am erican dreams p eople have about specific exp eri- Indian Sun D ancing (hanging from a tree ences. Sexua l fa ntasies m ay receive th eir p otency due to guilt or fear. Many fa ntasies begin in childhood and rem ain as primary sources of pleasure for som e throughout life,

FANTASY 102 FANTASY PLAY others change fantasies with regularity. sacrifices, executions, bondage, women There may be some connection between luring men to their deaths, selling and whether a person finds pleasure in engaging trading them, using them for furniture, food in sexual experimentation and their ability for their pets, etc. Many of their con- to utilize new fantasies. tributing writers are priests, ministers, movie screen writers, and one is a former Men and women commonly fantasize military interrogator. about being overpowered by a sex partner. This entails female seduction of men in There is a Transformation Salon in New their fantasies, and the use of physical force York where people can pay someone else to in female fantasies. dress them in a favorite fantasy costume and to assist with appropriate makeup. Photos Certain fantasies tend toward visualizing are provided upon request. CAUTION: situations they would not want to experi- People who fear that they are beginning to ence in rea l life. These are specificall y act out fantasies that would harm others are designed to increase adrenalin or excitement encouraged to seek professional counselling. level to the point of being able to have sex without a partner. Some of these fantasies (See also ALLORGASMIA, FANTASY PLAY can be quite sadistic or violent, as in the and PARAPHILIAS) case of some fantasy magazines. Sadistic fantasies may serve the purpose of relieving FANTASY PLAY Fantasy play involves stress and aggression more than sexual ten- people symbolically acting out their sexual sion. fantasies. Acting out a scene broadens or enhances the sexual experience by including P eople who feel guilty because they con- intellect and emotions that may not be stim- sider their fantasies to be extremely violent ulated in ordinary sex. It is the equivalent of will probably find that they are docile com- adding a plot to an X-rated movie. pared to the following sample scenario from a fantasy magazine. Of course, fantasies such as hanging from the chandelier, cross gender experi- \"The end came however, as the funnel was ences, and sex crimes cannot be physically filled and the cow piss spilled over the sides and acted out. However, many of these types of ran down into his rnouth and nose. He coughed fantasies can be done symbolically. An and choked as his lungs, already caked with example would be the cross gender fantasy blood, filled with the piss. Jerry shook vio- where a male lover decides he wants to act lently, trying to gain air and only was getting out a lesbian scene. It is not only necessary piss. Saddcheda stomped the round mound of for him to dress in female attire for the role, J eny's belly. His weight caused it to explode, but to psychologically prepare himself. He spewing guts, body fluid, blood, and cow piss may be put through a mock castration scene all over...Rocco's face was nearly gone as the with his partner verbally reiterating that he rats were feasting. His mouth was gone and his is no longer male and describing his new teeth shown bloody... One rat was now gnawing female organs to him. He would be pam- up into the 1·ight eye socket. The mice had done pered, complimented, degraded, or in gen- in the giant cock quickly, and now they were eral treated in the manner he feels a sexy chewing into the lower belly through the hole female would be under the same circum- they had started in the pubic hair. The snake stance. Mirrors help reinforce his new role was wriggling out of Rocco's ass-hole which but only if he is in costume. Of course, a was clenching, trying to expel it... \" name change is often used. This same sce- (Ganienkeh, by C. Williamson, The nario could as easily turn another man off; Magazine, Issue Thirty-Eight by Katharsis, therefore, the fantasy scene is discussed or pp. 106-107). negotiated prior to enactment. Katharsis, a distributor for a huge variety of Contrary to what most believe, it is not fantasy magazines, offers a selection of fan- advisable to act out a person's favorite mas- tasies ranging from sex with aliens, gladia- turbation fantasy. This is because reality tors, and slaves to castration, beheading, with its physical limitations can never match

FANTASY PLA Y 103 FELLATIO the diverse activity and timing possible in to take a piece in her mouth and slowly the mind. A person can easily come to have glide it over the m ost sensitive areas of his unrealistic expect ations in regard to t h eir body. After JO minutes he has failed to sur- favorite fantasy and will oft en be disap- render. The tyran t queen next orders her pointed, or perhaps even b lame their favorite slave, Marquita d e Sade, to punish partner for a sloppy performance . People him until he promises t o submit himself find it more advantageous to create new totally to her passions. Nlarquita is ruthless, fantasies that lend themselves to physical but he still refuses to surrender. At this, the reenactment. Some of the most p opular are queen becomes furious and condemns him abduction, burglary, sex slave, rape, military to the u ltim ate torture. She turns and offers games, prison, pirates, college fraternity ini- the first woman who can fill a cup with his tiations, police arrest, Indian capture, and love juices their immediate freedom. space ships. A simp le but entertaining game played at Pseudo-group sex scen es might include parties requires everyone to anonymous ly Bo-peep searching for her missing sheep. write out their favorite fantasy or sexual The sheep are symbolic and with the excep- experience on a piece of paper, drop it in a tion of the partner are made of a sheep box, and once everyone's fantasy is in the drawn on a sealed paper bag, each of which box, they are read aloud to the group. has a different sex toy inside. The sex partner hides all of th e bags and himself. There are several books that list fan tasies Bo-peep then begins her search. The same to give couples ideas. One is titled type of scene is acted out with an Easter egg Fantascenes: Garnes Lovers Can Play from (sex toy) hunt. The p layer inevitably finds a Lady Tanith, P.O. Box 7925, Berkeley, CA woman in a bunny costume. Game rules 94707 -0925 . vary, but usually the hunter has to fi nd a minimum of two toys and if they don't (See also ABDUC T ION, COITUS A choose to u se one of them they have to CHEVAL , DRAG QUEENS , PHONE SEX, replace it with two others, making a total of SLAVES and T RANSVESTITES) three. One does not have to use toys, some p refer using written sexual suggestions FECES See COCKTAILS, COPROPHILIA, instead . A simila r fantasy includes a seduc- tion of Santa Claus. In this fantasy sexy lin- COPROPHAGY and S HOWERS geri e o r toy s are p u t into g ift wrapped packages. FELLATIO (Blow, Corvus, Irrumation, Penosugia; Oral sex- fel latio or cun- A sample pseudo-group sex scene, and nilingus) Fellatio (fellare: to suck) refers to one that is more difficult to act out, is of the a ncien t prac ti ce of mouth to p e nis male who is captured by a wicked queen sexual contact. This form of stimulus is and taken to her du ngeon to be tortured by quite common in the animal kingdom. The her serva nts while she watches. The pris- book Sex Link tells of the dragon fly that oner is blindfolded and bound (unless one demands a form of fellatio before coitus. H e changes costu mes several times) to a table joins his partner during flight and bangs her or bed. The queen then instru cts a woman head against his primary sex organ until he called the French tickler to slowly titillate decides to finally turn around and mate. every inch of the captive's body. He finally screams for release and promises to perform The ancient Ph oenician and Egyptian any type of sex the wicked qu een wan ts. She prostitutes were th e first to wear lipstick rewards him by commanding one of the which was u sed to advertise their specialized women from her harem to give him a sen- talents of fe llatio and cu nnilingu s. sual warm oil massage. As the wicked queen Cleopatra, while not a prostitute, was watches, sh e tell s h im exactly w h at she known fo r her love of fellatio. H er enemies wants. H orrified, he refuses. She expected spread rumors of the queen fellating huge this and now commands her guardian of ice nu mbers from among her army in one night. The following sections describe tech- niques involving autofe ll atio, female t o

FELLATIO 104 FELLATIO mal e, and male to male fellatio. (See also order, are the frenulum, corona, glans penis, urethra opening, shaft, and scrotum. If one uses CUM ETIQUETTE and CUNNILINGUS) anal play with fellatio the prostate can provide extreme sensitivity. AUTOFELLATIO Autofellatio is per- formed by a male on himself. G. L. Simons \"Now, to set the mood, think of yourself as a toothless carnivore, and forget expressions writes of hermaphrodi te like giving head, sucking, licking, eating and gods who had penises as caressing. Think of teasing, devouring and con- long as their torso because suming. In addition to zhe techniques men- some primitives thought tioned here a person wants to constantly think these gods reproduced by of new sensations and techniques to try on their inserting their penis into partner. their own mouth s. Others believed in their god's \"Tell him what you are going to do to his ability to insert its penis into penis and ravage his ear with your tongue. its own vagina (Sex and Superstition, p. 21, Slowly work your way down his neck, annpits, reproduced with permission of Blackie & nipples, torso, buttocks, and to the groin area Son Ltd.). using varying degrees of pressure and move- Kinsey reported that 2-3 males in a thou- ment with your tongue. Men vary in the sand practiced autofellatio. In order to per- amount of pre-genital contact they desire for form autofellatio the man has to be limber fellatio; be aware of whether his emotional and have a rather long penis. The position intensity is increasing. that offers the deepest penetration is u pside down on a couch with the head and shoul- \"Make sure you are in a position to be able ders resting on the bottom cushion, the to move freely so that eventually you end up in backbone against the back of the couch, and a position where you are facing toward his feet. the knees resting on either side of the shoul- This allows the natural curve of his penis to ders. The penis is then in front of the match the curve in your mouth for easier pene- mouth at this point and if the man's propor- tration. tions are right he can reach up with his mouth and take hold of the tip. Some men \"Use very light fingertip strokes around the e nj oy ejacula ting into their mouths, and whole groin area and say your last words. Next others like the feel of it on their skin, or the begin at the base of his penis or testicles and sound of it as it shoots past their ear. One ve1y gently flick your tongue up and down the man who engaged in autofellatio as a shaft several times, getting it wet. Then blow teenager claimed that most of the sen sation up and down on the wet area to make it cold occurred in the mouth rather than the penis. and next alternate with exhaling warm air. Lift This is logical because there is a higher con- the penis gently. As you tease and tickle with centration of nerves in the tongue and lips your mouth wide open, hold his penis in posi- than in an erect penis. Therefore, the pri- tion with your lip and tongue just below the m ary sensation is more like that of giving glans penis. You don't want to touch the tip fellatio to someone else and the secondary yet. Use your fingertips to gently tap or tickle sensation like that of receiving it. the shaft. Your lips and tongue can be used to The following are contributions lightly massage his shaft as you move the penis describing fellatio made by individuals who deeper into the throat, still trying not to put enjoy this type of sex. pressure on the glans penis. FEMALE TO MALE \"Men's sexual response \"Moan as if you can't stand the teasing occurs in cycles. The more times they are yourself and firmly grip his penis at the base brought close to an orgasm the more intense it with your hands and pull it toward you. Hold is when they release. Therefore, when per- the penis and then with your tongue very forming fellatio remember to watch for signs of gently tickle the urethra entrance and release his nearing climax or better yet ask him to the tension of your grip on the shaft. Now signal. The areas that are the most sensitive, in retighten your grip and push your tongue firmly into the zip of the urethra. This time work your mouth, tongue and lips down his ..' - ...... ..... -~

FELLA TI O 105 FE LL AT I O penis massaging ii with more pressure. The extremely sensitive immediately after ejacula- light touch should coincide with his tion, all pressure on the penis should end at this approaching orgasm to forestall it and the point. You may tell him you are going to suck harder pressure is used to rebuild intensity. out every drop, but don't. If you want to main- Some penises have obvious indications of strong tain intimacy either place your head and hand arousal: they throb, spasm, increase in temper- on the abdomen near the penis or stretch out ature, have lots of pre-ejaculate emissions, and beside him and cuddle. At orgasm, the sensa- the testicles rise toward the body; however, tion of hot squirting semen from an undulating others show ve1y liule indication of inevitable penis can be so powerfully intimate that it is orgasm. possible to orgasm yourself. Semen varies in taste, quantity, and speed at which it is \"If the partner's penis is flaccid and not expelled, all of which can effect the palatability. fully erect you will be able to place your mouth Semen, like all strong flavored foods, is an firmly around the base of the glans penis and acquired taste. If you have not yet acquired the by worliing with the loose skin you can keep it taste it is betLer to either dilute it with water in place against your lips but have the penis before swallowing or discreetly rinse the mouth slip back and forth beneath the extra skin. You and discard it back into the glass. (Keep two then suck the tip of the penis swiftly back and glasses in case he wants a drink.) Men can feel forth in and out of your mouth. Take your rejected or hurt if a woman immediately spits hands and roll the shaft of the penis between the ejaculate out or refuses to take it into her them as though you were rolling a small ball of mouth. cookie dough. Next devour his testicles and per- ineum. You may want to hum while they are \"Anal play can be introduced at any point. in your mouth to create a slight vibration. Make sure that ifyou plan on using your fin- Once the penis is erect, move back up to the gers your fingernails are short and smooth. If glans penis and cover it with your mouth (no you have a plug make sure that it has a flange teeth). Use your tongue to gently tickle the on one end to prevent the sphincter muscle from underside of the corona. W ith your mouth over sucking it into the rectum. his penis insert an index finger into your mouth so that the fingertip can rub back and forth on \"You may experiment with creating extra the frenulum as you lower your mouth and sensations by using a variety of substances in tickling tongue as far down on his shaft as pos- your mouth. For example: warm water, i ce sible. Gee your hands back into the flat rolling chips, mint flavored 1001hpaste, cool soothing position and this time when you roll the penis action cough drops, champagne, Pop Rocks between your hands, hold your lips over the (candy that fizzles), or lotions made specifically glans penis and make the tip bounce off the for oral sex. Do not use anything too hot, like insides ofyour mouth. deep heat rub, some menthol cough drops, or hot liquids. \"- Anonymous Contributor \"In order to deep throat a penis, get into the position facing toward his feel and slowly glide CAUTION: The exchange of body the penis as far back as you can without gag- fluids is not considered a safe sex practice. ging. Then take a deep breath and swallow. This will allow you to hold the penis in your MALE TO MALE \"Fellatio is begun, after throat longer and for many stops the gag preliminary washing, by selecting a kneeling response. Many women also find that the closer position near the edge of the bed to allow they are to orgasm the less of a gag reflex they extended peiformance without physical discom- experience. The man should also know be/ore fort. The exception would be ifyou are playing ejaculation that he needs to pull his penis back with bondage or acting out an interrogation slightly so that the woman can breathe and scene. swallow, preventing a gag reflex from occurring if the ejaculate squirts directly into the throat. \"It can be very intriguing for your partner if You may place your hand around the base of the penis and pull toward you during the man's you hide the condom in your mouth without orgasm, but because the penis becomes their knowledge. It can be kept between the teeth and cheek without notice. Place the glans penis in your mouth and with your tongue locate the condom and position i~ over the tip of

