Encyclopedia Of Unusual Sex Practices

SADISM 235 SAFE SEX Edwards, Departm ent of Psychiatry, As intelligent humans we are able to find Western Psychia tric I nstitute and C linic, alternative solutions to how we achieve clo- University of Pittsb urgh School of sure or release of anxiety. We do not need J'v\\edicine, 38 11 O'Hara Street, Pittsburgh, to argue or abuse our adversary or lover to PA 152 13 , USA a nd Dep art m ent of the point where they display extreme Physiology Pharmacology, University of remorse, p ain , o r suffe ring. T oday, thera- Pittsburgh School of Dental Medicine, pists are able to recommend treatments for Pittsburgh, P A 15213, USA as prinled in controlling our own anxiety such as bio- Psyclwpliarmacology . Springer-Verlag 1989, feedback, group therapy, support groups, 98:97) laughter, exercise, and diet change. There seem s to be a fea r amo ng S/M practi- (See also ACROTOMOPHILIA, ALGO- tioners of losing control of anger in consen- P I-IILI A, AUTOMASOC I-II SM, C ICATRIZA - sual sex games although there has never T ION , DACRYLAGN IA, HYBR!STOPHILIA, been any documentation of this occurring. LUST MURDER, MASOCHISM , M ISOGY- Most injuries are accidental. War veterans NIST, MUTILATlON, RAPE, SYMPHORO- may flash back to personal experiences of PH!LIA and TORTURE) being to rtu red. It is reco mm ended that anyone who knows they may experience this SAFE SEX Each type of sex practice effect a\\'Oid situations that trigger it. Others requires its own special precautions. We who feel them selves beco ming over stimu- begin by learning our partner's spec ial lated m ay find it b e neficial to focu s on needs with a discussion of their general solving math, logistic, or verbal problems health. A disclosure of the types of m edica- wh ile they si m ulta n eo u sly take slow deep tion one takes and its purpose is essential. A (into the abdomen) breath s. Another predisposition to heart disease, diabetes, m ethod, if pracliced before the level of am.:- phobias, strokes, fainting, and hyperventil a- iety ri ses too high, is to visualize physical tion should be discussed. Instructions need defeat or even an open wound on an anony- to be given for action to be taken in case of mous person. This reinforces the fact that an a ttack and who is to be notified. A reg- one can be responsible for their own actions ular partner, as opposed to a stran ger, is by proving th e ir abi li ty to re lease a n ger preferred when engaging in the more without resorting to physical violence. unusual forms of sex . Most novices will say Similar mechani sm s work for those who they know how to tie a partner to the bed when faced wi th an xiety feel the need to but their experience comes from watching mutilate themselves; however, instead of movies. A lack of credible knowledge or ,·isualizing inj ury on another person it may experience on the part of a partner can be done \\.vhile looking at o ne 's own h and. potentially cost another's life in a matter of minutes. Some sadists see themselves as compas- sio nate beca u se they believe in killin g the ANAL PLAY Anal play is considered a high victim before they begin the mutil atio n of risk activity for contracting th e AIDS vi rus. their body. Those t hat are emotionally Anal play includes licking the anus or pene- nu mb may only be able to elicit an cmo- tration with the penis, dildos, fingers, fist, or Lio n al r esponse throug h t h e s ight of a enema. There are several additional dangers wound. Their pleasure comes from this and inherent in anal play. Feces contains many not the fea r, humiliation, o r torture they ty p es of li ve bacteria and is a ca rri er of in fli ct o n th e victim . Others pre y on th e pathogens. The danger to a person being victim 's emotional reaction to their power, penetrated is of tea ri ng the rectal tissue. perhaps because their anger co mes fro m Symptoms of this injury are fever, pain in others having psychologically abused them the abdominal o r rectal area, and a wors- in a similar m anner and they wan t to see ening ill ness the next day resulting in pos- their pain mirrored in the victim's face. This sible d eath within days. There is not always is their tool for revenge. a discharge of blood to indicate ti ss ue damage. Waler based lu brica n ts used

SAFE SEX 236 SAFE SEX in conjunction with condoms, latex gloves, they would asphyxiate, or strain their mus- finger cots, veterinarian's calving gloves, cles. Many of the bondage scenes in maga- and Saran Wrap should be used as a barrier zines are fantasy or based on real torture, between the object of penetration and the t h ey are not design ed for consensu al sex anus of the partner. Dildos and other play. objects should have a flange th at prevents the anal sphincter from sucking the object BRANDING People u se fabrica ted strips of into th e rectum . galvanized sheet metal, copper, or tin as a brand. T he skin is was hed with soap and BLOOD SPORTS Blood sports include any water (alcohol is combustible) ; sterilization activity that breaks the skin, ranging from is .not necessary because of the h eat . The abrasions, burning, biting, shaving, cup- p erson to be branded is put in a reclining ping, and caning to cutting, sta pling, position and the exact location for the brand suturing, lacing, impalement, and piercing. is marked off with a pen. Some practice All objects touching a wound m ust be sterile w ith the cold brand until they a nd the ir or clean and needles that pierce the skin partner are both comfortable with the pro- must be sterile and should be thrown away cedure. T he brander then heats the metal to after only one use. Other instruments must a cherry red a nd the partn er is bra n ded. be sterilized before being used on anyone The stroke is quick a n d even, lasting n o else (see following section on sterilization longer than a second. Afterward, the burn is techniques). Blood sports can pose a high covered with an antibiotic ointment a nd a risk for the transmission of AIDS and hep- non-stick dressing. atitis. BURNING Burning with fire o r hot objects BONDAGE T h e g reatest dangers in can easily damage the skin. If precautions to bondage include suffocation, strangulation, preven t burns fail and a first or seco nd and blocked circulati on. A person can die degree burn (redness, pain, or blistering) with in three to fo ur minutes without oxygen occurs, the area should be submerged in to the brain. Therefore, it is wise to never cold water until the pain becomes tolerable. leave the partner alone and to constantly A clean bandage may then be placed over monitor the extremities fo r circulation, tem- the wound or blistered area. The blister perature, color, and sensation. The circula- itself should not be broken; it will slowly tory system comes closest to the surface at diminish over th e next few days . T hi rd the joints and pressure or knots that lay degree burns will be white, gray, or charred, against areas such as the elbows, underarm, the skin burned away, and painless. These neck, knees, and wrists should be avoided. burns have to be attended by a physician, Ten minutes of pressure in the wrong place therefore the burned area should be covered can easily create p roblems for three to six by a clean dressing and the person immedi- months, if not forever. The first sign of ately transported to an emergency facility. danger is a tingling or numb sensation; Oils or butter must never be used on burns however , these sensations are not always as these tend to hold heat and pathogens on perceived by the person unless they move th e ski n , caus ing further comp lications . the affected limb. For safety, rope is dou- People with piercings do not engage in any bled with the knots p laced on the back side activity that would allow hot oil into the area of joints. Padding or leather mitts beneath of the piercing. cords or handcuffs are beneficial for both comfort and safety. Position s that look ELECTRICITY P eople have died from mis- uncomfortable usually are and if o ne of calculating voltage and time restrictions these is chosen it is never recommended for while ma sturbating alone. A m oderately more than a few minutes. These positions high elec tric current fl owing through th e may also be risky if t h ey are de signed in body wi ll cause tissue damage a nd bu rn s. su ch a way that if the person weakens or This type of burn resembles sunburn in that falls their arms would break, joints d islocate, there is a period of time required before one

SAFE SEX 237 SAFE SEX realizes the seriousness and potential pain of Wrap, an d latex gloves. These are barriers the injury. The p erso n may not feel any- to b oth pregnancy and th e transmissio n of thing but warmth during the game, but the bacteria, and viruses. The purpose of latex next day the injury will be obvious from the is to create a physical barrier between intensified pain. T herefore, electric shock infected skin and bod y secretions. It may be cannot be regulated by the amount o f pain necessary to provide extra protection o f the the bottom feels. Precautions h ave to be genital area by using underwear that has a taken not to use high currents at all or low slit in the crotch in addition to a condom to ones for too extended a period of time. prevent contact of the testicles with the vaginal region. People who have a conta- An even greater safety facto r in volves the gious lesion on a different p art of the body effect electric cu r rent has on the heart. may cover it with an adhes ive bandage. E lectricity can interfe re with or stop the Those who desire additional protection heart from beating. against viruses use a spermic ide that con- tains the ingredien t nonoxynol 9 w ith th e Lower currents can be safe as long as condom. However, some women are allergic there are no malfunctions of the equipment tO this chemical. Those practicing anal sex or human errors, and as long as the person sometimes u se two condoms due tO the fact receiving the electric current doesn't have a th at there is a h igher risk of the latex tearing heart con dit ion . (Sec also EL E CTRICAL during this activity. The primary complaint SHOCK) involving latex is due to the lack of sensi- tivity. Some of this can be restored by using FLAGELLATION A bruise or hemato ma a small amount of water based lubricants may be eased by elevating the area and (never oil because it causes rubber to deteri- applying an ice pack. All leather and latex orate) u nderneath the cond om near the tip whips that break skin should be cleaned and of the penis. There are also condoms that dried before using on a different person. It have an adhesive near the base to prevent it is best if each person has their own supply from slipping off during sex. Men who tend of whips. to l ose condoms can oft en ma ke them secu re a nd increase sensation by putting a HYGROPHILIA Some type of latex barrier rubber cockring over the condom at the must be used bet\\veen any body secretion base of the penis. Condoms may also be and the partner as protection from AIDS used over d ildos or other sex toys to prevent and other pathogens. Those desiring to con tam ination and general deterioration of smear their own feces on their bodies should the rubber when washed with soap. avoid cuts in the skin. Ingestion is not rec- omm en ded because feces can c reate prob- PIERCING There are many safety precau- lems if introduced into the upper digestive tions taken when p laying with piercing. tract. Latex gloves are worn by the partner who inserts th e needles, the skin is cleaned with ILLEGAL ACTIVITIES Exhibitionism, an alcohol swab (iod ine on labia), Neo- frottage, voyeurism, and obscene phone sporin is sometimes used on the n eedle to calls are ill egal whe n do n e in public, to make it easier to slide throu gh the skin, the minors, or to a nonconsenting adu lt. The skin to be p ierced is p inched up between the best precaution is to find a consenting finger and thumb, and the sterile needle is partner with which to engage in these activi- inserted at an angle (never straight in on ties, to patronize massage parlors, join a sex any part of the body) so that the round club where nudity is acceptable, or find a hollow tip faces away from the skin. There competent sex therapist wh o can h elp may be some bleeding from a p iercing and peop le understand their motives and substi- care is taken to avoid obvious blood vessels. tute them with ones that do not have a puni- A box of Kleenex or gauze is kept close by tive risk. to dab up the excess blood. Some bleeding LATEX BARRIERS The possibility of transmitting sexual diseases can be reduced by the use of condoms, dental dams, Saran

SAFE SEX 238 SAFE SEX may be minimized by leaving t h e n eedle well as making certain the person's clothes inside for an extended period. Muscle tissue are loose enough to breathe comfortably. is n ever pierced because a muscle can Di sruptio ns and crowds should be mini- spasm, causing the needle to break. If for mized. A physician should be consulted if any reason a needle does break off in the the person fails to improve within a few skin the person is taken to the emergency minutes. room of a hospital immediately. If symp- toms of shock develop in the partner (i.e. SOUNDING The urethra has a sphincter at fee li ng fa int o r nauseo us, p e r spiring, or the entrance of the bladder and because of coldness) they must lie down immediately this a fla nge or cross bar is put on the end with their legs raised above the level of the of a sound or object to pr event items from heart and be kept warm (not hot). If they do being pulled down the urethra and into the not improve within a few minutes o n e bladder. Another precaution people take is sh ould consult a physician. Needles are dis- to make sure that anything going into the posed of in a glass jar with a lid. urethra is free of microscop ic nicks or roughness that might abrade the delicate PRIAPISM: A peni s that is swollen due to tissue of the canal. And last, anything put priapism or a cock ring (preventing the into the urethra is sterilized to prevent blood from flowing out of the cavernosa and infection. Once a person is ready to insert back into the body) can often be reduced by the sound, st eri le lubri c ation such as wrapping an Ace bandage around the penis. Surgilub is put onto the instrument. The This starts with the glans and is worked handle is never released because, once downward toward the pubic area. Wrapping inserted, dropping the heavy sound can the penis with an ice bag or inducing cause internal injury and so can using force orgasm can also lead to detumescence. If to get the sound into th e desi red positio n; this does n ot work, a physician should be the sound is merely allowed to sink. consulted immediately. Permanent damage can occur within only a few hours. STERILIZATION TECHNIQUES Any time the skin is brok en, abraded, or burned all SHOCK Shock is caused by reduced circu- instruments are sterilized. Instruments that lation in the cardiovascular system brought are reusable are sterilized by placing them in on by injury or extreme emotional trauma. an autoclave. If one does not h ave access to This physiological reaction keeps us from this type of medical device the items may be bleed ing to death if we are wou nded. p laced in a pressure cooker for 1/2 hour or However, because our body has no way of on aluminum foil in a conventional oven discerning the severity of th e injury, it that is set at 300 degrees for 1/2 hour. Metal som etimes overreacts. The symptoms of objects, pans, and scissors may be heated in shock vary according to the individual but a conventional oven. The metal for these normally include a feeling of weakness, devices should be unplated stainless or sur- nausea, thirst, dizziness, and coolness. gical steel. These may manifest themselves as restless- ness, trembling, a weak and rapid pulse, The 'surgeon ' first washes their hands analgesia, shallow breathing, dilated pupils twice with soap, then dries them with a and pale cool or moist skin. freshly bleached and laundered towel. The 'patient's' skin is prepped by using p repack- A person exhibiting any of these symp- aged rubbing alcohol swabs or Betadine toms should be calmed, laid down so that with clean cotton swabs over the area to be their feet are elevated above their heart (if cut. The swab is firmly rubbed over the skin conscious, the person should be able to in such a manner that it does not wipe over detect an improvement as soon as the legs the same area twice. The alcohol does not are raised high enough), a blanket may be sterilize the surface skin, rather it simply used to cover th e person but o nly if they removes dirt and oil and kills a few viruses. feel cool- do not make them uncomfortably Betadine does sterilize the area. The pack- warm. Access to fres h air is importa nt as aged equipment is laid onto a fresh towel

SAFE SEX 239 S T. VALENT I NE and care is taken not to let anything sterile their day because of their endorsement of touch fabric or other things that may be celibacy, man y Church leade rs supported contaminated. Care is also taken not to con- their effort. T his gave Christianity a social taminate needle tips that project through the respectability which to d1is point had been skin becau se they will at some point be lacking. pulled back through an open wound. St. Augustine was a prolific writer. In his URETH RAL PLAY Inserting a catheter or autobiograph y, Confessions, he revealed his sounding devices into the urethra require struggle with love, lust, and passion for the medical knowledge and use of sterile tech- Roman arena. As a Manichaean he led a niques. (Please refer to these sections for normal life with a mistress and fathered his details.) beloved son Adeoda tu s (died at 18) . H owever, after thirteen years his mother ZIPPER ACC IDENTS Scrotal or penis persuaded him to send his mistress back to tissue often gets stuck in between the teeth Africa an d to marry a girl of higher social of zippers. It is advisable to keep a pair of standing. This he did at a great emotional dikes (small wire cutters) in the tool chest. cost. H e rela ys in h is own wo rd s \"The These are used to clip the front guide por- woman with whom I was in the habit of tion tha t se parates the teeth as they pass sleeping was tor n from my side on the through the zipper. This one small section ground of being an impedim ent to my mar- holds the top and bottom of the zipper riage, and my heart, which clung to her, was togethe r and when it is cut the zipper falls wounded and broken and dripping apart and the teeth ca n easily b e pulled blood ... Nor was the wound healed which apart. (\"Ask the D octor,\" by F . Gordon, had been made by the cutting off o f my p re- lecture September 19, 1990) vious mistress. It burned, it hurt intensely, and then it festered, and if me pain became (Please refer to ind iv idu al section s for duller, it became more despera te.\" His mis- additional discussion.) tress left vowing neve r to gi ve he rself to another man and it is co nceivable that St. ST. AU GUSTINE St. Augustine (354- Augustine's later vow o f celibacy was made 430 C.E.) was a No rth African fr om easy by h is d evotion a nd possible guilt over Tagaste (Alger ia ). H e, al ong w ith St. a b andoning h e r. Chris ti an celi b acy gave Jerome and St. Gregory (the Great), formu- him an excuse not to betray he r by marrying lated the doctrines of the early Catholic another woman. The new marriage never Church. The Church's position on birth took p lace because while he was waiting for control, papal celibacy, divorce, and their the girl to mature he converted to a chaste loathing of women was due to their inter- Neo-platonist sect of C hristianity. pretati on of the original sin as having bee n the act of sex. They won despite a heated H e never co nquered his des ire fo r debate with many n ota ble church leaders women and even forbade his sister, a nun, who presented arguments to the contrary. to speak to him without witnesses present. The more his body d esired the female touch S t. Augusti ne had a strong passion for the more he condemned sex as evil. women but due to the influence of the po p- ular sex- n egative r e ligio n s like Mani- (Sec also CELIBACY, EUNUCHS, ILLEGAL cheanism, Stoicism, and Neo-P latonism he SEX, KLEPTOPHILIA and VICT ORIAN LSM) decided that his sexual lust was evil. Pleasure was to be spiritual, not physical. ST. VALENTINE St. Valentine's day is St. Augustine was an intellectual and lived celebrated on February l 4m and is the feast during the time that great philosophers put day of two martyrs named Valentine; one of a value on one's ability to control their pas- R ome and the other of Terni. Both these sions . Christians and Jews were criticized m en di ed in abo ut 269 CE (Com mon due to their more natural view of sex. Era/A.D.). The date was only one day Therefore, when St. Augustine and others before Lupercalia, an ancient Roman fer- gained credibility among intellectuals of tility festival mat h onored Juno (goddess of

ST . VALENT I NE 240 SATA N W O RSHIP women and marriage) and Pan (god of This reversed the spell and caused the man nature). One of the rituals involved in this to feel hate toward tl1e enchantress. festival included priests who walked through town striking all the women with goat skin (See also COCKTAILS, KLISMAPHILIA, thongs, to ensu re fertility. February 14th is LACTAPHILIA, SHOWERS, UROPHI LI A and thought to be the first day that birds begin VAMPIRISM) their mating season and th erefore lovers during the M iddle Ages used this occasion SATAN WORSHIP Satan worship as we to send love notes. They were origin ally know it today did not exist until after hand made by the man doing the courting Christianity adopted the philosophy of the and left on his lady's door step. Technology separation of good and evil fro m advanced and by the mid 19th century elab- Zoroastrianis m (628-551 B.C.E. ) and orate cards were being purchased and sent Manichaeanism (250- 1200 C.E.). The by mail. Su ito r s we re then re li eved of larter was the former religion of one of the having to write poetry and decorate cards. Catholi c C hu rch's fou n ding fat h ers and proponent of this theory, St. Augustine. T he Europeans not only sent cards to Satan worship became an escape by which those they were trying to impress but it was persecuted Christians and others vented acceptable to send vulgar and insulting ones tl1eir hostility toward the Church. to the handicapped and old maids. One such card read as follows: The confu sion created between Satan wors hip and witchc raft (Wicca) seems to If th e devil step'd, old lady, from his have been in the blending of Christian and regions just below, pagan rituals. The new Satanists used their own Christian rituals and belief of what He couldn't find a picture like the one Satan r epresented but in a manner that before me now: d efiled and slandered the Church. Wicca had its own loose autonomous rituals, ones No doubt you know the gentleman, a that existed thousands of years prior to sable on e is he, orga nized third centu ry religions. And he's said to be Papa of all the lies The recognition of Satan is attributed to that yet might be. the Jews; however, the only mention of an angel named Satan representing evil is in Your eyes are false, your nose is false, the book of Job. and falser still your tongue, I nc idently , Job was not a Jew, You r breast is false, your heart is false, but his story was as ever poet sung; included in the N'veeim (Tor- And if disgust did not prevail, upon ah). The Lucifer m y present will, of Genesis was a light g iver, the 'r'------'4 I could speak of something villainous, morning star, and yet more filthy still. and foremost the (Sec also FESTIVALS) bearer of knowl- edge to humans. He opened their con- SALIROPHILIA (ldrophrodisia) Saliro- sciousness to good and e v il and as philia (salinus: salty, philia: attachment to) punishment God cast him from heaven. refers to people who are aroused by tasting T hi s event is simil ar to that told of t he salty body fluid s such as perspiration. Greek's he roic god, Prome the us whos e P erspiration at one time wa s thought to name means forethought or before learning. have magical qualities and was used in a T his god stole fire from Zeus and gave it to potion to co unteract love spells. The male ma nkin d. Zeus as pun ishment cast him wore out a pair of new shoes by walking and from heaven and chained h im to a rock on then drank wine from the right shoe which naturally mixed with sweat from his foot.

