A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 51 When adopting consumption by closely the Performative observing the people Consumption Method, around me and try to I have to regulate my fall at least one step rate of consumption behind or level with based on the eating them. This is done speeds of the people most effectively when who are scrutinizing coupled with Morsel me. Eating too fast Portion Control. paints a picture of greed and gluttony Note: The rate of which would reinforce food consumption the typical image of insinuates to other someone my size in people the nature of their minds. However, the relationship I have eating too slowly also with food. insinuates a sense of ease bordering on laziness which is unfortunately also a quality often attributed to someone of my size. Therefore I must control my speed of

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A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 53 Morsel Portion Control There should be no Note: Opening my is a process where visible enjoyment or mouth widely portrays the portion of each urgency expressed an almost barbaric bite I take is heavily on my part while image and an urgency controlled. There is consuming food. that I must not show a specific amount towards food. However, of food that can be as Morsel Portion consumed at a time. Control is a strenuos Bigger morsels of food and troublesome require larger bites method, it is not and more exaggerated necessary to do so chewing motions. unless I am absolutlye This would further sure that I am in portray a gluttonous ‘unsafe’ company. and ravenous image to the people around me. This is what I must avoid as I am not allowed to view food as anything more than sustenance as was mentioned before.

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A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 55 Morsel Portion Note: The following Control is also highly segments must all be dependent on the practiced while taking type of utensils used the circumference of while eating. While my mouth into account. adopting Performative I must read the entire Consumption Method, section in order and no matter the setting, refer to the segment I must pay attention titled ‘Bite Width’ to the usage of each located on page 69, type of utensil. Each which ties the practice utensil has a unique of Morsel Portion manner of portioning Control together. and holding food before it reaches my mouth. Taking these into account, there is a specific system of measurement for each utensil. The following segments expand upon this system.

Fig. 14 08: Usage of Spoons Showing an example of (Fig. 14) a heaped spoon full of (Fig. 15) food. I must never filll my spoons this way in front of strangers, or in a previously identified ‘unsafe’ situation. Fig. 15 Showing an example of the maximum amount of food allowed on my spoon. My spoon must never be heaped it must always be levelled to indicate a calm and collected attitude towards food.

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 57 Spoons: When using spoons to scoop food into my mouth, I must make sure that I do not scoop up too much food each time. A heaped spoonful of food attracts more unwanted attention unto me while eating. No(Fig.14) matter what food I am consuming during a meal, I must make sure to keep the food on the spoon as levelled as possible.(Fig.15)

09: Usage of Forks Fig. 16 (Fig. 16) Showing how to load my fork. I must only twirl the fork until it has only two layers of food. That way every mouthful is small and calculated.

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 59 Forks: When using a fork for food items such as noodles or pasta, there are many variants based on noodle thickness, size and length which make adopting Morsel Portion Control rather difficult. Therefore, the general rule when using forks is that there should not be more than two layers of food twirled on the fork at a time. For example, when eating spaghetti, I must only twirl the fork two times.(Fig.16)

010: Measuring Food Fig. 17 (Fig. 17) Showing how to measure a proper morsel of food in situations where the food is in large pieces and needs to be cut appropriately. As highlighted by the dotted rectangle, I must follow not only the height but also the width of the upper phalanx of my thumb.

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 61 Knife and Fork Note: Each segment sets: When using a of a finger is called a knife and fork set, I phalanx and will be must be aware of the henceforth referred to size of the portions as such. of food I cut and the number of pieces of Note: This apportioning food I poke using the must be done discreetly tines of the fork. In and nonchalantly order to accurately cut so as not to attract an appropriate bite- undue attention and sized piece, I must as a result unwanted use the upper phalanx questions regarding my of my thumb(Fig.17)as a eating habits. While guide for the height and portion control is the width of each morsel. goal, the obsessiveness After doing so, when behind this method using the fork’s tines could cause discomfort. to poke the cut food, I must only poke and eat one piece at a time.

011: Etiquette while Eating with Hands Fig. 18 (Fig. 18) Showing how to eat with my hands such that I do not get any food on my palms. I must make sure I use the tips of my fingers to squeeze the food as demonstrated by the diagram. This ensure that I get an appropriate sized morsel with every bite.