FE LLA TI O 106 FEMALE IMP ERSONATORS the penis. Begin rolling it down with your lips his anus to massage his prostate. Hold his ejac- and tongue (4-5 strol?es). This creaies a grab- ulate in your mouth until you get next to his bing or squeezing sensation he doesn't expect. ear and swallow with a big gulp. Pull bacl? and Avoid getting hair caught in the condom or show him how much you loved the experience your mouth by scrohng the hair downward by a satisfied mtd lustful sntile. with one hand as you take the penis deeper in to your mouth. Learn w enjoy the flavor of latex \"If your jaw ends up feeling sore, massage it so that it won't distract you. behind the ear where ihe jaw ends before you go to bed. This will help ensure it not being as sore \"Tak e your tongue and tickle inside the in the morning.\"- Contrib uted by M ike crease at the top of the thighs and under the Be rge n, San Francisco scrotum. Next lick up to the top of the penis. Circle the head with the tongue, quicldy taking CAUTI ON: T he exchan ge of body one gulp. The 1/lan will gasp and al 1his point fluid s is not considered a safe sex practice. have him take hold ofy our hair and guide your head as you begin the rapid bobbing inotion. (See also CUM ETIQUETTE , CUNNI- Ni en with longer penises can be easily handled LINGUS, D OCKING and PHALLOPHILIA) by keeping one hand wrapped around the base of the penis as an extension of the mouth. It is FELCHING F elching (fellare: to suck, frnportan l to keep the penis and hand lubri- fe ll: a ni mal hi d e) refers either to stuffing cated well with saliva to mal?e this work. The animals in to the vagina o r anus, o r to a hand will also need to stay against ihe lips and partner su cki ng semen ou t of o ne o f these to follow the motion. of the 1nouth . You may orifices . str~ke the penis with the right hand, but 11y to use the left to hold the condo111 in place. This (Sec ANAL SEX, OPHIDIC ISM, SAFE SEX, hand position also protects you .from having the STUFFING and ZOOPHILIA) person shove his pen.is too far down your throat; it puts you in control of how much you FEMALE IMPERSONATORS (Cross- take into your mouth. )' ou can also create more dressing) F em ale imperso nators refers to pressure with your hand than y our mouth (lips those men who perform or en tertain in fro nt should be kept over teeth at all times, never of a n a udie nce while dressed in women's bi te). Flicl? the .frenulum with your tongue clothing. F e m ales we r e n o t perm itted in repeatedly. Another technique is to hold the many European and Asian stage plays u ntil penis in your mouth and create an airtight seal the last couple of ce nturies; thei r roles were with you r Lips, suck all the air out of your fi ll ed b y you ng m a le actors dresse d in mouth, and hold your tongue tightly against app ropri ate garb. R ewa rds fo r imperson- the penis. Next roll the tongue muscle from the ators are financ ial ra ther than sexua l. Many tip to the back so that il feels lo your partner do no t crossd ress fo r any o ther occasion; in like you are milhing or swallowing his penis. this way they diffe r from transvestites . Drag Q ueens, however, perfo rm on stage for per- \"Delay his 01gasm by holding your fingers sonal gratifica tion and for money and w ill together like a cup and slowly pulling the testi- crossd ress on other occasion s as well. cles back down in.to the scrotum . Some men enjoy having their testicles squeezed, but not Most large cities have a restaurant or the- atre featu ri ng this type of perform ance . Las all. Uyour partner is safe and is not wearing a Vegas p robably has the m ost elab orate per- fo r man ces and most expen sive wardrobes. condom you can talze the penis out of your Portla nd, O regon has a comedy show with mouth and coolly blow up and down the shaft, m any of the ir p er form ers pantomiming then follow it by warming ii with your breath. famou s vocalists. H ere th ere is a combina - If you wanL 10 inums~fy these sensations you tio n of all ages a n d sizes among t he per- can alternate small ice cubes and hot chocolate for m e rs . T he ow n er of th e c lub is often or coffee. Carbonated liquids creaie a strange invited to pr estigious civic fu n ctions with sensation for the partner. the only condition being that he atte nds in costum e . \"If y our partner has difficulty reaching 01gas1!l, lubricate your finger and insert it into (See also DRAG QUEENS, INFANT ILISM, PETTICOAT DISCIPLI TE, TRANSSEXUALS, TRANSVESTITES and VICTOR IAN LACE)

FERTILITY RITES 107 FESTIVALS FERTILITY RITES Fertility, or the power to restore fertility in women . (Several bearing of children, has always been impor- churches in Europe claim to be proprietors tant. The early religions were based on of the same foreskin.) people's needs for fertile crops, animals, and progeny. The first two were essential Fertility rites were used for animals and for immediate survival and the third for su r- crops by m any ancient cultures. People in vival of the species. Thus, man celebrated parts of medieval Europe sough t to ensure when the crops germinated and the animals the fertility in their herds of cattle by having mated . naked men build two fires between which they drove the herd. Monks per formed this Sex became sacred and at one time was rite for people; however, instead of cattle, part of Temple worship in most cultures. they held up a phallus. The Egyptians at Mendes considered goats as sacred and able to increase virility and People in farming communities during fertility. The goats lived in the temple and the 20th century in both North and South during their fertility rites the priest let the America are reported to have sex in their goats out of their stalls to run among the newly plowed and seeded fields to ensure worshipers who quickly tried to touch and germination. This practice is thousands of kiss them. Many of them were successful in years old. coitus. Other worshipers, not fortunate enough to catch a goat, settled for cohab- (Refer also to APHRODISIACS, C HARMS, iting with another human. In some temples FESTIVALS, LOVE POTIONS, ORGIES, the priest began temple orgies by deflow- RITUAL SEX, SEX MAGIC K, and PI-IAL- ering a virgin or offering some other sacri- LOPHILIA.) fice. Today's counterpart of this priest, at least in name, is \"reverend.\" This title h as FESTIVALS Most of our present day its roots in the ancient worship of the sex holidays are remnants of ancient festivals . goddess Venus (venery, venereal, venerate, These festivals served as a temporary relief revere). Sex, love, and worship were once from the burdens of a repressive, laborious, all part of religion, as the definitions of these or tediou s life. People were p ermitted to words indicate. switch partners, cross dress, or go against any sexual taboo that controlled their The penis came to be worshipped as a behavior the rest of t he year. Ancient moral- symbol of fertility in many religions. Virgins ists condoned thi s tem porar y outle t of believed that if they broke their hymen on energy as necessary. It was believed that if a the phallus of the stone god that they would person didn't let their negative energy out in be guaranteed fertility. The practice of this manner it would surface in a more defloration by stone statues or priests still heinous or violent form . survives in parts of India. T h e Indians also had a ritual in honor of fertility gods The following are synopses of several of whereby a horse was slaughtered and a the more notorious historical festivals, most woman laid with him under an opaque sheet of which are described in detail in B. Z. where, according to Tawney (1924) \"She G oldberg's book, The Sacred Fire. performed a very obscene act with the horse symbolizing the transmission to her of its APHRODITE-DAY OF BLOOD Aphrodite great powers of fertili ty\" (Sex and was the hermaphrodite goddess of life and Superstition, by G.L. Simons, p. 60, repro- sex. She was a virgin mother wh o bore a duced with permission of Blackie & Son son, Attis, by holding a pomegranate Ltd.). The Romans wore amulets of penises between her breasts. Attis was later com- as jewelry and u nt il recently the H o ly pelled to castrate himself, wh ich h e did Prepuce, fore skin of Jesus, was not only while leaning against a palm tree (symbolic revered but in the French diocese of of virility). This proved fatal for Attis and, Chartres worshippers believed it to have the just like nature, he began a cycle of death in the winter and rebirth in the spring. Each winter the wor ship pers of Aphrodite mourned for Attis by fasting and

FESTIVALS 108 FESTIVALS abstaining from sex. The Spring \"Day of She followed him to a tent and together they Blood\" began with the cutting of a palm consummated a prayer of love to their god. tree . It was decorated with flowers and wrapped with cloth to resemble a corpse. A CARNIVAL This international festival is young priest was tied to the tree and some- one of the surviving ver sions o f the time during the night was mysteriously Dionysus and Saturn festivals. T h e word stabbed to death. The next morning other carnival is taken from the L atin word car- priests gathered around and symbolically nelevarium (caro: flesh, and levar: to put shared this death by cutting themselves and aside), thus the abstinence from meat spattering their blood on the altar of during Lent. People wear masks, have Aphrodite. Music and dancing ensued, parades, indulge in drink, music, dancing, building the crowd into a frenzy which and sex. resulted in some m ale worshippers cas- trating themselves and beating their severed DIONYSIA This was a festival in honor of penises against her statue. These eunuchs Dionysus, the god of wine, women, and then became temple priests. The festival song. The festival began at sunset with a continued throughout the day until the tree procession led by a chariot, torch bearers, was again erected. A tomb was opened to then followed by worshipers carrying wine symbolize Attis' rising from the dead and a and fruit, with the musicians and phallus new p riest resembling the sacrificed one bearers at the rear. All wore masks and now worshiped at the altar. As morning scanty costumes of nymphs, satyrs, or other broke people dressed in disguises and were creatures. They wore phallus symbols or able to do whatever they pleased. The fes- carvings either on their heads or dangling tival ended with the palm tree being taken to from their waists. Their songs and dialogue the brook and washed, decorated with roses, were deliberately sexual. When they reached and returned to the temple in a procession. the woods a pig was sacrificially roasted and a feast began. The statue of Dionysus was BAAL Baal was one of the early gods. He brought out of its chest and soon all were died during the winter and resurrected him- disrobed and the orgy of men, women, and self in the spring. People mourned his death children began. This Greek festival was later in the winter by fasting, women baring their introduced into R ome but became so violent breasts, abstaining from sex, and shaving that the Senate banned it in 186 B.C. their heads. Women who did not cut their h air in the winter h ad to offer th emselves MAY DAY The Maypole is a form of tree sexually during the spring festival. As the worship tha t survived into the 20th century. first day of spring arrived worshippers In som e cultures the men would wander would travel to the Sacred Hill, bringing through plantations naked to fertilize the with them the first fruits of their crops and trees with their semen. The Mayp ole sym- first born of their a nima ls . These were bolizes the penis and is decorated with offered to Baal by the priests and then were flowers just as the palm tree in the worship used to provide a feast for the worshippers. of Aphrodite. Worshipers of May Day Finally the last sacrifice, a lamb, was entered the woods the night the pole was to brought to the altar. Music would sound to be cut and are rumored to have passed the summon a priestess who would walk to the night in a revelry of unbridled sex. The next altar with h er eyes closed. The priest would morning the worshipers brought the deco- dip his finger into the blood of the lamb and rated Maypole into town, paving its path place it in her mouth. She now opened her with flowers and branches. Once the eyes, plunged her hand into the open cavity, Maypole was in place they ended the fes- tore out the heart, and placed it on a platter. tival with ceremonial dancing. Dancing p riestesses entered and as the pas- sions rose the worshipper chose a priestess (See also DENDROPHILIA) by touching her navel and giving her a coin. MOLOCH Moloch was the Phoenician's masculine god of bounty. H e had the head of a bull and the body of a man. The

FESTIVALS 109 FETISHES pedestal of his statue served as a furnace the object, feel it, smell it, hear it, taste it, or where all sacrifices offered to him were any combination thereof. Fetishes tend to burned. This fire was prepared at sunset involve objects which give a feeling of nur- and male worshipers would bring sacrifices turance. For example, it would be unusual to throw into the flames. At this time to find a spider or scorpion fetish. women were not allowed to attend the dancing or the male orgies that occurred The selection of the fetish involves con- during the night. Here eunuch priests and ditioning or learned behavior and requires a trained temple dogs could be purchased for strong stimulus for it to register. the worshiper's sexual pleasure. Conditioning of a fetish occurs from infancy to preschool and again during puberty when The high priest eventuall y decided to the child's sex drive emerges a secon d time. permit women but required them to remain Qudd Marmor, in Modern Views of Human separate from the male worshipers. The Sexual Behavior, states that this sexual women install ed their own prostitute latency in children seem s only to occur in priestesses and offered sacrifices to Moloch societies that enforce sexual repressio n by for his blessing. The level of passion was threats of punishment, loss of affection, and concomitant to the value of the sacrifice and indoctrination that sex is a sin.) some of these women began throwing their infants into the fire as a sacrifice. This pro- A fetish can r equire progressively duced enough stimulus to allow them to increased intensity in order t o achieve experience the maximum level of sexual orgasm. A hair fetishist may fust experience passion. orgasm by fantasizing about hair; soon he will want to see it, watch the woman comb SATURNALIA This is the ancient Roman it, touch it, masturbate into it, and possess it festival in h onor of Saturn, the god of agri- by cutting it off (or stealing it from) a non- culture. It began on December 17th and consenting stranger. The fetishist is also lasted for 7 days. People unwrapped the often polygamous: a shoe fetishist is not sat- woolen swathing that was kept on the statue isfied with only one shoe throughout his life of Saturn for the rest of the year and began but rather continuously seeks new shoes and the festival. They exchanged places with often keeps a 'harem' of such. their slaves, or at least invited them to share in a feast as social equals, gifts were There are occasionally disadvantages exchanged, and moral restrictions were involved with partial fetis hes. For example, relaxed. A ritual king was chosen each year if a man marries a woman primarily because at the beginning of the festival and an idol of a fetish, and then she cuts her hair, loses of him was symbolically burned at the end weight, or has to have a mastectomy, the t o signify Saturn's death. sexual attraction can disappear overnight, sometimes even causing total impoten ce (See also FERTILITY RITES, ORGIES and within the marriage. The worst scenario for RITUAL SEX) a married feti shist is to have their fetish rejected by their spouse; this only alienates FETISHES (Crurofact-leg, Genofact- them more and creates more dependence on genitals, Mastofact-breast, Morpho- the fetish object. philia-arousal from person with a different physique, Organofact- part of body) A Men appear more apt t o rely on fetish fetish is an object that replaces another objects than females. human as the primary love object. The fetish may be partial (such as breasts, feet, There are fetish newsletters or magazines hair, buttocks, obesity, or navel) or inani- available that have personal ads of people mate (such as shoes, fur, latex, leather, hats, selling photos of feet, hair, shoes, or sports gloves, panties, lace, jock straps, or used scenes. Those not interested in p hotos can condoms). The fetish can be sense specific. custom order specific worn or used under- The person may be aroused when they see wear. It is impossible to lis t all of the fetish objects people use but som e of the common ones are as follows:

FETISHES 110 FETISHES BOOTS OR SHOES (Altocalciphilia-high demand that in 1880 a M assachusetts shoe heels, Retifism-shoes) This fetish is most factory opened to supply their needs (The likely selected and conditioned during early Sex Life of the Foot & Shoe, pp . 141- 143). childhood. A shoe is the first thing a The shoe fetish is not always limited to crawling child sees the sight or touch of the shoe. One case his- before its mother tory taken from Moraglia, A rchivio di picks them up to Psichiatria, vol. xiii, p. 568, refers to a man nurture them. It who would reach orgas m by fo llowing becomes their cue women whose shoes creaked. This phe- for being cared for nomenon was the result of b eing condi- and loved. The tioned at age 17 by hearing the sou nd of his shoe may need to partner's shoes creaking as they had sex on be a certain style a staircase. and color or can remain nonspecific. They may prefer to Men in the S/M community often have a have a person to which they are attracted different reason for being in awe of a shoe. wear them but not always. The appeal of Several have commented that the extremely the shoe has a long history and is not limited high and spiked heel is arousing because of to humans alone. There was a case of a the potential danger if a woman decides to male chimpanzee who was raised in cap- us e it as a weapon against them. It is true tivity. He developed a boot fetish and would that many S/M magazines feature photos of masturbate by rubbing on the boot of the a woman's spiked heel resting against th e caretaker. genitals of a submissive male. The greatest Hirschfeld counseled a priest whose height for a he el is abou t 9 \", t his being fetish was for a set of man's and woman's almost impractical for walking and is u sed shoes together. He often stopped outside exclusively for fetish play. doors where people had left their shoes and would kiss, smell, and caress them. He even Most men, however, are attracted to the paid hotel employees to let him clean guest's foot or shoe due to the change in posture shoes. and the frail gait that characterizes a woman High heels are the most appealing type of who wears high heels. The wearer's posture shoe and are said to have their beginning is altered with a more dramatic cu rve of the with Catherine de Medicis, a 16th century spine which causes the buttocks and calves Italian who married Henry II of France to appear to be more rounded, the bust to (their son married Mary Queen of Scots) . protrude, and the hips to have an exagger- Catherine was very petite and brought with ated sway. The frail gait widens the division her shoes that were custom designed to give of power between the man and woman and her height. This started a fashion rage appeals to his desire to protect and possibly among the aristocratic ladies. The first heels to his feeling of self-esteem . People are also must have been extremely difficult to often aroused when the y see pain in a maneuver in because male escorts often had person of the opposite sex. This could be to carry these dainty ladies up and down part of a predatorial instinct to be alert to stairs. The majority of Americans were not the lame or weak. For example, sharks often exposed to high heels until a French prosti- attack ailing or injured fish that are near the tute brought several pairs with her to an top of the water, and lions stalk animals that elite N ew Orleans brothel during the mid- lag behind a herd. In humans, this tendency nineteenth century. T he madam, Kathy, to actually prey on the weak is usu ally noticed that men were willing to pay more thwarted by morals, but the initial attention for this girl and quickly ordered French remains. (Refer also to BIN DING/FOOT and heels for all the women in her brothel. Other PODOPHILIA) brothels did the same and men soon ordered them for their wives, creating enough FURS Fur fetishes seem to come from the sensations or tickling produced by family pets, stuffed animals, fu r coats, rugs,

FETISHES 111 FISTING feathers, or velvet chairs. The fetish is usu- was only one example of what happens ally tactile rather than visual. Rabbit fur and when people use their devotion to god to ostrich feathers are often used in sex scenes ju stify prejudice or religious intolerance of to enhance the senses, particularly if the others.] partner is bound. (See also DORAPHILJA and LATEX AND RUBBER Many of today's TICKLING) adults were exposed to rubber as infants in the form of rubber pants or sheets. Tactile GODS The definition of stimulation is important with this fetish. fetish as found in Webster's Many fetishists buy or have underwear or New World Dictionary (1972, costumes made of rubber or latex. T h ese p. '.ll7) states: \" Fetish - any include nun's habits, sheets, underwear, object believed by supersti- vests, skirts, whips, and hoods. Latex pants tious people to have magical can include an anal plug or reservoir for the power ... any thing or penis. Latex clothing causes a person to activity to which one is irra- perspire after a short time. T ight fitting tionally devoted ... any non- latex can also be difficult to get into and sexual object, such as a foot some people have solved thi s problem by or a glove, that abnormally using talcum powder on the inside. excites erotic feelings .\" The god usually demands something in turn from h is LEATHER (P lea se refer t o section t itied devotee and while this makes the relation- DORAPHILIA.) ship slightly more difficult, the sacrifice serves to bond the individual even more. A UNDERWEAR Underwear is a popular doctrine of religious celibacy contributes to fetish. It can offer tactile, visual, an d olfac- emotional isolation from the intimacy of tory stimuli. Men collect women's under- other humans and binds the devotee even wear for several reasons. Transvestites have more. The vow nuns took during the a collection to wear regularly, others steal or Middle Ages stated \"I love Christ into collect panties from sexual conquests, and whose bed I have entered .. . There in some men take a pair of their lover's u nder- glowing love embrace your beloved (savior) wear with them when they travel. If these who is come down from heaven into your men use the panties to masturbate it is usu- breast's bower, and hold him fast until He ally done by associating the panties with a shall have granted whatsoever you wish for\" specific person. This is true in gay relation- (Sex in History, by G. Rattray Ta ylor, p. ships also. The true fetishist, however, will 42). use the odor or texture of the underwear as a primary stimulus by which they mastur- This form of fetish was easier to recog- bate. They may fantasize about a lover but nize among ancient fertility religions when have little desire to be with them. The people used the idols of their gods to mas- person with a partial or weak fetish would turbate against or have sex with a surrogate only be aroused if the underwear was being priest or priestess. Christianity began a worn by their lover. (See also ENDYTO- movement to repress the sexual relationship with God, leaving only the Platonic love. PHILIA) The early Corinthian Christians celebrated Agape feasts in imitation of the Last FIRE See BRANDING, ELECTRIC SHOCK Supper, but included a Eucharistic rite that was very similar to those of fertility gods. and PYROPHILIA [Author's note: People now fantasize an emotional intimacy with God rather than a FISTING (Hand balling; Brachioprotic sexual union. However, the result can be the eroticism-arm in anus) Fisting involves the same. Like any other fetish it can interfere insertion of the hand into the vagin a or or replace the primary intimacy normally anus. Double fisting can refer to simultane- shared with other humans. The Inquisition ously fisting the vagina and anus, or having two hands inserted into the anus at the same

FISTING 112 FISTING time. The depth of penetration can be as indication of improper or dangerous manip- g reat as 11-15 inches . This activity is prac- ulation. ticed by heterosexual and gay alike. Fisting is rarely mentioned in historic literatur e; The fist is slowly removed from the anus however, there was a sce ne in the movie t o prevent the hand from creating a vacuum Caligula of the Roman emperor fisting a effect and pulling a section of the intestine groom after his wedding. out with it; this is called a rosebud and is not deadly. (Ancient yogis voluntarily There are variations in the type of sensa- expelled their intestines into a bowl of water tion people enjoy during anal and vaginal by manipulating their muscles.) fisting, usually involving differences in depth, width, and \"punching.\" Depth is Fisting creates an unusual sensation of accomplished by carefully following the pressure and fullness and may activate the vaginal cavity to the end or the anal brain's pleasure center associated with defe- chamber th ro ugh the rectum and cation and digestion. For others this inti- descending colon to the transverse colon mate activity creates a tremendous level of (which feels as though it's lined with fur). It trust and bonding between partners. Others is from this position tha t the fistor can compare the pain and pleasure as similar to access the spleen and d escending aorta, a woman giving birth. People combine which is what m ost fistors assume is the fisting with other sexual activity such as heart because of it s contraction s. nipp le play, fellati o, a nd cunn i li ngu s \"Punch ing\" refers to the slow rhythmic (TRUST/THE HA ND BOOK: A guide io the stroking or repeated thrustin g penetration of sensual and spiritual art of handballing, by the fist into a cavity. Width is accomplished Bert Herrman) (\"Fisting,\" QSM lecture, by rotating a fist, spreading the fingers once April 24, 199 1, by Bert Herrman). CAU- inside, insertion of a second hand, penis, TION: The anal wall is very thin and if torn testicles, or di ldo . CAUTION: Fisting can can necessitate surgery and the need to wear lead to serious physical injury and is not a colostom y bag. The rectal perforation rate considered a safe sex practice. for fisting has been estimated at I per 2,000 penetrations (DungeonMaster Yearbook JI) . ANAL Fisting requires special preparation Symptoms of injury include a gradual by both partners. The fistee prepares by building of internal pain that may not be cleaning out the lower intestine with an noticed for one to two days, followed by ill- enema. The fistor removes any rings and ness. There may not be a noticeable dis- examines the hands for cuts or hangnails. charge of blood. The fisting is ended if the N ylon hosiery is sometimes car efully run fistor encounters red blood or feces that was over the hand to locat e any roughness. n ot fl us h ed o ut w ith th e i n itial enema. L atex gloves are often used as a protection Those who engage in this activity a lot oft en for both parties. eat yogu rt or drink acidophilus milk to keep their natural intestinal flora in balance. The hand and arm are generously lubri- cated with vegetable shortening and addi- AUTO-FISTING Auto-fisting is rare and tional lubricant is applied to the fistee' s those who practice it find that the angle of anus. The fistor next inserts one, then two t h e hand and wrist is awkward an d the fingers, and wh en the partner's anal muscles depth is naturally restricted. seem relaxed, the hand is pushed in fingers first with the tips together in a closed ring VAGINAL Vaginal fisting does n ot require fashion. Next the hand is slowly worked up a prior d ouche. It differs from anal fisting in inside. There are several sphincters or that vegetable sh orteni ng is n ot u sed (it valves that block progression and these are sticks to the inner walls and collects bac- opened by massaging or stretching the teria). Water-based lubricants are preferr ed entrance area then p u shing one or two fin- instead. T he hands and fingernails are pre- gers through and pulli ng some of the p ar ed so that there are no rou gh edges or intestinal wall back through. Pain can be an cuts. T he vagina is then opened with two or three fingers by stretching the opening until

FISTING 113 FLAGELLATION it can accommodate all of them. These are advice of prominent physician s. Forms of th en pushed gently into the inner cavity flagella tion were also used by holy men or u ntil the hand is inside . There is a point at shamans in the earliest religions to induce a which the fingers are curved inward into a trance-like state (mystical out of body expe- fist or cupped around the mouth of the rienc e) in which they believed they could cervix. Vaginal cham bers differ in length commune with god. Flagellation continued and this determines the depth one is able to to be used as part of religion and was reach with the hand. Females are capable of adopted by the worshippers of the fertility being fisted anally and vaginally at the same or sex gods. The goddess Diana's religious time. H owever, a fist in the vagina reduces ceremonies included contests to find the the area available in the rectum and vice- boy who could endure th e mos t pain . versa. The procedure used may require Religious floggings were also u sed in the inserting the fist into the anus beyond the fertil ity rites of the Rom an god L upercus, rectum and then pushing the hand into the and women during the Thessaly (Greek) vagina. For some, b ut not all, punching or festival of Aphrodite used flagellation to cunnilingus during fisting can be arousing. build their passions in preparation for sexual o rgies . Barre n Greek wom en wer e (See also ANAL SEX, COPROPHILIA, GEN- stripped naked and beaten in the temple of ITAL/ANAL INSERTS, KLISMAPHILIA and Juno to cure their infertility. SAFE SEX) From fertility religions, flagellation even- FLAGELLATION (Ecorch ement, Masti- tu ally found its way to C hristianity. gothymia and Rhabdophilia-arousal from Christian monks adopted flagellation as part flagellation) Flagellation, the use of whip- of their self-mortification rites. Flagellation p ing to arouse passion in a sexual p artner, is was appealing for celibates because it sub - an ancient practice. People in other cultures stituted for the imp osed restrictions on seem to have understood early on the physical sensations or nurturing their bodies aphrodisiac effect of pain and used it to naturally needed. The strokes are capable of their benefit. Vatsyayana wrote explicit awakening the senses to the poin t of instructions for striking a partner during sex orgasm, or can lead to the even more desir- in the Kama-Sutra: able mystical out-of-body experience. Blows are a form of love play... The parts of the N ot all m onks, priests, and bishops were body which may be struck out of passion are: satisfied with self-mortification, some were the shoulders, the head, the chest between the caught implementing this type of penance breasts, the back, the jagdana, the hips and the on naked nuns an d parishion ers. The term sides. Such blows may be administered with the \"Cornelian Discipline\" was named aft er a back of the hand, with the fingers together like priest, Cornelius Adriansen, who became a pad, with the palm of the hand and with the n otorious for demanding that his penitents fist ...During intercourse it is customary to tap be totally nude. Some monasteries n ot only between the two breasts with the back of the humiliated their monks by having them hand, faster and faster as the level of excite- flogged naked, but carried out the punish- ment rises, until the end of the sexual act; at ment in a town square with an audience of that point one should repeat the sound 'hin', or villagers. some other preferred sound. When the man strikes the woman's head with the end of his In 12 10 a Christian sect of flagellan ts fingers held tightly together, he utters the sound appeared in Italy. The monk, St . Justin of 'phat', while the woman replies with the cooing Padua, gave an account of their ritual in sound. Chronicon Ursitius B asiliensis (quoted from A H istory of the Rod, pp. 102-3) : Flagellation has also held an important posi- t ion in med ic ine and relig io n. Those To such a degree were they affected with the thought to be mentally ill were flagellated fear of God, that noble as well as ignoble per- from the 17th through 19th centuries on the sons, young and old, even children five years of age, would go naked about the street without