SATAN WORSHIP 241 SATAN WORSHIP earth where vultures da ily ate at his liver. of D eath. These were unsuccessful but the Zeus also in retribution created the first King soon became aware of a plot against woman, Pandora, who opened a box to let him and upon an investigation discovered evil out among man. 74 conspirators, many of whom were Catholic priests. The most popular Satanic ritual was that o f the \" Black Mass.\" Many early C hristians Black Masses aga in beca m e pop ular believed in the supernatural powers of ritual during the 18th century in Hellfir e Clubs. and the Christian Mass was conducted by a These were actually sex clubs where women priest who supposedly became a personal dressed in nun's habits, naked females mediator or liaison to God. The rationale of p osed as altars, lv1asses were performed, the the congregants was that if God granted this nuns u sed sex toys disguised as stick horses, priest's supplications for the church then and once everyone was sufficiently aroused they could hire the priest to use his p ower to the orgy bega n. These grou ps los t the ir petition God for personal favors . Good popularity until the early 20th century when requests could beco me evil by simply reports of Black Masses again surfaced. inverting or changing part of the ritual. The H ermetic Order of the Golden Dawn Early priests began conducting a Mass of spawned the father of today's cults, Aleister the D ead in which they beseeched God to Crowley. Mr. Crowley broke away from the cause the death of certain enemies of paying Golden Dawn and eventually joined another parishi o ners, other s e nded rituals with cult, the Ordo Templi Orientis of Germany sexual orgies and in fant sacrifices . Priests and embellished it with sex acts, drugs, and that were discovered conducting these type animal sacrifice. C rowley died in 1947 but of rituals were excommunicated b y the left behind several cult books on magick and C hurch. Black Masses became popular and a legacy of followe r s. One OTO m e m ber these defrocked priests were hired to read was Ja ck Parsons ( 1915-52), a prominent the missal backward or substitute key words scientist in Pasadena, California, who was such as Satan or evil when appropriate, the known for h osting ritual orgies including altar was simply a naked vi rgin, the room H ollywood stars. Parsons became involved was b lack as were the robes and ca ndles. with a sc he me to incarnate the \" Whore of The H ost was made of feces and the conse- Babalon \" into the womb of a female. T he crated wine of urine or blood, or sometimes spell failed. Parsons died in an explosion at defiled by having a prostitute insert it into the age of 3 7 while conducting a chemical her vagina or urinate on it. There were sev- experiment in his basem ent (Satan Wants eral n otable figures who u sed these rituals You, by Arthur L yon s, pp . 44-83). for the ir own ga in. G illes de Rais, who origi- nall y acted as a Marshal of F r a n ce and There are only two large orga nized escort of Joan of Arc, had rituals conducted Satanic Churches recognized by tl1e govern- to help him regain his lost wealth. In addi- ment in exis tence in the United States tion to Masses with b lack candles and other to day; The C hurch of Satan and the Satani c parap herna lia he began moles ting Temple of Set. and sacrificing young boys, eventually being reported to the authorities by his wife. T he The Church of Satan was founded in Marquise d e Montespan, a mistress of King 1966 by Anton LaVey. Mr. LaVey at one L ouis XIV, used M asses to guarantee the time worked in circuses an d not only gain ed K ing's continued sexual attracti on to her. insight into the abnormal and people's fasci- S he was herself used as the altar and an nation with it, but gained proficiency in infant sacrificed an d its blood drained to promoting and choreographing the unusual. m ake into a wafer th at was given to the He was an avid reader of the occult and this King. After 12 years h e began to look fo r a combined with his earlier career contributed younger mistress and the marquise turned to the establishment of the Church of Satan vengeful and engaged in a series of Masses and the direction it took. LaVey promoted his church by writing books on Satan wor- ship and using advertising campaigns that

SATAN WORSHIP 242 SATYRIASIS included photos of a nude woman on an the statu es were destroyed after this period. altar. This Church has nine c reeds or This religion emphasizes an intellectual self Satanic Statements that describe its goals: determinism and personal responsibility for life as opposed to the more common nature 1. Satan represents indulgence instead wor shi ppers who maintained sec urity by of abstinence. insisting o n obed ience to rituals and thou ght. Membership for the Temple of Set 2. Satan represen ts vital ex istence is restricted to those willing to dedicate instead of spiritual pipe dreams. much of their efforts to study. 3. Satan represents undefiled wisdom T o da y there a r e m any sma ll c ul ts instead of h ypocritical self-deceit. throughout the United States and Europe that are autonomous, consisting of one 4. Satan represents kindness to those leader a nd a few friends who u se rituals seen who deserve it instead of love wasted in movies. The most notorious was one led on ingrates. by Charles Manson during the 1960's. Manson led his me m bers in blood rituals, 5. Satan represents vengean ce instead tau ght them \" knife throwing, throat slitting of turning the other cheek. and skull boiling. \" His \" famil y\" also partici- pated in filming human sacrifices of young 6. Satan represents responsibility to girls (Rape and R itual, A Psychological the respon sible instead of concern for Study, by Bradley A. Te Paske, p. 60). psychic vampires. Satanic c ults are very rarely involved in 7. Satan represents m an as just human sacrifice and those that do engage in another animal-sometimes better, this are often small autonomous cults led by more often worse than those that walk an individual. on all-fo urs- who, because of his \" divine spiritual and intellectual devel- (See also RITUAL SEX, SACRIFI CES and opment,\" has become the m ost vicious SEX MAGICK) animal of all. SATYRIASIS (Coitolimia, Compulsive 8 . Satan represents a ll of the so-called cruising, Gynecomania, H yperphilia, si ns, as t hey a ll l ead to physical, ldiosyncrat, Pareunomania, Tragolimia) mental, or emotional gratification. Satyrs are n otorious half-goat and h alf-men Greek mythological character:; who 9. Satan has been the best friend the attended the god Bacchus and were known Church has ever had, as he has kept it for their lechery a nd hedonism. Satyriasis is in business all these years. the male equivalent of fe m ale n ympho- mania . © Anton Szandor L a Vey, 1966 c.e. There is n o predeterm ined numbe r of T he Temple of Set was fo rmed in 1975 by times that a person is exp ected to engage in m ore conservative members from the sexual activ ity; therefore, a definition o f Church of Satan. T his group revived the satyriasis that specifies a numerical compo- worship of the Egyptian god Set. Set and n ent is invalid. Cultures as well as individ- H o ru s were originally brothers who were u als differ dramatica lly in sexu al activity. friendly to the dead. Horus the E lder repre- Rather for a definition we m ight use similar sen ted the day and Set the night. The criteria as for addictions: namely, if the Egyp tian s la ter cha nge d their philosoph y activi ty is compul sive to the degree that it and attributed all that was evil to Set and all interferes with the person's ability to func- that was good to H orus. Set was d epicted as tion in society and to support themselves it an anim al with a head that is not possible to is a problem. A person who finds that their clearly identify. It has been guessed to be sexual n eeds fa r exceeds the ability of one tha t of a cam el, snake, or crocodile. partner to provide, sometimes sacrifices the Egyptologists call it the \" Set b east. \" The affection an d bonding possible with them exact image is unconfirmed because most of

SATY RIASI S 243 SC ROT A L I NFUS I ON fo r poli te sex with a mu ltitude of temporary during height of passion) Scratching has partners. been do ne d u ring fo repl ay and sex throughout history. The Karna-Sutra rec- A satyrist may have problems with being ommended that people use th is method to able to experience normal emotions so that leave p ermanent love marks: when the temporary excitement of the chase and conq uest wea rs off they, unlike others, Generally speaking 1narks made with the 11ails are unaware of residual feelings of intimacy, should be i111primed on the armpits, the th roat, and move on to the next person. A child the breasts, the lips, the jagdana or midriff, and who is not shown consistent love and nu r- the thighs. The 11ails can be used to make eiglu turing may also be unable to trust or expect marks, by scrarching or pressing: sounding, this fro m others as an adult. Bonding then half-nzoo11, the circle, the lines, the tiger's nail does not occur with o ne person, instead or claw mark, 1he peacocl?'s foot, the !tare's nurturing and security is restricted to the act leap and the bltte lotus leaf. Tlte arr of of sex itself. Other sa tyrists m ay simply imp1·inting the marlu of love is familiar to all. enjoy the chase and conquest more than sex Nail mar/?s 111ay not be made on married with a stable.partner. women; however ir is per111iued IO make special marks 011 the hidden pans of their bodies, as a There ma y be a hormona l imbalance fond memory a11d in order to heighten one's where the body produces an abnorm al love. Even when they are old and have al111ost amoun t of testosterone, d opamine, or other been effaced, nail lllarl?s remind a wo111a11 of chemical that wou ld increase the person's previous 1nornents of love and revive her pas- de sire for sex. sion, which might otherwise be simply lost. A young woman 011 whose breasis such marlls are (See also NYMPHOMAN IA and O RGASMS) to be seen can impress eve11 a stranger who sees her from a dista11ce. A man who bears nail and SCARFING Sec AUTOASPHYXlOPHILIA teeth mar/is 011 his body is successful with women, even those who resist love. SCARRING Sec CICAT RIZATION Most people today are generally more cau- SCATOPHILIA See COPROPHIUA tious about leaving marks on their partner without consent. SCOPOPHILIA (M ixoscopia, Scopto- 1agnia; Allopellia- h av ing orgasm from (See also BITING, CICATRIZATION, FLAG- watching others engage in sex) Scopophilia ELLAT IO and PINCHING) (skopein: looking a certa in d irection, and phil ia: attachment to) refe rs to sex ual S C ROTAL INFUSION (Balloo ning, arousal gained from looking at people or Scrotal inflation) Scrotal infusion is the pro- events. This would include voyeurism, but cess by which a solution is injected into the is broader in that the people bei ng watched scrotal sack. It is also refe rred to as bal- may also consent, i.e. candaulism or group looning or scrotal inflation, although these sex. terms m ight be taken to mean expan sion by air or gas and for safety reasons that im pres- A leading te levision evangelist rece ntl y sion is best avoided by using the word infu- ga ined notoriety for engaging in scopophilia sion which den otes expansion by fluid . with prostitutes who would masturbate while he watched. T he visual effect of the scrotal infusion resemb les a wa ter balloo n . Me n do not T he scopophile may be aroused by report any pai n from this procedure and watching an activiry that involves a fetish or claim that one advantage is fou nd the next sex object. J\\ll.en may watch women u rinate, mo rning when the solution filters into the try on shoes, browse through erotic sections p enis causing it to swell to the size of a beer of a magazin e rack, or ride Sybian (the can . M en claim exclusive license to this type mechanical dildo). of sex play. T here is no sealed part of the fema le anatomy that has a hol low sack (See also VOYEURISM) which lends itself to expa nsion. SCRATCHING (Dermographism; Amy- ch es is- fe m a le who sc r atc h es partner

SC ROTAL I NFUS I ON 244 SENSO RY CO M PENSA TI ON Paraphernalia used for this procedure v isually se t their genitals apart from all were scissors, first aid tape, a 20 gauge others. angiocath or hypodermic needle, a one liter The saline in the scrotal sack absorbs plastic bag of into the body within about three days. Some ..-...i~~::;:i;·-~ sali ne solution , people inject more saline than the scro tal sack can accommodate and this will imme- an IV pole or diately overflow through a small opening hook on the into the abdomen. CAUTION: T hi s is a ceiling, plastic blood sport that requires proper sterilization tubing, latex procedures a nd is therefore not considered a gloves and pack- safe sex practice. Improper placement of the aged alcohol needle may also damage local n erves. prep pads. The saline solution was warmed to b ody (\"Scrotal Inflation and Other Geni tal temperature ahead of time. The bag was Modifications,\" by J. B., QSM lecture, then held again st th e inside wrist to deter- D ecember I , 1990) m ine a comfortable temperature. Incidentally, the temperature is n ot for the (See also BONDAGE/LACING , PIERCING, comfort of the patie nt bu t rather to prevent SAFE SEX/SC ROTAL INFUSION and the scrotal sack from shrinking as it n or- SUTURING ) mally does when exposed to cold water or ice . This shrinking would hamper the SENSORY COMPENSATION Sensory expansion process that is essen tial for infu- compensation is the body's natural mecha- sion. nism by which we regu late the amount of T h e bag was hung from a hook and outside stimulus to a manageable level. Our spiked with the tubing which was then bra in divides our atten tion be tween all the pinched closed not contaminating any o f the input avai lable, and with this information e nd s. T he scrotal area was swabbed with the interprets the environmental cues. We do alcohol prep pad , and the needle was not need all five senses fo r the brain to pro- inserted about one inch directly below the cess or interpret external cues; we can do base of the penis in the middle of the this with only on e sensory aid. Of all our scrotum. T he partner waited for a moment senses our strongest or most distracting is to make certain that he had not p ierced a that of sight. Sound is the second most dis - vein (evident by blood backing up into the tracting sense and smell the third. Most needle), th e n eedle or angiocath was t h en people are aware of a similar compensation taped flat and upright agai nst the top of the effect with the blind wh ereby they d evelo p scrotum. The tubing was then opened and or become more focused on their remaining adjusted so that it drained at a rate of about senses. This compensation does not require 60-90 cc's a minute. a long p eriod of time, rather it can be artifi- T he male stood because gravity helps to cially achieved in only a matter of minutes. facilitate the expans ion. However, fainting is a natural response and the person was m on- Sensory com pensation is used in sex itored closely and had a bed or table behind games by isolating the desired sense to be him on which to lie if necessary. enhanced, fo r instance touch, and depriving Scrotal infusion is an activity that is diffi- the perso n of their ability to use the o ther cult for most observers to un derstand. The four sen ses. The person is p laced in a com- men who experim ent with this form of body fortable room that is void of odors or sound modification have explained th ei r va riou s a nd n ot given a n yth ing to eat or h old in m otives or d esire to experience different their m outh . T hey are then either blind- feelings, to be unique, for the shock valu e, folded or the room is made dark, depend ing to prove that th ese are their genitals and on whether the game entails activities that they will d o with them as they please, and to n ecessitate ligh t. T h is depriva ti on of all senses but one results in the person becomin g focused on tactile stimulation. A

SENSORY C OMPENSATION 245 SENSORY ENHANCEMENT feather stroked across the body becomes Sen so ry deprivation may be isola ted to m ore in ten se as does d irect contact with only part of the b ody such as the nipples or their n ipples or genitals. Their sensitivity to genitals. This is d one with a num bing lotion pain will also inc rease; th er efor e, care is or encasement. (\"Sensory D ep rivation and taken to avoid strong stimulus. Bondage,\" by Adashi, Society of Janu s lec- ture, May 24, 1990) Sensory compensation may be u sed to e nhance a n y of t he five sen ses, achieving (See also SENSORY ENHANCEMENT, SEN- SORY OVERLOAD and SUSPENSION) variou s effects. (See also SENSORY DEPRIVATION, SEN- SENSORY ENHANCEMENT Methods th at enhance ou r sen s es are listed SORY ENHANCEMENT and SENSORY OVER- throughout this book and include tech- LOAD) n iques that range from the u se of simp le lubricants and massage to the more painful SENSORY DEPRIVATION Sensory fo rm of cock and ball torture. deprivation differ s from sensory compensa- tio n in th at one t ries t o eliminate all fi ve T he natural d esire to increase the senses. Dep ri vation m ay include ac tivities amount of stimuli fo r sex is found in some su ch as sen sory d ep rivatio n chambers, young children when they first learn to mas- samadhi tanks, or suspension. tu rbate. One young girl would, during the sum mer, lay naked on burning patio b ricks Ta nks, wh erein people defy gravity by because it enhanced m asturbation. In a sim- floating or are suspended in water, can be ilar fas hion a young boy put pieces of cloth very disorienting. Suspension is not as dra- in a freeze r a nd then removing on e would matic but has also produced results such as lay it over his penis to facilitate masturba- vertigo, hallucinations, and confusion. A tio n . These m e thods probably intensifi ed safeword that acts to signal the p artner to their sexual response because pain triggers end the deprivation is essential for this the body's defense mechanism s by p ro- activity. du cing ad renalin. T his m ay be of particular importan ce for youth who often do not h ave Long term d epriva tion often p rodu ces the sexual experience to build arousal by the h all ucinations a nd altered states of con - u se of sexu al fantasies. Even those children sciousness. H allucinatio ns a re a risk for who do use fan tasy when m asturbating almos t a nyon e who becomes isolated ; fo r don't use visions of what we con sider r eg- instan ce, those in sensory deprivation cham- ular or normal copulation. One very young b ers, sailors wh o reported hearing and girl described the th oughts sh e u sed wh ile seeing fe male sirens, a nd those who get lost playing with herself. She visualized a mon- in jungles. Tribesmen in South America ster, one seen in a m ovie, engagin g in a have legend s of m en becoming victims of bizarre fo r m of u rination fro m h is m ou th . \"J apujaneju,\" a n evil fe m ale spi r it, wh o O ne would guess that this girl used fear as a often appears to them as their consort luring stimulant for arousal instead of pain as in them deeper into the fo rest. People sent into t h e former cases. [P ersonal co mmun ica- space or just for a winter in Antarctica are tion s.] o ften required to take psychological tests in advance. Regardless of the method a person u ses it is important to underst and that people have A more pertinent a nd dramatic sexual d iffere nt pain toleran ces; th erefo re, wh at effect of sen sory d eprivation is that ofte n looks like it would cau se pain to on e person after only one-half hour a mere touch to the may in reality feel pleasurable to oth ers. body or genitals can produce orgasm. Also, People who are und er stress or who are the fi rst visu al impression experienced after \" type A per sonalities\" are thought t o h ave a one is released from sensory deprivation can higher pain threshold than others . be very intense and long lasting. M any part- ners u se this opportu nity to express ten der - (See also ABRASIONS, ACOUSTICOPHILIA, ness a nd love, or oth erwise present ACUPRESSURE, BATH S, BED OF NAILS, BEE them selves in a mann er in which they would like to be remembered.

SE NSO R Y EN H ANCE M EN T 246 S E X AL MA NACS STINGS, BITING, CLAM PS, CUPPING, Awareness of the dynamics involved in DEPILATION, INUNCTION, MASSAGE, all cases of controlled sensory overload by a MYSOPHILIA, PINCHING, SCRATCHING and second party is important. There are occa- SITOPHILIA) sions when this type of bonding a nd influ- ence fro m the partner is advantageous and SENSORY OVERLOAD Sensory over- also instances when it is inappropriate. An load occurs when there is more information obvious case is that of spouse abuse where produced from an environment than a o ne partner constantly criticizes the other p erson can assimilate. This does not neces- cau sing them to feel unsure of their own sarily mean that more things are occurring decisions, inferior, and unable to function simultaneously but rather that they are without the abuser. unfamiliar or confusing. D isorien tation occurs because the brai n can not readily (See also BLINDFOLDING, BONDAGE, process this typ e of information. SENSORY ENHAN CEMENT, SENSORY COM- PENSATION, SUSPENSION and VERTIGO) Deliberate sensory overload is used by cults to accomplish a similar effect on their SERENADES Serenades were popular in converts. Steven Hassa n, once a high Europe during the 17th and 18th centuries. ranking officer in the Moonie movement, Young m en p layed and now an exit counselor and leading their violins and sang expert on destructive cults and their indoc- on the streets beneath trinat ion techniques, spoke of t he risks of the windows of t h ei r sensory overload in h is recent book: lover. The Engl ish were quick to fo llow Pul a person in a sensory deprivation chamber, th e romantic Italians' and within hours he will s£arl lo hallucinate example b u t with dif- and become i ncredibly suggestible. Likewise, fe rent results. E nglish pul a person into a siiuaiion where his senses men drank until mid- are overloaded wilh noncohereru information, night to get up their nerve, and then d idn 't and the mind will go \"numb\" as a protective quit singing until near dawn. Of course, th is mechanism. It gets confused and overwhelmed, may well have been the quickest way to per- and rritical faculties no longer work properly. suade a father to consent to his daughter's It is in th.is weakened state that people become marriage simply to get her suitor to stop. very suggestible to others. The mind needs frames of reference in order to structure reality. (See also COURTSHIP and EROTOGRAPH- (Comballing Cult Mind Control, p. 47. OMANIA) An example of this in a sex scene is that of a SEX ALMANACS T here are several perso n who is not experienced with S/M magazines and books that provide up to walking into a play parry where various sorts da te information on international activities of bondage, humiliation, a nd flagellation are that are of interest to sexu ally active people. being engaged in by people. This can create The Safer Sex Maniac's Bible is a compre- m a nifesta tions that a re best described as hensive p ocket sized guide that is published having a fog over most of the room, tunnel in London annuall y by M iss Tuppy Owens. visio n , vertigo , and m ini m al focus. Tim Woodward's magazine, Skin II, pro- Advantages of sensory overload in sex play vides a current world listing of clubs, activi- is that it makes the person become m ore ties, pub licati on s, an d shop s, and San submiss ive and r elian t on thei r partner Francisco has several magazines with infor- because it strips them of the ability to sort mation about upcoming events: Spectator, out ideas on their own. Confusion also cre- Drummer, Sandmutopia Guardian & ates t h is effect a n d is acco m p li sh ed by Dungeon Journal, and Dungeon Master. Sex giving a partn er double-bin d commands, clubs or organizations often keep up to date those that contradict each other so that no on local social functions. matter what they do they can be criticized.