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 63 Hands: When Note: This method of using my hands, as eating should actually previously mentioned, only be done when I must again use the the people around me upper phalanx of my are also eating with thumb to measure out their hands. Eating each mouthful of food. with your hands is an I(Fig.17) must use the enjoyable experience tips of my fingers(Fig.18) and enhances the taste to gather the food, of food. As I must not ensuring that it does show that food brings not touch my palm. me pleasure when in an Using my entire hand ‘unsafe’ situation, it is to scoop up the food recommended to refrain would result in taking from using my hands to more food than is eat even when desired appropriate at one unless the situations time. Furthermore, calls for it. it presents a messy and greedy picture to Note: This method of those scrutinizing my eating must be done in eating habits. This conjunction with the is not allowed for previously mentioned someone of my size. method of using my thumb’s phalanx to measure a morsel of food to ensure that each morsel is still within an acceptable range when eating.

012: Measuring Bite Width (Fig. 19) Fig. 19 Showing how to use the width of my finger to measure how wide my mouth can open with each bite that I take.

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 65 Bite width: Note: This must After taking all the be done in private Utensil-specific Morsel as it is a rather Portion Control into embarrassing action to consideration, I must be caught doing. It is also keep in mind the recommended that I actual circumference practice this everyday of my mouth during such that it becomes each bite. It must natural when not exceed a certain done in public. diameter. This is quite difficult to measure in real-life circumstances. Therefore, I must use the width of my finger as a gauge of how much to open my mouth when ingesting food. This is done so by placing my index finger horizontally between my lips.(Fig.19)

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A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 67 If there is no other alternative to excusing myself from participating in a certain physical activity, I must resort to feigning an injury or exaggerating an existing minor bodily grievance. However, if I do not perform it correctly, I could risk burning bridges with the people around me. While these tactics may be morally questionable, it is imperative that I follow the steps highlighted in the following segment.

013: Body Diagram showing vulnerable spots (d) Fig. 20(a)(b) (c) A knee or ankle injury is (a) one of the easiest and (b) also most convincing (Fig. 20) injuries to feign as accompanying it with a limp will render the act very realistic. This is also due to the fact that I have had both injuries before. However it must be noted that due to the placement of this joint, it is likely that people around me will assume that this injury is because of my weight which may counterproductively cause me more harm.. Fig. 20(c)(d) A milder yet slightly safre option would be to feign minor and temporary bodily greivances such as stomach aches (c) or headaches (d). This is safer because these are not weight- related grievances and this will not cause me more judgement or embarrassment. However it must be noted that due to their temporary nature, these two grievances will not be able to successfully exempt me out of long -term activities

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 69 1. Feign a Note: It must be noted realistic injury. Pick that this method does a joint or muscle on pose a risk. If I am your body that is easily caught in the act of over-exerted.(Fig.20) feigning an injury or exaggerating one, I am 2. Choosing to breaking the trust of feign a current injury the people around me based on a previous which could create an injury is an even better unstable situation. The way to convince the steps highlighted on people around me. this page are not to be taken lightly. They must 3. Feign or add be done in the exact certain accompanying order as stipulated for behavioural changes if maximum efficacy. necessary. For example, if I choose to feign a sprained ankle, I must make sure to walk with a limp to portray a realistic injury.

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A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 71 If all the above- expected of me. I may Note: I must use mentioned methods use such phrases: phrases that show that are attempted and I am painfully aware and I am still unable to 1. ‘Sorry ah apologetic about my excuse myself from guys, I can’t really lacking physical abilities participating in a run that fast!’ and they are truly seemingly impossible 2. ‘I can’t unfortunate to have physical activity, run so can I be the me as a team member I must then shift goalkeeper? I’m big!’ during the activity. my focus towards 3. ‘I volunteer reducing the amount to sit out...I can do of embarrassment the thinking, you guys and discomfort I will do the running!’ be facing during the activity. I can do so by providing disclaimers to the people around me. I must inform them of the fact that I am unable to really contribute much to the activity. I must inform them that not much should be

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A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 73 When I am having a meal in what I have deemed to be an ‘unsafe’ situation (refer to the section titled Analysing Behavioural Cues) I must take note of the following: 1. I must never considered generally order extra servings unhealthy. This would of any food, be it include any foods the amount of rice that are high in sugar or noodles or even and/or deep fried. condiments like sauce, 3. Even if I cream etc. I must not am still hungry after order more than what the meal, I must not is already included in a voice this out to the standard order. Again, people I am with. I this demonstrates an must absolutely never element of greed and suggest ordering more an insatiable appetite, until someone else both of which I am not does so. If someone allowed to possess. else initiates it, I 2. I must never must not show too be the one to initiate much enthusiasm. the ordering of dessert or any food that is

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A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 75 When in a social Note: I must use the situation and following tactics while while engaged in being careful not to conversation, there introduce an awkward are certain topics air into the social that must be avoided situation. If I am really at all costs. This is forced to excuse myself especially so when from the situation, I talking to casual must make sure I do friends, acquaintances so with a proper, light- or strangers. During hearted excuse. My the conversation, if any discomfort must not be of the following topics obvious to the people arise, I must deflect around me. them, change the topic or excuse myself from the situation in a subtle manner.