FLAGELLATION 114 F LA GE LLATION any sense of shame, walking in public, two and impotency in men. The English bordello fee two, in the manner of a solemn procession. in the lat e 1960's for canin g was I pound Every one of them held in his hand a scourge, per lash . One client w rote a letter to a made of leather thongs, and with tears and Madam b efore his visit detailing the treat- groans they lashed themselves on their back till ment he desired as well as the price he the blood ran: all the while weeping and giving would pay, this being regulated by the amount of blood the woman was able to tokens of the same biller affliction, as if they draw. had really been spectators of the passion of our Caning became most popular in English Saviour. sch ools and as a result sexual flagellation is more common in that country than an y By the year 1261 this sect had expanded other. At one time whippi ng clubs were into Germany and Poland and by the year common even among young people. These 1349 had spread throughout Europe. included games of forfeit, similar to strip poker, where articles of clothing were lost P roselytizing monks, Jesu its, and mis- until eventually the person ended up naked. sionaries would m any times convince female The clothes could only be redeemed b y sub- tribal natives of the value of Christian doc- mitting to a set number of strokes with the trine by beating them until they agreed to rod. Today there are English diners where convert. In addition, Saint Junipero Sera is sex y waitresses apply th e rod to willing said to have held the children of potential patrons who do not eat all the food served converts hostage. Chronique Scandaleuse on their plates. (quoted from A History of the R od, p . 99) documents an incident in 1634 in Africa In 16 71 England, a phantom spa nk er when a Jesuit missionary discovered the named \"Whipping Tom \" was arrested for Queen of Matamba and her attendants car- abducting women and carrying them into a rying an idol. dark side street. T here he would pull up their dresses and spank them until they .. .he enforced his arguments against idolatry by screamed for help, at which point h e would the application of a whip to the body of her make his escape. sable majesty! It is astonishing, he says, how the process offlagellation gradually opened her People today u se flagellation in sex p la y understanding, till she at length confessed her- because the pain awakens or focuses the self wholly unable to resist such sensible proofs mind of a stressed p erson onto their senses of the excellence of his doctrine. and away from the pressures of a job. T h e cessation of whipp ing also cau ses the Conversion and obed ie n ce induced by bottom to feel extremely grateful and even whipping was used in Paraguay, M exico, more willing to please their partner. Africa, and probably other countries as well. F lagella tion or pain can also sensitize a Flagellation has of course been used by numb body. People who sustain an injury or m ost forms of governmen t and military . suffer emotional p ain seem to release neuro- France, until 1756, sometim es punished a transmitters that have an analgesic effect on prostitute by tying her on a donkey with her the body; therefore, in order for this person buttocks toward the front of the animal, a to feel anything, the pain or stimulus has to st raw hat p laced on her head, and an be g reater than it in scription on her back. The prostitute was would under ordi- then whipped by the crowds as she was nary circumstances . paraded through the towns on her way to prison. This may be the remnant of a more Erotic whip ping is ancient punishment for adulterous wives in rar ely ab rup t. A which the donkey not only carried her warmup period is through town but she was fo rced into sexual comm on whereby unio n with it (Encyclopaedia Sexualis, by the top runs their ha nd over the area, mas- Victor Robinson, p. 3 7) . sages it, pinches it, and when the whip is used, the intensity is built up slowly. Time Flagellation has been common in b or- is allowed for the person's brain to produce dellos for centuries as a m ethod to reduce

FLAGELLATION 115 FLAGELLATION the neurotransmitters causing analgesic and It is also risky to let the end of a whip or euphoric states. The bottom's ability to tol- cane wrap around the person's b ody. erate pain is in direct proportion to the Lashes are aimed so that the end of the release of these chemicals. This is why most instrument lands in the center of the far buttock or shoulder. Padding is sometimes people are able to endure used to protect the abdomen, the most more pain as they common types being leather belts designed approach orgasm. Many for body builders, pillows, or rolled up prefer to end the flagella- towels. tion after orgasm because these chemicals wear off As a general rule, the thinner the whip or almost immediately. cane, the sharper the pain. These may also P eop le diffe r in their cause cuts in the skin. A paddle, whip, or preferences and therefore riding crop that is soft and wide a t the end flagellation must be will create less pain and have more of a sen- negotiated. sual feeling. If the instrument is wide and heavy the impact with be felt deeper in the There are areas of muscle tissue, like a thud. People vary in the the body that generate types of sensations they prefer. more erotic responses than o thers. The most People use bondage for the safety of the erotic spot is the lower or bottom as it prevents them from acciden- inner part of the but- tally moving during a b low. Bondage also tocks. The closer the draws a person's focus toward the sensa- stimul ation is to th e tions of their body rather than trying to center, the more erotic move or escape. sensation they create. A kneeling female may have Many bottoms now provide their own her knees apart but for flagellation equipment due to AIDS and the safety a male should have possibility of contamination from anything his knees together to pro- that draws blood. tect his sex organs. CAUTION: The phys- BASTINADO Bastinado is a form of foot ical environment for torture that originally was used on crimi- erotic flagellation is nals, many of wh om never walked again. important as people Feet are sensitive and delicate, and they also respond better if the cli- have to carry the weight of the individual, mate is warm and the light dim. People who which makes any injury dangerous and, in practice erotic flagellation adhere to the fol- the ver y leas t, inconvenient. Only short lowing safety g uidelines fou nd in whips with soft leather are used in sex play Sandmutopia Guardian 5, Fundamentals of and these are applied with light strokes. Flagellation, by The Quartermaster (April 1989, pp. 28-33): The wrists and ankles, if BIRCHING Birch rods or bunches of birch twigs have long been a common instrument bound, are con- for flagellation. Birching was not only pop- stantly monitored. ular in saunas, where people whipped each Improperly placed other to stimulate their skin, but was also strokes or repeated popular for sex play. strokes on the same area can become dis- Birching had several advantages over tracting to the caning or flogging. Birches can be used bottom and ruin the scene. Accidental pain safely over most of the body (excluding face is NOT erotic. It is dangerous to strike a and neck) and they cause only superficial person on the front or back of the head, effects. It takes fairly severe use of a birch to neck, elbows, waist, hands, knees, feet, break the skin and cau se bleeding, but the abdomen, shins, chest, and spine. wounds are very minor and, once the blood is washed away, only a few scratches are vis- ible. CAUTION: Birch twigs get thin

FLAGELLATION 116 F LAGELLATIO N toward the tips and may break o ff. the person places a heavy towel or p illow Trimming them periodically during flagella- over th em to protect against stray strokes tion helps prevent the tips from causing th at might land o n thei r lower thigh s, or problems by wrapping around on the sides upper or far side of t he bu ttocks. The of a person. Those birching a partner on the strokes are kept light in order to get the shoulders have them wear goggles, blind- most strokes out of the practice session. A folds, hoods, or masks to protect their eyes powerful stinging type of swing is usually from tips that can break loose. Once a batch done for punishment and is limited to two of birch is used on one partner it cannot be or thre e strokes. Regardless of the position used safely on others because of possible selected, the strokes will either be parallel or contamination from the scratches. perpendi cu lar to the fl oor. Stroke s are applied at inter va ls of about 10 seconds . CANING Can es are made from rattan or (The Fine Art of Caning, by N an) bamboo . The domestic cane is straight and has a grip at one end, while the school cane FLOGGING F logging is u sually done on has a crooked handle, and the Malacca cane the upper back while in a stand ing position. has a knob at one end. The person, if bound, is positioned in a manner that does N o vices begin with the shorter and less not cause the ir flexible canes because they are easier to aim shoulder blades or and control. Each type of cane has a dif- spine to protrud e. ferent effect and feel in addition to the sen- Whips with wider sations caused by the power, rhythm, and strips of leather can location of the stroke. Successful di sci- have the same ef- plinarians are aware of all their options and fect as a good mas- are able to apply their lashes in a manner sage, and m an y that brings the most pleasure to the bottom. enjoy being flogged Training and knowledge of the proper loca- because of this. The position is also mo re tion to strike and the power of each stroke is macho, depicting the pirate, p risoner, or essential for caning because without it one military style of punishment. can cause serious m1ury. GENITAL WHIPPING Genital whipping is A student begins training by getting the usually attempted only by the very adven - feel of swinging the rod. They stand in a turou s. A much gentler stroke is u sed as room, away from any objects, and swish the well as a special type of penis whip (6\") or cane through the air with varying degrees of riding crop. These whips only require a speed, up and down, sideways, and in an sligh t wri st action, n ot the fu ll swi n g arc. Once the student has the feel of the common with some other types of flagella- swing they work on accuracy of aim by tion. Intensity is built up by increasing th e u sing a pillow. Different positions are used number of strokes in a given period, not by for the pillow, laying it on a bed or binding hitting harder. The genitals themselves have it in a vertical position to a piece of furni- small areas that are much m ore sensitive ture. They replicate any position they may than other parts, and these are either pro- use for their partner, as each height and tected with a hand or avoided. T he three angle requires different strokes. The novice most sensitive areas are the clitoris, testicles, practices until the cane hits the center of the and glans penis. Genital whip pin g is pillow and only three-quarters across to the enjoyed more when erotic stroking is a lter- other side. T he next progressive step is to nated with lash es of the whip. The flagel- be able to apply strokes such that they lay lator sometimes holds th e pal m of their p ara llel to each other and are properl y hand 7\" opposite to where the whip lands spaced. Once these skills are mastered, the so that on the return swing it sti ngs their student applies the strokes to their own but- palm, thus ensuring awareness of the inten- tocks to ad just the power of the stroke sity of the stroke given to the partner's geni- accordingly. tals. T he student next practices on a live vol- unteer. Safety precautions are still used and

FLAGELLATION 11 7 FLAGELLATION PADDLING Paddling is a semi-intimate fetish objects worn also plays an important form of punishment carried out on the but- role. Some disciplinarians wear latex skirts tocks of an individual wh o is either bending or pants that create a slippery sensatio n over, leaning against a against the p eni s. Cross-dressing of the wall, or lying across the truant adds a different dimension to this lap o f their partner. game. Men experience what it would have American schools been like to have had their dress lifted and seemed to prefe r the panties pulled down for a spanking. use of paddles over the Rubbing, dildos, or the insertion of fingers English cane. are sometimes u sed to induce orgasm . There are a va riety Other forms of spanking are done during of paddles used in this interco urse, in either the missionary (the form of flagella tion. person on bottom Leather paddles, some with decorative spanks the one on top), chrome studs on one side, make a heavy or doggy style (the thud when they hit and like the genital mounting person whips are manipulated by wrist action spanks the one o n alone. Slappers are similar but are designed bottom). Less dialogue to make a noise. These are formed by is used for this type of placing two pieces of leather together and spanking and the slap is leaving them unsewn on the paddle portion. sometimes followed by Tawses are designed the same as the slapper grabbing the buttock except they are cut to form fingers. The and gently squeezing or fourth type is the wooden paddle. Light massaging. Again, sporadic or sharp pain is weight paddles are safer but, as with any not erotic. instrument, caution is still exercised. Some people use woode n kitchen spatulas and STRAPPING Strapping is d one with a belt spoons for a pad dling scene. CAUTION: or strip of leather . This was the typical H eavy wood paddles can cau se physical woodshed style of father/son discip line. The damage. Fraternity paddles are, as a rule, same r isks apply with regard to safe aim. too heavy fo r S/M play. Shorter straps are used because they give the b est control. T h e victim is made to SLAPPING Slapping a partner is done stand, bend over (knees together), lean more for arousal by humiliation than for against an object, or lie down. R eplicating pain. CAUTION: Slapping a person's face the strap or belt used on the victim as a can be very d angerous. The technique used child makes m ore of a n emotional im pact for slapping requires one to put their hand (this could be either a positive or negative on the opposite side of the partner's face, experience). giving support to their head and preventing damage to the vertebrae in the neck. The WHIPPING Whips are design ed to give slap is aimed to land just below the cheek increased or decreased power to the hand. bo n e, NOT o n the jaw a rea or n ea r the Whips made o f feathers, velvet, or rubber eyes. Of course, only wrist acti on is used , soften th e bl ows . L o ng whip s made of never an arm swing. leather with weights at the end of each strip produce the most pain and are usually SPANKING Spanking can b e o ne of the reserved for punishment. Today's S/M pun- most intim ate fo rms of flagellation and is ishment whips a re m ore innocuous versions done by having the victim lie over the lap of o f the lethal histo ri c cat o' nine tails, the the d isciplinarian, who then r epeatedly slaps Roman flagellum, and the Russian knout. the person's buttocks. Different psycholog- However, even the modified version, if not ical effects are achieved by the type of used properly, can injure the partner. O ne verbal communication used, and whether m ethod of swinging the whip is in a circular the truant removes an y of their clothes motion perpendicular to the person's but- before submitting. The type of clothes or tocks. If done correctly, the tips of the whip