SEX ALM ANACES 247 SEX C L UB S (See also SEX CLUBS, SEX CONFERENCES, throughout the interior and exterior. Their SEX HOTELS and SEX SHOWS) interest in se x was not restricted to the carnal e nj oyment o f art; they also h ad a SEX BOUTIQUES There are several sex library that contained a comprehensive col- boutiques in the United States, most of lection of erotic literature. T he members vvhich a re owned by women. Inside, they entered the abbey dressed as friars and their resemble a fine lingerie store that carries sex lady guests dressed as nuns. The G rand toys, fur mitts, erotic videos, books, and M aster began club services at an altar with a body lotions. San Francisco's Romantasy cursory sacrament being offered to the ir Boutique, owned by Ann Grogan, also has baboon deity. T his was followed by other drawings and work by local artists, bondage simple rituals. The food was elaborate a nd equ ipm ent fo r n ovices, night classes in libations abu ndant. Once members satisfied stripp ing for your lover, beginning bondage, their initial hunger they selected a nun with and many other topics. San Francisco is also w h o m to co nsum mate the revelr y. This the home of Joani Blank's popular book and brotherhood met twice a year and survived vibrator store, Good Vibrations. Constance almost 20 years. Ent. is the oldest and largest fantasy bou- tiqu e. Constance also sponsors the Annual Today we have several hundred diverse Fall Fantasy Ball near New Jersey. clubs around the world. International adver- tising is fairly inexpensive and computerized (See also SEX T OYS) printing of newsletters has made it simpler to form clubs. People with feti s hes as SEX CLUBS Sex cl ubs that spon sor obscure as la rge pe ni ses, b ig balls, h airy social activities for those with u nusual bodies, m ud wrestlers, shaving, cigars, used sexual proclivities seem to h ave become condo m s, ge nital mo difi ca ti on , a nd m ore prevalent in modern times. Ancien t throwing pies h ave been able to find others worshippers of fertility religions engaged in with similar interests willing to fo rm clubs. their favo rite 'perversions' openly without Some of the la rger clubs include New York's being criticized by others. Of course, most Eule nsp iegel Society, the Chicago Hellfi re of these societies did not condone the same Club, and Los Angeles' Thresh old. T he San condu ct between holida ys, altho ugh there Francisco area may have as many as a hun- may have been secret organizations that did. dred clubs but the most prominent are the Back Drop, Outcasts, ETVC, Mother C lubs were formed in opposition to the Goose C lub, and the Society of Janus. Church's condemnation of pagan festivals in 16th century France. Two of these orga- BACK DROP CLUB The Back Drop is a nizations, the Society Joyuse and the Society fetish and fantasy club that was founded in of Dijon, rescued th e Feast of Fools, under 196 6. 1t probably has the largest mem ber- th e guise of its being a social activity. P eople ship and sponsors the most events. Their were thus ab le to continue this observance p rivate clubhouse is open to members from for a wh ile. The F eas t of Fools itself was noon u ntil l O:OOp m, seve n days a week. offensive to the Church because it included C lasses include in fo rm atio n on wrestli ng, cross-dressing, complete mockery of p hotograph y, leathe r fa brica tion, slave Chu rch rituals, flagellation, wearing masks, training, cross dressing, spanking, and water and the throwing of black pudding (some sports. The club sponsors many interesting say feces) into the crowds. social eve nts as we ll. T h ere are Ro m an H olidays \\.vith gladiators, slaves, costumes, a In the 18th century an E nglish man Ro man feast, parties for tra nsvestites, a named Sir Francis Dashwood began a weekly slave auction , video nights, fash ion brotherhood of Medmenham. He purchased sh ows, and a flea ma rket once a mon th and remodeled an abbey in Medmenham where members can exchange or sell their for this purpose. In 1760 this group began sex equipment. holding their meetings there and the once stoic abbey now displayed sexua l statues an d painti ngs wi th lewd inscription s

SEX CLUBS 248 SEX CLUBS ETVC The ETVC is a club for transvestites, SOCIETY OF JANUS The Society of Janus transgenderists, transsexuals, their spouses, was founded in 1974 by Cynthia Slater and and therapists. The club has over 400 mem- has grown to have approximately 450 mem- bers to which it provides regular social func- ber s. Similar to other S/M clubs they tio ns, sup port groups, outreach program s, sp onsor play parties th at have themes su ch and a library. ETYC offers its mem bers the as S lave Auctions, H alloween Parties, opportunity to dress up for the evening and Bondage and Beau ty Pageants, Beat Your socialize with others. Their social eve nts Vale ntine, a nd Costumes. One sees a variety include an annual beauty pagean t, outings, of activities at these parties such as bi nd- lingerie shows, poker games, casino nights, ings, foreplay, bondage, mummifications, and more. T hey also offer classes on the suspension, spankings, whippings, and use finer arts of passing as female. of sex toys. Rules and activities vary according to orga nization but they d is- MOTHER GOOSE PRODUCTIONS T he courag e gen ita l penetration, fi sting, Jack and Jill Off masturbation parties are urophilia, coprophilia, and other more spe- sponsored by the Mother G oose Club. H ere cialized interests. A description o f what one p eople must follow simple rules pertaining would see at Janus' Bondage and Beauty to safe sex (penetration is not allowed) and Pageant is as follows: the use of condoms, latex gloves, and dental dams. Social rules requ ire that a person asks Upon enl1J1 through a locked door one pays for permission before touching another and iheir cover charge and receives a ballot. The respond politely to anyone who says no. social room is filled with figures clad with black P eople must either dress in costume or wear leather, jea11s, and a few business siiits. Their nothi n g at all. The parti es are open to faces show expressions ranging from sober, anx- people of any sexual p reference. Unlike ious, and preoccupied, to warm, ji-iendly and group sex houses, bi-sexuality is permitted fesii ve . Voices and rustling can be heard and men are not required to bring a female through a doorway thac opens co a large dun- in order to attend. The club provides hors geon where people are busy placing their part- d'oeuvres but some people b ring whipped ners in bondage for the contest. People know cream, chocolate syrup, or kama sutra oils one another and there seems lo be a friendly to enha nce their sex play. Some people exchange of humor, advice and assistance. A engage in light bondage or S/M but most woman brushes by and you turn to see her people are novices without prior group sex leading a naked man by a leash attached only experience. There are usually about a hun- to his genitals. By this time many of the other dred m embers at the parties and the age of participants are in different stages of dress. A the people is slightly younger than what is beautiful young woman wearing a wedding found at group sex houses. T here also seem dress is in one corner, her bodice is pulled down to be more wet spots on the linens by the and on her nipples are rings that support small end of the evening. The same Mother weights, and her feel are apart; being held in Goose C lub sponsors Jack O ff parties for place with spreader bars. The front of her dress me n and Jill Off parties fo r females . has been raised to expose her genitals from which another weight hangs from a chain and OUTCASTS The Ou tcasts is a female S/M ball chat has been inserted inco her vagina. On organization that sponsors theme parties the floor co their right is a man in black latex and a monthly lecture that may be anything who has his arms and legs bound with belts, his from discussing the politics of being a black genitals protrude, and have a paper plate sur- lesbian sadomasochist to piercing and lacing rounding them. Spaghetti is being sensually dem on strations. This group sponsors a eaten off the plate by his consort. Two women booth at the SF Lesbian and Gay Freedom are standing near the center, one encasing her Day Parade and often catches the attentio n naked partner in elaborate rnacrarne. On stage of spectator s when they, the Dykes on are two people who have been bound in a Bikes, lead the parade or when they demon- s1anding position and their hoods auached to strate whippings a t their booth.

S EX CLUBS 249 SEX C O NFE R E N C ES ihe ceiling wilh chains. A woman is standing Assoc iation for Sexology, The Ann ua l near ihem wilh her hands cuffed behind her National C onferen ce on Sexual Com- back. She is bare-chested and held in position pulsivity/Addiction, National Organization by chains that are snapped to her nipple rings. of Circumcision, the International Along ihe side wall is a woman who has been Conferen ce on AIDS, Mensa Sexyg, and placed in a cage wearing only a slave collar. the International W orld Sex Conference. Near her is a naked man who has been cuffed Most of these are designed for medical pro- onto a rape rack and his mistress is gently tor- fessiona ls or people with an academic turing his exposed scrotum with a riding crop. interest in sexology. There is informal A crowd has now gathered around a woman entertainment and som e sponsor erotic cos- who has been blindfolded and tied onto a chair, tume balls or dances. Special interest groups her a rms are pulled back and her legs are su ch as bi-sexuals, in fa ntilists, leathermen, spread lO the sides. H er master displays a exte n ded fami li es or po lyg a m is ts, and rather large butcher lmife and reaching down swingers also sponsor annu al conferences. slices two holes in the front of her sweater to expose her n aked breasts. There are about LIFESTYLES Lifestyles is an orga nization twenty entries in all and one must vote for the that hosts confere nc es for couples either best eniry in each category. Ballors are handed contemplating or living in open marriages. in and about ten winners with a best of show It was fo unded in 1974 by Bob McGinley, are announced and broughl onto the stage to Ph.D., a psychologist who felt it was impor - receive their awards. tant to organize a fo rum where people could exchange accurate knowledge about European sadomasochist grou ps include swinging and find emotional sup port in Club Doma in th e N e therlands, Club co p ing with other's resista nce to their Su nri se in Sweden, DSS M in England, chosen lifestyle. This group has several con - Papillo n in Canada, and SMil in Denmark ferences a year bu t its prim ary confere nce is and Norway. S/M support groups such as often h eld during the summer in L as Vegas. the New York group called the L esbian Sex Couples have the opportunity to attend out- Mafia have formed as well. standing lectures by prom inent psycholo- gi sts, h ypnotists, writers, and wor ksh op Anti-censorship groups exist to protect leaders. At night they ar e entertained b y people's ability to engage in safe and con- banquets, erotic costume balls, and lingerie sensual se xual b ehavior. Some of th es e discos. Private orgies and wife swap p ing are include Californians Against Censorship informal and arranged by some individuals. T ogether, Committee to Preserve Our The vendor booths acquaint couples with Sexual & Civil Liberties, England's the newest on-line computer programs for Cam paign Against Public Mor als, France's swinging, m agazine s, swi nger vaca tion Centre du Christ L iberateur pour Sexual packages, toys, sex je welry, personalized Minorities and, the Dutch Society for stationery, lingerie, and S/M paraphernalia. Sexual Reform. Other organizations exist Ma ny couples outside the swinging commu- that support all personal freedom s. These nity attend th ese co n fe rences because of are t h e American Civil Liberti es Union, their e ntertaining programs and the National Coalition Against Censorship, and refreshing sex- posi tive attitude shared by America's Libertarian political party. conference attendees. (See also SEX ALMANACS, SEX CONFER- NATIONAL S EXUALITY SYMPO SIUM ENCES and STRIPPING) The National Sexuality Symposium was fou n ded by K atheryn Roberts in 1990 and SEX C ONFERENCE S T here are several co-sponsored by Lifestyles, the Institute for sex conferences, conventions, and sympo- Human Sexuality, and the San Francisco siums held each year. These are sponsored Sex Information Switchboard. In addition by organizations such as the National to the conference, M s. Roberts publishes a Sexuality Symposium, the Society for the quarterly magazine and sponsors a monthly Scien tific Study of Sex, the World

SEX CON FEREN CES 250 SEX GAMES lecture and dance in the San Francisco area. began in 1974 and have been held in Paris, The agenda and entertainment are similar to Montreal, Rome, Mexico C ity, Jerusalem, those of the Lifestyles conferences but there Washington, New Delhi, Heidelberg, are more counselors and singles who attend Caracas, and in 1991 was held in with much less emphasis being placed on Amsterdam. The 1993 congress is sched- private parties. Lectures in 199l included uled for Rio de Janeiro and the 1995 for topics such as \"Alternate Personas\" by Osaka. Profess ional s in sex thera py and Willi am Henkin, Ph.D. and Sybil Holiday, ed ucatio n attend these conferen ces but \"Communication is the Best Lubrication\" o thers are also welcomed. The lectures are by Isadora Alman, MFCC, \"Sex a nd designed to provide atten dees with a broad D rugs\" by David Co le m a n , \"C reating variety of information. Top ics in 199 1 Successful Relationships\" by Stan Dale, included \"Psychosexual development\", \"Feminist Erotica\" by N ina Hartley, \" Sex \" Plasticity of primate sexual and reproduc- and Censo rship \" by Bobby L illy, \"Sex tive strategies\", \"Thcrapeu tical approaches Games for Couples\" by Walter Shelburne, towards victims of sexual torture, \" Sex and Ph.D., \"Erotic Massage\" by Kenneth Ray aging'', \"Therapy of erectile dysfunction \", Stubbs, Ph .D., a nd \"Erotic Film Maki ng for \"Sexuality and chronic kidney disorders'', Fun and Profit,\" by Janet Taylor. and so forth. THE SOCIETY FOR THE SCIENTIFIC (Sec also EROTIC BALLS, SEX CLUBS, SEX STUDY OF SEX This society was orga- HO TELS, SEX MUS EUMS, SEX RES T AU - nized in 1957 for sexologists a n d profes- RANTS and SEX SHOWS) sio n als such as psychologists, professors, physicia ns, students, or people who have SEX GAMES A game is defined by made a major contribution to the study of Webster's as \"any specific amusement or sex. Applications by new members are sport involving physical or mental competi- reviewed by the Board. In addition to con- tion und er specific rules.\" Sex games ferences, SSSS publishes a quarterly journal include board games where people use dice, of sex research and a newsletter. T hey have pawns, and a deck of cards; eac h g iving also created a Foundation to fund scientific explicit sex instructions. People can create resear~h in this field. The organization was their own sex games by making the prize a founded by Hugo Beige!, Harry Benjamin, fantasy fulfillm ent fo r th e wi nn er of any Albert Ellis, H enry Guze, H ans Lehfeldt, ordinary game. Others formulate their own and Robert Sherwin. Prominent past presi- game as in the case of Adult April F ool's d ents include Warde ll Pomeroy, Richard parties. Green, and John Money. Adult April Fool's parties are organized The lectures are clinical but anyone with so that each participant draws their assign- a sincere interest in human sexuality could ment fo r the evening from a hat. Samples of easily become engrossed with the wealth of these assignments include having to make information provid ed. P ast lectures have an obscene pho ne call to someone at the included \" Is it limerance or is it lust\" by party from another room, asking o ne's date James Weinrich, Ph.D., \" Lesbian erotic if they mind you signing the waiting list for archetypes\" by JoAnn Loulan, M.A., the midnight orgy, organizing a striptease \"Gambling and sexual behaviors of older show from volunteers at the parry, offering people\" by Adele Zorn, Ph.D. , and \"Erotic a dolla r to five different people to spend a Wars: What happe ned to the sexual revolu- minute alone with you in a dark bedroom, tion?\" by L illian Rubin, Ph.D. propositioning three people, pretending to be Dracula and having to nibble three WORLD CONGRESS FOR SEXOLOGY people on the neck, kissing three strangers, The World Congress fo r Sexology is spon- announcing that you are recently engaged sored once every two years by the Worl d and then propositioning a guest, convincing Association for Sexology. These congresses someone other than your date to take a are five-day international events. They shower with you, and finally , talking

SEX GAMES 251 SEX HOTELS someone of the opposite sex into letting you requires the players to draw a picture of borrow their underwear for a few minutes. word s o r phrases such as l ust and the Alternatively, everyone has to write out players who guess correctly get points. either their most bizarre, their favorite, or Sexual Lotto. is in the format of bingo their fantasy sex scene without signing the except instead of numbers people match paper. All of these are placed in a hat and sexual instructions. Getting to Know You. . drawn out at midnight and read aloud. If .Better, is designed to give one insight into people are willing they may also be called on their partners by the way they answer the individually at this time to read their original questions on each card. A slightly more assignment to the group and relay their provocative game is Sexual Secrets. by experience. TDC Games in which players draw a card and complete sentences such as \" The first Many sex games are simply mod ifica- time I touched a naked woman I.. ., or \"The tions of more common ones. The child's thought of making love to t\\¥0 me n at the game of Spin the Bottle is modified this way same t ime really makes me ...\" An so that instead of only receiving a kiss, the Enchanted Evening, is a board game that person who has the bottle point at them gets lists simple questions or acts for pla yers to to request a sexual favor of an yone else in comply with in order to finish th e game and t he circle. A circus game called the Ring have their secret fantasy fulfilled. The latter Toss was also adapted into a sex game. This is written on paper by each player preceding involves having men lie in a row and one by the game. One of the games involving actual one the women throw a sponge ring onto sex is called The Fantasy R ole-Playing Card the erect penis of the man they want. The Game For Couples, by American Playtime. owner of the penis and the winner then In this game the cards assign and describe engage in sex. Strip Poker is probably the roles to the players such as school teacher, most common game. Teenagers often play nurse, prostitute, novice, and dominatrix. it with the modifi catio n that everyone can The instructions suggest that the players stop when they get to underwear. Strip have the following props on hand before poker has also been modified for sex play by beginning the game: \"blindfold , body letting the winner of each hand select the powder, feather, honey or whipping cream, person of their choice to engage in sex for music for dancing, oil or lotion, soft ropes, five minutes; they then return to the table to sheet or cover.\" A slightl y similar game is play another hand. Dirty Dare, by Baron/Scott where the object is for a player re> complete two dares in cate- There are numerous sex games on the gories su ch as physical, messy, entertaining, market. Chippendale' s has a two sided and hot to the satisfaction of th e oth er jigsaw puzzle of their young male strippers. players in order to win. The props sug- There is a game called Dirty Words. where gested for this game are: \" ice cubes, whipped cream, eggs, oil, ketchup, mustard, players gain points peanut butter, bananas, pickles, powder, by the number of flour, and honey.\" sentences they can make with the 23 Computer board game programs such as cubes conta ining Intersextion. are available through some of words such as \"ear, the adults only networks. touch, bite, love, moist, lips, burn, (See also AUCTIONS, COMPUTER SEX, moan, cream , DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION and FANTASY c rotch \" , and so PLAY) forth . Forum Novel ties makes a ga m e, Private Parts., that is similar to Pin-the- SEX HOTELS Sex hotels permit Tail-On-the-Donkey, exce pt the los t swinging although most don't actively sup- appendage is a penis. T here is a similar ver- port it. Nudist resorts sometimes have pri- sion for those who prefer to play with a vate cabins and couples are permitted to female poster. Dirty P ictures. is a game that

SEX HOTELS 252 S EX HOTLINES discreetly approach others; however, some with ten single men without having a female nudist resorts will ask people to leave if they partner for himself. are caught soliciting. Brochures with park rules often inform new members of the ir There are several S/M hotels throughout preference. Europe and Japan where the hotel has a dungeon available for use by its guests. A west coast ho tel that supports nudity Swinging may not be condoned by the man- and provides an atmosphere conducive to agers. Some SIM hotels are private chalets swinging is California's Edgewater West that have equipped dungeons (usually Adult Resort. H ereare 80 rooms opening designed for only one couple). onto a private tropical setting with jacuzzis, swimming pools, fish ponds, and its own (Sec also SEX CONFERENCES and SEX night club. The management also provides CLUBS) exciting entertainment for holidays. For example, the entertainment for July 4th, SEX HOTLINES Sex ho tlines are sup- 1991 consisted of a Roman toga dinner ported by charities, government, or private party. Fruit was served by wenches (some- spon so rship. Hotli nes provide answers to times from on top of their breasts), followed questions people have about sexuality and by a banquet including breads in the form act as a referral service to therapists or spe- of penises and breasts. Entertainment\" cial interest organizations. They are not included a belly dancer and a male stripper there to entertain obscene phone callers. In who removed everything but the baby oil fact, the operators (most are volunteer) are rubbed onto his body by a mob of ravishing instructed to hang up or end any conversa- women. D essert was served from a rolling tion wh ere they suspect the caller is trying cart upon which was a beautiful nude to masturbate or become verbally abusive. female covered with fruit and whipped cream for dipping. The hotel rules con- One of the more general purpose sex cerning swinging are that when couples are hotlines is The San Francisco Sex in their rooms they close their drapes fo r Information switchboard. The types of privacy, leave them open if they want others questions volunteers are permi tted to to watch from o utside, and leave their answer a re more diverse because it is sup- sliding glass door and drapes open as an ported by private donations, fund raising invitation for otl1ers to join them. Couples parties, and training fees. Volunteers are not who enjoy nudity but who are not interested usually qualified therapists. The refore they in swinging themselves stay at the hotel are required to complete 50 hours of because they find the relaxed and friendly training on subjects that range from homo- environment refreshing. sexuali ty, diseases, S/M, zoophilia, incest, relationship counseling, surrogate work, and Sa n J ose California once had a small transsexuality before staffing the switch- motel swingers frequented. Here they would board. Once on-line the volunteers cannot leave their doors slightly ajar and place a counsel individuals. T hey are r estricted to photo of themselves on the outside as a listening, relaying information, and making courtesy. This practice is sometimes seen at referrals. swinger conventions when the whole hotel is reserved for their use. Other sex hotels Callers typically ask questions about anal include Beck's Inn in Fayetteville, North sex, S/M, cross dressing, fetishes, disease, Carolina, Eden Patio, and the Club Amour birth control, incest, and relationship prob- in France. Rio de Janeiro has several sex lems. The switchboard has a large catalog motels as does Japan. The Japanese cater to with hundreds of referrals fo r callers in ter- fantasy and on e may select from one of a ested in special sex clubs or sex related number of scenes. entertainment. The hotline does not make referrals for dates, escorts, or prostitutes. People are en couraged to bring their own The switchboard can only recommend that partner to sex hotels because a husband the person attend social functions or answer does not enjoy paying to share their wife personal ads.A few of San F rancisco's other hotlines are Men O vercoming Violence in

SEX HOTELS 253 SEX MAGICK Their Relationships, Men Who are Violent per son is able to visualize the app le and the to Women, and the AIDS Hotline. There energy flow they are the n able to visualize are also hotlines for gays, bi-sexuals, rape their fantasy god and the divine p owers victims, and diseases. which are u sed to enhance the sex act. (See also DISEASES and PHONE SEX) Two basic typ es of breathing are used during sex magick. Deep slow breathing has SEX MAGICK Sex magick combines a calming effect on th e body, it prolongs witc hcraft rituals, visualization, breath con- arousal by creating and storing energy trol, and tantra for an ultimate sexual expe- rather than burning it u p. Rap id and rience. Wiccans who practice sex magick shallow breathing generates and burns are rare and it is difficult to gain entry into energy. This type of breathing is done just the coven . prior to the sex act for a m ore intense o rgasm. (Refer to OXYGEN REGULATION) Covens are often formed according to sexual preference; gay, bisexual, or hetero- Ritual items used in sex magick include a sexual. Some members have sex with a chalice, an athame (two-edged knife), a red partner and others masturbate. T he rituals candle, a bell, a censer (an enclosed incense and chants differ from coven to coven; how- burner that swings by chains), and cauldron ever, their basis in repetition tends to be a (incense pot) . common thread. Rituals enhance emotions by conditioning. The mind anticipates the The sex magick ritual begins with each climax of the event and causes the body to person showering with warm water. This automatically respond. M ost of the rituals prepares a person physically by relaxing the u sed in sex magick are based on Wicca and m uscles and helpin g one focus on the subtle can be found in books su ch as The Spiral pleasure sen sations of their body. Dance, by Starhawk or many of the others on witch craft or Western tantra. The incense in the censer is lit and 3 tablespoons of rock salt is dissolved into the Sex m agick requires a proficiency in visu- water filled chalice. T he group sits together alization skills. One must be able to visualize in a circle and does a series of deep breath assorted colors, to create smells, tastes, meditations. The priestess brings the chalice to the center and each person places their sounds, or moods fingers on the rim visualizing and perhaps and to change them verbalizing the casting of their personal list at will. One popular of pains a nd sorrows into the salty water. As exercise for novices this is accomplished the water symbolically is that of visualizing turns dark and murky. T he priestess then an apple with its takes the chalice, stands, holds it above her colors, shapes, head and calls on the goddess of the moon smells, and tastes; to change the water of their afflictions into then eating it until pure crystal clear water. Everyone then joins only the core is left. in the chant: Another important visualization technique, the tree of life, She changes all she touches and all she teaches the studen t how to create and touches she changes, she changes all channel energy. The person sits in a com- she touch es and a ll she touches she fortable position and visualizes being con- changes ...c hange is, touch is, touch nected to the floor. N ext they grow roots us, change us, change is, touch is, that slowly sink into the earth, penetrating touch us, change us... deeper and deeper until they pass the water table, the rock, and into the core of the The priestess proceeds b y declaring that the earth. Here they feel the h eat and pull this water is pure as a bright white light. T h e energy back into their body, the genitals, goddess is asked t o bless the water and is through the spine, p ast the heart, into the then offered the first libation (a drop is neck, and out the top of the head. When a spilled). Each person takes a sip stating that they accept this change in their lives.