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A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 77 If the conversation Note: Unless the veers towards the conversation progresses topic of food: into making plans to meet for a meal, I must I must try my best not to not behave too contribute much to the enthusiastically or show conversation. any excitement when it comes to talking about food. I must always try and insinuate that food is nothing but mere sustenance and nutrition. I must not express that it is something I actually look forward to.

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A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 79 If the conversation Note: This could begins to dive into really cause the the topic of physical situation to progress attraction and/or into an embarrassing possible infatuations conversation, especially one might have: if I become the subject of it. I must take extra I must not care to retreat into the reveal any existing or background whenever past infatuations I may this topic surfaces in a have had or currently social situation. experience. As someone with not much to offer physically, I cannot show any interest in people who are above my standards. I will be causing discomfort to the people around me when discussing my infatuations.

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A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 81 If the conversation Note: Even if I do have veers towards the something valuable to topic of exercising add to a conversation and fitness: regarding physical activity and fitness, I I must not talk must not express it out about any attempts loud. This is because at exercising I might I will be creating an have done prior to the uncomfortable image conversation. While it is of my large body expected that someone exercising in their of my size must minds. Furthermore, constantly be aiming I will not be taken for better health and seriously and my physical improvement, opinion will not be I must not discuss deemed as valid due to these attempts as I my size and apparent will be subjected to inexperience. ridicule and judgment.



A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room I have to constantly manage the excessiveness of my body. I must only take up the same amount of space as everyone else. I become the elephant in the room wherever I am. I must do all I can to shrink, tighten and decrease myself. Code of Permissable Conduct

84 Code of Permissable Conduct Volume 1 / 2020 A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room A Guide To Being The MANAGING Elephant In The Room OCCUPATION OF Compression PUBLIC SPACE Managing Occupation of Public Space

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 85 When in public, there In order to do is a strict amount of this effectively, space that I am allowed when I enter certain to occupy. My flesh spaces, I must scan already exceeds this the area and determine limit and if I do not where best to place perform the following my body. This is also acts, I will be a dependent on the nuisance to others. crowd density and the This is especially so structure of the space. when in areas of high human traffic. I must try my best to decrease the space I occupy so as to avoid spilling into other people’s space. Note: The following segments highlight especially problematic spaces and effectively illustrate how best to react in these places and in places with similar conditions. I must refer carefully to their corresponding explanations for further details to prevent potentially embarrassing situations or unwanted stares from strangers.

86 Code of Permissable Conduct Volume 1 / 2020 A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room A Guide to Being the MANAGING Elephant in the room OCCUPATION OF Compression PUBLIC SPACE Managing Occupation Public Transport of Public Space Public Transport

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 87 Generally, when The following segments Note: The following travelling in public illustrate the various sections highlight spaces, the aim is to actions I ought to take especially problematic be as indistinguishable when riding public spaces and effectively from others as trains, buses and illustrate how best to physically possible. planes respectively. I react in these places I must blend into the must take note of the and in places with crowd and retreat particularities of each similar conditions. into the shadows space and act as such. such that I am out of Refer carefully to other people’s way. their corresponding Travelling on public explanations for further transport is an already details. distressing experience for everyone. Someone of my size must always make sure to prevent causing extra, unecessary discomfort among commuters by taking up as little space as possible.

014: Diagram of empty train seats Fig. 21 (Fig. 21) By taking a seat in the middle seat of three empty seats, I am able to avoid unecessary skin contact with the people around me. It forms a barrier around me. Most commuters boarding the train are most likely to avoid the two seats next to me as they will definitely be acutely aware of the impending skin contact. However, I must take note that if any commuter were to take a seat next to me, I am to immediately stand up. To prevent further embarrassment, I may do so while pretending to give up the seat to someone who deserves it more.

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 89 Trains: Upon entering If so, I may Note: The following a train compartment, take a seat in the sections highlight I must scan the area middle seat. Once I especially problematic and ask myself this am seated, I am to spaces and effectively main question: follow the guidelines as illustrate how best to outlined on page under react in these places Excluding the Seating Etiquette. and in places with priority seats, are similar conditions. there three empty If the answer seats in a row?(Fig.21) to the main question Refer carefully to is no, I must then scan their corresponding the available standing explanations for further space and refer to the details. following diagram to determine the best place to stand based on the situation.