FLAGELLATION 118 FORNICATORY DOLLS graze the lower bu ttocks in th e up ward She has a friend wlzo lives much closer to svveep of the circle. The lighter the strokes her who she has gollen into some things she giv en , the longer t he game can last. Many enjoys- go lden showers [see Urophilia] - nov ices forg et th a t the whipping is for which I don'l really do. Therefore, I suspect I arousal; no t punishment. W hen purchasing will nor be as interesling LO her. B ut, I wrote LO wh ips consideratio n is give n to how the her last week and suggested she meet with me handle fits one's ha nd and that the grip is on a more professional basis and I would pay p roperly balanced with the rest of the whip. her for each ''.full blown\" fart she lets in my That is, the handle is the same app roximate face while the recorder is ve1y close by.'.. weight as the tail . Riding shops o ffer a goo d selection of whips, the best quality usually People place personal ad s to assist them in coming from England. T here are individ ual findi ng consenting p artners. H ere is on e: craftsm en that cater to the S/M commu nity a nd create beautiful whips of excellent 1\\11.y mouth is your toilet, q uality (\"Slave Training,\" by L ad y Tanith, Fart up my nose, Backdrop Club lecture, January 26, 199 l ) . Sit o n my face and let me deep sniff your love box, (See also ABRAS IONS, ALGOPI-J l LIA, BED Rim slave, wants master to OF NAILS , BEE STIN G S, BITING, CLAMPS, fart in my mouth.. . DISCIPLINE, DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION, PARAPHILIAS, PINCHING, RHABDOPHILIA, CAUTION: Holding a lighter to the but- SENSOR Y ENH ANCEME1 T, TIC KLING and tocks as they release gas is ver y d angerou s URT ICATION) because the gas is combustible and can c reate an explosive effect if the flame enters FLATULENCE (Flatuphilia, E procto- t he anu s, thus se ri o u s ly dama g ing th e lagn iac an d E p roctop hili a-arousal from rectum. flatulence) Flatulence refers to the passing of intes tinal gas. The French once had a (See also COCKTA ILS , COPRO PHIL!A, stage act where a performe r attract ed large DEFILEMENT, D OM INANCE/SUBMISSION, paying crowds merely to watch him pass HUMILI ATION and SHOWERS) gas . Serio us fl atuphiles requ est that thei r p artn er re lease the intes t inal gas direc tly FOOD/EATING See ANTI-IROPOPHAGY, into thei r awaiti ng face o r mouth. T he fo l- low ing is an excerpt from a letter submitted COCKTAILS, LACTAPl-IILIA, i\\t\\UCOP I-IAGY , to me by an an o n ym o u s fla tu p h ile PIE T HROWING, SITOPHILIA, STU FFING, desc ribing one of his session s: URO PHIL!A and VAMP!RISM J\\lly audio casseue player was running during FOOT BINDING See BIND ING/FEET and this 1irne-i1 didn'1. record LOo clearly, bu1 you can hear her say Lhat she had LO fart and then l'ODOPHILIA as/~ ~f I was ready. FORMICOPHILIA See ZOO PHILI A/ l answered yes and she blew a huge fart right inw my face! The fa rt itself is ve1y clear F ORMICOPHILIA on the wpe. FORNICATORY DOLLS (Dame de I could smell no1hing because her ass pressed voyage, Infl ata bl e do ll s, P ediop hil ia- againsl m y nos e and closed it. \\,Ve Lried a aro u sa l from dolls) couple of times LO have lter far! while on her Fornica to r y dolls a re th ose hauds and lmees so I could then pull my face that a re produced wi th t he back and s111ell her f arls bw tha1 never seemed specifi c intent of being used to work ow. to accommodate ge nital penetration. There are sev- AbouL 15 m inutes after her first f art, she eral types of sex dolls avail- announced she had another one and asked ab le in tod ay's m a rk et. again if I was ready, she then ripped another F ornicatory dolls are made big one righ t in my face! in Asian countries, Africa, E urope, and the Unite d States. They are abou t half the size

FORNICATORY DOLLS 119 FURTLING of a human, with pliant breasts or a realistic One would follow women who were penis. The most common type are the endowed with particularly large buttocks up inflatable dolls that come equipped with escalators and push his penis against the vibrating penises, breasts that can be filled rails to induce orgasm. Another followed with warm water, and several orifices. The obese women into revolving doors and was more expensi ve types were once popular aroused by rubbing against them. Of among European sailors and had pubic hair course, not all frottaphiles are aroused by and even a clitoris. There is also the inflat- the person they are rubbing. Men with silk able sheep (Luv Ewe) or pig that is or fabric (hyphephilia) fetishes will only rub equipped with an opening under the tail. women in silk dresses, and so fo rth. Some podophiles, as well as other va ri eties of Fornicatory dolls are used as a third fetishists, engage in frottage almost exclu- person for group sex, the cold partner for a sively. They not only fondle the foo t or shoe necrophile, same sex partner, and consen- but some are actually aroused by feigning sual partner for spanking, coprophilia, or accidentally stepping on a woman's foot in a S/M where a submissive is commanded to crowd. These usually apologize immedi- have sex with the doll. However, they are ately. most often used as jokes. T he June 21 , 1991 San Francisco C hronicle carried the story of Men are not the only offenders. For inflatable dolls being passed around among example, there are women who enj oy such Red Sox fans at a Fenway Park baseball things as squeezing through men packed game. Some of the crowd became offended into gay bars and watching them jump as by the blatant fondli ng of the dolls an d they suddenly realize that a pair of breasts security guards confiscated them. People have just brushed against their backs. occasionally use other dolls for sexual pur- poses as in the June 1991 case of the stolen (See also AGALMATOPHILIA, OCHLO- Ronald McDonald who, several days after PHILIA and TOUCH) his abduction, was found in an apartment closet dressed in female underwear. FURTLING Furtling (furtivus: stolen or It is possible for the inflatable dolls to hidden) refers to the once popular enter- come loose at the seams and deflate. T he plastic can also be ruined by oil based lubri- tainment of manipulating one's hand under- cants. neath a photo that had a small area cut out (See also AGALMATOPHILIA, GENITAL/ ANAL INSERTS, PEDIOPHILIA, PENETRA- where the legs, breasts, or genitals were TION TOYS and SYBIAN) located . Placing one's 7,' ,, _,_ . FROTTAGE (Toucheurism, Haptosis- non-consensual touching) Frottage is the hand behind this · iff· act of rubbing one's body against another person or object for sexual arousal. Today it space gave the illusion is highly recommended as a safe sex prac- tice in lieu of intercourse. There are two of seeing real life geni- common manifestations of non-consensual frottage, one is when someone rubs against ta ls or buttocks. a person in a crowd and when confronted apologizes as though it were an accident. Burton Silver and The usual cu e is the obvious pressure of an erect or semi-erect penis against the victim's Jeremy Bennett have buttocks. The other type of frottaphile is the \"goose and run\" offender. written a book that Robert Tralins, in The Sexual Fetish, contains examples of gives the case history of several frottaphiles. this erotic art form with a history of its appeal and its demise under Victorian influence. In th eir book they cited the following portion of a 19th century physician's address to the West London Scientific Association in defense of furtling: AS A DOCTOR I cannot speak too highly of this book of original engravings, which, by the simple contrivance of holes auspiciously placed,

FURTLING 120 GANG BAN GS affords an enlertainmeni most enjoyable and R ediscovered An of Erolic H and 1\\tfanipu- vitalizing. H owever, let me al once warrant lation, by Burton Silver & Jeremy Bennett, that the purpose of this worh is nol merely w in forward) . ainuse and en1ena in, but, in so doing, io assuage the sorrow of 1he heart, lij1 1he load of The reason the word furtlin g is used is melancholy f rom 1he desponding mind, and because th e sketches are all of no rmal reslore LO 1he wounded spiri1 its won1ed elas- p eople ·who are unknow ingly or uninten - 1ici 1y. I ndeed it has been my pleasure to tionally exposing themselves to others; such demon strate the worliings of this fine booh lO as a wo man watching a nude male swimmer more than a few patients, and I can assure y ou towel dry through a telescope, or a 'Noma n thal even when a severe prudery was evideni, I who just had the front of her skirt b itten out have never experienced a failure. The appro- by a horse, exposing her genitals. There are priale fervours have always been quicllly hands drawn on each previous page giving aroused and harmlessly released in a manner insu·uctions on exactly how to hold the fin- mosl therapeutic and becoming (The Naughly gers behind the hole. Vic torian H a nd Booh, Funli ng: Th e (See a lso KOKI GAM I, SEX GAMES and VOYEURISM) G GANG BANGS A gang bang consists of and d ec ide wh ether t o partic ipate or to serial sex with m ore than two partners . A leave. Those who stay take turns until the few claim that this may possibly be the type woman is satisfie d. Waitin g in lin e has many of se x for which our bodies are p hysiologi- merits according to partic ipants. Men som e- call y designed. This assumption is based on times find that watching others having sex is the difference in average time for o rgasm informat ive as well as st imulating . T he ten- b e tween m e n a nd wom e n. Some m e n sio n and anticipati o n is pro bably much orgasm in two to three minutes and some hig h er than in ordinary group sex where wo m en take twenty minutes . A clan of eve ryo ne's atten tio n is eithe r sca ttered or primal humans could gain many advantages focused on their curre nt partner(s) . (A few from having more than one man inseminate group sex houses cater to the wishes of each woman. Sex and suspected paternity of women who announce that they would like many of the o ffspring bonds m embers o f men to line u p for a gang bang.) the clan toge ther and ensures sharing of food and prote ction when n ecessa ry. It is Peop le similarly engage in im promptu a lso th e type of be ha vior engaged in b y gang bangs at private parties where one some of our closest relatives, the primates. p erson slips away and h as sex with numerous people during the evening. Gang bangs differ from a Menage a trois A sli ghtly differen t form of gang bang is (a couple with an outside lover) , troilism th e \" two-minute parkin g lot test. \" T his is (three lovers), candaulism (one p erson staged at singles bars a nd is designed to watc hing a co up le) and a \" M o ngolia n ensure selection of th e m ost ·co mpetent or C lu ster \" (s imul ta neous sex with multiple sexually compatible candi date for tl1e night. partners). The t erm is freq uently u sed in One woman described her technique as fol- rape situations where there is more than one lows : rapist. H owever, it can also be organized and consensual. Ther e is a group in the San Firsl a po1eniial parlner is screened by dancing. Francisco area that allows wome n to select A close dance wilh a man gives me a quich sex partners from a photo album. The c oor- answer to wheiher our bodies fil wgethe1~ 1here din ato r then cal ls th e m en se lected a nd is sexual chemisl'ly, compa1ible body rhythms, invites them to a private party . Th ose wheiher he caresses or gropes, and how easy or attending are then able to meet the woman difficult it would be 10 gel him aroused. The

GANG BANGS 121 GAYS dance can also reveal how long he can main- OJ two bodies wgether fends offnight. tain an erection once aroused, and a possible When one is seen walhing it seems that two estimate of his critical dimensions. Once he Are there. Or perhaps it's the two seem one. passes the screening and intimates his desire for sex, he is given the opportunity to take the Two may be seen to rear as if to fight \"two-minute parking loL Lest.\" If in LhaL Lime A battle, an old struggle to renew. he pe1farms well and proves to be sexually com- It's the passion, the ritual begun. patible he qualifies as a sex candidate for the rest of the evening. The advantages LO this -Nelson Graff, 1991 meLhod of selection are that I don't end up spending the night with someone who doesn't A predisposition toward homosexuality, meet my needs. A commitmenL doesn't have to bisexuality, and heterosexuality is based on be made before sampling more of the merchan- biological (genetic, hormonal, and neuro- dise, and my reputation stays intact because no logical) factors. Gays usually notice an one suspects that two people leaving and attraction for the same gender at a very returning to the bar within three io four min- young age, even before they are aware of utes have had any form of sex. The rejected the physical aspects of sex. The exact men are usually content because they received a causes of human or animal sexual prefer- consolation prize of two minutes ofphenomenal ences are still unknown, therefore this text sex and left with a great story. The victor gets will not endeavor to explain them. One an ego boost, and I leave with the best possible recent development by a scientist at the Salk sex partner. Institute, Dr. Simon LeVay, is worth men- tion. Dr. LeVay found evidence of a struc- Prearranged gang bangs may have a special tural difference in the brain's hypothalamus theme such as Santa Clauses at Christmas, region between heterosexual and gay men, men in diapers or long beards on New the latter's being more similar in size to het- Year's Eve, valentine costumes on February erosexual females. The study is still prelimi- 14th, or \"bring a sex toy to share\" party. nary and no theories have been Games such as \"Little Bo-Peep\" or \" Hide substantiated. and Seek\" add to the intrigue. (See FAN- TASY PLAY) CAUTION: Safe sex prac- Homosexuality is found among other tices are the resp on sibility of each species as well. Pigeons, ravens, and dol- individual. If a condom happens to break phins are known for general acceptance of during penetration, the session end s or is same sex mates, some taking a mate of each restricted to a different orifice. sex. Most primates that become isolated from the opposite sex mate in captivity will (See also ADULT ERY, CANDAULISM, FES- mate with same sex partners. G.L. Simons states an interesting observation in his book, TIVALS, GROUP SEX, MENAGE A TROIS, called Sex and Superstition. \"The biblical word for sodomite, a translation of qadesh, ORGIES and POLYITEROPHILlA) properly denotes a man dedicated to a deity, and so the early J ewishh ostility to GAYS (Commasculation, Gay, 'sodomites' may have been nothing more than o ppo sition to a rival cult. T he Homophilia, Homoeroticism, Iterandria, Sodomites, it appears, were consecrated to the mother of gods, the famous D ea Syria, Invert, Lung-yang, Sexual inversion, whose priests or devotees they were consid- ered to be. Sodomitic acts were committed Sarombavy, Uranism, Zwischenstufe) with male and female temple prostitutes\" (p. 121 ). A RITUAL OFJOINING T wo pairs of eyes that burn with feeling, meet Throughout history about 10% of the And measure bodies toned from fight and flight total population is believed to have been That tense, aroused, and lift lo reach a height gay. A few notable gays or bi-sexuals have Which threatens each and each allows lo greet included Nero, Tiberius, Julius Caesar, Antlers thrusting, meeting antlers, hooves beat Socrates, Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci, Air. And bone caresses bone with crushing might. H eaving sides glisten b7ight, the source of light Bursting, twitching, shimmering. And the heat