SEX MAGICK 254 SEX MAGICK Some circles follow w ith a second censer) and we call you. Awake, awake oh cleansing meditation. A crystal, pentagram, center (ring bell). or earth piece is held and used to ground what wasn' t caught the first time. Each All now join in a chant of: person lies on their b ack with their palms to the earth, holding on to the selected earthly Isis, Astarte, Diana, medium, visualizi ng that they are floating Hegate, Demeter, Kali, down into the earth like mud wh en the rain Inana, hits it, down so deep into the earth that they reach the core, then bringing that warmth Repeat four times. slowly back up into the body, re-energizing, and vitalizing it. Each person feels the Osiris, H oris, Merlin, power rise through the body, lighting it u p M onanin, Helios, Shiva, like a neon sign. Horned One The circle next banishes evil spirits that Repeat four times. may be present in the room. The priestess enters the center of the circle with an Coven members now lie naked o n the floor athame and calls to the spirits of evil to be wi th each of their bodies in the shape of a gone. All the members then respond with pentagram for the god identity meditation. \" We banish you, we banish you, we banish H ere each person takes on the form of a sex you, begone.\" divinity. In this position each point of the pentagram (head, left hand, left foot, right The priestess will then cast the circle by foo t, and right hand) is identified as a part pointing to the sky with her athame and of life's cycles: sex, self, pa ss ion, pride, saying \"Oh noon sky above, and earth power. T hese words are repeated as each below I salute you\" while she draws a penta- person visualizes each of these processes. A gram with the athame. She or an ass ista nt second meditation is done with love, then takes the salt water chalice, dipping wisdom, knowledge, law, and power. The t heir fingers in and flinging drops toward last meditation consists of each person visu- the East saying: \"With salt and water I alizing the life cycle: birth, initiation, con- purify the East.\" The censer is swung back summation, repose, an d dea th . Each person and forth before the East as the person experiences the power and energy of being a recites : \"With fire a nd air I in voke and god or goddess and each proceeds through charge the East. Oh guardians of the watch- d1e sex ritual in this new identity. tower of the East, powers of air we invoke and call you, be here now, (a ritual bell is One person now lies down and their rung) awake, awake oh spirits of the East.\" partner moves their hands over their body but without touching it. This pushes old The priestess next takes her athame and energy o ut of the body and is done by run- joins the East to the South. The same ritual ning the hand from waist up past the head with salt water, cen ser, and the bell is per- and from waist down the legs; the waist line formed for the powers of fire (afterward is never crossed. The old e nergy is now lighting the incense in the cauldron on the replaced with positive new energy from the altar). The priestess continues in the same consort by slowly blowing onto the goddess manner to the West for the powers of water along the same lines which the energy was and then the North for the powers of the released. The partner must be able to feel earth. The priestess steps once again to the the breath move up and down their body center of the circle and raises her adrnme as because this is the initial stimulation that she chants \"The circle is cast, we are causes sexual arousal. be tween the worlds beyond the bounds of time where night and day, birth and death, The couples exchange places and repeat joy and sorrow meet as one. Blessed be. Oh the performance on their consort. Once center above and center below we purify accompl ished, the energy is again you. We invoke you with fire and air (swing exchanged, but this time with a vampire suck. The couple takes turns kissing and sucking at the neck while visualizing a flow

SEX MAGICK 255 SEX POSITIONS of white e n ergy entering into th ei r bod y traying variou s sex acts. T here are also through their mouth. After each person is numerous private collections that are occa- satisfied, the vampire sucking is done to sionally exhibited to the p u blic, such as the each nipple and then to the genitals. Robert Mapplethorpe photo exhibit and Frederick's of H ollywood's collection of lin- T he two now join in the sacred sex act as gerie worn by movie stars. they continue to visualize the life cycles of the earth and their connection with it as Although not a museum, the famous div in e entities. The lover s remain joined Konarak temple near the southeastern shore until both return to a centered or relaxed of India is a p opular tourist attraction. It state. There may be a tingling or throbbing was built by King Narashima D eva around sensation throughout the body caused by 1250 C.E. and carved on its walls are many the excess generation of energy. sex scenes presumed to have been taken from the Kama Sutra. Sex was sacred to The circle is finally opened as people in Indians as one of their H indu scriptures the group h old hands and say \"The circle is suggests, \" It is n ot so important to know open, but unbroken, blessed be .\" A kiss is thyself as to be thyself; self-abandonment to then passed around the circle in a clockwise des ire begets freedom from th e same.\" direction. (Sex magick lessons from Indians celebrate the festival of Shanipuja at Karaqua, 1991, San Francisco) this temple once a year. Women who sur- vived illnesses during the previous year lie Adding ritual to an act creates a mystique garlands of flowers on a stone penis which and heightens the in tensity of arousal. This symbolizes generative power. is true even fo r those without p artners. An individual form of sex magick is practiced (See also SEX BOUTfQUES) by an organization called the Temple o f Psychic Youth (TOPY) which operates by SEX POSITIONS People are beginning ma il. Its members perform individ ual sex to experiment with various sex pos1t10ns rituals known as the 23 ritual. This ritual is without the shame or guilt that has been done on the 2 3rd of each month at imposed since the Catholic Ch urch 11 :23pm. The member lights a candle, accepted the laws of the Stoics who in 100 focuses on a favorite sexual fantasy, has an B.C.E. declared t hat couples could o nl y orgasm, and then puts some of the ejaculate have sex in a supine position with the male or vaginal secretions on a piece of paper. on top. These patriarchal laws led to 2,000 Spit is then added along with a drop of yea rs of inabi li ty to orgasm fo r m any blood and a pubic hair. These are attached women and sexual repression in general. to the p aper an d then mailed back to the Today sexual positions are engaged in to h eadquarters of the organization. facilitate deeper penetration, allow access to different par ts of a partner's body, and to (See also RITUAL SEX, SATAN WORSHIP regulate pressure on the penis or clitoris. and VISUALIZATION) A ma n who ejaculates quicker than he SEX MUSEUMS There are several would like can use a missi onary positio n museums th at have a collectio n of sexual with the woman on top or any other posi- artifacts or paraphernalia on display. The tion that offers the least pressure and fric- Venus Temple in Amsterdam has in its col- tion (in addition to using extra lubrication lection a mannequin of Marilyn M onroe in or a condom). Conversely, a person who the famous pose from her movie The Seven takes lo nger to ejaculate may select positions Year Itch . It is rigged so that w h en one that increase stimulation such as from pushes a button a burst of air causes her behind, missionary with the woman's legs skirt to blow upward exposing her legs and raised over his buttocks, a scissor position undergarments. They also have a collection where the penis hits the side of the vagina or of old photographs and two phone booths where the woman 's legs are h eld together. where on e can listen to a recording of a typ - ical fantasy hotline. P osition s that facilitate orgasm for women who prefer clitoral stimulation are A Peruvian museum has an adults only those with th e man lying (spoon position) section that di splays ancient pottery por-

SEX POSITIONS 256 SEX RINGS or standing behind while simultaneously caned by the waitresses if they don't finis h reaching around to stimulate her clitoris their vegetables. with his fingers. C litoral stimulation can be accomplished in the missionary position as (See also SEX HOTELS, SEX SHOWS and well. This is d one b y withdrawing the penis SEX MUSEUMS) a couple of inches so that the tip remains in the vagina and the base rests against the cli- SEX RINGS A sex ring refers to pedo- tori s. The penis is then rotated in circles or p hilia involving several childre n and one or thrust up an d down or back and forth, but m ore adults. T here are several types of sex always remaining in contact with the cli- rings. \"A solo ring consists of on e adult who toris. is sexually involved with small groups of children. There is no transfer of the children The use of chairs, p illows, swi ngs, day or of photographs to other adults. A syndi- beds, and counters can help one create new cated ring includes several adults who fo rm sex positions. a well-structured organizatio n for the recruitment of children, the production of Gay sex positions often include the 69 p o rnography, the delivery of direct sexual position for oral sex, the spoon for anal services, and the establishment of an exten - entry with one reaching around with their sive network of customers. In a transitional hand fo r manual stimulation, and mis- ring there may be more than one adult with sionary wh ere the botto m partner's legs are several children, but the organizational wrapped around the buttocks of the top aspect of the syndicated ring is m issing. T he male. Lesbians use the 69 position, some- tran sitional rings may be moving toward tl1e ti mes with their legs wrapped around each organizational status of the syndicated ring; other in a position that resembles a ball. for exam ple, the photographs may be sold\" Those who use strap on d ildos are able to (\"Respon se Patterns in Children a nd use many of the same positions engaged in Adolescents Exploited Through Sex Rings by others. and Pornography'', by An n Wolbert Burgess, R.N., D.N.Sc., Carol R. H artman, J essica Stewart compiled an excelle n t R. N ., D.N .Sc., Maureen P. McCausland, book on this subject entitled The Complete R. N ., M.S. and Patric ia Powers, R.N., Manual of Sexual Positions. It has over 200 M.S., American J ournal of Psychiatry, 14 1:5, photographs and includes positions for May 1984, pp. 656-662) . T he a uthors point grou p sex as well. out that bo ys were preferred most often, and in a study of 66 children 7 5% of the (See also AXILLJSM, CO ITUS A C HEVAL, \"victims demonstrated patterns of n egative COITUS A iVtAMMILLA, COITUS INTERFER- p syc hological and social adjustment after M0 RIS , GENUPHALLATION and HEAD the rings were exposed.\" Activity in one STANDS) ring included as many as I 7 boys going to a coach's home after school where ilie boys SEX RESTAURANTS There are several sat \" in a circle drinking bee r and smoking types of sex restaurants. Some, such as the marijuana'', then the man dressed in a Hj a rlt er Dam , a Swiss r es taura nt, all ow samurai outfit and signaled the boys to dominant women to anchor their slaves to a begin their sex ritual. After the orgy, which table or chair leg. Many American restau - ilie coach photographed, \"on e boy would be rants and bars during the 70's allowed other designated to have sex with ilie man.\" discreet fo rms of sex p lay such as fellatio under the table or toe jobs at the table. C hildren are less likely to report iliis type of sexual abuse because their friends and The Japanese have coffee shops called siblings are also involved; making it appear the No Pan K issa that are equipped with more normal. Financial rewards also serves mirrored tiles on th e fl oor to assist c u s- to provid e additional enticemen t. CAU- tomers who may want to look up the dresses TION: Any sexual activity between adults of their waitress. Incidently, the waitresses' and children, including sex rings, is illegal. uniforms do not include underwear. London, the home of whipping enthusi- asts, has School D inners where patrons are

SEX RI NGS 257 SEX SHOWS The psychological injury sustain ed by these Bangkok probably has the most variety. children and their parents is profound , and One club has a woman pulling a 25 foot the punishment fo r the perpetrator is severe. knotted cord out of her vagina. Others The temporary excitem ent and financial insert cigarenes, blow sm oke rings, and pull gain is not worthwhile. Children should also out a string of double edged razor blades- be forewa rned about such adult activities. one by one. This is accomplished by placing th e grou p of blades togeth er with p aper (See also INCEST, PEDOPHILIA, PORNOG- around them as they are inserted. Their RAPHY, PROSTITUTION and RAPE) removal requires the skill of an older per- former who slowly pulls on the string and SEX SHOWS (Autagonistophilia-person makes sure that the pressure is on the side performing) Sex shows vary according to protected by the paper. Other women are the laws of the hosting country, expertise of trained to shoot baskets with boiled eggs or the participants, creativity of the owners, to insert a whole peeled banana and drop and amount of money they are willing to chunks into a cup. Some have learned to spend for special effects. break balloons by inserting a dart gun into their vagina and shooting darts with their Sex shows in Amsterdam consist mostly vaginal muscles. The b ottle dance, where a of erotic dancing where several solo females woman squats and lowers herself onto the perform followed by the finale with a h et- neck of a bottle, also has a long history erosexual couple thrusting in time with the among prostitutes. music. W hile the sex act is sen sual, one is left with the impression that they were T he Philippines has sex shows near Clark Air Force Base wh ere women p ick up watching a dance a stack of coins two to three inches high routine. Other with their vagina and then release the coins clubs have women one by o n e. Others shoot ping po ng balls from the audience across the room from their vaginas, o r act come onto the out fake stabbing scenes with realistic props. stage to fellate the On e sh ow at the Thunder Dome has two male p erformers. naked women in a pool of water fighting as A sister city, Den though one will drown the other. Haag, features sex shows at Club T he Gargoyle club in London once had DOMA, a posh an act where a man threw bowie knives at a private S/M club. An audience of attractive naked wom an who was bound to a wheel. couples and a few older men sit in black leather booths watching a stage p erfor- A Vietnamese club had a woman sin ing mance of light bondage and S/M. These are on a swing that was attached to a pulley. mostly women who bring each other to This allowed a man to lie on the floor below climax throughout the different segments of the opening cut in the swing and raise and the show. Occasionally a volunteer from the lower the female onto his penis. audience is brought on stage to assist in the production. San Francisco is the home of the interna- Dallas, Texas has a private couples only tionally renowned O 'Farrell Theatre. The club that has sex shows provided by an fe m ales a re college age and all rese m ble elected couple each week. These two part- bea uty cont es tants. P erfo rm ances are ners then go through their routine for the restricted to females using dildos o r per- entertainment of the others. forming cunnilingus on each other due to a Pa ris has a restaurant called Les Deux city ordinance prohibiting sex with men on Boules where couples lie in n ets and engage stage. T h e theatre has regularly scheduled in sex above the tables of customers who performances through out the d ay in each of dine below. Germany's Mon Cheri club pro- its rooms. The m ain theatre h as a stage vides a bubble bath for customers to relax in where there are continual strip shows and with the female performers. lap dancers to entertain the audience. The Cine Stage has two female body builders

SEX S H OWS 258 SEX SURROGATES that do Jazzercise and weight workouts to surrogates over an 11 year period. Of these music and then end the show with a dildo men 32 recovered from their problems routin e. The stage, Behind the Green Door, (Masters WH, Jo hnson VE, 1970 , Human has showers where females stand in front of Sexual Inadequacy, London: J and A the water and dance; soon all but two Churchill, London). dancers leave the stage to lie on the cus- tomer's tables giving private shows to those The u se of sex su rrogates fl o urished who tip. The Kopenhagen R oo m has during the 19 70's but thereafter sharpl y couches along the walls on which customers declined. Benefits obtained from this type of sit in the dark and watch a couple of strip- personal therapy can be substantial. People pers have sex in the center of the room. All suffering from psychological impotence, are provided with flash lights to shin e on premature or retarded ejaculations, acci- parts of the body they find the most dents, disfigurements, and those with penis intriguing. The Ultra Room is rather implants are trained to deal with the compli- cation, and they often improve when unique . Here two dancers working with surrogates. Many problems perform sex in a room sur- are related to emotional bonding and the rounded by private booths client is also taught to work through ordi- with windows and a small nary dating relationships with the surrogate. space through which to slide Unlike a dating relationship the person is tips. Above the windows are not permitted to drop the surrogate when metal handles that th e they feel uncomfortable or prefer someone women use to hold them- new. The client's therapist encourages them selves up with while putting to work through their conflicts so that they a foot on each side of the can survive in a normal relationship. Many booth's window. A dildo with a suction cup clients never experience genital penetration is stuck to the glass and the woman then with their surrogate. Those who do have mounts it in su ch a way that the person in intercourse with the surrogate do it toward th e booth sees h er open vagina thrusting up the end of the treatment program. Once the and down on a large rubber penis. She may client is able to have intercourse t hey are also fellate the dildo afterward or have the often considered cured and no longer in other dancer join her for a special fisting need of a surrogate. show. A different sex th eater during the late 1970's had an additional featu re. The Surrogates are average looking males and dancer s inside the room slipped silk cords females who often work with either sex. through the small slot below th e window Average looks discourage abuses such as (normally used fo r tips), the man tied one those who might fabricate sexual problems end aroun d his penis, and the dancer tugged to be able to work with attractive partners. at the other end until the man ejaculated. Another reason therapists prefer average (See also EROTIC BALLS, SEX CLUBS, SEX looking surrogates is that this is a more real- CONFERENCES and SEX MUSEUMS) istic aspect of life. Middle aged men are encouraged to give up their fantasies of only SEX SU RROGAT ES Sex surrogates are wanting to have sex with 20 year old gor- trained to work with p sychologists in geous blonds. A surrogate teaches them to helping clients overcome sexual problems. value a person fo r more m eaningful The surr ogate norm all y pa ys $ 1, 000 to attributes. attend a 12-week training program where they learn anatomy, human sexual response, Surrogates come from a variety of back- communicati on, and other subj ects perti- grounds. Some are from sex related fields but nent to surrogate work. Masters and for whatever reason, prostitutes do not seem Johnson first reported r esults of treatment attracted to this profession. Each surrogate is for sexual dysfunctions with sex surrogates. expected to have a personal relationship of The study included 4 1 men and 13 different their own. This is desigr;ied to help prevent the surrogate from unintentionally using the client for their own emotional support.

S EX SU RR OGA T ES 259 SEXO LOGY The normal duration of treatment is once SE XOLOGY There are many physicians a week for 7 to 14 wee ks alth ough so me and psychologists who are renowned for older clients take 20-40 weeks. A surrogate their understanding of and contributions to may see from one to 10 clients a week and the science of sex. The followin g is only a will charge approximately $200 for a two- samp ling. hour session. The surrogate rarely has sex with more th an one or two of these clients a IWAN BLOC H Dr. Bloch (1 872- 1922)' week. (\"Sex Surrogates\", by C. Cohen and author of Psychopathia Sexualis, Sexual Life J. Robin son, Men sa Sexyg Gathering of Our time, and Vita Sexualis, made a major Conference, February 17-18, 1990) contribution to sexology. His early resear ch on syphilis led him to conclude that sexual (See also IMPOTENCE and SEXOLOGISTS) problem s could not be und erstood based exclusively on theo logy, medicine, law, or SEX TOYS See ABRASIONS, BONDAGE, anthropology. H e felt that \"the two fu n da- mental p illars of sexual in vestigation-bio- CLAMPS, COCKRINGS, CU PPIN G, EL EC- logic observation and cultural research TRIC SHOCK, FORNICATORY DOLLS, -demand ed a restricted, independent rig- GENITAL/ANAL li'ISERTS, GROPING APPAR- orous science that wou ld unite all the var- ATUS, ICE, JEWELRY, KLISMAPHILIA, ious methods of observation in one\" KNIVES, KOKIGAMI, MEDICAL SCENES, (Strange Sexual Practices by Iwan Bloch, OXYGEN REGULATION, PENETRATION Introduction by Dr. Victor Robinson). TOYS, POWER TOOLS, SEX GAMES, STA- PLING, SWINGS, and SYBTAN HAVE LOCK ELLIS Ellis (1859- 1939) was a n English physician, son of a sea-captain SEXERC ISE Sexercise is a name for who took him as a young boy aboard his exercises engaged in during intercou rse ship to Australia and Peru. T his early expo- and/or those that tone muscles used for sex. sure to different cultures later instilled in Ellis a tolerant attitude regarding individual Sexercise includes such exercises as 30 or sexual choices. Adolescence again saw him 40 deep sucking movements up and d own in Australia and it was h ere that he studied the penis during fellatio which is excellent m edicin e. H is renown ed seven vo lu me for keeping facial muscles toned. Sexercise book, Studies in the Psychology of Sex, gained can also be in the fo rm of push-ups or world -wid e attention. Sex was o nly o ne of pelvic th rusts d uring coitus or keep ing the the subjects that caught his interest. H e buttoc k muscles sq ueezed togeth e r fo r as wrote 17 books on politics and medical sci- long as possible. W o men can practice ence within 44 years. Ellis led a quiet revo- squeezing their pubococcygeus muscle 1u tio n to free peop le of the ir prejudice around the penis. This is the same muscle against those whose sex lives were d ifferent. that is used to stop the flow of u rine. Once develop ed, a woman can massage the penis SIGMU ND FRE UD Freud (1856-1939) with these vaginal muscles. This is also began as a neurologist in Vienn a and referred to by some as the \"snapping pussy\" became the father of psychoanalysis. His or kystapaza that has made some Asian clinical work with patients who had experi- prostitutes famous. M en are able to do enced sexual trau ma duri ng child hood led something similar by raising and lowering him to develop theories regarding the effect the penis. Leg m uscles can be exercised by sexual developmen t has on behavior. one partner squatting over the face or geni- Although not p opular among his colleagues, tals of the other. Freud gained a following. H is books were soon burned in Nazi Germany which Partners can be creative with sexercise, banned them as representative of a \"Jewish even using special music as an accompani- science.\" H e died of cancer in England a ment. P enetration is not always necessary. A year after the Nazi invasion of Austria. His naked couple may merely dec ide to go contribution to sexology was his having the through regular exercises together that require body contact. (See also KABAZZAH and MASTURBA- TION)