015: Diagram showing Top-View of Train Compartment (a) (Door) This area is the empty (a) space between the (c) priority seats and the (a) door. It is often flanked by a glass panel fitted (Door) with a metal pole. (b) This area is the empty space beside in front of the priority seating. This space provides access to the metal pole attached to the glass panel flanking the priority seat. (a) (b) (d) (a) (d) This area refers to the limited space in front of the regular seats where the only support available is the hanging triangular handle.

015: Diagram showing Top-View of Train Compartment (c) This area is the empty space in front of the compartment doors. It has a singular vertical pole right in the middle. (Door) (a) (a) (b) (c) (e) (a) (a) (Door) (e) This area is the limited space right in the middle of the two rows of seats. A vertical triple pole is available for support.

016: Diagram showing Area (a) Fig.22(a) I must be careful not to accidentally trigger the emergenc alarm while inhabiting this space. (Fig. 22)

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 93 (a)This area in Note: In this position between the priority I will be relatively seating glass panel close to the priority and the door is the seating and thus I best place for me to might be mistaken for stand in the entire a pregnant lady and be compartment.(Fig.22)It is asked to take a seat. such that I can recede Further explanations into the corner and feel will be provided in the invisible. Furthermore, following segments I am able to lean into regarding this issue. this corner without infringing on anyone else’s space with ample support for my back and legs. There is even enough space for me to place any belongings I might be carrying on the ground. Upon entering any train, I must seek this spot out when there are no available seats.

017: Diagram showing Area (b) Fig.23(b) This space is relatievly ideal, however it does render me quite visible as it is close to the compartment doors. I must refrain from making eye contact with too many people as they enter. (Fig. 23)

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 95 (b)The next Note: While commuting best option for me it is ivery difficult to would be to find hold on to this space spaces with a vertical as commuters are likely pole for me to hold. to motion for me to An example of such move down the row as an area would be the more and more people space right in front enter the train. I must of the reserved seat. try my very best not to Due(Fig.22) to the close do so as I will lose the proximity to the priority support provided by the seat when occupying metal pole in this area. this space, there are certain exercises I must perform when standing there. Due to my protruding stomach and size, I may be mistaken for a pregnant woman. To avoid such embarrassment and further attention upon my size I must take the following steps.

Fig.24(b)(1) 018: Diagram showing tightening of abdominal muscles (b) Showing the extent of my protruding stomach. (Fig. 24) (Fig. 25) Since it seems to protrude even more towards the lower region of my stomach, I may get mistaken as a pregnant lady more often than expected, through no fault of anyone else. Fig.25(b)(1) Showing the visible improvement in the protrusion of my stomach. This is an incredibly effective method and must be employed as often as possible.

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 97 (b)(1) Due to 2. I have the close proximity to put on an air of to the priority seat nonchalance. This when occupying this is most effectively space, there are portrayed when using certain exercises I an electronic device must perform when or listening to music. standing there. Due to 3. I must try my protruding stomach my best to stand with and size. I(Fig.24) may be my abdominal muscles mistaken for a pregnant contracted such that woman. To avoid its physical appearance such embarrassment is reduced.(Fig.25) and further attention upon my size 1. I must try Note: While tightening my very best to not my abdominal muscles make eye contact with I must not forget to the person sitting in breathe properly. It is the priority seat. This not the same as sucking my stomach in by holding in a big breath. I must note that it could be dangerous to do so. ensures that it appears as though I have no desire to sit there.

019: Diagram showing Area (c) Fig.26(c) Showing the vertical pole right in front of the door. While this area provides great support, its position in front of the entrance to the compartment provides some disadvantages. The dotted rectangle shows the amount of space I am allowed to take up on the pole such that I do not infringe on anybody else’s space. (Fig. 26)

A Guide To Being The Elephant In The Room Volume 1 / 2020 Code of Permissable Conduct 99 (c)The presence of a vertical pole in this area allows me to anchor myself to something and occupy space in relation to it. (Fig.26)However, I must not take up too much space on the pole as this area is high visible. Therefore, there are certain behavioural particularities that need to be noted which are further explained in the following segment. Note: The following segments are highly important and are to be taken very seriously to prevent disturbing other commuters.

Fig.27(c)(1) 019: Diagram showing Area (c) Showing the incorrect (Fig. 28) way to lean against the pole from the side. This posture not only allows my body to take up too much space on the pole, it also gives off a nonchalant almost lazy attitude. In a highly visible area, such an air is not recommended. Fig.28(c)(1) Showing the incorrect way to lean against the pole from behind. This posture also gives off a nonchalant attitude. Most importantly, leaning against the pole with my back facing either the door or the rows of seats on either end of the compartment could cause discomfort to the people around me. (Fig. 27)