GAYS 122 GAYS Alexander the Great, Hitler, and very prob- gay couple has potential to be financially more secure than a heterosexual couple ably, J. Edgar Hoover. because they have a double male income and no dependents (the opposite is usually Many people assume that gays are all the case for lesbian couples; however, they effeminate because this type is easiest to in turn, have an economic advantage over a recognize . H owever, there are many ga ys single female parent). Gay couples rarely who are homomasculine (\"bears\"). These have a problem understanding the puzzling cultivate the biker, body builder, lumber- psychological differences of the opposite jack, or construction worker images. sex. No t all gay m en engage in sex, but those who do a natomically have more Often women will become lesbian for a options and no menstrual cycles with which short time after a traumatic experience, par- to deal. The male-male relationships can ticularly rape. Young men who have been last through the decline of passion due to a violently raped by another male often close bonding and compatibility, but they become gay as well. The reason given is that seem to fac e more internal pressure for it is a way to abandon identity with the male challenge, sexual passio n, and adventure. race that he co ns iders abusive and he However, most of the problems gays face in becomes the passive \"female\" during sex a partnership arise from the prejudice of encounters, sometimes dressing the part. smaller communiti es, fami lies, or em- Not alt male victims react this way. ployers. There are support groups available fo r gays and their families in larger cities A co mmon explanation men g iv e for and a national organization called \"Gay and their change to same sex partners is that of Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation\" that discovering se x with other men is much unites gays in defending themselves against more physical and passionate than with past bashing and prejudice. Gays are often female partners. Likewise, women w ill objects of p ersecution. Even today, Iran's prefer the gentle nurturing and extended government executes gays by beheading, foreplay other women offer. People who are burning, or stoning. A 1990 Soviet survey confined in areas for an extended period of conducted by the Moscow Institute of time with only a few people may tem- Sociology reported that 30% of those ques- porarily make a switch to whatever sex is tioned favored isolation of gays and 33% available. Others simply prefer the common favored extermination . The majority interests shared by someone of the same opinion in America most likely differs. sex. Many travelers practice homosexual However, gay bashing still occurs. behavior in other countries, with whatever the indigenous race, but would not engage People who participate in sex with a sam e sex partner will often deny their gay in it at home. J. A. Rogers, in Sex and Race, status by claiming that it is only th e recep- tive partner who is gay, that this is only a spoke of li ving in the West Indies, where temporary way of getting sex until the right pharmacists had to put out an extra supply or perfect heterosexual mate comes along, of lubricants when English sailors ported. that they were seduced while intoxicated and th erefo re innocent, or that the person A current philosophy or political strategy they ar e involved w ith is a ve ry special is that of gays becoming open about their friend and th ey wouldn't con sider having sexual identity. This is designed to force sex with an y other same sex partner. Others people into recog nizing the prev alen ce of say sex doesn't count if they are not emo- gays and by this mass exposure cause them tionally involved. Everyone has the preroga- to respect the rights of gays to live without tive to select a label to express their own persecution or disparagement. Some gays sexual identity. A person 's label won't are currently forcing others into exposure always be consistent with Webster's defini- by a ploy called \"outing. \" T his is accom- tion, but social etiquette dictates that the plished by leaking a prominent gay's name to the media. Gay lifestyles are very similar to those of heterosexuals. Those who form live-in rela- tionships divide chores according to talents and preferences rather than social roles. A

GAYS 123 G E IS HA S term they select be respected. This is also her kimono. She led us into the reception room. true for transsexuals, transvestites, and bi- There I saw many geisha girls in gay kimonos, sexuals. T hree examples of men who their hair dressed formally and elaborately. claimed identities that seemed in conflict They crouched in liule groups, chauering as with their actions were 1) a man who said he was heterosexual but went on to say that usual. . . . As if to talk gaily of nothing at all he does have five or six male friends with whom h e really enjoys having sex, 2) a male was one of the lessons they had learned well at prostitute who says he is heterosexual but school. has only had sex with a woman once while on drugs. All of his other sexual encounters The tea ceremony began. It was beautiful) were with men while he played the role of indeed; and a solemn thing, in a way, con- female, often in female attire (other j arming in all its many details of movement lo transvestites accept this as heterosexual a ritual conceived ages ago and by the weight of behavior), and 3) a 40 year old virgin male those far times still taught as an important part who claims to be gay. o f education. Gays rarely change their sexual prefer- The movements of the leader were capti- ence through therapy and many therapists vating. She was seated on a lacquered stool. believe it is more valuable to sim ply help Before her was a table, richly decorated. On it them adjust to their lifestyle rather than was a bronze stove and this was topped by a change it. T he Masters and Johnson water vessel of brass, from which a vapor rose Institute does, however, offer a \"short term as the fire heated it. As she sat solemnly at her intensive intervention\" program for those post, two of her assistants, leaving her side with with a stron g desire to change their prefer- identical inclinations of the head and graceful ence. Some feel that only bi-sexuals are able liftings of the hands, burned incense. Another to make these changes an d the program is arranged the flowers in a beautiful vase of certainly not guaranteed to effect a chan ge . porcelain. Each touch of her fingers was a (Masters and Johnson Institute, St. Louis, motion produced by long practice. fl was poetry MO) of the hands. I watched eagerly as the flowers slowly assumed the precise position required by (See also BI-SEXUAL S, CATAMITES, DRAG custom, one yearning toward the ceiling of the QUEENS, HOMOPHOB I A, LESBIANS and PEDOPHILIA) room as if toward the sky and the sun, another GEISHAS A Japanese geisha is a female turning gently downward, gazing into a pool who is tau gh t to entertain men with con- that was not there. All this motion-of the trived charm. She was at one time pur- burning incense, of the flower arranging, and chased while young from her parents, just as the solemnity of the presiding officer, flowed were the Yoshiwara (prostitutes), except into a harmony of action, sound, and color. I t this girl became educated and later chose unfolded itself like a flower under the morning her own sex partners. She began her educa- sun. tion at the age of twelve and for the next six years she was taught social etiquette, ancient The geisha al the table rinsed the dainty tea dances, songs, rituals, and the precise hand cups with boiling water, dried them with a and body movement enacted during the tea piece of red silk, mixed green leaves in the cup and flowe r arranging ceremonies. Hendrik and slowly poured the hot water over them. She de L eeuw quite eloquently describes the paused, then took a solitary quill and brushed, experi ence of being en terta ined by these although my eye could not discern them, specks professionals in the early l 900's. of ashes and tea dust from the shiny table. Then there was another moment of rest. Once A charming hostess greeted us at the door. She more she poured the precious decoction from was attired in a charming Japanese costume) one cup into another until, at last, one cup of and she moved unimpeded by the rich cloth of true tea was prepared. This was offered to me, because I was the guest of honor, and I tasted it. I must confess that I was not able to tell exactly what subtle delicacy had been added to the drink by the ceremony, but I was quite

GEIS HAS 124 GENITAL/ANAL INS ER TS willing to sip for a long time if sipping would penises or plugs that are designed to fit into the mouth, vagina, or anus and act as aids cause a continuation of the preuy 1ableau. to masturbation. They have been made of Also I was somehow glad when I looked leather, stone, clay, wax, ivory, rubber, fruit, vegetables, plastic, and polyurethane. These aboul into the f reshly painted faces of the devices are quite ancient and even the Bible geishas that there was no need for them LO makes referen ce to artificial penises: fashion their coiffures for the rude embraces of townsmen and foreigners (Cities of Sin, pp. 37- Thou hast also taken thy fair jewels of my 8). go ld and of my silver, which I have given thee, and maddeSl to thyself images of men, The Japanese culture during this period and didst commit whoredom with them.- placed little em phasis on ro mantic love. A Ezekiel 16: 17 wife was a servant and mother, not someone with wh om tO converse or to shower with ANAL INSERTS Ana l plugs a re specially social ly unaccepted disp lays of affection. designed for anal insertion. They are shaped Therefore, the Yosh iwara (prostitutes) like fingers or inverted cones an d can be serve d men's need fo r passion a nd the used alone or in conjunction with penile- geishas provided feminine conversation and vaginal sex. Males find the plug adds stim- com panionship . Men, while able to enter ulus to his prostate and o n the female it fills in to a sexual relationship with a geisha, in the rectal area which presses aga inst the often resisted temptation due to the finan- inner vaginal cavity, making it smaller and cial and social responsibilities invol ved. It t11ereby giving o ne a fuller sensation . Anal was the equi valent of committing tO a mis- p lugs range in length fro m 4 \" to 8\", and tress. Male children born to mistresses/ those lo nger than 4\" need to be very pliable geishas were generally adopted by the father beyond the 4\" point to facilitate the curve in and h is legal wife; daughters were raised by the rectum. An a nal insert is available for the geisha. Today geishas choose the pro- the heterosexual couple that is very small in fession for themselves, ofte n com ing from diameter and which has a rin g at tl1e base working or middle class families. H owever, allowing it to slide over tl1e penis for inter- the majority are daughters of geishas or tea course. CAUTION: Butt plugs are designed house owners . Western influence h as low- with a flange on the bo tto m to prevent these ered the srarus of geishas and prostitutes in lubricated anal inserts from slipping up into Japan. Mr. de Leeuw illustrated the polarity the rectum. If this does happen and the of moral values between the two cultures person is unable to defeca te or pass the wh en he said, \" If the Japa nese can be object ou t w ithin a day a phys ician ca n acc u sed of be in g unmoral and cy ni call y either administer drugs to relax the intestine realistic in th eir official attitude toward sex, and facilitate the object's expulsion, or use th e \\'<lest may be said to be outwardly senti- other treatments . mental and hypocritical. Certainl y to th e Occidental mi nd, and especially to the The ancien t Orient is known for having C h r ist ian , the Yosh iwara is sinful. The invented m any types of artificial inserts. Japanese think otherwise since morality and One o f these is th e Ch inese Love Bead, chastity are, to them, something m ore than String of Pearls, or Siamese Strings. These the abandonm ent of all sexual activity. They consist of a string that has small rubber balls are aware that a 'chaste' woman, as she is or pearls attached at 1/2\"-l \" intervals. They described in t11e \\'<lestern coun tries, may be are inserted into the anus and pulled out as the epitome of all t11e established virtues and the per son e jacul ates. These are only yet be a highly immoral being.\" intended for use by one person. Another device is the Ben Wa Ball which is mad e of (See also BORDELLOS, HET AERAE an d steel and plated with c hrome or gold. Two PROSTITUTION) of these are inserted into the vagina to pro- du ce titillation whil e the woman goes GENITAL/ANAL INSERTS (Bougi- through the day. Most women find that Ben n onia, Butt p lugs, Dildo s, Go d emic h e, Oli sbos, Parapha llus) Dildos ar e artificial

GENITAL/ANAL INSERTS 125 GENITAL/ANAL INSERTS Wa Balls don't produce any type of special that was made from a mold of th e porn film sensation and, worse yet, can fall out when star Jeff Stryker. Some dildos include vibra- they walk. Women who leave them inside tors. the vagina during Dildos specially made for the purpose intercourse say they may be worn attached to chastity belts, latex d erive pleasure this underwear, harnesses, gags and chin straps. way. The original or Anal plugs can be added to chastity belts, more authentic Ben and double ended dildos can be worn on Wa Balls were con- harnesses. The Japanese have face masks structed differently, that are worn over the groin, the nose being with one having a very lo ng and shaped like a penis. hollow center containing mercury that res- Dominatrixes sometime s will have their onated with m ovem ent. Oth ers acted as \"pets\" fetch a dildo and present it to them bells to add music to the sex act. It is usually in their m outh as part of a humiliation difficult for women to have an orgasm scene. without any form of clitoral stimulus, there- fore it is doubtful the balls are adequate in Some dildos have flexible t h e m se lves . shafts that rotate to stimu- Hawk Metals has invented a similar set of late the G-spot along with toys fo r men known as Ass Weights or Ass an external clitoral stimu- Eggs. They weigh slightly over a pound lant, such as the \"Pet each and are shaped like eggs. Some have a Turtle.\" Some are equipped small longitudinal hole through the center with suction cups on the that allows one to pass a string through and base, which are used to attach it to another egg or to use it as a anchor the device, attach to a flat headed handle for removal. The weight of the eggs vibrator or, as in the case of strippers in a makes them easy to remove with mere sex show booth, to a glass window. gravity. These eggs are worn during any type of ride that bounces the wearer around. The Japanese have designed a type of Motorcycles are highly recommended in dildo that slip s over the penis and releases advertisements. fluid at the appointed time. We have dildos that expel fluid but they are not as elabo- DILDOS Other early records of dildos go rate. Other dildos are simple rubber sheaths that fit over a semi-flaccid or erect penis to back to Egypt and Greece. French troops give the effect of a larger penis when the · partner is penetrated. CAUTION: gave them to their wives before marching Condoms are put onto dildos before use. If the condom breaks, the dildo is cleaned in off to war as masturba- warm soapy water or soaked in a solution of water and nonoxynol 9 to destroy viruses. tory aids. Tipu Sahib, a ~ Only water-based lubricants are safe on the condom as oil dissolves the rubber. Safety sultan of India, allowed .. also requires that dildos and plugs have a chain in the center, rather than a dangerous the 600 women in his n onpliabl e metal shaft, t o prevent pieces harem to use dildos to 0 from breaking off inside the body. ~ keep themselves sexually VIBRATORS Vibrators are mechanical satisfied, thus discour- ~ devices that produce vibrations (small rapid jerks) and which are placed against the skin aging lesbianism and for a massage effect. Their power comes from either batteries or house current. adultery. Women also Some people use vibrators against the used a mulierre (special genitals for sexual arousal and orgasm. strip of fabric pulled up against their geni- tals and fastened to a belt by straps) to create stimulation by rubbing when they walked. Today people purchase their own dildos which come in a variety of shapes, sizes, colors, and textures. One 10\" dildo is sold