SEXOLOGY 260 SEXO LO GY courage to take sex seriously during a discovering how little scientific knowledge period when oth ers evaded serious research was avai la ble about hu ma n sexuality, or d iscussion of the subject ( The Sex Atlas, decided to laun ch a systematic study. In 1948 h e astounded the pub lic with the by Erwin J. H aeberle, pp. 488-489). releas e of his findings from 16,000 inter- views in Sexual Behavior in the Human Male. MAGNUS HIRSCHFELD Hirschfeld His method o f gathering info rmatio n has ( 1868-1 935) , like his father, was a physi- been criticized by some. But considering the cian, although his first studies were in phi- almost impossible challenge of gathering losophy. While traveling in Africa he saw random samplings from peo ple who are civilizations that were tolerant and accepting willing to be honest about thei r sex life, he of sexual d eviances. This made him more accomp lished an enormous feat. tolerant and helped co nvince him that puri- tanical European society had inflicted RICHARD VON KRAFFT-EBING Krafft- unnecessary sexual mores on people. H e Ebing (1840-1 902) was a psychiatrist and later began a movem en t to peti tion th e neurologist. H e became interested in sexual Reich stag to remove a law in the C riminal deviancy while staying with his grandfather Codes against homosexuals. Soon he cre- in Heidelberg, Germany. This grandfather ated the Institute for Sexual Science. At the was an attorney wh o d efended peop le Institute the clinic offered free medical charged with sex offenses in a P u ritanical adv ice, th e university section had lectures society. Krafft-Ebing studied and gained an that were open to the public; there was also expertise in \"hypnosis, hysteria, criminal a marriage counseling center, and a library psychopathy, geriatrics, epilepsy, menstrual that was available fo r anyon e's u se. psychoses, migraine, and masochism.\" H e is Hirschfeld wrote books such as Sappho and known p rimarily for h is book Psychopathia Socrates, Naiural Laws of L ove, Ho mo- Sexualis (which was the first comprehensive sexuality, and his 3,000 page Sexual listi ng of sexual aberrations), fo r em pha - Pathology. H e was compassionate and sizing \"the importance of clitoral orgasm,\" fought in court as a medical expert to and bringing the scien tific discussion of defe nd p eople charged with sexu al offenses. ho mosexuality into the op en ( Psychopathia H e was also responsible for the initial dis- Sexualis, Introduction by Franklin S. Klaf). covery that hormones played a role in sexual behavior, and t hat \"sexu al anomali es are WILLIAM H. MASTERS Masters (1915-) caused by irregularities in development.\" At is a medical researcher who con ce ntrated the end of his life he fo und himself exiled, his studies on hormon e replacement therapy h is Institute d estroyed, his books publicly fo r p ostmen opausal women during an era burned, and his colleagues imprisoned when major discoveries were being made in (Sexual Anomalies and P erversion s, this field. H e is better known, however, for Publisher's P reface, pp . 17-25). his research in cou ple sex therapy. In 1971 he married his research partner Virginia VIRGINIA E . JOHNSON Johnson (1925-) Johnson. (See Virginia E. Johnson.) married William M aster s and worked together with him to gather data from labo- JOHN MONEY Money ( 1921 -) has written ratory testing of coup les engagin g in sex. several popular books: Straight, Gay and Jn- Volu nteers were hooked up to instruments Between, Lovemaps, Love & Love Sickness, to monitor their physiological responses as The Destroying Angel, Traumatic Abuse and they engaged in sex. Johnson and Masters Neglect of Children at H ome, an d Venuses also filmed many of these couples. The data Penuses. He \"is internationally known for his collected was publish ed in their book, clinical and research work in the new and Human Sexual Response. The information growing science of developmental sexology. they gathered also provided the basis of a In sexology he first form ulated and defined treatment program they offered to cou ples. the concept of gender role and identity. H is (See also W illiam H . M asters.) clinical contributions include hormonal treatment fo r male sex offenders, sex reas- ALFRED KINSEY Kinsey (1894-1956) signme nt in transsexualism, and the psy- was an entomologist who, appalled upon

SEX OLOGY 261 S EXUAL H ARASSMENT choendocrinology of birth defects of the sex l 930's he escaped under threat of death . organ s\" (Lovemaps jacket cover). M oney Even in America he was subject to much has also coined many new words, giving us harassm en t. His books were banned and the tools to communicate more precisely b urned, and his laborato ry was vandalized . regarding complex gender changes and The Food and Drug Adminis tration paraphilias. (For reference purposes, a com- obtained an injunction to prevent Reich and plete list of these terms follows: his followers from using the word \"orgone\" and Reich was later arrested on \"a technical Acrotomophilia, Adolescentilism (p araphilic), viola tion of an in jun ction , an d died in Androgynophilia, Andromimesis, Apotemnophilia, prison.\" Books such as The Mass Psychology Asphyxiophilia, Autagonistophilia, Autassassin- of Fascism, The Function of the Orgasm, The ophilia, Autonepiophilia, Autophilia, Biastophilia, Sexual R evolution, and Listen, Little Man Catheterophilia, C hrematistophilia, C hronophilia, survived. There are also institutes such as Displacem e nt Paraphilia, Ephebophilia, the Orgone Biophysical Research Lab, in El Erotophonophili a, Exige n cy t heor y, F etishistic/ Cerrito, California that continue his Ta li sm anic P arap hilia , Form icophi li a, G- I/R research on orgone energy (Natural Energy (gender-identity/role), Gender coding, Gender Works catalog, p. 2). His theo ries on orgone crosscoding, Gendermap, Gender Role, Gender are n ot generally accepted in the scientific tra n sposit ion, Gerontalism-pa raphilic, Geron- community but his works on sexuality and t op hilia, Gynemimesis, Gynemi metophilia, the effects of a sexually repressive govern- Hybristophilia, Hypophilia, Infantilism- paraphilic, ment on human h ealth are once again I nfantoph ilia , Incl u sion P araphilia, Juvenilism- receiving a ttention. (Pe rsonal communica- paraphilic, Kleprophilia, Marauding/Predatory tion with Robert Moore and D on Paraphilia, Mercantile/Ve nal Paraphilia, Eckerstrom of the Healing D ynamic Center, Morphophil ia, Munchausen's syndrome by proxy, in Arizona.) Na rratophilia, N ep iophi lia, N o rmophilia, Ol factop hilia, Palcodigms, Peodeiktophilia, Phylism, There are many m ore physicians, psychia- Picro philia, Raptophilia, Sacrificial/Expiatory trists, researchers, anthropologists, and Paraphilia, Sex adjunctive, Sex adven titious, Sex writers who have made major contributions derivative, Sex irreducible, Sexosop hy, Skoptic to our understanding of sexuality but whose Syndrom e, Solicitational/Allurative Paraphilia, individual contrib utions, fo r space consider- Somnophilia, Stigma tic/El ig iblic pa r ap hilia, ations, cannot be mentioned. T oday coun- Stigmatoph ilia, Subrogation/understud y paraphilia, selors and researchers can obtain a degree in Symphorophilia, Telephonicophilia , Transvest- sexology. One su ch d octorate program is ophilia, an d Vandalized lovemaps. F or definitions of offered at the Institute for the Advan ced some of these terms see Gay, Straight, and Jn- Study of Human Sexuality ( 1523 Franklin Between, Oxford University Press, 1988) Street, San Francisco, California 94 109). They may be contacted for referrals to qual- WILHELM REICH Reich ( 1897-1 957) was ified sexologists in o ne's local a rea. a psychoanalyst who studied under Freud. He brought about much of his later misfor- (See also BIRTH CONTROL, CELIBACY and tune by mixing sex and politics. H e com- ST. AUGUSTINE) piled volumes of research o n human sexualit y and was t he fi rs t to ana lyze SEXUAL HARASSMENT Section 703 orgasms and divided them into four phases. of Title VII of the C ivil Rights Act of 1964 Several of hi s stud ents went on to make reads \" Unwelcom e sexual advances, great contributions as well. One developed requests for sexu al favors, and other verbal Gestalt therapy and another founded or physical conduct of a sexual nature con- Esalen. H e was also a scientist who discov- stitute sexual harassmen t when ( 1) submis- ered, among other natural phenomena, the sio n to such con duct is ma de either \"bion and T bacilli, which are microscopic exp licitly or implicitly a term or condition of forms that originate from the disintegration an individual's employment, (2) submission of organic or ino rganic mate rials, a nd which to or rejecti on of such conduct by an indi- lie at the border between the living and non- 1iv ing world s. \" Hi s wo rks , in Nazi Germany, soon brought about his expulsion from the Communist P arty and in the mid-

SEXUAL HARASSMENT 262 SEXUAL HARASSMENT vidual is used as the basis for employment male friends. These men reali ze that they decisions affecting such individual, or (3) are being insulting but are exhibiting acts of such conduct has the purpose or effect of 'bravery'. The same type of bravery is unreasonably interfering with an indi- observed in primitive tribes where one vidual's work performance or creating an hunter would run ahead of a group to attack intimidating, hostile, or offensive working a large animal or enemy. environment....The victim as well as the harasser may be a woman or a man. The Females are not usually taught to over- victim does not have to be of the opposite come or work through their fears. It is con- sex.\" sidered culturally acceptable in many societies fo r them to be victims, depending One difficulty in understanding sexual on a fath er figure to solve problems. harassment is that similar sexual 'communi- Women often compete with peers using cation' made to 10 separate people elicits 10 appearance, wardrobe, or seduction tech- different reactions ranging from anger and niques that are also part of courtship rituals rejection to a favorable response. Deeper designed to attract male sexual attention. understanding requires that we look at why sexual harassment occurs and why harassees Women grow up p hysically weaker than feel victim ized. Almost all 'recognized' and men. This creates an important psycholog- reported sexual harassment is of women by ical handicap. Females worry about possible men. However, females employed in upper rape or assault any time they walk down a management have become more aggressive dark street alone. Some women experience and some intimidate their subordinate male similar fear in their own homes. Few men workers similarly. Females lacki ng thi s can comprehend such concerns but it helps power use more covert forms of harass- to understand because it ca n affect a ment. (See RAPE) woman's emotions when a man approaches her. She implicitly realizes that he could Developing males typically learn to over- overpower her at any moment. And yet, the come fear. They face continual pressure, male is usually oblivious to her concern. such as defeat by unscrupulous competitors. They must submit to the rage of superiors. Sexual harassment involves a 'political' They must often fight to get what they want power game between men and wom en or deserve. They learn by experience that (power is defined here as the control of the stronger male takes what he wants, then something someone else wants) . So a fights to keep it. Some men have difficulty woman has power, provided she says \"no\" chan ging from competing in their daily lives to sexual advances, and a man can usurp to vying for the attention of women. that power only if he gets a favorable sexual response or takes what he wants by There are various types of sexual harass- unscrupulous tactics such as threatening her ment of women by men. Some men are with dismissal (his power ploy). merely egalitarian- they tell jokes a nd dis- cuss sex with women just as they would This subtle power struggle makes sexual with men. They do not expect to be p hysi- harassment an important issue among femi- cally intimate wi th the woman and may not nists attempting to keep the scales balanced. want such intimacy. Other men need flat- Another concern about sexual harassment tery or special attention; they seek the love noted by the heterosexual majority is the and nurturance that sex implies and are inclusion of opinions regarding male sexu- m ore prone to d eveloping relation ships . ality from lesbian leaders of the feminist W h en such a man is rejected, h e often movement. While lesbians may be th e first becomes angry and may seek revenge to to notice female repression and job d iscrim- assuage h is pain. If he is unscrupulous, he ination, the lesbian view of male sexuality is may threaten the woman or try to harm her different from the attitude of heterosexual reputation or career. Other men are inse- women. Sexual harassment between hetero- cure about whether their friends like them sexua l men and wo me n is dampened, and will only harass women in front of su ch because in an y relationship a partner is judged on over-all performance, attributes

SEXUAL HARASSMENT 263 SEXUA L H ARASSMENT weighed against fau lts. Heterosexual women Women who merely spoke up in church involved in close, loving relationships with or agains t m ale au thority were pu t into men can make this adjustment, but lesbians \"Branks\" or \"Scold's Bridles\" (m etal typically cannot. This is particularly true of masks) and staked in public squares where lesbian feminists who have been raped by their felJow church members smeared them men. Heterose>..'Ual women are more willing ;vith feces or mutilated their breasts and to accept men 's desires, for example genitals sadistically. People who refused to 'raunchy' magazines, and their lust for attend church on Sunday regula rly despite women. Lesbians are much less likely to feel warnings, would also be tortured for heresy. this compassion, or benefit from the power heterosexual men bestow on women they Medical science panicked people by next find attractive. In this context, simila r sepa- reporting that loss of semen, for example in ration of the sexes led single male clergy to masturbation, caused insanity and created support burning thousands of witches th e same abnormalities as castrat ion . between the 13th and l 7th ce n turies. Parents began having their children's geni- Because they didn't have relationships with tals infibulated or b listered to prevent them women, they were unable to regard them as from this fate. human. It is against this backdrop that many Women also differ from men in being people of today's generation respond to dis- less sexu ally attracted to men as a group. A cussions of sex with fear and apprehension. female in love with one man often finds the This typ e of unfounded, superstitious fea r touch of any other male offensive, whereas promotes ignorance, sexual repression and m onogamous men do not seem to be as harsh judgments against those trying to threatened by flirting, sexual conversation develop a more matu re and rational opinion and casual touching. of sexual variance. This is the foundation of the second fea r that affects man y people's In addition to the physical fear of rape, definition of sexual harassment-the social another major fear influencing women in fear of engaging in so-called 'deviant' their reactions to sexual harassment is social behavior. fear of engaging in so-called 'deviant' b ehavior. In dealing constructively with sexual ha rassment, the harassee's discomfort or Social disapproval and repression of sex fear must be communicated explicitly to the is deep seated in many cultures. Society has harasser who must reply in a way showing imposed harsh judgments against those that he or she understands the objection defying the narrow confines of 'normal' sex. before the communication is ended. This has endured for so many generations that people in most cultures are no longer Some women assume incorrectly that a aware of the basis of these beliefs nor of d isgusted facia l expression conveys disap- their origins. proval. T h ey are enraged that a man con- tinues in the face of such a warning. This is Considering conditions in 17th through the thinking of a 'trained' victim afraid to 19th century Europe we can see the origins communicate feelings to another p erson. On of many of our negative a ttitudes about sex. the other hand no harasser should be held During this time some of our ancestors were responsible fo r suc h conduct unless the shackled to the front walls of churc hes and offended party clearly comm unicates disap- humi liated by people in their communities proval. This disapproval sh ou ld also be for minor sex offenses. Women who taught valid. People are not obliged to avoid sexual birth control or became pregnant out of discussions an y more than d iscussions on wedlock were accused of heresy. As punish- religion or politics, wh ich will also inevitably ment their breasts were pinched off by a hot offend some people. \"Breast Ripper,\" or their vaginas ripped out by the \"Oral, Rectal , and Vaginal Pear.\" People who find th eir working e nviron- The latter was used on the rectum of gays, ment intolerable have a better case when who also faced the possibility of being sawn they document occurrences of harassment, in half for their 'sin' while still alive. obtain witn esses, and show that they com- municated their feelings to the offender and

SEXUAL HARASSMENT 264 S IT OPH ILI A to management. Charges of sexual harass- Brown showers refer to partners who ment are reported to field offices of the U.S. defecate on one another. This may also be Equal Employment Opportunity Com- done using enemas, some of which may mission. consist of diluted wi n e or food. (Refer to (See also RAPE) COPROPHILIA and COCKTAILS) SHAVING See DEPILATION T he Roman shower, or emetophilia, is rare. In such cases people typically drink SHOWERS (Mysophilia-arousal from wine or urine and then soiled cl othing or fo u l decaying od ors) vomit these contents Sexual showers refer to the expulsion of onto a partner or into natural fluids onto a partner's body for a bowl. One form is arousal. A golden shower is comprised of called a chocolate urine, a milk shower of milk, a spit shower mousse and consists of saliva, a brown shower from feces, semen of a combination of a from semen, and R oman showers from Roman and brown shower. The person vomit. swallows wh ipped cream and then the ir partner gives them an enema with chocolate Semen showers are the most common pudding. Once prepared the person defe- and certainly the most accepted. These are cates the pudding onto the partner and then done between the breasts, abdomen, but- vomits the whipped cream on top. This cre- tocks, o r on the face. Some are 'forced' to ates a dessert for one or both. ejaculate on their own face as a form of humiliatio n in S/M games. America n porn Some may be tempted to make judg- actors almost always ejaculate on the but- ments about those who engage in this tocks or abdomen of their partners. Some behavior. However, among practitioners are showers are staged with the assistance of a several Christian ecstatics who were later mechanical penis that ejects an egg white canonized . Alacoque and later Madame mixture. Guyon both spoke of irresistible desires to clean up the vomit of sick patients with only Milk sh owers consist of a lactating their tongue and St. John of the Cross found woman squeezing her milk onto a partner, a pleasure in sucking on the sores of lepers. non-lactating partner using commercial mi lk CAUTION : The exchange of body fluids is to rub over their own breasts, or someone not considered a safe sex practice. pouring it onto the p a rtner. (See also LAC- SIDERODROMOPHILIA Siderodro- T APHILIA) mophilia (siderodromo: trains; philia: attachment to) refers to those who are Spitting is most often used as a lubricant aroused by train s. Coupl es someti me s but is also done in S/M games involv ing reserve a cabin and will have sex standing in humiliation. (See SPITTING) front of the window as the train passes through a town or a station. Others squeeze Golden showers are comm on during into bathrooms or sneak quickies in corners. adolescence with th e 'shooting' of insects, Trains provide more privacy and opportu- animals, a nd friend s. Some write their nity to socialize than airplanes or buses. names in the snow and others compete for who can shoot the longest distance. A large (See also COITUS A CHEVAL, DOGGING, percentage of men questioned as to whether HODOPHILIA and TUNNEL OF LOVE) they had urinated on partners in the shower indicated that they had, some doing it SIN See PECATTrPHIUA without their partner's knowledge. Golden showers are sprayed on the face, body, geni- SITOPHILIA (Botulinoni a- sex with tals, or mouth of a partner. Some consider sausage) Sitoph ili a (s ito: foo d ; philia: this to be a form of humiliation but others attachment to) refers to those who use food love the warm sensation , closen ess, and for sexual purposes. Masturbation aids are tru st it provides. (Refer to chapter on UROPHIL!A.)

SITOPHILIA 265 SLAVES found in the form of corn cobs, squash, oped a game where the wife, after dismissing cuc umbe rs, bananas, sausages, warm herself during a formal dinne r to go to the melons, liver in a milk carton, or a jar of woman's restroom, upon returning would honey. dip her finger in som e fo od and put her finger to her husband's lips asking him to try One gastronomic game is used in it. People at the table, if they noticed at all, b ondage scenes. The male partner is first thought he was only tasting food, while in immobilized , a pap er plate is cut so that a fact she had first dipped her finger in urine. The same is done with vaginal secretions. 2\" diam eter hole is 0 m ade off-center. The P eople aroused by lactating breasts sometimes drop cream onto a partner's nip- plate is held over the ples and then lick it off. Sex surrogates use m ale genitals and food to get some clients back in touch with these are pulled their body. The surrogate gets the client through so that the excited and salivating by slowly rubbing genitals now loo k as their favorite food on their body. This though they are being reconditions their bodies to respond to ser ved on a platter. touch. Food orgy parties are organized by Luke warm spaghetti indiv iduals where fri ends bring either an and meatballs are served onto the plate and, erotic arrangement of food on a dish to with fork in hand, a helpless male is told h e sh are, or food that fee ls sen su ous when is about to be fed his own balls. It doesn' t rubbed onto a partner and licked off; after- matter who eats the m eatballs but each ward everyone soaks in a h ot tub. There are strand of spaghetti is sensu ously wrapped all-male games such as \"Shoot the Cookie\" around the p en is and su cked through the where males stand in a circle around a lips before being eaten. cookie and masturbate. The rule dictates Another use of food is that of taking a that the last one who ejaculates on the plum tha t is slightly slit, pitted, and pushed cookie has to eat it. onto an erect glans penis. Once secure this can be inserted into a partner's vagina, Food can be used for a form of flagella- adding volume and pressure for both part- tion . A regular client of a n Oregon bordello ners. Banana carving contests are used as during the 1940's would pay to have two erotic teases at adult parties. A row of con- prosti tutes watch him strip naked , put on testants a re lined up, given a banana, and high h eels, get into a tub of bath water, and then told to compete with each other for walk back a nd fo rth. His only request was who can carve the most realistic penis with that they throw oranges at his buttocks as he only their teeth. Som e strip pers use a paced. He would then get out, p ick up the cucumber in a pse udo-castration scene ora nges, replace them in his paper bag, where they have a man hold a cucumber dress, and leave. (Personal communication.) between hi s u pper thighs and then proceed to fellate the green erection. As the audience (See also COCKTAILS, LACTAPHILIA, PIE becomes enthralled the stripper bites off the THROWING and STUFFING) tip of the cucumber. People sometimes suck on a lime befo re oral cunnilingu s to make SLAPPING See FLAGELLATION their taste buds swell, creating more texture when rubbed against sensitive genital tissue. SLAVES (Famulus) There is great variety There are sp ecial caterers that design cakes in how people use sex slavery. The most and pastries with a sexual theme. famous sex slave was t he Biblical Samson Peop le also stuff objects like grapes, wh o was captured by the Philistines and, small tomatoes, peeled and cooled hard according to the Talmud, used to insemi- boiled eggs, a nd sm all pieces of ice into the nate their wives in order to produce a race rectum for erotic p leasure. (Refer ro section on of superhumans. They blinded him so that this task would be easier. ANAL SEX.) M ost do not live as slaves 24 hours a day Another use of food consists of combining but rather practice it for a few h ours once a it with body secreti ons. One couple devel-

SLAVES 266 SLAVES month or so. Slaves may serve one master she sees herself in relation to other people: is she a leader or a follower? The third set relates to exclu sively or may be passed from one pain: does she seek to experience it, or inflict it? master to another. One master wrapped his (In this instance, pain may be defined as phys- sex slave in a sh eet and drove her to a ical and/or psychological, and many people are fairly neutral on this scale). friend's hom e to be u sed for his pleasure. The first catego1y of slave is the captive. She Slaves may cook and finds it exciting to have volition removed by serve guests at a sp ecial another. If she has guilt feelings about sex, the dinner or accompany loss of control may enable her to let go and their master to a party enjoy 'forbidden' pleasures. She 111ust be con- and care for their needs vinced, however,_that her freedom has indeed been taken away, and will frequently test the ...- · -.. there. The slave may control of the dominant. She might even require sleep in the bed with that she be physically captured and subdued, and only respond to the J\\IIaster when she's sure .- their master or on a rug he's in total command. In chis kind of relation- ship, restriction and ritual play an important n ext to th e bed, in a part, and contracts may be negotiated in advance. box, or cage. 'Captive' The second category is the passive slave. slaves may have to be bound at night. Slaves This is a person who doern 't want to cake responsibility for his/her actions, and seeks u sually prefer providing perso n al service someone to take that responsibility away. This kind of slave will seek out a full-time domi- such as bathing, bru shing hair, p olishing nant, rath er than occasional or contractual play. Sfhe is frequently a passive-aggressive nails, shaving, massage, and holding a d ildo person who forces others to make decisions so that s/he is free to blame them when things or vibrator. (\"Slave Fa ntasies\", Society of don't turn out to his/her liking. (\"I don't know exactly wha t I want, but I /mow this isn't it Janus lecture, July 27, 1989) and it's your fault!\") This can be ve1:y draining Slaves n eed a reminder of the status that to a dorninanL, because the so-called slave is actually running the show and putting a great renders them different from others. Sex deal ofpressure on him. slaves identify themselves by wearing slave The third category is sometimes called a collars, an \"o\" finger ring, a brand, a special SAM (Smart-Ass Masochist}. This person has necklace, or chastity belt. learned early in life that the only way to get attention is to do something bad and gel pun- K. C. Rourke, a professional d ominatrix ished. The alternative, in their minds, is to be and personal slave, describes the nuances of ignored completely. In many cases they were these relationships: even told by their parents that they were being punished \"because I care about you ... \" and In order to understand the nature of Master/ have come to confuse punishment with parental slave relationships, it is importanL to realize and other love. Their only goal in a Master- that this slavery is imposed neither by law nor s/ave relationship is to misbehave and earn by social custom; even a slave who is defiant is punishment. They, too, can be exhausting for a a slave by personal choice. However, the nature Master unless he is a committed sadist with a of that choice and its implementation vary; sex strong need to hurt or humihate others. slaves may be categorized according to why they chose their slavery, and how they see The fourth catego1y of slave can be referred themselves and their masters. to as the seeker or apprentice. This is a person who feels a strong need for guidance or direc- In examining this question, it is helpful to look at three pairs of personality characteris- tics: passive/aggressive, dominant/submissive, sadistic/masochistic. Each pair forms a scale; every personality can be rated somewhere on each scale. The scales are independent of one another; a person can be, for instance, aggres- sive, submissive and masochistic. The first pair relates to how a person sees (him)herself in relation to her environment: does she prefer to make things happen or let things happen? The second pair relates to how

SLAV ES 267 SLAVES tion. S/he will see!~ out a Master or Mistress Slaves are som etimes taught to perform s/he respects and admires, giving up authority in the same manner as trained dogs. Hand in exchange for the guidance (training) s/he signals are used to command a slave to desires. S/he will go to great lengzhs to win the stand, sit, speak, kneel, fetch, or kiss their approval of zhe Master, and show him what master's feet. (A Tangled Web: The Art of s/he can do. If the Masler disciplines such a Slavery, by Lady Tanith) slave, ii is a loving affirmation of his authority and his acceptance of their service. If he wishes Lady Tanith, a professional dominatrix, to punish them, he need only express disap- also has a clientele of slaves that correspond pointment with them. In many cases this type by mail. A sam p le of one of th e letters of slave is an aggressive and energetic person written to her by a slave is as follows: who lacks confidence and self-esteem, and needs encouragement, instruction and/or permission You are Queen Satanja, Queen of all the land. from a respected person. Many are highly intel- I have been captured by your female warriors ligent and imaginative, and are more n.eedful of who have selected me to be your pleasure for the validation than of actual training; others, evening. M y name is Tarus, General of the through the training they receive, develop the forces you have just defeated. J\\.1y other war- confidence they need to function better indepen- riors who have lived have been sent to the dently. This kind of slave gradually becomes a House of P leasure where they will sexually great asset to a Master or Niistress. please your best warriors...you will relate this to me. As I am broughz in, you will be on your The general guidelines for fu ll time slave throne. You have no men in your empire...only training include things like getting a written the most beautiful women but those men you contract in which the slave agrees to give up have captured in battle are your servants...you (store) all personal possessions and live with have a harem ofmen, that are at your beck and the maste r, servin g him or her completely call for all sorts of sordid sexual orgies.... for a specified period o f time. The slave's contact with the outside world is often In t.his session you will teach me how to restricted or fo rbidden during this time. A please you and your favored warriors....you slave needs to be made to feel that th ey a re will take every liberty with me that you isolated wi th n o one to rescue them, making want....you will: them totally dependent on their new master -constaritly curse at me...calling me all sorts of regardless of their character. Slaves are not evil names allowed to make any decisions for them- -seduce me as you tease and tantalize me and selves. The master provides clothes (some make me the captured animal of your royal go nude) , food and water, and controls the court times a t which the slave may use the bath- -spit upon me room. These necessities are often used as -continually zell me how I will be pleasing all of rewards when getting the sla ve to submit to your female slave sluts at the orgies as you sit something in which they wouldn't ordinarily on the throne and watch engage. Slaves generally pass through emo- - make me worship your royal and beautiful tional phases of consensual role playing to body..within your royal limits.../ will worship irritation, defiance, anger, and submission, any part you wish including feet before they finall y revere and bond to their -blindfold me for a portion of the session as you master. This process is similar to spou sal bring in your other female slave sluts to please abuse or the Stockholm syndrome where you while I can. only hear the moans ofpleasure prisoners, such as Patty H earst, bond to and lust....catl them by name and tell them their cap tors. Ritual, a form of psycholog- what lo do to you. ical bondage, causes a slave to lose t h eir - Eventually your seductive powers overcome own identity and become a willing receptor of someone else's desires. Special forms of 1ne. address are used for the top such as Lord, Goddess, Mistress, and Master. Bottoms are Bottom's disease refers to a slave whose called worm, Fido, slave, whore, or baby. self-esteem is so low that they consent to servitude because they prefer not to assert t hemselves. Mos t slaves, however, fi nd a te mporary period of service to be cathartic,

SLAVES 268 SOUNDING similar to that of returning to childhood the wall behind and her bloody head caved without the pressures of the busin ess world. in with the impact. (Sp ecial effects artists in At the end of a couple of months or a year the movie industry consulted by law they are ready to face life's challenges again. e nforcement agencies have confirmed that Others feel it is a method b y which to a ny mutilations can be d uplicated with spe- express their u ncondition al love and devo- cial effects techniques.) tion to a partner and to have a partner return that love to them as individ uals People who purchase these movies prob- rather than because of th eir job status or ably do so out of curiosity or because this what they own. (\"Slave Training '', by Lady has long been a fantasy. For some it seems Tani th, Back D rop lecture, January 26, to bolster their own sense of power. Those 199 1) who actually murder most ofte n take their own p hotos or video of the event. (Interview (See also DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION, FAN- with Detective James Rodriquez.) CAU- TASY PLAY, HUMILIATION, PARAPHI LIAS TION: The greatest harm buyers of these and RITUAL SEX) fil ms do is to provide incentive for pro- ducers to continue having innocent victims SNUFF FILMS Actors in these films kill murdered. young victims during sex scenes. Snuff films are illegal and only sold underground; (See also LUST MURDER, MUT ILATION, therefore, information on this subject is dif- PEDOPHILIA and SEX RINGS) ficult to obtain. SOMNOPHILIA (Sleeping princess syn- One snuff film was briefly mentioned in drome) Somnoph il ia (so mnus: to slee p; the January 198 6 issue of Penthouse in an p hi lia: attachment to) refers to th ose who article about Satanism by D r. Joel Norris a re sex ually stim u la t ed by fond ling or and Jerry Allen Potter in which they tell o f a having sex with a sleeping partner. woman who uncover ed a snuff film of a child being torn apart by its abductors. Many case studies of somnophiles show Today, most are filmed in Hong K ong a nd childhood histories of having covert sex these also fea ture dismemberment. with a sibling that was either asleep or pre- tending . Th ey conditio n themselves to An account of an American sn uff film become aroused b y a sleeping partner a nd was given by a man working for an X-rated when the circum stance changes they video company in England. In a personal become impotent or ineffective. interview he spoke of several snuff films P rofessional therapy is often effective in seen in Germa n y durin g the ea rly ?O's. helping a couple overcome this barrier to Mos t dep icted stra ngulatio n and for that inti macy . CAUTION: T hi s ac ti vi ty reason he could not guarantee that what he becomes un ethi cal when d o n e o n minors saw was authentic. H owever, one movie did sleepi ng in the sa me bed or with a partner have a scene that would have been difficult who would not ordinarily consent. t o stage. T his m ovie was film ed in the Southern United States and was of a group (See also AMAUROPHILIA, FROTTAGE and of men d riving along highways picking up N E C R O P H I LIA) female h itchhikers. They then bound their victim s and took th e m to a sm all mo tel. SOUNDING (Urethral self- instrumenta- Here the men would blindfold , gan g bang, tion) Sounding (subondare: to submerge) is a nd perform sadistic acts such as ramming a the me dical term fo r a metal rod u sed to b room handle up thei r vaginas before finally find an d dilate strictures in the urethra or strangling them. T he last female was treated other body cavities. Gonorrhea often left m uch the same. They placed different items scar tissu e that had to be removed in this in her mouth to fellate; the final one being a manne r. The so und instru ment is slowly hand gun with a silencer on the end, and as inser ted down the urethra stretching open she sucked on this, th e man pulled the any scar tissu e that is in its path . These trigger. Her naked body slammed against instruments are purchased from med ical supply houses.

SO U NDI N G 269 S PE C TR O PH IL IA P eop le use so unding in S/M play fo r SPECTROPHILIA (Incubus, Succubus) both increased sensation and to transfer Spectrophilia (spectral : p hantom o r ghost; power to the hands of the dominant. Other philia: attachme n t to) refers to sexual people use things such as rubber fish ing arousal by intercourse with spi rits, ghosts, angels, or gods. worms, cotton swabs, o r ice. The rubber fishing worms have At one time many believed that nocturnal a smoo th su rface, are flexi ble, em iss ions were ca u sed b y spiri ts . T he and can b e sterilized in a p res- medieval E uropeans named the male spirit sure cooker. T hose who use ice In cubus. H e was believed t0 cause night- freez e sterile water in paper mares and to lie on top of women, seducing straws and, once removed from or ra ping them. T his was a d elusion that the freeze r fo r a few minute s, was co m mon among fe m ales w itho ut sex 0 slide it ou t o f th e con ta iner. lee partner s, pa rti cu la rly in convents . is muc h more da n gero u s Conversely, the Succubu s was thought to be beca use of the ri sk o f accidental brea kage a female demo n that wo uld lie underneath inside the urethra before it melts. and seduce men, draining them of semen at Ph ys icians h ave fo und objects such as night. The Babylo nian L ilith was even more hairp ins, plastic t ubes, and even a sm all cru el, demanding sac rifices o f the ma le snake in people's bladders. organ and sometimes a ma n's life. T he most common type of sound used is the Van Buren which is cu rved at o ne end M ost accounts of spectroph ilia were doc- and ranges from .20 to .28\" in diameter (the umen ted d uring th e witch tr ials from the equivalent of the French sound sizes o f 16 forced co nfessio ns of innocen t victim s . to 22). This is po pular because once placed Noctu rnal e missions, impotency, and every into positi on the e nd p resses in the vicinity other sort of sexual problem was bla med on of the prostate gland which can then be in te rcourse with evil spirits. gently stimulated . A different variety of sou ndin g consists Sexu al h yst eria also b ecame co m mon of usi ng 1/4\" diameter stainless steel balls. during the Inquisition and men accused T hese are counted, push ed into the u rethra, women of casting a gla m our or spell on a nd left there as the man masturbates. U pon them causing them to lose their penis. The ejaculation the se minal fluids push the balls m en suffe ring fro m hysteria could not see out in a way that rese mbl es a machine gun . their own organs. Two Dominicans, Kramer The steel balls are aga in counted to veri fy and Sprenger, wrote of o ne of these cases that none remain in th e urethra. warning p eop le that \"s uch m embe rs are A p seudo type of soundin g involves th e [not) really torn right away from the body practice of a partner pushing small amounts l;iut that they are hidden by the dcvil...so that of warm water, champagne, or chips of ice they can be neither seen nor felt\": into the very tip of the penis du ring fellatio. CAUTIO : Sounding ca n cause se rious A certai11 young 111a 11 had had a11 i1urig11e with inj ury. Signs of damage tO the urethra are a a girl. Wishing to leave her, he losl his lllember: change in the frequen cy one urina tes, orange that is lo say, so111e gla111our [spell} was cast or brown urine, or pus. A doctor should be over it so tha1 he could see or touch nothing but consulted if any o f these sym ptoms occur. his slllooth body. In his worry over this he went Even if n·eated, however, minary tract infec- lo a tavern 10 dri11h wiue; and after he had sat tions can lead to kidney infections , kidney there for a while he got into conversatio11 with failu re, and som eti mes death . another wolllan who was there, and told her the cause of his sadness, explaining eve1ythi11g and (See also CATHETERS, lv1EATOTOMY and demo11strating i11 his body that it was so. The SAFE SEX/SOUNDING) woman was shrewd and asked if he suspected SPANKING See FLAGELLATION anybody. The man did and the woman suggested that he ask the girl to remove the spell. H e left the

SPE C TROPHILIA 270 SPERM BANKS tavern and upon finding the girl made his from God's mouth through a tube which led demands. She refused saying she was innocent under her skirts (Sex and Superstition, p. 103, but when he began strangling her she wisely reproduced with permission of Blackie & agreed to remove the spell saying, \"Now you Son Ltd.). have what y ou desire.\" H e then touched his penis and found it to be restored. T he number of reported I ncubi a nd Succubi and other for ms of neurosis T his fear was experienced by Thai men increased during the 12th century after the during the Vietnam war. It was referred to Church imp osed harsh restrictions against as the \"Thai Shrinking Penis Syndrome.\" sexual activity. These men felt that their penises were get- ting smaller and would tie a string around (See also CHOREOPl!ILIA, FANTASY, FER- them to prevent their penises from disap- TILITY RITES , H IEROPHILIA, ORGASMS, p ea ring inside thei r abdomens. A T h ai SEX MAG ICK and SEX RITUALS) physician logged t he penis sizes of T hai men and later wrote a paper on the subject. SPERM BANKS Sperm banks are facili- ties where sp erm is deposited for future use Thi s hysteria recently surfaced in 1991 in fertilization of a woman. The first infa nt am ong people in N igeria who be lieved was born using this technology in 1953. In people were casting spells on them and a 1989 there were about 40 sperm b anks or simple handshake could cost their genitals human semen cryobanks affiliated with the or breasts. An article in the London Observer American Assoc iation of Tissue Banks. explained: Men who are considering a vasectomy or One of the first incidents took place in the lobby those who must undergo chemotherapy o r of the Central Bank, when a visiting man radiation therapy have a need for this ser- declared thal his iesticles had been snatched. vice. A donor's semen is fi rst checked for Although he stripped naked, there are co n- fitness and then frozen in liquid nitrogen flicting reports as to whether he was able to tanks. The cost fo r freezing sperm is around prove his loss. What is certain is that $250.00 and a five year storage fee in 1989 bystanders fled. Police have arrested more than was $650.00. 150 people for spreading rumors of stolen iesti- cles, and at least three lynchings are reported to Cryobank s also provide services such as have occurred when hysterical crowds have infertility profiles, sex selection, sperm taken alleged culprits to task.... Testicles are washing, cervical mucus penetration assays, reported to fe tch a high price in the fetish and an ti-sperm antibody testing. market-up to Sl,000- and are in high demand at present. Some sperm banks provide sperm to be u sed by women fo r impregnation. Male The most fa mous instances of sp ectrophilia, donors qualify b y filling out a survey fo rm however, are those of the Virgin Mary and and, once approved, provide sperm fo r use G od. G . L. Simons wrote of this in his book: by anonymous recipients. T his screening is important not only for genetic consideration Some writers, finding it difficult to believe that but because many sexually transmitted dis- even God could impregnate ihe Virgin Mary eases can be transferred in this manner: without her losing her virginity, developed the \"Neisseria, gonorrhea, mycoplasma idea that she was impregnated through the ear hominis, Ureaplasma urealyticum, chla- by the archangel Gabriel, or by God mydia trachomatous, trichomon as vaginalis, himself. .. l n some early paintings the Holy HIV, and hepatitis B virus\" (\"Micro-organ- Ghost is seen descending as a dove with the ism s Present in D onor Seme n, Screening divine sperm in its bill; in other pictures the and Detection,\" by DJL Palmer, J. seminal words are seen passing through a lily, on their way from Gab·,-iel's mouth to Ma1y's Cuthbert, J. Mukoyogo, MS Obhrai, and JR ear...In one early carving the spenn come direci Newton, British Journal of Sexual M edicine, April 1990, p. 114). Religions vary on their interpretation of whether t his procedure is morally acceptable.

SPERM BANKS 271 STAPLING Nor all women use sperm banks to secure honor what to expect in his new role as a semen. So m e spouses agree to h avi ng a husband. friend or acquaintance inseminate their wife while others, including some lesbians, have This is also the occasion for pranks and a the male ejaculate in a jar and use a turkey few grooms have found themselves dropped baster for insertion. Women who are unable off alone in a desolate area with only a few to carry a n infant co term sometimes use a hours left before the wedding. One man surrogate mother who is impregnated by the actually awoke from a drunke n stup or to husband. 1 here are many more emotional find that h is friends had put hi m on a cargo and legal complications involved with this ship that had embarked for Alaska during method and courts most often uphold the the night. birth mother's wish to keep her ch ild rega rdless of previous financ ial ar range- F emales have begun having their own ments or contracts. stag parties, to whi ch male strippers some- times provide ente rtainment. Gay partners A listing of banks can be obtain ed fro m both attend bachelor parties and they also the American Association of Tissue Banks, occasionally engage same sex strippers. 1350 Beverly Road, Suite 220A, McLean, VA 22 101. (See also SEX SHOWS and STRfPPERS) (See also EUGENICS) STAPLING Stapling is SPITTING Spitting is used during sex done in S/M scenes as a •I!J games both as a form of humiliation and as form of control over a a fetish . Spit itself once h ad magical quali- ties. Kirghis tribes living on the border of partner's genitals. Surgical China and the USSR o nce believe d they could heal the diseased by whipping them skin staplers with an auto- until they bled and then spitting in their face . release are preferred bu t a Spit is often used during sex as a conve- few people have used the nien r lub ricant fo r ki ss in g, fellatio, and vaginal or a nal penetrati on. \\standard office type (this A spit fetish ist is sexuall y aroused by is n ot advised du e to the having their partner dribble spit into their staples not being sterile. mouth or on their body. T here have also been vvomen who were specifically attracted They are also longer and to certain men because of the masc uline manner in which they could spit. more painful) . The prongs of the surgical (See also FET ISHES , HYGROPH!LIA, staples are a b o u t 1/8 \" long and curved HUMILIATION and SHOWERS) inward so that they stay in place un til STAG PARTIES Stag or bachelor parties ar e give n by males in hono r of a frie nd's removed. A special surgical remover is marriage and they vary according to the morals of those involved. The tradition of required for this procedure. the stag party may be a holdover of the an cien t puberty rituals that preceded mass During S/M play people may staple the wedd ings. edges of the scrotal skin to the thighs, the Typical entertainmen t includes a stripper or sex video and a few wi ll rel ocate their outer skin of the penis to the abdomen, the party to a bordello. Others have hired pro- fessional dominatrixes to teach the guest of outer labia together, the buttocks together (painful unless there is a lot of loose skin), and a few have stapled the lips of the mouth. All of the genital staplings are con- sidered a form of site specific bondage (i.e. the mouth stapling would take the place of a gag) or a chastity device. The stapler is operated a t a qui ck snap wh ich redu ces some of the pain as the staple enters the skin (\"Surgical Suturing and Stapling,\" b y A. Kraus, QSM lecture, August 4, 1990) . CAUTION: Staple play is cons idered a blood sport and therefore u nsafe sex. (See also BO NDAGE/LACING, TNFIBULA- TION, SAFE SEX and SUTURING)