G ENITAL/A N AL I NS ERT S 126 G ROO M I NG Dildos have been designed to house the bat- Gerontophiles are th ought to have been tery operated mechanisms so that they may conditioned to respond to older parents or be safely inserted into the vagina or rectum. relatives b ecause they were kind to them. It Some electrical vibrators have add-on may also be an attem pt to reconcile a lack of anachments for penetration or clitoral stim- affection from a parent. Many others simply ulation. A few vibrators have a cup attach- prefer the compassion, intelligence, experi- ment for the glans penis. ence, a nd char m of people who have achieved their life goals an d now live to Vibrators can end years of inability to enj oy and sh are life with others. orgasm bu t others may find that it desensi- tizes the area. People respond differently to Special dati ng clubs su ch as Anachron in different types of vibrators and should not New York cater to the needs of geron- assume that because a battery operated hard tophiles as do some bordellos. Magazines p lastic vibrator does not bring them to such as Over 40 or Over 50 feature photos orgasm that other types won 't either. of older women and stories of th eir sexual escapades with yo u nger men (see Ap- Small vibrators are also u sed on nipple pen dix) . Ther e is even a video called and clitoral clamps. (Good Vibrations, The \" Gran dma Does Dallas.\" Complete Guide to Vibrators by Joani Blank) (See also AN ISONOGAMIST, DYSMOR- (See also ANAL SEX, CHEMISE CAGOULE, PHOPI-IILIA, INFAN T ILISM and MATU RA- CATHETERS, ELECT RIC SHOCK, GLORY T ION) HOLES, PENETRATION TOYS, POWER T OO LS, RINGIN G, SAFE SEX, SCROTAL GLORY HOLES See GROPING APPA- INFUSION and SYBIAN) RATUS GEN UPHALLATION Genuphallation is the act of rubbing the penis between a GOLDEN SHOWERS See SHOWERS partn er's knees. GROOMING Grooming of a sex p artner (See also AXILLI SM, COIT US A MAM- is most commonly found among pr imates MILLA, COITUS INTERFERMORIS and HEAD but humans too, in addition to the n ormal STANDS) grooming one does before a date, u se grooming as foreplay. GERONTOPHILIA (Alphamegamia- ol d er man , An ilil agn ia- older wome n , For d and Beach found this to be true Chronophilia-age d iffere nce, Graophilia- among the Siriano, Dusun, Plains Cree, and older female, Matronolagnia-older female) Trobrianders. Holmberg wrote of the Some people have a sexual attraction for Siriono's of Eastern Bolivia: peop le who are significan tly older th an themselves. There are even rapists who only Lov ers also spend hours in grooming one attack elderly wome n (anoraptu s) . Gay another-extracting lice from their hafr or gerontophiles are common as indicated by w ood ticks from their bodies, and eating them; the number of personal ads requesting removing worms and spines from their skin; father figures. Personal ads of gays are usu- gluing feathers into their hair; and covering ally m ore direct than those of heterosexuals. their faces with uruku ... paini. This behavior The following are t ypical:: often leads up to a sexual bout, especially when conditions for intercourse are favorable (The 30 yr . into shavi ng, rip e crotches Siriano, by A.R. Holmberg, p . 182). looking for Daddy Sex slaves often prefer performing tasks that Boy seeks leather daddy to serve involve the grooming of thei r m asters . T hese rituals inclu de bathing, m anicuring WM wants Daddy Bear for manly ses- their p artner 's nails, and shampooing or sions of safe sex styling their hair. Bearded Daddy wanted to teach me (See also COURTSHIP, and SLAVES) the ropes and serve his needs

GROPING APPARATUS 127 GROUP SEX GROPING APPARATUS These are GROUP SEX (Orgy, Swinging, Wife devices that create a barrier between p eople swapping; Bigynist-one male/two females, but at the same time enables them to have Bivirist-o nc female/two males, Marty- sexual contact by inserting their hand into machlia-arousal from having others watch during sex, Ochlophilia-arousal from being strategically placed in crowds) holes. There are grope su its mad e of latex or Group sex involves sex between more leather wh ere only the than two people. Humans, like other genitals or breasts are species, can experience a high level of exposed and boxes that sexual energy from an environment where one person stands in they hear, see, touch, and smell others and other people can engaged in copulation. The opportunity to reach in with their engage in sex without the u sual commit- hands. An alternate form is the glory hole (a ment or intimacy likewise relieves pressure wall or box that has a hole only large fo r many. Many ancient religions u sed enough for the insertion of a penis) which orgies in the worship of fertility gods. These allows both partners to protect their rituals gave widows, homely virgins, and anonymity. These are popular in X-rated spouses of infertile mates the chance to con- video re ntal stores. The Suaheli of Africa ceive; the offspring of such unions were were said to use a hole in the fence around considered sacred. their yard for rendezvous with lovers . Today the North American Swing Club \"In the yard, near the fence, there is a gate-like estimates the number of active swingers in board in which there is a hole about a yard the United States to be five million. There fro m the ground. Early in the morning the is a diversity of establishments, individuals, negress takes her stand there with her back to or groups that support this activity. They the board and facing her husband, who, though range from sex houses, special group sex still lying in the hut, can watch her well from cruise ship excursions, hot tub parties, S/M his bed. H er lover comes to the gate as pre- clubs, fetish clubs, gay bath s, nudist colonies, gang bangs, religious rituals, and arranged, she bends down forward, acts as if intimacy workshops. The most common establishment is one run by a couple who .;he were washing the cooking utensils, and calls open their home as a group sex house one out some chance phrase to her husband, who or more nights a week. The couple u suaL!y suspects nothing, while her lover has her provides clean sheets, towels, lockers, through the hole in the board\" (Voodoo-Eros snacks, drinks, condoms, and lubricants . In by Felix Bryk pp. 216-7). return each person donates a sm all amount of money to help them cover the expenses. Latex suits are available with small rubber This contribution does not pay for sex, and fingers or fibers over nipples and genitals. just like a singles bar one can leave without These create a tickling sensation as the having sex. The house will have severa l person m oves or perspires. rooms. One is used as a room for people to soc ializ e, usu all y clothed early in the There are similar groping games where evening and semi-clothed later. There is a one p erson walks b etween two rows of kitchen where people snack and socialize as people in the dark or while blindfolded. well. H ot tubs are common and usually on e's first invitation is to undress and soak Humans are not the only species to use in the tub. The next progression of events groping apparatuses. The female thread- takes one to either a group sex room or a worm pokes her vagina through the skin of semi-private room. The difference between her host vegetable \\.Vhen she is ready for sex. these are in the distribution of mattresses; The m ales crawl around the surface until group ro oms have them joined together to they find one of these female occupied holes (Sex Link, by H y F reedman). (See also CHEMlSE CAGOULE and GLORY HOLES) \\\"

GROUP SEX 128 GROUP SEX cover the entire floor, whereas semi-private sits on a reclined male's penis and fellates rooms have them arranged farther apart. In two men, one standing on each side. Daisy addition, the house rule restricts anyone else Chains are the circles formed by a group of from joining a couple in this room without people, each performing oral sex on the their invitation. The rule for a group sex person in front of them. No one is forced to area is that people can only join a couple or swap partners and many couples simply go group with their permission. There is an to watch others have sex or to have sex important difference between invitation and themselves while others watch. permission. The fust requires the couple to ask another to join and the latter allows the Sophisticated group sex establishments couple to be interrupted with requests of may offer videos, mirrored ceilings and others. Often, being touched or caressed by walls, grope boxes, see through glass dance others is used as a subtle substitute for the floor, fashion shows, strip tease classes, verbal request. Once this inquiry has been pubic hair trimming, and massage lessons. made it is each individual's responsibility to A house in Florida requires that both part- say no or gently push them away. People ners attend a sensitivity class prior to being who refuse to take \"no\" for an answer or allowed into the club. who are too aggressive will be asked to leave and not asked back. There are house rules Group sex houses offer women many governing the type of sex allowed on the benefits. They are able to engage in casual premises. Often overt sadomasochism is sex in an environment where there is little prohibited, and generally m en are not need to be concerned about rape or physical allowed to engage in genital contact with abuse. Participants are not restricted to each other, although it is often encouraged depending on one partner to satiate their between women. Once compliance is made appetite. Casual sex can help relieve the to these rules the type of sex and number of tension or frustration experienced by those participants vary. who don't have a regular sex partner. It is a way of accepting responsibility for on e's A visitor to a group sex scene will see a own physical needs rather than letting an few who masturbate alone, couples unsympathetic socioreligious system dictate engaging in oral/genital sex, and groups of deprivation. Establishing control of one's three or more together using an array of own life creates a feeling of empowerment positions. There are groups of three people and keeps a person from directing frustra- satisfying each other with a variety of oral, tion toward others, or of internalizing these genital, anal, and overall body tactile feelings and suffering from depression and stimuli. Mongolian Clusters consist of more low self esteem. than three people. These usually have more men than women a nd each woman will have In addition to these types of group sex several men penetrating her or groping from houses, there are those that cater to special the outside of the cluster. Some women use interest groups such as S/M, scat, golden the anonymity of this environment to exper- showers, cross dressing, and fetishes. CAU- iment with different forms of same sex inti- T ION: Many couples assume swinging will macy. These may either engage in mutual save a marriage. However, it more often titillation with each other or work together destroys a weak relationship. Likewise it is an as a team to provide sexual variety (one activity that has to have the e nthusiasm of female may not enjoy some sex acts-cun- both partners to be suc cessful. Sexually nilingus, fellatio, anal or vaginal penetra- transmittable diseases are a major concern tion-and the other will cover for her.) In for many. However, it is often easier to insist addition to the Mongolian Cluster, other that a casual partner use condoms than it is positions include the Rainbow, which is a to ask a steady lover. (\"Swingers,\" Mensa cluster of people who have different skin Sexyg Gathering Conference, San Francisco, colors, and a Row Boat is where a female February 17-1 8, 1990; \"Are You a Swinging Virgin,\" by Shirley Sez, Lifestyle Conference, August 17-18, 1990; \"ABC's of

GROUP SEX 129 HANDKERCHIEF CODES Swin ging,\" by John and H oney-bear, GYNEMIMETOPHILIA G ynemimet- Lifestyle Conference, Augu st 17-18, 1990) ophilia (gyne: fem al e; mi mos: m im e), coined b y John M oney, refers to those wh o (See also ADULTERY, CANDAULISM, FES- a re aroused by a male who is impersonating TIVALS, GANG BANGS, MENAGE A TROIS, a fem ale or a male-to-female transsexual. ORGIES, POLYITEROPHILIA, SEX CONFER- (See DRAG QUEENS, PETT ICOAT DISCI- ENCES and WIFE SWAPPIN G) PLIN E, TRANSVESTITES and VICT ORIAN LACE) GROUPIES See EROTOMANIA H HANDICAPS Handicaps include phys- ring may benefit a partner and a urologist ical di sabilit ies and, in this text, in cludes can be consulted if orgasm s do become a in curabl e se x u ally tran smitted diseases . p roblem. Sup p ort groups exist in som e P eople suffer from many different handi- areas that assist in working out many other cap s b ut only a cou ple were selected for dis- concerns. cussion here. These should give the reader a general concept of the problem and possible Support groups an d clubs are availa ble recommendations to facili tate adjustment. for m any categories of special h an dicaps. People wh o are un de r five feet tall have a Paraplegics cannot feel anything fro m the club called \"Little People of America\" that waist down, but orgasm s similar to we t sometimes serves as a resou rce for meetin g dreams d o occur. It is p ossible for the para- others. N ot everyone considers it necessary plegic's partner to rub the penis, creating an to restrict their selection of a spouse to those erectio n t h at will enable the two to have with similar handicaps . p enetrative sex . P araplegics becom e arou sed fro m tactile st im ulati on don e above th e P ersonal ads are excellent fo r people who waist. A sex surrogate is som etimes u sed to live with STD's such as AIDS and herpes, train the person or couple in adjusting to or fo r p eople wh o a re d eaf, b lin d , h ave this condition and there are organizatio ns colostomy bags, are amputees, et c. T he that offer resources and support to disabled person placing the ad remains anonym?\\u s p eople . and does not risk-personal rejecti on . O~ e sho uld n ever think on e is alone in his or her M en whose genitals h ave been removed suffe ring. For instance, 9 1/2 million p eople are still able to have p leasurable sensations in the U. S . are restricted to wheelch airs, an b y stimulating the nerves in the p rostate estim at ed 4 0 m illion have gen ital herp es region. Ancient eunuch priests used thi s (some reports h ave indicated that from method of ped erasty to continu e their sex sam ple screening s as m any as 50 % of li ves . Me n wh o have lo st testicles after A mericans carry the virus) and a s of p uberty can often h ave an active sex life; D ecemb er 199 1 there was a cu mulative of however, orgasm is usu ally m ore difficult to 206,392 reported cases of AIDS . achieve. Anal stimu lation of the prostate can be of benefit for them also. A doctor is able (See also ACROT OMOPHILIA, DISEASES, to monitor these men to make sure their D YS FUN CTIONS and DYSMORPHOPHILIA) adrenal gland is producing enough testos- terone to replace what was once produced HANDKERCHIEF CODES Handker- by the testicles. If this horm on e is not pre- chief codes are used by some S/M and gay sent the prostate can atrophy. group s. Colors denote prefere n ce fo r spe- cific sexual activities and p laci ng the hand- M ultiple sclerosis and Lou Gehrig's dis- kerch ief on the left side of the b ody tells ease are diseases that attack the central ner- p o tential partners the wearer is a top (one vous system. Sen sation in the genitals m ay who d oes this to another). C olors o n the diminish and make sustained erection and right side of the body signal that the person orgas m mor e d iffic ult. T he u se of a co ck is a botto m (one who has the act done to

HANDKERCHIEF CODES 130 HARMATOPH I LIA them). T herefore, people look for matching of the Greek's gynecaeum, where women colored handkerchiefs on the opposite side stayed at home, having servants shop and of the prospective partner's body. The fol- do errands. A Greek woman of social status lowing chart shows the significance of spe- was rarely ever seen on the streets-this was cific colors: a place for female servants, peasants, slaves, and prostitutes. T his isolation doomed the COLOR SIGNIFICANCE women to social illiteracy, many being con- demned as superstitious and intellectu ally Black Heavy SM unfit to rear male children . H arems were Blue, dark Anal Sex outlawed in the early 1900's but some still Blue, light Oral Sex exist. The King of Morocco is report ed to Blue, robin's egg Light SM have over 200 women in his harem. Brown Coprophilia Gray Bondage Ancient Chinese kings and emperors had Green Prostitution as many as 121 women in their seragli os. Lavender Group sex Special \"sex secretaries\" were employed to Lemon Catheters keep tally of whose turn it was to have sex Maroon Vampirism/ with the king and whether she became preg- M enstruating nant as a result. Finally in \"the early eighth Mustard Food games century, girls who slept with the emperor Olive Drab Costumes/Military were rubber-stamped afterward\" (Sex in Orange Anything History, by Reay Tannihill, p. 238). Pink Breasts/Lactaphilia Purple Piercing The Moslem injunction is religious and Red Fisti ng even without the locked doors of a harem White Novice the Arab women prior to the 20th century White lace Corsets, etc. would not choose to walk about the streets Yellow Urophilia exposing themselves to strange men. Most harem s consisted of only one wife and a few Codes are not perfectly standard ized, and concubines. The Koran limited men to fou r embarrass ing mistakes have occurred. At wives; however, they were p ermitted addi- one time right and left sites h ad opposite tional concubin es. Only the wealthy could meanings for those living on the East and afford this luxury because in addition to the West Coasts. wives the man had to support the necessary servants or slaves needed to care for the (See also EXHIBITION ISM and P ERSONAL women and ch ildren . The li v es o f t h e ADS) women were leisurely. They had private gardens, talked, bathed and gossiped. Some HAREMS (Gynecaeum , Seraglio) engaged in alternative or illicit sexual adven- Harems rose from the practice of polygamy. tures and others escaped boredom through Keeping women sheltered was a way of the use of opium. guarding wives and concubines from the sexual escapades of men in the community (See also GE ISHAS , GROUP SEX, HET- and possible reciprocation from the women. AERAE, tv1ARRIAGE and ORGIES) The term h arem is used for M oslem seraglios, where the women were kept under HARMATOPHILIA Harmatophilia lock and key, but its meaning, \"that which is (harm ostes: to govern or bring harmony, sacred, set apart, or forbidden,\" alludes to tomy: to cut, philia: attachment) refers to the former religious custom of maintaining one who is aroused by mistakes or rules priestesses for sexual purposes in the tem- being broken. Harmatop hobia refers to ples. The isolatio n of married women in those who are frightened of making a m is- harems was consistent with an oriental prac- take. A great majority of men are aroused tice of purdah (hiding women behind veils by their partner having less sexual knowl- and gowns) that predates Mohammed, and edge or competence than themselves. This bolsters their self esteem and makes them

HA RM AT 0 PH IL I A 131 HERMAPHRODITES feel more secure in the relationship. Of c reat ed a lightheaded sen sa ti on that pro- course, this preference for sexuall y inept duced intense orgasms for her. fema les can cause som e wo men to either feign incompetence or prevent them fro m The exact position required that she wanting to experiment or learn m ore about p osition herself in a head sta nd on so me - sex . thing soft and spread her legs. Her partner men straddled her between the legs so that (See also MASOC HI SM, PE CAT T IPHILIA, one of his feet was on each side. Be nding SADISM. and ZEL OPHILIA) forward he was able to insert hi s penis and thrust until orgasm . HARPAXOPHILIA (Chrematisto- philia-arou sal fro m being robbed) Oth er sim il ar acti v ity includ es o n ly Harpaxophi li a ( h arpax : robber, p hilia , engaging in oral sex with m e partner doing atta chm ent) indicat es sexual arousa l from the headstand or lying on a bed with the robbery. upper body hanging over me edge. Certainly there is an adrenalin rush exp e- (See also OXYGEN REGULATION and SEX rienced whil e being robbed. POSIT IONS) Consensual sex scenes or fantasy play HEBEPHILIA H ebephilia refers to the that utilize the stimulus produced when attractio n of a person to teenagers . being robbed often consists of ha ving the (See a lso CATAM IT ES , ILLEGAL SEX, victim retire and INCEST, NEPI OPHILJA , NYM PHOPHI LIA, sometim e late r PEDOPHILIA, PORNOGRAPHY, SEX RINGS, being avvakened SNUFF FILMS and VIRGINS) b y a scan tily- c la d cat burglar HEDONISM Hedonism (hedo ne: plea- crawling through sure) refers to the lifestyle of those w ho plan the bedroom meir lives p rimarily for me experienc ing of wi nd ovv. The pleasu re. victim pretends to be asleep (See also HODOPHILI A, PECATT IPH ILIA, while the burglar PHOBOPHILIA and ZELOPHILIA) searches fo r va luabl es. At so m e point th e re ·.viii b e a HERMAPHRODITES (Ambisexuality, struggle with one person ending up bound. Intersex ua ls) Th is is a This pe rson will be interrogated as to where conditio n where an indi- the jevvels h ave been hidde n a nd th en can vidu al has both male and expect to be sexu ally m olested. female genital character- Fan tasy scenes o f cat bu rglars seem to is tics due to th e body work because we react emotionally when we producing irregu la r lose something regardl ess of whether or not a moun ts of male and it was voluntary . female hormones during (See also ABDUCTION, FANTASY PLAY, prenatal developm e nt. H YBRI STOPH lLIA, KLEPTOPHILIA, P ARA- T hey may have a modi- P l-IILIA , PE CAT TIP HI LI A, PI-IOBOPHILIA, fied vagina, ovaries tha t hang in me outer SACRIFI CE and SYMPHOROPHILIA) labia (labia l ectopy) a n enlarged clitoris, a small penis with testicles, a developed p enis HEAD STANDS Couples may enjoy wim an empty scrotal sack (crytorchid ism), having sex wid1 m e female in a head stand or any n umber of combinations or in ternal position (head a nd hand s formi ng a tripod- a lteratio n s of the n orm al. A hermaphrodite like pose o n m e floor). with functioning t esticles o r ovaries and u terus can parent chil dren with a partn er of In on e couple, the fema le preferred me appropriate sex. T hese variatio ns often having orgasms in m is position because me account for the cases re p orted o f veteran bl ood that settled in h er upper extremities so ldie r s gi vi n g birth to chi ldren . Many

HERMAPHRODITES 132 HETEROSEXUALS ancient gods were portrayed as herm- more freedom than other women who, after aphrodites and were thought to be able to marriage, were confined to their gynecaeum parent children without a partner. or homes. Hermaphrodites in America were often It was extremely difficult for women to hired by circuses and exhibited naked as gain any type of positive recognition in freaks until the mid 20th century. Chinese Greece but several of the hetaerae are men- in the third century were warned that. this tioned by historians. Aspasia became the was the result of bi-sexual parents. intell ectual and beautiful mistress of Europeans in the Middle Ages thought that Athenian statesman, Pericles, who ruled the condition could be cured by having the Athens for many years. The infamous hermaphrodite engage in sex with a recently Thais, mistress of Alexander the Great, is deceased virgin. Today parents in India credited with persuading him to burn the have infa nts with this dysfunction castrated city of Persepolis in Persia. Evidence exists and raised to b e dancers and prostitutes. that some of the hetaerae led campaigns to Surgery and hormone treatments can often educate other women and to improve their correct this condition if done while the child status. is young. (See also ADULTERY, CATAMITES, There are a few magazines and movies GEISHAS, HAREMS, MARRIAGE and PROSTI- featuring hermaphrodites engaged in sex. TUTION) They differ from pre-operative transsexuals in that the latter still have a similar physique HETEROSEXUALS (Androphilia, as to when the y were male and they still Heterophilia, Heterosexualism) Heterosex- have scrotal sacks and testes with no vagina. uality is the preference of a person for a One movie featured a couple of partner of the opposite sex. It is determined hermaphrodites who were feminine except by biological factors that include genetic, for well developed penises'. They performed hormonal, and neurological components. in various positions including simultane- Our sex preference does not seem to be ously penetrating each others' vaginas with determined by casual sex experiences. A their penises and then each withdrawing to large number of boys experi ence homo- ejaculate. Such movies are often just farces sexual contact before they settle into a het- in which females wear glued-on dildos. erosexual lifestyle. Furthermore, many ancient or primitive tribes practice active (See also ANATOMY, DYSFUNCTIONS and homosexuality on young boys before mar- TRANSSEXUALS) riage. This is socially accepted and after their marriage seems not to effect their het- HETAERAE (Courtesans) The Greek erosexual role. hetaerae were female companions and entertainers during the 4th and 5th cen- Society does not seem t o be able to turies BCE (before common era or BC) . manipulate people's sexual preferences, but They were the highest of the three classes of can influence how people perceive them- Greek prostitutes. The second class were selves in their selected role. Successful called auletrides. These played musical implementation of husband/wife roles usu- instruments at feasts and used prostitution ally necessitates a proper role model by par- as a secondary source of income. The ents. C hildren reared in single parent h omes lowest class was the dicteriades, whose pri- often have diffic ulty in determining appro- mary talents were sexual. Most hetaeraes priate roles or behavior and families por- were originally slaves; Greek women rarely trayed on television can often create were allowed to pursue intellectual interests. unrealistic expectations for a partner or one- Hetaerae were comparable to the highest self. While having poor role models rarely class of European courtesans. These women leads to homosexuality, it can cau se broken chose to remain single and pursue an educa- marriages or decisions to remain single. tion. Although often financially supported by their lovers they were still allowed much (See also BI-SEXUALS, GAYS , HOMO- PHOBIA and LESBIANS)

HIEROPHILIA 133 HOMILOPHILIA HIEROPHILIA Hierophilia (hieros: on the ground in mild convulsions that are sacred or holy; philia: attachment to) refers indistinguishable from some tantra practi- to those who are aroused by sacred objects. tioners whose bodies go limp during exer- cises due to sudden orgasmic vibrations that This may include last ten to twenty minutes. Spiritual arousal such things as at revivals, however, was not always limited masturbating with to God and the individual worshiper. In crosses or while sit- ting in the church 1873 D. J. Davis recorded his experience of pews. Some have even broken into old time American camp-meetings. churches at night and had sex on the altar. (Personal communication, Austin Texas, Those who think that a camp-meeting is no 1969.) place for love-making are very much mistaken. Many of the early goddess religions When passions were aroused and moral revered sex and included it as part of their restraints gave way for miles around the camp worship. Statues, animals, priests, and hundreds of couples could be seen prowling priestesses were all provided for congre- around in search of some cozy spot (H istory of gants' sexual gratification at one time or the City of Memphis, p. 173, as quoted in another. S ex and Race, by J.A. Rogers). Rogers con- tinu ed with this explanation: \"Since the (See also CHARMS, FERT ILITY WORSHIP, camp-meeting was a primitive affair, those FESTIVALS, PHALLOPHILIA, SEX MAGICK human beings who were nearest lo original and YON! WORSHIP) Nature, were the leaders, thus the chief stirrers of the sexio-religious emotions of the whites HODOPHILIA (Nomavalent, were Negroes, most of whom could neither read nor write. Surcharged with primordial feeling, Ecdemolagnia) H odophilia (hodos: path, these totally illiterate blacks would whip their white audiences to the heights of frenzy\" philia: attachment) describes the sexual (33 1). arousal people feel while traveling to new or In small towns, lacking more sophisticated meeting places, the back rows of tent strange places. Travel often entails anxiety, revivals were popular 'cruising' spots for both gay m en and heterosexual prostitutes pleasure, autonomy, and additional hours during the 1950's and 1960's. for entertainment. People feel more tempted Another group of speakers that seem to project sexual chemistry are trial attorneys. to break out of their normal routine and These people have to deliver intense emo- tional pleas in defense of clients. This experience their new environment to the respon sibility and strong emotional display sometimes induces erection in m ale attor- fullest, especially if the country has a legal neys. They are often warned by their pro- fes sors not to fixate on a fe male juror red light d istrict. becau se she can pick up on the sexual energy and feel uncomfortable. (See also COITUS A CHEVAL, SIDERODRO- The abili ty to emotionally o r sexually MOPHILIA and XENOPHILIA) arouse an audience appears to be necessary; without it an audience will n ot respond to HOMILOPHILIA (Autagonistophilia- the desires of the speaker, whether this is to arousal by being on stage or on camera) purchase an object, convert, volunteer, or Homilophilia (homilo: sermons, philia: change their position on an issue. attachment) refers to feeling sexual arousal while listening to or giving sermons and Speeches that are about sex do not have speeches. Public speakers are often dynamic to condone it. Often the guilt associated and this combined with adrenalin can pro- with a m inister's admonitions against this duce sexual arousal for both the speaker and their audience. Religious services were once designed to arouse devotees sexually in preparation for the ensuing orgies. Today, tent revivals still appeal to the emotions of those gathered by promising that God will forgive their sins and love them. Occasionally people will fall

HOMILOPHILIA 134 HOT WAX 'vile' act can create greater arousal than a for close same sex friendships as do women lecture discussing its merits. but only a few support groups exist to pro- vide a forum for discussion of personal (See also ACOUSTICOPHILIA, AGREX- problems, fears, and goals. A person who OPHILIA, COPROLALIA and NARRATO- cannot communicate their frustrations often PI-IILIA) releases their tension in inappropriate or unhealthy ways, therefore it ben efits HOMOPHOBIA H omophobia is defined everyone in a family to let others have time as the fear of homosexuality and its per- and p ermission to cultivate same sex ceived emasculating consequences. A more friends. appropriate word might be \"femmephobia\" because this feeling is generally applicable A few men have begun gathering in the only to the fear of becoming the p assive form of support groups where they are partner. To most h eterosexual men being making an effort to share their emotions and gay m eans being weak, effeminate, and fears with other men. A goal is to overcome powerless. It means that if a man takes the the homophobia that keeps many from aggr essive role and approaches them they developing the type of close supportive rela- lose their powerful masculine status; they tionships that women seem to cultivate. are being pursued and have to say \"no\" to sex, something with which most men have (See also GAYS, HETEROSEXUAL S, LES- little experience. A fe eling of helplessness BIANS and PHOBIAS) then is easily transformed into anger and aggress io n. HOMOSEXUALITY See GAYS After World War II, gays became more HOT WAX H ot wax in sex play is u sed to open. But Puritan morals argued that any form of sex other than penovaginal is in crease adrenalin and thus arousal. The deviant and that those who practice it are not capab le of any type of ethical behavior. most famous ent husiast was St. Pazz i, a A Senate committee released a report in December 1950 that warned that even 16th century nun who would have others one... drop hot wax on her body while she was sex pervert in a Government agency tends to have a corrosive influence upon his fellow tied to a bed post and humiliated (Very employees. These perverts will frequen tly attempt to entice normal individuals to engage Peculiar People, by E.J. Dingwall) . in perverted practices. This is particularly true in the case of young and impressionable people People engaging in hot wax play hold the who might come under the influence of a per- vert. ..One homosexual can pollute a candle over a partner and drip wax, som e- Government office. times until a large mound is formed . \"Gays, because of this n ew social stigma, were considered a security risk being easy Occasionally people will drip wax on their targets for blackmail by Communist spies. The FBI was given the responsibility of partner's gen- inves tigating, exposing a nd dismissing anyone proven to be homosexual\" (Intimate itals or insert M atters by John D'Emilio and Estelle B. Freedman, pp. 288-293). a long candle Homophobia can have a negative effect into the anus on a man's ability to maintain close friend- ships with others. Men have as much need and let the wax run down the sides of the candle until the anal area is obscu red. CAUTION: Both partners experime nt with the wax o n themselves before using it in a game. A plain wax candle, with no scen ts, beeswax, or met al coloring, is u sed . T he temperature is also regulated by the distance the candle is held above the person, becoming cooler in pro- portion to its h eigh t. Ice is kept on hand for