STAT IO NERY 272 STRETCH I NG STA TIONERY Custom stationery is impotence), or available for people of any sexual preference labia. This process interested in erotic expression. Illustrations takes several years range from romantic scenes of two clothed to accomplish. The people in an embrace to group orgies. skin is not stretched People use this stationery to send to lovers, enough to create as announcements of an address change, pain because this invitations to sex parties, thank you cards, cau ses lac erations or calling cards. Personalized cards may be that fill in with sea; ordered by sending photographs of oneself. tissue . Skin that is Those desiri ng a n improvem ent in gently s tretched p hysiqu e, such as adding a few inches to the develops micro- size of the penis or breasts, may request scopic tears that fill in with normal tissu e; those changes. eventually exte nding the length of th e desired body part. Those using an insert STIGMATOPHILIA Stig matophilia, a such as a bar or ring gradually p ull on it to term coined by John Money, (stigma: mark, lengthen the appendage. Those interested in philia: attachment to) refers to those who increasing the size of a hole increase the size are arou sed if their partner has a tattoo, of the insert over time until the hole gets to pierced jewelry, body modification, or scar- the desired diameter. This is similar to ring on t h eir bodies or genitals . (See also people in African tribes who stretched their ear lobes or lips. C!CATRIZATION, JEWELRY, PENIS MODIFI- CATION, RINGING and TATTOOS) The African Baganda, Bagi shu, and Suaheli tribes once stretched their inner STRANGLING See OXYGEN REGULA- labia so that they would hang at least two inch es below the vagina. This was called the TION Hottentot apron or mfuli and supposedly STRETCHING (Catatasis-penis, had its origin Kolpeuryntomania-vagina) Stretchings from girls who may be permanent or temporary. Both types mastu rbated so of stretching are done to modify the appear- ofte n ch at the ance of the genitals or nipples and may labia became cause some discomfort. extended. It is said that men, Testicles tend to rise when one nears preferring wives orgasm and forcing them to stay toward the with high sex drives, selected bottom of the sac these women first. delays ejaculation. Soon other women had to compete by Orgasm itself is pro- stretching their labia. Men discovered that longed and intensified they also enjoyed the extra sen sation of when it does occur. having the labia engulf the penis during Weights or othe r spe- penetration. These preferences resul ted in cial devices are used to men refusing to marry women who had not accomplish temporary had this labia modification. Young stretching. Metal rings Hottentot girls used two different methods or leath er bands fit for elongation. Some took a weed and used around the top of the scrotal sac to squeeze that to rub and pull on the labia until it had the testicles downward. CAUTION: stretched to the desired length. Others tied Excessive p ressure ca n cause small b lood the labia together with a string and hung a vessels to break and too much pressure on rock on the end. The effect of this was evi- the testicles themselves is dangerous. dently less aesthetic than the fo rmer and Some people have chosen to permanently stretch their foreskin, nipples, penis (causes

S T RET C HING 273 STUFFING was desc ri bed by so m e as r esemb ling the Th e bod y is searched and p roced u re crop of a rurkey. requires th at every body opening is checked (bacteria collected fro m an anus shou ld not There are also m en who have a com pul- be transferred to a vagina). Once the pris- sion to stretch a female's vagina during pen- oner is found to be completely clea n h e or etration. T hey may also use sheaths for th is she is released , seduced, or reloca ted to a purpose. The stretching needs to induce p rison cell . d isco m fort o r pai n before the man wi th such a compul sion is satisfied. (See also HUM ILIATION and INTERROGA- T ION) (Refer also to WEIGHT T RAINING) STRIP POKER The re are many versions STRIPPING (Ecd yosis-arou sal from of strip poker, the card game based on the removing cloth es in fro nt of others, Gyno - rules of regular poker. Som e players write nudom ani a- compuls ion to rip clothes off out the sexu al acti vities they are willi ng to othe rs) Strippers are people who voluntaril y p erfo rm and for what price before playing take off thei r clothes fo r an audien ce. p oke r . Fake or p lay m on ey is di vid e d Stri ppers may be male, female, hetero- equally and used during the gam e. Clothes sexu al, bi or gay. Private strippers advertise may be bartered if one runs out of money. in loca l magaz ines in Las Vegas and w ill O nce the game is over people add up their come to hotel rooms to perform . Most pro- winnings a n d buy the sexual activity they fessional stri pp ers work in clubs with a few can afford from the other players. becoming celebrities who travel across th e country to a p pea r at p ri vate cl ubs. Male The most common form of strip poke r is strippers, such as the Chippendales of simply playing for a rticles o f clothing instead southern Californ ia, p erform in cl ub s, of money and more advenrurous players will others work fo r stripping telegram com pa- p lay for specific types of sex acts. If the re nies, private pa rties, or for gay theat ers. are more than t\\vo players the winners may be given their choice of sex partners for fi ve There are certain general rules that strip- minu tes after each round of poker. pers use when undressing. T hese begin with selecting mu sic conducive to dan ce a nd C heating m a kes th e gam e m ore wearing easy-to-rem ove cloth es; ones in intriguing but one must be willing to face whi ch th ey feel attractive and sexy. The toes the conseque nces if caug ht by their partner . are kept pointed throughout the routine and Erotic decks of ca rds may be used but fo r any part of the body that is being u nve iled is th ose not tempted to show oth ers th eir p rotru d ed to1,vard th e aud ie nce; with t h e ha nds. exception of some teasing movements. T he removal of p an ts, skirts, or underwear (Sec also C01\\llPUTER SEX and SEX GAMES) requires that the stripper bends over and slowly p u ll s th e a rti cle of clo t hi ng dow n STRIP SEARCH Strip searches are used across the buttocks, letting it drop to the in S/ M scen es si mu la ti ng police arres ts, floor. H ands a re run along the contou rs of p rison riots, customs sea rches, prisoners of the body to accentuate and tease. There arc wa r, or alien abductions. many other guidelines used by successful strippers. An excell ent educa tional video T he general procedure requires the cap- wa s don e by Gio, titled H ow to Strip /01· tive to face a wall with their hands in th e ai r. Your 1\\lfan. Their partner then pats them down with their hands on the outside of their clothes. (Sec also C HOREOPH ILIA and SEX SH OWS) Next th e prisoner is asked to e mpty the con- tents of the ir purse or pockets onto a table STUFFING Stuffing refers to the inse r- for inspection, followed by all their clothing. tion of objects into the vagina or anus. T his Everythin g is closely inspected for drugs, usua ll y in vo lves food o r b everages when m icrofilm, bugging devices, weapons, or sex don e in consensual sex play. P eople use toys. The prisoner stands naked wi th their hands be hin d the ir head durin g th is time.

STUFFING 274 SUBPERSONALITY cherry tomatoes, boiled eggs that have been ally on the tapes. Yet a different study indi- peeled, strawberries, bananas, cu cumbers, cated that some people feel a higher level of whipped cream, o r whatever other food is security or self-esteem after receiving sub- favored by the partner. li minal messages. N othing, however, reveals that a person would ever kill o r commit sui- A famous court case of a 1920's come- cide because of a subli minal message as was dian known as Fatty Arbuckle involved tes- suggested in the trial of Judas Priest, a rock timony that he had stuffed ice and then a band, concerning a su bliminal message in champagne bottle up a starlet's vagina. She their album that said \" Do it.\" later died of comp lications from the lacera- tions, but he was acquitted after the third An S/M audio tape, therefore, would trial. only help a slave adjust to the idea of servi- tude or might h elp a shy or anxio us slave Killers and rapists sometimes stuff the over com e their initial apprehension. S/M vagina of their murder victim with items tapes are made by the slave's master or by a lying around the room. One man shoved a hypnotist. The tape itself gives messages victim's false teeth into her vagina without about b ein g submi ssive and receivi ng her knowledge. They were discovered a rewards for this type of behavior. month later when she requested a standa rd sexually transmitted disease test. The Sex therapy tapes a re also available that awareness of his actions was complicated by are supp osed to help people relax and the fact that when he assaulted her he broke improve their sex life. her jaw (\"Unusual Vaginal Foreign Body,\" by P eter Watson, B ritish J ournal of Sexual (See also HYPNOSIS and VISUALIZATION) M edicine, September 1988, p. 294). SUBMISSION See DOMINANCE/SUBMIS- N ot all stuffing is done by a partner. One woman in serted a ru bber ball into h er SION vagina at a pa rty where s he had been drinking. It was not discovered until 20 SUBPERSONALITY Subpersonalities years later (\"Vaginal Foreign Body of Very are similar to multiple personality disorders Long Duration,\" by Be nja min Piura, British except that the personality ch ange is only Journal of Sexual Medicine, Nov. 1986, p. temporary and awareness is never lost. The 308) . CAUTION: The vaginal cavity is regular personality seems to be su ppressed sensitive to foreign ch emicals. enough for it to be difficult to respond appropria tely. Mul tiple p er sonali ty diso r- (See also BONDAGE/ SPECULUM and ders seem to be caused by repetitive or ritu- S I T OP H I L I A) alized abuse that is in contrast with the rest of the child's life; suc h as molestation by a SUBLIMINAL TAPES Subliminal refers parent. Subpersonalities are based on either to the part of the mind that is just beneath a single instance, or constant trauma and the conscious mind, and which is suscep- stress. Subperso nalities seem to surface tible to repetitive stimuli. Many listen to when a p erson recalls this period of time. tap es desig ned to h elp them overco m e This often occurs during therapy or for smoking, overeating, low self-esteem, stress, others during sex. fear, and for slave training in the S/M com- munity. T herapists sometimes deliberately use childhood subpersonalities when working While scientists seem to agree that a with a patient's proble m. It seems that whe n person may perceive subliminal messages, a person remembers the pain or trauma, there is little evidence that commercial tapes their consciousn ess shifts and the therap ist of this sort effect change in a person's is able to co mm un ica te direc tly with the behavior. Dr. Anthony Greenwald of the child. While they are in this state the the ra- University of Washington did studies where pist gives th em the comfort, nurturing, or he mixed the labels on tapes given to volun- explanations not received as a child. teers and discovered that the subj ect on the label had more impact than what was actu- This consciousness d oes not have to be the child personality, it can also be an angry

SUBPERSONALITY 275 SUSPENSION adul t. This was true for on e woman who violen tly, incest survivors, gamblers, child so metimes experienced su bpersonali ti es mole sters , celiba tes, sex ual en thusiasts , d uring sex. She was trau matized by seri ou s wome n w ho love too much, prostitll tes, physical abuse beginning in infancy. Sex polygamists, spouses who are abu sed , partners who brought up subjects that a busi ng spou ses, a lesbian 's paga n group, reminded her of the abuse or her fa th er and many more. caused her to shift into one of two charac- ters. The first was a yo ung child who Twelve-step programs begin their meet- became sexua ll y frigid, wa nted to be held, ings with an introduction, and a short pre- and was unable to say anything except \" no\" sen tation, next opening the floor to anyone without great effort. T he other character who wou ld like to share their thoughts witl1 was an angry adult male rapist who pinned the group. Large groups sometimes impose down the partners and sexually assaulted a time limitation so that as man y people as them. (Personal commu nication. ) possible will have the opportunity to share. T he typical opening co mment is: \" Hi, I'm A partner who n;gresses into a child may Bill and I am a sex addict\" (or whatever is show signs of going ph ysicall y lim p, weak, appropriate). Others reply with \" Hi, Bill\" withdrawing, and not being able to verbalize and Bill then continues to tell about events th e cause for this sudden response. If th is or feelings that came up since hi s last visit. occurs during sex their partner helps by People are not allowed to offer advice, ask simply holding a nd nurturing them as th ey ques tions, or criticize anyone else in the would a child. Questions that are complex group. Anonym ity is respected and all take or that require more than a simple answer an oath not to repeat anything said in the cause frustra tion in the partner suffering meeting to otl1ers. from this regression . T his is a temporary condi tion which passes as soon as the old Women's pagan support groups differ memories fade. If this occurs often and slightly from other twelve-step programs in affects a couple's norma l sex life a profes- that the women sit in a circle, open the sional therapist may be of assistance. meeting with a grounding ritual to mentally detach themselves from the o u ts ide world (See also FETISHES and PARAPHILI AS) and tO foc u s on th e meeting. People speak only when they feel ready to share thei r SUPPORT GROUPS Support groups problems and a re restricted to a fe w min- have recently become popular. These seem utes. The forum is much more flexible than to have taken the place of cl ose extended other groups because their bond is a reli- fami lies as Americans have relocated for gious one rather tha n a specific addictio n. college an d better job oppo rtunities. O n ce everyone has had an opportun ity to Support groups differ from professional speak, they join hands and sing chants therapy in thar no o ne person offers guid- before breaking the circle. The add ed ritual ance. Everyone is th ere because they iden- creates more of a cathartic effect than the tify with the same problem. typical twelve-step closing remarks of \" It works, keep coming back. \" Most groups spawned off a successful Alcoholics Anonymous program started in Therapists o ften encourage patients to 1935 by Bill Wilson and Dr. Robert Smi th . attend one or two support group meetin gs These men proved that association and sup- between visits. This sometimes speeds port from a fellow sufferer was more thera- recovery and reduces the cost of therapy. peutic and successful than the vast range o f existing methods. Al-Anon, the next large (Sec also SEX C LUBS) support grou p, was started by Lois W ilson in 195 1 for partners of alcoholics. SUSPENSION Suspension refers to hanging someone in the air from an overhead Today there are support groups for supp ort which a llows for so me movement. overeaters, rransvestites, drug addicts, sex Semi-suspension is when only a portion of addicts, gays, bi-sexuals, shoppers, worka- the person's weight is o ff the grou nd. holics, parents of sex offenders, bereave- me nt , pare n ts of c h ildren who died The most cruel form of suspension was recorded duri ng the Inquisition where

SUSPENSION 276 SUTURING people were tortured by hanging them by with her husband. T his is though t to have their genitals. Today's S/M community uses begun over 3,000 years ago among northern suspension for pleasure. Aryan tribes. One could escape this socially imposed suicide if a man took hold of the One man is said to have masturbated by widow's hand as she lay on he r dead hus- hanging upside down and banging his penis band's funeral pyre. This gave her status as against a door. Some use boot cover devices the seco nd man 's wife and she could li ve. that fit around a person's own boots and Suttee was first justified in poor villages hang from a hoist by an eye bolt mounted in where if a fami ly lost its bread wi nn er it the bottom of the boot cover. The person's could not su rvive. Thus, it was considered arm s are left free until afte r they are in a merciful to have the wife, who often could hanging position. This allows them to help not remarry anyway, commit suicide. This manipulate their body as it is being raised freed her children for adoption by other off the floor. Likewise, the arms are freed families. T he practice continued even once before lowering the person back onto the the se tribes became more stable. S uttee floor. came to be encouraged in the upper levels of society by the Brahmans who often Another method of suspension involves received the couple's wealth after the wife's placing padded leather cuffs on a person 's death. It was these priests that objected the wrists and ankles and a leather belt around most when in 1829 Lord William Bentinck their waist. These are attached to chains forbade the practice of suttee. Some widows hanging from a hoist or other object. A still felt compelled to join their husbands in parachute harness is often used in this type death and to prevent this they were some- of suspensio n instead of the leather belt. times tied to a stake a t a distance during the CAUTION: Safety requires all suspension burial. equipment and chains to be checked before hanging a person on them. Welded chain is Today Indian husbands who wish to the safest and metal pulleys make the lifting marry someone else or to be free of their easier. Panic snaps are also used o n the lines wives arrange an accidental fire in the in case the person needs to be released kitchen. The wife is sometimes bound or imm ediately. A person is not left in an h eld by in-laws to accomp lish th is feat. upside-down position for more than a few Others, trying to capitalize on d owries, will minutes. Additional caution is also exercised first request more money from their father- with people who are near sighted because in-law. If he doesn 't pay, his daughter gets there is a potential ri sk of retinal detach- burned alive in the kitchen, leaving the hus- ment due to the oblong shape of their eye- band free to marry someone else and collect ball and the extra pressure caused by the her dowry. accumulation of blood. Anyone seeing light flashes should immediately see an ophthal- (See also MARRIAGE) mologist. SUTURING Suturing (sutura: to sew) is A person bound or suspended with their done in S/M play as a form of pseudocastra- arm s above their head may faint. This is tion, bondage, or infibulation of the genitals. comm on. They are laid down and will Sterile techniques are always used for this revive without assistance within a few min- procedure (see SAFE SEX). utes. Those who become nauseous or develop headaches are released at once. The couple decides the type of suturing Mummification used with suspension has a scene in which they wish to engage a nd then calming effect but can also cause disorienta- gathers the items needed for the procedure. tion . (\"Suspen sion,\" by T. DeBlase, QSM The preferred type of suture is non- lecture, March 23, 1990) absorbable silk because it is the easiest to tie. The needles used are cutting needles in (See also BONDAGE and SENSORY DEPRI- either size 00 or 000. People without access VATION) to medical supply ho u ses use ste ril ized stainless s teel n eed le s a nd pre packaged SUTTEE Su ttee (virtuous woman) is the white polyester thread. A sterilized thimble East Indian practice of burning a widow

SU T UR I NG 277 SYB I AN is also u sed due to the toughness of the skin P ermanent disab ility can result from acci- and the force needed to push the needle. den tly su turing one of these structu res . (\"Surgical Suturing and Stapling,\" by A.K., A button is sometimes used to keep the QSM lecture, August 4, 1990) suture threads from pulling through the skin or just for decoration, particularly on the (See also BONDAGE/LACING, INFIBULA- end of the penis. TION, PIERCING and RINGING) A purse string stitch is used around the SWINGING See GROUP SEX and WIFE front of a breast or the scrotum . It is the same as a straigh t stitch but it forms a circle SWAPPING which is then pulled tight with the pro- truding en ds of th e sutu r e a n d tied. This SWINGS (Slings) Swings are made of holds the flesh in a puckered position until fabric, leather, or wood and provide support the suture is cut. for those suspended from the ceiling. Sex swings appear to be an ancient East ern A Parker-Kerr stitch is used to hold an invention designed for ultimate sensual object such as a penis or dildo underneath pleasure. the sutures. These A partner lies back in a semi-reclining stitches are done by position with their legs spread and raised in ancho rin g t h e fi rst the air. This position offers direct access to the genitals and the swing is at a height that ' ': , stitch a n d then allows easy penetration. This arrangement lying the object offers a feeling of control for one partner (dildos are covered an d a feeling of nurturance and surrender to with a con dom) o n the one in the swing. Swings are also pop- the area. T he suture ul ar for massage because a ll parts of the is pulled over th e body are accessible. object and the next stitch is put into the skin (See also SEX POSITIONS , SEX SHOWS, on that side. Next the suture is pulled over SYBIAN and TANTRA) to the other side of the object a nd anchored into the skin. T h e distance between the SWITCHES The term switch is used by stitches on each side is determ ined by the t hose in the S/M community for th ose length and weight of the object. p eople who alternate t he ro le o f a bottom/submissive and top/dominant. This Mos t stitches u se square kno ts. is usually done out of necessity because Continuous stitches are used in sutu ring there are many more bottoms than tops, two breasts together others si mpl y enjoy the role change. It is down the fr ont also often the case that people refuse to inseam or sewing the su bmit to a top who has n ot learned the labia together. Single empathy and S/M techniques gained from knots are u sed in first being a bottom. pseudo castration where the penis is (See also BOTTOM, DOMINANCE/SUBMIS- tucked down and the SION, HUMILIATION and TOPS) scrotum ski n is pulled up around the penis. Su tures are then placed along the top to SYBIAN Sybian is the name given to a close the seam. T his type of castration is $1,395.00 mechanical dildo d evice that is in only possible with men who have loose or a class of its own. The d evice is housed in a large scrotal sacs. The outer skin o n th e half cylind er shaped saddle that a person penis is sometimes pinched up and sutured, rides to orgasm, after orgasm, after orgasm. but it is dangerous to go very deep because T he Syb ian differs from other dildoes in the del icate tissue beneath can be damaged. that it not only vibrates at different speeds CAUTION: P lease be aware that there are and intensity but it rotates as well. These vital structures, such as nerves, arteries, are controlled by two regulator dials on a veins, tendons, bones, and joint spaces control box. The Sybian was test marketed immediaiely beneath the skin in some areas.

SYBIAN 278 TANT RA at swinger conventions and modified for the Dusseldorf Murderer. He was unlike best resu lts before it was released to the most other sociopaths in that he varied his public. Riders were given buttons that read attacks, vveapons, a nd victims. It did n ot \"Sybian Test Pilot.\" matter wheth er they were female, male, child or animal. The following poem written Some seem to become addicted to oper- b y Kurten will show this clearly: ating the control box fo r women. Females In the case of Ohliger, I also sucked blood from orgasm at different the wound on her temple, and from Scheerfrorn frequ en c ies. Men the stab in the neck. From the girl Schulte I quickly learn which only licked the blood from her hands. It was the ones are most same with the swan in the Hofganen. I used Lo intense for th e stroll at night through the H ofgarten veiy often, woman they are and in the spring of 1930 I noticed a swan with and gain sleeping al the edge of the lake. I cut its throat. immense pleasure The blood spurted up and I drank f rom the in controlling how many orgasms she expe- stump and ejaculated. riences and when. M en have found the device just as stimulating when they replace Kurten admitted to 79 crimes of his own as the dildo attachment with a butt plug. Some well as finding intense pleasure in wit- bars have replaced their mechanical bronco nessing catastrop hes or accidents. He fi nally rides with the Sybian. confessed to his unsuspecting wife, having (See also GEN ITAL/ ANA L IN SERTS and her tum him in to the police for the reward SEX TOYS) offered on the Dusseldorf Murderer. His confession was prompted by fea r of his fan- SYMPHOROPHILIA Symphorophilia tasies to burn down an orphanage. (symthoma: casualty; phoro n : producer; philia: attachment), coined by John Money, It may be impossible to know but one refers to one who experiences sexual arousal wonders if politicians like Hitler, who began from creating casualties b y, fo r exam ple, wars or exterminations of groups, found burning down apartments, h ospitals, or sexual pleasure in doing so. Hitler did have orphanages. This is done for the pleasure of the exterminations in con cen tra tion camps causing death and catastrophe rather than filmed. just watching the flames. (See also HYBRISTOPHILIA and L UST One famous case between 1899 and M U R D ER ) 1930 was of P eter Ku rten, also known as T TANTRA Tantra refers to the Vedic a nd wi th thei r pa r t ner. M ed itatio n and H indu doctrine that is designed to extend breathing techniques are used to control sexual unity and bonding. Couples find this and exte nd the arousal period so that th e brings more ecstatic pleasure than a quick p eni s stays functio nal for nearly an hour. orgasm . Hindus at one time only used this The couple has many positions with which technique under the guidance of a guru or they c an regulate the flow of energy other couple to ensure that the correct pro- between them. Eye contact and matching cedures were foll owed . There were sex breaths is an integral part of the exercises as well. Proficiency takes time and discipline; techniques similar to tantra among the the refor e, this is n ot a technique tha t lends American Cherokee Indians, Chinese, some itself to casual sex b etween strangers. African tribes, and sex magick, although the There are many books and several orga- ritual and goals are often different. nizations tha t teach tantra to couples. Peak Skill Publishing offe rs books such as Sexual Tantric students fine tune their sen ses so that each becomes one with the universe

TANTRA 279 TATTOOING Energy Ecstasy by David Alan Ramsdale, Tattooing was brought back to Europe MA and Ellen Jo Ramsdale and Intimacy & by sailors who had become fascinated with Sexual Ecstasy by Jonathan Robinson, MA this art form. People paid to hear sailors tell as well as videos and other tantric products of their travels and see their tattoos. (See Bibliography). (\"A Taste of Tantra,\" by Co l eman and M cC u sker, Lifestyl e T attooing sometimes h ad sexual signifi- Conference, August 17- 18, 1990) cance. There were tribal chieftains who had vulvas tattooed on their chests. The (See also KABAZZAH , KAREZZA, SEX Haitians, Berads, and Basivis women wore MAGICK and SEX MUSEUMS) penis tattoos and others tattooed their faces as a charm against sterility. TAPHEPHILIA Taphephilia (taphe: burial; philia: attachment to) refers to those People also tattoo thei r geni tals. Helen who are aroused by being buried alive. Fisher, in her book The Sex Contract, tells of Geoffrey Mains, in his book Urban \"Ulithian women of the western Pacific Aboriginals, mentions one Los Angeles man [who] tattoo the inner lips of their vulvas to who had his friends mummify him in rubber enhance their beauty.\" Men have also been or leather and temporarily bury him (p. 90). tattooed on their genitals and at least one inside th e urethra that had been opened (See also BONDAGE and OXYGEN REGU- with a subincision. LATION) Havelock Ellis wrote of a man who had a TATTOOING T attooing involves punc- tattoo fetish. The man relates his experience turing the skin with n eedles and injecting as \"when I got a tattooist to place the figure indelible dyes to permanently color the skin. of a butterfly on the upper side of my penis, The two oldest verified color I experienced a few m inutes after leaving tattoos were found on a the shop, the phenomena of erection and 5,300 year old Stone Age ejaculation accompanied by a feeling of man who was discovered pre- physical exaltation so great that it almost served in an Italian glacier prostrated me afterwards\" (Studies in the and on a 4,200 year old Psychology ofSex, by Havelock Ellis). Egyptian priestess of the god- dess Hathor. It ha s been Tattoo machines operate on a 12 volt practiced by light skinned battery with one to three needles being used Egyptians, Greeks, Native in the sleeve of a hand gun. These needles, American Indians, South Pacific tribes, and like those of a small sewing machine, move Japanese, among others. Our early ancestors up and down at a very fast speed depositing ink as they pierce the skin to a depth of less stuck needles dipped than o n e millimeter. The ta ttooed ar ea is in pigment into the rubbed with an anti-bacterial or antibiotic skin , or else soa ked ointment and covered with a sterile ban- thread in carbon and dage. This is remo ved one or two hours pulled it through the later when the area is washed with lukewarm s kin. They also water. The client is told to prevent the ink applied soot or pig- from dissipating by avoiding heat on the ments directly to the area (i.e. hot tubs, baths, saunas, sun s kin and punctured bathing, and swimming) fo r tl1e next couple the area with needles. of weeks. Tattoos on the shaft of the penis The designs of early tattoos consisted of are not difficult or particularly painful but patterns of dots and sim ple lines. The those on the glans are harder to get the ink Indonesians began using bolder geometric to stick in place because of frequen t design s and the Japanese, after u sing it as bleeding and are m ore painful. The labia is punishment on criminals between the 7th not very painful but, because it is a m ucous and 16th centuries, c hanged it to the col- membrane, lines tend to lose their sharpness orful, elaborate, and artistic work that is and blur; therefore, simple line drawings are seen today. prefe rred.

TATTOOING 280 TICKLING Tattooi ng is also used to color in the cavity and this is why abnormal pressure or areola on the breasts of women who have trauma induces such extreme nauseating had mastectomies and nipple reconstruction. pain. One is usually larger than the other and they botl1 ri se when exposed to cold or Because of AIDS, tattoo artists have when nearing orgasm. begun using fresh needJes for each customer. The testicles were once so sacred that (See also PENIS MODIFICATIONS and oaths we re given while someone h eld th e RINGING) testicles of the man swearing in their hand, thus th e t erm s t es timon y a nd t estify. TEASING (Tantalolagnia-arousal from Women once assisted their husbands in teasing) Teasing is done to sexually excite a quarrels by grabbing the oppon ent by his p erson b u t with out the intent of fulfilling testicles and squeezing. Legislation soon their desires once aroused. It is an overt passed that penalized women by cutting off form of flirting. This may be done with the offending hand. words, sounds, promises, provocative attire, gestures, or caresses. Creating a desir e for T esticles are often used in S/M games. something begins a process in the brain that They are squeezed in cock and ball torture, creates tension until it is either obtained or have weights hung on them, are separated substituted by something else. with straps, and held in the mouth and gently rotated. Rarely, they are pierced. Teasing may be used to increase passion during sex by refusing to be penetrated or An organization called the Ball Club was by threatening to withdraw if the partner founded for those who ha ve a spec ia l doesn't orgasm within the time it takes to interest in testicles. A quarterly newsletter count down from ten. A gentle push against allows members to run personal ads or · the groin as the count approaches two or submit articles, erotic stories, photos, and three can in te nsify their response.CAU- artwork. N ot all the ads are from men. The TION: T easing strangers or people with following is extraordinary even for this whom one has no intention o f engaging in newsletter. sex is inhumane, if not dangerous. Sadistic butch bi-female and lover/ (See also COURTSHIP and SEXUAL slave into severe ball torture and the HARASSMENT) tears and suffering it can cause. Long, hard sessions of ball crushing, beating, TELEGONY Telego ny was the b elief tl1at burning, needles and knives ... the first man to inseminate a woman would automatically be the father of any child she (See also TORTURE and WEIGHTS) bore afterward. This was an advantage as far as adulte ry was concerned because hus- THALPOTENTIGINY Thalpotentiginy bands did not worry about bastard children. re fers to those people who find heat or However, telegony created a tremendous warm weather sexually arousing. problem for widows and divorcees. Men refused to marry these women because they (See also PSYCJ-IROC ISM ) felt the children born would not be theirs but that of her first husband. TICKLING (Knismolagnia and Titil- lagnia-arousal from tickling) Tickling (See also ADULTERY, CUCKOLDRY and in volves light touching of the vuln erable MARRIAGE) areas of our body's defense system causing us to want to retreat. Tickling used during TESTICLES (Ge m e ll us, Gonads) foreplay will cause increased stimulation in Testicles are the male organs that hang in a partner; however, this has to be trans- the scrotal sac and produce spermatozoa. ferred to sexual arousal before it is of ben- They are the equ iva lent to the fe m a le efit. Women of the Baganda tribe became ovaries and begin life in the abdomin al adept at sedu cing their husbands by tickling cavity before dropping to the scrotal sac. their armpits. Tickling was also used in reli- Testicles are part of the visceral or intestinal gious worship. Goldberg, in The Sacred Fire,

TI C KLI NG 281 TOILET TRAINING wrote of a Ru ssian sect called the T icklers art of coprophagy or urophilia. T he toilet whose religious service consisted of the men slave may be made to lick a toilet clean, lie tickling the women until they passed ou t. on their back as their partner squats above their face, or to lick their T ickling is often used with bo ndage in genitals clean after th ey SIM games. T he stimulus may at first seem relieve them selves. Some pleasurable but over a long p eriod of time use the portab le co m- can becom e unbearable. The p er son may modes or shower chairs also become d ese nsitized to tickli ng after available for rent a t med- repeated stimulation. Instruments used fo r ical rental stores. One tickli ng are fi n gers, rab b it fu r , ostrich partner sits in the chair feathers, and soft b ristled brushes. and the other lies beneath and carries out whatever orders they are People advertise in personal ads fo r part- given . Some p eople u se these chairs fo r ners willing to engage in this form of sex cu n nilingus because of the way the edges of play. Videos are avai lable by mail, such as the commode spread and expose the geni- \"Tormentor's D elight\" which has a nude tals. woman tied with her hands above her head and tickled by a hooded m onk, and A person who has a strong d esire to be a \"Tickling Senorita\" that shows a coed tied toilet slave, but who is not yet accustomed to a bed and tormented with a feather by a to consuming human wastes, is o ften started cl assma te. CAUTI ON: Pas sing beyo nd with a substitute such as warm beer or chili. some people's limits can result in choking, These are inserted into the vagina or anus vomiting, or incontinence. and the person learns to consume these sub- stitutes before gradua ting to real secretions. (See also BONDAGE and SENSORY ENHANCEMENT ) A few p rofession al dominatrixes will train toilet slaves. T he following quote is from a TIMOPHILIA Timophilia (time: worth; letter written to a dominatrix by a slave after philia: attachment to) refers to those who their first session: are sexually aroused by wealth or status. The Roman emperor Caligula, known for Toilet Slave John smiled back at his Lady as his carnal lusts, en tertained himself by wal- he quickly removed his clothes and fell to his lowing in piles of gold. knees before her. H e was m omentarily over- whelmed with feelings of gratitude that he had Some people take treasured objects to found her. He had not served a Mistress for a bed with them. Jim i Hendrix was said to long time, but the other two Mistresses whose have slept with his guitar and some women Total Toilet he had become some years before, will take a new fur coat, d ress, diamond and with whom he had developed almost loving ring, or other prize to bed with them and M istress-Slave relationships, had taught him tou ch it throughout the night. It is said to that for a Toilet Slave to be completely suc- produ ce a simila r feeling of com fort a nd cessful in his duties, there must be an intangible possession that a lover would give. \"X\" factor present which enabled him to not only worship, love, and adore his Mistress, but It is often d iffic ult to discern where the to worship, love and adore her shit. H e must desire fo r the power that m oney brings glory in, and make love to, her shit. He must ends, and the erotic excitement begins. desire her shit above all else, knowing that Wealthy men quickly learn the a phrodisiac because in a very real sense eating her shit was qualities money has for seducing the woman the ultimate act of degradation, it there/ore of their choice. T his desire is n ot restricted became the ultimate act of love, giving his to one sex because there have also been M istress u ltimate feelings of pleasure and many personal ads appearing throughout p ower. the last hund red years from men wanting to m arry wealthy wom en. As he looked up at her, Toilet Slave John felt that \"X\" factor with the Lady to a degree (See also FETISHES, MASTURBATION and he had not felt in years. For a minute they just PARAPHILIAS) smiled at each other, and there was that feeling TOILET TRAINING Toilet training is the term used for submissives learning the

TOILET TRAINING 282 TORTURE of beginning a long journey together, and then innocence. Neither torture nor trial by she said, crisply, \"Okay, now, little Toilet ordeal was totally successful for getting at Slave, let's get it going!\" She began worlling a the truth. The concept that a person who is number of globs of tissue-burning ointment and tortured will divulge all the informa tion the other substances on cotton swabs as far as she enemy desires with accuracy is erroneous. could -in and out, in and out, in and out- The captors sometimes are able to scruti- inio Toilet Slave J ohn's miserable toilet-flusher nize information better wh en th ey capture worm of a cock. She called it \"cock-fucking.\" several prisoners and compare their stories Then after a quick round with her whip, she o r interrogate prisoners on several occasions inserted two i1·ritant-soaked cotton swabs into and watch for discrepancies in their state- his toilet flusher, leaving them there as she tied ments. The Europeans became so calloused a leash around the base of his miserable worm to torture during the witch burnings and tl1e and balls and led him crawling through the Inquisition that it was used for punishment house for the amusement of her Mistress associ- for those sentenced to death. King Charles I ates before dragging him into the bathroom himself was on e of these vic tims. Judges pronounced the following death sentence on Toilet tra ini ng is not fo r everyone but for him: some it brings intense pleasure and satisfac- tion. CAUTION: Eating feces can spread You shall go Jrorn hence to the place fro m many serious diseases, including hepatitis, whence you ca111e, and from that place shall be shigella, amoebic dysentery, cholera, and drawn upon a hurdle to the place of execution, various parasitic worm s. It may be the most and there shall hang by the necll till you are dangerous kind of unsafe sex . half dead, and shall be cut down alive, and your privy 1nernbers cut off before y our face and (See also COPROPH AGY, COPROPHJLIA thrown into the fire, y our belly ripped up and and SHOWERS) y our bowels burnt, your head to be severed from your body, your body shall be divided TOPS The term top is used by those in into four quarters, and disposed as His Majesty the S/M community for those who choreo- shall think fit. graph or direct sex play with a partner. They are the authority figure. Thi s is a Other c ul ture s used things such as the much broader term than sadist which American Indian torture of slowly mastur- implies a rou sal fro m seeing a partner bating a man to death, the French torture of injured or in pain. A top may simply require inserting a glass tube in a prisoner 's urethra that their partner atte nd a dinner function and breaking it with a hammer, or the Afrid i without underwear . women's torture of prying a man's mouth open with wood and urinating in it until he More specific titles may be used during a d rown ed. T he use of torture to obtain infor- fa n tasy g am e s uch as teacher, reve rend mation is now against national policy and a father, mistress, and goddess. group called Amnesty Interna tional works to obliterate it in the rest of the world. (See also BOTTOM, MASOCHIST, SAD ISM and SWIT C H) Many of th e torture games used among S/M enthusiasts include techniques used by TORTURE Torture r efers to infli cting different governments. A fanta sy torture pain to extract information from a noncoop- scene can be based on Romans, Inquisitors, e rative p erson. The defin ition has recently Japanese, American Indian, Military, broadened to include the infliction of p ai n German SS, fe male Amazon warriors, and without the explicit intent to gathe r infor- so forth. mation or a confession. Genital torture techniques are the most Governments have employed torture for popular. P eople p ut tes ticles in small vise their purposes for thousands of years. grips, do ball crushing (twisting the sac 90. Those c ultures not using torture r elied on and squeezing the testicles together with the divine in tervention. H ere a suspect that was hand until the person submits), whipping accu sed o f a wrongd o ing had to endure a trial b y ordeal; passing the test proved his

T ORT U R E 283 TOUC H the gen itals, using an irritant on the m ucous varying from two millimeters to seven cen- membran es, rubbing the area with Drago n timeters in distance and run along the sur- Skin p aper (similar to a p lastic sandpaper), fa ce o f th e s kin . T h e ob jective is to attaching clamps or clothespins, using alter- determine at which p oint on e can feel the nate heat and cold, impaling t h e geni tals sensation of two pin tips in stead of one. The with needles or a small nail, using electrical closer the two points can be recogn ized cock rin gs or an elastrator clam p to put a together the more sensitive the area is to rubber band on scrotum (used for castration tou ch. The following chart is an examp le of of animals by veterinarians- it is not left on the variances: for more than 5 minutes for a hu man). T he d iffere n ce between S/M torture a nd the BODY SECTION # OF political type is tha t the victim can end the MILLIMETERS game at any time an d serious damage is avoided at all costs. CAUTION : C h emicals Tip of tongue 1-2 mm can burn ski n, and torture devices can cause C lito ris 3-4 mm damage. (\"Male T it and Gen itorture I and Glans Penis: II,\" by Tony D eBlase, QSM lectures, June 5-9 mm 1 and 8, 1990; \"Private Pleasures, Intimate pretumescent 9-15 mm Pain; An E xplorati on of the Subtle Art of tumescence 3-4 mm Cunt T orture,'' by V.A., QSM lecture, June posttumescent 4-5 mm 1990) Anus 8-10 mm N ipples 4-5 mm (See also ALGOP HILIA, CICATR IZATTON, L ips 50-60mm MASOCHISM, SADISM, TESTICLES and Neck WEIGHT TRAIN ING) T he sense receptors seem to be abu ndant in TOUCH (To ucheu rism- arousal fro m the areas that center on body functions nec- to u c h ; Sarm assop h i li a-a r o u sal fr o m essary for survival. O ur bodies are designed kneading flesh) T ouching a p erson creates a to trigger a production of en dorph ins which sensation from pressure placed on the skin. in turn create a pleasure response in our (Sensual arousal from tactile stimu lus may brain each time we engage in one of these in clu de pain fo r som e people. T his is d is- activities (i.e. eating, n u rsing, coitu s, and cussed under the heading ALGOPHILIA) . d efecation) . T he brain assumes we are eating each time there is p ressure applied to Touch a ll ows us to simul taneous ly the lips o r tongue, that we are nursing when receive and tran smit feelings. It is the only it is applied to the n ipples, and so forth. It is sense that can be sh ared between two because of this natural mechanism that we p eople. The skin has, b en eath its surface, are able to enha nce the sex act by applyin g various receptors or n erve endings that react touch an d pressu re to ar eas of our bo dies to specific types of tou ch. For instance, the other than the genitals. Merkel's Disk and Meissner's Corpuscle detect light touch, the end bulbs of Krause T he desire to touch is a primal need and nerves sense cold, R uffini E n d ings de tect is genetically transmitted. One social func- heat, free ne rve end ings feel p ain, and the tio n of touc h was to keep people in g roup P acin ia n Co rpu scle senses deep p r ess ur e, fo rmations. The desire for this was termed and seems to override all other sen sations. centripetal m ovement. C la ns se rved m an y These r eceptors are more d ense in cer tain function s in en a bling humans to su rvive . areas than others and because of this these They decreased the n umber of times people locations p rovide more pleasure when stim- would encounter a predator, increased the ulated . There is a simple \"two- point dis - power of the cla n throug h intimidation of numbers, and took advantage of the exper- crimin ation \" test that one does with a tise of those best knowledgeable at hu ntin g o r gathering foo d . Groups also increased hairp in and ruler to determine the most the chances of fertility and survival of the erogenous zones on ou r bodies. T he tips of young. The discovery of agriculture and the hair pin are spread with the points

TOUCH 284 TRA NSSEXUA LS breeding animals alleviated this need and plish the same type of orgasm others have made it more advantageous for man to wi th penis/vagin a sex. In fact, group S/M s pread out into much s maller u nits club play parties often have a rul e that geni- (Sociobiology, by Henry 0 . Wilson, pp. 26- tals m ay n ot be ha nd led and ye t ma ny 27). Touch i s cruc i al fo r i nfants and ach ieve orgasms. remains important throughout our lives. J il ly n Smith sp eaks o f th is in h er book, (See also ACUPRESSU RE, AXILLI SM, S enses & Sensibilities: BINDING , BITING, CORSETS, CU PPI NG, PI NC HI NG , SCRATCHI 1 G, SENSO RY W ithout wuch, children die. A s la te as the ENHANCEMENT and TICKLING) second decade of this cemmy, 1he death rate in U. S. foundling i11stitu1io11s for infanls w ider TOURNIQUETS T ourniquets are used one year old was nearly 100 percem. Dr. Fritz to stop the flow of blood from an arte ry. Talbo1 of Boswn brough1 1he idea of /.ender There are six main arterial pressure points loving care bacl~ wi1h him from Germany in but only the brachia! and femo ral are used the 1940s.... lntroduction of \"mothering\" regi- in sex play . People who p lay with tou rni- mens in i11stilutions dramatically reduced the quets d o it p ri marily because they enjoy Lhe morlality rates of children. Recent studies have tingling sensations p rod uced once the shown that premature infams who were mas- tourniquet is removed. saged for 15 minutes 1hree 1imes a day gained weiglu 45 percelll faster than 01hers who were Tourniquets are applied by firs t elevating left alone i 11 their incubawrs. The massaged the arm or leg, placing a padding directly infants did not eat more than the others. Thefr over one of these major arteries, wrapping weight gain seemed to be related to effects of 2\" wid t h fabr ic touch on their 111etabolism (p. 199). around the arm or leg, tying the Children as they become older seek to ends, inse rting a replace the nurturing once received from pencil or stick into parents with security objects, fetishes, pets, the knot and and peer contact. M ales often develop a twisting it like a socialized misconception that touch should clock hand with on ly precede coitus. Men will ofte n either just enough pressure to stop the pulse. The not engage in touching unless they feel they exact time is written down so tha t the can follow through with sex or will instigate tou rnique t can be loosened wi th in 5 min- sex more often than their partner would like utes. CAUTION: T ourniquets may cause when hugging or caressing would suffice . perman e n t ne r ve d a m age o r arte ri a l embolization of an atheromatous plaque There are people wh o are able to orgasm (\\.vhich can cause loss of a limbo r d eath). It solely by being touched in areas other than can be extremely dangerous. the gen icals. A recent iss ue of S ex Over Forty cited the personal experi ence of a psy- (See also BINDI NG, BO NDAGE, CLAMPS chologist who un ex pectedly had an orgasm and CORSETS) when her lover caressed her ha nd while she was reading a magazine. T h e article goes on TRANSSEXUALS (Gender crosscoding, to sta te that \" Medical research on touch has Gender dysphoria-pe rson whose behavior shown that it improves many situations by: matches the opposite sex, Gender transposi- lessening anxiety, calming fears, dec reasing tion~the c h a nging o f b ehavior betwee n pain, lowering blood pressure, reducing sexes) A tr anssexual is defined as a perso n stress, soothing the sick and alleviating lone- who has had an overwhelming desire to be li ness\" (\"How tou ch affects intimacy,\" by the opposite sex. As children they are ofte n E.D . Whitehead and S. Zuss ma n, confused abo ut th eir true sexual identity. fl Sept ember, 1990 issue o f Sex Over f<orty). is not un til a t abou t the age of five or six th ey are faced with the p hysical evidence o f People involved in sad omasochism use be ing di ffe rent. For many th is means mild to intense tactile stimulation to accom - growing up depressed over the fact that